Especially for beginners: realize that it takes time. Most of the guys/girls that are just built like UNITS probably took years worth of proper training and nutrition approaches. Progress is almost never linear, so don't feel bad WHEN (not if) you have an off day.
@@X3RUBIM True. I have a degree in Kinesiology and it wasn't until i started working at LA Fitness after graduating that I realized how many typical gym goers were on gear/strongly considering it. Whether it starts with SARMs, peptides, or straight up Tren.
@ratss3778don't compare yourself to others! And doing something is much better then doing nothing! You will get there, just keep going!you are doing great 😊
@@basedbane787 this was exactly my approach at first lol. Just doing whatever, at least 1-2 times a week.. It felt kinda pointless at first, but going once a week felt easy enough to do anyway. Now im going 3-4 times a week and tracking more. Motivation is not always there, but habit is getting stronger week by week, I hope.
@@basedbane787wish i found this out earlier on. I suck when i have to take it seriously because i have other very difficult responsibilities that i would ditch exercise because it was the most expedient i could ditch. I decided just to have fun with it, and now i do it regularly because i just have fun with it
I feel so fortunate to have started my fitness journey in this age of free information thanks to influencers like you. I'm not perfect but I think I've done well with structure, diet and rest so far.
But in this time and age, where we have so much free information, you have to be extra careful about misinformation, that's being spread on the Internet. Remember anyone can upload TH-cam videos. Always research for more sources. Don't take anything literally. It can be dangerous. Even dear Patty's information. Check for at least multiple sources and even better scientific ones or at least peer reviewed references.
Its usually good, but personally, I tend to get really confused because everyone seems to say something else. Sure, I have my Sources I trust and listen to, (Daddy Noel for example) but I occasionally still get confused by other Influencers
My biggest mistake was forgetting that I had only been working out for 2 months. And being hard on myself but I didn’t have the body I wanted. This journey will test your Mental. I had to keep reminding myself that I just started. 😅 Update: I’ve been lifting for 9 months and psychology I feel like I’m not putting on muscle or growing but I can tell you that I have stretch marks and none of my clothes fit the same plus everyone tells me I’ve hitting bigger. I just wanna stress that this is a mental game. Keep going and push past what you see in the mirror. BODY DYSMORPHIA IS REAL !!!!
I started back to the gym in January after taking years off. I feel so disappointed that I'm not seeing intense progress in my appearance (I can tell I'm getting stronger at least) but it's only been a few months. I'm glad I saw this comment tonight. 🙂
YESSSS THIS! I did not feel happy that I have not achieved in 6 months what someone else, who has been working out for years, have achieved in 6 months. I thought I was failing.
It DOES get repetitive. Going to the gym, lifting weights, taking supplements (if you do), dealing with guilt for not going. I’m telling you it’s okay to take a week or two off, and fill your life in with other activities or just take a break. I don’t mean to be a couch potato the whole time, go outside, read a book, hangout with friends. I promise you’ll feel brand new going back into that gym and a lot better after that first workout. Stay blessed y’all, and good luck with your fitness journey.
I agree! What matters the most is that you go back to the gym/working out :) So far I’ve had periods where I go the the gym every week, for two months, and then I stop working out, for two months. Then, I repeat the cycle. Fortunately, I have been able to go back to the gym in a shorter period of time, because I am now aware of the pattern I’ve been following unconsciously, but it isn’t easy. Stay blessed, too. 😊
my problem is my adhd lol i love working out but the repetitive same rountine is dragging me down. to handle this i have changed my routine and incorporated new exercises as well
While I do think taking time off is good, taking multiple weeks off at a time isn't good advice in my opinion if you lift heavy. Any time I've gone a few weeks without training and gone back I've lost noticeable progress. You have to ramp back up slowly as well or you'll wreck your muscles for days, meaning you shouldn't lift for even longer and then it's this whole thing that messes up your flow. I'm no professional here and I'm just saying what's worked for me, but I think if you wanna take some time off, limit it to maybe 4 or 5 days.
Yeah, it's really good to take a break, but I don't recommend to stop completely, I recommend what she said in the video: Active Rest. It means that you still goes to the gym (or do a home workout), but you do 20-25% of what you'd normally do. It is very important! I stopped for a week and I felt a little week and muscles soreness.
Another piece of beginner advice: It's normal for your muscles to be asymmetrical. One pectoral might be larger than the other. One arm or shoulder might be stronger than the other. That is normal at the start.
So would you say they even out eventually, or do you actively need to do more reps etc on the weaker side? I've been working out with weights less than 4 months (dumbbells at home, not gym) and getting frustrated with the imbalances I'm seeing between different sides (partly due to prior injuries, but I don't know how to fix that) 😖
@@oksanakaido8437 I am no expert and sorry for sticking my nose in, but from what I know: you start the exercise with the weaker side and, let's say, you lift the hantle 8 times. Then you change hands and with the stronger one you still do only 8 lifts (even if you could do, idk, 12).
my biggest mindset change when i was first starting in the gym was realizing that 90% of the people in the gym with you are there for more or less the same reason you are. it's not so scary when you think of it like that, as a community.
Yes. Also realizing that people who are good at something (as in, they have a good shape and exercise regularly) are actually EAGER to see others who value that. They want to help, they will most of the times answer your questions, lift you up, correct yoru mistakes. If you don't have too much of an ego coming in, people can see it, and they will help you. It's so rare for people to be hard-working, that when a hard-working person meets another they go "omg! finally someone who is coming in and putting the work with the right attitude. Here is all you need to get where I got, now go do it!" We often have insecurities that those further than us in a certain path will try to harm our progress, but it's the opposite. The path is hard, and most peopel welcome anyone who wants to walk it. Because most peopel are just bravado and shallow behavior and very little REAL desire to change. A dedicated person in any area of life is a gem, and they are easily spotted.
Yes! I realized that recently, too. I was at the gym resting between sets listening to people grunt and slam weight and I thought to myself, "We all came here to suffer today." A big group of crazy people who enjoy suffering in the name of gains.
90% of the people in my gym are not working out though, 40 mins on the treadmill setting 5 whilst watching coronation Street is not going to cut it, I have nothing but contempt for these people.
@Phoenix-ov5gg Doing much better thank you. I actually spent for a therapist to heal my mind faster. And I'm OK and looking forward to next year. Just like David Goggins would say - You don't know me son!!! 🤣
@@YeahBruhDoIt good to hear bro 😎 I still remember my first breakup, I was a mess for a whole year 😂 was a long time ago though! Stay strong and focus on self improvement 💪🏻
As someone that has been training 30 years and worked in the industry 20 years absolutely everything in this video was 100% spot. In a world filled with bad fitness advice I hope your channel goes mega. Keep rocking.
@@xx_liveyoung_xxv.9219 i would say to slowly integrate healthier meals that keep you full rather than tiny meals that would lead to bingeing. for example integrate fruits, protein and fibers into your breakfast to keep you full ( if you have anorexia, i would recommend slowly adding in foods that make you feel good because they taste good. get rid of the salads like lettuce and stuff, seriously.) and just remember to try your best and never give up. ive given up many times but that only leads me to losing time so i have decided to never stop now. and also its all about balance. like eat one unhealthy meal or snack in a day and balance it out with 2 healthy meals and snacks
My biggest mistake was falling off the wagon with my diet for two weeks during vacation and thinking that I had lost all of my progress at the time (I was down 55lbs). This led me to fall back into not even working out. If I just would've got back to it after vacation I would've been just fine but I ended up not working out or dieting for over 2 years. Now I'm back to where I started but I have made progress this week by getting back to the gym and slowly improving my diet. KEEP AT IT!!!
Yes this has recently happened to me. Went to vacation for a week didn’t eat a ton but ate what I wanted. The gym there at the resort only had light dumbbells. So workouts weren’t really work outs. When I got back home i went to the gym but my progress went out the window, I lifted less and slowly ate more and stopped going to the gym all together. I’m working on trying to find that balance again. It’s definitely hard when you think you lost everything you worked for for months.
Yep, this happened to me, lost 90 lbs in a year, hit a plateau, vacation/Thanksgiving happened, fell off the wagon, gained 30lbs in 4 months, I'm working on it again.
This happened to me last year. Right when I saw my body changing after about 3-4 months, my dad died abruptly. Gained everything back in 2-3 weeks and lost focus. I just started back again. One day or Day one is my motto now.
1.) Structure (i.e scheduled workouts, tracking food/progress) 2.) Going through the motions (safe form, but go till you cant) 3.) Rest more seriously/ active rest days/ (hurts the body and mind!! get full 7-9hrs) rest till heartrate recovers during workouts 4.) Food is NOT the enemy (Calorie Deficit.) 5.) No goals / focusing on short term ( will lead you to nowhere)
Something that's been absolutely crucial for me is the intent behind fitness. In the past, every attempt at getting fit was always fueled by a dislike for how my body looked, and I lost motivation every single time. This time around, I started working out with the desire to feel an improvement in my body and to become stronger. It's easier (and healthier) to strive for something you want to add to your life than to run away from something you already have, but dislike. I added healthier and more nutritious foods to my diet. I was encouraged every time I noticed the same workout I did the previous week felt easier. I felt the overall improvement within my body before I started seeing it on the outside. And by approaching fitness through positive additions, I inevitably ended up decreasing the things I didn't like when I started. I lost 45 pounds, I'm at a healthy weight, I put on more muscle than I expected, and most importantly, I now know for a fact that I can do this. When, not if, I ever have a big setback, I know I can get back here with time. The other day I shocked myself when I could do a pull up, something I've never been able to do. My next goal is to do 10 :)
My only reason for working out in the past was to change my physical appearance because I so badly resented it. Now, I do want to change how I look, but I also have the intention of getting stronger and maximizing my load. I struggle with body checking throughout the day like “Is my dream body there yet?” Lol it’s a bad habit I would like to stop.
If you’re a stay at home mom like me and workout at home, something that has helped me get my workouts in is to break up each set of my workout during my children’s meal time which is like 3x a day. That’s how I’ve been able to fit it in. Before I would be too scared to even start my workout session out of fear of getting interrupted or taking too long to go through it. So some days I’d skip out on working out all together. Now I’ve been able to consistently get my workouts in because thankfully my children eat their meal each day 3x a day. Hopefully that may help someone else that’s in a similar situation. I’ve still seen results this way.
I am currently in the eating disorder part of my fitness journey and you couldn’t have said it better that it is the most mentally and physically taxing thing of my life. I’m binging like 2 times a week at this point and I’m trying to get back to the point where I’m not scared of food and not restricting because the binges are terrible. So yeah I have to second the eating disorder part because it’s atrocious and hard
I've really struggled with this too. I hope you can slowly work towards a healthier relationship with food! It's taken me a lot of time but your body feels a lot better (mentally and physically) once you can get over the hump
Im also someone who has suffered from different types of eating disorders since school for the last 12-13 years . Keep doing the best u can and work on yourself keep smiling your doing great
i struggled with an ed as well. i decided to make a change when i was literally about to pass out every day at work because of how manual it is. what’s really helped me is tracking my calories and going onto a keto diet. it keeps my stomach satiated so i’m not binge eating after starving myself for days. myfitnesspal helps keep me in line with that. it’ll let me know if i haven’t ate enough calories, which keeps me honest with myself. hopefully you can overcome this. i know how rough it can get. a good support system is always nice to have as well. hopefully you can find one/ already have one
im going through the same thing, i’ll restrict for days and then binge so bad that i actually start vomiting because my stomach is so small from restricting and because im somewhat slim nobody takes me seriously about my binges
My biggest mistake was letting most of my "friends" who aren't really even friends know that I lift, same with family and extended family, they keep trying to get me to stop when I do not want to stop, this is the only healthy habit I was actually able to built and is the only thing that consistently brings me joy and happiness I do not want to stop it and they just keep pestering me about it, I do have a handful of true friends and they're very supportive and one of them even started lifting because of me
@@peterknguyen it's a mixture of ignorance because they think working out is gonna make me die younger and maybe envy that I built a healthy habit while they still complain about gaining weight even though they eat like each meal is the only meal they're getting for the whole month lmao
@@manspeej i really doubt they want you to stop because you will die younger, im positive that they envy you because you want to live an active lifestyle. luckily for me i have a family that supports and encourages me
@@ernestogastelum9123 yea i know that's not the reason, they say that it'll make me die younger, they know damn well that's made up lmao and it's just to cover up their real reason
I agree with splitting up different workouts for different parts of the body on different days, but it's hard for me to do that because I always feel as if I'm "not doing enough." Does anyone else get this feeling?
