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Hi Michelle, Happy weekend. I’ve been enjoying many videos featuring Dr. John Gray-thank you for producing such great content! I believe there are various types of men in the market. Would it be possible to have him speak about dating busy, successful, middle-aged men who are divorced and have kids? I’m very happy with my partner, but he is extremely busy, traveling every month due to his demanding business. While I’m also a career driven woman, his level of busyness is on another level. Thanks very much!
Listening to this and realizing I did all the things that John Gray said he wouldn’t have his wife handle (talking to the neighbors, the attorney etc) and realizing what a coward my ex was and why I became so turned off by him. I resented him turning into the woman of the relationship. That’s what I wanted to be
My ex was the same way. What a good choice I made 18 years saying hasta la vista. I took care of the kids by myself and worked full-time. I didn't need another child to take care of. It was exhausting.
Me Too, One of the ex's friends would tell him "you're bitchin like a woman" All those years living in my masculine side in order to provide for everyone but myself. Decided to Set Myself Free 25 years ago.....
Thanks for this btw! My boyfriend did something really well yesterday so after hearing this video I went and told him how much I appreciated him with specific details on how he was able to make me feel happy and I’ve never seen him light up that much before.
I’m a menopause denier… Meaning I deny the way people talk about menopause hormonal changes like it’s out of our control. I feel more feminine than ever post menopause and I’m experiencing all the physical benefits of that. I think it’s because of all the healing work I’ve done on myself. I propose that perhaps the hormones follow the experience not vice versa and I think John Gray makes a great case that hormones can be affected by our life experience.
@@Lulu-nn8mg oh I totally believe in science! True science is about continually asking questions. The more I explore about the human body the more fascinated I am about its intelligence. So I’m just refusing to buy into the idea that our body randomly stops creating hormones that make us feel good when in fact, it might have more to do with the quality of our relationships. It’s more of a chicken and egg question. It makes much more sense to me that in our current society we don’t have the quality of relationships that balance our hormones versus that our body just stops producing what we need.
Tell men to keep the kitchen sink empty, empty the dishwasher, keep the kitchen garbage clean & every day his partner will want him even more. The kitchen is the source of love, comfort & family but at the same time, stressful bc of all of the necessary ongoing cleanup!! Women are tired of getting stuck in the kitchen all the time. It's very tiring. That's a way to keep your wife very happy!
SOME WOMEN ARE CONSTANT COMPLAINERS. THEY COMPLAIN ABOUT EVERYTHING. HAVING A GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL ATTITUDE. KEEPS YOUR SPIRIT LIGHT AND BURDEN FREE. I THANK GOD EVERYDAY AND I AM GRATEFUL ALL OF THE TIME. AND I AM ENJOYING MY LIFE. THINGS DONT GET ME DOWN LIKE THEY USED TO. I DONT LOOK AT EVERYTHING FROM A NEGATIVE PERSPECTIVE. There is good going on in every situation.
31:58 awww Michelle is so good she knows how to interject respectfully and get the good comments she had to say in. John is so great at speaking just as much as he is a writer! So grateful for this content!!!
I live alone and have to do everything for myself, and have for many years. It would be nice to have help, especially fixing things or hiring handymen. But it’s not that easy to find a compatible partner we are aligned with, after age 55…
This is true for so many women and it's not easy. Don't give up though because I work with many women 50 and above who meet a great man! Sending you love and thanks for watching too!
Men definitely STOP putting in the same effort that they did in the beginning. Everyone I know, myself included have complained til we were blue in the face about how little effort they put once men "made it" in the relationship. We fall for men for the CONSTANT little gestures and displays of attention and effort. DO NOT love starve your woman when you have proven to be able to provide her with more. It would be like you signing up to work for someone who pays you extremely well for doing a job, and once you sign a 5 year contract that employer starts putting more and more on your agenda without any increase in pay. IT's like ... nah fam. I know you got money to pay, so pay me for my time. Same thing. We know you got the time to spend with us, the energy to spend with us like when you were single so stop making excuses and pay up with your attention and company.
Thank you this was excellent information. I’ve been a widow for 20 years. I recently started dating again and I believe I’ve met my soulmate. I’m 70 years old, but look and feel like I’m still in my 50’s. Thanks again. Hopefully, you can share information for older couples.
Michelle did a great job clarifying to keep things respectful for women. When men are disrespectful and objectifying, it makes it a little challenging to want to have sex. There’s a deeper balance even amidst polarities.
This interview is so what I needed to know at this particular moment...I was doing it all backwards...I appreciate your generosity.... thank you! Blessings ❤
Many older men just dont have the fire anymore. They're content watching TV in their recliners, eating bad food, not exercising and not "bringing it" to women. I'm not attracted to that. I'd rather be alone. Consequently, I'm dating a younger man.
