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- An introvert has no shortage of admirable traits. They are creative, intelligent, and independent souls with a loving and gentle heart. Does that sound like you? Despite these number of good traits, not all is pretty for an introvert. In the video, let's explore some of the dark sides of introverts.
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Disclaimer: No introvert is alike, but there’s a tendency for them to share similar personality quirks with others of the same energy levels.
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Comment below if you're an introvert or extrovert or in between. Let's see how many of us there are ;)
Definitely introvert, but I'm pretty expressive online heh
I love youu:))
I'm an introvert :')
Introvert lololol
Introvert :,)
Best part about being in the introvert club:
There is no club
Also: we never have any meetings
Yep. Best and worst.
Or the onlyone in the club. Lol
Let's make plans to not bother each other.
We introverts should make a club
Online
Only in text
With food
To be so understanding and never understood hits different..
It's one of the most painful things we introverts go through on a daily basis.
@@jdjzr9343
True so very painfully true
in pained twerking
Hmph
Exactly... It's the biggest struggle for introverts... :(
Signs You Might Be an Introvert:
Need quiet to concentrate.
Are reflective.
Are self-aware.
Take time making decisions.
Feel comfortable being alone.
Don't like group work.
Prefer to write rather than talk.
So ME
You understand me so much
I'm probably an ambivert, maybe leaning a little towards being introverted
It's tiresome to talk .
@@luvxs_ wOw sHeS hOt
I shared this with my wife when i found it. I tried to explain things in my head but i feared she didnt understood so by sharing this it helped her understand. After she watched it she came in and sat on my lap and hugged me tight telling me how much she loved me. She is an extrovert and she has helped me feel more comfortable interacting with other people. She is an amazing woman.
I wish I could find a make copy of this kind of person! She sounds so nice!
She's amazing ❤ I'm glad you found her 😌
Lucky
7 Dark Traits of Introverts
1. Bad attitude towards teamwork
2. Overthinking
3. Self-Depreciation
4. Bottling up emotions
5. Pessimism
6. Lost of identity
7. Cutting off contact
Thnx for the likes :)
Especially from Psych2go
Exactly like me ! Two days before I ended all relationships with my friends
There are different types of introverts not all introverts has self-Depreciation, and if about overthinking 😏😁 and not all introverts doesn't cuts off relationship or cuts off contacts, the thing is that they are not good with communication so sometimes people try to avoid them and this way they comes out lonely introverts.
And about mix of emotions not all Introverts are same if you get to know a introverts closely then some introverts comes pretty enjoyable, some of them are they are pretty enjoyable than you think, the thing is that they are not good social communication skills.
I am an introvert but do not relate at all to these dark traits. Except maybe #7. But not on purpose. I just start isolating and rather keep to myself more than hang out with people.
Wait a minute
I was bottling up my emotions in relationship with my gf. Such a bad idea. Didn't end well
As an introvert, I enjoy just saying "yeah" and "oh" in phone calls. What about you?
Oh, yeah. Hmmm.
Yeah. Which is part of the reason I don't like phone calls. I never know what to say and it's hard to maintain the conversation.
Yass!!!! People misunderstand us that we are bored with their convo 😑
Ok...
yeah
The worst thing about being an introvert is people ask this really irritating question as to 'why am I silent'. 'why don't you speak?'
I Know A Comeback For That
Just Say: Oh I Talk, Just NOt To You, I Just Dont Wanna Waste My Time.
That's not a response I get very often. Other introverts understand that you don't need to fill a long pause with chatter. In conversation with extroverts, I am aware that I have maybe a two second break to communicate an idea before being interrupted.
I can totally relate to this!
I wish I at least got that. With me people usually just give up and walk away after a few seconds. It's like if I don't talk, then I just stop existing in their eyes
U don't sound like silent person or introvert, u sound like extrovert. Introvert doesn't care sharing anything even in a comment.
As an introvert I must shamelessly say that I can apply myself to every single example. I used to be like that.
The good thing is I made some progress and stopped bottling myself from people close to me and started noticing my own value.
Sending power to all introverts that has to deal with any of this traits. Stay strong, folks. 💪🏻
I used to bottle things up but I stopped doing that as I aged. Now I don't care what someone thinks, if I don't like something then they are definitely going to know about it.
same, i figured out that anxiety stems from an overactive imagination of potential social situations, now i think of people as NPC's that only interacts if you start a conversation, i gave my anxiety a proverbial shot in the back of the head
You’re saying this as if its wrong to be an introvert
That's awesome to hear. Much love to you❤❤❤
For me family is the most difficult and which hits so bad.
"No one really know me. I don't even know myself."
This is what I always think about.
99 names of God
Same same. Like until now at my age, I still struggle knowing myself. Even though, I know I'm still happy with how I am now.
same
same, I thought I'm the only one who think this way
Same 😔
The no.6 "lost of identity" hit's my soul hard.
Introverts fact: some of the introverts sometimes pretend to be a different person to fit in the surrounding people and environment. That's where they tend to loose and forgot who they are and how they usually act.
In my case. I think I have pretended to much that I forgot how I act in the past
I'm having a real fuckin' hard time with that one. Sober for 7mos, drunk for 15 years. Don't really remember what made me be before. Only a couple friends that still have my back, so that's nice at least.
@@tnmoe- I know it's hard but don't give up because there will be that "one day" that you'll be so glad and proud that you didn't give up.
Hope this helps
@@enderhunt227 - Word, thanks dude, your encouraging words are appreciated.
I typed that out rather quickly, but I was/still am an introvert to many faults; the drink was just liquid courage.
Take care, and thanks again.
@@tnmoe- no problem and take care as well
@ender Hunt your comment is so relatable
Introverts are introverts even when hating, we literally direct all the bad feelings to ourselves, and even when is a bad feeling directed to someone else, it just stay inside ourselves making us mental ill
In a extroverted world people just don’t understand us like we are not human, I’m often pessimistic and realistic about everything so much so I do it by accident so i distance my self from my friends and i get lonely so I tell my self I’m worthless and honestly I just wanna lie in my bed and cry but it’s impossible with Being judged for crying “ no reason” and my dad being a b**** will take what makes me happy which over quarantine I have lost a lot of...
girl i’m telling you, i have it too. what i did was i write my heart out in my phone. sometimes, i put a lock on them for extra protection. lol.
i hated on someone till i reached my limit. (probably cause it kindof triggered my anxiety as well) i broke out into tears, my jaw feels numb my throat feels like there’s something disturbing. so i rant my emotions in my notes in my phone and it did calmed me a bit.
but when i reread all my writing again, it kind of make me feel bitter. cause i just couldn’t open up to literally anyone.
Yeaaahhhhhhhhsss
@@rxdisabigboy6446, You need help seriously. You are what you said and of course, it appears that it's extreme and intense that can affect the mental, emotional psyche. I've been through this. I was hurting myself doing these things. I was selfish to wallow in self-pity. It took a 5th trip to the psychiatrist ward to understand completely the situation I was diagnosed with BiPolar. I take meds that a big plus. The moods I and emotions are pretty much stabilized. Here the meds I take Lamotrigine. Buspirone. and Quentinline. I pray you to seek help from mental health providers. I promise you will see a big difference and it's all for the best!
@@iamyu I know its hard for introverts to show their emotions in front of others or to tell them when something is wrong but i know one thing, keeping all your bad emotions for yourself will destroy you for sure. You have to lash out your anger before it consumes you, that can be in many ways, the extreme one being taking vengeance. Idk what this person did to you but dont let it slide
I’m an introvert and yes to all of these. And I have lost friends because they felt I didn’t reach out enough for them. Each time I was completely bewildered by this. I thought the amount of contact we had was fine. I’ve stopped even trying any more. I have my hubby and daughter and sister. That’s plenty for me.
I get you, yes to all of these too, since childhood I never really had a close friend, even if I did, they left anyway. I also stopped trying to look for friends, I don't really care anymore, but I guess in a way that's good, because we might find the right people.
I felt my " friends" didn't reach out enough for me so i didn't try to keep contact with them. Although‚ i don't dislike them and i would answer if they tried to contact me.
