You do a really good job of never making the audience feel like we're being "talked at" or lectured. You communicate from a humble, honest place which is greatly appreciated; especially in this community.
I agree with her completely, I'd rather have a medium workout 6 days a week than have 5-10 insane workouts a month and be bedridden with sore muscles the rest of the time.
@@lidge1994 exactly, as getting sore so often, unless the person wasn’t training or consistently working out, it might mean that they should take a little easier so they can train every day.
I struggle with this as a beginner. I just have to keep reminding myself that feeling hella sore all the time makes me want to quit entirely, which is the opposite of my goals.
I dont use social media's and only use TH-cam to learn to draw, accidently found you and found my second passion started the gym 2 weeks ago and now I've got goals to be a better me and feel good about my meat suit.
The period thing is so true😭 I lost mine 10lbs ago and it really is not great at all. I never felt happy, lost interest in everything, no energy, bad skin and my hair kept falling out. Once I gained some weight, it came back and I felt like myself again and my confidence has boosted significantly 🎉
The last advice made me feel really emotional because I struggle a lot with having a "healthy adult" lifestyle. As someone who has been working full time home office for the last 2 years, is really hard for me to have healthy habits but I'm trying my best; not only I go to the gym, I started going to the psychologist and nutritionist, I work full time I also I take care of my house and I do the cooking everyday and sometimes It stresses me out trying to keep this habits because all of this takes time and a lot of effort, both physically and mentally. Hearing that is ok to take my time is really comforting for me. I really like your videos and I love that you are so chill and cool Patty, thank you for sharing
maybe meal prep can help instead of everyday cooking. you're more put together than I am and I wish you the best growth as you go on. Is psychologist the same or strongly similar as a therapist? What are the differences?
@@twentyonetortas5921 they can do many of the same things but a therapist is usually a medical doctor and a psychologist is not necessarily one. Doctors can prescribe medication and provide talk therapy, while psychologists/counselors who usually have a master’s degree can just provide talk therapy (and other types of therapy). Seeing someone who is not a medical doctor is usually cheaper!
@@maddieb.4282 Minor caveat/correction here if speaking in the US context. A clinical psychologist is a licensed doctor with a Ph.D. Most cannot proscribe meds, but some can with additional training. Psychiatrists are licensed doctors as well and can proscribe meds, but most are MDs that took more training in psych. Therapist is more is more of a loose term and is not bound by licensure in every context. That said, there are many masters level therapists who are licensed in other specific contexts. All of these folks can be useful in a therapeutic context, but you're absolutely correct that it pays to think of what you are looking for and finding the right type of clinician/therapist/etc. for that.
Love being called out about the 1200cal diet, lol! Seriously, I'm in the same mindset right now about not eating and as much as I know I have to, I'm still restricting... and as much as I know that isn't good... I'm still struggling to eat. It's a constant internal battle, and I really appreciate you calling it out. It helps.
realizing that I DONT have to spend hours in the gym was such an eye opener for me, now I know you can do 4-5 exercises within an hour or so and get in a great workout the sound effects are hilarious btw :p Balance is definitely key, fitness should add to your life not take away from it!
@@rickygkilla1358 I think it's a natural mindset for most people when they are in their first few years of training (dont know how many years you've trained) I found that at least myself, As I grew and learned more over the years and my training adapted I found i needed those rest days during the week in order to recover and really eek out more growth which is where I realised all those years previous I had been killing myself in the gym (albeit enjoying the process) and the fact that shorter workouts and more rest days had me making more gains helped me to relax a little in regards to feeling like i had to be giving my all 24/7
@@rickygkilla1358 something that helped me with that was playing a sport like going swimming during my rest days, sorta made me feel productive and better about myself
Thank you Patty. I am just starting out in this fitness journey, I have been doing IF for 4 months already, and started the gym just a couple of weeks ago. It's so refreshing to hear a realistic and humanistic advice from someone as experienced as you are. Keep inspiring.
Something I noticed recently is the people that are more experienced in the gym have surpassed the phase of being disciplined and making themself go to the gym everyday. They go because they really just love training and lifting the weights. Obviously discipline still plays a role on the difficult days but if you struggle going to the gym and really can’t get consistent with it then just keep going and trying different things. People are naturally supposed to want to move so if you hate the training aspect of fitness there is probably an underlying cause. You may not be eating enough, sleeping enough, or just be doing something negative to your hormones (like birth control). Just keep showing up and learning and you will find yourself addicted to training like me. The hard part is everything outside the gym. The gym is like safe vacation where all problems disappear.
Another underlying cause of hatred of fitness might be negative experiences from childhood. If you have classmates laughing at you because you can't do shite, teachers being disappointed but hiding it because 'you're trying' and people quitting on teaching you things because it takes a longer time then they expected, it can really rub off on you. Add in being naturally on the clumsy side and afraid of injuring yourself and you have a person that hadn't worked out since PE stopped being mandatory for them.
i worked at an eating disorder treatment center for a while and i wish people talked more about these types of things -- there are so many misconceptions about fitness and body goals and talking about them is so important
I want to ask something, how would you tackle the topic of fitness to someone with an ed? I want to help my friend but she really is headstrong and a bit stubborn, I don’t want to force it on her (she already exercises but results take a bit long) and I really want to send her this video.
@@nat3299 i dont know if this was addressed to me specifically, but i would recommend you ask your friend about what their goals are in fitness and in their eating disorder - like what are 'results' to them vs. you? exercise can often be an extension of ED behaviors, so is it helping or hindering their recovery (if they are working toward recovery)? ED's are stubborn in themselves and often are self-enforcing, so it can be really difficult to disrupt those patterns if the person isn't on board/in that phase of their recovery. sometimes the things we mean as helpful for our friends can be taken in harmful ways regardless of how we intend them- if you're worried about sending them something like this, it never hurts to ask some variation of "hey, i know you have been struggling with this and found a video that feels like it might have some helpful perspective - are you in the space to see something like this right now?" if the answer is yes, sweet, you can talk with them about it and what feels helpful for them about it, and if the answer is no, also cool, what are some helpful things that they could use some support in instead? idk how helpful any of this is, but i'm rooting for you and for your friend!
One of the things I really didn't take into account when eating was tracking calories and macros. When I was 18 I would always skip breakfast and just eat meat and vegetables for lunch. Maybe I would have an apple or some fruit as a snack. And finally my dinner would always be a protein shake and a protein bar. I only realized I was under eating when one day I went to the bathroom and just passed out out of nowhere. My take is : always track what you're eating, because the worst mistake you can do is under/overestimate food
With University and work I discovered I was dating only 100 calories??? No wonder I was so dizzy and weak all the time, vegetables and fruit had barely any calories even if you eat a kilo of them you will not get enough energy
Hello Patty! I just wanted to say thanks for this video. I had bad asthma as a kid and almost never exercised . Had an ED as a teenager. Now i am a med student and I am just soooo underweight. Failed my specialty exam.. twice. And felt like such a failure. You inspired me to try and overcome this and also to try and get in better shape. So this video helps tons. Lots of love. Take care
Hit home with the first tip. I started losing weight by reducing the crap I was eating. Fast food, soda, anything I thought was crap. Dropped about 15 lbs. Loved the results so I started OMAD. I love eating once a day and don't suffer any hunger or weakness. My job isn't a desk job but it's not construction either so it works perfectly for me. It wasn't until I dropped about another 25 lbs doing that, went from 215 to 175 over a three year period, that I noticed that I couldn't get rid of the little fat around my stomach. Time to start exercising. As I started doing simple push ups, incline walking on a treadmill, and the like, that fat was still going nowhere but I was getting more toned, not good enough. Time to weight train. Before I got to that though I wanted to make sure I was taking in enough protein, so I started logging all my calories and macros. I was shocked to discover that I was taking in less than a thousand calories 5-6 days a week. SHOCKED! I wasn't experiencing any fatigue or weakness, I still looked muscular and hadn't lost any muscle mass that I could recognize. But my metabolism had slowed to a crawl. I started taking in as many calories as I could while eating healthy and only OMAD. I was eating over double what I had been, 1700-2400 calories and I started actually losing weight. I dropped to 170. So yeah, you have to find the sweet spot for calories that still allows you to keep your body out of starvation mode and then becomes the exact amount of calories you need without going over what you need. And this is all before you start to really get into weight training or exercise. I'll be honest, it's WAY harder than I thought. Taking in even 2000 calories on OMAD is a struggle most of the time. The high calorie foods are all crap lol. That's why everyone is overweight though. Eating too much is very easy, eating just enough is hard and you might not be able to know what that is without seeing a professional because everyone is different. Anyway, sorry for the rant but it was a trap I fell into. Love the tips and thanks for uploading, love your personality and content. 🥰
I think you have one of the most important points of view in the fitness community currently. Thank you for sharing and thank you to others commenting. I believe and I have find it most healthy for me both physically and mentally to focus on the process. I remind myself frequently, "Focus on the process, love the process, the goal is just something that happens along the way." It seems like hyper focusing on an outcome just has greater potential for let down and/or reverting to the way home is before once you achieve the goal.
