We had generations of trauma. I was a latch key key that was never given a key. I had to break into my house every day after school. First started in elementary school. Cooked and cleaned since 8. Worked (on paper) since 13. I am a survivor of child SA and child abuse as well as a rape survivor. But, I have a master's degree and a good career. I am blessed. I am still here. Only trade-off? Never had kids.
Everything starts at home. My whole entire channel is dedicated to breaking generational curses in our community. These are the things that we have swept under the rug our entire lives. So many children born into chaos and turbulence and are expected to transition into society smoothly. I appreciate your transparency and honesty. Kesha, I pray this interview heals you in some way. ❤❤❤
I do not believe in, "Generational Curses", that Scripture does not support the claim of a "curse" from past generations. That's not like Voodoo rather than biblical. I believe in Generational Patterns of Sin that were modeled in front of children. The only solution is to be born again, regeneration of a renewed mind and heart ❤️ transformation, submitted under the Lordship of Christ. No believer is under a "curse" where you are indwelt with the Holy Spirit. If I believe in cursed, why would I repent if I'm cursed by something outside of ourselves. The curse was originated by the curse of Adam, yet Christ DESTROYED the power of the devil through The Cross and His resurrection. All sin now is a choice after the Redemption, that should move a believer to Repent.
Your channel is fantastic. I hope more women realize the power we have to nurture and foster healthy children and families… we can break harmful cycles.
This woman needs healing. She has been through so much. I understand what it feels like to have your whole heart and soul wrapped up in your children and I cannot imagine the pain of having all of your babies taken from you. Kesha, I hope you find the peace and strength within your soul to heal and be whole for yourself and your children. Stay strong mama.
It's all homes not just African American homes. White ppl have gone through the same no two parents in the household for the children, lots of domestic abuse, children being taken away and are living though the system, lots of drugs but when it comes to gangs I don't honestly have a clue about. I can't say yes or no to the gang part because I don't know so everyone is in the same category no matter what color they are it all starts from inside the home sad but true.
I absolutely agree I live in West Virginia and we have a large large amount of foster kids children that are being taken from their homes so many that there really aren't enough homes for the kids and alot of the foster homes have abuse so it's an epidemic here!
7:31 OOOOO,OOOOO, I CAN ANSWER THAT ONE MARK! 🤚 (1st point) It turns out that in the 80s, a very popular president took it upon himself to fight communism, through funding a terrorist group called "the contras" However, he had to come up with funding somehow, and so he had the idea to sell drugs to the communities we can see as ghettos today. Now, as we all know drugs plus community doesn't equal the best outcomes for the residents look at (kensington, the tenderloin in sf, and your very own skid row) 😉 (2nd point ) BUT WAIT THERE IS MORE, The same president decided to later declare a war on drugs. which had drug dealers doing some serious time for possession/distribution. And so for anyone keeping score, if your mom or sister wasn't strung out on dope. then your dad or brother was locked up for selling it (3rd point the smoking gun) so put everything above together with the race relations, and the way black people viewed police due to interactions in previous decades. Add gangster rap/hip hop, and you get the *perfect storm* now music on the radio glorifies all the wrong messages. Or to those in the hood "a way out".(Hate the police/authority) which makes sense because, again the race relations at the time. (Selling the drugs yourself will get you nice things or noney) Kids already are predisposed to being impulsive. So How do you explain to a kid that fast money is bad in this environment. 🤷♂️ Plus, working-class blacks are seeing drug dealers with nice things as well. while they struggle and others battle addiction. police stopping by doing drug bust, locking said kids up and further destroying whatever is left. Not blaming the cops btw And im bearly scratching the surface..... this only happend 40 years ago. there are still people alive to tell you themselves what happened to the black community 😐
All of American history is a completely whitewashed lie. The Iran/Contra scandal should have imploded this demonic system, but, like all other high crimes, just got swept under the rug.
Fear and poverty is what keeps people in familiar environments. Imagine moving to a new town and your parents are discriminated against at work, you’re discriminated at school by students and teachers, your neighbors complain about your music, your friends and family visiting, and now your children are acting out and the neighbors complain to the landlord and call CPS. You may as well have stayed in the hood. 😢
I raised my 3 kids alone and they turned out amazing and I instilled in them to break all cycles.The deck was stacked against them and me but my 3 are wonderful.So proud of all 3 of them.I came from a fucked up begining that I still carry with me to this day.I wanted more for mine and they make me so proud.Greatest thing I ever done is having my 3.