Yes 11:52 I have been practicing my ability to receive and appreciate a man when I run into a man. I’m in my late 30s and feel like I’m learning all of this too late. 14:38 why should I ask 😂 very true! Thank you ❤❤❤❤
They might have had an avoidant attachment style. Don't worry, but be happy that you don't waste many more weeks, months, or perhaps even years with such a person. But yes, it hurts. It just shows that you are a genuine person ❤
Thank you Michelle for hosting John. I love how feminine you are and respectful. A very beautiful lady. I will only listen to Join on your channel. Greatful thanks for the E book and link to John.❤😊❤ A few 'if only I knew' moments.
I’m addicted to exercise and Jesus. People think l I’m 28. I’m 50. I also don’t have premarital sex. That hasn’t worked yet but I still believe in it and will keep trying. Heh.
and what if he always has a gloomy face when I ask him for something? Or when he takes every request as an attack and says: I know! I'm afraid to ask for anything because I don't like fights
Can you please do a session with John and what to do when we are dealing with feminised men, they are everywhere it’s a huge problem. How to get them out of depression.. anxiety etc.
And how to bring out the masculine in them? I often wonder if they would be awakened to discover this better version of themselves once a woman taps into it. Like, is there any hope that a man with a slightly more dominant feminine side become more dominant in his masculinity by a woman?
@@greatrunner1 Totally screwed up. Sissy boys. Ugh. Due to single mom parenting. A son king. That's what happens. And it's been going on for 40+ yrs... 😑
Going out with a man and him giving other women, young women the once over, no matter how briefly, is a passion killer. The way to destroy any respect or feelings a woman would have for her man. Men's piggish behaviour is so disgusting, hurtful, off putting it can ruin a car drive as he gawks at a womans butt in tight yoga pants, a lovely meal where his eyes roam the breasts and crotch of a young waitress 6 inches in front of him, even a holiday where flesh is on display. No matter where you are, if his eyes are roaming over another woman's body, even for a second, it is destroying any closeness. Not jealousy, just disgust at betrayal. Ive seen women with their husbands actively turn away when waiters, young men look for attention. However, men can be so demeaning to their wives ogling other women. All other women in the area can see it, as well as the woman being ogled, so it's public humiliation for the wife/girlfriend. There's a way of looking too that's actually flirting. To me, like the Bible says; if a man looks at a woman with lust, in his heart he has committed the sin. The worst part is when they deny what the woman has seen right in front of her.
Same here, I think I'll stay single then deal with someone who does this. I know there's men out there that don't I just haven't been lucky enough to find one yet
I agree! I’ve dealt with that in the past and it’s hurtful and embarrassing. I have mad terrible choices in men in the past and now I don’t trust my judgement. That’s why I’ve remained single for 4 yrs now.
I asked him to fix the leaky roof & broken air-conditioner (think Texas summer), repair the front door lock & gap around the door, fix the flickering kitchen light, change the dripping faucets, fix my car's leaking roof & side window as well as suddenly-come-on-engine-light & broken key & back door remote control, fix the cracked & peeling cabinet & walls, fix the rotten wooden patio, organize his hoarding garage & closet, clean up after himself, flush the toilets, the list on & on....but he just wants to fill up my car's gas & expects me to give him lavish praises.
I know this is going to sound weird, and 😅 silly, but if you ask directly, they feel lesser than, because they didn’t think abt it first as the protector/provider. So to get a man to do something, you have to present a problem. Example--it’s so hot in here and I’m not sure why? I don’t know how it gets so hot in here. Or our electric bill is getting so high, I wish there was a way to lower it. When you phrase it in a way, it’s a problem to be solved, and men adore a problem to be solved. Then gush over how great the solution he came up with worked. It works.
This has been the best utube on the net I have listened to. This has really really helped me in my relationships 73 and have learned so much. Been dating a man for a year and I feel I can now solve the problems we have had. Thank you!!Thank you!!
My ex had no desire to facilitate reciprocity!! He just kept taking and doing as he pleased! I asked him many times for small little 5 minute gesture….foot rubs, coffee in bed, quick garden walk, etc… his response was ‘what’s in it for me??’ Or he’d do it begrudgingly with sighs and eye rolls!!! So I then started asking him to do such small gestures with love and joy in his heart. What is wrong with a man like that?? He thinks he’s an alpha….but he is so ruled by his ego, and his energy was constantly frantic.
This was a great video, thank you:). Question: I've had male friends tell me they could sleep with a woman and not love her and not sleep with a woman and love her. So, im curious.. is this video saying men require sex to feel love in relationship?
