Stop Wasting Your Life - Take Control Instead
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 มิ.ย. 2024
- Need extra discipline? Get 1 month of FocusMe subscription for free: focusme.com/bty/
Whenever I heard the words "addiction" or "addict", the first thing that popped into my head was an image of a bum living on the street, while being high on drugs.
If that's your perception of addiction, then you might think this topic doesn't concern you.
But addiction can be found in other everyday behaviors that nobody would bat an eye for if you were to indulge in them.
It's not exclusive to alcoholics and drug users.
So what I'm going to talk about today is relevant to everyone, because I believe most of us are addicted to something, even if we might not know or want to admit it.
And to improve your life, you don't have to necessarily add a ton of new habits, but rather, eliminate the ones that are holding you down.
If you want to learn more about this topic, you can find the book "The dopamine nation" here:
UK/EU: amzn.to/3upBrkV
USA: amzn.to/3GPnFiD
Images © Piers Baker www.svgdoodlewhiteboard.com
Need extra discipline? Get 1 month of FocusMe subscription for free: focusme.com/bty/
How much is the monthly subscription?
Is it not available for iPhone? MacOS option but not iOS.
why russian subtitles doesn't work?
@@AS49 If you get the 2 year subscription it's less than $3 per month
@@GodOverMoney Unfortunately it's not available for iPhone... Yet
Our life is mainly controlled by our habits and our emotions. It took me nearly to 2 years to stop playing games on a daily basis and to start working on my channel consistently. 2 years ago it was hard to sit and read 5 pages, nowadays I don't miss a day and it is one of the most pleasure moments in my day. All of this started with Better Than Yesterday, the best self-development youtuber of all time, thank you 🙏
Could you tell us your channel name
@@ahmedabdikadirabdi113 it is this one, Coach Felix. I hope you find anything valuable on it 🙇
@@ahmedabdikadirabdi113 It's "Coach Felix". He is talking of his youtube Channel.
@@coachfelixyoutube I was surprised with the amount of viewers and subscribers whilst the consistent you made posting on these videos way back several months.
@@ahmedabdikadirabdi113 Yes, it's not easy to make great content like our dear BTY, but I'm learning and improving with every video and that is the most important thing!
EVERY FAMILY HAS SOMEONE WHO BREAKS THE CHAIN OF POVERTY IN THAT FAMILY,I PRAY YOU BE THE ONE
It's ironic that our addiction brought us to your video :)
One thing that wasn't mentioned in this video is Motivation. To break any addiction you need to have a strong WHY. That means reminding yourself consistently of what you gain by eliminating that bad habit. Without a strong reason you'll, most probably, have mixed feelings about stopping addiction. On the one hand, you really want a better free life without addiction, but on the other - you still have a strong neuro-association between your addiction and pleasure. That is extremely hard to break without a burning desire to change it once and for all.
Good point
Yeah, and also I would say that doing hard and painful things by itself isn't helpful. There's always WHY behind any challenge. Anyway, great message and thanks for the video!
Well God can help us to break bad habits
But less effecttive than disipline
@@BetterThanYesterday something i don't understand. If you replace your bad addiction by a good addiction (something that makes your life better) but then you are craving more and more for your good addiction, hence releasing more and more dopamine so in the end, your dopamine level will go down again and you will get less pleasure from your good addiction but nevermind you will keep doing it because you need more dopamine. Is that a problem ? doing something repetitively like a robot but that thing is actually good for your life ? If it's a problem, then what to do ?
1. Find the trigger and avoid it. 2. One month of time to break addition. 3. Create a barrier to the trigger by changing the environment. 4. Do something difficult instead.
I am just starting my journey of Change, thank you.
One day when I become successful, i'll remember you.
My addiction started in Covid… era, I was addicted to phone like Daily 8-10hours sitting for prolonged period of times no exercise no proper diet and now I’ve come to realise and have started to do exercise, good diet, and phone for only important things.. no entertainment.
