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Thank you well I don't have that much problema with meeting people (if you only count when I am going out) and I also don't have that much of a problem with rejection but that might have been because I already knew it (it was very very hard to actually say it tho(probably hardest thing I've ever done))
As an introvert, I always found it challenging to go out and meet new people and find a date, but having an extroverted friend was something I’ve always appreciated because a lot of them motivated me to go out more and when we’re out, they’re like a personal social navigator, helping to break the ice and making things less awkward when meeting new people. They’re also great at helping you find a date as they can act as your wingman/wingwoman.
True, people should try to make others confortable and try to help then or tolerate then behavior (by making no big deal and saying it alright to do some diferent and maybe quirky stuff) as saying "Just get over it bro" doens't make it easier
Bc the world doesn't revolve around you. The real world doesn't fit in your comfort zone. We can make our comfort zones bigger, but we can not make the world smaller.
@@micahsirles8319 No? It doens't mean It revolve around then If then start to respect then boudaries and understead then limits. Trying to make then confortable ins't a big sacrifice, but It take empaty of the other (like, imagine If you we're a introvert, and If you cannot, research a bit on what most of then like to do) and respect. I would recomend watching the video about "conforting things you can say to a introvert" (maded by the Same channel as this one). That a good start and then you go to the other videos
1:05 - Meeting new people 1:35 - Social Settings 2:07 - Needing to recharge 2:40 - Pressure to be outgoing 3:20 - Taking things slow 3:51 - Dealing with rejection I tried 🤷🏻♀️ hope it helps~
Same for me... I got two Arab extroverted friend, they always say that I’m boring, then they leaved me because they said that I slap them (which it’s not true) and that I got these long nails and harm them (which it’s also not true), I miss them being my friend... I loved them with all my heart... it’s just that I need more time to get to know them more and be a better friend... I’m glad that I still have a friend that it’s introverted (I think? But I’d say that he’s an ambivert like me) that it’s very understanding (just don’t make him mad) Edit: never mind, it was just a prank that they didn’t talk to me for like a week
@@No_name3654 Glad you still got a friend that understead you, those are valuable! And please don't think you did anything wrong as it your own way and then should't act like you're weird for just being youself and liking your own stuff (and also taking your own time to do talking/hanging out)
Bro, I have the same situation, it's pretty awkward since we rarely have anything to say to each other. Fortunately she is 60% introverted but I am 80% introverted or more. Silent conversations, neither of us are good at small talk so we just don't know what to say and it probably hinders the development of the relationship if you ask me. I'm also playing the waiting game as an introvert lol.
Timestamps 1). Meeting new people 1:04 2). Social settings 1:35 3). Needing to recharge 2:07 4). It's not pressure to be outgoing 2:38 5). Are you so quiet all the time or told that they're boring to date 3:07 6). Dealing with rejection 3:50 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
This video came at the right time lol. As an introverted, it's pretty difficult for me to really meet new people and making connections, and dating is not and exception in this. I'd just force myself to be more outgoing and coming out of my comfort-zone, maybe I just need some extroverted friends
This video honestly just helped solidify how I describe myself. An extrovert completely buried by an introvert. I always have this desire to talk to people, to want to do something with people, but everytime I try, I start to get stressed and need time to recharge. Sometimes, that recharge is days, weeks, or months long. I've also got this sort of party mode in my brain that whenever I'm at a place and having fun, all self control is gone and I do whatever comes to my mind. Then it's weird because there's people I talk to that I need a social battery for, but then others where I can be with forever. I'm just all over the place 😅
Based on your own description of yourself, you're not an introvert -- you're either an omnivert (someone who can randomly be an extrovert or an introvert depending on the situation), or an extrovert with social anxiety!
@@agentorange153 Honestly, I could be either, I still don't really know, lol. Didn't call myself an introvert per se, kinda just described what I thought I was/am, an ambivert. But I honestly might be an omnivert 🤷♂
*"you know, you don't talk much. I like you!"* -elle, Up. The beginning montage of Up taught us that introverts & extroverts can live a happy long life together 😁
I struggle with rejection, as an introvert, cause the rejection lead to complete ignoring. It happened around my birthday too, so not the greatest time 😅. Its been difficult getting over it, cause i always blame it on myself. And i hate the feeling of being in that, but here i am
I've been working up the courage to express my feelings to my crush. The biggest hurdle is the anticipation of rejection and just the thought of breaking down if they say no. But I'm still gonna try cause it seems worth it.
As someone with autism and is an introvert, I can totally relate to this. Meeting new people has always been a challenge for me mostly due to social anxiety.
I'm an introvert with severe social anxiety and this is so true. Going out seeing new people is a very scary experience and social therapies are scary.
Highly intelligent Aspie introvert with a severe phobia (but NOT social anxiety) here -- for me, finding someone compatible with me is the biggest problem, I can only ever date a fellow introvert, and they are so hard to find and to approach!
As someone who isn't necessarily the most outgoing or extroverted person, I really enjoyed this video. And even though I'm not currently dating anyone, I still could relate to many of the points made in this video. For example, I feel that I prefer having meaningful interactions with someone(with friendships, romantic relationships, etc), opposed to just small talk. Even when making new friends or meeting new people, I may need a little of bit time to "warm up" to them, prior to being comfortable when talking to them. Not to say that small talk is bad or anything but if I want to form a genuine, real connection with someone, I at least want to try to get to know them a little bit. However this in itself is not the easiest thing in the world for me. Overall, I thoroughly enjoyed this video. Keep up the great work @Psych2go!