Same here. John generalises a lot. Which is easy, but not real. Especially nowadays, where men are very different to 30-40+ yrs ago... He says not to give into a man who complains or is a sissy boy. But, so many men are, nowadays!! Ugh. I haven't come across any man who wants just sex, or intimacy. In Western countries. Often, it was even me who was longing for the physical intimacy really badly, in the relationship. And that's extreemly frustrating. So, that last years I prefer staying on my own. At least no triggers... A lot of men have huge problems with that subject. In their heads it's all upside down, and in their bodies they don't get erections, or come extreemly fast, etc... Don't wish to cuddle up, etc. 😓 A lot of women experience these phenomenon. Our societies are really f**ked up. How can we put that straight again? I'm so nostalgic of the 20ies, and to finding my Mr. Right, today! 🙏👌🌟
Ok… thanks for addressing strong, single women… but let’s be real. Men need women more than women need men. We have love and happiness on our own, and most men have too many issues to be able to make our lives better. A lot of the time men actually provide no value. Taking the trash out is not difficult 😂 It’s not our job to “keep” a man or keep him from cheating. That message is pure misogyny and puts the blame on women
Men are hugely valuable when women have babies and in bringing up children and looking after a house. I was widowed when I was 31 and my boy was 2, and really notice the difference. It’s not insignificant when you have a good man.
Moving furniture. Fixing our cars. Disposing of dead cats. Getting on the roof. Reaching items in the top cabinet. There are a million things men are needed for. Women with these attitudes of devaluing men have male energy and therefore have a hard time attracting masculine men.
@@sandramichaud8033 I haven't found such a good man, yet!! It would be a good thing if men would be educated that way... I wish to find my M. Right, soon, nevertheless! 🙏🌟 Hope you do too, if that's what you wish for. Take care.
Recently came upon important information about the neferious effects of blue light of devices on male brains, where all their needs are met online .. reducing the need for connection, sperm.. much more.. Dr Kruse
Thanks for your interview. I enjoy the way you listen well and put questions out, afterwards.🙂I read two of his books, 20 yrs ago. Hated them. Especially venus vs mars. So linear, very sexist, his facts, and only based on hormones..No advice, nor tips. Nothing. It was very boring and frustrating to read though. I threw them away. Amazing they sold so well!! Trash. Women and men aren't so black and white nowadays. In this interview he's evolved a bit. And at last he gives some advice, but it's still so linear. My God, if it where so black and white, we wouldn't have any trouble with relationships ! Plus, I have never encountered a man who likes doing diy chores around the house, nor for his wife, and even less if his she asks it. He'll wait until she forces him or gets into a rage!! Be it with European or Oriental men, house chores were always mine. I hated it. And I learned to diy too, because otherwise I would've waited an enternity. Or, sometimes the man would hire a worker in urgent or very heavy duty work. I can't see John doing any diy, btw, either!! And, I think he only does a minimum of house chores, too! So... I wish it were as easy as he says...
He is great made valid points. But one thing that’s off. I think God made woman and man on purpose, not for them to be so different and things to be so hard. If a man isn’t a man and he not pursuing you, which is his natural nature, actually nothing a woman really does or doesn’t do, turns off a naturally healthy man. So if he doesn’t overall like your APPEARANCE, which men like 99% of woman anyway, he won’t pursue. That’s a man’s nature. Very visual. A real man understands a woman is like the moon. We do not have to be perfect. He explains us like estrogen makes us completely different creatures. We are definitely almost identical to the man. That’s what he absolutely doesn’t know. We are 98.2% identical. If it’s not working then move on. Don’t try to change a million things about yourself. A real man wants a woman with depth. Not just a nice sweet girl. Trust and believe
I’m very glad you said that. The Bible states we were created in his image, meaning both man and woman….men have hormones and they have feelings and their complex and to signify women as so strange..is very interesting, we are not so different…But it’s a man explaining it.
You got me thinking 🤔. I believe God made men and women different because God wanted men and women to be different. It’s ok to be different 😉. Otherwise God would’ve made us all men or all women , don’t you think?
I’m not sure how factual the estrogen & testosterone thing is. Physiologically speaking both women and men bond with oxytocin. Oxytocin is the same hormone/neurotramitter that bonds a mother to her baby. When women have sex, oxytocin is released, and she feels more bonded. On the contrary, when men have sex, they release testosterone, which blocks the binding receptors for oxytocin. So biologically, women bond with sex, but men almost the opposite. Physical touch however, releases oxytocin for both parties, i.e; hugging, cuddling, kissing, etc.
