I was on an operating SSBN sub & during our “offcrew” status, I had the misfortune of receiving a call from the Squadron regarding loss of one of our brothers at sea. The followup experience was awe inspiring & created a solemn situation which I would never like to perform, Ever? Only then did I realize the danger we all exposed ourselves to each & every patrol & most importantly, the family. The real heroes are the families & I thank God for them as they gave me a reason to come back safely. God bless all our brave soldiers, sailors, airmen & Marines who put everything online for each & every one of us every day & to their families, our gratitude to the families who sacrifice so much for their loved ones! God bless!
There but for the grace of God.....I was 9 when my dad went to Vietnam. I was old enough to know he was in a combat zone and old enough to worry about him, but too young to understand the fear my mom and older brother went through. We were lucky, he made it home alive. My heart goes out to those families who weren't so lucky, in all wars. My deepest, utmost respect to all CACOs.
On July 2, 1968 I was 18 years old. I answered the door and a major was there. Daddy had passed at 49 and although he had retired the military still sent a survival assistance officer. Many years later and this still means so much. Thank you to all who have knocked on a door. God Bless them all.
Can I truly know what you went through..no. but. My father was navy in Vietnam. I was spared that pain. But many of my classmates went through it...and I will never forget the number of times a navy vehicle showed up to pull a classmate out of class because their father was shot down or recovered. And later, the realization that I could have put my family through that. Respect. I wish I could remotely express how much I regret what you had to go through. I honor your loved ones service and mourn your loss as much as if it was my own. Everyone that served is my brother/sister. I honestly regret that they are gone and wish I could have gone in their place.....
Same for me I was 18 and my sister was 16. A major was at our door, he was our survival assistance survival officer. Daddy was 49, retired Army. We were raised as military children, both born in Army Hospital in Germany during the Occupation. We had the help we needed. I continue to reach out to military families in memory of Daddy.❤
Had to do this in 2014, I thought I was prepared, I was not, but I did it. I have a hard time when I remember going through this, in fact, I was so nervous that I still had my cover on when I did the notification and I was a Major. The young widows reaction is burned in my memory forever. I spent 20 years in the Marine Corps, fought two wars with three combat tours, been shot at, scared out of my mind but this was by far the hardest mission I ever had. I am still friends with the family today. May God bless the families with joyful memories of their Marines.
My battles Sternman and Wilker did this. Wilker got a glancing punch off his shoulder during a family notification. They both stated after they got to Iraq, they wished they had marched with the rest of the Division 90 days before. Anyway, Sir, thank you for doing notifications.
I knew that rear detachment entailed details and duties such as notifications and funerals. The term stabilization time isn't a better option that rolling on out with the main element. Shoot, this was a sad video.
I am a 76 year-old retired Navy Master Chief, and I cried. Our Marines are national treasures...warts and all. God save these incredible men and women. This video...masterfully produced. Well done...well done. Semper Fi.
My husband was a Navy Medic (two purple hearts - shot both times while trying to get back into the copter after picking up wounded) stationed with the Marines for a time and he said they were something else but when it came to being serious they were as serious as one can get. The Few, the Proud, the Marines! He loved those guys. :-) I was lucky because I was fortunate to have him come back home standing up. I can't even begin to imagine what I would have done if I saw those men standing at my door. That has to be the hardest detail there is. God Bless them all.
10 years, USAF Tsgt. I fully agree. Toughest job, Done with Honor and Integrity. Our Brothers and Sisters serve and die for our freedom. Many are wounded for ever, some visibly others invisibly. May God grant our love ones peace and until Valhalla when we shall gather together in joy.
As a former Marine and later on a Navy Corpsman who was blessed to serve with Marines, I can say that Marines and their Docs share a special bond that nobody will understand without having experienced it. I count myself among those fortunate enough to have done just that.
My son was Army and he was MURDERED in 1998 hunting up North. I feel what you say! GOD help us ALL! We never forget! And I find it hard to forgive! What’s a Mom to do? Y’all take care! Sincerely, Judith Richards
I was asked in 1970 by a surviving wife of a fellow marine to escort his body home from Vietnam for burial. This marine was a close friend of mine in high school and had entered the marines a year after I did. His letter said if I was tough enough for the marines so was he. I was over there when I was notified of his death. I escorted his body home and when we were taken to the mortuary I was asked to view him and make a determination to have an open or closed casket because I was the only one there that knew him. I was able to put a picture of myself in the front pocket of his uniform. The marine corps had done a wonderful job putting Glen back together to I said yes his family could view him. I’m 75 years old now and I still cry when seeing these types of videos. God bless the marine corps and all of us who have served.
Brother.. same here, escorted one of my crew members back to W. Va. , 1972.... Parents were not in area. Would be late to W. Va. Small town... everyone knew,,, but the Grandma.... Had to make that notice by myself...Marines we never leave anyone behind, Was the saddest yet was honored to do this for Bobby..
I saw my first notification as a military brat playing at a friends house off base. Even at 9 years old I knew what that meant. The next one was a friend’s son and it’s breaks your heart to see the life go out of a Gold Star Mother. Finally I answered my door to my notification and you could have knocked me over with a feather and I can’t tell you a word they said passed regrets. Seven years ago I was severely wounded and told I should get my affairs in order. I tried to die on my way home to the US and my spouse demanded my retirement. I’m just an old beat up soldier but my heart goes out to my brothers and sisters who did serve, are serving, and their families. When I was stationed in DC I went to Arlington every weekend both to pay respects and to remind myself that decisions have names.
Me as well. Navy brat. My father and uncles served. I went Army. Honestly..I was a fuck up as a soldier. But. My respect to all those that served and gave the ultimate effort..for what it is worth from a fuck up
This should be required watching by everyone in America to get a true grasp of what these heroes and families have to endure. My heart breaks for every mother, father, husband ,wife, brother and sisters, friends who have had to bury their own.
I am a Gold Star Widow. I lost my husband who was a Marine in 2004. The minute I saw my husbands CWO3 in the front glass on the front door in his dress blues I knew my husband was dead. I dropped to the floor bawling and screamed that they had the wrong person. I didnt get a CACO at all. I am glad that they are making things like this and I only hope that they make all of the Marines that have to make these calls and inform families to watch this.
In my entire 17 years in the Corps this was the hardest assignment I ever had. It’s not at all like you see portrayed in movies where you notify the next of kin and your off to do something else. You really get attached to these families as you assist them through this difficult time in their lives. Along with it being the hardest assignment I ever had, it was also the most rewarding in honoring these Marines.
And while not the same, as a Army reservists, I volunteered to do the duty at grave site. What an honor. Somewhere in VA, near Woodbridge, like this..... I was there to help them. ... Over 25 years ago. I agree. What an HONOR!
My son is a new Marine, I am an old Soldier. I’ve been Honor Guard at more funerals than I think I can remember…they were all for Veterans who’d gotten to live a full life. Never had to do one for someone young who was KIA. This hits close to home now, God bless all the Gold Star families out there for their sacrifices, as long as I am alive they’ll never be forgotten.
Honestly. My father served in Vietnam. I've seen more than my share of friends that were pulled out of school because their father was found/identified. I served in the Army. I've had to "sanitize" more than my share of buddies footlockers. I may somewhat understand from both sides. But. Not really. I watch from time to time just to remind myself just what I didn't put my family through. And remember all those I knew that had to suffer through such an event
I’m very sorry to hear this!!!! 42 of my friends are no longer with us and six more took their own lives.... you are never alone my brother!!!! ❤️🙏🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸😢😢😢🙏🇺🇸🙏💪💪💪
As a Veteran, I always felt that among the true heros were the cherished family and friends of those at home , waiting for their loved ones ! God Bless Them all " SEMPER FI " !
Isn't is heartwarming how "Mom's" heart changed from hating them (in the grief of losing her beloved son) and having a COLD heart toward Mandy at the beginning, to giving Mandy hugs in the Funeral Home, and showing gratitude to the SSG at the end? My son is an Army Chief Warrant Officer and both he & my daughter-in-law (Retired SFC) have served multiple tours "down-range" and since he went "Down Range" the first time in 2002, I pray daily for them and dread the possibility of Soldiers (Army) showing up at my door.
This is masterfully produced and done...it's so real, so authentic that I can't help but weep. God bless those charged with handling such a terrible and delicate burden...
After my Father came back from his second combat tour in Vietnam we moved to Waco Texas from California. My Father was assigned to I&I Staff duty at the Navy/Marine Corp Reserve. Part of his duties while there as a newly promoted Gunnery Sergeant, was the notification of next of kin. He told me many years later after he retired from the Marine Corps, that other than being in combat, it was the toughest job he was ever assigned to do. After watching this short drama, I can see better now what he was trying to say. Semper Fi to all those that have worn the uniform of our nation and that have left us to soon. God rest their souls and give their families comfort.
I remember the exact moment my father walked into our house in Germany. To tell my mother her oldest son was killed in Vietnam. He was a Col. at the time and they came to his office to tell him. My brother, a young Lt and pilot was shot down. Broke my heart. And I was just 6 years old.
I can't even begin to imagine how heartbreaking it is to be told your loved one isn't coming back alive. RIP to all of our incredibly brave servicemen and women who have served our country and those who gave their lives to keep us all safe
I am a retired US Navy Chaplain. During my time in the Navy I was called upon to make many of these calls. Of the many I’ve made, not one was easy. This training video was exceptionally well done and is well worth the viewing because it captures in a very sensitive and realistic way the agony experienced by the family as well as those who are privileged to provide care for them.
That was so heartbreaking. RIP to all those who lost their lives in the line of duty. Thank you all to those who have and are serving. You will never be forgotten.
