Feeling Alone with Your Mental Illness

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  • @cynthiawinn9496
    @cynthiawinn9496 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I'm very lonely and isolated as a 64 yr old widow with no children. I go to work and come home, eat, and go to bed. Just to get up and do the same thing day after day. I have no support. No one knows what I'm going through. I'm a Christian and often told, "You're never alone, God is always with you." People don't get it unless you're actually in it. I battle depression, I tried therapy, but it's very expensive. I tell my selfI have the victory in this!! I'm trying!!!!!!

    • @slackingoffagain
      @slackingoffagain 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It's hard. I see clients. My husband have kids abd baby mama lives 2hrs away. Im alone evry single night except maybe onve or twice a month. Im not grateful because he's never around. In fact im lonely right now. I just beoke up w him so i can be alone but not lonely wishing someone is here. I got to a gym everyday for 3-4hrs so im not sitting in my house alone

  • @lilycat1694
    @lilycat1694 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    No close relationships here and it sucks

  • @marklowe947
    @marklowe947 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I always prefer to be alone when I'm not feeling well. I'm currently struggling with depression and anxiety, and just want to run away and hide.

  • @KBroadwater
    @KBroadwater ปีที่แล้ว +44

    I don't think I've cried watching a video harder then just watching yours.
    I'm in the grips of mental illness. That's why I came looking for videos to see if others have what I have or more importantly others who really know what I'm dealing with. Therapy helps, but when I'm home and have an episode it's rough, lonely, and since the pandemic only increased ten-fold.
    Thanks for the video. 1st time viewer. Made me feel so not alone.

    • @dmgsoultogetherness6667
      @dmgsoultogetherness6667 ปีที่แล้ว

      me too

    • @bubblezovlove7213
      @bubblezovlove7213 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      i cant even cry now they had to put me on +California rocket fuel+ antidepressants... It was needed for sure.... but not actually being able to cry is like an amputation. no small thing.... i worry my face is no longer expressive too.... :( but hey... i'm alive and there are things i love and enjoy so im grateful :D If anyone needs a friend, come say hi... i certainly need a friend..

    • @user-wb2yv7ll9d
      @user-wb2yv7ll9d ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Crying is such a healthy thing to do, I think it's a good sign for you that you are able to process emotions through tears. I hope you're doing better. ❤

    • @user-wb2yv7ll9d
      @user-wb2yv7ll9d ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@bubblezovlove7213 I agree with you, I can't cry either and it's horrible. ❤

    • @paulinemanifold436
      @paulinemanifold436 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi !,I'm struggling too ,hope you're doing a bit better ,bubblezovlove .
      I find Christmas awful xx

  • @Kevin-ef4cc
    @Kevin-ef4cc ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I was diagnosed with schizophrenia 25 years ago. And in that time I've learned to shift my perspectives. I traded paranoia and concluded that I was just precautionary I also traded loneliness for solitude. Learning to shift your perspective makes a huge difference.

    • @Type_null14
      @Type_null14 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This comment helped me. Thank you 🙏

    • @johnconstable8512
      @johnconstable8512 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      "traded loneliness for solitude" what's the difference?

    • @Kevin-ef4cc
      @Kevin-ef4cc ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@johnconstable8512 with loneliness there is pain with solitude there is peace

    • @johnconstable8512
      @johnconstable8512 ปีที่แล้ว

      how do you support yourself with the schizophrenia diagnose?

    • @Kevin-ef4cc
      @Kevin-ef4cc ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@johnconstable8512 I am a hauler

  • @elenakordonowy1587
    @elenakordonowy1587 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I am a nursing student who graduates this spring. Your videos are helping me to learn more about where some of my patients will be so that I can care for them better. Thank you!

  • @Zachy_Wacky978
    @Zachy_Wacky978 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I am so sorry for you and anyone else who has to feel alone during such a problematic time. I understand this feeling as I have Asperger's and Personality Disorders (one of which being Schizotypal Personality Disorder) which is quite similar to Schizophrenia but lacks psychotic symptoms and mostly impacts cognition. My condition has isolated me from many others as I am still young. I often come across as indifferent and unkind. My intentions are purely positive but stigma has made it difficult for me to reach out and seek help and support. You are loved and that no matter what mental illness you are suffering from, you aren't broken, you are simply different. Own your uniqueness and love yourself!!

    • @horizonblack
      @horizonblack ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Some of the best people I have ever met had autism. One of them also had SPD. Nothing to say here, just that I see you.

  • @ctrawick3
    @ctrawick3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Lauren - I don’t suffer with any type of mental illness, so I watch all of this from an outside, uneducated perspective.
    I have to say, though, that you likely don’t begin to understand the blessing you are to others as you share your story with honesty and integrity.
    Keep going and know that you make a difference. I wholeheartedly believe that.

  • @-lloygic-3565
    @-lloygic-3565 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    Being neurodivergent, I've found that this channel's honest integrity has been validating. I too struggle with being heard and understood often, and it can be very isolating. Thanks for doing what you do!

