I prayed for years that my husband would be changed. I kept forgiving his abuse and adultery. I never proved he cheated because he denied it. Yet im so certain he did. I saw messages of him saying he was at a womans house and he couldnt wait to do XYZ with her. He has also been on sites made specifically to have an affair. After 8 years i had to leave. I felt like the life was being drained from me. He always said he was a christian but never bore fruit. He doesnt want to divorce but he truly doesnt care about me. He never has. Im waiting for the Lord to show me what to do but unless He changes him i will not go back. I dont even care about another relationship. I just want Jesus.
Sin has a tight grip on many people where they are terrible when it comes to marriage and family. I’m sorry, I’m having to divorce a sinful spouse as well. I want no parts of that kind of life. We both made mistakes but Jesus is my main focus and he will choose my next husband. Not me. That was my first mistake. I wasn’t a believer.
@@myahill7475 I pray that He gives us wisdom and discernment so we both won't be deceived again. I just want a Godly husband who loves me. If that's even His will for my life.
The Holy Ghost says if a wife separates, then she must reconcile…. But a husband should never leave his wife…. Separation or divorce acceptable, but the sin is in remarriage… because even if you legally divorce somebody that person is still your husband or wife, according to the Lord… the Lord only recognizes your first spouse as your husband or wife until death or if adultery is committed…
@@xavierpoulos3825 Yes I agree it does say that. I'm willing to be alone if he doesn't change. Deep down I would love if he did. But only the Lord knows if he will.
You are right. Forgiveness and reconciliation is the heart of God. Do not divorce. Continue to pray for him as you faithfully wait. God will work on him. Divorce and remarriage is adultery. Adultery does give us permission to be unforgiving and to divorce and marry another person because while first wife and first husband is alive it would be adultery if one marries another person.
Hey Mark, why don’t you just stop doing these videos, because you’re misleading people. There is no divorce allowed for ‘adultery’. Jesus said only for fornication which is specifically different. Fornication is sex before marriage. Adultery is illicit sex with someone outside your own marriage or another married person.
I'm also in the same situation. Thanks God because he use that situation and change me and I become a better man and father. When we are far from Jesus, our heart become so hard.
It's interesting to me how most men seem to try to keep their marriage together, and women look for reasons to get divorced. There seems to be a genuine denial of the authority of God in the hearts of men; and in women, a genuine denial of the authority of their husbands. This I see as the core issue that causes most of the trouble in marriage today.
That is totally opposite of what I have seen as a pastor for nearly 20 years. I saw significantly more men wanting to leave the marriage and the women devastated.
A lot of women seek divorce due to the husband's unrepentant use of pornography and husbands expecting them to "just get over it". All that comes with the lacking physical intamacy or man's inability to be physically intimate with his wife as she is no longer enough to arouse him due to the variety and depravity he pursues, she is leftovers or tossed in the backseat of her own marriage. He can't support her through betrayal trauma as he doesnt comprehend and he is the source of her betrayal and all mental and sometimes physical/sexual abuse that stems from it.
The reason women ask for divorce more than men often times doesn't lay with the woman, but with the man. Want a wife who is willing to stand by your side and follow you, then be a man worth standing by.
Ok, so basically I am just going to have to give it to God and do the best I can under my circumstances. I don't want a divorce, even though in the past and in my anger I did say I did. I know I have hurt my wife emotionally and physically due to my hard heart. Even though I was trying to have a relationship with God the whole time. So God, I give my marriage into your hands, please help me be patient and to follow your will.
My ex demanded divorce i gave him what he wanted. He's not dating neither am I but he got what he wanted. My heart is broken. I had prayed during marriage God change his drinking rages nope but now he found Jesus stopped drinking rages etc but we are not together
Wife and I in the same boat. We don't agree on anything anymore and can't stand each other. I cannot remember the last time I experienced some joy in my life outside of my two small children that we share. I have never despised anyone as much as I despise her... And the worst is I have to remain married to her and that cycle makes me despise her even more. I am not proud of it. It's so difficult to overcome... I pray and do my best. She never appreciates anything and she always pushes me over the edge and then says, "gotcha! Some Christian you are!". I have many regrets in my life, but marrying her has been in the top 3 on my list. I feel dead inside, but everyday when I pray and speak to the Lord, I start out with some strength to carry on and try again for the Lord's sake, but then by the end of the day we have both just failed and I am back to square 1... :(
@@johnsonjj117 I mean, this is such a short statement, but is most likely one of the wisest things ever said to me. It certainly makes sense and I believe you're right. To change my way of thinking about her is really difficult, though. Something has put me off her and it's like I can't get it back. I will pray about this. Yet, I will still do my best to love her even if it remains this way for the duration of my life.
@@daltonw5624 I feel you completely because Ive been there. Through multiple affairs there were times I could curse my wife in my head and had so many negative thoughts swirling around. I realized my thoughts were making me angrier. As soon as I began trying to work on forgiveness and loving her through my own pain, I noticed my thoughts and feelings for her were softening. It was not easy by a long shot, there were many days I would stare into the mirror and talk to myself just to get in a headspace to even attempt to want to love her.
I’m standing here for what I wish was the first time in my short marriage..scrolling through TH-cam and now the Bible as well trying to find a fix for us. Trying to find a way to will myself to try for a little longer, truly feeling in my heart and 100% believing that he doesn’t want me to and thinking all the terrible things that have happened and been happening to me are efforts from him to get me to leave. I don’t understand why I don’t deserve to just be told if that’s what he wants. I don’t know why he’s not in love with me like I am him. Please pray for us.
Male here Been there I know what I have mishandled and done wrong Phone calls not returned Text messages unanswered Paper written letters not acknowledged Wish I could tell You more Prayers for You ... 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Praying for you. My situation is opposite. The marriage was not from God. I did it anyway. He is financially irresponsible he is disrespectful to me and my parents. He hates that we are close he doesn’t take care of his kids and he hates that I help mine out. He has told me he wish I were dead and he hates me and he never wants to spend time with me But he doesn’t want to divorce. I pay all the bills and take care of everything and now I’m so torn because this subject is so divided that I can never be certain of the right thing to do. And my heart is hardened. I pray if you want your marriage to work that you aren’t going thru half the stuff I am. Praying for restoration for you and your spouse.
probably the most discerning answer I have heard, rather than the legalistic parroting of scriptures that you often hear from teachers, with no regard for the trauma the rest of the family is sufffering from
You are 100% right Pastor Mark. The mother of my children took everything in the house with the kids and refused to come back. She ultimately hardened her heart towards me because as you said, she hardened her heart towards God.
His first few sentences in this video are wrong. You are right that a covenant marriage is only ended by GOD, and any never married man who marries a never married woman is in covenant one flesh. Fornication is not the same word as adultery in Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19. And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for FORNICATION, and shall marry another, committeth ADULTERY: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit ADULTERY. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it. Matthew 19:4-12 KJV So nothing ends the one flesh covenant except for the death of the spouse. In those days the Jewish betrothal began the marriage, so divorce for fornication only applies to Jews like Joseph was going to DIVORCE Mary though she was really still a virgin- Thank you Father for sending your Son, Jesus Christ. But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth ADULTERY against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth ADULTERY. Mark 10:6-12 KJV (no exception) Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 KJV Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; ADULTERY, FORNICATION, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. Galatians 5:19-21 KJV Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and ADULTERERS God will judge. Hebrews 13:4 KJV For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: that no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 KJV Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. 1 Corinthians 7:2, 10-11, 39 KJV And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God. The law and the prophets were until John: since that time the kingdom of God is preached, and every man presseth into it. And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to fail. Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth ADULTERY: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth ADULTERY. Luke 16:15-18 KJV Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be DEAD, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an ADULTERESS: but if her husband be DEAD, she is free from that law; so that she is no ADULTERESS, though she be married to another man. Romans 7:1-3 KJV
@@philipbuckley759 Two satanists get married. Two men get married...ok. You said "every one." It appears you're stuck if you believe these marriages are ordained by God.
Going through an unbiblical divorce right now. She says, "The Lord released me from the marriage and if I'm wrong, I'll have to answer for it one day".
We all have committed adultery we are to reconcile the word divorce is used by Christian’s now a days to get divorce then they interpret scripture in the flesh, divorce is never the answer that’s what Jesus says. You divorce and remarry you commit adultery reconcile is what Jesus did for us. God hates divorce that should be enough. Those who say they will just let God punish them it’s a good idea to stay away from them Gods wrath will come upon them and they will be judged. Next to salvation marriage is the most important thing to God. Honor God He will honor you
What if your husband has multiple strokes. Turns into a completely different person- you become a single parent and have all this on your shoulders?? Then what??
@@adrianamaclennan7832 That's why you made a vow "till death do us part". Did you know what that meant when you made the vow? It means that strokes or not, you are to be there by one another's side until one of you die first.
Good answer. Mark is right to look to the heart instead of attempting to distill a question like "When is it ok to divorce?" into some neat and tidy legal code. Clauses, loopholes, and technicalities are for the Tax Code, not the written Word of God. When my marriage was in jeopardy and I was ready to walk out, I didn't seek an excuse or justification to get a divorce. I already had all the justification I needed. Instead, I sought to exhaust every reasonable avenue to save the marriage and to make divorce unnecessary. I didn't want to walk away from my marriage and regret it for the rest of my life. I also made it clear that if there is no way to save my marriage, then I will regretfully dissolve the marriage. If it comes to that, I will recognize no doctrine that claims I am somehow condemned to celibacy for the rest of my life. It is the abuse of divorce and remarriage that Jesus condemned as adultery, not these things per se.
That is a really great way to put it. Every circumstance and marriage (and marital problems) are unique just as the couple involved are unique. If a spouse is narcissistic, abusive physically or emotionally, unrepentant and the other spouse has done all they can to save the marriage then what is left? Divorce is never a happy ending nor desirable but it is sometimes necessary to save oneself physically and mentally. In that case no, I do not believe that person has to stay single and celibate for the rest of their lives.
My ex husband demanded a divorce i gave him what he wanted. Now he lives with his mom i have a tenant in my house for rent money since losing job to covid and breast cancer and my heart is broken. Edward is the love of my life besides Jesus
Great answer it definitely starts with the Heart because once it gets to that place when u feel u made ur mind up ur heart will help ur mind by pass anything biblical to justify what u want , I been there my self it took me really committing my self to God and him doing a complete overhaul on my heart and mind to stick to his word no matter what 💯🙏💯
Yes bc a child will connect the two of you no matter what. Even In situations when it was a child born of a one night stand that child will be tether to both parents regardless of if the child knows then or not
Pastor Mark, thank you for the video. I have a wife that is very toxic; verbally, mentally, and psychologically abusive. She harbors deep unforgiveness and grudges. some of these are 25 yrs in her past. Her rage and anger are unpredictable. She has been physically abusive to the point of almost knocking me unconscious. I also believe that God has released me from this toxic relationship. I am asking for direction because I do not want to be sinful and rebellious.
Depends upon the circumstances The state allows it Even Jesus never condemned The woman of samaria for Having five husbands and The sixth one in the unmarried State!
Everyone uses this scripture passage to continue a lifestyle of sin. On the other parts of the gospel, when the woman who was caught in adultery was about to be stone, after addressing the judgmental crowd, she was brought to GOD JESUS and she told her go and sin no more. The woman from Samaria though the scriptures never say any further conversation between her and GOD JESUS, got the hint, as GOD JESUS said firmly that she’s had five and the one she has at that moment, she was just living with. I’m pretty sure she got the hint.. Lastly, culture and or secular governments that is so anti Biblical does not dictatete the lifestyle of a true believer.
Personally being single the situation doesn't exist However God has given us Freewill However in the case of Jesus There is a time to lay down the law and a time not to as the Situation dictates!