Over 20 years in the Marine Corps and almost 12 years being retired and this is still the hardest thing mentally and physically I ever did. Still hurts. You never forget. Never.
Everyone should view the film Taking Chance starring Kevin Bacon. It depicts everything that happens in the mortuary and the heartbreak felt by the family and the community. A heart wrenching movie.
YES, I HAVE THE VIDEO, TAKING CHANCE. I WATCH IT ALL MOST EVERY SABBATH. I HAVE ALWAYS HAD GREAT RESPECT FOR ALL THOSE MEN AND WOMEN VETERANS, LIVING OR DEAD. BUT EVERY TIME I WATCH THAT VIDEO, WHICH IS A TRUE STORY OF CHANCE AND HOW SO MANY PEOPLE SHOWED SO MAS RESPECT AND KINDNESS NOT ONLY TO CHANCE BUT ALSO TO HIS ESCOURT, IT MADE FEEL MUCHO MORE RESPECT TO ALL VETERANS AND THIER FAMILY. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
You can also find the original post online that became the movie. It's a quick read, but very powerful. One of the more "Hollywood Moments" in the film was a factual event. The crucifix donated to his escourt by a stewardess, and placed on the casket - that really happened.
U.S Navy 8 year Veteran, TO all Military families who lost someone that served my most Sincere Condolences This happens almost everyday in America of any Military Branch/families 😞😢🇺🇸‼️
I just happened to see this on my phone tonight. This should be required in every school in our country. Like we should still have The pledge of allegiance. My heart breaks for the families and for the people who announce their passing. Bless all of you. God bless America!
@Chris Schulze - This has to be one of the most deeply moving, superbly crafted, emotionally wrenching videos I've ever seen. Thank you so much for posting it. I can't imagine what it must be like for these families...when they see two uniformed military officers approaching the door, most of them know in a heartbeat what has happened, even if they don't act like it at first. Their agony must be excruciating... Thanks again - I hope more people watch this.
I've seen both ends of this. Having lost men in the field, WE banded together, as brothers and supported each other as we grieved for our fallen brother. WE are trained to handle the hardest of situations. On the flip side, these families are 99% unprepared for what the real possibilities are when their loved one deploys. Having served on an I&I staff, it is THE MOST GUT WRENCHING experience you will ever have. The MSgt was correct when he said "You see their face turn gray as if life is leaving them". I think I'd rather have open heart surgery without anesthesia than to have to tell another family, face to face that their son/daughter isn't coming home alive. They are just coming home.
I was the parent who went thru this in 2004 and the child who watched his parents do the same in 1968. The hole burned into your soul never heals. You never get over it; you just sort of get used to it.
I was an undertaker for over 25 years and military funerals were the toughest as far as crossing I.’s and dotting T’s. Sad to say but any funeral home asked to take care of our military is very privileged
This is my GREATEST FEAR, my youngest son is in the Military and I've always had this recording if you will, going through my head since he signed up. Thank you to all that have to go through this process to tell the family's.
This "skit" depicts what families and loved ones experience every day. It was powerful and moved me, thanks to all of our brave military members and their families for the sacrifices they've made.
I don't know why you use the word "skit" to describe this video. I would suggest you google the meaning of the word. I found nothing comedic about it at all
When I served as a combat medic the only thing that really bothered me was the thought of my mom and dad getting this visit I knew it would destroy my mom
And that was the same way with me. When I left, my mother was brave, but I could hear the fear in her voice. She also slipped a small bible into my pocket. I will cherish it forever.
I volunteered at my local VA. Cleaned their asses. No fucking reason those douchebags can't do their jobs at 18.00 an hour. I wanted to EFF them up. It would have gotten UGLY !
Bless you and thank you for service and for your continued service ! Happy holidays and a blessed and peaceful Christmas to you and everyone that you’re helping to die well. ❤️
Everyone in this movie deserves an Oscar especially the mother. I have a friend who does this and he says that you get people upon notification as well as at the funeral who spit on you, yell and blame you, and numerous other crazy things.
Excellent beautifully done!! I was wounded twice in Vietnam the second time almost killed me! Thank God my parents didn’t have to go thru that experience! Bravo for this presentation!!
Twice as an airman I was part of the rifle squad which fired the 21 gun salute over the graves of fallen servicemen. We spoke with the escort at one funeral. He said he would sooner accept a demotion than to have to go through the notification process again, it was that gut wrenching for him. He was a senior NCO with service in Korea and Vietnam.
Thank you for posting this. This is the type of training many in law enforcement should receive rather than on the job training on a death notification.
While serving on I&I Duty I had the difficult task to perform as a CACO to make a couple of these notifications, I will tell you that it was the hardest duty I ever had, not even my combat tours were that nerve-wracking. In this video when the MSgt says "They know as soon as they see the uniforms at the door" he is absolutely correct. Every family is different, each reaction is different but their initial denial of what is happening is almost exactly word for word as in this video. Everything we do during that duty is for the family of our fallen Marine, we deliver horrible news, but with the utmost respect and dignity and compassion that we can put forth. Even though I have been in this position, I have never seen this video until today, I sat here and cried while watching it thinking about the images from my notification calls. I remember each name, each word, each face, each cry and scream and each fist pounded on my chest by a loved one wanting not to believe it was true. It is heart wrenching and you have to maintain total control and military bearing. 8 short years ago, we were the recipients of that notification, my stepson had been killed in an accident and when the call was made at our house, his mother was exactly in the same frame of mind as this woman in the video. Once again I had to be the stoic one and make sure that I offered up every bit of strength I had to help her through the initial process of her grief. It is still hard every day for her, for both of us, especially knowing that with having three other children, that knock could always come again. You never expect it to happen to you and when it does, you just react as if you were kicked in the gut. Somehow you find the strength to carry on, even when you think there is no reason to. There are silver linings in every dark cloud and gifts in many things we have seen since then. This video was very tastefully done, it is powerful and it shows just what is expected by the Marines performing this duty, their thoughts on what they are doing and what it eventually means to the families of those fallen Marines. Semper Fidelis.
I remember this like it was today. I had two son's in the military, my oldest was in the Navy and my second son was Army. These men showed up at my job and when I saw the uniforms, I knew which son it was before they even said a word. I didn't have the support these men gave because my son was married and had a child. I really identified with this mother, the emotions are still here after 16 years. It's raw and unforgiven, the drama is real.
I watched this movie when I was active duty and I performed these duty 6 times, I am retired now and still think about the families I assisted in this time.
This was beautifully done!! It helped me understand it and I’m prior military and had the opportunity to serve on the March AFB USAF Honor Guard (Funerals) in the 80s. Our Mortuary Affairs Division handled this important component. I agree with the other commenters: Every USAmerican should be required to watch this. Maybe it could be linked to Voter Registration, obtaining government ID/Drivers Licenses etc. These experiences must be understood by every American.
I still remember being in Helmand Province, Afghanistan like it was yesterday. I was patrolling and the truck in front of me (my best friend was in that truck), it got blown up by an IED. Till this day I tell myself was there something I could’ve done to avoid that from happening? Why it couldn’t been my truck? Why didn’t I got blown up? This video hit home in so many ways.
I'm thankful you made it home Manny. May God give you hope and strength to live life and fulfill your dreams and bring honor to your friend by special things you do for the rest of your life. Such a hard thing you experienced, my heart goes out to you.
I'm an Army Brat, and I know the initial communications seem to sound cold and distant, but it is the most foundationally important part of the process. I would know, my Dad is in Arlington, and the priority of details is what brings the fluidity and the stability to every Military Family, at this time. 🙏🇺🇸🙏
This in my mind is the most commendable duty, taking care of our own Marines and the Marine moms ,dads, sisters and brothers as we are all part of the corps.
I can’t imagine. I have the utmost respect for all who do this notification. God bless and watch over each and everyone of you. Thank you for your service above and beyond in my opinion.
In the spring of 1967 I was home visiting my parents for the weekend. Standing at the kitchen window I saw an "official" Marine Corp car pull into the driveway in a remote area of Western Maryland. At that time my brother was stationed in "Nam" and like most others I knew what that car meant. Dad wasn't home and Mom was napping - so it was left to me to handle. I tried to be brave - as it turned out the reason for the visit was the parents had changed phone number and brother never changed it on the paperwork. He was badly wounded, losing his left leg from knee down. I later married an Army SGT fresh home from "Nam". Losing him to Agent Orange.
Wow! May they all RIP. This is one of the best enactments I have seen. Excellent video. We owe them so much - willing to give up their lives to keep us and others free. We will always be grateful for their service.
Man. Bless every one of our branches. First responders. Everyone. But these guys. Their mission is above and beyond. Huge salute to all the men and women that have this heartbreaking duty.
As a mother of a Marine and an Airman this scares me more than anything I could ever imagine. We are all a family and feel the pain of loss together with those who have experienced it firsthand. Beautiful, important video to show the reality of this trauma.
I remember the day of my 1st cousin Johnny Serrano Lance Corporal of the Marine Corps. He was killed in a hospital that was bomb. His casket was viewed by all, his face and head was swollen. Couldn't believe it was him, his mother was committed to a psychoactive ward and died there. His father John blame himself for pushing his son out. Was a recipient of a triple heart surgery and never fully recovered. Died a broken man for what he did to his son. I remember Johnny as a friend and he was larger than life. Everyone who knew him, love to be with him. He was that type of a human being that care. He died in 1969, to this day as a 70 year old man. I will always remember him as my Brother and want to thank for the outstanding job that the United States Marine Corps for what they did. I am eternally grateful for their services.
