Please don’t wait until you’re about to get engaged to reveal that you were previously married…or, that you had one, or many more partners. THAT is covert. You see, once you’re at the point of engagement, you will be emotionally attached to each other. It would be a horrible let down to surprise your friend this way??? Your friend MUST know this before your very first date!!!!!! I can not emphasize that enough
The Scriptures say no such thing. See Deuteronomy 24:1-4, John 4:17, Matthew 5:17-18, and 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 to show that there is no such thing as "still married in God's eyes" after a duly enacted divorce or dissolution of the marriage.
Exactly, and he never answered her question about whether it's okay to remarry. I also disagree with his advice that "it's not good to tell him you're divorced right away, wait until you're further along in the relationship". I strongly believe that that should be disclosed on day one. This pastor seems to be speaking more from his mind than the Spirit.
@@marias6583 I also would have preferred that he would go straight to the heart on the matter. Usually when someone asks "is it permitted to do X?", they are not asking whether X is wise or advisable, only if it is permitted. If Mark Discoll believed there was a strong imperative to not remarry, then I presume he would have made this explicit. So the absence of such a clear imperative from him seems to imply that he believes there is no sin in remarriage per se. As for when to disclose a prior marriage, I have no strong feelings either way. You are either married or you are not, and most single people my age (40s) have been married before. In fact, some people would scratch their heads if you were my age and never married, or have never been in any long term relationship. I also hold that it is no sin to marry if you are single for any reason, regardless of prior marital status (I cite 1 Cor 7, verses 9, 15, 27, 28 for support on that).
If I am already divorced and remarried, how do I repent? What should I do to make it right in God's sight? The options for repentance in this situation include leaving your current partner and reconciling with your original partner if possible. If reconciliation with your original partner is impossible, you should remain single. You have a difficult decision to make-you can either continue to live with your current partner for the rest of this life or choose to live with Jesus for all eternity, but you can't do both.
If there are young children involved, then remain together in the same house, but live as brother and sister. If there are no young children involved, then separate.
I find the advice that others are giving you is ignorant. I am a professional licensed therapist. You can’t leave your current spouse because an ignorant person’s opinion. You have a new life right now with your current spouse. This is the current person that God wants you to be with. You are not going to hell for being remarried. Those that think like that have a works based salvation.
You need not do anything. The notion that merely being in a second marriage is sin is at the heart of the marriage permanence heresy. If it were otherwise, the Scriptures would have given clear and specific instructions regarding this. If your salvation were contingent upon leaving a marriage, the Scriptures would have said so in no uncertain terms. Do not listen to anyone who says you must leave your marriage or live like roommates. People who say such things are teaching heresy.
I'm not married yet, but I have a fear of marrying someone who would leave me against my will for unbiblical reasons such as "the spark is gone". If something like that happens, is the abandoned spouse supposed to remain single? If so, I'm gonna keep on being extremely selective. The idea of being thrown aside by the one I thought I'd spend my life with is an absolute nightmare to me. This question is mainly for those who have a stricter view on this than Mark. I haven't done enough research on this topic, so I'll accept any answer that has the most biblical backing.
To the person who asked the question: Please consider what God has to say about divorce and remarriage: Luke 16:18 - Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery. Mark 10:11-12 - And he said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, 12 and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” Rom 7:2-3 - For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. 3 Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress. 1 Cor 7:39 - A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. John the Baptist did not take Mr. Driscoll's advice when he approached Herod while he had Philip's wife. John the Baptist could have easily said (hey, the messiah is here, just trust in him, be forgiven and you can continue sleeping with Philip's wife). Instead he told Herod that what he's doing is wrong in the eyes of God. Sadly, John the Baptist lost his head over this. Jesus says that divorce and remarriage (while covenant spouse is still alive) is adultery. Paul affirms this in the verses provided above. Is it forgivable? Yes, when there is genuine repentance (ie: stop the sin). God does give grace in a situation such as yours: remain single or be reconciled to your spouse (1 Cor 7:11). But today, in the sight of God, you are a married woman and the man you are dating is not your spouse. So really, the relationship needs to end and you need a faithful church community to support you, pray for you and to pray for your husband's salvation. In this video, Mr. Driscoll is advocating forgiveness prior to (and possibly without) the act of repentance. You will get a majority of Pastors that will say "sure, you're forgiven, move on with your life." But the Bible says that we must live lives holy and pleasing to God (Rom 12:1). Do you think you can live a life holy and pleasing to God while disobeying his clear teaching on this subject? My hope is that you will not listen to Mr. Driscoll on this, nor will you listen to me. I hope you will search the scriptures (starting with the verses above) to know what God wants for you on this area. And as a result, you will have a deep peace and joy with God.
From Leo: Hebrews 10:26 " For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins," If you want to rock the criteria that you wrote above for people who failed in marriage, I don't know how you think you can be saved. I never met an honest person that did not revisit a habitual sin after salvation.. The law is given as a school master of righteousness. Salvation is forgiveness for the guilty,. Without the Blood of JESUS and the mercy that it purchased, we are all without hope, and you are not in a position to limit HIS mercy. Exodus 20 and Matthew 5:28 should terrify a person with your views
100% agree with you people do not read the Bible and actually there’s a lot of a lot of falsePastors out there to see the same nonsense when you perfectly broke down every verse in the Bible that backs up if you remarry it’s adultery it’s not hard I applaud you for actually breaking it down and debunking this man on this video because it’s nonsense that he’s spitting
@@richardgonzalez6583 I don't want to impute motives on any Pastor, including Mr. Driscoll. The Lord knows his heart, not me. But what I will say is that we have a Pastoral leadership crisis where the majority of Pastors teach that there are 2 x exceptions for divorce and remarriage (while covenant spouse is still alive). This is a lie. We can agree to disagree on matters like eschatology, church polity, membership rules, even forms of worship (insofar that it doesn't compromise doctrine). But this is not a secondary doctrine, since 1 Cor 6:9 says that adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of heaven. Adulterers (ie: those who sleep with someone else's covenant spouse) who do not repent will go to hell. This is not a comfortable doctrine to speak about, but it is the truth of God. It should be mentioned that in v11, it says "And such were some of you.", which implies when there is genuine sorrow for sin and repentance (ie: stop the adultery), there is grace and forgiveness from the Lord. Praise God!
He never answered the question yet its clearly stated in in scripture. Probably because it's not the popular answer that people want to hear. Or maybe he doesn't know the answer and in that case, he should study on this topic instead of giving his opinion on what he THINKS!
You're dead wrong. See Deut 24:2, Matt 5:17-18, 1 Cor 7:27-28. If any and all remarriage after a duly enacted divorce was adultery, it would have never been lawful even under Moses.
@@dh605x You quote Deut 24, yet you omit Jesus commentary on Deut 24 in Matt 19:8 on why Moses permitted this. In that same verse, Jesus corrects the matter and points back to the beginning in Genesis 2. You can't quote an OT text alone without the lense of Christ, unless you want to be a Pharisee. Not sure how Matt 5:17-18 transposes into any direct relevancy to the fact the a covenant marriage is for life (and is only ended by death). As for 1 Cor 7:27-28, it's from a section that Paul is addressing virgins and unmarried. Unmarried cannot mean "once married, now divorced, with covenant spouse still alive" because in the same chapter Paul states in v11-12 that a married couple are not to separate but if they do they must remain apart or be reconciled to each other. Further in v39, he states that a wife is bound to their spouse as long as he lives (which inversely applies to the husband also). It's crystal clear from these verses (as well as Luke 16:18, Mark 10:11-12 & Rom 7:2-3) that covenant marriage is for life and only ends in death. May I suggest you go back to the scriptures on this, rightly divide the Word of Truth (2 Tim 2:15), park your biases/emotions/desires and submit to the teachings of the Lord on this matter? This is not an "agree to disagree" matter like eschatology, church polity or even worship styles, because 1 Cor 6:9 clearly states that adulterers will not inherit the Kingdom of God (heaven). So this has implications towards the gospel. But it would be unjust to not say that there is cleansing and forgiveness when there is a godly sorry leading to repentance (ie: stop sleeping with someone who is not their covenant spouse).
@@dh605xNo, sir. It is you who is ‘dead wrong’. Go back and read the very verses you cited. Most of this comment section and actual video is lukewarm vomit. Jesus said Moses allowed divorce due to the hardness of the people’s hearts, but even then it was not to be so. In Matthew he states the only reason for divorce is specifically for fornication. Not generalized sexual immorality or adultery. Meaning if you found out your betrothed was not virginal you could divorce. As the case seemingly was for Joseph if he did not have faith in Mary’s immaculate conception. And I don’t know what kind of reversed paralax lenses you’re reading that 1 Corinthians verse through but it clearly says divorce is a no no and anyone who is with a dovorcé commits adultery. As soon as we are able to put our own selfish desires second to our Lords then we can begin to see and understand. The truth is not cruel. Cruelty is in the lying to one’s self and others, leading them down the wrong path. Just look at the the very oath of marriage in the first place.
Amen! It is FINISHED! Alllllll under the BLOOD! Forget all those FORMER things as Paul said and PRESS FORWARD to that mark of that higher calling! Press forward soldier
Marriage is a state, not a sin. Jesus washed away our sins. He did not wash away our marriage covenant Romans 7:2-3 King James Version 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
@@philipbuckley759It isn’t a biblical marriage, so there is no blessing or covenant in a civil union of a homosexual relationship.. Homosexuality is an abomination, according to scripture..
