When I wore dresses and skirts to high school, people made fun of me because they thought I was trying too hard or I wanted attention from boys but honestly they are just more comfy and easy and give me confidence.
I want to wear skirts to school but my mother wont let me shed say im disgusting for wearing a skirt and she would say i will be made fun of by other Muslims even though all the Muslims in my school wear skirts
That's how they act because they feel insecure when they see you. It's not you, it's them so don't let yourself be pushed back, gain confidence in yourself that will make people understand that you're serious about your choice. I'm sure you're beautiful and you should be appreciated. Young men don't know how to appreciate a woman yet so don't worry about it too much.
I’ve been working out to be skinnier, but I don’t know what it was about how you said it, but I’m now going to be trying to be healthier rather than skinnier. Hopefully that’ll make me be happier with my shape and more confident in my skin
I’ll be studying if you need me hey girl, I’m just so happy for you this is awesome!!! Your journey is going to be so rewarding and you’re going to feel so amazing.... I started working out to be skinnier but once I started to just want to feel healthy, I started feeling amazing and I was much more committed to working out. A lot of self respect and self love is coming your way!!!!
I think that's key! When I gained that mentality, i gained a curvier butt because I wasn't concerned about being skinny anymore and my hubby is thankful so win win
Let me tell you, being more feminine and trying to cultivate feminine side of us is more helpful and powerful than people realize. I was a tomboy my whole life, I was so proud of it. Until, I truly started seeing the "damage" or discomfort my overly masculine side has caused in my previous relationship. Many women don't want to see this truth and I was absolutely one of them. Everything about this video would scream "girly, submissive, fake" to me jus few months ago. I'm glad, I found you and I realized how I can completely level up and mature in my relationships this way. Opening up to this side of me has changed my own confidence and relationship with myself. I hope, that more women see this side and choose to try it. In their own way. Thank you. You've helped me so much to recognize this side of myself and I'm very grateful for that. Love you! :)
Kristína Slovíková lots of emotional maturity and self awareness to be able to recognize that. I did that as well and it has been a great journey. I was always tomboy growing up but when I met my husband I started to naturally become more feminine because he was so masculine. I have embraced it now but many of my friends here in progressive California are turning very feminist and anti men and a couple are now lesbians. I learned yesterday a dear friend of mine who went to my wedding has shaved her head and wants to marry a woman. I don’t know what to do sometimes. I think they think I am, like you said, girly submissive, fake. When I know I am emotionally mature, strong, secure and genuine. Sometimes I don’t know how to approach them because my mere presence is so off putting.
@@julialee143 Yes! I feel what you are saying. It becomes especially hard, because SO many women encourage this masculine way of being, almost anti-men. But I try to surround myself with women who want to stand in their femininity. Even, when it's difficult to find. That's why I watch feminine youtubers and try to experiment and express myself more femininely.
I was a tomboy my whole life too! And really thought that was who I was. Only recently I learned that actually I'm a very feminine girl and I have been trying to be a boy my whole life because I was so brought up that those are the qualities that matter. No wonder I was so unhappy 😅
I feel you. I was actually incentivated to not be girly my whole life. My parents wouldn't let me cry or express emotion and would always tell me they were happy I wasn't "like the other silly girls". And apparently I attracted some people who wanted to "suffocate" my femininity. When I became 13 I somehow "flourished" and boys started paying attention to me (which they hardly ever did before). You know what my "friends" would tell me to do when we went out (mall, movies, birthday parties)? To wear plain clothing, no accessories, nothing that would draw more attention than them. I swear to God. And the worst part is that I obeyed. At 16, after fighting anorexia, I started accepting my body and dressing femininely again. Two years later, I met my first boyfriend, who wouldn't let me wear heels, skirts or makeup. Once I got really mad at him for always complaining about my appearance and asked him how he wanted me dress. His answer was "denim pants, loose-fitting T-shirt and hiking boots". And the idiot (me) obeyed...again...for 4,5 years. When I look back, I get so angry at myself. I'm now 32 and trying to get my femininity back. I believe it's never too late. Thank you, Kaytlin! You and Anna Bey have been my role models for femininity 😊
I'm 17 and all my life I used to dress in a boyish way, and now I truly understand the value of femininity. Whish me luck because people are gonna be surprised by my new feminine looks and manners, hopefully they'll get used to it and not said anything negative in my changes ❤️😁
I’m in the same exact boat as you right now. I’m 17, and hoping these “changes” don’t throw people off, well even if they do, because I understand it’s unexpected of me to all sudden want to start dressing more feminine and even wear dresses. It’s fine, because it’s what is making me happy. Tomboy isn’t just a phase for everyone, but it definitely was for me. 🙂
I’d love it if you touched on safety being a feminine woman. Yesterday i remembered when I stopped being and dressing so feminine, when other girls made fun of me but especially men preyed on me. Masculinity felt like safety.
I love wearing dresses it makes me feel so light and feminine! I don’t have a problem with pants ; I think they are practical and comfortable. To make pants appear more feminine you can wear it with a nice blouse. For make up I started doing soft glam; I get the most compliments when I wear that makeup look!
to find out which (feminine) colors of clothing would look good on your complexion I can honestly really recommend AlexandrasGirlyTalk video about the Art of color. Game changer!
I loved that one too and realized I had learned a lot of those principles through some amazing TH-camrs (Aly Art and Merriam Style) while she was away. I have learned so much and both of those channels go very deep also in body typing (Kibbe system) and sometimes essences (Kitchener) it has been truly transformative and I keep learning from them and others such as Alexandra. I am so very thankful for all I have learned already and keep learning too as with this channel. Love 🌼🌻🌷
Along the dressing femininely line, I've heard "Your clothes should be tight enough to show you're a woman and loose enough to show that you're a lady." I think it was said by Marilyn Monroe but I could be wrong 😁 I've always liked that and it's helped me out when deciding which outfits to purchase! ❤
That is helpful. I think a lot of recent clothing fits the first part but not the second. I am physically uncomfortable in tight clothing, especially when it gets hotter.
Do you watch Karolina Zebrowska? She makes content about historical fashion, she made a video last week despairing the loss of hats as part of typical fashion. Hats are so feminine and beautiful!
I love your videos! I'm 15 and I get criticized because of my traditional and Christian beliefs. It's really nice to find someone who isn't afraid to show their femininity. You are such an amazing inspiration to me😊💕
Debbie Minjarez sorry to tell you but being a Christian doesn’t make you feminine nor does being feminine make you any more or less of a Christian. Sorry people are criticizing you for your beliefs-get rid of them, you don’t need them in your life.
@@karakol86 Yes but i think she means one of the core Christian beliefs is gender roles and how femininity and masculinity compliment each other and how Men and Women should embrace those traits but the lots of people say its "sexist"
I never leave the house without putting on mascara and little eyeliner, it makes such a difference ❤️ also Mrs. Midwest the color you have on your lips right now looks really good on you!
I love how Mrs. Midwest always states that there no correct way to be feminine. Like you don’t have to wear pink and polka dots. For me personally, I love neutrals and earth tones. I think femininity is an energy sometimes and not a look. ❤️
I had an appointment with my physical therapist this morning for my back problems and he told me I could be just fine if I would just finally stand straight for a change and now you're telling me as well. Message is clear 😂
I LOVE that you mentioned small lips, I have very thin small lips, just a tiny mouth in general really, and it’s something I feel so self conscious of in myself and have considered lip fillers to help, even though I’m not keen on any form of plastic surgery. I really appreciate that you make all women feel included, no matter what ethnicity, style, or look 💕
Oh no, avoid that :/ Any kind of injection really should be avoided. Lip filler are easy to spot, especially on certain faces (check out Aly Art's video on the subject). Use a shiny lip gloss. Eat well so that they look redder. As Cathlyn said, prefer an ancestral diet with lots of animal protein. Red meat is your friend if you want red lips, clearer skin and bearable periods :)
I have to go against the crowd here. My lip fillers really helped me get over my dislike of my small lips. The fillers have since faded away and even though I enjoyed them while they lasted I found that I don't mind my natural lips nearly as much as I thought I did. If you aren't a fan of any kind of injection please listen to your heart on the subject, but I also think that they can be a useful tool for some people who are struggling. :) Just my two cents. Much love to you all.