I remember the day my son left for boot camp at Parris Island. It was the day that I finally had to acknowledge that my little boy had become a man, but the way he hugged me goodbye that day, told me that he had not forgotten all of the beautiful times and the hard ones as well, that had shaped the good person that I knew him to be. Now, someone else would put the man he had become to test. I fought back the tears and forced myself to let go of him. It’s amazing how many feelings can be expressed through a simple hug. I knew he loved me and he knew I loved him. “I’ll be alright, mama. Don’t worry,” he said. We had discussed that boot camp wouldn’t be easy and that the harshness of the Drill Sergeants was necessary and that there was a reason behind everything. He may not have known what awaited him, but he had prepared himself mentally for whatever may come and I knew that no matter what they asked of him or how harshly he may be treated, he would not take it personally. In fact, he fully expected them to try to break him. He expected to be treated like a soldier. When the door closed behind him, I watched through the window as he got into the car with his recruiter. Crying the whole time, I watched until they drove out of sight. I was so proud of my son. However, all of his friends and even some members of our immediate family treated him very poorly when they learned he had joined the Marines. For months and months we had listened to the news from Afghanistan and they just couldn’t understand why he would join knowing that we were caught up in a seemingly never ending war. They told him he was crazy for joining. They told me he was crazy for joining, but I was ready for them. No, my son was not crazy. My son was not foolish. My son knew what war meant. He knew the dangers and no one made him join. He joined out of love for his country and his people. If everyone decided to leave the battles to everyone else, then there would be no America. Furthermore, my son knew that his freedom, our freedom only existed thanks to the bravery of those who had fought and died for it down through ages and he knew that thousands upon thousands of his fellow countrymen had voluntarily left all they loved behind to avenge the lives lost on 911 and to show the wicked bullies that Americans were a people that would never roll over for anyone. I am so proud of all of our people who risk their lives everyday so that I can go about my days free and rest at night without fear. I owe them all a debt that I can never repay. My son came home to me. I think I cried more when I hugged him upon his return than I did when he left that first time. Our Lord had returned him safely and I was thankful. However, there are many who don’t have a joyous reunion and for the loved ones of those courageous souls, I wish I had more than words to express my deepest sympathies. I often hear the parents or the spouse of a fallen loved one say that their loved one died for a cause they believed in and they tell of how they had formed bonds with their fellow soldiers and even considered them brothers. They are so strong in the midst of tremendous loss. I don’t know if I have that kind of strength in me. I often think of those who have served and who currently serve. They are always in my prayers. Nothing I write here can prove how much I appreciate each and everyone who has risked their life or who is currently risking their lives so that I can be free and there are no words in any language that will express how sorry I am for those who did not return safely. Thank you to each and everyone. May God bless you all of your days.
Life is difficult enough... but war brings out the worst and best in man. Observing the roller coaster of emotions in all of these characters is illuminating to the eclectic human psyche. Both beautiful, and brutal...
I am a retired US Marine Corps Infantry Unit Leader (0369 MSgt). I served 22 years in the Corps with 14 years in the Grinder. I thought I could watch this, which I did until the until kitchen scene. During my tour of duty in the Corps, 1964-1985, I became very close to my Marines. One, I believed then and now that it was my responsibility to look out for the welfare of someone's son or daughter who earned "The Title" United States Marine. During my tour I was my late mom only child when I volunteer to go to Vietnam as a Sergeant on my first reenlistment and become a Infantry Platoon Sergeant at the ripe age of 22. To loose a Marine, may it be from an accident or in combat, that scare on my heart has never fully healed and I don't think it ever will. I lost many son's and this outstanding depiction of informing the family brought back so many memories. I use to be a hard charging Staff Sergeant like the one in this video clip. But the Master Sergeant here reminded me of me when I was at Quantico. It was there in 1982, where a Sergeant working at Special Services drowned in a boating accident. I losed Marines in Vietnam and at Camp Lejeune. It still hurts me, but I also feel for the parents and loved ones of those Marines. They were my Marine Corps family and all Marines know we are a family for life. I am now 75. I joined the Corps at 17 and retired at 39, so I grew up in the Corps. I continue to mentor Marines when the opportunity presents itself. This is an opportunity for me to say to Marine Corps leaders. Master the 11 leadership principles and the 14 leadership traits. Master the words on your promotion warrant and dedicate yourself in taking care of someone's son or daughter who is serving proudly as a US Marine. To the mom's and dad's out there, please know if your son or daughter served in the Corps under my care; please know I gave them almost the same amount of care and devotion you did before you untrusted them to me. I can assure you I did my best. Because of that I can sleep at night. May God forever bless our Marine Corps family. Semper Fi
As a former TV News Anchor I had the distinction and honor of visiting Gold Star Families shortly after Notification. Their desire to proudly talk about their loved one was one of the most remarkable events in my long career. As a Veteran myself, I was stricken with grief but drew strength from their willingness to share. I had the distinction of reporting in Baghdad at the site where one of the Army Vets was killed. I gathered her CO and others to recreate events leading to her death. I kept the remarks and video close to my vest until I was able to share personally with her relatives when I got home. My conversation with the family and showing the detailed video was the first time they learned deep details about her death and heard from her fellow soldiers. I vividly recall it as I type this...the events occurred 17 years ago.
This made me cry. I remember that the last day I saw my dad alive was the day after my wedding. He died under mysterious circumstances in his company plane. My mom was notified over the phone by the Indiana State police and she could only hand the phone over to our accountant for our family business. My grandmother didn't want me to view his body on the last night before his burial but I did anyway. All I could remember was the laugh lines by his eyes. The did a great job with his forehead injury, one hand covered the injured one and his leg injury wasn't visible. It also reminded me of taking my daughter in to see a dear friend's son as she was beginning to do EMS locally. I explained what the drawing on the call sheet compared to what she saw on his head and body. Being an RN I was able to stand it better but I wouldn't let his mom.or sister see him . His head was wrapped in a Chux pad. Saddest part was he was run off the road as he rode his powered bike home from listening to a band play. He was different, an IdioSavant who knew everything about music from the 50's on up. The 3 who did it were waiting for him on purpose. They weren't crimally charged but his mom and sister got a small Civil settlement. It was just before Christmas and I haven't been able to.put a Christmas tree since. He used to bring us a big box of chocolates every Christmas. I've seen people and Veterans die before they should have and it's always hard.
This is hurtful. Iost my son 8 months ago - Airforce - in Japan. Those men at my door at 5:30 am ( POUNDING TO WAKE ME UP )... WILL FOREVER be in my brain.
Best training video, military of otherwise, that I have ever seen in my 64 years on this planet. Professionally done, beautifully filmed and powerfully moving.
Wow !!! That was spot on !!!!! Everything was just like they do it!!! The acting was to perfection on everyone's part !!! It's a tough and sad job, but somebody has to do it . Thank you to all past and present military for your service. 🛐🛐🛐🛐🛐
I know it's just a short clip... But I see how wonderful the Staff Sargent is with the family.. He created a bond and will always be a part of their life ❤ I hope this truly happens..
How terribly, terribly sad. All I can think of is how many thousands- no, MILLIONS of times young men and women in uniform must be prepared and trained to personally, face to face, inform others that someone they loved has died. What a burden to be carried...And what a strangely painful gift, witnessing and sharing in their grief. It is a private and intimate thing to share with a stranger, knowing in advance that nothing will ever make it better. Time may dull the first terrible anguish; but for those involved, their lives, their world is changed forever. May God bless those who perform such an agonizing duty. And may those left behind find comfort in their memories, and pride in their loved one's service. For all the many who are gone forever - thank you. Each and every one of you, regardless of circumstances, is a hero. 💔😢🇺🇸💜
I remember having to write a letter for an airman on my flight to his parents. He died from a single car accident after being thrown from the car. The driver a friend had to have psychiatric care to recover from the loss. I was a Sergeant at the time and also had to notify his best friend. It was not easy to tell him his friend was gone and why. I would say it was the most difficult assignment of my military career. We all cried, we loved him very much, he was a part of us. Our final salute was as the aircraft leaving our base broke ground at take off. We his Security Police Flight were outside for guard mount with all of our weapons. Our flight chief called the formation to attention, and then present arms which is a salute while under arms. There was not a dry eye from anyone, we broke down crying, including our Squadron commander who was with us. The flight we were relieving volunteered to stay on longer so we could grieve and compose ourselves before taking our posts. In this video, the Mom calls the Marines killers, she apologized realizing those of us that served have our personal sides. We have a brother/sisterhood that few understand. I was tearing up watching this well done video!!! it took me back to 1979 when Stephen Collins left us!! It still bothers me today March of 2021!!! The job is never easy as you see. I am thankful for every man and woman that has served our wonderful nation and gave everything!!! To their families, from this veteran, Thank You for sharing your son or daughter with us, it was an Honor to serve with them. God Bless!!!
