WOWWW yall, this popped off!! thank you so much 🥹🥹 I’m more active on instagram now @becomingben if you want to follow and watch my newer videos there! y’all are the best❤❤ edit: maybe I'll do an AMA on my IG stories??
You have violated God's Law that He wrote in your heart; your own conscience condemns you. Therefore, you deserve 'the fine'-the punishment of hell. But God is good, gracious, and kind. He desires to show you mercy! For this reason, Jesus Christ (God in the flesh) died on the cross. The Law was violated, but Christ paid the fine. He suffered in exchange, as the Substitute; and He rose on the third day. Repent and place all your faith in the Person and work of Jesus Christ, and you will be saved from the wrath of God.
@@RebecaGarces-mb4yn Amen sister 🙏 but remember to also respect their choice bc God gave us free will. if they think that they dont want to change bc thats who they are, then dont force them, okay? luv ya ❤
Until recently I've been working as a substitute teacher. Towards the end of the last year I was in a first grade class, and one of the little boys came up to me and told me that he had two moms. I responded by telling him how cool that was and that he was very lucky and special to have two moms. I was amazed by his courage to be so open, but now that I think about it, he wasn't being courageous at all. It was simply all he knew. It was normal for him.
Hopefully in the future it can get normalized to a point like this for society. That people won’t NEED to be courageous to speak about their queer connections…
Kinda vaguely related but I was raised by my grandmother, mother, and aunt. I had no idea it was not normal until 1st grade. Like 95% of other kids were at the orientation with their mom and DAD. I was shocked lol
I would like to have been adopted by two gay men. In 1973, at age 11, I was placed in a home for child abuse because of my homosexuality. The result was violence by 365 boys, approximately 365 days a year. Some of the few gay kids broke down. I went into silence mode. I wish I had a dad and father instead back then.
TH-cam IS VERY STRANGE WITH RECOMMENDATIONS TODAY 💀 yesterday youtube recommended me a video from 5 years ago where a TH-camr was saying goodbye to her fans because her depression got the better of her and she committed su1c1d3 😢 (I don't want to disrespect anyone btw I was just mentioning it, I hope you don't get offended❤)
@@BURNINTHEDEEPESTPITOFHELL Once it’s on the internet, it’s always on the internet. I briefly started getting stuff from The Love Connection TV show that came out Before the internet. Heck, I get texts from people on something I posted several years ago and they’re seeing it as if I just posted it.
This is proof that multicultural, queer families CAN raise well-adjusted, bright, intelligent children. It takes a village to raise children, and it doesn't matter who. As long as they are kind people.
Also separated parents! I think we take 4 granted the collective efforts & wider family in child raising. I feel there is so much love in this family that raising good children was inevitable regardless of familial structure.
Love is love. As long as a child is protected, nurtured and loved, it doesn’t matter what gender the parents are. Your dads seem like great people. You’re fortunate.
@@jordandthornburgif it comes from a place of bigotry, their opinion is irrelevant. If they truly believe they would have been better out with no parents than gay parents, they’re delusional.
Im a young gay guy, when I catch myself thinking about having kids, I find myself asking how they'd think and feel about having two dads. It's a big world out there, alot of people and different thinking. You, your dads, and how you were and what you are now... is just amazing to think about. Thank you.
@@sebastianlaz137 Maybe the solution normalizing the fact that you can have 2 dads or 2 moms and be a perfect functional family as any other family. Having 1 mom and 1 dad doesn't mean you will have necessarily a good childhood either. I think most kids get some kind of discrimination or insults for whatever they are different, if kids wants to laugh at you and isolate you, they will find a reason to do so no matter how your family is.
@@mariaastin This is really solid, I'm from a very very very homophobic country (Nigeria) where staying in the closet just seems like common sense, people always find a way to discriminate if something strays outside "societal norms", or any thing that's foreign to them, you can't really blame them tho considering it's how they were brought up
@@sebastianlaz137 yeah well, it's true that it depends on the context, on the social norms. But I think it's interesting to have an open mind and normalize things that are not really a problem, like they are not as bad as conservative people believe, and be more emphatic and respectful to others. But well, if you see that it's like impossible to tackle the problem, you may consider not to have children at least, not surrounded by this particular society.
What makes it more amazing is that your parents filmed everything when you were kids. They really really love you so much. So much more than average straight parents to their kids.
ikr. this was the era where there was no phone camera. it's crazy amount of footage for that time. my family had no videos AT ALL back then bcs we couldn't afford it. he was so loved, i hope he knows that
I mean, this video was great. But the parents filming him is less about love and more about the priviledge of money. Poor families who couldn't afford a camera back then don't love their kids any less. It's a weird correlation to make.
it depends on your kid's gender girls need a mother and boys need a father thats not just a problem with gay marriage also a problem with single parenting....
I have two Moms and I love you very much, I am not adopted, my biological mother and my father separated when I was 6 years old because he hit us often and my mother began go to psychology with me and there she met Camila who is now my second mother. I am not ashamed of them at all and I feel happy with them ❤️
@@akuhimayoumatoiIt's ok❤ actually nobody can born from 2 moms or 2 dads! So it's ok to be adopted by 2 moms if you would like to Search about them and I'm sure you'll find a lovely ones❤
Because of the title, I clicked on this video expecting an in depth report about every single aspect of your life and an analysis on what things are different from straight parenting. But at the end it was clear: there's no need for convoluted explanations. That single anecdote you shared is the proof and that all that is needed to know is that you had parents that loved you the way every child deserves to be loved. It's so obvious yet it surprised me still.
