A LOT of people here are completely forgetting that attraction is much more complicated than this. No matter how perfect a person might be to me scientifically, if they start insulting me then I'm not going to be attracted to them.
actually this video is very misleading. pheromones are the least important component in human attraction. they don't want to show you the real data because that will hurt alot of feelings
Also, I heard that most people can live a life without romance and can still be happy. But most of the time, if someone doesn't have any platonic friends in their life, it can effect them really bad mentally; much worse than living a life without a romantic partner. In today's world, less people are dating and getting married now, and they seem to be more happy being single rather than being in romantic relationship with someone. Also, You're going to have a much deeper spoken understanding and connection with your best friend than you are with a romantic partner or spouse. So those are other reasons why romantic love isn't real or special, while platonic love is.
And also, it seems that fathers usually hate it whenever their daughter gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy), and it seems that they often hate the idea of their daughter dating, and many fathers seem against the idea of their daughters dating. There are even shirts made for daughters that say "I'M NOT ALLOWED TO EVER DATE" and shirts made for fathers that say "DADS AGAINST DAUGHTERS DATING". Brothers also tend to act the same way that fathers do whenever their sister gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy). It seems brothers (like fathers) hate the idea of their sisters dating. So it seems that most fathers don't ever want their daughters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone, and it also seems that most brothers don't ever want their sisters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone. So those could also be other reasons why the concept of romantic relationships isn't a good thing because of how protective fathers and brothers tend to be whenever their daughter or sister dates someone.
i never liked this boy in my class before but one day i had to pass this worksheet to him and he said 'thankyou'. and for some reason i just started swooning over him after that moment
pissicutza09 mine last for 2 days instead of 1 so does that mean I have super eggs probably my "super power"...imagine if there was an actual power like that
The formula of attaction is F=G((m1*m2)/r^2), where G is gravitational constant, m1 and m2 are masses of the object and r is the distance between them.
So after watching the video, you came to the conclusion that if you're attracted to Angelina Jolie for instance, then Angelina should be attracted to you?!
Aero, great question! My research shows that attraction is complex. We are attracted to both opposites and familiar at the same time. For example, someone needs to be familiar enough that we feel comfortable, yet at the same time we are naturally repulsed when someone is too close - such as the MHC molecules. Those factors can cause finding a suitable match challenging.
Altay Hunter True. :) And some other interesting cognitive biases that might come along for that ride: Attentional bias, mere exposure effect, bandwagon effect, focalism, backfire effect, physical attractiveness stereotyping, selective perception, halo-effect, projection bias, etc. :P
I felt the same way after this video 😂 I'm not often attracted to someone. Actualy haven't been in a year I guess. I guess there's something wrong with me haha!
actually the fact that romance is so scientific is beautiful because your entire body is part of this. It's like every part of your body is in tandem with your thoughts
It's funny because it's often looked down upon, or perhaps not taken as seriously (even by me), but by this logic the purest relationships would actually be one's that start online or even more through anonymous site based interaction, as if a relationship forms only through an exchange of words, it means attraction is based fully on and through personality aspects, and no other depreciating factors. What a time to be alive.
No, smell is too important. Remember, most of it goes on below conscious level. You need actual physical presence. Plenty of online romances have died the moment the two people sat next to each other irl.
It's way more complicated than portrayed in the video. Looks are the short term part of attraction and you can do without them. The long-term and way more important part is your compatibility in terms of personality. My boyfriend didn't notice me romantically when we first met because of my terrible skin. But because we have a lot in common, we quickly became best friends until that turned into something else. If you stay true to your values and your personality, one day the right person will come along and they will fall for you, no matter your looks.
it's more like a generalization I believe, it doesn't apply to everyone in the same way. people who I deemed attractive were not conventionally good looking once I got to know them i was like" huh he looks nice". I don't have the drive to be in romantic relationships nor do I seem to be physically attracted to others as much as other people do(crushes and all of that) but once I encounter a personality that is nice then I perceive their overall image as such. I doubt I'm the only one as other commenters said similar things...so yeah don't worry too much about it
great presentation on the physiological processes of attraction. can't help but nod to every aspect of the senses' reactions. but of course, it's more than physiological, it's also psychological! :)
+Roadkill This comment is so cringeworthy. Why do people try to make others feel better even though they make the situation worse? Someone give me a loaded gun quick.
I'm lesbian and can feel my senses tingling if I am near an attractive woman,my ex girlfriend whom I had a great passion with always said she noticed my pupils dilate and eyes go shiny when she looked at me.
g0phuckyourself why thank my fellow moron with an odd name... Any animal that displays such behavior is due to hormonal changes and or pheromone of the opposite sex detected on the same sex...
Stine Newton What's completely unnatural is to be that stupid. If you want to revert to the era of living in the "jungle male n female", as you put it, then by all means, go live in the Amazon, away from technology, cities, vehicles, and everything else outside of the realm of the perfectly ideal "jungle male n female". Attraction is not simply limited to primal instincts. Numerous factors, including societal and cultural upbringings, personality, interests, intelligence, success, feelings of security, and much more play into attraction. You act like people just go around fucking each other and hope that a baby eventually pops out and homosexual individuals expect the same thing to happen.