I too had the honor and had to request that a SSGT that didn't know my Corporal removed from the duty in 1988 and given to me. The deceased Marine worked under me as an FA-18 avionic electrical systems tech at NAS Cecil Field, Florida. I remember how hot it was at the Jacksonville airport while standing on the tarmac to with him waiting fly to Baltimore. Upon arrival in Baltimore, we still had to go to the funeral home in Harve de Grace. The hearse was late due to a break down and I sat with "Chuck" on an open freight dock until a replacement hearse showed up for over two hours in Dress "A" uniform. Upon arrival and turning him over to the funeral director, I took a taxi to my hotel, then prepared to meet the family the next morning in their home. I was not prepared for this, other than a 30 minute brief by a young female LTJG (Navy) and a Senior Chief, at the funeral home. I quickly found out the parents were divorced, father a retired Master Gunny (USMC) and step-father, a retired Senior Chief Navy. Yes, I got grilled with questions considering the night of the motorcycle accident, he was on his way to my house to borrow money to go out (yes, Saturday night at the E-Club and typical Chuck broke right after payday, LOL). We had gotten rained out on 9 of 18 holes of golf at Mayport earlier in the week and took a rain check and had tee times for 1100 that Sunday. Back in the 80's at Cecil Field there was not a direct line to the barrack but rather you had to call the squadron and be transferred over. AE 2 Tim McCree, a fellow electrical tech was on duty. He answered "the horn", VFA-106, Petty Officer Mcree, how may I direct your call? Hey Timmy, it's Brian, patch me over to the barracks so I can get Chuckie up to go golfing. Tim stuttered not knowing exactly how to tell me and then told me he couldn't do it...Me: "are the lines down?" Tim: "no Brian, Chuck wrecked his motorcycle in a curve, hitting a light pole over in Riverview last night, I think not far from you place". You could have kicked in the nutz. Emotions took control for a bit but I knew exactly what I had to do. This was 33 years ago but seems like yesterday and obviously the details are forever in my mind. This "skit" is hard to watch and I still shed tears with a lump in my throat. I did not have to do all the admin part portrayed in this but did everything else. ? Would I do it again? Hell yes, with honor.! Semper Fidelis to all the family, friends, veterans and active duty out there in all branches! Respectfully, Brian L. Moore USMC 1985-1993, Marine for life!
I'm a Father of two young men one who served in the USMC and the other a Police Officer. I pray for them everyday. For All our Men & Women who put on a uniform. I Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Don't know the actress's name, but whoever cast her for the role of the Mother, hit the nail on the head. Every expression, body movement and emotion almost made me feel like she had been through one of these before in real life. If you can watch this and not shed a tear, let's hope you never have to live through what that family went through.
I did this in peace time as a Special Forces SFC at Ft. Bragg N.C. it was very tough to do. No war but service members were still giving their lives for their country. Training can be deadly too.
As a veteran this makes me hurt because overseas we see our buddies leave and we never see them again. It's nice to know the families at least get this help. You are expected to keep marching forward. This is why we have so many vets with issues when we get home we get no closure or understanding when we lose our brothers and sisters in combat. It leaves a hole in your heart that can never be fixed. I am thankful that a few guys I served with are putting reunions together so that we can keep the memories of our brothers alive and heal together.
This is so well done, I felt so bad, it seemed to be real and not acted. It really did. I realize this is what must happen much too often. There are no credits for the performers, but they are so good. This film should be required viewing for all the world.
Excellent acting from them all. The Dad looked like a Younger version of Gerald Mc Rainey! Thame you for the posting! Respect to your Armed services✊🏻 Hi from New Zealand 🇳🇿👋
Wow This was One touching Video The actors were really good, I served four years in the Marine Corps, this was really on Point with the Marine Corps structure. Great Job all around, It actually brought tears to my eyes. Great Great Job 👏
Fortunately, I was never called for notification duty, just a few burial details. Presented the flag to the family member once. That was tough. Fair winds and following seas to all.
@GySgt USMC Ret…..Thank you for your service Gunny. My Father served on the island of Iwo Jima back in the day. He was so very proud of his United States 🇺🇸 Marine Corps. Semper Fi 🙋🏽♀️💕
As a young Lieutenant stationed in the Detroit area (late 60’s after the riots), I was the “Survivors Assistance Officer” for 3 servicemen that were killed. I had to make one notification as the serviceman was first reported missing. This film barely touches on our responsibilities, the impact on us and how the family reacted. This film brought back a lot of memories. We received no training as to our responsibilities: I believe all we had was a couple of pages of info. Most of what we had to do and how to do it we found out from other Lieutenants that had already done this The one thing I remember most about each of the 3. (1) I had to make the death notification (2) The soldier, who had been in Nam only 3 weeks, had a very pregnant Wife (3) The soldiers parents were divorced and it was a hostile divorce (the Mother had a gun to protect herself from the Husband). I ended up being the intermediacy/negotiator between the two with regards to everything
Respect from India 🇮🇳 May all the brave hearts rest in peace. It really left me with a heavy heart, I'm still. I don't know what I want to do now. May God give courage to all the ya families of brave hearts.
As a retired Marine sometimes we have to make those types of notifications I've had to make a few it's never easy for all the veterans out there thank you for your service your commitment And your sacrifice you may be gone but you are not forgotten Semper Fi
Speaking as an Army Brat, I was taught, "grace in the hardest of circumstances, is a true declaration of character". When my Mother received the news, her parting words, were "thank you for taking the time to come and tell my Daughter and I. She had me say thank you also. She expressed expressed empathy. She said I know this is your hardest day too".. As an aged out Military brat, if I could do that as a Child, and if my Mother could do that as a minutes old Military Widow, it is possible for every Military next of kin to strive for the extension of grace. It is a Character builder, I promise you. 🙏🇺🇸🙏
Aine wow you’re Mother must have really been something. My Mom had a little joke that she did sometimes while Dad was in Viet-Nam. She would put his picture up if she got mail.And face down if she didn’t. One night watching the news it was reported that they had struck Tan son Nhut. I could tell that something was wrong. I thought that someone there in base housing that she knew her husband was there. I asked her “Who do we know that’s there?” All she said is your Daddy’s there at Tan son nhut.” That picture never was face down ever again. We lost him a few years ago She put that picture back out.Along with the condolence letter from the president.
Amir there was one other that I wanted to say to you. Have you ever seen that bumper sticker about the toughest job in the military? A military Mom! Sounds like we were blessed with a pair. God bless them all.
I remember watching a movie that Kevin Bacon was in called taking Chance. Tom Wopat played the dad. I don't remember who else played the family it showed everything that the deceased went thru from point of death all the way to the funeral. Kevin Bacon played the escort of the body and how he communicated with the officer who was the family representative it was so sad
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I was on an operating SSBN sub & during our “offcrew” status, I had the misfortune of receiving a call from the Squadron regarding loss of one of our brothers at sea. The followup experience was awe inspiring & created a solemn situation which I would never like to perform, Ever? Only then did I realize the danger we all exposed ourselves to each & every patrol & most importantly, the family. The real heroes are the families & I thank God for them as they gave me a reason to come back safely. God bless all our brave soldiers, sailors, airmen & Marines who put everything online for each & every one of us every day & to their families, our gratitude to the families who sacrifice so much for their loved ones! God bless!
There but for the grace of God.....I was 9 when my dad went to Vietnam. I was old enough to know he was in a combat zone and old enough to worry about him, but too young to understand the fear my mom and older brother went through. We were lucky, he made it home alive. My heart goes out to those families who weren't so lucky, in all wars. My deepest, utmost respect to all CACOs.
Much love ❤ hugs 🤗
As a Casualty Services Officer, I personally made over 20 notifications to the next of kin of Air Force personnel, what an honor it was!
God bless you, and thank you for the honor of serving.
On July 2, 1968 I was 18 years old. I answered the door and a major was there. Daddy had passed at 49 and although he had retired the military still sent a survival assistance officer. Many years later and this still means so much. Thank you to all who have knocked on a door. God Bless them all.
I didn't know they would do that. I am sorry for your loss but I am glad the efforts made to assist you were well received.
Can I truly know what you went through..no. but. My father was navy in Vietnam. I was spared that pain. But many of my classmates went through it...and I will never forget the number of times a navy vehicle showed up to pull a classmate out of class because their father was shot down or recovered. And later, the realization that I could have put my family through that. Respect. I wish I could remotely express how much I regret what you had to go through. I honor your loved ones service and mourn your loss as much as if it was my own. Everyone that served is my brother/sister. I honestly regret that they are gone and wish I could have gone in their place.....
Same for me I was 18 and my sister was 16. A major was at our door, he was our survival assistance survival officer. Daddy was 49, retired Army. We were raised as military children, both born in Army Hospital in Germany during the Occupation. We had the help we needed. I continue to reach out to military families in memory of Daddy.❤
Had to do this in 2014, I thought I was prepared, I was not, but I did it. I have a hard time when I remember going through this, in fact, I was so nervous that I still had my cover on when I did the notification and I was a Major. The young widows reaction is burned in my memory forever. I spent 20 years in the Marine Corps, fought two wars with three combat tours, been shot at, scared out of my mind but this was by far the hardest mission I ever had. I am still friends with the family today. May God bless the families with joyful memories of their Marines.
YO MAJOR, keep living life as hard as you can my brother!!!!!! SALUTE!!!!!! ❤️🙏🇺🇸❤️🙏🇺🇸❤️🙏🇺🇸 they would want that... 😊🙏❤️🇺🇸
@@christianeasley767 thanks brother Semper Fi
My battles Sternman and Wilker did this. Wilker got a glancing punch off his shoulder during a family notification. They both stated after they got to Iraq, they wished they had marched with the rest of the Division 90 days before. Anyway, Sir, thank you for doing notifications.
I knew that rear detachment entailed details and duties such as notifications and funerals. The term stabilization time isn't a better option that rolling on out with the main element. Shoot, this was a sad video.
Semper Fi Major. Everyone us lives on, forever, in the Corp.
Heart wrenching. I remember every second 22 years later. R.I.P. Dad. November 6, 1999
I am a 76 year-old retired Navy Master Chief, and I cried. Our Marines are national treasures...warts and all. God save these incredible men and women. This video...masterfully produced. Well done...well done. Semper Fi.
My husband was a Navy Medic (two purple hearts - shot both times while trying to get back into the copter after picking up wounded) stationed with the Marines for a time and he said they were something else but when it came to being serious they were as serious as one can get. The Few, the Proud, the Marines! He loved those guys. :-)
I was lucky because I was fortunate to have him come back home standing up. I can't even begin to imagine what I would have done if I saw those men standing at my door. That has to be the hardest detail there is. God Bless them all.
