My wife did this to me, she told me that she 'kissed a guy' and that it was a mistake and it was over, I took us to counselling. The therapist saw through her lies in 5 minutes and she cracked open. Turns out she had a full blown emotional and sexual relationship with a coworker for a year. I'm divorcing her now. Cheaters are the biggest selfish assholes on earth.
If they tell you it’s worst then whatever they tell ya. I found out my wife had an emotional relationship I let her cheat a lot of family and friends where mad when this was revealed I made sure her parents caught her 1 day I invited them out to lunch same spot my ex wife and BF would go. Knowing she would of cheated but I stopped her I wouldn’t be able to trust her the same way so why not let her go full tilt
Seriously don’t understand this, as someone who works out 5/6 days a week this is so common too. She destroys her family for a trainer who is probably running through women. As someone who has a couple friends who are trainers some of the stories they have shared with me are pretty crazy. Honestly if your a husband build a home gym for your wife. It’s crazy how many times married women have flirted with me at the gym and I am just a guy whose slightly above average looking but in great shape. This is just very common unfortunately.
"I found myself in a relationship" "He just started talking to me" "We ended up sleeping together" "I made a mistake" No accountability. At all. If she had any she'd say "I chose to cheat on my husband. It was awful and now I don't know what to do."
Why do people refer to cheating as a “mistake”? It’s not a mistake. Cheating is a choice. You do not trip and fall and land on another man or woman’s privates. 🤦🏻♀️
"Mistake" is not synonymous with "accident." Mistakes are intentional, bad decisions which can lead to accidents. Accidents are unintentional, like the consequences from mistakes. I think you're using them interchangeably.
What the heck is this? She found herself in an unhealthy relationship? Found herself? Like she had nothing to do with engaging that relationship, starting that relationship, participating in that relationship? She just found herself there. The way I find a dollar on the floor.
The fact that when she was asked “if you could do this all over what would you do differently?” And she didn’t immediately say not cheat on my husband speaks VOLUMES
Women are disgusting. She’s probably more worried about losing his providing for her than the relationship. How she ends up stacking shelves as a single woman in her 70’s
I think it’s funny how things became “really well” in their marriage in 2 months! It went from horrible to very well in 2 months. She didn’t really get caught. She side stepped what was found out with a lie. She’s talked to people and GOOGLE and knows she’s wrong. I think she didn’t like how she got treated afterwards by the personal trainer or maybe found out she wasn’t the only one the trainer was complimenting on her form. She said she was so stupid. She thinks she’s stupid cause she realized the PT played her, not because she threw her family under the bus!
@@BrandyTH-cam99Is he willing to go to couple’s counseling? If he’s not willing to work on your relationship and be honest with you, it’s time for you to leave. Life is precious and you don’t deserve to waste a single second longer with someone who disrespects you. There are good men out there who would never even dream of hurting you like that.
@@BrandyTH-cam99 you gotta ask yourself if he told you the truth would you forgive him? If the answer is "no" then you gotta do what's best for you and your child and just leave. He'll never respect you enough to tell you the truth, much less not keep cheating on you in the future. If he thinks he got away with it once, he'll do it again. I hate cheaters, my ex wife cheated on me and didn't admit it until I caught her red handed.
@@BrandyTH-cam99I’ve dealt with situations like yours professionally for over 30 years. You’re in a tough spot. I usually try to encourage people to try to work things out. But in situations like yours I advise people to get out of the relationship if at all possible.
It might be a way to make her feel comfortable with being honest. I think anyone can see that this woman is a piece of absolute trash who cares only about preserving herself.
This is the thing with the majority of Women, they want the authority of a Man, with the privileges of a Woman and the accountability of a child. Her opening up with “I was in an unhealthy relationship” is a prime example.
@@manuelvalencia2828so what? You have to be a woman. That man needs to go ahead and leave. You should NEVER be the safe guy. She should be head over heels for you other wise she will go heels over head for someone else. Just like this woman did. 🤷🏾♂️
She's a cheater. She's a liar, even when caught. She's STILL looking for validation for her decision to keep the truth from her betrayed husband. Every day she keeps it from him compounds her betrayal with another lie of omission. The longer she waits, the worse it'll be.
This is so awful. Charles Spurgeon once said, "So many times we trade an ocean of trouble for just a teaspoon of pleasure." Sin is a dreadful thing that should never be entertained.
Must be pretty cold up there, on your high horse. Sometimes you just have to embrace a bit of darkness to feel alive. Dogma leads to death. Live and let live.
@@zeal4god402 I really think this is a big danger at gyms. Any personal trainer should not take their clients out for coffee- they should set up strict boundaries so this doesn't happen. Just asking for trouble.
She can’t find the right time to tell her husband, but she’s got plenty of time to work out and cheat on her husband while he’s potentially watching their kids at this time
Would you be any different? Women follow their feelings, not logic. And feelings can be manipulated. You could be manipulated to do exactly the same thing.
This is the worst type of person: her husband didn’t like her hanging out with that guy and told her his reason, she says nothing will happen and continues to hang out with him. Something happened and then she lies about it for months/years. BTW she’s still lying, I really doubt they only hooked up once, why would you cheat on your husband and only do it once? It wasn’t the guilt, because she’s been flirting for months…
She may have only been PHYSICALLY unfaithful with the trainer, but when she said “talking like I wasn’t married” tells me she was flirting with possibly more guys than she’s willing to admit.
That's a big assumption. She's obviously devastated ans regrets she did this, i think if she's so guilty and wants to come clean she would have said if there was more.
@@rachelrivera2997 She clearly sounds like the flirtatious type. The kind who gets turned on by humour and social proof. I don't sense any regret in her voice. She's never cried. It's just tough to hold it in for her. It's all about HER and not much about him. Their marriage is done mostly. And we need an update on this.
@RetroBlue it's very dangerous to have a personal trainer when one is married especially if the marriage has problems. As women we are emotionally beings and sometimes get caught up. Glad that didn't happen to me. I had a personal trainer yes attractive but was never fond of his personality. Even if I was single he wouldn't of been my type.
If the husband hadn’t found out about the communicating right after the hook up had occurred, she would have happily continued cheating with the trainer at the gym. But she got caught ‘communicating’ so she had to cut her losses before her husband found out about the sexual affair. I hope the husband has the courage and self respect to leave her and never look back. She knew EXACTLY what she was doing every step of the way; and she doesn’t deserve a second chance. She said she lied because she was scared about losing everyone & everything? Funny how that fear didn’t cross her mind when she made the choice to throw it all away.
Yup, I agree with everything you said. I will add (it kills me do defend her) that at least she has some what of a conscience. Most women I know, including one that I've dated will take the sexual part of the affair to the grave and not talk about it with anyone. At least it bothers her
@@marcusarelius Same, except was a serial cheater, and never apologized or felt guilt for anything lol but fortunately we didn't have any kids, and she kept her student loans. Much luckier than most guys.
and if they lie, multiple lives are in jeoperdy. Lost my uncle in his 30s because his wife lied and he never got treatment. Hepitites destroyed his liver because he was non the wiser and a vaccine would have fixed it. Did SHE get murder charged? Nope, cus we live in a matriarchy.
Not only did she sleep with this other guy but she lied to her husband about it in counseling. That relationship will never be the same. Trust is gone. Ive been there.
Totally agree. He probably went into counseling thinking “this is where the truth comes out and I think I’m open to forgiving.”. Now that the window has closed, lord knows what he’ll do.
Same here lots of us have. Gotta be the worst thing a person can do to another. Ultimate slap in the face Only thing her husband needs is a good lawyer and some strange..
A mistake is accidentally forgetting to turn the oven off. Cheating on your husband / partner is a series of intentional bad decisions, not "a mistake". The fact that she considers this "a mistake" is telling of the kind of person she is in her day-to-day life. Poor husband and kids.
She didn't stop seeing her trainer until her husband found out about them communicating. Which means she wasn't going to stop seeing him if she could have kept it under wraps.
And that also means that her husband cares for her and he gives her attention to the chick on what she was doing, that just closes the mouth of those who say he didn't give her attention!!! She just fell for the best looking trainer forgetting that she's a mother and has a husband.
i mean she could have just left it like that and move on and dont tell him that she slept with him but she cant live with herself and yea that theres stories of ppl that can but thats not working for her
The trainer folded her up like an origami and cream pied her. I call BS on only getting plowed by this Chad 1 time. She was getting her back blown out daily
I'm sorry but children are not involved in the marriage. They're part of the family unit but they're not in the marriage. People say that they stayed for the kids all the time. The kids are relevant to the relationship between the two adults. You never involve your children in your marriage
Cheating is not a “mistake.” It’s a grown and conscious decision… “I thought maybe I could get out of this….” “This is a rescue for me because it’s not going to go well, so I want a way out.” “Yes, I’m married. THATS the problem.” That’s not bravery. This girl has zero respect for her husband. Her only concern is herself. Her body, her looks, her attention, her lack of responsibility, her lack of confrontation. It’s her her her her her. She doesn’t love this man. She’s scarred of loosing a stable partner, but she’s not scared of loosing HIM
Marriage was ruined when the government took it over and created no fault divorce. Imagine getting cheated on, then having to give her half your stuff, pay spousal support, half your retirement, losing your kids, paying child support etc. Modern marriage is a contract where the woman benefits from breaking it.