This seems like priceless advice for people coming from disordered mindsets. And I say that without judgment and as someone who can relate on a lot of levels. It bums me out that these things aren't more obvious, but I'm glad this content is here for so many people it's helping
what i keep reminding myself: 1. no, no one cares what exercise you're doing. they won't care to think about you. do beneficial exercises that might look stupid. 2. just showing up is sometimes goal accomplished 3. drink water i was a professional swimmer, competed and won a bit at national level. but had to quit due to academic reasons. the exercise stopped but my diet didn't shrink. so i put on a lot of weight. pulling myself together and hitting the gym consistently now. hope to see good results in 4-6 months! patty, you have been such a big motivation tho. your Instagram posts make me want to keep hitting the gym for ultimate jojofication thanks xD
Thanks for all the advice. Appreciate you showing us your point of view. A lot of times once we get focused on our fitness journeys we try to take it to the extreme. Rarely does that ever benefit us. It may only increase our chances of falling off the wagon.
@@pliskin100 I feel bad for you. Doing sports in childhood gives you so much of an edge that no drugs can make up for it. Not to mention that those effects stay with you for a lifetime, not just a few weeks, and they improve your life, instead of ruining it. I was a typical chubby kid until I started to work out at 17, and only 1 or 2 years later I started getting comments like this. Some guy even asked if I had fake muscles (whatever that means). Why dont you try working out properly instead of being jealous?
Coming from a young impressionable girl I really look up to you you're awesome thank you for all your goofy videos and more serious ones like these. I have been considering quitting martial arts lately and I kind of feel the same as you did after quitting gymnastics this is really helpful I didn't realize how much I needed to hear this. Really rad stuff! P.S have you ever thought about naming your followers slim jims? Just a thought
if i could go back, i think i should have focused significantly more on tackling the emotional aspect that came from quitting a sport which was my identity and doing that immediately rather than dealing with the consequences for years (not saying that will happen with you but if our experiences are similar that's what i'd do)💪 also haha the slim jims
Worked in various styles of gyms for 10 years. Been a trainer, class instructor and the dude who folds the towels and cleans. Glad to hear these pieces of advice in such a down to earth and positive way. They are good and pratical, built on experience with a desire to build others up. Keep it up!
I've always struggled with body image issues, but I can definitely say I am happiest and leanest when I am just conscious and aware of what I am consuming and doing for my body. No stress, no self depreciation, I simply ask myself "how will this benefit me?", and discipline myself to do it. Exercising when I can, eat healthy, I don't restrict and still enjoy a sweet or salty snack here and there.
Yeah the food things really hit home for me... I used to do home workouts at the beginning of my journey and didn't really care about the eating part... And I gained maybe 2 kgs in 1 and a half year... And only after joining the gym did I realize my faults and actually started eating properly that I was finally able to come out of from being underweight all these years
@@skooom8218 on year I ate like 7 protein bars a day though for my nutrition so you can also go crazy the other way. I don't even need to explain the toilet situation. I was younger and much dumber😂🤦♂️
This made me feel so much better, if I miss working out once during the week I am beyond disappointed in myself. I rest on Saturday and Sunday, even though I have active rest days I feel like I'm being lazy and I don't want to write a paragraph but thank you for letting the overthinkers know we're doing good.
I can't even tell you how much this video meant to me to hear you talk about self love and having respect for your body. I'm 35. I spent most of my life beating myself up for my body not looking certain ways. I spent lots of time comparing my body to others. There are so many "body trends" in society that women, especially, have to "follow" in order to fit the beauty standards at the time. It used to be stick thin and a thigh gap that used to be the "in" thing and now, it's an extremely tiny waist with huge boobs, big lips that are usually pumped with filler, nails always done with a huge Kim Kardashian type of butt that's usually obtained by getting a BBL (Brazilian butt lift). Just when you think you have the body that is desired within society and pushed by every social media influencer out there, the body type that's desired, changes. We tend to treat our bodies like the latest fashion trend that we can just take off and change at any given time. Not to mention every celebrity, magazine, TV show or movie putting the same type of pressure on women (mainly) to change our bodies instead of love and accepting them. Everything you said in this video, was directed toward self love and it really helped me to hear you talk in that way. I've suffered with an extreme desire to be thin and even when I got to 89lbs (my lowest), it still wasn't good enough and I still wasn't happy. I still called myself fat. It's also caused immense damage to my body that I think is permanent. Due to being that thin for so long, all of which you mentioned, happened to me-loss of period, no energy (I had to sit down everytime I took a shower), vitamin deficiencies, my hair fell out in clumps and I also destroyed my beautiful teeth that I used to have, from forcing my body to throw up any food that I did eat on the rare occasion that I did actually allow myself to put any calories into my body. That's no way to live. I barely had energy for basic things. Fast forward to two years later, and I'd like to get back into strength training. It's hard for me to wrap my head around how much I'm supposed to eat though for muscle gains. I know how to eat healthy as I have been a vegetarian for 13 years or so, but I'm struggling with how much I'm supposed to actually eat and with the whole protein thing. Switching your focus from starvation mode and self destructive ways to healthy and using food as fuel, is actually very difficult to do. It's like night and day when you have lived a particular way for most of your life. But this video was one of my favorites from you. Just hearing you talk about giving yourself a break, but being hard on yourself or beating yourself up and shifting focus to respect and care for the body is honestly so helpful and inspiring. Thank you!!
Its really hard to break out of patterns of thinking that we have growing up, especially those concerned with self perception. its a losing battle to ‘fight’ yourself, as much as we may want it, it will never be satisfied. we can only let go. of that feeling of control. to work on realistic healthy acceptance. its not ur fault. let go of the guilt and shame and disappointment. in time that will fade. you’ve already past the first step of self awareness, the desire to heal and grow. the brains plasticity means that it can be changed. with small consistant effort. building healthy habits, routine, lifestyle. the body adapts quickly. a healthy body will lead to a healthy mind. focus on healing the body, and your confidence, happiness, self-assuredness will follow. I’m rooting for you
This is hands down my fav fitness channel. So much to learn as someone who never really had active family or friends and didn’t go to a gym. Keep being a gigachad bro
Patty - I love this channel and fitness channels like this because it makes the idea of fitness and living a healthy lifestyle so much more accessible, and fun, to everyone. Fitness doesn't need to look a specific, certain way. It is very dependent on individual goals and I don't think enough people realize that. It's not an all or nothing thing. Your advice about 'not letting the fitness journey becoming obsessive' and 'don't let your internal voice be too critical or negative' I think are going to be hugely helpful for beginners and advanced athletes. Thanks for the pearls of wisdom!
This is what I needed. I finally started my fitness journey about a month ago and I've been going every day for at least 2hrs, sometimes 3 and I started getting discouraged when I've missed a day, thinking I had to go harder and longer the next day. I'm glad I rediscovered you a few days ago, first found out about you about a year ago before I started to get really focused on my health and I'm thankful that you've put a lot into perspective in terms of not having to be insanely trying to reach goals.
It's overmotivation. It will drain your power eventually and you're not gonna be happy with any results you get too. Sticking to plan and mixing chill weeks (like workout every other day) and tough weeks helped me.