I did when I was younger but now I’m happy to get in and get out faster. I love long workouts, still! But I developed other hobbies outside of the gym and that makes me feel more well-rounded. Less gym time=more time to garden! As long as you are accomplishing the goal, don’t worry about underperforming. Instead, find other cool things to do with that time.
The hardest thing for me (and still is) is realising that the body of my dreams is the opposite of my body type and although I could probably get close to that the sacrifices aren't worth it. Being your fitest and your healthiest is the most important thing not looking at what others have and wishing for that x
Dude, when you talked about seeing food as the enemy and wanting to be thin and small but ripped and lean the entire year, I relate SO HARD. Took me three years of weightlifting ( and a herniated disc) to learn my lesson. I feel like its such a common thing to go through. Honestly I love your content because you have such a healthy relationship with the life style. Your vids make me want to get back into lifting for enjoyment and not self hatred, thanks for your content Patty.
Ikr, but I kinda wish people would stop saying that weightlifting can’t make women “bulky” cause we dont have enough testosterone. Most women who consistently work out (with progressive overload and caloric surplus) will grow bigger muscles, and while there’s nothing wrong with that, it might not be what everyone’s aiming for.
@@AM-vn4cc IMO it's kind of acceptable to say because gaining appreciable muscle is pretty hard. so by the time anyone of sex within genetic norms would get to a place that would be considered abnormal they'd have done a significant amount of work -- enough to hopefully get more knowledge on what works for their goals. but either way feeling good is better than striving for some ever changing set of societal norms
@@miatomi I’m just speaking from personal experience. Once I started going to the gym seriously, within about half a year I got huge quads. While having fairly low body fat, my legs are big with defined, protruding muscles, and my abs/obliques made my waist bigger instead of slimmer. Not saying it’s ugly, but it isn’t really what I wanted personally. Hope this doesn’t dissuade other women from weightlifting, but if you have a specific look in mind it’s something to be aware of and tailor your program accordingly.
One of my biggest mistakes was focusing on weight instead of form and repetitions. As patty mentioned you have to make sure your form is perfect before moving up weight, dont be shy of grabing the 5 lb bells and perfect the motion and really concentrate on how your body is feeling. I been working out for months now and still grab the 5 lb from time to time.
I felt the "making food your enemy" part! I was eating nothing. Fasting everyday and the only meal I would have was oatmeal. AND AT THE SAME TIME WORKING OUT. I got the body I wanted, ngl. But I was unhealthy and I knew I wouldn't be able to maintain that because as you said, it makes you suffer. I was miserable. I loved to see my bones sticking out, the abs showing, my face getting smaller, having no period.... It made me develop binge disorder and I gained it all back. Now I'm trying to eat better and start working out again. I wanna be very lean and skinny. I'm afraid of falling down to anorexia again and the bad habits coming back, but I'm not gonna give up on having the perfect body.
"perfect" is an ambiguous concept. Why? because its common to have one body type and trying to reach another simply because of our will/desire. What she said in this video is exactly that knowing her structure better, gave her happier days. Example: if you are medium body type (mesomorph), why try to be under weight like you were small body type (ectomorph)? That will lead you to mental suffering to reach and to maintain yourself "out of your league". Pay attention to this point. ok?
@@planetafuria7944 Of course! The thing is that when you're disordered, you're not really concerned about the damage that being malnourished does to your body as much as you reach your gw. I'm recovering now, and starting to think about my body paying attention to what it can reach while it stays healthy, is something that I really just started thinking about now. The body dismorphia doesn't go away, wich is horrible. I'm at a healthy weight now, but i still feel very fat.
best advice in this video is to get your info from multiple sources. and come up with your own journey. that's what worked for me. experimenting from different peoples information. and seeing what worked with my body.... good to see a fitness influencer that doesn't just think what they do is the right way
Yesss, this. The amount of research that has lead to contradictory information, I just have to listen to the most credible and experiment myself on what works
For me, personal mistake made when I began was lack of stretching and mobility work. This led overall to injuries I sustained several years later even as far as 2021, via tension accumulated over time in lower lumber area and hips. After recovery from said injuries, stretching and mobility work are done religiously and ever since, have seen and felt massive improvements with the body, workouts, plus no injuries since. Get that stretch everyone! 💪
Not every Body is the same. What may work for one person, may not benefit the same way for another. Research is always encouraged before trying anything new
Advice that I find myself giving pretty much anyone I know who is on a fitness journey is “improvement comes in many ways, don’t overlook progress in one area because you are focusing on a specific thing” A lot of new lifters, after the newbie gains taper off, get discouraged when a particular lift goes down for a couple weeks, and ignore that they are still progressing in other lifts, or even accessory movements. Look at the whole picture!
What do you mean “goes down”? Ive never gone down in strength week to week. Perhaps workout to workout i might get a rep or two leas but if you are going down in strength then you might should look at your diet and if you are eating enough.
@@kevinwheeler5595 there are many other factors, especially when it comes to powerlifting. Progress is never a perfect incline. Sleep, activities outside of the gym, diet, stress, etc, can have an impact on your performance. After 18 years of lifting, this kind of stuff becomes super apparent.
I recently had a below knee amputation and ended up sedentary and depressed for 4 and half months. I've gained a bit of weight and hate it. Now that I'm back on my feet all I want is to get back into shape but finding a physique I want to mimic and knowing how to obtain it has been super difficult. I'm so glad I found your channel.
Noicely done. That was refreshing and still relevant today and I’m 57 and trying to get back to exercising and working out as a part of my life. Best regards and continued success on your journey in life.
My biggest mistake, the one that held me back for years (and I mean years, like a decade) was not pushing hard enough. Therefore I would never grow no matter what, and that caused me frustration, hit my self-confidence pretty bad in a way I have still yet to recover from, etc. Then one day, by pure chance, I did a massive workout that pushed me way beyond my limits, got scared as f I would die... but I didn’t die. From then on, I have been making massive gains, like I am not super muscular, but my strength has improved so much, and I can see that by me being now able to lift and carry stuff I could not even move before. So, my advice is “you ain’t made of sugar”.
Note to all beginners: getting fit takes so much time but it will happen. Never underestimate or even overestimate yourself. Your rest day is important more than training trust me the last thing you want is an injury. Also I remember watching another Patty vid and she said never ignore your cravings just don't make it a habit. So to all beginners take your time, rest, challenge yourself a little if you're up for it as long it never exceeds the weight example lifting 20 and want to move up to 50 no no no you don't do that. You do 20 then 25 then 30 and so on but take it slow. Also if you're hurt please recover the last thing you want is a broken body. For me I like to do leg day, chest day with arms and back day 3 days a week(I re-read this and I thought it might confuse people so the example is Monday back Thursday legs and Saturday chest). If you think that's not enough everyone's built differently so leave it. So in short rest, train but never go over your limit, never ignore your cravings and be patient but be proud of all your progress because I am so proud of what I did within 9 months I'm 170 lbs roughly in the 170-174 range for a 28 year old 6 foot guy. I cant wait til I come back but I gotta wait for the ok from the doc that I can do everything I want.
@@vin_rouge180 well when I start I lost the fat first then over time I gained muscle took me about 6 months to notice changes once I lost the fat which was probably 3 or so month maybe less.
@@vin_rouge180 not sure what u mean by that but. For me I didn't pay too much attention to my calories. Just stick to high protein, fruit and vegetables and you're fine. And make sure you treat yourself once a week to reduce cravings. You don't want cravings because that leads to over eating and gain weight not gaining muscle or even cutting.
As a beginner, this made me realize I'm super lucky a trainer that helps you get a schedule from day one is part of my membership. She went with me through everything I wanted to achieve, made a personal training schedule, and went with me through every exercise, making sure I was doing it right, and knew where I needed to feel it. Also adjusted it at the end when I told her I wanted to get back into martial arts again, and added a lot of stretching. I don't really need it, but she also studied food and diet (no clue what the study is called), so she helps a lot of people with finding the right diet too. Anyway, as a beginner, I'd recommend a trainer, even if it's for one time, to know what exercises will get you where and to make sure you're doing it right. I honestly really like my gym, it's very small and low key, but everyone is super kind and I really like a lot of the exercises (I never got into strength building, and I love it).
Trainers are genuinely so helpful, I used to have one until our gym shut down and man even though I loved every second of it I still didn't appreciate it as much as when it was gone
Embarking in my fitness journey is fr changing my whole life! And it's just so powerful the way you can apply gym lessons to your life, for instance to know that growth takes TIME, to value your rest, and to be mindful of what you are ingesting. On a more practical note, absolutely relate to pretty much all the topics... great list! Having a set created for your specific goals at the time makes huge impact, and DUDE can't stress enough how important it is to know how to perform each movement... When I started training with a more experienced friend, who taught me a lot, I found out I had been basically placing my feet wrong for a stable balanced position ALL MY LIFE. Anyway, for anyone who read this far, study hard, lift heavy, rest and eat properly y'all
In November 2021 I was the heaviest I'd ever been in my life, I was 398 lbs. I've struggled with my weight since I was a kid, and I definitely have a past of ED's. I'm now at 288 lbs (last I weighed in, which was last week). The first like 50 lbs I lost last year was mostly because I was so depressed that I barely ate (on 2/2/22 I left my abusive relationship & had to start my whole life over so). Once I noticed myself losing weight, and I got onto a WAYYY better psych med regimen - I decided to start actively losing weight by choice. For me, because I was still really depressed, what that looked like was just changing a few different ways of how I was eating. And it was gradually, because I needed it to be! At first I started eating smaller portions, but made sure I was AT LEAST eating 2 solid meals and 2 snacks a day. That was what I could manage. Then I started trying to switch out the fats and carbs in my diet. Instead of butter and olive oil, I started using very minimal avocado oil. Instead of plain white rice or potatoes, I would try to go for more complex carbs like brown rice and sweet potatoes. And if I had more simple carbs, I just made sure to have a little less of it and to dress it up with a variety of veggies and protein! There were a lot of things that I started switching out, but those are just some good examples. Then when I started plateauing, I started eating exclusively pescatarian/plant based! OH BOY did that make a difference! I learned just how much my body loves and prefers seafood or plant based protein. In the last couple of months I started eating more meat again because I had to start eating whatever was in the house, as I've been struggling financially and can't afford my own groceries at the moment. But I'm working on getting back there! The last couple of weeks I've been doing research into different types of workouts that I can do from home with the equipment I currently have (a bosu ball, yoga mat and some resistance bands). I want to get back to weightlifting like I did in high school! But I definitely need to take baby steps, as the only changes I've made so far have been nutritional ones. I'm really proud of the choices I've made with my health, especially considering everything I've been going through. Your advice in this video is very helpful, and I'm definitely saving it to a playlist to look back on later! You're always really cool, keep doing you 🥹🫶🏼
i’m trying to have this type of mindset! i’m never going to, as an adult woman, maintain the weight I was when I was younger. I’m trying to focus less on “losing weight” and more on going to the gym and making food choices that are gonna give me energy, and i know my body will change however it sees fit.
For me it was calorie tracking, I know it’s not 100% accurate, but it still allows me to eat whatever I want every now and then while still progressing towards my goals 😁
You're 100% spot on with the "no perfect" solution. Humans are weird and what works great for one will not work for anyone else. Your ability to recover, your body's insulin response, how much glycogen your muscles can store and how quickly it can replenish, your baseline calorie needs etc. The length of your bones, where the tendons insert, long/short legs and torso all impact what exercises may work for you or ones you should avoid or ones you need to modify to work. Plus your fitness goal changes what you need to do. Taking notes and tracking and, probably most important, giving each program a chance - to see what your body responds to. Even small changes like the amount of rest between sets could really impact how you respond. And I'll join the club of "you can't outwork a bad diet"
I would also say that not every workout needs to be a killer workout. One thing that I have come to realize is that working out can also mean attending a dance class (or if you don't have the money, blasting some music and dancing your butt off in your room for half an hour). Also, learn to love your body because at the end of the day, it is all that you've got
Good point. I remember Red Delta Project having some good videos on that. It's not just that consistency and doing something at all is better than nothing - obviously. It is also that not going all out is actually the more effective approach. Crushing it each time actually leads to an unnecessarily long recovery period and reduced performance next time.
