Is My Wife Having an Affair With Our Neighbor?

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 23 ม.ค. 2025

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  • @samuelcraig
    @samuelcraig 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1453

    "A great mom doesn't bring another man in the house" amen!

    • @robbytheartist3997
      @robbytheartist3997 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      And around another man's kid. She wild.

    • @suadasuehuseinovic2472
      @suadasuehuseinovic2472 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      This spoke volumes !! 💯 🎯

    • @milaycastillo5723
      @milaycastillo5723 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Cheating on the husband doesn't make her a bad mom. >That husband is a poor provider. She needs to get out of that marriage.

    • @texan903
      @texan903 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Please stop making excuses for fellow cheaters. If the relationship isn't working, just leave ​.

    • @milaycastillo5723
      @milaycastillo5723 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@texan903 Everybody cheats somehow. This woman is just a critical case, but everybody does and there's a reason why. It takes less effort to just cheat to feel good for a while than starting over from scratch for a chance to find a good partner that makes you feel good for a while.

  • @sdran23
    @sdran23 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +899

    Gaslighting someone is so much more traumatizing than most people realize.. i am wishing him healing.

    • @joecuster6926
      @joecuster6926 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      It’s horrific.

    • @deniseduggins8933
      @deniseduggins8933 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Cruelty....

    • @vanessas2363
      @vanessas2363 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      It's extreme psychological abuse yes.
      Can send a person insane.
      Crazy making behaviour.

    • @mds-kv2rs
      @mds-kv2rs 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      It feels like everyone is doing it after you realize someone you trust is doing it. It's very hard to get past.

    • @profilnamn9657
      @profilnamn9657 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Oh wow. You said it! Took me 40 yrs to trust my own reality. It is traumatizing!!

  • @heathmcconnell3901
    @heathmcconnell3901 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1168

    Given the way the neighbor helped paint the kid's room, the caller needs to get a paternity test done on "his" kid.

    • @LyYAHN
      @LyYAHN 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      I know, I thought that too... it was just a feeding thought, and I dismissed it right away... but going through the comments and seeing some like yours... I feel kinda validated in that I'm not the only one going there in my head. This hurts me... just thinking about it makes me emotional. IF this turns out not to be his kid... this kid's life is going to be even more confusing, filled with pain and grief, and so many negative feelings and experiences, than it already is. And this man's heart is going to be shattered for life... how do you come back from something like this? I'm not very familiar with the laws in the US, but I'd imagine that he then would be VERY hesitant regarding the divorce because she now has the kid all to herself, which is the best leverage one can have. I get physically sick just thinking about it.
      Btw... I hope you're having a great day, and that you're doing great. Take care 🙏🏻

    • @fishin4bogey
      @fishin4bogey 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      This is so important !!! If she's like this now, she's been like this forever.

    • @momfromnj911
      @momfromnj911 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

      Yep and he bought him clothes too
      DNA RIGHT AWAY

    • @mcrchickenluvr
      @mcrchickenluvr 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@LyYAHNyou really don’t get over it. Not that easily. And you’re right, both his and the child’s life would be wrecked. So would the neighbors wife, assuming he has one. They’re both ruining both families. And if it does come back that this child is in fact the neighbors, that’s going to ruin things even more. And here in the US he’d have the legal right to divorce her. I’d hate to think what the judge would say about how the kid is treated.

    • @Onlyasking-b3s
      @Onlyasking-b3s 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      He needs to put a stop to his neighbor involving himself and his childs life. I don't trust anybody having that much to do with my child think about that.. Grooming is real

  • @jackiefeliciano718
    @jackiefeliciano718 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +562

    Just want to give this man a hug. The level of disrespect from his wife is unbelievable.

    • @oaklandsoldier8520
      @oaklandsoldier8520 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Just another example of why most men shouldn't get married in 2024 and beyond. We are done with most women.

    • @josiedickson6959
      @josiedickson6959 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      So agree .

    • @Moomie-p8l
      @Moomie-p8l หลายเดือนก่อน

      DO NOT EVER MARRY A WOMAN THAT SHOWS TOO MUCH BOOBS, SKIN, REVEALING CLOTHING, SHE NEEDS TO BE FULLY COVERED IN ORDER TO BE YOUR WIFE. PERIOD. NO SHOWING ANY BUTTS OR BOOBS OR DELETE HER🤣

    • @ARodriguez362
      @ARodriguez362 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      He has accepted it. He’s getting what he deserves.

    • @BibW-t5g
      @BibW-t5g 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Women are evil 😈

  • @amarie6223
    @amarie6223 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +420

    His wife and neighbor are disrespecting him to his face. You deserve better bro 🙏🏾🙏🏾.

    • @KateOwino
      @KateOwino 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      💯

    • @Moomie-p8l
      @Moomie-p8l หลายเดือนก่อน

      DO NOT EVER MARRY A WOMAN THAT SHOWS TOO MUCH BOOBS, SKIN, REVEALING CLOTHING, SHE NEEDS TO BE FULLY COVERED IN ORDER TO BE YOUR WIFE. PERIOD. NO SHOWING ANY BUTTS OR BOOBS OR DELETE HER🤣

    • @annelieskarolien
      @annelieskarolien 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      'Disrespecting' is the understatement of the century!

  • @Coooeee
    @Coooeee 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1139

    As a women, I don't understand a women like this. They are rubbing his nose in it. They are beyond despicable.

    • @Matt-tt4cu
      @Matt-tt4cu 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

      It’s actually not a difficult to explain why a woman would behave this way. It’s studied and talked about routinely in men’s spaces - and not referring to a take from Andrew Tate. I know he says stuff like this, but his delivery is too annoying to capture my attention. But, aside from some outliers like myself, the only people that actually want to accept the truth are men that have been torn apart by women like this. And even then, some of these brutally tormented men still can’t accept the reality of modern women because of how plugged-in they are to the comforting lies of modern society. It’s sad

    • @ireefree2024
      @ireefree2024 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@Matt-tt4cu that's not a "modern" woman. That's a bad person like there are bad men aswell. Please stop listening to stupid wannabe man like Tate. I'm a "modern" woman and I would never do this to my husband. Being modern doesn't mean being a s..t. It means we have the same rights. Can work and have dignity nothing more or less. I don't need to be controlled by a man by violence nether by money. I would do anything for my husband as long he's great to me and vice versa. If love doesn't go away and there is no compatibility (what shouldn't dispear suddenly) there is no reason for separation. But if there would be lying or cheating, I would definitely run for the hills.