Whenever I see people say "Children deserve a mom and a dad" my mind immediately goes "but what if gay dads or lesbian moms can provide a stable parent like figure of the opposite gender, like a family friend or uncle/aunt?" And by seeing how happy you were and are, their argument kinda... Drops. Tho many children long for a parent of a different gender, it doesn't mean all will.
Even if you have a male and female parent it still doesn't necessarily work because there would always be at least some children longing for 1 parent, or 2 of the same gender. Personally I'd probably like 2 mothers if I was to choose what I think I'd like most.
Those people seriously need to get a grip and realize children should be treated as individuals and not "well mommy and daddy setup work for MY little one, so obviously I know better for every other child everywhere out there in the world" 🤧
OMG. I ama lesbian and I am thinking about having a wife and children in the future but I know the probability is so low. But still, I really want to be a mother and I know that my children would need a male figure so I would make sure they got male figures. And I think people don't look at only one parent as a model. I think all children look at both of their parents as their role models.
In 2008, I was in kindergarten. One kid told us they had two moms, which for some reason the rest of the class saw as a flex. Another kid went “oh yeah? Well I have THREE moms” and I claimed to have eight moms.
Real I remember hearing the word gay when I was 3 and used context clues to find what it means and thought "Oh, people of the same gender can date? Ok." And didn't think about it more than that
When i was a kid i saw my aunt kiss her girlfriend and i was confused, so i asked "who is she". She said "my partner" and i was like "ok cool". Idk where this thing about kids being confused by gay people comes from.
I remember when I was little, I saw my mom talking to a guy with earings (Yes, he was very handsome) and just being in total awe, like- "I didn't know some boys liked girl stuff, too!" And excitedly talked to my mom about it on the way home. Seeing a male wearing what I grew up to see as 'girl things' was the equivalent of running into a shiny pokemon in the wild.
I literally thought the same thing as a kid, it was just like normal marriage to me, of course my very religious parents had so much to say about it but I could never understand the reason for homophobia lol
this is such a heartwarming video. i’m a gay man who was also adopted from china and, although i’m not sure if i’ll have kids in the future, it fills me with joy seeing you and your family living and thriving. it gives me hope for the future.
By exploiting the limits of law. Some gay couples can only have one legal adoptive parent for their adoptive (most states back then require marriage license for joint or couple adoption).
@@rainb5987 in my country a guy can only adapt boys and the boy has to be younger than 25 years. i don't have problem with that but gay marriage is illegal 🤧
My best friend has two moms and when we first started school I got so confused that she was the only person in my school with that- anyway, years later we’re still best friends and her moms are still the two people that I can trust the same as my own parents :)
as a lesbian one of my biggest dreams is to be a mom, i always loved children and taking care of them and seeing them happy, but sometimes i think mostly cuz of internalized homophobia i won't be as good as a heterosexual couple of parents, maybe I'll make them mad about their own home and make them go trought discrimination, but this reminded me that there's lots of families of different shapes and forms, but what's important is love and acceptance at the end of the day, im all happy now & ty for sharing ur story 🫶🏻
Thanks for Sharing. My partner and I adopted a 9 yr old boy and we are adopting next year. We keep watching videos from adoptee. This was amazing. :))))))
Wow, thank you for watching! Hope you're able to share with the rest of your family. What was your favorite part? (Also, was wondering how did you come across my video? Planning for the launch of my next one soon!)
@@BecomingBenSmith I love how so 80s/90 style the video is. It brought me nostalgia. I had to watch the video again because I had forgotten. I also like the highlight about kids not caring what parents you have. That is unless they were fed hatred. So I. Glad that you met a nice little girl when you were little.
I’m speechless. The storytelling - these precious video time capsules - the love your fathers have for you and you for them! I’m soo inspired by your sharing and can’t wait to hear more 🙏💛💛💛!
The little girl’s response was so beautiful! It’s hard to know if kids will be kind or cruel sometimes when they don’t understand something but she really did have the best response! ❤
You just keep making these types of videos. It’s important! You have got a beautiful experience and you gotta share it. Your family is cool, gorgeous, healthy, unique and absolutely normal. And you have the talent to make this!
I enjoyed the video and can personally relate to the story as one of two dads of an adopted child growing up in the 1990s in New York City. So happy to see your story with such a positive message.
So you think it doesn’t matter that you can INLY produce children with 1 man and 1 woman? Isn’t the best place for a child with their parents??? To teach women’s and men’s behaviours and needs???
I grew up in a home with a man and a woman but my entire life felt like it was mostly just mom, my parents fought continuously making my life miserable. I would have rather had two loving gay parents than them..also what do u guys think abt children with single parents, pretty sure they wud prefer two parents
Discovered your channel today. Love your intelligent and thoughtful dialogue. The videos with your dads when you were a baby made me happy. Absolutely adorable.
"You have two dads? That's so cool!" As a person who don't really remember his dad, even when he is not alive anymore, i can tell that two dads sounds more than one. Especially when they both love you. That's just so amazing bro 💫
Don't know why your video's got in my recommendation after so many years, but man.... I wish I could tell about my "parents" so happily as you! And thanks for the advice, appreciate it ☺️
This was shared in my company’s LGBTQ+ community and it just made my day. Thank you for this wonderful piece, pure warmth and encouragement. Love and peace from Japan 🇯🇵 🫶
Thank you for sharing your story. IMHO this a great time to share these stories and what I hope is it will impress upon people that their children are naturally curious, they will ask and giving them an honest, respectable answer often satisfies their curiosity but also teaches them which contributes towards expanding their horizons. That little girl's response also highlights that we often lead children down a negative path instead of allowing them to stay on their own path of acceptance.