@NF Obsessed Yes, and I know in some places like in East Asia they consider bigger, fuller lips uglier and smaller lips prettier. In America, particularly in the younger generation, bigger, fuller lips are generally more liked. The world will always hate no matter what so it's good to know God loves us and finds big lips beautiful, small lips beautiful, all skin tones beautiful, and so much more! Personally, it's ok to use makeup to make lips bigger (with overdrawn lips) or makeup like how they do in East Asia with darker color in the middle to make lips smaller. I'm undecided about lip fillers. Still, it's good to recognize the beauty in all!
I love that you mentioned embracing individuality because while feminine energy generally is the same across the board, it is expressed in so many ways based on personalities and indoctrination’s of what that energy looks like. For example, someone may have a very gentle, soft feminine energy while someone else expresses this through vibrancy. This notion of individuality also transfers into how we express this in our appearance or physical language. I love that because often when many of us start on this journey we forget that there’s a genuine way of expressing ourselves it isn’t the same for everyone. Its all beautiful❤️
Lipstick is such a life-changing thing! It impacts your look a lot, especially if you work remotely you will look so much better during those video calls 😍 I always try to wear a lipstick + small earrings and it makes a huge difference 😊 And I'm so happy that you post videos so often! Hope both you and your husband are doing well ❤️
Ever since I've found you, you have helped me explore my femininity more and more. I never had much confidence in my appearance and my feminine side, but your videos help me see things at a different angle and gain my self-esteem back. Thank you for being an inspiration!
Colours that are soft and feminine wash me out very badly so I stick to deeper richer colours and I admittedly live it grey and black BUT. You're advice helped me. Today I wore a maxi pleated black skirt, with a bell sleeved grey long sleeve tucked it. I added a black belt with a jewelled buckle, an jewelled hair clip and jewellery. I kept my makeup soft and light and BAM very feminine.
I struggle with hunching my shoulders. And it’s such a hard habit to break. So I actually bought a posture corrector and I use it for about 20 minutes a day and it helps sooooo much!
“Full acceptance of yourself...” couldn’t have said it better myself! I love your videos. I’m trying to return back to my authentic self. I thought that I had to change myself while entering the workplace. I wore black and grey, literally cut my hair into a bob because I thought it was more professional :(. Thanks for your videos
since discovering your channel, i’ve been working on developing my own unique feminine appeal, taking care of my hair, makeup, style, physique, and just the air with which i carry myself. it’s a project i’m really embracing and enjoying 😌👠
Gergana Hristova personally what I recommend is to try and find models, actresses, and everyday women with facial and bodily features similar to yours and take note of what essence they give off. The ones who give off the least childish or cutesy vibe are the ones you should pay attention to; what cuts they’re wearing, the colors, patterns, etc.
Gergana Hristova I have this same issue!! But I’ve found something that really works is wearing light neutrals and not too much color unless it’s one pop of color in an outfit. Hope this helps:)
I love your advice! Please keep this up and hang in there. #1 tip has gotta be to let The Holy Spirit into your life. Beauty wasn't my catalyst but I was an agnostic Jew before and just recently started praying the Rosary, etc. Everything got way better, including my actual face. I tried everything before but for the first time since I was a very young child, my smile has life in it. #2 tip is to drink WAAAY more water than you are really thirsty for. A lot of the times we think we are hungry, we're actually thirsty. Don't get discouraged! Water gets addictive if you keep drinking it. That's my piece. Best of luck! 💕
Teeth are an important feature that I neglected in my high school days. Having a shining bright smile completely makes my face and its a simple relatively cheap way to maximize your confidence! Plus, you're going to be smiling more, so that makes you seem like a more inviting person. Also, I think you would excel at a "confidence camp" or something like that with tween/young teens. Like maybe a weekend class every week through the summer? Kind of silly, but I really could have benefited from and older sister type person that helped me embrace the other sides of me that I kept hidden. I love my masculine traits, but at 25 I'm on a journey to balance that with my feminine and it can be hard to change.
I have a bad habit on throwing on some comfy clothes when I wake up or go outside, etc. that I end up looking super unfeminine, even at home. Most of my hoodies are black or dark, but I am so excited to buy clothes that actually look good on me. I’m trying to wear lighter colors and more fitting shirts. I don’t have a big chest but I have very wide hips so it’s hard to find clothes that flatter my body type. However, dressing femininely really boosts my confidence level 😊
Dear feminine family Mrs midwest and the others helped me, to join the lighter side of life, which blessed my mental health so much. Through this Video i see that the 5 body Type dont does us a favor, it say we have to Balance our propotions out. But man and women are naturaly in perfect Balance. So i bought many clothes in this 5.. System before i found the kibbe body Type System, which Highlights the Main special body Features of you. And now i have to go through all my wardrobe again time after time. I am happy with this System, i feel more complete. And Mrs midwest has talked in one of her last Videos about it. And a Personal color Palette helps to. Have a nice Day Greetings from germany This is my First TH-cam comment, i am a little Bit nervous
Wow you too? Since watching this and following some of the advice. I have become more confident in how I look. I had no idea how to dress before and now I know how.
Yes! For anyone wondering, Ally art does a great and loving job of explaining these. It's a bit of a rabbit hole, but just getting a sense for where you fall helps.
Agreed! It’s because the Kibbe typing system works as a spectrum not an absolute, like the 5 type system and that’s key to enhancing our unique femininity
Love these tips! I would also add that making sure your lip color compliments your skin tone is huge! I wear muted berry colors and stay far away from orange undertones because it makes me look washed out.
I’ve had worn the the darkest colours and the darkest lipsticks with coloured short hair and this lockdown I’ve finally grown my hair and started using more neutrals for makeup and clothes. And I must say, I’m impressssedddd of my fem side!💫
I appreciate that you show a variety of races/skin tones whenever you display example pictures. Your content is amazing, and I enjoy your videos so much. ❤️
Wow I love that you teach women how to improve themselves without putting other women down. I will definitely watch more of your videos in the future. You seem like such a sweetheart
I really needed this right now! I've been feeling somewhat overwhelmed lately on my feminine journey so this video was definitely helpful. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Caitlin! Sending love from Florida! 💜💜
Yayy I'm early!! I just want to say that I've been watching your videos for a year now and I consider you my role model. You've opened my eyes to so much and I finally find myself content knowing that I'm not alone in my interests and more traditional beliefs. Thank you, love from a younger feminine sister :)
Rachel Cabrera that is so lovely to hear! I am really happy you are finding so much joy in your feminine journey. What a freeing and exciting time in your life! Thank you for the encouragement :):):)
The eye trick is so true! I got fake eyelashes (I was hesitant because they often look very artificial and I didn’t want to damage my natural lashes, but turning 25, I finally decided to try!) and now I’m totally in love. They can look tacky on some, but they surprisingly really suit my features. Believe it or not, this tiny change made me feel so much more confident and feminine. I’ve also received so many compliments about my eyes, while it wasn’t the case before! Never think a make up style or even a cosmetic procedure (not talking about surgery) won’t suits you! Try and see, you never know what the result will be!! ♥️
I really like your channel because your advice doesn't come off as exclusive or elite. You're very elegant and very sweet in a genuine way. Thank you for these videos
Your hair color is becoming in you. It’s so pretty. Honestly, you can wear so many colors beautifully. Thank you for saying that leather and Jean jackets are masculine. I’ve been having an issue with mine and not wanting to west them. I actually told my husband I don’t like them in me as they are masculine even before watching your video. I love a soft cropped pastel cardigan over a cute maxi skirt in the summer. I’m 60. I like to cover my arms. Thank you so much for everything.
Feminity is not weak, and it is beautiful. But it doesn't make you any less of a woman if you hone into your musculine side. There are both yin and yang energies in everyone, and there's nothing wrong with honing into both your sides. Being feminine is beautiful, and so is being masculine. Honey you are beautiful and amazing, no matter how you choose to present yourself. BTW thank you for including women of all shapes, sizes, and colors.