    • @MinnesotanMysticism
      @MinnesotanMysticism ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same, this vid really spoke to me. This whole channel has meant so much

    • @EddVCR
      @EddVCR ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same. This channel is so important to neurodivergent people, including me.

    • @blydnhvghn
      @blydnhvghn ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Curious, why do people say neurodivergent instead of identifying the specific disorder or disability (example: adhd bipolar ptsd) that makes one “neurodivergent”? Is it a result of not being formerly diagnosed?

    • @EddVCR
      @EddVCR ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@blydnhvghn For me it’s just easier to use that one term that encompasses all brain function divergence. It’s easier just to say “I’m neurodivergent, and…” rather than saying “I have ADHD and chronic depression, and…”
      Also, some people may want to talk about relating their experiences with having brain differences without disclosing their exact diagnosis. It’s the commenter’s choice whether or not to disclose their diagnoses.

    • @MinnesotanMysticism
      @MinnesotanMysticism ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@blydnhvghn I’m not exactly shy about my deal, autism. I just don’t invite the word into my life most the time. I try to allow myself to simply be, without words of an idea. The idea of autism is the map, the life of us is the territory; I know best and love most the territory of life

  • @tcort
    @tcort ปีที่แล้ว +7

    ❤️

  • @islac8525
    @islac8525 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you so much. I'm feeling really ill at the moment. I feel like my mind is breaking into pieces. I feel crippling lonely hearing your voice, and your honesty has made me realise that others are going through the same thing. To those who feel hopeless, don't give up. Even though it's unbearable to have a mind that can't be controlled. You are strong, and you have fight left because you clicked this video and read the comments.

  • @rozashanina3167
    @rozashanina3167 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    I love who you are as a human being, I know it doesn't mean anything from a TH-cam comment from someone you don't even know but we're all there for you as much as possible! We all love you!

    • @PraveenSrJ01
      @PraveenSrJ01 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same here. I’m definitely here for you if you want to talk.

    • @PraveenSrJ01
      @PraveenSrJ01 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      My best friend who is male of 20 years recently ghosted 👻 me and it has been a painful experience and I’ve been struggling with a variety of feelings.

  • @reinaldopereira1268
    @reinaldopereira1268 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I've been feeling very lonely lately. It's sad when people want to offer you support, but don't know how. It's even worse when we realize there isn't much they can actually do. It's good to know we're not completely alone, but sad to realize that loneliness will always be there in some way.

  • @layotheleprechaun
    @layotheleprechaun ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I also felt so alone during my mental illness. Creating my youtube channel and podcast has been one of the best remedies

  • @michellegillie4817
    @michellegillie4817 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Your videos are comforting to me. My son has been bounced around to three different facilities and just now in the past two weeks is getting the proper treatment. He still has psychosis bad and I’m so scared for him and I miss him so bad. Thank you for your videos. I hope whenever he comes home I can sit and watch them with him and pray it helps him also. 😢

  • @paulmurphy2144
    @paulmurphy2144 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I have suffered with a stammer all my life, which has forced me into lonliness so many times even with people around me. Its a pure joy finding your channel, and understanding my isolation moods etc..

  • @thegnarlyvagabond
    @thegnarlyvagabond ปีที่แล้ว +7

    It's so important to communicate. I talk to a psychologist, and he was unsure if I ever even had schizophrenia, and instead only had drug induced psychosis. I think he knows now, after I explained to him some of my experiences from way back, where I was having the entire universe communicate with me and believed I had snipers on the rooftops ready to protect me. So wellness is possible.

    • @theTranscendentOnes
      @theTranscendentOnes ปีที่แล้ว

      I had similar delusions to yours, like communicating with people and thinking it's the universe intentionally sending me a message, or watching something on TV and thinking it was intentionally placed there as a secret message. But I never experienced auditory and visual hallucinations. Could I still be having schizoaffective disorder?

    • @thegnarlyvagabond
      @thegnarlyvagabond ปีที่แล้ว

      @@theTranscendentOnes I never had hallucinations, only delusions like you but they diagnosed with schizophrenia. A lot of people hate the meds they give us so I wouldn't be too eager to get diagnosed, but if you're desperate for help it can be an option.

    • @theTranscendentOnes
      @theTranscendentOnes ปีที่แล้ว

      @@thegnarlyvagabond No I was hospitalized, and I was officially diagnosed. But I'm not sure the diagnose is correct.

    • @thegnarlyvagabond
      @thegnarlyvagabond ปีที่แล้ว

      @@theTranscendentOnes It gets better. You get used to the feeling of emptiness. They used to tell me to view the treatment as a job, and I've later adopted this mindset. It helps me rationalize not being productive. You got this!!

    • @Slidehhy
      @Slidehhy ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@thegnarlyvagabondhow long does it take to get used to it

  • @Crystalquartz964
    @Crystalquartz964 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thinking of all who read this who feel lonely and misunderstood. I often feel a complete lack of connection and have tried attending Churches but end up worse off than before. Thank you Lauren for putting it all into words and offering advice.