Patty... Thank you so much. I'm listening to this while doing a baby workout after breaking my leg and feeling so out of shape and almost cried just now feeling like I'm actually accomplishing something finally lol maybe I'm hormonal also. But I really find her so inspiring and helpful and fing chill. Thanks for the motivation patty ❤
Wish I heard these words earlier when I ve worked out a lot and started to look good building muscle... but I quit beacuse I felt overwhelmed about the strict rules I thought I need to follow in order to achive my goals. I want to start this journey again and I know that following your advices I can achive more and feel good about myself again! Thank you so much for uploading videos all the time! I love you
Patty! You are so inspirational idk why but out of all the gym influencers I feel like your so down to earth and just a big vibe, thank you for the videos and if you ever have like a fan meet up I would love to thank you personally, we are all going to make it bros
I really relate to being the happiest when I don’t put the gym as my main focus for the day. Having bad workouts or missing workouts happens and you can really beat the hell out of your body by overtraining. I also found when I went to the gym 5-6 times a week every week for months that I had really bad body dysmorphia and would harshly judge people for not taking care of their bodies.
This is great advice! Being hard on myself is the number one barrier for me when it comes to physical health. I've decided to finally make a change and I'm taking things slow so that I can learn to not be so critical while I also learn what sort of physical lifestyle is good for me. Thank you for providing such chill, practical advice!
Love this message. During Covid I started to drop lots of weight (about 4-6 pounds a week when I put my mind to it) and see a change in my body. I haven’t been under 200 pounds since high school so this was great! However, my mind was not at all in the best place nor was I doing it with the right intentions. I had to take a step back to reevaluate why I was doing it and if I was going about it in a truly healthy manner. I’m just now getting around to restarting and I’m trying my best to keep my mind in the right space.
Good to see you on TH-cam again Patty. Yes this was a big help. Being negative about food and exercise is a big trap. Starving yourself or pushing to much in the gym is counterproductive. Consistent diet and exercise over the long run is key. Chowing down when you are hungry every now and then or having a slack day of exercise or an extra day off is not going to blow the whole thing. If you ever need help with your body dysmorphia I would be glad to provide positive reinforcement.
hello patty At the moment, I'm recovering from an ed, I'm still afraid of getting weight but I know it's for my health. I realized I wasn't ok when my period stopped coming, my hair was falling out a lot and I barely had the energy to I do the training I'm still afraid, but your words and videos help me a lot to stop crying;)) thank you, keep it up😼
just a heads up (as someone on hormonal birth control), sometimes doctor's put you on it to fix your hormones (my cortisol and testosterone levels were too high, and my progesterone was too low), so it actually helps my mood/balances my emotions! it's not always the enemy 😅
The problem is they should test you before putting you on birth control instead of telling you that it's pointless to test and you just need to keep trying meds that make you sick until something works.
I often don't eat, despite being muscular and chubby at 90kg+. I exercise to eat and eat to exercise. If I stop one of those things I stop both. I hate that I do it. I think you helped me in this regard. Thanks patty. That being said, I'm really hungry. I will cook now
just got back into working out again after being in the hospital and losing the motivation, this video has really comforted me. You’re seriously the best
I first followed you because I really admired your physique, but honestly the more I watch you, I think you're an ever greater and stronger person, thank you so much
"While you're in that zone of working out -- Work out! Kill it! Give it your all, pour your heart, soul, tears into that! But don't let it bring you down. When it's something that's bringing you stress and making you feel bad about yourself? Reevaluate." Oddly wholesome and welcome reminder. Goin' on the quote board.
ngl i’ve been struggling with every single thing you’ve said in the video :/. i’ve been going to the gym 6 days a week for a minute now and this actually helps me out a shit ton. i’m going to come back to this video anytime i feel like i’m not doing enough or making enough progress . thank you :)
Hey Patty, thank you for being authentic talking about your experience in the world of fitness, I appreciate it and i have learned a lot. Greetings from Argentina :D
It’s funny you ended with “if it wasn’t helpful, I’m sorry,” because this has been so incredibly helpful. For you it’s a chill sit down and talk as you stretch video, but I’m gonna write this so you know what impact you can create without realising it. I’m on a 3-month health program to get fit, and I’m fumbling so much. I hit the ground running with it and was doing so good, but a month in, I’m slacking - I’m having too many cheat meals, I am missing gym more often than not and today I woke up feeling so tired and sluggish and had another cheat meal that I’m gonna hide from my trainer. BUT everything you said catering to the emotional aspect of putting yourself through this journey was so helpful. And so kind. Especially coming from someone who looks as stunning and strong as you. It makes me wanna not be so hard on myself and loosen my grip on the “timelines” I have in my head. So, thank you so much. I loved this video. I’m new to your long-form videos, and they’re even better than your already cool shorts. You’re amazing. ❤️
Great and informative video. Mad respect to you for sharing your advice and mistakes. I don't think the subjective and mental aspect about fitness is talked about enough on fitness channels. Most advice I've seen is just about exercise selection, technique, programming, and purely objective diet tips. This video is for sure needed and will help out struggling lifters and gym goers.
I struggle bad with body dysmorphia. My husband doesn’t understand it and I can’t explain to him why I am the way I am because it makes no sense to him. It’s so nice or refreshing so to speak to hear I’m not alone and someone else goes through it also. Thank you patty for making me understand my body even more
love your content, your dankness and your positivity about this "gym" or "fitness" live. I've been working out for 2 years now and all you say in this video is true, these are really good advices y'all!
I only went in a 1200 calorie a day to lose weight. It's been a long year. I started on March 24th, 2021 at 293.6 pounds and I'm currently 223!! Once I got to a decent weight I started weight training and I could barely do 135 on the bench press. As of today I can do 4 sets of 10 with 135 on the bench. I maxed out at 185 with 5 reps. That was a month ago and been doing push ups at home for the last 2 months. Been really into fitness lately and watch videos like yours! Thanks for the tips!
I know you're on tiktok but I don't have tiktok therefore I'm SO grateful you have a TH-cam channel now :)) I struggled with eating I thought I was fat all of the time, but then I started calisthenics two years ago and it kind of saved me. I realised I needed food
I have struggled with my body for a long time, and sometimes I still do. Recently, I signed up for a gym with the hope that by going there regularly, I will start to accept myself and my body more. My goal is not only to change my body but also to become generally healthier and maybe build a healthier relationship with food over time. However, it has gotten worse again recently. I find myself skipping meals and covering my mirror to avoid seeing my reflection. I am really worried about slipping back into extremes. Hearing that you have had similar experiences and talking about the importance of balance and not skipping meals gives me immense strength and motivation to keep going to the gym, even though I find the atmosphere there competitive and begrudging sometimes, I have hopes that, eventually, it’ll get better I guess what I’m trying to say is thank you for being so transparent about your experiences and your work 🙏🤍
the closing pep talk pretty much saved my mindset, i went to change and be happier with my body and be healthier in general but not seeing the changes on the scale has made it very hard mentally. I need to remember that even if my body doesnt change, i do FEEL healthier and i can do certain activities without running out of steam and i am progressing
Probably 70% if not more of what you've said was so much about my experience, and I'm honestly so grateful for you effort to teach us something. I feel like this video gave me so much calmness and comfort. Thank you for what you are doing, you are a great person))
That was some really useful advice.👍🏻 I will allow myself to ad one: take recurent pain seriously. If your back or any articulation hurts, if your body feels unbalanced, go see a doctor. I can’t emphasize how useful getting help from a professional is with problems like this. They can undermine your fitness journey, and even cause greater injuries. I know it’s hard to ask for help sometimes, or that not everybody has the option to do it, but if you need it and you can, go for it. Anyway, I wish y’all nothing but to stay healthy. 😉
I can't believe I never saw your channel before! I've been watching compilations of your workout moves from TikTok for so long... I'm THRILLED to have found your actual channel. 😊
such a good honest vid queen. i have gone thru similar struggles. its so refreshing to hear a REAL take that is actually legit healthy for mind and body. love all ur content
My wife is a counselor who specializes in treating teen/young adult women. Your channel and your message will help many people. I’m going to definitely let her know about your channel so she can recommend you to her clients
What I love is that this is stuff that’s intuitive but we all ignore on purpose! Also yeah, don’t let it become toxic. Exercise should help anxiety/body issues, not make it go into hyper drive.
