How to Make New Friends - 3 Tips on Finding Real Friends (animated)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 ก.ค. 2024
- Have you ever thought about why we make friends?
After all, do we really need friends at all?
Couldn't we get along just fine by ourselves?
We are social creatures and derive a lot of our happiness through the relationships that we have developed.
People with good friends tend to live longer lives. They also tend to be healthier.
Good friendships have been associated with lower levels of stress, decreased blood pressure, and a reduced risk of depression.
So it makes sense to learn how to connect with other people.
I had a bunch of friends, but they're all fake... 😪😥😢
Crazy Canadian same
Same ik how you felt
Friends are quite important because they help support your difficulties, reduce your stress and protect you from the mean bullies.
If you keep assuming that we're already friends even though we still haven't completely built up the friendship, then peer pressure might occur during the buildup process, which is a tough situation that'll make you even more stressed out. If you don't want to experince peer pressure during the buildup process, then please don't assume that we're already friends if the friendship buildup process is still incomplete.
www.brainpop.com/health/personalhealth/peerpressure/
I think this is a hyperbole and you're just exaggerating.
Hey lonely people in the comment section! We should all become friends and then we wouldn't be lonely anymore😍
T MT hi
Rani Rajagopal hey^^
IN THE BAG
I am lol
T MT Lel
IN THE BAG xd
Ugh I try to be social and hangout with ppl but they just ignore me / walk away 😕😳
Alakazam! Wow kind words 😂
Same
Lulu_the_zombie I care about you, keep trying. Never give up, there are people out there that care for you. Actually a lot of people like you whether you know it or not
Lulu_the_zombie People care but depends how you start the convo going
same experience. but when i tried to change how i look and how i look at them, it all went well. maybe a bit of strong eye contact and a good body language, and everything may go well with you, as well.
True friends is someone who wants the same thing for u as they want for themselves!!
I agree
I know friends come and go but Im still finding,hoping and searching that one day I can find a real friend that supports me, understands me, laugh with me, try new things with me, not a kill joy and doesnt get tired to be with me then we'll be together in a long time
And it's just so sad to know that even you did your best to make your friendship stay strong but they just wanted to have new friends again even youre better with others because you know how to support,give advices and tries to make you laugh even the tough times.. they still choose to go..
Its just so impossible to have real friends these days..
Plus I dont know where I can find them because Im not that out-going person and I have trouble on communicating at first to new people cuz I'm shy sometimes..
I have the same situation as well..... I guess finding real friends are hard but soon they will come
Does anyone want to be my friend? Im an introvert from indonesia.. All my life is full of struggle because of "someone i loved before" and its getting shit when i realize i am an introvert who doesnt have any single friend. I really looking for some new friends.. You guys might think im poor, but wht can i say?
Finding a real friend is hard. You think That they are real and your best friend but they might not 😕
Same i wish i can actually get a real bestfriend
Pratically my whole life story mate 💜💜
1:08 if I was social I wouldn't be here at the first place 😒
Jin Young true
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Jin Young true
You also need to be kind and respectful to others, because you probably won't make any friends if you're mean to others. We don't want to get near mean people because we'll get hurt, so being mean will make yourself lose friends.
"IF"
I gave up on trying for friends. I am the type of guy who would wake up at 2am to help you. Tired of making friends who only want help and do nothing in return. I only get alone with women for the most part. My last friend was a guy who lived next to me. For about a year we would go to breakfast and we talked about our childhood and we grew up the same but had no other things in common. He started to cancel last minute with me and at a neighbors party I met his new friend who I was told was his best friend. His wife actually apologized to me about it. I really tried so hard. I never said anything rude or gave any negative opinion. I just want to have friends and give them a hug. I would love to have a lady just to chat to and hug for comfort.
I failed at number 1. I'm not a very social person, in fact I have a tendency to isolate myself from people
B.M Undercover can relate so badly with this, I felt like I was the only abnormal person to do that
The Catholic Latina I have friends, I know they are all fake I don’t tell them anything important cause they tell everyone
Same here man...but only thing is I have friends....but they're just kinda rough...they literally....drive me crazy...n I've done so much of mistakes last year no one wants to accept me anymore....How do I change??...Anyone have tips??
