One thing I didn't add in my critique of the 'witches you couldn't burn' slogan is that witch-hunts are a contemporary phenomenon occurring globally, with notable occurrences in Sub-Saharan Africa, India, Nepal, and Papua New Guinea. There's a lack of sensitivity towards that fact, I think. Sadly, witch panic is not a thing of the past.
There's so much to hate about that slogan. I'll add two more: 1) Even assuming that it was true that only witches were burned, it's statistically more likely that you're the grandchild of one of the executioners and not an escapee. 2) JK Rowling seems to love that damn slogan, so it blows chunks by association.
@1980rlquinn Not sure about the first one.. There weren't THAT many executioners. 😅 Or maybe you meaning something less literal? As for the second point, ugh, JK is just such a fucking loser.
I also cringe at the idea that the “weaker” witches were the ones who succumbed to the trials, while some superior specimens went on to reproduce sacred lines that are obviously today’s witches..
My number one witchcraft cringe is prosperity magick as a main shtick. There's nothing wrong with spells for material gain, but when I see people selling their craft in exactly the same way as a MLM or get-rich-quick advert, it *really* turns me sour.
Absolutely agreed on the "We are the granddaughters..." cringe. Has always felt icky to me, for the exact same reasons you expressed. Another big cringe for me personally is the tendency to have a very.. grandiose past life? Like how it seems everyone was Cleopatra or a Priestess of Avalon or some kind of Oracle of Delphi. Of course to each their own but it feels a little self aggrandizing.
Haha, omg yeah, so many people have told me how hard they roll their eyes when a spiritual teacher was previously Cleopatra. Like, of course, naturally. 😄 No one was ever a lowly farmer.
Lol this I love this comment. very prevalent among African spiritual girlies how grand and powerful the previous life was...it has to do with us romanticizing our history which is understandable but stilllll...
@@yinze0089Cleo was a queen (unless you're referring to something else) but yeah, it's unlikely that a metric shit-tonne of spiritual women were her in a past life Hehe x
I cringe when people complain that someone charges too much for a tarot reading. It’s like they can charge whatever they want, you don’t have to buy a reading from THAT reader but if you do, you pay THEIR prices. If you want to pay less find someone who charges what you want to pay.
I really don't like it when people tell me I charge too much. It's always back-handed too. 'I would LOVE to be able to work with you but you just charge too much.' Like, I am an award-winning Tarot reader and author and I have put 700 free videos out online, and you don't think I should be able to, like, eat? 🤔 I have also ALWAYS copped shit for having a Patreon and for selling courses. There have been plenty of people who have been blocked on my socials for having a lot to say about me putting things behind a paywall. Those people think my food and rent money just falls into my hands from the fucking sky. 🤣
I casually mentioned that i did tarot to a new friend and she put her hands over her ears and said "no, no, no, no ,nooo, i can't hear this " I was too shocked to even respond! I've never seen her again.
About the whole professional witch bit - have the people who say there should not be paid for their service never read a fairytale or listened to the old stories? Those are filled with witches getting paid and/or the consequences of not doing so.
binding is an important tool, particularly in situations of stalking, exes, etc. because there are a lot of situations where the legal system/police etc. cannot or will not help, or could make things worse. things that don't quite rise to a legal level but still create large issues in your life, things like that. totally agree with you that it's a position of privilege to moralize against it, and it's a tool I would not want to write off, particularly as it's often a defensive rather than aggressive action. I haven't done a lot of hexing, but again, you never know where you might find yourself, and you certainly don't know where others find themselves. caution is good, prohibition not so much.
As a research scientist who has a PhD (and a sorcerer too) I apologise on behalf of that insufferable woman who attempted to belittle your practice, we don't claim her. I'd like to think attitudes are changing because in my company of scientists there are several who are openly religious and no one has a bad word to say about them, it's a very respectful atmosphere and as adults we just know that everyone's views are their own and what you believe metaphysically doesn't impact on your knowledge and skill as a scientist.