@@serialp2895 I feel exactly like that wow
At least you have them but me am still young and my mom is now dead
@@serialp2895 Right? We'd know how to reach out to people if they ever did it to us.
i’m an introvert
the part which said that we tend to cut off contact hit me hard
i have lost many friends because they thought i didn’t like talking to them or something
i’ve gone months on end without communicating to people and i don’t talk to them anymore which makes me sad, but when i DO talk to people, i get exhausted and can’t seem to tell them that i am tired and will talk to them later
i feel guilty about it
and i don’t know if this is a thing only introverts do (probably not) but i have always shown myself as a person who makes other people want to be comfortable around me, people usually come to me for advice or just to share their feelings, i want to do that too but i feel like i’m too much of a burden on them and that makes me bottle up everything, i really want to open up but i’m scared to.
Helloooo
[Also the following content is kind of annoying so yeah]
Thank you for sharing a side of your story I can relate to :')
I also tend to cut off contact with my friends and now aquaintances (I'm sure I wrote that word incorrectly).
I do feel bad when I don't update to my friends after weeks or months. Most of the time, when i do, I go all in, like a single evening is what it takes... then I feel that I did it... and that's it. I don't feel the need to talk to them anymore as I really went out already, trying to be as bubbly as possible but also with a hint of my real personality. It feels wrong to do so but I can't stop that cycle.
I once shared to my cousin that I don't enjoy the texts I'm sharing with a new friend. I'll just say T, my friend, appeared to be into me and wanted to get to know me. I also found T interesting.
I was having a good time the first days, T texted me every day... literally... and that became upsetting and unbearable to me. I didn't enjoy our conversations as much as before, it all seemed rushed as hell and I didn't see myself keeping up.
My cousin told me to just tell T the truth because why not just clarify instead of ghosting. And I did. I told T that I needed time, days, until we could talk again.
I knew T was weirded out about my request and now we barely keep contact and I don't want to change things for now.
Yeah... long comment but I needed to get it all out. I feel bad about it but I don't let myself linger on it, as I have a lot of distractions. If I don't, I overthink a lot. Voila~
hey! we both over think a lot haha
i totally agree with you, honestly i try not to let it affect me too much but my overthinking has become worse haha (+trust issues, it makes everything complicated :’D)
there’s this one friend i have who i have told what i feel inside and i haven’t ever told anyone else, but now they talk to me everyday and they also take me as their most best friend, i want to tell them that i don’t talk to people everyday since it’s physically exhausting for me but i don’t want to come off as annoyed or pissed, i can’t do anything about it so i keep making excuses, i understand exactly how you feel and i’m happy you told T how you feel about the conversation y’all were having :D!
and no you are not annoying, i assure you :)
@@evirji7844 Well woah
I had a friend who wanted to be my best friend and wanted to hang out outside of middle school (it's been like 6 years now). And I didn't react well :') I thought "oh... you want us to go outside? Like outside to hang out?" I was surprised and maybe that person misunderstood the situation... it's not that I didn't want to hang out but was surprised by the possibility of hanging out outside of classes (weird yeah).
That person came with good intentions but gradually became toxic (I only noticed it after we parted ways... officially because they messaged me they just wanted to be friends now... yeah I had to recover afterwards), and since that I somehow absorbed that person's feelings, I lost myself in problems I wasn't even concerned with, made a lot of bad and sad decisions :'/ clearly the worst and the most confusing years of my life.
Aaaand I'm ranting again woooah :'D I gotta go because I might expose my miserable life here :))))
Also thank you ♡
English spelling is hard :/
@@musicislife2310 I feel you :o it's so hard to explain when we have to
@@steffirmts3056
hey, it’s okay to rant haha, i hope speaking about it made you feel better :)
MOST OF THE TIMES THE DARK SIDES BOTHERS THE INTROVERT HIMSELF/HERSELF
This is me soo much
@@Ari-hl9sr yea,me tooo
Or herself
Or theirs elf
Idfk
False. Dark side of introverts bothers people who are hypervigilant.
@@charlie-yp2oq what i was gonna say
As an introvert, it’s not that I despise teamwork. I just need the confirmation that each role in the team is understood. What I really despise are people who do the absolute minimum and coast along on other people’s work and effort, with little to no contribution.
Precisely
Truth be told The second I hear "group work", my excitement towards that research or project, it filters and decrease, a little to lot sometimes
Exactly, the work it takes to get everyone to buy in , or accept the roles they have be assigned, always seems underwhelming, so we might as well do it ourselves, and that’s when the one that coasted along and did the least gets praised and will happily take the credit of our hard work or participation , cause everyone seems to always be breaking the chain of commands , assuming and bypassing these foundational processes, that usually ends up in some sort of chaotic disorganization , IMO , but I hope to be proved wrong 😑
You know, I find that it benefits me a lot more when I call out such people. Yes they will attack you for calling them out, but you'll actually respect yourself a lot more for it.
It's a little different with me. I don't despise teamwork either. If anything I can see the benefits of great teamwork. It's just that i'd rather be able to do everything on my own. The idea that i need others bugs me to say the least... It's a trust thingy.
Years ago I took a bunch of psychological tests, and on one, I was told I was "off the charts" on the introversion scale. When they explained that an introvert was someone who needs time alone to gather the energy to be around other people, I felt like I finally understood myself. That knowledge gave me a lot of insight into myself and helped me to navigate the world. I'm very comfortable with being who I am now.
There is no such thing as off the charts introversion. A normal test has a scale of 0 to 100. I'm a 95. Also, I have my own simple introversion test: How many days out of 100 would you like to spend alone? Probably not all of them.
@@Gaze73 At the time I got the results, my doctor used that figure of speech and told me that I was "kind of off the charts" in two areas. I realize(d) that my scores did not go beyond the unit of measure set up for the tests, but that I had scored particularly high in two areas. And during the pandemic I went for months at a time without talking to anyone in person and felt none the worse for it.
I only discovered that I was an I introvert in my college days and throughput my life until that point I thought it was just me in the whole world who was like this
@@Gaze73: "How many days out of 100 would you like to spend alone? Probably not all of them."
Me: "What makes you so sure of that???"
@@agentorange153 If it's 100 out of 100 that means you don't want to see anyone ever, including your family. In that case, seek help.
If an introvert were an action figure, he would be "The Overthinker - he'll take you down with an infinite loop of thoughts..." 😂😂😂
Sounds like a comic book character
Lml basically a genjutsu
I laughed SO HARD 🤣
😂😂😂
Ahh yes 😌.
You mean Izuku MerMeriya
*Psych2Go:* "Are you guilty of any of these traits?"
*Me:* yeah, but just like...all of them.
While watching this I was thinking to myself "Do I have theese traits?" and *literally all of them* were so accurate to me...
Me to
same lmao
Same with me. Though some signs could be more frequent than the others. I am worried and confused.
dw ur definitely not the only one here
"You should be more positive!"
"Alright. I'm POSITIVE this won't end well."
Spoken like a true thinker lol
Is that an Inside Out reference?
@@ItzeltheGoddess they said they're covid positive 🚪🚶🏻♀️
@「Siilxnt」 oh if it is then negative is the way to go-
That's so me 😂
Being an introvert basically born without any dreams, hopes, wishes, aspirations or ambition whatsoever has been tough. Also not having much of an identity has also been pretty hard. Yet, I have come in terms with myself and who I am. I check most of those boxes in the video too, but I'm not too hard on myself. Overthinking is my greatest enemy by far, followed by near crippling fear of crowds. Just going shopping can and will drain my mental batteries for a few days. The more I can be alone the better. I can experience loneliness, however, something that I have only recently discovered. But only on small doses and when depressed. Making almost any decision is extremely hard and takes ages. The bigger the decision, the longer it takes. And the fact that I have been like this basically my whole life some plus 30 years... It hurts when people accuse me of something when they literally don't know me at all. That I make excuses, that I lie or I'm lazy or something... They can't imagine what it is like... To have no dreams. No hopes. No ambition. Nothing to strive for. Like I'm dead inside. But that's not true at all. I am a kind person, compassionate, a bit oversensitive at times. I just want to live my own life in peace and not bother anyone. I stopped looking for a "cure" a long time ago. Instead of thinking what's wrong with me, I started to understand that it's just who I am. I'm not going to fake myself to become something I'm not. I'm not going to force the change for the sake of other people. Become a fake... a complete stranger in the mirror... If a change comes, it comes and I'll gladly accept it. Appreciate it. Try to understand it. I hope you all have a wonderful day! 😊
I actually enjoy teamwork, as long as there's someone leading
As long as i dont have to do the heavy lifting
I struggle with that. Anytime there's ag group project, either I have to lead and do an Atlas because I fear our work will be bad and our grades low or stay in the back because nobody will consult mw because I lack expertise in that particular subject. I want to be included but I understand why others would do that, and I want help but most can't seem to understand my ideas no matter how simple they are. At least to me.