    • @waitingforthemothership
      @waitingforthemothership 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +70

      As a human I don't understand humans like this. Don't matter their gender.

    • @ireefree2024
      @ireefree2024 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Matt-tt4cu ​@Matt-tt4cu that's not a "modern" woman. That's a bad person like there are bad men aswell. Please stop listening to stupid wannabe man like Tate. I'm a "modern" woman and I would never do this to my husband. Being modern doesn't mean being a s..t. It means we have the same rights. Can work and have dignity nothing more or less. I don't need to be controlled by a man by violence nether by money. I would do anything for my husband unless he's great to me and vice versa.

    • @tomw485
      @tomw485 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

      @@Matt-tt4cuI’ve experienced a past girlfriend who was just like this woman. I’m now married to a woman who is the polar opposite. So it’s not universal behavior amongst women. But it’s common enough to be a serious problem men need to be vigilant of when getting into relationships.

  • @lilag3673
    @lilag3673 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1401

    This woman hates her husband, the amount of humiliation that she confronts him with on a daily basis is vile. 😠

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      @caalderman969 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

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    • @johnny9072
      @johnny9072 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

      It's insane, but it shows how much some people will just sit in crap and eat it. Know your worth

    • @JENKEN425
      @JENKEN425 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      THIS MAN ISNT STANDING UP FOR HIMSELF. TAKE THE 3 YR OLD CHIKD AND LEAVE THE B. THE FORST MOVE WOULD HAVE BEEN TO TELL THE MAN NEXT DOOR TO NOT COME OVER WHEN HE IS AT WORK AND GYM.

    • @itsPreznt
      @itsPreznt 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@lilag3673 'hate' wasn't in there anywhere . You are reading things that just have no evidence.

    • @lolawants2008
      @lolawants2008 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      @@itsPrezntwhat she is doing is intentionally cruel. What do you call that? Not exactly the biggest leap bro

  • @rebeccaoprea9917
    @rebeccaoprea9917 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1361

    She’s gaslighting him by leaving evidence and then denying them.

    • @parks105
      @parks105 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      💯

    • @samdoyle5155
      @samdoyle5155 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

      I could have forgiven my cheating ex husband easily, but him trying to mentally break me by gaslighting was just pure evil. He was in the wrong and he made me feel like the crazy one. I feel for this dude.

    • @juliadasilva8369
      @juliadasilva8369 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Get DNA

    • @blueStarKitt7924
      @blueStarKitt7924 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😖😖😖🤮

    • @ColinUnger
      @ColinUnger 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      I think she just as such a low view of her husband that she honestly doesn't think he will leave her or do anything. She has zero respect for him. Perhaps she is pushing things to see how weak her husband is and far she can push things before he'll do anything.

  • @ChristopherDonnerArtist
    @ChristopherDonnerArtist 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +235

    My mother had a similar affair to this.
    She told me and my brother that the new man was our father now.
    I still feel disgusted to this day.

    • @Lucinda_Jackson
      @Lucinda_Jackson 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      I can do that one better. My husband (I had figured it out and separated) would take our daughter with him on work getaways. He'd told his coworkers that his gf was his wife and our daughter's mother (he'd started a new job in another state and moved the gf with him). When our daughter would go in these getaways to "destinations", he instructed her to pretend the gf was her mother!!!

    • @glai5752
      @glai5752 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ⁠​⁠@@Lucinda_JacksonYour situation sounds very messed up on both ends. Your husband was a sicko and a twisted man but why did you allow him to take your daughter on a work related mission and subject her to his nasty behaviors? And how does your story “a better one” than the other person’s. That’s a funny way to compare tragic stories! That’s a bit sadistic.

    • @Lucinda_Jackson
      @Lucinda_Jackson 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      @@glai5752
      Is English not your first language? "To do one better" simply means "I have a story that's "even more so". If it's a story of good deeds, you know a story of a good deed that goes an extra step. If it's a horrific story, you know of one that is even more horrifying. Or in this case case, if it's a story about bad fathers, well..
      As to allowing my daughter to go with her father, she had turned 18 and wasn't a young child. She was about to go to college. This story is just the tip of the iceberg of his mental cruelty to her and she now hasn't spoken to him in years. She cut him from her life shortly after this.
      And thanks so much for your judgment. It was so very helpful...

    • @Moomie-p8l
      @Moomie-p8l หลายเดือนก่อน

      DO NOT EVER MARRY A WOMAN THAT SHOWS TOO MUCH BOOBS, SKIN, REVEALING CLOTHING, SHE NEEDS TO BE FULLY COVERED IN ORDER TO BE YOUR WIFE. PERIOD. NO SHOWING ANY BUTTS OR BOOBS OR DELETE HER🤣

    • @scubadivingadventures1
      @scubadivingadventures1 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Bro I’m surprised your mom is still alive, I’d be going scorched-earth channel-5-News if I was growing up and saw that

  • @LyYAHN
    @LyYAHN 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +207

    That "yes, Sir." makes it somehow even worse... he seems like such a great man. Well-mannered, polite... just overall an amazing man.

    • @tuinov6286
      @tuinov6286 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      An amazing man is something women don't want or respect. Wake up gen z never ever get married.

    • @glai5752
      @glai5752 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@tuinov6286Bad advice bro. You wake up! You should be an amazing man for yourself if nothing else.

    • @colinbradfield72
      @colinbradfield72 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      When he said that I felt bad for him because he obviously has zero self-esteem and confidence

    • @logica1167
      @logica1167 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      The 'yes sir' makes him sound like he responding to John as his commanding officer who was reprimanding him for cowardice. Utter subservience to whomever, at the moment, is the most dominant voice in the room. This was the cringing and recoiling in the corner behavior of a frequently beaten dog awaiting the next head kick.

    • @Moomie-p8l
      @Moomie-p8l หลายเดือนก่อน

      DO NOT EVER MARRY A WOMAN THAT SHOWS TOO MUCH BOOBS, SKIN, REVEALING CLOTHING, SHE NEEDS TO BE FULLY COVERED IN ORDER TO BE YOUR WIFE. PERIOD. NO SHOWING ANY BUTTS OR BOOBS OR DELETE HER🤣

  • @commanderbarbie2550
    @commanderbarbie2550 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1607

    She’s not a good mom, not a good wife and not a good person.