Right. Notice how she led off with the relationship toxicity. She’s trying to obfuscate total accountability. And she’s calling into this show to hopefully, selfishly, remove her own guilt. She WANTS to bury this. But her conscience is killing her. But she doesn’t want to look like the bad guy.
I agree that genuine trust & faith are gone forever. What she can do is be faithful to herself every single day and be faithful to him in every way, no matter how small. Her honesty is her best way to some amount of trust.
It crossed the line at meeting outside of the gym. Lunch, coffee, etc... its a no no. Those are relationship building activities. It builds closeness and intimacy.
Right! It's not like they ran to the gym showers.. They made plans, got ready for those plans, probably lied to go out to those plans and then decided to go home together or to a hotel. She wanted this. It was an affair.
Going off how she is handling herself in this call, I think she would’ve felt extremely guilty regardless and caved in at some point early on But who knows
My dad did this when I was 7 or 8 urs old...it tore me my twin brother and my mom...I have forgiven him 16 yes later but I dotn accept him as my father anymore
@@SamuelPradhanisfitso stupid. If a man cheats it’s just sex and he still lives the woman he’s with, for women, they cannot love a man and cheat. Men can.
Well her personal trainer is obviously a pro at picking up women, he's good looking, tall, and her husband probably doesn't workout and is probably a push-over.
She joined the gym to find exactly what she was looking for, and she found it. She waited until the end of the conversation to reveal that she was the one presenting herself as single and available. She has learned nothing and I really believe she wants him to end the relationship so she doesn’t have to.
@@Hybeekay99 who says ppl who present themself as taken dont cheat lol or ppl who meet someone that say thier taken care what dose that have to do with them lol married ppl cheat with other married ppl it happens all the time
@@lilblackfish2009No one said that. You’re reading comprehension is on a 3rd grade level. She wanted to chest so bad she appeared as single. No one said people that appear as married dont cheat. Read carefully next time
wife cheated on me. She wanted us to stay together. But I explained that a woman can never again fully respect a man who would allow that and stay with her. She will never look at him quite the same for tolerating it. I dont make the rules. Thats the wiring.
@@seecklara3893 Thanks. I wanted to deal with it and be forgiving as she showed genuine remorse (possibly) but I knew she could not ever respect me the same if I did that. I think a lot of men dont understand this.
"What would you do different? I would told him the first time he found out about everything." That shows everything someone needs to know. She is not remorseful about the cheating, she is remorseful about being caught. Poor guy.
@@kylehackett162 I have made many mistakes in my life and try my best to learn from them but some people simply cannot be trusted and she is one of them
This happened to me after 15 years. I tried my best to forgive and heal, but she checked out and was done. My counselor recognized that right away and prepared me for the amputation and ultimately the divorce. It's been a painful several years but I've got to a point where I'm enjoying my single life now and trying to be a good dad to my kids.
@@thundersnow93 this is why men should never get married. Only keep long term partners. Women are scam artists, most will cheat eventually, they are not logical.
@King Of Crunk Remember that the next time you hear about someone getting scammed with $$. Everyone has temptation. Some people are better at spotting someone who is weaker than others and prey on them. Tell them everything they want to hear. So, it doesn't take 2 to tango. It only takes one good salesman.
Right, the answer should’ve been I wouldn’t have cheated. She also reveals a lie in that moment she stumbles on saying the first time. Then tries to clear it up by saying I should’ve told him everything the first time. Couple that with her only stopping bc she was caught. My conclusion is she didn’t just have sex with the trainer one time.
Cheaters do not deserve a second chance if you value yourself (the husband in this case). If he tries to mend it with her it will eventually start to eat him up, instead of her which is not worth it and totally unfair to him.
Run as far away from her as you can. Life is too short to live with someone like that. Shouldn't her answer to that question have been "I wouldn't have done it at all"? These women feel guilty when the man they chose over their partner turns out to either not want them, not be a good guy or both. See ya later. Don't ever try to make it work with a person like this, you already look weak when you take them back. Have self-respect, and if you have kids be the best father you can be.
I was cheated on after four years and I can't explain how crushing it was. I'm engaged (to someone else) today, and I still hurt over it. And small little things make me nervous. I can't stand how she giggles about what happened (I know it's nervous laughs) but it's frustrating that she doesn't get it. Ugh. Poor guy. If I were him, and I found out, that relationship would be over immediately.
Same. Can totally relate. I divorced my exh: 16 years together. Met in high school. Both each other's firsts. That's a level of betrayal and intimacy that...6 years later after divorce. It stays with you. Was the love of my life. Fortunately no kids. I don't think cheaters get it.
@@brandymeidl7126 That’s horrible, horrible. People that have not experienced it have no frame of reference about how deeply this hurts and how long lasting that pain is. Best of luck to you
If For the safety of their kids, Another solution is letting him to f**k another woman to be equal in this situation then they can give peace each other, I know that sounds pretty bad but believe me it works
@@Guitarlvr01 I would actually forgive my wife if she came clean and told me. Obviously, she would have to give me one free pass, and she would have to understand why that’s fair. But I would 100% forgive her. However, I would NOT forgive her hiding it
@@Guitarlvr01 basically, if she doesn’t tell me until I find out, the relationship is over. If she comes to me and confesses before I’m suspicious, then I forgive her, as long as she’s understanding of me also getting a free pass. That way, neither one of us got cucked
This woman is clearly a terrible person. First she cheated through premeditation. Planned meeting up and did the deed, that wasn’t an accident. Now she’s lying by omission and hiding it from the person she hurt. Now she’s asking if she even needs to tell him? What an awful person.
You got that right. She’s my sister in law and we are just now finding this out in my family. She did not only did this once, but 4 times with 4 guys in a year alone. Such a tragic situation for the family right now
She’s not gonna tell him. She just needed to say this out loud to someone whose not in her close circle. This was her outlet. She’s had plenty of time to tell Him and now that things are going better since he found out there’s no way she s going to open that wound up again.
That is exactly what I was thinking. She has no plans on telling her husband. She probably is only calling the show because she gets off from the drama and is probably getting excited reliving her affair. She uses language that shows she is avoiding ownership of her behavior (such as calling her affair and "unhealthy relationship"). Very typical woman who deflects personal responsibility at all costs. I'll bet IF her husband ever finds out, she will immediately soften her actions by diverting blame onto her husband (he was not there enough for her) and the other man (he seduced her and she was vulnerable). I would file for divorce if I was her husband (if he ever finds out). She will never hold herself responsible for her actions.
@@elainenilsson5472 If she was smart, she wouldn't have destroyed her entire family just for a selfish, base moment of pleasure. That is not a smart woman.
I can tell you from experience that this is what's happening. My ex's outlet was the other guy. I had hard evidence of the affair for months and gave her multiple chances to confess, and even after I confronted her with the evidence she still lied about it and after months of the story changing it was finally enough for me to admit that I'd had enough. She knows it's over, she's just prolonging the husbands pain because of her own cowardice.
@@jutde sorry to hear that. Can I ask you, how did you live with her for months knowing that she was having an affair at the same time and not confront her? That would have been very hard for me to know that every time she left the house, she might be going to her other dude. I can't imagine sleeping next to someone like that every night.
This is why when you are dating someone seriously or married to someone. You shouldn't be around others as if you are single. We are often told that you are jealous or insecure if we don't want our spouse to do certain things, but in reality we are rightfully protecting your relationships and having boundaries. Having no boundaries and acting like you are single when you're not leads to broken homes, relationships, and hearts.
Yeah I go to the gym w a sweatshirt and shorts on. No reason to draw attention to myself. She was probably in leggings in a gym. Recipe for complete attention from every guy in the gym. She knew this and her husband did as well. He should have spoke up at the beginning but probably didn’t expect a gym trainer and Starbucks would lead to a private cardio workout.
@@PasturePig a respectful person will wear whatever they want and when they are approached they make it clear they are happily married . Has nothing to do with what you wear
Yeah, have boundaries 100%, don't be flirting with randos. But what do you mean by "you shouldn't be around others", like you aren't allowed to go to the gym or grocery store or office without your spouse? That's not really realistic. We need to be able to trust our partner to behave well when they're out and about without us.
This affair would have continued multiple times if the husband didn't find out she was talking to someone else. She might have decided it was a one time thing but once the excitement winds down and she starts craving it again she would have contacted the guy from the gym again. We all know how this goes.
@@israelrosario3922 pretty sure extreme guilt counts as a consequence. You don't always have to be told off by someone else to not repeat a mistake you did
@@michelleh4717 This woman does not show any guilt. She only shows fear of getting caught down the road. If this blows over and her husband never finds out she cheated, she will eventually get bored again and she will start another "friendship" with a strange man, and it will "just happen" again. Women (all people, but especially women) seem to act as poorly as they think they can get away with. Very few people have actual integrity these days....