10 years, USAF Tsgt. I fully agree. Toughest job, Done with Honor and Integrity. Our Brothers and Sisters serve and die for our freedom. Many are wounded for ever, some visibly others invisibly. May God grant our love ones peace and until Valhalla when we shall gather together in joy.
As a former Marine and later on a Navy Corpsman who was blessed to serve with Marines, I can say that Marines and their Docs share a special bond that nobody will understand without having experienced it. I count myself among those fortunate enough to have done just that.
My son was Army and he was MURDERED in 1998 hunting up North. I feel what you say! GOD help us ALL! We never forget! And I find it hard to forgive! What’s a Mom to do? Y’all take care! Sincerely, Judith Richards
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I was asked in 1970 by a surviving wife of a fellow marine to escort his body home from Vietnam for burial. This marine was a close friend of mine in high school and had entered the marines a year after I did. His letter said if I was tough enough for the marines so was he. I was over there when I was notified of his death. I escorted his body home and when we were taken to the mortuary I was asked to view him and make a determination to have an open or closed casket because I was the only one there that knew him. I was able to put a picture of myself in the front pocket of his uniform. The marine corps had done a wonderful job putting Glen back together to I said yes his family could view him. I’m 75 years old now and I still cry when seeing these types of videos. God bless the marine corps and all of us who have served.
Thank you for your service Sir. Thank you for being there for us.
Remember that you deserve to keep thriving much love ❤ 🤗
Brother.. same here, escorted one of my crew members back to W. Va. , 1972.... Parents were not in area. Would be late to W. Va. Small town... everyone knew,,, but the Grandma.... Had to make that notice by myself...Marines we never leave anyone behind, Was the saddest yet was honored to do this for Bobby..
Was his first name Pete?
Marine Clocke??
@patdennison4508 Dave?
I saw my first notification as a military brat playing at a friends house off base. Even at 9 years old I knew what that meant. The next one was a friend’s son and it’s breaks your heart to see the life go out of a Gold Star Mother. Finally I answered my door to my notification and you could have knocked me over with a feather and I can’t tell you a word they said passed regrets. Seven years ago I was severely wounded and told I should get my affairs in order. I tried to die on my way home to the US and my spouse demanded my retirement. I’m just an old beat up soldier but my heart goes out to my brothers and sisters who did serve, are serving, and their families. When I was stationed in DC I went to Arlington every weekend both to pay respects and to remind myself that decisions have names.
Thank you for your service. Godspeed.
Me as well. Navy brat. My father and uncles served. I went Army. Honestly..I was a fuck up as a soldier. But. My respect to all those that served and gave the ultimate effort..for what it is worth from a fuck up
This should be required watching by everyone in America to get a true grasp of what these heroes and families have to endure. My heart breaks for every mother, father, husband ,wife, brother and sisters, friends who have had to bury their own.
You are so right but please put husband xx
I agree.
My heart hurts to watch that. My Dad was in the Navy, came home again to us but I’ve never watched a ‘movie’ like that…too true, too many.
Ahhh its all right. When it comes to the wife Jody's with her.
Totally agree
As a 28 year police officer, l had to do this numerous times. It never gets easier. He was right, you see the light go out of their eyes.
Thank u for your service God bless you and your family
I am a nurse from Italy and I did this thing various times too. It is devastating for the parents
Sorry man. I was a firefighter, and I was so glad that we didn't do the notifications. I just have no idea how rough that has to be.
I am a Gold Star Widow. I lost my husband who was a Marine in 2004. The minute I saw my husbands CWO3 in the front glass on the front door in his dress blues I knew my husband was dead. I dropped to the floor bawling and screamed that they had the wrong person. I didnt get a CACO at all. I am glad that they are making things like this and I only hope that they make all of the Marines that have to make these calls and inform families to watch this.
I'm sorry.
How many civilians your husband killed there? It matters for u?
So sorry
I am sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss it's because of the brave sacrifice of the brave women and men like your husband our country is free!
Super realistic...can't believe how far this director went with this. You can tell he really loves his Marines.
Military in general
In my entire 17 years in the Corps this was the hardest assignment I ever had. It’s not at all like you see portrayed in movies where you notify the next of kin and your off to do something else. You really get attached to these families as you assist them through this difficult time in their lives. Along with it being the hardest assignment I ever had, it was also the most rewarding in honoring these Marines.
And while not the same, as a Army reservists, I volunteered to do the duty at grave site. What an honor. Somewhere in VA, near Woodbridge, like this..... I was there to help them. ... Over 25 years ago. I agree. What an HONOR!
I don’t think I could have ever done CACO. I would have broken down
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Can't imagine. God bless you. 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
Semper Fi and 73 brother.
My son is a new Marine, I am an old Soldier. I’ve been Honor Guard at more funerals than I think I can remember…they were all for Veterans who’d gotten to live a full life. Never had to do one for someone young who was KIA. This hits close to home now, God bless all the Gold Star families out there for their sacrifices, as long as I am alive they’ll never be forgotten.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
@edithbannerman4 allahu snackbar.... I'm doing fine this blessed day....how are _you_ doing, you sexy blek chick?
Thanks from Vietnam Army Vet
Honestly. My father served in Vietnam. I've seen more than my share of friends that were pulled out of school because their father was found/identified. I served in the Army. I've had to "sanitize" more than my share of buddies footlockers. I may somewhat understand from both sides. But. Not really. I watch from time to time just to remind myself just what I didn't put my family through. And remember all those I knew that had to suffer through such an event
Had to do this yesterday for a fallen Marine , Definitely a hard moment. My first time , and it was hard but we are there for the family.
Thank you
Dude what you do is beyond me. I’m 17 and I can’t tell a waiter my food I paid for is bad. You’re unbelievably strong. Thank you for your service.
I’m very sorry to hear this!!!! 42 of my friends are no longer with us and six more took their own lives.... you are never alone my brother!!!! ❤️🙏🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸😢😢😢🙏🇺🇸🙏💪💪💪
Never a fun moment when you have to do something like this
My condolences to both his family and his marine family
As a Veteran, I always felt that among the true heros were the cherished family and friends of those at home , waiting for their loved ones ! God Bless Them all " SEMPER FI " !
Oh rah
The actor for the mother was excellent. Not over the top, but the phases of denial, realization and harsh acceptance were well portrayed.
This is a critical side of war. Glad TH-cam suggested this for me and you.
Agreed
Isn't is heartwarming how "Mom's" heart changed from hating them (in the grief of losing her beloved son) and having a COLD heart toward Mandy at the beginning, to giving Mandy hugs in the Funeral Home, and showing gratitude to the SSG at the end?
My son is an Army Chief Warrant Officer and both he & my daughter-in-law (Retired SFC) have served multiple tours "down-range" and since he went "Down Range" the first time in 2002, I pray daily for them and dread the possibility of Soldiers (Army) showing up at my door.
I’m happy to pay the taxes that see to all the critical help with the fallen.
This is masterfully produced and done...it's so real, so authentic that I can't help but weep. God bless those charged with handling such a terrible and delicate burden...
I agree. I don't think I could ever do it. It has to be the worst duty ever assigned.
This is terrible acting.
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@@tommytran1212 they did thier best with a terrible event.
You took the words right out of my mouth. Never saw anything quite like this. Dec. 5, 2022. St. Joseph, MO, USA
After my Father came back from his second combat tour in Vietnam we moved to Waco Texas from California. My Father was assigned to I&I Staff duty at the Navy/Marine Corp Reserve. Part of his duties while there as a newly promoted Gunnery Sergeant, was the notification of next of kin. He told me many years later after he retired from the Marine Corps, that other than being in combat, it was the toughest job he was ever assigned to do. After watching this short drama, I can see better now what he was trying to say. Semper Fi to all those that have worn the uniform of our nation and that have left us to soon. God rest their souls and give their families comfort.
I remember the exact moment my father walked into our house in Germany. To tell my mother her oldest son was killed in Vietnam. He was a Col. at the time and they came to his office to tell him. My brother, a young Lt and pilot was shot down. Broke my heart. And I was just 6 years old.
God rest his soul. Thank you for your family’s service.
- An Israel Defense Force Staff Sgt. (Ret.)
Thank you for your service prayers for your family
I’m sorry for your lost his always gonna be there for you🕊
So sorry man
I know how you feel. I was 9
Incredible 33 minutes and 44 seconds. God bless our troops and their families 🙏
I can't even begin to imagine how heartbreaking it is to be told your loved one isn't coming back alive. RIP to all of our incredibly brave servicemen and women who have served our country and those who gave their lives to keep us all safe
And... God Bless all the Service Members that care for the diseased and the families.
I am a retired US Navy Chaplain. During my time in the Navy I was called upon to make many of these calls. Of the many I’ve made, not one was easy. This training video was exceptionally well done and is well worth the viewing because it captures in a very sensitive and realistic way the agony experienced by the family as well as those who are privileged to provide care for them.
Ashes to ashes
Dust to dust
Allahu snackbar
Piss be upon him
That was so heartbreaking. RIP to all those who lost their lives in the line of duty. Thank you all to those who have and are serving. You will never be forgotten.
Over 20 years in the Marine Corps and almost 12 years being retired and this is still the hardest thing mentally and physically I ever did. Still hurts. You never forget. Never.
Have seen the movie TAKING CHANCE and have been sad for his family but so proud of the way he was taken home to his family.
To all the mothers and families that lost over there my deepest sympathy they were all heros.
Everyone should view the film Taking Chance starring Kevin Bacon. It depicts everything that happens in the mortuary and the heartbreak felt by the family and the community. A heart wrenching movie.
