Can I remarry or does my past divorce forbid that?
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- A divorced woman who is a new Christian has tough questions about dating and marriage. Marriage the second most important decision you will ever make and there are lots of questions that come along with it.
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this woman should have told this man on the first date i would see this as a red flag
Would see her divorce before she was a Christian as a red flag? Or the fact that she didn’t tell him that she had been married within a certain time frame as a red flag?
Amen! It is FINISHED! Alllllll under the BLOOD! Forget all those FORMER things as Paul said and PRESS FORWARD to that mark of that higher calling! Press forward soldier
Marriage is a state, not a sin. Jesus washed away our sins. He did not wash away our marriage covenant
Romans 7:2-3
King James Version
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
does this allow a homosexual to remain in a marriage...
@@philipbuckley759It isn’t a biblical marriage, so there is no blessing or covenant in a civil union of a homosexual relationship.. Homosexuality is an abomination, according to scripture..
If I am already divorced and remarried, how do I repent? What should I do to make it right in God's sight? The options for repentance in this situation include leaving your current partner and reconciling with your original partner if possible. If reconciliation with your original partner is impossible, you should remain single. You have a difficult decision to make-you can either continue to live with your current partner for the rest of this life or choose to live with Jesus for all eternity, but you can't do both.
Praise God for this word🙌
To the person who asked the question: Please consider what God has to say about divorce and remarriage:
Luke 16:18 - Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.
Mark 10:11-12 - And he said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, 12 and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
Rom 7:2-3 - For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. 3 Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress.
1 Cor 7:39 - A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
John the Baptist did not take Mr. Driscoll's advice when he approached Herod while he had Philip's wife. John the Baptist could have easily said (hey, the messiah is here, just trust in him, be forgiven and you can continue sleeping with Philip's wife). Instead he told Herod that what he's doing is wrong in the eyes of God. Sadly, John the Baptist lost his head over this.
Jesus says that divorce and remarriage (while covenant spouse is still alive) is adultery. Paul affirms this in the verses provided above. Is it forgivable? Yes, when there is genuine repentance (ie: stop the sin). God does give grace in a situation such as yours: remain single or be reconciled to your spouse (1 Cor 7:11). But today, in the sight of God, you are a married woman and the man you are dating is not your spouse. So really, the relationship needs to end and you need a faithful church community to support you, pray for you and to pray for your husband's salvation.
In this video, Mr. Driscoll is advocating forgiveness prior to (and possibly without) the act of repentance. You will get a majority of Pastors that will say "sure, you're forgiven, move on with your life." But the Bible says that we must live lives holy and pleasing to God (Rom 12:1). Do you think you can live a life holy and pleasing to God while disobeying his clear teaching on this subject?
My hope is that you will not listen to Mr. Driscoll on this, nor will you listen to me. I hope you will search the scriptures (starting with the verses above) to know what God wants for you on this area. And as a result, you will have a deep peace and joy with God.
From Leo: Hebrews 10:26 " For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins," If you want to rock the criteria that you wrote above for people who failed in marriage, I don't know how you think you can be saved. I never met an honest person that did not revisit a habitual sin after salvation.. The law is given as a school master of righteousness. Salvation is forgiveness for the guilty,. Without the Blood of JESUS and the mercy that it purchased, we are all without hope, and you are not in a position to limit HIS mercy. Exodus 20 and Matthew 5:28 should terrify a person with your views
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100% agree with you people do not read the Bible and actually there’s a lot of a lot of falsePastors out there to see the same nonsense when you perfectly broke down every verse in the Bible that backs up if you remarry it’s adultery it’s not hard I applaud you for actually breaking it down and debunking this man on this video because it’s nonsense that he’s spitting
@@richardgonzalez6583 I don't want to impute motives on any Pastor, including Mr. Driscoll. The Lord knows his heart, not me. But what I will say is that we have a Pastoral leadership crisis where the majority of Pastors teach that there are 2 x exceptions for divorce and remarriage (while covenant spouse is still alive). This is a lie.
We can agree to disagree on matters like eschatology, church polity, membership rules, even forms of worship (insofar that it doesn't compromise doctrine). But this is not a secondary doctrine, since 1 Cor 6:9 says that adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of heaven. Adulterers (ie: those who sleep with someone else's covenant spouse) who do not repent will go to hell. This is not a comfortable doctrine to speak about, but it is the truth of God.
It should be mentioned that in v11, it says "And such were some of you.", which implies when there is genuine sorrow for sin and repentance (ie: stop the adultery), there is grace and forgiveness from the Lord. Praise God!
Marriage is until death. People can not fathom why God would want them to take up their cross and follow Him.