Her daughter being trafficked at 11 and her "acting out" her mothers response is whoop her... please please talk to your children ask what is wrong. Violence is clearly not the answer and this woman blaming generational curses is simply her not taking accountability smh
She said her daughter didn't tell her till she was grown. How could WE listen to the same thing, and you miss the key point lol? Comprehension is fundamental
@Reallionaire314 her daughter acting up is a cry for help. If she had taken time to talk to her daughter about why she is acting that way she would have known. The one with comprehension issues here is you. Smh
Mark you’re just flat out wrong for posing this question “why do so many African Americans struggle with just doing the right thing…?” Unacceptable. Internet do what you do best smh
This is heavy, insightful though. So brave to share your experience and insights. This is a very needed and heartbreaking conversation to have. Lot of love for you ❤
To answer your question Mark (and put it simply), a lot of black people are suffering from the effects of slavery and racism. I don’t know why that is such a far-fetched idea for some, if black people in America never received healing care and reparations for this. There are racist systems still standing today…
Just to let ya know mark you spelt her name differently in the video and the caption. Is it keisha or kesha? She deserves to have it spelt right, sharing her story and being this vulnerable.
7:18 the problem is not the home, is the American society built on racism and inequality. We black people in Africa and Europe, most of us are successful and have none of these problems, and trust me a lot of us have broken home and comes from poor background but we live in society built to help us thrive not to bring us down. And if you are left at the bottom of course gang banging and drugs looks the only way out.
When you finally get away from the people who caused you the pain in your childhood and then realize what characteristics are yours and which one's are learned behaviors you can then wirk on them. Everyday you grow and you fight to be the best you. You stop looking back, you stop wanting things from people who can't give it to you, realizing that the mother figure or father figure will Bennett be the people you want them to be and finally just allow them to be THEMSELVES then you see that EXPECTING THINGS FROM PEOPLE WHO CAN NOT GIVE IT TO YOU IS KEY FOR HEALING ❤
Kesha’s issue is she developed a soul tie and became addicted to a man that was jealous of her. He used reproductive abuse to keep her connected. She had a store, and potential to one day be successful. It made him feel powerful to “ make her lose everything“ Kesha never healed nor knew how to be a parent. It’s important to heal and grow so that you can set a solid foundation. But she kept including him because she was addicted to him. You can’t help a broken man, when you yourself are broken as a woman. Now she has broken children that she lost to a broken system
Self awareness is needed. I feel like you're there and understand. I think you seem like a very genuine, sweet person. I wish you all the best. You did an amazing job coming through your own childhood. Don't put too much bad pressure on yourself. Give yourself some grace. Maybe just try to keep the bond with your kids and or continue to work on it. Even if they push you away. I think your heart will be happy and satisfied in the long run. I think they'll feel the same too. Even if they reject you they know when their heart deep down that's love from their mom trying to reconnect. I wish you all the best life can give. You are a courageous woman. Thank you for telling your story.
I find her inspiring the story the trickle down the desire to stop the pattern is very relatable....n I love tht blue shiny hair color so pretty n metallic 💕😍
I hate that Mark made this a black issue, "why are so many African American struggling with doing the right thing"??? Seriously. The people on this channel, black white or brown are not a reflection of all. Not trying to downplay anybody's story, but a lot of us take parenthood seriously, protect and nourish our children, and are actually law abiding citizens.
He’s right. Sadly…many people in that culture are violent and don’t want to work hard. They want fast $$ and material things. Education isn’t important and they have that violent pack mentality. Also, they think they are “owed” things in life without working for them.
Open your eyes or do some research. Mark is not incorrect. He’s not saying it doesn’t happen everywhere but it is very common in the black communities.
Man, y'all negros ALWAYS try to deflect from reality when it comes to the norm in the community. Accountability is missing in the community. The fact is in the community most kids grow up without THEIR biological father in the house. Im 42, I had my mother and father. Out of all the ppl I'm close to, I only know about 5-6 black ppl that grew up like me. That's SAD.... WE gotta do better and STOP running away from the realities of life.
First, people started being referred to as "consumers." That was bad enough. Now they're called "content" as well. Words matter, and these are two that make any notion of "human" disappear. Not bashing you, @darryl, just venting a little.
Zero accountability for her own actions with this one. Get out there and make a difference if not for others for yourself youre in the most opportunistic country in the world.
I keep coming to check if you’ve brought Johnny on the channel. Where is he?! Is he okay?! He hasn’t been on in such a long time and I start to worry when it’s been a couple months . The johnny with the eyes closed guy lol
The idea that black most black men or the black society is somehow inherently dysfunctional is insane. Then Mark says why does it seem like the black community can't get it together when there are many families in his community that are just like the Whittiker family that he financially and emotionally supports even after being scammed. No race, culture is without its percentage of bad.
Thank you for letting Kesha tell her story. She seems so intelligent and it’s sad that she was dealt a lot of pet cards and she didn’t play the best hands, but I don’t think she had the instructions to the game either. She seems like a good person and she’s on the good path. I so appreciate what you do allowing people to talk until their story. It’s very therapeutic and it’s eye-opening for other peopleto realize that not, everybody is coming from the same place. Thank you, Mark.
Thank you for this interview Mark. This beautiful woman is describing a system of family policing. What the criminal legal system does to Black men, the child welfare system does to Black women. It’s not just generational. It’s systemic.