Order of the cat wtf did he go to jail soon as he stabbed you forgot the bleeding and beat the shit out of him
Same
I just broke up with all my bffs so I need this
saad Farhan I have a classmate who broke me and my bff’s friendship
انا عربي زيك i can be ur Friend
saad Farhan bro give me an update.
saad Farhan same too but this one girl look at me Everytime talk to her so much I start laugh like omg but she came to me at the hallway at my high school last year from bonner springs she call my name so many time I got a crush on her tho and she is a cheerleader
Same..
No one likes me because I’m clever, I just wish I had someone to talk to instead of being isolated at school
I'm sure you'll find someone. However, it might take more work than you think :)
ihussein06 how's it going? Good luck
Hold on. A person will come to u and you will get along being best friend!
Find other clever people. It worked for me.
I can tell you why, you're not likeable when you say you're clever, it makes it sound like you think others are stupid and makes you sound arrogant
When i was small i used to have friends with whome i enjoyed my childhood. I didn't had a home we had to move to another place and i Lost my friends i always remember them but cannot connect with them. Now i have realized that being lonely is the most difficult pain. Its been 9 years i cannot find a friend. I always try to be good with them but i end up being a bad person even though i wanted good for everyone. My loneliness hurts me very much. My eyes are filled in tears when a see children playing with a bunch of other children. I wish may i find someone who cares for me, Who sees good in my bad, Who will understand me, who will stay by my side 😔
I literally started crying,I can understand the pain,I've been through the same thing ;(
I will never understand how people in youtube care more for me in the internet than my own friends, i just want someone who cares and wants to have fun with me, but everyone is always so busy i can't even get a simple hi from someone in days, i always have to start the conversation, ALWAYS
I am here after I heard my friends talking about how they don't like me because I am quiet and annoying to talk to😳
Atempting to make real friends
Hey ^-^ I'm quiet and annoying we can be friends
hey funny cat
funny cat hey are you boy or girl just asking okay omg
funny cat I am quite sometime when see other people look at me so cute and funny more swag tho
Let's all be friends 😀
Finding friends as you grow older is a hit or miss thing. That's why so many parents encourage kids and young teens to make friends in school because some of those guys will go to the same middle school, high school, and possibly college. Those will be your life long friends. Also, being young means that everyone is still innocent and playful. If you find a friend in college, and realize they're the party/concert type of person, and you're not, they're not gonna invite you to events or even want to talk to you. But, if you find friends in elementary school or middle school, everyone is on the same plane field.
Finding friends in college can be tricky and confusing at times, especially when THEY already have established their own social group, and you just feel like you're just a random outcast to them. Sure, joining clubs is cool, but at the same time it's harder if you can't find time to spend time with them AT ALL. Or, you're being too pushy and awkward and they start to consider that you're hitting on them. IN THE END THEY JUST GO OUT AND CONTINUE TO DO THEIR OWN THINGS WITH THEIR FRIENDS AND YOU'RE LEFT IN THE DUST.
As an adult, everybody in the past you knew are now doing their own things (jobs, family, moved away, etc) and you're basically left with little to no friends. Education is done, so clubs are no more technically. The only place to find new friends is the bar basically, and it's also a hit or miss. Coworkers can be a a good place to find friends, but at the same time, who knows if they even consider you as a friend or just a coworker.
Literally everyone hates me
I don't hate you :)
same here
I d o not
I do not
I thinkcme 2
No one in my class is my friend I'm all alone myself
They don't share similar interests as you? Maybe you can still find friends outside of the class.
+Better Than Yesterday me to
I don't have any college friend in my life. ...
Himel Khan why? Wasn't the college best way to make new friends and get rid of old ones?
oh that's sad
I want to make new friends but everyone in my grade is immature -_-
FizzyDraws I thought things would be better in high school but guys in my class are still pulling their pants down to fart on each other, tipping over benches and throwing things.
You'd think 18-20 year old men would have some form of maturity or dignity..
Space Child wanna be friends ?
rishab Moza I know you weren't talking to me but I'd be your friend
Borkasaurus oh tysm cause' i need friends
rishab Moza Yes, and you too, Borkasaurus.
Friends can help relieve stress and protect you from the bullies.
I can literally relate to the same thing to me. When I’m at school I try to talk to people and they say oh yeah cool. They don’t feel interested in me. That what makes me sad
1:15 I give up.