This video is really helpful! As a beginner I often feel overwhelmed with informations I find on the Internet, like what should I do, what I should't do, what's OPTIMAL, ecc. Sooo... thank you for sharing your tips! Also, it would be cool seeing more videos where you tell us about your experiences :)
Everyone builds differently, my biceps and chest builds very quickly, so I focus on other muscle groups more so I don't become off-kilter. My stomach builds fat quickly and the only way I can get lean is too cut out almost all carbs. The only high carb thing I can allow while I am lean is rice. I usually just mess with the diet, never saw any results from the protein bars any additives like that. It's really about high protein and not eating things that disturb the livers function, like gmo's or high sugar intake. If you eat most of your carbs in veggies and most of your protein in meats like fish or beef, the natural fats help develop lean tissue and that's what people want. Getting your body lean and keeping it lean is a goal, but overall health is the most important part. And I like how you discussed that in this video. Peace...
i think i can now say that patty is my comfort character, when you watch all those videos that are connected to your goals you feel sorta connected to the person aswell. keep grindin' boys and girls we are all going to make it. remember Rome wasn't built in a day.
I just started working out again after a few months of just decaying in my room. I'm a teen so I felt like before school starts back up, it would be a good idea to take up a workout routine. I used to exercise for all the wrong reasons so I stopped. My mental state isn't any better (tbh it's worse since covid and changing to online school) but I know why I want to workout. I don't just want to look like a TikTok chick, I want to actually feel strong and be able to be proud of the effort I put into something. It's difficult at times but I'm trying my best. I may not be the model student I was before, but I can start to change to be a better verison of myself. Perhaps starting with my mental issues would have been the most logical first step, but I'm not a very logical person. Feel good and liking the way I look makes me feel ready to accept change in other subjects of life, like my schoolwork and state of mind. It's a start, that's for sure. Thank you for this video, your a really cool person and I definitely gained a lot of insight
Great advice, I worked out for a pretty long time and stopped for a long time too. Now I'm trying to get back to it. The best advice you can always give is, don't be too hard on yourself. It's better to get to your goal slower and have a good time than just rushing to it and suffer constantly.
bro that´s just made me think in another way, to be honest i don´t even know what i want in gym, be strong or be skinny i just love to do it and this video made me remember that. Thanks patty i really love your channel, you´re the best!
I'm really glad that you were so clear about how much this all depends on the person and their goals and situation. This is great info for the average lifter who wants to look and feel better and a message many trainers try so hard to deliver to their clients in a digestible way. Great use of your platform! 👍 Keep it up!
I have always viewed food similar to fuel like you have said. Even if your car is idling, it's still going to use gas. You wouldn't get gas after a road trip you would get it beforehand. I view eating/exercise similarly. Also it really helped light the fire under my booty is I stopped personifying my body. I started seeing it like a machine. It doesn't have feelings, I am projecting that onto it. I am the one with the feelings. I have to take care of my body and feeling what my body is feeling helps me do that, but I'm not hurting my body or making it mad at me by making it do work. I don't know if that will resonate with anyone else but helped me
My problem was trying to be really lean when I first started lifting, so for about the first two years I barely grew any muscle. I was eating like 1700 calories whilst working out and going to school, just starving myself trying to be low body fat. It didn’t work and I also didn’t gain much muscle. But I changed and started eating in the mid 2000 range or more (depending on my activity levels) and I’ve grown so much yet stayed relatively lean. I just wish I understand that I need to eat more and that being lean isn’t about under eating like crazy.
Really needed this video bc I struggle with everything she mentioned, especially with over training to the point of almost passing out😭 love you patty keep up the great vids
Thank you for your positivity, and "because we can't have you feeling bad about yourself" hit hard, for someone like me who is always most critical to myself...major silly goose activity for real 🙃
I have never heard someone else explain what happens to your food mental when you quit sports. ex collegiate distance runner who used to eat 4.5kcal a day to practically nothing. Still working on stretching this tummy to fit more nutrients in but finally at the point where i know i need it even if i don’t go to the gym that day ❤ much love and found a new fav channel
My biggest mistake: Trying to go to the gym 6 times a week while working, studying and not a having a gym close to home. I switched to a 4 times a week full body split with compounds and I actually gained muscle and strength. So, for anyone that’s way to busy, you can work out 💪.
Setting the bar too high can really be an awful way to demotivate oneself, when the truth is that even two workouts a week can create huge progress for beginners, and three meaningful workouts can include things done at home to bring up the frequency from 1 or 2 gym sessions. Any little bit can be enough of a difference from nothing at all to be worthwhile and get one started.
first time i found one of your TH-cam videos, honestly didn't expect you to be so chill and open. This was nice to listen to, thank you for sharing. It helps
Thank you for this video Patty! I’m hoping you can do some story time videos about how you adjust to the nutrition and protein intake needed to be healthy when you workout a lot. That’s something that I’ve been interested in recently. You are so inspiring and positive, and I love your videos! So thank you 😊
Thanks for sharing. The one thing I wish I knew beforehand, is that the skin on my shoulders and hips would flippin' burst when I started working out at 14, because now I'm stuck with the stretch marks. How you perceive your own body is a very tricky thing - I have people telling me I look good, but I just can't believe it (after all, only one of them actually sees me nude). I don't always focus on it, but when I do, it feels bad. Don't be like me! Btw, I don't have IG and stuff, so I don't know what people tell you there, but from what little I've seen of you, you're very pretty - remember that if you're ever in doubt.
i know sometimes certain physical attributes that society tells us is unappealing can be hard to accept (for me it's cellulite) but if it's any consultation at all, like 99% of the population has stretch marks and/or cellulite....so th media propaganda that it's unnatural is simply manipulation and any one who judges you for it can suck butt
You are the cutest human being I've ever seen in my whole life! Great insights, awesome outlook and really well articulated while somehow still being a totally loveable goofball. Love your energy and I hope you keep on killin' it in the future!
Honestly, part of the joy of working out is learning new things, imho. Just recently, for example, I finally understood how to bench properly ... after like 8 years of working out. It's super nice that there is always something to work on, something to improve at, and some new insights to gain
You do a really good job of never making the audience feel like we're being "talked at" or lectured. You communicate from a humble, honest place which is greatly appreciated; especially in this community.
thank you for that
@@theleanbeefpatty No, Thank _You_ *Patty*!
Your Favorite Pickle,
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@@pickletarts8196 wat
Agreed 👍 was thinking this same thing
@@pickletarts8196 My favorite pickles are dill
“You don’t have to feel like death in order to consider it a good workout” Patty so inspirational
I agree with her completely, I'd rather have a medium workout 6 days a week than have 5-10 insane workouts a month and be bedridden with sore muscles the rest of the time.
@@lidge1994 exactly, as getting sore so often, unless the person wasn’t training or consistently working out, it might mean that they should take a little easier so they can train every day.
Bars.
how else would you push to progressive overload
I struggle with this as a beginner. I just have to keep reminding myself that feeling hella sore all the time makes me want to quit entirely, which is the opposite of my goals.
I dont use social media's and only use TH-cam to learn to draw, accidently found you and found my second passion started the gym 2 weeks ago and now I've got goals to be a better me and feel good about my meat suit.
Hell yeah. I don’t know you but I’m cheering you on!
good, stay away from social media, even youtube. consumes too much time
Would love to see your drawings
Chad human being here
YOUR MEAT SUIT
Patty learned how to use a soundboard for editing and shes is USING it to the Full Extent😂😂
lol
The fart noises whenever she stretches 😂 I love her so much
@@megamovieman101 literally love the fart noises !!!
It's annoying
I was looking for this comment
We gonna make it bros,we all gonna be chads
Is that u in ur profile pic
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For sure
@@Fatasscock yes,1 month of training natural and vegan
The period thing is so true😭 I lost mine 10lbs ago and it really is not great at all. I never felt happy, lost interest in everything, no energy, bad skin and my hair kept falling out. Once I gained some weight, it came back and I felt like myself again and my confidence has boosted significantly 🎉
The last advice made me feel really emotional because I struggle a lot with having a "healthy adult" lifestyle. As someone who has been working full time home office for the last 2 years, is really hard for me to have healthy habits but I'm trying my best; not only I go to the gym, I started going to the psychologist and nutritionist, I work full time I also I take care of my house and I do the cooking everyday and sometimes It stresses me out trying to keep this habits because all of this takes time and a lot of effort, both physically and mentally. Hearing that is ok to take my time is really comforting for me. I really like your videos and I love that you are so chill and cool Patty, thank you for sharing
happy to hear you're also seeking professional support as well. I think every one could benefit from this 💪
maybe meal prep can help instead of everyday cooking. you're more put together than I am and I wish you the best growth as you go on. Is psychologist the same or strongly similar as a therapist? What are the differences?