You are a sweet women, if you want to break the curse , forgive your mother and father because they had issues like you and all of us, and all will get better. God bless you
I'm so interested in this story as I was told from a pastor I have a generational curse. She said the devil is disguising himself to me as God and its not God... she said someone is or was very very jeliousvand angry and is stabbed or was stabbed over and over very violent stabbing. I was at the retreat they tried to pull out the bad by praying over me and talking in tongue over and over for 8 days. I Never felt a relief or anything that they said I should have. I would be totally aware with the feeling of knowing God was truly God. Never happened!!! The other pastor as well as the other one have been concerned very much for me. Just what kind of curse idk they said this one she's talking about. I just get scared. I suffer with terrible scary and very bad night terrors. They are so wild vivid and in my fase..face... well ty mark
Kesha is so insightful and you can tell she has thought about this and grown as a woman. Unfortunately this is the reality of so many young people being brought up in homes where the parents are to young, to immature, to uneducated and lost with no support to help them. I wish we had the answer to stop this cycle. Thank you for your honesty Kesha, I pray that you can grow, heal and sharing your story hopefully will help others.
Praying that God break those curses. We as a race , culture or people. Have been through a lot in this country. It might seems like it the individual fault but it's deeper than what society sees.
Growing up in the worst parts of Chicago no matter what all my friends dads were in house working men then eventually move the families out of the hood. This whole man aren’t around is a lie. Sounds like a poor choices in the same bad man.
mark how can i have an interview with you? i’ve saw all of your appalachia interviews and im from appalachia myself and have a ton of stories and experiences from trauma, success, depression, addiction and other mental health issues. i’d love to have an interview and i’ve wanted one ever since i first saw your channel. got a lot of stuff that i’d like to get out in an interview too
Black culture is really shattered. Men don’t stay with their women. I think that’s slowly changing since 1970s but women also expect too much now from the men. So they fold and leave become Pimps Gagster Dealers & all want to break into Hiphop scene. Money changes very little about a person. It makes you more of who you already are. This Shattered continuance has to stop. Men need to be loyal to there women and stay with 1 and women need do the same. Keep the family together. It’s so hard when the violence and the chaos and the sabotage and the greed are driving forces and not honest or love or faith drive them together they rip eachother apart. It’s sad. Black culture needs to change more rapidly and so do social norms. Can’t imagine being 11 being SA and coming home to be whooped for being late and not saying what happened to you own Mom… Shows a breakdown in trust between Mothers and Daughters That’s no good 😢
Why are 60 to 70% of all Americans overweight you go to all these other countries and you see healthy people that are not overweight and they look beautiful is it the food or the GMO's I don't know The thing is though the famous late great comedian George Carlin said this exact same thing 30 to 35 years ago why are Americans so overweight and most of all the other countries have healthy people.
How come these things aren't happening in the South Asian community?? Or Chinese etc.? It's culture. The same way in poor white communities abuse and poverty become generational. People don't inherit ony genes but language, stories and ideas, which all form behaviours. In other word most people work on autopilot. What they inherited, good or bad, will for the most part determine their path. The only way to break this patterning of consciousness is Self Awareness. A stepping back and looking at yourself.
Generational curse my ass.... it's called making poor choices...time after time ..over and over again...please...do like the rest of the world...get a job ..go to that job everyday...stay close to positive role models....pray for morals and guidance... it's boring at times...but it works....get tired of hearing same old story
@@nelliejoy8428ahh yes, I forgot, advising someone to get stability and functional relationships in their life is such a bad idea. It's not like it's a time tested way to live a good life. No, it's not the only way. However it works for a majority of people. Apply it to Christ is it helps, if it doesn't, we'll then don't use that influence. I'm sorry you feel like someone suggesting a workable path in life is somehow imposing to you. Take care.
A Black 🖤 woman here. It's hard for me to take anyone seriously with blue hair and fans for eyelashes. And it's more than having 'a two-parent' home; yes....a two-parent home is important but what is most important in such dynamic is LEADERSHIP. And the fact that Black women leading in single mother households PROVES that the lack of PATRIARCHY and strong masculinity has DECIMATED Black society, and the world has FEMINISM to thank....Let the election go BLUE in November. It will be the final de@th nail in a already soulless society. 💯💯💯
Sad. Just has no self respect no security, no worthiness so if you don’t have those mindsets you could be handed the world and you would still feel like you did deserve it. I’d s still Managed to mess it up. You surround yourself with people that don’t respect themselves. How are they gonna respect you? It’s just a vicious cycle, you know better but somehow you just can’t do better something that’s gonna take years to reverse mindset, but I feel like people are acknowledging that now so hopefully it can be the start of the up swing
Genuine question bro. Not trying to come at you side ways. If this the homegirl why didn't anyone step in and see what was up with with her daughter getting trafficked. At 11 years old she still a baby. It boils my blood that people do this kinda shit and pretty much ruin their entire life. That 11 year old never stood a chance. And it's fucked that she never got to live the normal life a teenager lives .
