The Core Wound of Growing Up Gay (and what to do about it)

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ส.ค. 2024

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  • @jameswalsh8754
    @jameswalsh8754 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for sharing this video. It really spoke to me and I think it’s going to help me to deal with a lot of issues. I’m currently dealing with. You guys are incredible. I watch your videos all the time and I really appreciate you being there for all of us, I hope y’all can find peace of mind and health.

  • @desfrancis2543
    @desfrancis2543 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much for this super insightful illuminating exploration.
    So much makes sense to me now about things I just took for granted were weird quirks of mine. So much to delve into but you've definitely inspired me to go so much deeper and find the diamond that I've always believed is there rather than accept the messaging that there's something wrong with me.

    • @GayMenGoingDeeper
      @GayMenGoingDeeper  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for this beautiful comment.😍

  • @tolstoy431
    @tolstoy431 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    INDEED you shine a light in this delicate matter.....and these attatchment issues WILL have a major influence in the way we share relationships.....

  • @AsAmsterdam
    @AsAmsterdam 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much for these videos. 😭❤ ugh

  • @egroder369
    @egroder369 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I had a teacher who was very wounded, a workaholic who was cruel, even sadistic in dealing with his students. To the outside world he was a pearl as you describe, yet he sank slowly into alcoholism later in life, feeling he had become an outsider in his profession. By some miracle I got my degree in the prescribed time, but it took me decades to get over the trauma of dealing with this very troubled yet charismatic personality. I wonder if any thought has ever been given to the harm done by "high functioning homosexuals" who are extroverts giving ulcers to others not getting them.

  • @johnperrigo6474
    @johnperrigo6474 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you very much. I logged in 30 minutes after you started and will go back to the beginning now.

  • @SEACRUZNY
    @SEACRUZNY ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wonder how watching "The Wizard Of Oz" for the first time as an adult would affect you as an empath. ❤ Thank you both for the conversation.

    • @tolstoy431
      @tolstoy431 ปีที่แล้ว

      For me the Wizard of Oz is kind of a Healing movie......I watched it a million times.....whenever I feel down....it feels like Coming HOME.....

  • @firouz256
    @firouz256 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I was different than my brothers from a very young age. As a middle eastern gay boy life was challenging from a very young age.
    Fortunately I never was sent to a kindergarten so I was never unprotected and was bullied by other kids until I started going to school.
    But I was bullied by my brothers sometimes, which was painful. I heard my family talking about me especially my mum, because she was worried about me. At the end of the day the fact that I was different made everyone give me more attention, care, love and protection most of the time. I am a handsome, educated, healthy and smart gay man now. I worked very hard on myself and I am willing and able to accept my childhood - including the good and the bad.
    But nobody has hurt me more than other gay men. From a very young age I felt unprotected, misunderstood, abused and rejected by other gay men. It hurts so much more than being hurt by straight people.
    The amount of abuse that most gay relationships are infused with (I partly understand why but don't take it) is insane!
    What we do to each other in every sense of the word leaves me speechless.
    I still feel very uncomfortable in strictly gay locations, have barely any gay friends, have trust issues with other gay men and try to stay away from the scene and everything that goes along with it! As a social worker I reconciled myself with my "gayness" by working for LGBTQ refugees. So I can live out care, brotherhood, togetherness and community without being abused or exploited.
    I am happily gay and very happy to be who I am yet if I had a child who was gay, I would be very very very worried about them.

  • @gw6482
    @gw6482 ปีที่แล้ว

    Even though I appreciate the effort and experience shared, I thought the episode would focus more on personal experiences rather than technical definitions. Bit getting informed is always good, cheers!

  • @thestickgatherer
    @thestickgatherer ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This discussion came at exactly the right time yesterday. I listened to it and learned more about myself. Thank you.