@vonsmoothe2245 - Here's a situation for you to ponder. One day while in a coffee shop, you meet a man and strike up a conversation with him. You share the gospel with this person and this person repents and places their faith in Christ alone for their salvation right there at the coffee shop. You exchange contact info with the man and arrange to keep in touch. A few weeks goes by, and that man (who dedicated his life to Christ) comes to your house with another man. This other man is his gay married "husband" (big quotes) and they have two adopted kids back at their house. The 2nd man also gives his life to Christ. They both recognize that what they did (ie: gay marriage) was a sin in the eyes of the Lord. Do you tell them both that they should stay "married" (big quotes) as they are today, since "IT is FINISHED! Alllllll under the BLOOD! Forget all those FORMER things and PRESS FORWARD"?
I am not a theologian, and am seeking answers for this same question. I just came across 1 Cor 7:10-16, which appears to establish a biblical foundation for your divorce as unbelievers, which would then allow you to remarry. I could be totally wrong about this, but it seems to be so. And why would unbelievers be held to a standard they were ignorant of, and especially when we are born again, washed clean, and renewed in Christ? These are good questions to ask, though.
Before I comment on the passage you quoted, it's important to note that the best way to interpret the scripture is to use the scripture. Scripture cannot contradict itself. This is the principle way of rightly interpreting the Word of God. Any teaching from a Pastor, theologian, or other professing Christian must be interpreted through this approach (big fancy word used is called "hermeneutics"). Regarding the passage you referenced from 1 Cor 7:10-16: - v 10-11 states clearly that they husband and wife should not separate. But if there is a separation, there should be no divorce. - v 12-13 states that if a believing spouse is married to an unbelieving spouse, then the believing spouse should not divorce the unbelieving spouse. - v15 (which most people believe is the 2nd exception for divorce and remarriage) merely states that if the unbelieving spouse leaves, then let them leave. The believing spouse is not forced to maintain their togetherness (knowing that there will be a likelihood of conflict) and there should be peace. However it does NOT mean that the believing spouse is free to divorce and remarry. That is a lie. The greek word for bound/enslaved is "douloo", which literally means to "make a slave of". It is not a word that infers a covenant union such as marriage. In 1 Cor 7:39, the greek word for bound is "deo", which means to tie together in a knot (infers covenant marriage permanence). - v16 simply states that an attempt to maintain togetherness may not produce the desired results that unbelieving spouse will repent and come to Christ Long story short, no this passage does not teach that one can divorce and remarry. If one were to believe that, it would directly contradict Rom 7:2-3 & 1 Cor 7:39. And the Bible cannot contradict itself. Regarding if a person was married before they came to Christ, the answer is that Mal 2:14 and Rom 7:2-3 state clearly that marriage is a covenant irrespective of one's salvation. And when a person becomes saved, it doesn't eliminate the consequences of previous sin. If it did, then that would mean that a thief who came to Christ could be released shortly thereafter. It's important to note that a marriage covenant is a Creation ordinance, not a Christian ordinance. Therefore a person is in a covenant marriage with or without Christ. Here are the principle passages that teach on the permanence of a marriage covenant: - Luke 16:18 - Mark 10:11-12 - Rom 7:2-3 - 1 Cor 7:10-11 - 1 Cor 7:39 A good resource on YT for your consideration is Truth Baptist Church Lewiston. Then search for their "Divorce and Remarriage" playlist.
Would see her divorce before she was a Christian as a red flag? Or the fact that she didn’t tell him that she had been married within a certain time frame as a red flag?
A divorce certificate was always so you could remarry because like you said, there would be no point to getting one. God divorced Israel and made a new covenant with Gentiles.
I know this was posted 5 years ago but I think it's worth commenting on. The previous marriage that this woman had did not sound like it was a covenant between her partnership and God. In essence, God did not join the two together. Therefore, she is free to remarry, knowing that the covenant she makes with God in a Christian marriage can only be separated in the case of death (as stated in 1 Corinthians 7:39).
Matt 19:9 "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery:[[[ and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery]]]." Whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery because in God's eyes she is still married to her first husband.
Commits adultery as in a singular sense. The Bible also acknowledges the 2nd marriage. It clearly says "to marry another" has committed adultery (singular sin) not perpetual
@@scratchking3205 The fundamental principle of interpreting the scripture is to use the scripture. Another person once said that "the meaning of the scripture is the scripture." Instead of following that principle, you are trying to presuppose Koine Greek tense dictates meaning and overrules other scriptures. And that is the fundamental problem with your hermeneutic. Rom 7:2-3 - For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. 3 Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress. 1 Cor 7:39 - A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. Matt 14:1-13 & Mark 6:14-29 - John the Baptist confronts Herod on his adulterous marriage with Herodias, Philip's wife. I can assure you that John the Baptist didn't get into Koine Greek linguistics to inform Herod that it was OK to remain in the relationship since it was a "one time" act. John the Baptist called it for what it was: sin.
@@scratchking3205 Acknowledging is not condoning the action. Does the Bible say or even imply that if you ask forgiveness, then you are no longer committing adultery with another man's wife. So.... if I sleep with my neighbors wife every week (committing adultery) and I ask for forgiveness, then I'm good because God just considers it one offense? Is it made so if I marry her? No, every time I sin, that's a separate sin. The 2nd marriage is polygamy. Polygamy is all over the Bible, but just because the Bible doesn't call out every single sin, that doesn't mean it is condoned. This idea that silence from God is God condoning the actions.... that's dangerous thinking and appears erroneous. The consequences are beyond my mental capacity. The spouses, kids, extended family, church body, etc... the compounding of sin is heavy. How to fix and undo some this is compounding the pain and suffering it took to get there, but that's not a reason to avoid correcting the problem. The Bible says to remain single or reconcile with your spouse. Those are the two options God gives for the hard hearted who separated in the first place.
@@EdwardThe2nd. For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. 4 Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God.
Look, it's nice to stress that God forgives you but not to the point it encourages further sin. There's a legitimate debate about if divorce and remarriage is allowed or when it's allowed. What isn't under debate on how wrong it is to conceal a divorce from second 1 of being asked on a date. As Christians we date with intent of marriage and if you're dating for any other reason then you're wrong. As such, a past divorce and it's reasons should be revealed immediately before any hope or feelings happen. Once feelings develop it's often the foil of solid decision making.
Because he is a coward. Jesus said that anyone who marries a divorced woman causes her to commit adultery. Paul wrote that a woman who divorces her husband must remain single for the rest of her life or else be reconciled to her husband.
A Christian woman is not allowed to marry another man after divorce. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11says "To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife."
@@TinaJames-j2g Look, we know that some people think their opinions are superior to God's Word, but if that's you, you should move on to a different type of channel. You're wasting everyone's time here, including your own.
If you isolate this verse at the exclusion of other scriptures then it says a man cannot divorce. This would also mean a divorced man cannot remarry. I'm smelling a religious, legalistic spirit around....
My wife initiated a divorce because she didn’t want kids anymore and I still did. She refused counseling, refused to talk about it, threatened me with lawyers so I signed the papers. I am wondering what my options are from a Biblical perspective.
From a biblical perspective, your wife did not have a right to divorce you. You are simply the victim of a crime. You are free to marry another woman if you cannot reconcile with your ex.
It says this to the unmarried and the widows. A divorced person is not unmarried or a widow👇 Romans 7:2-3 King James Version 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. After the divorce they are still called husband and wife and any "remarriage" is called only adultery.
Yes, it does forbid that. Divorce does not break the marriage covenant under the New Testament. Romans 7:2-3 King James Version 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. They are still married even after the divorce has taken place. Divorce papers mean nothing to God. They are man-made, and Moses allowed it for man's hard heart. Moses allowed it, but Jesus says to us now we are bound for life regardless of any circumstances. Yes, one can separate, but there can be no remarriage as you are bound until death.
@aaronmichaelc.7482 👇 1Corinthians 7:10-11 New King James Version Keep Your Marriage Vows 10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
Romans 7 is talking about the law and likening it to marriage. A marriage that hasn't been broken, mind you. It does not forbid divorce there or anywhere else in the Bible. Divorce is God's grace on the innocent party when the other won't repent or reconcile. You're taking it out of context.
@em77775 You are taking out of context. I said the divorce means nothing. Even AFTER divorce it is clear that they are STILL married until death. How can one be told they commit adultery AFTER divorce IF they are NOT still married in Gods eyes?
@letstalkbiblewithshun.s If divorce means nothing then why does God do it himself, tell you how to do it, tell you how to remarry and explain grounds for divorce? Why does he not include it in the 10 commandments and put remarriage next to adultery? Why does He not say to stone the remarried? Why does He not explicitly forbidden divorce anywhere in the Bible? Why does He not say anywhere that divorce documents are invalid? He gives Israel a divorce certificate so that doesn't make sense. Bible verses do not cancel each other out. If you read up on all mentions of divorce and remarriage to see what God actually says and not what you think it must say, you will see divorce and remarriage, while not preferred, are allowed under certain circumstances.
the Bible does not make any distinction about the Spiritual Condition, at the time of the marriage....and the consequences of this marriage, go, for life, of the spouse....divorced....so this....you are forgiven, does not....wash away the consequenes of having been married...
Finally I've found the answer to my precise question 🙌 Could you point me to a preacher/book/video/article that expounds on this please as it applies to my circumstances and I need clarification. Thank you
@@dawnb8906 I've been looking for a pastor whose logic wasn't circular or just non-existant on this topic. Seriously, do these guys even know how to think clearly? They need a class on logic. I did find a great podcast recently that I think was actually clear and coherent. I'll post it below this comment (links usually cause my comments to be deleted).