Well, why don’t you just lay out for us peasants how to live a perfect life. I’m sure you have done much honest self reflection and don’t think you are “as bad” as Kesha. Worry about yourself. You have problems. You have secrets. You’re delusional if you think you are better. All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. And spare me saying you don’t believe in God. Your lack of belief or mockery won’t keep your soul out of the lake of fire. I pray one day you humble yourself and wake up, before it’s too late.
Once I hear that someone came from a single mother home, I don't expect to hear any good outcomes from the conversation. Statistics and data shows that the children that come from single mother homes are more likely than not to experience all of the ills that you can think of.
I hope that you would change your view of single parent homes. In some cases , just because there's no father in the home doesn't mean that he's not present for the kids. Look at TV. A good percentage of pro athletes are from single parent homes. The best scorer in the NBA, Kevin Durant, is from a single parent home. NBA legend Isaiah Thomas is from a single parent home. I personally know if a FEW single mothers who've raised good children. I'm not totally disagreeing with you. I'm just hear to say that we should do interviews with single parents who BEAT the odds. For every drug addicted single parent, there's one who's not and is raising their kids by themselves.
@@memejones17That's a lie‼️ Clearly the statistics prove that children, all children do much better in every area of life with both Mother and FATHER in the home. 85% of those in prisons come from fatherless homes. Women were not called to just "raise" children, especially boys. Father's don't just "raise" sons, we Develop & Cultivate them, moving them from Boyhood to Manhood, to be law abiding and successful citizens and future husbands and fathers. Stop the false narrative that created more hopelessness, despair and ultimately death.
Kesha is actually short for her actual name. Adding the “i” doesn’t seem correct since it’s not in the spelling of her full length name. The title frame at the beginning was created when I was assuming the same thing you are.
We had generations of trauma. I was a latch key key that was never given a key. I had to break into my house every day after school. First started in elementary school. Cooked and cleaned since 8. Worked (on paper) since 13. I am a survivor of child SA and child abuse as well as a rape survivor. But, I have a master's degree and a good career. I am blessed. I am still here. Only trade-off? Never had kids.
Good for you 🎉, this world has become an unfriendly place recently
Godbless you!
Adopting my wifes 2 boys saved my life from drugs , booze and a relapse to prison.
Sounds like you're strong enough to not blame your failures on a "curse"
Everything starts at home. My whole entire channel is dedicated to breaking generational curses in our community. These are the things that we have swept under the rug our entire lives. So many children born into chaos and turbulence and are expected to transition into society smoothly. I appreciate your transparency and honesty. Kesha, I pray this interview heals you in some way. ❤❤❤
Ditto!
Blessings, love, and light! 🙏❤️✨️
I do not believe in, "Generational Curses", that Scripture does not support the claim of a "curse" from past generations. That's not like Voodoo rather than biblical. I believe in Generational Patterns of Sin that were modeled in front of children. The only solution is to be born again, regeneration of a renewed mind and heart ❤️ transformation, submitted under the Lordship of Christ. No believer is under a "curse" where you are indwelt with the Holy Spirit. If I believe in cursed, why would I repent if I'm cursed by something outside of ourselves. The curse was originated by the curse of Adam, yet Christ DESTROYED the power of the devil through The Cross and His resurrection. All sin now is a choice after the Redemption, that should move a believer to Repent.
@@seedofabraham0149What a powerful and eloquently written statement.
Goosebumps. ❤
"generational bad choices", NOT "curses". 👍👍
Your channel is fantastic. I hope more women realize the power we have to nurture and foster healthy children and families… we can break harmful cycles.
Domestic violence , drug abuse, and mental illness happens in every community, self awareness is the key to breaking the cycle.
This woman needs healing. She has been through so much. I understand what it feels like to have your whole heart and soul wrapped up in your children and I cannot imagine the pain of having all of your babies taken from you. Kesha, I hope you find the peace and strength within your soul to heal and be whole for yourself and your children. Stay strong mama.
It's all homes not just African American homes. White ppl have gone through the same no two parents in the household for the children, lots of domestic abuse, children being taken away and are living though the system, lots of drugs but when it comes to gangs I don't honestly have a clue about. I can't say yes or no to the gang part because I don't know so everyone is in the same category no matter what color they are it all starts from inside the home sad but true.
Yes true, notice how Mark only blames black folk ... Prisons are filled with white men, black men, Spanish men, etc.
I absolutely agree I live in West Virginia and we have a large large amount of foster kids children that are being taken from their homes so many that there really aren't enough homes for the kids and alot of the foster homes have abuse so it's an epidemic here!