Also, when people are in love, it is easy for them to ignore all the bad traits of that person and focus on only the good ones. That's why people tend to ignore the red flags when they're in love. Their guiders(Parents/siblings/guardians) can easily tell if that person is good for you but being in love, you tend to ignore what they're saying. So, PLEASE PLEASE, Listen to your parents if they say "I don't think he/she is good for you." Ask for reasons and please listen to them..
I was already in love with my boyfriend before we kissed. We were crazy attracted to each other. I can't imagine that I possibly wouldn't have liked him after we kissed. I don' think that would've have been possible with the chemistry we already had. The funny thing is people have said we look alike. We're even of different ethnicities. 5 years later and I love him more than life.
"Try to remember that your entire body is playing matchmaker" - it's nice to know that my brain isn't the only responsible for my attraction to self destruction.
It would be interesting to analyze how a bisexual mind reacts to the stimuli. I like certain types of women and certain types of men, so how does it work?.
As an asexual myself,I have no desire to engage in sexual intercourse, to me it is no different than sneezing or your leg jerking when something hits your knee
Oh, I've been wondering for some time, how do you know you're asexual? Do you feel nothing when your partner touches or kisses you, no emotion, no physical desire at all? What is the romantic world like to asexuals?
pissicutza09 While im not asexual i feel it might be worth noting that Romantics and sexuality are two separate things, you can be romantically attracted to someone without wanting sex. Physical contact of any sort in a relationship can feel good for both parties and both may want it but asexuality just means that the person may not feel the sexual desire for other people. Or you can be aromantic asexual where you simply wish for companionship. its a spectrum.
Garrsus So then what do you call a person who is attracted to the opposite sex, and does want Physical Contact, but not to the point of sexual intercourse? Is it just called being abstinent forever?
Dunno about the rest of ya'll, but as an advocate of the sciences, I think this explanation amplifies the romance rather than making it seem cold or stoic
Before I said something akin to "Theres nothing wrong with homosexuality or bisexuality but its not normal" I edited it when my understanding of the topic changed. "Normality" is not the majority. I 100% understand your point here, and I think I unintentionally spread a kind of homophobia thats popular on the internet.
MsDinoGal The title of the video is the science of attraction. Not the science of reproductive attraction, nor any other particular sort of attraction.
I remember when I walked with this girl I was really attracted to it felt like the world was fading out around us and it was just us two.. now I know why lol. I wonder whether it's a mutual feeling, like when you have that tunnel vision the other person does so too. I remember when we talked she seemed to completely ignore her friends around us.
***** No it isn't. Love is a deep affection that you do manually. You only choose to show affection to someone. This is why a lot of people break up or divorce as their view on love is warped & think it is only attraction which can only last so long. Once that attraction is over you need to show affection that will keep a bond between both of you which you YOURSELF need to do. Love isn't automatic. Only you choose to love. This is the same with emotions which are mostly manual but sometimes automatic. But you need to choose to stay happy. But that is happiness. So stay happy & show affection to everyone (^-^)
They are talking about general sexual attraction, correlated with the instinct to reproduce and continue the genetic line; not love, an intimate emotional connection with another person.
but there is still a sexual attraction in distance relationships right? so, any kind of sexual attraction like for example your favorite idol who you've never met but boy u wanna get under the sheets
well that's illusion. although your sense of sight and sound is obviously agreeing and you very well may be attracted to the person irl if you knew them, since your body has no other way of percieving the person then your mind eventually just focuses on that specifically without having to sense anything else. so long story short, if you met the said person irl you may not be attracted to them at all or you may want to fuck them right then and there because you're so attracted to them that any other qualities you couldnt experience before are making your body act like it's in overdrive
then the person is delusional and fell in love with the image of the person he/she has of the other. since your dp's an anime character, i'm thinking this might be a personal question.
As an asexual, who wouldn't know attraction if it hit me in the face, this video was very helpful. Now I'll know if attraction ever hits me in the face!
I actually really like this. It's frustrating being attracted to someone you know you don't actually like and so it's like now I understand that a little more and don't feel as bad about it. Still sucks sometimes but my brain is just doing it's job I guess.
This is really interesting, but I'd love to know why some people find different people attractive (I like someone someone that most of my friends think is unattractive), and also how this all works for lgbt individuals.
So if someone is asexual, does that mean that their body just doesn't run these tests, or do they just not get attracted by any of these factors, plain and simple? And as for those who fall in love mainly based on personality, what is the science behind that? o:
+LilyToon Asexual people either don't run these tests or don't respond to them. It varies from person to person, depending on their genetics and other conditions. As for those who fall in love based on personality, they still very much run these tests---this science is merely for sexual and reproductive purposes---but human beings (as well as certain animals) also run additional tests to determine if the person/being they're interacting with is a candidate for a lifelong mate. It takes a while to run these tests, and they take place on both the cognitive and subconscious level, which is why it's generally a good idea to have been seeing a person for a while before considering dropping the question.
Aesuxals (most) still feel love and aesthic atraction (someone lookin hot), however they simply have no disire to have intercourse. That is why ace dating sites exist.
Myself being an Asexual i can say i do run these test but when it comes down to the sex part it's just like simply no attraction at all, also it depends on the person too.