  • @themorningmist99
    @themorningmist99 ปีที่แล้ว +313

    The worst form of loneliness is when you're surrounded by people, friends, and family, but yet nobody can reach you. You talk and smile with them, yet you're so far from them. You hurt, and nobody can see your pain. You try to reach out, but because of the symptoms, you're pushed back. And so you sit there in the darkness while the world enjoys the light. All you can do is suffer in silence. That pain can be almost unbearable. Good video

    • @donnadixon289
      @donnadixon289 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Good description of major depression.😢

    • @gatosavtobus8625
      @gatosavtobus8625 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      So true,i am not alone,but the distance between me and others is vast ,stranger thing is when nobody is there you feeling they are watching you!

    • @layotheleprechaun
      @layotheleprechaun ปีที่แล้ว +3

      💚

    • @bronze5634
      @bronze5634 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      💯 agree

    • @bronze5634
      @bronze5634 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Agree 💯

  • @grahamhardie6853
    @grahamhardie6853 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Loneliness is a bit of a pandemic in itself these days (a third of the UK’s population live alone). I wish you luck with your battle with loneliness. I am much luckier now since I got married 6 years ago as my wife has bipolar and we both keep each other company and share a similar background and understanding of our conditions which has for me been extremely liberating and blessing 👍

  • @baileyhallfilms
    @baileyhallfilms ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Lauren you are a brave and selfless leader and I hope you can manage your experience with feeling lonely and struggling to convey to loved ones / people how you are coping with symptoms or experiences.

  • @aleksandracatt
    @aleksandracatt ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Not just that it can feel lonely with this illness but also very hard because you’re different. I remember when I was child ( I was probably in the prodromal phase of schizophrenia, I got sick with 18 years old) around 7-8 years old, I remember seeing all kids in my classroom in school play and I wondered why can’t I be like them, I was very quiet and introverted. I also experienced being bullied for being different. So, not only did I feel alone but I also experienced bullying for being different, now I understand that I was ‘different’ because I was in prodromal phase of schizophrenia. I even was bullied by one teacher there for my ‘personality’.

    • @yelenarotar2307
      @yelenarotar2307 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      My dad has suffered with schizophrenia and bullying since he was 7 as well.

    • @TM-wb3ly
      @TM-wb3ly ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I can relate

    • @melinaburkhardt421
      @melinaburkhardt421 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Maureen Smith I can relate! School was such a challenge. Discarded and bullied and suffering left severe scars that are triggered so easily. I am still feeling akward when I attend school meetings in my parental role aß a mother of three. The loneliness and the fear on the playground, No friends No Fun Just survival mode and feeling sooooo homesick. My folks where even understanding nur couldn't help.😔🥺😱😢

    • @katrinawilliams437
      @katrinawilliams437 ปีที่แล้ว

      I can relate to this

    • @katrinawilliams437
      @katrinawilliams437 ปีที่แล้ว

      I missed a lot of days on high school because I felt like I couldn’t learn as quickly as others and I was also bullied

  • @insertnamehere5452
    @insertnamehere5452 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    In memory of my best friend who took her own life due to depression and lack of emotional and financial support from her parents, I hope any parents reading this can take a step back and check on your son/daughter, especially if they're an only child. The parents of my best friend are really helpful people, they help fund the tuition fees of my best friend's cousins. However, her parents had to sacrifice the needs of their own daughter.
    I knew her struggles and hurt so I was there for her. But in the end, no amount of support and love kept her with us because it was such a tough battle for her.
    I will spread awareness of your struggle in hopes of preventing other people who are in your shoes take their own lives. Rest peacefully, Briana.

  • @janefuller1737
    @janefuller1737 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I want you to know I understand. I’m just like you. ❤️. I get what you’re saying. Bless you, Sweetie! You have no idea how much I appreciate your work and bringing us your story.

  • @MoeTurkmusic
    @MoeTurkmusic ปีที่แล้ว +3

    thank you for this channel , i also suffer from schizoeffective bipolar and its so terrifying to experience this alone

    • @tamzar2440
      @tamzar2440 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Your not alone ✝️ ok

  • @ncordeau45
    @ncordeau45 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Beautiful video. I like the way you express yourself, easy to understand and comforting, ty so much 🙂

    • @A10011
      @A10011 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      A natural communicator. It's very easy to take that for granted because it 'looks' easy.

  • @genesis631
    @genesis631 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    This is why channels like this is so important. It was for me. Thanks for sharing your experience.❤
    Also the folks on reddit are great.

    • @ginichase5648
      @ginichase5648 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you again for sharing your experience. I just commented yesterday on another one of your videos that was a thing for me. To see you share your symptoms and struggle is so overwhelming and makes me feel seen.
      It's been an ongoing struggle to find the way to voice thing's with my doctor.

    • @PraveenSrJ01
      @PraveenSrJ01 ปีที่แล้ว

      This channel really helps me also and I like watching her videos. It makes everyday life more manageable.