Thank you so much for this. It speaks to me as well, and it is received. ❤Praise God, thank you Jesus! God bless you and your family and all of the church!!
Jesus answered your question. Mark 10:11-12
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I'm not married yet, but I have a fear of marrying someone who would leave me against my will for unbiblical reasons such as "the spark is gone". If something like that happens, is the abandoned spouse supposed to remain single? If so, I'm gonna keep on being extremely selective. The idea of being thrown aside by the one I thought I'd spend my life with is an absolute nightmare to me.
This question is mainly for those who have a stricter view on this than Mark. I haven't done enough research on this topic, so I'll accept any answer that has the most biblical backing.
1 Corinthians 7:15. You’re not bound if they decide to talk away. We are called to actually let them go in peace
Yes, it does forbid that. Divorce does not break the marriage covenant under the New Testament.
Romans 7:2-3
King James Version
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
They are still married even after the divorce has taken place. Divorce papers mean nothing to God. They are man-made, and Moses allowed it for man's hard heart. Moses allowed it, but Jesus says to us now we are bound for life regardless of any circumstances. Yes, one can separate, but there can be no remarriage as you are bound until death.
Where at does it "forbid" divorce? And not the remarriage? One scripture about divorce being the sin, and not mentioning the "remarriage"
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1Corinthians 7:10-11
New King James Version
Keep Your Marriage Vows
10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
Thanks for the encouragement pastor.
Amen great answer to a hard question
Bible also says it is better to be single but if because of sinful nature of the flesh it is better to marry than fornication
It says this to the unmarried and the widows. A divorced person is not unmarried or a widow👇
Romans 7:2-3
King James Version
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
After the divorce they are still called husband and wife and any "remarriage" is called only adultery.
I know this was posted 5 years ago but I think it's worth commenting on. The previous marriage that this woman had did not sound like it was a covenant between her partnership and God. In essence, God did not join the two together. Therefore, she is free to remarry, knowing that the covenant she makes with God in a Christian marriage can only be separated in the case of death (as stated in 1 Corinthians 7:39).
God doesn’t forgive without repentance and Jesus judges in the end. The only reason this is complicated is because people don’t want to accept what is crystal clear. You divorced your husband and that is sin. You stay single or reconcile otherwise you are willingly sinning without repentance.
Excatly this guy is leading people to sin
Short and sweet. Well said. Agreed
We don’t live under the law of Moses. We live under the law of grace according to Paul in Romans. Old flesh is dead. Christ paid for all sin. Otherwise, you’re just continuing to put Him back on the cross.
How do you remarry an ex-spouse who has remarried someone else? Should you still try to reconcile? What if the new spouse takes offense even though you’re guilty of nothing more than trying to reconcile with what is your true spouse in the eyes of God? Is there a point at which you should stop trying to reconcile or should you never give up?
Divorce itself is not the sin, but remarriage is definitely a sin. At least to those who God did not give the exception to. The Bible says nothing about "divorce" itself being a sin technically. It's not that simple, if it was, the ppl that asked Jesus about Divorce would not have asked to begin with. It would of been simple
Matt 19:9
"And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery:[[[ and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery]]]."
Whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery because in God's eyes she is still married to her first husband.
Commits adultery as in a singular sense. The Bible also acknowledges the 2nd marriage. It clearly says "to marry another" has committed adultery (singular sin) not perpetual
@@scratchking3205 The fundamental principle of interpreting the scripture is to use the scripture. Another person once said that "the meaning of the scripture is the scripture." Instead of following that principle, you are trying to presuppose Koine Greek tense dictates meaning and overrules other scriptures. And that is the fundamental problem with your hermeneutic.
Rom 7:2-3 - For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. 3 Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress.
1 Cor 7:39 - A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
Matt 14:1-13 & Mark 6:14-29 - John the Baptist confronts Herod on his adulterous marriage with Herodias, Philip's wife. I can assure you that John the Baptist didn't get into Koine Greek linguistics to inform Herod that it was OK to remain in the relationship since it was a "one time" act. John the Baptist called it for what it was: sin.
@@scratchking3205 Acknowledging is not condoning the action.
Does the Bible say or even imply that if you ask forgiveness, then you are no longer committing adultery with another man's wife. So.... if I sleep with my neighbors wife every week (committing adultery) and I ask for forgiveness, then I'm good because God just considers it one offense? Is it made so if I marry her? No, every time I sin, that's a separate sin. The 2nd marriage is polygamy. Polygamy is all over the Bible, but just because the Bible doesn't call out every single sin, that doesn't mean it is condoned. This idea that silence from God is God condoning the actions.... that's dangerous thinking and appears erroneous.