Exactly
When a parent makes terrible decisions the children will lose respect for and make the same mistakes🤷🏿♂️bad parenting makes unruly children
7:31 OOOOO,OOOOO, I CAN ANSWER THAT ONE MARK! 🤚
(1st point) It turns out that in the 80s, a very popular president took it upon himself to fight communism, through funding a terrorist group called "the contras" However, he had to come up with funding somehow, and so he had the idea to sell drugs to the communities we can see as ghettos today.
Now, as we all know drugs plus community doesn't equal the best outcomes for the residents look at (kensington, the tenderloin in sf, and your very own skid row) 😉
(2nd point ) BUT WAIT THERE IS MORE, The same president decided to later declare a war on drugs. which had drug dealers doing some serious time for possession/distribution. And so for anyone keeping score, if your mom or sister wasn't strung out on dope. then your dad or brother was locked up for selling it
(3rd point the smoking gun)
so put everything above together with the race relations, and the way black people viewed police due to interactions in previous decades. Add gangster rap/hip hop, and you get the *perfect storm*
now music on the radio glorifies all the wrong messages. Or to those in the hood "a way out".(Hate the police/authority) which makes sense because, again the race relations at the time. (Selling the drugs yourself will get you nice things or noney) Kids already are predisposed to being impulsive. So How do you explain to a kid that fast money is bad in this environment. 🤷♂️
Plus, working-class blacks are seeing drug dealers with nice things as well. while they struggle and others battle addiction. police stopping by doing drug bust, locking said kids up and further destroying whatever is left. Not blaming the cops btw
And im bearly scratching the surface..... this only happend 40 years ago. there are still people alive to tell you themselves what happened to the black community 😐
Reagan ruined so much!
I saw personally how crack ruined the bay area in the 80s.
All of American history is a completely whitewashed lie. The Iran/Contra scandal should have imploded this demonic system, but, like all other high crimes, just got swept under the rug.
Thank you for your bravery in sharing your story. May you get the healing you need and deserve.
Healing can only come from given it to Christ. No other way!
Fear and poverty is what keeps people in familiar environments. Imagine moving to a new town and your parents are discriminated against at work, you’re discriminated at school by students and teachers, your neighbors complain about your music, your friends and family visiting, and now your children are acting out and the neighbors complain to the landlord and call CPS. You may as well have stayed in the hood. 😢
I raised my 3 kids alone and they turned out amazing and I instilled in them to break all cycles.The deck was stacked against them and me but my 3 are wonderful.So proud of all 3 of them.I came from a fucked up begining that I still carry with me to this day.I wanted more for mine and they make me so proud.Greatest thing I ever done is having my 3.
I’m a cycle breaker myself❤
This is bragging, and this isn't even about you. Not everyone is you just call yourself lucky.. most of us are not
@@ayttiiie7I don't see It as bragging, but as of an accomplishment.
@@ayttiiie7no it’s not! Shut the hell up
@ayttiiie7 how can you encourage someone to aspire to something if they don't see it can be done? I don't see this as bragging at all.
Sending you so much healing and breaking the bonds of generational addiction. Never ever give up❤ you are so brave.
Her daughter being trafficked at 11 and her "acting out" her mothers response is whoop her... please please talk to your children ask what is wrong. Violence is clearly not the answer and this woman blaming generational curses is simply her not taking accountability smh
She said her daughter didn't tell her till she was grown. How could WE listen to the same thing, and you miss the key point lol? Comprehension is fundamental
@Reallionaire314 her daughter acting up is a cry for help. If she had taken time to talk to her daughter about why she is acting that way she would have known. The one with comprehension issues here is you. Smh
Mark you’re just flat out wrong for posing this question “why do so many African Americans struggle with just doing the right thing…?”
Unacceptable. Internet do what you do best smh
Like wtf this guy motivates are dark. My discernment goes crazy with him. He just like to exploit people for money especially young girls. Hes a cREEP
I think he started off good but started to let his “power” over ppl win. Now he cant stop taking pics of nudeless teens.
This is heavy, insightful though. So brave to share your experience and insights. This is a very needed and heartbreaking conversation to have. Lot of love for you ❤
To answer your question Mark (and put it simply), a lot of black people are suffering from the effects of slavery and racism.
I don’t know why that is such a far-fetched idea for some, if black people in America never received healing care and reparations for this. There are racist systems still standing today…
Just to let ya know mark you spelt her name differently in the video and the caption. Is it keisha or kesha? She deserves to have it spelt right, sharing her story and being this vulnerable.
7:18 the problem is not the home, is the American society built on racism and inequality. We black people in Africa and Europe, most of us are successful and have none of these problems, and trust me a lot of us have broken home and comes from poor background but we live in society built to help us thrive not to bring us down. And if you are left at the bottom of course gang banging and drugs looks the only way out.
America is not built on race. It was built be different races and it allows equal opportunity if you work for it.
This! 💯
What makes you think African and European black people are more successful? Do you have any statics to base that on? I'm so curious.