    • @Monae6890
      @Monae6890 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +67

      Exactly, he needs to understand a good mom doesn’t cheat let alone cheat in front of her child. My husband had a mom like this, she brought men around him while his dad was at work from as early as he could remember. This crap messes a kid up.

    • @alluringbliss4165
      @alluringbliss4165 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      True. Nowadays, I would not bring anybody in front of my child.

    • @lasantuzza777
      @lasantuzza777 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      yes. it’s as simple as that!

    • @HPB1776
      @HPB1776 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      As a wife and a mother I 100% agree

    • @lisad56
      @lisad56 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      Yes, she’s a terrible mom. I know several people that their mother or father would bring around the lovers. It messes with the child seeing this.
      It makes the child feel guilty and they never get over it.
      He needs to get a divorce and move on with his son.
      Not healthy for the son or him.

  • @Lisafrank97
    @Lisafrank97 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +471

    The room painting incident broke my heart. He wanted to paint the room for his son. This woman is so cruel.

    • @JENKEN425
      @JENKEN425 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      SHE LIST RESPECT FOR HER HUSBAND. SHE PROLLY LOST RESPECT WHEN THEY HAD TO FILE BANKRUPTCY, SHE LIKELY DOESNT RESPECT HIM DUE TO HIN BEING A PUSHOVER.

    • @peanut_toast999
      @peanut_toast999 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      ​@@JENKEN425that's a crappy excuse, stop. doesn't excuse her behavior.

    • @edgeofsevnteen
      @edgeofsevnteen 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      @@JENKEN425 that’s ridiculous. In this economy? Me and my husband were once on the verge of bankruptcy and I still chose to love and honor him. He barely makes enough to support just the 2 of us, so I go to work and don’t let finances cloud my judgement. That’s a weak minded individual what you just described.

    • @Moomie-p8l
      @Moomie-p8l หลายเดือนก่อน

      DO NOT EVER MARRY A WOMAN THAT SHOWS TOO MUCH BOOBS, SKIN, REVEALING CLOTHING, SHE NEEDS TO BE FULLY COVERED IN ORDER TO BE YOUR WIFE. PERIOD. NO SHOWING ANY BUTTS OR BOOBS OR DELETE HER🤣

    • @Kivlor
      @Kivlor หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Kid's not his, it's the neighbor's. He's just in denial. She made sure the kid's real dad got to do it.

  • @amessina6691
    @amessina6691 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1665

    Your marriage is over bro. Take whatever little dignity you have left and get away from that nightmare you married.

    • @turdrocket
      @turdrocket 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Exactly

    • @turdrocket
      @turdrocket 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What a soulless woman

    • @antonglas7488
      @antonglas7488 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Not so easy.
      If Joe divorces his wife, the court will award her the house, full custody of their child, he`ll be stung for alimony, child support and only given visitation rights to his child on his wife`s terms, regardless whether she`s a cheater or not.
      Every which way Joe loses.
      I know this happened to me.
      Guys, stay single.

    • @Sumkuang
      @Sumkuang 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

      “Take whatever little dignity you have left and get away with it” 😢😢😢 noted!

    • @morgancorbett3497
      @morgancorbett3497 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

      Do it while you’re still young, you can find love again and if you don’t the peace that comes with being alone and happy is PLENTY

  • @216trixie
    @216trixie 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +120

    This was me many years ago. This call really got to me. I was there. He's going to be a new person in the future when he gains his strength.

    • @BlueJeans1952
      @BlueJeans1952 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      My prayers are with you.❤

    • @216trixie
      @216trixie 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@BlueJeans1952 Sweet. I'm great and I hope you are too, thank you.

    • @rachael196
      @rachael196 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I hope you're living a good life now. You deserve it!

    • @216trixie
      @216trixie หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @rachael196 Thank you! I'm living a very great life and I hope you are doing the same.

    • @michaelarmenta8289
      @michaelarmenta8289 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Amen, been there done that too. I am not the same I was then, I'm better.

  • @lanesniffin730
    @lanesniffin730 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    At times I feel lonely but calls like this make me realize I’d rather spend my life alone than be subject to something like this.

    • @vladimiropacic2795
      @vladimiropacic2795 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Those things are bringing the worst in a man. I hope he will not do what am i thinking he is going to

    • @geometerfpv2804
      @geometerfpv2804 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is extremely uncommon. I have never experienced anything anywhere near this and I've had many long term partners.

    • @scubadivingadventures1
      @scubadivingadventures1 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

      There’s good women out there but you can’t date a girl who’s hotter than yourself. You need to find a loyal woman and in order to find that, she needs to see you as the prize. Date an *equal*

    • @CheriGoodwin
      @CheriGoodwin 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@geometerfpv2804 20% of married men admit to cheating and 13% of married women do. Not extremely uncommon.

  • @farmermarshall
    @farmermarshall 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1204

    He needs to set up secret cameras in the house for evidence in the divorce.

    • @paulaqueirosz
      @paulaqueirosz 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

      I don't know about laws in US, but in Brazil an unfaithful spouse is not eligible to alimony.

    • @Allisoninspirations
      @Allisoninspirations 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +57

      Most states in the U.S are "no fault" divorces. I know this because I've been through this. It doesn't matter if one spouse cheats in most states.

    • @MrA82J
      @MrA82J 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      ​@@paulaqueiroszthere's a law that makes sense.

    • @ninjaspam2000
      @ninjaspam2000 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      ​@@AllisoninspirationsIt depends on the state. While most states have no fault divorce. There are still states that have at fault reasons for divorce. This means you can leave the marriage at any point for any reason, but the distribution of assets change if there is an at-fault reason.
      Honestly I think all states need to do this.

    • @BigT42l994
      @BigT42l994 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      @@paulaqueiroszthat’s how it should be everywhere but America’s court system with divorces and children are skewed and favor the women to the fullest 99% of the time.

  • @Chet_24
    @Chet_24 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +450

    Get a paternity test. Divorce her. Try and get full custody if the child is yours. Move. Focus on self improvement (education/additional training, getting in shape, new hobby etc). Living well is the best revenge.

    • @Thomas116-m2n
      @Thomas116-m2n 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      Best post on here. Well done.

    • @elenigros
      @elenigros 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Infidelity and child custody have nothing to do with each other.

    • @Sam11747
      @Sam11747 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      @@elenigros "Infidelity and child custody have nothing to do with each other." - It absolutely does. In some states, if you establish you are not the paternal father you have no financial obligation. A married mother who cheats should absolutely have paternity established. Not only for the financial obligations, but also for potential medical issues that might require an organ transplant.