Whtver these tactics. Main thing is relationshp survives whn the man loves more than the woman. Consistent attentive rest is in place❤😊😢 lucky in love🎉🎉🎉🎉
This is ridiculously sexist. How about both sexes just respect one another, take equal responsibility for their lives and show appreciation instead of taking one another for granted? Basic respect, kindness, empathy.
Dr John I would love to know why my ex was very physically attracted and felt immense chemistry , sex was wonderful but He did not feel love or deeper feelings I did unfortunately We got along well . He said He felt comfortable with Me Why does this happen ?
Good question. It could be that he doesn’t know how to accept love, or feels like he deserves it. If he grew up with emotionally unavailable parents (or prior abusive relationships) he is probably used to trying to get love from people who are not capable of loving. I don’t think it has anything to do with you personally.
Men and women bond differently :) Men need prolactin in order to bond with you specifically... if there is no prolactin produced after sex, they can be attracted to somebody else shortly after... because novelty is a simple way to rebuild testosterone (chasing, conquering, etc.) If they are addicted to that, it can become like a habit... A lot of men do that without understanding why their feelings suddenly "vanish" for no apparent reason an why they become apathetic towards their woman...
I had breast cancer myself and hormone blockers as well, so I do understand your concerns. I do believe we can still be centered in feminine receptiveness and bring out the best in men. Best wishes for your good health!
I wonder why nature made it so strange that when man orgasm he needs space and the woman needs hugs and attention. It should align instead of being total opposite :(
*Actually, it's been proven SINGLE women live longer, healthier lives. Whereas, married men live longer, healthier lives. Men benefit from having a wife, but women are STRESSED OUT having a husband.
Get John Gray's complimentary relationship course here: www.marsvenus.com/
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Hi Michelle, Happy weekend. I’ve been enjoying many videos featuring Dr. John Gray-thank you for producing such great content! I believe there are various types of men in the market. Would it be possible to have him speak about dating busy, successful, middle-aged men who are divorced and have kids? I’m very happy with my partner, but he is extremely busy, traveling every month due to his demanding business. While I’m also a career driven woman, his level of busyness is on another level. Thanks very much!
Listening to this and realizing I did all the things that John Gray said he wouldn’t have his wife handle (talking to the neighbors, the attorney etc) and realizing what a coward my ex was and why I became so turned off by him. I resented him turning into the woman of the relationship. That’s what I wanted to be
Happened to me too, his friends would ask me where my wife was😂it was sad actually because he had no clue
My ex was the same way. What a good choice I made 18 years saying hasta la vista. I took care of the kids by myself and worked full-time. I didn't need another child to take care of. It was exhausting.
Me Too, One of the ex's friends would tell him "you're bitchin like a woman" All those years living in my masculine side in order to provide for everyone but myself. Decided to Set Myself Free 25 years ago.....
Thanks for this btw! My boyfriend did something really well yesterday so after hearing this video I went and told him how much I appreciated him with specific details on how he was able to make me feel happy and I’ve never seen him light up that much before.
So you had to wait for a vidéo to teach you to appreciate thé man you love n show respect ?... You're not a real woman and you do not deserve him.
I’m a menopause denier… Meaning I deny the way people talk about menopause hormonal changes like it’s out of our control. I feel more feminine than ever post menopause and I’m experiencing all the physical benefits of that. I think it’s because of all the healing work I’ve done on myself. I propose that perhaps the hormones follow the experience not vice versa and I think John Gray makes a great case that hormones can be affected by our life experience.
I believe this wholeheartedly
You don't believe in science?😂
@@Lulu-nn8mg oh I totally believe in science! True science is about continually asking questions. The more I explore about the human body the more fascinated I am about its intelligence. So I’m just refusing to buy into the idea that our body randomly stops creating hormones that make us feel good when in fact, it might have more to do with the quality of our relationships. It’s more of a chicken and egg question. It makes much more sense to me that in our current society we don’t have the quality of relationships that balance our hormones versus that our body just stops producing what we need.
I think u r nuts. Men r unfaithful ungodly ungrateful so they can porn lie cheat frustrate hide fake it and use you.
Me too!
Tell men to keep the kitchen sink empty, empty the dishwasher, keep the kitchen garbage clean & every day his partner will want him even more. The kitchen is the source of love, comfort & family but at the same time, stressful bc of all of the necessary ongoing cleanup!! Women are tired of getting stuck in the kitchen all the time. It's very tiring. That's a way to keep your wife very happy!