Nobody is buying that bull shit anymore
When you finally get away from the people who caused you the pain in your childhood and then realize what characteristics are yours and which one's are learned behaviors you can then wirk on them. Everyday you grow and you fight to be the best you. You stop looking back, you stop wanting things from people who can't give it to you, realizing that the mother figure or father figure will Bennett be the people you want them to be and finally just allow them to be THEMSELVES then you see that EXPECTING THINGS FROM PEOPLE WHO CAN NOT GIVE IT TO YOU IS KEY FOR HEALING ❤
Kesha’s issue is she developed a soul tie and became addicted to a man that was jealous of her. He used reproductive abuse to keep her connected. She had a store, and potential to one day be successful. It made him feel powerful to “ make her lose everything“ Kesha never healed nor knew how to be a parent. It’s important to heal and grow so that you can set a solid foundation. But she kept including him because she was addicted to him. You can’t help a broken man, when you yourself are broken as a woman. Now she has broken children that she lost to a broken system
Stop watching lifetime.......
@@AdvancedAIchatbotthey a learn few terms and buzzwords and never shut up.
I honestly feel for her. but life is about choices, a lot people go through things but decide to stop the cycle. especially from childhood trauma.
Not everyone can break the cycle. You make it seem like it is super easy. It is very hard when that is all you have seen since childhood
@@claudiaahwireng873 the people who have done that, will beg to differ
Self awareness is needed. I feel like you're there and understand. I think you seem like a very genuine, sweet person. I wish you all the best. You did an amazing job coming through your own childhood. Don't put too much bad pressure on yourself. Give yourself some grace. Maybe just try to keep the bond with your kids and or continue to work on it. Even if they push you away. I think your heart will be happy and satisfied in the long run. I think they'll feel the same too. Even if they reject you they know when their heart deep down that's love from their mom trying to reconnect. I wish you all the best life can give. You are a courageous woman. Thank you for telling your story.
Forget Asriah...this lady could benefit from a Go Fund Me ❤
I find her inspiring the story the trickle down the desire to stop the pattern is very relatable....n I love tht blue shiny hair color so pretty n metallic 💕😍
I hate that Mark made this a black issue, "why are so many African American struggling with doing the right thing"??? Seriously. The people on this channel, black white or brown are not a reflection of all. Not trying to downplay anybody's story, but a lot of us take parenthood seriously, protect and nourish our children, and are actually law abiding citizens.
He’s right. Sadly…many people in that culture are violent and don’t want to work hard. They want fast $$ and material things. Education isn’t important and they have that violent pack mentality. Also, they think they are “owed” things in life without working for them.
Open your eyes or do some research. Mark is not incorrect. He’s not saying it doesn’t happen everywhere but it is very common in the black communities.
I caught that too. I’m not feeling that AT ALL
Mark is right. Degenerate behavior is celebrated in the black community.
Man, y'all negros ALWAYS try to deflect from reality when it comes to the norm in the community. Accountability is missing in the community. The fact is in the community most kids grow up without THEIR biological father in the house. Im 42, I had my mother and father. Out of all the ppl I'm close to, I only know about 5-6 black ppl that grew up like me. That's SAD.... WE gotta do better and STOP running away from the realities of life.
Come to Memphis , TN Mark it’s a lot of interesting ppl you can interview here ! Great content
First, people started being referred to as "consumers." That was bad enough. Now they're called "content" as well. Words matter, and these are two that make any notion of "human" disappear. Not bashing you, @darryl, just venting a little.
Good day from the Netherlands
Good day from Florida! 😊
Hier nog 1🎉vanuit het prachtige Denhaag 😊
@@lburke2002How are you doing?
Hoi from Leiden, Netherlands! Den Haag is my favourite city
Isn't anyone going to help this woman?? My God! She has spiders coming out of her eyes!
Wonder who pays for those?
Zero accountability for her own actions with this one. Get out there and make a difference if not for others for yourself youre in the most opportunistic country in the world.
What a story.
I keep coming to check if you’ve brought Johnny on the channel. Where is he?! Is he okay?! He hasn’t been on in such a long time and I start to worry when it’s been a couple months . The johnny with the eyes closed guy lol
The idea that
black most black men or the black society is somehow inherently dysfunctional is insane. Then Mark says why does it seem like the black community can't get it together when there are many families in his community that are just like the Whittiker family that he financially and emotionally supports even after being scammed. No race, culture is without its percentage of bad.
It’s really not insane. It’s very much true.
@@Xyz46786you do not know that for a fact. This world is huge
@@Xyz46786 you don't have a right to make that assumption.
Mark gets a rush from exploiting other people's pain. It's crazy lol
Being born into a mess makes it almost impossible to step out of it without it getting stuck on your shoe.
Thank you for letting Kesha tell her story. She seems so intelligent and it’s sad that she was dealt a lot of pet cards and she didn’t play the best hands, but I don’t think she had the instructions to the game either. She seems like a good person and she’s on the good path. I so appreciate what you do allowing people to talk until their story. It’s very therapeutic and it’s eye-opening for other peopleto realize that not, everybody is coming from the same place. Thank you, Mark.