🤣🤣
This helped a lot especially since one of my friend is saying she is my bestie but then she treats other people like a queen and treats me like a peasant. We always do what she wants to do and she never asks what I wanna do. Once one of my friends was making a TikTok so I join in the my “friend” got mad at me only and yelled at ME because she wanted to do something else. That always happens and she still says she cares about me
I don't have any friends 😭
I allways cry because of it
And Everyone bullies me because I'm not smart and I'm dumb
EXO hey wanna be friends? Btw i like exo too (
You can not be "dumb." For one thing you typed complete sentences.
Catnc1, you know what he means
Adrian Putra, yes. Those were complete thoughts. He has low self esteem.
YOU ARE NOT DUMB!!!!!
I feel like so many of my friendships end up with me giving people everything and never receiving. I always contact people and people get used to it and stop trying its so frustrating😭
Same ngl
I'd love to talk more, and have more friends than just 2 good ones, but I have noooo idea what to talk about with others!
I'm allright, how about you?
mojtaba n yes, I go to high school. How old are you?
I'm 18. Do you have a Snapchat?
No I don't.
Not anymore.
Me and my cousin were really close and we were best friends and we were really close for 5 years and now Everytime we meet she seems moody around me and negative she also teases me that I'm weird...
The thing is: I had tons of friends and I feel that they are all lost interest in me...😑am I really that boring!
I lost 8 friends in the past year
Now I only have my phone siri📱my bestie,
No matter how much I try I always lose a friend on the way and then when I stop trying they just get bored of me and leave...so I'm basically jumping to friend to friend while the others disappear
Yeah, pretty much me, so far I've lost 4 best friends. I have ppl that I hang out with sometimes, but I'm lacking a deep meaningful relationship.
Nah isn't bad I have lost tons of friends and bffs like 99% I've lost in the last couple days and now all I have is one veay speacel bff but idc at least I know I can trust him and always count on him (eeeven know be doesn't do anything when I get bully
2:39 - if anyone is wondering, these are words from "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. I think that I can say it's the best psychological book I've ever read about this topic. I truly recommend reading that if someone is showing interest in that topic. Well, if anyone is watching this video, probably is xD
I had more friends but during quarantine everything’s just died down. My two closest friend, one has moved and the other calls me her closest friend and yet she proceeds to show me all the stuff she does with her discord friends and not talk about anything else anymore. Our conversation’s aren’t as great anymore when she always just wants to talk about her fantastic friends and all the fun stuff they do together and then shove it in my face non-stop.
Am like the most lonely girl in the world
Want to be friends
VanillaShake01 same i have lots online
Anna Stone wanna be my friend ?
When someone have some psychological illnesses like autism and ADHD, then they have trouble with building friendhsip like they keep assuming that we're already friends even the friendship still wasn't completely built.
Friendships don't build in just one second, and it might take some days or months to completely build a friendship. When the friendship building process is still incomplete, then please don't assume that we're already friends, and just treat them like your acquaintance.
I can't start conversations, help
It all starts with a simple "Hi" :)
Margherita start with hi how’s your day going
It Happens With Me
1:03
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WHY DO U THINK I'M HERE *leaves*
Same 😭😭😭
Same I would go the the fucking party but no one invites me for fuck's sake
T.W. D. Can we talk a bit ? I would LOVE to about that with someone like me. You know I don't mind being alone. Yeah I'm lonely sometimes but when I had a gf I still would feel lonely in bed since my gf can't sleep next to me anyway. I hug a pillow every time I go To sleep that helps!
And that freinds thing. I don't give a single shit about being alone. Okay I would hat being totally alone but talking to others in school a bit is all I need. Having friends is nice but it's a nice to have for me not a must have. I have no Friends since 1 year and I got used to it pretty good. I want to have freinds just to have even a bit more fun than alone and get to know what others do and what others think. You know you can't get new knowlege and stuff when you are alone
I see some mental skill,knowlege, social behaviour lag being alone
That's the problem for me
Can you relate?
Wow... I like how you don't mind being alone. I would love to be at this level... I spent my whole childhood without friends. Whole elementary school. I didn't give a fck about that... But now I miss what others do. I'd love to live a life. I have feeling that I'm just trying to survive waiting for something but idk what I'm waiting for... I don't have any serious hobbies, so I'm wasting time on youtube, instagram, facebook, games etc...