@@dawnb8906 Romans 7:2-3 King James Version 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. I hope this helps. The man and his wife are called husband and wife until death, not until divorce papers or adultery. I hope this helps.💕
Divorce and remarriage is a concern that should be taken to God directly because everyone’s situation is different. I believe Pastor Mark Driscoll is right with his statement on this subject. Jesus came to forgive us and keep us in fellowship when Him throughout our life once we become a Christian. Yes the scripture does state that if you divorce and remarry it is forbidden if the former spouse is still alive. It is more likely that once divorce occurs, two people (male/female) are going to meet or cross paths from the past, whatever the situation may be, and fall in love and want to get married. If both are truly Christians and you’re equally yoked, then how do we avoid that without Jesus’s grace, mercy and forgiveness. Paul does state it is better to marry than fornicate and live a sinful lifestyle. If a Christian has a habit of getting married and divorced over and over again, then there’s a problem! However, I personally know Christians that are remarried and have the best marriage ever, and neither of the former spouses are passed away. They’re both serving God and have a wonderful life. The Bible states in Romans 8:1 that there is no condemnation in Christ because he forgives us and doesn’t want His children to live in guilt and condemnation the rest of our lives. God hates divorce but He also loves His children and wants us to live happy and peaceful lives. I don’t feel it’s right to judge anyone who remarries and they both are serving Christ.
"Divorce and remarriage is a concern that should be taken to God directly ...". I would say this is a good call. Let's take it to God directly: Luke 16:18 - "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery." Mark 10:11-12 - "So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” Rom 7:2-3 - For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man. 1 Cor 7:10-11 - "Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife." 1 Cor 7:39 - "A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord." Can you honestly say there is any ambiguity on what the Lord says about how a covenant marriage is for life and can only be ended by death? And that any sexual relations with another person while you are in a covenant marriage (which is only ended by death - irrespective of a marriage certificate from the state) is adultery? Yes, Paul does state it's better to marry than burn with lust (1 Cor 7:9). But it's referring to fornication (ie: sex before marriage - those never before married), not to a person who's in a covenant marriage. Regarding the people you say who are remarried and have the best life together, you are inferring that their "happiness" gives evidence that God is pleased with that relationship. First off, God's more interested in our holiness and sanctification than he is in our happiness. If happiness was the top criteria, the the Lord Jesus made a mistake by not accepting the offerings from Satan in Matt 4:1-11. Contemplate what James says in ch 5 about those who have have wealth. James doesn't say "you're happy and wealthy, which means it's from God." He actually rebukes them sternly and directly, not because it's wrong to be wealthy, but because they violated God's clear teaching in the midst of their wealth. The similar would apply to your friends who are divorced and remarried. They need to be admonished about what God really says about their relationship, which is clearly taught as adultery. And if they do not repent (ie: stop sleeping with someone that is not their covenant spouse), then they will just live a temporarily happy life walking into an eternity of torment (1 Cor 6:9). They may be married in the eyes of the state, but in the eyes of the Lord they are committing adultery. Shame on the Pastors that hide this eternal truth from them. And as for them "serving the Lord together", check out the outcome of some other servants who "served the Lord" but concurrently did acts of iniquity (Matt 7:21-23). Lastly, your posting ignores a critical prerequisite to experience the grace and mercy of the Lord, which is a godly sorrow that leads to genuine REPENTANCE (ie: change your mind, stop the sin). Then (and only then) can we experience the truths that lie in Rom 8:1.
@@EdwardThe2nd. I completely understand what you’re saying…we are to obey God. But are you perfect and never sinned before? Because the only one without sin and is pure perfection is Jesus Christ! And I know I need him every day of my life to forgive me because I am far from perfect and need forgiveness. I agree with the sanctity and holiness of marriage and how important that covenant is to God. However, we are a world of imperfect people and the whole reason for the cross is for us imperfect people Just like the apostle Paul says it doesn’t give us a license to sin, but we are not perfect and it’s impossible to live a perfect life. Thank God for Jesus’s mercy, grace and forgiveness upon our lives. I take it you don’t need it because based on your response you live a perfect life and feel the need to tell everyone that we are all sinners and are all going to hell. I agree with you that True Repentance is truly turning away from your sin and staying away from it through prayer and staying in the Word of God. But geez, people who get divorced and remarried are not necessarily going to hell because they got divorced and remarried. Now if you purposely leave your spouse to be with someone else, that’s a whole different situation because that’s wrong! But you have no idea of the different situations marriages go through, only God does. I take it your marriage is perfect (if you’re married) and that’s good! But it doesn’t give you a right to condemn remarriage for other people. You know scripture and that’s commendable. But I think you need to pray to God to open your heart and see people through His eyes, not yours.
@@mrz0413 I read your reply and noticed something very glaring in it. You didn't reference one verse of scripture. Instead, you offered human logic, emotional platitudes and some ad hominem attacks on myself. Unfortunate. What I will say about myself is that no, I don't live a perfect life, but I do desire to live a sanctified life (1 Thess 4:7). And perpetual unrepentant sin is not consistent with a Spirit of truth (John 14:17) filled life. I gave you the truth on this matter. Not my own opinions, but the truth. Did you even have the humility to go to the scriptures provided to you and read them yourself? You make some statements that say you agree, and then you slip in a "BUT" or "HOWEVER", which just negates any agreement / alignment that you profess. You say that "divorced and remarried are not necessarily going to hell", which directly contradicts 1 Cor 6:9 and the other verses provided earlier. So what you're basically saying is that you know more than God knows, and your opinions usurp his absolute truth. Or even worse, you try to blend in views from the world with God's Word (which is called lukewarm in Rev 3:15-16). Pride comes first before the fall (Prov 16:18). Regarding seeing people through God's eyes, I couldn't agree more. 1 Sam 16:7 - But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” And when a person divorces and remarries (with covenant spouse still alive), the Lord sees their heart as adulterous. This is the clearly taught perspective of God from the Bible, and 1 John 3:6 says that if a person willfully and continually practices sin then they are not of him. However if that person confesses their sin of adultery, repents and forsakes that sin (ie: stop sleeping with someone who is not their covenant spouse), then there is complete forgiveness, grace and mercy given from the Lord. It is not I who condemns remarriage, but the Lord (Luke 16:18, Mark 10:11-12). I will pray that you repent of this false thinking and be transformed by the renewing of your mind (Rom 12:2).
With all due respect Pastor you answered everything except the question. From my understanding of the WORD if you didn’t leave the marriage for but a very limited number of reasons biblically permitted, than you can never remarry with being in adultry. But then that seems like a life sentence of misery for those of us that are not cut out for life long singleness. Or a need for sex, etc. and oneness with another soul. 🤷🏼♂️
Death of a spouse is the only exception for remarriage. The bible does not say one can remarry for adultery. 👇 Romans 7:2-3 King James Version 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. Husband and wife are bound until death.
@@letstalkbiblewithshun.s I totally agree. Marriage is supposed to be symbolic of God's faithfulness ... even to an unfaithful spouse. Many look for wiggle room in Matt where Jesus appears to give an exception for immorality, and people look for wiggle room in 1 Cor 7 dealing with "such cases" where there is no peace. This appears to be eisegesis and a grasping for straws that appears to be justification for sin.
I walked away from my Faith for over 20 years during that time i married a unbeliever. we separated 11 years ago he lives with his partner. Ive remained single raising 3 autistic children on my own. i'm in the process of divorcing him. I returned to the Lord 3 years ago. Can i one day remarry a man of God?? or is it adultery?
Hi sister in Christ. My flesh tells me yes. But the word of God says no. When there is violence and great abuse it is wise to separate. God hates divorce but allows it when there is adultery involved. But God called us to peace. My advice to you is to surround yourself with true Christians who are there to help you Spiritually and also materially if need be. This is the church. The church must be a safe haven for women who are passing a difficult time. Pray for your husband because he is living in adultery. There is nothing more important than your eternal salvation. 1 Cor 7:39 - A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. There have been also many amazing testimonies of reconciliation. I encourage you to press in with the relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ.
He's with another woman now he's probably slept with, so he's committed adultery. You are free according to the scriptures. It's a slam dunk biblical ground for divorce. Don't let legalists who twist God's word around to put people in bondage tell you otherwise.
Thank you so much for this. It speaks to me as well, and it is received. ❤Praise God, thank you Jesus! God bless you and your family and all of the church!!
This is TERRIBLE advice. Pastor Mark will face judgement from Christ for such UNBLIBICAL counsel. He fails to quote several verses here. Whether the person married as a believer OR unbeliever doesn't change the fact that one makes a covenant vow until death to Jesus-- (ends upon death). She ended the marriage on unblibical grounds and so therefore she is STILL married, just like myself, to our former spouses. Yes you CAN repent but it does NOTHING because you are in a continual state of sin (still married in God's eyes to ex-spouse). Yes, she can still marry and it will be acknowledged legally according to our earthly laws and be happy with each other then what? Death 💀. We ALL die and face judgement. Yea she can repent and be forgiven for anything (except blasphemy of the Holy Spirit) . but she cannot in this instance ( repent = turn away from sin of adultery as she's still in it ). The bible states 1 Cor 11: But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. Matthew 19:9 and I say unto you whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication and shall remarry another committed adultery and whosoever marrieth her which is put away, commit adultery. ROMANS 7:2-3 For ea married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. 3 Accordingly, fshe will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. The counsel she SHOULD habe received is to emain SINGLE! 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 New King James Version 9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [a]homosexuals, nor [b]sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were [c]sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.