Biggest thing I'm doing differently this time (starting my fitness endeavor again for the first time since stopping back in 2017) is putting so much more effort into continuing my regular life, and making sure that working out doesn't become my whole personality, and the thing that my life revolved around. It's extremely important to me that I put in the required effort & mindfulness to get back into shape, but much like my career - I want to make sure I'm working out to live, not living to work out. I'd previously let so many other passions and hobbies completely dissipate because I couldn't handle not focusing on exercise (hyperfixation is a personal problem of mine), and this time around, I've got a much better handle on what it is I'd like to prioritize while still giving the respect to my fitness endeavors that those deserve.
You probably forgot you even commented this but it felt like I was reading my own words! I was working out to get in the ‘best’ shape of my life back in 2015-2017 but I made it my whole personality. I tend to get so hyper fixated on one thing that I completely abandon other aspects of my life. Trying to be more mindful of that this time. How have you been progressing so far?
@rubaiyachowdhury5999 Overall, it's been a very slow road, but I'm happy to report that from a couple of weeks after I made this comment up until now, I've exercised more than I have in the past 4-5 years combined prior to posting that comment. I'm still not quite balancing everything as well as I'd like to, but I can see improvement, and I know that's something to be proud of for me. I'm just now starting the ATG Knee Ability Zero program after a medical condition that made me unable to bend my knee for a month, and I've gotten up to week 3 so far, and then was traveling for a month for work, and that made it too easy to start missing days. I'm technically restarting it again for the 4th time now, but the way I see it is that I should be focusing on the fact that I'm getting another day of exercise in rather than focusing and beating myself up over the technicality of restarting something I'd fallen off-track with, and that's my current priority when it comes to my mindset about it now. Since you've experienced the same type of thing, I'm curious what your experience has been when it comes to trying to have accountability partners or even gym/workout buddies? I feel like that's never really worked for me, but also I'm kind of at the point where I think I'd be willing to give it a shot again sometime soon just to see if it helps 🤔 What's your experience been like with that, if you don't mind me asking?
Hey Patty, I started my journey after a neck surgery and my w hole life was turned around, I fully immersed myself into getting fit and losing weight, I was able to lose 45 lbs and I got to the best shape of my life but in the process I did exactly what you have described in this video. Food became my enemy and I became scared of it, I was scared of gaining my weight back and I developed a horrible eating disorder that controlled my life for almost 2 years. I just found your channel not even a month ago and the stuff you have said about your own struggles with food and your journey in general has almost single handedly neutralized my ED. I hope you see this becasuse I just wanted to say thanks and I know that you are helping other people out there overcome this horrible affliction thanks patty
The first two points are the big reasons why I got a trainer. He gives me some workouts to do on my own and when we meet up he explains the how’s and whys so I’m not just doing whatever. The challenge is meeting those weekly goals. Slowly but surely. I’ve successfully gone to the gym at least once a week for about two months now which is a huge improvement from last year. Next up is diet and creating a healthy yet structured relationship with food. P.S. Sleep. I need to work on it P.P.S. I hate when my form is bad on a rep and I look like an idiot. Lowkey got laughed at once. Sucked fr.
My mistake was doing keto+omad combined and fasted cardio every morning. This was in August 2019, I started at 273 ish lbs in August, signed up for a boxing gym then in March 2020, the day before my birthday I weighed in at 169. My weight loss was unhealthy, but it was my will power that lost me the weight because tbh, I cannot imagine doing omad let alone keto because I eat so many carbs and 4 meals a day. Present day, since 2022 ive been around 173-178 lbs, properly maingaining for the last 2 years because I have a lot of loose skin after my weight loss. Idk if anyone read this but if you did thank you, i wish anyone good luck on their journey.
Personally relate to what she said about how you could not beat a bad diet with a workout. Was going to the gym for a couple of months and didn't care about what I was eating. During a gym session, I noticed that a sort of mobile clinic set itself up in the gym, it was a sort of promo and you could get bloodworks done. My results showed that my cholesterol levels were elevated. This shocked me because I was really thin, like just above 50 kg and my height was I think 5'6 at that time. I refused to believe the test result so I had my cholesterol levels checked in a lab. the results were the same. I was both shocked and disappointed. From then on I started watching my diet. Its still hard to watch it. There are times when I get so stressed that I just don't care anymore and eat whatever I want. But, like Patty said, its a journey. And every journey has bumps in the road. We trip, we fall, and we get up and continue on.
Its probably weird commenting on a year old video but i love this is being talked about, i struggled in school with my old friend group specifically one girl telling me in the 5 grade that i needed to suck in my stomach because i looked weird. So that kind went something like sucking in my stomach till the 7th grade, couldn't un suck my stomach because it hurt, continued to do track from 4th/7th but eating little to nothing from from 7th and 8th grade got a bit better and then got back into it in 10th/11th grade. Definitely got a lot better and have a better relationship with the food i eat and have a somewhat better understanding of my limit, also through those years when i wasn't at school i would work out at home and only started going to an actual gym mid January once i got a car. Happy to be getting better and im happy to know that its possible to stay that way. I hope you are having a great day and greater days to come!
I really recommend for complete total beginners to start with exercises that aren't weighted, maybe do a week of beginner yoga or pilates, because the focus there is on form and using your breath to support your workout and it makes it a lot easier to carry that into the more intense work.
I think one of the hardest things I'm experiencing now as a beginner is getting enough protein, even with protein shakes. Especially if you go off the .8 g of protein per lb of weight guide
Eggs and specifically egg whites are a good way to cram more protein. I wouldn't spam protein shakes too often (maybe 2 a day). But you can always incorporate whey/casein in your big meals that could use more protein. Such as breakfast where you can mix some whey into your oatmeal and cook 3 eggs to eat along with it.
Something I’ve heard that helped me, is that it actually should be .8-1 g per lb of *goal* body weight, not necessarily current weight especially if you have quite a few lbs to lose (which was my case)
Especially if you decided to be trying to cut out meat a couple months before you started lifting🤦♀️ They’re not diametrically opposed goals, but my timing could have been better. It makes protein soooo much harder.
I remember I used to lift/workout around 3-4 times a day when I was back in highschool. I was obsessed with working out because I wanted to get bigger and stronger and do better in my sports. I didn't realize I needed to rest more, and more importantly, I didn't understand at the time that I had body dysmorphia. I was scared of looking "weak" so I trained too much. Hearing you talk about working out so frequently and still being relatively small got to me--it reminded me of my first years in fitness. Now, I'm doing better because I'm not so hard on myself. I actually enjoy and love what I do now.
The "change one thing at a time" advice is really good to hear! I am severly overweight and always struggled with weightloss. A few weeks ago I started working out again and like always this triggered my perfectionism. I didn't just want to work out, I wanted to cut more and more calories, eat clean, etc. And that's when I realized: THIS is my biggest mistake! I always want 200% and it's just too much so what I really get in the end is 0%. So I decided to do exactly what you said: I'm only focusing on working out for now. That's the part that I like and that comes easy to me but it's not always easy to get the motivation so I'll make it a habit first and then start slowly changing up my diet, eating more veggies, portion control, etc. One new habit at a time. It sometimes feels weird to actively NOT make the better food decisions but I really think that it will help me making future choices to be better, not to fuel my perfectionism because I will make these choices in a controlled and calm way and not out of guilt or self-hatred. And I really want to learn to seperate healthy habits from weight loss so it will become easier to pick up these habits even if I'm at a point where my weight loss frustrates me. I really hope that this method will work.
muchas gracias, patty. en el pasado fui al gym varias veces, y no duraba porque cometía muchos errores. creía que hacer dos horas me ayudaría, pero resulta que terminaba cansada y harta, aparte de que no comía bien, y por eso me sentía sin energía para hacer mi rutina. espero volver pronto al gym y hacer las cosas diferente. te admiro mucho, estás hermosaaaa 🖤
This is so helpful Patty, thank you so much for taking your time for sharing your experience!! and congratulations on your amazing progress! you're truly a Queen 😭❤one thing i got here is "Just start" literally just start!! If you're new to the gym, don't worry about the diet, just going to the gym, start lifting weights and you will see a little progress in like first month or maybe in a couple weeks, and what happens when you start to see the result, your brain starts to rewire and think "damn i'm actually getting result now" your brain is going to start to crave for MORE RESULT, and that's how it is, so you're gonna look and say "damn how can i get more results" and you're gonna look into more research, you're gonna look on the internet and start thinking "okay i need to start getting my diet right now, i need to start getting more sleep, i need to start getting my protein intake, getting a program, etc" anddd from there you're more motivated than ever to workout and start to dicipline yourself and getting more result and that's where the cylce starts, that's where it all happens. So the best thing to do is "JUST START" Everyday is the new begining, we need to do a mistakes so that we can learn from that and this fitness journey should be a lifestyle that we will contantly teaching ourselves for the rest of our life.
I guess I just wanted to add for those of us who have physical disabilities or diseases that keep us from working out to our full potential. Our disease/disability does not define us and its not an excuse so be kind to yourself and do what you can when working out. You can do it just remember your way of working out might be defined differently than other people and that's okay. I was diagnosed with hashimoto's disease last year and it's been a roller-coaster trying to figure everything when also having chronic fatigue im making progress it definitely will take time ❤
Patty I just discovered you and you are speaking to my soul seriously. I went through all of this. I was working out 6 days a week, drinking 2 shakes a day and 1 meal and two snakes and I lost 70lbs but then I would over eat when I was feeling down but also I was just starving myself. I gained back 50lbs and I am back on my health journey now. Not out of self hate but in self love. I am working out 5 days a week following a weight training program and eating healthier. Not following any specific deit just making sure I have a good balance and protein, veggies and carbs. I love your content and thank you for being so genuine and awesome.
I learned almost all of these things over time too, the "commiting to a goal part" took the longest. While being the opposite of lean I will start bulking this whole winter and see what can be built till the end of Spring.
Great tips Patty-san. Additional mistakes I made: Going too fast for higher rep counts and getting injured Missing balance in workout routines (like not training legs aaaaah) Not stretching Not learning about nutrition/implementing better nutrition Thinking I need preworkout when long term I’ve felt better with a small meal (carbs+protein)
I have been struggling with keeping such a caloric deficit that I am forcing my body into starvation mode and seeing very little results because of it. I have been injured the last year and am just now healthy enough to really work out the way I want to. I am a member of the US Army and as a soldier we have very strict height and weight standards. Unfortunately there is no real leeway for those who have been injured, so it is 0-100 immediately in order get my weight and body fat percentage down to a passing level. Seeing this helped me remember that it is ok to think of this as a long term goal even if others do not. Thank you for being you. I love the style of your videos! Keep up the amazing work.
Other people have commented this same thing, but I’m chiming in too because this really resonates with me: I feel so grateful to have content like this freely given and for no monies, but perhaps even more importantly, the brutal honesty and the hilarious self-deprecating aspect of this type of video. I’ve definitely come a LONG way and it’s been tough sifting through who is credible and who is telling you to starve yourself via the facade of “clean” eating (I used to watch Freelee videos when I was in HIGH SCHOOL and that definitely fucked with my head for a little bit before I realized that type of eating is absolutely insane)
Seeing food as an enemy is my current obstacle. I'm working on getting past that, but holy crap I feel this so much. My meals have been so light that I would end up binging on snacks in between my meals. I would always beat myself up for it but I've been slowly finding a balance on proper meal sizes for my bodies' actual needs and snacking that isn't out of control.
Oh myyy I relate to the food mistake so much, when I first started working out with weights I believed eating literally ONE boiled potato and a tuna can after my routine was enough food for my body to recover 💀 did that for like 2 years straight lol... Anyway, great content as always :3 thank you for sharing your experience❤ Saludos Patty!! ✨
@@cloudbloom Thank you!!! My relationship with food it's way better now, instead of focusing about what I should be restricting, I focus on what I'm "lacking" and I try to make sure most of my meals are nutritious and complete. I'm flexible though, if I'm craving cheetos or something I'll get them every once in a while :^)
I’m a beginner lifter and this video helped a lot I have a chronic illness that makes lifting a little bit harder but I enjoy it and makes me feel proud of what my body can do 😁
LOL I felt so outed when you said your bit about not resting enough. I sleep 90 minutes to four hours a night. My parents keep telling me to stop doing that because it's not healthy. And I agree with them. But my brain keeps going until the point of exhaustion to make me want to sleep. I am a full time student, work full time, and I take care of my family (my son and dog) on top of taking care of myself. I 100% agree that getting at least 7-8 hours of sleep is the minimum, but in my case, I just have so much to do and I feel like what I have to do never gets lowered. I have been going to the gym everyday since April 3rd and have been weightlifting, running, taking Yoga and Pilates classes. After 30 days of this change to becoming a habit has made me feel physically stronger and more in tune with my body. I've upped my running from twice a week to three times a week with my incline and top sprint speed increasing every week. My diet has been the same. I am eating more chicken thighs and occasional salmon. I eat a lot of vegetables and fruits. My eat out food is a double double protein style with extra extra whole grilled onions. I love your content and your personality! Thank you for the informative and entertaining video!