Been in that exact boat as the dude😂. Just give it up, “leaned in” did it all, its not worth it, if it’s not this, then it’ll be something else down the road with this woman
This is tough because when it comes down to it you put your relationship and your children’s stability at risk for a dude at the gym that probably flirts and does this type of thing with a lot of women. Unfortunately this is the *choice* (not mistake) that a lot of married men and women make and it’s not worth it.
@@zeal4god402 unfortunately this type of thinking is very naive. No other guy owes you or your relationship anything. It is 100% on the ones in the relationship. Instead of acknowledging thus though, it's easier to blame others.
The way she speaks about him says all we need to know "Oh he shouldn't be too surprised" "He's a safe guy". She's only admitting it now because she thinks he's going to find out about it from someone else guaranteed. She's a POS, ruined everything in that family. She's not yours, it's just your turn.
By "found herself" in a toxic relationship, what she really means is that she "chose" a relationship. Her husband is the one that "found himself" in a toxic relationship. With her.
@@Lejuno1hard disagree, keeping this secret is just as much of a marriage killer as the cheating itself. Tell him, hope to god he forgives, earn the trust back, and most importantly, NEVER DO IT AGAIN!
If the guy knows his worth, he’ll file for divorce, hire a solid attorney, seek counseling, and begin the long, drawn out process of moving on with his life
That advice was missing. Thx for writing it. It really needs a lot more insight before deciding what the best action is but here being " honest" can also be a selfish " act.
@@listrahteswell he’s gonna find out eventually…. And if she does say something he will be able to forgive her… if he ever finds out and not from her than it is truly over
Exactly. Telling him is only a way to get a weight off her shoulders. It's selfish. If she really is repentant, then she should suck it up, deal with the guilt on her own, keep the load on her own shoulders and never do it again.
Listen to the minimizing language women use. - Made a mistake - Found myself in an unhealthy relationship - We started talking Women don't take responsibility for their actions. They find a way to justify their behavior to themselves and those around them.
The most unfair unkind thing my husband did was to tell me he slept with another woman while we were married. He immediately told me he wanted to be forgiven and that I could never bring it up again. I never recovered, and I believe it was selfish for him to lay that burden on me.
@@alluringbliss4165 I was cheated on and yea, I would’ve rather just not have ever known. Full disclosure, I’m also guilty of cheating once too- I realized messed up and instead of burdening my boyfriend with the truth of my selfish action, I broke up with him even though I really liked him. I felt he deserved a better woman than me, he was amazing. I was young, dumb, and learned how terrible it feels and would never do that to anyone again.
@@molls0922 I would much rather want to know the truth then live in a lie. I would have much greater respect for my wife if she told me, then if I had to find out otherwise. But, I would never see her the same way again either way.
@@molls0922 I did not see this reply till today. I see where you are coming, I would broken up too , some people get really traumatized by cheating. On the other hand, I would rather know unless he breaks up with me.
I hope the husband uses this phone call in court. Hopefully the judge by some miracle will have a brain and not grant this girl any money from her son to be exhusband
I was thinking the same thing. She may not even tell him. Typical entitled suburb style of doing things. To her its merely a mistake and i think she is more upset that she has to confront it than upset about the actual act itself. She would rather just move on like its no big deal... Have met similar
Yep. The guilt is eating her inside, but she wouldn’t hesitate to do it again. The husband’s forgiveness is the point where she will feel safe to do it again.
She will get custody of his children plus child support so she won't be getting tossed onto any street. He is the biggest loser in this scenario. He certainly wouldn't be able to trust her again after being lied to twice and this was after he caught her out. It's in her interest to make the marriage work for the sake of the children, but next time she has marriage trouble what's to stop her seeking comfort elsewhere again. I don't know what I'd do in this situation, if he isn't able to forgive 100% the marriage will never work and it will be 100 times worse for them both mentally. I would give it 12 months though to see if time and counselling can heal.
@@aaa-dc5us depends if she was married or not. If she was 19 when she cheated on her boy friend in college I'm sure I could give her the benefit of the doubt.
Just goes to show, over and over again, if a woman tells you “it was nothing, it was just coffee”, or whatever coffee means (metaphorically). It is NEVER just coffee, it’s never just a hug, just a harmless kiss. It is ALWAYS a sexual relationship, and women will lie through their teeth because they think men aren’t programmed to feel when we’re being betrayed.
i was with my highschool sweetheart for 14 years and she cheated on me when i was working away. it took me to the brink of suicide, to be betrayed like that, I have not felt a more intense pain in my life. long story short is that there's plenty more women out there and they're not all cheaters. don't put up with that kind of disrespect. she can go back to where she belongs which is to the streets.
@@sh4wnb880I think you’re a good judge of emotion and have a good emotional intelligence. People listening to this either have a lot of betrayal trauma or don’t have emotional intelligence atm.
@@jadegreen1554 go to any video that says anything similar to this one's subject matter and you will see a bunch of ""red pill"" men who just seem to be displaying betrayal trauma
@@elfascisto6549so i feel desperately sorry for people who have been betrayed- i dont think i can even begin to imagine how aweful that must be. But, this woman, imho, is NOT some 'piece of filth' that many of the comments suggest. Yes, she made a terrible, terrible mistake. And she needs to own that. And that stage of life with small kids IS hard on a marriage- any married couple with kids can testify. I personally hope that the husband stays in the relationship- there are 2 innocent kids and a united home is simply better for them. Again, i have no right to judge if the man chooses to not stay, as i have never been cheated on by my gorgeous wife, and i will always be faithful to her. Ultimately, i hope that this woman learns some valuable lessons. I have read that an affair is never an event- its a process that starts with too much eye contact, too many compliments, which leads to, which leads to etc etc. I have always maintained that a close purely mutulally platonic relationship with a member of the opposite sex is impossible.
@@jadegreen1554she may be laughing because she’s nervous, doesn’t change how she is constantly deflecting responsibility, she also doesn’t seem sorry that she did it, she seems sorry he found out something shady was going on.
This woman never told her husband about cheating, kept doing it and got pregnant from the other guy. They’re divorced now. I heard about this from her ex husband’s brother. She felt no remorse for any of this
Your post should be further up the list. Awful woman and I got the feeling she just called hoping the presenter would say best keep that bit quiet forever.
Honestly if he heard this id be out. Idk if yall can hear it when someone's happy over the phone. But she's an easy read. She liked cheating that was a big kink for her. Probably some ugly girl when she was young and couldn't deal with adult life. Hope she's paying child support.
I am so sick and tired of people saying that cheating is a mistake, it’s not. A mistake is missing an exit on the freeway or forgetting my keys. Cheating is a conscience decision that people make with much thought behind it. And I hate when John says you are brave for coming forward with this. Admitting that you committed adultery on your spouse is not brave, it’s cowardly and selfish. A person who is brave is one who confesses going through major trauma and coming through it and confessing it.
Big on that last part. If you’re feeling horrible and and are thus dedicated to preventing it from ever being a temptation again, wouldn’t the idea of saving him the burden of the thought and living with it as a form of repentance or something be the out your lizard brain is looking for?
Her husband has to divorce her when he finds out, she has two small children and she did *_THIS_* . She has treated him with contempt and she is _very_ confident that her husband will let her get away with it - it's sad but he will never get over it, he has to leave.
If For the safety of their kids, Another solution is letting him to f**k another woman to be equal in this situation then they can give peace each other, I know that sounds pretty bad but believe me it works
If only it were that simple. So he files for divorce because of her infidelity just so HE can pay HER child support and see his kids every other weekend and a few hours on a weekday.......how is that a win for him? Sounds like a win for her. She gets to call up Chad and have him move in, gets 30% of her ex's pay and gets the kids the majority of the time. And then we wonder why all of our kids are messed up these days. It's a crazy world we live in.
@@ivankrushensky The woman always wins when the man is dumb enough to sign a marriage contract - this way she wins a bit less & her life becomes a bit more uncomfortable financially, but I agree it's still awful for the man. *DO. NOT. GET. MARRIED.*
She packed on a few pounds after baby # 2 headed to the gym to feel better about herself and the first chad/Tyrone that gives her more than a friendly smile she bangs and all it took was a $4 coffee lmao
Now hiring: personal trainer. Want to get paid and laid, sign up for an interview. Flexible hours, perks include free gym membership and one-on-one sessions with overweight middle age women who could use some attention. Acting skills a plus.
Side note- this woman has no remorse. Very easy to feel it in her voice and how she expresses herself in this. She fears the consequences of her actions. It is sickening.
Disgusting. She has no right to cry about all the people (kids) that will be affected by this. DIdnt care at the time she decided to get some strange dik in her!
The 100% selfish stonewalling dishonesty, about the sleeping with the guy, is even worse than the affair itself. Far worse. Because she had to do it over and over a thousand times. THAT breach of trust, the lies about the big lie, reveals everything to the husband about her true character.
She doesn't respect him enough to tell him the truth that is the problem. The husband is playing honesty and she is hiding cards. Its like a classroom scrambling looking for the last puzzle piece whilst the smug bully hides it in his pocket. The smugness comes just from deceit and its a sort of false power trip
Notice how when he said “ if you could go back and do this all differently, what would you do?” Her response was to tell him straight away and not to actually cheat on him in the first place. She belongs to the streets.
