I'm so glad to have found you, and so glad you decided to make content! You're a shining example of positive masculinity, and IMHO perhaps the antidote to somebody like Andrew Tate. Thank you so much!
Yeees! One of my all time favorite photos of my dad and I is one where I got one of those 3 foot tall “life size” Barbies in a ballet outfit. In the photo I’m wearing the doll’s leotard and ballet slippers and my dad is wearing the tutu and all posed identically to me. That tutu makes my dad seem manly af. Because he’s engaged with his daughter and her interests and stepping up to be an active and involved father. What’s freaking stronger than that? Than deciding “I’m going to do something a little silly and not care because I want to enjoy my time with my kid” you’re a whiny little weakling as a man if you’re too in your own head or fearing for your masculinity to be able to ply with your dang kid or pose for a silly a silly photo.
@@TziporaRaphaella that reminds me of my uncle, when I was little he would wear one of my tutus for the little dance class I took and he would do "ballet" (neither of us were good lol) with me. He passed away many years ago but I'll cherish that memory forever, plus there's even photo evidence 😂
The most attractive thing I've ever seen is a man carrying his child in one arm and his kid's sparkly, colorful toys and bags in the other arm. That shows confidence, patience, protection and strength. Instead of focusing on trying to be super masculine or super feminine, people need to spend more energy on just being good, caring humans.
@@genesisansbro4936You would be surprised how many do. So many people had questioned the way my dad always had no problem doing basic parent things... And don't even get me started on the typical "Oh are you babysitting the kids? What a nice husband! I bet she's enjoying the break." Or "They got you stuck with the kids, man? Well, guess the wife needs a break sometime..."
@@ShinySylviee you’re making an opinion based off of your own experience and your parents relationship. You know culture also has a lot to do with it. It all depends. You can’t generalize based off of your own experience and believe everyone has that same experience.
My grandpa is the least toxic man I know. He’s 70 and when I was a little girl he would let me paint his nails, play with Barbie’s with me, and all that “girly” stuff. He also took me fishing, taught me how to work on motorcycles, and archery, even though that’s “manly” stuff. I cherish those memories of sharing each others interests. He’s been faithfully and happily married to my grandmother for 50 years, and treats her like a queen every day and makes sure his whole family is taken care of. That’s a real man right there.
@@Changed.User100 Sometimes “the least _adjective_ (X)” is used to convey something more along the lines of “the furthest (X) from _adjective_ I can think of.” It’s a pretty common way of phrasing it, especially in a conversation where that adjective is the main topic.
@@EIizabethGrace yes thank you I phrased it that way in reference to the topic of the video, which was toxic masculinity. I meant that he is the man I know who exhibits the least amount of toxic traits. Yes he’s also a good man but I was framing it in this specific context
My dad was also like that and I'm so grateful for everything he did with me and also that he didn't put limits on his kids (all girls). We did/tried anything and he was always there to help and support. 💙💙💙
I'm 58. Putting pink sponge rollers in my grandfather's hair (what little he had) is one of my fondest childhood memories. After each time, he would hold up his hand as if he was looking in a mirror and "admire" his new style. Update: 1000 likes? Thanks!
My dad is a jeweler and gem-cutter. I got a make your own jewelry kit when I was younger, I made some earrings that I was really proud of and still kinda am. I wanted to take pictures of the earrings but couldn’t model it on myself. I asked my dad while he was doing some paperwork, he stopped complimenting my the earrings I made and he put on the clip on earrings and modeled for me. I still remember this moment even though he forgot I show him the picture I took every once and a while, to remind him what a great father he is. Love you Dad ❤❤❤
I'm 36 and the memory of painting my uncle's fingernails and doing my grandpa's hair are still very vivid amazing memories that I know I will cherish for my whole life.
My uncle used to let me put makeup on him and hair curlers in his hair when I was really little. My sister was dying of cancer and he dedicated so much time to me so my parents could care for my sister. A man that can be vulnerable is more “manly” than any man who feels a need to prove how macho they are.
not to mention that, the character of manly man...only matter if you have an audience....no one will even know if YOU dont tell them. they are scared....of imaginary people making fun of them. Edit:Im gald a lot of people understood me but for those who dont. Im saying if your persona or what the internets persona of a "manly macho man" is perventing you from hanging out with your daughter youre a bad dad. Thats it. Im not saying you NEED to play dress up or you NEED to suddenly become a drag queen. Im saying you need to start putting family first as family is what matter. Your persona only matters if strangers are there to see it. Youre being a people pleaser and not a family pleaser. You cant say you'll do anything for them, if strangers thoughts of you matter more. Strangers who arent even there.
A man who knows who he is is not a man for other people. It is who he is and will remain a man when nobody is around, not simply turn into a unicorn cause nobody is around lol wth
@@samo8565 a unicorn? You saw a man bonding with his family and was threaten. By what? Your imaginary audience? The only audience a man or women should be striving to please is your family. Edit:Or youre honestly preforming a show for the wrong people. The imaginary people wont be their at your furneal. They wont be there at your daughters wedding. They wont be there at your sons game. They wont be there at your death bed. If a man cannot please his family, youre not a man youre a people pleaser.
@@samo8565 im gald your young and can hear this now. If i had to be a "unicorn" to put a smile on my little girls face, i'd do it. If i had to die in order to protect her i'd do it. If i'd to run through the tallest of roses bushes to see her again i would. Right now you cant understand that. Nothing else matters in this world. Nothing. People who put pathetic ideas like that out as if it changes anything about the world arent important. They never was and never will be.
@@samo8565 i am not at all offended. Again youre young. What im saying is "attacking" your whole world. You dont have anything that you'd die for in your life. So you have to please these imaginary people because its all you have. Youre ignoring family and pushing away love because you think if you look cool you'll gain the approval of fake internet personas. Maybe you hope to become one. Again. Im gald youre young and can still hear this. You'll thank me later.
Yeah, my dad always never acted really like a dad to me because "he's a man" and wonders why I'm closer to one of my sisters who raised me since my mom died when I was three. He's never understood why I hate him when he treats me much like his dad treated him, while preaching about how men should be the ones to be toughened up more, but then he did a lot of terrible shit to me to the point I have severe anxiety to loud noises :/ I wish I had good memories like your daughter will
I hope when/if you have kids you will break the cycle and show kids what unconditional love is. I didn't realize what a narcissist my mom was until she passed away. She wanted to be a martyr more than being a good parent or spouse.
@@lapislazarus8899 I don't want kids, but if I ever do I'm adopting a kid and definitely will try my hardest to give them a better life than was dealt to me
You just described my father. I am closer to my mother because of him. I talk to her more, share almost everything about my day to day life with her. Also trust her more because my father couldn't be bothered to be a dad when I was growing up.
When Piers Morgan pulled that toxic crap (mocking Daniel Craig for carrying his baby), one of the best Twitter responses was some pro wrestler posting a photo of him at home wearing an Elsa dress because his daughter loved Frozen.
My big, Harley riding, Vietnam veteran, professional logger dad taught me how to braid by letting me braid his beard and hair. He bought nail polish, and then showed me how to paint my nails by painting mine, and then letting me paint his. He was 100% a manly man. And he knew how to show a softer side, when the situation required it.
Exsactly! My dad is the same way even when I piss him off he is still calm with me, just because a guy doesn't cry at the drop of a dime dosen't mean he doesn't feel.
This pulled out a lightbulb memory of my grouchy old grandpa (he looked like gru and acted like eeyore) playing make up and tea party with us girls. He made it super serious though like it was high tea and true makeup hour here
I let my daughters do my makeup as well. Sometimes I would forget that I was covered is splotches of red, green , black, lipstick in my teeth. We would go to Walmart to pick up a few items. There I was, getting the strangest looks. Oh, yeah, I'd say, doesn't my makeup look great? My daughter did it for me🤣 I am a woman, btw
You are being a great father! I don't remember if I did this sort of thing with my dad, but I do know that he was great too, for the other things we did together. I even recall feeling some jealousy (for the 1st. time), when he gave another little girl a bit of attention which I didn't expect (the jealousy i.e.), being the little scientist/tom-boy that I was at the time. It was a foreign emotion to me but one I needed to recognize to understand later in my life, like romantic love. I wasn't born a girly-girl and I had to learn these emotions so I did eventually learn this and I also understood them through both my dad and my mom. I was allowed always to be myself, too. Still, the memories of the times I spent with one parent or the other are the second most precious things that I own. The first, which is beyond precious, is the one little brother they gave me 3 1/2 years later! Our parents died very early, far, far too early in their lives, dad at 44 and mom 10 years later. But God, the universe, whatever you call that force that has created everything there is, if it is willed to be so, as I and my brother certainly hope, we'll always have each other up to the very end. And most importantly, after. This is in accordance with our beliefs. May you and those whom you love be blessed to have the beliefs you hold come to you, too.
I urge everyone lucky enough to have loving parents to tell them how much you love them every chance you get! You never know what might happen a year, a month, a day or even a second from now, God forbid!
My gf thinks I'm the manliest man because I cry whenever something makes me really happy and a lot of things make me really happy. She thinks I'm a manly man because I care and have patience for others. She thinks I'm the manliest man because being the manliest man or most womanly man does not matter to me as long as the implication was good. I'm manly and proud. The toxic opinions of those with no empathy or respect matter so little.