These Preachers will all anwser to God on Judgment day for not preaching divorce and remarriage according to scripture. Jesus plainly said, what God has joined together let not man put asunder Mark 10:9
There are exceptions it states in Gods word if there is biblical reasons you Go in peace, it is done so yes you can remarry but with a true bible believing God fearing christian. You must be born again. Also there is context to the scriptures this is why the lord says eyes to see ears to hear…if you have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ 24/7 you know he guides you having the Holy Spirit he will never lead you astray. Living in a true loving Christian marriage, living and loving God together as one, trusting and following his word is not only inspiring to others as it sets the example of how you should live a true Christian lifestyle in Gods highest purpose. It reflect the relationship between the church and believers. Remember God said many will come to him saying we did good works (which includes judgement in the TH-cam comments) he will turn to those and say depart from me I never knew you! Scripture out of their mouths and hatred in their hearts. I’ll stick with having an awesome relationship with the lord where he is my number one!
Yes, keep working on your relationship. That's good. In 1 Cor 7, the exception is for a non Christian spouse who can't handle living with a Christian. This is generally forbidden by God as "unequally yoked", but when 1 spouse in a non Christian marriage gets saved, it creates an "unequally yoked" problem. That's the only exception that Paul said was not from the Lord but from Paul himself. Go read it for yourself. Paul said that God says not to separate or divorce... as a command not to, but people do anyway just like people sin anyway, and the problems are dealing with how to manage all this sin. Jesus said in Matt 19 that hard hearted sinners who wouldn't forgive or reconcile were allowed to separate and divorce by Moses. If Moses didn't let these hellions separate, then the sin would compound and be much worse. It was never approved of by God. Paul says to stay single or reconcile. Those are the only two options approved to handle the sin. Anything else just compounds sin upon sin and gets worse and worse. The disciples were very discouraged when Jesus explained it more thouroughly in private and they said it's better not to even get married... which is not the response you would expect if they could trade her in for a new one. Just some things to think about.
Deut 24:1, 2 - When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.
Mark 10:5 But Jesus said to them, Because of your hard hearts he gave you this law. Jesus explains why God gave that law. Not because he loves divorce. He hated it. Made it clear in Malachi. Jesus made it clear. But I agree divorce isn't the end. But that law isn't the one to quote
Why have you not included Jesus commentary on Deut 24:1-4? Read Matt 19:8. Jesus makes it clear that Moses permitted this because of their "hardness of their hearts". And Jesus doesn't just sit on Deut 24:1-4: he overrules that passage and takes us back to Genesis 2 (beginning of marriage) which is God's intent. So Jesus overrules Deut 24:1-4 with Gen 2, yet you seem to want to keep Deut 24:1-4 as authoritative over Jesus words. Sounds to me a like a bad case of "hardheartedness".
Your wife is always your wife as it clearly says she is bound to you. It says any remarriage she engages in, is not a marriage but adultery 👇 Romans 7:2-3 King James Version 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. Husband and wife are bound until death. God only calls the remarriage adultery. She has always been the first husband’s wife.
Most of the Israelites were not Christians. They were mostly in rebellion to God... or sin. To manage the compounding of sin, Moses gave this writ for those who weren't mature or spiritual enough to forgive, trust, and love their imperfect spouse. They were absolutely awful to one another. This writ appears to be sin management of an out of control group of people, that if left to themselves would accrue enough of God's wrath that would lead to their destruction. Jesus clearly said that for over 2500 years before Moses, there was no God approved divorce because it was never intended. If God approves it, then why is remarriage considered a sin and why didn't God make it a clear rule from the beginning? Because God doesn't approve of divorce. God actually hates it (Mal 2) and whatever God hates is sin, and we should hate whatever God hates. There isn't much easy about it because it's so emotional and deals directly with balancing what God wants with what we want. How we respond reveals how committed we are to following Him. 1 Peter 2 and 3 teaches we are not to leave situations where we are suffering and it's tied to marriage in chapter 3. I don't believe it is teaching to endure physical violence even though it tells slaves to endure physical violence. Points to ponder. I hope it helps.
He does this repeatedly because he is not totally faithful. He teaches much of Scripture, but not all of it and routinely leaves out the verses that make women look bad. He does not speak out against feminism.
I like this pastor. This is great biblical advice. I am a licensed marriage counselor. Pastors that tell people that they can’t remarry under any circumstances are legalistic and sound abusive.
As a licensed marriage counselor, I'd like to get your take on the following scenario. A woman comes into your office one day in tears. She has heard the gospel message, feels convicted that she has sinned against God, wants to repent and be right with the Lord. You celebrate her decision for Christ and book another session with her. In the next session, that same woman brings another woman along with her. This other woman is her gay married spouse. They have two adopted kids. Her gay married spouse also acknowledges her need for Christ. They both admit that what they did beforehand (ie: gay marriage) was wrong, and they profess repentance of it. In order to avoid being legalistic and sound abusive, do you advise them to remain as they are and to live for Christ in their current union?
@@EdwardThe2nd. As a licensed therapist it would be illegal in my state to tell them to get a divorce because they are gay and I can potentially lose my my license to practice. I think that I would leave that decision up to them to decide.
@@felixguerrero6062 A lot of people don’t know that all licensed therapists even if they are Christian can’t provide conservative biblical counseling. If a licensed counselor provided true biblical counseling they can put their license at risk and even get arrested in areas. We are not allowed in my state to tell a person that homosexuality is a sin. The board will automatically revoke my license. Licensed therapists are considered medical mid level providers kind of like a physical therapist. If someone is seeking biblical counseling, then see a pastoral counselor.
@@TinaJames-j2g Yet you were pretty quick to park your legal liability and boldly speak on the ethics of the matter at hand (and even resort to name calling - at risk of your licensed counselor designation), yet when you were given another scenario your boldness disappeared like a vapor in a wind. You tried to be a Christian in your first comment, but then you parked that and went into "licensed counselor" as your authoritative identity in your second statement. How convenient. You can disregard my scenario I posed to you. I thought you would have had integrity. My bad.
We're not supposed to sin on purpose sometimes it can happen but we do have forgiveness if we ask but we're not supposed to try to send no more and definitely cannot live in sin and go to heaven even if you're a Christian Christians cannot live in sin and go to heaven he died for our sins yes so we are to try to live a righteous life and we're not supposed to be living in sin so once saved always saved is not correct if you read in the New Testament you'll see that that's not accurate because you'll see that if you live in sin you can still go to hell apparently so I have always you I would revisit what you're saying and I mean I know that it's not popular you know sometimes to tell the truth but the truth is the truth and people need to know that you can't just live in sin and go to heaven and yes your sins are forgiven when you asked and stuff and all that but you're not supposed to keep going back to the same thing and keep doing it anyway I say this out of love and I'm not trying to be mean to nobody but the truth is the truth District like if someone's in a homosexual relationship that's a sin Abomination to God if they become a Christian they cannot go back to that lifestyle and go to heaven
show me one scripture that says you can divorce and remarry..there are zero. Jesus says if you divorce and remarry your in adultery Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18, Matt5:32, Matt 19:9, Romans 7:2-3, 1 Cor 7:10-11
It's sounds good except when you apply the Bible. Mark did say to submit to your pastor and his counsel because he doesn't know the situation, but he knows enough that it appears Mark left out some important verses that apply in order to give an encouraging message. Encouragement is good, but not at the expense of God's instruction.
Please don’t wait until you’re about to get engaged to reveal that you were previously married…or, that you had one, or many more partners. THAT is covert. You see, once you’re at the point of engagement, you will be emotionally attached to each other. It would be a horrible let down to surprise your friend this way??? Your friend MUST know this before your very first date!!!!!! I can not emphasize that enough
I completely agree with you!
This is not a scriptualy based video. The scriptures tell you that you are still married to your 1st spouse, because he is ALIVE.
The Scriptures say no such thing. See Deuteronomy 24:1-4, John 4:17, Matthew 5:17-18, and 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 to show that there is no such thing as "still married in God's eyes" after a duly enacted divorce or dissolution of the marriage.
Exactly, and he never answered her question about whether it's okay to remarry. I also disagree with his advice that "it's not good to tell him you're divorced right away, wait until you're further along in the relationship". I strongly believe that that should be disclosed on day one. This pastor seems to be speaking more from his mind than the Spirit.
@@marias6583 I also would have preferred that he would go straight to the heart on the matter. Usually when someone asks "is it permitted to do X?", they are not asking whether X is wise or advisable, only if it is permitted. If Mark Discoll believed there was a strong imperative to not remarry, then I presume he would have made this explicit. So the absence of such a clear imperative from him seems to imply that he believes there is no sin in remarriage per se.
As for when to disclose a prior marriage, I have no strong feelings either way. You are either married or you are not, and most single people my age (40s) have been married before. In fact, some people would scratch their heads if you were my age and never married, or have never been in any long term relationship. I also hold that it is no sin to marry if you are single for any reason, regardless of prior marital status (I cite 1 Cor 7, verses 9, 15, 27, 28 for support on that).
Then that means everyone goes to hell .
If I am already divorced and remarried, how do I repent? What should I do to make it right in God's sight? The options for repentance in this situation include leaving your current partner and reconciling with your original partner if possible. If reconciliation with your original partner is impossible, you should remain single. You have a difficult decision to make-you can either continue to live with your current partner for the rest of this life or choose to live with Jesus for all eternity, but you can't do both.
If there are young children involved, then remain together in the same house, but live as brother and sister. If there are no young children involved, then separate.