What a great video!!! I transformed my life and quit my addiction at the end of August. I slowly introduced new, healthy, productive habits at that time and now, in December, they are second nature to me. I truly look forward to cooking, eating, working out, seeing friends, and being social. You nailed it. I also have that Dopamine Nation book. It took years of trial and error, but I am so proud of myself today. We all have our own paths. Amazing video. Thank you
That's nice... ✌️
What an encouraging comment. May I ask what were the things you did to change that made the biggest difference for you?
Please be better than my people feedback in a big butt
The pain/pleasure scale is so true. I feel amazing after I draw or read a book. I feel bad when I spend time on social media or binging TH-cam videos
This video is a perfect summary to tackle any addiction. Being caught in a negative spiral myself right now, it came out at just the right time. Thank you very much!
Hang in there!
I actually started to work on my addiction(s... plural) roughly one month ago, after I saw a video from the Andrew Huberman channel, where he interviewed Dr. Anna Lembke herself (the author of the book mentioned in this excellent video).
First it was alcohol addiction: now past the 30 days mark and feeling surprisingly well. Some little occasional cravings still, but MASSIVELY more manageable than they were in the first couple weeks.
Then it was sugar addiction: eliminated it completely (with the only exception of natural sugar that you might find in fruit). Roughly two weeks in, and same: first couple of weeks pretty full of cravings, now starting to feel pretty on the level.
I have other addictions I'm gonna adress down the line, such as nicotine and (yes) internet browsing, but I'm feeling extremely confident because by now I can tell, empirically, that the method presented by Better Than Yesterday in this video, actually *works*.
So here: I send you positive energy, and a good measure of encouragement, because I can tell that even if the first couple weeks might be hard, it *will* get easier and you will feel amazing, after a while!
@@alphamorion4314 Thank you very much for your kind and encouraging words!
I am working on overcoming my internet / digital addiction at the moment. I was able to overcome it in the past as described in the video, but unfortunately fell off the wagon. This video made me realize the bitter truth that my addiction is so deeply ingrained in me that I can't indulge even in moderation otherwise I *will* relapse.
Good luck with your battle and congratulations to everything you have achieved so far!
Your timing for posting couldn't have been better for me. I really love your videos. They really break down dense concepts in an easy to understand and offer solutions that are actionable. Starting my social media abstinence plan now. I feel really hopeful! Thank you so much for this and for all your videos!
My main habit in life is “learn something new everyday”. So this channel really motivates me. Even channel’s name says itself :) And in the videos he simplifies certain situations or things with animations/drawings so I don’t lose my attention. Plus I play video games all the time so I feel like I know how he feels in some ways. Thank you ! please KEEP GOING ❤️
Watching better than yesterday videos is one of the best example to do something difficult or do something new
Can we all just appreciate this man uploads and we access this videos for free.
Just accidentally stumbled upon your channel and your insights are amazing.
I wish your channel much success and hope you continue to upload.
Eye opening lines:👍
"What use to make you feel good is now required for you to not feel terrible" 8:04
That hits deep mehn🔥
You just feel obligated to do it while clearly knowing you won't get any pleasure in it.
Great video! Overcoming addiction is a painful and challenging process, especially when you become aware of it. The feeling of powerlessness that comes from realizing you're stuck in a loop and can't get out through sheer willpower alone is crippling, but always remember that awareness is the first step towards control. Know the thruth and it shall set you free.
Sugar, TV, video games, alcohol, porn, drugs, romance, stimulation, looking good, fulfilling expectations, the multitude of fears, and the multitude of fear-based desires.. I mean, just imagine the toll these things can take on a person's life over a few decades. People, we're lucky to be here listening to these kinds of videos. Be grateful for what you still have, because at the very least you have a bunch of opportunities ahead of you - if you are so fortunate to have the device and the internet to read this. Good luck ahead!
P.S.