It doesn't just make you the manliest of man, it also makes you trustworthy. Because she knows who you are. And I wish I could find me a man who is trustworthy 😅. Honestly one of the sexiest traits a partner can have. Wishing you all the best 💞.
@@jonsolo7343 no one should chase anyone around. Just get to know one another and see if you're compatible. If you're unable to see your partner as a complete human being, you are not ready to be with someone.
If you say "No, that's sissy and girly and I'm a man" to this little girl, not only are you breaking her heart in the moment, but it’s putting these 'girly' things she likes down as being silly, and telling her that she is silly for liking and doing these things. Toxic masculinity is the thing attacking others, not the other way around. Edit: beware the replies.
This is just a straw man tactic. Ye keep redirecting the argument to being a good dad. Nobody is actually saying its unmasculine to just let your daughter just throw make up and glitter at your face. He cut of the original guy before he can make an argument. Then the TH-camr made up the other guys argument to paint him as weak. Then the TH-camr creates a perfect counter point to the argument the TH-camr assigned to the first guy. You can't assign someone else a argument and debate it. This TH-camr is highly manipulative.
I rarely comment on videos, but he truly has a point. When I was little, my dad let me and my sisters paint his toes, and I will never forget the memory.
My late Afrikaans Karoo sheepfarmer Father in law walked around with nail polish on his toenails for weeks. His grandaughters were happy to dress him up and painting his toes. He delighted in and adored his granddaughters. Thanks Oupa for your open ❤
we had a boardgame called PRETTY ,PRETTY PRINCESS and Dad would play with us, _it was hilarious_ (the goal is to get _all the accessories_ and the crown comes last) playing with EACH OTHER?? not as fun
"Pride? PRIDE? Pride is something weak people feel, so they feel no guilt for not actually having accomplished anything. The satisfaction of knowing you have, is better than "Pride," any day." Master Yoda, probably, at some point in his life. And I will say "Pride Month" is one hell of an accomplishment.
Indeed that obssesive concern that everyone else sees you as a masculine man shows neuroticism, and statiscally speaking, man are notoriously less neurotic, so, it's not very masculine
It’s not a war on masculinity it’s a war on toxic masculinity most people don’t realize that and confuse the two being a good father is the most masculine thing you can do people often confuse the two
Incorrect it is at 100% war on masculinity. This is not about toxic masculinity because toxic masculinity is a blanket term for everything. You may not like like somebody holding the door open for you or the man paying the check. If that’s not a warrant, masculinity, in general chivalry and the family unit, I don’t know what is
@@apenguingames4305 people that experience toxic masculinity confuse it for actual masculinity just as I stated it’s a war on toxic masculinity but people often confuse the two and think that masculinity as a whole is a terrible disease that needs to be wiped out
@@apenguingames4305 As someone who experiences life as a man- bro, no there isn't. Nobodies telling me off for enjoying masculine things or being masculine. The issue comes from the idea that masculinity is 'being the strong, emotionless, breadwinner' when it's really just as nurturing as femininity. Masculinity is being confident, self aware, ready to protect. But all of that also means you need to be prepared to be emotionally vulnerable, or let people do things you know others would judge you for, because you are confident enough to not give a shit.
What if I'm not interested in family or community? Does that make me less of a man Shouldn't we be getting rid of the concept of a strictly defined 'real man' type masculinity, not just changing the definition?
@@SIS3W3N you called it the 'toxic version'. So there are traits that you see as toxic. And others would see as toxic. It doesn't really matter which is the most or least masculine. It matters how it impacts society. And the masculine traits which negativity impact society need to be removed.
@@Ri57490 Both versions mentioned are limited, culturally specific, and arguably harmful. Gatekeeping is gatekeeping. Narrow-minded is narrow-minded, regardless of if it is Gearhead McBudweiser or Papa von Volunteer.
One of my favorite pictures I have is my (now 16yo) daughter when she was 3 putting ribbons and bows in her dad's hair. The huge smile beaming on her face... I know my husband wouldn't trade that memory for anything, and doesn't think himself less of a "man" for spending quality time with his daughter.
If I ever adopt kids with my bf, I want to be this type of father. My dad always calls men gay for not appearing masculine. In my high school there were 2 cases of this. One of the seniors broke his bag so he borrowed his little sister’s bag until he got a new one. Sure, it was small and pink, but she offered it to him, and I think that’s really sweet. The other was my friend using an umbrella with that show ‘Shimmer and Shine’ on it because it was the only one he could find. Being able to do these without putting other men down for it is the most manly thing you can do. Just wish my old man knew that.
I remember asking my dad if I could do his makeup, and he really freaked out. So I have a sad memory of my dad being mean to me because of my request instead of a happy one like your daughter has. She’s so lucky.
I think people often hear the term toxic masculinity and assume that we're saying that masculinity is toxic. That's not what it means, there is a good masculinity. And bad masculinity. Toxic is referring to the bad. What you have done by allowing your daughter to do your makeup is showing the good side. :)
The reason a lot of guys feel like the term is classifying masculinity in general as toxic. It's because you never hear these people talk about toxic femininity. Everyone wants to be equal until it comes taking accountability for their own shortcomings in the same way they expect everyone else to. The thing is, a lot of feminists don't want to be considered equal to men because they surpassed that a LONG time ago. What they really want is to be better than men. And that's what we call toxic as fuck. If women can't own up to their own bullshit then they need to be knocked off that high ass pedestal they put themselves on. It's not even annoying anymore, it's just kinda lame and pathetic.
And im not directing my comment at you OP.. I'm just explaining why guys are interpreting that term the way they are. And let's face it, a lot of people actually do mean it that way because they're straight up hateful.
@@junebug313 the only people saying all guys bad or that they don't care about guys mental health is femcels. Progressive masculine guys have called out Femcels. Femcels don't care. Femcels are the woman version of incels.
@@junebug313 Not really, you hear feminists talking about toxic femininity all the time, since they're pushing back the "nonconformist" women thinking that being feminine is bad and makes you weak, and that traditionally masculine things make you a strong independent woman
@@junebug313toxic femininity doesn't exist. People like you just invent inverse terms to things you feel personaly attacked by as counterpoints. Counterpoint that have no meaning or weight because their hole existence is based on attacking other people intead of real things.
Every time my dad came home when I was a little girl, we would have tea parties together. He was a truck driver who was gone for weeks at a time. I'm so glad I had a dad comfortable enough to make memories like that with me
I also had a truck driver father, but our experience differed greatly. 😭 I struggled to get him to pay any attention to me, even when the activity wasn't particularly girly. I often tried to play video games like Halo or CoD or any number of the old racing games we had for our PS2 with him because my brothers had stories of him doing that with them when they were kids, but he never did play with me unless my brothers or sister was playing too, which led to me leaving the fighting games behind and finding an interest in non-fighting games. Started getting older into middle and high school and he wondered why I always dug my feet in when he tried to take the family to enjoy his interests. (Shooting, camping, obnoxiously long car rides in the mountains in cars with no AC, window shopping at Cabelas 🙄) Never thought about how many times I vocalized I didn't like those and didn't want to be there. I'm now an adult and he questions why I never want to spend time with him. Sorry, didn't mean to rant and complain in your comment. I'm glad, and a little jealous, that you have those memories with your father.
I really don't understand this narrative. Isn't that like saying "a straight guy should be comfortable enough to kiss another guy on the lips because he is comfortable with himself and knows he's still straight". That's basically what your saying but in the context of masculinity. You're saying that a truly masculine guy won't care about doing things that are seen as feminine. But you're forgetting that it's not even about the publics perception or being seen doing such a thing. A masculine guy will be genuinely repulsed by the idea of doing something so feminine, not because of social pressure, but because they straight up don't want to do it. The same way a straight guy doesn't care about the publics perception of him being gay, he just wouldn't ever sleep with another guy because that's not who he is or would enjoy doing. This idea that if you're secure and confident in yourself you will do anything is just bs.
I don't get it... the first dude didn't say anything wrong?? like he didn't say anything about makeup or being a macho man at all so why are y'all attacking him?
I’m 18 and never had the chance of doing that with my dad, but my uncle who was his representative. I got to draw on him, paint his nails and play makeup. It made me *SO* happy and those memories are so precious. It didn’t injure his “masculinity” it made a little girl *happy*
My dad is the manliest man I know. I did his hair, makeup and nails every Saturday for years when I was little. . My bedroom was the “ beauty salon “ he was rocking rainbow toenails for a good 2-3 years. Love you dad.
I dont care how manly you think they are a real man wouldn't let his daughter have her way on everything and definitely wouldn't compromise his man hood for the sake of her entertainment, this kind of female domination is why our country is crumbling
@George Mma I think for most people, manliness is determined by strength. Not just physical strength, but mental. Being dependable, being that rock for your family. Being the person people know they can rely on, because you're the "strongest."
Real men like me play “pretty pretty princess” with their young daughters and put ear rings on and a tiara on when it’s their turn during the game. Our love for our daughters far surpasses any need to look macho.
I never realized it, but there were so many things I never dared to tell/ask my dad. And it's not even because he ever yelled at me or punished me. It just felt like it would be... below him to come down to my level and listen to my worries or have fun with me. Now that I am an adult, and can look at it from this side of the situation, I understand how little he had to do. But he took the easy route and now I try to avoid him as an adult, just to escape the constant fear of his judgment.
There are so many areas of disconnect between me and my father where he wouldn’t do things I loved because of this. I had a huge obsession with dress up and hair and makeup and there was no way I could bond with my father over these things which I loved.
