Healing From Sexual Trauma
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ส.ค. 2024
- In this episode Matt Landsiedel and Tirrell Cherry talk intimately about healing sexual trauma. They share their own personal experiences with sexual abuse and how they have moved through their own trauma healing journeys. If you have experienced sexual trauma, you are not alone. This episode was created with the intention to normalize having these difficult conversations that can lead to deep connection, authenticity and healing.
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I really appreciate this. I’ve had a lot of sexual trauma mentally from religious conditioning and just fear from the world and society.
I’ve had a lot of amazing partners, sex and sexual acts but no matter how great the relationships or hook ups were. I always felt this intense pressure in my single life that I have just fuck n fuck all the time.
I fell into some of these traps and I recently had sex and afterwards I’ve just decided…. I don’t want to participate in anymore sexual activity for a while. I’ve been having a deep pain of a lot of sexual traumatic memories.
I remember having sex with partners I was in a relationship with and just remember hearing “you’re going to get a disease and die, bottoming is a disease or death sentence” and I would always want to top cause it felt safer but even then those same pieces of shame come up so loudly
No matter how much healing I’d do on this subject. It seemed like nothing worked 😭 to move me out of this situation.
Thank you for confirming to me that I’m on the right vibe for myself in life rn.
I'm sorry to hear about your struggles, and I admire your self-awareness and decision to prioritize your well-being. Taking time for yourself and focusing on your mental health is a brave and important step. Wishing you healing and peace on your journey. 🌟💙
This is so empowering to watch as a victim of sexual child abuse, thank you for this amazing discussion, I only started to heal when I acknowledged what truly happened and stopped denying, this is uplifting for anyone who has been through this, and keep going stronger in this brotherhood. ❤
Also I'd like to add a part of the healing process is moving form the victim to the survivor mindset and hence being empowered by it.
I've only recently found this podcast and been devouring everything I could find about you guys. This has been the most profound exploration thus far. You guys have been so so beautiful in confronting these most private of thoughts and feelings. I'm sure you already know, but just have to affirm that you're touching the lives of people who desperately need to know the true and transformative value of being honest with ourselves. I'm always so 'sad' when the time is up because the 'high/affirmation' I enjoy in your company feels so GOOD. LOVE YOU SOOOOO MUCH ❤
Wow, your heartfelt message means the world to us! We're thrilled to have you as a listener and appreciate your kind words. Knowing that our discussions resonate and make a positive impact is incredibly rewarding. Sending lots of love your way! ❤
Acknowledging all aspects of ourselves sews together the fragments of our being because without accepting all of the parts that write our personal story we can never become whole and move forward. We also need to learn how to forgive ourselves which is a first step to self-love, and somehow learn through our experiences no matter how negative, and rise from the ashes.
I appreciate the vulnerability that was shared in this discussion and what is being accomplished with this channel because people ARE benefitting from this.
There are so many times, while Matt is sharing about his breakthroughs, that Tirell is sitting back smiling like a proud [black] grandmother. And I love it. 😊
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It's so encouraging to see Gay Men's Brotherhood seeking out queer black men to interview since Reno left! 🥰
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Brilliant! Intelligent, compassionate, honest. Well done, very interesting.
Thanks Steve 🙏❤️
Oh my god, this may have been the most emotional episode I have seen on this podcast. I am very grateful with both of you for sharing such personal experiences and opinions, I cannot even start to imagine anything like that. I have been very blessed, not only I have never had any experiences like those, but even most of my sexual partners have been very caring, gentle and trustworthy (even when they have done something I did not like, I just said it, they accepted it and we moved on, no one has ever done anything to me I have not consented). I truly hope your stories help and inspire the who need it, and that you both have found peace and your experiences made you stronger and smarter. Warm vibes from London.
Thank you Gabe 🙏❤️
Same here. Never been in a committed relationship but all my very few sexual partners so far have been caring and kind.
Very enlightening discussion! The notion about acknowledging our nervous systems is something I’ve never heard expressed before.
I’m glad you had some good takeaways from the episode
Matt, Tirrel I am so grateful to you guys for being so vulnerable, honest and insightful. I connected with everything you shared from the blaming yourself and questioning if you enjoyed it etc. I had a similar experience as Tirrel and being a woman you get objectified casually intentionally all the time on the streets in movies etc. so it's retraumatizing and it happened only recently again but this is so healing and validating and timely for me. I can't thank you guys enough. You guys are brave.
Thanks for your positive and loving support on so much of my content. So blessed to have you and the resonance we share ❤️
What a beautiful conversation! Thank you both for your courage and openness! I could relate to a lot here and it was really helpful for me to hear you talk about what I am too afraid to talk about... I know I need to go through the victim phase , but I've been avoiding feeling the powerlessness and shame and anger for so many years now. It just feels so 'unfeelable', if you know what I mean. I bottled it up to function and fit in, but the inauthenticity is killing me from within. Thank you, Matt, for sharing about your celibacy phase. I didn't realize this was actually a step to healing, I just thought that no matter how much I worked on myself, now I am completely broken, but it makes sense to me now... And Tirrell, you have such a kind and nurturing energy! Seeing you gives me hope, that some day I could also feel whole again.
Thank you Malina. I know exactly what you are going through and you’re definitely not alone. The unfeelable nature of recovery from sexual trauma is very normal. Sending you love as you navigate your own unique process. There is no right way to heal only the right way for you. Let your body lead the way and you will find the healing you need ❤️- Matt
@@GayMenGoingDeeper Thank you, Matt. You found the exact right words for me. I feel that somehow reading your reply gave me a little piece of myself back... :)
Lovely,.... Just lovely content!!!!❤️ Thank you for sharing this , Matthew
You’re welcome and thanks for always tuning into my creations. You rock 👍🏼
Thank you both your courage, leadership and grace. This was an excellent talk that i know will help many people. Blessings to you both for all the great work you do.
Thanks Chad 🙏❤️
This was a very good blog interview. I’m happy that guys are receiving healing.
Thank you Lawrence 🙏❤️
Thanks for being awesomely brave and sharing so honestly guys. 🤙🏽🙌🏽.
Thanks for the positive feedback 🙏
Excellent discussion. I think another discussion is well warranted. Sexual trauma has such deep, intrinsic, and long lasting effects. Healing...is like putting a puzzle back in a backwards method.
Yeah I agree. There will be much more dialogue on this and this episode is just opening the door
I'd like to touch on the effects sexual trauma has on gender identity, the loss of sexuality confidence, confidence in general ( the stun factor), the propensity of sexual kink play becoming part of personality...and finally the light at the end of the tunnel...is it possible?
@@williamdelgado3232 I do believe there is a light at the end of the tunnel but it requires deep healing and finding safety in the body again. We have to heal the patterns of dissociation and become embodied first and foremost
Being authentic in yourself, and not of the imagine of what you think others want you to be…digestible.
Thank you so much for the love 💕 Many blessings 💜🧡💛💚💙🤍❤️💜🤎💖💖💖
I relate. Thanks for your stories
Thanks.This was good to listen to
Matt's story is similar to mine, I was 21 and the guy was 42.
Sorry to hear you had to experience this trauma as well. Sending love ❤️ - Matt
@@GayMenGoingDeeper thanks for the support and for sharing your story. ❤️
This really helped me
So glad to hear that
I think when you subconsciously conflated asexuality with negativity it was rather damaging for people who fear they have something wrong with them for being uninterested in sex which they don’t lol 33:24
I can relate on mant aspcts thank you