Great advice, embrace yourself. It’s easier said than done and takes years to realize the meaning of it, but finally at 33, I understand that my confused struggle yet commitment to embrace myself (despite the bullying) became a flowering of deeper meaning, fulfillment, gratitude and appreciation for my own uniqueness. Beautiful video, so artistic and great videography. Thanks for sharing
That little girl who said she wanted 2 dads made me realize just how much I would have been happy just having 1 dad. Unfortunately, when you’re unwanted, unplanned, & your teenage parents were “forced to keep you,” there’s no love or want for you to even be around. It’s been decades since I last saw him & he doesn't even know how amazing my kids turned out. He missed everything & it is HIS loss. Friends are the family you choose & blood means nothing when you aren't loved or wanted. Great video & I hope everyone learns this excellent message! 💜😽💋
Ben, this was beautiful and incredibly well done!! The storytelling was fantastic, especially with such an honest, heartfelt voiceover. What a relief it was to hear that girl say "that's so cool!" in response to her asking why you had 2 dads. It's amazing how small interactions like this when you're young can affect you the rest of your life. I wonder what it would have been like growing up if she had said something else, but I'm glad that it was a positive experience :) Also awww young Ben. You didn't just make a youtube video, you made a phenomenal short film. Can't wait to see more videos and learn more about your story! As an adoptee, I can relate to having others wonder why my parents don't look like me, but I just openly tell them that I'm adopted. Embracing that is the best thing you can do!
Wowwww! Lily, thank you so much for this very thoughtful response. I absolutely agree, these small interactions can often compound over time. They play a large part in our development, shaping us into who we are and how we feel about ourselves. I am very lucky and grateful that she and many of my peers were enthusiastic and accepting of my differences. What a special thing. Thanks for your insight, Lily! I really appreciate it and can't wait to share more and to continue learning from your journey.
Family is where the love is! Your dads decided to not just a gay couple but parents too and you are the most important part cause you are the symbol of love unconditional love that anybody can be! Bro you are like a Superman making the bridge between humans! You are a special kid just like your parents! Our world is sick with hatred and many other problems but you guys the 3 of you are a symbol of hope!👏👏👏
Wow! This made me cry! Very great narration! All I see is love. Your two dads for each other, their love for you and your love for yourself. Thank you for sharing this. Much love to you and your family. 💙
I loved this, and since I know your both fathers, and know how full of love they are, i'm so glad they found you so that you could form this beautiful family...love to you all.
My best friend as a child was adopted by two dads. I met him when I was 4 and not ONCE did I think it was weird that he had two dads, it was just how his family was. Proud you stayed confident in yourself and had others to accept you as well, its so important for a kid
I'm sure he must've met a bunch of assholes when he got older, younger kids are typically more accepting of things they don't understand. She probably forgot all about it in an hour lol
Ben, this is beautiful. This is the first video of yours that I stumbled upon. I look forward to watching more. My husband and I have adopted two children. We are white and our son is Mexican. He looks nothing like us. I understand how families can look different. Thank you for sharing your story.
I love this. I was adopted by two men. I also got questioned by friends growing up why I didn’t have a mom but had two dads. I remember a friend saying her mom was asking if my dad was gay. I had no idea what that meant at the time. I just saw my parents as my parents.
It's very rarely that I stumble upon videos like these and I AM SO HAPPY I DID🥺🥰😍. I'm definitely saving this one. It was great watching ur story. U are definitely unique bro.
i was smiling so hard but at the same time had tears streaming down my face bc this hit so close to home for me, i grew up with two dad people made fun of me but i loved them and i never saw anything wrong with it "love is love right? so why can't they be in love in peace, so can you mid your own?!" is what would said a lot to people and "why do you care who THEY get intimate with?!" i was made fun of bc my two dad, by the time i got to mid school i hated my dad bc of what thoes people did to me bc of them but then they sat me down and said "don't listen to anyone, k , we try to move you to a dif school and we make sure it never happens anymore" ( it was something like that, was a long time ago) and they did that. i stop hated them and this just made my day bc im older now and bi with a girlfriend 9 im a girl) and i want kids but i don't want my kids to thought what i did to have hate for me.
This is terrific! Thanks for this!! I love it. My husband and I brought our son home from New Jersey last month. He's one month old now. I've often wondered how it'll shake out when he goes off to school.
This is so awesome Ben! I remember the day you arrived! We were all so excited to meet you! It seems like yesterday to me. Fantastic job. Cant wait to see the rest of the videos! Love MC!
Welcome to the algorithm friend. I really needed a good video to pick me up this morning. I am just running a small shop by myself in texas, and im just emotionally touched by the amount of love and effort put into your content. and the love and effort put into raising you into the person you are today. new subscriber here!
I can’t relate in to how you grew up but it still hit me emotionally. It’s beautiful and is a reminder of how important being completely you and proud of it is
Each of us is like a forest. You'll never find someone being the exatly same. The forest itself can be different and have different types of trees in them, or different structure from it. If each forest would be the same, why would you like to go to see forest in africa, when you can just go to the nearest forest near you? If everyone would be the same, the world would lose colors, and our world wouldn't move into better world. Woulnd't be advanced, just simple.
Honestly I was never curious about your family name. Look, so many Williams, Brown, Smith and.. In fact, your dads are gorgeous and you are very handsome. You have a wonderful family and home. Millions of people around the world want to have a happy life as you do.