I’ve def went through my phases As a girl I was veryyyyyyy feminine I loved pinks, dresses, skirts, and just very girly But idk when or how I began to disown that part of me bc I viewed tomboy and unbothered vibes as being cooler and more liked But today I’m glad to say I’ve come a full circle and ready to accept that part of me again and through TH-cam videos I’ve been soaking up all the great tips☺️👌🏼👌🏼
I, for one, love wearing red lipstick. It makes me feel like Grace Kelly, who was a real princess by the way. Highly recommend following her style from the 1950s. She’s such a natural beauty with so much elegance. I love her!
I absolutely adore your channel, Caitlin! I love how you include women of all races in your examples. You’re doing an amazing job of spreading the message of femininity :) this video was so helpful! ❤️
Ladies a big tip that I learned for your eyes is that , eye cream and eye drops are your best friend especially if you have darker eyes like mine that tend to look more dull , eye drops will make them look so much more bright , and eye cream around the eyes keeps the skin healthy and soft 💓
Thank you Katlin for this video. I am 5.7 tall and I always get comments like” your soo tall for a woman and it’s made me conscious to the point it’s affected my posture! But your right I need to be confident with myself and hold my wings back! Thank you
Almost 6 ft here ! (178cm) 😆 As a teenager I used to be so embarassed and desperate about my height but now I love my long legs ! I even wear heels sometimes. Be proud of your beautiful body 🤗
You are so awesome! I am in the process right now of getting rid of my pants. I really want to just wear dresses and skirts. I've felt like this for years now but I didnt want the attention&standing out. But I can't keep "being in the closet" lol I am also a jewelery hoarder 🤣😍
123CREATIONS same! I love dresses and skirts and would love to only wear them but 1. Because they aren’t trendy they aren’t readily available at major retailers (at least modest ones) and 2. Sometimes I don’t want to stand out as well but I’m becoming more confident and people have honestly responded pretty well so far:) I think it encourages other women to embrace it as well.
@@julialee143 Luckily we can shop online. You can always find dresses online 😄 A mother figure of mines told me "I know you don't like attention but your style is very dressy" and I had to think about that like oh wow thats true. Its fun and I love to express myself through my clothing but going out into the world like that is daunting considering that its not the norm. And I attract alot of energy coming at me from the outside world. Its like the world is black and white and you are a the only person in color. Talk about attention. But im tired of blending in with my environment. Im ready to accept that its ok to stand out!
You can definitely do it! @123CREATIONS @Julia Nolin I've been wearing dresses and skirts only for 2 years, some people believe i'm a Jehova witness but i'dont care i'll continue
@@annikaminina7670 Jahovahs Witness.. ill take it. Thats hilarious tho smdh! It says alot that doing something that naturally meant for us as women you got to be a Jahovahs Witness...What they really want to say is "You look like an 😇 angel/Godly Woman" but thats too nice 🤷🏿♀️ Wow 2 years thats inspiring
Dear Mrs. Midwest I know you will read my comment. I just want to say how amazing you are.I dont know how to express my feeling.You helped me find a new way to live.The one I've always wanted to experience.I just needed an inspiration to grow. I love you.Thank u for being an inspiration for all of us
Hunching is such a huge problem of mine! But the idea of having a straight back and exposing my huge boobs makes me feel so uncomfortable :( being chesty is hard
I share your plight! I think it's helpful to get professional fitted bras. Also, consider wearing a minimizer. With that tops that are a little looser/flowy- kind of a way to be modest. I'm busty and I HATE when ppl state or notice my chest. However, gotta have the good posture because bad posture can lead to back problems, which are no joke. Cheers!
I don't know if it will be useful in any way but You shouldn't feel ashamed. Choose the right comfortable bra, one that doesn't make them flat nor one that makes them bigger, more protruding. Opt for loose/puffy, high neck blouses tight on the waist rather than low cut and fitted.
Also, SMILE!! the best make up ever. Also if you smile, youll instantly look more Attractive, more positive, and more approachable. Be the positive vibe in this world full of grumpiness ❤💋
For my physical appearance I wear lashes with eyeliner, shape and do my eyebrows with eyeshadow, matte lipstick, and blush and I try to take good care of my skin and I’ve been eating clean and working out and that has helped me drastically 💕
Love this thank you! I grew up a girl in love with fantasy who wanted to be a sword fighter hahaha I've changed so much and while I still love fantasy I am now embracing my feminity and am so much more confident and content in who I am!
It's just one day since I've subscribed your channel , and in every moment I watch your vlogs I became more influenced. keep going your such an inspiring woman ❤️
When dressing and wearing make-up, you want to notice the woman..not the make-up or the clothing. The idea is to look your best, subtly. Let your personality shine through.
Curious to learn more tips! I have a boyfriend now and quarantine would be over soon, I'm quite excited to gradually feel more feminine in my own way. Thank you for helping us bring that side out, you have such a lovely energy!
Mrs. Midwest, could you make a video on modest/feminine wear for the gym or working out? Also, for outings such as hikes? I find it awkward to be half dressed up, but half in clothes that are meant to get dirty. God bless! 💓🥰
I went from being a home maker for almost two years, to being a Construction Technician and I feel so lost without the ability to wear makeup, do my hair, and wear what I want. 😓 What's worst is my husband can't relate to my sacrifice. I miss feeling more feminine
Nails is something else that differentiates masculinity from femininity. I feel that if you wear nail polish in feminine colors as you had mentioned, it makes you feel a lot more put together, elegant and quite feminine. I know every time I do my nails I feel a boost of confidence and feel a lot more feminine. Adding to moisturizing my hands with hand lotion adds to that feminine touch.
You would love a 1963 book called “Fascinating Womanhood” by Helen Andelin. To heighten femininity, she tells you to concentrate on colors and styles men don’t traditionally wear: PINK, pastels, florals, ruffles, sheer and floaty fabrics. Avoid anything that’s a mainstay of male styling: stripes, plaids, corduroy, denim, dark colors, tailored items, etc. It’s not my approach, but if that’s what you like - -
Personally I love fashion and although I don't have just one style that I like , one of my go to's are trousers (I don't like jeans) and a blazers, I love to wear them because they are super comfortable and elegant in my opinion, but I know that for some they may think that they look too masculine, and a key point to make this work is tailoring and wearing something fitted in an outfit, items like: turtle necks ,a blouse or figure hugging top underneath helps; but if you love the oversize look and it works for you, go for it (although I will advise to keep at least the waist of your trousers in your size, other wise you may look like you're drowning in fabric) ; jewellery, grooming and makeup can help you get the right balance and other thing that goes a long way is your behaviour, looking feminine is not only about the way you look, it does matters the way you behave, the worlds you decide to use, the way you speak, walk, etc is what gives you, your overall look, so keep that in mind.
I love your videos they remind me to pick myself up and not stay in pjs all day. I’m a stay at home mom so sometime I forget to take care of myself, especially during quarantine. When I do shower, do my hair, and wear something I feel confident in it helps my mood so much.
Thank you so much for your videos!! Thanks to you I finally feel confident enough to wear dresses and skirts that I like! I use to not have a lot of self-confidence and wear a lot of baggy clothes, which lead to me feeling more masculine and less like me. Thank you so much for helping all of us be a better version of ourselves!
I would LOVE a video on where to shop for the dresses and feminine products, either online or in store! Usually I’ll go to TJMaxx or Marshall’s, but I get frustrated searching through the masses to find one cute, feminine piece
Love your tips and really loved that you encourage celebrating thin lips and not all these weird fake trends 🤮 beauty is different to different people 💗
As a teenager, what you said about women having more fat was really helpful! It's honestly so disheartening how much "being skinny is beautiful" is pushed in the media, rather than "everyone is beautiful"
Ah! wonderful posture tips! I always find myself reminding myself to not slouch especially while working on uni assignments in front of the computer! xoxo
I’m 14 years old and I’m currently being bullied for looking like a male I don’t think I do but this video was a lifesaver as I want to look more feminine
I appreciate the work you do and I admire that you continue to walk boldly in your purpose despite the opposition you face! Thank you! I was wondering, did you know before you married that you wanted to encourage women in some way? When did you recognize this was a part of your calling? ❣️❣️
Hi Mrs. Midwest! I have always loved skirts, but I feel like this year I've been trying to cultivate more flowy dresses. Could you maybe make a video on where you buy things online that fit into your aesthetic? A peak in you dress closet would be wonderful as well!!!