I’m an introvert and I’m dating an extrovert and she’s helped me a lot when it comes to meeting new people and we’ve agreed on that we should probably take things slow. But fast forward and I’m ready to speed things up a bit but I don’t know how to say I want too.
As an introvert i can agree to everything they said. I had a crush on this one girl for 2 years before telling her about it becouse I was scared about rejection. Now we have been dating for 2 months and it has been the best time of my life, so thank you psych2Go for giving me the courage to tell her. ❤
I love these videos. I've recently gained the courage to file a divorce with a toxic partner, face my traumas, and so much more thanks to this channel. These videos give me the courage to face the things in life that scare me. Thank you so much. ❤
I'm glad I'm not the only introvert that is trying to gain a significant other but is having issues doing so. This video covers some of the struggles I'm having very well; great work! :]
As an introvert, I find hard to do things socially and I also find it hard to ask for help when I need it cuz I grew up being a DIY and dating has never occurred in my mind cuz I don't see the point of involving someone in your life romantically
As an introvert i can relate to that i only starts dating in my 30s and my first boyfriend in my 20s i didnt know how it happened coz im not used to dating but hes so tricky i didnt even know we are already a couple 😂😂😂 i thought were just close buddies 😅
For me, the biggest challenge is to meet new people, I actually prefer IRL one on one meetings, but I want the person I am seeing to be at the very least not put off by me because I don’t want to be someone’s discomfort. That and mainly the sheer cost of energy required to meet new people with no guarantee in sight is making the process so difficult and extra tiresome for me.
Same here -- I want to find someone compatible (i.e. an introvert, among other things), but these kinds of people are THE hardest to find, PRECISELY BECAUSE they like to hang out all alone! Plus, I'm also a patriot in an area where almost everyone else are flaming (for lack of a better word that also starts with an F) liberals, so for me the challenge is squared!
I'm an introvert, but I date a extroverted person. although a lot of people hate the fact that these types of people are always very "active" (or whatever), but I actually find it very interesting. I never felt uncomfortable around her just because she "talks a lot", she always gives me the space I need. and above all, unlike many people, she always understood me just the way I am, she never found me "tedious" or "boring". which I actually think is a very good point.
It’s sucks because all my life I’ve been trying to make a suit of armour to be comfortable in society and now I have to take it off to be vulnerable and meet people not fair ☹️
As an introvert, I am done with "dating". I think I am gonna die alone. Ppl don't understand me or may be they don't want to understand. I push myself to socialize, bt every time I do so, I get bullied or at mursy of someone or get ighnored. I have lost hopes on love. May be am not born to experience it ever. And that's the life.
I used to think that am an introvert until I meet my husband😂 , super introverted that people makes him exhausted and that he dont want to go out because he doesn't want people to talk to him, he just want me and I loved him more because of that, I don't like stress and argument so much I dont like problem that are relationship is like a breeze, been together for 7 years with zero fights hope to still be that way forever I wish.❤❤❤
As an introvert, this video is accurate and very helpful for others that are venturing into the dating world. I honestly wish that my peers who are also extroverts can understand and take the time to learn about these topics. I find dating to be a challenge and they always force me to join them in social outings. I always deny the requests because I feel extremely anxious and drained but with the help of some really good, close friends that understands my introversion, the moments are always unforgettable and relaxing.
I heard someone describe the relationship as introverts being a flower and the extroverts as the bee needing the pollen. Probably the most accurate depiction I’ve heard.
Sounds accurate. One is a parasite that only takes and takes without any reflection, and the other just gives up in frustration over the parasites lack of intelligence.
This really resonate to me so well since I don't like risking rejections and I find meaningful relationship a lot more important than just a burst of desire to date, my friends hooked me up with new people so its really hard to adjust on how I interact with them since I don't know them in a lot more deeper level, and that's right its not like we don't want to social interact its just tiring when it takes a lot of time and energy, also for me dating just for the fun of it is a complete waste of energy and time, and going to clubs is really uncomfortable I rather go to a more private restaurant or even a cafe
Once I again this video actually does speak to me directly to my soul at a personal level. Because the problem is with me is that I don't exactly trust most women as an introverted guy so if anything why should even bother to go out to look for someone who likes me for me if most guys that are more outgoing than me couldn't even keep a good relationship with a girl. And what actually doesn't help my fear of losing it all to a girl is how society always portraying women as angels and us as demons!!! 👼😈
Introvert here. It's very hard for me to put myself out there. So I stay home and connect with others online. Sometimes it is sufficient, sometimes it isn't. It depends.
I tried dating an introvert. I’m fully extroverted. Came across needy, clingy and was told “planning everything is not how relationships or friendships are suppose to work”. Well having alone time and shutting down I don’t see as much of one either.
6 years is alot. I can understand the trauma you've went through but relying on past for this long may cause harm to your life..we must look after ourselves first. Give yourself another chance if you can but don't hurry up
@@alphachad69 Thanks Chad. I feel a lot better now. I got myself a better job and gained my driver’s licence since then. The rest of my social life is either the same or better than it was back then as well. All I will say is that the relationship that ended six years ago was the only one I was ever in and it was the next year after graduating high school.