As a young gay guy (15) I’ve been thinking about having kids and my future overall… in this economy I’m not sure I’ll be able to but if things get better by the time I have a partner then I could have a kid. Although I know I’m thinking quite far ahead it’s something I still want to have. I’m so glad my fyp showed me this ty :)
Love the shot with the mirror it's so artistic and full of love 🥺 as someone from a similar bg watching this made me realize I don't remember havung a similar moment of other kids asking about my family, but it is dope to see a guy like me share a positive memory abt it
Yknow this is wholesome. I can genuinely see the love your family has . It's something not everyone feels about their home. Gender stuff etc aside- it reminded me that good parents are important , good people foster happy children and stable homes. You are blessed and lucky to have a lovely home 🌱 And they're blessed to have such a happy child like you. Wholesome stuff.
WOWWW yall, this popped off!! thank you so much 🥹🥹 I’m more active on instagram now @becomingben if you want to follow and watch my newer videos there! y’all are the best❤❤ edit: maybe I'll do an AMA on my IG stories??
This is so cool! It made me so happy to hear your story!!
Ok.
@@BecomingBenSmith I’m glad this is getting attention now because it’s a really neat story and I love hearing about other people’s experiences!!
You have violated God's Law that He wrote in your heart; your own conscience condemns you. Therefore, you deserve 'the fine'-the punishment of hell. But God is good, gracious, and kind. He desires to show you mercy! For this reason, Jesus Christ (God in the flesh) died on the cross. The Law was violated, but Christ paid the fine. He suffered in exchange, as the Substitute; and He rose on the third day. Repent and place all your faith in the Person and work of Jesus Christ, and you will be saved from the wrath of God.
@@RebecaGarces-mb4yn Amen sister 🙏 but remember to also respect their choice bc God gave us free will. if they think that they dont want to change bc thats who they are, then dont force them, okay? luv ya ❤
Until recently I've been working as a substitute teacher. Towards the end of the last year I was in a first grade class, and one of the little boys came up to me and told me that he had two moms. I responded by telling him how cool that was and that he was very lucky and special to have two moms. I was amazed by his courage to be so open, but now that I think about it, he wasn't being courageous at all. It was simply all he knew. It was normal for him.
Hopefully in the future it can get normalized to a point like this for society. That people won’t NEED to be courageous to speak about their queer connections…
Remember, kids: if you don't have a mom, someone has two of them
Kinda vaguely related but I was raised by my grandmother, mother, and aunt. I had no idea it was not normal until 1st grade. Like 95% of other kids were at the orientation with their mom and DAD. I was shocked lol
@@Elyakins Funny. Thanks for sharing . . .
@@TUNDRAHOMBRE Exactly!
I would like to have been adopted by two gay men. In 1973, at age 11, I was placed in a home for child abuse because of my homosexuality. The result was violence by 365 boys, approximately 365 days a year. Some of the few gay kids broke down. I went into silence mode. I wish I had a dad and father instead back then.
i’m so sorry you went through all of that. hope you’re doing well
😢 I'm so sorry. No child should have to experience that. I hope your life is infinitely better now ❤
What so ever Lane we walk through in life either narrow or wild we just have to learn to be strong.
I'm so sorry for that... ☹☹
hope you are okay
WHY ARE WE ALL GETTING RECOMMEND THIS 4YRS LATER😭💜 BRUHHH I would have watched this 4yrs ago🥲
Omg yes same
SAME
SO REAL
SAME
Oye si por que sera😮
WHY IS THIS RECCOMENDED TO ME 4 YEARS LATER THIS IS A MASTERPEICE
Edit: im famous
SAME
no cause literally
TH-cam IS VERY STRANGE WITH RECOMMENDATIONS TODAY 💀 yesterday youtube recommended me a video from 5 years ago where a TH-camr was saying goodbye to her fans because her depression got the better of her and she committed su1c1d3 😢 (I don't want to disrespect anyone btw I was just mentioning it, I hope you don't get offended❤)
REAL 😭😭😭
@@BURNINTHEDEEPESTPITOFHELL Once it’s on the internet, it’s always on the internet.
I briefly started getting stuff from The Love Connection TV show that came out Before the internet.
Heck, I get texts from people on something I posted several years ago and they’re seeing it as if I just posted it.
This is proof that multicultural, queer families CAN raise well-adjusted, bright, intelligent children. It takes a village to raise children, and it doesn't matter who. As long as they are kind people.
Also separated parents! I think we take 4 granted the collective efforts & wider family in child raising. I feel there is so much love in this family that raising good children was inevitable regardless of familial structure.
They are not multicultural, the kid was raised in USA, not China
This is sick
@@boubacarsylla563
It's so wholesome. I can't blame you if you think it's cool
@@Pedro-ul1gr
isn't the US a melting pot though lol, hence it being multicultural
Love is love. As long as a child is protected, nurtured and loved, it doesn’t matter what gender the parents are. Your dads seem like great people. You’re fortunate.
@@lizzfrmhon some love is an abomination
Real. Two dads or two moms are better than none or abusive ones.
What about all the kids who were raised by gay parents who say it DOES matter?
@@jordandthornburgThey would have been raised by no one if they weren't adopted, your argument is stupid.
@@jordandthornburgif it comes from a place of bigotry, their opinion is irrelevant. If they truly believe they would have been better out with no parents than gay parents, they’re delusional.
Im a young gay guy, when I catch myself thinking about having kids, I find myself asking how they'd think and feel about having two dads. It's a big world out there, alot of people and different thinking. You, your dads, and how you were and what you are now... is just amazing to think about. Thank you.
This is me currently, I would hate to make my kids experience discrimination just because they have 2 dads, it just really bugs me
@@sebastianlaz137 If my interracial parents were worried about the discrimination I'd face, I wouldn't even exist!!