    • @srikanthrbs1362
      @srikanthrbs1362 ปีที่แล้ว

      Similar to this video, a great watch on who killed individuality th-cam.com/video/IgmxbkyZVC4/w-d-xo.html

  • @brianpeck3595
    @brianpeck3595 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yes i do feel alone thank you Loran for your videos brian

    • @Mary-sf8cy
      @Mary-sf8cy ปีที่แล้ว

      You are not alone, Brian!

  • @petsmart1000
    @petsmart1000 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Thank you for making this video. I’ve been struggling so much lately. Mental health professionals treat the major depression but don’t address the borderline personality disorder symptoms, so though I’m not AS depressed, I still feel like I’m losing my mind. And ya I have no one that understands or even bother trying to. Just existing isn’t enough anymore. I feel so lost and agonizingly alone. 😖

    • @paddyree7734
      @paddyree7734 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Have you tried DBT?

    • @petsmart1000
      @petsmart1000 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@paddyree7734 I’ve heard about it for decades but no one specializes in it where I live. No one wants to deal with or work with people with the ‘taboo’ personality disorders, which leaves me feeling hopeless and unimportant like I don’t matter. Mental health resources are really lacking here so they don’t offer much but basic medication management. 😕

  • @realstaceylee
    @realstaceylee ปีที่แล้ว +35

    I think you are Canadian, right? I can’t help but wonder how different it is here in the US for all of the schizophrenic people who don’t have medical and psychological care or support and even end up on the streets😢😢😢, I know many end up in the legal system and there isn’t really long term therapy for them, I wish the attitude could change here about people’s needs for health and dignity ! Thank you ❤❤❤ as always for your work, it is sacred

    • @johannespinchbeck1493
      @johannespinchbeck1493 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I am in the same area as the host. It is a thousand times better in Canada than the state hospitals. We have a program called the 108 street group. It is a drop in center where you can get a break away from the illness. It starts with meditation, then doing just anything from painting, walks, Karioke (sp?). You can come or leave when you chose This is why it works there is no pressure and one finds that people do not linger on their illness. And some of these people are really, really sick.
      !Cheaper than hospital!

    • @hobolove2468
      @hobolove2468 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@johannespinchbeck1493that sounds so awesome

    • @Type_null14
      @Type_null14 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I wish this kind of therapy was available to those in the US. I have been suffering for years. I just turned 27 and every day I pray that I will survive this.

  • @chrisbtender5992
    @chrisbtender5992 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Thanks for the video. Peer support has helped me a lot too. It's harder when I'm going through it cause I get delusional about others intentions but it's good to know it's a resource there when im able to use it.
    Also the hats in the background are super cute! :3

  • @wolfdogdav
    @wolfdogdav ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for sharing. I struggle with these issues, too, so much. Loneliness does suck. It's a shroud of void that eats up at you. Let's do our best. Keep on keeping on.

  • @ikatsu6008
    @ikatsu6008 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I felt very loved listening to you to. You have been a great help for me. Your words and voice calm me down quite a bit. It felt somewhat I was home being comfortable with no other disturbances or arousals, frustrations inside. Thank you for being you the way you are. Please know you are loved always.

  • @beahbeahful
    @beahbeahful ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you so much for always helping me deal with my mental health, you are such an inspiration 🫂

  • @rebeckanorton9536
    @rebeckanorton9536 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I don't have any friends left currently and I've gone through years of complete isolation. I really just want someone to do things with. I can't afford therapy anymore after going for almost a year. Ive really just forgotten how to talk to people and communicate. Idk how to get out of this hole or what the next step is, I'm literally just stuck in the state of questioning whats gonna happen and what my future is. I've gotten myself stuck after making a lot of progress.

  • @Catlily5
    @Catlily5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Like You said, meeting other people with mental problems helped me feel less alone. Because they know what you are going through.
    Having my family and friends understand better helps a lot too.

    • @TM-wb3ly
      @TM-wb3ly ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is me exactly.
      I stay in groups for schizophrenia that are offered on social media so I can be with others who are different (but cool) like me and you...💗❤💗

    • @shiniv3498
      @shiniv3498 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey I'm searching for someone to connect to. I feel so lonely. Where can i connect to people with mental problems through online?

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shiniv3498 I am not sure. Lauren who made this video has online groups for people but they probably cost money.

  • @carolmussotter8439
    @carolmussotter8439 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Besides feeling very alone in all of these feelings…when a friend or family member says, “ I’m here if you need me,” I feel worse because I desperately WANT help but don’t know or can’t express what I need. I have no idea how to communicate what I’m going through and how I’m experiencing the world. Even keeping a journal and talking with my therapist is extremely challenging during these times.

  • @stepht9268
    @stepht9268 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for sharing! I am hopeful the future will have more empathy, support, and education, not stigma about mental health.