I also find it cringe when people say that a love spell will cause someone to get assaulted by an obsessed magically drugged person. Like one I don’t think the universe would ever confuse love for r@pe or obsession…. If it won’t work because of personal free will then it won’t work or maybe it will backfire- but not that way.
I did a sketch of a fool tarot card based on the Beatles song- The fool in the hill. Which I always felt it was like someone who knew deep wisdom but was seen as a fool by people with.. no vision.
@@kelly-annmaddox Sometimes it's in witchy books so I definitely ignore it then! If it's online then I just politely drop in a few facts. I try to avoid sounding patronising 😂.
I think that your section on the Witchcraft Trials etc. should be a whole video on its own. So much stuff on this one is great though, and thoroughly enjoyed it, thank you..
What makes me cringe is when "spiritual" people insist that I should love everyone and do so unconditionally...that's unrealistic and toxic to me. I believe that I don't owe love to my abusers and actually one of the exes who manipulated me and cheated on me used to use the concept of spiritual love as a way to keep me around. I later realized that I just lacked self-respect and healthy boundaries at the time. Not saying this is the case for everyone who's been cheated on or abused or manipulated, but it was for me. The whole spiritual love crap used to make me go for broken people because I thought it was my "duty" to love them until they got better....except they would just get worse and use it as an excuse to be abusive. Nowadays, I love my family, my friends, and my pets. Everyone else gets basic human respect and definitely not all the special privileges that come with love!
Presumably to this person pulling the Fool next means your lawyer will be a silly man in tights and then the Sun means to look directly into it where you’ll see the teletubby baby smiling down at you.
I work with Loki and nothing makes me cringe more than telling someone I work with Loki and them saying 'oh be careful he's X and causes problems' like?? I've been working with him for 13 years I don't need you to tell me what my deity is and isn't. I'll also add that I met a tarot reader in uni who told me that if I didn't 'knock on my deck' before starting a reading to dispel bad energy I was 'reading wrong'. The assumption that I don't know what I'm doing without even asking me what my practice looks like is so irritating. This black and white thinking that some people develop in witchcraft makes no sense to me. Isn't the point of this practice the exact opposite of dogma? Why wouldn't I question what is being fed to me if it doesn't feel right to me? Anyway loved the video, you put into words a lot of the things that rub me the wrong way too 😂
Oh my goddess, the way people always think they need to give the 'Big Bad Loki' warning. 🙄 People on the forums were literally salivating and falling over themselves to tell me to reconsider working with Hel because Loki is a possessive, protective dad who would cause trouble for me. I dunno if that was just projection or what? But Loki hasn't caused me even 5 minutes of trouble in the last 13 years of working with Hel. 😅😅
@kelly-annmaddox he's the chillest deity I've ever worked with! Never seemed possessive to me either, if anything I get pride from him when I work with Hel ❤️ Hel is doing her own thing she doesn't need her dad protecting her haha
I remember when I was a teenage super conservative Christian and this girl I'd just met like a day before started telling me she was a witch and her brother was a warlock and a bunch of details about their practice. I'm still so proud of myself for holding it together and not acting like a prudish weirdo lol. I genuinely hope she doesn't look back on that and cringe. My biggest cringe moment is that time I told my friend I had a huge crush on that I'd done a spell to bring us together. It REALLY freaked him out. Very dumb. Don't do that.
I totally get you on the over-sharing. It took a few inappropriate shares about successful spells before I really understood 'to know, to will, to dare and to keep silent' !
Thank you so much for being so open about your personal experiences and mistakes. It makes me feel more human and able to move on from my own cringey moments that have really affected my ability to practice. And just while I’ve got the book open next to me, thank you for giving me permission to follow my nonsensical instincts. Rebel Witch is giving me a new lease of life even as a seasoned witch and allowing me to connect with my inner child. I’m so glad I found you.
my biggest ones? 1) the word "narcissist" (except for people who actually have npd talking about their experiences), and generally using psychological terms when you could just say "a person who abused me" or "a person who behaved poorly" 2) the word "quantum" used in any context other than actual quantum theory (not that you have to be a scientist to be interested in quantum theory, but if you're not talking about science then plsss don't use "quantum" as if using a random science word makes your magic more legit) 3) pseudo-history and pseudo-archaeology - no, not every christian tradition was stolen from paganism... for example.