    • @bethb.6813
      @bethb.6813 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      If she's gaslighting you, and a psych could confirm that, you are the better parent. Make sure you do everything you can to ensure that you get custody. See a lawyer and get this counseling immediately.

    • @lesliemcmillan2971
      @lesliemcmillan2971 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He won't have standing for full custody based on infidelity alone.

  • @Girlgonewise
    @Girlgonewise 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2686

    He better get a DNA test. Sounds like the Neighbor is providing for his son.

    • @nathangunnels8624
      @nathangunnels8624 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +91

      Same

    • @anicesunset2022
      @anicesunset2022 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +218

      Gosh that’s a sad thought.

    • @2daFull
      @2daFull 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

      Good point

    • @Proud5050man
      @Proud5050man 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

      Shes pregnant by Tyrone
      Baby came out. Black🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @midnightblue117
      @midnightblue117 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +75

      Yep DNA test your son!

  • @nainaasahil
    @nainaasahil 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    i dont even know this poor guy, but I can feel his pain. Sending you prayers

  • @rosemcmillion4746
    @rosemcmillion4746 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    Put up a doorbell camera, it will notify you when someone is at the doors.

    • @cbmorre4909
      @cbmorre4909 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      He’s bankrupt. He can’t fund much here.

    • @tracie1365
      @tracie1365 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@cbmorre4909Finances can be repaired. A marriage without trust is over.

    • @onestepclosertoheaven7347
      @onestepclosertoheaven7347 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Buy the remote camera light bulbs. That way she won't know they exist.

  • @Girlgonewise
    @Girlgonewise 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +748

    This is more than an emotional affair bro.

    • @FiveZeroRunner
      @FiveZeroRunner 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      Yep Sadia said something similar...they are just trying to minimize their actions. Fact is they are cheating and its more than emotional

    • @jwebby85
      @jwebby85 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      An affair is an affair. Period.

    • @Sam11747
      @Sam11747 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      @@jwebby85 Absolutely, except you can't get an STD or pregnant from an emotional affair.

    • @JENKEN425
      @JENKEN425 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      IF THEY ARE HAVING RELATIONS BEHIND HIS BACK HE NEEDS TO LIKELY LEAVE. HE MIGHT BE AFRAID TO PAY BILLS BY HIMSELF.

    • @klickingkayasmr7585
      @klickingkayasmr7585 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Sam11747Correct! It’s worse! You’re breaking marriage covenant and breaking their heart! (The kids too)

  • @joea9222
    @joea9222 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +600

    If he thinks it's just emotional, especially when they are neighbors... I have some bad news for him

    • @KuchenCraft
      @KuchenCraft 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@joea9222 Well, not all people are like you think.

    • @joea9222
      @joea9222 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@KuchenCraftyou'd end up like this dude, totally cucked and blind to it

    • @joea9222
      @joea9222 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

      ​@@KuchenCraftlol, you'd end up just like this dude. 🙄

    • @MsMinoula
      @MsMinoula 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Does it even matter at this point?

    • @joea9222
      @joea9222 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@MsMinoula if he's still with her, then yes...

  • @RidingWithJahv
    @RidingWithJahv 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +688

    that might be the neighbors kid. hes doing too much work

    • @lisad56
      @lisad56 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yup, another man will not invest in another man’s child. Specially while she is married .

    • @vittoriagnecchi5783
      @vittoriagnecchi5783 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

      Yeah, to be warned away directly from the husband, and still insinuate yourself in their house and have contact with the child?
      That's either someone with deep issues and mental problems, she's encouraging him to behave like a lunatic, or there's something afoot.

    • @ronhall5395
      @ronhall5395 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      DNA test is required. I think if he files for divorce she may pull her trump card of paternity. She is not going to file because she has it all. A guy to finance her, while having a lover 8 hrs a day.

  • @Coloradocorean
    @Coloradocorean 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Awe man I hope this guy has started his healing journey.

  • @PinkHydrangea
    @PinkHydrangea 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    She’s sent a pretty clear message. So sad.

  • @mahgimay2490
    @mahgimay2490 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +147

    John's bluntness is exactly what this poor man needed to hear. I hope he takes John's professional suggestions to heart and follows through.

    • @JENKEN425
      @JENKEN425 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      JOE NEEDS COUNSELING, HES A WHIMP.

    • @klickingkayasmr7585
      @klickingkayasmr7585 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yeah and he hears him, but he sounds like it’s going in one ear, and out of the same ear ☹️

    • @7dayslatertoday791
      @7dayslatertoday791 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Blunt would be: your wife doesn’t respect you, man up, and protect yourself. She hates you and the law is going to take everything from you. Get mad and get ready to fight for your kids, because your slut wife is protected by the law even though it was her that broke up the marriage.

  • @xsuzannex
    @xsuzannex 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +559

    Seriously, what neighbour gives you pet names and buys clothes for you? In front of your other half. This is so bad

    • @CRobinsonpk
      @CRobinsonpk 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

      @@xsuzannex but bro he’s “not sure if they have had sex” lololol

    • @ibabymomx3
      @ibabymomx3 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Some ppl are just so wicked. Selfish mofos

    • @xsuzannex
      @xsuzannex 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      @@CRobinsonpk I mean 🙄😬 he sounds like a pushover very sad. She has made a fool out of him

    • @elettramia6380
      @elettramia6380 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      I don’t understand how the husband allowed this to begin with. It’s a very odd situation to allow to happen in your own home

    • @ibabymomx3
      @ibabymomx3 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      @@elettramia6380 the wife allowed it, not him. The wife should’ve blocked it altogether from the beginning. She’s the one in the marriage with the husband, not the other guy.

  • @shaunalea823
    @shaunalea823 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +130

    She’s not a good mom. She’s making a fool of you. Your a good man that deserves better.

    • @alexarsenault77
      @alexarsenault77 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Or maybe he's a serial killer...

    • @denisemezynski8014
      @denisemezynski8014 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Shes Not a Good ANYTHING 💔 Poor man, hes gotta let her go!! When A persons IN LOVE ❤❤ they Do NOT treat said person like this💔💔

    • @denisemezynski8014
      @denisemezynski8014 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@alexarsenault77.......Or maybe Youre a demonic sick perverted human😂 thats more like it 🎉

  • @ce6654
    @ce6654 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    Man, people on this show make me feel so much better about my problems.