@@trinistar1930 why can't a father/man dress up in a skirt or dress with their daughter? Why is makeup any different than wearing something "feminine"? Not that long ago, it was the men who wore heels, skirts, makeup, and wigs. These gendered expressions evolved over time, just like anything else. There is nothing inherently "not manly" about dresses or makeup. We made all those definitions up. Clothing has no gender, and neither does wearing makeup or painting your nails, etc.
@@lydiapetra1211 it's so crazy that a man is not secured in the feelings of his masculinity that a simple "feminine" item can damage his masculinity. Women can literally play soccer, she's still feminine as fuck
The best dads are the ones where their daughter can say, “my dad is the coolest!”, especially when she gets older. Sir, you are the cool dad and your daughter is lucky to have a parent like you! I say this from one daughter with a cool dad to another!
When I was 9, I came home from bra shopping with my mom and was walking around head down with slumped shoulders. My dad walked me into the living room and strutted back and forth with his shoulder back and showed me that I was to walk like that. He said that it was his job to raise a confident daughter and I will remember that day forever
Good Dad! Hope he was stand up with you when you got your period too. Mine did! The poor man had 6 daughters (2 sons) and never allowed us to be shamed. He died when I was 16 in 1980. When my now ex-husband wasn't able to be the man I expected - even after we discussed it - for our 3 girls, we eventually had to leave because of the damage. Luckily, my girls have 2 amazing uncles - who had 6 sisters - and have been there not only for my girls, but for their MANY nieces (18) and nephews (6). I love this man. He knows what's important.
I saw that dude come up on screen and I mentally sighed and said "ugh it's this guy" and then you show up on the screen and I said "OH IT'S THIS Guy!!! 😃😃"
Ehh idk about doing it in public because you put yourself in a place where people can ruin the experience. Also idk bout dressing up as female disney characters when mom is their to do that or an aunt or grandma, ect. So this is tricky.
@@trinistar1930 maybe mom wasn't there to do that, we don't know for sure. And it's not that big a deal, it's a cute fun thing a dad did for his daughter and himself to make memories and have a good time
@@alim.9801 It was in German Newstime because it was so adorable and cute to be at his daughters side in the cinema. One little princess and a huge man in a princess dress 🥰.
The traditional masculine men in my general day-to-day life who hold onto this idea fiercely tend to break down the quickest when their identity ideals are prodded, like they're afraid of what could happen. I work in a warehouse, and I work hard. I also like to dance and sing while doing so. It's confidence in who I am which allows me to not care what others think. I just wish others could feel so free to express themselves.
As a kid, my mom didn't have any makeup so I never put makeup on my dad. Instead we did his hair, which was always 1/2 an inch long so idk how I had so much fun doing it but I did 😂 btw he is one of the most manly men that I know. Looking back, I love and cherish those memories of him letting me do that. And letting me ride in the tractor with him was always something I loved.
And this is the reason why my young teen always says my dad (her grandpa), is her dad and was never concerned about her biological one being in jail for DA. 5years and sometimes she didn't notices but calls her grandpa "Dad", my dad is 87, he always cries when he hears it. He was a burly man man. My girl and him just have this incredible bond where only they exist and I'm all for it. When she's older she will have memories of love and complicity, not @bus3 anymore. And if a military veteran, ex-boxer, ex-macho mexicano, ex-alcoholic, can turn for his last granddaughter any man can do it. And yes, he has rocked pigtails and makeup, and nails, he looked BEAUTIFUL gurl!!!
I remember the time I wrote my dad a letter, asking him why I can't feel any love from him, why the only connection we have is scolding me. he replied "that is what fathers do, their love is unseen but exist". now he is wondering why I am not keeping in touch with him.
My parents were the kind of parents that insisted that a parent should not be friends with their child. So now that we're both adults and I don't need a parent anymore then I have no need for you.
That's really sad. My father was very affectionate and I loved him to pieces. He died when I was 27, he was 52, and I miss him every day. My very difficult mother is not naturally affectionate, but she benefits from the affectionate ways I learned from my father. A father can just leave magic in your heart, but I hope you're able to find those special feelings we all need, wherever they may be lurking
@@Kitefel I get what you’re saying. But, although I’ve never been a parent, I don’t think a parent should be the equivalent of your friends though. They’re above you and responsible for you. Sometimes, that requires being nothing like your friends. That said, a parent should also not be your enemy. My mother became a covert, malignant narcissist, who was trying to destroy me, so I dumped her. She died earlier this year and I can’t say that I miss her.
@@tosca... I'm sorry, he sounded amazing. For me that solidifies the mentality I have tho that it's better if people hate you or feel indifferent, especially parents cuz then you wont feel as hurt when life happens unexpectedly.
Love it to start your answer with "let's talk from manly man to manly man " and looking so stunningly cute with those pink yellow extension and eye glitter all over you! 😅🥰💕 I really hope I find a man one day who would make such happy memories with our children...
I was a tomboy growing so I could connect with my Dad. I feel how strong he has to be and I worry about him. He doesn't believe in traditional roles but he's not ready for himself to cross that threshold personally. He is true to himself and will protect others rights to be true to themselves however they define it for themselves.
i don't remember much of my childhood, but i do remember when my dad and i would watch my little pony and i would explain to him a lot of stuff about the show, i also drew characters for him and he would bring them to his office, i was never a very feminine girl, yet he made me understand that i can like whatever i want and no one should make me think otherwise, i'm really grateful that i have such amazing parents
And by the way. We men aren't waging A war on masculinity. We're seeking to undo the toxic parts of masculinity that are harming men. You're not under attack, quit playing the victim 🙄
My hubby had painted toenails for years and years. Sometimes the guys at his work would give him a hard time. He just said I have a daughter at least its not my finger nails. Eveybody laughed and he went forward with painted toes. I love that man.
I still remember rolling my little toy cart full of plastic cups and fake cakes to my father to "bring him breakfast to bed". It's a fond memory for both of us.
I remember my dad painting my nails, and then I'd paint his toe nails. It's still a very nice memory for me. I remember I did purple and pink stripes one time.
Fr man I let my gf do my makeup and paint my nails cause it makes her happy idc what others think about it it makes her happy to do that so I'm going to let her.
In high school, my boyfriend used to carry my backpack everywhere. I literally couldn’t put it on my shoulder without him grabbing it off of me and carrying it for me. It was pink. Sometimes I’d carry a purse instead and he’d throw that over his shoulder too. All the guys in my high school made fun of him for doing that and said really inappropriate and uncalled for things. Those boys grew up and are mostly still single - shocker. As for my high school boyfriend.. well he’s now my husband because I’m not dumb 💅🏻
@@devent10n Oh yeah, she was sick so she knew that eventually she would end up passing away. She literally gave my dad a set of rules. 1. Absolutely no black at my funeral 2. Go to therapy for at least 2 years I think there were some other ones but those are my favorites
I remember hours of putting clips and bows in my dad's hair growing up. He would always fall asleep and forget and end up at the shops like it later on
This unlocked a memory 😭 I remember when my dad would come home from the gym so excited to see me every day and I’d sit with him and we’d have a tea party together
Once on vacation with my family, my husband let my teenage niece do his makeup. It was really funny and it looked crazy but it was such a fun time for both of them. Only slightly ruined by my dad in the corner scoffing that a man would let his niece put makeup on his face. Traditional masculinity is truly toxic, and my son and daughter will not be part of it.
Traditional masculinity is not toxic. Without if we would have absolutely none of what we have (and by effect none of us would exist) and if we eradicate it, what we have will slowly deteriorate. And that doesn’t mean that men can’t behave femininely to make their children happy, it means that men need to stay as men, and not become women. The rate we’re going, the amount of masculinity within men and women will equalise very soon
i’m sorry, but i have to rewatch it cause the second i saw you my jaw dropped and when you said you’re daughter did it for you, i started crying, i was never allowed to even do my mum’s makeup, they literally got me a plastic doll head and said “here do *its* hair and do *its* makeup” and now i realise how i was treated as a child, when i just wanted to bond with my parents…
I don't have any memories of doing anybody's hair or anybody's makeup as a child, for one I wasn't allowed to have makeup, and for two the men in my family were too toxic to allow me to do something like that. My dad did get a little softer as he got older, but he still wasn't soft enough to allow someone to do his hair and makeup.
Same, no play time in My house, only alone ir with neightboors Friends, but i wasnt able to go, they had to come and for some reason they did not ... Then You grow up and You realised why other parents would like to avoid the overprotective momma who also wanted to impose rules to other kids , make sense
I can relate because my mother would always hit me with plastic bats or the dog leash and we had a German Shepherd so a 6 foot long Thick leather and being a boy they wouldn't let me have make up but I never really asked for it and when I got older and she couldn't hit me anymore I thought I had it made but she was sleeping with a Man who was my father and he kept me in line. My mother was nuts I never knew why she was hitting me but at least my dad would let me know why the ass kicking and he just used his hands. He would always tell me he didn't like doing it but he did it because he loved me and when I finally got big enough I could kick his ass, I didn't want to because I realized something a young man can be an idiot and not making good decisions so I think that he kept me from going to jail and made me a good Man and very Masculine..
@@frankharte9617I’m so sorry that you went through that. It seems likes its been a tough ride for you. You didn’t deserve to get beat for any reason, especially the lack of one. You did not have to have masculinity beaten into you.