@@twentyonetortas5921 they can do many of the same things but a therapist is usually a medical doctor and a psychologist is not necessarily one. Doctors can prescribe medication and provide talk therapy, while psychologists/counselors who usually have a master’s degree can just provide talk therapy (and other types of therapy). Seeing someone who is not a medical doctor is usually cheaper!
@@maddieb.4282 Minor caveat/correction here if speaking in the US context. A clinical psychologist is a licensed doctor with a Ph.D. Most cannot proscribe meds, but some can with additional training. Psychiatrists are licensed doctors as well and can proscribe meds, but most are MDs that took more training in psych. Therapist is more is more of a loose term and is not bound by licensure in every context. That said, there are many masters level therapists who are licensed in other specific contexts. All of these folks can be useful in a therapeutic context, but you're absolutely correct that it pays to think of what you are looking for and finding the right type of clinician/therapist/etc. for that.
Work life balance be stressful.
Love being called out about the 1200cal diet, lol! Seriously, I'm in the same mindset right now about not eating and as much as I know I have to, I'm still restricting... and as much as I know that isn't good... I'm still struggling to eat.
It's a constant internal battle, and I really appreciate you calling it out. It helps.
Yeah if you have an eating disorder, following a skinny woman on PEDs is probably not the best idea.
I hope you are doing better now!!🤍
realizing that I DONT have to spend hours in the gym was such an eye opener for me, now I know you can do 4-5 exercises within an hour or so and get in a great workout
the sound effects are hilarious btw :p
Balance is definitely key, fitness should add to your life not take away from it!
I think many know that, but its just a mental thing of having to go 150% 7 days a week for me. I feel lazy and unmotivated if i take a rest day
I'm cracking up over the farting noises while she's stretching, haha 😄 growing up w three brothers I think cursed me to laugh at farts forever.
@@rickygkilla1358 I think it's a natural mindset for most people when they are in their first few years of training (dont know how many years you've trained) I found that at least myself, As I grew and learned more over the years and my training adapted I found i needed those rest days during the week in order to recover and really eek out more growth which is where I realised all those years previous I had been killing myself in the gym (albeit enjoying the process) and the fact that shorter workouts and more rest days had me making more gains helped me to relax a little in regards to feeling like i had to be giving my all 24/7
@@rickygkilla1358 something that helped me with that was playing a sport like going swimming during my rest days, sorta made me feel productive and better about myself
6-10 hard sets per bodypart per workout is all you need... even 1 or 2 exercises is plenty. Do each bodypart 2x per week and you are golden.
Thank you Patty. I am just starting out in this fitness journey, I have been doing IF for 4 months already, and started the gym just a couple of weeks ago. It's so refreshing to hear a realistic and humanistic advice from someone as experienced as you are. Keep inspiring.
Something I noticed recently is the people that are more experienced in the gym have surpassed the phase of being disciplined and making themself go to the gym everyday. They go because they really just love training and lifting the weights. Obviously discipline still plays a role on the difficult days but if you struggle going to the gym and really can’t get consistent with it then just keep going and trying different things. People are naturally supposed to want to move so if you hate the training aspect of fitness there is probably an underlying cause. You may not be eating enough, sleeping enough, or just be doing something negative to your hormones (like birth control). Just keep showing up and learning and you will find yourself addicted to training like me. The hard part is everything outside the gym. The gym is like safe vacation where all problems disappear.
Another underlying cause of hatred of fitness might be negative experiences from childhood. If you have classmates laughing at you because you can't do shite, teachers being disappointed but hiding it because 'you're trying' and people quitting on teaching you things because it takes a longer time then they expected, it can really rub off on you. Add in being naturally on the clumsy side and afraid of injuring yourself and you have a person that hadn't worked out since PE stopped being mandatory for them.
She’s such an inspiration for me, like my cool older gym sister. Makes me feel safe and comfortable.
i worked at an eating disorder treatment center for a while and i wish people talked more about these types of things -- there are so many misconceptions about fitness and body goals and talking about them is so important
I want to ask something, how would you tackle the topic of fitness to someone with an ed? I want to help my friend but she really is headstrong and a bit stubborn, I don’t want to force it on her (she already exercises but results take a bit long) and I really want to send her this video.
@@nat3299 i dont know if this was addressed to me specifically, but i would recommend you ask your friend about what their goals are in fitness and in their eating disorder - like what are 'results' to them vs. you? exercise can often be an extension of ED behaviors, so is it helping or hindering their recovery (if they are working toward recovery)? ED's are stubborn in themselves and often are self-enforcing, so it can be really difficult to disrupt those patterns if the person isn't on board/in that phase of their recovery.
sometimes the things we mean as helpful for our friends can be taken in harmful ways regardless of how we intend them- if you're worried about sending them something like this, it never hurts to ask some variation of "hey, i know you have been struggling with this and found a video that feels like it might have some helpful perspective - are you in the space to see something like this right now?" if the answer is yes, sweet, you can talk with them about it and what feels helpful for them about it, and if the answer is no, also cool, what are some helpful things that they could use some support in instead?
idk how helpful any of this is, but i'm rooting for you and for your friend!
One of the things I really didn't take into account when eating was tracking calories and macros. When I was 18 I would always skip breakfast and just eat meat and vegetables for lunch. Maybe I would have an apple or some fruit as a snack. And finally my dinner would always be a protein shake and a protein bar. I only realized I was under eating when one day I went to the bathroom and just passed out out of nowhere. My take is : always track what you're eating, because the worst mistake you can do is under/overestimate food
With University and work I discovered I was dating only 100 calories??? No wonder I was so dizzy and weak all the time, vegetables and fruit had barely any calories even if you eat a kilo of them you will not get enough energy
Hello Patty! I just wanted to say thanks for this video. I had bad asthma as a kid and almost never exercised . Had an ED as a teenager. Now i am a med student and I am just soooo underweight. Failed my specialty exam.. twice. And felt like such a failure. You inspired me to try and overcome this and also to try and get in better shape. So this video helps tons. Lots of love. Take care
don't give up on yourself! you've done so much and you're so strong already! be kind to yourself and take care
@@theleanbeefpatty Thank you for being so kind Patty 💜 You’re wonderful.
Hit home with the first tip. I started losing weight by reducing the crap I was eating. Fast food, soda, anything I thought was crap. Dropped about 15 lbs. Loved the results so I started OMAD. I love eating once a day and don't suffer any hunger or weakness. My job isn't a desk job but it's not construction either so it works perfectly for me.
It wasn't until I dropped about another 25 lbs doing that, went from 215 to 175 over a three year period, that I noticed that I couldn't get rid of the little fat around my stomach. Time to start exercising. As I started doing simple push ups, incline walking on a treadmill, and the like, that fat was still going nowhere but I was getting more toned, not good enough. Time to weight train. Before I got to that though I wanted to make sure I was taking in enough protein, so I started logging all my calories and macros.
I was shocked to discover that I was taking in less than a thousand calories 5-6 days a week. SHOCKED! I wasn't experiencing any fatigue or weakness, I still looked muscular and hadn't lost any muscle mass that I could recognize. But my metabolism had slowed to a crawl. I started taking in as many calories as I could while eating healthy and only OMAD. I was eating over double what I had been, 1700-2400 calories and I started actually losing weight. I dropped to 170.
So yeah, you have to find the sweet spot for calories that still allows you to keep your body out of starvation mode and then becomes the exact amount of calories you need without going over what you need. And this is all before you start to really get into weight training or exercise. I'll be honest, it's WAY harder than I thought. Taking in even 2000 calories on OMAD is a struggle most of the time. The high calorie foods are all crap lol. That's why everyone is overweight though. Eating too much is very easy, eating just enough is hard and you might not be able to know what that is without seeing a professional because everyone is different.
Anyway, sorry for the rant but it was a trap I fell into. Love the tips and thanks for uploading, love your personality and content. 🥰
I think you have one of the most important points of view in the fitness community currently. Thank you for sharing and thank you to others commenting.
I believe and I have find it most healthy for me both physically and mentally to focus on the process.
I remind myself frequently, "Focus on the process, love the process, the goal is just something that happens along the way."
It seems like hyper focusing on an outcome just has greater potential for let down and/or reverting to the way home is before once you achieve the goal.
most definitely! it's honestly a hard mindset to achieve but when i stopped hyper focusing on the goal it just felt a lot better
I love that
“Focus on the process, love the process, the goal is just something that happens along the way.”