For those searching for a really powerful path up this mountain, I gotta suggest a book of practice that I've been using for several years now. It's free online and it's incredibly powerful. It's called _Steps to Knowledge - The Book of Inner Knowing_
Thank you!
🫶👍🙏
TYSMM
Every time i read a good Self help book I think about you because you can give the book's content in simple and refined manner.
❤I am from Egypt 🇪🇬 and I am very happy to have this channel. I am learning English in addition to the great benefits in self-development.
I genuinely think this video is even better than your original Dopamine Detox video because, to truly make change, the 30 days seems like it will be more impactful than just one day. With this video, you struck the problems at the heart, showed what truly are the issues and then gave the harsh truth as to how to solve them. I’m going to begin my journey today giving this a try and hopefully things go well.
im in love with detox video.. i tried after seeing it year ago.. or so.. but i failed... badly.. indulging in more burdening and addictive activities and i hope i will get over this all soon.. gotta quit using my phone and focus on work and studies or im going to never succeed yk
I always go through phases where I “change my life around”, develop some great habits, learn stuff, read a lot, etc…but eventually I realize that nothing is ACTUALLY changing, it’s all in my head, so I eventually just get back to square one again.
The amount of work and dedication you put into that video are immense. Thank you very much for sharing that knowledge. The fact that when you understand the mechanics of dopamin and habits could help you improve yourself greatly, especially when I understood the example of that snowy mountain and it is an image that I can recall when I see myself drowning into addiction, it's a power that helps me to pull me off out of those bad habits. Hope to see these kind of videos soon, you're awesome and keep up the good work.
"Getting rid of the things that hold you down is the initial step to better yourself"
Thank you so much for giving us useful content. Hope your channel will thrive more than now ))
How do you do that?
This is the type of videos that really change your life, fully explained and alot of strategies , god bless you man ❤
I'm addicted to porn, junk food and internet.
These things may not seem bad to society but they've destroyed my life and health.
I've been working on it, I'm slowly starting to eat cleaner, I still struggle with porn at times, ive uninstalled distracting apps, I try to spend my time online focusing on making self improvement videos for my TH-cam channel, I've been doing great at that lately without getting distracted, releasing so many videos, I'm finally defeating my internet addiction and using it in a productive manner, instead of being on TikTok or TH-cam shorts or social media
I struggle with porn too, you're not alone
Me too bro
Please do not quit TH-cam maybe if possible just one video a month or every other month for video uploads. Your videos are unique and benefit so many people! Thank you for your time and effort spent on making these wonderful videos, I learned something today!
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my TH-cam channel 3 months ago about self development. Now I have 246 subs and almost > 95 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
Thank you for sharing your thoughtful content…for putting it out there with the passion that many of us need and strive for. I'm starting to listen to you
almost every morning. Your voice and words feels real and genuine.
I am grateful to have your channel as a source for having a better relationship with myself and the world around me.❤️❤️
Really really good advice! Great job. I've been in addiction field for a while now, and everything in this video is very precise, to the point, practical, and wise. Thank you for putting this together. I will show this at group meetings God willing
Music is my drug. Like, I can spent hours doing nothing but listen to music, and before I know it it's night time. I'm going to take this opportunity to better myself with your advices.
See you in 1 month !
I've been incrementally eliminating my big dopamine sources for the month of December, keeping off my phone has been the hardest one, but I've been leaving it turned off and stored in my kitchen cupboard while working during the day
Good job. Resisting will get easier over time, but it's never going to be easy.
This video has really helped me a lot. I have been reducing my screen time to 1 hour a day and it has changed my life. I have became more productive and I am sure at the end of the month I will be a totally different person.
Thank you so much for uploading this video as currently i needed this most.
Wow, I've watched a lot of self help videos, but this one actually taught me new things I didn't know before. Thank you so much! I hope if I watch this video off and on, it will help me to reset myself in the new year.