  • @marraine7299
    @marraine7299 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I can relate to this more than I wish. It's been 6 years since I started dealing with MI, and it's been very lonely. I've been diagnosed with a bunch of stuff (PTSD and autism for example), but I don't feel like I fit in with others with the same diagnoses. I seem to *just slightly* have different symptoms than them and therefore I can't relate to them so well, nor they to me... It gets very lonely (and my terrible hygiene due to PTSD doesn't help either). I mostly just spend my time gaming.
    MI really is quite isolating, and I am glad to not be the only one who feels that way.

  • @HD-pv4nn
    @HD-pv4nn ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I too have schizophrenia and i feel so alone inside my head and outside because i have no friends to talk to about it, thank you for your video you words matter and has give me hope, thank you for sharing, wish you the best

    • @HD-pv4nn
      @HD-pv4nn ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@canopus_reborn about what? Im a she not sir

  • @chaitea7891
    @chaitea7891 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Hello I was just diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder and I'm here for you. I'm so sorry you feel alone. I'm right here for you.

    • @ramuj8662
      @ramuj8662 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I also have it, hope you're doing well

  • @nuiwai5402
    @nuiwai5402 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have had family members fearful of mental health unwellness and that they ignore it in me or minimise it. I have experienced ridicule from family and being stigmatised. It made me disown my mental health reality. It feels so good to be with you, and all those who share their experiences. I refuse to let others belittle me. I am proud of me and my illness makes me who i am. I am alot better at self care. Hugs to all those facing their health issues. Fuck being shamed by others. Mental unwellness is a super power.

  • @BasedRaven96
    @BasedRaven96 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I have good friends, good mom, good support from professionals and so on. But sometimes I feel like I can't express 100% how I feel and that is something that kinda sucks.. It's not any ones fault though.

  • @bobtins
    @bobtins ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Wow, what you're saying is very profound, because the deep sense of aloneness is a fundamental part of schizophrenia and depression, but reaching out to others for help can alleviate that pain. It is not as easy or natural for us to seek or offer help. It's hard to be vulnerable; we've learned to fear that. But it can help us heal. Thank you for being vulnerable and honest...we appreciate it.

  • @atakanucar9708
    @atakanucar9708 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are a precious soul. Even simply listening to your voice brings me a sense of relaxation. :’)

  • @mr-jd3xv
    @mr-jd3xv ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience and hope.

  • @lalabebesita2112
    @lalabebesita2112 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i love this lady..i related to a lot. and feel confort. i honestly feel like i met you before

  • @ericg4257
    @ericg4257 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for sharing your story. You are seen. You are heard.

  • @imautisticnowwhat
    @imautisticnowwhat ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for this ❤❤

  • @lsteph1000
    @lsteph1000 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    As a mother with a schizophrenic daughter I am sure you are never alone, but we cannot walk in your shoes. It is the same with any other serious illness. Your videos have been very helpful.

  • @lukaszwason5031
    @lukaszwason5031 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I have Schizoaffective Disorder and I'm struggling with people understanding my condition.
    When I'm well enough, I'm able to perform a facade and act normal, but putting on the facade takes a lot out of me. When I'm unable to carry on with the facade, the people around me struggle to accept me when I'm symptomatic - people just don't understand.
    I don't know how to help them understand, nobody seems to understand even a little bit.
    Do any other people with this condition feel this way, or have any experience in helping those around them understand?

    • @UntilxThexSunxDies
      @UntilxThexSunxDies ปีที่แล้ว +3

      People who are spiritual get me. I have schizoaffective disorder, and I can't relate to people normally.

    • @WDBsirLocksight
      @WDBsirLocksight ปีที่แล้ว

      These descriptions esp Lukas reminds me of ASD individuals who also mask.
      I can understand from that perspective as well as my host of other issues some that affect energy and motivation. Loneliness just comes with the territory.
      Sometimes wonder if schizoaffevtive is just ASD at times.

    • @HD-pv4nn
      @HD-pv4nn ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@UntilxThexSunxDiesi am very spiritual with my schizophrenia, i don't know how others can handle not checking how i feel about god in the small daily moments of everyday life

    • @HD-pv4nn
      @HD-pv4nn ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@UntilxThexSunxDieslet me know if your looking for a friend, im looking for friends

  • @logosophia
    @logosophia ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your channel is SUPER HELPFUL! You are an amazing person and peer supporter. Thank you!

  • @80islandia
    @80islandia ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great video topic. I find our current MH system can exacerbate the shame in people with mental illness, and reinforce the idea that we are "made wrong." It is hard to connect with people who are empathetic, good, and nice when we feel like outsiders or monsters, or that something about us is "broken."
    I find the thing I often need in a connection is someone who can rage alongside me at the injustices inherent in the MH system, including the absence of very basic, intuitive care. Someone who has been through emotionally dark times, and gets the ways we have been dismissed and dismantled, even if they have not shared an identical experience.
    I like the idea Lauren expressed about finding ways to express specific needs. One thing I want to flag is that sometimes you can express your needs repeatedly and people will pathologize you for doing so, or claim that your perception is off for even having these needs in the first place. There are also people who may be invested in wanting to save or fix you. Be very careful about connecting with these people, and initiate a disconnect if you feel safe to do so.
    There are basic needs and expectations for respectful conduct that you should not have to articulate. Being around a supportive person should feel inherently good; it shouldn't feel like work.