What you said in this video suits me 100% at all times. Social anxieties, bullying although childhood and my teenage years as well as a terrible first relationship with someone who just used me for her own interests, multiply the difficulties with dating or even just to get in contact and adapt to new people like 1000 times. Feel pretty much like a failure just by thinking about it but maybe I am also just meant to exist in social context.
Almost as if I wrote this. What was terrible about your first relationship, if you don't mind me asking? I had a similar relationship like yours. She dated me only because she didn't want to be alone and because of my looks. I remember it being so weird that she wants to date me while knowing nothing about me.
@@enrikoheringh5520 Huh, if it was about my looks I would have been happier tbh :,D No, she was my classmate at the time and while she had a thing for me too initially, she first gave me a no. I was very sad but she decided that she was wrong and so she acted as being my GF for one and a half year or so. She'd never let me hug or kiss her tho, when we talked it was also just about her issues because she didn't get along with her dad. Her family was actually really nice but well, teenage hit hard. One day she called me via Skype using the webcam I bought her as a birthday gift and she told me a little embarrassed that she'd go with another boy. She called me again another time via Skype and they both made out in front of the camera. I borrowed her Inception on DVD before all that happened and when she gave it back to me, she brought her boyfriend along as well, she did french kissing and all that stuff. All that hit real hard, I was emotionally super unstable and my host parents were of the high expectations kind, so instead of really supporting me, I have been told things like "you are a walking zombie" or "you have have something about you to make women be interested in you.". My ex even joked about my stupid looks at the phone when we talked and yea... it all traumatized me big time. I found a therapist recently which tries to help me getting things fixed but there are other factors in life which I need to fix first before I can tackle the relationship trauma and suffering from being TOO introverted.
My husband and I are introverts. We both prefer each other's company and are always together, never spending time alone from each other. However we both hate big crowds, hanging out with other people, and pretty much what is listed in this video.
Extroverts literally have it easier in life, being an introvert is like living on hard mode. But if you're an autistic, introverted man with social anxiety, you're living on impossible mode, and we're also a lot rarer than extroverts so most people just don't understand us. I wish I was just born an extrovert, my life would be 10x better right now.
Me as an introvert I gave up on dating because there's not much conversations between me and the other person, like I'm usually the quiet type.. I think ppl might find it boring sometimes
I’ve got the double whammy of introversion and a low level neurodivergence that makes me in capable of knowing when flirting is happening. 😅 Blend that with 0 self esteem and self confidence, and you’ve got one very lonely guy 😅
Yeahhh I don't even know if I could ever try to flirt with someone or ask them out cause I'd be so scared of being rejected. Like- the moment I ask "are you single" so I know, then they already know what I'd ask next :(
Relatable. My experiences of making any kind of move are so bad that I was once called ‘a creep who should be on a public watchlist’ when I tried to ask someone out in high school. Never dared to make a move since then. I still get memories of that experience to this day.
Me: "I wish a nice guy would just come talk to me when I'm out shopping or something." Also me when some guy talks to me when I'm out: "Why are you talking to me?! I'm not talking to you!"
Recognizing there rarely is a perfect scenario for social interactions for introverts (always something we could say or could've done better) is there a preferred means of approach you would personally appreciate if you were to be approached?
I just struggle to meet young new people my age who are also single because my introverted life doesn’t often put me next to others in similar situations. Most of my friends from high school have moved away, and unfortunately I’ve kind of just been left here to find new people in my life. I have great coworkers at my job who I get along with well, but at home and on my weekends, it gets a little lonely. I’m sure someday I’ll meet some awesome people and find an amazing romantic partner, I just have to be a little more patient.
To be honest, this is the 1st video of yours about introverts that I actually watched. As usual, I'm a schizophrenic. I find myself getting overwhelmed by meeting people and make too many insecurities around me but I sometimes ruin myself or don't do anything being alone. I was erotomaniac + paranoid type when making obsessions with crushes who I've only communicated through my mind without any physical interaction. So, I think that's supposed to be my own world. I found a new society which isn't typically forcing themselves to isolate me. Although, they also question me about the same kinds of things mentioned in this video such as why do I refuse to eat together sharing the same package of lunch, why do I hesitate to stick together with others etc. even though there're no good answers for some of those even for me. Dating is something which makes me super paranoid but rather tired and currently I've lost the entire interest in it. Does it mean that I'm an introvert?
I also doubt why I can see paranoid personality disorder in the DSM 5 and not introvert thing in it. I mean, by definition, is being an introvert disastrous?
@@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988 No, being an introvert is NOT a psychological disorder -- it is in fact one of the major temperaments! But schizophrenia and paranoia ARE indeed psychological disorders!
As an introvert /homebody i wanna date another introvert/homebody. However, since we like being at home and dont socialize as much you will never cross paths. Its the catch 22 of dating
The irony, most at an outside glance would just assume I am extroverted because I’m naturally talkative and can easily hold a conversation. They forget that unless the other party opens the door for me, there’s a good chance I will go out of my way to avoid direct contact with a stranger. Dating has been impossible thus as it feels like the issues double.
Im an introvert, and the biggest problem i would have with dating would be keeping a conversation going. Its really hard for me to have a conversation, and thats why i prefer being in a group when i do socialize. If anyone has tips for me to keep a convo going, i would appreciate it
My desire to live a life was pretty much non existent from the start. I had 0 motivation really . But as time went on helping my family and friends seemed like the only purpose I had in this world. I do love gaming but as I got used to it , it became something I was happy to do as long as I get a kick out of it . Ik my life sounds pretty boring. I'm satisfied with my care but I hate to see how other people Just don't seem to care about the world as much as I do. The only thing I find attractive is intelligence and kindness. This world is massive but there are very little things that I find interesting.