🤌🤌🙏🏼😂
SOME WOMEN ARE CONSTANT COMPLAINERS. THEY COMPLAIN ABOUT EVERYTHING. HAVING A GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL ATTITUDE. KEEPS YOUR SPIRIT LIGHT AND BURDEN FREE. I THANK GOD EVERYDAY AND I AM GRATEFUL ALL OF THE TIME. AND I AM ENJOYING MY LIFE. THINGS DONT GET ME DOWN LIKE THEY USED TO. I DONT LOOK AT EVERYTHING FROM A NEGATIVE PERSPECTIVE. There is good going on in every situation.
@@estherkeeling777I’m very grateful for the kitchen help she just described.
It’s important that a woman has more value for man than sex.
31:58 awww
Michelle is so good she knows how to interject respectfully and get the good comments she had to say in. John is so great at speaking just as much as he is a writer! So grateful for this content!!!
Thank you so much for your kind comment and for watching too! :-)
I live alone and have to do everything for myself, and have for many years. It would be nice to have help, especially fixing things or hiring handymen. But it’s not that easy to find a compatible partner we are aligned with, after age 55…
I hear ya! In the same boat. Hang in there, he could be right around the corner 🙂 God bless!
Go younger
Same here.
This is true for so many women and it's not easy. Don't give up though because I work with many women 50 and above who meet a great man! Sending you love and thanks for watching too!
@@MichelleMarchantJohnson Where did they meet the men ?
I'm in my 40's and this man was refreshing to hear which allowed for this woman to be educated today 😊
Men definitely STOP putting in the same effort that they did in the beginning. Everyone I know, myself included have complained til we were blue in the face about how little effort they put once men "made it" in the relationship. We fall for men for the CONSTANT little gestures and displays of attention and effort. DO NOT love starve your woman when you have proven to be able to provide her with more. It would be like you signing up to work for someone who pays you extremely well for doing a job, and once you sign a 5 year contract that employer starts putting more and more on your agenda without any increase in pay. IT's like ... nah fam. I know you got money to pay, so pay me for my time. Same thing. We know you got the time to spend with us, the energy to spend with us like when you were single so stop making excuses and pay up with your attention and company.
2024 we’re still studying how to get along😂
It’s insanity! Doing the same thing and getting no where fast 😂
That’s funny cause it’s true😂
insane😂
😂 true
Michelle, your show is always awesome. Sometimes I rewatch them and save them.
Thank you this was excellent information. I’ve been a widow for 20 years. I recently started dating again and I believe I’ve met my soulmate. I’m 70 years old, but look and feel like I’m still in my 50’s. Thanks again. Hopefully, you can share information for older couples.
Michelle did a great job clarifying to keep things respectful for women. When men are disrespectful and objectifying, it makes it a little challenging to want to have sex. There’s a deeper balance even amidst polarities.
This interview is so what I needed to know at this particular moment...I was doing it all backwards...I appreciate your generosity.... thank you! Blessings ❤
Many older men just dont have the fire anymore. They're content watching TV in their recliners, eating bad food, not exercising and not "bringing it" to women. I'm not attracted to that. I'd rather be alone. Consequently, I'm dating a younger man.
Yes 11:52 I have been practicing my ability to receive and appreciate a man when I run into a man. I’m in my late 30s and feel like I’m learning all of this too late. 14:38 why should I ask 😂 very true! Thank you ❤❤❤❤
Amazing advices,thank you John,God bless you
Thank you for this great conversation, much appreciated 🥰
I opened my heart twice for months with two men. All I received was stress.
They might have had an avoidant attachment style. Don't worry, but be happy that you don't waste many more weeks, months, or perhaps even years with such a person. But yes, it hurts. It just shows that you are a genuine person ❤
@ Thank you
Thank you Michelle for hosting John. I love how feminine you are and respectful. A very beautiful lady. I will only listen to Join on your channel.
Greatful thanks for the E book and link to John.❤😊❤
A few 'if only I knew' moments.
Brilliant discussion
Excellent Analysis
Thank you both
I’m addicted to exercise and Jesus. People think l I’m 28. I’m 50. I also don’t have premarital sex. That hasn’t worked yet but I still believe in it and will keep trying. Heh.
Who cares?
That's amazing
Sounds great to me!
Stupid
As a woman…
Give too much…
They hate you.
Pull back…
“You made me lonely, so I had an affair.”
I’m good alone. Lol
SO TRUE!!!
Most men I meet STRESS ME OUT. Low estrogen’s for me.
I practice talking to men like even with my doctors. It's funny to watch as I tell them how much I appreciate them which I do btw.
I love Dr John gray!!! ❤
and what if he always has a gloomy face when I ask him for something? Or when he takes every request as an attack and says: I know!
I'm afraid to ask for anything because I don't like fights
Can you please do a session with John and what to do when we are dealing with feminised men, they are everywhere it’s a huge problem. How to get them out of depression.. anxiety etc.