This seems like priceless advice for people coming from disordered mindsets. And I say that without judgment and as someone who can relate on a lot of levels. It bums me out that these things aren't more obvious, but I'm glad this content is here for so many people it's helping
Definitely learned more from her in a week than the majority of fitness influencers who says ab workouts to build packs. Thank you Patty!
what i keep reminding myself:
1. no, no one cares what exercise you're doing. they won't care to think about you. do beneficial exercises that might look stupid.
2. just showing up is sometimes goal accomplished
3. drink water
i was a professional swimmer, competed and won a bit at national level. but had to quit due to academic reasons. the exercise stopped but my diet didn't shrink. so i put on a lot of weight. pulling myself together and hitting the gym consistently now. hope to see good results in 4-6 months! patty, you have been such a big motivation tho. your Instagram posts make me want to keep hitting the gym for ultimate jojofication thanks xD
congrats ♥️
Stretching is SO important and will save you as you age. Guys need to stretch more!!!!
Thanks for all the advice. Appreciate you showing us your point of view. A lot of times once we get focused on our fitness journeys we try to take it to the extreme. Rarely does that ever benefit us. It may only increase our chances of falling off the wagon.
@@pliskin100 I feel bad for you. Doing sports in childhood gives you so much of an edge that no drugs can make up for it. Not to mention that those effects stay with you for a lifetime, not just a few weeks, and they improve your life, instead of ruining it. I was a typical chubby kid until I started to work out at 17, and only 1 or 2 years later I started getting comments like this. Some guy even asked if I had fake muscles (whatever that means). Why dont you try working out properly instead of being jealous?
Coming from a young impressionable girl I really look up to you you're awesome thank you for all your goofy videos and more serious ones like these. I have been considering quitting martial arts lately and I kind of feel the same as you did after quitting gymnastics this is really helpful I didn't realize how much I needed to hear this. Really rad stuff! P.S have you ever thought about naming your followers slim jims? Just a thought
if i could go back, i think i should have focused significantly more on tackling the emotional aspect that came from quitting a sport which was my identity and doing that immediately rather than dealing with the consequences for years (not saying that will happen with you but if our experiences are similar that's what i'd do)💪 also haha the slim jims
I'm currently struggling with an ED and you said a lot of things that were very healing for me, thank you so much 💗💗
Worked in various styles of gyms for 10 years. Been a trainer, class instructor and the dude who folds the towels and cleans.
Glad to hear these pieces of advice in such a down to earth and positive way. They are good and pratical, built on experience with a desire to build others up. Keep it up!
I've always struggled with body image issues, but I can definitely say I am happiest and leanest when I am just conscious and aware of what I am consuming and doing for my body. No stress, no self depreciation, I simply ask myself "how will this benefit me?", and discipline myself to do it. Exercising when I can, eat healthy, I don't restrict and still enjoy a sweet or salty snack here and there.
You covered my constant struggle in the physique segment. very helpful, thank you
it's weird and uncomfortable...good to know we're not alone
You have a really nice way of communicating without sounding like you’re telling people what to do.
Yeah the food things really hit home for me... I used to do home workouts at the beginning of my journey and didn't really care about the eating part... And I gained maybe 2 kgs in 1 and a half year... And only after joining the gym did I realize my faults and actually started eating properly that I was finally able to come out of from being underweight all these years
I just started caring about food and really got into training just last year I think I wasted a lot of gaining potential early on because of that, lol
@@Madchris8828 the gainz are made in the kitchen
@@skooom8218 on year I ate like 7 protein bars a day though for my nutrition so you can also go crazy the other way. I don't even need to explain the toilet situation. I was younger and much dumber😂🤦♂️
@Madchris F to your kidneys.
i'm on the same path. Good for you man takes a lot of work eating properly (for some people).
This made me feel so much better, if I miss working out once during the week I am beyond disappointed in myself. I rest on Saturday and Sunday, even though I have active rest days I feel like I'm being lazy and I don't want to write a paragraph but thank you for letting the overthinkers know we're doing good.
I can't even tell you how much this video meant to me to hear you talk about self love and having respect for your body. I'm 35. I spent most of my life beating myself up for my body not looking certain ways. I spent lots of time comparing my body to others. There are so many "body trends" in society that women, especially, have to "follow" in order to fit the beauty standards at the time. It used to be stick thin and a thigh gap that used to be the "in" thing and now, it's an extremely tiny waist with huge boobs, big lips that are usually pumped with filler, nails always done with a huge Kim Kardashian type of butt that's usually obtained by getting a BBL (Brazilian butt lift). Just when you think you have the body that is desired within society and pushed by every social media influencer out there, the body type that's desired, changes. We tend to treat our bodies like the latest fashion trend that we can just take off and change at any given time. Not to mention every celebrity, magazine, TV show or movie putting the same type of pressure on women (mainly) to change our bodies instead of love and accepting them. Everything you said in this video, was directed toward self love and it really helped me to hear you talk in that way. I've suffered with an extreme desire to be thin and even when I got to 89lbs (my lowest), it still wasn't good enough and I still wasn't happy. I still called myself fat. It's also caused immense damage to my body that I think is permanent. Due to being that thin for so long, all of which you mentioned, happened to me-loss of period, no energy (I had to sit down everytime I took a shower), vitamin deficiencies, my hair fell out in clumps and I also destroyed my beautiful teeth that I used to have, from forcing my body to throw up any food that I did eat on the rare occasion that I did actually allow myself to put any calories into my body. That's no way to live. I barely had energy for basic things. Fast forward to two years later, and I'd like to get back into strength training. It's hard for me to wrap my head around how much I'm supposed to eat though for muscle gains. I know how to eat healthy as I have been a vegetarian for 13 years or so, but I'm struggling with how much I'm supposed to actually eat and with the whole protein thing. Switching your focus from starvation mode and self destructive ways to healthy and using food as fuel, is actually very difficult to do. It's like night and day when you have lived a particular way for most of your life. But this video was one of my favorites from you. Just hearing you talk about giving yourself a break, but being hard on yourself or beating yourself up and shifting focus to respect and care for the body is honestly so helpful and inspiring. Thank you!!
Its really hard to break out of patterns of thinking that we have growing up, especially those concerned with self perception. its a losing battle to ‘fight’ yourself, as much as we may want it, it will never be satisfied. we can only let go.
of that feeling of control. to work on realistic healthy acceptance. its not ur fault. let go of the guilt and shame and disappointment. in time that will fade. you’ve already past the first step of self awareness, the desire to heal and grow.
the brains plasticity means that it can be changed. with small consistant effort. building healthy habits, routine, lifestyle. the body adapts quickly. a healthy body will lead to a healthy mind. focus on healing the body, and your confidence, happiness, self-assuredness will follow.
I’m rooting for you
This is hands down my fav fitness channel. So much to learn as someone who never really had active family or friends and didn’t go to a gym.
Keep being a gigachad bro
Patty - I love this channel and fitness channels like this because it makes the idea of fitness and living a healthy lifestyle so much more accessible, and fun, to everyone. Fitness doesn't need to look a specific, certain way. It is very dependent on individual goals and I don't think enough people realize that. It's not an all or nothing thing. Your advice about 'not letting the fitness journey becoming obsessive' and 'don't let your internal voice be too critical or negative' I think are going to be hugely helpful for beginners and advanced athletes. Thanks for the pearls of wisdom!
This is what I needed. I finally started my fitness journey about a month ago and I've been going every day for at least 2hrs, sometimes 3 and I started getting discouraged when I've missed a day, thinking I had to go harder and longer the next day. I'm glad I rediscovered you a few days ago, first found out about you about a year ago before I started to get really focused on my health and I'm thankful that you've put a lot into perspective in terms of not having to be insanely trying to reach goals.
It's overmotivation. It will drain your power eventually and you're not gonna be happy with any results you get too. Sticking to plan and mixing chill weeks (like workout every other day) and tough weeks helped me.