@@syd9394 How did the guy who made this video go from someone else at the beginning of this video saying their is a war on Masculinity and this guy makes it about something that he didn't even say 🤔 did the guy at the beginning of the video say beat the crap out of your kids because I did not hear that, Did you?
As a mom of a son, my favorite memory besides the big ones are the day he asked if he could do my hair. All he did was brush it and put it up in a loose pony that I had to fix but I loved every second of it. I hope that means as much to him as it does to me.
Yes! I was raised with the epitome of toxic masculinity. Low key narcissism, self hatred, judgement, very different standards for women (like women shouldn't curse or burp loudly because it's unattractive to men), homophobia, using "protectiveness" as an excuse to control, a massive focus on me as a girl not doing anything that "looks bad" or gets me "taken advantage of". My grandfather was much better but was extremely quiet so I saw a lot of good things but the voice in my head is my very, very vocal and loud stepdad. Watching men like you really vocalize the way children and ppl. In relationships should REALLY be treated and viewed is great for my debrainwashing.
@@Orangeninja5000 my grandpa is great he is in his 70s was a hippy,activist, stone mason,lawyer speaks fluent Spanish and has traveled the world if i can be half of what he was I’ll be happy. Im so sorry your step dad is a jerk to I hope someday you can paint your nails if u want
A true, masculine man, doesn't worry what other men think. Insecurities in ones own self isn't something that should be seen as masculine, and men who perpetuate that notion are the ones making masculinity toxic. Masculinity can be a beautiful(or should I say handsome), wonderful thing. But a lot of men ruin it for others by literally warping it into something harmful and gross. Its sad to see.
I feel like there's a billion different conceptualizations of the word masculinity. Being a good father is super masculine to me. I've never heard of another man dragging a dad for letting his kid put makeup on him.
Have you heard of Piers Morgan? He's not really important, but he did make a joke about Daniel Craig (James Bond) holding his child. Which apparently is not very manly.
When I see a man totally unashamed to move outside the boundaries of masculinity, I see him as badass. He's unbothered about what you think about his little white doggy or his "girly looking" cocktail because he's enjoying them and some chud's opinion won't change that. That's freaking hot, knowing who you are and owning it
A real man wouldn't be threatened by this stuff. Some "men" are just playing the victim. If your daughter wants to put makeup on you, are you so insecure that you would refuse?
Coming from a woman who was a little girl who did my dad’s hair and make up I can’t thank you enough… my dad was a firefighter (man’s man) but was a unbelievable dad and grandfather and now great granddad… it’s so beautiful to see men who know what they are doing.
Once the manliest man I know told me this: Wearing pink won’t make me feel less of a man because my manlines is not that fragile to be affected by a mere color.
I love that you did the video in the makeup, that’s really awesome and it’s good your daughter has such a loving, caring, and accepting role model in her life. I hope you and your family have the best possible lives that you can, and thank you for spreading your truth.
Reminds me of C. S. Lewis on being an adult: "When I became an adult, I put away childish things -- like the fear of looking childish, and the desire to be Very Grown Up."
Ok I know I’m supposed to listen when you speak, and I usually do. But I gotta say the visual of your glow up here has done more for my mental health today than I can say. Thank you for the rainbow and glitter. ❤
you remind me of my dad. i don't know how i got so lucky to have such a good man in my life but i'll cherish the memory of him and everything he did right with me forever
@@nottheone582 Did they ever mention “ dating men“ no they said “ dating“ I agree it’s dumb to assume things like that however you’re causing problems that don’t exist and you’re one of the people that homophobic people reference when they try to make us look bad having a strong father figure in your life whether you date men or women will influence your relationships in general both parental figures and your childhood influences your relationships whether they’re straight or gay
As a 50 something father of 2 girls, new grandfather, husband, combat vet, I have had more tea partys, and make up sessions then I can count - wouldnt trade any of them for the world.
My dad had so many sisters. He was such an emotional person, so good with how we felt. He had BPD, unfortunately. He's the only man I've ever seen cry in my entire life. I am so greatful I got to see that. He only ever cared about his kids. He still cares only about us. He is the MOST manliest man I have ever met. But the second he gets around us, he makes memories and dreams come true that'll never be forgotten.
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I'm so glad to have found you, and so glad you decided to make content! You're a shining example of positive masculinity, and IMHO perhaps the antidote to somebody like Andrew Tate. Thank you so much!
my dad used to let us put bows in his hair. best memories of my life
I appreciate you posting .. you are a GOOD EXAMPLE OF a Good Healthy Man. thank u. we need more of this
Wheres the original video?
Your daughter is very talented, she can do my make up too. 😊
As an adult woman my most cherished childhood memory is doing tea parties and hair bows with my grandpa
🥰💕☕🧁
Aw, I love this!
you just unlocked a memory for me. i played hairstylist with my grandpa too!! miss that man so much
My sister and I always painted our dads toenails. He hated it, but it was so fun, I got the left foot she got the right
The only hairstyle we could do with grandoa was Bozo the Clown. I remember wrestling with him while he still had curlers in his hair
The manliest thing you can do is be a good father.
Yeees! One of my all time favorite photos of my dad and I is one where I got one of those 3 foot tall “life size” Barbies in a ballet outfit. In the photo I’m wearing the doll’s leotard and ballet slippers and my dad is wearing the tutu and all posed identically to me.
That tutu makes my dad seem manly af. Because he’s engaged with his daughter and her interests and stepping up to be an active and involved father. What’s freaking stronger than that? Than deciding “I’m going to do something a little silly and not care because I want to enjoy my time with my kid” you’re a whiny little weakling as a man if you’re too in your own head or fearing for your masculinity to be able to ply with your dang kid or pose for a silly a silly photo.
Hell yeah
So beyond true
Oh yeah!!
@@TziporaRaphaella that reminds me of my uncle, when I was little he would wear one of my tutus for the little dance class I took and he would do "ballet" (neither of us were good lol) with me. He passed away many years ago but I'll cherish that memory forever, plus there's even photo evidence 😂
The most attractive thing I've ever seen is a man carrying his child in one arm and his kid's sparkly, colorful toys and bags in the other arm. That shows confidence, patience, protection and strength. Instead of focusing on trying to be super masculine or super feminine, people need to spend more energy on just being good, caring humans.
I saw a man and his child dressed in matching dresses. I thought, that child is blessed.
I don’t think most dads have a problem with this.
@@mellie4174 that is so sweet :)
@@genesisansbro4936You would be surprised how many do. So many people had questioned the way my dad always had no problem doing basic parent things... And don't even get me started on the typical "Oh are you babysitting the kids? What a nice husband! I bet she's enjoying the break." Or "They got you stuck with the kids, man? Well, guess the wife needs a break sometime..."
@@ShinySylviee you’re making an opinion based off of your own experience and your parents relationship. You know culture also has a lot to do with it. It all depends. You can’t generalize based off of your own experience and believe everyone has that same experience.
My grandpa is the least toxic man I know. He’s 70 and when I was a little girl he would let me paint his nails, play with Barbie’s with me, and all that “girly” stuff. He also took me fishing, taught me how to work on motorcycles, and archery, even though that’s “manly” stuff. I cherish those memories of sharing each others interests. He’s been faithfully and happily married to my grandmother for 50 years, and treats her like a queen every day and makes sure his whole family is taken care of. That’s a real man right there.
Least toxic? Thats a toxic way to describe a man in itself. You mean the best man you know, right?
@@Changed.User100 Sometimes “the least _adjective_ (X)” is used to convey something more along the lines of “the furthest (X) from _adjective_ I can think of.” It’s a pretty common way of phrasing it, especially in a conversation where that adjective is the main topic.
@@EIizabethGrace yes thank you I phrased it that way in reference to the topic of the video, which was toxic masculinity. I meant that he is the man I know who exhibits the least amount of toxic traits. Yes he’s also a good man but I was framing it in this specific context
My dad was also like that and I'm so grateful for everything he did with me and also that he didn't put limits on his kids (all girls). We did/tried anything and he was always there to help and support. 💙💙💙
@@audrey9561 Then I guess I could call you the least toxic women I've seen on social media.
I'm 58. Putting pink sponge rollers in my grandfather's hair (what little he had) is one of my fondest childhood memories. After each time, he would hold up his hand as if he was looking in a mirror and "admire" his new style.
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Yes!! Mine too!! Dude had his flaws but was a great grandpa!
So sweet 🥺 these memories are so precious
Awwwwww
My dad is a jeweler and gem-cutter. I got a make your own jewelry kit when I was younger, I made some earrings that I was really proud of and still kinda am. I wanted to take pictures of the earrings but couldn’t model it on myself. I asked my dad while he was doing some paperwork, he stopped complimenting my the earrings I made and he put on the clip on earrings and modeled for me. I still remember this moment even though he forgot I show him the picture I took every once and a while, to remind him what a great father he is. Love you Dad ❤❤❤
This story made me really happy. I'm so glad you got to share that experience with him.
the wholesomeness is too strong
Dad forgot he slayed😂
I'm 36 and the memory of painting my uncle's fingernails and doing my grandpa's hair are still very vivid amazing memories that I know I will cherish for my whole life.
If I had a daughter that wanted to do that to me, I would 100% let her do it. HOWEVER, I would not go make a Tik Tok video and show the world.
Same about my grandpa & uncle's hair! It was so fun!