I don’t like it very much but I’m fine with it just give me something to do and leave me alone
I was put as Leader of a study group at my university. In the First year.
During that year they ignored me and never responded to messages or calls. Not even when we were supposed to present a group work.
At the end of the year I was in such severe depression that I needed treatment to prevent suicide.
Obviously I was unable to pursue that career to the point that just thinking about it damages my emotional state. The feeling of rejection was too great.
I even tried to join other groups while mine failed. but all were already established and avoided contact with others ... with me.
Like a shy introvert who was going to be the leader of a group for the first time. I really strive to be a good leader and always have all the information about everything the university requested. I don't want to go through that again in my life.
Same!
You know, the strangest thing about being an introvert is being so comfortable being alone. It has its uses sure but it makes it very difficult to get out there and meet someone. Especially in this incredibly socially isolated time we live in.
the belief that introverts like being alone is a myth. they like reduced stimulation because they do everything more deeply. has nothing to do with being alone or not
Wow. I can almost cry of joy after hearing those balmic, healing words that click just right.
Everyone has social media start there
Also begin comfortable alone and feel lonely without people around you but still don't wants to meet people
Yes I relate :((...Actually I hate being an introvert because of that... So many interesting ppl around me I would like to talk to but I can't.... even if I talk to someone I try hard to pretend I am not introvert. I can totally relate to the "lost of identity"
I think the hardest person for any introvert to confront is themselves. After all, you’re the only one who truly knows everything about yourself, and thus your subconscious has the power to twist your past into something that you despise yourself for. Confronting that darker side of your subconscious is one of the hardest things to do.
This!
YES! You explained it perfectly.
Yes
Confronting my dark side is like trying to stop a truck. If I try to fight it, it just ends up making me feel worse. Also, I thrive on the dark side of myself. It would be like trying to tear myself apart.
OMG yes thats so true! It takes a lot of effort just to even look at ur own dark side. it gets too overwhelming
People say, 'you don't talk'. Then when you do, you're arrogant. That was what a friend said anyway.
The pain when you're such a good listener but when it's your turn to speak, they come up with another story to tell about them and your story remains unsaid. Probably the reason I became like this. I just feel so left out and unnoticed. In my high school I had the most amazing friends who'd listen to me all the time and I had such a cheerful personality. But now in college, I've become a introvert and I stay silent most of the time.
you told my life
SO TRUE 😔
Damn I think u shouldn’t be around people like that. Reconnect with ur highschool friends if u can
@@markigirl2757 only if I could
Interrupt them. Lol
The over thinking is the worst. I spend so much time thinking about things that happened and it drains me.
Same. And in some situations it gets worse with self depreciation
i more overthink the future and i have few scenarios of what can happen. and usually it goes totally doffrently than any of my suspected turns and i am surprised and scared bc i dont know what will happen
@@scaramouche7210 dude I've done the same with relationships. I ditn know if it's healthy but it's helped me get over stuff
@@scaramouche7210 That's the worst about overthinking is things never go according to plan and then we are left wondering what to do.
@@Blahsheep overthinking past is as bad tho. :(( and also butterfly efect exist so we can imagine EVERYTHING that would happen bc thats how butterfly efect works
Whats interesting is that many of these introvert traits are also trauma symptoms. I always though that any form of psychological trauma can turn someone into an introvert. Like bottling up emotions, cutting contact with people, and fear of conflict. These are ways some people cope with their traumas. Introversion can even be a coping mechanism.
Maybe you're right
You hit the nail right in the head. I was an extrovert until I was 6 years old, then trauma happened. Got to see the physical abuse my dad did to my mother for a couple of years. We ran away for a couple more years, that changed my perspective of this world and my demeanor. Now as an adult, I can say I’m an introvert, and don’t regret it. I’m also very susccessful in my life.
Yeah... i agree
introversion seems to become more like a "its more comfortable to say in misery with unresolved and unaddressed issues and not get help" at some points tbh bc if you isolate yourself alot and cut off contact with people all the time (esspeically if you were close to those people you cut off) and dont seek help or support or any kind of communication and just bottle it all up and be a people pleaser, just slapping the label "im just an introvert" on it makes it seem like a normal thing and doesnt give off the signs that they need professional help, not to lock themselves away from the world until they become an empty vessel of a person. I wouldnt really call it a coping mechanism, but if it were to be called that it definitely be a negative one since its kinda denying theres a problem.
(though this only includes people of the symptoms above because there are people who dont have these that are introverted by its not like the steroptypes, the sterotypical introvert is just mentally ill/has unresolved truama, real introverts arent just shy, "i hate people" kinda people yknow)
Yes.. Right..
I am proud to be an introvert, actually. As an introvert, I feel like most extroverts are too dominant (bullies sometimes). I am usually so intimidated by extroverts and I can only be around them for a short time. Also, they seem to flutter from action to action without stopping and I prefer to stand still and sift through information. Even the dark side seems quite alright to me.
The cutting off contact part really hit home. I've ghosted so many people just because I didn't feel like talking at the moment (since I rarely feel the need to communicate with others) and then time passes, more time passes (I also easily forget, my memory is shit, seriously) and then you feel bad that you haven't answered sooner but then it's been so long that you also can't bring yourself to write back to someone from a month or two ago....
The empathetic part is the main discrepancy for me. I am NOT empathetic, quite the opposite, I very seriously LACK empathy. I DO NOT feel what others do in certain situations. A family member of a friend has passed away, for example. "I feel sorry for your loss" is what I say, and I mean it, but I don't...really feel it. I have no idea what to say to someone who's sad, feeling down, etc. I have no idea how to comfort people in these situations so I tend to avoid or straight up run away from them.
It also doesn't help that my mother just does not want to understand that all people aren't the same, extroverts like her just search for more human contact, physically and verbally, while sitting in my room alone is just fine for me and I really don't need more than this. I don't get the understanding in my own home, let alone somewhere out there.
I am exactly in the same situation with my mother like you. She just don't understand that i feel comfort in my room, surronding me by things i like. During qurantene she said to me, i am to much at home and that i should go out. And i was like "we are in the middle of a pandemic, i dont have to leave my room!"
The only way to know what to say to people under those circumstances is to be in situations where you have to handle that regularly. It's kind of like everything else we do as humans, social interactions are a learned skill and require practice to acquire, build upon, and maintain. Which is a catch 22 for introverts because...we're introverts, and don't particularly have a desire to be out there dealing with people. So it's very easy for us to become - and stay - somewhat socially awkward or inept.
I know exactly what you mean. For me it’s difficult to connect with people and understand what they are going through. It seems foreign to me
I think we should be friends
I'm exactly what you said
I am exactly like you,especially the empathy part,i literally don't feel anything,and when a woman starts talking about feelings and shit like that i almost want to kill myself and have no clue what to answer.
The worst part about being this way is living in a world where the only way you can be "happy", surrounded by "normal" people is to constantly force yourself to not be who you are.
It's literally like you were born to be your own worst enemy.
So true!
Yea
That's a very interesting and cogent point. I used to have a bad brink problem 😕. But unlike other people who went out to get drunk I got drunk because I went out.
I like this. Very accurate. I always have been fake just to be considered "normal" lol
💯💯💯
I hate overthinking, but it happens to me a lot
Now how do you handle it? I also
@@yashuX200 I still don't know how to stop it completely. But sometimes just getting into action works.
Same here
I'm extrovert and I overthinking a lot. I live in bad environment and people are soo bad. I understand you.
I'm an ambivert and I feel you
The one about losing yourself makes so much sense to me, I feel like a completely different person around my friends because I try so hard to make sure everyone’s doing okay and that everyone even likes me. I’ve thought recently about how I could literally be anyone I want to be and how my own personality is just a lost default.
I can relate. I just try to satisfy everybody by changing my personality, how I speak, reply to people. When I'm myself, I always seem to offend people easily, even when I try to avoid doing it.
Welcome to being a chameleon. They're all parts of your personality, just released at different times. Now if only we could be outgoing and social, then we'd be great actors.
Me too... I've also realized that I don't actually know my default(or hidden?) Personality. I have one for each group I'm talking to, and it's a bit hard to figure it out while sitting alone in a room or something.