I love all the sound effects you include in your videos! They are always hilarious and well timed! I love your videos too! You're my favorite female fitness influencer ❤️
I just started going to the gym recently and have been having a lot of fun with it. I know a lot of people dread it or go there because they "have to" so maybe i can add my 2 cents there and give you examples of what i do to keep enjoying it. 1) Find the type of movement that makes you happy. Let's say you hate arm workouts, then maybe focus on the legs and core for now. Once you get more into it you can start adding some arms. Also, any kind of movement is good so maybe for you it won't be lifting but rather taking a dance/yoga/pilate class or going for a run or a bike ride. 2) Just take it one day at a time and be proud with what you achieve every day. Results take time to be visible so be proud of yourself for running that extra minute or lifting that extra rep. Feeling a little stronger everyday makes me feel so much happier than looking fitter. 3) Since it's all about feeling good about ourselves, don't train to failure too much cause that's discouraging. Instead lower the weight a little and achieve your reps. Then add the weight a week later and you'll wonder at how you can do it now :) I'm no professional but i really hope that helps! Most important is that you find something that makes you happy :)
It's really nice to see a motivational video promoting small achievable changes. Trying to fix all of your life in one go is a sure fire way to failure. Small incremental improvements are key. I managed to built a habit of going to the gym 5 times a week and now I'm slowly trying to fix my diet, one meal at a time.
I wish I hadn’t worked out while I was livid. I pushed myself way too hard! It’s fine to be motivated by various things, but when you work your body hard due to anger, you can really hurt yourself. It happened to me, and I started getting headaches every time I would do anything remotely strenuous for a long time. This set me back CONSIDERABLY. That happened 8 years ago, and I’ve only just started working out consistently again, and I can’t help but wonder what kind of physique I would have today if I had been able to remain consistent.
What really helped me, was shiftig away from the goals of being skinny and lift weights towards "I want to be healthy!". I started homeworkouts in January this year, got a gym membership in May and I can finally see results (after 2 failed attempts with the before mentioned "goals"). I am happy that I can see progress and I can see that I am getting healthier. Bonus: I can nearly do a pull up now, which I could never do in all my life. And having role models like you ist really helping me along the way :)
Thank you Patty for talking about these points, they are important to make good progress, and what better way to your talk about it with your years of experience in the fitness world. 💪🏼
I really had a debt for the rest time that I should give during the series, we need more people like you spreading the bodybuilding around the places, long live the aesthetics. a hail from Brazil 🇧🇷
im so grateful that I never struggled with getting into the habit of going to the gym consistently and training hard but I do really struggle with the eating part. its so mentally difficult ive cried so much but videos like this really help
One thing I can say as someone who did the crash diet and inconsistent exercise thing for years- consistency will come when you find something you love. Fitness doesn't have to be a punishment anymore. So feel free to play around with weights, swimming, stair master, walking, different intensities, etc. You don't have to do what everyone else is doing, as long as you feel fulfilled by the end of the session. All these tips are great for someone who's super serious about their physique, but if you're just in it for the health benefits, then anything is better than nothing. Start where you can, and the rest will come in time. You're not rushed - fitness is a journey, and you need to appreciate the process more than the end goal.
i grew up with my parents getting super into fitness and nutrition, so i got blessed with understanding certain portions of workouts and getting the basics as a kid. i do still need to figure out meal planning to fit my specific goals tho! just havent had the time but the journey so far has been going great. increasing in weights feels so accomplishing. i do need to get more sleep tho LOL
As a person who is about 4 months into the "fitness journey" I have learned patience really is key. I am starting off at 310lbs and the goal is to be at 200lbs. But the BIGGER goal is to be an overall stronger and healthier person. Looking at Patty's progress photos (Thank you for sharing those) it puts it into perspective that it will be at least a couple of years before I get to where I would like to be. The biggest goal of all of it, is to implement a life style change and always be involved with some physical activity, and have a better relationship with food. Thank you for what you do Patty it has definitely helped these past 4 months.
i was at my restrict/binge phase this year. I could have made so much progress had i just focussed more on getting stronger and building muscle (i was so obsessed with getting skinny, consuming more than 1500 calories FREAKED me out) Thank you so much for this. Much needed
Great video! I appreciate hearing this advice. I’m finally trying to commit to being more active as a lifestyle change rather than a random thing I get into for a few weeks. I’m about 2 months in to a lifting routine and it’s the most consistent I’ve been. The thing that has helped me the most is knowing that I don’t have to do some crazy hard or super long work out for it to count. In the past, if I only had time for a 15-30 min workout, I’d feel like it wasn’t enough. So then I wouldn’t work out at all LOL. Moving your body is a good thing whether it’s 10 minutes or 60+! It doesn’t have to take a huge chunk of your day and be so hard. I’m loving 4, 30 min workouts weekly. I still have days I’m unmotivated, but it’s been easy to stick to and I’m enjoying the journey.
I usually do not praise anybody, specially without knowing them, but it is refreshing to see AND hear a sound, sane mind speak, independently of the subject and specially great for being on this subject related to image and fitness. Most of influencers out there are mainly SELLERS and not honest people SHARING THEIR TRUTH. So "chapo" for you, muy bien, sigue así!
I needed to hear these things… I do pretty much all of these things and then wonder why I’m not getting the results I want… So now it’s time to focus and improve my routine! 💪
I like that you're respectful and understanding that different people are gonna have different experiences and preferences and what works for you might not work for them. I wish there was more people like that.
I am so happy I am not alone in this journey. I have been dorky and awkward when it comes to working out haha and on the way, I have been finding whatever works for me. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. 💜✨
Same for me on the second one. Almost every workout for like 6 to 8 months I was just doing the reps with the weights I had at home without going near failure. We all got to start somewhere I guess
Someone recommended your channel to me! I’m pretty out of shape (and overweight) but I want to get more fit and be strong, so I’m watching your channel to help me start going to the gym!
Just started back working out about 6 months ago. After about a year and a half out of the gym, I really enjoy your content and down to earth explanations
I don't know who will come across my comment but I hope my experience can help others. I think one of the most significant mistakes I made as a beginner was excessively comparing myself to others. In my freshman year of college, I saw so many people in the gym who were muscular and fit, and I wanted to be like them. As a result, I did a lot of the things that Patty highlighted in the video: I set unrealistic goals for myself, my workout quality was shite and I just winged my workouts by copying what other people in the gym were doing. In the first few months of working out, I had some degree of 'newbie gains' but I plateaued very quickly as I wasn't pushing myself, didn't have proper form and I was not keeping my caloric & protein intake in mind whatsoever. And I was usually getting 6 hours of sleep. At this point, I was 18, 6' tall and weighed around 135-140 lbs. This all changed the following year. I had an amazing roommate in my sophomore and junior years of college who introduced me to some fitness channels and taught me proper form and workout structuring. I started to eat better and more consistently, I slept 7-8 hours and I amped up the intensity of my workouts. I gained a lot more weight and was around 170 lbs. at the end of college. Most notably, I slowly realized that the only person I can realistically compare myself to is my past self. Yeah, there are times where I'll look at bodybuilders, powerlifters and elite athletes but in doing so, I'm admiring their physique and dedication - not comparing myself to them (okay, maybe just a little bit but not in an unhealthy way). I have my own goals in mind for how I want to look, how much I want to weigh and lift. I take those goals with me to each workout I do with an understanding that the progress will come slowly, but surely. I'm now around 185-190, same height as when I was 18 but I feel so much healthier. I still have a long way to go, but I feel good. Like I said, my worst mistake was unrealistically comparing myself to others which impacted how I worked out and the goals I set for myself. If you're new to working out, just remember that comparing yourself to others can make you set unattainable goals - compare yourself today to when you started working out, whether it's a day ago, two weeks ago or a few months back. Think of how far YOU'VE come and how much further you can go. Take it slow, take it steadily - don't rush through. Thank you for sharing your experiences Patty - it's really helpful to hear about what you've learned through your journey and I'm sure there are plenty of beginners who can heed the advice you give in this video.
As for the food thing, I completely agree. When I first started looking into fitness I was really fat and ate nothing but crap so I put myself in an extreme calorie deficit and I ended up with anemia and an ED. After I recovered I just went back to my old ways so now it’s round 2 and I am still eating the same but just cleaning it up, so instead of fast food I’ll make a homemade meal. Instead of just a plate of pasta I’ll have an egg and some veg with it. It’s working so much better and I don’t feel guilty or like I need to make up for it because I know a small change is still a change and this is a process that might take years.
This was great. I spent the better part of the last year training fasted and not taking enough rest breaks between sets. I still consider myself a beginner and your content is super inspiring!
As a beginner I've never faced these kinds of problems but i had the internet guiding me including your Channel so everything is much more falls in place
Especially for beginners: realize that it takes time. Most of the guys/girls that are just built like UNITS probably took years worth of proper training and nutrition approaches. Progress is almost never linear, so don't feel bad WHEN (not if) you have an off day.
u made me cry thank you
@@HotSoup2009 uuu tuu😊
also the juice is much more prevalent than beginners would think
@@X3RUBIM True. I have a degree in Kinesiology and it wasn't until i started working at LA Fitness after graduating that I realized how many typical gym goers were on gear/strongly considering it. Whether it starts with SARMs, peptides, or straight up Tren.
@ratss3778don't compare yourself to others! And doing something is much better then doing nothing! You will get there, just keep going!you are doing great 😊
#6. Consistency. It's easy at first, then becomes harder, then ultimately becomes habit.
A consistent crappy program is better than a completely sporadic perfect program
@@basedbane787 this was exactly my approach at first lol. Just doing whatever, at least 1-2 times a week.. It felt kinda pointless at first, but going once a week felt easy enough to do anyway. Now im going 3-4 times a week and tracking more. Motivation is not always there, but habit is getting stronger week by week, I hope.
This comment is so wrong. Is literally the opposite. It's hard at first, then becomes easier 😂😂😂😂
@@basedbane787wish i found this out earlier on. I suck when i have to take it seriously because i have other very difficult responsibilities that i would ditch exercise because it was the most expedient i could ditch. I decided just to have fun with it, and now i do it regularly because i just have fun with it
@@black-nailsProud of you.✊🏾Stay hard.
I feel so fortunate to have started my fitness journey in this age of free information thanks to influencers like you. I'm not perfect but I think I've done well with structure, diet and rest so far.
agreed!!! good for you ! keep going🫶🏼
But in this time and age, where we have so much free information, you have to be extra careful about misinformation, that's being spread on the Internet. Remember anyone can upload TH-cam videos. Always research for more sources. Don't take anything literally. It can be dangerous. Even dear Patty's information.
Check for at least multiple sources and even better scientific ones or at least peer reviewed references.
You are perfect
i need help with the diet. I'm a skinny-fat girl.
Its usually good, but personally, I tend to get really confused because everyone seems to say something else.
Sure, I have my Sources I trust and listen to,
(Daddy Noel for example)
but I occasionally still get confused by other Influencers
My biggest mistake was forgetting that I had only been working out for 2 months. And being hard on myself but I didn’t have the body I wanted. This journey will test your Mental. I had to keep reminding myself that I just started. 😅
Update: I’ve been lifting for 9 months and psychology I feel like I’m not putting on muscle or growing but I can tell you that I have stretch marks and none of my clothes fit the same plus everyone tells me I’ve hitting bigger. I just wanna stress that this is a mental game. Keep going and push past what you see in the mirror. BODY DYSMORPHIA IS REAL !!!!
I gotta remind myself come May bc i just started working out yesterday for my beach trip in may lmao
I started back to the gym in January after taking years off. I feel so disappointed that I'm not seeing intense progress in my appearance (I can tell I'm getting stronger at least) but it's only been a few months. I'm glad I saw this comment tonight. 🙂
YESSSS THIS! I did not feel happy that I have not achieved in 6 months what someone else, who has been working out for years, have achieved in 6 months. I thought I was failing.
I just tell myself to keep going, and before you know it you've done a year's worth of working out. Good luck with your fitness journey!