YES, I HAVE THE VIDEO, TAKING CHANCE. I WATCH IT ALL MOST EVERY SABBATH. I HAVE ALWAYS HAD GREAT RESPECT FOR ALL THOSE MEN AND WOMEN VETERANS, LIVING OR DEAD. BUT EVERY TIME I WATCH THAT VIDEO, WHICH IS A TRUE STORY OF CHANCE AND HOW SO MANY PEOPLE SHOWED SO MAS RESPECT AND KINDNESS NOT ONLY TO CHANCE BUT ALSO TO HIS ESCOURT, IT MADE FEEL MUCHO MORE RESPECT TO ALL VETERANS AND THIER FAMILY. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
That movie got me….
I'll get the DVD. Do you know if it is available???
You can also find the original post online that became the movie. It's a quick read, but very powerful. One of the more "Hollywood Moments" in the film was a factual event. The crucifix donated to his escourt by a stewardess, and placed on the casket - that really happened.
I cry every time I watch that movie. I know a Gold Star mom and her strength is amazing to see as she carries on his legacy. ⭐️
U.S Navy 8 year Veteran, TO all Military families who lost someone that served my most Sincere Condolences This happens almost everyday in America of any Military Branch/families 😞😢🇺🇸‼️
Well done.God Bless all who serve and served this country of ours.
Thanks for ur services and sacrifices, God Bless You!
Thank you for your service.
The cast of this film was outstanding.
I just happened to see this on my phone tonight. This should be required in every school in our country. Like we should still have The pledge of allegiance. My heart breaks for the families and for the people who announce their passing. Bless all of you. God bless America!
@Chris Schulze - This has to be one of the most deeply moving, superbly crafted, emotionally wrenching videos I've ever seen. Thank you so much for posting it. I can't imagine what it must be like for these families...when they see two uniformed military officers approaching the door, most of them know in a heartbeat what has happened, even if they don't act like it at first. Their agony must be excruciating... Thanks again - I hope more people watch this.
This should be required viewing on Memorial Day all channels start of primetime. In my honest opinion.
It should also be required viewing every time we want to start a war that we shouldn't fight.
Watch the messenger . This is army propaganda
@@deneshbhaskar3944 they are marines not army. And i stand by my post. Thank you for your consern and good day too you and your family sir.
Ummm that day is for BBQ. Us who have had family or friend KIA deal with the loss everyday. No need for any prime time shows.
I mean for people who don't know family and friends who have served & lost.
I've seen both ends of this. Having lost men in the field, WE banded together, as brothers and supported each other as we grieved for our fallen brother. WE are trained to handle the hardest of situations. On the flip side, these families are 99% unprepared for what the real possibilities are when their loved one deploys. Having served on an I&I staff, it is THE MOST GUT WRENCHING experience you will ever have. The MSgt was correct when he said "You see their face turn gray as if life is leaving them". I think I'd rather have open heart surgery without anesthesia than to have to tell another family, face to face that their son/daughter isn't coming home alive. They are just coming home.
Thank you for your post. Respect, appreciation and best wishes to you.
JD Terrell USAR 31V10 1980-88
God bless you thank you for your service
So horrible yet so necessary. Thanks to Marines for any thoughtfulness they can offer at an awful time such as this.
What is l&l staff?
Are the notifications officers also chaplains? If not will they pray with them if the family asks?
I was the parent who went thru this in 2004 and the child who watched his parents do the same in 1968. The hole burned into your soul never heals. You never get over it; you just sort of get used to it.
Blessings 🌿
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I was an undertaker for over 25 years and military funerals were the toughest as far as crossing I.’s and dotting T’s. Sad to say but any funeral home asked to take care of our military is very privileged
This is my GREATEST FEAR, my youngest son is in the Military and I've always had this recording if you will, going through my head since he signed up. Thank you to all that have to go through this process to tell the family's.
As a funeral director I can also say it’s never about you it’s about the family. It’s a job you do because you love it.
the lady needs an award for the acting shes a wonderful actor
This moved me to tears. God bless all our soldiers, both now and in the past. A simple thank you will never be enough from me.
This "skit" depicts what families and loved ones experience every day. It was powerful and moved me, thanks to all of our brave military members and their families for the sacrifices they've made.
I don't know why you use the word "skit" to describe this video. I would suggest you google the meaning of the word. I found nothing comedic about it at all
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When I served as a combat medic the only thing that really bothered me was the thought of my mom and dad getting this visit I knew it would destroy my mom
WELCOME HOME!!!!!! PJ/ 18 DELTA
And that was the same way with me. When I left, my mother was brave, but I could hear the fear in her voice.
She also slipped a small bible into my pocket. I will cherish it forever.
Thank you is never enough....
Think of how grateful all the soldiers you helped saved feel. Everything else is in Gods hands...you did your job.
I'm glad you made it home safe and alive🙂 Thank you for your service sir🙏🙏🙏
Spc. Wesley Wells, you are not forgotten. You are missed everyday brother!
Man this was pretty good acting. I shed a tear when the father put on his sons dog tags.
ImsoUT1 - Me too! I would imagine alot of fathers wear the dog tags until their own passing. I would.
This was acting it has me crying 😭😂😭
So Did I.
Hi 👋 so beautiful she will be happy i know I would if ur my son
When he put that dog tag on his son is with him always Lance Cpl Eric Benson WAS a Brave Marine Thanks for ur service
As a retired soldier, I am a volunteer at my local VA Hospital. One of the areas I work in is the Hospice.
No veteran dies alone.
I volunteered at my local VA. Cleaned their asses. No fucking reason those douchebags can't do their jobs at 18.00 an hour. I wanted to EFF them up. It would have gotten UGLY !
Thank you for your continued service. God Bless you!!
Thank you!
Bless you and thank you for service and for your continued service ! Happy holidays and a blessed and peaceful Christmas to you and everyone that you’re helping to die well. ❤️
@@Sunny25611 Many of our Hospice Residents (patients) at the VA Hospital, tell me what great care they receive.
Everyone in this movie deserves an Oscar especially the mother. I have a friend who does this and he says that you get people upon notification as well as at the funeral who spit on you, yell and blame you, and numerous other crazy things.
I that believe that!!
Denial is the hardest thing to overcome. Sadly, there are parents who have to blame SOMEONE!
Excellent beautifully done!! I was wounded twice in Vietnam the second time almost killed me! Thank God my parents didn’t have to go thru that experience! Bravo for this presentation!!
Respect to the fallen. And to all my brothers and sisters that have served and are serving. Always faithful.
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Twice as an airman I was part of the rifle squad which fired the 21 gun salute over the graves of fallen servicemen. We spoke with the escort at one funeral. He said he would sooner accept a demotion than to have to go through the notification process again, it was that gut wrenching for him. He was a senior NCO with service in Korea and Vietnam.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Thank you for posting this. This is the type of training many in law enforcement should receive rather than on the job training on a death notification.
I could never imagine how hard it is to be on either side of these conversations
While serving on I&I Duty I had the difficult task to perform as a CACO to make a couple of these notifications, I will tell you that it was the hardest duty I ever had, not even my combat tours were that nerve-wracking.
In this video when the MSgt says "They know as soon as they see the uniforms at the door" he is absolutely correct. Every family is different, each reaction is different but their initial denial of what is happening is almost exactly word for word as in this video.
Everything we do during that duty is for the family of our fallen Marine, we deliver horrible news, but with the utmost respect and dignity and compassion that we can put forth.
Even though I have been in this position, I have never seen this video until today, I sat here and cried while watching it thinking about the images from my notification calls.
I remember each name, each word, each face, each cry and scream and each fist pounded on my chest by a loved one wanting not to believe it was true. It is heart wrenching and you have to maintain total control and military bearing.
8 short years ago, we were the recipients of that notification, my stepson had been killed in an accident and when the call was made at our house, his mother was exactly in the same frame of mind as this woman in the video. Once again I had to be the stoic one and make sure that I offered up every bit of strength I had to help her through the initial process of her grief. It is still hard every day for her, for both of us, especially knowing that with having three other children, that knock could always come again. You never expect it to happen to you and when it does, you just react as if you were kicked in the gut. Somehow you find the strength to carry on, even when you think there is no reason to. There are silver linings in every dark cloud and gifts in many things we have seen since then.
This video was very tastefully done, it is powerful and it shows just what is expected by the Marines performing this duty, their thoughts on what they are doing and what it eventually means to the families of those fallen Marines. Semper Fidelis.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
@edithbannerman4 Allahu snackbar.....I'm doin fine this blessed day....how are _you_ doin, my 😍 lovely blek chick?
I remember this like it was today. I had two son's in the military, my oldest was in the Navy and my second son was Army. These men showed up at my job and when I saw the uniforms, I knew which son it was before they even said a word. I didn't have the support these men gave because my son was married and had a child. I really identified with this mother, the emotions are still here after 16 years. It's raw and unforgiven, the drama is real.
I watched this movie when I was active duty and I performed these duty 6 times, I am retired now and still think about the families I assisted in this time.
What does kakos mean?
@@margaretfisher9615 it stands for casualty assistance call officer (CACO
This was beautifully done!! It helped me understand it and I’m prior military and had the opportunity to serve on the March AFB USAF Honor Guard (Funerals) in the 80s. Our Mortuary Affairs Division handled this important component. I agree with the other commenters: Every USAmerican should be required to watch this. Maybe it could be linked to Voter Registration, obtaining government ID/Drivers Licenses etc. These experiences must be understood by every American.
I still remember being in Helmand Province, Afghanistan like it was yesterday. I was patrolling and the truck in front of me (my best friend was in that truck), it got blown up by an IED. Till this day I tell myself was there something I could’ve done to avoid that from happening? Why it couldn’t been my truck? Why didn’t I got blown up? This video hit home in so many ways.