@@coltonroark5658 same
@@coltonroark5658 same... I legit have a different personality for everyone I'm around, whether it's parents, other family members, different friend groups, girlfriend etc. I always try to mirror those people just to get along with them. I don't know what my actual self is... Heck, given the right circumstances, I could also be the loudest one in the room which is very very rare. I think the only time I'm "me" is when I'm alone and there's no one else around to mirror.
You may never read this, but thank you for uploading this video, I have gone to therapy for many periods of time through my life... But never did any of my therapists understand, the problem I had with overthinking things for a long time, I thought I was different in a negative way to everyone, because no one that I knew ever understood that problem... But seeing this video comforts me a lot because it makes me realize that I am nothing special, am just a simple person with some negative of my personality.
Thank you for helping me humanize myself.
"I'm just a soul whose intentions are good
Oh Lord, please don't let me be misunderstood."
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Thank you for being my voice!!
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"Overthinking" that is *definitely* a true thing about me, because I tend to say things that I don't necessarily mean. And if I accidentally say something mean, I can't go a full day without feeling nervous about it and I do say my apologies after but I also keep thinking whether that person really believed I was sorry or not and just knowing that there is a 50/50 chance that they might not have accepted my apology can really get me on edge...as I'm writing this, I'm starting to think it is more than just overthinking for me-
ya me too tbh i still think and regret over stuff that i wasnt able to apoligize for and its hardto forget them as when i am doing nothing i just think of these
i do the same bur i can unfortunately bring myself to apologize:(
@@LifeLessSquip same
Better this than overthinking the thing you want to say, which leads to a stutter so damn horrible for me that it's just embarassing, like I can't speak.
So true 🤧
1. Yup. Teamwork sucks.
2. Sometimes I overthink, but not often.
3. I can be my worst critic, but that helps me improve.
4. You got me. I bottle up too much.
5. I like to think of myself as a realist.
6. Nope. I don't do that much.
7. You got me. I isolate way too much.
Still another one: introverts panick before travelling, public speaking and exams. Sometimes even before going to a party they'd love to go to.
Soo me omw I get soo anxious especially exams I feel physically ill, my stomach starts to cramp and feel like I I'm about to have diahrea 😢
Is there any pill I can take before an exam to help with nerves because sometimes I really be wanting to use the loo but I can't coz I'm in public 😭😭
Bingo!!!
And I used to think I'm the only one!
Me yesterday night because i had an important exam today. My body decided to start freaking out at 2 am 🤦♀️
relatable. i dont leave my house much because i fear the interaction and the uncomfortableness that comes with it :(
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Light illuminates darkness. But also brings out shadows where things are brightest- a divine dichotomy.
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As an introvert myself, I can say that much of this is true. But many people misunderstand us. We're not insensitive or indifferent or uncaring or uncooperative, we just function differently and don't always know how to convey our thoughts and emotions or know how to express ourselves. Bottles emotions are one of our biggest problems, because we don't really know how to let them out, which is why we come across as indifferent, or when our emotions finally reach a capping point and come out, they seem extreme, because it's everything coming out at once. And yes, we're very empathetic towards others and can at times feels what they're feeling, which can be overwhelming for us, especially since we're already struggling with our own emotions. We may not sow it, but there's a LOT going on beneath the surface.
Yes true.
Bottling emotions is the worst things...
I used to be a normal person when I was kid...But because of the bottling emotions, nowadays I don't feel any emotions towards my parents (as if I am done with them, and only care about myself now). And worst thing is I am unable to make myself like before now >.
What you said is me in a nutshell
Lots of people misunderstand extroverts, too. All the time. 😅
True true true, my classmates, my relatives, teachers everything thinks i am arrogant without even talking to me once lol
In high school I was quiet, shy and self depreciating. Later found out they thought I was a snob. Ahhhhh!!!!!
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omigod YES
I checked every box many times in my life. Not only are these traits getting more pronounced in my life, but I have begun to embrace them. I’m tired of putting on a face for others.
I notice a lot more of these signs in myself than I would like to admit..
I can click every box. I know how you feel.
So do I
So do I
Same I related to all of them😅
Fr fr my biggest issue is how to deal with them. Like idk man I feel tired and drained like I don’t know what to do anymore
being an empath. able to tell if someone is lying just as a gut feeling. every so often i literaly dont speak for entire days to literaly anyone including my own family. i just dont feel like interacting with anyone. i can easily tell if someone is a good person or if i should keep my guard up
Same. Everyone says, "don't judge a book by its cover" but to this day, I have never gotten the wrong first impression of anyone. From picking the right friends because they looked nicer than everyone else in the room, to being wary of the uncle who low key likes to bully people weaker than him, but no one else seems to notice but me. I have always been able to know if someone would be a good relationship in my life or not. (Whether I choose to follow my gut in such matters is another story entirely...)
It is very good to see there are some people out there like me
@@arindamghosh6386 ikr
That's cool
That testing gut feeling that someone is less than nice or trustworthy I get it all the time, that’s why I stay away from ppl, I don’t feel like finding out if I was right
I'm an introvert with ALL of these traits,I find nothing wrong with them,them make me stronger,people fear what they don't understand so they call it dark as if to label it as evil and undesirable.
Dark was not meant evil or undesirable, just harder to handle for some. I have all these traits and have spent nearly 40 years trying to understand them. Nothing wrong with them, just they are usually harder to manage, deal with, process…
im an introvert with social anxiety, depression, and imposter syndrome. this honestly helped me really realize that what i do, isnt necessarily bad and i shouldnt be so hard on myself. thank you
Might I ask,what is imposter syndrome?
@@mrstein4170 in a way it’s that you feel like you never fit in anywhere, so you always have to make a new personality for every situation you’re in. so for example, when at home i have to be someone that i’m not around my family, and when i’m at work i have to be someone i’m not so my family doesn’t find out the real me. i literally feel like an “imposter” wherever i am, and in everything i do. being so that i don’t even know who i am anymore. and yea i have been diagnosed with it by my therapist so it’s not like a self diagnosis or anything. edit/add: aka, you feel like a fraud and fully doubt yourself in anything you do
@@ashercries Oh,that’s really interesting. So, It’s like you are an different person in the same body?
@@mrstein4170 more like complete and constant alienation.
@@shelbyholcombe8731 why is that?
After everything I've seen and experienced in my nearly 60 years, I've come to one conclusion; I am done trying to fit in to a world that never wanted to fit me in.
Well said! Same here!
Extroverts will take up as much "space" in the room as they are permitted, and introverts don't want to fight for space. I don't think it's an intentional "pushing out", but that anyone who wants to be "in" needs to carve space there. For extroverts that just happens naturally, so there isn't any perceived conflict. If you decide there's nothing "there" that is worth struggling for, it becomes very peaceful on the outside.
@thelasttimeitried we introverts care for things that are of metaphysical nature. I don't care for status, wealth , or recognition. But i cared when I overcame guilt, fixed procrastination, and learned the art of dialog. The space that I carve is internal
Just be you.
It’s sad that so many people don’t figure that out until they are old.
After nearly 16 years i feel the same way.
I believe it was one year ago that I realized that I´m more of an introvert and a thing I recently started to do was to write down things when I was overthinking them. Now whenever I have something on my mind I write it down, describing what it is what bothers me, how I feel and how I could change it with or without help of others. It really helps to calm me down and focus on other stuff.
As an introvert this is very accurate and relatable. However for myself the main reason for not wanting to work as a team is not that i think i can do better than others, but because of feeling uncomfortable due to the pressure of having more responsibility towards the group, afraid to be a burden on others and having the possibility to be blamed on if you didn't finish the tasks very well. These thaughts are most probably the result of lacking self confidence and negative overthinking.
It's the same for me, except for a few projects where I was either doing all the work myself (so I attempted to get this sorted with my group and eventually had to speak to a lecturer/supervisor), or nobody was doing much or any work (I think it was a case of nobody wanted to come across as bossy and so we never had a plan or delegation of tasks). Those were the only times that fear of my own abilities and contributions wasn't the thing holding me back in group projects
Same for me
My guy u just need to watch fitxfearless
I also know that feeling of messing up, mostly during group projects i mostly ghost out doing some work for the team
It's same for me...and more so when I don't understand what to do ? And what is expected off me from others?? And I cheer up and mingle when I clear my mind of those questions...
This is one of my favorite comment sections, seeing so many people who I can relate to makes this feel like I’m walking in a room of long lost relatives.
Exactly, like I can't respond to them all, but I want to have conversations with everyone about their introversion...
It's nice to find a group of people I can finally relate to for a change of pace.