  • @notmrboston2546
    @notmrboston2546 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Ive listened to many of these videos over the last few weeks, but this was one of the toughest. Poor guy

  • @Chapeeze
    @Chapeeze 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +361

    Don’t leave your house! You will lose custody of your child. It’s considered abandonment

    • @CRobinsonpk
      @CRobinsonpk 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Chapeeze yep worst advice ever. Tell her to leave

    • @Thomas116-m2n
      @Thomas116-m2n 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

      Tell HER to go next door to move in with Jody. If the "wife" can't and he's married, dime him out to his wife.

    • @richpalmer9886
      @richpalmer9886 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Depends on the state. In many it is not considered abandonment anymore.

    • @alexandereisen3486
      @alexandereisen3486 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      I’m not so sure that’s his child

    • @dorianmorton67
      @dorianmorton67 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Change the locks and kick her out!

  • @Ayeteeemm
    @Ayeteeemm 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +332

    This babe is BOLD 🤯🤯🤯
    What a cruel cruel woman

    • @User-be5yj
      @User-be5yj 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Yeah the next conversation they have is “honey I think we should have an open marriage.” I feel sorry for this man.

    • @tamz-b1h
      @tamz-b1h 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      She probably feels justified if the baby is the neighbor's. She's absolutely vile.

    • @katie0303
      @katie0303 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I agree. She is stringing him along yet rubbing his nose in her affair.

    • @ronhall5395
      @ronhall5395 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Ayeteeemm She is either dumb, or one evil B.

  • @zinnmarx
    @zinnmarx 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +655

    This poor man. Wow. Yes, move before you have a bad day and end up in prison.

    • @davidmolina7543
      @davidmolina7543 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Without a doubt!

    • @JacqueMiller-w1y
      @JacqueMiller-w1y 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Same reason why a battered woman stays in a relationship sadly

    • @BigT42l994
      @BigT42l994 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I would be on my way and not regret a second of it

    • @furrygoose94
      @furrygoose94 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@JacqueMiller-w1y This is a very astute observation. For all the wife's obvious crimes against their marriage, he obviously didn't have the self respect to stand up for himself, and thus invites this behaviour from her and their neighbour (not blaming the husband at all though).

    • @jamespropane369
      @jamespropane369 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I don’t know that there’s a jury that would convict him if he ends this guy. I mean this is biblical. He has every right to protect his son.

  • @theresastirling2337
    @theresastirling2337 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Do not leave. You will be charged with abandonment. See a lawyer first.

  • @aldumas1058
    @aldumas1058 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    The dude needs to bring his self worth and dignity to the top of the list. Accept the loss and become a new person.

  • @brandieschmitt8974
    @brandieschmitt8974 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +273

    Holy moly the anxiety is real, this poor guy needs to catch a break before he has a heart attack. He just can’t get away, poor dude. I really feel for that.

    • @Sam11747
      @Sam11747 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I'm not blaming him, but he can definitely get away. He just chooses not to leave. He's been confronting her every day for a long time with not following through. Of course she'd continue. Yes, divorce is horrible for men when it comes to divorce court, child support and possible alimony but it'd be worth it for sanity. Plus, the longer he's with her the more nonsense she'll create.

  • @BillBrent
    @BillBrent 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +157

    Lawyer --> Paternity Test --> Divorce --> Therapy regarding the relationship and for his low self-esteem/conflict avoidance.
    They're both daring him to make a move and laughing at him when he doesn't.

    • @jessicadaugherty8442
      @jessicadaugherty8442 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Oh yeah they're wanting it in front of his face they know exactly what they're doing

    • @deniseduggins8933
      @deniseduggins8933 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      His wife is sick and has found the perfect disgusting affair partner.....

    • @theresegottfreid5071
      @theresegottfreid5071 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Therapy first, then attorney and all the rest

    • @scubadivingadventures1
      @scubadivingadventures1 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@theresegottfreid5071 No, stop lying and giving bad advice in order to cover for other women. If he gets therapy it’ll allow her to use it against him and claim he’s “mentally unwell/unstable”. It’ll also give her a heads-up that he’s planning to leave. You should be ashamed.

  • @lav7161
    @lav7161 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +124

    The deep breathing from the caller off the gate is so real. That's how it feels when you know you have no reason to be there but you're just holding onto hope.

    • @mpaige7081
      @mpaige7081 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yesss

    • @Violet-n2l
      @Violet-n2l 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I hope you mean no reason to be in his marriage, and not no reason to be on earth! Plenty of things to live for aside from a rotten cheating spouse

    • @Lotus1111
      @Lotus1111 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes, I heard that. His body clearly knows😔

  • @melissarafter1158
    @melissarafter1158 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    My heart goes out to him. His intuition is telling him something and I hope he sees he’s worth more.

  • @michaeldmiller7544
    @michaeldmiller7544 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Self respect is priceless!

  • @conorosullivan4197
    @conorosullivan4197 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +317

    Man that neighbor is pure evil. To wave and look the man whose wife you are sleeping with in the eye is obnoxious and that is putting it lightly.

    • @user-qp2qe5gf9b
      @user-qp2qe5gf9b 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

      I agree, he’s evil, but as a woman, it tells me his wife is likely telling the neighbor all sorts of terrible things about the caller to justify the cheating. The neighbor probably feels like he’s doing a duty to her and the child by being present and bringing the kid gifts. I have never know a woman to do such a terrible thing and not try to justify it by making the other person out to be the bad guy.

    • @BigT42l994
      @BigT42l994 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I know for sure that neighbor wouldn’t have fingers to wave with

    • @chaboi7
      @chaboi7 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@user-qp2qe5gf9b doesn't matter what a woman tells him, it snot his place to feel any sort of way about it, at the end of the day he's simply screwing that guys wife and that's about as deep as this needs to get.

    • @spreadlove7761
      @spreadlove7761 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@user-qp2qe5gf9bthis is very true

    • @doctorposting
      @doctorposting 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      thats why this story is hard to believe, no one would do that

  • @adelinaponzio9370
    @adelinaponzio9370 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +96

    They’re literally pushing him out of his own life - how cruel

    • @acerhillfarm4245
      @acerhillfarm4245 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Women don’t give a F about a man’s struggles. End of story.