@@beerbratscheese1230 and you don’t have to, but this man wanted to show the world and that’s alright too
@@beerbratscheese1230 Because what strangers on the internet think of you is more important to you than playing with your daughter? Sad
@@dianaprince3176 You missed missed my point, and the point of the video, entirely. Sad.
My uncle used to let me put makeup on him and hair curlers in his hair when I was really little. My sister was dying of cancer and he dedicated so much time to me so my parents could care for my sister.
A man that can be vulnerable is more “manly” than any man who feels a need to prove how macho they are.
not to mention that, the character of manly man...only matter if you have an audience....no one will even know if YOU dont tell them. they are scared....of imaginary people making fun of them.
Edit:Im gald a lot of people understood me but for those who dont. Im saying if your persona or what the internets persona of a "manly macho man" is perventing you from hanging out with your daughter youre a bad dad.
Thats it. Im not saying you NEED to play dress up or you NEED to suddenly become a drag queen. Im saying you need to start putting family first as family is what matter. Your persona only matters if strangers are there to see it. Youre being a people pleaser and not a family pleaser.
You cant say you'll do anything for them, if strangers thoughts of you matter more. Strangers who arent even there.
A man who knows who he is is not a man for other people. It is who he is and will remain a man when nobody is around, not simply turn into a unicorn cause nobody is around lol wth
@@samo8565 a unicorn? You saw a man bonding with his family and was threaten. By what? Your imaginary audience?
The only audience a man or women should be striving to please is your family.
Edit:Or youre honestly preforming a show for the wrong people. The imaginary people wont be their at your furneal. They wont be there at your daughters wedding. They wont be there at your sons game. They wont be there at your death bed.
If a man cannot please his family, youre not a man youre a people pleaser.
@@happystoryfamily4830 nothing you said makes any sense and it means nothing to me. It doesn't matter that you feel offended, go cry in a cradle.
@@samo8565 im gald your young and can hear this now.
If i had to be a "unicorn" to put a smile on my little girls face, i'd do it. If i had to die in order to protect her i'd do it. If i'd to run through the tallest of roses bushes to see her again i would.
Right now you cant understand that. Nothing else matters in this world. Nothing. People who put pathetic ideas like that out as if it changes anything about the world arent important. They never was and never will be.
@@samo8565 i am not at all offended. Again youre young. What im saying is "attacking" your whole world.
You dont have anything that you'd die for in your life. So you have to please these imaginary people because its all you have.
Youre ignoring family and pushing away love because you think if you look cool you'll gain the approval of fake internet personas. Maybe you hope to become one.
Again. Im gald youre young and can still hear this. You'll thank me later.
"Where are all the masculine men?"
"WE'RE HAVING A FAIRY PRINCESS TEA PARTAAAYYY!"
👏 MORE 👏 TEAPARTIES 👏 MADE 👏 FOR 👏 MEN 👏
Dad, i wanna do your makeup
Me: (my patiance is waining...)
Yesss
Lol love that guy
THIS!!!
Yeah, my dad always never acted really like a dad to me because "he's a man" and wonders why I'm closer to one of my sisters who raised me since my mom died when I was three. He's never understood why I hate him when he treats me much like his dad treated him, while preaching about how men should be the ones to be toughened up more, but then he did a lot of terrible shit to me to the point I have severe anxiety to loud noises :/ I wish I had good memories like your daughter will
I hope when/if you have kids you will break the cycle and show kids what unconditional love is.
I didn't realize what a narcissist my mom was until she passed away. She wanted to be a martyr more than being a good parent or spouse.
i relate to this, i'm so much closer to my older sister and my dad can't understand why lol. it's because u neglected me mofo
@@lapislazarus8899 I don't want kids, but if I ever do I'm adopting a kid and definitely will try my hardest to give them a better life than was dealt to me
I'm sorry to hear that. Toxic masculinity is very wide spread. It's also in my family.
You just described my father. I am closer to my mother because of him. I talk to her more, share almost everything about my day to day life with her. Also trust her more because my father couldn't be bothered to be a dad when I was growing up.
When Piers Morgan pulled that toxic crap (mocking Daniel Craig for carrying his baby), one of the best Twitter responses was some pro wrestler posting a photo of him at home wearing an Elsa dress because his daughter loved Frozen.
My big, Harley riding, Vietnam veteran, professional logger dad taught me how to braid by letting me braid his beard and hair. He bought nail polish, and then showed me how to paint my nails by painting mine, and then letting me paint his. He was 100% a manly man. And he knew how to show a softer side, when the situation required it.
awwweee 🥹
Awesome father
Exsactly! My dad is the same way even when I piss him off he is still calm with me, just because a guy doesn't cry at the drop of a dime dosen't mean he doesn't feel.
I’m gonna cry omg
This makes me feel so happy. Such an amazing father and man.
This pulled out a lightbulb memory of my grouchy old grandpa (he looked like gru and acted like eeyore) playing make up and tea party with us girls. He made it super serious though like it was high tea and true makeup hour here
That is one of the CUTEST things I've ever heard in my life!!! This story could be a children's book ❤️❤️❤️❤️💕
I let my daughters do my makeup as well. Sometimes I would forget that I was covered is splotches of red, green , black, lipstick in my teeth. We would go to Walmart to pick up a few items. There I was, getting the strangest looks. Oh, yeah, I'd say, doesn't my makeup look great? My daughter did it for me🤣 I am a woman, btw
You are being a great father! I don't remember if I did this sort of thing with my dad, but I do know that he was great too, for the other things we did together. I even recall feeling some jealousy (for the 1st. time), when he gave another little girl a bit of attention which I didn't expect (the jealousy i.e.), being the little scientist/tom-boy that I was at the time. It was a foreign emotion to me but one I needed to recognize to understand later in my life, like romantic love. I wasn't born a girly-girl and I had to learn these emotions so I did eventually learn this and I also understood them through both my dad and my mom. I was allowed always to be myself, too.
Still, the memories of the times I spent with one parent or the other are the second most precious things that I own. The first, which is beyond precious, is the one little brother they gave me 3 1/2 years later! Our parents died very early, far, far too early in their lives, dad at 44 and mom 10 years later. But God, the universe, whatever you call that force that has created everything there is, if it is willed to be so, as I and my brother certainly hope, we'll always have each other up to the very end. And most importantly, after.
This is in accordance with our beliefs. May you and those whom you love be blessed to have the beliefs you hold
come to you, too.
What a beautiful 😍 way to show you how much you guys meant to him
I urge everyone lucky enough to have loving parents to tell them how much you love them every chance you get! You never know what might happen a year, a month, a day or even a second from now, God forbid!
Truly masculine men are secure in their masculinity
Im sorry ig
Right
Wise man, here
Truly masculine men are masculine
- a woman
“Where are all the masculine men.”
Happily married, drinking tea with their kids.
The memories and interactions with your daughter is so manly man.
My gf thinks I'm the manliest man because I cry whenever something makes me really happy and a lot of things make me really happy.
She thinks I'm a manly man because I care and have patience for others.
She thinks I'm the manliest man because being the manliest man or most womanly man does not matter to me as long as the implication was good.
I'm manly and proud. The toxic opinions of those with no empathy or respect matter so little.
It doesn't just make you the manliest of man, it also makes you trustworthy. Because she knows who you are. And I wish I could find me a man who is trustworthy 😅. Honestly one of the sexiest traits a partner can have. Wishing you all the best 💞.
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@@jonsolo7343 fun fact. This can happen to anyone. Why do you think the "alpha males" hate women?
@@jonsolo7343 no one should chase anyone around. Just get to know one another and see if you're compatible. If you're unable to see your partner as a complete human being, you are not ready to be with someone.
@@jonsolo7343 you're welcome 🙂
If you say "No, that's sissy and girly and I'm a man" to this little girl, not only are you breaking her heart in the moment, but it’s putting these 'girly' things she likes down as being silly, and telling her that she is silly for liking and doing these things. Toxic masculinity is the thing attacking others, not the other way around.
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Yes. Yes. Yes.
Thanks for putting this here.
This was my Dad.
he wasnt talking about makeup at all.
This is just a straw man tactic. Ye keep redirecting the argument to being a good dad. Nobody is actually saying its unmasculine to just let your daughter just throw make up and glitter at your face.
He cut of the original guy before he can make an argument. Then the TH-camr made up the other guys argument to paint him as weak. Then the TH-camr creates a perfect counter point to the argument the TH-camr assigned to the first guy.
You can't assign someone else a argument and debate it. This TH-camr is highly manipulative.
@@Dpb_2008 this is a feminist space dont expect anyone to even understand what you said.
no. you just say men dont wear makeup.. end of... this dude is way to fruity.
I rarely comment on videos, but he truly has a point. When I was little, my dad let me and my sisters paint his toes, and I will never forget the memory.
My late Afrikaans Karoo sheepfarmer Father in law walked around with nail polish on his toenails for weeks. His grandaughters were happy to dress him up and painting his toes. He delighted in and adored his granddaughters. Thanks Oupa for your open ❤
we had a boardgame called PRETTY ,PRETTY PRINCESS and Dad would play with us, _it was hilarious_ (the goal is to get _all the accessories_ and the crown comes last) playing with EACH OTHER?? not as fun
I was about to skip this until I saw what channel it was from! You're absolutely killing that glitter eyeshadow btw.
People always write it - I wonder why.
Yeah I thought he had allergic reaction until I saw video of it.