Same here ,, after finishing the video I always come here and get myself little consoled that I'm not really alone. Seeing everyone talking about themselves out feels good.
Same
It made me realize that I'm not "anormal" because of how I feel most of the time. And I'm glad about it.
Same
The most irritating thing abt being an introvert is when they ask"why R u silent "?? And sometimes I feel why I am an introvert???
I only have one friend, and whenever we hangout i prefer her to do the talking, she can talk whatever topic she want and im be glad to just listen, and sit there. I dont know why, rather than do the talk myself, i just feel happy listening.
U got an amazing frnd
Must be wonderful
@@rachel_lalaa yes im blessed. Cus im not the friend who text other first, and i can go months or years, with contact but luckily she seems to understand and always the one who checked on me. 😊 my other friends think i ghosted them or forget them, unfriend them, when actually i feel like i disturb them if i texted them first thats how we lost contact and i only left with one who understand my situation.
@@sarcasticintrovert6609 it is. 😊 i feel grateful
@Rayy you are not alone. I find it very difficult to first let people in, then to stay connected to them. I always feel like I am bothering or interrupting someone else's life, even if it is just a text. Let alone a phone call. Odd as it is, I am content to just let be. I am ok with not having contact. I am ok with the hand full of people who are close to me and I don't feel like I am lacking because these other people are not close to me. I don't feel a sadness for a loss of contact. I may feel a bit of a wish that it was different but that is very momentary.
I relate hard to the cutting off contact one.. even if we’re somewhat “close”. I simply just lose interest and ghost forever. I feel guilty too.. yet I feel way better not speaking to them, without any explanation. That only results if I don’t want to be bothered anymore, one-sided, I outgrew them, or I just don’t care about what they’re up to. Especially if that person is draining, have pointless interactions or repeating the same stuff. They could even be a good person but it's always me who feels disconnected or can't relate with their interests/problems/mindset.. I just can’t keep up with people unless I feel super strongly towards them, which is honestly very rare for me. I really enjoy being alone but at the same time I do want someone I can deeply and truly connect with as a “friend”, (instead of superficial people) because it does get utterly lonely. Hopefully that makes sense.
I relate to this a lot
This is me too. So i read a lot of people here experiencing this is i am not alone or abnormal person. 😂 I feel bad for them but the moment i stay away from them i dont regret it tho. I just remember them sometimes but dont want to be with them anymore. I ghosted my highschool bestfriend. I ignored my friends from my old work. If someones got too attached to me, i stopped talking to them. Most of the times, i hate myself. I dont know if this is still an introvert thing or theres something wrong with the way i think and interact with people☹️
How remarkably platitudal
@@Jason-eo1rh How remarkably moronic
Don't hate on my observation
the worst part is being an attractive introvert, it is like the whole expects you to act in a way that suits their image of you, once you come off as you, it is like people get confused and stay away from you. i like dancing since i was a kid so i sometimes go to parties by my self because i feel free this way, once i get in the crowd and start dancing it's like the whole room focuses on me, i think because they like the way i dance, dance has been always my escape and i really let go when i am dancing, i see it as a practice, i don't drink alcohol and i don't smoke either so im sober as i am dancing, once i get off of my character and become the reasonable me again once the music stops or when i am in other areas with no music, it is like impossible to talk to anyone, because everyone expects me to be wild in my approaches too. i feel clubs are not the best place for me to be it just gets to my mind as i love dancing but i quickly get to the overthinking and i end up regretting why i went.
The reason I personally don’t like working in a group is because I feel like I can’t suggest any of my ideas. I’m pretty sure I suffer from some sort of social anxiety (never been diagnosed just a suspicion,) so that definitely has something to do with why I hate talking to people I don’t know so much that I just keep all my group project ideas to myself. I always end up thinking “If only I were doing this by myself. It’d be so much easier and I just try out my ideas without having to run it by 4 different people and have them all look at me like I’m a crazy person and then turn me down.” So... maybe it’s not just because I’m an introvert. I just overthink ;-;
same i feel like my ideas wont be as good as theirs and i dont want them to think im weird or boring if they got to know me so thats also why i sometimes end up distancing from my friends every other month or so and i feel bad cause they get mad at me for it but i just cant tell them anything ab me idk why ( ik u didnt ask but i just wanted to rant anonymously)
Its ok to share ideas who knows maybe it can benefit you and your groupmates
@@nikku3184 your not alone bro, I promise I know the exact way your feeling and it sucks.
I thought I'm alone with this kind if behaviour. I'm so glad ti know that there are other who feels the same way 😭😭😭
@@awkwardly88 right back at you!
If you're an introvert, you're automatically losing at life because the world just doesn't understand your need for alone time and your need to think things through before you speak. Everything in life is set in the fast lane and it's just aggravating having to keep up that blistering pace.
i guess im losing at life then
That's a pretty pessimistic way of looking at things which adds to Amanda's point of introverts being more prone to pessimism then extroverts lol I mean I would agree to some point that people need to be more understanding of the fact that I don't need to be around other humans 24/7 in order to have a fulling life, when that's far from the case. But that doesn't mean I'm inheritly a "loser". It just means I'm me and there's nothing wrong with that
@@user-hf3tc3su1b you say pessimistic and I say realistic. The world is made for extroverts and that's never going to change.
Someone’s gotta be me. Might as well be me.
Ight ladies and gentlemen who else is losing at life here
This is ridiculously accurate, I am guilty of all these traits. I try really hard to not be an introvert bc I'm missing out on so much but I have really bad anxiety and being an introvert is a sort of cushion for it.
i am guilty as well, being an introvert has its high points like being alone is better than being around people but when you miss out on so many things, i just hate that
Me too. Same, same.
same for me. Ineresting how every single point they brought up was correct for me...
You sound exactly like me
Because being introvert I'm slowly losing my friends.. 😔 being introvert sucks.. 😓
I am an introvert, it has been proven by my family and friends. In this video, I am all traits except for the last one... And like you said in the video with introverts losing themselves, that really hit home for me. This video helped explain why many things happened in my life. Like me being happy in the present then upset because I remembered something from long ago, but thank you verry much.
If I ghosted them, they deserved it. Eff what they feel, they sure didn't care what I felt.
So agreed. There's only two people I've ever cut completely and deliberately out of my life, and it was for the sake of my own mental health/sanity.
Two wrongs don't make a right.
@@jonathanbowen3640 Yep, leaving abusive relationships was SO wrong of me lol
@@eranazeitler203 ghosting is not leaving. You can leave someone and explain why without ghosting them. Respecting that person on the way out. Ghosting means suddenly vanishing with no explanation.
The whole ghosting thing just means everybody looses. No closure.
Ghosting is the weak way out.
@@jonathanbowen3640 No arguments there... And telling someone exactly what you think of them BEFORE never speaking to them again is a very satisfying experience also. But since the original poster didn't go into details about how/why he "ghosted" there may be more to it than random internet ppl should judge.
2.Overthinking
I actually like this trait cuz whenever i start thinking, i start talking to myself and to be honest its really nice to talk to myself and it's helps when i feel stressed or scared or maybe nervous, i just talk to my subconscious's and they make me feel better and more relaxed and so they are my best friends!
I overthink so much I can't get the actually task done.
@@delusionaldreamer8332 i overthink so much that i will find myself in a big argument with myself😆
Ohhh bb ! Sameeee huhuhu
Social introvert?
Has absolutely fucking nothing to do with being an introvert, you do realize that right?
True, especially for cutting off contacts
If you have an introvert friend, don't think that their trying to ghost you when they don't respond or they only respond in short, unmeaningful ways. Often times, at least for me, i have trouble being talkative on social media platforms. I would just sometime feel overwhelmed and just quit social media for a few days. But after i thought clearly i would come back with fresh energy. However, this often times makes us loose many friends who feel like we have ghosted them when in fact we either have our private things to do or just feel too overwhelmed to talk.
I try my best to make my friends feel like I am still there but it's goddamn difficult
Quite relatable. I had trouble making friends this year because of the pandemic or its just that I can't relate to the interests of my peers
This is so relatable....
I try hard not to "ghost" people because I don't want them to leave me...
I have friends that I have known for years, but we haven’t contact much in these 2 years . Sometimes I think I’m less concern about them, I wanna try to contact them more, yet I just feel overwhelmed every time I think about this…..idk
The bottling up part. Is like tanking all damage until you save up for your super move.
Except. Instead of winning. It hurts everyone. Including yourself.