I appreciate your dedication and service. Your pain and grief touched my heart. Signed retired USAF veteran..God bless you🇺🇲🇺🇲🙏🙏💕
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I'm thankful you made it home Manny. May God give you hope and strength to live life and fulfill your dreams and bring honor to your
friend by special things you do for the rest of your life. Such a hard thing you experienced, my heart goes out to you.
I'm an Army Brat, and I know the initial communications seem to sound cold and distant, but it is the most foundationally important part of the process. I would know, my Dad is in Arlington, and the priority of details is what brings the fluidity and the stability to every Military Family, at this time. 🙏🇺🇸🙏
This in my mind is the most commendable duty, taking care of our own Marines and the Marine moms ,dads, sisters and brothers as we are all part of the corps.
I can't imagine how difficult of a job this would be, something you never even really think about.
This is the price of freedom!! It is the most precious,for those we love pay the ultimate price to keep us free! Thank you for all the brave who serve
I can’t imagine. I have the utmost respect for all who do this notification. God bless and watch over each and everyone of you. Thank you for your service above and beyond in my opinion.
In the spring of 1967 I was home visiting my parents for the weekend. Standing at the kitchen window I saw an "official" Marine Corp car pull into the driveway in a remote area of Western Maryland. At that time my brother was stationed in "Nam" and like most others I knew what that car meant. Dad wasn't home and Mom was napping - so it was left to me to handle. I tried to be brave - as it turned out the reason for the visit was the parents had changed phone number and brother never changed it on the paperwork. He was badly wounded, losing his left leg from knee down. I later married an Army SGT fresh home from "Nam". Losing him to Agent Orange.
Blessings 🌿
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Wow! May they all RIP. This is one of the best enactments I have seen. Excellent video. We owe them so much - willing to give up their lives to keep us and others free. We will always be grateful for their service.
Man. Bless every one of our branches. First responders. Everyone. But these guys. Their mission is above and beyond. Huge salute to all the men and women that have this heartbreaking duty.
As a mother of a Marine and an Airman this scares me more than anything I could ever imagine. We are all a family and feel the pain of loss together with those who have experienced it firsthand. Beautiful, important video to show the reality of this trauma.
I remember the day of my 1st cousin Johnny Serrano Lance Corporal of the Marine Corps. He was killed in a hospital that was bomb. His casket was viewed by all, his face and head was swollen. Couldn't believe it was him, his mother was committed to a psychoactive ward and died there. His father John blame himself for pushing his son out. Was a recipient of a triple heart surgery and never fully recovered. Died a broken man for what he did to his son. I remember Johnny as a friend and he was larger than life. Everyone who knew him, love to be with him. He was that type of a human being that care. He died in 1969, to this day as a 70 year old man. I will always remember him as my Brother and want to thank for the outstanding job that the United States Marine Corps for what they did. I am eternally grateful for their services.
I remember the day my son left for boot camp at Parris Island. It was the day that I finally had to acknowledge that my little boy had become a man, but the way he hugged me goodbye that day, told me that he had not forgotten all of the beautiful times and the hard ones as well, that had shaped the good person that I knew him to be. Now, someone else would put the man he had become to test. I fought back the tears and forced myself to let go of him. It’s amazing how many feelings can be expressed through a simple hug. I knew he loved me and he knew I loved him.
“I’ll be alright, mama. Don’t worry,” he said. We had discussed that boot camp wouldn’t be easy and that the harshness of the Drill Sergeants was necessary and that there was a reason behind everything. He may not have known what awaited him, but he had prepared himself mentally for whatever may come and I knew that no matter what they asked of him or how harshly he may be treated, he would not take it personally. In fact, he fully expected them to try to break him. He expected to be treated like a soldier.
When the door closed behind him, I watched through the window as he got into the car with his recruiter. Crying the whole time, I watched until they drove out of sight.
I was so proud of my son. However, all of his friends and even some members of our immediate family treated him very poorly when they learned he had joined the Marines. For months and months we had listened to the news from Afghanistan and they just couldn’t understand why he would join knowing that we were caught up in a seemingly never ending war. They told him he was crazy for joining. They told me he was crazy for joining, but I was ready for them. No, my son was not crazy. My son was not foolish. My son knew what war meant. He knew the dangers and no one made him join. He joined out of love for his country and his people. If everyone decided to leave the battles to everyone else, then there would be no America.
Furthermore, my son knew that his freedom, our freedom only existed thanks to the bravery of those who had fought and died for it down through ages and he knew that thousands upon thousands of his fellow countrymen had voluntarily left all they loved behind to avenge the lives lost on 911 and to show the wicked bullies that Americans were a people that would never roll over for anyone.
I am so proud of all of our people who risk their lives everyday so that I can go about my days free and rest at night without fear. I owe them all a debt that I can never repay. My son came home to me. I think I cried more when I hugged him upon his return than I did when he left that first time. Our Lord had returned him safely and I was thankful. However, there are many who don’t have a joyous reunion and for the loved ones of those courageous souls, I wish I had more than words to express my deepest sympathies. I often hear the parents or the spouse of a fallen loved one say that their loved one died for a cause they believed in and they tell of how they had formed bonds with their fellow soldiers and even considered them brothers. They are so strong in the midst of tremendous loss. I don’t know if I have that kind of strength in me.
I often think of those who have served and who currently serve. They are always in my prayers. Nothing I write here can prove how much I appreciate each and everyone who has risked their life or who is currently risking their lives so that I can be free and there are no words in any language that will express how sorry I am for those who did not return safely.
Thank you to each and everyone. May God bless you all of your days.
"Pride" is the word that pop's in my head when watching this. Our soldiers are definitely the best of us.
Life is difficult enough...
but war brings out the worst and best in man.
Observing the roller coaster of emotions in all of these characters is illuminating to the eclectic human psyche.
Both beautiful, and brutal...
I am a retired US Marine Corps Infantry Unit Leader (0369 MSgt). I served 22 years in the Corps with 14 years in the Grinder. I thought I could watch this, which I did until the until kitchen scene. During my tour of duty in the Corps, 1964-1985, I became very close to my Marines. One, I believed then and now that it was my responsibility to look out for the welfare of someone's son or daughter who earned "The Title" United States Marine. During my tour I was my late mom only child when I volunteer to go to Vietnam as a Sergeant on my first reenlistment and become a Infantry Platoon Sergeant at the ripe age of 22. To loose a Marine, may it be from an accident or in combat, that scare on my heart has never fully healed and I don't think it ever will. I lost many son's and this outstanding depiction of informing the family brought back so many memories. I use to be a hard charging Staff Sergeant like the one in this video clip. But the Master Sergeant here reminded me of me when I was at Quantico. It was there in 1982, where a Sergeant working at Special Services drowned in a boating accident. I losed Marines in Vietnam and at Camp Lejeune. It still hurts me, but I also feel for the parents and loved ones of those Marines. They were my Marine Corps family and all Marines know we are a family for life. I am now 75. I joined the Corps at 17 and retired at 39, so I grew up in the Corps. I continue to mentor Marines when the opportunity presents itself. This is an opportunity for me to say to Marine Corps leaders. Master the 11 leadership principles and the 14 leadership traits. Master the words on your promotion warrant and dedicate yourself in taking care of someone's son or daughter who is serving proudly as a US Marine. To the mom's and dad's out there, please know if your son or daughter served in the Corps under my care; please know I gave them almost the same amount of care and devotion you did before you untrusted them to me. I can assure you I did my best. Because of that I can sleep at night. May God forever bless our Marine Corps family. Semper Fi
As a former TV News Anchor I had the distinction and honor of visiting Gold Star Families shortly after Notification. Their desire to proudly talk about their loved one was one of the most remarkable events in my long career. As a Veteran myself, I was stricken with grief but drew strength from their willingness to share. I had the distinction of reporting in Baghdad at the site where one of the Army Vets was killed. I gathered her CO and others to recreate events leading to her death. I kept the remarks and video close to my vest until I was able to share personally with her relatives when I got home. My conversation with the family and showing the detailed video was the first time they learned deep details about her death and heard from her fellow soldiers. I vividly recall it as I type this...the events occurred 17 years ago.
This made me cry. I remember that the last day I saw my dad alive was the day after my wedding. He died under mysterious circumstances in his company plane. My mom was notified over the phone by the Indiana State police and she could only hand the phone over to our accountant for our family business. My grandmother didn't want me to view his body on the last night before his burial but I did anyway. All I could remember was the laugh lines by his eyes. The did a great job with his forehead injury, one hand covered the injured one and his leg injury wasn't visible. It also reminded me of taking my daughter in to see a dear friend's son as she was beginning to do EMS locally. I explained what the drawing on the call sheet compared to what she saw on his head and body. Being an RN I was able to stand it better but I wouldn't let his mom.or sister see him . His head was wrapped in a Chux pad. Saddest part was he was run off the road as he rode his powered bike home from listening to a band play. He was different, an IdioSavant who knew everything about music from the 50's on up. The 3 who did it were waiting for him on purpose. They weren't crimally charged but his mom and sister got a small Civil settlement. It was just before Christmas and I haven't been able to.put a Christmas tree since. He used to bring us a big box of chocolates every Christmas. I've seen people and Veterans die before they should have and it's always hard.
You are never the same. It's a moment that you were not expecting. Your heart goes to the Parents and family's that have too or have been through it.
This is hurtful.
Iost my son 8 months ago - Airforce - in Japan.
Those men at my door at 5:30 am ( POUNDING TO WAKE ME UP )...
WILL FOREVER be in my brain.
Best training video, military of otherwise, that I have ever seen in my 64 years on this planet. Professionally done, beautifully filmed and powerfully moving.
Wow !!!
That was spot on !!!!!
Everything was just like they do it!!!
The acting was to perfection on everyone's part !!!