You are allowed to divorce for whatever reason however, you must remain unmarried or reconcile to your prodigal spouse. This is my current situation and I have been convicted to leave my spouse but remain unmarried. It is the road less traveled but I know God will give me the strength to endure ❤️
What bible are YOU reading?? Show me the passage that says you can get divorced for any reason??, You need to REPENT! the bible clearly States "Adultery"
@@stephaniehernandez_90 if you remarry you commit adultery but that breaks your marital bond and the marriage covenant. But it’s not a continual sin. God recognize your new marriage as a real marriage. Jesus died on the cross for your SINS! If you truly repent and focus on having a Godly marriage with your new spouse you will be forgiven of your sin! Pastor David Guzik has a great video on this matter. I would recommend watching it
Sister stay strong. There will be no more pain in the presence of Jesus Christ. Stay read up on your scriptures to pull you through and having a loving relationship with him 24/7 and don’t let the past stray you from your future in heaven. It’s tough but your willpower and love for Christ will pay off you will have fulfillment here and most certainly in the Kingdom of God. Go in peace!
@@ginachasteen3615 that only works for two people who have no pot to piss in. If theres any assests to be divided you better get an attorney - which is lily why the guy won't divorce here cuz he doesn't want to divide their assets in half
My wife denied me intimacy shortly after we got married. She kept finding excuses claiming medical reasons. 10 years later she finally got a compete hysterectomy and doctors assured us that she shouldn’t have any more problems. However she continued to reject me for no good reason and she even brought home her girlfriends to flirt with me telling them to go ahead because she is just not interested in sex. I was shocked… then I found out that she did the same thing to her first husband and as soon as he slept around from lack of intimacy she divorced him claiming adultery. Now I am concerned that we are not biblically married since she orchestrated her first divorce and that bible clearly says that he who marry a divorced woman commits adultery with her. And no adulterous person will inherit the kingdom of heaven… I am now separated from her but still taking care of the family. You may say that we are friends without benefits… I s Good okay with that?
@@georgeteo8797 Peace be with you, and I hope my answer solves your problem. You cannot separate from your wife/ put her away. There is a difference between "divorce" and "put away". People get this confused a lot but even GOD divorced Israel one of his wives (Jeremiah 3:8). Some translations of the Bible have been by some dishonest people regarding certain topics. In one version you see "put away"/"depart" and "divorce" in another. You need to "properly divorce" your wife, not "put her away" or you are causing her to commit adultery possibly and yourself. Read the scriptures with Greek word translation please. (and watch some videos that are for biblical divorce to open your eyes) I will make a video on my channel later on! Peace be with you!
My wife and I are probably going to be getting a divorce. Through years of emotional manipulation. No matter what I tried to repair things but she wouldn’t help. I ended up having feelings with her best friend. She is convinced I cheated on her. Knowing it didn’t get physical, she thinks I emotionally cheated.
Everyone is guilty of adultery. Remember our Lord pointed this out that even looking at someone as attractive is lust. The point He was making is how high the standards are for perfection. You may have been tempted, even if only emotionally because of the issues in your marriage but that doesn’t make you guilty of actually committing adultery….she is using that as a weapon of manipulation and to change the narrative. Narcissistic personality disorder is very real and that is what they do. They twist things and deflect so you become the bad guy. Stand firm. Yes, you were tempted but you did not fall. If she will not work with you or acknowledge your feelings then there isn’t much hope. I don’t know you or her but I do know what it’s like to be dismissed, deflected on, gaslit and denied. May the Lord help us both and help them to change.
Some very interesting cases about manipulating circumstances to "look" innocent, or achieve corrupt objectives . However you never answered one single question here about if divorce and remarriage is permitted in Christian to Christian marriage, Christian to non Christian, or two non Christians, and for truly guilty and truly innocent parties. Not one question.
He only got it right that Christians argue, but he didn't preach the truth. Fornication is not the same word as adultery in Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19. And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for FORNICATION, and shall marry another, committeth ADULTERY: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit ADULTERY. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it. Matthew 19:4-12 KJV So nothing ends the one flesh covenant except for the death of the spouse. In those days the Jewish betrothal began the marriage, so divorce for fornication only applies to Jews like Joseph was going to DIVORCE Mary though she was really still a virgin- Thank you Father for sending your Son, Jesus Christ. But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth ADULTERY against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth ADULTERY. Mark 10:6-12 KJV (no exception) Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 KJV Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; ADULTERY, FORNICATION, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. Galatians 5:19-21 KJV Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and ADULTERERS God will judge. Hebrews 13:4 KJV For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: that no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 KJV Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. 1 Corinthians 7:2, 10-11, 39 KJV And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God. The law and the prophets were until John: since that time the kingdom of God is preached, and every man presseth into it. And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to fail. Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth ADULTERY: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth ADULTERY. Luke 16:15-18 KJV Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be DEAD, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an ADULTERESS: but if her husband be DEAD, she is free from that law; so that she is no ADULTERESS, though she be married to another man. Romans 7:1-3 KJV
I was married for 17 years and we have two teenage children. My wife is an alcoholic we didn’t vet each other thoroughly enough prior to marriage. When I confronted her about the alcoholism she/we did nothing although we both had full-time jobs. It was my responsibility to do the housework And pay the bills and do the laundry. I also had to pack lunches for the kids and take them to school. She would pick the kids up some of the time and make dinner most of the time when I confronted her about this she did nothing. In addition to the aforementioned mentioned things, She withheld sex, then any physical touch. Then she stopped asking how I was doing other than the very superficial inquiry. After 17 years I gave up. My finances are a wreck. The kids live with their mother because they don’t want to live with me. It seems they just went on without me and that I’m not needed. Of course, I’m angry at my wife from many things for the longest time, I thought that eventually she would come around now I have to face the consequences of my actions. I still struggle with whether I did the right thing.
Are you kidding? If your story is true go in peace! The enemy is the accuser & oppressor & twists the word of God for his benefits. Read Ephesians 6:12 to find out who you wrestle with. Repent, forgive & move on! Many people don't fully understand what adultery or even death or forever means in scripture. They don't understand what is to become one flesh either. Also not every marriage is God's will but human's will. They said He hates divorce & of course who loves it? But it doesn't mean you are supposed to stay in it with the abusive and cruel behavior of your partner. Even Jesus taught on Matt 10:23 When you are persecuted in one place, flee to another...Also do not want them back after they slept with another man which says in Jeremiah as well. Deuteronomy 24:2-4 and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man,... then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD. Do not bring sin upon the land the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance. Proverbs 6:16-19 Easy-to-Read Version What the Lord Hates 16 The Lord hates these seven things: 17 eyes that show pride, tongues that tell lies, hands that kill innocent people, 18 hearts that plan evil things to do, feet that run to do evil, 19 witnesses in court who tell lies, and anyone who causes family members to fight.
Same for me almost except we don’t have kids together. They are grown. But I am you and he is your wife. Except I’m still stuck. He doesn’t want to divorce and I do. I’m tired of taking care of him and he not doing anything. On top of him being disrespectful to my parents and me and just pure mean to me for no reason other than he has issues with his mom he won’t fix. So he takes it out on me.
I’m dealing with this now. My husband & I have been separated since last year. We have a two year old and one child on the way. When we separated it was because my husband was being unfaithful. He now lives with another women and refuses to see our son. He hasn’t filed for divorce but I wonder if I should file because he’s already started a new life still being married to me. I continue to ask the lord what to do because ultimately I want to do what he has called me to do. However it’s difficult to be in this position especially because his mistress is on social media boasting about there happiness. I’m tired of being dragged all over the place.
Divorce and if you ever meet someone new, go for it. Why should you remain single forever because your husband is adulterous ? Why would God punish you to be lonely when it's not your fault!!
Go head get your divorce. He left and committed adultery . Live your life and move on the best way you can. You don’t have to beg someone to do right. He broke the covenant, not you.
@@darthjedi99he already parted ways. Makes no sense. You can’t stay married to someone not married to you. the covenant has been broken already. She can remarry
@@darthjedi99 yea that's incorrect, he committed adultery, that's it, she is free from the covenant of marriage. what your talking about is if two believers just decide to separate, then if they remarry it becomes adultery. Please dont ever say this to anyone. Its incorrect biblical doctrine and how horrible it would be for someone to live a life alone because they were the victim and took your advice
I have been lucky to live in our times, as crazy as it sounds, but I am getting conflicting answers to a simple question - if you are married to a narcissist who lacks ability to view any other perspective... I am so unhappy and my husband feels the same, admittedly or not. There are so many biblical stories and none of my efforts seem to change my reality. Your views are appreciated! This Servant Leaders 💜
Best thing to do in this situation is to pray together and if ur spouse is unwilling to pray with u , do it alone and consistently for both of you , unhappiness is a temporary feeling , it can come and go , but one of the teacher I watch Allen Parr said we don’t get married to be happy we get married to be holy …so it my be up to u to do the leg work at first but if God is for marriage I believe he will make changes in both of you for the better 💯🙏
Wife and I in the same boat. We don't agree on anything anymore and can't stand each other. I cannot remember the last time I experienced some joy in my life outside of my two small children that we share. I have never despised anyone as much as I despise her... And the worst is I have to remain married to her and that cycle makes me despise her even more. I am not proud of it. It's so difficult to overcome... I pray and do my best. She never appreciates anything and she always pushes me over the edge and then says, "gotcha! Some Christian you are!". I have many regrets in my life, but marrying her has been in the top 3 on my list. I feel dead inside, but everyday when I pray and speak to the Lord, I start out with some strength to carry on and try again for the Lord's sake, but then by the end of the day we have both just failed and I am back to square 1... :(
Someone once said it is fine to divorce if you're dealing with one of the three As- adultery, abuse, or addiction. Biblically though I think abuse or adultery are sound reasons.
The only exception given by scripture is fornication, which basically means if when you get married you find out your spouse is not a virgin then you can leave, and even though abuse is not mentioned, I also don’t think God expects us to remain in a situation where our life is in danger, we just need to keep mind we are not supposed to remarry unless the divorce was due to fornication.
@@wendymtzc WRONG. In English we call it fornication, but the original Greek word used was porneia, which is a general term for all forms of sexual immorality. It isn't about someone sleeping with someone else prior to marriage, but the fact that any deviation from God's way in expressing sexuality is wrong and a violation of the marriage bond.
What about when the spouse abandons the marriage, says the right things to suggest they don’t want to divorce but does absolutely nothing to build bridges and remains separated and this goes on month after after month? It’s been over 12 months now since separated and it was not my will.
Hey Devon ,Peace be with you, and I hope my answer solves your problem. You cannot separate from your wife/ put her away. There is a difference between "divorce" and "put away"/"abandon". People get this confused a lot but even GOD divorced Israel one of his wives (Jeremiah 3:8). Some translations of the Bible have been by some dishonest people regarding certain topics. In one translation/version you see "put away"/"depart" and "divorce" in another. You need to "properly divorce" your wife, not "put her away" or you are causing her to commit adultery and thereby yourself because you are not to "separate who GOD has joined together). Read the scriptures with Greek word translation please. (and watch some videos that are for biblical divorce to open your eyes) I will make a video on my channel later on! Peace be with you!
What happens when the one who agrees to be the sole provider of a service under the condition that the other party only uses their services defaults on it for years?
I still don’t know the answer. Honestly. Some say financial and adultery others say only adultery then others say abuse as well. How do we really know the answer. I honestly don’t know the answer and I try not to let my emotions guide my decision. But after trying to figure this out my emotions might get the win
My husband was married and they were young and she cheated on him and I got told that if she was living I'm committing adultery it made me sad. I was broken hearted And I think God that God doesn't look at us as adulterers since she cheated on him and got pregnant by another man and said I want a divorce. He never left her. So I'm so glad that I found this. I told that woman Jesus said we weren't adulterers if adultery was committed but apparently Jesus forgives us. He didn't understand the covenant of marriage and never committed adultery. I adore mark and glad I found this video
You did commit adultery by marrying a divorced man but if you have repented of course Jesus is able to forgive you, none of us is perfect, the key is to acknowledge our sin and not try to justify it like Psalm 32 teaches.
An eligible woman marrying a married man happens somewhat frequently in the OT, and God doesn't condemn it. The Torah/law allows it. However a man getting involved with a married women is a capital offense with severe consequences.
My spouse has hardened her heart to try and work on our marriage and is filing for divorce. What should I do as a Christian man. I’ve tried everything and offered counseling and she refuses to do it all.