@@sebastianlaz137 Maybe the solution normalizing the fact that you can have 2 dads or 2 moms and be a perfect functional family as any other family.
Having 1 mom and 1 dad doesn't mean you will have necessarily a good childhood either. I think most kids get some kind of discrimination or insults for whatever they are different, if kids wants to laugh at you and isolate you, they will find a reason to do so no matter how your family is.
@@mariaastin This is really solid, I'm from a very very very homophobic country (Nigeria) where staying in the closet just seems like common sense, people always find a way to discriminate if something strays outside "societal norms", or any thing that's foreign to them, you can't really blame them tho considering it's how they were brought up
@@sebastianlaz137 yeah well, it's true that it depends on the context, on the social norms. But I think it's interesting to have an open mind and normalize things that are not really a problem, like they are not as bad as conservative people believe, and be more emphatic and respectful to others.
But well, if you see that it's like impossible to tackle the problem, you may consider not to have children at least, not surrounded by this particular society.
What makes it more amazing is that your parents filmed everything when you were kids. They really really love you so much. So much more than average straight parents to their kids.
ikr. this was the era where there was no phone camera. it's crazy amount of footage for that time. my family had no videos AT ALL back then bcs we couldn't afford it. he was so loved, i hope he knows that
I got nothing from my childhood I envy this guy
Could’ve said this without the generalization but ok
right? i’m astonished at how much vids from him as a kid he has! lucky
I mean, this video was great. But the parents filming him is less about love and more about the priviledge of money. Poor families who couldn't afford a camera back then don't love their kids any less. It's a weird correlation to make.
As a bi man that once believed I couldn't start a family if I married a man. You give me hope.
good luck .
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it depends on your kid's gender girls need a mother and boys need a father thats not just a problem with gay marriage also a problem with single parenting....
@@justasillygirl_inasillyworld🙄
I have two Moms and I love you very much, I am not adopted, my biological mother and my father separated when I was 6 years old because he hit us often and my mother began go to psychology with me and there she met Camila who is now my second mother. I am not ashamed of them at all and I feel happy with them ❤️
Beautiful❤
This is so cute! I hope you and your mothers are doing fine now, you guys deserve the best!
R u a girl?
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Aww ❤
why are children the most innocent and understanding beings ive seen-
Cuz they haven't been taught to hate yet
@@OllieOxyncome on, they hate things too.
@@OllieOxyncome on, they hate things too.
@@bkwhpoyes, logical things, like dog bites and bitter stuff and mean teachers. When a kid starts hating people for being, it's definitely taught.
@@bkwhpowhy ping the person thrice
I have two moms! Nice to see you out here telling your story
Yes! Thanks so much for sharing September Maeve!! Say hi to your family for me!
brooo 😭
@@akuhimayoumatoiwdym "broo😭"?
@@syasya030 nahh crying cause damn bro shes lucky asf , like i myself also want two mom or dad but its not possible atleast two bestfriend 😮💨
@@akuhimayoumatoiIt's ok❤ actually nobody can born from 2 moms or 2 dads! So it's ok to be adopted by 2 moms if you would like to
Search about them and I'm sure you'll find a lovely ones❤
Because of the title, I clicked on this video expecting an in depth report about every single aspect of your life and an analysis on what things are different from straight parenting. But at the end it was clear: there's no need for convoluted explanations. That single anecdote you shared is the proof and that all that is needed to know is that you had parents that loved you the way every child deserves to be loved. It's so obvious yet it surprised me still.
this is a really sweet comment :))
Whenever I see people say "Children deserve a mom and a dad" my mind immediately goes "but what if gay dads or lesbian moms can provide a stable parent like figure of the opposite gender, like a family friend or uncle/aunt?"
And by seeing how happy you were and are, their argument kinda... Drops. Tho many children long for a parent of a different gender, it doesn't mean all will.
Even if you have a male and female parent it still doesn't necessarily work because there would always be at least some children longing for 1 parent, or 2 of the same gender. Personally I'd probably like 2 mothers if I was to choose what I think I'd like most.
Those people seriously need to get a grip and realize children should be treated as individuals and not "well mommy and daddy setup work for MY little one, so obviously I know better for every other child everywhere out there in the world" 🤧
As someone with two moms I was shocked when I saw how many people want two moms .
OMG. I ama lesbian and I am thinking about having a wife and children in the future but I know the probability is so low. But still, I really want to be a mother and I know that my children would need a male figure so I would make sure they got male figures. And I think people don't look at only one parent as a model. I think all children look at both of their parents as their role models.
@@mariatrinitymya8618
Exactly! Also hope you'll be a great mom
In 2008, I was in kindergarten. One kid told us they had two moms, which for some reason the rest of the class saw as a flex. Another kid went “oh yeah? Well I have THREE moms” and I claimed to have eight moms.
Lmao 🤣🤣🤣🤣, that's cutely hilarious.
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your dads both are sooo HANDSOME!!
and YOU TOO! :D
Mhm! It must have been passed on from both of them! 😊
Facts. Beautiful family all around
@@Stempy-channel😭
@@Stempy-channelVile
Ew to all 3
“If you tell kids that gay people exist they will be confused!”
Kids when you tell them gay people exist: “oh ok wow cool- anyways 😃”
Real I remember hearing the word gay when I was 3 and used context clues to find what it means and thought "Oh, people of the same gender can date? Ok." And didn't think about it more than that
When i was a kid i saw my aunt kiss her girlfriend and i was confused, so i asked "who is she". She said "my partner" and i was like "ok cool".