  • @alexjosephstudio4427
    @alexjosephstudio4427 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you x

  • @TruthQuest4700
    @TruthQuest4700 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    WOW! It's inspiring to know your brand of gay does exist!
    Conformity for the sake of "fitting in" (tribalism) plays into the relationship dynamic of codependent people-pleasing while relinquishing one's sense of authenticity.
    Yes! Breath really helps me to reel in anxiety.

  • @space_eko
    @space_eko ปีที่แล้ว +4

    “Vibrations”? Idk, seems like a lot of really great discourse here but then there’s a lot of new age guru stuff. Also, what motivated a lot of queer people to “mask” is probably a feeling of a lack of safety, real or imagined.

  • @traiguen1000
    @traiguen1000 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow guys!! Thanx the Lord above I found you!! Because Im going to back to Heaven with Granny, Great granny and Great great granny, after my work is done down on Earth.
    I saw it in a dream. And yes: to Heaven as a gay man. (In other lives I’ve been a straight man, in others a straight woman.)

  • @kennethbailey9853
    @kennethbailey9853 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank You for this particular Topic.

  • @meropale
    @meropale ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Can't stand Eckhart Tolle.

    • @carlorizzo827
      @carlorizzo827 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I tend to agree, did not read any of his books, just the videos quickly turned me off. Not sure why. When someone declares we can choose happiness, or choose to manifest stuff, i just feel defective. And there's no arguing, they dismiss me as resisting. If it were that easy, we wouldn't need therapy.

    • @meropale
      @meropale ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Eckhart Tolle is such a hack. I started reading his book but thought it was such crap. It's almost insulting. I'm not even sure what "choose happiness" means :)

    • @user-sf5fk6ox4c
      @user-sf5fk6ox4c ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@meropaleHe's also antigay

  • @8inchesby1point5
    @8inchesby1point5 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yeah Rumsfeld said this.. or something..we know what we know. We know what we dont know. But we dont know what we dont know..

  • @kevseb66
    @kevseb66 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think I just realized my anxiety disorder is really the disconnection from my truest , most authentic self. I'm starting to really get it.

  • @carlorizzo827
    @carlorizzo827 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks so much Fellows...so much loss, disruption. Someday you may discourse on bisexuality. I was forbidden to lust for girls & boys equally. Many seem to believe the bi is merely still half in the closet. That's naive. First i thought bisexuality was the liberated sexuality. Later i thought it's the wishy-washy sexuality. Finally i find it's schizoid sexuality. I'm unable to pairbond with either. In some way, women are more dangerous: my nuclear females were violent. How about "bi-phobia"? I learned to never mention it. I have it! To have homo-sex i want a fully gay guy. I have enough to worry about, than if the guy i'm with would prefer a woman

    • @traiguen1000
      @traiguen1000 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      When we still lived in Matriachy it wasn’t unsual that a shamn would have a wife and a husband, beeing the shaman straight man or woman or homosexual or lesbian.
      And by the way, studies say only 3 to 5 % of the population to be fully straight or homosexual, most of it beeing bisexual more or less in different periods of their lives (gay as young, straight as an adult or viceversa, as well as bisexula the entire life).

  • @randomsanta
    @randomsanta ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this important exploration. Now, OMG! I wish people (such as you) would not use "RIGHT?" rhetorically !!! If you just said something, it is said. It is unnecessary, distracting, and actually dishonest and manipulative to, in effect, demand that I agree with you before you move on to the rest of your words, and as the speaker, create a framework in which BY moving on, there is an implication that I HAVE agreed with you. This practice has been spreading for years, and this is the first time I have said anything about it. OMG!

  • @ted1091
    @ted1091 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Waaaaay too much about him. Gotta go

  • @CorradoCameroni-tn9ju
    @CorradoCameroni-tn9ju ปีที่แล้ว +1

    😊❤ Love is love, love is gay, gay is fantastic 🥰 This I believe 🥰 l love the Rainbow Family 🌈🌈🌈❤😊