And how to bring out the masculine in them? I often wonder if they would be awakened to discover this better version of themselves once a woman taps into it. Like, is there any hope that a man with a slightly more dominant feminine side become more dominant in his masculinity by a woman?
The boys are screwed. Mothers hovering over their little boys. Saw a boy with mom. Pink,purple shirt and wearing earrings……. :(
Great suggestion! Men who are wounded, hurt, etc. & how we can encourage trust, vulnerability & their healing.
@@Michelle-o9z7h
Sissy boys... No possible change.. Point. Alas.
@@greatrunner1
Totally screwed up.
Sissy boys. Ugh. Due to single mom parenting. A son king. That's what happens. And it's been going on for 40+ yrs... 😑
Amazing. Thank you Dr John and Michelle. I’m looking forward to seeing more videos. Sooo helpful.
Going out with a man and him giving other women, young women the once over, no matter how briefly, is a passion killer. The way to destroy any respect or feelings a woman would have for her man. Men's piggish behaviour is so disgusting, hurtful, off putting it can ruin a car drive as he gawks at a womans butt in tight yoga pants, a lovely meal where his eyes roam the breasts and crotch of a young waitress 6 inches in front of him, even a holiday where flesh is on display.
No matter where you are, if his eyes are roaming over another woman's body, even for a second, it is destroying any closeness. Not jealousy, just disgust at betrayal. Ive seen women with their husbands actively turn away when waiters, young men look for attention. However, men can be so demeaning to their wives ogling other women. All other women in the area can see it, as well as the woman being ogled, so it's public humiliation for the wife/girlfriend. There's a way of looking too that's actually flirting. To me, like the Bible says; if a man looks at a woman with lust, in his heart he has committed the sin. The worst part is when they deny what the woman has seen right in front of her.
Same here, I think I'll stay single then deal with someone who does this. I know there's men out there that don't I just haven't been lucky enough to find one yet
BTW … the dress doesn’t make you look fat … your ass makes you look fat. Stop asking stupid questions
I agree! I’ve dealt with that in the past and it’s hurtful and embarrassing. I have mad terrible choices in men in the past and now I don’t trust my judgement. That’s why I’ve remained single for 4 yrs now.
You have a problem with a man checking out a beautiful woman? Sounds like you need to work through some insecurities
I check out beautiful woman and nice looking men don't see the issue in admiring another human
Amazingly well explained. It made me feel better. Great interview!
Very good info! Thank you for this interview
11:22 - 13:12
13:18 -13:21
Wonderful review, thank-you both for all your work and research.
Very informative. Thank you so much.
Yes…I’ve learnt so much over the years/ podcasts 🙏🙏 Thank you both ⭐️⭐️ Listened to this twice already 🎉
I asked him to fix the leaky roof & broken air-conditioner (think Texas summer), repair the front door lock & gap around the door, fix the flickering kitchen light, change the dripping faucets, fix my car's leaking roof & side window as well as suddenly-come-on-engine-light & broken key & back door remote control, fix the cracked & peeling cabinet & walls, fix the rotten wooden patio, organize his hoarding garage & closet, clean up after himself, flush the toilets, the list on & on....but he just wants to fill up my car's gas & expects me to give him lavish praises.
I know this is going to sound weird, and 😅 silly, but if you ask directly, they feel lesser than, because they didn’t think abt it first as the protector/provider. So to get a man to do something, you have to present a problem. Example--it’s so hot in here and I’m not sure why? I don’t know how it gets so hot in here. Or our electric bill is getting so high, I wish there was a way to lower it. When you phrase it in a way, it’s a problem to be solved, and men adore a problem to be solved. Then gush over how great the solution he came up with worked. It works.
This has been the best utube on the net I have listened to. This has really really helped me in my relationships 73 and have learned so much. Been dating a man for a year and I feel I can now solve the problems we have had. Thank you!!Thank you!!
This is SO enlightening- thank you, thank you, thank you ❤
Thanks for watching and for your comment too, Susan!
😊oh!!! I Love about the dating....wuhuu!! Very True...Dr..John Gray...about the giving them opportunity and a Lesson so nice love it...
Fantastic video! One of John’s best! Jam packed Thankyou both! Feeling blessed ❤
My ex had no desire to facilitate reciprocity!! He just kept taking and doing as he pleased! I asked him many times for small little 5 minute gesture….foot rubs, coffee in bed, quick garden walk, etc… his response was ‘what’s in it for me??’ Or he’d do it begrudgingly with sighs and eye rolls!!! So I then started asking him to do such small gestures with love and joy in his heart. What is wrong with a man like that?? He thinks he’s an alpha….but he is so ruled by his ego, and his energy was constantly frantic.