Idk where this thing about kids being confused by gay people comes from.
When i was kid I was afraid of them a little
I remember when I was little, I saw my mom talking to a guy with earings (Yes, he was very handsome) and just being in total awe, like- "I didn't know some boys liked girl stuff, too!" And excitedly talked to my mom about it on the way home. Seeing a male wearing what I grew up to see as 'girl things' was the equivalent of running into a shiny pokemon in the wild.
I literally thought the same thing as a kid, it was just like normal marriage to me, of course my very religious parents had so much to say about it but I could never understand the reason for homophobia lol
The biggest problem with having 2 dads is the sheer amount of dad jokes one has to endure their entire life.
Hey, atleast no mom jokes
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"You have no dad"
"Jokes on you i have twice as many dads as you"
Well, if you have two moms, you'll get double the amount of 'yo momma' jokes thrown at you 😅😂
fatherless behavior? no, no, no: *father² behavior*
this is such a heartwarming video. i’m a gay man who was also adopted from china and, although i’m not sure if i’ll have kids in the future, it fills me with joy seeing you and your family living and thriving. it gives me hope for the future.
i had no idea gay dads could adopt back then! But im sooooo glad they could . or thered be no ben smith!
Nesse! Wow such a nice comment, thank you so much for watching.
You wont be Glad one day when you Will see how lgtb Will destroy this world
By exploiting the limits of law. Some gay couples can only have one legal adoptive parent for their adoptive (most states back then require marriage license for joint or couple adoption).
@@rainb5987 in my country a guy can only adapt boys and the boy has to be younger than 25 years. i don't have problem with that but gay marriage is illegal 🤧
@@rd3munna812 What country is that?
My best friend has two moms and when we first started school I got so confused that she was the only person in my school with that- anyway, years later we’re still best friends and her moms are still the two people that I can trust the same as my own parents :)
Yes that young Ben Smith was quite a dazzler...
Why thank you!
Your dads seems like kind, caring dads & you get to have TWO of them 💕
as a lesbian one of my biggest dreams is to be a mom, i always loved children and taking care of them and seeing them happy, but sometimes i think mostly cuz of internalized homophobia i won't be as good as a heterosexual couple of parents, maybe I'll make them mad about their own home and make them go trought discrimination, but this reminded me that there's lots of families of different shapes and forms, but what's important is love and acceptance at the end of the day, im all happy now & ty for sharing ur story 🫶🏻
And a child deserves a mother and a father.
@@SeraphicPhantasmSomeone who takes care of him and gives him love and affection*
@@SeraphicPhantasm children deserve good parents and guardians. Don’t act like you care about adopted children and stfu please 😊
@@SeraphicPhantasm really shit flys right over ur head huh?
@@SeraphicPhantasm A gay couple can raise a child just as well as a straight couple.
Thanks for Sharing. My partner and I adopted a 9 yr old boy and we are adopting next year. We keep watching videos from adoptee. This was amazing. :))))))
Wow, thank you for watching! Hope you're able to share with the rest of your family. What was your favorite part? (Also, was wondering how did you come across my video? Planning for the launch of my next one soon!)
@@BecomingBenSmith I love how so 80s/90 style the video is. It brought me nostalgia. I had to watch the video again because I had forgotten. I also like the highlight about kids not caring what parents you have. That is unless they were fed hatred. So I. Glad that you met a nice little girl when you were little.
Aww hope that go well and you have very cute toddler
I'm gonna cry/ that's beautiful
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I’m speechless. The storytelling - these precious video time capsules - the love your fathers have for you and you for them! I’m soo inspired by your sharing and can’t wait to hear more 🙏💛💛💛!
The Dork Web! Thank you for your constant support! It's much appreciated and helps me push to create more.
This gives me a ton of nostalgia for being a kid in the 90s. Glad you had a positive experience with having two dads.
I love how we're all being recommended this beautiful video now.
Bro, I literally just cried watching this, it was so good! Great storytelling, loved the editing and the message is beautiful 💛
The little girl’s response was so beautiful! It’s hard to know if kids will be kind or cruel sometimes when they don’t understand something but she really did have the best response! ❤
You just keep making these types of videos. It’s important! You have got a beautiful experience and you gotta share it. Your family is cool, gorgeous, healthy, unique and absolutely normal. And you have the talent to make this!
Such sweet memories of you joining our family. Being a part of your journey brings me great joy! This is a fantastic video. We love you!
I enjoyed the video and can personally relate to the story as one of two dads of an adopted child growing up in the 1990s in New York City. So happy to see your story with such a positive message.
Joseph! Thank you for this and great to hear about your background. I'd love to hear more!
Kids deserve parents who can give them all the love in the world,no matter the gender❤
Idiot awful pathetic
So you think it doesn’t matter that you can INLY produce children with 1 man and 1 woman? Isn’t the best place for a child with their parents??? To teach women’s and men’s behaviours and needs???
@@G.A-m1t exactly bro whole comment section is brainwashed lmao
So u guys would rather have kids in foster homes with no one to take care of them than letting loving gay people adopt them? How weird
I grew up in a home with a man and a woman but my entire life felt like it was mostly just mom, my parents fought continuously making my life miserable. I would have rather had two loving gay parents than them..also what do u guys think abt children with single parents, pretty sure they wud prefer two parents
Discovered your channel today. Love your intelligent and thoughtful dialogue. The videos with your dads when you were a baby made me happy. Absolutely adorable.
Wow. Yt algorithm recommended me this 4 years late. Super cool family! Subscribed.