I feel you brother, mine is the exact Same,she even Swears at me now if I so much as bring it up or ask her for help finding work since I only have a seasonal job,we have 2 kids as well,now I will say a lot of it is my own fault,and it feels like I'm being punished by god,I'm facing Homelessness as well,I even considered Suicide,but I'm terrified of going to Hell since it's murder of your own Self. So I've no idea what to do,so I definitely feel where you are at,shame we couldn't connect as I'm on Vancouver Island BC here
I feel for you buddy, I went through something similar. Today it's been 6 years since my wife left and filed for divorce, we were married for over 20 years with 3 kids. It takes a lot of time, but things get easier. Don't rush things, take steps to leave the door open for her to return, but in the mean time take care of yourself. If she doesn't come back then assume that God removed her from your life for a reason. Go and seek out his plan for you...
What if your husband abandonned you from the first day of marriage, withholding intimacy (spiritually, emotionally and sexually) for 20 years? You made endless attempts to get him to talk about it, resolve it, get outside help amd in the end he always defaulted to neglecting you. He did not respond to your cries for intimacy, as you suffered and made him fully aware of it. What if, after these 20 years you find out he has been sexually satisfying himself by his own hand all these years. Is this not only neglect and cruelty but a form of adultery? He has been in pastoral counseling and therapy for five months and he hass shown no change in behaviour. All these twenty years and subsequent therapy he has acted like there is nothing wrong, going about life, ignoring your suffering. He is the Avoider, avoiding me and the kids. (In 20 years of marriage s*x 80 times including trying ro conceive and ALL initated by wife, basically acting like a blow up doll...minimal if any reciprocal s*xual affection.) Was his heart ever soft, Pastor Mark? Do I have grounds to divorce? I am starved to death and cannot last this way.
My marriage 75 percent of the time never knew what he was doing never been in his bank account never communicates he does what he wants when he wants I prayed all my life but he sees nothing wrong I'm out
It is the intention but not the reality. There are scriptural reasons for divorce: Abandonment by a non believing spouse and Adultery by the other spouse.
Catholics do annulments based on strict factors believing that yes you wore a dress and said stuff in front of people. But the sacrament didn't happen. I'm trying to get one. I was forced into a marriage it wasn't valid. I'm free to get married.
We are bound to our covenant spouse until death (1 Cor. 7:39). NOTHING breaks the covenant but DEATH. Remarriage is adultery while our covenant spouse lives (Luke 16:18, Mark 10:11-12). The Matthew “clause” refers strictly to divorce, not remarriage. There is no such thing as remarriage for the “innocent party.” The “innocent party” view does not harmonize with 1 Cor. 7:39 Jesus did not permit divorce, because God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and because it was not so from the beginning (Matt. 19:8; Mark 10:6). We cannot separate what God has joined together (Matt. 19:6; Mark 10:9). The linchpin to understanding the “exception clause” is understanding the AUDIENCE of Matthew. Matthew’s audience was Jewish. We are Christians. The exception clause does not apply to Christians. The old law has been done away with.
Tell tgat to Mark he tries to preach the four As. And Gids grace as a reason for divorce. If you're in a second marriage already clause. Orthe I didn't know any better exception.
What if you was married at 18 and didnt know GOD ? Got divorced and remarried and found JESUS 25-30 years later and now know that divorce is not a option ever ! Are you still in sin even tho u didnt know JESUS until you got older in life
Hi everyone, I also want to make this point. The Bible says to honor God in your marriage. The man has a role and the woman has a role and if you’re separated, you are not doing your role or spouse leaves another spouse. They’re not doing their role forgiven, you got a repent And get back with your spouse and stop being separated you don’t wanna die in that state of not doing your role in the marriage because you’re not honoring God folks people are turning and twisting this Bible just like Jesus said they would you are a true believer, and your spouse is a true believer Then you are bound to one another and if you divorced your spouse for a non-biblical reason just because you’re done you don’t love no more that person that divorces Their spouse will go to hell and it forces the other spouse to commit adultery, but they’re not in trouble that doesn’t give you grounds to get remarried. Do not get remarried. We are not under the Moses law. Jesus was reading a letter read it you can tell Jesus is reading a letter to his followers and then Jesus tells you, but I tell you anyone who divorces their wife or spouse, commits adultery, read your Bible people, please
My dad and stepmom were happily married for eighteen years. What ended the marriage is that she passed away. They never stepped for in a church. They also lived together four years before they got married. My aunt and uncle have been married 40+ years and have never stepped foot into a church. They also lived together before marriage. What these people have in common good conflict resolution. My mother left my dad and has never been able to hold a marriage together. She cannot resolve conflict.
You can be separated if their is abuse. And separation is allowed as long as you don’t marry someone else during separation. So this is false and harmful!
🔥 Amen 🔥 Praise The Lord 👋🏾🔥 Art! Thou! Bound! Unto A Wife? Seek Not To Be Loosed. Art! Thou! Loosed! From A Wife? Seek Not A Wife. 🔥But! And! If Thou! 🔥Marry! 🔥Thou! Hast! 🔥Not! Sinned!🔥 1st Corinthians Chapter 7 Verse 27 -28.🔥 The Word Remarry Is Not Biblical.🔥❤️🙏🏾✌🏾
I had a contract a few years ago that was getting government assistance and such from the Affirmative action people and basically I was assigned to work under a woman as part of my eternal punishment in this life for being a white Caucasian male. The woman started investigating my habits and was concerned if I was doing something that might have been "non christian". She was investigating me to see if I was obeying religious standards and all. But this woman was not only divorced and remarried but by her own words she claimed to be an adulterer and if I am to be honest working under this sinful, disgusting woman was far worse than anything I was doing. I don't know the full details of the company but it was not only a religious investigation but at times it was harassment from the people and from this woman. And eventually they came up with something and cancelled the contract. But it is incredibly difficult, frustrating and aggravating to have to report to some woman who was violating core principles of religion and yet had power over me and then pushed me out - apparently on religious technicalities. Even though she and the company were harassing me continuously, I never said a word. It was just amazing to have company personnel treating me like scum. I might have filed a Lawsuit but I was under contract and the contract was up for renewal anyway. And I'm very happy it was over.... except for the money which I always need. Religious persecution is horrible. In part because you don't expect it.
May I ask this - is it mentioned biblically or implied in christian marriage vow that married couples should "stay for the children"? I'm not looking for qualifiers to divorce, I just want to question the above mentioned reason to stay in a marriage, if it is biblical. Christians like to throw that at me instead of addressing the issues.
I literally was growing cold just to not react anymore. Had a good sit down with an advisor from my church who helped me see, there are obligations by both husbands and wives.... My take away was my hard heart was stemming from emotional and other abandonment... So maybe look into what exactly is causing you to grow cold and go from there with a trusted biblical perspective.
@@MrsSmith-yy1nt my husband has narcissistic personality disorder. Gray rocking him is a way to buffer narcissistic rage. I feel nothing for my spouse emotionally except exhaustion.
@@lisabehrens6758 I prayed for wisdom and strength and have myself permission to talk about separating. Hopefully you find whatever you need to give yourself permission to stay or go.
I have been struggling so much about this. I actually called your church Pastor Mark, to talk with you or someone which I'd still like to. You speak truth & that is what most pastors won't say or don't know. A hardened heart is something only God can changed. It's been a rough road. We hurt eachother, our children, our grandchildren & I am in so much pain about this 💔😢
Corinthians 7:10-11 10 But for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord. A wife must not leave her husband. 11 But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife. **ONLY TWO OPTIONS...REMAIN SINGLE OR BE RECONCLED.
@@Glory.To.God.In.The.Highest So what is a man supposed to do if his wife abandons him and his sex drive is well above zero? Pray for a repentance or reconciliation that may never come? What if he isn't the patient kind? (See 1 Cor 7:9)
@@dh605x Hi Daniel...I totally understand this concern. However, God is able to help us ...we must not deny His power and trust Him. Galatians 5 says: 16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would. 18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law. 19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, 20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, 21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. 24 And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. 25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit Brother, I am praying for you. And understand this if you are watching for Christ's return....He will not tarry... It wont be long... Keep strong in the Lord! 🙏Matthew 25 23 His lord said unto him, Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.
@@dh605x 1 Corinthians 7:8-11 8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. ***Remember, From the beginning God regards the married as "ONE FLESH"...let no man separate.*** 10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. Vs 9 is referring to the never married (Otherwise, there is contradictions to vs 10 & 11 or Luke 16:18, etc) and widows, who are allowed to remarry after death of spouse.
My parents divorced. Let me tell you. It wounded me greatly. My father left. Father God never left me. Don't ever do this to your kids. If there is abuse, leave and get a restraining order.
Thanks you Pastor. It's help me a lot. Still now I'm battling with my heart to divorce since 5 year ago for knowing my husband married with another woman, have a kid but still come every night to our bed. It's hurt me a lot and i don't know if I can still in this married. But, yes thank you for your answer.
I don't know what? Are you asking if polygamy is allowed? If so, polygamy is against the Word of God. You can't stay married with a man who married another women. Your husband comitted adultery against you. Whether you can remarry or not, I don't know.
If my wife left me and disappeared after mentally and emotionally abusing me, then only contacted me later on to do the divorce thing, can I remarry if our Heavenly Father puts someone in my life later on?
From the Lord Jesus himself “ I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” Matthew 19:9. Which trumps everyone’s opinion if you are asking on Christian doctrine.
Was married 8 years and as a husband I loved being just that but unfortunately covid came time got hard and my darling wife had an affair through some online guy she met some how and it's been 3 years apart now but honestly I still grieve that loss of my marriage
Hey I lost contact with my spouse because she wants a divorce. There is almost nothing I can do about it to stop her. I have not seen or heard from her for 6 months. Sometimes I feel tempted when I see another lovely women but I try to remain faithful to God and not action it nor do I take any photos with them as much as possible. Does that mean I am still committing adultery at heart even if I try not to action my feelings after not having contact with my spouse for so long.
Male here We are wired as men to look, see, touch You cannot deny or stop that DNA However You can not look the second or third time ... ________ Paul says to renew your mind Have a New Mindset Practice """casting""" out lustful thoughts thru prayer Speak against Satan in prayer when these thoughts and women cross your path Practice speaking and praying that these women don't belong to you Whether they are single, dating, married Hope this helps Blessings to You on Your Journey ✡️ 🙏 ✨️
It’s ironic that we first fail as individuals, and that failure cascades into negative, disaster implications for the entire family. What’s missing in Church teaching today is a clear understanding of Biblical marriage and God’s design for the man, woman and offspring. The Church and society should make it very difficult to get married (Bootcamp for wanna be spouses) and even more difficult to part ways.
Please advise me, I was guilted and manipulated into a civil wedding of signing papers after only 2 weeks of meeting a woman... I was told that I would embrass her to her expecting family if I didn't marry her, and guilted that I didn't want to marry her because she was garbage because she's from a poor family, which that statement made me feel horrible, I expressed multiple times before that I didn't want to marry and that I wasn't ready and we needed to wait and that it it was God's will that one day we would... She was impatient and said she wanted to die when I tried to back out and caused me to feel guilty, The day of the paper signing in The mayor's office I felt deep sorrow and regret, and I cried tears of sarrow and regret not happiness while I said vows... That night at the hotel we had sex and it felt so Empty no romance, no connection (she was not a virgin and neither was I due to past relationship before submitting to Christ). What followed was a lack of love and affection given from her , she refuses to submit to me or let me lead but claimed to be a Christian, she belittled me with words daily, hit me in the face and body out of anger at times and threatend divorce weekly over every small disagreement and she always spoke of regrets... I knew from the beginning she didn't truly love me or didn't know how too, when I prayed to God for a sign if I should marry her I felt deep sadness. Which I Now Realize was a sign that it wasn't God's will. We are now seperated after 4 years of verbal abuse and constant battles ...I plead with her to not say divorce as christian for years but she never stopped expressing her desire for divorce and regret....and so finally I gave up resisting her remarks for divorce. .... Am I bound to that marriage in God's eye's... Would being decieved and guilted into signing civil paperwork count as a valid covenant in God's eye's... Will I go to hell if I find true Love and remarry???
I firmly believe that spouses who do horrible things to the other is because their heart is not in the right place. This was exactly my ex-husband. He was a dutiful husband and father YET was very secretive when it came to our finances. Then he molested our daughter.
I am sorry. Hopefully you separated and will remain unmarried, forgive as you are forgiven by the Lord and not get into any other relationship. If your first marriage was his first marriage, it is only ended by death of one of the spouses or the rapture since there is no marriage in heaven.