    • @HD-pv4nn
      @HD-pv4nn ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I too am very emotional person and i feel society is difficult to connect with because they think were are less than

  • @karstent8138
    @karstent8138 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I think the thing that's needed is just spending time with you and having conversations, not simply being told that you can do it, which is pretty much what you're saying 😊

  • @darbyczarnecki
    @darbyczarnecki ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I have a partner who is avoidant about my disorder, likely out of helplessness. I am otherwise isolated. When I found your channel I was in a very desperate place, and your videos have been the biggest catalyst yet for growing hope! I find myself with tears in my eyes sometimes while watching, amazed that at least one other person on this planet has experienced what I have. Your videos are like therapy. As in, I go in, sit down, open my mind, maybe cry a little, smile, learn something and feel less terrified of myself. I appreciate your sincerity and willingness to share. You are changing lives. Thank you.

  • @annehartmann6572
    @annehartmann6572 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you very much for these tipps, I‘m so glad about coming across this video!

  • @stevec3872
    @stevec3872 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    My 31 year old daughter with schizoaffective has felt completely alone even when I was just blocks away. She was in an institution during Covid so she was kept isolated, no visitors, & even afterwards that isolation was continued with no visits from family or loved ones. We could talk on the phone, but weren't allowed to see her. Heartbreaking.

    • @PraveenSrJ01
      @PraveenSrJ01 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m so sorry about what you both went through and I wish you all the best. Thank you for getting the courage to share your story on TH-cam.

    • @Irishrose777
      @Irishrose777 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That sounds so painful to go through that kind of isolation. Are you in the US or another country?

    • @roadlesstraveledm9248
      @roadlesstraveledm9248 ปีที่แล้ว

      Steve C , same here, hospitals continue their COVID regulations

    • @MichelleBanda77
      @MichelleBanda77 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🥺❤️🌹

  • @feralfoods
    @feralfoods ปีที่แล้ว

    i've got bipolar, my wife had cptsd+other emotional issues. we lost all support, had bad medical and therapy. family members were emotionally abusive to her, and she killed herself at age 39, and it destroyed my life, made all of my bipolar symptoms go totally haywire. our friends had moved out of town, our families had already turned against us, and the isolation+abuse destroyed our lives. - today, alone, it's mostly 'white-knuckling it' to get through a single day. her suxxcide was about five years ago, but still feels like yesterday. the loneliness & guilt is crushing. - thank you for being so brave to post these videos. you are amazing, and so helpful to all of us.

  • @tomhardy90
    @tomhardy90 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for this video, it’s super comforting 🤍

  • @ingram4896
    @ingram4896 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Ever since I moved to Canada my depression worsened 10 folds I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I'm originally from Morocco ( north Africa close to Spain ) where it's very sunny all year round I'm seeing a psychiatrist next week it could be just a vitamin D deficiency tho I'm not sure but damn life is hell....

    • @pauldemelto6650
      @pauldemelto6650 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      God bless you. I hope you feel better. Vitamin D affects my mood so it can have an impact, but exercise, sleep, diet, and COMMUNITY are also super important for your mental health. Moving to such a drastically different climate is probably a huge shock to your system. It will take a lot of self care and adjustment to improve the impact. Good luck with the doctor!!!

    • @johannespinchbeck1493
      @johannespinchbeck1493 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You could not being getting enough sunlight these cloudy days

    • @HD-pv4nn
      @HD-pv4nn ปีที่แล้ว

      My voices got less because i took a vitamin shot, im healing

    • @jantaljaard835
      @jantaljaard835 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Maybe you need some artificisl light source, the one that look like sunshine.

    • @MichelleBanda77
      @MichelleBanda77 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sending so much love and support to you 🌹❤️

  • @Mary-sf8cy
    @Mary-sf8cy ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for these videos. You're a savior

  • @Chippy88
    @Chippy88 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I hear you. I am going through the feeling alone part of it really bad this time. I have ocd. My family is sick of hearing it and I don’t blame them. It could be exhausting for people so I don’t blame them. So I have no one to talk to and they don’t understand.

    • @HD-pv4nn
      @HD-pv4nn ปีที่แล้ว

      I developed ocd with my schizophrenia, i feel alone too, i feel you

  • @Fear_Therapy
    @Fear_Therapy ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for talking about this. ❣

  • @OperationFoxley19441
    @OperationFoxley19441 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I live in the UK and there is more help for Alcohol and Drug addiction than there is for mental health. Still a lot of stigma here.

  • @DanielleMM-ct8ip
    @DanielleMM-ct8ip ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I wasn’t able to finish watching this. I am so alone and it feels really painful

  • @donnafleetwood3884
    @donnafleetwood3884 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    I recently was sent to a mental health hospital but they turned me away saying i had been there before and to go home and get counseling. It was very humiliating and I feel very alone without support.