I’m really glad i saw ur comment just wanna let u know that
Major mistake I made as a beginner :
1. Not being silly between sets
If you're having fun with the reps you won't want anything other then rest between sets so you can get back to having fun.
It DOES get repetitive. Going to the gym, lifting weights, taking supplements (if you do), dealing with guilt for not going. I’m telling you it’s okay to take a week or two off, and fill your life in with other activities or just take a break. I don’t mean to be a couch potato the whole time, go outside, read a book, hangout with friends. I promise you’ll feel brand new going back into that gym and a lot better after that first workout. Stay blessed y’all, and good luck with your fitness journey.
Did that, regretted it, couldn’t get back into working out for a longer time and lost quite a bit of progress.
I agree! What matters the most is that you go back to the gym/working out :) So far I’ve had periods where I go the the gym every week, for two months, and then I stop working out, for two months. Then, I repeat the cycle. Fortunately, I have been able to go back to the gym in a shorter period of time, because I am now aware of the pattern I’ve been following unconsciously, but it isn’t easy.
Stay blessed, too. 😊
my problem is my adhd lol i love working out but the repetitive same rountine is dragging me down. to handle this i have changed my routine and incorporated new exercises as well
While I do think taking time off is good, taking multiple weeks off at a time isn't good advice in my opinion if you lift heavy. Any time I've gone a few weeks without training and gone back I've lost noticeable progress. You have to ramp back up slowly as well or you'll wreck your muscles for days, meaning you shouldn't lift for even longer and then it's this whole thing that messes up your flow.
I'm no professional here and I'm just saying what's worked for me, but I think if you wanna take some time off, limit it to maybe 4 or 5 days.
Yeah, it's really good to take a break, but I don't recommend to stop completely, I recommend what she said in the video: Active Rest. It means that you still goes to the gym (or do a home workout), but you do 20-25% of what you'd normally do. It is very important! I stopped for a week and I felt a little week and muscles soreness.
Another piece of beginner advice: It's normal for your muscles to be asymmetrical. One pectoral might be larger than the other. One arm or shoulder might be stronger than the other. That is normal at the start.
So would you say they even out eventually, or do you actively need to do more reps etc on the weaker side? I've been working out with weights less than 4 months (dumbbells at home, not gym) and getting frustrated with the imbalances I'm seeing between different sides (partly due to prior injuries, but I don't know how to fix that) 😖
@@oksanakaido8437 I am no expert and sorry for sticking my nose in, but from what I know: you start the exercise with the weaker side and, let's say, you lift the hantle 8 times. Then you change hands and with the stronger one you still do only 8 lifts (even if you could do, idk, 12).
🙂😭
@@Asril24that’s smart
Most guys right forearm for example
my biggest mindset change when i was first starting in the gym was realizing that 90% of the people in the gym with you are there for more or less the same reason you are. it's not so scary when you think of it like that, as a community.
very good point!
Yes. Also realizing that people who are good at something (as in, they have a good shape and exercise regularly) are actually EAGER to see others who value that. They want to help, they will most of the times answer your questions, lift you up, correct yoru mistakes. If you don't have too much of an ego coming in, people can see it, and they will help you. It's so rare for people to be hard-working, that when a hard-working person meets another they go "omg! finally someone who is coming in and putting the work with the right attitude. Here is all you need to get where I got, now go do it!"
We often have insecurities that those further than us in a certain path will try to harm our progress, but it's the opposite. The path is hard, and most peopel welcome anyone who wants to walk it. Because most peopel are just bravado and shallow behavior and very little REAL desire to change. A dedicated person in any area of life is a gem, and they are easily spotted.
Yes! I realized that recently, too. I was at the gym resting between sets listening to people grunt and slam weight and I thought to myself, "We all came here to suffer today." A big group of crazy people who enjoy suffering in the name of gains.
90% of the people in my gym are not working out though, 40 mins on the treadmill setting 5 whilst watching coronation Street is not going to cut it, I have nothing but contempt for these people.
@@highmarshalhelbrecht4715 who cares
Thank you for you vids. I'm in the middle of a horrible breakup. Your vids in the background while I work is helping me. Thank you
Thankyou! 🙏 you’ll get thru this 💪 I’ve been there, in my experience time heals these wounds eventually ❤️🩹
DAMMNNN 50 BUCKS?! Bro i would love to donate that much but im broke ASF.
How you doing now bro?
@Phoenix-ov5gg Doing much better thank you. I actually spent for a therapist to heal my mind faster. And I'm OK and looking forward to next year. Just like David Goggins would say - You don't know me son!!! 🤣
@@YeahBruhDoIt good to hear bro 😎 I still remember my first breakup, I was a mess for a whole year 😂 was a long time ago though!
Stay strong and focus on self improvement 💪🏻
As someone that has been training 30 years and worked in the industry 20 years absolutely everything in this video was 100% spot. In a world filled with bad fitness advice I hope your channel goes mega. Keep rocking.
What does she , mean by motion and form
@@Yaya-bd7ml do the exercises correctly so you maximize muscle gain and limit injury??
Is their any way you could give me some advice. I’m battling body dysmorphia and an eating disorder and I want to make my life and health right so bad
@@Yaya-bd7ml focus more on the way your body is moving than on the weight bearing
@@xx_liveyoung_xxv.9219 i would say to slowly integrate healthier meals that keep you full rather than tiny meals that would lead to bingeing. for example integrate fruits, protein and fibers into your breakfast to keep you full ( if you have anorexia, i would recommend slowly adding in foods that make you feel good because they taste good. get rid of the salads like lettuce and stuff, seriously.) and just remember to try your best and never give up. ive given up many times but that only leads me to losing time so i have decided to never stop now. and also its all about balance. like eat one unhealthy meal or snack in a day and balance it out with 2 healthy meals and snacks
My biggest mistake was falling off the wagon with my diet for two weeks during vacation and thinking that I had lost all of my progress at the time (I was down 55lbs). This led me to fall back into not even working out. If I just would've got back to it after vacation I would've been just fine but I ended up not working out or dieting for over 2 years. Now I'm back to where I started but I have made progress this week by getting back to the gym and slowly improving my diet. KEEP AT IT!!!
Oh goddd i do this every year during christmas break 😭😭
Yes this has recently happened to me. Went to vacation for a week didn’t eat a ton but ate what I wanted. The gym there at the resort only had light dumbbells. So workouts weren’t really work outs. When I got back home i went to the gym but my progress went out the window, I lifted less and slowly ate more and stopped going to the gym all together. I’m working on trying to find that balance again. It’s definitely hard when you think you lost everything you worked for for months.
Yep, this happened to me, lost 90 lbs in a year, hit a plateau, vacation/Thanksgiving happened, fell off the wagon, gained 30lbs in 4 months, I'm working on it again.
This happened to me last year. Right when I saw my body changing after about 3-4 months, my dad died abruptly. Gained everything back in 2-3 weeks and lost focus. I just started back again. One day or Day one is my motto now.
Right! We need to always get back into habits, not let ourselves believe in excuses like it's too late
1.) Structure (i.e scheduled workouts, tracking food/progress)
2.) Going through the motions (safe form, but go till you cant)
3.) Rest more seriously/ active rest days/ (hurts the body and mind!! get full 7-9hrs) rest till heartrate recovers during workouts
4.) Food is NOT the enemy (Calorie Deficit.)
5.) No goals / focusing on short term ( will lead you to nowhere)
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Something that's been absolutely crucial for me is the intent behind fitness. In the past, every attempt at getting fit was always fueled by a dislike for how my body looked, and I lost motivation every single time. This time around, I started working out with the desire to feel an improvement in my body and to become stronger. It's easier (and healthier) to strive for something you want to add to your life than to run away from something you already have, but dislike. I added healthier and more nutritious foods to my diet. I was encouraged every time I noticed the same workout I did the previous week felt easier. I felt the overall improvement within my body before I started seeing it on the outside. And by approaching fitness through positive additions, I inevitably ended up decreasing the things I didn't like when I started. I lost 45 pounds, I'm at a healthy weight, I put on more muscle than I expected, and most importantly, I now know for a fact that I can do this. When, not if, I ever have a big setback, I know I can get back here with time. The other day I shocked myself when I could do a pull up, something I've never been able to do. My next goal is to do 10 :)
Inspirational comment!!! I too have never done a pushup lol cheers!
My only reason for working out in the past was to change my physical appearance because I so badly resented it. Now, I do want to change how I look, but I also have the intention of getting stronger and maximizing my load. I struggle with body checking throughout the day like “Is my dream body there yet?” Lol it’s a bad habit I would like to stop.
If you’re a stay at home mom like me and workout at home, something that has helped me get my workouts in is to break up each set of my workout during my children’s meal time which is like 3x a day. That’s how I’ve been able to fit it in. Before I would be too scared to even start my workout session out of fear of getting interrupted or taking too long to go through it. So some days I’d skip out on working out all together. Now I’ve been able to consistently get my workouts in because thankfully my children eat their meal each day 3x a day. Hopefully that may help someone else that’s in a similar situation. I’ve still seen results this way.
Please get a job!!!
“It was the blind leading the blind, and I was both the leader and the follower.” Well… that pretty much sums up my fitness journey so far. 😂
I am currently in the eating disorder part of my fitness journey and you couldn’t have said it better that it is the most mentally and physically taxing thing of my life. I’m binging like 2 times a week at this point and I’m trying to get back to the point where I’m not scared of food and not restricting because the binges are terrible. So yeah I have to second the eating disorder part because it’s atrocious and hard
I've really struggled with this too. I hope you can slowly work towards a healthier relationship with food! It's taken me a lot of time but your body feels a lot better (mentally and physically) once you can get over the hump
Im also someone who has suffered from different types of eating disorders since school for the last 12-13 years . Keep doing the best u can and work on yourself keep smiling your doing great
i struggled with an ed as well. i decided to make a change when i was literally about to pass out every day at work because of how manual it is. what’s really helped me is tracking my calories and going onto a keto diet. it keeps my stomach satiated so i’m not binge eating after starving myself for days. myfitnesspal helps keep me in line with that. it’ll let me know if i haven’t ate enough calories, which keeps me honest with myself. hopefully you can overcome this. i know how rough it can get. a good support system is always nice to have as well. hopefully you can find one/ already have one
Read the book brain over binge. Very good.
im going through the same thing, i’ll restrict for days and then binge so bad that i actually start vomiting because my stomach is so small from restricting and because im somewhat slim nobody takes me seriously about my binges
My biggest mistake was letting most of my "friends" who aren't really even friends know that I lift, same with family and extended family, they keep trying to get me to stop when I do not want to stop, this is the only healthy habit I was actually able to built and is the only thing that consistently brings me joy and happiness I do not want to stop it and they just keep pestering me about it, I do have a handful of true friends and they're very supportive and one of them even started lifting because of me
Why do they want you to stop lifting?
i hope you're able to surround yourself with more supportive people in the future (like that one friend)! 💪💪
@@peterknguyen it's a mixture of ignorance because they think working out is gonna make me die younger and maybe envy that I built a healthy habit while they still complain about gaining weight even though they eat like each meal is the only meal they're getting for the whole month lmao
@@manspeej i really doubt they want you to stop because you will die younger, im positive that they envy you because you want to live an active lifestyle. luckily for me i have a family that supports and encourages me
@@ernestogastelum9123 yea i know that's not the reason, they say that it'll make me die younger, they know damn well that's made up lmao and it's just to cover up their real reason
I found that finding people close to you that keep you accountable really helps in your journey.
I agree with splitting up different workouts for different parts of the body on different days, but it's hard for me to do that because I always feel as if I'm "not doing enough." Does anyone else get this feeling?
I did when I was younger but now I’m happy to get in and get out faster. I love long workouts, still! But I developed other hobbies outside of the gym and that makes me feel more well-rounded. Less gym time=more time to garden! As long as you are accomplishing the goal, don’t worry about underperforming. Instead, find other cool things to do with that time.
@@glitteriable I like this approach! I don't want to feel as if the gym is what my day revolves around. Kind of boring
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Yes, all the time.
I was like this before - but you have to trust your body and how it’s metabolizing. It’ll happen, just give it time 😊
The hardest thing for me (and still is) is realising that the body of my dreams is the opposite of my body type and although I could probably get close to that the sacrifices aren't worth it. Being your fitest and your healthiest is the most important thing not looking at what others have and wishing for that x
Dude, when you talked about seeing food as the enemy and wanting to be thin and small but ripped and lean the entire year, I relate SO HARD. Took me three years of weightlifting ( and a herniated disc) to learn my lesson. I feel like its such a common thing to go through. Honestly I love your content because you have such a healthy relationship with the life style. Your vids make me want to get back into lifting for enjoyment and not self hatred, thanks for your content Patty.