@@dh605x No, it’s not her fault that her ex husband is an evildoer. But we also reap what we sow. What choices in our free will we make get us to these situations in the first place. While she has no control over his evil-doing, she always had control of her own decision-making that which lead to the cleaving to an evil-doer.
@@Momofukudoodoowindu If your assertion is that she is stuck with him no matter how he behaves, then you are dead wrong. Marriage is not a suicide pact, and divorce exists for this very reason. This woman does not need any condemnation from you people simply because that scoundrel she married did an excellent job of hiding his true nature.
You get one chance at eternal love. If you get a divorce , marry someone who has been divorced or marry the spouse of someone who died . Those people have lost their only chance at love . They will spend the rest of eternity alone
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. However, the wife, in the above scriptures, is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews (that Jesus was speaking to) were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39. Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel. The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death. The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. Christ's death on the cross caused the Jews to become dead to the law of Moses, so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the ordinances of law of Moses as justification, over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the ordinances of the law is no longer possible, for Israel, and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15. Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife. Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned, by an unbelieving spouse, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving those who are abandoned permission to remarry, do not understand the command that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh, due to one's unbelief, puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, and himself, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command to verses 10-14 in verse 15. Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16. The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions. The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24. Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans, and likewise Luke to evangelize the Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
Nowhere does it say you can remarry except when one spouse dies. People read words in the Bible that are not even there. Adultery is not grounds for divorce, forgiveness is called for. If you divorce, it says to be reconciled or remain alone.
Hey Lucin, I hope that you are well. The Laws regarding divorce were first given to Moses by Jesus, the Word/GOD so understanding that first is the most important. Even Paul says when an unbeliever departs, you aren't under bondage so even there, the Bible has made room (1 Corinthians 7:15). Forgiveness doesn't mean giving a person a license to continue to hurt you. Be wise, if the person is willing after you've forgiven them to stay, then remain. But to remain with a person who hates you, is not wise.
Remarriage IS adultery when one’s spouse is still living. Luke 16:18 Mark 10:11-12 Romans 7:3 1 Cor. 6:9-10 The exception clause in Matt. 19:9 is regarding divorce only, NOT remarriage. The pharisees question was regarding divorce, not remarriage. Further, Jesus was answering their question in response to Moses’s law, not God’s law. Moses made the law because of hard hearts. God never approved that, and it was not so from the beginning. Mark and Luke specifically state remarriage is adultery. The apostle Paul confirms this in. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11. Remarriage is the opposite of what God wanted in the case of the Israelites and Hosea and Gomer. The church teaches that remarriage is justified after infidelity but that is not so. Remarriage is pursued in order to appease one’s own desires. Itching ears twist the scripture (Matt. 19:9) in order to serve self. Paul was not speaking for himself when he stated that one is bound until death 1 Cor. 7:39. Reconciliation is what God desires. That is what true forgiveness is.
I adultery breaks the marriage covenant as some pastors suggest using Matt. 5 and Matt. 9 as such, then why did the Scriptures say to Herod that its unlawful for you to have your brother Phillip wife. Divorce remarriage adultery and incest was committed. I know that I wouldn't want Herodias back if I was Phillip but sex outside of the covenant marriage doesn't break the one flesh covenant. Jesus said, what God has joined together man isn't to separate... meaning divorce. If God said it then man can do nothing. Death only desolves the covenant union. Jesus would never agree with the opinion of mankind, meaning to two schools of thought on divorce and remarriage according to Jewish law. Jesus took marriage back to the Father's original design because Jesus only says what He has heard His Father say. This sin alone has sent millions upon millions of souls to hell because no one can be saved and live in sin 24 hrs. 7 days a week.
@@when943 adultery does not break the marriage covenant. Only death does. Herod and Herodias were living in a state of adultery. They needed to dissolve their adulterous union. Remarriage, while your first spouse lives is adultery.
Hi, I’m 19 years old and I’m a virgin. I grew up in an physically abusive household to which I hold no contact to my parents and I pray for them from afar. I don’t want to end up in a abusive marriage like them. I’m scared that the future husband I submit too might hurt me no matter what, and God will be mad at me if I don’t do everything he says. What do I do?
We obey our husband as to the Lord. I did not realize that and for years suffered physical and emotional abuse. Like you, I did not want to repeat my parents' mistakes. Even thought I should not ever marry. You are wise to look to the future and maybe even get counseling from a pastor who knows you. Blessings to you.
God did Not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and a sound mind. Trust in the Lord and He will guide your steps. Have a strong relationship with God. He will never lead you wrong. He is a good Father. God Bless you ❤
What if you have never done anything physically with another person but have had the sin of lust, pornography and online talking at times. I you have been in sin at times but then stop and do fine for a while and then go back to sin. Then get open and stop.
Matthew 19-9 The term Christ Jesus used was "fornication." He was referring to the Jewish custom of the betrothal or engagement period. He didn't use the term adultery because He was not speaking about marriage. There's no justification for divorce. You can not remarry another. Be reconciled or stay single praying for your ex spouse salvation if they divorced or walked out. A pastor must be the husband of one wife. All Glory to Almighty God in Christ Jesus' name through the Power of His Holy Spirit Amen
If it is adulterous to marry a divorcee is such a marriage even recognized as a true covenant? If you leave that relationship, then, are you now considered a divorcee too and unable to marry? Please help me understand, this is not clear in scripture.
Divorce is a golden ticket 🎫 for remarriage. It’s never just about leaving, it’s about opening new doors, and like Mark said, some people get creative so as to pass the blame onto their spouse so they feel justified when they start sleeping with their new partner.
So far I believe there’s nothing in the Bible saying you can leave because of abuse moving away yes so said person don’t harm you yes. I don’t know I have to look into it more abuse might be a form of abandonment I don’t know
No you "Think" wrong. Your opinion is based on emotion. Yes SEPERATION get to safety call cops and stay seperated if it has to be so. But Nowhere in Scripture is it biblical for divorce.
My husband did adultry after one week of my marriage and I found so many girlfriends. Should I have him divorce.he spoke a lie so many times he broke my heart . M too much depressed
If your wife is kicking the crap out of you and emotionally abusing you for years. Sex 0 for years! And God doesn't allow you to move on to find a good spouse? False!!! All the scriptures need to be examined, not one scripture and run with it! That's why we have so many religions taking one scripture and building on it!
I watched a brief video in which you mentioned that single individuals are perceived as selfish for not choosing marriage. Nevertheless, it's worth noting that approximately 80% of divorces are instigated by women, and divorce rates exceed 50%. Given the significant social stigma attached to divorce in some cases, one might question the rationale behind pursuing marriage at all.
Hi need help I didn't no when to do....my husband fell in love with my daughter... I had 2 girls be for we got married he fall in love with the older one when they built our home together people started to see things she was 16yr old he told me on mother's day then he told me ( I was put away) I have never understood this year's go on , me and my 5 kids moved out off the house oldest daughter move away ( we had 5 kids together) now our middle girl is getting married and he ( husband) want to bring her to the wedding....be we are still married we don't live together but I still love him so much and I don't no what to do , she will be at the wedding and I so don't want to be there. And I don't understand about divorce, I do not want a divorce...please can I get some help.
There is no way the Holy Spirit would lead us to remarry an live in adultery. To often we do what is in our hearts and say it was of God when it is of us living in the flesh. Whether married to a believer or not, if separated or divorce we are to remain so. Many divorcees wrestle with this thought because they know it is wrong. We can't try to justify ourselves.
Hey Greg, couldn't help but shed some light on the truth. If Jesus is the Son of GOD, he cannot contradict a law he gave or his Father gave. He gave the laws to Moses so he clarifies, not contradicts. Moses gave the law on "proper divorce" because women were already being "put away"/ "separating". To make it proper, he was given a law/command for the people to have a written divorcement bill, so that women were able to go on and remarry. Otherwise, she was stuck. Even GOD has divorced properly so keep searching the truth! I will eventually make a video on my channel, if you would like some light shed, you may subscribe! Peace!
There are some circumstances where I think it's acceptable to get divorced, and there are some circumstances where I think it's not acceptable to get divorced. I think it's acceptable to get divorced in a domestic violence situation, adultery situation, child abuse situation, situation of a husband and wife finding out they are not compatible after being married, etc. In order for a marriage to work out, the husband and wife have to be compatible. If a husband and wife aren't compatible, the marriage isn't going to work out. Someone shouldn't get divorced if their spouse gets less attractive, loses a job, gets cancer, ends up paralyzed, etc because God wants people to take the "for better or worse" marriage vow seriously. "For better or worse" doesn't mean tolerate abuse, tolerated being cheated on, etc; it means being there in situations such as a spouse getting less attractive, a spouse losing a job, a spouse getting cancer, etc.
Love the answer. God cannot be mocked or fooled. The intent of the heart is what matters most.
I prayed for years that my husband would be changed. I kept forgiving his abuse and adultery. I never proved he cheated because he denied it. Yet im so certain he did. I saw messages of him saying he was at a womans house and he couldnt wait to do XYZ with her. He has also been on sites made specifically to have an affair. After 8 years i had to leave. I felt like the life was being drained from me. He always said he was a christian but never bore fruit. He doesnt want to divorce but he truly doesnt care about me. He never has. Im waiting for the Lord to show me what to do but unless He changes him i will not go back. I dont even care about another relationship. I just want Jesus.
Sin has a tight grip on many people where they are terrible when it comes to marriage and family. I’m sorry, I’m having to divorce a sinful spouse as well. I want no parts of that kind of life. We both made mistakes but Jesus is my main focus and he will choose my next husband. Not me. That was my first mistake. I wasn’t a believer.
@@myahill7475 I pray that He gives us wisdom and discernment so we both won't be deceived again. I just want a Godly husband who loves me. If that's even His will for my life.
The Holy Ghost says if a wife separates, then she must reconcile…. But a husband should never leave his wife…. Separation or divorce acceptable, but the sin is in remarriage… because even if you legally divorce somebody that person is still your husband or wife, according to the Lord… the Lord only recognizes your first spouse as your husband or wife until death or if adultery is committed…
@@xavierpoulos3825 Yes I agree it does say that. I'm willing to be alone if he doesn't change. Deep down I would love if he did. But only the Lord knows if he will.
You are right. Forgiveness and reconciliation is the heart of God. Do not divorce. Continue to pray for him as you faithfully wait. God will work on him. Divorce and remarriage is adultery. Adultery does give us permission to be unforgiving and to divorce and marry another person because while first wife and first husband is alive it would be adultery if one marries another person.
Through infidelity and neglect of spouse, yes you can. Abuse is not love.
You are just not supposed to remarry
@@wendymtzc what an absurd concept
@@kenny995it’s right there in the wedding vows. For better or worse til death do we part. Most importantly it’s
law from God our father.
You can separate, but no divorce and remarriage while your first spouse is still alive.
Hey Mark, why don’t you just stop doing these videos, because you’re misleading people. There is no divorce allowed for ‘adultery’. Jesus said only for fornication which is specifically different. Fornication is sex before marriage. Adultery is illicit sex with someone outside your own marriage or another married person.
“When people want to sin they get very creative“ So true.
Pls pray for my spouse to be soften her heart and restore our marriage thank you.
Praying for you brother, I’m in the same situation. My wife hearts been so hardened since Ive been following Christ .
I’m also in the same situation. I pray we openly get the love from God and the love from our spouse. In jesus name our marriage will be restored.
I'm also in the same situation. Thanks God because he use that situation and change me and I become a better man and father. When we are far from Jesus, our heart become so hard.
Hang on, your not alone. Praying God keeps your marriage together .
I pray for whatever is best for the both of you according to God.
It's interesting to me how most men seem to try to keep their marriage together, and women look for reasons to get divorced. There seems to be a genuine denial of the authority of God in the hearts of men; and in women, a genuine denial of the authority of their husbands. This I see as the core issue that causes most of the trouble in marriage today.
Maybe the woman was getting abused and wanted to leave.
That is totally opposite of what I have seen as a pastor for nearly 20 years. I saw significantly more men wanting to leave the marriage and the women devastated.