As a teenage introvert and autistic I spend most of my time interacting with the people I already know or close to I hated changing schools as it took me a while to finally get settled and actually make friends I actually connect with As for dating well have not even tried yet as the thought of having to meet nor have a conversation with the girl I like but don't know is terrifying
My bf have mild autism and introvert and im an introvert but it took so long before he totally trust me that im serious about him but when hes sure, he is truly an honest and loyal bf 😊
In school at one point, somebody admitted (to my understanding) that they had feelings for me... I have a habit of automatically replying to questions with "Sorry?", while I'm contemplating. And that's exactly what I said to them... And they took it as (at least I assume so) "No, sorry." Yeah I still kinda feel guilty about that to this day... Awkward...
Ever since grade 6 (now I’m grade 10) I feel I have been more to myself… I’m not sure if I’m introverted or if I’m just quiet… maybe it’s a bunch of stuff but I just don’t feel comfortable talking to people because I feel like I would be bothering them with something not important enough… especially why it comes to asking teachers to go to the bathroom… I connect with this video and some of the other videos on this channel… but I do not see this helping me … not now anyway… found this video looking through the channel. I’m not really looking to date but I decided to watch anyway… I have had some people talk to me now and then … idk why they would take to me … (I only talk when other people talk to me) but I either get the weird kid who talks about skibbidy toilet or some kid asking if I like anyone … besides that it’s all about class work… I have never had a crush on someone and I think the reason is that I do not think I look good enough to even get the words out to ask anyone out or even talk to anyone … honestly I’m starting to think most people think I have some sort of autism or something but I have been tested for everything under the sun and all tests have came negative… and because I don’t talk to anyone people don’t know me but the quiet guy. If you actually read is comment I wrote at 1:11am because I can’t get to sleep then I’m sorry you had to read a person’s personal issues… I might delete this comment but idk … I hope at least one other person can relate to something I said… have a good life everyone😊
I've been told that nobody would wanna date me because I'm boring...and that only another introvert could possibly 'handle' my introversion. I don't take such comments to heart, but sometimes...it's not nice to hear.
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Thank you well I don't have that much problema with meeting people (if you only count when I am going out) and I also don't have that much of a problem with rejection but that might have been because I already knew it (it was very very hard to actually say it tho(probably hardest thing I've ever done))
As an introvert, I always found it challenging to go out and meet new people and find a date, but having an extroverted friend was something I’ve always appreciated because a lot of them motivated me to go out more and when we’re out, they’re like a personal social navigator, helping to break the ice and making things less awkward when meeting new people. They’re also great at helping you find a date as they can act as your wingman/wingwoman.
Omg same, but I yet have to find that extroverted friend
I feel the same!
@@Nikojira same -.-
Same here man
Same 😅@@Nikojira
People always tell introverts to be more talkative and leave their comfort zones, but why don't people *make* the zones more comfortable then!
True, people should try to make others confortable and try to help then or tolerate then behavior (by making no big deal and saying it alright to do some diferent and maybe quirky stuff) as saying "Just get over it bro" doens't make it easier
@@a_1973_love_yourself agreed :)
People aren't educated enough ding-dong. Be a teacher.
Bc the world doesn't revolve around you. The real world doesn't fit in your comfort zone. We can make our comfort zones bigger, but we can not make the world smaller.
@@micahsirles8319 No? It doens't mean It revolve around then If then start to respect then boudaries and understead then limits. Trying to make then confortable ins't a big sacrifice, but It take empaty of the other (like, imagine If you we're a introvert, and If you cannot, research a bit on what most of then like to do) and respect. I would recomend watching the video about "conforting things you can say to a introvert" (maded by the Same channel as this one). That a good start and then you go to the other videos
1:05 - Meeting new people
1:35 - Social Settings
2:07 - Needing to recharge
2:40 - Pressure to be outgoing
3:20 - Taking things slow
3:51 - Dealing with rejection
I tried 🤷🏻♀️ hope it helps~
❤
You are a hero!
Thanks it helped
my anxiety got anxious while reading these and imagining an introvert doing those
Thanks!
As an introvert, who is single and doesn't know how to date well, I agree.
And you’re a narcissist’s favorite target 😢
@@Texasveganbabe ... I just have to laugh
I hate cause people always think I’m boring , and then they leave before they even got to know the “ real me “
You're a treasure. They're just ignorant and were never worth your time in the first place.
Same for me... I got two Arab extroverted friend, they always say that I’m boring, then they leaved me because they said that I slap them (which it’s not true) and that I got these long nails and harm them (which it’s also not true), I miss them being my friend... I loved them with all my heart... it’s just that I need more time to get to know them more and be a better friend... I’m glad that I still have a friend that it’s introverted (I think? But I’d say that he’s an ambivert like me) that it’s very understanding (just don’t make him mad)
Edit: never mind, it was just a prank that they didn’t talk to me for like a week
So true
i feel the same
@@No_name3654 Glad you still got a friend that understead you, those are valuable! And please don't think you did anything wrong as it your own way and then should't act like you're weird for just being youself and liking your own stuff (and also taking your own time to do talking/hanging out)
As an introvert dating a fellow introvert, I can confirm most of this is true.