All I can think of with cringe 2, is the fact that if that was still going on today, I'd have been dragged in for trial A LOT!!! There are way too many experiences I've had even in this life, where people accuse me of putting a spell on them, because they can't take ownership of their own manifested misfortune.
I was physically cringing while you were describing those tarot “teaching” moments. I skip past those TikToks every time! They’re so literal & it just makes me wonder how much time they’ve actually spent doing every day readings before proclaiming themselves a Tarot Teacher 😬😬😬
Right?! The cringe is deeply physical. 😆 Like, I need a nap after cringing that hard. 🥱 No judgement to anyone who wants to read the cards in whatever fashion they see fit. But to TEACH it like that, with so much self-righteousness, is such a hard no.
#7 -- beautiful explanation! The world is full of broken and corrupt systems are run by broken and corrupt people and those systems do great harm to those they're actually supposed to help. When someone is denied justice they should have received and were even harmed because the system or people in it are twisted, flawed, and unethical, turning to magical means for restorative justice is all that's left. This was definitely my favorite section in the video 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Hello there I'm a new fan in the last 24 hours. I've had your vid on my watch later for a while and finally had a moment today. I really love your videos thank you!
Hehe, it is great to look at cringe in a shadow work context. Both in terms of why something makes you cringe and also in terms of any worries you have that people might be cringing at you. Cringe has been so weaponised against people who are trying to be their authentic selves. It can make people scared to be honest. (I almost ended up not making this video for that very reason - I don't want to make people feel that way.) But in the end I just hope people know I am just having fun, for the most part.
Definitely relate to a handful of these. I’m glad you said something about the “granddaughters of…” merch/meme because I never liked it either. Couldn’t say why. I think your reasons resound with me, and you touched on the very gendered thinking of the subject too. Misogyny is a real problem, but I tend to clam up/unfollow when I get the feeling that certain public witches only care about women when trans people, NB people, and men exist in the witchy space as well.
I love listening to you rant! Could listen all day, in fact, I think I will! Time to binge your content 😁 but seriously, you are so articulate and hilarious and lovely 🥰 thank you for the amazing content✨
I just want to say thank you for always speaking on the Genocide of the Palestinian people. No 10 is a big cringe for me. It shows you are not willing to speak against human abuses because of financial and/or social status. It’s wishy washy & shows a lack of integrity - whichever position you take on the issue. Thanks again ❤
I definitely feel the cringe of telling people about my practice/spirituality in my early days. Because this attracted insincere people. I look back & think I was so innocent & naive. I was part of the late 90’s “witch wave” where I discovered paganism & witchcraft. So I was in this mindset that it was something everybody would respect or be interested in tarot & magic etc. I would talk to anybody that asked without hesitation & would even do ritual in public without filter - not for attention just out of feeling “free” to express. Unfortunately, it attracted unwanted attention. I cringe thinking about it but at the same time I have a fondness towards my younger self for being brave to explore spirituality and trust what I was experiencing.
I did a banishing on my friends abusive boyfriend (she had asked me for some type of help) and a few days later he was picked up by cops who where in the area for a completely different reason. She didn’t know I did a spell but she was telling me the details and she was quite shocked by how it all played out. So I will take the credit. Lol. I’ve honestly only done very few spells. Banishings must be potent though.
Thanks for posting this as these are things I’m cringe of also. As a eitch myself and a tarot reader I have similar stories that I could go on for hours. This was extremely enjoyable to watch!
