My sister and brother in law gave their extra embryos to other couples who couldn't obtain their own. They found out that one of them was born and they have another boy out there. They are respecting the privacy of the parents and not asking for contact. The only issue that I have with this is that I was given up for adoption by my parents before they were married. While I had a wonderful life I always struggled with who I was. In 1985 when I was 21 I found my entire birth family with two full younger siblings. Since my sister found out she has another child out there we've become much closer, as she finally understands why I needed to find them.
The ramifications of not knowing one's genetic origins are *huge*, especially when there is disharmony in the adoptive family. The simple knowledge that one is not genetically similar (that is, either physically or temperamentally) to one's parents and siblings is also mind-boggling. All the members of my adopted family always seemed to be on the same page as one another ... and then there was me, who invariably held a different opinion and expressed myself differently to the way they did. Don't get me wrong! I'm not bent out of shape by my adoptive status (well, not much, that is). But I have numerous insecurities, anxieties and differences that I can never resolve to my own satisfaction, simply because the knowledge of who I really am was denied me until too late. This situation means that those of us who grew up without knowing our genetic origins will always be at odds in one way or another with everyone around us AND WE DON'T REALLY KNOW WHY! Is it because of being adopted and 'different', or just because of bloody-mindedness? Even after a reunion, my own experience was that my upbringing separated me vastly from my biological family and the chasm between us was just too great for any relationship. My two cents' worth that it's probably best to think carefully before you consign a human being to this awful limbo. Not everyone can handle it well.
What is up with Aussies using the term "fall pregnant" - its ridiculous - like its an accident or something completely unexpected....you wake up one day and go " Damn, I fell pregnant last night".
We were faced with years of infertility. Two different REs gave us less than 1% chance of success with IVF. We personally couldn’t reconcile the myriad of what ifs and decided IVF wasn’t for us. But miracles happen, and we now have four spontaneously conceived babies. 🥰
My sister and brother in law gave their extra embryos to other couples who couldn't obtain their own. They found out that one of them was born and they have another boy out there. They are respecting the privacy of the parents and not asking for contact. The only issue that I have with this is that I was given up for adoption by my parents before they were married. While I had a wonderful life I always struggled with who I was. In 1985 when I was 21 I found my entire birth family with two full younger siblings. Since my sister found out she has another child out there we've become much closer, as she finally understands why I needed to find them.
This made me tear up. Giving anyone the gift to have a child is a beautiful thing!
The ramifications of not knowing one's genetic origins are *huge*, especially when there is disharmony in the adoptive family. The simple knowledge that one is not genetically similar (that is, either physically or temperamentally) to one's parents and siblings is also mind-boggling. All the members of my adopted family always seemed to be on the same page as one another ... and then there was me, who invariably held a different opinion and expressed myself differently to the way they did. Don't get me wrong! I'm not bent out of shape by my adoptive status (well, not much, that is). But I have numerous insecurities, anxieties and differences that I can never resolve to my own satisfaction, simply because the knowledge of who I really am was denied me until too late.
This situation means that those of us who grew up without knowing our genetic origins will always be at odds in one way or another with everyone around us AND WE DON'T REALLY KNOW WHY! Is it because of being adopted and 'different', or just because of bloody-mindedness? Even after a reunion, my own experience was that my upbringing separated me vastly from my biological family and the chasm between us was just too great for any relationship.
My two cents' worth that it's probably best to think carefully before you consign a human being to this awful limbo. Not everyone can handle it well.
Trish Brown You're right. I always likened being an adoptee as a square peg in a round world. You just don't really fit in anywhere.
Wow! It's just TH-cam. Not being rude but literally nobody knows you. Chill with the novel ❤
@@TheRandomINFJ Thanks for the input, but maybe go and do your own chilling. No one forced you to read 'the novel' after all. ❤
What is up with Aussies using the term "fall pregnant" - its ridiculous - like its an accident or something completely unexpected....you wake up one day and go " Damn, I fell pregnant last night".
We were faced with years of infertility. Two different REs gave us less than 1% chance of success with IVF. We personally couldn’t reconcile the myriad of what ifs and decided IVF wasn’t for us. But miracles happen, and we now have four spontaneously conceived babies. 🥰
Every sperm and egg have a potential for life 🙄
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