Patty... Thank you so much. I'm listening to this while doing a baby workout after breaking my leg and feeling so out of shape and almost cried just now feeling like I'm actually accomplishing something finally lol maybe I'm hormonal also. But I really find her so inspiring and helpful and fing chill. Thanks for the motivation patty ❤
Wish I heard these words earlier when I ve worked out a lot and started to look good building muscle... but I quit beacuse I felt overwhelmed about the strict rules I thought I need to follow in order to achive my goals. I want to start this journey again and I know that following your advices I can achive more and feel good about myself again! Thank you so much for uploading videos all the time! I love you
never too late to come back! and now you know better and that you don't need to be super extreme (in fact probably shouldn't be)
Very inspiring, thank you.
Patty! You are so inspirational idk why but out of all the gym influencers I feel like your so down to earth and just a big vibe, thank you for the videos and if you ever have like a fan meet up I would love to thank you personally, we are all going to make it bros
thank you
@@theleanbeefpatty Yaaa np dude 😆
I really relate to being the happiest when I don’t put the gym as my main focus for the day. Having bad workouts or missing workouts happens and you can really beat the hell out of your body by overtraining. I also found when I went to the gym 5-6 times a week every week for months that I had really bad body dysmorphia and would harshly judge people for not taking care of their bodies.
This is great advice! Being hard on myself is the number one barrier for me when it comes to physical health. I've decided to finally make a change and I'm taking things slow so that I can learn to not be so critical while I also learn what sort of physical lifestyle is good for me. Thank you for providing such chill, practical advice!
Love this message. During Covid I started to drop lots of weight (about 4-6 pounds a week when I put my mind to it) and see a change in my body. I haven’t been under 200 pounds since high school so this was great! However, my mind was not at all in the best place nor was I doing it with the right intentions. I had to take a step back to reevaluate why I was doing it and if I was going about it in a truly healthy manner. I’m just now getting around to restarting and I’m trying my best to keep my mind in the right space.
Good to see you on TH-cam again Patty. Yes this was a big help. Being negative about food and exercise is a big trap. Starving yourself or pushing to much in the gym is counterproductive. Consistent diet and exercise over the long run is key. Chowing down when you are hungry every now and then or having a slack day of exercise or an extra day off is not going to blow the whole thing. If you ever need help with your body dysmorphia I would be glad to provide positive reinforcement.
hello patty
At the moment, I'm recovering from an ed, I'm still afraid of getting weight but I know it's for my health. I realized I wasn't ok when my period stopped coming, my hair was falling out a lot and I barely had the energy to I do the training
I'm still afraid, but your words and videos help me a lot to stop crying;))
thank you, keep it up😼
just a heads up (as someone on hormonal birth control), sometimes doctor's put you on it to fix your hormones (my cortisol and testosterone levels were too high, and my progesterone was too low), so it actually helps my mood/balances my emotions! it's not always the enemy 😅
The problem is they should test you before putting you on birth control instead of telling you that it's pointless to test and you just need to keep trying meds that make you sick until something works.
My adhd really be living for those sound effects. Loved this video and how authentic you are.
You inspired me to start lifting again and eating right about 4 months ago. I just want to say, you are on point, as always. Keep Inspiring!
We love creator that are truthful to themselves, It is so fun to hang' out together. # teamPatty
I often don't eat, despite being muscular and chubby at 90kg+. I exercise to eat and eat to exercise. If I stop one of those things I stop both. I hate that I do it. I think you helped me in this regard. Thanks patty. That being said, I'm really hungry. I will cook now
just got back into working out again after being in the hospital and losing the motivation, this video has really comforted me. You’re seriously the best
I first followed you because I really admired your physique, but honestly the more I watch you, I think you're an ever greater and stronger person, thank you so much
"While you're in that zone of working out -- Work out! Kill it!
Give it your all, pour your heart, soul, tears into that!
But don't let it bring you down.
When it's something that's bringing you stress and making you feel bad about yourself? Reevaluate."
Oddly wholesome and welcome reminder. Goin' on the quote board.
ngl i’ve been struggling with every single thing you’ve said in the video :/. i’ve been going to the gym 6 days a week for a minute now and this actually helps me out a shit ton. i’m going to come back to this video anytime i feel like i’m not doing enough or making enough progress . thank you :)
Love how your advice leads to a more sustainable and open-minded approach to fitness
Hey Patty, thank you for being authentic talking about your experience in the world of fitness, I appreciate it and i have learned a lot. Greetings from Argentina :D
thank you! greetings
@@pliskin100 you must be talking about turk. She literally has a discount code if anybody wants to try that stuff. Code: BEEF =)
It’s funny you ended with “if it wasn’t helpful, I’m sorry,” because this has been so incredibly helpful. For you it’s a chill sit down and talk as you stretch video, but I’m gonna write this so you know what impact you can create without realising it.
I’m on a 3-month health program to get fit, and I’m fumbling so much. I hit the ground running with it and was doing so good, but a month in, I’m slacking - I’m having too many cheat meals, I am missing gym more often than not and today I woke up feeling so tired and sluggish and had another cheat meal that I’m gonna hide from my trainer. BUT everything you said catering to the emotional aspect of putting yourself through this journey was so helpful. And so kind. Especially coming from someone who looks as stunning and strong as you. It makes me wanna not be so hard on myself and loosen my grip on the “timelines” I have in my head.
So, thank you so much. I loved this video. I’m new to your long-form videos, and they’re even better than your already cool shorts. You’re amazing. ❤️
Great and informative video. Mad respect to you for sharing your advice and mistakes. I don't think the subjective and mental aspect about fitness is talked about enough on fitness channels. Most advice I've seen is just about exercise selection, technique, programming, and purely objective diet tips. This video is for sure needed and will help out struggling lifters and gym goers.
I struggle bad with body dysmorphia. My husband doesn’t understand it and I can’t explain to him why I am the way I am because it makes no sense to him. It’s so nice or refreshing so to speak to hear I’m not alone and someone else goes through it also. Thank you patty for making me understand my body even more
love your content, your dankness and your positivity about this "gym" or "fitness" live. I've been working out for 2 years now and all you say in this video is true, these are really good advices y'all!
your editing is phenomenal
I only went in a 1200 calorie a day to lose weight. It's been a long year. I started on March 24th, 2021 at 293.6 pounds and I'm currently 223!! Once I got to a decent weight I started weight training and I could barely do 135 on the bench press. As of today I can do 4 sets of 10 with 135 on the bench. I maxed out at 185 with 5 reps. That was a month ago and been doing push ups at home for the last 2 months. Been really into fitness lately and watch videos like yours! Thanks for the tips!
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More food dummy
This is an unbelievable progress! Hope you stay on this train and also focus on your happiness :)
@@chrismuller3778 thank you!
great work!! i know you'll reach your goals but i hope you continue to enjoy the process as well
@@theleanbeefpatty never stopped! Seeing results is the most satisfying feeling. Makes me want to be a little more dedicated and motivated!
I know you're on tiktok but I don't have tiktok therefore I'm SO grateful you have a TH-cam channel now :))
I struggled with eating I thought I was fat all of the time, but then I started calisthenics two years ago and it kind of saved me. I realised I needed food
I have struggled with my body for a long time, and sometimes I still do. Recently, I signed up for a gym with the hope that by going there regularly, I will start to accept myself and my body more. My goal is not only to change my body but also to become generally healthier and maybe build a healthier relationship with food over time. However, it has gotten worse again recently. I find myself skipping meals and covering my mirror to avoid seeing my reflection. I am really worried about slipping back into extremes.
Hearing that you have had similar experiences and talking about the importance of balance and not skipping meals gives me immense strength and motivation to keep going to the gym, even though I find the atmosphere there competitive and begrudging sometimes, I have hopes that, eventually, it’ll get better
I guess what I’m trying to say is thank you for being so transparent about your experiences and your work 🙏🤍
the closing pep talk pretty much saved my mindset, i went to change and be happier with my body and be healthier in general but not seeing the changes on the scale has made it very hard mentally. I need to remember that even if my body doesnt change, i do FEEL healthier and i can do certain activities without running out of steam and i am progressing
Probably 70% if not more of what you've said was so much about my experience, and I'm honestly so grateful for you effort to teach us something. I feel like this video gave me so much calmness and comfort. Thank you for what you are doing, you are a great person))
That was some really useful advice.👍🏻
I will allow myself to ad one: take recurent pain seriously. If your back or any articulation hurts, if your body feels unbalanced, go see a doctor. I can’t emphasize how useful getting help from a professional is with problems like this. They can undermine your fitness journey, and even cause greater injuries.
I know it’s hard to ask for help sometimes, or that not everybody has the option to do it, but if you need it and you can, go for it.