    • @Irenethevet
      @Irenethevet หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Tragedy😭

    • @kitcenkitcen3974
      @kitcenkitcen3974 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He must take care of the child and that's about it

  • @tracym8952
    @tracym8952 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +393

    A lot of times it's better to be single than in a relationship

    • @estherdistefano6997
      @estherdistefano6997 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Tracy,Agree

    • @alluringbliss4165
      @alluringbliss4165 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      @@Asapgrossmany of the calls are similar to this one. Not so bad being single.

    • @West1010
      @West1010 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      It's situational as both have pros and cons. More peace, freedom, & money(?) being single but there's loneliness. Arguments/fights in a relationship & wanting space you can't always get, but there's way less loneliness and someone to do fun stuff with intimately. Being single can be way better than being with the wrong person or being in a relationship can be way better with the right person. It's all situational and both can change on any given day.

    • @zarahsgarden2097
      @zarahsgarden2097 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@alluringbliss4165 because people call if they have problems not if they have a strong relationship lol

    • @ireefree2024
      @ireefree2024 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Being in a relationship with the wrong person absolutely yes. Being with the right person, defently not. It depends and setting boundaries and in this case move away or asked for divorce. Otherwise I don't see light...

  • @cecilydeshea7222
    @cecilydeshea7222 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Bless his heart 😢 I could just cry. I’m praying for you man!

  • @theprodigalson4003
    @theprodigalson4003 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I want you to know I’ve been taking pointers from you. Especially how you say sorry and show compassion in the way the person needs. I do this so I can help as many as I can, and you’re helping me to do that

  • @cindyjemutai9812
    @cindyjemutai9812 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +101

    I wish we had an update on this. Poor guy, his wife is being so cruel and gaslighting him actually

  • @1874rb
    @1874rb 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +582

    If I was the dad I’d get a dna test on his 3 year old child.

    • @midnightblue117
      @midnightblue117 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      He’s going to need to!

    • @pitbull7885
      @pitbull7885 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      I would get a DNA test too.

    • @zachwear3217
      @zachwear3217 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      Yeah this is insane , I’m not sure what other reason another grown man would give so much attention to someone else’s child

    • @FullTwos
      @FullTwos 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@zachwear3217 because every kid deserves love. Be mad at the wife, not the kid. The kid just needs love. I get being mad but taking it out on a kid who has no say in the matter, and had nothing to do with the decision to cheat.

    • @keld6320
      @keld6320 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@zachwear3217 there is definitely even worse reasons. Some people are more evil than you think.

  • @peterrhines1516
    @peterrhines1516 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +68

    what's crazy is the amount of gaslighting those 2 are putting this guy through

    • @MMP000
      @MMP000 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @YuriGoofovThe great thing about being gaslit is that you don’t know you’re being gaslit. Three people involved in this situation and the other two are gaslighting him so it’s gotta be confusing.

  • @mxrijx
    @mxrijx 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I want to give this man a big hug. He sounds like he needs it.

  • @bhrhul
    @bhrhul 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Man, he sounds so exhausted and numb. I feel so bad for him.

  • @JusticeSleuth
    @JusticeSleuth 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

    9:26 I want to hug this man 😢you deserve to be loved and be faithful to. Be well.

    • @extendedfilmproject6789
      @extendedfilmproject6789 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      He needs to wake up and man up! He needs a group of strong men to help him stop being weak!!!

  • @PoeticAmmunition.
    @PoeticAmmunition. 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    This guys too nice, neither wife or neighbour fear him.

    • @barryc9115
      @barryc9115 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It’s not about nice. It’s about weak. He is a weak man with no self respect. Women punish weak men until they quit being weak.

    • @RGR_Gaming10X
      @RGR_Gaming10X 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Yea Agree - kind is nice but kind of a beta. Due next door would be painting his own coffin.

  • @BSCTrainerRob
    @BSCTrainerRob 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +115

    This is brutal. Its gonna take years to heal from this. Start that process now and get the divorce asap. You get one life. Stay strong brother

  • @MarsH-je3jv
    @MarsH-je3jv 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Cheaters lie a lot.

  • @joannetullini6814
    @joannetullini6814 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    The poor little boy will wonder where his father went. What a sad situation.

  • @anneflynn9614
    @anneflynn9614 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +257

    His wife's behavior is outrageous. He absolutely needs to divorce her asap. There are other women out there that will appreciate a man like him and not cheat.

    • @synx7874
      @synx7874 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Bullshit. There s none of that. And if they are , its like 0.00001%

    • @blueStarKitt7924
      @blueStarKitt7924 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@synx7874 🤔🤔🤔

    • @JENKEN425
      @JENKEN425 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      YES BUT HES BROKE FINANCIALLY.

    • @Evil-Rod-Farva
      @Evil-Rod-Farva 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Women today don’t appreciate men and likely never have. They appreciate what men do. They’re not the same.
      That’s why wasting time on them is dangerous. Men are capable of romantic love. I’m not so sure the other half is.

    • @trublu3483
      @trublu3483 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This honestly sounds like an Adam Sandler comedy . So ridiculous and irreverent. Waving to him? I could see his son calling the neighbor dad or the neighbor wearing his clothes in front of him. The wife emasculates him and he allows it. He needs to start standing up for himself. It's sad

  • @charlotteboyett-napper4780
    @charlotteboyett-napper4780 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +125

    If he leaves, the neighbor will be over there 24/7

    • @ibabymomx3
      @ibabymomx3 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      So sad but yeah true. If that’s the case they should just divorce. Lets say even if they move to a different location, she will probably do it again with a diff neighbor or worse still continue with the previous neighbor. It’s just a sad situation. Sigh poor dude. Hope he finds his peace. For him and his kid.

    • @itsallisonbitch
      @itsallisonbitch 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah until she has another "emotional affair"

    • @taytayboy2014
      @taytayboy2014 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      He already is.

    • @Sam11747
      @Sam11747 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      If he stays and she knows a divorce is coming, good chance she'll falsely claim domestic violence.

    • @evil1143
      @evil1143 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yea terrible advice from baloney

  • @Michelle-zz7no
    @Michelle-zz7no 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +95

    I love that response, “It’s ok.”
    “No, it’s not ok.”

    • @tylermaddux5209
      @tylermaddux5209 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      So deep 😂

    • @Michelle-zz7no
      @Michelle-zz7no 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tylermaddux5209 😂😂😂. But it IS!!

  • @DaveElver
    @DaveElver 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    So sorry you’re going through this brother. I hope you are able to get past this such a terrible situation which I would not wish on my worst enemy.