I can only imagine what the people facing that study were told. "Okay, I need you to smell this shirt really well, and then spit in this vial. Wait, where are you going? Of course this is a real test!"
the experiment with the hot and iced coffee can't be cited as evidence. as psychology students we actually tried replicating it in fourth semester and as other replications before us, found no connection between physical warmth and perception of strangers. The original set up wasn't clearly described too, so who knows what they measured
Mutual attraction. The undeniable chemistry you have between your lover. It ignites the fire. It sparks conversation. It just happens to everyone. 100%
Formants are acoustical properties of the voice. They are certain frequencies (the scientific term for "pitch") that resonate with our vocal tract (the space between our mouth and voice box) when we speak. You could say that they are certain frequencies that get a boost in intensity (i.e. volume) when we shape our mouths in different ways and our ability to detect them allows us to recognize different vowels. Look up spectrogram images of formants and you'll see them. The video is talking about a kind of speech that makes these formants space apart widely rather than cluster together. Does this help?
"My brain has run a thousand calculations a second, taking all my senses and crushing them into a formula, and it still says you're the right one for me." I'm not sure, my brain running math love still sounds pretty romantic to me
What about gay people? What are the factors that determine attraction? Is there anything else than in-link-with-reproduction, or something replacing it? And sometimes gay men act like women and gay women act like men, is it for attracting the other mate? Or does it have nothing to do with. Or act they this way because of another factor and are attracted to the same sex, because they are both attracted to the same sex. And in the heterosexual way, some men are attracted to more mannish women, as some women are attracted by more womanish men. Is attraction by more manish or womanish people has a conection with in-link-with-reproduction? or is it just a consequences of the normal type? or are these things distinct. What about the other sexualities? What about the asexuality? Are they attracted without wanting sex? All that I know about me, being a gay is that I prefer mannish smells, instead of womanish smells. Maybe it's the same factors, but as a gay man research a man, the no-possibility to reproduce with, is not a problem. Because there are alternative or it's not important anymore. And so what is kept is not the finality of reproducing, but the means that uses reproducing to find a partner. Too many questions!!!!!!! Please answer as many as possible!!! :D
***** Gay people respond to pheromones the same way a straight person of the opposite gender would. In layman terms, being gay is when your "matchmaking system" thinks it can reproduce with someone of the same gender. The way people act and their exact preferences are unrelated. I can't comment on asexuality.
Gerik Paull That's quite a good explaination. For asexuel people the problem is to know why they can fall in love and why they won't have sex at the same time. In the upper video, falling in love and have sex are pratically attached.
***** I guess there's three ways to look at it: a) Sexual attraction is only one of many components of love, asexual people just lack that one. b) What asexual people experience is more akin to how people would feel about their family or best friends rather than the romantic-find-someone-who-makes-good-babies love you and I experience. Option a is more politically correct, so let's go with that. :] The truth is we don't know shit about sexuality.
Has anyone kissed someone before they got to know them/were also attracted to their personality and not liked the kiss? But then when you got to know the person and you kissed again, you liked it? Sort of like how people say sex is better when you're emotionally involved. 'Cause I know you can lose attraction after the first kiss, but what if it was bad because there wasn't a connection there besides biological? I can't really articulate this well, but I'm interested in hearing others' experiences with this.
Well thanks for tell me about the first kiss thing, you gave me a whole new thing to be anxious about. ;) Also, does your body really know what's best for you? "Home is where the heart lies, but if the heart lies Where is home, is where the heart lies, but where is home?" - Fish
This is unique and engaging. A book I read with similar scope was also one-of-a-kind. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
My first kiss with my ex was minor trigger to make me reconsider dating him (in addition to other actual incompatibility issues) Now am too anxious to kiss anyone I like because am scared the feelings might change after..
I’ve been trying to find what this is. For as long as i can remember i’ve only ever been attracted to people who have showed me attention or expressed that they have liked me in the first place, so my ‘type’ in physicality is all over the place because it all starts with them expressing an interest in me. idk it’s weird, and kind of sounds like i may be full of myself but i’m not at all i just dk why i’m like this.
What's completely missing from this type of discussion as per usual is the lack of mention of the emotional energy centers that we, as emotional beings, all possess. Anyone who's ever had a literal heartfelt moment can attest to the existence of these strong generators of emotional energy. Yes, that's right, root, sacral, solar plexus, heart, throat, third eye, crown. There's a reason more and more people are acknowledging the existence of these centers, and it's primarily due to the fact that THEY CAN BE FELT. Meanwhile science keeps trying to tell us there's no mystery in the machine, and all the while those who can *see* just laugh and laugh at their disposition of utmost seriousness.
Great video, but I agree with ilovekitkats, this video solely focuses on heterosexual attraction. It would be very interesting to see a video showing how same sex couples perceive tone of voice, and how their physiological impulses changed dependent upon scent and other senses.
O! 🤯That is what happen to me N couldn’t Figure out what was happening to me. I went to a party not looking cause I’m happily married 35 years. Turn my head saw this stringer, a man N don’t know what happen my whole body gave this Pleasant pain of attraction NEVER experience that before N I’m 70. The attraction was so strong I couldn’t keep eye contact because it hurt. Is that silly? N when we did talked the feeling was normal but I SAW no one else in the room. 😂 when I thought of that day the feeling was still there. I am so happy I came across your video it explains so much.
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A LOT of people here are completely forgetting that attraction is much more complicated than this. No matter how perfect a person might be to me scientifically, if they start insulting me then I'm not going to be attracted to them.