It's a tough and sad job, but somebody has to do it .
Thank you to all past and present military for your service.
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My heart is broken knowing how many families have had that door bell or knock happen. Less them and all the heroes who defend us.❤
I know it's just a short clip... But I see how wonderful the Staff Sargent is with the family.. He created a bond and will always be a part of their life ❤ I hope this truly happens..
How terribly, terribly sad.
All I can think of is how many thousands- no, MILLIONS of times young men and women in uniform must be prepared and trained to personally, face to face, inform others that someone they loved has died. What a burden to be carried...And what a strangely painful gift, witnessing and sharing in their grief.
It is a private and intimate thing to share with a stranger, knowing in advance that nothing will ever make it better.
Time may dull the first terrible anguish; but for those involved, their lives, their world is changed forever.
May God bless those who perform such an agonizing duty.
And may those left behind find comfort in their memories, and pride in their loved one's service.
For all the many who are gone forever - thank you. Each and every one of you, regardless of circumstances, is a hero.
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I remember having to write a letter for an airman on my flight to his parents. He died from a single car accident after being thrown from the car. The driver a friend had to have psychiatric care to recover from the loss. I was a Sergeant at the time and also had to notify his best friend. It was not easy to tell him his friend was gone and why. I would say it was the most difficult assignment of my military career. We all cried, we loved him very much, he was a part of us. Our final salute was as the aircraft leaving our base broke ground at take off. We his Security Police Flight were outside for guard mount with all of our weapons. Our flight chief called the formation to attention, and then present arms which is a salute while under arms. There was not a dry eye from anyone, we broke down crying, including our Squadron commander who was with us. The flight we were relieving volunteered to stay on longer so we could grieve and compose ourselves before taking our posts. In this video, the Mom calls the Marines killers, she apologized realizing those of us that served have our personal sides. We have a brother/sisterhood that few understand. I was tearing up watching this well done video!!! it took me back to 1979 when Stephen Collins left us!! It still bothers me today March of 2021!!! The job is never easy as you see. I am thankful for every man and woman that has served our wonderful nation and gave everything!!! To their families, from this veteran, Thank You for sharing your son or daughter with us, it was an Honor to serve with them. God Bless!!!
I cried while watching this. And I am in Army National Guard.
I too had the honor and had to request that a SSGT that didn't know my Corporal removed from the duty in 1988 and given to me. The deceased Marine worked under me as an FA-18 avionic electrical systems tech at NAS Cecil Field, Florida. I remember how hot it was at the Jacksonville airport while standing on the tarmac to with him waiting fly to Baltimore. Upon arrival in Baltimore, we still had to go to the funeral home in Harve de Grace. The hearse was late due to a break down and I sat with "Chuck" on an open freight dock until a replacement hearse showed up for over two hours in Dress "A" uniform. Upon arrival and turning him over to the funeral director, I took a taxi to my hotel, then prepared to meet the family the next morning in their home. I was not prepared for this, other than a 30 minute brief by a young female LTJG (Navy) and a Senior Chief, at the funeral home. I quickly found out the parents were divorced, father a retired Master Gunny (USMC) and step-father, a retired Senior Chief Navy. Yes, I got grilled with questions considering the night of the motorcycle accident, he was on his way to my house to borrow money to go out (yes, Saturday night at the E-Club and typical Chuck broke right after payday, LOL). We had gotten rained out on 9 of 18 holes of golf at Mayport earlier in the week and took a rain check and had tee times for 1100 that Sunday. Back in the 80's at Cecil Field there was not a direct line to the barrack but rather you had to call the squadron and be transferred over. AE 2 Tim McCree, a fellow electrical tech was on duty. He answered "the horn", VFA-106, Petty Officer Mcree, how may I direct your call? Hey Timmy, it's Brian, patch me over to the barracks so I can get Chuckie up to go golfing. Tim stuttered not knowing exactly how to tell me and then told me he couldn't do it...Me: "are the lines down?" Tim: "no Brian, Chuck wrecked his motorcycle in a curve, hitting a light pole over in Riverview last night, I think not far from you place". You could have kicked in the nutz. Emotions took control for a bit but I knew exactly what I had to do.
This was 33 years ago but seems like yesterday and obviously the details are forever in my mind. This "skit" is hard to watch and I still shed tears with a lump in my throat. I did not have to do all the admin part portrayed in this but did everything else. ? Would I do it again? Hell yes, with honor.!
Semper Fidelis to all the family, friends, veterans and active duty out there in all branches!
Respectfully,
Brian L. Moore USMC 1985-1993, Marine for life!
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I'm a Father of two young men one who served in the USMC and the other a Police Officer. I pray for them everyday. For All our Men & Women who put on a uniform. I Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Don't know the actress's name, but whoever cast her for the role of the Mother, hit the nail on the head. Every expression, body movement and emotion almost made me feel like she had been through one of these before in real life. If you can watch this and not shed a tear, let's hope you never have to live through what that family went through.
I did this in peace time as a Special Forces SFC at Ft. Bragg N.C. it was very tough to do. No war but service members were still giving their lives for their country. Training can be deadly too.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
I'm fine. Hope you are too.@@edithbannerman4
@@danielwarnes7231 yeah how’s your day going and what’re you up to?
As a veteran this makes me hurt because overseas we see our buddies leave and we never see them again. It's nice to know the families at least get this help. You are expected to keep marching forward. This is why we have so many vets with issues when we get home we get no closure or understanding when we lose our brothers and sisters in combat. It leaves a hole in your heart that can never be fixed. I am thankful that a few guys I served with are putting reunions together so that we can keep the memories of our brothers alive and heal together.
Love and hugs to all who do or has done or will do this incredibly difficult job.
This is so well done, I felt so bad, it seemed to be real and not acted. It really did. I realize this is what must happen much too often. There are no credits for the performers, but they are so good. This film should be required viewing for all the world.
Thank you for making this, people should see beyond the families crying
I'm a Paramedic. I worked in 911 for almost 10yrs. In that time, I told 27 families that their loved ones are dead. I remember every. Single. One.
Excellent acting from them all. The Dad looked like a Younger version of Gerald Mc Rainey! Thame you for the posting! Respect to your Armed services✊🏻 Hi from New Zealand 🇳🇿👋
I know I was thinking the same thing the dad does look like him
Wow
This was One touching Video
The actors were really good,
I served four years in the Marine Corps, this was really on Point with the Marine Corps structure. Great Job all around,
It actually brought tears to my eyes.
Great Great Job 👏
Fortunately, I was never called for notification duty, just a few burial details. Presented the flag to the family member once. That was tough.
Fair winds and following seas to all.
@GySgt USMC Ret…..Thank you for your service Gunny. My Father served on the island of Iwo Jima back in the day. He was so very proud of his United States 🇺🇸 Marine Corps. Semper Fi 🙋🏽♀️💕
@@donnarupert4926 Grateful for your Father's service to our Nation. Semper Fi
As a young Lieutenant stationed in the Detroit area (late 60’s after the riots), I was the “Survivors Assistance Officer” for 3 servicemen that were killed. I had to make one notification as the serviceman was first reported missing. This film barely touches on our responsibilities, the impact on us and how the family reacted. This film brought back a lot of memories. We received no training as to our responsibilities: I believe all we had was a couple of pages of info. Most of what we had to do and how to do it we found out from other Lieutenants that had already done this The one thing I remember most about each of the 3.
(1) I had to make the death notification
(2) The soldier, who had been in Nam only 3 weeks, had a very pregnant Wife
(3) The soldiers parents were divorced and it was a hostile divorce (the Mother had a gun to protect herself from the Husband). I ended up being the intermediacy/negotiator between the two with regards to everything
Respect from India 🇮🇳
May all the brave hearts rest in peace.
It really left me with a heavy heart, I'm still. I don't know what I want to do now.
May God give courage to all the ya families of brave hearts.
Man, I feel so bad for my great great grandparents. They lost 2 of their sons in WWII. I can not begin to imagine that kind of pain
God bless and comfort them all...all of them, the family and those who have to work with them at such a difficult time.
This old Army vet wept watching this. Thanks for the posting.
As a retired Marine sometimes we have to make those types of notifications I've had to make a few it's never easy for all the veterans out there thank you for your service your commitment And your sacrifice you may be gone but you are not forgotten Semper Fi
Speaking as an Army Brat, I was taught, "grace in the hardest of circumstances, is a true declaration of character". When my Mother received the news, her parting words, were "thank you for taking the time to come and tell my Daughter and I. She had me say thank you also. She expressed expressed empathy. She said I know this is your hardest day too".. As an aged out Military brat, if I could do that as a Child, and if my Mother could do that as a minutes old Military Widow, it is possible for every Military next of kin to strive for the extension of grace. It is a Character builder, I promise you. 🙏🇺🇸🙏
Aine wow you’re Mother must have really been something. My Mom had a little joke that she did sometimes while Dad was in Viet-Nam. She would put his picture up if she got mail.And face down if she didn’t. One night watching the news it was reported that they had struck Tan son Nhut. I could tell that something was wrong. I thought that someone there in base housing that she knew her husband was there. I asked her “Who do we know that’s there?” All she said is your Daddy’s there at Tan son nhut.” That picture never was face down ever again. We lost him a few years ago She put that picture back out.Along with the condolence letter from the president.
Amir there was one other that I wanted to say to you. Have you ever seen that bumper sticker about the toughest job in the military? A military Mom! Sounds like we were blessed with a pair. God bless them all.
I remember watching a movie that Kevin Bacon was in called taking Chance. Tom Wopat played the dad. I don't remember who else played the family it showed everything that the deceased went thru from point of death all the way to the funeral. Kevin Bacon played the escort of the body and how he communicated with the officer who was the family representative it was so sad