A lot of women seek divorce due to the husband's unrepentant use of pornography and husbands expecting them to "just get over it". All that comes with the lacking physical intamacy or man's inability to be physically intimate with his wife as she is no longer enough to arouse him due to the variety and depravity he pursues, she is leftovers or tossed in the backseat of her own marriage. He can't support her through betrayal trauma as he doesnt comprehend and he is the source of her betrayal and all mental and sometimes physical/sexual abuse that stems from it.
Bc they are human and most time can not be trusted bc you married before faith or they lie about their faith
The reason women ask for divorce more than men often times doesn't lay with the woman, but with the man. Want a wife who is willing to stand by your side and follow you, then be a man worth standing by.
Ok, so basically I am just going to have to give it to God and do the best I can under my circumstances. I don't want a divorce, even though in the past and in my anger I did say I did. I know I have hurt my wife emotionally and physically due to my hard heart. Even though I was trying to have a relationship with God the whole time. So God, I give my marriage into your hands, please help me be patient and to follow your will.
You need a deliverance and truly look for God.
What you are saying is what my husband did and i want divorce. I just don't know rockk😅
Bro, You sound exactly like me!
@@ditlhareanna3991Then you are NOT following God and you need to Repent
My ex demanded divorce i gave him what he wanted. He's not dating neither am I but he got what he wanted. My heart is broken. I had prayed during marriage God change his drinking rages nope but now he found Jesus stopped drinking rages etc but we are not together
Wife and I in the same boat. We don't agree on anything anymore and can't stand each other. I cannot remember the last time I experienced some joy in my life outside of my two small children that we share. I have never despised anyone as much as I despise her... And the worst is I have to remain married to her and that cycle makes me despise her even more. I am not proud of it. It's so difficult to overcome... I pray and do my best. She never appreciates anything and she always pushes me over the edge and then says, "gotcha! Some Christian you are!". I have many regrets in my life, but marrying her has been in the top 3 on my list. I feel dead inside, but everyday when I pray and speak to the Lord, I start out with some strength to carry on and try again for the Lord's sake, but then by the end of the day we have both just failed and I am back to square 1... :(
Oh man this is so rough. Praying for you!
Have you considered that the way you think about her is controlling how you feel about her?
@@johnsonjj117 I mean, this is such a short statement, but is most likely one of the wisest things ever said to me. It certainly makes sense and I believe you're right. To change my way of thinking about her is really difficult, though. Something has put me off her and it's like I can't get it back. I will pray about this. Yet, I will still do my best to love her even if it remains this way for the duration of my life.
@@daltonw5624 I feel you completely because Ive been there. Through multiple affairs there were times I could curse my wife in my head and had so many negative thoughts swirling around. I realized my thoughts were making me angrier. As soon as I began trying to work on forgiveness and loving her through my own pain, I noticed my thoughts and feelings for her were softening. It was not easy by a long shot, there were many days I would stare into the mirror and talk to myself just to get in a headspace to even attempt to want to love her.
I’m standing here for what I wish was the first time in my short marriage..scrolling through TH-cam and now the Bible as well trying to find a fix for us. Trying to find a way to will myself to try for a little longer, truly feeling in my heart and 100% believing that he doesn’t want me to and thinking all the terrible things that have happened and been happening to me are efforts from him to get me to leave. I don’t understand why I don’t deserve to just be told if that’s what he wants. I don’t know why he’s not in love with me like I am him. Please pray for us.
Male here
Been there
I know what I have mishandled and done wrong
Phone calls not returned
Text messages unanswered
Paper written letters not acknowledged
Wish I could tell You more
Prayers for You ... 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Praying for you. My situation is opposite. The marriage was not from God. I did it anyway. He is financially irresponsible he is disrespectful to me and my parents. He hates that we are close he doesn’t take care of his kids and he hates that I help mine out. He has told me he wish I were dead and he hates me and he never wants to spend time with me But he doesn’t want to divorce. I pay all the bills and take care of everything and now I’m so torn because this subject is so divided that I can never be certain of the right thing to do. And my heart is hardened. I pray if you want your marriage to work that you aren’t going thru half the stuff I am. Praying for restoration for you and your spouse.
probably the most discerning answer I have heard, rather than the legalistic parroting of scriptures that you often hear from teachers, with no regard for the trauma the rest of the family is sufffering from
What is more important, obeying the will of God or feeling content and happy?
You are 100% right Pastor Mark. The mother of my children took everything in the house with the kids and refused to come back. She ultimately hardened her heart towards me because as you said, she hardened her heart towards God.
What did you do? Were you accountable?
To summarize:
What God has put together, no one is allowed to break.
Problem is God is not putting some of these marriages together, man is.
@@tresfielder3148 MANY of them , He's not.
His first few sentences in this video are wrong. You are right that a covenant marriage is only ended by GOD, and any never married man who marries a never married woman is in covenant one flesh.
Fornication is not the same word as adultery in Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19. And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for FORNICATION, and shall marry another, committeth ADULTERY: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit ADULTERY. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Matthew 19:4-12 KJV
So nothing ends the one flesh covenant except for the death of the spouse. In those days the Jewish betrothal began the marriage, so divorce for fornication only applies to Jews like Joseph was going to DIVORCE Mary though she was really still a virgin- Thank you Father for sending your Son, Jesus Christ.
But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth ADULTERY against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth ADULTERY.
Mark 10:6-12 KJV (no exception)
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 KJV
Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; ADULTERY, FORNICATION, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
Galatians 5:19-21 KJV
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and ADULTERERS God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4 KJV
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: that no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 KJV
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
1 Corinthians 7:2, 10-11, 39 KJV
And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God. The law and the prophets were until John: since that time the kingdom of God is preached, and every man presseth into it. And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to fail. Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth ADULTERY: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth ADULTERY.
Luke 16:15-18 KJV
Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be DEAD, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an ADULTERESS: but if her husband be DEAD, she is free from that law; so that she is no ADULTERESS, though she be married to another man.
Romans 7:1-3 KJV
@@tresfielder3148 every one is God ordained.....that is why you are stuck...
@@philipbuckley759 Two satanists get married. Two men get married...ok. You said "every one." It appears you're stuck if you believe these marriages are ordained by God.
Going through an unbiblical divorce right now. She says, "The Lord released me from the marriage and if I'm wrong, I'll have to answer for it one day".
You and me both Bro, I never once committed Adultery against my wife, SINNED yes, But not adultery
@@kickboxerforever00
Would lusting be considered adultery?
We all have committed adultery we are to reconcile the word divorce is used by Christian’s now a days to get divorce then they interpret scripture in the flesh, divorce is never the answer that’s what Jesus says. You divorce and remarry you commit adultery reconcile is what Jesus did for us. God hates divorce that should be enough. Those who say they will just let God punish them it’s a good idea to stay away from them Gods wrath will come upon them and they will be judged. Next to salvation marriage is the most important thing to God. Honor God He will honor you
What if your husband has multiple strokes. Turns into a completely different person- you become a single parent and have all this on your shoulders?? Then what??
@@adrianamaclennan7832 That's why you made a vow "till death do us part". Did you know what that meant when you made the vow? It means that strokes or not, you are to be there by one another's side until one of you die first.
Good answer. Mark is right to look to the heart instead of attempting to distill a question like "When is it ok to divorce?" into some neat and tidy legal code. Clauses, loopholes, and technicalities are for the Tax Code, not the written Word of God.
When my marriage was in jeopardy and I was ready to walk out, I didn't seek an excuse or justification to get a divorce. I already had all the justification I needed. Instead, I sought to exhaust every reasonable avenue to save the marriage and to make divorce unnecessary. I didn't want to walk away from my marriage and regret it for the rest of my life.
I also made it clear that if there is no way to save my marriage, then I will regretfully dissolve the marriage. If it comes to that, I will recognize no doctrine that claims I am somehow condemned to celibacy for the rest of my life. It is the abuse of divorce and remarriage that Jesus condemned as adultery, not these things per se.
That is a really great way to put it. Every circumstance and marriage (and marital problems) are unique just as the couple involved are unique. If a spouse is narcissistic, abusive physically or emotionally, unrepentant and the other spouse has done all they can to save the marriage then what is left? Divorce is never a happy ending nor desirable but it is sometimes necessary to save oneself physically and mentally. In that case no, I do not believe that person has to stay single and celibate for the rest of their lives.
My ex husband demanded a divorce i gave him what he wanted. Now he lives with his mom i have a tenant in my house for rent money since losing job to covid and breast cancer and my heart is broken. Edward is the love of my life besides Jesus
Great answer it definitely starts with the Heart because once it gets to that place when u feel u made ur mind up ur heart will help ur mind by pass anything biblical to justify what u want , I been there my self it took me really committing my self to God and him doing a complete overhaul on my heart and mind to stick to his word no matter what 💯🙏💯
Jesus says, "What God has joined together, let no man separates."
That is absolute. No qualifier.
Yes bc a child will connect the two of you no matter what. Even In situations when it was a child born of a one night stand that child will be tether to both parents regardless of if the child knows then or not
Except in cases of adultery and abuse. You need to not take one verse and manipulate others
Pastor Mark, thank you for the video. I have a wife that is very toxic; verbally, mentally, and psychologically abusive. She harbors deep unforgiveness and grudges. some of these are 25 yrs in her past. Her rage and anger are unpredictable. She has been physically abusive to the point of almost knocking me unconscious. I also believe that God has released me from this toxic relationship. I am asking for direction because I do not want to be sinful and rebellious.
Depends upon the circumstances
The state allows it
Even Jesus never condemned
The woman of samaria for
Having five husbands and
The sixth one in the unmarried
State!
Everyone uses this scripture passage to continue a lifestyle of sin. On the other parts of the gospel, when the woman who was caught in adultery was about to be stone, after addressing the judgmental crowd, she was brought to GOD JESUS and she told her go and sin no more.
The woman from Samaria though the scriptures never say any further conversation between her and GOD JESUS, got the hint, as GOD JESUS said firmly that she’s had five and the one she has at that moment, she was just living with. I’m pretty sure she got the hint..
Lastly, culture and or secular governments that is so anti Biblical does not dictatete the lifestyle of a true believer.
Personally being single the situation doesn't exist
However God has given us
Freewill
However in the case of Jesus
There is a time to lay down the law and a time not to as the
Situation dictates!
@@angloaust1575what? When is there a time to not follow the law of God?
You are allowed to divorce for whatever reason however, you must remain unmarried or reconcile to your prodigal spouse. This is my current situation and I have been convicted to leave my spouse but remain unmarried. It is the road less traveled but I know God will give me the strength to endure ❤️
you must be catholic
What bible are YOU reading?? Show me the passage that says you can get divorced for any reason??, You need to REPENT! the bible clearly States "Adultery"
You are absolutely NOT allowed to get divorced for "Whatever reason", Have you even read the Passages about Divorce? It clearly states "Adultery"
@@stephaniehernandez_90 if you remarry you commit adultery but that breaks your marital bond and the marriage covenant. But it’s not a continual sin. God recognize your new marriage as a real marriage. Jesus died on the cross for your SINS! If you truly repent and focus on having a Godly marriage with your new spouse you will be forgiven of your sin! Pastor David Guzik has a great video on this matter. I would recommend watching it
@kickboxerforever00 you are allowed to seperate if necessary, but not remarry.
My hubby left me after 28 years and now over 30 for a MAN. He won't divorce me and I can't afford one. I'm 71.
Sister stay strong. There will be no more pain in the presence of Jesus Christ. Stay read up on your scriptures to pull you through and having a loving relationship with him 24/7 and don’t let the past stray you from your future in heaven. It’s tough but your willpower and love for Christ will pay off you will have fulfillment here and most certainly in the Kingdom of God. Go in peace!
Yes you can, go to the library. There's forms you can fill out & file at the courthouse. The forms won't cost you a penny.
@@ginachasteen3615 that only works for two people who have no pot to piss in. If theres any assests to be divided you better get an attorney - which is lily why the guy won't divorce here cuz he doesn't want to divide their assets in half
Deny physical intimacy to hopefully encourage your spouse to divorce you or cheat on you. Not honor your marriage vows to drive your spouse crazy .
I assume this is a joke... haha good one! 😂
@@James-q4l1m No, I've seen it.
Happen. There's never just one person that is evil and the other person's good.
@@James-q4l1mit happened to me!