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My wife did this to me, she told me that she 'kissed a guy' and that it was a mistake and it was over, I took us to counselling. The therapist saw through her lies in 5 minutes and she cracked open. Turns out she had a full blown emotional and sexual relationship with a coworker for a year. I'm divorcing her now. Cheaters are the biggest selfish assholes on earth.
Stay strong friend. Been there
If they tell you it’s worst then whatever they tell ya. I found out my wife had an emotional relationship I let her cheat a lot of family and friends where mad when this was revealed I made sure her parents caught her 1 day I invited them out to lunch same spot my ex wife and BF would go. Knowing she would of cheated but I stopped her I wouldn’t be able to trust her the same way so why not let her go full tilt
Betrayal. That's the hardest to deal with. If a stranger is cruel to you, it hurts less because you never invested your deepest trust to that person.
Stay strong.
Good for you man. And im sorry yours going through this. Be strong in the Lord.
She didn’t just betray her husband. She betrayed her whole family. Poor kids.
Are those kids even his? He should demand a DNA test.
That statement is true.
@@cennon So true
Seriously don’t understand this, as someone who works out 5/6 days a week this is so common too. She destroys her family for a trainer who is probably running through women. As someone who has a couple friends who are trainers some of the stories they have shared with me are pretty crazy. Honestly if your a husband build a home gym for your wife. It’s crazy how many times married women have flirted with me at the gym and I am just a guy whose slightly above average looking but in great shape. This is just very common unfortunately.
@@johnsmith-kt7ef It's not about you Satan is just trying to destroy what you have
"I found myself in a relationship"
"He just started talking to me"
"We ended up sleeping together"
"I made a mistake"
No accountability. At all. If she had any she'd say "I chose to cheat on my husband. It was awful and now I don't know what to do."
Typical woman
sounds like narc traits
do you know men who say I chose to cheat on my wife. This is the lack of unaccountability in people.
They never take responsibility.It’s always someone else’s fault
@@eyoung8215yes all the guys I know that did something like that said it openly 😂😂 men admit it pretty easily. I have yet to hear a woman do the same.
She cheated.
She manipulated the situation.
She gaslighted him by lying.
Why do people refer to cheating as a “mistake”? It’s not a mistake. Cheating is a choice. You do not trip and fall and land on another man or woman’s privates. 🤦🏻♀️
Because she wants to sound less guilty. It’s something manipulators do.
I agree...but look up Ehsan Abdulaziz
People can regret their bad actions. A mistake is an action or judgement that was misguided or wrong.
"Mistake" is not synonymous with "accident." Mistakes are intentional, bad decisions which can lead to accidents. Accidents are unintentional, like the consequences from mistakes. I think you're using them interchangeably.
You are so right
What the heck is this? She found herself in an unhealthy relationship? Found herself? Like she had nothing to do with engaging that relationship, starting that relationship, participating in that relationship? She just found herself there. The way I find a dollar on the floor.
She is a horrible person Louis.
Louis Rossman :D didn't know you followed Dave Ramsey
Nice to see you here Louis. 😁
It was an entanglement
It's just a way of saying she got caught up in it. No huge deal.
The fact that when she was asked “if you could do this all over what would you do differently?” And she didn’t immediately say not cheat on my husband speaks VOLUMES
You’d think that would’ve been her immediate response.
Yep. This is about her guilt. I feel bad for her husband.
That was shocking to me too. Her answer was more about her than not hurting him. Makes me wonder how much she really loves her husband.
The only reason that she is telling him is so that she can feel better. It has nothing to do with him.
I thought the same thing
John is way easier on this woman than other men who have called in regarding the same subject. Come on John.
For whatever reason, most people are easier on female cheaters than male cheaters.
Might be the crocodile tears.
@@zsefton It’s kinda gross because they control more of the sex aspect of it all. They are the ones who open their legs.
Because she sounds hot. Men are wired that way.
The fact she lowkey admitted the affair only stopped because the husband found out about the messages is sickening.
And even then she didn’t tell him the whole truth. I hope he listens to the show and recognizes her voice.
Women are disgusting. She’s probably more worried about losing his providing for her than the relationship. How she ends up stacking shelves as a single woman in her 70’s
If the loser trainer made enough money to support her she would still be with the trainer and bounced on her husband. She sucks.
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@TheGrimConspiracy I have a life and have been actually touched by a women. So I'm good.
This woman isn’t sorry for cheating. She’s sorry she got caught. When asked what would do differently, she never said she wouldn’t have cheated.
She isn't, there's a reddit story that came out at the same time roughly that matches this story. Her comments were outrageous.
@@naraendrareddy273can you post a link?
@@jim2386 Just search "Wife cheated on husband with gym trainer reddit". It'll be the top search result
F for link
I think it’s funny how things became “really well” in their marriage in 2 months! It went from horrible to very well in 2 months. She didn’t really get caught. She side stepped what was found out with a lie. She’s talked to people and GOOGLE and knows she’s wrong. I think she didn’t like how she got treated afterwards by the personal trainer or maybe found out she wasn’t the only one the trainer was complimenting on her form. She said she was so stupid. She thinks she’s stupid cause she realized the PT played her, not because she threw her family under the bus!
As a married man - this really hurts my heart
Yeah right!!... No good husband and No good wife deserves that!!.. ❤️
@@BrandyTH-cam99Is he willing to go to couple’s counseling? If he’s not willing to work on your relationship and be honest with you, it’s time for you to leave. Life is precious and you don’t deserve to waste a single second longer with someone who disrespects you. There are good men out there who would never even dream of hurting you like that.
@@BrandyTH-cam99 you gotta ask yourself if he told you the truth would you forgive him? If the answer is "no" then you gotta do what's best for you and your child and just leave. He'll never respect you enough to tell you the truth, much less not keep cheating on you in the future. If he thinks he got away with it once, he'll do it again. I hate cheaters, my ex wife cheated on me and didn't admit it until I caught her red handed.
@@BrandyTH-cam99I’ve dealt with situations like yours professionally for over 30 years. You’re in a tough spot. I usually try to encourage people to try to work things out. But in situations like yours I advise people to get out of the relationship if at all possible.
Pretty naive getting married at all 50% of marriages end up in divorce and 40% of married couples are in a unhappy marriage.
He said “bravery.” People love to sugar coat things for women and put them on a pedestal.
Fucking pisses me off. It allows her to skate around it.
Affairs should be felonies.
It might be a way to make her feel comfortable with being honest. I think anyone can see that this woman is a piece of absolute trash who cares only about preserving herself.
Yeah I can't stand this dude's beating around the bush. Towards men and women.
Yeah what a lame, bad bad advice, making this girl feel like a victim and she’s somehow “brave”
“I was in an unhealthy relationship” I swear, these girls can’t just admit what they did.
Right. I wanted John to ask what she meant by that
@@AntiAshley yeah, he usually makes people clarify but I think he knew right off the bat where she was going with this.
Hard Times create Strong Men
Strong Men create Good Times
Good Times create Weak Men
Weak Men create Hard Times (WE are here)
This is the thing with the majority of Women, they want the authority of a Man, with the privileges of a Woman and the accountability of a child. Her opening up with “I was in an unhealthy relationship” is a prime example.
Which relationship was she referring to as the unhealthy one? The one with her husband or the one with the family wrecker? 🤔
He gotta get outta there. She doesn’t love him. He was just the “safe” guy.
yep🎤
So what? 😂
@@manuelvalencia2828so what? You have to be a woman. That man needs to go ahead and leave. You should NEVER be the safe guy. She should be head over heels for you other wise she will go heels over head for someone else. Just like this woman did. 🤷🏾♂️
She’s for the streets end of story!
She very much does love him or this wouldn't be eating her alive
Imagine you are a happy married husband and you casually listen to youtube, suddenly you hear your wife.
I wonder about this everytime..
😂😂
Then you’re clearly not a happily married husband, are you? 😅
@@NiKtHeB0Ss not anymore
I know, that would have to suck and hurt so bad.
She's a cheater.
She's a liar, even when caught.
She's STILL looking for validation for her decision to keep the truth from her betrayed husband.
Every day she keeps it from him compounds her betrayal with another lie of omission.
The longer she waits, the worse it'll be.
She won't tell him, she is looking to justify not telling him
Sometimes telling is the more selfish act. It really depends.
No@@listrahtes
@@listrahtesnaw that would be selfish. Thinking about yourself
You don’t tell him.
Telling him is hurting him more than anything. What good can come out of this?
This is so awful. Charles Spurgeon once said, "So many times we trade an ocean of trouble for just a teaspoon of pleasure." Sin is a dreadful thing that should never be entertained.
The wages of sin is death and in this case, death of intimacy, death of joyful communication, and possible death of the marriage
I like that quote.
Must be pretty cold up there, on your high horse. Sometimes you just have to embrace a bit of darkness to feel alive. Dogma leads to death. Live and let live.
@@SDALLE99 If you need to feel alive, jump from a high cliff preferably without a parachute. Just leave other people out of your "darkness".
@@zeal4god402 I really think this is a big danger at gyms. Any personal trainer should not take their clients out for coffee- they should set up strict boundaries so this doesn't happen. Just asking for trouble.