How did you even manage to find each other? Just curious
@@TheMCzorro yeah, how?, I'm curious as well
@@TheMCzorrouhhh it was the wind! Trust
That sounds so nice
Bro, I have the same situation, it's pretty awkward since we rarely have anything to say to each other. Fortunately she is 60% introverted but I am 80% introverted or more. Silent conversations, neither of us are good at small talk so we just don't know what to say and it probably hinders the development of the relationship if you ask me. I'm also playing the waiting game as an introvert lol.
Thank you so much!!! Im dating an introvert and im looking at your videos in a high quantity to fully be the best partner to her
You're so welcome!
Wouah, thank you for being considerate for your partner ❤
@@Psych2go i really love you guys !
@@BenMojo. thank you! Our relationship has only been blooming!
Good luck to u both!!
I'm also a introvert so yeah i can agree how relevant the video is 😢 and I'm still healing from past rejection as you said at the end
Creator of video Can you help me with healing back soon because its feeling like so negative and suicidal 😢 😅
I am not the creator, but... i would like to tell you that... there is always hope @suryagamers1102
Timestamps
1). Meeting new people 1:04
2). Social settings 1:35
3). Needing to recharge 2:07
4). It's not pressure to be outgoing 2:38
5). Are you so quiet all the time or told that they're boring to date 3:07
6). Dealing with rejection 3:50
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Thanks its helped me a lot
This video came at the right time lol.
As an introverted, it's pretty difficult for me to really meet new people and making connections, and dating is not and exception in this. I'd just force myself to be more outgoing and coming out of my comfort-zone, maybe I just need some extroverted friends
Same Feeling
@@SarahsPyschology Find an introvert so you guys don't have to talk to each other.
This video honestly just helped solidify how I describe myself. An extrovert completely buried by an introvert. I always have this desire to talk to people, to want to do something with people, but everytime I try, I start to get stressed and need time to recharge. Sometimes, that recharge is days, weeks, or months long. I've also got this sort of party mode in my brain that whenever I'm at a place and having fun, all self control is gone and I do whatever comes to my mind. Then it's weird because there's people I talk to that I need a social battery for, but then others where I can be with forever.
I'm just all over the place 😅
Based on your own description of yourself, you're not an introvert -- you're either an omnivert (someone who can randomly be an extrovert or an introvert depending on the situation), or an extrovert with social anxiety!
@@agentorange153 Honestly, I could be either, I still don't really know, lol. Didn't call myself an introvert per se, kinda just described what I thought I was/am, an ambivert. But I honestly might be an omnivert 🤷♂
*"you know, you don't talk much. I like you!"*
-elle, Up.
The beginning montage of Up taught us that introverts & extroverts can live a happy long life together 😁
Love that reference. Total comfort movie.
Exactly like me and my sweetheart!
I struggle with rejection, as an introvert, cause the rejection lead to complete ignoring. It happened around my birthday too, so not the greatest time 😅. Its been difficult getting over it, cause i always blame it on myself. And i hate the feeling of being in that, but here i am
So sorry to hear that…
I've been working up the courage to express my feelings to my crush. The biggest hurdle is the anticipation of rejection and just the thought of breaking down if they say no. But I'm still gonna try cause it seems worth it.
@@thegooddevil6356 I'll be here
As someone with autism and is an introvert, I can totally relate to this. Meeting new people has always been a challenge for me mostly due to social anxiety.
Me too! Im also an autistic introvert with really bad social anxiety haha. Which I guess isnt great, but glad I can relate :)
Im an introvert and my bf have mild autism and introvert too so we have our own world when were together 😅
Fellow Autie introvert here 💜
I'm an introvert with severe social anxiety and this is so true.
Going out seeing new people is a very scary experience and social therapies are scary.
Highly intelligent Aspie introvert with a severe phobia (but NOT social anxiety) here -- for me, finding someone compatible with me is the biggest problem, I can only ever date a fellow introvert, and they are so hard to find and to approach!
I'm an extro and I used to date an intro along with being close friends to intros. This is very helpful! 💛
As someone who isn't necessarily the most outgoing or extroverted person, I really enjoyed this video. And even though I'm not currently dating anyone, I still could relate to many of the points made in this video. For example, I feel that I prefer having meaningful interactions with someone(with friendships, romantic relationships, etc), opposed to just small talk. Even when making new friends or meeting new people, I may need a little of bit time to "warm up" to them, prior to being comfortable when talking to them. Not to say that small talk is bad or anything but if I want to form a genuine, real connection with someone, I at least want to try to get to know them a little bit. However this in itself is not the easiest thing in the world for me. Overall, I thoroughly enjoyed this video. Keep up the great work @Psych2go!
Thanks for the video, once I get my life together and a home, ill start putting myself out there.
Seeing how many people relate to this video as much as I do really warms my heart
I’m an introvert and I’m dating an extrovert and she’s helped me a lot when it comes to meeting new people and we’ve agreed on that we should probably take things slow. But fast forward and I’m ready to speed things up a bit but I don’t know how to say I want too.
As an introvert i can agree to everything they said. I had a crush on this one girl for 2 years before telling her about it becouse I was scared about rejection. Now we have been dating for 2 months and it has been the best time of my life, so thank you psych2Go for giving me the courage to tell her. ❤
I love these videos. I've recently gained the courage to file a divorce with a toxic partner, face my traumas, and so much more thanks to this channel.