My wife denied me intimacy shortly after we got married. She kept finding excuses claiming medical reasons. 10 years later she finally got a compete hysterectomy and doctors assured us that she shouldn’t have any more problems. However she continued to reject me for no good reason and she even brought home her girlfriends to flirt with me telling them to go ahead because she is just not interested in sex. I was shocked… then I found out that she did the same thing to her first husband and as soon as he slept around from lack of intimacy she divorced him claiming adultery.
Now I am concerned that we are not biblically married since she orchestrated her first divorce and that bible clearly says that he who marry a divorced woman commits adultery with her. And no adulterous person will inherit the kingdom of heaven… I am now separated from her but still taking care of the family. You may say that we are friends without benefits… I s Good okay with that?
@@georgeteo8797 Peace be with you, and I hope my answer solves your problem. You cannot separate from your wife/ put her away. There is a difference between "divorce" and "put away". People get this confused a lot but even GOD divorced Israel one of his wives (Jeremiah 3:8). Some translations of the Bible have been by some dishonest people regarding certain topics.
In one version you see "put away"/"depart" and "divorce" in another. You need to "properly divorce" your wife, not "put her away" or you are causing her to commit adultery possibly and yourself. Read the scriptures with Greek word translation please. (and watch some videos that are for biblical divorce to open your eyes)
I will make a video on my channel later on! Peace be with you!
My wife and I are probably going to be getting a divorce. Through years of emotional manipulation. No matter what I tried to repair things but she wouldn’t help. I ended up having feelings with her best friend. She is convinced I cheated on her. Knowing it didn’t get physical, she thinks I emotionally cheated.
Everyone is guilty of adultery. Remember our Lord pointed this out that even looking at someone as attractive is lust. The point He was making is how high the standards are for perfection. You may have been tempted, even if only emotionally because of the issues in your marriage but that doesn’t make you guilty of actually committing adultery….she is using that as a weapon of manipulation and to change the narrative. Narcissistic personality disorder is very real and that is what they do. They twist things and deflect so you become the bad guy. Stand firm. Yes, you were tempted but you did not fall. If she will not work with you or acknowledge your feelings then there isn’t much hope.
I don’t know you or her but I do know what it’s like to be dismissed, deflected on, gaslit and denied. May the Lord help us both and help them to change.
If your wife had done the same thing with a male best friend of yours how would you feel?
You did.
“feelings”=cheating
Some very interesting cases about manipulating circumstances to "look" innocent, or achieve corrupt objectives . However you never answered one single question here about if divorce and remarriage is permitted in Christian to Christian marriage, Christian to non Christian, or two non Christians, and for truly guilty and truly innocent parties. Not one question.
He only got it right that Christians argue, but he didn't preach the truth.
Fornication is not the same word as adultery in Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19. And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for FORNICATION, and shall marry another, committeth ADULTERY: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit ADULTERY. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Matthew 19:4-12 KJV
So nothing ends the one flesh covenant except for the death of the spouse. In those days the Jewish betrothal began the marriage, so divorce for fornication only applies to Jews like Joseph was going to DIVORCE Mary though she was really still a virgin- Thank you Father for sending your Son, Jesus Christ.
But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth ADULTERY against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth ADULTERY.
Mark 10:6-12 KJV (no exception)
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 KJV
Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; ADULTERY, FORNICATION, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
Galatians 5:19-21 KJV
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and ADULTERERS God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4 KJV
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: that no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 KJV
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
1 Corinthians 7:2, 10-11, 39 KJV
And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God. The law and the prophets were until John: since that time the kingdom of God is preached, and every man presseth into it. And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to fail. Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth ADULTERY: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth ADULTERY.
Luke 16:15-18 KJV
Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be DEAD, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an ADULTERESS: but if her husband be DEAD, she is free from that law; so that she is no ADULTERESS, though she be married to another man.
Romans 7:1-3 KJV
Thank you, mark.
If a women divorced because a man was controlling them remarried a Christian man, then is the adultery permanent or does it break the bind?
I was married for 17 years and we have two teenage children. My wife is an alcoholic we didn’t vet each other thoroughly enough prior to marriage. When I confronted her about the alcoholism she/we did nothing although we both had full-time jobs. It was my responsibility to do the housework And pay the bills and do the laundry. I also had to pack lunches for the kids and take them to school. She would pick the kids up some of the time and make dinner most of the time when I confronted her about this she did nothing. In addition to the aforementioned mentioned things, She withheld sex, then any physical touch. Then she stopped asking how I was doing other than the very superficial inquiry. After 17 years I gave up. My finances are a wreck. The kids live with their mother because they don’t want to live with me. It seems they just went on without me and that I’m not needed. Of course, I’m angry at my wife from many things for the longest time, I thought that eventually she would come around now I have to face the consequences of my actions. I still struggle with whether I did the right thing.
Are you kidding? If your story is true go in peace! The enemy is the accuser & oppressor & twists the word of God for his benefits. Read Ephesians 6:12 to find out who you wrestle with.
Repent, forgive & move on! Many people don't fully understand what adultery or even death or forever means in scripture. They don't understand what is to become one flesh either. Also not every marriage is God's will but human's will. They said He hates divorce & of course who loves it? But it doesn't mean you are supposed to stay in it with the abusive and cruel behavior of your partner. Even Jesus taught on Matt 10:23 When you are persecuted in one place, flee to another...Also do not want them back after they slept with another man which says in Jeremiah as well.
Deuteronomy 24:2-4
and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man,...
then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD. Do not bring sin upon the land the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance.
Proverbs 6:16-19
Easy-to-Read Version
What the Lord Hates
16 The Lord hates these seven things:
17 eyes that show pride,
tongues that tell lies,
hands that kill innocent people,
18 hearts that plan evil things to do,
feet that run to do evil,
19 witnesses in court who tell lies,
and anyone who causes family members to fight.
If it is a consensus divorce, go in peace. There is nothing unrighteous about it.
@@Noneya-b7t yep. We were both dumb. I
Same for me almost except we don’t have kids together. They are grown. But I am you and he is your wife. Except I’m still stuck. He doesn’t want to divorce and I do. I’m tired of taking care of him and he not doing anything. On top of him being disrespectful to my parents and me and just pure mean to me for no reason other than he has issues with his mom he won’t fix. So he takes it out on me.
@@tashad2201 If you know that it won’t get any better, you need to get out of that situation. I will pray for you.
I’m dealing with this now. My husband & I have been separated since last year. We have a two year old and one child on the way. When we separated it was because my husband was being unfaithful. He now lives with another women and refuses to see our son. He hasn’t filed for divorce but I wonder if I should file because he’s already started a new life still being married to me. I continue to ask the lord what to do because ultimately I want to do what he has called me to do. However it’s difficult to be in this position especially because his mistress is on social media boasting about there happiness. I’m tired of being dragged all over the place.
You can leave but have to remain single while he is alive. Romans 7:2-3, 1 Cor 7:10-11. Marriage is to death do you part not divorce do you part.
Divorce and if you ever meet someone new, go for it. Why should you remain single forever because your husband is adulterous ? Why would God punish you to be lonely when it's not your fault!!
Go head get your divorce. He left and committed adultery . Live your life and move on the best way you can. You don’t have to beg someone to do right. He broke the covenant, not you.
@@darthjedi99he already parted ways. Makes no sense. You can’t stay married to someone not married to you. the covenant has been broken already. She can remarry
@@darthjedi99 yea that's incorrect, he committed adultery, that's it, she is free from the covenant of marriage. what your talking about is if two believers just decide to separate, then if they remarry it becomes adultery. Please dont ever say this to anyone. Its incorrect biblical doctrine and how horrible it would be for someone to live a life alone because they were the victim and took your advice
I have been lucky to live in our times, as crazy as it sounds, but I am getting conflicting answers to a simple question - if you are married to a narcissist who lacks ability to view any other perspective...
I am so unhappy and my husband feels the same, admittedly or not.
There are so many biblical stories and none of my efforts seem to change my reality.
Your views are appreciated!
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Best thing to do in this situation is to pray together and if ur spouse is unwilling to pray with u , do it alone and consistently for both of you , unhappiness is a temporary feeling , it can come and go , but one of the teacher I watch Allen Parr said we don’t get married to be happy we get married to be holy …so it my be up to u to do the leg work at first but if God is for marriage I believe he will make changes in both of you for the better 💯🙏
Wife and I in the same boat. We don't agree on anything anymore and can't stand each other. I cannot remember the last time I experienced some joy in my life outside of my two small children that we share. I have never despised anyone as much as I despise her... And the worst is I have to remain married to her and that cycle makes me despise her even more. I am not proud of it. It's so difficult to overcome... I pray and do my best. She never appreciates anything and she always pushes me over the edge and then says, "gotcha! Some Christian you are!". I have many regrets in my life, but marrying her has been in the top 3 on my list. I feel dead inside, but everyday when I pray and speak to the Lord, I start out with some strength to carry on and try again for the Lord's sake, but then by the end of the day we have both just failed and I am back to square 1... :(
Someone once said it is fine to divorce if you're dealing with one of the three As- adultery, abuse, or addiction. Biblically though I think abuse or adultery are sound reasons.
The only exception given by scripture is fornication, which basically means if when you get married you find out your spouse is not a virgin then you can leave, and even though abuse is not mentioned, I also don’t think God expects us to remain in a situation where our life is in danger, we just need to keep mind we are not supposed to remarry unless the divorce was due to fornication.
@@wendymtzc WRONG. In English we call it fornication, but the original Greek word used was porneia, which is a general term for all forms of sexual immorality. It isn't about someone sleeping with someone else prior to marriage, but the fact that any deviation from God's way in expressing sexuality is wrong and a violation of the marriage bond.
What about when the spouse abandons the marriage, says the right things to suggest they don’t want to divorce but does absolutely nothing to build bridges and remains separated and this goes on month after after month? It’s been over 12 months now since separated and it was not my will.
You can divorce and remarry
Hey Devon ,Peace be with you, and I hope my answer solves your problem. You cannot separate from your wife/ put her away. There is a difference between "divorce" and "put away"/"abandon". People get this confused a lot but even GOD divorced Israel one of his wives (Jeremiah 3:8). Some translations of the Bible have been by some dishonest people regarding certain topics.
In one translation/version you see "put away"/"depart" and "divorce" in another. You need to "properly divorce" your wife, not "put her away" or you are causing her to commit adultery and thereby yourself because you are not to "separate who GOD has joined together). Read the scriptures with Greek word translation please. (and watch some videos that are for biblical divorce to open your eyes)
I will make a video on my channel later on! Peace be with you!
@@ASonofGOD-adopted True.
What about abuse?
Not just physical. Abuse is abuse in the eyes of God
Yes if the person was unfaithful according to scripture 💯
What happens when the one who agrees to be the sole provider of a service under the condition that the other party only uses their services defaults on it for years?
Why do people keep asking that question when they already know what the answer is. God cannot and will not change his mind.
I still don’t know the answer. Honestly. Some say financial and adultery others say only adultery then others say abuse as well. How do we really know the answer. I honestly don’t know the answer and I try not to let my emotions guide my decision. But after trying to figure this out my emotions might get the win
My husband was married and they were young and she cheated on him and I got told that if she was living I'm committing adultery it made me sad. I was broken hearted And I think God that God doesn't look at us as adulterers since she cheated on him and got pregnant by another man and said I want a divorce. He never left her. So I'm so glad that I found this. I told that woman Jesus said we weren't adulterers if adultery was committed but apparently Jesus forgives us. He didn't understand the covenant of marriage and never committed adultery. I adore mark and glad I found this video
You did commit adultery by marrying a divorced man but if you have repented of course Jesus is able to forgive you, none of us is perfect, the key is to acknowledge our sin and not try to justify it like Psalm 32 teaches.
An eligible woman marrying a married man happens somewhat frequently in the OT, and God doesn't condemn it. The Torah/law allows it. However a man getting involved with a married women is a capital offense with severe consequences.
My spouse has hardened her heart to try and work on our marriage and is filing for divorce. What should I do as a Christian man. I’ve tried everything and offered counseling and she refuses to do it all.