The consequences are beyond my mental capacity. The spouses, kids, extended family, church body, etc... the compounding of sin is heavy. How to fix and undo some this is compounding the pain and suffering it took to get there, but that's not a reason to avoid correcting the problem.
The Bible says to remain single or reconcile with your spouse. Those are the two options God gives for the hard hearted who separated in the first place.
@@EdwardThe2nd. For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
4 Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God.
@@EdwardThe2nd.why only read a part of what he’s saying in Romans?
I walked away from my Faith for over 20 years during that time i married a unbeliever. we separated 11 years ago he lives with his partner. Ive remained single raising 3 autistic children on my own. i'm in the process of divorcing him. I returned to the Lord 3 years ago. Can i one day remarry a man of God?? or is it adultery?
To all of those who say if you remarry you are adulterous, what is the point of the divorce? What does divorce do if you are incapable of remarrying?
Divorce may allow a spouse to escape an abusive marriage or a marriage made based on false claims of who the person was.
With all due respect Pastor you answered everything except the question. From my understanding of the WORD if you didn’t leave the marriage for but a very limited number of reasons biblically permitted, than you can never remarry with being in adultry. But then that seems like a life sentence of misery for those of us that are not cut out for life long singleness. Or a need for sex, etc. and oneness with another soul. 🤷🏼♂️
Death of a spouse is the only exception for remarriage. The bible does not say one can remarry for adultery. 👇
Romans 7:2-3
King James Version
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
Husband and wife are bound until death.
@@letstalkbiblewithshun.s I totally agree. Marriage is supposed to be symbolic of God's faithfulness ... even to an unfaithful spouse. Many look for wiggle room in Matt where Jesus appears to give an exception for immorality, and people look for wiggle room in 1 Cor 7 dealing with "such cases" where there is no peace. This appears to be eisegesis and a grasping for straws that appears to be justification for sin.
A Christian woman is not allowed to marry another man after divorce. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11says "To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife."
Matthew 19:9
My wife initiated a divorce because she didn’t want kids anymore and I still did. She refused counseling, refused to talk about it, threatened me with lawyers so I signed the papers. I am wondering what my options are from a Biblical perspective.
From a biblical perspective, your wife did not have a right to divorce you. You are simply the victim of a crime. You are free to marry another woman if you cannot reconcile with your ex.
@@selohcinwhere is the scripture to back this?
Matt 7:14
the Bible does not make any distinction about the Spiritual Condition, at the time of the marriage....and the consequences of this marriage, go, for life, of the spouse....divorced....so this....you are forgiven, does not....wash away the consequenes of having been married...
Finally I've found the answer to my precise question 🙌 Could you point me to a preacher/book/video/article that expounds on this please as it applies to my circumstances and I need clarification. Thank you
@@dawnb8906 I've been looking for a pastor whose logic wasn't circular or just non-existant on this topic. Seriously, do these guys even know how to think clearly? They need a class on logic.
I did find a great podcast recently that I think was actually clear and coherent. I'll post it below this comment (links usually cause my comments to be deleted).
@@dawnb8906 look up David Pawson....
@@dawnb8906 Romans 7:2-3
King James Version
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
I hope this helps. The man and his wife are called husband and wife until death, not until divorce papers or adultery. I hope this helps.💕
@philosophyze Marriage is for life and the marriage covenant only ends at death.
What did the early churches say, not what reform church has taught or Martin Luther
There are exceptions it states in Gods word if there is biblical reasons you Go in peace, it is done so yes you can remarry but with a true bible believing God fearing christian. You must be born again. Also there is context to the scriptures this is why the lord says eyes to see ears to hear…if you have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ 24/7 you know he guides you having the Holy Spirit he will never lead you astray. Living in a true loving Christian marriage, living and loving God together as one, trusting and following his word is not only inspiring to others as it sets the example of how you should live a true Christian lifestyle in Gods highest purpose. It reflect the relationship between the church and believers. Remember God said many will come to him saying we did good works (which includes judgement in the TH-cam comments) he will turn to those and say depart from me I never knew you! Scripture out of their mouths and hatred in their hearts. I’ll stick with having an awesome relationship with the lord where he is my number one!
Yes, keep working on your relationship. That's good. In 1 Cor 7, the exception is for a non Christian spouse who can't handle living with a Christian. This is generally forbidden by God as "unequally yoked", but when 1 spouse in a non Christian marriage gets saved, it creates an "unequally yoked" problem. That's the only exception that Paul said was not from the Lord but from Paul himself. Go read it for yourself. Paul said that God says not to separate or divorce... as a command not to, but people do anyway just like people sin anyway, and the problems are dealing with how to manage all this sin. Jesus said in Matt 19 that hard hearted sinners who wouldn't forgive or reconcile were allowed to separate and divorce by Moses. If Moses didn't let these hellions separate, then the sin would compound and be much worse. It was never approved of by God. Paul says to stay single or reconcile. Those are the only two options approved to handle the sin. Anything else just compounds sin upon sin and gets worse and worse. The disciples were very discouraged when Jesus explained it more thouroughly in private and they said it's better not to even get married... which is not the response you would expect if they could trade her in for a new one. Just some things to think about.