  • @curlyador2050
    @curlyador2050 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    These are very serious conversations and I feel and see you really care for people and every thing you have said makes alot of sense Dr.John .

  • @mikeinmelbourne9491
    @mikeinmelbourne9491 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +180

    Poor guy, there is nothing worse then being cheated on - it's a terrible betrayal and those who do it lack character. She gaslighted him - cheaters ALWAYS turn it around on the victim and blame them.
    He needs to stop defending this monster of a woman.

    • @itsPreznt
      @itsPreznt 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@mikeinmelbourne9491 usually it's because they have done the cheating in the past.

    • @troytruong8246
      @troytruong8246 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Bs. Have you ever loved someone, and that person neglects and abuses you sexually, emotionally, physically, with no attention and no intimacy. You cheat when you are fed up. The cheater becomes the bad guy?

    • @troytruong8246
      @troytruong8246 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Somebody is f*cking up somewhere in a relationship that causes the other person to cheat. The cheater cheats because he or she is sick and tired of the bs they have to deal with year after year. Have you thought about that?

    • @missk2559
      @missk2559 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@mikeinmelbourne9491 So fkn selfish… it’s one thing to cheat in general when you’re in a relationship, but when there’s kid involved, I feel like it’s amplified x1000 on the disgust scale
      Kids ALWAYS, ALWAYS find out whats in their parent’s closet when they’re older.. they will 100% find out about this affair one day and that the reason the family isn’t together is because their Mom loved their neighbour more than her family… it’s absolutely soul crushing for everyone involved.
      F this woman.

    • @Jettatura-yn8ss
      @Jettatura-yn8ss 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@troytruong8246 then leave.

  • @User-be5yj
    @User-be5yj 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +106

    People are hating on the man for being a coward. But the true coward in this story is the wife and that neighbor.

    • @User-be5yj
      @User-be5yj 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@SarahConnor562 it’s easier to leave a trail of bread crumbs than it is to have a sit down conversation. In my opinion.

    • @djpuplex
      @djpuplex 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      What can he do. If he puts his hands on anyone he goes to jail.

    • @Jendromeda
      @Jendromeda 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      the wife is downright evil.

    • @Honeycomblife
      @Honeycomblife 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Paternity test she is trifling!

    • @djpuplex
      @djpuplex 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@Honeycomblife Paternity fraud should be criminal.

  • @furrygoose94
    @furrygoose94 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

    Poor guy. Sounds like a chronic people pleaser who never learnt to respect himself and set boundaries, which is why he's being walked all over. I sympathise with him, as I've had to overcome that myself. Beneath "trying to do the nice thing" is rage, grief, and fear. May God bless him with the peace, love, and freedom he deserves,

    • @I_Lemaire
      @I_Lemaire หลายเดือนก่อน

      We deserve nothing. Him being a people pleaser had nothing to do with what she did. The cruelty, like poverty, is due to our deeds and our mazal.

    • @furrygoose94
      @furrygoose94 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@I_Lemaireif that’s so, why is it so hard for victims of domestic violence to leave the relationship?

    • @I_Lemaire
      @I_Lemaire หลายเดือนก่อน

      @furrygoose94 ? It is the same thing. The mazal. Many times it takes good deeds and prayer to break.

  • @princesjasmyn
    @princesjasmyn หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    He seems like a great man. I hope this situation doesn’t make him bitter. I want him to be loved properly. I hope his son grows up well and in a safe environment

  • @ColinUnger
    @ColinUnger 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Id love to get an update from this guy in a month

  • @happycamper6298
    @happycamper6298 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    This guys denial is heartbreaking.

  • @Monae6890
    @Monae6890 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +165

    They are 100% sleeping together and she will leave him for the neighbor eventually. I hope he gets a dna test and put up cameras in his house. Poor guy..

    • @johnmcconnell8151
      @johnmcconnell8151 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      If the neighbour wanted that it would've happened already.

    • @mrv2308
      @mrv2308 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@johnmcconnell8151yup he’s using her. How men like this are so weak is beyond me

    • @stuffykong
      @stuffykong 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      She gets the best of both worlds right now. That changes the minute this guy gets it together and gets the divorce. I wouldn't be surprise if she gets neither guy when that happens.

    • @JENKEN425
      @JENKEN425 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      JUST SELL IT ,,,,GET OT ,,,,,,GO RENT A HOUSE ...............

    • @peacehappyb237
      @peacehappyb237 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, they are.

  • @Ray_LaFleur
    @Ray_LaFleur 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +56

    Dr. D is at his best when he dishes out the stone cold advice.

  • @evilcuppycake1112
    @evilcuppycake1112 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Poor man. He sounds absolutely broken. Hope he made the right decision and I pray he heals.

  • @thenorthface4
    @thenorthface4 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I feel this poor guys pain, I went through it myself. In the moment, it was hard to accept and deal with but as time went on and I healed, life got SO much better. You get peace for once and you become so much stronger. Wish I could hug the dude. Highly recommend counseling and Bible study groups for church. Something to heal and keep you busy

  • @zhqn
    @zhqn 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    You can hear the distress in his voice immediately. 😢

  • @Fourstar97
    @Fourstar97 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    Dude if you’re reading this. I’m sorry. I can’t imagine the pain you’re feeling, just thinking about your story makes my chest hurt for you. I hope you know better times are ahead for you. Make the tough decisions it’ll get better! You know what you gotta do.

    • @Honeycomblife
      @Honeycomblife 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Paternity test she is trifling!

  • @jhonilocran6077
    @jhonilocran6077 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +169

    Joe doesn’t want to leave. He just wants to vent. He’s gonna stay and get cheated on.

    • @CRobinsonpk
      @CRobinsonpk 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      @@jhonilocran6077 yup unfortunately he’s stayed around to long and lost his dignity.

    • @FourSeasons04
      @FourSeasons04 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      I believe it's an ego issue too..he doesn't want the other guy to win even though he's already won the "cheating" wife. Some prize.

    • @nicolettetallmadge3254
      @nicolettetallmadge3254 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

      Dr. John said his wife is practically rubbing his nose in her affair. She’s not the only one. Sounds like this “neighbor” is essentially daring Joe to step up to him and Joe seems to be on the edge of doing something ill advised. He needs to leave before someone ends up in jail, the hospital or the morgue.