Goodmorning
Thank you so much for this interview
Thank you for this interview Mark. This beautiful woman is describing a system of family policing. What the criminal legal system does to Black men, the child welfare system does to Black women. It’s not just generational. It’s systemic.
Yup! Combined with 400+ years of theft of our collective wealth that has never been repaid.
Your dad probably pimpin' in the pulpit. The circle continues but in different way
Bless this poor soul. A path unguided.🙏
Hi Mark, from New Zealand. ‼️😊😊😊😊😊😊
I am praying that she will be restored.
7:41 what an ignorant ass question. There’s no resources in these communities. How the hell would anyone progress? Sad asf. Mark should know this?
You are a sweet women, if you want to break the curse , forgive your mother and father because they had issues like you and all of us, and all will get better. God bless you
I'm so interested in this story as I was told from a pastor I have a generational curse. She said the devil is disguising himself to me as God and its not God... she said someone is or was very very jeliousvand angry and is stabbed or was stabbed over and over very violent stabbing. I was at the retreat they tried to pull out the bad by praying over me and talking in tongue over and over for 8 days. I Never felt a relief or anything that they said I should have. I would be totally aware with the feeling of knowing God was truly God. Never happened!!! The other pastor as well as the other one have been concerned very much for me. Just what kind of curse idk they said this one she's talking about. I just get scared. I suffer with terrible scary and very bad night terrors. They are so wild vivid and in my fase..face... well ty mark
This is Nova in 30 years
Self accountability is something she knows nothing about to her it’s everyone fault but hers
Kesha is so insightful and you can tell she has thought about this and grown as a woman. Unfortunately this is the reality of so many young people being brought up in homes where the parents are to young, to immature, to uneducated and lost with no support to help them. I wish we had the answer to stop this cycle. Thank you for your honesty Kesha, I pray that you can grow, heal and sharing your story hopefully will help others.
It is so sad because so is so self unaware. I just wish there was a way to stop the pain that is passed onto them. The process just perpetuates itself
She reminds me of the famous female comedian Lounelle!🎉❤😊
Praying that God break those curses. We as a race , culture or people. Have been through a lot in this country. It might seems like it the individual fault but it's deeper than what society sees.
Growing up in the worst parts of Chicago no matter what all my friends dads were in house working men then eventually move the families out of the hood. This whole man aren’t around is a lie. Sounds like a poor choices in the same bad man.
I can verify this. Born and raised in Englewood/Auburn Gresham. And we had a different upbringing in the 80's and 90's
I love her hair color 💙
💔 this is tough
Oh, Hi Mark
More taking responsibility and less blame 👍
I could tell that I liked this woman right of the bat .
mark how can i have an interview with you? i’ve saw all of your appalachia interviews and im from appalachia myself and have a ton of stories and experiences from trauma, success, depression, addiction and other mental health issues. i’d love to have an interview and i’ve wanted one ever since i first saw your channel. got a lot of stuff that i’d like to get out in an interview too
There's an email with instructions in the channel description.
Black culture is really shattered. Men don’t stay with their women. I think that’s slowly changing since 1970s but women also expect too much now from the men. So they fold and leave become Pimps Gagster Dealers & all want to break into Hiphop scene.
Money changes very little about a person. It makes you more of who you already are.
This Shattered continuance has to stop. Men need to be loyal to there women and stay with 1 and women need do the same. Keep the family together. It’s so hard when the violence and the chaos and the sabotage and the greed are driving forces and not honest or love or faith drive them together they rip eachother apart. It’s sad. Black culture needs to change more rapidly and so do social norms.
Can’t imagine being 11 being SA and coming home to be whooped for being late and not saying what happened to you own Mom…
Shows a breakdown in trust between Mothers and Daughters
That’s no good 😢
Accountability!
Why are 60 to 70% of all Americans overweight you go to all these other countries and you see healthy people that are not overweight and they look beautiful is it the food or the GMO's I don't know The thing is though the famous late great comedian George Carlin said this exact same thing 30 to 35 years ago why are Americans so overweight and most of all the other countries have healthy people.
Bad foods beig approved and put out there by the corrupt govt. Also it's cultural. Americans careless about eating healthy
It's called systemic racism Mark. There are so many layers of it 😒
How come these things aren't happening in the South Asian community?? Or Chinese etc.? It's culture. The same way in poor white communities abuse and poverty become generational. People don't inherit ony genes but language, stories and ideas, which all form behaviours. In other word most people work on autopilot. What they inherited, good or bad, will for the most part determine their path. The only way to break this patterning of consciousness is Self Awareness. A stepping back and looking at yourself.
Places with alot of good jobs tend to have way less crime. I'm 52, and have seen what happens when our politicians send jobs over seas.
Good morning..Good afternoon or wherever y’all are, just have a good one.
Yes yes unfortunately we do have those generational curses working against us……🌚
Sez you..