+David Perrier 😂
David Perrier 😂😂😂💀💀
actually this video is very misleading. pheromones are the least important component in human attraction. they don't want to show you the real data because that will hurt alot of feelings
what's the real data or where can i find it
What if they make garlic bread? Good quality garlic bread.
actually that makes it even more romantic ! knowing that not only my eyes or heart are falling in love but also my nose and immune system did too 😍
***** 😂😂 but still romantic
Same tbh. Just because it's a series of chemicals doesn't make it any less magical.
Aw that's a cute way to put it
Also, I heard that most people can live a life without romance and can still be happy. But most of the time, if someone doesn't have any platonic friends in their life, it can effect them really bad mentally; much worse than living a life without a romantic partner. In today's world, less people are dating and getting married now, and they seem to be more happy being single rather than being in romantic relationship with someone.
Also, You're going to have a much deeper spoken understanding and connection with your best friend than you are with a romantic partner or spouse.
So those are other reasons why romantic love isn't real or special, while platonic love is.
And also, it seems that fathers usually hate it whenever their daughter gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy), and it seems that they often hate the idea of their daughter dating, and many fathers seem against the idea of their daughters dating. There are even shirts made for daughters that say "I'M NOT ALLOWED TO EVER DATE" and shirts made for fathers that say "DADS AGAINST DAUGHTERS DATING".
Brothers also tend to act the same way that fathers do whenever their sister gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy). It seems brothers (like fathers) hate the idea of their sisters dating.
So it seems that most fathers don't ever want their daughters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone, and it also seems that most brothers don't ever want their sisters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone.
So those could also be other reasons why the concept of romantic relationships isn't a good thing because of how protective fathers and brothers tend to be whenever their daughter or sister dates someone.
*talks to crush*
Me: I hope his nose liked my pheromones
😂😂I will be impressed if someone approaches like that
😂
XD
🤣😂😅
same!
People: Love comes from the heart.
Brain: Am i a joke to you?
well said :D
hahahahahahahaha
Lol
Frenzel Diongzon after seeing this video lmao Bc it’s soooooo tru
It’s a saying
i never liked this boy in my class before but one day i had to pass this worksheet to him and he said 'thankyou'. and for some reason i just started swooning over him after that moment
Lesson: girls, if you wanna attract a guy remember to wear the same shirt 3 days in a row while ovulating
Ok
But females only ovulate one day, and the ovule is dead after 24 hours.
And y is dat?
pissicutza09 mine last for 2 days instead of 1 so does that mean I have super eggs
probably my "super power"...imagine if there was an actual power like that
Favour Olufemi But how do you know it lastef for two days? o.O
Never mind about personality then
LFCzeppelin8 the video talks about attraction, not falling in love.
mcatv she could be ur mother
LFCzeppelin8 That’s the more psychological than physiological part.
i think this means by appearence soley. like first impressions i guess.
Looks make us fall in love, personality makes us stay in love.
The formula of attaction is F=G((m1*m2)/r^2), where G is gravitational constant, m1 and m2 are masses of the object and r is the distance between them.
It seems universal gravitation formula👀
It seems universal gravitation formula 👀
Sophomore year Physics helped me understand and chuckle😄
I get gravitational force.... Causes an attraction between two celestial bodies mahd guy 😂
That means I should gain weight to attract people 😂😂
I explained this to my girlfriend, she now thinks that I'm an emotionless, hearless and feelingless human being. Thank you science.
no problem, Karman.
You probably break with your girlfriend, girls hates man in love.
Should have given her hot coffee smh
@@demutrudu6106 LMFAO 😭😭💀💀
😂😂
"long lustrous hair or scar free skin"
Me: then explain to me why I'm still attracted to Zuko
LOLOL i had a crush on him when i was little whaaattt
I mean though you just destroyed that argument with facts
Facts
fellow bender... eeEEEEEEE
Hmm.... Maybe it's his voice tho...
How do you explain that many people tend to be attracted to those who are not attracted in return?
Confirmation bias.
So after watching the video, you came to the conclusion that if you're attracted to Angelina Jolie for instance, then Angelina should be attracted to you?!
Aero, great question! My research shows that attraction is complex. We are attracted to both opposites and familiar at the same time. For example, someone needs to be familiar enough that we feel comfortable, yet at the same time we are naturally repulsed when someone is too close - such as the MHC molecules. Those factors can cause finding a suitable match challenging.
DawnMaslarTV
Hi!
Do you have any papers published, based on your own research?
Altay Hunter
True. :)
And some other interesting cognitive biases that might come along for that ride:
Attentional bias, mere exposure effect, bandwagon effect, focalism, backfire effect, physical attractiveness stereotyping, selective perception, halo-effect, projection bias, etc. :P
Better practice my high-pitched breathy voice then...
That's so insanely clever and witty. Absolutely impressive, comedy platinum right here.
Liusila kind of explain why girls talk to me with batman voice
Elit Gunz
They just haven't gotten the "high-pitched" part right yet! Or maybe you find yourself in the wrong type of a bar too often...
+Liusila HA
Liusila LMAO
The more I warch TED the more i think I'm a psychopath.
+George Szweden LOL. explain?
+George Szweden Time to seek help then
I felt the same way after this video 😂 I'm not often attracted to someone. Actualy haven't been in a year I guess. I guess there's something wrong with me haha!
same .
*slides back into the Asexual corner*
actually the fact that romance is so scientific is beautiful because your entire body is part of this. It's like every part of your body is in tandem with your thoughts
my thoughts exactly
There are studies being done that our thoughts and memories can be stored throughout our body.