Anyway, I wish y’all nothing but to stay healthy. 😉
very important! i struggle with this because i hate making/keeping appointments 😭 but you're definitely correct!!
I’m so glad you started uploading to TH-cam. You always motivate me. LIGHTWEIGHT BABY!
I can't believe I never saw your channel before! I've been watching compilations of your workout moves from TikTok for so long... I'm THRILLED to have found your actual channel. 😊
welcome 💪
thanks for being so vulnerable w us patty. sending lots of love
such a good honest vid queen.
i have gone thru similar struggles. its so refreshing to hear a REAL take that is actually legit healthy for mind and body.
love all ur content
My wife is a counselor who specializes in treating teen/young adult women. Your channel and your message will help many people. I’m going to definitely let her know about your channel so she can recommend you to her clients
What I love is that this is stuff that’s intuitive but we all ignore on purpose! Also yeah, don’t let it become toxic. Exercise should help anxiety/body issues, not make it go into hyper drive.
Omg Mongolian fan here, a t-shirt with Mongolian script!! Thanks so much, you would have been a great warrior if you were in Chinggis Khan's era
There are so many fitness videos with tons of advice, but this is the most encouraging and motivating one I have ever seen. Thank you so much!
your jump cuts are seamless your voice just makes it flow and easy to follow. keep it up
This video is really helpful! As a beginner I often feel overwhelmed with informations I find on the Internet, like what should I do, what I should't do, what's OPTIMAL, ecc. Sooo... thank you for sharing your tips! Also, it would be cool seeing more videos where you tell us about your experiences :)
Everyone builds differently, my biceps and chest builds very quickly, so I focus on other muscle groups more so I don't become off-kilter. My stomach builds fat quickly and the only way I can get lean is too cut out almost all carbs. The only high carb thing I can allow while I am lean is rice. I usually just mess with the diet, never saw any results from the protein bars any additives like that. It's really about high protein and not eating things that disturb the livers function, like gmo's or high sugar intake. If you eat most of your carbs in veggies and most of your protein in meats like fish or beef, the natural fats help develop lean tissue and that's what people want. Getting your body lean and keeping it lean is a goal, but overall health is the most important part. And I like how you discussed that in this video. Peace...
i think i can now say that patty is my comfort character, when you watch all those videos that are connected to your goals you feel sorta connected to the person aswell. keep grindin' boys and girls we are all going to make it. remember Rome wasn't built in a day.
I just started working out again after a few months of just decaying in my room. I'm a teen so I felt like before school starts back up, it would be a good idea to take up a workout routine. I used to exercise for all the wrong reasons so I stopped. My mental state isn't any better (tbh it's worse since covid and changing to online school) but I know why I want to workout. I don't just want to look like a TikTok chick, I want to actually feel strong and be able to be proud of the effort I put into something. It's difficult at times but I'm trying my best. I may not be the model student I was before, but I can start to change to be a better verison of myself. Perhaps starting with my mental issues would have been the most logical first step, but I'm not a very logical person. Feel good and liking the way I look makes me feel ready to accept change in other subjects of life, like my schoolwork and state of mind. It's a start, that's for sure. Thank you for this video, your a really cool person and I definitely gained a lot of insight
Great advice, I worked out for a pretty long time and stopped for a long time too. Now I'm trying to get back to it. The best advice you can always give is, don't be too hard on yourself. It's better to get to your goal slower and have a good time than just rushing to it and suffer constantly.
bro that´s just made me think in another way, to be honest i don´t even know what i want in gym, be strong or be skinny i just love to do it and this video made me remember that. Thanks patty i really love your channel, you´re the best!
Patty 7 month ago I started working out everyday because of you and I never felt happier about my body, thank you so much for inspiring me!
wow! this is amazing!! congrats 💕💪
I'm 2 years into my bodybuilding journey and I needed to hear this from her ❤
I'm really glad that you were so clear about how much this all depends on the person and their goals and situation. This is great info for the average lifter who wants to look and feel better and a message many trainers try so hard to deliver to their clients in a digestible way. Great use of your platform! 👍 Keep it up!
Been exercising on and off for over 10 years now and these tips are still great to hear 💯
Patty is the highlight of my Sunday. Great tips!
I have always viewed food similar to fuel like you have said. Even if your car is idling, it's still going to use gas. You wouldn't get gas after a road trip you would get it beforehand. I view eating/exercise similarly. Also it really helped light the fire under my booty is I stopped personifying my body. I started seeing it like a machine. It doesn't have feelings, I am projecting that onto it. I am the one with the feelings. I have to take care of my body and feeling what my body is feeling helps me do that, but I'm not hurting my body or making it mad at me by making it do work. I don't know if that will resonate with anyone else but helped me
My problem was trying to be really lean when I first started lifting, so for about the first two years I barely grew any muscle.
I was eating like 1700 calories whilst working out and going to school, just starving myself trying to be low body fat.
It didn’t work and I also didn’t gain much muscle.
But I changed and started eating in the mid 2000 range or more (depending on my activity levels) and I’ve grown so much yet stayed relatively lean.
I just wish I understand that I need to eat more and that being lean isn’t about under eating like crazy.
I like that you take the pressure off. It allows you to not burn yourself out.
Really needed this video bc I struggle with everything she mentioned, especially with over training to the point of almost passing out😭 love you patty keep up the great vids
Thank you for your positivity, and "because we can't have you feeling bad about yourself" hit hard, for someone like me who is always most critical to myself...major silly goose activity for real 🙃
I have never heard someone else explain what happens to your food mental when you quit sports. ex collegiate distance runner who used to eat 4.5kcal a day to practically nothing. Still working on stretching this tummy to fit more nutrients in but finally at the point where i know i need it even if i don’t go to the gym that day ❤ much love and found a new fav channel
I looove these sounds effects. And the outro lol. Great tips!
My biggest mistake:
Trying to go to the gym 6 times a week while working, studying and not a having a gym close to home.
I switched to a 4 times a week full body split with compounds and I actually gained muscle and strength.
So, for anyone that’s way to busy, you can work out 💪.
Get a simple set up at home. Fuck the gym. Only for heavy sessions go to the gym. Like on Saturday.
yep, i'm doing upper/lower twice a week now and its perfect for my schedule.. 4 days still feels like more than enough frequency to make gains
Setting the bar too high can really be an awful way to demotivate oneself, when the truth is that even two workouts a week can create huge progress for beginners, and three meaningful workouts can include things done at home to bring up the frequency from 1 or 2 gym sessions. Any little bit can be enough of a difference from nothing at all to be worthwhile and get one started.
4 times a week full body is amazing
first time i found one of your TH-cam videos, honestly didn't expect you to be so chill and open. This was nice to listen to, thank you for sharing. It helps
Thank you for this video Patty! I’m hoping you can do some story time videos about how you adjust to the nutrition and protein intake needed to be healthy when you workout a lot. That’s something that I’ve been interested in recently. You are so inspiring and positive, and I love your videos! So thank you 😊
The way im obsessed with your content! Thank you 🧚♀️
Thanks for sharing. The one thing I wish I knew beforehand, is that the skin on my shoulders and hips would flippin' burst when I started working out at 14, because now I'm stuck with the stretch marks. How you perceive your own body is a very tricky thing - I have people telling me I look good, but I just can't believe it (after all, only one of them actually sees me nude). I don't always focus on it, but when I do, it feels bad.
Don't be like me! Btw, I don't have IG and stuff, so I don't know what people tell you there, but from what little I've seen of you, you're very pretty - remember that if you're ever in doubt.
i know sometimes certain physical attributes that society tells us is unappealing can be hard to accept (for me it's cellulite) but if it's any consultation at all, like 99% of the population has stretch marks and/or cellulite....so th media propaganda that it's unnatural is simply manipulation and any one who judges you for it can suck butt
You are the cutest human being I've ever seen in my whole life! Great insights, awesome outlook and really well articulated while somehow still being a totally loveable goofball. Love your energy and I hope you keep on killin' it in the future!
Love the wholesome content, Patty. This was all very helpful and much appreciated!
Honestly, part of the joy of working out is learning new things, imho. Just recently, for example, I finally understood how to bench properly ... after like 8 years of working out. It's super nice that there is always something to work on, something to improve at, and some new insights to gain
Love your editing, it just makes the video more watchable to me lol
thank you!