@@alexmaremaa7057The cycle can be broken through shared parenting and education.
Generational curse my ass.... it's called making poor choices...time after time ..over and over again...please...do like the rest of the world...get a job ..go to that job everyday...stay close to positive role models....pray for morals and guidance... it's boring at times...but it works....get tired of hearing same old story
Well, who needs Jesus Christ when we have you to deliver and save us with your “wisdom” and “love.” 🙄🙄
@@nelliejoy8428ahh yes, I forgot, advising someone to get stability and functional relationships in their life is such a bad idea. It's not like it's a time tested way to live a good life. No, it's not the only way. However it works for a majority of people. Apply it to Christ is it helps, if it doesn't, we'll then don't use that influence. I'm sorry you feel like someone suggesting a workable path in life is somehow imposing to you. Take care.
Awe.. girl up can do this!
The said thing is she the only one how can change anything and if not she will not lead a good life.
A Black 🖤 woman here. It's hard for me to take anyone seriously with blue hair and fans for eyelashes. And it's more than having 'a two-parent' home; yes....a two-parent home is important but what is most important in such dynamic is LEADERSHIP. And the fact that Black women leading in single mother households PROVES that the lack of PATRIARCHY and strong masculinity has DECIMATED Black society, and the world has FEMINISM to thank....Let the election go BLUE in November. It will be the final de@th nail in a already soulless society. 💯💯💯
Sad. Just has no self respect no security, no worthiness so if you don’t have those mindsets you could be handed the world and you would still feel like you did deserve it. I’d s still Managed to mess it up. You surround yourself with people that don’t respect themselves. How are they gonna respect you? It’s just a vicious cycle, you know better but somehow you just can’t do better something that’s gonna take years to reverse mindset, but I feel like people are acknowledging that now so hopefully it can be the start of the up swing
Whewww harsh. Sis, the reasons stem from systemic racism. it’s that statistically correct, “most” aren’t in the home 🥴 📚 📈
Hold up this the homegirl, I remember when tht stuff was happening
Genuine question bro. Not trying to come at you side ways. If this the homegirl why didn't anyone step in and see what was up with with her daughter getting trafficked. At 11 years old she still a baby. It boils my blood that people do this kinda shit and pretty much ruin their entire life. That 11 year old never stood a chance. And it's fucked that she never got to live the normal life a teenager lives .
There's No such thing as a CRUSE. SMH
What is a cruse? Asking for myself?
I agree. All are choices and decisions we make, good, bad or indifferent.
You’re deceived.
Knock on heaven's door,God's waiting for you.
Full of excuses 😂
Well, why don’t you just lay out for us peasants how to live a perfect life. I’m sure you have done much honest self reflection and don’t think you are “as bad” as Kesha.
Worry about yourself. You have problems. You have secrets. You’re delusional if you think you are better. All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. And spare me saying you don’t believe in God. Your lack of belief or mockery won’t keep your soul out of the lake of fire. I pray one day you humble yourself and wake up, before it’s too late.
Once I hear that someone came from a single mother home, I don't expect to hear any good outcomes from the conversation. Statistics and data shows that the children that come from single mother homes are more likely than not to experience all of the ills that you can think of.
Sadly, since marriage in America ends in 40%-50% divorce rate, means fathers relegated to part-time parents must be included in your summation.
I hope that you would change your view of single parent homes. In some cases , just because there's no father in the home doesn't mean that he's not present for the kids. Look at TV. A good percentage of pro athletes are from single parent homes. The best scorer in the NBA, Kevin Durant, is from a single parent home. NBA legend Isaiah Thomas is from a single parent home. I personally know if a FEW single mothers who've raised good children. I'm not totally disagreeing with you. I'm just hear to say that we should do interviews with single parents who BEAT the odds. For every drug addicted single parent, there's one who's not and is raising their kids by themselves.
Yeah well 2parent home can be double trauma.2 parents ,twice the trauma and twice the let down from so called parents.
@@memejones17That's a lie‼️ Clearly the statistics prove that children, all children do much better in every area of life with both Mother and FATHER in the home. 85% of those in prisons come from fatherless homes. Women were not called to just "raise" children, especially boys. Father's don't just "raise" sons, we Develop & Cultivate them, moving them from Boyhood to Manhood, to be law abiding and successful citizens and future husbands and fathers. Stop the false narrative that created more hopelessness, despair and ultimately death.
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I'm proud of you sis. I love u Mark H Christ.
1st one 🤌🏽
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Kesha or Keisha?
keisha
Kesha is actually short for her actual name. Adding the “i” doesn’t seem correct since it’s not in the spelling of her full length name. The title frame at the beginning was created when I was assuming the same thing you are.
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3rd is good! Hello from Tampa 😊
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Damn, saying you stayed in a nice 2bd room home with 3 kids can't be nice at all. And I bet it had 1 bath.... 😢 She set the bar LOW.