When a kid in your class thinks you hate everyone because your scared to talk because you will likely be judged
I nearly got expelled from high school because someone said to me "bring it" and I said "no, I'll just show you a picture" and several students panicked.
I ultimately won the case and got to complete my senior year of high school.
One time in English we had to go up to someone and tell at them in Shakespearean and wait for a reply when it got to my turn I let out all my bottles emotions which led to the person I yelled at to mutter a reply with everyone else being shocked and nobody bothered me for a week, best week ever. My friends 5 years later are still shocked about it
I was always shy in school and still is shy in school. People would think I was scared to talk due to being judged which wasn't the case I was just always shy af in school.
I am not interest, not hate, not scared, but my therapist told me I have social phobia. And I was like, what?
@@Ur14N
It shouldn't be difficult to say something to even a stranger while waiting in line but social phobia is a real thing. Some people don't want to be bothered with people.
I separated myself from people because I always tried my best to understand others but they never bothered to understand me. It hurts so much. I even went into depression because of it. I suffer from all the things here.
Honestly speaking, isolation seemed like the most logical solution at this point in my life
You're not alone. Guilty as charged here 😭
Totally understand. I 'ghosted', if you can call it that, basically for self preservation. It seems as if I was the one who always had 'to understand/be understanding' of others situations but I wasn't given same courtesy. I remembered and either called, sent cards, texts...for birthdays and significant milestones but mine seemed to be an afterthought. Friends shouldn't have to be told to reciprocate especially when they do it for other friends. I was becoming resentful and concluded that I must not have been as close as I thought so figured it was best to cut ties. 😔💔
Dont care about them.
They dont wrry abt you
You deserve more to unworry abt them than the other way
Me too
You’re not alone. Here if you want to talk
being an introvert always had people misinterpreting our character, which is why it's so easy for introverts to lose friends. it is so hard to fit in to the crowd when little interaction already made you overwhelmed and anxious.
One of my best friend and I are introverts out of our group of friends so sometimes we tend to do our own things but it's always cool whenever we all get together.
"You think working on a team yields inferior results to if you work alone"
I can prove it.
Facts. A lot of great things require singular vision.
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So true for me too
I used to think this way during team presentation (school days) but I don’t like being the speaker 🤭
Preach preacher 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
There's absolutely nothing WORSE than group work.
Jeeeeeez that's why bands disband, results: amazing career.
I'm reading comments here from some who think being an introvert equates to loneliness or sadness. However, that is not the key traits because those emotions are shared equally by introverts and extroverts. You are a true introvert if your battery is depleted by socializing. Good friends drain your battery very slowly, but with some people it can be drained within an hour. Extroverts actually charge their battery by being around people. Introversion, extroversion is a measure of your temperament, not an indicator of emotions.
finally someone doing us some justice
yeah i prefer books over people
thank you for pointing this out to people because introversion and extroversion certainly aren't mental health issues like some seem to be implying with their words. unintended or not. there's so much more to each aspect of these kinds of people than just emotions
@@zemo9656 for instance people see me as a extrovert cause I work outside alot. im an introvert who likes books more than people
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I'm an introvert and i have a bad trait of overthinking things in my friendships and taking anything someone had said that was a little strange as toxicity, manipulation etc. So i become just confused, stressed and i just can't calm myself down and stop myself from thinking that. Cause i fear that calming down and treating it as nothing is exactly what they want so they can manipulate me. When they have no intention of doing so. It just drives me crazy and i sometimes think "Why do i think they're good friends if my brain tells me otherwise?" Thank you Psych2go now i know why these thoughts might happen.
I deal with every single one of those traits. I wasn't like this when I was younger, but a lifetime of being treated like crap by people I trusted made me adjust to protect myself. Now, I've been alone for so long, I'm not even sure I'd be able to do any different. Sure, I get lonely...a lot. Holidays are extremely difficult, without a doubt. But, I think about all the garbage that's always come from my relationships, and I just deal with the loneliness.
Just because it didnt work in the past doesnt mean it can't now, i encourage you to try things out once again and stop thinking of yourself as an introvert, sometimes the mind just wants us to believe certain stories of ourselves but if it's not what you want you shouldn't allow that, and if your situation is just as you described it than there's nothing to lose, go ahead man and try being the person you want to be, and if it doesn't work than try again, after all there's only one life
I can relate to you
In holidays I surround myself with my hobbies to fill the void- I made a routine where I did them everyday
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Same way, Kevin. I'm in my 30's and just can't trust people anymore. We care and reach out to them, and they don't appreciate it at all. Take care of yourself bro. You're probably a really good guy.
"No answer is also an answer".
The thing about introverts Ghosting people, it's just that those people don't understand even after dropping hints, or sometimes even after a conversation about things that make the introverts to ghost them. They just don't get it. so instead of wasting energy on repeating the same thing, ghosting seems like a better option.
I sometimes feel like I am talking to a brick wall. People just don't get what I am saying so I avoid them.
@sabage cabage123 I have noticed they seem idiotic. I have always been a realist. A lot of people take this as being pessimistic. I just think I am more grounded.
@sabage cabage123 you’re calling people dumb based on how they communicate and you confused our/are multiple times and their/there/they’re. The irony is painful.
@sabage cabage123 THE FUCKING IRONY. OH MY GOD.
@@daledavis6984 bless you
I think one of the worst things I've found about being an introvert, is that when I'm with my family, I always have to put up a front because the ask things like, "why don't you smile more? " "smile more you look depressed" "stop seeking attention by not smiling. " honestly, it sucks
Fr fr. I’d be happier if they understood when I’m asked questions like that it only makes me want to isolate more and smile less. Not cause I’m not happy but cause that’s just me.
We were on vacation and my cuzins were so happy and excited, while we were touring around It felt so serene to see the beautiful beaches and nature while they were so noisy and excited. My cousin ask me if am I happy coz I’m so quite..I was so happy deep within but I just can’t express like them..
Wait... same.
Same.. I hope someday, the world can watch and understand that this is just really US.
Bro same, they always think I'm mad because I have no facial expression 😐
I am an introvert, and I sometimes fall prey to overthinking things. What lifts my mood is NOT focusing on myself. It could be that I'm spending a day with friends, or doing a creative activity, or watching a program that teaches me something new or makes me laugh, or caring for a pet, going for a walk, etc. There is a whole world out there...lots of things to occupy one's mind.
As an introvert, I’d like to say that coming out of your shell is pointless because someone will end up hurting you again and again. Stay inside and hide from the world. You’ll be safe from harm and keep to yourself and lock your heart away. The world is a cold place so you have to go along with it.
Hey I hear you. I'm there even. But I want to try and challenge you just a little bit. I saw a quote from Banksey recently. It went something like, If you're tired don't quit. Rest. I'm still learning how but I just wanna say its sometimes worth it and you are always worth it (whoever you are).
This the realist comment, lol, it's so dark but on point LOL.
Very true.
@@thricemindblown7883 that comment just solved a lot for me rn. Thanks :)
I think many of the most modernized countries have brainwashing to avoid accepting people's differences. The United States encourages individuality so much that they do not care about social isolation caused by the Internet and cellphones and they want to tell you it is bad to have a natural amount of reliance on others.
I lean towards the introvert side of the spectrum although I crave human contact and being surrounded by people. I don't like to be the center of attention in a party, but I like to be in a party. I don't like to work alone in a office or by myself, but I get exhausted and lack the people skills (small talk, always positive, constant smile) to have permanent interactions with people. I am always moving between being isolated and depressed, or being surrounded by people and anxious. I am basically a total misfit.
But I am learning to be kind to myself and find my own place in the world. Knowing what I don't like is a step to knowing what I do like. I also know that I am not alone. My flaws are not unique so I am not a freak. I am very human and I feel alive.
The being isolated and depressed but being surrounded by people and anxious is sooo me. Like, gurl, have you been stalking me? 😂😂
I'm kinda the same
Hmm you might be an ambivert
That's right some introverts they always tend to look down on themselves, they don't want to accept their weakness, they always think it's not okay to be different from society even though they know it's totally fine and then they start covering themselves with fake mask but at the end they become more isolated. I am an introvert who love myself more than anyone I am not a narracist but "I" always comes first.
Introversion is not about hating people or always wanting to be alone.
All humans need contact and love to spend time with the important people in their life.
Introversion is about needing time for yourself to refuel.
Introverts can love parties, love beeing a teamplayer. That is something many people don't get.
All we need is enough time for ourselfs to deal with life.