These videos give me the courage to face the things in life that scare me. Thank you so much. ❤
This was an incredible comment to read. I’m so glad you are taking the steps you need to get better.
Great video! As an introvert, I had an idea for a future video: ways to meet potential partners that don't involve dating apps or going to a bar.
Most of this is so true for me, the fact that I am an introvert and dating an introvert 😅
You roo?
How did you find each other?
Excellent video. More ppl should know about that
I'm glad I'm not the only introvert that is trying to gain a significant other but is having issues doing so. This video covers some of the struggles I'm having very well; great work! :]
As an introvert, I find hard to do things socially and I also find it hard to ask for help when I need it cuz I grew up being a DIY and dating has never occurred in my mind cuz I don't see the point of involving someone in your life romantically
As an introvert i can relate to that i only starts dating in my 30s and my first boyfriend in my 20s i didnt know how it happened coz im not used to dating but hes so tricky i didnt even know we are already a couple 😂😂😂 i thought were just close buddies 😅
I did enjoy the break from the usual art style on the channel and enjoyed the storyboard look to the vid. helpful as always with the information.
For me, the biggest challenge is to meet new people, I actually prefer IRL one on one meetings, but I want the person I am seeing to be at the very least not put off by me because I don’t want to be someone’s discomfort. That and mainly the sheer cost of energy required to meet new people with no guarantee in sight is making the process so difficult and extra tiresome for me.
Same here -- I want to find someone compatible (i.e. an introvert, among other things), but these kinds of people are THE hardest to find, PRECISELY BECAUSE they like to hang out all alone! Plus, I'm also a patriot in an area where almost everyone else are flaming (for lack of a better word that also starts with an F) liberals, so for me the challenge is squared!
I'm an introvert, but I date a extroverted person. although a lot of people hate the fact that these types of people are always very "active" (or whatever), but I actually find it very interesting. I never felt uncomfortable around her just because she "talks a lot", she always gives me the space I need. and above all, unlike many people, she always understood me just the way I am, she never found me "tedious" or "boring". which I actually think is a very good point.
Especially the first and the last point I feel. I instantly felt understood. Thank you!
It’s sucks because all my life I’ve been trying to make a suit of armour to be comfortable in society and now I have to take it off to be vulnerable and meet people not fair ☹️
I always been introvert, but gotta say i always open up when im in trust with someone
As an introvert, I am done with "dating". I think I am gonna die alone. Ppl don't understand me or may be they don't want to understand. I push myself to socialize, bt every time I do so, I get bullied or at mursy of someone or get ighnored. I have lost hopes on love. May be am not born to experience it ever. And that's the life.
I used to think that am an introvert until I meet my husband😂 , super introverted that people makes him exhausted and that he dont want to go out because he doesn't want people to talk to him, he just want me and I loved him more because of that, I don't like stress and argument so much I dont like problem that are relationship is like a breeze, been together for 7 years with zero fights hope to still be that way forever I wish.❤❤❤
I'm an introvert getting to know a nice socially introvert girl, this video is a great help! Taking things slow with her.
Same here! How did you find her?
As an introvert, this video is accurate and very helpful for others that are venturing into the dating world.
I honestly wish that my peers who are also extroverts can understand and take the time to learn about these topics. I find dating to be a challenge and they always force me to join them in social outings. I always deny the requests because I feel extremely anxious and drained but with the help of some really good, close friends that understands my introversion, the moments are always unforgettable and relaxing.
I think it might be better for you to try dating another introvert -- this way there won't be any pressure to go to social outings!
I'm definitely an introvert. ❤
#Introvertgang 😊
looking forward to the complete version
Watching your videos makes me feel less alone, thank you
I heard someone describe the relationship as introverts being a flower and the extroverts as the bee needing the pollen. Probably the most accurate depiction I’ve heard.
wtf does that mean
@@-AmPO one thrives more off the other
Sounds accurate. One is a parasite that only takes and takes without any reflection, and the other just gives up in frustration over the parasites lack of intelligence.
This new editing style brings me much joy :D
I liked it even
This really resonate to me so well since I don't like risking rejections and I find meaningful relationship a lot more important than just a burst of desire to date, my friends hooked me up with new people so its really hard to adjust on how I interact with them since I don't know them in a lot more deeper level, and that's right its not like we don't want to social interact its just tiring when it takes a lot of time and energy, also for me dating just for the fun of it is a complete waste of energy and time, and going to clubs is really uncomfortable I rather go to a more private restaurant or even a cafe
Once I again this video actually does speak to me directly to my soul at a personal level. Because the problem is with me is that I don't exactly trust most women as an introverted guy so if anything why should even bother to go out to look for someone who likes me for me if most guys that are more outgoing than me couldn't even keep a good relationship with a girl. And what actually doesn't help my fear of losing it all to a girl is how society always portraying women as angels and us as demons!!! 👼😈
Introvert here. It's very hard for me to put myself out there. So I stay home and connect with others online. Sometimes it is sufficient, sometimes it isn't. It depends.
I tried dating an introvert. I’m fully extroverted. Came across needy, clingy and was told “planning everything is not how relationships or friendships are suppose to work”. Well having alone time and shutting down I don’t see as much of one either.
I agree that moving on is hard for me currently and I'm scared to invest my time and energy in someone else now
So true mate. I have been single for six years and not even trying to take things beyond a platonic level with anyone I meet.