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I feel you brother, mine is the exact Same,she even Swears at me now if I so much as bring it up or ask her for help finding work since I only have a seasonal job,we have 2 kids as well,now I will say a lot of it is my own fault,and it feels like I'm being punished by god,I'm facing Homelessness as well,I even considered Suicide,but I'm terrified of going to Hell since it's murder of your own Self. So I've no idea what to do,so I definitely feel where you are at,shame we couldn't connect as I'm on Vancouver Island BC here
I feel for you buddy, I went through something similar. Today it's been 6 years since my wife left and filed for divorce, we were married for over 20 years with 3 kids. It takes a lot of time, but things get easier. Don't rush things, take steps to leave the door open for her to return, but in the mean time take care of yourself. If she doesn't come back then assume that God removed her from your life for a reason. Go and seek out his plan for you...
What if your husband abandonned you from the first day of marriage, withholding intimacy (spiritually, emotionally and sexually) for 20 years? You made endless attempts to get him to talk about it, resolve it, get outside help amd in the end he always defaulted to neglecting you. He did not respond to your cries for intimacy, as you suffered and made him fully aware of it. What if, after these 20 years you find out he has been sexually satisfying himself by his own hand all these years. Is this not only neglect and cruelty but a form of adultery? He has been in pastoral counseling and therapy for five months and he hass shown no change in behaviour. All these twenty years and subsequent therapy he has acted like there is nothing wrong, going about life, ignoring your suffering. He is the Avoider, avoiding me and the kids. (In 20 years of marriage s*x 80 times including trying ro conceive and ALL initated by wife, basically acting like a blow up doll...minimal if any reciprocal s*xual affection.) Was his heart ever soft, Pastor Mark? Do I have grounds to divorce? I am starved to death and cannot last this way.
My marriage 75 percent of the time never knew what he was doing never been in his bank account never communicates he does what he wants when he wants I prayed all my life but he sees nothing wrong I'm out
Marriage is to death do you part not divorce do you part. Romans 7:2-3, 1 Cor 7:10-11, Mark 10:10-11, Luke 16:18, MAtt 5:32,Matt 19:9.
It is the intention but not the reality. There are scriptural reasons for divorce: Abandonment by a non believing spouse and Adultery by the other spouse.
Catholics do annulments based on strict factors believing that yes you wore a dress and said stuff in front of people. But the sacrament didn't happen. I'm trying to get one. I was forced into a marriage it wasn't valid. I'm free to get married.
We are bound to our covenant spouse until death (1 Cor. 7:39).
NOTHING breaks the covenant but DEATH.
Remarriage is adultery while our covenant spouse lives (Luke 16:18, Mark 10:11-12).
The Matthew “clause” refers strictly to divorce, not remarriage.
There is no such thing as remarriage for the “innocent party.”
The “innocent party” view does not harmonize with 1 Cor. 7:39
Jesus did not permit divorce, because God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and because it was not so from the beginning (Matt. 19:8; Mark 10:6).
We cannot separate what God has joined together (Matt. 19:6; Mark 10:9).
The linchpin to understanding the “exception clause” is understanding the AUDIENCE of Matthew. Matthew’s audience was Jewish. We are Christians. The exception clause does not apply to Christians. The old law has been done away with.
Tell tgat to Mark he tries to preach the four As. And Gids grace as a reason for divorce. If you're in a second marriage already clause. Orthe I didn't know any better exception.
What if you was married at 18 and didnt know GOD ? Got divorced and remarried and found JESUS 25-30 years later and now know that divorce is not a option ever ! Are you still in sin even tho u didnt know JESUS until you got older in life
one you are saved and repent the bible says old thiings pass away and all thing are new.
Amen
It all starts in the heart ❤️ 🙏
Hi everyone, I also want to make this point. The Bible says to honor God in your marriage. The man has a role and the woman has a role and if you’re separated, you are not doing your role or spouse leaves another spouse. They’re not doing their role forgiven, you got a repent And get back with your spouse and stop being separated you don’t wanna die in that state of not doing your role in the marriage because you’re not honoring God folks people are turning and twisting this Bible just like Jesus said they would you are a true believer, and your spouse is a true believer Then you are bound to one another and if you divorced your spouse for a non-biblical reason just because you’re done you don’t love no more that person that divorces Their spouse will go to hell and it forces the other spouse to commit adultery, but they’re not in trouble that doesn’t give you grounds to get remarried. Do not get remarried. We are not under the Moses law. Jesus was reading a letter read it you can tell Jesus is reading a letter to his followers and then Jesus tells you, but I tell you anyone who divorces their wife or spouse, commits adultery, read your Bible people, please
My dad and stepmom were happily married for eighteen years. What ended the marriage is that she passed away. They never stepped for in a church. They also lived together four years before they got married. My aunt and uncle have been married 40+ years and have never stepped foot into a church. They also lived together before marriage. What these people have in common good conflict resolution. My mother left my dad and has never been able to hold a marriage together. She cannot resolve conflict.
If you are a believer....it's impossible to go to hell, no matter what sin you commit
You can be separated if their is abuse. And separation is allowed as long as you don’t marry someone else during separation. So this is false and harmful!
🔥 Amen 🔥 Praise The Lord 👋🏾🔥 Art! Thou! Bound! Unto A Wife? Seek Not To Be Loosed. Art! Thou! Loosed! From A Wife? Seek Not A Wife.
🔥But! And! If Thou! 🔥Marry! 🔥Thou! Hast! 🔥Not! Sinned!🔥 1st Corinthians Chapter 7 Verse 27 -28.🔥 The Word Remarry Is Not Biblical.🔥❤️🙏🏾✌🏾
thank you for speaking truth * it's a heart issue
What about neglect because a person has a major brain injury? What if it’s been a long long time???
It says in the Bible to marry non believers to save them… So divorcing over them being a non believer.. I can’t see that… in the Bible
I had a contract a few years ago that was getting government assistance and such from the Affirmative action people and basically I was assigned to work under a woman as part of my eternal punishment in this life for being a white Caucasian male. The woman started investigating my habits and was concerned if I was doing something that might have been "non christian". She was investigating me to see if I was obeying religious standards and all. But this woman was not only divorced and remarried but by her own words she claimed to be an adulterer and if I am to be honest working under this sinful, disgusting woman was far worse than anything I was doing. I don't know the full details of the company but it was not only a religious investigation but at times it was harassment from the people and from this woman. And eventually they came up with something and cancelled the contract. But it is incredibly difficult, frustrating and aggravating to have to report to some woman who was violating core principles of religion and yet had power over me and then pushed me out - apparently on religious technicalities. Even though she and the company were harassing me continuously, I never said a word. It was just amazing to have company personnel treating me like scum. I might have filed a Lawsuit but I was under contract and the contract was up for renewal anyway. And I'm very happy it was over.... except for the money which I always need. Religious persecution is horrible. In part because you don't expect it.
May I ask this - is it mentioned biblically or implied in christian marriage vow that married couples should "stay for the children"? I'm not looking for qualifiers to divorce, I just want to question the above mentioned reason to stay in a marriage, if it is biblical. Christians like to throw that at me instead of addressing the issues.
what if your hardness of heart stems from the behavior of your spouse?
I literally was growing cold just to not react anymore. Had a good sit down with an advisor from my church who helped me see, there are obligations by both husbands and wives.... My take away was my hard heart was stemming from emotional and other abandonment... So maybe look into what exactly is causing you to grow cold and go from there with a trusted biblical perspective.
God bless and good luck to you
@@MrsSmith-yy1nt my husband has narcissistic personality disorder. Gray rocking him is a way to buffer narcissistic rage. I feel nothing for my spouse emotionally except exhaustion.
@@lisabehrens6758 I prayed for wisdom and strength and have myself permission to talk about separating. Hopefully you find whatever you need to give yourself permission to stay or go.
I have been struggling so much about this. I actually called your church Pastor Mark, to talk with you or someone which I'd still like to.
You speak truth & that is what most pastors won't say or don't know. A hardened heart is something only God can changed. It's been a rough road. We hurt eachother, our children, our grandchildren & I am in so much pain about this 💔😢
Corinthians 7:10-11
10 But for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord. A wife must not leave her husband. 11 But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife.
**ONLY TWO OPTIONS...REMAIN SINGLE OR BE RECONCLED.
@@Glory.To.God.In.The.Highest So what is a man supposed to do if his wife abandons him and his sex drive is well above zero? Pray for a repentance or reconciliation that may never come? What if he isn't the patient kind? (See 1 Cor 7:9)
@@dh605x Hi Daniel...I totally understand this concern. However, God is able to help us ...we must not deny His power and trust Him.
Galatians 5 says:
16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.
18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.
19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,
21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
24 And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit
Brother, I am praying for you. And understand this if you are watching for Christ's return....He will not tarry... It wont be long... Keep strong in the Lord!
🙏Matthew 25
23 His lord said unto him, Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.
@@dh605x 1 Corinthians 7:8-11
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
***Remember, From the beginning God regards the married as "ONE FLESH"...let no man separate.***
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
Vs 9 is referring to the never married (Otherwise, there is contradictions to vs 10 & 11 or Luke 16:18, etc) and widows, who are allowed to remarry after death of spouse.
@@dh605x what would you say to a same sex couple....after all, nowhere, in the Bible is this sanctioned....
My parents divorced. Let me tell you. It wounded me greatly. My father left. Father God never left me. Don't ever do this to your kids. If there is abuse, leave and get a restraining order.
Thanks you Pastor. It's help me a lot. Still now I'm battling with my heart to divorce since 5 year ago for knowing my husband married with another woman, have a kid but still come every night to our bed. It's hurt me a lot and i don't know if I can still in this married. But, yes thank you for your answer.
I don't know what? Are you asking if polygamy is allowed? If so, polygamy is against the Word of God. You can't stay married with a man who married another women. Your husband comitted adultery against you. Whether you can remarry or not, I don't know.
If my wife left me and disappeared after mentally and emotionally abusing me, then only contacted me later on to do the divorce thing, can I remarry if our Heavenly Father puts someone in my life later on?
I don’t understand why some people don’t believe 10 commandment even know adultery is included
I was enforced divorce based on doubt
Thank you for the Message mark. I appreciate it.
From the Lord Jesus himself “ I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” Matthew 19:9.
Which trumps everyone’s opinion if you are asking on Christian doctrine.
Where specifically in the Bible does it speak about being able to get a divorce because of desertion and adultery?
Look up Matthew 19 and 1 Corr 7
Was married 8 years and as a husband I loved being just that but unfortunately covid came time got hard and my darling wife had an affair through some online guy she met some how and it's been 3 years apart now but honestly I still grieve that loss of my marriage
The question I don't really think is about divorce...it's a question of re-marriage. Thoughts?
Is a spouses p0rn use/addiction considered adultery and grounds for divorce according to God?
Hey I lost contact with my spouse because she wants a divorce. There is almost nothing I can do about it to stop her. I have not seen or heard from her for 6 months. Sometimes I feel tempted when I see another lovely women but I try to remain faithful to God and not action it nor do I take any photos with them as much as possible. Does that mean I am still committing adultery at heart even if I try not to action my feelings after not having contact with my spouse for so long.
Male here
We are wired as men to look, see, touch
You cannot deny or stop that DNA
However You can not look the second or third time ... ________
Paul says to renew your mind
Have a New Mindset
Practice """casting""" out lustful thoughts thru prayer
Speak against Satan in prayer when these thoughts and women cross your path
Practice speaking and praying that these women don't belong to you
Whether they are single, dating, married
Hope this helps
Blessings to You on Your Journey ✡️ 🙏 ✨️
She’s cheating on you bro
Stuff like the things said in this comment section are why a lot of young people today don’t want to get married.
Well said
What if she is a believer and she commits adultery AND leaves?
Thank you Pastor
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It’s ironic that we first fail as individuals, and that failure cascades into negative, disaster implications for the entire family.
What’s missing in Church teaching today is a clear understanding of Biblical marriage and God’s design for the man, woman and offspring. The Church and society should make it very difficult to get married (Bootcamp for wanna be spouses) and even more difficult to part ways.
No! God never ordained divorce. Jesus said that Moses gave you divorce because of the hardness of your hearts.
Please advise me,
I was guilted and manipulated into a civil wedding of signing papers after only 2 weeks of meeting a woman...
I was told that I would embrass her to her expecting family if I didn't marry her, and guilted that I didn't want to marry her because she was garbage because she's from a poor family, which that statement made me feel horrible, I expressed multiple times before that I didn't want to marry and that I wasn't ready and we needed to wait and that it it was God's will that one day we would...