And yeah. It's cool to meet another lonely person. Maybe we would understand each other...
Would you like to chat btw?
Anxiety is just killing me
I had lots of friends, but they were really bad. They knew I wasn’t doing well with mental health and continued to ignore me, never see me out of school, and only text me when they needed something. After nearly 4 years of this I finally broke it off
I’ve had best friends in my life- most moved, I loved them because they would listen to you and talk to you about your problems and you could easily do the same for them. You didn’t have to try to talk about things that interested them- they would be interested in anything you wanted to talk about. I just wish I could find more people in my life like them that wouldn’t move
I need a good friend to always share my feelings and happy
I have a bfff
Best fake friend forever▪
Thanks, BTY for another short & nice video :)❤
Hey all lonely people let's mix together..i just want friends ..true friends..i am literally the most loneliest person ..😔
I have friends but sometimes they hang together and I feel that they are my friends bc they don’t want me to sit alone
I am extremely embarashed to make friends but I am 10% social but It was hard for me but thanks
Juan Gonzalez I like your surname😄
Great one!
Actually by playing video games you can also find people who like the same things you do
Friendships, like any other relationships take time to build. That's why we make friends with people that we went to school with, at work and at evening classes, courses, social clubs etc, we are seeing the same people each week for months or years. You're unlikely to make friends with people that you meet at the gym, a nightclub or coffee shop, these are brief interactions.
When I first begin school last year , I don't know everyone and I don't spend time with them , since it's summer it gets pretty lonely , but for all of you you still got a lot of friends out there🙂👥.
I just went through a big friendship breakup and I’m planning to go skating later with some kids from my school ty!
Awesome, good luck!
ugh i like to hangout with people and i like to have a lot of friends but the “making a friend” part is really hard for me because i’m just awkward and i suck at small talk 🤦🏻♀️ help
Arely Sosa i suck at small talk too but I really would like more frens
Yeah I relate to that but try to talk to other people or try joining conversations but I'm not very good at giving advices i hope you get to make friends some day
Anddd what if i don‘t care how the ppl are doing? I just want true friendsss
0:56 hearing this made me Amazingly happy. I ❤ my mom and dad and sis and brother they all have real and good friends!! That means i will hug them more! I literally thought to myself “if my family dies, i am living right next to their grave not leaving for 1 second. Praying for them” i know i wont do that because it will make my life unhappy but still 😭. I thank you❤❤❤❤❤
I have a friend. We hang out and he likes to joke around with me.
But, when we aren't really friends. He only hangs around me when he wants something. If I don't obey him, he uses force. He jokes around, but it's always about me. Life isn't easy.
Auron Chung I had a friend like that and she would only ever talk to me if her friends we're busy
@@caitlinjames4109 Thanks for sharing your story. I hope your relationship gets better or you find a better one!
This helped me a lot! I had no friends since 2nd grade and I'm in 6th but with your video I have 3 friends now :) thank you
Friendship seems so paradoxical: You seek to be understood by seeking to understand.
I had a best friend,She get angry on me for no reason....now we are just normal friend because idk why!
If she is angry, then that is her problem.
The best you can do is to ask clearly again. If she doesn't want to answer there is nothing you can do. :/
Calm confrontation is the only way sometimes. And for confrontation good timing doesn't exist.
Who wana be my friend ?
Skillerz Mike I wanna be your friend.
Mee
Me
Skillerz Mike I'll be
Skillerz Mike too bad we stay far away
Even i also want to make a friend but always they ignore me just because I score good...They think they r not of my level....Even when I used to talk with girls they make fun of me. really no one can understand a feel of not having g a single friend expect me.....I hope in my college life I'll get my best friend, by using all these tricks . Thanx a lot for uploading this video .😂😂
Thanks for watching! I hope you can form some good friendships!
Ganesh Dhawale hows it going? I hope you found someone, remember stay true to you and never give up. Finding people who are like you helps also. Stay positive my friend and hold your head high
Good things will come to you.
Ganesh Dhawale when is your college starting
I tried all of this. When I tried the first, failed. The second, people think me weird. The third, people told me to stop being a busybody and f off.