She can’t find the right time to tell her husband, but she’s got plenty of time to work out and cheat on her husband while he’s potentially watching their kids at this time
@@6birddog9Yeah....registry. Cool. How profound do you think this is to post it in every thread?
@@scourge8097 hahaha spread the wordddd
Would you be any different?
Women follow their feelings, not logic. And feelings can be manipulated.
You could be manipulated to do exactly the same thing.
"Just goin down the gym again hon...love you...*whips mobile out*"
@@ArmageddonIsHerethat’s an whore excuse.
This is the worst type of person: her husband didn’t like her hanging out with that guy and told her his reason, she says nothing will happen and continues to hang out with him. Something happened and then she lies about it for months/years. BTW she’s still lying, I really doubt they only hooked up once, why would you cheat on your husband and only do it once? It wasn’t the guilt, because she’s been flirting for months…
She may have only been PHYSICALLY unfaithful with the trainer, but when she said “talking like I wasn’t married” tells me she was flirting with possibly more guys than she’s willing to admit.
lol why is it always trainers that break up marriages
EXACTLY...her closing statement said a lot.
That's a big assumption. She's obviously devastated ans regrets she did this, i think if she's so guilty and wants to come clean she would have said if there was more.
@@rachelrivera2997 She clearly sounds like the flirtatious type. The kind who gets turned on by humour and social proof. I don't sense any regret in her voice. She's never cried. It's just tough to hold it in for her. It's all about HER and not much about him. Their marriage is done mostly. And we need an update on this.
@RetroBlue it's very dangerous to have a personal trainer when one is married especially if the marriage has problems. As women we are emotionally beings and sometimes get caught up. Glad that didn't happen to me. I had a personal trainer yes attractive but was never fond of his personality. Even if I was single he wouldn't of been my type.
If the husband hadn’t found out about the communicating right after the hook up had occurred, she would have happily continued cheating with the trainer at the gym. But she got caught ‘communicating’ so she had to cut her losses before her husband found out about the sexual affair. I hope the husband has the courage and self respect to leave her and never look back. She knew EXACTLY what she was doing every step of the way; and she doesn’t deserve a second chance. She said she lied because she was scared about losing everyone & everything? Funny how that fear didn’t cross her mind when she made the choice to throw it all away.
No one thinks they will talk.
UGLY-ZACKLY !
She didnt think about it when she was sucking the other man’s duck
exactly.
Yup, I agree with everything you said. I will add (it kills me do defend her) that at least she has some what of a conscience. Most women I know, including one that I've dated will take the sexual part of the affair to the grave and not talk about it with anyone. At least it bothers her
The pain I feel for this guy, and his children, so sad.
Not gonna lie…I had PTSD while listening to this
@@marcusarelius Same, except was a serial cheater, and never apologized or felt guilt for anything lol but fortunately we didn't have any kids, and she kept her student loans. Much luckier than most guys.
This was hard to listen to for sure.
@@marcusarelius same
Are they really his children. Doubt he got a paternity test.
Ever notice that women almost never call it cheating. It’s always “a relationship with” or “an entanglement with”. Just my anecdotal perspective.
She is also making herself sound like a victim. The only reason she wants to tell him is to clear her guilt.
Good Eye. She even hesitated about going back and changing things. She's only sorry she got caught.
It’s an entanglement 😡
Because they take no responsibility
Nice observation 😷😷
When people cheat, someone’s health is literally in jeopardy.
Stds are a bit h
Damn right
So true. Not just physically but mentally and emotionally.
and if they lie, multiple lives are in jeoperdy. Lost my uncle in his 30s because his wife lied and he never got treatment. Hepitites destroyed his liver because he was non the wiser and a vaccine would have fixed it. Did SHE get murder charged? Nope, cus we live in a matriarchy.
Someone’s life is literally in jeopardy
Not only did she sleep with this other guy but she lied to her husband about it in counseling. That relationship will never be the same. Trust is gone. Ive been there.
Totally agree. He probably went into counseling thinking “this is where the truth comes out and I think I’m open to forgiving.”. Now that the window has closed, lord knows what he’ll do.
SAME. Been there. It won’t change
@@gunner3921what's sad she probably did things sexually with the other man that she never does with her husband, and that's another thing 😅
Yeah. Not sure it's salvageable.
Same here lots of us have.
Gotta be the worst thing a person can do to another. Ultimate slap in the face
Only thing her husband needs is a good lawyer and some strange..
A mistake is accidentally forgetting to turn the oven off. Cheating on your husband / partner is a series of intentional bad decisions, not "a mistake". The fact that she considers this "a mistake" is telling of the kind of person she is in her day-to-day life. Poor husband and kids.
I'm 49 years old, and I was cheated on when I was 30. I still feel the pain 🥺 when I hear about it happening to others.
What if you could've chosen to never find out and live a happy marriage
@@dalpz205 nope... I don't want a relationship based on a lie. The truth always comes out.
@@kenmorgan316 No, not always. You just don't hear about it when it doesn't. But was just curious if you'd rather not have had the pain of knowing.
@@kenmorgan316 it's been 20 years. Don't you think it's time to move on? Im sure the cheater has definitely moved on, so did your friends and family
@@blackbutterfly233ify I don't dwell on it anymore. But when I watch things like this on TH-cam it is a constant reminder.
Tell your husband, so he can leave you
Yes
Yes
And then the judge will still give her 70% of everything and make him pay alimony and child support. And she’ll convince the kids it was his fault.
And she will run back to the guy she cheated with lol
That's just rude😡
She didn't stop seeing her trainer until her husband found out about them communicating. Which means she wasn't going to stop seeing him if she could have kept it under wraps.
And that also means that her husband cares for her and he gives her attention to the chick on what she was doing, that just closes the mouth of those who say he didn't give her attention!!! She just fell for the best looking trainer forgetting that she's a mother and has a husband.
i mean she could have just left it like that and move on and dont tell him that she slept with him but she cant live with herself and yea that theres stories of ppl that can but thats not working for her
@@lilblackfish2009woah a cheater feeling bad about cheating. She’s just a gardening tool
Exactly. Gotta leave this woman asap.
The trainer folded her up like an origami and cream pied her.
I call BS on only getting plowed by this Chad 1 time. She was getting her back blown out daily
He will never trust her again, it's over. She outright lied to her husband when he confronted her about a sexual encounter.
She stated that husband will forgive her. I bet he is torturing himself.
Hope he left her by now
He is a 🤡 for forgiving her when he found out she went out with him
5 years of marriage AND 2 kids and you still couldn't resist not destroying that? That's sooooo dumb. I don't understand people sometimes.
💯
Yes
And the kids are likely not biologically his
👏🏽
@@grizzlybear2702 don't do that
She didn't just do this to the husband. Everyone forgets, she did this to her own children.
Will no one think of the CHILDREN!!!!
Also her own intermediate family and her inlaws as well
@@matthewgardner2144 It doesn't look like it.
I'm sorry but children are not involved in the marriage. They're part of the family unit but they're not in the marriage. People say that they stayed for the kids all the time. The kids are relevant to the relationship between the two adults. You never involve your children in your marriage
I don't think everyone forgets but sure lol
Cheating is not a “mistake.” It’s a grown and conscious decision…
“I thought maybe I could get out of this….” “This is a rescue for me because it’s not going to go well, so I want a way out.” “Yes, I’m married. THATS the problem.”
That’s not bravery. This girl has zero respect for her husband. Her only concern is herself. Her body, her looks, her attention, her lack of responsibility, her lack of confrontation. It’s her her her her her.
She doesn’t love this man. She’s scarred of loosing a stable partner, but she’s not scared of loosing HIM
I agree 100%.
I agree !
Savage truth.
I hate cheaters
@@gamer67678 me too !
He WILL NEVER Forgive or Forget this…
She is a Narcissist and actually is proud of herself. She is not ignorant of what she did. It was not a mistake.
Marriage was ruined when the government took it over and created no fault divorce. Imagine getting cheated on, then having to give her half your stuff, pay spousal support, half your retirement, losing your kids, paying child support etc.
Modern marriage is a contract where the woman benefits from breaking it.
She knows what she did. She could go on without telling him, but she is not.
You could hear the smile in her voice.
@@tunkytunkyOw he made her shutter with pleasure and I don’t believe for a moment she’s not seeing him on the side.
@@map3384 yes
She got busted AND only wants to tell him because of guilt.
What a selfless woman!
he’s gonna leave her as soon as she tells him.
You mean selfish. Right?
@Tony-bp1nr You are right. Thank you.
@@ryanzackel2019hopefully. He absolutely should leave her. Can’t ever have trust in a relationship after that.
Right. Notice how she led off with the relationship toxicity. She’s trying to obfuscate total accountability. And she’s calling into this show to hopefully, selfishly, remove her own guilt. She WANTS to bury this. But her conscience is killing her. But she doesn’t want to look like the bad guy.
Once trust is broken, I don't think it can ever be mended.
I agree that genuine trust & faith are gone forever. What she can do is be faithful to herself every single day and be faithful to him in every way, no matter how small. Her honesty is her best way to some amount of trust.
It can but one must take personal accountability and seek to understand the root cause of their actions. May all people heal.