@@fartpotatoeskinda like a soul ❤️
It's funny because it's often looked down upon, or perhaps not taken as seriously (even by me), but by this logic the purest relationships would actually be one's that start online or even more through anonymous site based interaction, as if a relationship forms only through an exchange of words, it means attraction is based fully on and through personality aspects, and no other depreciating factors. What a time to be alive.
funny isnt it
Well that doesn't need this logic to make sense. I've been telling people this for ages.
That depends on what the definition of “pure,” really is ...
no u cld fall in love with the idea of someone though
No, smell is too important. Remember, most of it goes on below conscious level. You need actual physical presence. Plenty of online romances have died the moment the two people sat next to each other irl.
Definitely a better love story than TWILIGHT.
lol
hahaha I liked that story
+kokjong son 2010 wants their joke back
paranormal activity was a better love story than twilight
Twilight is awesome
dont you just love when most all scientific evidence (and personal experience) backs your insecurities associated with your poor skin complexion.
Well... selective breeding will most certainly kill you off then... brilliant
It's way more complicated than portrayed in the video.
Looks are the short term part of attraction and you can do without them. The long-term and way more important part is your compatibility in terms of personality.
My boyfriend didn't notice me romantically when we first met because of my terrible skin. But because we have a lot in common, we quickly became best friends until that turned into something else.
If you stay true to your values and your personality, one day the right person will come along and they will fall for you, no matter your looks.
When you like someone a lot, their apperance doesn't matter. The personality shines through. 💕
I bet u smell good though lol
it's more like a generalization I believe, it doesn't apply to everyone in the same way. people who I deemed attractive were not conventionally good looking once I got to know them i was like" huh he looks nice". I don't have the drive to be in romantic relationships nor do I seem to be physically attracted to others as much as other people do(crushes and all of that) but once I encounter a personality that is nice then I perceive their overall image as such. I doubt I'm the only one as other commenters said similar things...so yeah don't worry too much about it
even science proves that looks matters! FML
I know right...
viiviian chin at least my voice is okay lol
You go for the looks then stay for the personality.
Was there ever any doubt?
Yes, they do
All i can say is who ever was narrating this got one of the most comforting voice I've ever heard.
great presentation on the physiological processes of attraction. can't help but nod to every aspect of the senses' reactions. but of course, it's more than physiological, it's also psychological! :)
Cries because I'm a girl with short hair and acne Fml lol
+Vicki Z. I bet you're still pretty just the way you are :)
+Roadkill lol
+Roadkill This comment is so cringeworthy. Why do people try to make others feel better even though they make the situation worse? Someone give me a loaded gun quick.
TacoMasters Association I'm sorry if my comment made you cringe but how did that make the situation worse?
+Isabella Atkins 👌👌👌
OK LETS KISS SOMEONE TO SEE WHAT HAPPENS
+Emily Ocean Your profile picture matches in perfectly.
GamerRusith both comments got even number of likes o.o
kiss kim lip
So this is why TWICE's Sana is always kissing the members (and other girls too) lol
Orbits everywhere i go
Can we hear about the science behind homosexual attraction and asexual... non-attraction?
Kangenshi,
Researchers are just starting to look into neuroscience of this. I would expect some interesting findings in the next few years.
I'm lesbian and can feel my senses tingling if I am near an attractive woman,my ex girlfriend whom I had a great passion with always said she noticed my pupils dilate and eyes go shiny when she looked at me.
g0phuckyourself why thank my fellow moron with an odd name... Any animal that displays such behavior is due to hormonal changes and or pheromone of the opposite sex detected on the same sex...
Stine Newton What's completely unnatural is to be that stupid. If you want to revert to the era of living in the "jungle male n female", as you put it, then by all means, go live in the Amazon, away from technology, cities, vehicles, and everything else outside of the realm of the perfectly ideal "jungle male n female". Attraction is not simply limited to primal instincts. Numerous factors, including societal and cultural upbringings, personality, interests, intelligence, success, feelings of security, and much more play into attraction. You act like people just go around fucking each other and hope that a baby eventually pops out and homosexual individuals expect the same thing to happen.
Stine Newton
Where and how did I exactly did I "learn" my homosexual behavior,when I grew up surrounded my heterosexuals?
Also, when people are in love, it is easy for them to ignore all the bad traits of that person and focus on only the good ones. That's why people tend to ignore the red flags when they're in love. Their guiders(Parents/siblings/guardians) can easily tell if that person is good for you but being in love, you tend to ignore what they're saying. So, PLEASE PLEASE, Listen to your parents if they say "I don't think he/she is good for you." Ask for reasons and please listen to them..
"Enhances your Memory"
Me: Imma get a boyfriend soon so I can memorize Math Equations
Lol
Kiss when you study an equation
I was already in love with my boyfriend before we kissed. We were crazy attracted to each other. I can't imagine that I possibly wouldn't have liked him after we kissed. I don' think that would've have been possible with the chemistry we already had. The funny thing is people have said we look alike. We're even of different ethnicities. 5 years later and I love him more than life.
u still together ?
@Thanos teaaa also how tf did you get tsars lol
Let me guess rich average looking white man and poor pretty immigrant Asian chick 😒😂
U guys still together? 😁
So did he cheat on you? That's why you aren't replying anymore.
all these Yellow Submarine characters creepy as'f
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Indeed.