@@prayerpatrollerI strongly disagree as a licensed marriage therapist
I find the advice that others are giving you is ignorant. I am a professional licensed therapist. You can’t leave your current spouse because an ignorant person’s opinion. You have a new life right now with your current spouse. This is the current person that God wants you to be with. You are not going to hell for being remarried. Those that think like that have a works based salvation.
You need not do anything. The notion that merely being in a second marriage is sin is at the heart of the marriage permanence heresy. If it were otherwise, the Scriptures would have given clear and specific instructions regarding this. If your salvation were contingent upon leaving a marriage, the Scriptures would have said so in no uncertain terms.
Do not listen to anyone who says you must leave your marriage or live like roommates. People who say such things are teaching heresy.
@@dh605x That is why we need the magisterium of the Catholic Church.
I'm not married yet, but I have a fear of marrying someone who would leave me against my will for unbiblical reasons such as "the spark is gone". If something like that happens, is the abandoned spouse supposed to remain single? If so, I'm gonna keep on being extremely selective. The idea of being thrown aside by the one I thought I'd spend my life with is an absolute nightmare to me.
This question is mainly for those who have a stricter view on this than Mark. I haven't done enough research on this topic, so I'll accept any answer that has the most biblical backing.
1 Corinthians 7:15. You’re not bound if they decide to talk away. We are called to actually let them go in peace
@veraaesthetics that just means you aren't forced to continue to try and reconcile with them. But you're not free to remarry
To the person who asked the question: Please consider what God has to say about divorce and remarriage:
Luke 16:18 - Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.
Mark 10:11-12 - And he said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, 12 and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
Rom 7:2-3 - For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. 3 Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress.
1 Cor 7:39 - A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
John the Baptist did not take Mr. Driscoll's advice when he approached Herod while he had Philip's wife. John the Baptist could have easily said (hey, the messiah is here, just trust in him, be forgiven and you can continue sleeping with Philip's wife). Instead he told Herod that what he's doing is wrong in the eyes of God. Sadly, John the Baptist lost his head over this.
Jesus says that divorce and remarriage (while covenant spouse is still alive) is adultery. Paul affirms this in the verses provided above. Is it forgivable? Yes, when there is genuine repentance (ie: stop the sin). God does give grace in a situation such as yours: remain single or be reconciled to your spouse (1 Cor 7:11). But today, in the sight of God, you are a married woman and the man you are dating is not your spouse. So really, the relationship needs to end and you need a faithful church community to support you, pray for you and to pray for your husband's salvation.
In this video, Mr. Driscoll is advocating forgiveness prior to (and possibly without) the act of repentance. You will get a majority of Pastors that will say "sure, you're forgiven, move on with your life." But the Bible says that we must live lives holy and pleasing to God (Rom 12:1). Do you think you can live a life holy and pleasing to God while disobeying his clear teaching on this subject?
My hope is that you will not listen to Mr. Driscoll on this, nor will you listen to me. I hope you will search the scriptures (starting with the verses above) to know what God wants for you on this area. And as a result, you will have a deep peace and joy with God.
From Leo: Hebrews 10:26 " For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins," If you want to rock the criteria that you wrote above for people who failed in marriage, I don't know how you think you can be saved. I never met an honest person that did not revisit a habitual sin after salvation.. The law is given as a school master of righteousness. Salvation is forgiveness for the guilty,. Without the Blood of JESUS and the mercy that it purchased, we are all without hope, and you are not in a position to limit HIS mercy. Exodus 20 and Matthew 5:28 should terrify a person with your views
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100% agree with you people do not read the Bible and actually there’s a lot of a lot of falsePastors out there to see the same nonsense when you perfectly broke down every verse in the Bible that backs up if you remarry it’s adultery it’s not hard I applaud you for actually breaking it down and debunking this man on this video because it’s nonsense that he’s spitting
@@richardgonzalez6583 I don't want to impute motives on any Pastor, including Mr. Driscoll. The Lord knows his heart, not me. But what I will say is that we have a Pastoral leadership crisis where the majority of Pastors teach that there are 2 x exceptions for divorce and remarriage (while covenant spouse is still alive). This is a lie.
We can agree to disagree on matters like eschatology, church polity, membership rules, even forms of worship (insofar that it doesn't compromise doctrine). But this is not a secondary doctrine, since 1 Cor 6:9 says that adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of heaven. Adulterers (ie: those who sleep with someone else's covenant spouse) who do not repent will go to hell. This is not a comfortable doctrine to speak about, but it is the truth of God.
It should be mentioned that in v11, it says "And such were some of you.", which implies when there is genuine sorrow for sin and repentance (ie: stop the adultery), there is grace and forgiveness from the Lord. Praise God!
Marriage is until death. People can not fathom why God would want them to take up their cross and follow Him.
He never answered the question yet its clearly stated in in scripture. Probably because it's not the popular answer that people want to hear. Or maybe he doesn't know the answer and in that case, he should study on this topic instead of giving his opinion on what he THINKS!
If she's divorced and her ex husband is still living, she can't remarry, period
You're dead wrong. See Deut 24:2, Matt 5:17-18, 1 Cor 7:27-28. If any and all remarriage after a duly enacted divorce was adultery, it would have never been lawful even under Moses.
You sound very cruel
@@dh605x You quote Deut 24, yet you omit Jesus commentary on Deut 24 in Matt 19:8 on why Moses permitted this. In that same verse, Jesus corrects the matter and points back to the beginning in Genesis 2. You can't quote an OT text alone without the lense of Christ, unless you want to be a Pharisee.
Not sure how Matt 5:17-18 transposes into any direct relevancy to the fact the a covenant marriage is for life (and is only ended by death).
As for 1 Cor 7:27-28, it's from a section that Paul is addressing virgins and unmarried. Unmarried cannot mean "once married, now divorced, with covenant spouse still alive" because in the same chapter Paul states in v11-12 that a married couple are not to separate but if they do they must remain apart or be reconciled to each other. Further in v39, he states that a wife is bound to their spouse as long as he lives (which inversely applies to the husband also). It's crystal clear from these verses (as well as Luke 16:18, Mark 10:11-12 & Rom 7:2-3) that covenant marriage is for life and only ends in death.
May I suggest you go back to the scriptures on this, rightly divide the Word of Truth (2 Tim 2:15), park your biases/emotions/desires and submit to the teachings of the Lord on this matter? This is not an "agree to disagree" matter like eschatology, church polity or even worship styles, because 1 Cor 6:9 clearly states that adulterers will not inherit the Kingdom of God (heaven). So this has implications towards the gospel.
But it would be unjust to not say that there is cleansing and forgiveness when there is a godly sorry leading to repentance (ie: stop sleeping with someone who is not their covenant spouse).
@@dh605xNo, sir. It is you who is ‘dead wrong’. Go back and read the very verses you cited. Most of this comment section and actual video is lukewarm vomit. Jesus said Moses allowed divorce due to the hardness of the people’s hearts, but even then it was not to be so. In Matthew he states the only reason for divorce is specifically for fornication. Not generalized sexual immorality or adultery. Meaning if you found out your betrothed was not virginal you could divorce. As the case seemingly was for Joseph if he did not have faith in Mary’s immaculate conception.
And I don’t know what kind of reversed paralax lenses you’re reading that 1 Corinthians verse through but it clearly says divorce is a no no and anyone who is with a dovorcé commits adultery. As soon as we are able to put our own selfish desires second to our Lords then we can begin to see and understand. The truth is not cruel. Cruelty is in the lying to one’s self and others, leading them down the wrong path. Just look at the the very oath of marriage in the first place.
This video is poison.
Jesus answered your question. Mark 10:11-12
Obey Jesus
Amen! It is FINISHED! Alllllll under the BLOOD! Forget all those FORMER things as Paul said and PRESS FORWARD to that mark of that higher calling! Press forward soldier
Marriage is a state, not a sin. Jesus washed away our sins. He did not wash away our marriage covenant
Romans 7:2-3
King James Version
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
does this allow a homosexual to remain in a marriage...
@@philipbuckley759It isn’t a biblical marriage, so there is no blessing or covenant in a civil union of a homosexual relationship.. Homosexuality is an abomination, according to scripture..
@vonsmoothe2245 - Here's a situation for you to ponder. One day while in a coffee shop, you meet a man and strike up a conversation with him. You share the gospel with this person and this person repents and places their faith in Christ alone for their salvation right there at the coffee shop. You exchange contact info with the man and arrange to keep in touch.
A few weeks goes by, and that man (who dedicated his life to Christ) comes to your house with another man. This other man is his gay married "husband" (big quotes) and they have two adopted kids back at their house. The 2nd man also gives his life to Christ. They both recognize that what they did (ie: gay marriage) was a sin in the eyes of the Lord. Do you tell them both that they should stay "married" (big quotes) as they are today, since "IT is FINISHED! Alllllll under the BLOOD! Forget all those FORMER things and PRESS FORWARD"?
I am not a theologian, and am seeking answers for this same question. I just came across 1 Cor 7:10-16, which appears to establish a biblical foundation for your divorce as unbelievers, which would then allow you to remarry. I could be totally wrong about this, but it seems to be so. And why would unbelievers be held to a standard they were ignorant of, and especially when we are born again, washed clean, and renewed in Christ? These are good questions to ask, though.
Before I comment on the passage you quoted, it's important to note that the best way to interpret the scripture is to use the scripture. Scripture cannot contradict itself. This is the principle way of rightly interpreting the Word of God. Any teaching from a Pastor, theologian, or other professing Christian must be interpreted through this approach (big fancy word used is called "hermeneutics").