So don't feel the pressure to be either alone or with people. You can and should have both to be happy :D
As an introvert...the most painful thing i did to myself was not speaking what i felt I should say. I have depply messed up a good chunk of my life for it. Learning to speak your heart and mind out if IMO a crucial thing for introverts. Too much pain if you dont
@Lord Humungous Have you been able to rectify something about it?
Makes me wonder how many mariages have been ruined because of this... besides mine, of course.
@@Deridus dude?? what do you mean?
@@SamiSpaci Think about it: you're in trouble with, for example, your bank or some such, and rather than ask for help, you keep it to yourself. Then, when things come to a head, your spouse doesn't trust you. Overthinking rather than acting seems to be a common trait of introverts in my opinion. Couple that with a hesitency to ask for help and not involve the "other half" seems like a perfect storm. "If I'd only opened my mouth, I could have stopped this" might as well be the Introvert's international Motto. It might look tangental, but there is definately a connection there.
@@Deridus hey I'd like to PM if that's ok
Here in the Philippines, being an introvert is like a living hell. To live on society, you must be an extrovert and have great communication skills, and being an indoor person is considered a waste of potential. And if youre living as a middle-high class family with deep roots to tradition, you are literally forced to be an extrovert. But since soviety demands me to be an exyrovert, i did my best to be one, and for years of bittling up emotions and being with other extroverts, theres suddenly woke up inside me, or should i say replaced inside me. Sometimes, im getting conflivted if im an introvert or extrovert. Years of socializing consumed a part of me and im fighting for it. I cant release that extrovertedness, since i need it, but i might lose who i really am. Hopefully theres a balance within those two and be the best me i can be.
100% agree! napaka social talaga ng mga pinoy kaya napipilitang maging extrovert para lng hindi maiba sa lahat o para man lng atleast medyo di awkward makisama
Oh yeah same malala pa naman nepotism sa atin so para magkaroon ng career, you have to build connections and relationships which is so difficult when ur introvert :(( siguro u have to accept ur difference lang talaga and learn to have an on and off switch in your system. ang hirap pero adaptability is the key for us siguro
Ambivert exist too. Don't forget. And there's probably a lot of extroverts there that feel the same way as you.
Same for india and indian has like over 10 relatives and you need to be in contact with everyone it's like true hell
I am introvert here.. Lagi ako nasasabihan ng nanay ko dati na wag maging suplada.I am not, ayaw ko lng talaga makipag halubilo.I sm happy with my cuzins,few friends and family. Nothing wrong with us, ganito lang talaga tayo.
For introvert boltting up emotions are common because we are scared to get hurt by things like " not understanding, you are wrong, or no one is even noticing you're sad. For me I can understand what's my friend is feeling and i can give her time or i can talk to her so she will feel better. But she never notice change in me and even some times say "You Look Happy?😅
Yes or when I'm too quiet..... They be like oooo leave her alone before she gives you an attitude. 😒
I don’t tell anyone about my problems cus it’ll only get worse
I bottle mine up because usually im "wrong for feeling that way" so very rarely do i tell people how i feel abou that.
Also jesus christ am i a mess im guilty of No.6 because if i dont change how i am then i end up sarcastic, rude, and insensitive. Im insensitive because most of the time my redeeming qualities do not outweigh the bad ones so i dont usually have any simpathy for myself, and as a result other people.
I'm pretty much guilty of all of these except ghosting. I only ever pushed one person away as I let her in too close too soon and it spooked me. But most of the time, I'll lead up to the saying goodbye.
One of the hardest lessons I learned as an introvert, if you try to be an extrovert, those around you and even more, yourself will suffer bad. My biggest disappointment though is how not all, MOST extroverts love to point out an introvert's flaws in social situations. Please stop.
This!..I go out to be torn down, made fun of?..its the reason im there, trying to fix a character flaw..only to have it reinforced 10 fold😕
So true. As an introvert I can be very quiet in social situations and some people just love to point that out. However, hiding behind my silence is a quick wit and sharp tongue. Sometimes I just say “screw it” and kick the door down and just start cutting the person to shreds with my words to until they say “ok, you made your point please stop!”. I don’t like to be mean but sometimes this type of retaliation can feel exhilarating tbh.🤷♂️
I just laugh and say it in a joking way. Not condescending, not mocking, joking.
When you're goofy about laying into someone it's taken as good natured ribbing. For some reason, most extroverts seem to enjoy 'friendly banter'.
I get called weird. I take it as a compliment. Why would I want to be normal when normal just seems so boring in comparison.
Do I suffer? Absolutely. I just channel the negative energy into hobbies. Reading, video games, movies, building gadgets.
It helps me realize that the thing that is causing me distress doesn't control me and in time will pass.
I make sure my friends know to reach out to me to do things even if I keep declining. I want to be invited, with the option of not attending. I need to be in the right state of mind for social interaction. I also cannot exactly control when that will be.
More often than not, I'm not in the right mood. Do not take it personally!!
Yeah this happened to me before sorta. Whenever I try to be somewhat social people would usually be a dick to me or maybe I feel that way because negative thoughts, I stopped trying to be social because it felt like whenever I try to be social I will always feel guilty to myself because I keep thinking people will think negativity about me¿ I guess it is my fault for thinking about negatively but idk
Extroverts don't care about the feelings of an introvert they like to lord your as they say your social short comings over you.
I relate to every single aspect mentioned in the video.
In truth this is exactly how I am. The biggest problem I have is the inability to voice out exactly what I'm going through instead I tend to mix up words, say unintentional things and just mess up the whole conversation. It feels kind of like there's a voice inside of me that's screaming for help, but it gets chocked up right in the middle of my throat.
My throat even hurts sometimes due to this.
I’m an introvert; that’s for sure. Also, why is no one else talking about the Avatar: The Last Airbender references in this video? That was great, Psych2Go!
Heck yeah!
Yesss!! Loved that
I was overthinking that. Even the credits, and I'm not sure if I paid attention to the video. 😂
Mai is the best
@@sheneedsyrruup May is the best
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This really resonated with my wife and I, Matt. In fact, she shouted "preach it!" because she felt you very succinctly described her type of introvert personality to a tee.
I think I'm an extroverted introvert perhaps. I love having deep meaningful conversations on road trips with her, but she prefers 90% silence.
Keep up the great work!
I was an extrovert, but then, everything changed when the Fire Nation attacked.
omg same
What is fire nation? Can somebody explain 🥺
@@beingboredaf The Fire Nation is one of the world's four nations and five sovereign states. It is an absolute monarchy led by the Fire Lord and home to most firebenders. Geographically, the nation is located along the planet's equator in the western hemisphere and is composed of several islands, named the Fire Islands.
i got this from net but honestly I dont understand a bit
xD
But everything changed when extrovert friends attacked.
As an introvert, i am highly sensitive with the energy that surrounds me sometimes it's overwhelming but most of the time gives me quick understanding towards things
- quick to react to situation and pinpoint mistakes
- easily get tired of superficial talks (although i'm almost silent all the time, but when it comes to deeper issues or topics my nerves always get excited :) )
Same, it's a power and a curse, very effective but very draining.
So true, like the person above me said: both a blessing and a curse
I really feel bad to my friends that I ghosted. It's really not my intention to not care, but it's very draining for me to even open the app 😭
But I want to say thank you to my close friends who still appreciate me and understand what I am going through ☺️
Yea I get anxious to check my messages because then I just feel pressured to answer or even start a conversation, so I avoid a stressor and go watch tv or play a game alone to feel comfortable
sadly mine are all fake
I wasn't always a introvert, I used to be very fun and talkitive and loved light and pastel colors, but for some reason everytime I get into a group and try to fix things up it only ends up in trouble . When I like pastel colors the girls bully me for liking childish colors , when I like dark colors they say I'm emo , like wtf is wrong with u . Also I used to be mad but still funny over things and now I'm calm but also mad and you can clearly take that as a impression of shinobu kocho , I smile over the saddest things and frown over the happiest things , im not trying to act depressed or for people to be concerned of me just for attention but I find it peacefull being a introvert who don't get into relationships (friend type) .
I'll always at night go out and climb to the roof (with a ladder) and see the night sky , it's... Peacefull and there is no side of anything's ng bad at that time, I'm not as fun or happy as before but I still love myself although sometimes I act like I hate myself, one big affect is my family , when I was small my mom and dad used to fight over the smallest things , such as calender dates for stuff, who took the thing and many else.
But my parents are complicated, they don't hate eachother but don't love eachother either, ive never really understood it.