These are good reminders, I really need to do more with my eyes. As you said, nothing here is groundbreaking, but I enjoy so much hearing you talk ❤️❤️
i love how you included the picture of the covered muslim lady! I just stumbled upon your channel and I am loving it so far. I am a muslim women and outside I cover but for my husband I try to dress up for and was looking for areas to be more feminine in
Any tips for dressing feminine on a casual day? Maybe if you're just working in the garden, doing dishes, cleaning, grocery shopping? I have days like this and I want to look feminine but I dont want to ruin my dresses and nice clothes.
If you keep dressing femininely despite what people comment about they will get used to it trust me it might take a couple months but either way they will get used to it and admire your dedication to yourself and the women in your life might even start doing the same. I dress extremely feminine for school and I started noticing how the girls around started to do the same ;)
Try to find a friend who already feminine, she will help you make good choices for you.In the beginning, everything is a struggle.Try out as many different styles and colors as you can, and try to take pictures, and in time, you'll figure out what works best for you.
I will admit, because of ongoing health issues, I don't dress very femininely on a day-to-day basis any more. I used to wear a lot of fantastic outfits(ok, *I* felt like they were fantastic, I don't know what everyone else thought), with a lot of throw-back 1950s/1940s vibe to them, but between working in a restaurant with creepy guys sometimes ordering from us and dealing with off and on pain, it's been hard. Your videos are really helping encourage me to once again celebrate how GOD has made me uniquely different from a man, and I want to thank you for that! As far as tips: 1. Talk more with your hands. Don't just keep your hands still when you talk. Guys move their hands a little bit when they talk, but women tend to do that more, and it can often be seen as more feminine. It's fairly easy to do. 2. Expand your vocabulary to use more elegant terms, or more poetic language. You can still use slang, but keep it wholesome. (Swearing really does not come across as feminine. Let guys get stuck in the mud and muck with swearing. Let us ladies be above such things.) Maybe start using terms in daily life like, "delighted," "lovely," "fantastic," and other words that are more expressive and considered more "flowery." Perhaps use dull, boring terms like "great," "nice," or "cool" a little bit less, and replace them with, "oh, that sounds wonderful!" "You did a fantastic job!" "I'd be delighted to go ." 3. Practice being gracious. And I don't mean just saying "please" and "thank you," and using every day manners. Being gracious goes beyond common manners. Being gracious means that you make an effort to make each person who comes near you feel safe and welcome in your presence. By using manners, courtesy, humor, and whatever other skills you have at your disposal, you create an environment around you that is fun, welcoming and accepting of others. Not only are you accepting, but you're also willing to overlook the little things that people do that are rude and respond with kindness. (I have to admit, I do NOT practice this even REMOTELY close to perfection. I'll just state that now). It's having the mindset of showing love to every person you meet. "How can I help them?" Everyone should practice this in general, but there's something about women that makes us uniquely gifted in this area when we put our minds to it. 4. Do practice practical manners. What do I mean by "practical manners?" Putting your pinky up when you drink your tea, while being a practice that you can fairly easily do, serves no practical purpose other than being "fancy." Practical manners are manners that serve the purpose of making others feel comfortable around you. You don't blow your nose in front of people because it makes a gross noise and other people don't want to hear it. You say "please" because you want to respect others and let them know that you're not demanding things from them, you're merely asking. We use "thank you" as a way to express gratitude and let others know that we appreciate them. We open doors for people to show that we are considering their needs, and even as a way of visually putting them first. Practical manners are manners designed to make being gracious easier to put into practice. It's like having a cheat sheet for how to be gracious in various situations. A quick rule of thumb is, if it makes the other person feel welcome and comfortable, then it's a practical manner. If it makes them feel dirty, unrefined, or like you're looking down on them, then it's not manners, it's just being posh and pompous; don't do it. If you have read to the end of this overly verbose list of tips, thank you for your patience. I appreciate it. I hope you have a lovely day!
First of all I have to say that you have the most beautiful blonde hair I have eveer seen!, you're so pretty, omg, I'm amazed, I'd like to have my eyes blue like you have, I'm not lesbian but you're so beautiful haha, well, having said that, I love your tips, they help me a lot in my journey to become a more feminine girl, when I was a girl I used to be rude and I don't liked to take care of myself outside nor inside and nowadays I'm 19 and I'm aware of the need that we as women have, being a woman is a bless, maybe a few years ago I thought that be femenine and delicate may means be weak as well but I know nowadays that is a lie that the damage or society or some people want that we believe. I'm agree with your tips, we have to take care of ourselfs, rather, we have to be aware of our feminity and embrace that feminity everyday, women could transmit a lot of love, tenderness, sensuality, sexuality, creation and solutions, we can transmit to each person around us peace, why don't do that?, a lot of kisses, I'm seeing you from Colombia
When I wore dresses and skirts to high school, people made fun of me because they thought I was trying too hard or I wanted attention from boys but honestly they are just more comfy and easy and give me confidence.
Yes!
I want to wear skirts to school but my mother wont let me shed say im disgusting for wearing a skirt and she would say i will be made fun of by other Muslims even though all the Muslims in my school wear skirts
@@eggycar Maybe you could bring a skirt with you in your backpack and then change into the bathroom or something if you really wanted to
That's how they act because they feel insecure when they see you. It's not you, it's them so don't let yourself be pushed back, gain confidence in yourself that will make people understand that you're serious about your choice. I'm sure you're beautiful and you should be appreciated. Young men don't know how to appreciate a woman yet so don't worry about it too much.
I hate wearing pants lol my legs feel trapped. Girl wear what you want 🌸
I’ve been working out to be skinnier, but I don’t know what it was about how you said it, but I’m now going to be trying to be healthier rather than skinnier. Hopefully that’ll make me be happier with my shape and more confident in my skin
I've done both sides of this two, and I can 100% say that I'm happier working on being healthy rather than "skinny."
I’ll be studying if you need me hey girl, I’m just so happy for you this is awesome!!! Your journey is going to be so rewarding and you’re going to feel so amazing.... I started working out to be skinnier but once I started to just want to feel healthy, I started feeling amazing and I was much more committed to working out. A lot of self respect and self love is coming your way!!!!
@@MrsMidwest Me too!
I think that's key! When I gained that mentality, i gained a curvier butt because I wasn't concerned about being skinny anymore and my hubby is thankful so win win
Definitely go for healthier! Actually most of the time, going for healthy looks the most attractive. Hope you’re journey is going (or went) well.
Wearing different scents as well. Fruity, floral, light, etc.
I read somewhere that men relate florla smells to their mothers and fruity smells are better for young women.
@@prerna5581 good to know! Stick to fruity lol
Yup. Orientals too.
Let me tell you, being more feminine and trying to cultivate feminine side of us is more helpful and powerful than people realize. I was a tomboy my whole life, I was so proud of it. Until, I truly started seeing the "damage" or discomfort my overly masculine side has caused in my previous relationship. Many women don't want to see this truth and I was absolutely one of them. Everything about this video would scream "girly, submissive, fake" to me jus few months ago. I'm glad, I found you and I realized how I can completely level up and mature in my relationships this way. Opening up to this side of me has changed my own confidence and relationship with myself. I hope, that more women see this side and choose to try it. In their own way. Thank you. You've helped me so much to recognize this side of myself and I'm very grateful for that. Love you! :)
Kristína Slovíková lots of emotional maturity and self awareness to be able to recognize that. I did that as well and it has been a great journey. I was always tomboy growing up but when I met my husband I started to naturally become more feminine because he was so masculine. I have embraced it now but many of my friends here in progressive California are turning very feminist and anti men and a couple are now lesbians. I learned yesterday a dear friend of mine who went to my wedding has shaved her head and wants to marry a woman. I don’t know what to do sometimes. I think they think I am, like you said, girly submissive, fake. When I know I am emotionally mature, strong, secure and genuine. Sometimes I don’t know how to approach them because my mere presence is so off putting.
@@julialee143 Yes! I feel what you are saying. It becomes especially hard, because SO many women encourage this masculine way of being, almost anti-men. But I try to surround myself with women who want to stand in their femininity. Even, when it's difficult to find. That's why I watch feminine youtubers and try to experiment and express myself more femininely.