They sleeping on this comment
He didn't actually answer the question. Lol
He does this repeatedly because he is not totally faithful. He teaches much of Scripture, but not all of it and routinely leaves out the verses that make women look bad. He does not speak out against feminism.
These Preachers will all anwser to God on Judgment day for not preaching divorce and remarriage according to scripture. Jesus plainly said, what God has joined together let not man put asunder Mark 10:9
The marriage covenant only ends at death.
Yes they will along with those who follow them 🔥🔥🔥
@@philarevolutionarywarriorp8295excatly💯
So your spouse abandons you and unilaterally divorces you, and that’s it. Your stuck?
Matt 11:15@@nickfoster848
Deut 24:1, 2 - When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.
And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.
Mark 10:5 But Jesus said to them, Because of your hard hearts he gave you this law.
Jesus explains why God gave that law. Not because he loves divorce. He hated it. Made it clear in Malachi. Jesus made it clear. But I agree divorce isn't the end. But that law isn't the one to quote
Why have you not included Jesus commentary on Deut 24:1-4? Read Matt 19:8. Jesus makes it clear that Moses permitted this because of their "hardness of their hearts". And Jesus doesn't just sit on Deut 24:1-4: he overrules that passage and takes us back to Genesis 2 (beginning of marriage) which is God's intent.
So Jesus overrules Deut 24:1-4 with Gen 2, yet you seem to want to keep Deut 24:1-4 as authoritative over Jesus words. Sounds to me a like a bad case of "hardheartedness".
Your wife is always your wife as it clearly says she is bound to you. It says any remarriage she engages in, is not a marriage but adultery 👇
Romans 7:2-3
King James Version
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
Husband and wife are bound until death. God only calls the remarriage adultery. She has always been the first husband’s wife.
@@EdwardThe2nd. Amen. Nit to mention that Deuteronomy 24 is old Covenant and anyone living today is under the NEW COVENANT (TESTAMENT) of Christ.
Most of the Israelites were not Christians. They were mostly in rebellion to God... or sin. To manage the compounding of sin, Moses gave this writ for those who weren't mature or spiritual enough to forgive, trust, and love their imperfect spouse. They were absolutely awful to one another. This writ appears to be sin management of an out of control group of people, that if left to themselves would accrue enough of God's wrath that would lead to their destruction. Jesus clearly said that for over 2500 years before Moses, there was no God approved divorce because it was never intended. If God approves it, then why is remarriage considered a sin and why didn't God make it a clear rule from the beginning? Because God doesn't approve of divorce. God actually hates it (Mal 2) and whatever God hates is sin, and we should hate whatever God hates. There isn't much easy about it because it's so emotional and deals directly with balancing what God wants with what we want. How we respond reveals how committed we are to following Him. 1 Peter 2 and 3 teaches we are not to leave situations where we are suffering and it's tied to marriage in chapter 3. I don't believe it is teaching to endure physical violence even though it tells slaves to endure physical violence. Points to ponder. I hope it helps.
The best teaching on divorce! Most pastor believe marriage is a life sentence because it is written in the Bible in way they do not understand!
show me one scripture that says you can divorce and remarry..there are zero. Jesus says if you divorce and remarry your in adultery Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18, Matt5:32, Matt 19:9, Romans 7:2-3, 1 Cor 7:10-11
@@darthjedi99 Exactly. They say it's the best teaching because they're biblically ignorant and this false teaching satisfies thier sinful desires
It's sounds good except when you apply the Bible. Mark did say to submit to your pastor and his counsel because he doesn't know the situation, but he knows enough that it appears Mark left out some important verses that apply in order to give an encouraging message. Encouragement is good, but not at the expense of God's instruction.
This is false teaching.
This is not false teaching.
Oh yes it is. If you want Truth on this issue humble yourself and look up David Pawson, Joseph Webb or Mike Gorrie.
Follow his advice and you will end up in hell-read Roman’s 7:1-3
Excatly he will be held accountable misleading his flock to sin.
Would you say salvation is obtained through good works?
@@ShepherdMinistryno, salvation is accepting Jesus into your life and confessing your faith. Romans 10:9
@@Yayakoshii1990 I didn’t ask you that question, I’m asking the OP.
@@ShepherdMinistry you didn’t @ them and it’s social media 🤷🏻♀️😁 OP was from 6 months ago ✌🏻