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Ikr, but I kinda wish people would stop saying that weightlifting can’t make women “bulky” cause we dont have enough testosterone. Most women who consistently work out (with progressive overload and caloric surplus) will grow bigger muscles, and while there’s nothing wrong with that, it might not be what everyone’s aiming for.
@@AM-vn4cc IMO it's kind of acceptable to say because gaining appreciable muscle is pretty hard. so by the time anyone of sex within genetic norms would get to a place that would be considered abnormal they'd have done a significant amount of work -- enough to hopefully get more knowledge on what works for their goals. but either way feeling good is better than striving for some ever changing set of societal norms
@@AM-vn4cc I agree I can gain muscle easily
@@miatomi I’m just speaking from personal experience. Once I started going to the gym seriously, within about half a year I got huge quads. While having fairly low body fat, my legs are big with defined, protruding muscles, and my abs/obliques made my waist bigger instead of slimmer. Not saying it’s ugly, but it isn’t really what I wanted personally. Hope this doesn’t dissuade other women from weightlifting, but if you have a specific look in mind it’s something to be aware of and tailor your program accordingly.
Thank you for sharing yourself with the world. We need more people spreading these vibes and making fitness truly fun.
Teach your grandmother to do burpess, so she can live a longer and more functional life.
One of my biggest mistakes was focusing on weight instead of form and repetitions. As patty mentioned you have to make sure your form is perfect before moving up weight, dont be shy of grabing the 5 lb bells and perfect the motion and really concentrate on how your body is feeling. I been working out for months now and still grab the 5 lb from time to time.
I felt the "making food your enemy" part!
I was eating nothing. Fasting everyday and the only meal I would have was oatmeal. AND AT THE SAME TIME WORKING OUT.
I got the body I wanted, ngl. But I was unhealthy and I knew I wouldn't be able to maintain that because as you said, it makes you suffer. I was miserable. I loved to see my bones sticking out, the abs showing, my face getting smaller, having no period....
It made me develop binge disorder and I gained it all back. Now I'm trying to eat better and start working out again.
I wanna be very lean and skinny. I'm afraid of falling down to anorexia again and the bad habits coming back, but I'm not gonna give up on having the perfect body.
100% agree with this and what patty said as im currently binging after 2 years of constant fasting every week.
"perfect" is an ambiguous concept. Why? because its common to have one body type and trying to reach another simply because of our will/desire. What she said in this video is exactly that knowing her structure better, gave her happier days. Example: if you are medium body type (mesomorph), why try to be under weight like you were small body type (ectomorph)? That will lead you to mental suffering to reach and to maintain yourself "out of your league". Pay attention to this point. ok?
@@planetafuria7944 Of course!
The thing is that when you're disordered, you're not really concerned about the damage that being malnourished does to your body as much as you reach your gw.
I'm recovering now, and starting to think about my body paying attention to what it can reach while it stays healthy, is something that I really just started thinking about now.
The body dismorphia doesn't go away, wich is horrible.
I'm at a healthy weight now, but i still feel very fat.
@@peaceoutbear34 hope you recover safely! You deserve the best 🤍
Honestly, I'd love to have no period too but that's because I have endo
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best advice in this video is to get your info from multiple sources. and come up with your own journey. that's what worked for me. experimenting from different peoples information. and seeing what worked with my body.... good to see a fitness influencer that doesn't just think what they do is the right way
Yesss, this. The amount of research that has lead to contradictory information, I just have to listen to the most credible and experiment myself on what works
For me, personal mistake made when I began was lack of stretching and mobility work. This led overall to injuries I sustained several years later even as far as 2021, via tension accumulated over time in lower lumber area and hips.
After recovery from said injuries, stretching and mobility work are done religiously and ever since, have seen and felt massive improvements with the body, workouts, plus no injuries since. Get that stretch everyone! 💪
what stretches shoudl i do
I'm not entirely sure about this but do your research, I've heard somewhere that you should not stretch before a workout but do so at a separate time.
Not every Body is the same. What may work for one person, may not benefit the same way for another. Research is always encouraged before trying anything new
@En2:P My Opinion, Leg Straddle reach, plus Childs pose are ideal for lower back.what I started with.
@@Jayarod2332 how many minutes or seconds you do those stretches? (:
Advice that I find myself giving pretty much anyone I know who is on a fitness journey is “improvement comes in many ways, don’t overlook progress in one area because you are focusing on a specific thing”
A lot of new lifters, after the newbie gains taper off, get discouraged when a particular lift goes down for a couple weeks, and ignore that they are still progressing in other lifts, or even accessory movements. Look at the whole picture!
What do you mean “goes down”? Ive never gone down in strength week to week. Perhaps workout to workout i might get a rep or two leas but if you are going down in strength then you might should look at your diet and if you are eating enough.
@@kevinwheeler5595 there are many other factors, especially when it comes to powerlifting. Progress is never a perfect incline. Sleep, activities outside of the gym, diet, stress, etc, can have an impact on your performance. After 18 years of lifting, this kind of stuff becomes super apparent.
@@kevinwheeler5595 I've gone down in strength from workout to workout plenty of times. Can't be 100% every day...🤥
I recently had a below knee amputation and ended up sedentary and depressed for 4 and half months. I've gained a bit of weight and hate it. Now that I'm back on my feet all I want is to get back into shape but finding a physique I want to mimic and knowing how to obtain it has been super difficult. I'm so glad I found your channel.
Don’t you mean back on one foot?
How you doing? Any tips?
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@@3ammotivation22including the phantom foot obvs
Noicely done. That was refreshing and still relevant today and I’m 57 and trying to get back to exercising and working out as a part of my life. Best regards and continued success on your journey in life.
My biggest mistake, the one that held me back for years (and I mean years, like a decade) was not pushing hard enough. Therefore I would never grow no matter what, and that caused me frustration, hit my self-confidence pretty bad in a way I have still yet to recover from, etc. Then one day, by pure chance, I did a massive workout that pushed me way beyond my limits, got scared as f I would die... but I didn’t die. From then on, I have been making massive gains, like I am not super muscular, but my strength has improved so much, and I can see that by me being now able to lift and carry stuff I could not even move before.
So, my advice is “you ain’t made of sugar”.
Note to all beginners: getting fit takes so much time but it will happen. Never underestimate or even overestimate yourself. Your rest day is important more than training trust me the last thing you want is an injury. Also I remember watching another Patty vid and she said never ignore your cravings just don't make it a habit. So to all beginners take your time, rest, challenge yourself a little if you're up for it as long it never exceeds the weight example lifting 20 and want to move up to 50 no no no you don't do that. You do 20 then 25 then 30 and so on but take it slow. Also if you're hurt please recover the last thing you want is a broken body. For me I like to do leg day, chest day with arms and back day 3 days a week(I re-read this and I thought it might confuse people so the example is Monday back Thursday legs and Saturday chest). If you think that's not enough everyone's built differently so leave it. So in short rest, train but never go over your limit, never ignore your cravings and be patient but be proud of all your progress because I am so proud of what I did within 9 months I'm 170 lbs roughly in the 170-174 range for a 28 year old 6 foot guy. I cant wait til I come back but I gotta wait for the ok from the doc that I can do everything I want.
can I lose fat and gain muscle at the same time? I think I'm a skinny-fat girl.
@@vin_rouge180 well when I start I lost the fat first then over time I gained muscle took me about 6 months to notice changes once I lost the fat which was probably 3 or so month maybe less.
@@wussupitsmeyaboi1210 were you in a caloric deficit?
@@vin_rouge180 not sure what u mean by that but. For me I didn't pay too much attention to my calories. Just stick to high protein, fruit and vegetables and you're fine. And make sure you treat yourself once a week to reduce cravings. You don't want cravings because that leads to over eating and gain weight not gaining muscle or even cutting.
As a beginner, this made me realize I'm super lucky a trainer that helps you get a schedule from day one is part of my membership.
She went with me through everything I wanted to achieve, made a personal training schedule, and went with me through every exercise, making sure I was doing it right, and knew where I needed to feel it. Also adjusted it at the end when I told her I wanted to get back into martial arts again, and added a lot of stretching.
I don't really need it, but she also studied food and diet (no clue what the study is called), so she helps a lot of people with finding the right diet too.
Anyway, as a beginner, I'd recommend a trainer, even if it's for one time, to know what exercises will get you where and to make sure you're doing it right. I honestly really like my gym, it's very small and low key, but everyone is super kind and I really like a lot of the exercises (I never got into strength building, and I love it).
you're trainer probably is a nutritionist.
Trainers are genuinely so helpful, I used to have one until our gym shut down and man even though I loved every second of it I still didn't appreciate it as much as when it was gone
Embarking in my fitness journey is fr changing my whole life! And it's just so powerful the way you can apply gym lessons to your life, for instance to know that growth takes TIME, to value your rest, and to be mindful of what you are ingesting. On a more practical note, absolutely relate to pretty much all the topics... great list! Having a set created for your specific goals at the time makes huge impact, and DUDE can't stress enough how important it is to know how to perform each movement... When I started training with a more experienced friend, who taught me a lot, I found out I had been basically placing my feet wrong for a stable balanced position ALL MY LIFE. Anyway, for anyone who read this far, study hard, lift heavy, rest and eat properly y'all
In November 2021 I was the heaviest I'd ever been in my life, I was 398 lbs. I've struggled with my weight since I was a kid, and I definitely have a past of ED's. I'm now at 288 lbs (last I weighed in, which was last week). The first like 50 lbs I lost last year was mostly because I was so depressed that I barely ate (on 2/2/22 I left my abusive relationship & had to start my whole life over so). Once I noticed myself losing weight, and I got onto a WAYYY better psych med regimen - I decided to start actively losing weight by choice. For me, because I was still really depressed, what that looked like was just changing a few different ways of how I was eating. And it was gradually, because I needed it to be! At first I started eating smaller portions, but made sure I was AT LEAST eating 2 solid meals and 2 snacks a day. That was what I could manage. Then I started trying to switch out the fats and carbs in my diet. Instead of butter and olive oil, I started using very minimal avocado oil. Instead of plain white rice or potatoes, I would try to go for more complex carbs like brown rice and sweet potatoes. And if I had more simple carbs, I just made sure to have a little less of it and to dress it up with a variety of veggies and protein! There were a lot of things that I started switching out, but those are just some good examples. Then when I started plateauing, I started eating exclusively pescatarian/plant based! OH BOY did that make a difference! I learned just how much my body loves and prefers seafood or plant based protein. In the last couple of months I started eating more meat again because I had to start eating whatever was in the house, as I've been struggling financially and can't afford my own groceries at the moment. But I'm working on getting back there! The last couple of weeks I've been doing research into different types of workouts that I can do from home with the equipment I currently have (a bosu ball, yoga mat and some resistance bands). I want to get back to weightlifting like I did in high school! But I definitely need to take baby steps, as the only changes I've made so far have been nutritional ones. I'm really proud of the choices I've made with my health, especially considering everything I've been going through. Your advice in this video is very helpful, and I'm definitely saving it to a playlist to look back on later! You're always really cool, keep doing you 🥹🫶🏼
Keep up the good work! This is really inspiring, I'm proud of you random internet human!! 👏👏👏👏👏👏
i’m trying to have this type of mindset! i’m never going to, as an adult woman, maintain the weight I was when I was younger. I’m trying to focus less on “losing weight” and more on going to the gym and making food choices that are gonna give me energy, and i know my body will change however it sees fit.
Portion control and switching unhealthy snacks to healthy snacks helped a ton for my fitness journey.
For me it was calorie tracking, I know it’s not 100% accurate, but it still allows me to eat whatever I want every now and then while still progressing towards my goals 😁
You're 100% spot on with the "no perfect" solution. Humans are weird and what works great for one will not work for anyone else.
Your ability to recover, your body's insulin response, how much glycogen your muscles can store and how quickly it can replenish, your baseline calorie needs etc.
The length of your bones, where the tendons insert, long/short legs and torso all impact what exercises may work for you or ones you should avoid or ones you need to modify to work.
Plus your fitness goal changes what you need to do.
Taking notes and tracking and, probably most important, giving each program a chance - to see what your body responds to.
Even small changes like the amount of rest between sets could really impact how you respond.