    • @Rawwdogg_teet
      @Rawwdogg_teet ปีที่แล้ว +6

      A few months ago, I went asking for help outside of the hospital and they tried to hold me for "mania" as if I would hurt someone or something. Was an awful experience and terrifies me now when I try reaching out to anyone.

    • @j3zproductions
      @j3zproductions ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I agree….I would know, BECAUSE, I have a bad TBI…..but, just what I’ve done since it’s happened, has helped myself to prove that im “capable “ n still strong… just…don’t lose hope…………….

    • @user-sc1es4wz4g
      @user-sc1es4wz4g ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ​@@Rawwdogg_teet i fear going to any medical doctor. Every time they want to hospitalize me. Even though the illness is under control. Never talk about your illness when talking to non psych doctors.

    • @mjennifer142
      @mjennifer142 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hell no I’m sorry that happened to you.

    • @leelakoganti9823
      @leelakoganti9823 ปีที่แล้ว

      How do u manage kids n family life do u have extended family support or something like that

  • @ChristinaDasilva_
    @ChristinaDasilva_ ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing this video, I have a diagnosis of bipolar & from this video I learnt that I usually withdraw myself from things I enjoy doing when I’m feeling low and I didn’t notice that before. I will now work on this Once again, thanks for sharing!

  • @matthewpence6017
    @matthewpence6017 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I totally relate to this! I have felt very alone. We are not alone, we are in this together!!!

  • @aeringossett6430
    @aeringossett6430 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi. I have schizoaffective disorder and it sucks. You are not alone. I feel like that too.

  • @marieolga4613
    @marieolga4613 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love n Light to you. I understand what you are going thru. My dghtr is going thru the same. She has No one to turn to but me. She has no friends or family to turn to.

  • @paulmurphy2144
    @paulmurphy2144 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Absolutely beautiful

  • @RichardHallam-p6r
    @RichardHallam-p6r 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We all feel for you, everyone is, and we are so proud of you, you are so brave, young lady.

  • @laurelgillespie5612
    @laurelgillespie5612 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks!

  • @robertstone8056
    @robertstone8056 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    GOOD VIDEO LAUREN.....HOPE YOUR DOING WELL😃

  • @radhikadhaipule3297
    @radhikadhaipule3297 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for making this video

  • @vonjess9
    @vonjess9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you very much. It helps me understand how to help my loved ones who has similar illnesses.

  • @pensidosyroconesyava
    @pensidosyroconesyava ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Really thankful for all the effort you do for this diffusion channel
    Thanks!

  • @oscarsurf311
    @oscarsurf311 ปีที่แล้ว

    sad that you feel alone you are soo kind, humble and smart! love your channel very accurate and informative!

  • @cwray11000
    @cwray11000 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I have really bad negative symptoms and feel alone with that. I have no energy and feel constantly weary/lethargic. I also struggle to take an interest in anything. Today when I was in the flat alone I was just walking from room to room thinking "I'm really not interested in anything". These symptoms are extremely difficult to live and there's aloneness with that.

    • @jennifermicallef
      @jennifermicallef ปีที่แล้ว

      I can really relate to your comment.

    • @cwray11000
      @cwray11000 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jennifermicallef do you have negative symptoms too?

    • @jennifermicallef
      @jennifermicallef ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I have a different diagnosis but I experience what you describe. Not always terrible but a large challenge always. I feel lucky to have family I care for; they keep me engaged with life. Even just the little things of housekeeping or having a nice face wash and the like are a big deal. It helps me more than I can describe. I hope you have some little things to it counts !!

    • @Slidehhy
      @Slidehhy ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@cwray11000it's a living hell how are you feeling now

  • @YellinHelenP
    @YellinHelenP ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I wonder if NAMI or another huge non-profit would ever consider hosting virtual meetups that are informal, fun, interesting, insightful and the mission just being to "make connections and forge new friendships" amongst those who are navigating schizophrenia/schizoaffective disorder. Then, over time, seeing if a friendship just naturally and organically happens that allows for the companionship of a like mind when needed. I bet it would be immensely helpful to have peer support. It also could probably be immensely invaluable to mentor those who are newly diagnosed. I want to do work in this field. I see so much that needs to be done and which would give profound impact to those who suffer.

  • @tiarabunch5923
    @tiarabunch5923 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes I feel this way too it sucks 😔

  • @karinafranca7696
    @karinafranca7696 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for sharing ❤️

  • @meganmahoney1749
    @meganmahoney1749 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for what you do.💕🙏

  • @Brian6587
    @Brian6587 ปีที่แล้ว

    God bless you for all you do! I have ASD (Asperger’s) and
    Sometimes feel alone but I know there are many out there.