I was a tomboy my whole life too! And really thought that was who I was. Only recently I learned that actually I'm a very feminine girl and I have been trying to be a boy my whole life because I was so brought up that those are the qualities that matter. No wonder I was so unhappy 😅
@Nomopoly 2 stop it pants are comfy
I feel you. I was actually incentivated to not be girly my whole life. My parents wouldn't let me cry or express emotion and would always tell me they were happy I wasn't "like the other silly girls". And apparently I attracted some people who wanted to "suffocate" my femininity. When I became 13 I somehow "flourished" and boys started paying attention to me (which they hardly ever did before). You know what my "friends" would tell me to do when we went out (mall, movies, birthday parties)? To wear plain clothing, no accessories, nothing that would draw more attention than them. I swear to God. And the worst part is that I obeyed. At 16, after fighting anorexia, I started accepting my body and dressing femininely again. Two years later, I met my first boyfriend, who wouldn't let me wear heels, skirts or makeup. Once I got really mad at him for always complaining about my appearance and asked him how he wanted me dress. His answer was "denim pants, loose-fitting T-shirt and hiking boots". And the idiot (me) obeyed...again...for 4,5 years. When I look back, I get so angry at myself. I'm now 32 and trying to get my femininity back. I believe it's never too late. Thank you, Kaytlin! You and Anna Bey have been my role models for femininity 😊
I'm 17 and all my life I used to dress in a boyish way, and now I truly understand the value of femininity. Whish me luck because people are gonna be surprised by my new feminine looks and manners, hopefully they'll get used to it and not said anything negative in my changes ❤️😁
Yeah I am a boy & I love faminine girls. I literally dream for a girly girl all the time ♥️
I’m in the same exact boat as you right now. I’m 17, and hoping these “changes” don’t throw people off, well even if they do, because I understand it’s unexpected of me to all sudden want to start dressing more feminine and even wear dresses. It’s fine, because it’s what is making me happy. Tomboy isn’t just a phase for everyone, but it definitely was for me. 🙂
I’d love it if you touched on safety being a feminine woman. Yesterday i remembered when I stopped being and dressing so feminine, when other girls made fun of me but especially men preyed on me. Masculinity felt like safety.
YES! Please, this is so important and the reason many women I know choose to be masculine 😣😣
I'm sorry that the people around you treated you so poorly!
Lillian E thank you - toxic work environments
This!!
This is way too relatable ☹️
I love wearing dresses it makes me feel so light and feminine! I don’t have a problem with pants ; I think they are practical and comfortable. To make pants appear more feminine you can wear it with a nice blouse. For make up I started doing soft glam; I get the most compliments when I wear that makeup look!
Yes! Or wear floatier trousers like culottes :)
to find out which (feminine) colors of clothing would look good on your complexion I can honestly really recommend AlexandrasGirlyTalk video about the Art of color. Game changer!
I loved that one too and realized I had learned a lot of those principles through some amazing TH-camrs (Aly Art and Merriam Style) while she was away. I have learned so much and both of those channels go very deep also in body typing (Kibbe system) and sometimes essences (Kitchener) it has been truly transformative and I keep learning from them and others such as Alexandra. I am so very thankful for all I have learned already and keep learning too as with this channel. Love 🌼🌻🌷
Helen Schmidbauer shes great ay
Girl you just did something for me, went and watched her video and my goodness did I learn a lot, thanks a bunch for sharing.
@@nyokabi8582 that's awesome! glad it could help you
Along the dressing femininely line, I've heard "Your clothes should be tight enough to show you're a woman and loose enough to show that you're a lady." I think it was said by Marilyn Monroe but I could be wrong 😁 I've always liked that and it's helped me out when deciding which outfits to purchase! ❤
I think it was by Edith Head
That's awesome quote. Thnx for sharing .
Love that quote!
That is helpful. I think a lot of recent clothing fits the first part but not the second. I am physically uncomfortable in tight clothing, especially when it gets hotter.
@@FlamingCockatiel Just wear what makes you feel more feminine.
More instant femininity: put on a hat! People react very differently when you wear one, in my experience. And it makes you feel so pretty 😊
totally! hats are the perfect accessory - they add character and uniqueness!
Do you watch Karolina Zebrowska? She makes content about historical fashion, she made a video last week despairing the loss of hats as part of typical fashion. Hats are so feminine and beautiful!
Plus they’re so functional on top of aesthetics!
@@jess2707 thanks for the recommendation, I subscribed to her channel!
Jess Coke yes they are and bring back cute house dresses too!
I love that you included pictures of women of all races, religions, and ages!
I LOVED THAT TOO!
One thing I've always loved about her channel
But that muslim dress isnt the right woman style in Islam.
I agree about loving diversity, but notice how she didn't like this comment of all of them? Actions speak louder than words.
@@AN425W It was liked before, but when I edited it, I think it removes it maybe? But it was hearted before.
I love your videos! I'm 15 and I get criticized because of my traditional and Christian beliefs. It's really nice to find someone who isn't afraid to show their femininity. You are such an amazing inspiration to me😊💕
Debbie Minjarez sorry to tell you but being a Christian doesn’t make you feminine nor does being feminine make you any more or less of a Christian. Sorry people are criticizing you for your beliefs-get rid of them, you don’t need them in your life.
@@karakol86 She didn't say it did
Same here
@@karakol86 Yes but i think she means one of the core Christian beliefs is gender roles and how femininity and masculinity compliment each other and how Men and Women should embrace those traits but the lots of people say its "sexist"
@@karakol86 that's not what she means. She means she chooses to be feminine and she gets criticized for her beliefs.
I never leave the house without putting on mascara and little eyeliner, it makes such a difference ❤️ also Mrs. Midwest the color you have on your lips right now looks really good on you!
Rose pink colour also looks good on her
I love how Mrs. Midwest always states that there no correct way to be feminine. Like you don’t have to wear pink and polka dots. For me personally, I love neutrals and earth tones. I think femininity is an energy sometimes and not a look. ❤️
Yes✌
I love to dress cottagecore ❤️
I finished all my finals last night and can now watch in peace!! I hope you have an awesome weekend ❤️
Admir Barucija congratulations! I know youve been working hard to study :)
Mrs Midwest Awe thank you so much, it really means a lot!! :)
I had an appointment with my physical therapist this morning for my back problems and he told me I could be just fine if I would just finally stand straight for a change and now you're telling me as well. Message is clear 😂
Masha’Allah I really love how you included a hijab women in the pictures because we love fashion as well
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Me too
Exactly....she appreciated my choice
All of Muslim women are super stylish.
You guys always look so lovely!
I LOVE that you mentioned small lips, I have very thin small lips, just a tiny mouth in general really, and it’s something I feel so self conscious of in myself and have considered lip fillers to help, even though I’m not keen on any form of plastic surgery. I really appreciate that you make all women feel included, no matter what ethnicity, style, or look 💕
NF Obsessed what a lovely message ❤️ This filled me with so much love, thank you!
Oh no, avoid that :/
Any kind of injection really should be avoided.
Lip filler are easy to spot, especially on certain faces (check out Aly Art's video on the subject).
Use a shiny lip gloss.
Eat well so that they look redder.
As Cathlyn said, prefer an ancestral diet with lots of animal protein. Red meat is your friend if you want red lips, clearer skin and bearable periods :)
I have to go against the crowd here. My lip fillers really helped me get over my dislike of my small lips. The fillers have since faded away and even though I enjoyed them while they lasted I found that I don't mind my natural lips nearly as much as I thought I did. If you aren't a fan of any kind of injection please listen to your heart on the subject, but I also think that they can be a useful tool for some people who are struggling. :) Just my two cents. Much love to you all.
From your pic I can see that your lips is beautiful sister , it doesnt need filler 😊
@NF Obsessed Yes, and I know in some places like in East Asia they consider bigger, fuller lips uglier and smaller lips prettier. In America, particularly in the younger generation, bigger, fuller lips are generally more liked. The world will always hate no matter what so it's good to know God loves us and finds big lips beautiful, small lips beautiful, all skin tones beautiful, and so much more! Personally, it's ok to use makeup to make lips bigger (with overdrawn lips) or makeup like how they do in East Asia with darker color in the middle to make lips smaller. I'm undecided about lip fillers.