This is so interesting 😮❤
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Enjoyed your talk very much ❤ r thank you both
I always get taken for granted. I feel like I do all the right things but it just gets taken advantage. I think I need to demand more.
thank you John, now after 42 years because of your clip, i understand what men want😂 it was a big puzzle for me😂
This was a great video, thank you:).
Question: I've had male friends tell me they could sleep with a woman and not love her and not sleep with a woman and love her.
So, im curious.. is this video saying men require sex to feel love in relationship?
Same here. John generalises a lot. Which is easy, but not real. Especially nowadays, where men are very different to 30-40+ yrs ago... He says not to give into a man who complains or is a sissy boy. But, so many men are, nowadays!! Ugh.
I haven't come across any man who wants just sex, or intimacy. In Western countries. Often, it was even me who was longing for the physical intimacy really badly, in the relationship. And that's extreemly frustrating. So, that last years I prefer staying on my own. At least no triggers...
A lot of men have huge problems with that subject.
In their heads it's all upside down, and in their bodies they don't get erections, or come extreemly fast, etc... Don't wish to cuddle up, etc. 😓
A lot of women experience these phenomenon. Our societies are really f**ked up. How can we put that straight again? I'm so nostalgic of the 20ies, and to finding my Mr. Right, today! 🙏👌🌟
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Great video! So essential knowledge how men and women are different. I listen to the same things with my native language psychologists too.
Ok… thanks for addressing strong, single women… but let’s be real. Men need women more than women need men. We have love and happiness on our own, and most men have too many issues to be able to make our lives better. A lot of the time men actually provide no value. Taking the trash out is not difficult 😂 It’s not our job to “keep” a man or keep him from cheating. That message is pure misogyny and puts the blame on women
Wow you are full of crap
Men are hugely valuable when women have babies and in bringing up children and looking after a house. I was widowed when I was 31 and my boy was 2, and really notice the difference. It’s not insignificant when you have a good man.
I don’t think it’s a competition.
Moving furniture. Fixing our cars. Disposing of dead cats. Getting on the roof. Reaching items in the top cabinet. There are a million things men are needed for. Women with these attitudes of devaluing men have male energy and therefore have a hard time attracting masculine men.
@@CarmenPerez-kz6rw dead cats? 😳 are you ok?
Loved this! Thank you for this content!❤ please keep making more videos!❤
very interesting, thank you!
...I handle the lawyers,neighbours, plumbing, organising, DIY....would be great to have someone to help with all this
I have to do it all also. It would be nice to have someone help relieve the stress, help make decisions…to have a soft place to fall.❤
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I haven't found such a good man, yet!! It would be a good thing if men would be educated that way...
I wish to find my M. Right, soon, nevertheless! 🙏🌟
Hope you do too, if that's what you wish for. Take care.
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Very helpful video 👏
I must b different. I don't need a man. I love my bed space. I love myself. I complete me.
You don’t have to need a man to enjoy one. You can’t eat your own pie, but a good man sure can and you just can’t beat it.
Amen.
Thank you ❤!
LOVE John Gary - this is just so true! I've been there! I'm a recovering over-giver...
Thank you ❤
Great conversation!! What's the name of the book Dr mentioned?
Recently came upon important information about the neferious effects of blue light of devices on male brains, where all their needs are met online .. reducing the need for connection, sperm.. much more.. Dr Kruse
They can love their children
They can love the trees
They can love the government had me ROLLINGGGG
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Thanks for your interview. I enjoy the way you listen well and put questions out, afterwards.🙂I read two of his books, 20 yrs ago. Hated them. Especially venus vs mars. So linear, very sexist, his facts, and only based on hormones..No advice, nor tips. Nothing.
It was very boring and frustrating to read though. I threw them away. Amazing they sold so well!! Trash.
Women and men aren't so black and white nowadays. In this interview he's evolved a bit. And at last he gives some advice, but it's still so linear. My God, if it where so black and white, we wouldn't have any trouble with relationships !
Plus, I have never encountered a man who likes doing diy chores around the house, nor for his wife, and even less if his she asks it. He'll wait until she forces him or gets into a rage!! Be it with European or Oriental men, house chores were always mine. I hated it. And I learned to diy too, because otherwise I would've waited an enternity.
Or, sometimes the man would hire a worker in urgent or very heavy duty work.
I can't see John doing any diy, btw, either!! And, I think he only does a minimum of house chores, too! So...
I wish it were as easy as he says...
Would if your taking estrogen blockers from cancer?
Good question!
I love John ❤
shallow reasons for having a man. we re not our hormones
Thx💛
He is great made valid points.