@@TEM14411nope. This rat 🐀 committed adultry.
@@TEM14411 anyone that forgives cheating and tries to make it work, is a naïve fool. if they're older than 20s, theyre idiots
@@stoned_kakapo8736 all judgement returns to sender.
It crossed the line at meeting outside of the gym. Lunch, coffee, etc... its a no no. Those are relationship building activities. It builds closeness and intimacy.
Do you know how much effort, thought and premeditation has to go into actually sleeping with someone?! Its not a mistake , its a decision you made.
Right! It's not like they ran to the gym showers.. They made plans, got ready for those plans, probably lied to go out to those plans and then decided to go home together or to a hotel. She wanted this. It was an affair.
Yep
Premeditated. Yes, took careful planning.
Yep
Well said
"Then he FOUND" out about us communicating" so if her husband never found out she would keep seeing this guy?... sounds like it to me
Going off how she is handling herself in this call, I think she would’ve felt extremely guilty regardless and caved in at some point early on
But who knows
@@4mr4goldfish4ily4 clearly not, "early on" would've been before she got her back blown out.
@Dr. OBELA cured me no one cares.
@@4mr4goldfish4ily4 wrong
Imagine having two children… married for 5 years… and still decide to cheat. This fucking world is a scary scary sick place.
My dad did this when I was 7 or 8 urs old...it tore me my twin brother and my mom...I have forgiven him 16 yes later but I dotn accept him as my father anymore
@@SamuelPradhanisfitso stupid. If a man cheats it’s just sex and he still lives the woman he’s with, for women, they cannot love a man and cheat. Men can.
@@SamuelPradhanisfit Some people aren't ready to be parents.
@@Melior_Traiano that is y making children without conscious discussion is wrong brother
Well her personal trainer is obviously a pro at picking up women, he's good looking, tall, and her husband probably doesn't workout and is probably a push-over.
The lying makes this so much worse. Especially after going to counselling and lying to the counsellor
She joined the gym to find exactly what she was looking for, and she found it. She waited until the end of the conversation to reveal that she was the one presenting herself as single and available. She has learned nothing and I really believe she wants him to end the relationship so she doesn’t have to.
Exactly rhe comment have been looking for! She wanted to cheat so badly that she presented herself as single.
If you want to end the marriage then you can tell him.
Why can't a married person go to the gym?! 😂 That's a ridiculous statement to make lol 😆 @@Hillsman001
@@Hybeekay99 who says ppl who present themself as taken dont cheat lol or ppl who meet someone that say thier taken care what dose that have to do with them lol married ppl cheat with other married ppl it happens all the time
@@lilblackfish2009No one said that. You’re reading comprehension is on a 3rd grade level. She wanted to chest so bad she appeared as single. No one said people that appear as married dont cheat. Read carefully next time
wife cheated on me. She wanted us to stay together. But I explained that a woman can never again fully respect a man who would allow that and stay with her. She will never look at him quite the same for tolerating it. I dont make the rules. Thats the wiring.
Good on you. You are 100% correct.
@@seecklara3893 Thanks. I wanted to deal with it and be forgiving as she showed genuine remorse (possibly) but I knew she could not ever respect me the same if I did that. I think a lot of men dont understand this.
Truth
You are 1000% correct.
💯 accurate!
"What would you do different? I would told him the first time he found out about everything." That shows everything someone needs to know. She is not remorseful about the cheating, she is remorseful about being caught. Poor guy.
She is both a cheater AND a liar, run for the hills my friend that is not a wife
Yeah she's a compulsive liar for sure
Must be nice to have never made a mistake yourself eh?
@@kylehackett162 I have made many mistakes in my life and try my best to learn from them but some people simply cannot be trusted and she is one of them
She belongs to the streets (gyms) and misery is her future
This whole comment section acting like they’re above these things lol
Cheating seems to be the only situation where the victim is expected to work out the terms of how they played a role in their victimization. SMH
I feel bad for the guy. 5 years wasted. I could never forgive my wife if she did that to me.
This happened to me after 15 years. I tried my best to forgive and heal, but she checked out and was done. My counselor recognized that right away and prepared me for the amputation and ultimately the divorce. It's been a painful several years but I've got to a point where I'm enjoying my single life now and trying to be a good dad to my kids.
@@thundersnow93 this is why men should never get married. Only keep long term partners. Women are scam artists, most will cheat eventually, they are not logical.
@@thundersnow93 Ditto
@@thundersnow93 you sound like a good man, best of luck to you.
@King Of Crunk Remember that the next time you hear about someone getting scammed with $$. Everyone has temptation. Some people are better at spotting someone who is weaker than others and prey on them. Tell them everything they want to hear. So, it doesn't take 2 to tango. It only takes one good salesman.
She is so selfish, she never thinks about how hurt HE will be. Just worried about herself. He would have to be full of grace to trust her ever again
13:25 “What would you do different” “I would have told him the first time.” And THAT’s what reveals her real character. Hope he ran.
Right, the answer should’ve been I wouldn’t have cheated. She also reveals a lie in that moment she stumbles on saying the first time. Then tries to clear it up by saying I should’ve told him everything the first time. Couple that with her only stopping bc she was caught. My conclusion is she didn’t just have sex with the trainer one time.
Cheaters do not deserve a second chance if you value yourself (the husband in this case). If he tries to mend it with her it will eventually start to eat him up, instead of her which is not worth it and totally unfair to him.
Jesus she is a monster
Bingo
Run as far away from her as you can. Life is too short to live with someone like that. Shouldn't her answer to that question have been "I wouldn't have done it at all"? These women feel guilty when the man they chose over their partner turns out to either not want them, not be a good guy or both. See ya later. Don't ever try to make it work with a person like this, you already look weak when you take them back. Have self-respect, and if you have kids be the best father you can be.
It must be extremely chard to forgive someone who cheated on you, and then lied about it as well.
It is like being cheated twice :( Poor guy!
I was cheated on after four years and I can't explain how crushing it was. I'm engaged (to someone else) today, and I still hurt over it. And small little things make me nervous. I can't stand how she giggles about what happened (I know it's nervous laughs) but it's frustrating that she doesn't get it. Ugh. Poor guy. If I were him, and I found out, that relationship would be over immediately.
Same. Can totally relate. I divorced my exh: 16 years together. Met in high school. Both each other's firsts. That's a level of betrayal and intimacy that...6 years later after divorce. It stays with you.
Was the love of my life. Fortunately no kids.
I don't think cheaters get it.
@@brandymeidl7126 That’s horrible, horrible. People that have not experienced it have no frame of reference about how deeply this hurts and how long lasting that pain is. Best of luck to you
@@kpas22105 Indeed. It is a different type of pain than anything else.
so shitty when the person that hurts you laughs about it when telling you, like cmon this ain't funny
If For the safety of their kids, Another solution is letting him to f**k another woman to be equal in this situation then they can give peace each other, I know that sounds pretty bad but believe me it works
When her husband tells her it's over, she'll be back at that gym for more "training".
I can’t imagine keeping a secret like this. Some people just shouldn’t get married.
you'd be surprised
Hopefully My Dude watches this channel and hears his wife’s voice lol
@@charlesg7926 hopefully she comes clean. Personally I can work through almost anything but not infidelity. That would be the end for me.
@@Guitarlvr01 I would actually forgive my wife if she came clean and told me. Obviously, she would have to give me one free pass, and she would have to understand why that’s fair. But I would 100% forgive her. However, I would NOT forgive her hiding it
@@Guitarlvr01 basically, if she doesn’t tell me until I find out, the relationship is over. If she comes to me and confesses before I’m suspicious, then I forgive her, as long as she’s understanding of me also getting a free pass. That way, neither one of us got cucked
This is the guy she tells you don’t worry about.
So so so true
This woman is clearly a terrible person. First she cheated through premeditation. Planned meeting up and did the deed, that wasn’t an accident. Now she’s lying by omission and hiding it from the person she hurt. Now she’s asking if she even needs to tell him? What an awful person.
John 8:7
She belongs to the streets!
You got that right. She’s my sister in law and we are just now finding this out in my family. She did not only did this once, but 4 times with 4 guys in a year alone. Such a tragic situation for the family right now
@@TheDaumWorld the sister in law of the woman in this video?
@@canyonstinky7817 like i said, john 8:7 babe
It didn't just happened, cheating is always a conscious decision
She’s not gonna tell him. She just needed to say this out loud to someone whose not in her close circle. This was her outlet. She’s had plenty of time to tell
Him and now that things are going better since he found out there’s no way she s going to open that wound up again.
That is exactly what I was thinking. She has no plans on telling her husband. She probably is only calling the show because she gets off from the drama and is probably getting excited reliving her affair. She uses language that shows she is avoiding ownership of her behavior (such as calling her affair and "unhealthy relationship"). Very typical woman who deflects personal responsibility at all costs.
I'll bet IF her husband ever finds out, she will immediately soften her actions by diverting blame onto her husband (he was not there enough for her) and the other man (he seduced her and she was vulnerable).
I would file for divorce if I was her husband (if he ever finds out). She will never hold herself responsible for her actions.