Damn that’s what I’m saying
I just wanna say I loved the animation in this. It's stellar
the human characters are creepy tho
looks like a scene from yellow submarine
+waawamellon looks like a scene from power puff girls
+pcakes It's great. Sometimes it lookes kinda creepy though ._.
+Guillermo Ortíz Im pretty sure :39 is the no where man
"Try to remember that your entire body is playing matchmaker" - it's nice to know that my brain isn't the only responsible for my attraction to self destruction.
"your entire body is playing matchmaker to try to figure out if that beautiful stranger is right for you"
i love the animation style of his video. reminds me of schoolhouse rock or suburban harmony
Rinoa Super-Genius the yellow submarine from the Beatles
Pavo gaming/Tru moo 47 I wasn’t the only one who thought that!
looks like yellow submarine
I'm glad that it was mentioned at the beginning that attraction starts with the eyes and that's cultural/socially determined.
It would be interesting to analyze how a bisexual mind reacts to the stimuli. I like certain types of women and certain types of men, so how does it work?.
more or less what i was thinking, not to mention what does this say about Asexual people?
As an asexual myself,I have no desire to engage in sexual intercourse, to me it is no different than sneezing or your leg jerking when something hits your knee
Oh, I've been wondering for some time, how do you know you're asexual? Do you feel nothing when your partner touches or kisses you, no emotion, no physical desire at all? What is the romantic world like to asexuals?
pissicutza09 While im not asexual i feel it might be worth noting that Romantics and sexuality are two separate things, you can be romantically attracted to someone without wanting sex.
Physical contact of any sort in a relationship can feel good for both parties and both may want it but asexuality just means that the person may not feel the sexual desire for other people.
Or you can be aromantic asexual where you simply wish for companionship. its a spectrum.
Garrsus So then what do you call a person who is attracted to the opposite sex, and does want Physical Contact, but not to the point of sexual intercourse? Is it just called being abstinent forever?
When the teacher says to pick a partner and you and your best friend be like: 1:15
moriweem hahah
Lol
Dunno about the rest of ya'll, but as an advocate of the sciences, I think this explanation amplifies the romance rather than making it seem cold or stoic
"Scar free skin" gutted
😭
Me staring at my acne scars at the mirror
Bro I have a scar cutting through my left eyebrow so my left eyebrow is split apart a little bit fml
Many people actually find scars attractive
Appreciate the vid but I am very conscious of the heteronormativity at play here.
Hetero is normal, in the sense that it's statistically dominant. So what's the problem?
This is about the science of reproductive attraction. That requires a male and a female.
Before I said something akin to "Theres nothing wrong with homosexuality or bisexuality but its not normal"
I edited it when my understanding of the topic changed. "Normality" is not the majority.
I 100% understand your point here, and I think I unintentionally spread a kind of homophobia thats popular on the internet.
In the end, everybody likes what they like.
MsDinoGal The title of the video is the science of attraction. Not the science of reproductive attraction, nor any other particular sort of attraction.
I remember when I walked with this girl I was really attracted to it felt like the world was fading out around us and it was just us two.. now I know why lol. I wonder whether it's a mutual feeling, like when you have that tunnel vision the other person does so too. I remember when we talked she seemed to completely ignore her friends around us.
This is by far the most interesting TED-Ed video that I had watched.
2:16
So. . . you're telling me men prefer women with voices like Dolores Umbridge's
Hem Hem
Those animations are a bit creepy >.
no!
rotfl i thought I was the only one
iJAARS Ya don't say. #Yadontsay
iJAARS they're pissing me off and making me uncomfortable..
Dominic Guye where do i sign up to punch on you? ahahahaha
Loved this! So informative
You got it Zoey Arielle!
Haven't I see you somewhere before?
It wasn't for thots tho
My limbs are cold as fck
+Daniel Ortega thank you!
Daniel Ortega yey
Attraction is not love.
***** No it isn't. Love is a deep affection that you do manually. You only choose to show affection to someone. This is why a lot of people break up or divorce as their view on love is warped & think it is only attraction which can only last so long. Once that attraction is over you need to show affection that will keep a bond between both of you which you YOURSELF need to do. Love isn't automatic. Only you choose to love. This is the same with emotions which are mostly manual but sometimes automatic. But you need to choose to stay happy. But that is happiness. So stay happy & show affection to everyone (^-^)
***** Well of course it is something which you have to train. As I have as well. (^^)
Agreed, Sophie.
Attraction is the starting point. It doesn't have to be *physical* attraction, though.
@@daPvtawhat’s the psychology behind physical attraction ? It can be controlled ?
I don't find this idea cold .
Knowing this makes me feel that emotions are so real and practical ....
My crush isn't attractive but super funny and we're good friends
Sugar Plum Queen I love that 😍 I feel u 100 on that
"She has a great personality"
Sophia Sengco nice
Damn youre a Queen fan! Thats cool!
@@partlycloudy2526 after he reads your reply: *starts crying*
how do you explain long distance relationship, have never met but they fall in love?