I did skip it and had to scroll back to see the poster
@@UnicornsPoopRainbows same. Came back to block the channel before I realized what it was.
Oh my goodness! Same!!
Nothing manlier than caring more about your family than your appearance
"Pride? PRIDE? Pride is something weak people feel, so they feel no guilt for not actually having accomplished anything.
The satisfaction of knowing you have, is better than "Pride," any day."
Master Yoda, probably, at some point in his life.
And I will say "Pride Month" is one hell of an accomplishment.
Indeed that obssesive concern that everyone else sees you as a masculine man shows neuroticism, and statiscally speaking, man are notoriously less neurotic, so, it's not very masculine
@@QVUTDN Kirishima is the most manly man of positive masculinity.
It’s not a war on masculinity it’s a war on toxic masculinity most people don’t realize that and confuse the two being a good father is the most masculine thing you can do people often confuse the two
Incorrect it is at 100% war on masculinity. This is not about toxic masculinity because toxic masculinity is a blanket term for everything. You may not like like somebody holding the door open for you or the man paying the check.
If that’s not a warrant, masculinity, in general chivalry and the family unit, I don’t know what is
@@apenguingames4305 people that experience toxic masculinity confuse it for actual masculinity just as I stated it’s a war on toxic masculinity but people often confuse the two and think that masculinity as a whole is a terrible disease that needs to be wiped out
When you point out everything that is masculine as being toxic masculinity that's why we believe it is a war on masculinity
@@apenguingames4305 As someone who experiences life as a man- bro, no there isn't. Nobodies telling me off for enjoying masculine things or being masculine. The issue comes from the idea that masculinity is 'being the strong, emotionless, breadwinner' when it's really just as nurturing as femininity. Masculinity is being confident, self aware, ready to protect. But all of that also means you need to be prepared to be emotionally vulnerable, or let people do things you know others would judge you for, because you are confident enough to not give a shit.
What if we simply call it toxic behaviour?
It's not just makeup, that, my good sir, is epic glittery makeup
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He probably done it himself for attention after all he said he would suck dick for money what a great example
The most masculine thing you can do is show up for your family and community. You're rocking it :)
What if I don't have a family or community? Why are you any more qualified to define my masculinity than those pitching the toxic version?
What if I'm not interested in family or community? Does that make me less of a man
Shouldn't we be getting rid of the concept of a strictly defined 'real man' type masculinity, not just changing the definition?
@@SIS3W3N you called it the 'toxic version'. So there are traits that you see as toxic. And others would see as toxic. It doesn't really matter which is the most or least masculine. It matters how it impacts society. And the masculine traits which negativity impact society need to be removed.
@@Ri57490 Both versions mentioned are limited, culturally specific, and arguably harmful. Gatekeeping is gatekeeping. Narrow-minded is narrow-minded, regardless of if it is Gearhead McBudweiser or Papa von Volunteer.
One of my favorite pictures I have is my (now 16yo) daughter when she was 3 putting ribbons and bows in her dad's hair. The huge smile beaming on her face... I know my husband wouldn't trade that memory for anything, and doesn't think himself less of a "man" for spending quality time with his daughter.
If I ever adopt kids with my bf, I want to be this type of father. My dad always calls men gay for not appearing masculine. In my high school there were 2 cases of this. One of the seniors broke his bag so he borrowed his little sister’s bag until he got a new one. Sure, it was small and pink, but she offered it to him, and I think that’s really sweet. The other was my friend using an umbrella with that show ‘Shimmer and Shine’ on it because it was the only one he could find. Being able to do these without putting other men down for it is the most manly thing you can do. Just wish my old man knew that.
I remember asking my dad if I could do his makeup, and he really freaked out. So I have a sad memory of my dad being mean to me because of my request instead of a happy one like your daughter has. She’s so lucky.
Aww that’s sad I’m so sorry 🙁
Same. I love my dad, but one of my first memories (I was maybe 2, now I'm 31) is me wanting to just brushing his hair and him just flinching away.
Maybe cause its unrealistic for him to put on makeup
@@TheBannerOfIslam it was his daughter? even if its just for a few minutes its still a nice thing to do.
@@TheBannerOfIslam It's makeup, no one asked him to go cliff diving or some shit. I think he could handle it.
I think people often hear the term toxic masculinity and assume that we're saying that masculinity is toxic. That's not what it means, there is a good masculinity. And bad masculinity. Toxic is referring to the bad. What you have done by allowing your daughter to do your makeup is showing the good side. :)
The reason a lot of guys feel like the term is classifying masculinity in general as toxic. It's because you never hear these people talk about toxic femininity. Everyone wants to be equal until it comes taking accountability for their own shortcomings in the same way they expect everyone else to.
The thing is, a lot of feminists don't want to be considered equal to men because they surpassed that a LONG time ago. What they really want is to be better than men. And that's what we call toxic as fuck. If women can't own up to their own bullshit then they need to be knocked off that high ass pedestal they put themselves on. It's not even annoying anymore, it's just kinda lame and pathetic.
And im not directing my comment at you OP.. I'm just explaining why guys are interpreting that term the way they are. And let's face it, a lot of people actually do mean it that way because they're straight up hateful.
@@junebug313 the only people saying all guys bad or that they don't care about guys mental health is femcels. Progressive masculine guys have called out Femcels. Femcels don't care. Femcels are the woman version of incels.
@@junebug313
Not really, you hear feminists talking about toxic femininity all the time, since they're pushing back the "nonconformist" women thinking that being feminine is bad and makes you weak, and that traditionally masculine things make you a strong independent woman
@@junebug313toxic femininity doesn't exist. People like you just invent inverse terms to things you feel personaly attacked by as counterpoints.
Counterpoint that have no meaning or weight because their hole existence is based on attacking other people intead of real things.
Every time my dad came home when I was a little girl, we would have tea parties together. He was a truck driver who was gone for weeks at a time. I'm so glad I had a dad comfortable enough to make memories like that with me
I also had a truck driver father, but our experience differed greatly. 😭 I struggled to get him to pay any attention to me, even when the activity wasn't particularly girly. I often tried to play video games like Halo or CoD or any number of the old racing games we had for our PS2 with him because my brothers had stories of him doing that with them when they were kids, but he never did play with me unless my brothers or sister was playing too, which led to me leaving the fighting games behind and finding an interest in non-fighting games. Started getting older into middle and high school and he wondered why I always dug my feet in when he tried to take the family to enjoy his interests. (Shooting, camping, obnoxiously long car rides in the mountains in cars with no AC, window shopping at Cabelas 🙄) Never thought about how many times I vocalized I didn't like those and didn't want to be there. I'm now an adult and he questions why I never want to spend time with him.
Sorry, didn't mean to rant and complain in your comment. I'm glad, and a little jealous, that you have those memories with your father.
@@likemossIgrowonyou unfortunately me and my father had issues once I got older and I don't like spending time with him anymore
She did a banging job!
Real masculinity is being confident enough in yourself not to care about how "masculine" other might perceive you.
I really don't understand this narrative. Isn't that like saying "a straight guy should be comfortable enough to kiss another guy on the lips because he is comfortable with himself and knows he's still straight". That's basically what your saying but in the context of masculinity. You're saying that a truly masculine guy won't care about doing things that are seen as feminine. But you're forgetting that it's not even about the publics perception or being seen doing such a thing. A masculine guy will be genuinely repulsed by the idea of doing something so feminine, not because of social pressure, but because they straight up don't want to do it. The same way a straight guy doesn't care about the publics perception of him being gay, he just wouldn't ever sleep with another guy because that's not who he is or would enjoy doing. This idea that if you're secure and confident in yourself you will do anything is just bs.
OH I THOUGHT I WAS ON THE WRONG SIDE OF TH-cam SHORTS AGAIN LMAO
Oh rip- 😭
Who in the world is this very fragile toxic man?
yeah I thought it was one of those times when TH-cam would send me toxic dreck like reuploads of Rogan or the Tates.
@@romxxii i got a toxic reddit story account one time. weirdest experience ever
I don't get it... the first dude didn't say anything wrong?? like he didn't say anything about makeup or being a macho man at all so why are y'all attacking him?
I’m 18 and never had the chance of doing that with my dad, but my uncle who was his representative. I got to draw on him, paint his nails and play makeup. It made me *SO* happy and those memories are so precious. It didn’t injure his “masculinity” it made a little girl *happy*
My step dad let my sis and I trim his hair, paint his nails and whatever else. Beauty shop. I still fondly remember.
The most masculine thing a man can do is to support, love, and form good memories with their family
As a grown ass woman in her mid 30s, some of my happiest memories are putting bows in my dad's hair
My dad is the manliest man I know. I did his hair, makeup and nails every Saturday for years when I was little. . My bedroom was the “ beauty salon “ he was rocking rainbow toenails for a good 2-3 years. Love you dad.
My husband let's our daughters paint his toe nails. It always melts my heart, listening to my daughters giggle.
I dont care how manly you think they are a real man wouldn't let his daughter have her way on everything and definitely wouldn't compromise his man hood for the sake of her entertainment, this kind of female domination is why our country is crumbling
So what made him the manliest man...how do you know that ? what qualifies that?
@@ocherome she dont know , dudes gay af
@George Mma I think for most people, manliness is determined by strength. Not just physical strength, but mental. Being dependable, being that rock for your family. Being the person people know they can rely on, because you're the "strongest."