Still, it's good to recognize the beauty in all!
I love that you mentioned embracing individuality because while feminine energy generally is the same across the board, it is expressed in so many ways based on personalities and indoctrination’s of what that energy looks like. For example, someone may have a very gentle, soft feminine energy while someone else expresses this through vibrancy. This notion of individuality also transfers into how we express this in our appearance or physical language. I love that because often when many of us start on this journey we forget that there’s a genuine way of expressing ourselves it isn’t the same for everyone. Its all beautiful❤️
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Lipstick is such a life-changing thing! It impacts your look a lot, especially if you work remotely you will look so much better during those video calls 😍 I always try to wear a lipstick + small earrings and it makes a huge difference 😊
And I'm so happy that you post videos so often! Hope both you and your husband are doing well ❤️
The diversity in your example photos makes my heart so happy!
Ever since I've found you, you have helped me explore my femininity more and more. I never had much confidence in my appearance and my feminine side, but your videos help me see things at a different angle and gain my self-esteem back.
Thank you for being an inspiration!
I love that you include pictures of all different kinds of women! Everyone is beautiful
Colours that are soft and feminine wash me out very badly so I stick to deeper richer colours and I admittedly live it grey and black BUT. You're advice helped me. Today I wore a maxi pleated black skirt, with a bell sleeved grey long sleeve tucked it. I added a black belt with a jewelled buckle, an jewelled hair clip and jewellery. I kept my makeup soft and light and BAM very feminine.
You can do a video about feminine moves. For instance, walk moving your hips, move your fingers femininely etc
I struggle with hunching my shoulders. And it’s such a hard habit to break. So I actually bought a posture corrector and I use it for about 20 minutes a day and it helps sooooo much!
“Full acceptance of yourself...” couldn’t have said it better myself! I love your videos. I’m trying to return back to my authentic self. I thought that I had to change myself while entering the workplace. I wore black and grey, literally cut my hair into a bob because I thought it was more professional :(. Thanks for your videos
since discovering your channel, i’ve been working on developing my own unique feminine appeal, taking care of my hair, makeup, style, physique, and just the air with which i carry myself. it’s a project i’m really embracing and enjoying 😌👠
Can you explain how not to look childish? I feel like sometimes when I try to look more feminine it comes out cute and therefore child-like
Gergana Hristova
I have the same problem! I’m 25 but have a young looking face. I’m often mistaken for a young teen or child.
sometimes if a woman has more yang than yin energy, trying too hard to look feminine can look unnatural . Aly Art is a youtuber who talks about this
Gergana Hristova personally what I recommend is to try and find models, actresses, and everyday women with facial and bodily features similar to yours and take note of what essence they give off. The ones who give off the least childish or cutesy vibe are the ones you should pay attention to; what cuts they’re wearing, the colors, patterns, etc.
Gergana Hristova I have this same issue!! But I’ve found something that really works is wearing light neutrals and not too much color unless it’s one pop of color in an outfit. Hope this helps:)
I love when my woman looks cute, so go for it
I love your advice! Please keep this up and hang in there.
#1 tip has gotta be to let The Holy Spirit into your life. Beauty wasn't my catalyst but I was an agnostic Jew before and just recently started praying the Rosary, etc. Everything got way better, including my actual face. I tried everything before but for the first time since I was a very young child, my smile has life in it.
#2 tip is to drink WAAAY more water than you are really thirsty for. A lot of the times we think we are hungry, we're actually thirsty. Don't get discouraged! Water gets addictive if you keep drinking it.
That's my piece. Best of luck! 💕
Teeth are an important feature that I neglected in my high school days. Having a shining bright smile completely makes my face and its a simple relatively cheap way to maximize your confidence! Plus, you're going to be smiling more, so that makes you seem like a more inviting person.
Also, I think you would excel at a "confidence camp" or something like that with tween/young teens. Like maybe a weekend class every week through the summer? Kind of silly, but I really could have benefited from and older sister type person that helped me embrace the other sides of me that I kept hidden. I love my masculine traits, but at 25 I'm on a journey to balance that with my feminine and it can be hard to change.
I have a bad habit on throwing on some comfy clothes when I wake up or go outside, etc. that I end up looking super unfeminine, even at home. Most of my hoodies are black or dark, but I am so excited to buy clothes that actually look good on me. I’m trying to wear lighter colors and more fitting shirts. I don’t have a big chest but I have very wide hips so it’s hard to find clothes that flatter my body type. However, dressing femininely really boosts my confidence level 😊
Dear feminine family
Mrs midwest and the others helped me, to join the lighter side of life, which blessed my mental health so much.
Through this Video i see that the 5 body Type dont does us a favor, it say we have to Balance our propotions out. But man and women are naturaly in perfect Balance. So i bought many clothes in this 5.. System before i found the kibbe body Type System, which Highlights the Main special body Features of you. And now i have to go through all my wardrobe again time after time. I am happy with this System, i feel more complete. And Mrs midwest has talked in one of her last Videos about it. And a Personal color Palette helps to.
Have a nice Day
Greetings from germany
This is my First TH-cam comment, i am a little Bit nervous
Wow you too? Since watching this and following some of the advice. I have become more confident in how I look. I had no idea how to dress before and now I know how.
Yes! For anyone wondering, Ally art does a great and loving job of explaining these. It's a bit of a rabbit hole, but just getting a sense for where you fall helps.
Love the Kibbe system! Learned that I am a soft classic and now everything makes sense😊
Agreed! It’s because the Kibbe typing system works as a spectrum not an absolute, like the 5 type system and that’s key to enhancing our unique femininity
Hi, wie schön, noch jemand aus Deutschland! ♥🌸
Love these tips! I would also add that making sure your lip color compliments your skin tone is huge! I wear muted berry colors and stay far away from orange undertones because it makes me look washed out.
I’ve had worn the the darkest colours and the darkest lipsticks with coloured short hair and this lockdown I’ve finally grown my hair and started using more neutrals for makeup and clothes. And I must say, I’m impressssedddd of my fem side!💫
For me put on mascara it’s a must 🤩🙌🏽 it’s my favorite part of doing my makeup
I appreciate that you show a variety of races/skin tones whenever you display example pictures. Your content is amazing, and I enjoy your videos so much. ❤️
Wow I love that you teach women how to improve themselves without putting other women down. I will definitely watch more of your videos in the future. You seem like such a sweetheart
I always feel good when I wear heels, but I feel so awkward when friends say they feel bad for me because I must be uncomfortable.
Continue wearing them if you love them! The awkwardness is hard but you should always strive to do what you love.
Maybe they are jealous that they can't/don't wear them
Always being cheerful, soft, gentle, mild and meek and quiet ♥️
I love Mrs. Midwest. She make me feel so confident and secure about myself! God bless! ❤
7am the usual morning lineup! 👸🏼🍞🧺🧹🎶📚
and this lip with that dress! i haven’t been wearing anything on my lips bc it gets on my mask lol :(
I really needed this right now! I've been feeling somewhat overwhelmed lately on my feminine journey so this video was definitely helpful. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Caitlin! Sending love from Florida! 💜💜
Yayy I'm early!! I just want to say that I've been watching your videos for a year now and I consider you my role model. You've opened my eyes to so much and I finally find myself content knowing that I'm not alone in my interests and more traditional beliefs. Thank you, love from a younger feminine sister :)
Rachel Cabrera that is so lovely to hear! I am really happy you are finding so much joy in your feminine journey. What a freeing and exciting time in your life! Thank you for the encouragement :):):)
The eye trick is so true! I got fake eyelashes (I was hesitant because they often look very artificial and I didn’t want to damage my natural lashes, but turning 25, I finally decided to try!) and now I’m totally in love. They can look tacky on some, but they surprisingly really suit my features. Believe it or not, this tiny change made me feel so much more confident and feminine. I’ve also received so many compliments about my eyes, while it wasn’t the case before! Never think a make up style or even a cosmetic procedure (not talking about surgery) won’t suits you! Try and see, you never know what the result will be!! ♥️
I really like your channel because your advice doesn't come off as exclusive or elite. You're very elegant and very sweet in a genuine way. Thank you for these videos
Your hair color is becoming in you. It’s so pretty. Honestly, you can wear so many colors beautifully. Thank you for saying that leather and Jean jackets are masculine. I’ve been having an issue with mine and not wanting to west them. I actually told my husband I don’t like them in me as they are masculine even before watching your video. I love a soft cropped pastel cardigan over a cute maxi skirt in the summer. I’m 60. I like to cover my arms. Thank you so much for everything.