But one thing that’s off.
I think God made woman and man on purpose, not for them to be so different and things to be so hard. If a man isn’t a man and he not pursuing you, which is his natural nature, actually nothing a woman really does or doesn’t do, turns off a naturally healthy man. So if he doesn’t overall like your APPEARANCE, which men like 99% of woman anyway, he won’t pursue. That’s a man’s nature. Very visual. A real man understands a woman is like the moon.
We do not have to be perfect.
He explains us like estrogen makes us completely different creatures. We are definitely almost identical to the man. That’s what he absolutely doesn’t know. We are 98.2% identical.
If it’s not working then move on. Don’t try to change a million things about yourself. A real man wants a woman with depth. Not just a nice sweet girl. Trust and believe
I’m very glad you said that. The Bible states we were created in his image, meaning both man and woman….men have hormones and they have feelings and their complex and to signify women as so strange..is very interesting, we are not so different…But it’s a man explaining it.
You got me thinking 🤔. I believe God made men and women different because God wanted men and women to be different. It’s ok to be different 😉. Otherwise God would’ve made us all men or all women , don’t you think?
Interesting. My husband had drinking problems, because he had problems sharing his feelings???
Yes. People have addictions because they are trying to avoid feeling their feelings.
Yes! Or they’ve been thru something traumatic and drink to not “feel”
Addiction has genetic component ;)
Good chat thank you 🙏 😊
I’m not sure how factual the estrogen & testosterone thing is. Physiologically speaking both women and men bond with oxytocin. Oxytocin is the same hormone/neurotramitter that bonds a mother to her baby. When women have sex, oxytocin is released, and she feels more bonded. On the contrary, when men have sex, they release testosterone, which blocks the binding receptors for oxytocin. So biologically, women bond with sex, but men almost the opposite. Physical touch however, releases oxytocin for both parties, i.e; hugging, cuddling, kissing, etc.
Omg... this is the hardest thing for me 😅
Whtver these tactics. Main thing is relationshp survives whn the man loves more than the woman. Consistent attentive rest is in place❤😊😢 lucky in love🎉🎉🎉🎉
This is ridiculously sexist. How about both sexes just respect one another, take equal responsibility for their lives and show appreciation instead of taking one another for granted? Basic respect, kindness, empathy.
I agree somewhat but I try to keep my negativity to myself. Thank you for your kind words 🙏
Sure. But in reality. Humans are complex..That would be ideal, Humans want to protect themselves. Especially emotionally.
What does sexual mean for you?
He's delusional.
@@Bonnie-nq6cx😮Wow! You internalized misogyny!!! Disagreeing is NOT negativity, but your gaslighting certainly is toxic.
Dr John I would love to know why my ex was very physically attracted and felt immense chemistry , sex was wonderful but He did not feel love or deeper feelings
I did unfortunately
We got along well . He said He felt comfortable with Me
Why does this happen ?
Good question. It could be that he doesn’t know how to accept love, or feels like he deserves it. If he grew up with emotionally unavailable parents (or prior abusive relationships) he is probably used to trying to get love from people who are not capable of loving. I don’t think it has anything to do with you personally.
I'm a woman and was able to have a relationship with good sex but not feeling I was in love with him. It's not uncommon.
Men and women bond differently :) Men need prolactin in order to bond with you specifically... if there is no prolactin produced after sex, they can be attracted to somebody else shortly after... because novelty is a simple way to rebuild testosterone (chasing, conquering, etc.) If they are addicted to that, it can become like a habit... A lot of men do that without understanding why their feelings suddenly "vanish" for no apparent reason an why they become apathetic towards their woman...
He’s using for sex!!!
Maybe he was gay?
What is the number 1 thing?
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I had breast cancer n on a hormone blocker . How the hell do i do that .😢
I had breast cancer myself and hormone blockers as well, so I do understand your concerns. I do believe we can still be centered in feminine receptiveness and bring out the best in men. Best wishes for your good health!
1. 💪 raising his testosterone around you … polarity
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Correct
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I wonder why nature made it so strange that when man orgasm he needs space and the woman needs hugs and attention. It should align instead of being total opposite :(
Can someone give me the answer to when….? Because I don’t have time to see full video
It’s when they feel appreciated and valued. Cherished. Bc of something they were able to do for you
Little things you may request of him. Something he can accomplish easily for you and you reward for doing w appreciation
*Actually, it's been proven SINGLE women live longer, healthier lives. Whereas, married men live longer, healthier lives. Men benefit from having a wife, but women are STRESSED OUT having a husband.
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Most men I meet STRESS ME OUT. Low estrogen’s for me.