  • @phill4120
    @phill4120 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for your testimony it really helped me.❤

  • @swati309
    @swati309 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Lauren .. you gave me a new thought today .. sending love back to you ❤

  • @frankallanjohansen1250
    @frankallanjohansen1250 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nobody really knows what one goes through. That counts for everybody with or without mental illness. This is because experience is a subjective cultural construction. I got my schizophreniadiagnosis in 2017 and I still feel lonely during and after worsening of symptoms. Ive learned that this is my journey and what helps is working on my symptoms, let that be paranoia, anxiety or depression. Learning how to cope and work with tecniques has helped alot. Having that said, working on symptoms, is only part of giving me the quality of life. Things like values, hope, meaning and affiliation are central in my quality of life. And I am still learning, evolving and adapting.

  • @King_of_Sofa
    @King_of_Sofa ปีที่แล้ว +1

    From experience I have seen how people mirror each other. In the prodromal stage, one may signal their paranoia and insecurities with subtle hints and speak in metaphors to the people around them. This perpetuates feedback loops where such types of communication get reflected back. It causes the person's fears to become confirmed. An individual may spiral into obsessive delusions of what other people may be thinking of them. Figuratively, it becomes like a game of hot potato that the longer an individual takes part in, the stickier that hot potato gets. The way back is to foster a secure sense of self that does not hinge on what others might think of you. Say what you mean and mean what you say so that it is in line with your healthy self concept. And make clear what is and what is not within your control. And make peace with your fears. And as you do those things, remember that you don't need to prove yourself to anyone. If anyone reads this and this resonates with you, I wish you strength, healing, courage and grit

  • @brianmunkeskov8749
    @brianmunkeskov8749 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Last week was an especially tough time...thank you for all you do🙏❤️

  • @MOLLYLUNCHCO
    @MOLLYLUNCHCO ปีที่แล้ว

    I am learning so much from you, Lauren. Thank you!

  • @adamrodriguez2973
    @adamrodriguez2973 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Is there a hotline number just to talk to I can't talk to anyone about having schezoaffective disorder I hope there is a number just for talking to it I am glad I'm not alone but I wouldn't wish this on anyone people would never understand so I just don't try because people get scared of they do listen I'm glad God made you start doing this on TH-cam I feel better knowing that I'm not the only one who goes through pretty much the same thing and I see life can be good between symptoms.. thank you for all you do

  • @Miriam-ui5pw
    @Miriam-ui5pw ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I feel alone in it sometimes too. Hope it gets better for us.

    • @srikanthrbs1362
      @srikanthrbs1362 ปีที่แล้ว

      Similar to this video, a great watch on who killed individuality th-cam.com/video/IgmxbkyZVC4/w-d-xo.html

  • @lovelife9332
    @lovelife9332 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I 100% understand how it feels because I struggle everyday with mental illness. I wish you lived next door! We could be each others support friend 😊. I know it’s hard but know God is with you if you Will believe. Even if you can’t feel it, just have faith that one day your pain can be all over if you start praying and seeking Jesus ❤. According to the Bible, all of the signs are happening that reveal God is going to rapture his church out of this world any day now. So have hope that your pain could be gone at any time. Jesus will take his believers with him forever with new bodies and no more pain, sadness, etc.!! Anyway, I know I got sidetracked, but I literally know the pain and loneliness you are describing and it’s hard to find friends that are even capable of understanding because they aren’t mentally ill. I think the support group is a good idea 👍

  • @ashleygressel5628
    @ashleygressel5628 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for the work you are doing ❤️

  • @teresastaggs7923
    @teresastaggs7923 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Lauren!

  • @colecooper1550
    @colecooper1550 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey I have been diagnosed with scitzophrenia for a few years your videos help alot especially the interviews with other people what I have found helps is when I pull out my phone to take a video that guy has helped me out with that! and but honestly right now yes I am feeling alone I have no one to help me I try to talk to my friends but they just leave or get mad I don't have any family members that help they are abusive and that I don't know I've been having hallucinations and audible voices alot lately and I've just been super paranoid and depressed! I try to watch your self theorpy videos to help whitch they do but I dont know I'm afraid to go back to the hospital I never had a good experience at the past hospital the nurse I had laughed at me and yelled at me for doing nothing

  • @pizzapie08
    @pizzapie08 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have schizoaffective disorder and this was something I really struggled with a few years ago before my diagnosis and still struggle with sometimes. I remember being so angry because I felt misunderstood and alone and I felt like I was drowning and nobody cared. (This could've also been a delusional thought making me think that nobody cared about me) Luckily I was able to find treatment and gain the skills to express my emotions to my family and in turn gain their support which I always had I just needed it in a different way than they were giving.

  • @veroniquebeaunoyer306
    @veroniquebeaunoyer306 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello, thank you so much. ✨🌟✨

  • @zone6472
    @zone6472 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    We don’t have peer support here, so I can’t talk with anyone about my struggles and my family seems to not want to know! Stigma is the reason and the unwillingness to want to care!

    • @Paintnsew
      @Paintnsew ปีที่แล้ว

      13:10 I have found support through NAMI. They have some excellent programs and a lot of them are zoom. Maybe that would be a help for you. That is the National Association for Mental Illness.

  • @jop7672
    @jop7672 ปีที่แล้ว

    Youre message is critical! What a great De-stimgatized message. Society needs this message!