And I'll join the club of "you can't outwork a bad diet"
I would also say that not every workout needs to be a killer workout. One thing that I have come to realize is that working out can also mean attending a dance class (or if you don't have the money, blasting some music and dancing your butt off in your room for half an hour). Also, learn to love your body because at the end of the day, it is all that you've got
Good point. I remember Red Delta Project having some good videos on that.
It's not just that consistency and doing something at all is better than nothing - obviously.
It is also that not going all out is actually the more effective approach.
Crushing it each time actually leads to an unnecessarily long recovery period and reduced performance next time.
Biggest thing I'm doing differently this time (starting my fitness endeavor again for the first time since stopping back in 2017) is putting so much more effort into continuing my regular life, and making sure that working out doesn't become my whole personality, and the thing that my life revolved around. It's extremely important to me that I put in the required effort & mindfulness to get back into shape, but much like my career - I want to make sure I'm working out to live, not living to work out. I'd previously let so many other passions and hobbies completely dissipate because I couldn't handle not focusing on exercise (hyperfixation is a personal problem of mine), and this time around, I've got a much better handle on what it is I'd like to prioritize while still giving the respect to my fitness endeavors that those deserve.
You probably forgot you even commented this but it felt like I was reading my own words! I was working out to get in the ‘best’ shape of my life back in 2015-2017 but I made it my whole personality. I tend to get so hyper fixated on one thing that I completely abandon other aspects of my life. Trying to be more mindful of that this time. How have you been progressing so far?
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Overall, it's been a very slow road, but I'm happy to report that from a couple of weeks after I made this comment up until now, I've exercised more than I have in the past 4-5 years combined prior to posting that comment. I'm still not quite balancing everything as well as I'd like to, but I can see improvement, and I know that's something to be proud of for me. I'm just now starting the ATG Knee Ability Zero program after a medical condition that made me unable to bend my knee for a month, and I've gotten up to week 3 so far, and then was traveling for a month for work, and that made it too easy to start missing days. I'm technically restarting it again for the 4th time now, but the way I see it is that I should be focusing on the fact that I'm getting another day of exercise in rather than focusing and beating myself up over the technicality of restarting something I'd fallen off-track with, and that's my current priority when it comes to my mindset about it now.
Since you've experienced the same type of thing, I'm curious what your experience has been when it comes to trying to have accountability partners or even gym/workout buddies? I feel like that's never really worked for me, but also I'm kind of at the point where I think I'd be willing to give it a shot again sometime soon just to see if it helps 🤔 What's your experience been like with that, if you don't mind me asking?
Hey Patty, I started my journey after a neck surgery and my w hole life was turned around, I fully immersed myself into getting fit and losing weight, I was able to lose 45 lbs and I got to the best shape of my life but in the process I did exactly what you have described in this video. Food became my enemy and I became scared of it, I was scared of gaining my weight back and I developed a horrible eating disorder that controlled my life for almost 2 years. I just found your channel not even a month ago and the stuff you have said about your own struggles with food and your journey in general has almost single handedly neutralized my ED.
I hope you see this becasuse I just wanted to say thanks and I know that you are helping other people out there overcome this horrible affliction
thanks patty
The first two points are the big reasons why I got a trainer. He gives me some workouts to do on my own and when we meet up he explains the how’s and whys so I’m not just doing whatever. The challenge is meeting those weekly goals. Slowly but surely. I’ve successfully gone to the gym at least once a week for about two months now which is a huge improvement from last year. Next up is diet and creating a healthy yet structured relationship with food.
P.S. Sleep. I need to work on it
P.P.S. I hate when my form is bad on a rep and I look like an idiot. Lowkey got laughed at once. Sucked fr.
whoever laughed can go kick rocks fr. laughing was definitely an inappropriate response :/ sorry that happened to you
My mistake was doing keto+omad combined and fasted cardio every morning. This was in August 2019, I started at 273 ish lbs in August, signed up for a boxing gym then in March 2020, the day before my birthday I weighed in at 169. My weight loss was unhealthy, but it was my will power that lost me the weight because tbh, I cannot imagine doing omad let alone keto because I eat so many carbs and 4 meals a day. Present day, since 2022 ive been around 173-178 lbs, properly maingaining for the last 2 years because I have a lot of loose skin after my weight loss. Idk if anyone read this but if you did thank you, i wish anyone good luck on their journey.
congrats on your journey thus far, Moises!!! also very happy you acknowledged your hard work getting there but stepped away from the unhealthy aspects
@@theleanbeefpatty Thank you patty this is only the beginning of the journey!!
Personally relate to what she said about how you could not beat a bad diet with a workout.
Was going to the gym for a couple of months and didn't care about what I was eating.
During a gym session, I noticed that a sort of mobile clinic set itself up in the gym, it was a sort of promo and you could get bloodworks done. My results showed that my cholesterol levels were elevated. This shocked me because I was really thin, like just above 50 kg and my height was I think 5'6 at that time. I refused to believe the test result so I had my cholesterol levels checked in a lab. the results were the same. I was both shocked and disappointed. From then on I started watching my diet. Its still hard to watch it. There are times when I get so stressed that I just don't care anymore and eat whatever I want. But, like Patty said, its a journey. And every journey has bumps in the road. We trip, we fall, and we get up and continue on.
Its probably weird commenting on a year old video but i love this is being talked about, i struggled in school with my old friend group specifically one girl telling me in the 5 grade that i needed to suck in my stomach because i looked weird. So that kind went something like sucking in my stomach till the 7th grade, couldn't un suck my stomach because it hurt, continued to do track from 4th/7th but eating little to nothing from from 7th and 8th grade got a bit better and then got back into it in 10th/11th grade. Definitely got a lot better and have a better relationship with the food i eat and have a somewhat better understanding of my limit, also through those years when i wasn't at school i would work out at home and only started going to an actual gym mid January once i got a car. Happy to be getting better and im happy to know that its possible to stay that way. I hope you are having a great day and greater days to come!
I really recommend for complete total beginners to start with exercises that aren't weighted, maybe do a week of beginner yoga or pilates, because the focus there is on form and using your breath to support your workout and it makes it a lot easier to carry that into the more intense work.
Love how animated, thoughtful, articulate and genuine you are. Great video!
I think one of the hardest things I'm experiencing now as a beginner is getting enough protein, even with protein shakes. Especially if you go off the .8 g of protein per lb of weight guide
Eggs and specifically egg whites are a good way to cram more protein. I wouldn't spam protein shakes too often (maybe 2 a day). But you can always incorporate whey/casein in your big meals that could use more protein. Such as breakfast where you can mix some whey into your oatmeal and cook 3 eggs to eat along with it.
Something I’ve heard that helped me, is that it actually should be .8-1 g per lb of *goal* body weight, not necessarily current weight especially if you have quite a few lbs to lose (which was my case)
People dont realize how hard it is to put on "good" weight. Proper diet & rest is critical
greek yogurt, egg whites and snacks like quest chips have been life savers for me
Especially if you decided to be trying to cut out meat a couple months before you started lifting🤦♀️ They’re not diametrically opposed goals, but my timing could have been better. It makes protein soooo much harder.
I remember I used to lift/workout around 3-4 times a day when I was back in highschool. I was obsessed with working out because I wanted to get bigger and stronger and do better in my sports. I didn't realize I needed to rest more, and more importantly, I didn't understand at the time that I had body dysmorphia. I was scared of looking "weak" so I trained too much. Hearing you talk about working out so frequently and still being relatively small got to me--it reminded me of my first years in fitness. Now, I'm doing better because I'm not so hard on myself. I actually enjoy and love what I do now.
i LOOOOVE the editing
so little yet gives you it ALL!! 🙏
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The "change one thing at a time" advice is really good to hear! I am severly overweight and always struggled with weightloss. A few weeks ago I started working out again and like always this triggered my perfectionism. I didn't just want to work out, I wanted to cut more and more calories, eat clean, etc. And that's when I realized: THIS is my biggest mistake! I always want 200% and it's just too much so what I really get in the end is 0%. So I decided to do exactly what you said: I'm only focusing on working out for now. That's the part that I like and that comes easy to me but it's not always easy to get the motivation so I'll make it a habit first and then start slowly changing up my diet, eating more veggies, portion control, etc. One new habit at a time. It sometimes feels weird to actively NOT make the better food decisions but I really think that it will help me making future choices to be better, not to fuel my perfectionism because I will make these choices in a controlled and calm way and not out of guilt or self-hatred. And I really want to learn to seperate healthy habits from weight loss so it will become easier to pick up these habits even if I'm at a point where my weight loss frustrates me. I really hope that this method will work.
muchas gracias, patty. en el pasado fui al gym varias veces, y no duraba porque cometía muchos errores. creía que hacer dos horas me ayudaría, pero resulta que terminaba cansada y harta, aparte de que no comía bien, y por eso me sentía sin energía para hacer mi rutina. espero volver pronto al gym y hacer las cosas diferente. te admiro mucho, estás hermosaaaa 🖤
30mins to 1 hour a day enough if u do hiit training ull get mad tired and sweaty in like 30 or so mins. Good luck!
This is so helpful Patty, thank you so much for taking your time for sharing your experience!! and congratulations on your amazing progress! you're truly a Queen 😭❤one thing i got here is "Just start" literally just start!! If you're new to the gym, don't worry about the diet, just going to the gym, start lifting weights and you will see a little progress in like first month or maybe in a couple weeks, and what happens when you start to see the result, your brain starts to rewire and think "damn i'm actually getting result now" your brain is going to start to crave for MORE RESULT, and that's how it is, so you're gonna look and say "damn how can i get more results" and you're gonna look into more research, you're gonna look on the internet and start thinking "okay i need to start getting my diet right now, i need to start getting more sleep, i need to start getting my protein intake, getting a program, etc" anddd from there you're more motivated than ever to workout and start to dicipline yourself and getting more result and that's where the cylce starts, that's where it all happens. So the best thing to do is "JUST START"
Everyday is the new begining, we need to do a mistakes so that we can learn from that and this fitness journey should be a lifestyle that we will contantly teaching ourselves for the rest of our life.
very wise words, Leli! Starting is the first (and potentially most difficult) milestone!
@@theleanbeefpatty fact 😤💪💪
Thank you LBP for putting things like this out there for people. We are lucky and happy to bask in your personality
thank you, David 🙏
"I turned out okey" Patty you'r an inspiration too literally millions of people that is not "okey", that is amazing!!!
I guess I just wanted to add for those of us who have physical disabilities or diseases that keep us from working out to our full potential.
Our disease/disability does not define us and its not an excuse so be kind to yourself and do what you can when working out. You can do it just remember your way of working out might be defined differently than other people and that's okay. I was diagnosed with hashimoto's disease last year and it's been a roller-coaster trying to figure everything when also having chronic fatigue im making progress it definitely will take time ❤
Patty I just discovered you and you are speaking to my soul seriously. I went through all of this. I was working out 6 days a week, drinking 2 shakes a day and 1 meal and two snakes and I lost 70lbs but then I would over eat when I was feeling down but also I was just starving myself. I gained back 50lbs and I am back on my health journey now. Not out of self hate but in self love. I am working out 5 days a week following a weight training program and eating healthier. Not following any specific deit just making sure I have a good balance and protein, veggies and carbs. I love your content and thank you for being so genuine and awesome.
I learned almost all of these things over time too, the "commiting to a goal part" took the longest. While being the opposite of lean I will start bulking this whole winter and see what can be built till the end of Spring.
Great tips Patty-san. Additional mistakes I made:
Going too fast for higher rep counts and getting injured
Missing balance in workout routines (like not training legs aaaaah)
Not stretching
Not learning about nutrition/implementing better nutrition
Thinking I need preworkout when long term I’ve felt better with a small meal (carbs+protein)
I have been struggling with keeping such a caloric deficit that I am forcing my body into starvation mode and seeing very little results because of it. I have been injured the last year and am just now healthy enough to really work out the way I want to. I am a member of the US Army and as a soldier we have very strict height and weight standards. Unfortunately there is no real leeway for those who have been injured, so it is 0-100 immediately in order get my weight and body fat percentage down to a passing level. Seeing this helped me remember that it is ok to think of this as a long term goal even if others do not. Thank you for being you. I love the style of your videos! Keep up the amazing work.
