Really helpful hearing everyone journey, l had lots of denial from my community. I'm glad l didn't give up wanting to find more. Main concern is to keep myself motivated.
I think Carys gave some great advice for someone who is just starting to navigate BPD.. to listen to and learn from other people’s lived experiences and find people who resonate with you, then see what worked for them as a place to start. Finding the BPD bunch has honestly been life changingly helpful to me, hearing all of your different stories and getting to know a super diverse group of people who are all in functional recovery, it’s very inspiring! I’ve definitely noticed that there are certain people on this show that I really particularly resonate with. I’m very grateful to them for being so vulnerable and putting their stories out there. I hope y’all realize how how much value you’re bringing to people who are really struggling ❤️
Luckily, I'm able to cope without therapy to the point where there is some growth. I was able to go from coping after an episode or after being triggered to actively coping DURING w/o therapy. The number of therapists who don't get it and are patronizing is crazy. I don't need therapy to heal, I'm doing skills and listening to my body. If you're in a crisis, getting clinical help is important though.
I've found that TH-cam is actually way more valuable than therapy for me. Therapists never seemed smart to me and never said anything I didn't think of years before or something. It was pointless money burning.
40:38 Andre’s comment at the very end about how it’s not necessarily helpful to always bring the best, most put-together and self-aware version of yourself to therapy. I’ve been guilty of doing that for years 😅 several times I’ve had a therapist tell me they think I should be a therapist bc I’m so self-aware and seemingly emotionally stable. But as Andre said, they haven’t seen me on a Friday night when I’m home alone and the world is ending! Oh man, soooo true! I agree that a lot of people feel embarrassment and shame about other people (even a therapist) knowing how bad it really is
Wonder if Xannie knows there are people out there saying "can't go killing myself cos Xannie's said previously she wants to lower the bpd suicide rate by at least a percentage and we gotta help her hit that target" 😂
“JESUS!!” I’m sorry but that made me laugh so hard😂😂 I said the same thing! 3 years?!? I feel that was the only appropriate response. I thought 6 months where I live was a long wait😳
I was also diagnosed at 15 in the USA, but my mom didnt do anything about it and then my counselor died 6 months into my counseling. Its been a rough ride. I didnt even acknowledge my bpd until last year. Im 32 now and have no idea how to help myself.
That's so interesting with my diagnosis. I was never given any inventory questionnaires. I had to fill out. I think it's because they probably know that a client could possibly lie on those. You know, my assessments took 6 months Though it was pretty grueling.
Really helpful hearing everyone journey, l had lots of denial from my community. I'm glad l didn't give up wanting to find more. Main concern is to keep myself motivated.
I think Carys gave some great advice for someone who is just starting to navigate BPD.. to listen to and learn from other people’s lived experiences and find people who resonate with you, then see what worked for them as a place to start.
Finding the BPD bunch has honestly been life changingly helpful to me, hearing all of your different stories and getting to know a super diverse group of people who are all in functional recovery, it’s very inspiring! I’ve definitely noticed that there are certain people on this show that I really particularly resonate with. I’m very grateful to them for being so vulnerable and putting their stories out there.
I hope y’all realize how how much value you’re bringing to people who are really struggling ❤️
Luckily, I'm able to cope without therapy to the point where there is some growth. I was able to go from coping after an episode or after being triggered to actively coping DURING w/o therapy. The number of therapists who don't get it and are patronizing is crazy. I don't need therapy to heal, I'm doing skills and listening to my body. If you're in a crisis, getting clinical help is important though.
I've found that TH-cam is actually way more valuable than therapy for me. Therapists never seemed smart to me and never said anything I didn't think of years before or something. It was pointless money burning.
40:38 Andre’s comment at the very end about how it’s not necessarily helpful to always bring the best, most put-together and self-aware version of yourself to therapy. I’ve been guilty of doing that for years 😅 several times I’ve had a therapist tell me they think I should be a therapist bc I’m so self-aware and seemingly emotionally stable. But as Andre said, they haven’t seen me on a Friday night when I’m home alone and the world is ending! Oh man, soooo true! I agree that a lot of people feel embarrassment and shame about other people (even a therapist) knowing how bad it really is
Wonder if Xannie knows there are people out there saying "can't go killing myself cos Xannie's said previously she wants to lower the bpd suicide rate by at least a percentage and we gotta help her hit that target" 😂
My therapists always said Complex PTSD instead because they didn't want me to be stigmatized. No one wants to treat people with BPD.
“JESUS!!” I’m sorry but that made me laugh so hard😂😂 I said the same thing! 3 years?!? I feel that was the only appropriate response. I thought 6 months where I live was a long wait😳
I was also diagnosed at 15 in the USA, but my mom didnt do anything about it and then my counselor died 6 months into my counseling. Its been a rough ride. I didnt even acknowledge my bpd until last year. Im 32 now and have no idea how to help myself.
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Edited: support groups aren't your support if they don't see your need.
That's so interesting with my diagnosis. I was never given any inventory questionnaires. I had to fill out. I think it's because they probably know that a client could possibly lie on those. You know, my assessments took 6 months Though it was pretty grueling.
I thought you couldn't diagnose BPD in someone under the age of 18.
It doesn’t happen super often but you can! Check out the work of Carla Sharp 👍