Regarding the passage you referenced from 1 Cor 7:10-16:
- v 10-11 states clearly that they husband and wife should not separate. But if there is a separation, there should be no divorce.
- v 12-13 states that if a believing spouse is married to an unbelieving spouse, then the believing spouse should not divorce the unbelieving spouse.
- v15 (which most people believe is the 2nd exception for divorce and remarriage) merely states that if the unbelieving spouse leaves, then let them leave. The believing spouse is not forced to maintain their togetherness (knowing that there will be a likelihood of conflict) and there should be peace. However it does NOT mean that the believing spouse is free to divorce and remarry. That is a lie. The greek word for bound/enslaved is "douloo", which literally means to "make a slave of". It is not a word that infers a covenant union such as marriage. In 1 Cor 7:39, the greek word for bound is "deo", which means to tie together in a knot (infers covenant marriage permanence).
- v16 simply states that an attempt to maintain togetherness may not produce the desired results that unbelieving spouse will repent and come to Christ
Long story short, no this passage does not teach that one can divorce and remarry. If one were to believe that, it would directly contradict Rom 7:2-3 & 1 Cor 7:39. And the Bible cannot contradict itself.
Regarding if a person was married before they came to Christ, the answer is that Mal 2:14 and Rom 7:2-3 state clearly that marriage is a covenant irrespective of one's salvation. And when a person becomes saved, it doesn't eliminate the consequences of previous sin. If it did, then that would mean that a thief who came to Christ could be released shortly thereafter. It's important to note that a marriage covenant is a Creation ordinance, not a Christian ordinance. Therefore a person is in a covenant marriage with or without Christ.
Here are the principle passages that teach on the permanence of a marriage covenant:
- Luke 16:18
- Mark 10:11-12
- Rom 7:2-3
- 1 Cor 7:10-11
- 1 Cor 7:39
A good resource on YT for your consideration is Truth Baptist Church Lewiston. Then search for their "Divorce and Remarriage" playlist.
this woman should have told this man on the first date i would see this as a red flag
Would see her divorce before she was a Christian as a red flag? Or the fact that she didn’t tell him that she had been married within a certain time frame as a red flag?
To all of those who say if you remarry you are adulterous, what is the point of the divorce? What does divorce do if you are incapable of remarrying?
Divorce may allow a spouse to escape an abusive marriage or a marriage made based on false claims of who the person was.
A divorce certificate was always so you could remarry because like you said, there would be no point to getting one. God divorced Israel and made a new covenant with Gentiles.
I know this was posted 5 years ago but I think it's worth commenting on. The previous marriage that this woman had did not sound like it was a covenant between her partnership and God. In essence, God did not join the two together. Therefore, she is free to remarry, knowing that the covenant she makes with God in a Christian marriage can only be separated in the case of death (as stated in 1 Corinthians 7:39).
How about those in unequally yoked marriages though?
That's not biblical. Marriage is binding, period. You aren't free to remarry if you're divorced
@@mlwilson2956boo boo
that's not true. marriage is marriage even if they are unbelievers.
@@mlwilson2956 People can do whatever they want whether you like it or not.
Matt 19:9
"And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery:[[[ and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery]]]."
Whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery because in God's eyes she is still married to her first husband.
Commits adultery as in a singular sense. The Bible also acknowledges the 2nd marriage. It clearly says "to marry another" has committed adultery (singular sin) not perpetual
@@scratchking3205 The fundamental principle of interpreting the scripture is to use the scripture. Another person once said that "the meaning of the scripture is the scripture." Instead of following that principle, you are trying to presuppose Koine Greek tense dictates meaning and overrules other scriptures. And that is the fundamental problem with your hermeneutic.
Rom 7:2-3 - For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. 3 Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress.
1 Cor 7:39 - A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
Matt 14:1-13 & Mark 6:14-29 - John the Baptist confronts Herod on his adulterous marriage with Herodias, Philip's wife. I can assure you that John the Baptist didn't get into Koine Greek linguistics to inform Herod that it was OK to remain in the relationship since it was a "one time" act. John the Baptist called it for what it was: sin.
@@scratchking3205 Acknowledging is not condoning the action.
Does the Bible say or even imply that if you ask forgiveness, then you are no longer committing adultery with another man's wife. So.... if I sleep with my neighbors wife every week (committing adultery) and I ask for forgiveness, then I'm good because God just considers it one offense? Is it made so if I marry her? No, every time I sin, that's a separate sin. The 2nd marriage is polygamy. Polygamy is all over the Bible, but just because the Bible doesn't call out every single sin, that doesn't mean it is condoned. This idea that silence from God is God condoning the actions.... that's dangerous thinking and appears erroneous.
The consequences are beyond my mental capacity. The spouses, kids, extended family, church body, etc... the compounding of sin is heavy. How to fix and undo some this is compounding the pain and suffering it took to get there, but that's not a reason to avoid correcting the problem.
The Bible says to remain single or reconcile with your spouse. Those are the two options God gives for the hard hearted who separated in the first place.
@@EdwardThe2nd. For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
4 Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God.
@@EdwardThe2nd.why only read a part of what he’s saying in Romans?
Look, it's nice to stress that God forgives you but not to the point it encourages further sin. There's a legitimate debate about if divorce and remarriage is allowed or when it's allowed. What isn't under debate on how wrong it is to conceal a divorce from second 1 of being asked on a date. As Christians we date with intent of marriage and if you're dating for any other reason then you're wrong. As such, a past divorce and it's reasons should be revealed immediately before any hope or feelings happen. Once feelings develop it's often the foil of solid decision making.
He didnt answer the question if she can remarry
Because he is a coward. Jesus said that anyone who marries a divorced woman causes her to commit adultery. Paul wrote that a woman who divorces her husband must remain single for the rest of her life or else be reconciled to her husband.
A Christian woman is not allowed to marry another man after divorce. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11says "To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife."
That type of thinking is dangerous! Period!
@@TinaJames-j2g Look, we know that some people think their opinions are superior to God's Word, but if that's you, you should move on to a different type of channel. You're wasting everyone's time here, including your own.
@@selohcin Your ***** is the size of a gummy bear!
If you isolate this verse at the exclusion of other scriptures then it says a man cannot divorce. This would also mean a divorced man cannot remarry. I'm smelling a religious, legalistic spirit around....
My wife initiated a divorce because she didn’t want kids anymore and I still did. She refused counseling, refused to talk about it, threatened me with lawyers so I signed the papers. I am wondering what my options are from a Biblical perspective.
From a biblical perspective, your wife did not have a right to divorce you. You are simply the victim of a crime. You are free to marry another woman if you cannot reconcile with your ex.
@@selohcinwhere is the scripture to back this?
@selohcin it doesn't matter if you're the guilty or innocent party, remarriage after divorce is adultery
Your biblical options are to reconcile or remain single as long as she is still living
@@mlwilson2956 Incorrect. Remarriage after divorce is adultery FOR A WOMAN. He is a man.
Bible also says it is better to be single but if because of sinful nature of the flesh it is better to marry than fornication
It says this to the unmarried and the widows. A divorced person is not unmarried or a widow👇
Romans 7:2-3
King James Version
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
After the divorce they are still called husband and wife and any "remarriage" is called only adultery.
Yes, it does forbid that. Divorce does not break the marriage covenant under the New Testament.
Romans 7:2-3
King James Version
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
They are still married even after the divorce has taken place. Divorce papers mean nothing to God. They are man-made, and Moses allowed it for man's hard heart. Moses allowed it, but Jesus says to us now we are bound for life regardless of any circumstances. Yes, one can separate, but there can be no remarriage as you are bound until death.
Where at does it "forbid" divorce? And not the remarriage? One scripture about divorce being the sin, and not mentioning the "remarriage"
@aaronmichaelc.7482 👇
1Corinthians 7:10-11
New King James Version
Keep Your Marriage Vows
10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
Romans 7 is talking about the law and likening it to marriage. A marriage that hasn't been broken, mind you. It does not forbid divorce there or anywhere else in the Bible. Divorce is God's grace on the innocent party when the other won't repent or reconcile. You're taking it out of context.
@em77775 You are taking out of context. I said the divorce means nothing. Even AFTER divorce it is clear that they are STILL married until death. How can one be told they commit adultery AFTER divorce IF they are NOT still married in Gods eyes?
@letstalkbiblewithshun.s If divorce means nothing then why does God do it himself, tell you how to do it, tell you how to remarry and explain grounds for divorce? Why does he not include it in the 10 commandments and put remarriage next to adultery? Why does He not say to stone the remarried? Why does He not explicitly forbidden divorce anywhere in the Bible? Why does He not say anywhere that divorce documents are invalid? He gives Israel a divorce certificate so that doesn't make sense. Bible verses do not cancel each other out. If you read up on all mentions of divorce and remarriage to see what God actually says and not what you think it must say, you will see divorce and remarriage, while not preferred, are allowed under certain circumstances.
I'm curious. If you were dead in sin before becoming a believer and your ex is still a non believer are they effectively "dead" in the biblical sense?
the Bible does not make any distinction about the Spiritual Condition, at the time of the marriage....and the consequences of this marriage, go, for life, of the spouse....divorced....so this....you are forgiven, does not....wash away the consequenes of having been married...
Finally I've found the answer to my precise question 🙌 Could you point me to a preacher/book/video/article that expounds on this please as it applies to my circumstances and I need clarification. Thank you
@@dawnb8906 I've been looking for a pastor whose logic wasn't circular or just non-existant on this topic. Seriously, do these guys even know how to think clearly? They need a class on logic.