Real men like me play “pretty pretty princess” with their young daughters and put ear rings on and a tiara on when it’s their turn during the game. Our love for our daughters far surpasses any need to look macho.
I guess I come from a totally different world....but what you say is too weird for me....
@@lydiapetra1211 Seeing all these comments, gotta ask, what's your relationship with your dad like?
@@Camazotz-kz9wr Thanks for asking it ...we are very close! I love him very deeply and very much!
@@Camazotz-kz9wr My Dad is a truly amazing, loving, compassionate and always helpful Dad! He is a Treasure from the Lord!❤️❤️
@@lydiapetra1211 If you're that close he must have played with you when you were young. How'd you two play together?
I never realized it, but there were so many things I never dared to tell/ask my dad. And it's not even because he ever yelled at me or punished me. It just felt like it would be... below him to come down to my level and listen to my worries or have fun with me.
Now that I am an adult, and can look at it from this side of the situation, I understand how little he had to do. But he took the easy route and now I try to avoid him as an adult, just to escape the constant fear of his judgment.
There are so many areas of disconnect between me and my father where he wouldn’t do things I loved because of this. I had a huge obsession with dress up and hair and makeup and there was no way I could bond with my father over these things which I loved.
Make up might be fine but dress up a grown man i think isnt right but this is tricky when it has to do w fathers and their little girls.
@@trinistar1930 why can't a father/man dress up in a skirt or dress with their daughter? Why is makeup any different than wearing something "feminine"?
Not that long ago, it was the men who wore heels, skirts, makeup, and wigs. These gendered expressions evolved over time, just like anything else. There is nothing inherently "not manly" about dresses or makeup. We made all those definitions up. Clothing has no gender, and neither does wearing makeup or painting your nails, etc.
@@trinistar1930 what's wrong with dressing up? It's fun
I have to be honest with you....that's so crazy to me....why put makeup on a man or dress him up....that's really crazy.....
@@lydiapetra1211 it's so crazy that a man is not secured in the feelings of his masculinity that a simple "feminine" item can damage his masculinity.
Women can literally play soccer, she's still feminine as fuck
The best dads are the ones where their daughter can say, “my dad is the coolest!”, especially when she gets older. Sir, you are the cool dad and your daughter is lucky to have a parent like you! I say this from one daughter with a cool dad to another!
When I was 9, I came home from bra shopping with my mom and was walking around head down with slumped shoulders. My dad walked me into the living room and strutted back and forth with his shoulder back and showed me that I was to walk like that. He said that it was his job to raise a confident daughter and I will remember that day forever
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Good Dad!
Hope he was stand up with you when you got your period too.
Mine did!
The poor man had 6 daughters (2 sons) and never allowed us to be shamed.
He died when I was 16 in 1980.
When my now ex-husband wasn't able to be the man I expected - even after we discussed it - for our 3 girls, we eventually had to leave because of the damage.
Luckily, my girls have 2 amazing uncles - who had 6 sisters - and have been there not only for my girls, but for their MANY nieces (18) and nephews (6).
I love this man.
He knows what's important.
My grandpa was literally in the hospital and still let me paint his nails.
I saw that dude come up on screen and I mentally sighed and said "ugh it's this guy" and then you show up on the screen and I said "OH IT'S THIS Guy!!! 😃😃"
There was a father who did dress up as Elsa from Frozen to watch movie at theatre. The daughter was so happy to be Elsa too. It's so wholesome.
Ehh idk about doing it in public because you put yourself in a place where people can ruin the experience. Also idk bout dressing up as female disney characters when mom is their to do that or an aunt or grandma, ect. So this is tricky.
@@trinistar1930 You are too afraid of public judgement.
@@trinistar1930 maybe mom wasn't there to do that, we don't know for sure. And it's not that big a deal, it's a cute fun thing a dad did for his daughter and himself to make memories and have a good time
@@alim.9801 It was in German Newstime because it was so adorable and cute to be at his daughters side in the cinema. One little princess and a huge man in a princess dress 🥰.
@@trinistar1930 Have you ever considered that not everything is about you? It's not "tricky" just because you'd be too insecure to do the same.
The traditional masculine men in my general day-to-day life who hold onto this idea fiercely tend to break down the quickest when their identity ideals are prodded, like they're afraid of what could happen. I work in a warehouse, and I work hard. I also like to dance and sing while doing so. It's confidence in who I am which allows me to not care what others think. I just wish others could feel so free to express themselves.
I'm not knocking you masculinity or anything, but that sounds incredibly tedious for your co-workers.
As a kid, my mom didn't have any makeup so I never put makeup on my dad. Instead we did his hair, which was always 1/2 an inch long so idk how I had so much fun doing it but I did 😂 btw he is one of the most manly men that I know. Looking back, I love and cherish those memories of him letting me do that. And letting me ride in the tractor with him was always something I loved.
And this is the reason why my young teen always says my dad (her grandpa), is her dad and was never concerned about her biological one being in jail for DA. 5years and sometimes she didn't notices but calls her grandpa "Dad", my dad is 87, he always cries when he hears it. He was a burly man man. My girl and him just have this incredible bond where only they exist and I'm all for it. When she's older she will have memories of love and complicity, not @bus3 anymore. And if a military veteran, ex-boxer, ex-macho mexicano, ex-alcoholic, can turn for his last granddaughter any man can do it. And yes, he has rocked pigtails and makeup, and nails, he looked BEAUTIFUL gurl!!!
I remember the time I wrote my dad a letter, asking him why I can't feel any love from him, why the only connection we have is scolding me. he replied "that is what fathers do, their love is unseen but exist". now he is wondering why I am not keeping in touch with him.
My parents were the kind of parents that insisted that a parent should not be friends with their child. So now that we're both adults and I don't need a parent anymore then I have no need for you.
That's really sad. My father was very affectionate and I loved him to pieces. He died when I was 27, he was 52, and I miss him every day. My very difficult mother is not naturally affectionate, but she benefits from the affectionate ways I learned from my father. A father can just leave magic in your heart, but I hope you're able to find those special feelings we all need, wherever they may be lurking
@@Kitefel I get what you’re saying. But, although I’ve never been a parent, I don’t think a parent should be the equivalent of your friends though. They’re above you and responsible for you. Sometimes, that requires being nothing like your friends.
That said, a parent should also not be your enemy. My mother became a covert, malignant narcissist, who was trying to destroy me, so I dumped her. She died earlier this year and I can’t say that I miss her.
@@Kitefel damnnnn true lol
@@tosca... I'm sorry, he sounded amazing. For me that solidifies the mentality I have tho that it's better if people hate you or feel indifferent, especially parents cuz then you wont feel as hurt when life happens unexpectedly.
Love it to start your answer with "let's talk from manly man to manly man " and looking so stunningly cute with those pink yellow extension and eye glitter all over you! 😅🥰💕
I really hope I find a man one day who would make such happy memories with our children...
They are out there! I hope you find one when you’re ready 💜
@@tondriasanders6306 Thank you! :)
I was a tomboy growing so I could connect with my Dad. I feel how strong he has to be and I worry about him. He doesn't believe in traditional roles but he's not ready for himself to cross that threshold personally. He is true to himself and will protect others rights to be true to themselves however they define it for themselves.
i don't remember much of my childhood, but i do remember when my dad and i would watch my little pony and i would explain to him a lot of stuff about the show, i also drew characters for him and he would bring them to his office, i was never a very feminine girl, yet he made me understand that i can like whatever i want and no one should make me think otherwise, i'm really grateful that i have such amazing parents
And by the way. We men aren't waging A war on masculinity. We're seeking to undo the toxic parts of masculinity that are harming men.
You're not under attack, quit playing the victim 🙄
My hubby had painted toenails for years and years. Sometimes the guys at his work would give him a hard time. He just said I have a daughter at least its not my finger nails. Eveybody laughed and he went forward with painted toes. I love that man.
I still remember rolling my little toy cart full of plastic cups and fake cakes to my father to "bring him breakfast to bed". It's a fond memory for both of us.
The fact you are more manly than the original poster
What makes you conclude that? There is in fact a war on masculinity and he only said that it comes from women as well as from men.
@@deltaflux2381 wah wah
@DeltaFlux IKR, when did the first person even talk about bonding with your child.
@Venture Forth real men spend time with their kids
@Venture Forth have you seen the rest of his videos lmao
I remember my dad painting my nails, and then I'd paint his toe nails. It's still a very nice memory for me. I remember I did purple and pink stripes one time.
I don't care how big and bad a man thinks he is - a real man plays Princess Tea Party with his daughters and answers a toy phone when it rings.
And when a baby babbles at him, it’s the most interesting news he’s heard all day 😂
Fr man I let my gf do my makeup and paint my nails cause it makes her happy idc what others think about it it makes her happy to do that so I'm going to let her.
In high school, my boyfriend used to carry my backpack everywhere. I literally couldn’t put it on my shoulder without him grabbing it off of me and carrying it for me. It was pink. Sometimes I’d carry a purse instead and he’d throw that over his shoulder too. All the guys in my high school made fun of him for doing that and said really inappropriate and uncalled for things. Those boys grew up and are mostly still single - shocker. As for my high school boyfriend.. well he’s now my husband because I’m not dumb 💅🏻
My dad was in a ballet recital with me when I was a kid, still the manliest man I know, the man also wore pink to my mom's funeral
Bless him, I'm guessing she'd have been delighted?