They are talking about general sexual attraction, correlated with the instinct to reproduce and continue the genetic line; not love, an intimate emotional connection with another person.
but there is still a sexual attraction in distance relationships right? so, any kind of sexual attraction like for example your favorite idol who you've never met but boy u wanna get under the sheets
well that's illusion. although your sense of sight and sound is obviously agreeing and you very well may be attracted to the person irl if you knew them, since your body has no other way of percieving the person then your mind eventually just focuses on that specifically without having to sense anything else. so long story short, if you met the said person irl you may not be attracted to them at all or you may want to fuck them right then and there because you're so attracted to them that any other qualities you couldnt experience before are making your body act like it's in overdrive
then the person is delusional and fell in love with the image of the person he/she has of the other. since your dp's an anime character, i'm thinking this might be a personal question.
JARED you are judging someone from a profile pic that never bothered to change it in years
3:35 "Because I took your pulse. Elevated. Your pupils dilated." Anyone?
+Ice Cream Very elementary
yaas
OMFG YES
YES YES YES IRENE
Haha.. It certainly wasn't just you!
“Men prefer high-pitched breathy voices…”
Meanwhile me: [insert Morgan Freeman voice here]
As an asexual, who wouldn't know attraction if it hit me in the face, this video was very helpful. Now I'll know if attraction ever hits me in the face!
I actually really like this. It's frustrating being attracted to someone you know you don't actually like and so it's like now I understand that a little more and don't feel as bad about it. Still sucks sometimes but my brain is just doing it's job I guess.
This is really interesting, but I'd love to know why some people find different people attractive (I like someone someone that most of my friends think is unattractive), and also how this all works for lgbt individuals.
So if someone is asexual, does that mean that their body just doesn't run these tests, or do they just not get attracted by any of these factors, plain and simple? And as for those who fall in love mainly based on personality, what is the science behind that? o:
+LilyToon Asexual people either don't run these tests or don't respond to them. It varies from person to person, depending on their genetics and other conditions.
As for those who fall in love based on personality, they still very much run these tests---this science is merely for sexual and reproductive purposes---but human beings (as well as certain animals) also run additional tests to determine if the person/being they're interacting with is a candidate for a lifelong mate. It takes a while to run these tests, and they take place on both the cognitive and subconscious level, which is why it's generally a good idea to have been seeing a person for a while before considering dropping the question.
***** Thank you for the answer! It definitely answered my questions very well!
Aesuxals (most) still feel love and aesthic atraction (someone lookin hot), however they simply have no disire to have intercourse. That is why ace dating sites exist.
+LilyToon Fall in love =/= attraction
Myself being an Asexual i can say i do run these test but when it comes down to the sex part it's just like simply no attraction at all, also it depends on the person too.
The person who spoke in this ted talk has a very pleasing voice to listen to
This was one of the best videos I've seen in TH-cam for the past 5 years.
Good job 👏🏻
Thank you
Pop
I can only imagine what the people facing that study were told.
"Okay, I need you to smell this shirt really well, and then spit in this vial. Wait, where are you going? Of course this is a real test!"
I've seen it in bbc program 🤣they were actually awkward looking
I'm going to wear the same shirt 3 days in a row now! Thanks for the tip!!!
the experiment with the hot and iced coffee can't be cited as evidence. as psychology students we actually tried replicating it in fourth semester and as other replications before us, found no connection between physical warmth and perception of strangers. The original set up wasn't clearly described too, so who knows what they measured
that artwork though, what the heck...I don't know why but it made me think of hippies
Mutual attraction. The undeniable chemistry you have between your lover.
It ignites the fire. It sparks conversation. It just happens to everyone. 100%
What does it means by wide formant spacing voice?
slow?
idk tho...
it means, pretending to have mental blocks and stuttering often when speaking to guys. try it!
JARED is it something like marilyn monroe? 😂
why grammar is?
Formants are acoustical properties of the voice. They are certain frequencies (the scientific term for "pitch") that resonate with our vocal tract (the space between our mouth and voice box) when we speak. You could say that they are certain frequencies that get a boost in intensity (i.e. volume) when we shape our mouths in different ways and our ability to detect them allows us to recognize different vowels. Look up spectrogram images of formants and you'll see them. The video is talking about a kind of speech that makes these formants space apart widely rather than cluster together. Does this help?
Next thing I know I'm down a rabbit hole watching 30 of these in a row
Maybe it's good that we are more "cold and scientific" in our understanding of love than romantic - placing unrealistic expectations on one person
It gave the clarity and real knowledge of attraction instead of mere philosophies.
With help of this video,I would be able to handle attraction
Never let anyone Limit you. Because You're Awesome!
Thank you!
I double dare you to smell my t-shirt 😂😂😂
I find this to be just as poetic as the "warm sensation in the heart" explanation of love.
Love the 70's vibe! Great video as usual :)
I much prefer this explanation of love and attraction, I don’t think it’s cold, it’s learning the mechanics behind it.
"My brain has run a thousand calculations a second, taking all my senses and crushing them into a formula, and it still says you're the right one for me." I'm not sure, my brain running math love still sounds pretty romantic to me
if someone told me that I would at least consider them lmao
that sounds extremely poetic, specially if they like science and this kinda stuff
What about gay people?
What are the factors that determine attraction?
Is there anything else than in-link-with-reproduction, or something replacing it?
And sometimes gay men act like women and gay women act like men, is it for attracting the other mate? Or does it have nothing to do with.
Or act they this way because of another factor and are attracted to the same sex, because they are both attracted to the same sex.
And in the heterosexual way, some men are attracted to more mannish women, as some women are attracted by more womanish men.
Is attraction by more manish or womanish people has a conection with in-link-with-reproduction? or is it just a consequences of the normal type? or are these things distinct.