    • @mrv2308
      @mrv2308 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      It’s embarrassing

    • @JENKEN425
      @JENKEN425 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I THINK HE IS BROKE FINANCIALLY.

  • @lizdarling1761
    @lizdarling1761 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Why didn’t he put cameras in the house months ago? I wld have had camera in all common areas and all around the property front and back. Then there is no needing to ask. You just check the cameras 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @emmanyoul
    @emmanyoul 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Almost shed a tear for him

  • @luguy8347
    @luguy8347 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    I thank you John for being there for this man. I feel for him so much.

  • @ed867
    @ed867 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +115

    Is the child his? I mean he's buying the child clothes.

  • @mrsh2167
    @mrsh2167 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +104

    see a lawyer and a therapist in that order

    • @dyllangames3592
      @dyllangames3592 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Hire a lawyer and ask them to meet at your first therapy appointment so everyone is on the same page

    • @klickingkayasmr7585
      @klickingkayasmr7585 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@dyllangames3592yep! The lawyer is gonna need therapy too, after this! And a cigarette

    • @milaycastillo5723
      @milaycastillo5723 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      with what money?

  • @ariatara
    @ariatara 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Gaslighting from a cheater is something that gives serious PTSD.
    It happened to me for over 15 years. I am now out, but I have PTSD.
    No contact is the only way to heal. Takes years. Still feels like it happened yesterday.
    I wish this guy a lot of healing!

  • @treeknome2642
    @treeknome2642 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Oh I can’t wait until this man finds his voice and his inner warrior! This man is being given an opportunity to turn around and confront his fears or demons straight in the face! He’s never believed in himself, just looked at things through other peoples eyes.
    Once he finds the inner monster, than forgives and lets go of the females manipulation, he will be come the man he was created to be!!!
    God is and will be there with him through the whole process!
    God Bless You My Friend. ❤

  • @elizabethmitchell0071
    @elizabethmitchell0071 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +85

    If that emotional affair has been going on for a year, they've passed that. Its a sexual affair now. They're lying. This husband needs to get away from that situation, somebody is going to snap and wind up in a serious situation. She's not going to be the one to end it. She wants him too, so she can justify "setting up house" with that other guy. Her having the affair, and her putting her husband thru this emotional mess is a 🍆 move. I feel bad for him

    • @aimeerebecca1
      @aimeerebecca1 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Exactly! There is absolutely less than zero chance that it hasn’t been physical for a loooong time.

  • @CuteNP
    @CuteNP 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

    I want an update on how he’s doing

  • @NoName-jm4ev
    @NoName-jm4ev 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    "Your wife id sleeping with the neighbor". He needed to hear that. The reality that he needed to her and john did the right thing by saying it.

  • @zaiasm2305
    @zaiasm2305 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Out of all these calls this one is the absolute most brutal I’ve ever heard. Absolutely insane

  • @texasalpha2233
    @texasalpha2233 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +72

    He needs to get a DNA test on the kid.

    • @timothyrosman6371
      @timothyrosman6371 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Its a very real next step in this process and it is disappointing that Dr. John didn't say it.

    • @GoKU-xx2vg
      @GoKU-xx2vg 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@timothyrosman6371he might have preferred to tell him off air.

    • @Honeycomblife
      @Honeycomblife 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      She is trifling!

    • @milaycastillo5723
      @milaycastillo5723 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      The kid doesn't deserve a weak father. He already has a coward mother.

  • @navmarroaming2292
    @navmarroaming2292 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Joe you are worth more than that. Things Will get better. Hard to believe but the good guy always ends up better off when the dust settles. Been there.

  • @lisap3628
    @lisap3628 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    John is so good at what he does...

  • @morganbond3688
    @morganbond3688 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Joe, my heart broke listening to your story. I went through something similar a few months ago and know what you’re feeling. I’m so sorry for what you are feeling and going through. Find someone that you can talk to so you don’t hold it all in and take time to process everything. Continue to be strong for your son.

  • @Loakley1998
    @Loakley1998 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    “Just because it’s painful doesn’t mean it’s not right” Brilliant

  • @ei42877
    @ei42877 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    They have zero respect for you! RUN!!🏃‍♀️

  • @CuteNP
    @CuteNP 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I’m so sad for him. He deserves so much better!!!

  • @hunterr6164
    @hunterr6164 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Good for this guy for not going scorched earth on everybody

  • @christait50
    @christait50 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just want to hug this man .. poor fella

  • @I.AM.STANLEY
    @I.AM.STANLEY 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Get that child tested.

  • @raymondjames2590
    @raymondjames2590 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    You don't say divorce you do it and have her served

  • @JesseGraham-l9s
    @JesseGraham-l9s 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +101

    Do not let a lawyer talk you into "No Fault" divorce either.

    • @kathyharmon2093
      @kathyharmon2093 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      In my state it is not a choice, it is a no fault divorce state

    • @catherinewilke5583
      @catherinewilke5583 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      That’s the only option in most places. My ex refused to get a job. I had to give him half of my net worth to get rid of him. The law is horrible

    • @spreadlove7761
      @spreadlove7761 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@catherinewilke5583half of your net worth for how long?

    • @mjj8560
      @mjj8560 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@catherinewilke5583 yes a man for the win stop being like that he helped you build that empire

    • @misscb8658
      @misscb8658 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Unless you file your own divorce papers. You can get those at the law library. Or you can easily get them on computer, but make sure they fit your state.

  • @SarTafoolya
    @SarTafoolya 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    So glad he said put cameras up!!!!

    • @cynthiaborden4209
      @cynthiaborden4209 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Why put cameras up now? He knows.

    • @Dd-cm8xj
      @Dd-cm8xj 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@cynthiaborden4209proof, helps with court cases and maybe can get custody, assuming it’s his kid, but I think it helps with divorce if u have proof of cheating

  • @creativeness68
    @creativeness68 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This is dangerous because nowadays people will hurt people physically. I pray he will be safe. 😢😢😢

  • @lynaeeakettgreene7208
    @lynaeeakettgreene7208 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    He sounds totally beside himself. And every day for a year is a lot of confrontation. He sounds totally exhausted.

  • @pipperlue
    @pipperlue 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    I don’t think leaving the house for a month is going to quell his anxiety. All he’s going to be thinking about is his wife and his neighbor having a complete free for all while he’s away. Torture either way though…

    • @matthill2957
      @matthill2957 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Yeah wtf and then he just comes right back? Nah leave and never come back