I like how you showed that you can look femenine in hijab or a short dress!💗 ... i believe body lotion and nice sweet fragrance are big tips too!
Feminity is not weak, and it is beautiful. But it doesn't make you any less of a woman if you hone into your musculine side. There are both yin and yang energies in everyone, and there's nothing wrong with honing into both your sides. Being feminine is beautiful, and so is being masculine. Honey you are beautiful and amazing, no matter how you choose to present yourself. BTW thank you for including women of all shapes, sizes, and colors.
I’ve def went through my phases
As a girl I was veryyyyyyy feminine
I loved pinks, dresses, skirts, and just very girly
But idk when or how I began to disown that part of me bc I viewed tomboy and unbothered vibes as being cooler and more liked
But today I’m glad to say I’ve come a full circle and ready to accept that part of me again and through TH-cam videos I’ve been soaking up all the great tips☺️👌🏼👌🏼
I, for one, love wearing red lipstick. It makes me feel like Grace Kelly, who was a real princess by the way. Highly recommend following her style from the 1950s. She’s such a natural beauty with so much elegance. I love her!
I absolutely adore your channel, Caitlin! I love how you include women of all races in your examples. You’re doing an amazing job of spreading the message of femininity :) this video was so helpful! ❤️
I find that light, sweet and floral scents make me *feel* more feminine and pretty..... Great video as usual
Ladies a big tip that I learned for your eyes is that , eye cream and eye drops are your best friend especially if you have darker eyes like mine that tend to look more dull , eye drops will make them look so much more bright , and eye cream around the eyes keeps the skin healthy and soft 💓
Thank you Katlin for this video. I am 5.7 tall and I always get comments like” your soo tall for a woman and it’s made me conscious to the point it’s affected my posture! But your right I need to be confident with myself and hold my wings back! Thank you
Almost 6 ft here ! (178cm) 😆 As a teenager I used to be so embarassed and desperate about my height but now I love my long legs ! I even wear heels sometimes. Be proud of your beautiful body 🤗
You are so awesome! I am in the process right now of getting rid of my pants. I really want to just wear dresses and skirts. I've felt like this for years now but I didnt want the attention&standing out. But I can't keep "being in the closet" lol I am also a jewelery hoarder 🤣😍
123CREATIONS same! I love dresses and skirts and would love to only wear them but 1. Because they aren’t trendy they aren’t readily available at major retailers (at least modest ones) and 2. Sometimes I don’t want to stand out as well but I’m becoming more confident and people have honestly responded pretty well so far:) I think it encourages other women to embrace it as well.
@@julialee143 Luckily we can shop online. You can always find dresses online 😄 A mother figure of mines told me "I know you don't like attention but your style is very dressy" and I had to think about that like oh wow thats true. Its fun and I love to express myself through my clothing but going out into the world like that is daunting considering that its not the norm. And I attract alot of energy coming at me from the outside world. Its like the world is black and white and you are a the only person in color. Talk about attention. But im tired of blending in with my environment. Im ready to accept that its ok to stand out!
lol! Good for you!! No need to wear things you don't want to!
You can definitely do it! @123CREATIONS
@Julia Nolin
I've been wearing dresses and skirts only for 2 years, some people believe i'm a Jehova witness but i'dont care i'll continue
@@annikaminina7670 Jahovahs Witness.. ill take it. Thats hilarious tho smdh! It says alot that doing something that naturally meant for us as women you got to be a Jahovahs Witness...What they really want to say is "You look like an 😇 angel/Godly Woman" but thats too nice 🤷🏿♀️ Wow 2 years thats inspiring
Dear Mrs. Midwest
I know you will read my comment.
I just want to say how amazing you are.I dont know how to express my feeling.You helped me find a new way to live.The one I've always wanted to experience.I just needed an inspiration to grow. I love you.Thank u for being an inspiration for all of us
Hunching is such a huge problem of mine! But the idea of having a straight back and exposing my huge boobs makes me feel so uncomfortable :( being chesty is hard
Linda yes it is! Do not feel ashamed. The more comfortable you are with them, the less awkward you will look!
Gosh I wish I had big boobs! Be proud! Stand up straight!
I share your plight! I think it's helpful to get professional fitted bras. Also, consider wearing a minimizer. With that tops that are a little looser/flowy- kind of a way to be modest. I'm busty and I HATE when ppl state or notice my chest. However, gotta have the good posture because bad posture can lead to back problems, which are no joke. Cheers!
I don't know if it will be useful in any way but
You shouldn't feel ashamed.
Choose the right comfortable bra, one that doesn't make them flat nor one that makes them bigger, more protruding.
Opt for loose/puffy, high neck blouses tight on the waist rather than low cut and fitted.
I'm not that busty but I've some heavier-chested women say corsets have helped with back pain and posture!
Also, SMILE!! the best make up ever. Also if you smile, youll instantly look more Attractive, more positive, and more approachable. Be the positive vibe in this world full of grumpiness ❤💋
preach!
Oh I love the idea of having wings on my back to sit up straight 🦋
For my physical appearance I wear lashes with eyeliner, shape and do my eyebrows with eyeshadow, matte lipstick, and blush and I try to take good care of my skin and I’ve been eating clean and working out and that has helped me drastically 💕
Love this thank you! I grew up a girl in love with fantasy who wanted to be a sword fighter hahaha I've changed so much and while I still love fantasy I am now embracing my feminity and am so much more confident and content in who I am!
you go girl, be a lady sword fighter of your dreams!
This shirt looks really good on you! And your hair is gorgeous :)
I love that u included Fashion Mumblr, I love her!
It's just one day since I've subscribed your channel , and in every moment I watch your vlogs I became more influenced. keep going your such an inspiring woman ❤️
When dressing and wearing make-up, you want to notice the woman..not the make-up or the clothing.
The idea is to look your best, subtly. Let your personality shine through.
Curious to learn more tips! I have a boyfriend now and quarantine would be over soon, I'm quite excited to gradually feel more feminine in my own way. Thank you for helping us bring that side out, you have such a lovely energy!
Mrs. Midwest, could you make a video on modest/feminine wear for the gym or working out? Also, for outings such as hikes? I find it awkward to be half dressed up, but half in clothes that are meant to get dirty. God bless! 💓🥰
I think a paid of fun colored leggings with a matching workout tank top is a fun and feminine pair
You could check out this modest exercise clothing website: snogaathletics.com/
Hope this helps! :)
@@Goat.Cheese She's looking for modest, as well. I don't think leggings fit that bill.
A video on how to be beautiful not sexy would be amazing 😭😭 All the advice out there just mixes these two concepts together
I went from being a home maker for almost two years, to being a Construction Technician and I feel so lost without the ability to wear makeup, do my hair, and wear what I want. 😓 What's worst is my husband can't relate to my sacrifice. I miss feeling more feminine
Absolutely appreciate the hijab style you shared at 9:44 thank you for being inclusive in that way.....love all your videos! Just subscribed!
Nails is something else that differentiates masculinity from femininity. I feel that if you wear nail polish in feminine colors as you had mentioned, it makes you feel a lot more put together, elegant and quite feminine. I know every time I do my nails I feel a boost of confidence and feel a lot more feminine. Adding to moisturizing my hands with hand lotion adds to that feminine touch.
You would love a 1963 book called “Fascinating Womanhood” by Helen Andelin. To heighten femininity, she tells you to concentrate on colors and styles men don’t traditionally wear: PINK, pastels, florals, ruffles, sheer and floaty fabrics. Avoid anything that’s a mainstay of male styling: stripes, plaids, corduroy, denim, dark colors, tailored items, etc. It’s not my approach, but if that’s what you like - -
Personally I love fashion and although I don't have just one style that I like , one of my go to's are trousers (I don't like jeans) and a blazers, I love to wear them because they are super comfortable and elegant in my opinion, but I know that for some they may think that they look too masculine, and a key point to make this work is tailoring and wearing something fitted in an outfit, items like: turtle necks ,a blouse or figure hugging top underneath helps; but if you love the oversize look and it works for you, go for it (although I will advise to keep at least the waist of your trousers in your size, other wise you may look like you're drowning in fabric) ; jewellery, grooming and makeup can help you get the right balance and other thing that goes a long way is your behaviour, looking feminine is not only about the way you look, it does matters the way you behave, the worlds you decide to use, the way you speak, walk, etc is what gives you, your overall look, so keep that in mind.