TH-cam explain yourself! Why you recommend me this after 4 years huh? This is so wholesome!😭💕
"You have two dads? That's so cool!"
As a person who don't really remember his dad, even when he is not alive anymore, i can tell that two dads sounds more than one. Especially when they both love you. That's just so amazing bro 💫
WE ARE ACCEPTING OURSELVES WITH THIS ONE ❤🗣🗣💥💥💯💯‼️‼️💥💯🗣❤❤
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Nobody Will accept you one day devils
@@Games-o8c5x this is just sad at this point😂
Don't know why your video's got in my recommendation after so many years, but man.... I wish I could tell about my "parents" so happily as you! And thanks for the advice, appreciate it ☺️
This was shared in my company’s LGBTQ+ community and it just made my day. Thank you for this wonderful piece, pure warmth and encouragement. Love and peace from Japan 🇯🇵 🫶
Thank you for sharing your story. IMHO this a great time to share these stories and what I hope is it will impress upon people that their children are naturally curious, they will ask and giving them an honest, respectable answer often satisfies their curiosity but also teaches them which contributes towards expanding their horizons. That little girl's response also highlights that we often lead children down a negative path instead of allowing them to stay on their own path of acceptance.
Great advice, embrace yourself. It’s easier said than done and takes years to realize the meaning of it, but finally at 33, I understand that my confused struggle yet commitment to embrace myself (despite the bullying) became a flowering of deeper meaning, fulfillment, gratitude and appreciation for my own uniqueness. Beautiful video, so artistic and great videography. Thanks for sharing
That little girl who said she wanted 2 dads made me realize just how much I would have been happy just having 1 dad. Unfortunately, when you’re unwanted, unplanned, & your teenage parents were “forced to keep you,” there’s no love or want for you to even be around. It’s been decades since I last saw him & he doesn't even know how amazing my kids turned out. He missed everything & it is HIS loss. Friends are the family you choose & blood means nothing when you aren't loved or wanted. Great video & I hope everyone learns this excellent message! 💜😽💋
This story is so amazing, I am actually crying right now while watching these footages with you and your dads
This story is so cute, I'm glad you got such a nice first response
I love this man. You told the story so well. I wish I had videos from my childhood like you do
Thanks Manoa!!! Really appreciate it. Can't wait to create more!
Ben, this was beautiful and incredibly well done!! The storytelling was fantastic, especially with such an honest, heartfelt voiceover. What a relief it was to hear that girl say "that's so cool!" in response to her asking why you had 2 dads. It's amazing how small interactions like this when you're young can affect you the rest of your life. I wonder what it would have been like growing up if she had said something else, but I'm glad that it was a positive experience :) Also awww young Ben. You didn't just make a youtube video, you made a phenomenal short film. Can't wait to see more videos and learn more about your story! As an adoptee, I can relate to having others wonder why my parents don't look like me, but I just openly tell them that I'm adopted. Embracing that is the best thing you can do!
Wowwww! Lily, thank you so much for this very thoughtful response. I absolutely agree, these small interactions can often compound over time. They play a large part in our development, shaping us into who we are and how we feel about ourselves. I am very lucky and grateful that she and many of my peers were enthusiastic and accepting of my differences. What a special thing. Thanks for your insight, Lily! I really appreciate it and can't wait to share more and to continue learning from your journey.
Family is where the love is! Your dads decided to not just a gay couple but parents too and you are the most important part cause you are the symbol of love unconditional love that anybody can be! Bro you are like a Superman making the bridge between humans! You are a special kid just like your parents! Our world is sick with hatred and many other problems but you guys the 3 of you are a symbol of hope!👏👏👏
this is a masterpiece, the way you show all that love of your family made me cry a little, its really lovely
Wow! This made me cry! Very great narration! All I see is love. Your two dads for each other, their love for you and your love for yourself. Thank you for sharing this. Much love to you and your family. 💙
I loved this, and since I know your both fathers, and know how full of love they are, i'm so glad they found you so that you could form this beautiful family...love to you all.
My best friend as a child was adopted by two dads. I met him when I was 4 and not ONCE did I think it was weird that he had two dads, it was just how his family was. Proud you stayed confident in yourself and had others to accept you as well, its so important for a kid
What struck me most is them teaching you to take deep breaths when you feel bad...
Man, you're really loved. Never had that with my mom and dad
omg this was so touching 🥺 adding it to the list of my fav videos on youtube
This is so adorable! Why wasn't I recommended this earlier?! I loved this so much
God bless that little girl and her family, if it was the wrong person, it all would go downhill so quickly😭
I'm sure he must've met a bunch of assholes when he got older, younger kids are typically more accepting of things they don't understand. She probably forgot all about it in an hour lol
I've been recommended this 4 years later and I am happy:))))
Ben, this is beautiful. This is the first video of yours that I stumbled upon. I look forward to watching more. My husband and I have adopted two children. We are white and our son is Mexican. He looks nothing like us. I understand how families can look different. Thank you for sharing your story.
This is... Precious, beautiful... The narrative in words and images. Thanks for sharing.
Sending love from the Philippines. You are THE BEN SMITH! God loves you!
Continue to love yourself being you.
Ok now I'm crying, love it, just beautiful
I’m crying since your crying!
I love this. I was adopted by two men. I also got questioned by friends growing up why I didn’t have a mom but had two dads. I remember a friend saying her mom was asking if my dad was gay. I had no idea what that meant at the time. I just saw my parents as my parents.
Can't wait for the next video in two years!
Hahaha. Don't worry! Will be sooner ;)
Bro there’s people out there without one dad. It’s blessed to have two!