I love your channel! I have listened & shared for years. The name is so perfect, thanks for helping us be BETTER THAN YESTERDAY
Thank you for this video, and the whole channel. Spent a couple hours really studying this video and making a concrete plan of action.
I appreciate how realistic this guy has kept it
Great to see your content back!
Thank you so much for this video, I’ll try it and have an amazing day y’all. We got this! ❤
3:10 Pain avoidance
4:00 Dopamine - A neurotransmitter linked to craving, motivation and drive
14:30 Do something difficult everyday
15:30 *Neuroplasticity*
17:30 Consult doctor if needed
19:00 Complete abstinence
22:00 You’re programmed, hence addicted
One year ago, it was difficult for me to sit and read book, but now it is my favorite
Thanks for uploading these videos. You help us all so much.
My school blocked my favorite game, I was angry at first, but then I stopped playing it at school and it was great.
The fact that you mentioned RunsScape out of all things is dope! Definitely ADDICTING
Wow! Welcome back! Glad to see a new video from you! 😃
I just put the following on your two year old dopamine vid. Thank you. "Out of everything, this is by far the most helpful (and only) relevant thing to me. Thanks, I know how to live again. If I was rich I'd hit you hard but I am older and on limited income. I'll sub and like every video"
Thank you so much, sir. Hats off to you. You're the kind of person who experiences the matter before suggesting it to others. I'm still struggling with my addictions but I'm not giving up. Inshaallah I'll overcome my addictions soon. And Inshaallah I'll meet with you one day. Best wishes...
Mashallah brother.
Amazing video. Thank you for all the effort you have put into this! Your content has helped me a lot, wish you the best!
Geez. I feel like I’d really struggle to go without playing video games for a month. I love video games a lot and don’t think I’ll ever stop because I genuinely enjoy games a lot. But it’s true that the more I play, the less I enjoy my time playing. Taking such a substantial break might help me break the addiction, get caught up on other work, and make playing the games I love actually fun again.
This is really sad but about 10 years ago I was addicted to McDonald's, I would have it breakfast, lunch, dinner and if I missed one I would feel like something was wrong with me 😓😅. I believe people now when they say junk food/fast food can be as addicting as drugs. It took me just over a month to slowly start weaning myself off it -not proud of it but now I dont really miss it 🙂 xx
I dont know what to say, what a great video! Thanks for making this video, Better Than Yesterday team. This help me so much!!
Really love the concept. Very informative video!
True!! I find while indulging in an activity that is not for my highest good I than sustain fron the activities than are health mentally, physically, and spiritually.
I'm learning english as a part of changing my life , learn new things and discover new cultures 🙏
I just went one month without TH-cam, since I saw your video. Now, I have to learn to use it in moderation. Thanks for the video! :)
This video certainly had me thinking about activities that I do do for longer than I had initially intended …. Perhaps it would be useful to use your anti-addiction techniques. Also I like your pain vs pleasure seesaw analogy and your diminishing pleasure reward chart; makes your theory very clear. Thank you.
23:31 😀
Me : Addicted to content about quiting addictions 😪
Once i tried to start reading daily, but it ended up with binging 2 hours in fiction novels.
Thanks, it is great to reach about dopamine and you're doing well !
Great job man! Please don't stop!
Thank you for this video. I am impressed that you are so humble to admit your own addiction.
The problems look like a case study on my mind 😢. Really needed this eye opener. I have a constant urge to drown my problems under you tube, Netflix, games etc.
This advertisement is really helpful, one of the best ads I've seen.
Props to that. Subscribed immediately after the video.
So glad to hear that! Know that if ever you need help, our team is just here for you. Happy Holidays!
@@focusme Happy Holidays to y'all too. Cheers!
Such a great video...but you make amazing videos in general. Thanks for taking the time to research subjects like this and providing us a path to solving them. Stay awesome!
Glad you got something out of them 😁
Amazing content as always, thank you!
Waiting for your video for a long Time, finally there is a notification from better than yesterday 🥳
I needed this vid, thanks!