I think my friend group likes each other more than me... Whenever I try to talk at lunch they are all just talking to each other. They are always just going to each other's houses without me posting instagram pictures. Because of them my bff is slowly fading away from me... ☹
That's nice I'm about to do to a new school and this kinda helped!!
Good luck!
Thanks for this video!
I like the way he replaced to word 'evening' with 'after dinner,' lmaooooo.
Thinking about numbers 1 and 2....So, I can play video games (assuming not MMORPG) and be lonely or I can go hang out with a lot of people who aren't interested in me while I pretend to be interested in them to make them like me....I'm just playing, but it did strike me as funny. Number 3 is a great idea!!
I still have no friends
What should I do every one hates me because I get the first rank in the school what should I do?
I hate being around people but I also hate being alone.....
I wanna make new friends/meet new people but I’m really awkward and get shy around people
I do not know how I came here but I also had struggles finding real close friend like a brother where you can motivate each other, go adventures, support each other and help when the problem comes such as a family member that you and he always trusts you and stays by your side in good and bad days. I have friends around me however most of them came and gone and now we keep in touch with social media. Is this what they call a friendship? They always say you are kind and nice person, then what is problem?.
Thanks 😍 keep going on 💪💪
very cool video, good advice
Losing friends is a part of growing it's ok to be less friends but real one 👬
I make friends easily 😊 but after tow months or even three weeks they punch me on the face and went with some one 🙁. It makes me cry to much😭
Like me
Sometimes when im lonely, i just play roblox and other online games so i don't feel lonely and i got so many to chat.
I watched this video because me and my friend aren’t friends anymore from today, because we had a project, and I did all the work, and she ditched us.
This helped me at school, thanks!
thank you!
I have nice acquaintances that play the same online game as me. In art class today we bonded so much. We wouldn’t stop talking. It was the first time I actually fit in a group.
My toughest time is recess because I don’t know who to sit with. Group projects *sigh*
THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS GREAT AND USEFUL INFORMATION
My story:
6 years ago I used to be so popular in school for about 3 years
I loved everyone and one day a friend started talking to me and wanted to be my friend she was really funny and she always makes me feel so special and make all her best to be friends
I loved her so muchh then we became bffs ( then I noticed no one loves her)
She always wanted me to stay with her away from all my friends
She started talking on them and made me hate them
She was so jealous from me and always wanted to be like me or better
She made her best to let my friends love her and I *was* so proud to have such a funny best friend and they loved her more then me
Then she became friend with a girl who became popular by telling her all her secrets and by making her feel so special and then started making more and more frnds and became popular too by telling *everyone* my secrets and my crush name ( My secrets made her haha ) she talked alot on me n on the stupid pics that I’ve sent it to her before | a lot of my school friends started hating on me n being mean
She was so mean with me and 90 % of my school frnds was in love with her character her style her secrets n every single thing in it
I got 3 bestfriends 1 of them was pleasing her to become friends wow
.......
She started talking on everyone and on her bffs too until she started fighting with one of them let’s say she’s called katy
Katy lost all her friends because of this bullier girl
Katy’s mom made everything to return her daughter’s friends and happiness
She fighted the popular girl’s mother
.... everyone knew that the popular girl (who was my bff) was talking on them
All the parents made a group and knew that this girl was the worst girl in the school and they talked to the School’s director to punish this bad one ( everyone hated her)
This girl said to my crush I love him because she loved him so much and don’t want me to be with him by making me as a joke
She said to all the girls of other schools to not answering me when I talk to them ( I knew that because beforeee she gave me her insta pass and I read all the convo)
Okay so let’s continue, she started crying soo hard and talked to me on wp vc she said to me sorry thousand of times and told my 3 besties to give her a last chance , her mom called me to retalk to her kid and to become friends again
After 1 week I talked to her and told her I will be your friend only if she swears to me to not repeat all what happened
To say to the guy I haven’t loved him
And finally to say to the girls of the other school that *she was so confused and it was a small fight between us, this girl is one of the best person I’ve ever met *
She said I’m going to do it and started jumping of happiness...
She sent me screen shots applying those rules
5 months later she made some new losers friends who were so mean to everyone and no one see them 😂 they were super confident with themselves ( everyone was talking on them cause they were likee not stupid but insane and ugly n...)