Other people have commented this same thing, but I’m chiming in too because this really resonates with me:
I feel so grateful to have content like this freely given and for no monies, but perhaps even more importantly, the brutal honesty and the hilarious self-deprecating aspect of this type of video. I’ve definitely come a LONG way and it’s been tough sifting through who is credible and who is telling you to starve yourself via the facade of “clean” eating (I used to watch Freelee videos when I was in HIGH SCHOOL and that definitely fucked with my head for a little bit before I realized that type of eating is absolutely insane)
Seeing food as an enemy is my current obstacle. I'm working on getting past that, but holy crap I feel this so much. My meals have been so light that I would end up binging on snacks in between my meals. I would always beat myself up for it but I've been slowly finding a balance on proper meal sizes for my bodies' actual needs and snacking that isn't out of control.
Oh myyy I relate to the food mistake so much, when I first started working out with weights I believed eating literally ONE boiled potato and a tuna can after my routine was enough food for my body to recover 💀 did that for like 2 years straight lol... Anyway, great content as always :3 thank you for sharing your experience❤ Saludos Patty!! ✨
What's your current meal situation? U look fantastic in your profile pic!
💕🙏 need more than potato and tuna fr! thank you!
@@cloudbloom Thank you!!! My relationship with food it's way better now, instead of focusing about what I should be restricting, I focus on what I'm "lacking" and I try to make sure most of my meals are nutritious and complete. I'm flexible though, if I'm craving cheetos or something I'll get them every once in a while :^)
@@KnowledgeOnRoses hell yeah, I don't know you at all but it seems like you're doing great😁✌️
@@cloudbloom Thanks, I am!! Hope you're doing fine as well 💪
I’m a beginner lifter and this video helped a lot I have a chronic illness that makes lifting a little bit harder but I enjoy it and makes me feel proud of what my body can do 😁
LOL I felt so outed when you said your bit about not resting enough. I sleep 90 minutes to four hours a night. My parents keep telling me to stop doing that because it's not healthy. And I agree with them. But my brain keeps going until the point of exhaustion to make me want to sleep. I am a full time student, work full time, and I take care of my family (my son and dog) on top of taking care of myself.
I 100% agree that getting at least 7-8 hours of sleep is the minimum, but in my case, I just have so much to do and I feel like what I have to do never gets lowered.
I have been going to the gym everyday since April 3rd and have been weightlifting, running, taking Yoga and Pilates classes. After 30 days of this change to becoming a habit has made me feel physically stronger and more in tune with my body. I've upped my running from twice a week to three times a week with my incline and top sprint speed increasing every week.
My diet has been the same. I am eating more chicken thighs and occasional salmon. I eat a lot of vegetables and fruits. My eat out food is a double double protein style with extra extra whole grilled onions.
I love your content and your personality! Thank you for the informative and entertaining video!
I just restarted my fitness journey this week after 2 years of getting out of fitness. Your videos are very encouraging. Keep up the good work Patty
This video’s timing is perfect! Literally I was planning on starting my fitness journey next week.
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I love all the sound effects you include in your videos! They are always hilarious and well timed! I love your videos too! You're my favorite female fitness influencer ❤️
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Nice eye frames 👌
The sound effects make her even cuter. As if she’s a real life cartoon character, which... yeah she might as well be lmao
“@@megamovieman101”, No no, nO, NO......!!
As a person who's starting the second month of her "fitness journey"... THIS IS THE BEST THING EVEEERRR!! I got so excited thank you ✨
I just started going to the gym recently and have been having a lot of fun with it. I know a lot of people dread it or go there because they "have to" so maybe i can add my 2 cents there and give you examples of what i do to keep enjoying it.
1) Find the type of movement that makes you happy. Let's say you hate arm workouts, then maybe focus on the legs and core for now. Once you get more into it you can start adding some arms. Also, any kind of movement is good so maybe for you it won't be lifting but rather taking a dance/yoga/pilate class or going for a run or a bike ride.
2) Just take it one day at a time and be proud with what you achieve every day. Results take time to be visible so be proud of yourself for running that extra minute or lifting that extra rep. Feeling a little stronger everyday makes me feel so much happier than looking fitter.
3) Since it's all about feeling good about ourselves, don't train to failure too much cause that's discouraging. Instead lower the weight a little and achieve your reps. Then add the weight a week later and you'll wonder at how you can do it now :)
I'm no professional but i really hope that helps! Most important is that you find something that makes you happy :)
It's really nice to see a motivational video promoting small achievable changes. Trying to fix all of your life in one go is a sure fire way to failure. Small incremental improvements are key. I managed to built a habit of going to the gym 5 times a week and now I'm slowly trying to fix my diet, one meal at a time.
I wish I hadn’t worked out while I was livid. I pushed myself way too hard! It’s fine to be motivated by various things, but when you work your body hard due to anger, you can really hurt yourself. It happened to me, and I started getting headaches every time I would do anything remotely strenuous for a long time. This set me back CONSIDERABLY. That happened 8 years ago, and I’ve only just started working out consistently again, and I can’t help but wonder what kind of physique I would have today if I had been able to remain consistent.
10:30 Patty spotting a cat made my day 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲
What really helped me, was shiftig away from the goals of being skinny and lift weights towards "I want to be healthy!". I started homeworkouts in January this year, got a gym membership in May and I can finally see results (after 2 failed attempts with the before mentioned "goals"). I am happy that I can see progress and I can see that I am getting healthier. Bonus: I can nearly do a pull up now, which I could never do in all my life. And having role models like you ist really helping me along the way :)
I know I learned one thing-I love watching you speak with passion on a subject you care about!
This video makes me excited to try a healthier lifestyle
Thank you Patty for talking about these points, they are important to make good progress, and what better way to your talk about it with your years of experience in the fitness world. 💪🏼
I really had a debt for the rest time that I should give during the series, we need more people like you spreading the bodybuilding around the places, long live the aesthetics. a hail from Brazil 🇧🇷
@@julianoramos6411 bolso shelby**
Rolling around in my room is my new cardio workout!
im so grateful that I never struggled with getting into the habit of going to the gym consistently and training hard but I do really struggle with the eating part. its so mentally difficult ive cried so much but videos like this really help
One thing I can say as someone who did the crash diet and inconsistent exercise thing for years- consistency will come when you find something you love. Fitness doesn't have to be a punishment anymore. So feel free to play around with weights, swimming, stair master, walking, different intensities, etc. You don't have to do what everyone else is doing, as long as you feel fulfilled by the end of the session. All these tips are great for someone who's super serious about their physique, but if you're just in it for the health benefits, then anything is better than nothing. Start where you can, and the rest will come in time. You're not rushed - fitness is a journey, and you need to appreciate the process more than the end goal.
i grew up with my parents getting super into fitness and nutrition, so i got blessed with understanding certain portions of workouts and getting the basics as a kid. i do still need to figure out meal planning to fit my specific goals tho! just havent had the time but the journey so far has been going great. increasing in weights feels so accomplishing. i do need to get more sleep tho LOL
Let me know if you find out any good ways for meal planning! I think my biggest issue is working out the things I need nutritionally to reach my goals
As a person who is about 4 months into the "fitness journey" I have learned patience really is key.
I am starting off at 310lbs and the goal is to be at 200lbs. But the BIGGER goal is to be an overall stronger and healthier person.
Looking at Patty's progress photos (Thank you for sharing those) it puts it into perspective that it will be at least a couple of years before I get to where I would like to be.
The biggest goal of all of it, is to implement a life style change and always be involved with some physical activity, and have a better relationship with food.
Thank you for what you do Patty it has definitely helped these past 4 months.
i was at my restrict/binge phase this year. I could have made so much progress had i just focussed more on getting stronger and building muscle
(i was so obsessed with getting skinny, consuming more than 1500 calories FREAKED me out)
Thank you so much for this. Much needed
Great video! I appreciate hearing this advice. I’m finally trying to commit to being more active as a lifestyle change rather than a random thing I get into for a few weeks. I’m about 2 months in to a lifting routine and it’s the most consistent I’ve been. The thing that has helped me the most is knowing that I don’t have to do some crazy hard or super long work out for it to count. In the past, if I only had time for a 15-30 min workout, I’d feel like it wasn’t enough. So then I wouldn’t work out at all LOL. Moving your body is a good thing whether it’s 10 minutes or 60+! It doesn’t have to take a huge chunk of your day and be so hard. I’m loving 4, 30 min workouts weekly. I still have days I’m unmotivated, but it’s been easy to stick to and I’m enjoying the journey.
I usually do not praise anybody, specially without knowing them, but it is refreshing to see AND hear a sound, sane mind speak, independently of the subject and specially great for being on this subject related to image and fitness. Most of influencers out there are mainly SELLERS and not honest people SHARING THEIR TRUTH. So "chapo" for you, muy bien, sigue así!
girl this was so informative and really helpful. I feel more confident with my fitness journey now, thank you so much :)
hi leanbeefpatty i really appreciate your tips and routines. your videos really help. i prefer swimming than running but doing both feels great.
My #1 mistake when I started my fitness journey was using only machines. I didn't start growing until I incorporated dumbbells couple years later.
I needed to hear these things… I do pretty much all of these things and then wonder why I’m not getting the results I want… So now it’s time to focus and improve my routine! 💪
I like that you're respectful and understanding that different people are gonna have different experiences and preferences and what works for you might not work for them.
I wish there was more people like that.
I am so happy I am not alone in this journey. I have been dorky and awkward when it comes to working out haha and on the way, I have been finding whatever works for me. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. 💜✨
''just winging it'' looks like my body goal by accident
Same for me on the second one. Almost every workout for like 6 to 8 months I was just doing the reps with the weights I had at home without going near failure. We all got to start somewhere I guess
Someone recommended your channel to me! I’m pretty out of shape (and overweight) but I want to get more fit and be strong, so I’m watching your channel to help me start going to the gym!
Just started back working out about 6 months ago. After about a year and a half out of the gym, I really enjoy your content and down to earth explanations
I don't know who will come across my comment but I hope my experience can help others. I think one of the most significant mistakes I made as a beginner was excessively comparing myself to others. In my freshman year of college, I saw so many people in the gym who were muscular and fit, and I wanted to be like them. As a result, I did a lot of the things that Patty highlighted in the video: I set unrealistic goals for myself, my workout quality was shite and I just winged my workouts by copying what other people in the gym were doing. In the first few months of working out, I had some degree of 'newbie gains' but I plateaued very quickly as I wasn't pushing myself, didn't have proper form and I was not keeping my caloric & protein intake in mind whatsoever. And I was usually getting 6 hours of sleep. At this point, I was 18, 6' tall and weighed around 135-140 lbs.
This all changed the following year. I had an amazing roommate in my sophomore and junior years of college who introduced me to some fitness channels and taught me proper form and workout structuring. I started to eat better and more consistently, I slept 7-8 hours and I amped up the intensity of my workouts. I gained a lot more weight and was around 170 lbs. at the end of college. Most notably, I slowly realized that the only person I can realistically compare myself to is my past self. Yeah, there are times where I'll look at bodybuilders, powerlifters and elite athletes but in doing so, I'm admiring their physique and dedication - not comparing myself to them (okay, maybe just a little bit but not in an unhealthy way). I have my own goals in mind for how I want to look, how much I want to weigh and lift. I take those goals with me to each workout I do with an understanding that the progress will come slowly, but surely. I'm now around 185-190, same height as when I was 18 but I feel so much healthier. I still have a long way to go, but I feel good.
Like I said, my worst mistake was unrealistically comparing myself to others which impacted how I worked out and the goals I set for myself. If you're new to working out, just remember that comparing yourself to others can make you set unattainable goals - compare yourself today to when you started working out, whether it's a day ago, two weeks ago or a few months back. Think of how far YOU'VE come and how much further you can go. Take it slow, take it steadily - don't rush through. Thank you for sharing your experiences Patty - it's really helpful to hear about what you've learned through your journey and I'm sure there are plenty of beginners who can heed the advice you give in this video.
As for the food thing, I completely agree. When I first started looking into fitness I was really fat and ate nothing but crap so I put myself in an extreme calorie deficit and I ended up with anemia and an ED. After I recovered I just went back to my old ways so now it’s round 2 and I am still eating the same but just cleaning it up, so instead of fast food I’ll make a homemade meal. Instead of just a plate of pasta I’ll have an egg and some veg with it. It’s working so much better and I don’t feel guilty or like I need to make up for it because I know a small change is still a change and this is a process that might take years.
This was great. I spent the better part of the last year training fasted and not taking enough rest breaks between sets. I still consider myself a beginner and your content is super inspiring!
As a beginner I've never faced these kinds of problems but i had the internet guiding me including your Channel so everything is much more falls in place
Thank you for existing, I'm starting my swole journey and I'm so glad I came across your channel. By the gods I shall journey along with you!