6 years is alot. I can understand the trauma you've went through but relying on past for this long may cause harm to your life..we must look after ourselves first. Give yourself another chance if you can but don't hurry up
@@alphachad69 Thanks Chad. I feel a lot better now. I got myself a better job and gained my driver’s licence since then. The rest of my social life is either the same or better than it was back then as well. All I will say is that the relationship that ended six years ago was the only one I was ever in and it was the next year after graduating high school.
Point 1,3 and the end of 4 are SO TRUE for me.
(Ans also i just love this channel cause i can relate to so much)
What you said in this video suits me 100% at all times.
Social anxieties, bullying although childhood and my teenage years as well as a terrible first relationship with someone who just used me for her own interests, multiply the difficulties with dating or even just to get in contact and adapt to new people like 1000 times.
Feel pretty much like a failure just by thinking about it but maybe I am also just meant to exist in social context.
Almost as if I wrote this.
What was terrible about your first relationship, if you don't mind me asking?
I had a similar relationship like yours. She dated me only because she didn't want to be alone and because of my looks. I remember it being so weird that she wants to date me while knowing nothing about me.
@@enrikoheringh5520 Huh, if it was about my looks I would have been happier tbh :,D
No, she was my classmate at the time and while she had a thing for me too initially, she first gave me a no.
I was very sad but she decided that she was wrong and so she acted as being my GF for one and a half year or so.
She'd never let me hug or kiss her tho, when we talked it was also just about her issues because she didn't get along with her dad.
Her family was actually really nice but well, teenage hit hard.
One day she called me via Skype using the webcam I bought her as a birthday gift and she told me a little embarrassed that she'd go with another boy.
She called me again another time via Skype and they both made out in front of the camera.
I borrowed her Inception on DVD before all that happened and when she gave it back to me, she brought her boyfriend along as well, she did french kissing and all that stuff.
All that hit real hard, I was emotionally super unstable and my host parents were of the high expectations kind, so instead of really supporting me, I have been told things like "you are a walking zombie" or "you have have something about you to make women be interested in you.".
My ex even joked about my stupid looks at the phone when we talked and yea... it all traumatized me big time.
I found a therapist recently which tries to help me getting things fixed but there are other factors in life which I need to fix first before I can tackle the relationship trauma and suffering from being TOO introverted.
Bruh. Relatable.
School "DISCO NEXT WEEK!"
Everyone "LETS GO!"
Me and my friends "That corner be looking mighty fine"
My husband and I are introverts. We both prefer each other's company and are always together, never spending time alone from each other. However we both hate big crowds, hanging out with other people, and pretty much what is listed in this video.
Extroverts literally have it easier in life, being an introvert is like living on hard mode. But if you're an autistic, introverted man with social anxiety, you're living on impossible mode, and we're also a lot rarer than extroverts so most people just don't understand us. I wish I was just born an extrovert, my life would be 10x better right now.
Me as an introvert I gave up on dating because there's not much conversations between me and the other person, like I'm usually the quiet type.. I think ppl might find it boring sometimes
I’ve got the double whammy of introversion and a low level neurodivergence that makes me in capable of knowing when flirting is happening. 😅
Blend that with 0 self esteem and self confidence, and you’ve got one very lonely guy 😅
Yeahhh I don't even know if I could ever try to flirt with someone or ask them out cause I'd be so scared of being rejected. Like- the moment I ask "are you single" so I know, then they already know what I'd ask next :(
Relatable. My experiences of making any kind of move are so bad that I was once called ‘a creep who should be on a public watchlist’ when I tried to ask someone out in high school. Never dared to make a move since then. I still get memories of that experience to this day.
everything about this was scary accurate especially the final bit at the end
Me: "I wish a nice guy would just come talk to me when I'm out shopping or something."
Also me when some guy talks to me when I'm out: "Why are you talking to me?! I'm not talking to you!"
Recognizing there rarely is a perfect scenario for social interactions for introverts (always something we could say or could've done better) is there a preferred means of approach you would personally appreciate if you were to be approached?
Thank you so much for making this!
I just struggle to meet young new people my age who are also single because my introverted life doesn’t often put me next to others in similar situations. Most of my friends from high school have moved away, and unfortunately I’ve kind of just been left here to find new people in my life. I have great coworkers at my job who I get along with well, but at home and on my weekends, it gets a little lonely. I’m sure someday I’ll meet some awesome people and find an amazing romantic partner, I just have to be a little more patient.
Finally mustered up the courage to try an dating app and the first person i match with tries to scam me.
Why bother. Feels to me that love is dying
It is astounding how seen I feel by this video
To be honest, this is the 1st video of yours about introverts that I actually watched. As usual, I'm a schizophrenic. I find myself getting overwhelmed by meeting people and make too many insecurities around me but I sometimes ruin myself or don't do anything being alone. I was erotomaniac + paranoid type when making obsessions with crushes who I've only communicated through my mind without any physical interaction. So, I think that's supposed to be my own world. I found a new society which isn't typically forcing themselves to isolate me. Although, they also question me about the same kinds of things mentioned in this video such as why do I refuse to eat together sharing the same package of lunch, why do I hesitate to stick together with others etc. even though there're no good answers for some of those even for me. Dating is something which makes me super paranoid but rather tired and currently I've lost the entire interest in it. Does it mean that I'm an introvert?