What about the other sexualities? What about the asexuality? Are they attracted without wanting sex?
All that I know about me, being a gay is that I prefer mannish smells, instead of womanish smells.
Maybe it's the same factors, but as a gay man research a man, the no-possibility to reproduce with, is not a problem. Because there are alternative or it's not important anymore. And so what is kept is not the finality of reproducing, but the means that uses reproducing to find a partner.
Too many questions!!!!!!! Please answer as many as possible!!! :D
***** Gay people respond to pheromones the same way a straight person of the opposite gender would. In layman terms, being gay is when your "matchmaking system" thinks it can reproduce with someone of the same gender. The way people act and their exact preferences are unrelated.
I can't comment on asexuality.
Gerik Paull That's quite a good explaination. For asexuel people the problem is to know why they can fall in love and why they won't have sex at the same time. In the upper video, falling in love and have sex are pratically attached.
***** I guess there's three ways to look at it:
a) Sexual attraction is only one of many components of love, asexual people just lack that one.
b) What asexual people experience is more akin to how people would feel about their family or best friends rather than the romantic-find-someone-who-makes-good-babies love you and I experience.
Option a is more politically correct, so let's go with that. :] The truth is we don't know shit about sexuality.
Let's ask one! XD
***** But they're hard to find :[
What about when you first don't like someone but then later start to? Does it still work the same way?
"right for you" meaning, do they rank high enough, are they the highest possible rank you can achieve
this is my favourite video on the internet
Has anyone kissed someone before they got to know them/were also attracted to their personality and not liked the kiss? But then when you got to know the person and you kissed again, you liked it? Sort of like how people say sex is better when you're emotionally involved. 'Cause I know you can lose attraction after the first kiss, but what if it was bad because there wasn't a connection there besides biological? I can't really articulate this well, but I'm interested in hearing others' experiences with this.
the animations are creepy
Shit im scared now
I swear I'm slowly turning into a sociopath
Man this JUST happened to me - as clinical as the description may be the FEELING is STILL LIFE-ALTERING.
eyoo is it still happening to u?
*about to propose*
WAIT
*gives hot cup of coffee*
There! No way to fail now!
😂😂
"while women prefer men with lower-pitched voices"
me who falls in love with any guy who has a cute, adorable high pitched giggle:
👁👄👁
Came here to say this
One time there was this guy that would always make me laugh and we have so much in common
The cold/hot coffee study was shown to be invalid as is failed to replicate. Holding hot or cold coffee does not influence how someone perceives you.
can we take a second to appreciate this channel and the animators
That "Pupils dilate" part animation scared tf out of me lol
Well thanks for tell me about the first kiss thing, you gave me a whole new thing to be anxious about. ;)
Also, does your body really know what's best for you?
"Home is where the heart lies, but if the heart lies
Where is home, is where the heart lies, but where is home?" - Fish
I didn't realize TED existed back in the 70's, lol ;)
3:39 Lol I wanted to press "space" to split and eat all those blobs
Lol
This is unique and engaging. A book I read with similar scope was also one-of-a-kind. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
The Best narrator ever
My first kiss with my ex was minor trigger to make me reconsider dating him (in addition to other actual incompatibility issues)
Now am too anxious to kiss anyone I like because am scared the feelings might change after..
I’ve been trying to find what this is. For as long as i can remember i’ve only ever been attracted to people who have showed me attention or expressed that they have liked me in the first place, so my ‘type’ in physicality is all over the place because it all starts with them expressing an interest in me. idk it’s weird, and kind of sounds like i may be full of myself but i’m not at all i just dk why i’m like this.
What's completely missing from this type of discussion as per usual is the lack of mention of the emotional energy centers that we, as emotional beings, all possess.
Anyone who's ever had a literal heartfelt moment can attest to the existence of these strong generators of emotional energy.
Yes, that's right, root, sacral, solar plexus, heart, throat, third eye, crown. There's a reason more and more people are acknowledging the existence of these centers, and it's primarily due to the fact that THEY CAN BE FELT.
Meanwhile science keeps trying to tell us there's no mystery in the machine, and all the while those who can *see* just laugh and laugh at their disposition of utmost seriousness.
And also karmic bonds. Etc. Thanks for the comment!
What is the First Kiss ? A rich and complex exchange of tactile and chemical cues. (Knowledge is power!)
i feel high binge watching all these videos from TED-Ed
"People never forget their first kiss."
Me, who was drunk at that time: well budy, what was your name again? 🙂
Great video, but I agree with ilovekitkats, this video solely focuses on heterosexual attraction. It would be very interesting to see a video showing how same sex couples perceive tone of voice, and how their physiological impulses changed dependent upon scent and other senses.
Wait so love has a connection to fight/flight, similar to adrenaline?
(Has first kiss)
(Screams and runs)
Yeah, makes sense.
O! 🤯That is what happen to me N couldn’t Figure out what was happening to me. I went to a party not looking cause I’m happily married 35 years. Turn my head saw this stringer, a man N don’t know what happen my whole body gave this Pleasant pain of attraction NEVER experience that before N I’m 70. The attraction was so strong I couldn’t keep eye contact because it hurt. Is that silly? N when we did talked the feeling was normal but I SAW no one else in the room. 😂 when I thought of that day the feeling was still there. I am so happy I came across your video it explains so much.
I love this narrators voice