Excellent video! Thank you for posting.
Glad your fitness is still really high. I find that injuries are a good motivator to do strength work, either recovering from injury or trying really hard not to have a relapse of a recent one!
I think daily bouts of anything are the hardest to get into. I'm doing twice a week so it's not as daunting.
Good to see you back
such a great video,, i'm going to need to re-watch this 5x to capture all the details and facts!
thanks for this!
I'm a gamer. I played games all day. It seemed to me that I would not be able to give it up, but then I decided to give it a try. Well, it's been a second week since I haven't played any game. It's strange, but I don't suffer, on the contrary, I just got a lot better. It's nice to realize that I'm not a drug addict
Thank you from France ! Your vidéo have realy help me to change my life ! Once again from the bottom of my heart thank you ❤️
Thank you so much for that, I do have to admit that Christmas period gives room to amplify addictions, for me it's shopping, overeating, watching tv. Christmas time allows being fully on the pleasure side of things, it's good to be reminded that lack of control over comfort is not good and I loved your suggestion that the best way to achieve dopamine increase is through doing difficult things, very interesting, thank you!
Thank you for the great video! I have been planning to shut my phone off for a couple of weeks over the Christmas period for the exact reasons you stated, and your video gave me some more motivation, ideas and reasoning :)
Super insightful, i also like that the premise of the video was dopamine reliance and with this in consideration, watching a boring video would presumably mean that that target audience would not get on board with making it to the end. With the doodle artwork and easy to consider methodology someone like a myself who is maaaybe, a dopamine addict get the useful information without leaving the video prior to getting the "help" or boost i need to do something about it. Genuinely enjoyed the considerations i have made about myself throughout this video, thank you and I'm going to change my habits and reduce the integrity of some Neurotransmitters starting right now haha.
Thank you so much for this video, it was very informational and I needed this. I found your channel a few days ago and I love it already❤
Listening to audio book summary and always want to gain some knowledge and update myself, that's my addiction
The scale is an amazing metaphor and visual analogy
I like his voice. It sounds sweet and soothing at the same time.
Yay!!!! Finally you posted 😍
This is one of the life-changing videos. Thank you ❤
Thank you for putting forward these wonderful and useful ideas, even the channel name is very inspiring
Thank you so much for this video, seriously.
thank you man, this is great
i thought u stoped uploading, good to see u back
Incredibly useful info 🔥
Very informative video! Next to pain, the reason for reaching out to addictive interactions can also be a dopamine shortage which we try to compensate the easiest way we know how: bad habits. Healthy food, meditation and regular exersize will aid to your 4 ways of combatting the addiction in my opinion. Thanks for sharing, I learn a lot and get triggered/inspired by your channel, eg to do my own research.
Thank you so mucchhh!! ❤️❤️
This is what TH-cam is really for.
Loved your video and strategy to end an addiction.❤
Your best one yet!
"Let's be honest: we're all lazy to some extent, and there's nothing wrong with that. It's natural."
Thank God.
*closes video and continues to do nothing for the next 50 years*
Finally the acknowledgement we needed
Thanks for your brilliant content ❤ it helped me so much 🙏🙏🙏
I need to admit it i am addicted to your videos even my habits are same as the day I started watching your video 😅😶
just epic already can see how much hardwork you have put in this vedio
As Dr.Gary Wilson said, sobriety will not make the super highway (between the nerves) disappear, but will build a weed over it (weaken), but the return to addictive behavior will lead to the return of addiction completely
Well said
Good to see you after a long time 😃😃😃
Your pronunciation of "synapse" is killing me lol but I love this video! I finally have a step-by-step to helping me limit my social media addiction :) thank you!
I was addicted to social media because seeing others accomplish my dreams made me feel as if I had accomplish them
I've been feeling too drained with my addictions of overworking and excessive Instagram usage. So I came back to your channel to get a push. This video is really well made and scripted, thank you! Hoping to be better than yesterday! ❤