I also doubt why I can see paranoid personality disorder in the DSM 5 and not introvert thing in it. I mean, by definition, is being an introvert disastrous?
@@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988 No, being an introvert is NOT a psychological disorder -- it is in fact one of the major temperaments! But schizophrenia and paranoia ARE indeed psychological disorders!
@@agentorange153 Okay. Thank you!
Thanks to this channel I feel understood.
We need more videos about introversion, with non-recycled topics.
It’s a challenge when it’s introvert and extrovert
As an introvert /homebody i wanna date another introvert/homebody. However, since we like being at home and dont socialize as much you will never cross paths. Its the catch 22 of dating
I did not expect a meme 10 seconds in a psych to go video. But i loved it
Me as an introvert have learnt a lot from here ❤
Did you upload the half video? 😮
The picture with a turtle and a rod was hilarious 😂
yeah🤭
The irony, most at an outside glance would just assume I am extroverted because I’m naturally talkative and can easily hold a conversation. They forget that unless the other party opens the door for me, there’s a good chance I will go out of my way to avoid direct contact with a stranger. Dating has been impossible thus as it feels like the issues double.
I felt like you just told me in these few minutes 😭
Im an introvert, and the biggest problem i would have with dating would be keeping a conversation going. Its really hard for me to have a conversation, and thats why i prefer being in a group when i do socialize. If anyone has tips for me to keep a convo going, i would appreciate it
My desire to live a life was pretty much non existent from the start.
I had 0 motivation really .
But as time went on helping my family and friends seemed like the only purpose I had in this world.
I do love gaming but as I got used to it , it became something I was happy to do as long as I get a kick out of it .
Ik my life sounds pretty boring.
I'm satisfied with my care but I hate to see how other people
Just don't seem to care about the world as much as I do.
The only thing I find attractive is intelligence and kindness.
This world is massive but there are very little things that I find interesting.
I went to my friends wedding 6 months ago, even though I had a great time then, I haven't gone out since..
Try 6 years.
Thank you so much for this video.
Wow, you couldn't have captured me better 😕
But it's great video 👍❤
As a teenage introvert and autistic I spend most of my time interacting with the people I already know or close to
I hated changing schools as it took me a while to finally get settled and actually make friends I actually connect with
As for dating well have not even tried yet as the thought of having to meet nor have a conversation with the girl I like but don't know is terrifying
Relatable.
Relatable
My bf have mild autism and introvert and im an introvert but it took so long before he totally trust me that im serious about him but when hes sure, he is truly an honest and loyal bf 😊
In school at one point, somebody admitted (to my understanding) that they had feelings for me...
I have a habit of automatically replying to questions with "Sorry?", while I'm contemplating.
And that's exactly what I said to them...
And they took it as (at least I assume so) "No, sorry."
Yeah I still kinda feel guilty about that to this day...
Awkward...
I always need a day to recharge after a day of socialising. It's always a PJ day, the day after! 😂
This is me on all accounts. Thankfully, I'm also patient. It's tough though, ngl.
I'm with one now.
Can't get any closer She still won't let me have her
Yes I feel this to be very true!
Ever since grade 6 (now I’m grade 10) I feel I have been more to myself… I’m not sure if I’m introverted or if I’m just quiet… maybe it’s a bunch of stuff but I just don’t feel comfortable talking to people because I feel like I would be bothering them with something not important enough… especially why it comes to asking teachers to go to the bathroom… I connect with this video and some of the other videos on this channel… but I do not see this helping me … not now anyway… found this video looking through the channel. I’m not really looking to date but I decided to watch anyway… I have had some people talk to me now and then … idk why they would take to me … (I only talk when other people talk to me) but I either get the weird kid who talks about skibbidy toilet or some kid asking if I like anyone … besides that it’s all about class work… I have never had a crush on someone and I think the reason is that I do not think I look good enough to even get the words out to ask anyone out or even talk to anyone … honestly I’m starting to think most people think I have some sort of autism or something but I have been tested for everything under the sun and all tests have came negative… and because I don’t talk to anyone people don’t know me but the quiet guy.
If you actually read is comment I wrote at 1:11am because I can’t get to sleep then I’m sorry you had to read a person’s personal issues… I might delete this comment but idk … I hope at least one other person can relate to something I said… have a good life everyone😊
Omg the extrovert video meme lmaooo so good!!
As an introvert who has never been on a date i relate 💀
I am an introvert who has never dated before. This might be helpfull.
Don't break the streak
0:08 Yup... thats true
We're early again, yahoo!!
This ends so abrupt that I thought others steal your contents again😅
it cant be a psych2go video without a meme
Really?
''Challenges of Dating As An Introvert''
- Understandable, have a good day.
3:51 I feel like this last challenge fits me well as an introvert
I've been told that nobody would wanna date me because I'm boring...and that only another introvert could possibly 'handle' my introversion. I don't take such comments to heart, but sometimes...it's not nice to hear.
I _know_ I'm boring - but only first.
I'm going to date an introvert guy on Saturday afternoon so that's interesting to know X) Thxx
My extroverted friend thinks that emotional exhaustion doesn’t exist.
He probably thinks so cause he thinks everyone is like him, just because he isn't aware of it doesn't mean it isn't real.
Dating? You’ve gotta be kidding. I’m still working on making friends.
I loved this video but I got an idea! Introvert x introvert :0
Thanks for this video very relatable
Honestly, I've been there.