I did find a great podcast recently that I think was actually clear and coherent. I'll post it below this comment (links usually cause my comments to be deleted).
@@dawnb8906 look up David Pawson....
@@dawnb8906 Romans 7:2-3
King James Version
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
I hope this helps. The man and his wife are called husband and wife until death, not until divorce papers or adultery. I hope this helps.💕
@philosophyze Marriage is for life and the marriage covenant only ends at death.
Divorce and remarriage is a concern that should be taken to God directly because everyone’s situation is different. I believe Pastor Mark Driscoll is right with his statement on this subject. Jesus came to forgive us and keep us in fellowship when Him throughout our life once we become a Christian. Yes the scripture does state that if you divorce and remarry it is forbidden if the former spouse is still alive. It is more likely that once divorce occurs, two people (male/female) are going to meet or cross paths from the past, whatever the situation may be, and fall in love and want to get married. If both are truly Christians and you’re equally yoked, then how do we avoid that without Jesus’s grace, mercy and forgiveness. Paul does state it is better to marry than fornicate and live a sinful lifestyle. If a Christian has a habit of getting married and divorced over and over again, then there’s a problem! However, I personally know Christians that are remarried and have the best marriage ever, and neither of the former spouses are passed away. They’re both serving God and have a wonderful life. The Bible states in Romans 8:1 that there is no condemnation in Christ because he forgives us and doesn’t want His children to live in guilt and condemnation the rest of our lives. God hates divorce but He also loves His children and wants us to live happy and peaceful lives. I don’t feel it’s right to judge anyone who remarries and they both are serving Christ.
amen
"Divorce and remarriage is a concern that should be taken to God directly ...". I would say this is a good call. Let's take it to God directly:
Luke 16:18 - "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery."
Mark 10:11-12 - "So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
Rom 7:2-3 - For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man.
1 Cor 7:10-11 - "Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife."
1 Cor 7:39 - "A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord."
Can you honestly say there is any ambiguity on what the Lord says about how a covenant marriage is for life and can only be ended by death? And that any sexual relations with another person while you are in a covenant marriage (which is only ended by death - irrespective of a marriage certificate from the state) is adultery?
Yes, Paul does state it's better to marry than burn with lust (1 Cor 7:9). But it's referring to fornication (ie: sex before marriage - those never before married), not to a person who's in a covenant marriage.
Regarding the people you say who are remarried and have the best life together, you are inferring that their "happiness" gives evidence that God is pleased with that relationship. First off, God's more interested in our holiness and sanctification than he is in our happiness. If happiness was the top criteria, the the Lord Jesus made a mistake by not accepting the offerings from Satan in Matt 4:1-11. Contemplate what James says in ch 5 about those who have have wealth. James doesn't say "you're happy and wealthy, which means it's from God." He actually rebukes them sternly and directly, not because it's wrong to be wealthy, but because they violated God's clear teaching in the midst of their wealth. The similar would apply to your friends who are divorced and remarried. They need to be admonished about what God really says about their relationship, which is clearly taught as adultery. And if they do not repent (ie: stop sleeping with someone that is not their covenant spouse), then they will just live a temporarily happy life walking into an eternity of torment (1 Cor 6:9). They may be married in the eyes of the state, but in the eyes of the Lord they are committing adultery. Shame on the Pastors that hide this eternal truth from them. And as for them "serving the Lord together", check out the outcome of some other servants who "served the Lord" but concurrently did acts of iniquity (Matt 7:21-23).
Lastly, your posting ignores a critical prerequisite to experience the grace and mercy of the Lord, which is a godly sorrow that leads to genuine REPENTANCE (ie: change your mind, stop the sin). Then (and only then) can we experience the truths that lie in Rom 8:1.
@@EdwardThe2nd. I completely understand what you’re saying…we are to obey God. But are you perfect and never sinned before? Because the only one without sin and is pure perfection is Jesus Christ! And I know I need him every day of my life to forgive me because I am far from perfect and need forgiveness. I agree with the sanctity and holiness of marriage and how important that covenant is to God. However, we are a world of imperfect people and the whole reason for the cross is for us imperfect people Just like the apostle Paul says it doesn’t give us a license to sin, but we are not perfect and it’s impossible to live a perfect life. Thank God for Jesus’s mercy, grace and forgiveness upon our lives. I take it you don’t need it because based on your response you live a perfect life and feel the need to tell everyone that we are all sinners and are all going to hell. I agree with you that True Repentance is truly turning away from your sin and staying away from it through prayer and staying in the Word of God. But geez, people who get divorced and remarried are not necessarily going to hell because they got divorced and remarried. Now if you purposely leave your spouse to be with someone else, that’s a whole different situation because that’s wrong! But you have no idea of the different situations marriages go through, only God does. I take it your marriage is perfect (if you’re married) and that’s good! But it doesn’t give you a right to condemn remarriage for other people. You know scripture and that’s commendable. But I think you need to pray to God to open your heart and see people through His eyes, not yours.
@@mrz0413 I read your reply and noticed something very glaring in it. You didn't reference one verse of scripture. Instead, you offered human logic, emotional platitudes and some ad hominem attacks on myself. Unfortunate. What I will say about myself is that no, I don't live a perfect life, but I do desire to live a sanctified life (1 Thess 4:7). And perpetual unrepentant sin is not consistent with a Spirit of truth (John 14:17) filled life.
I gave you the truth on this matter. Not my own opinions, but the truth. Did you even have the humility to go to the scriptures provided to you and read them yourself?
You make some statements that say you agree, and then you slip in a "BUT" or "HOWEVER", which just negates any agreement / alignment that you profess.
You say that "divorced and remarried are not necessarily going to hell", which directly contradicts 1 Cor 6:9 and the other verses provided earlier. So what you're basically saying is that you know more than God knows, and your opinions usurp his absolute truth. Or even worse, you try to blend in views from the world with God's Word (which is called lukewarm in Rev 3:15-16). Pride comes first before the fall (Prov 16:18).
Regarding seeing people through God's eyes, I couldn't agree more.
1 Sam 16:7 - But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
And when a person divorces and remarries (with covenant spouse still alive), the Lord sees their heart as adulterous. This is the clearly taught perspective of God from the Bible, and 1 John 3:6 says that if a person willfully and continually practices sin then they are not of him. However if that person confesses their sin of adultery, repents and forsakes that sin (ie: stop sleeping with someone who is not their covenant spouse), then there is complete forgiveness, grace and mercy given from the Lord.
It is not I who condemns remarriage, but the Lord (Luke 16:18, Mark 10:11-12). I will pray that you repent of this false thinking and be transformed by the renewing of your mind (Rom 12:2).
With all due respect Pastor you answered everything except the question. From my understanding of the WORD if you didn’t leave the marriage for but a very limited number of reasons biblically permitted, than you can never remarry with being in adultry. But then that seems like a life sentence of misery for those of us that are not cut out for life long singleness. Or a need for sex, etc. and oneness with another soul. 🤷🏼♂️
Death of a spouse is the only exception for remarriage. The bible does not say one can remarry for adultery. 👇
Romans 7:2-3
King James Version
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
Husband and wife are bound until death.
@@letstalkbiblewithshun.s I totally agree. Marriage is supposed to be symbolic of God's faithfulness ... even to an unfaithful spouse. Many look for wiggle room in Matt where Jesus appears to give an exception for immorality, and people look for wiggle room in 1 Cor 7 dealing with "such cases" where there is no peace. This appears to be eisegesis and a grasping for straws that appears to be justification for sin.
I walked away from my Faith for over 20 years during that time i married a unbeliever. we separated 11 years ago he lives with his partner. Ive remained single raising 3 autistic children on my own. i'm in the process of divorcing him. I returned to the Lord 3 years ago. Can i one day remarry a man of God?? or is it adultery?
Hi sister in Christ. My flesh tells me yes. But the word of God says no. When there is violence and great abuse it is wise to separate. God hates divorce but allows it when there is adultery involved. But God called us to peace. My advice to you is to surround yourself with true Christians who are there to help you Spiritually and also materially if need be. This is the church. The church must be a safe haven for women who are passing a difficult time. Pray for your husband because he is living in adultery. There is nothing more important than your eternal salvation. 1 Cor 7:39 - A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. There have been also many amazing testimonies of reconciliation. I encourage you to press in with the relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ.
He's with another woman now he's probably slept with, so he's committed adultery. You are free according to the scriptures. It's a slam dunk biblical ground for divorce. Don't let legalists who twist God's word around to put people in bondage tell you otherwise.
Thank you so much for this. It speaks to me as well, and it is received. ❤Praise God, thank you Jesus! God bless you and your family and all of the church!!
This is TERRIBLE advice. Pastor Mark will face judgement from Christ for such UNBLIBICAL counsel. He fails to quote several verses here. Whether the person married as a believer OR unbeliever doesn't change the fact that one makes a covenant vow until death to Jesus-- (ends upon death).
She ended the marriage on unblibical grounds and so therefore she is STILL married, just like myself, to our former spouses. Yes you CAN repent but it does NOTHING because you are in a continual state of sin (still married in God's eyes to ex-spouse). Yes, she can still marry and it will be acknowledged legally according to our earthly laws and be happy with each other then what? Death 💀. We ALL die and face judgement.
Yea she can repent and be forgiven for anything (except blasphemy of the Holy Spirit) .
but she cannot in this instance ( repent = turn away from sin of adultery as she's still in it ). The bible states 1 Cor 11: But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
Matthew 19:9 and I say unto you whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication and shall remarry another committed adultery and whosoever marrieth her which is put away, commit adultery.