She was impatient and said she wanted to die when I tried to back out and caused me to feel guilty,
The day of the paper signing in The mayor's office I felt deep sorrow and regret, and I cried tears of sarrow and regret not happiness while I said vows...
That night at the hotel we had sex and it felt so Empty no romance, no connection (she was not a virgin and neither was I due to past relationship before submitting to Christ).
What followed was a lack of love and affection given from her , she refuses to submit to me or let me lead but claimed to be a Christian, she belittled me with words daily, hit me in the face and body out of anger at times and threatend divorce weekly over every small disagreement and she always spoke of regrets...
I knew from the beginning she didn't truly love me or didn't know how too, when I prayed to God for a sign if I should marry her I felt deep sadness. Which I Now Realize was a sign that it wasn't God's will.
We are now seperated after 4 years of verbal abuse and constant battles ...I plead with her to not say divorce as christian for years but she never stopped expressing her desire for divorce and regret....and so finally I gave up resisting her remarks for divorce. ....
Am I bound to that marriage in God's eye's... Would being decieved and guilted into signing civil paperwork count as a valid covenant in God's eye's...
Will I go to hell if I find true Love and remarry???
You are a very weak man for allowing this to happen.
I firmly believe that spouses who do horrible things to the other is because their heart is not in the right place. This was exactly my ex-husband. He was a dutiful husband and father YET was very secretive when it came to our finances. Then he molested our daughter.
I am sorry. Hopefully you separated and will remain unmarried, forgive as you are forgiven by the Lord and not get into any other relationship. If your first marriage was his first marriage, it is only ended by death of one of the spouses or the rapture since there is no marriage in heaven.
why did you not seek a devout Christian man?
@@seawater1322 What makes you think that question is appropriate? It's not her fault her ex-husband violated the terms of the marital covenant.
@@dh605x No, it’s not her fault that her ex husband is an evildoer. But we also reap what we sow. What choices in our free will we make get us to these situations in the first place. While she has no control over his evil-doing, she always had control of her own decision-making that which lead to the cleaving to an evil-doer.
@@Momofukudoodoowindu If your assertion is that she is stuck with him no matter how he behaves, then you are dead wrong. Marriage is not a suicide pact, and divorce exists for this very reason. This woman does not need any condemnation from you people simply because that scoundrel she married did an excellent job of hiding his true nature.
You get one chance at eternal love. If you get a divorce , marry someone who has been divorced or marry the spouse of someone who died . Those people have lost their only chance at love . They will spend the rest of eternity alone
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. However, the wife, in the above scriptures, is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews (that Jesus was speaking to) were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39.
Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel.
The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death.
The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. Christ's death on the cross caused the Jews to become dead to the law of Moses, so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the ordinances of law of Moses as justification, over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the ordinances of the law is no longer possible, for Israel, and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15.
Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife.
Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned, by an unbelieving spouse, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving those who are abandoned permission to remarry, do not understand the command that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh, due to one's unbelief, puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, and himself, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command to verses 10-14 in verse 15.
Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16.
The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions.
The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24.
Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans, and likewise Luke to evangelize the Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
Wow that is very good.
Nowhere does it say you can remarry except when one spouse dies. People read words in the Bible that are not even there. Adultery is not grounds for divorce, forgiveness is called for. If you divorce, it says to be reconciled or remain alone.
You're so wrong it's ridiculous.
Hey Lucin, I hope that you are well. The Laws regarding divorce were first given to Moses by Jesus, the Word/GOD so understanding that first is the most important. Even Paul says when an unbeliever departs, you aren't under bondage so even there, the Bible has made room (1 Corinthians 7:15).
Forgiveness doesn't mean giving a person a license to continue to hurt you. Be wise, if the person is willing after you've forgiven them to stay, then remain. But to remain with a person who hates you, is not wise.
Remarriage IS adultery when one’s spouse is still living.
Luke 16:18
Mark 10:11-12
Romans 7:3
1 Cor. 6:9-10
The exception clause in Matt. 19:9 is regarding divorce only, NOT remarriage. The pharisees question was regarding divorce, not remarriage.
Further, Jesus was answering their question in response to Moses’s law, not God’s law. Moses made the law because of hard hearts. God never approved that, and it was not so from the beginning.
Mark and Luke specifically state remarriage is adultery. The apostle Paul confirms this in. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11.
Remarriage is the opposite of what God wanted in the case of the Israelites and Hosea and Gomer.
The church teaches that remarriage is justified after infidelity but that is not so. Remarriage is pursued in order to appease one’s own desires. Itching ears twist the scripture (Matt. 19:9) in order to serve self.
Paul was not speaking for himself when he stated that one is bound until death 1 Cor. 7:39.
Reconciliation is what God desires. That is what true forgiveness is.
I adultery breaks the marriage covenant as some pastors suggest using Matt. 5 and Matt. 9 as such, then why did the Scriptures say to Herod that its unlawful for you to have your brother Phillip wife. Divorce remarriage adultery and incest was committed. I know that I wouldn't want Herodias back if I was Phillip but sex outside of the covenant marriage doesn't break the one flesh covenant. Jesus said, what God has joined together man isn't to separate... meaning divorce. If God said it then man can do nothing. Death only desolves the covenant union. Jesus would never agree with the opinion of mankind, meaning to two schools of thought on divorce and remarriage according to Jewish law. Jesus took marriage back to the Father's original design because Jesus only says what He has heard His Father say. This sin alone has sent millions upon millions of souls to hell because no one can be saved and live in sin 24 hrs. 7 days a week.
Correction...If adultery breaks the marriage covenant....
@@when943 adultery does not break the marriage covenant. Only death does. Herod and Herodias were living in a state of adultery. They needed to dissolve their adulterous union.
Remarriage, while your first spouse lives is adultery.
Hi, I’m 19 years old and I’m a virgin. I grew up in an physically abusive household to which I hold no contact to my parents and I pray for them from afar.
I don’t want to end up in a abusive marriage like them. I’m scared that the future husband I submit too might hurt me no matter what, and God will be mad at me if I don’t do everything he says. What do I do?
I am surprised that you are already thinking about this question at a young age.
We obey our husband as to the Lord. I did not realize that and for years suffered physical and emotional abuse. Like you, I did not want to repeat my parents' mistakes. Even thought I should not ever marry. You are wise to look to the future and maybe even get counseling from a pastor who knows you. Blessings to you.
God did Not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and a sound mind. Trust in the Lord and He will guide your steps. Have a strong relationship with God. He will never lead you wrong. He is a good Father. God Bless you ❤
A good source to help other than the Bible, No Greater Joy ministry they have great teachings on what you're looking for 😊
What if you have never done anything physically with another person but have had the sin of lust, pornography and online talking at times. I you have been in sin at times but then stop and do fine for a while and then go back to sin. Then get open and stop.
Matthew 19-9
The term Christ Jesus used was "fornication."
He was referring to the Jewish custom of the betrothal or engagement period.
He didn't use the term adultery because He was not speaking about marriage.
There's no justification for divorce.
You can not remarry another.
Be reconciled or stay single praying for your ex spouse salvation if they divorced or walked out.
A pastor must be the husband of one wife.
All Glory to Almighty God in Christ Jesus' name through the Power of His Holy Spirit Amen
That’s why you have to be careful who you marry. Marry someone who fears the Lord
To be honest I don’t feel like he answered the question
If it is adulterous to marry a divorcee is such a marriage even recognized as a true covenant? If you leave that relationship, then, are you now considered a divorcee too and unable to marry? Please help me understand, this is not clear in scripture.
Not if they never marry. So I choose not to marry.
Me too. 55 and never married. I would not want to be trapped in a bad situation.
Divorce is a golden ticket 🎫 for remarriage. It’s never just about leaving, it’s about opening new doors, and like Mark said, some people get creative so as to pass the blame onto their spouse so they feel justified when they start sleeping with their new partner.
I think if there is Abuse then yess you can leave. Especially if it’s hurting kids!!!
To bad Jesus disagrees.
So far I believe there’s nothing in the Bible saying you can leave because of abuse moving away yes so said person don’t harm you yes. I don’t know I have to look into it more abuse might be a form of abandonment I don’t know
@@lukemadasz1186 he doesn’t…. Read your Bible please.
"I think..." "I feel..."
No you "Think" wrong. Your opinion is based on emotion. Yes SEPERATION get to safety call cops
and stay seperated if it has to be so. But Nowhere in Scripture is it biblical for divorce.
My husband did adultry after one week of my marriage and I found so many girlfriends. Should I have him divorce.he spoke a lie so many times he broke my heart . M too much depressed
What about remarriage after divorce for the christian?
the Bible does not provide, for this...
@@philipbuckley759 It doesn't need to as it was already happening. If a person was scripturally divorced, remarriage was assumed to take place.
If your wife is kicking the crap out of you and emotionally abusing you for years. Sex 0 for years! And God doesn't allow you to move on to find a good spouse? False!!! All the scriptures need to be examined, not one scripture and run with it! That's why we have so many religions taking one scripture and building on it!
How do you reconcile with someone who disgusts you. Her feminism has destroyed this house. Children pulled away from God.
Blame jacket is out of fashion loooong time ago fear for Hod and repentance is key
I watched a brief video in which you mentioned that single individuals are perceived as selfish for not choosing marriage. Nevertheless, it's worth noting that approximately 80% of divorces are instigated by women, and divorce rates exceed 50%. Given the significant social stigma attached to divorce in some cases, one might question the rationale behind pursuing marriage at all.
Rocking Sir !!!!!
Hi need help I didn't no when to do....my husband fell in love with my daughter... I had 2 girls be for we got married he fall in love with the older one when they built our home together people started to see things she was 16yr old he told me on mother's day then he told me ( I was put away) I have never understood this year's go on , me and my 5 kids moved out off the house oldest daughter move away ( we had 5 kids together) now our middle girl is getting married and he ( husband) want to bring her to the wedding....be we are still married we don't live together but I still love him so much and I don't no what to do , she will be at the wedding and I so don't want to be there. And I don't understand about divorce, I do not want a divorce...please can I get some help.
I don't mean he want to bring my daughter to the wedding he wants to bring his girl friend and I'm not happy about it.. we are still married.
PLEASE HELP
Was he sleeping with your daughter? Or did he hit him at all? If so, then adultery and abuse caused by the spouse is a valid reason for divorce
Hi he did not sleep with her he told me on a mother day he was in love with her , we have be separated for years .
No!
It says fornication not adultery and a married person cannot commit fornication
There is no way the Holy Spirit would lead us to remarry an live in adultery. To often we do what is in our hearts and say it was of God when it is of us living in the flesh. Whether married to a believer or not, if separated or divorce we are to remain so. Many divorcees wrestle with this thought because they know it is wrong. We can't try to justify ourselves.
Hey Greg, couldn't help but shed some light on the truth. If Jesus is the Son of GOD, he cannot contradict a law he gave or his Father gave. He gave the laws to Moses so he clarifies, not contradicts. Moses gave the law on "proper divorce" because women were already being "put away"/ "separating". To make it proper, he was given a law/command for the people to have a written divorcement bill, so that women were able to go on and remarry. Otherwise, she was stuck.
Even GOD has divorced properly so keep searching the truth!
I will eventually make a video on my channel, if you would like some light shed, you may subscribe! Peace!
There are some circumstances where I think it's acceptable to get divorced, and there are some circumstances where I think it's not acceptable to get divorced. I think it's acceptable to get divorced in a domestic violence situation, adultery situation, child abuse situation, situation of a husband and wife finding out they are not compatible after being married, etc. In order for a marriage to work out, the husband and wife have to be compatible. If a husband and wife aren't compatible, the marriage isn't going to work out. Someone shouldn't get divorced if their spouse gets less attractive, loses a job, gets cancer, ends up paralyzed, etc because God wants people to take the "for better or worse" marriage vow seriously. "For better or worse" doesn't mean tolerate abuse, tolerated being cheated on, etc; it means being there in situations such as a spouse getting less attractive, a spouse losing a job, a spouse getting cancer, etc.
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Amen created a situation and that is also their choice they choose to do bad things all by themselves the blame jacket is so lame