Smart woman
@@elainenilsson5472 If she was smart, she wouldn't have destroyed her entire family just for a selfish, base moment of pleasure. That is not a smart woman.
I can tell you from experience that this is what's happening. My ex's outlet was the other guy. I had hard evidence of the affair for months and gave her multiple chances to confess, and even after I confronted her with the evidence she still lied about it and after months of the story changing it was finally enough for me to admit that I'd had enough. She knows it's over, she's just prolonging the husbands pain because of her own cowardice.
@@jutde sorry to hear that. Can I ask you, how did you live with her for months knowing that she was having an affair at the same time and not confront her? That would have been very hard for me to know that every time she left the house, she might be going to her other dude. I can't imagine sleeping next to someone like that every night.
“I found myself in a relationship …” 30 seconds in and already absconding responsibility.
Don’t play victim. Take responsibility and move forward.
It wasn’t just once. It wasn’t just that guy.
Exactly. Got railed. 😂
She didn’t accidentally find herself in an affair. It was a choice. She needs to own it.
Fat chance, they never do.
I think people underestimate their sex drives and the safeguards they need to put in place to protect themselves and their relationships.
This is why when you are dating someone seriously or married to someone. You shouldn't be around others as if you are single. We are often told that you are jealous or insecure if we don't want our spouse to do certain things, but in reality we are rightfully protecting your relationships and having boundaries. Having no boundaries and acting like you are single when you're not leads to broken homes, relationships, and hearts.
Yeah I go to the gym w a sweatshirt and shorts on. No reason to draw attention to myself. She was probably in leggings in a gym. Recipe for complete attention from every guy in the gym. She knew this and her husband did as well. He should have spoke up at the beginning but probably didn’t expect a gym trainer and Starbucks would lead to a private cardio workout.
@@PasturePig a respectful person will wear whatever they want and when they are approached they make it clear they are happily married . Has nothing to do with what you wear
Wise words indeed. "acting like you are single" sets one up for breaking marriage vows.
Agreed
Yeah, have boundaries 100%, don't be flirting with randos. But what do you mean by "you shouldn't be around others", like you aren't allowed to go to the gym or grocery store or office without your spouse? That's not really realistic. We need to be able to trust our partner to behave well when they're out and about without us.
This affair would have continued multiple times if the husband didn't find out she was talking to someone else. She might have decided it was a one time thing but once the excitement winds down and she starts craving it again she would have contacted the guy from the gym again. We all know how this goes.
talking from experience?
@@michelleh4717 if there are no clear consequences to ones actions, said person will clearly keep going without any back minded conscious.
@@israelrosario3922 pretty sure extreme guilt counts as a consequence. You don't always have to be told off by someone else to not repeat a mistake you did
@@michelleh4717 trust me, I understand. Most people and most situations though. Not the case
@@michelleh4717 This woman does not show any guilt. She only shows fear of getting caught down the road. If this blows over and her husband never finds out she cheated, she will eventually get bored again and she will start another "friendship" with a strange man, and it will "just happen" again.
Women (all people, but especially women) seem to act as poorly as they think they can get away with. Very few people have actual integrity these days....
That's why im super happy to be single! You never have to go through this
The husband already knows or suspects… he probably thinks you’re gaslighting him by saying nothing physical happened.
To be fair, she was.
🎯
He should get a revenge cheat
Been in that exact boat as the dude😂. Just give it up, “leaned in” did it all, its not worth it, if it’s not this, then it’ll be something else down the road with this woman
@@chris-gx7rs and She should have to watch it
This totally pisses me off. Disloyalty is unacceptable.
She’s a 304. Watch fresh and fit. Red pill men. A comfortable woman is a bored woman and bored women cheat.
Real
Most women these days. What a pos she is.
If the script was flipped she'd be angry and betrayed. The outcome is inevitable. It wasn't only cheating, it's the lying Double punch in the gut.
This is tough because when it comes down to it you put your relationship and your children’s stability at risk for a dude at the gym that probably flirts and does this type of thing with a lot of women. Unfortunately this is the *choice* (not mistake) that a lot of married men and women make and it’s not worth it.
What we don't know if this is a dude that would have continued his flirting if he would have known the truth of her relationship status
Female nature…
@@zeal4god402 I think it would have depended on the dude and how this woman carried herself after she told him she is married
@@zeal4god402 unfortunately this type of thinking is very naive. No other guy owes you or your relationship anything. It is 100% on the ones in the relationship. Instead of acknowledging thus though, it's easier to blame others.
And we all know C. Ramsey and Company would be MUCH harder on a man...
When a guy says he cheats, Deloney destroys him. He treats women cheaters with grace.
The way she speaks about him says all we need to know "Oh he shouldn't be too surprised" "He's a safe guy". She's only admitting it now because she thinks he's going to find out about it from someone else guaranteed. She's a POS, ruined everything in that family.
She's not yours, it's just your turn.
@@JR-wu8dc what do you disagree with no chin
She didn't ruin it. It she does it in the right way
@@hollystiener16 Please, expand on that
This is the correct take
She wouldn’t of cheated on him if she respected him in the first place. the way she talks about him (disrespectfuly) backs that up
By "found herself" in a toxic relationship, what she really means is that she "chose" a relationship.
Her husband is the one that "found himself" in a toxic relationship. With her.
Good point !
When you tell your husband be prepared for a divorce. He will never trust you again. Good luck
Indeed,there is thing that you should keep to the grave and not doing it again. Because telling the other will destroy a family
@@Lejuno1hard disagree, keeping this secret is just as much of a marriage killer as the cheating itself. Tell him, hope to god he forgives, earn the trust back, and most importantly, NEVER DO IT AGAIN!
No man can love a women who's been with another man during their relationship. Disgusting, get rid immediately
@Dandosa1 The problem is that apart from not being able to trust again, the husband can't be sure it won't happen again
@@Lejuno1 he can get a better stepmom for his kids.
Wow this guy's a G , he's patient and non judgemental 🎉🎉but FIRM and REALISTIC 😂😂😂😂
If the guy knows his worth, he’ll file for divorce, hire a solid attorney, seek counseling, and begin the long, drawn out process of moving on with his life
why when she wants forgiveness?? would you say that for a man?
@@mariejane1567 Yes. The fact that you defend her speaks volumes about your own character.
@@mariejane1567 forgiveness doesn’t come without consequence.
Oh yeah just f*ck the kids then right? It’s not like they matter at all. He can just move on with his life cuz that’s what matters in this situation🙄
@@altx7 - uhh he’ll take majority custody while have him & the kids in both individual & family counseling
Telling her husband only makes her feel better - doesn’t fix anything
It's OVAH. Dump her now
She got a sip SHE WILL BACK FO MO! MARRIED WITH KIDS? Heart bresking.
That advice was missing. Thx for writing it. It really needs a lot more insight before deciding what the best action is but here being " honest" can also be a selfish " act.
Legit she is only trying to make herself feel better and keeps pursuing only her interests. Poor guy
@@listrahteswell he’s gonna find out eventually…. And if she does say something he will be able to forgive her… if he ever finds out and not from her than it is truly over
Exactly. Telling him is only a way to get a weight off her shoulders. It's selfish. If she really is repentant, then she should suck it up, deal with the guilt on her own, keep the load on her own shoulders and never do it again.
“Maybe I can get out of this” This woman literally doesnt care at all. That marriage is torched. Get the papers.
I don't condone domestic violence, obviously, but if she ended up with a couple black eyes, I get it...
Listen to the minimizing language women use.
- Made a mistake
- Found myself in an unhealthy relationship
- We started talking
Women don't take responsibility for their actions.
They find a way to justify their behavior to themselves and those around them.
The most unfair unkind thing my husband did was to tell me he slept with another woman while we were married. He immediately told me he wanted to be forgiven and that I could never bring it up again. I never recovered, and I believe it was selfish for him to lay that burden on me.
So you would have rather not known.
@@alluringbliss4165 I was cheated on and yea, I would’ve rather just not have ever known. Full disclosure, I’m also guilty of cheating once too- I realized messed up and instead of burdening my boyfriend with the truth of my selfish action, I broke up with him even though I really liked him. I felt he deserved a better woman than me, he was amazing. I was young, dumb, and learned how terrible it feels and would never do that to anyone again.
@@molls0922 I would much rather want to know the truth then live in a lie. I would have much greater respect for my wife if she told me, then if I had to find out otherwise. But, I would never see her the same way again either way.
I hope he isn’t your husband any more. Gross 🤢 he gets it off his chest and just throws it at you to carry it
@@molls0922 I did not see this reply till today. I see where you are coming, I would broken up too , some people get really traumatized by cheating. On the other hand, I would rather know unless he breaks up with me.
She doesn’t regret anything and she will do it again. I can hear it in her voice/demeanor.
Yup
Of course she will
I hope the husband uses this phone call in court. Hopefully the judge by some miracle will have a brain and not grant this girl any money from her son to be exhusband
I was thinking the same thing. She may not even tell him. Typical entitled suburb style of doing things. To her its merely a mistake and i think she is more upset that she has to confront it than upset about the actual act itself. She would rather just move on like its no big deal... Have met similar
Yep. The guilt is eating her inside, but she wouldn’t hesitate to do it again. The husband’s forgiveness is the point where she will feel safe to do it again.