It's very rarely that I stumble upon videos like these and I AM SO HAPPY I DID🥺🥰😍. I'm definitely saving this one. It was great watching ur story. U are definitely unique bro.
i was smiling so hard but at the same time had tears streaming down my face bc this hit so close to home for me, i grew up with two dad people made fun of me but i loved them and i never saw anything wrong with it "love is love right? so why can't they be in love in peace, so can you mid your own?!" is what would said a lot to people and "why do you care who THEY get intimate with?!" i was made fun of bc my two dad, by the time i got to mid school i hated my dad bc of what thoes people did to me bc of them but then they sat me down and said "don't listen to anyone, k , we try to move you to a dif school and we make sure it never happens anymore" ( it was something like that, was a long time ago) and they did that. i stop hated them and this just made my day bc im older now and bi with a girlfriend 9 im a girl) and i want kids but i don't want my kids to thought what i did to have hate for me.
This is terrific! Thanks for this!! I love it.
My husband and I brought our son home from New Jersey last month. He's one month old now. I've often wondered how it'll shake out when he goes off to school.
Wow! Congrats Ryan and let me know how his first day goes -- hopefully this provided some insight. What was your favorite part?
Kids will be curious for one second then say “oh the wiggles new sonG lol”
how did it go?
I hope your son is enjoying preschool!
This is so awesome Ben! I remember the day you arrived! We were all so excited to meet you! It seems like yesterday to me. Fantastic job. Cant wait to see the rest of the videos! Love MC!
Thank you so much, Christine!!
I love how the little girl know the definition of 2.different races and 2 dads, she smart fr
You story gave me a big hopes , thanks 🫂
So so good man!! Cant wait to see how this channel grows
Thank you Will!!! Learning from a lot from you!
On 4:41 the girls are like WTF are you recording me for 😭😭
genuinely one of my favorite things on the internet 💗
Welcome to the algorithm friend. I really needed a good video to pick me up this morning. I am just running a small shop by myself in texas, and im just emotionally touched by the amount of love and effort put into your content. and the love and effort put into raising you into the person you are today. new subscriber here!
Two Dads here also! Thankful for our son and daughter ❤
Subscribed after your dads linked to your channel in our Gay Dads group. This is amazing and beautiful thank you so much for making this
Thank you so much! Can't wait to share more. have any ideas for me?
Joining the 4 years later gang! So glad this popped up on my recommended!
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Wow the editing is amazing!! And beautiful story ❤
4:24 that hug is so cute!
this is criminally underviewed. shoutout to dad and dad for raising you
Proof that Kids in same sex homes are just as happy as kids in Hetero households. Except more challenges because of society .
Nahhhhh hell😊
@@YaqpokAnimeI wish that you'll be blessed with a loving life and family.
@@jee2158 I have a good family 😊
@@YaqpokAnimeyou lie. We all know your father abandoned you and your mom😂
@@Bilbilauli know you struggle with mental health but try your hardest not to talk about someone's parents like that
My neighbours are lesbians, one has teenagers from a previous relationship. They make it work so well, great people
I can’t relate in to how you grew up but it still hit me emotionally. It’s beautiful and is a reminder of how important being completely you and proud of it is
Imagine that there are so many people hating on this and wanting all flowers to be the same sort and only white. Love this. Rock on Ben and dads!
Each of us is like a forest. You'll never find someone being the exatly same. The forest itself can be different and have different types of trees in them, or different structure from it. If each forest would be the same, why would you like to go to see forest in africa, when you can just go to the nearest forest near you? If everyone would be the same, the world would lose colors, and our world wouldn't move into better world. Woulnd't be advanced, just simple.
@Jatemis333 Totally agree.
I'm looking forward to your journey becoming Ben Smith.
Thank you James! I can't want to share more videos with you.
Honestly I was never curious about your family name. Look, so many Williams, Brown, Smith and.. In fact, your dads are gorgeous and you are very handsome. You have a wonderful family and home. Millions of people around the world want to have a happy life as you do.
As a young gay guy (15) I’ve been thinking about having kids and my future overall… in this economy I’m not sure I’ll be able to but if things get better by the time I have a partner then I could have a kid. Although I know I’m thinking quite far ahead it’s something I still want to have. I’m so glad my fyp showed me this ty :)
Good luck bro
I got this video recommendation today after 5 years but i just loved it ❤
So happy for you all the very bestt❤❤
Man, this is cute asf! Keep your good work and share your life, I bet people will recognize you sooner or later :)
So true… sometimes people are just curious- not trying to be hurtful with their questions.
No but I am so happy seeing someone just living there life and being happy with two das, it gives me hope as a gay man :)
This does not look like just a video, it look like something that fit right into educational children's TV shows! Very well put together 🙂
Love the shot with the mirror it's so artistic and full of love 🥺 as someone from a similar bg watching this made me realize I don't remember havung a similar moment of other kids asking about my family, but it is dope to see a guy like me share a positive memory abt it
Yknow this is wholesome. I can genuinely see the love your family has . It's something not everyone feels about their home. Gender stuff etc aside- it reminded me that good parents are important , good people foster happy children and stable homes. You are blessed and lucky to have a lovely home 🌱 And they're blessed to have such a happy child like you. Wholesome stuff.
Absolutely wonderful story. Couldn't help but think of how proud Grandma/pa Bennie and Larry would be of you.
Thank you so much! I hope they would be!
thats so cute! i love your story
This is such a well put together video, thanks for sharing
Lydia! Thank you for your support. Can't wait to share more!
I dont really cry at all when I watch stuff, but this made me tear up. I love this. This is so lovely.