ROMANS 7:2-3
For ea married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. 3 Accordingly, fshe will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive.
The counsel she SHOULD habe received is to emain SINGLE!
1 Corinthians 6:9-11
New King James Version
9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [a]homosexuals, nor [b]sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were [c]sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.
I like pastor Mark. I think he is great!
This is false teaching.
These Preachers will all anwser to God on Judgment day for not preaching divorce and remarriage according to scripture. Jesus plainly said, what God has joined together let not man put asunder Mark 10:9
The marriage covenant only ends at death.
Yes they will along with those who follow them 🔥🔥🔥
@@philarevolutionarywarriorp8295excatly💯
So your spouse abandons you and unilaterally divorces you, and that’s it. Your stuck?
Matt 11:15@@nickfoster848
There are exceptions it states in Gods word if there is biblical reasons you Go in peace, it is done so yes you can remarry but with a true bible believing God fearing christian. You must be born again. Also there is context to the scriptures this is why the lord says eyes to see ears to hear…if you have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ 24/7 you know he guides you having the Holy Spirit he will never lead you astray. Living in a true loving Christian marriage, living and loving God together as one, trusting and following his word is not only inspiring to others as it sets the example of how you should live a true Christian lifestyle in Gods highest purpose. It reflect the relationship between the church and believers. Remember God said many will come to him saying we did good works (which includes judgement in the TH-cam comments) he will turn to those and say depart from me I never knew you! Scripture out of their mouths and hatred in their hearts. I’ll stick with having an awesome relationship with the lord where he is my number one!
Yes, keep working on your relationship. That's good. In 1 Cor 7, the exception is for a non Christian spouse who can't handle living with a Christian. This is generally forbidden by God as "unequally yoked", but when 1 spouse in a non Christian marriage gets saved, it creates an "unequally yoked" problem. That's the only exception that Paul said was not from the Lord but from Paul himself. Go read it for yourself. Paul said that God says not to separate or divorce... as a command not to, but people do anyway just like people sin anyway, and the problems are dealing with how to manage all this sin. Jesus said in Matt 19 that hard hearted sinners who wouldn't forgive or reconcile were allowed to separate and divorce by Moses. If Moses didn't let these hellions separate, then the sin would compound and be much worse. It was never approved of by God. Paul says to stay single or reconcile. Those are the only two options approved to handle the sin. Anything else just compounds sin upon sin and gets worse and worse. The disciples were very discouraged when Jesus explained it more thouroughly in private and they said it's better not to even get married... which is not the response you would expect if they could trade her in for a new one. Just some things to think about.
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Deut 24:1, 2 - When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.
And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.
Mark 10:5 But Jesus said to them, Because of your hard hearts he gave you this law.
Jesus explains why God gave that law. Not because he loves divorce. He hated it. Made it clear in Malachi. Jesus made it clear. But I agree divorce isn't the end. But that law isn't the one to quote
Why have you not included Jesus commentary on Deut 24:1-4? Read Matt 19:8. Jesus makes it clear that Moses permitted this because of their "hardness of their hearts". And Jesus doesn't just sit on Deut 24:1-4: he overrules that passage and takes us back to Genesis 2 (beginning of marriage) which is God's intent.
So Jesus overrules Deut 24:1-4 with Gen 2, yet you seem to want to keep Deut 24:1-4 as authoritative over Jesus words. Sounds to me a like a bad case of "hardheartedness".
Your wife is always your wife as it clearly says she is bound to you. It says any remarriage she engages in, is not a marriage but adultery 👇
Romans 7:2-3
King James Version
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
Husband and wife are bound until death. God only calls the remarriage adultery. She has always been the first husband’s wife.
@@EdwardThe2nd. Amen. Nit to mention that Deuteronomy 24 is old Covenant and anyone living today is under the NEW COVENANT (TESTAMENT) of Christ.
Most of the Israelites were not Christians. They were mostly in rebellion to God... or sin. To manage the compounding of sin, Moses gave this writ for those who weren't mature or spiritual enough to forgive, trust, and love their imperfect spouse. They were absolutely awful to one another. This writ appears to be sin management of an out of control group of people, that if left to themselves would accrue enough of God's wrath that would lead to their destruction. Jesus clearly said that for over 2500 years before Moses, there was no God approved divorce because it was never intended. If God approves it, then why is remarriage considered a sin and why didn't God make it a clear rule from the beginning? Because God doesn't approve of divorce. God actually hates it (Mal 2) and whatever God hates is sin, and we should hate whatever God hates. There isn't much easy about it because it's so emotional and deals directly with balancing what God wants with what we want. How we respond reveals how committed we are to following Him. 1 Peter 2 and 3 teaches we are not to leave situations where we are suffering and it's tied to marriage in chapter 3. I don't believe it is teaching to endure physical violence even though it tells slaves to endure physical violence. Points to ponder. I hope it helps.
He didn't actually answer the question. Lol
He does this repeatedly because he is not totally faithful. He teaches much of Scripture, but not all of it and routinely leaves out the verses that make women look bad. He does not speak out against feminism.
I noticed this already... 430
What did the early churches say, not what reform church has taught or Martin Luther
Praise God for this word🙌
Follow his advice and you will end up in hell-read Roman’s 7:1-3
Excatly he will be held accountable misleading his flock to sin.
Would you say salvation is obtained through good works?
@@ShepherdMinistryno, salvation is accepting Jesus into your life and confessing your faith. Romans 10:9
@@Yayakoshii1990 I didn’t ask you that question, I’m asking the OP.
@@ShepherdMinistry you didn’t @ them and it’s social media 🤷🏻♀️😁 OP was from 6 months ago ✌🏻
I like this pastor. This is great biblical advice. I am a licensed marriage counselor. Pastors that tell people that they can’t remarry under any circumstances are legalistic and sound abusive.
As a licensed marriage counselor, I'd like to get your take on the following scenario. A woman comes into your office one day in tears. She has heard the gospel message, feels convicted that she has sinned against God, wants to repent and be right with the Lord. You celebrate her decision for Christ and book another session with her.
In the next session, that same woman brings another woman along with her. This other woman is her gay married spouse. They have two adopted kids. Her gay married spouse also acknowledges her need for Christ. They both admit that what they did beforehand (ie: gay marriage) was wrong, and they profess repentance of it.
In order to avoid being legalistic and sound abusive, do you advise them to remain as they are and to live for Christ in their current union?
@@EdwardThe2nd. As a licensed therapist it would be illegal in my state to tell them to get a divorce because they are gay and I can potentially lose my my license to practice. I think that I would leave that decision up to them to decide.
I feel for people under your care.
@@felixguerrero6062 A lot of people don’t know that all licensed therapists even if they are Christian can’t provide conservative biblical counseling. If a licensed counselor provided true biblical counseling they can put their license at risk and even get arrested in areas. We are not allowed in my state to tell a person that homosexuality is a sin. The board will automatically revoke my license. Licensed therapists are considered medical mid level providers kind of like a physical therapist. If someone is seeking biblical counseling, then see a pastoral counselor.
@@TinaJames-j2g Yet you were pretty quick to park your legal liability and boldly speak on the ethics of the matter at hand (and even resort to name calling - at risk of your licensed counselor designation), yet when you were given another scenario your boldness disappeared like a vapor in a wind. You tried to be a Christian in your first comment, but then you parked that and went into "licensed counselor" as your authoritative identity in your second statement. How convenient.
You can disregard my scenario I posed to you. I thought you would have had integrity. My bad.
We're not supposed to sin on purpose sometimes it can happen but we do have forgiveness if we ask but we're not supposed to try to send no more and definitely cannot live in sin and go to heaven even if you're a Christian Christians cannot live in sin and go to heaven he died for our sins yes so we are to try to live a righteous life and we're not supposed to be living in sin so once saved always saved is not correct if you read in the New Testament you'll see that that's not accurate because you'll see that if you live in sin you can still go to hell apparently so I have always you I would revisit what you're saying and I mean I know that it's not popular you know sometimes to tell the truth but the truth is the truth and people need to know that you can't just live in sin and go to heaven and yes your sins are forgiven when you asked and stuff and all that but you're not supposed to keep going back to the same thing and keep doing it anyway I say this out of love and I'm not trying to be mean to nobody but the truth is the truth District like if someone's in a homosexual relationship that's a sin Abomination to God if they become a Christian they cannot go back to that lifestyle and go to heaven
Matthew 19:9
Do you preach once saved always saved? Another lie from satan
Matt 7:14
Thanks for the encouragement pastor.
The best teaching on divorce! Most pastor believe marriage is a life sentence because it is written in the Bible in way they do not understand!
show me one scripture that says you can divorce and remarry..there are zero. Jesus says if you divorce and remarry your in adultery Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18, Matt5:32, Matt 19:9, Romans 7:2-3, 1 Cor 7:10-11
@@darthjedi99 Exactly. They say it's the best teaching because they're biblically ignorant and this false teaching satisfies thier sinful desires
It's sounds good except when you apply the Bible. Mark did say to submit to your pastor and his counsel because he doesn't know the situation, but he knows enough that it appears Mark left out some important verses that apply in order to give an encouraging message. Encouragement is good, but not at the expense of God's instruction.
@@darthjedi99Deuteronomy 24. Check it out.
Amen great answer to a hard question
What a hack job
This is not false teaching.
Oh yes it is. If you want Truth on this issue humble yourself and look up David Pawson, Joseph Webb or Mike Gorrie.