This man needs to run. Once a woman cheats, always a cheater. She’s for the streets. Infidelity is about the worst thing you can do in a relationship.
She will get custody of his children plus child support so she won't be getting tossed onto any street. He is the biggest loser in this scenario.
He certainly wouldn't be able to trust her again after being lied to twice and this was after he caught her out.
It's in her interest to make the marriage work for the sake of the children, but next time she has marriage trouble what's to stop her seeking comfort elsewhere again.
I don't know what I'd do in this situation, if he isn't able to forgive 100% the marriage will never work and it will be 100 times worse for them both mentally.
I would give it 12 months though to see if time and counselling can heal.
@@Weakeyedominant 😂😂😂😂😂 thats not what "for the streets" means at all 😭😭😭😭
What if they’ve cheated in a past relationship but not on you?
@@aaa-dc5us depends if she was married or not. If she was 19 when she cheated on her boy friend in college I'm sure I could give her the benefit of the doubt.
So true
Just goes to show, over and over again, if a woman tells you “it was nothing, it was just coffee”, or whatever coffee means (metaphorically). It is NEVER just coffee, it’s never just a hug, just a harmless kiss. It is ALWAYS a sexual relationship, and women will lie through their teeth because they think men aren’t programmed to feel when we’re being betrayed.
Bingo, I’m lucky I learned this at 24
Women with lie to the end of there life
i was with my highschool sweetheart for 14 years and she cheated on me when i was working away. it took me to the brink of suicide, to be betrayed like that, I have not felt a more intense pain in my life.
long story short is that there's plenty more women out there and they're not all cheaters. don't put up with that kind of disrespect. she can go back to where she belongs which is to the streets.
I can’t imagine pouring yourself into a person for over a decade
Only to have them cut you to the core with that level of betrayal
@isaacwinters6954 I hope you never experience it Isaac. It's been a bit over 2 years since it happened and I'll always bare an emotional scar
@@bankslie4oneDamn brother, I went 5 years to get betrayed. It does cut deep. Sorry bro I feel like that pain never truly goes away.
Now you know.
why did she cheat ?
She's laughing a lot and I don't feel regret in her voice. It's like fun and games. I pray for the husband and the kids🙏🏼
I must be the only person in the comments who does hear regret in her voice. If she didn't regret it she would have denied it from the get go
@@sh4wnb880I think you’re a good judge of emotion and have a good emotional intelligence. People listening to this either have a lot of betrayal trauma or don’t have emotional intelligence atm.
@@jadegreen1554 go to any video that says anything similar to this one's subject matter and you will see a bunch of ""red pill"" men who just seem to be displaying betrayal trauma
@@elfascisto6549so i feel desperately sorry for people who have been betrayed- i dont think i can even begin to imagine how aweful that must be. But, this woman, imho, is NOT some 'piece of filth' that many of the comments suggest. Yes, she made a terrible, terrible mistake. And she needs to own that. And that stage of life with small kids IS hard on a marriage- any married couple with kids can testify. I personally hope that the husband stays in the relationship- there are 2 innocent kids and a united home is simply better for them. Again, i have no right to judge if the man chooses to not stay, as i have never been cheated on by my gorgeous wife, and i will always be faithful to her. Ultimately, i hope that this woman learns some valuable lessons. I have read that an affair is never an event- its a process that starts with too much eye contact, too many compliments, which leads to, which leads to etc etc. I have always maintained that a close purely mutulally platonic relationship with a member of the opposite sex is impossible.
@@jadegreen1554she may be laughing because she’s nervous, doesn’t change how she is constantly deflecting responsibility, she also doesn’t seem sorry that she did it, she seems sorry he found out something shady was going on.
This woman never told her husband about cheating, kept doing it and got pregnant from the other guy. They’re divorced now. I heard about this from her ex husband’s brother. She felt no remorse for any of this
Thanks for the update.
Hopefully she receives the same treatment she doled out.
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Your post should be further up the list. Awful woman and I got the feeling she just called hoping the presenter would say best keep that bit quiet forever.
Honestly if he heard this id be out. Idk if yall can hear it when someone's happy over the phone. But she's an easy read. She liked cheating that was a big kink for her. Probably some ugly girl when she was young and couldn't deal with adult life. Hope she's paying child support.
This aligns with what my intuition was saying to me. After this convo with Delony, she wouldn’t tell him.
Talks to the guys that cheat like they’re murderers but laughs with the female cheaters
I am so sick and tired of people saying that cheating is a mistake, it’s not. A mistake is missing an exit on the freeway or forgetting my keys. Cheating is a conscience decision that people make with much thought behind it. And I hate when John says you are brave for coming forward with this. Admitting that you committed adultery on your spouse is not brave, it’s cowardly and selfish. A person who is brave is one who confesses going through major trauma and coming through it and confessing it.
Big on that last part. If you’re feeling horrible and and are thus dedicated to preventing it from ever being a temptation again, wouldn’t the idea of saving him the burden of the thought and living with it as a form of repentance or something be the out your lizard brain is looking for?
How is she brave. to tell a bunch of strangers? shouting into the void isnt brave.
Cant believe anyone would praise her for being brave.
Cheats are frigging cowards!
Right. Sometimes this Dr is a dork lmfaoo
Imagine his family hears this call and recognises her voice before he knows. She knew what to do, she called in for validation and sympathy.
It’s a psychological ploy, to get people to let their guard down , so she can feel comfy to open up
It’s a tactic to get them to remain open
Her husband has to divorce her when he finds out, she has two small children and she did *_THIS_* .
She has treated him with contempt and she is _very_ confident that her husband will let her get away with it - it's sad but he will never get over it, he has to leave.
If For the safety of their kids, Another solution is letting him to f**k another woman to be equal in this situation then they can give peace each other, I know that sounds pretty bad but believe me it works
If only it were that simple. So he files for divorce because of her infidelity just so HE can pay HER child support and see his kids every other weekend and a few hours on a weekday.......how is that a win for him? Sounds like a win for her. She gets to call up Chad and have him move in, gets 30% of her ex's pay and gets the kids the majority of the time. And then we wonder why all of our kids are messed up these days. It's a crazy world we live in.
@@ivankrushensky The woman always wins when the man is dumb enough to sign a marriage contract - this way she wins a bit less & her life becomes a bit more uncomfortable financially, but I agree it's still awful for the man.
*DO. NOT. GET. MARRIED.*
the only win for him is to be rod of her.
“We ended up sleeping together.” What a way to distance the accountability.
She packed on a few pounds after baby # 2 headed to the gym to feel better about herself and the first chad/Tyrone that gives her more than a friendly smile she bangs and all it took was a $4 coffee lmao
Sometimes putting it so bluntly helps to cut through the 13 min of her excuses. Awesome comment lol
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I took that guy a $4 coffee to sleep with a married women now image the hoops she made her husband go thru
Facts!!!!
Alpha seed, beta need!!!
That’s sums up this episode on to the next one
What a horrible person. Hope the husband gets full custody of the kids when they divorce.
Yeah, but we're all horrible people. I hope he finds the peace that passes understanding and follows God's heart. God despises divorce.
@@LtGrandpoobah Shuuut up
@@LtGrandpoobah you're pathetic! you're the type of person to get cheated on 10 times and forgive your wife.
@@LtGrandpoobah God also hates adultery and allows the other party to divorce in this situation without fault.
Who knows if that would be a good idea.
This lady is crazy. The husband probably deep down knows she slept with dude, but he is in denial. The moment she confirms it, the marriage is over.
She was willing to throw her marriage away by cranking her legs open to another man she wasn't married to.
As it should be
I hate it when I accidentally cheat on my spouse. It’s like I just slipped and fall inside. Ooops!
Goodness, what a cliché: Cheating on the husband with a gym instructor....🤦
LOL, right?! Exactly my thoughts.
Haaaaa...Like a 1990's Richard Gere movie.
Who probably sleeps with loads of women there…..yuck
She did not block her lover until after her husband found out! This woman is not sorry for cheating, she is sorry that she got caught!
Side note- this woman has no remorse. Very easy to feel it in her voice and how she expresses herself in this. She fears the consequences of her actions. It is sickening.
Disgusting. She has no right to cry about all the people (kids) that will be affected by this.
DIdnt care at the time she decided to get some strange dik in her!
Telling your partner you cheated is not a selfless act, because the only benefit is the elimination of guilt of the cheater.
The 100% selfish stonewalling dishonesty, about the sleeping with the guy, is even worse than the affair itself. Far worse. Because she had to do it over and over a thousand times. THAT breach of trust, the lies about the big lie, reveals everything to the husband about her true character.
She doesn't respect him enough to tell him the truth that is the problem. The husband is playing honesty and she is hiding cards. Its like a classroom scrambling looking for the last puzzle piece whilst the smug bully hides it in his pocket. The smugness comes just from deceit and its a sort of false power trip
Notice how when he said “ if you could go back and do this all differently, what would you do?” Her response was to tell him straight away and not to actually cheat on him in the first place. She belongs to the streets.
And she follows up with something like "I shouldn't have acted single....." So in other words, she was the one on the chase.
Exactly lol