I love your videos they remind me to pick myself up and not stay in pjs all day. I’m a stay at home mom so sometime I forget to take care of myself, especially during quarantine. When I do shower, do my hair, and wear something I feel confident in it helps my mood so much.
Thank you so much for your videos!! Thanks to you I finally feel confident enough to wear dresses and skirts that I like! I use to not have a lot of self-confidence and wear a lot of baggy clothes, which lead to me feeling more masculine and less like me. Thank you so much for helping all of us be a better version of ourselves!
Marie Antoinette Kirsten Dunst vibes will always be my goal! 💟 Great tips, as always! 😄
I’m still in the process of changing my wardrobe. You and others really help me out. Thank you, Caitlin. 💕🌸
I would LOVE a video on where to shop for the dresses and feminine products, either online or in store! Usually I’ll go to TJMaxx or Marshall’s, but I get frustrated searching through the masses to find one cute, feminine piece
Mrs Midwest I am binge watching all your videos for the third time, we miss you!
Love your tips and really loved that you encourage celebrating thin lips and not all these weird fake trends 🤮 beauty is different to different people 💗
As a teenager, what you said about women having more fat was really helpful! It's honestly so disheartening how much "being skinny is beautiful" is pushed in the media, rather than "everyone is beautiful"
Ah! wonderful posture tips! I always find myself reminding myself to not slouch especially while working on uni assignments in front of the computer! xoxo
Thank you for adding a big variety of pictures and examples! Pictures speak a thousand words :)
I love the butterfly wings part❤️
I always feel so refreshed and motivated after watching your videos for some reason ❤️ I hope you and husbear are doing well during this time
We need a makeup tutorial from you! Please that would be great to see your make up application and how you enhance your features! You’re gorg! 💖
I’m 14 years old and I’m currently being bullied for looking like a male I don’t think I do but this video was a lifesaver as I want to look more feminine
I literally always watch your videos. You’ve helped me so much with my feminine journey! 💕
I appreciate the work you do and I admire that you continue to walk boldly in your purpose despite the opposition you face! Thank you!
I was wondering, did you know before you married that you wanted to encourage women in some way? When did you recognize this was a part of your calling? ❣️❣️
Great tips. I love the analogy of the cartoon characters. So true - I never thought of it that way but you're right.
You're so nice. I love you for your help and support. You radiate so much positivity ♥️
Hi Mrs. Midwest! I have always loved skirts, but I feel like this year I've been trying to cultivate more flowy dresses. Could you maybe make a video on where you buy things online that fit into your aesthetic? A peak in you dress closet would be wonderful as well!!!
After watching I'm for sure convinced that it's what I needed to hear, thank you😍
These are good reminders, I really need to do more with my eyes. As you said, nothing here is groundbreaking, but I enjoy so much hearing you talk ❤️❤️
i love how you included the picture of the covered muslim lady! I just stumbled upon your channel and I am loving it so far. I am a muslim women and outside I cover but for my husband I try to dress up for and was looking for areas to be more feminine in
Any tips for dressing feminine on a casual day? Maybe if you're just working in the garden, doing dishes, cleaning, grocery shopping? I have days like this and I want to look feminine but I dont want to ruin my dresses and nice clothes.
M still clueless of actual feminine, I am raised in masculine domain. Everytime I look girly I am put down. And I dnt feel feminine either.pls help
You have to really ignore those who put you down and remind yourself that you look beautiful and graceful! You can do this!
The time will come when you are able to leave that domain and reinvent yourself. Good luck!
since a lot of people dress in androgynous style nowadays, super feminine ppl will stand out naturally.
If you keep dressing femininely despite what people comment about they will get used to it trust me it might take a couple months but either way they will get used to it and admire your dedication to yourself and the women in your life might even start doing the same. I dress extremely feminine for school and I started noticing how the girls around started to do the same ;)
Try to find a friend who already feminine, she will help you make good choices for you.In the beginning, everything is a struggle.Try out as many different styles and colors as you can, and try to take pictures, and in time, you'll figure out what works best for you.
I will admit, because of ongoing health issues, I don't dress very femininely on a day-to-day basis any more. I used to wear a lot of fantastic outfits(ok, *I* felt like they were fantastic, I don't know what everyone else thought), with a lot of throw-back 1950s/1940s vibe to them, but between working in a restaurant with creepy guys sometimes ordering from us and dealing with off and on pain, it's been hard. Your videos are really helping encourage me to once again celebrate how GOD has made me uniquely different from a man, and I want to thank you for that!
As far as tips:
1. Talk more with your hands. Don't just keep your hands still when you talk. Guys move their hands a little bit when they talk, but women tend to do that more, and it can often be seen as more feminine. It's fairly easy to do.
2. Expand your vocabulary to use more elegant terms, or more poetic language. You can still use slang, but keep it wholesome. (Swearing really does not come across as feminine. Let guys get stuck in the mud and muck with swearing. Let us ladies be above such things.) Maybe start using terms in daily life like, "delighted," "lovely," "fantastic," and other words that are more expressive and considered more "flowery." Perhaps use dull, boring terms like "great," "nice," or "cool" a little bit less, and replace them with, "oh, that sounds wonderful!" "You did a fantastic job!" "I'd be delighted to go ."
3. Practice being gracious. And I don't mean just saying "please" and "thank you," and using every day manners. Being gracious goes beyond common manners. Being gracious means that you make an effort to make each person who comes near you feel safe and welcome in your presence. By using manners, courtesy, humor, and whatever other skills you have at your disposal, you create an environment around you that is fun, welcoming and accepting of others. Not only are you accepting, but you're also willing to overlook the little things that people do that are rude and respond with kindness. (I have to admit, I do NOT practice this even REMOTELY close to perfection. I'll just state that now). It's having the mindset of showing love to every person you meet. "How can I help them?" Everyone should practice this in general, but there's something about women that makes us uniquely gifted in this area when we put our minds to it.
4. Do practice practical manners. What do I mean by "practical manners?" Putting your pinky up when you drink your tea, while being a practice that you can fairly easily do, serves no practical purpose other than being "fancy." Practical manners are manners that serve the purpose of making others feel comfortable around you. You don't blow your nose in front of people because it makes a gross noise and other people don't want to hear it. You say "please" because you want to respect others and let them know that you're not demanding things from them, you're merely asking. We use "thank you" as a way to express gratitude and let others know that we appreciate them. We open doors for people to show that we are considering their needs, and even as a way of visually putting them first. Practical manners are manners designed to make being gracious easier to put into practice. It's like having a cheat sheet for how to be gracious in various situations. A quick rule of thumb is, if it makes the other person feel welcome and comfortable, then it's a practical manner. If it makes them feel dirty, unrefined, or like you're looking down on them, then it's not manners, it's just being posh and pompous; don't do it.
If you have read to the end of this overly verbose list of tips, thank you for your patience. I appreciate it. I hope you have a lovely day!
First of all I have to say that you have the most beautiful blonde hair I have eveer seen!, you're so pretty, omg, I'm amazed, I'd like to have my eyes blue like you have, I'm not lesbian but you're so beautiful haha, well, having said that, I love your tips, they help me a lot in my journey to become a more feminine girl, when I was a girl I used to be rude and I don't liked to take care of myself outside nor inside and nowadays I'm 19 and I'm aware of the need that we as women have, being a woman is a bless, maybe a few years ago I thought that be femenine and delicate may means be weak as well but I know nowadays that is a lie that the damage or society or some people want that we believe. I'm agree with your tips, we have to take care of ourselfs, rather, we have to be aware of our feminity and embrace that feminity everyday, women could transmit a lot of love, tenderness, sensuality, sexuality, creation and solutions, we can transmit to each person around us peace, why don't do that?, a lot of kisses, I'm seeing you from Colombia