I made friends too but they hade all their own 1 best friend for ever and they love them More than me 😕
Sooo the other girl loved her group hh and I found myself without a best friend who can alwayss be with me
It’s my life story
I don’t know what I’m going to do next year with no *real* friends who alwaysreally wants me to be next to
It’s a really sad story
All my life got ruined because of a jealous cheap girl
Guys please wish me a good next year ❤️
I’m ready to make friends my loves 💕💕
Don't worry alicia, you'll get good friends.
God will help you.after that you have full of blossoms.
I just moved schools, and I found some friends. However , they aren't real, which worries me deeply on how my future will turn out.
I’m going to middle school when I know no one so I’m here for this
“ 1. You have to be SOCIAL”
Guess I won’t make new friends then
I already failed at number 1
My best friend is my priority but it always hurt to see that i am not at all her’s. Moreover one of my two best friends has started taking for granted each time we meet and suddenly 7 years of friendship which was once so pure seems to be all fake 😒
I’m just so shy!!! I can’t help it. I try to hangout with people but I just feel left out and feel like they hate me , I have a few really close friends but I want to expand my friend group but I just can’t I’m not social 😑
I can't find friends that I like .that have the same personality etc
i made more new friends where besties now =) where really good friends we are real friends =)
I send a lot of messages in group chat and they just ignore me
When my other "friend" say something all of the group chat send messages then when I say another thing the others ignore me
They are al "fake friends"
Plus at school when I say something to my "friends" they just say "k" "yes" "I dunno" or short phrases
Me too
Cant find any "ogranozations" Idk where to search anymore
The most beautiful channel❤️
In a toxic friendship you dont feel that support or compassion. You feel minimized when they brush off your problems or ignored outright if they never respond to your messages or requests for help in short, they arent there for you when you need them the most
Find someone who you hate and get to know them, it will help you in the long run. Especially if you only hate them for something they did when you met.
Polar opposites attract, if they act completely different from you you guys will be the yin to eachothers yang
I had a few friends now they don't hang out with me they just me alone at school and home
The problem is that I know how to make friends and meet people, I just can't find anyone worth being friends with. My type of person is hard to find and I expect all of my future friends to be like that, but they're not. I don't fit well with many people.
I can be very social and fun but I just have to be close with someone. I’m not that awkward and shy but I just can’t start a conversation and keep it going.
I watched this 2years ago and still got no progress lol
Damn...same here
I just moved away from my home town I needed this
Being in college with one friend sucks sometimes
Yh it does that's what i have
I can't socialize in school because my school is to strict, i only have 2 friends and know those 2 friends outside of school, i don't have friends in school but anyways, I've always wanted to be able to have a group of friends that I hang out with and stuff, but since 5th grade I've been in strict schools that are meant for bad kids to go to. I'm 17 and i never had a chance to get the highschool experience and hangout with my own friends and stuff. So I'm trying to find ways to make new friends without having to be in school, or go walk up to some dude or girl and make conversation with him and stuff. I feel so lonely, the only hanging outside of school thing I done was only with my brothers or there friends, which I've never talked to because i was never in there school or whatever. I want friends of my own but I can't get some and I feel sad and lonely. Ive only hung out with one of my friends once, and that's it.
this rlly helped me broski
Thx m8 I rlly enjoy ed hey your con intent!!!!!!!!!!!1;)
I had many friends, but moved and now I have been alone in nearly 5 years. I don't know how to get friends. I hope this video can work. 😥😭
Here's a good tip for getting friends that I've used all the time,
It might take some time, sometimes
But it's worked for me...
Step 1) Be kind to the people around you,
most people don't want to hang out with someone who threatens others
Step 2) Be yourself!
I know this is obvious, but friendships probably won't stand for long if you're hiding your true self
Step 3) open up a pack of gum in class,
hah I've never tried this one but people usually go crazy for gum
Step 4) Good Luck!
The rest is decided on how you choose to act towards the situation,
I hope you'll find your Best Friend Soon!
The smarter you are the lonnier you will be .
It’s hard for me to make friends because of the stuff I like and the music I listen to etc. I just feel like whenever I feel like I’m close to so,done I get betrayed😪😪😭