But I'm happy for who I am and still make jokes like a average person should be but sometimes I try to stay away from my friends for a bit and have some calmness. One thing that makes me wierd is that too many compliments make me stressed out but when people bully me I don't feel a thing at all. My friends and family has supported me a lot so I think it's time to support them in whatever awaits in the future.
Holy crap I wrote a entire story. 😂
This is accurate for me, especially the last one. As an introvert, it pains me when I experience that the level of friendship that I have with someone is getting demoted like, from best friends to close friends and when I cut off contact with that person we became just friends to acquaintances, and the worst part is becoming strangers. Imagine bumping into someone you shared your feelings and craziness with once, then you can't even look eye to eye or say hello to each other. Then that person would think you just don't care and go on with his/her life like nothing's ever happened, like you both has never been friends before...
I have a friendship that this sounds like.
We went from being practically two halves of the same entity to barely talking once a year. The times that we have caught up I am aware of an underlying sense that she knows how much I love her, but that our lives have gone in different directions. I don't know if this helps, but I don't think they think that we don't care. If anyone has really known me to that degree they know that I'm really bad at expressing my feelings in a non awkward way and that sometimes it's easier to say nothing than to try to express how very much I love and miss them without thinking I sound obsessed and clingy afterwards.
I feel like introverts, whether they meant for it or not, they bring that mess on themselves. Being introverts I would think that's what they prefer, having less contact, since they prefer solitude.
I can relate so much.
Back then, when i was in my 4th year highschool i met this really interesting person who sits in front of me.
He's an introvert and he's actually the one who made me realize that i am one too so we get along pretty easily. We get along easily that we had serious fight like 3-4 times only Out of our 2 years of friendship,Ever since i met him he always invite me to come with him everytime he goes out for church,watching movies,hang out at the parks, eat at the restaurants which are the first thing i get to experience doing with someone else aside from my family. He gave me such a wonderful memories.and now the bond that we had slowly faded when the pandemic started since we enroll to a different school we became pretty doing schoolworks and the fact that we got struck hard by the new education system so my introvert side became stronger while he founded another group of friends so our time chatting each other became less and less and since we can't hang out due to pandemic our relationship significantly dropped and now we just talk like 3-4 times a month. It really shows how always keeping in touch and spending time together is pretty important in relationship.
(Thankyou for reading all the way here and sorry for grammar mistakes that i made!)
This is what's happening to me know
@@lululrouge6 You don't know how much i feel what you say, i just experienced this and it kills me bit by bit, at least what is left of me after that...
I've been alone for more than 10 years because reasons, then met her :) :(
Letting her read in me like an open book was probably wrong after all, the main issue for me was to let her know my feelings since she is in couple with someone for 7 years, and i know how it sounds, but i really wished we could have known each other a few years before that and that would have been if not perfect, probably the best thing in my life...
She had to take distances because she realized we've became so close than anything she had experienced before, so we were going from unknown to two halves to...unkown again.
That's hard to accept, in fact i can't, i feel like i'm obsessed by her and even time won't do "his job" anymore. I finally said her it was probably best for her that i say goodbye, knowing she prefers that but won't say, it's better if it comes from me, so maybe she won't feel guilty for that. I would rather accept that we stay only friends but i know it would place her in an uncomfortable situation so that's how it is.
More than anything, physical pain is already a thing, emotional one is even worse, imagine the result when both are combined :/
I guess i was not meant to be, I'm not worth it... Sadness and loneliness are maybe things i deserve after all
Hope is what keeps us alive, it can also take us down so deeply we can never come back up... 😢
I'm an introvert, and definitely have most of these traits. I tend to hide certain parts of my personality depending on who I'm around. I don't think anyone would accept me if they knew me in my entirety
Ahhh. I feel the same way
Same
Yep
Exactly
Yup
I’m not guilty of anything, I’m totally accepting of my introverted traits, if only others were
Teen titans did actually a topic of this on one episode the character Raven being a introvert
OoOoO can you tell me what episode? I might have forgotten
@@abominablesnowman610 I forgot but it was when she thought her magic book was her friend who became a paper man thing but and being nice to her but in reality she's just using her to get out on the book
@@abominablesnowman610 it’s episode 32, Spellbound. The 6th episode of the third season. You can watch it on f movies
I’m a woman in my late fifties in Australia and I know who teen Titans Are, so I guess that makes me kinda cool? I have watched a few episodes with my son who is into all that, it’s not a bad show,it does teach a few lessons and covers some important subjects for young people today. I think any way information can get out there for those who are struggling is fantastic😁🇦🇺
@@leanneneville2431 yep because it has life lessons the OG teen titans btw with sometimes have dark episodes or moments not the teen Titan Go btw
I actually don't like being an introvert. And even if I don't want to admit it, it's my parents fault. They never allowed me to go to social events or socialize. They kept me from the world and now that I'm so used to hiding and staying to myself, They want to keep me outside. Wanting me to socialize. But I am so used to all of this . After 18 years of isolation , it's pretty hard to try to change to an extrovert, atleast for me. It hit differently when I realized that I do all the things mentioned in this video.
I've never related to anything as much as I have to this
@fathima j Oh my goodness. Thank you so much!! 💓 I can get some ideas from this. And try to expand my bubble a little ,like you said☺. I'll take your advice. Thank you 💟
same
I can relate...
@fathima j thanks for this i hope it will me a little
I never thought isolating myself can hurt others. I am living in isolation from past 9 and a half years. This video is an eye opener for me. Thanks.
Bad things dont last forever good things are coming
Same... that one hit me also.... I been keeping to myself for awhile now.... I haven't even hit people up on they b day..... it's just so drama filled and draining when I hang wit people.
As an introvert in Highschool, this is so relatable...
As an introvert I must say we are not all afraid to speak up or get into conflicts if the situation calls for it, do we prefer not to, yes. Here's an old proverb, "Let sleeping dogs lie."
Yep. I have a 2 stage filter. 1: Does this need to be said? And 2: Does this need to be said by me, at this particular moment? If I don't answer 'Yes' to both of those questions, I keep my lips buttoned. But if the answer to both is 'yep,' then it's getting said and the fallout is never taken into account. I'm not scared of speaking my mind, mostly I hold back so I don't destroy people's feelings. It's for their sake, not my own.
Watching Psych2Go is like drinking the best and most calming cup of tea peacefully. No matter the topic.
aw so sweet 💖
Until you realize you have most of the negative traits in her videos.
Then spiral down into another depression. ;-;
searches for the "bad parts of extroverts" where imma expect to hear how the world is built on highly insecure extroverts that trash everyone who isn't them because they refuse to fix their own issues.
we have these "bad traits" (i WILL take that as an insult) as a shield against extroverts abusive behaviors.
there's that saying "people are in therapy because of the ones who SHOULD be in therapy".
Well said!
D-does that mean im abusive? I NEED TO GET OFF THESE INTROVERT VIDEOS THEYRE MAKING ME FEEL DEPRESSED
Thank you, I agree 🍀
Holy damn that just described my ex to a T.
I can't express how bad I feel to avoid fighting when I am fukin strong. But an introvert 🥲
My experience as an introvert has shown me that it is really easy to get depressed due to some of these traits. Alcoholism is also one of those things that may become a problem since alcohol seems to be one of the few things that helps you loosen up and be more open when socialising with people. Leaving the comfort zone is also pretty hard, but from time to time you just have to push yourself and try new things, so that for the next few months there is something to remeniss about.
Great point about the alcohol. I don’t drink but I like to smoke weed and I feel like at one point In my life that was the only way I could make/keep friends. But they were never really friends since the ONLY thing we ever did was smoke because it’s the only place I felt comfortable socializing
Actually for me its the opposite. I get super uncomfy when i drink and close in even more
You are absolutely correct. I tend to want to drink when socializing with people. I believe it's one of the many ways(if not the only) I can cope with people. Also when I drink, I feel more like I'm "normal" and believe that is the "real" me.
I also drink but I don't do it to socialise or open up to people. I do it to accept myself and my feelings, to cry out everything that bottled up and to stop overthinking for a moment and relax.
Honestly yes and no for me at least. When I am with my close friends I don’t mind drinking or not drinking. When I am alone it’s the same. Although I do enjoy a yummy red wine with a piece of steak. It’s makes me feel so happy to drink once in a while. Like there’s nothing better than having your favorite wine and freaking food. Alone though cause I can’t do it with others, idk 🤷🏻♀️ why but I am just happier on my own.