@@devent10n Oh yeah, she was sick so she knew that eventually she would end up passing away. She literally gave my dad a set of rules.
1. Absolutely no black at my funeral
2. Go to therapy for at least 2 years
I think there were some other ones but those are my favorites
@@BooksBlogs23 your mom sounds like she was an amazing woman. I'm sorry for your loss.
Rocking that eyeshadow!
Truthfully ain’t nothing hotter then seeing a man getting his nails done and having a tea party with his daughters ❤❤
I remember hours of putting clips and bows in my dad's hair growing up. He would always fall asleep and forget and end up at the shops like it later on
This unlocked a memory 😭 I remember when my dad would come home from the gym so excited to see me every day and I’d sit with him and we’d have a tea party together
The most manly thing you can do is show up for your family (and you rock those ribbons!)
I wish I had a dad like that. All my dad did was work and be abusive. 🤦♀️
Once on vacation with my family, my husband let my teenage niece do his makeup. It was really funny and it looked crazy but it was such a fun time for both of them. Only slightly ruined by my dad in the corner scoffing that a man would let his niece put makeup on his face.
Traditional masculinity is truly toxic, and my son and daughter will not be part of it.
its not you're dad is just an as
see how that works out for you.. there's nothing toxic about masculinity.
@@kaikai-pb7fh I like how people bring up thought out points, and you just go "No it isn't" like how a kid would. So stupid.
@@anitachamberlain3391 we don't need though out points for 2+2. no need to be insulting though. you could hurt my feelings.
Traditional masculinity is not toxic. Without if we would have absolutely none of what we have (and by effect none of us would exist) and if we eradicate it, what we have will slowly deteriorate. And that doesn’t mean that men can’t behave femininely to make their children happy, it means that men need to stay as men, and not become women. The rate we’re going, the amount of masculinity within men and women will equalise very soon
i’m sorry, but i have to rewatch it cause the second i saw you my jaw dropped and when you said you’re daughter did it for you, i started crying, i was never allowed to even do my mum’s makeup, they literally got me a plastic doll head and said “here do *its* hair and do *its* makeup” and now i realise how i was treated as a child, when i just wanted to bond with my parents…
I don't have any memories of doing anybody's hair or anybody's makeup as a child, for one I wasn't allowed to have makeup, and for two the men in my family were too toxic to allow me to do something like that. My dad did get a little softer as he got older, but he still wasn't soft enough to allow someone to do his hair and makeup.
Same, no play time in My house, only alone ir with neightboors Friends, but i wasnt able to go, they had to come and for some reason they did not ... Then You grow up and You realised why other parents would like to avoid the overprotective momma who also wanted to impose rules to other kids , make sense
I can relate because my mother would always hit me with plastic bats or the dog leash and we had a German Shepherd so a 6 foot long Thick leather and being a boy they wouldn't let me have make up but I never really asked for it and when I got older and she couldn't hit me anymore I thought I had it made but she was sleeping with a Man who was my father and he kept me in line. My mother was nuts I never knew why she was hitting me but at least my dad would let me know why the ass kicking and he just used his hands. He would always tell me he didn't like doing it but he did it because he loved me and when I finally got big enough I could kick his ass, I didn't want to because I realized something a young man can be an idiot and not making good decisions so I think that he kept me from going to jail and made me a good Man and very Masculine..
@@frankharte9617I’m so sorry that you went through that. It seems likes its been a tough ride for you. You didn’t deserve to get beat for any reason, especially the lack of one. You did not have to have masculinity beaten into you.
@@syd9394 How did the guy who made this video go from someone else at the beginning of this video saying their is a war on Masculinity and this guy makes it about something that he didn't even say 🤔 did the guy at the beginning of the video say beat the crap out of your kids because I did not hear that, Did you?
I am lost kept scrolling but then saw it was you love the vids man!
As a mom of a son, my favorite memory besides the big ones are the day he asked if he could do my hair. All he did was brush it and put it up in a loose pony that I had to fix but I loved every second of it. I hope that means as much to him as it does to me.
THIS! Nailed it. You have no idea how watching so much of your content is establishing my standards for my next partner.
Yes! I was raised with the epitome of toxic masculinity. Low key narcissism, self hatred, judgement, very different standards for women (like women shouldn't curse or burp loudly because it's unattractive to men), homophobia, using "protectiveness" as an excuse to control, a massive focus on me as a girl not doing anything that "looks bad" or gets me "taken advantage of". My grandfather was much better but was extremely quiet so I saw a lot of good things but the voice in my head is my very, very vocal and loud stepdad.
Watching men like you really vocalize the way children and ppl. In relationships should REALLY be treated and viewed is great for my debrainwashing.
You remind me of my grandpa my younger brother painted his nails my step dad was rude so my grandpa did it to lol
That's so sweet! My stepfather is literally the reason I don't paint my nails 😭
@@Orangeninja5000 my grandpa is great he is in his 70s was a hippy,activist, stone mason,lawyer speaks fluent Spanish and has traveled the world if i can be half of what he was I’ll be happy. Im so sorry your step dad is a jerk to I hope someday you can paint your nails if u want
@@emperorshrek5827 your grandpa sounds amazing omg
A true, masculine man, doesn't worry what other men think. Insecurities in ones own self isn't something that should be seen as masculine, and men who perpetuate that notion are the ones making masculinity toxic. Masculinity can be a beautiful(or should I say handsome), wonderful thing. But a lot of men ruin it for others by literally warping it into something harmful and gross. Its sad to see.
I feel like there's a billion different conceptualizations of the word masculinity. Being a good father is super masculine to me. I've never heard of another man dragging a dad for letting his kid put makeup on him.
Have you heard of Piers Morgan? He's not really important, but he did make a joke about Daniel Craig (James Bond) holding his child. Which apparently is not very manly.
Your words are starlight and unicorns, just like your face in this video. 💜 Thank you.
As a Dad, my daughter comes before my needs every time
When I see a man totally unashamed to move outside the boundaries of masculinity, I see him as badass. He's unbothered about what you think about his little white doggy or his "girly looking" cocktail because he's enjoying them and some chud's opinion won't change that. That's freaking hot, knowing who you are and owning it
THIS MAN TAKES AN W EVERY VIDEO
A real man wouldn't be threatened by this stuff. Some "men" are just playing the victim. If your daughter wants to put makeup on you, are you so insecure that you would refuse?
Coming from a woman who was a little girl who did my dad’s hair and make up I can’t thank you enough… my dad was a firefighter (man’s man) but was a unbelievable dad and grandfather and now great granddad… it’s so beautiful to see men who know what they are doing.
I would never have dared ask my dad to do his makeup. Thanks for being great for your daughter and giving the rest of us alittle hope.
ill never forget my uncle doing my hair and agreeing to let me do his nails
Once the manliest man I know told me this: Wearing pink won’t make me feel less of a man because my manlines is not that fragile to be affected by a mere color.
Smart guy
Truth
So true 👏
"Strong logical" men when they see glitter on a secure mans face: 😭😭😱🤬😡👿
I love that you did the video in the makeup, that’s really awesome and it’s good your daughter has such a loving, caring, and accepting role model in her life. I hope you and your family have the best possible lives that you can, and thank you for spreading your truth.
Reminds me of C. S. Lewis on being an adult: "When I became an adult, I put away childish things -- like the fear of looking childish, and the desire to be Very Grown Up."
Ok I know I’m supposed to listen when you speak, and I usually do. But I gotta say the visual of your glow up here has done more for my mental health today than I can say. Thank you for the rainbow and glitter. ❤
True masculinity is making your loved ones happy
you remind me of my dad. i don't know how i got so lucky to have such a good man in my life but i'll cherish the memory of him and everything he did right with me forever
Oh my gosh the daughter memory thing just reminds me when i put a wig on my dad and we were “princesses”
This is gonna help show his daughter what real love is. She needs a good example like that when she starts dating later.
This hits home. Be there for your daughters as well as your sons.
thats kind of presumptuous? how do you know she will be straight? not everything revolves around cishet normie relationships
@@nottheone582 Did they ever mention “ dating men“ no they said “ dating“ I agree it’s dumb to assume things like that however you’re causing problems that don’t exist and you’re one of the people that homophobic people reference when they try to make us look bad having a strong father figure in your life whether you date men or women will influence your relationships in general both parental figures and your childhood influences your relationships whether they’re straight or gay
@@nottheone582 and if your gay you still have personal relationships with people of opposite sexes.
Maybe don't base your romantic expectations on family members tho. that sounds a little too Freudian
As a 50 something father of 2 girls, new grandfather, husband, combat vet, I have had more tea partys, and make up sessions then I can count - wouldnt trade any of them for the world.
That last line hit hard, I’ve never heard an argument that powerful and I have no clue why
Nothing like some glitter to make a paper man crumble! :D
Real men aren’t scared of the color pink
One of my fondest memories is of my brother doing my hair, Nothing unmanly about him.
Funnily enough as a man, one of
My fondest memories is doing my little nieces hair, because they got so happy, it was adorable lol
I'm sure you already know but your deserve to be told, you're an amazing father
My dad had so many sisters. He was such an emotional person, so good with how we felt. He had BPD, unfortunately. He's the only man I've ever seen cry in my entire life. I am so greatful I got to see that. He only ever cared about his kids. He still cares only about us. He is the MOST manliest man I have ever met. But the second he gets around us, he makes memories and dreams come true that'll never be forgotten.