Can’t believe they actually thought witches could fly 🤦🏻♀️ I don’t even ask other witches anything anymore. They are kind of rude especially to beginners ugh. Ur hair is cute ❤ idk the cards that well yet but I do know the fool mostly and that did kind of make me cringe lol
Preach, girl, preach! I can't believe I've only just stumbled across your channel. I've been eating up your Vibing With series. Your videos are so juicy and satisfying like a full course meal when so much other tarot content I've seen on youtube feels terribly reductionist, trying to cram everything about a card into the space of ten minutes or less. Granted, I could have just been looking in the wrong places. I wholeheartedly appreciate how much time you dedicate to go over the nuances of each card and I can't wait to see what you have to say about the rest!
One of the things that I see in witchcraft books primarily in Wiccan books they talk about never charging someone for a tarot reading or crystal reading if you're another witch if you're somebody that's not not in the community and they're asking for it they are supposed to pay you these are the old witchcraft books I don't know about the newer ones because I haven't read any of the beginner books for a long time that might be why and maybe they're revamping books to say that you can't charge somebody for giving them a reading and yeah I can see why that would make you cringe if you're giving a reading to somebody you are using your energy it's only fair that you asked for money for it unless you feel like you want to give it to them for free
@@kelly-annmaddox oh yes! If mighty Boosh was a clip I would’ve lost it! 😂😂😂 great vid and I agree with everything you said. Love you and can’t wait for our date soon. Come to Cali dammit!! lol ❤️❤️❤️
"You're from England, why do you all love the royal family?" - such a British problem! No hun, we're not all monarchist gammons, don't get it twisted 😅
‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️ i feel like we al have at least one of these and mine is the overly explaining / sometime patronizing one, and i'm working on it, but VERY VERY few things will make me go into that mode than the overly literal card meanings / "this is a wholly bad card" / "this is a wholly good card" (although i think there are more less nuancedly good cards than less nuancedly bad cards, every card has positive and negative elements), anyway, that shit sets me off and i'm working on it, but the "death card means literally dying and nothing else" / "justice is the legal system" / "king of pentacles is a billionaire businessman" NONSENSE sets me off af lol, it's a PET PEEVE of mine, my TOP EXTREME ISSUE NOT JUST CRINGE is when people are so ignorant they think there's "right wing" witchcraft, or complacent witchcraft, witches have ALWAYS fought oppression and fought for liberation, that is the JOB, anyway AMAZING video as always
Me: I have read tarot and cards for 50 years. Karen: Oh, those cards are of the DEVIL!!! Me: Most common people believe that...I mean, that's a common belief.
You are a beautiful human being and soul Kelly-Ann thank you for sharing and posting this. Thank you for being true to you. And being 💯 percent real and genuinely you. Bless you and all that you do!!! Thank you 🙏 so much ❤ gosh girl I sooooo…needed to hear this 🤘🏽🤘🏽
I recently had a cringe moment where a girl wanted me to do a cord cutting ✂️ for her between her and her ex and I told her no I simply didn't feel comfortable about doing it for her.because I didn't have any connection to her ex I don't even know him and I just refused
Yeah, this one made me cringe hard when it started making the rounds. I’m never going to tell someone what to call themselves, but what the heck was wrong with “newbie” or “seeker”? 😬
Sometimes new souls want to feel deeply relevant while at the same time knowing they have no confidence in themselves. They are seeking to take the confidence or power from others they know HAVE IT and feel very uneasy about those they fear. Great presentation! Respect!
The granddaughters thing, I've always read it more as a metaphor than referring to actual witches and the trials. I do agree with your takes with it being insensitive from the witch perspective, but I can also see it as a feminist saying in the sense that we're never going to stop fighting the patriarchy sort of. The burning is giving in and internalising... Don't know if that makes sense though 😅
Kelly-Ann!!!!! First of all, you look like an anime character today and I LIVE for that look. ♥️♥️ Thank you for this video by the way! The parts about "we are the grand daughters of the witches you couldn't burn" and bad Tarot teachers really freaking stroke a cord with me, hahaha. I cannot wait for your second book to come out. And btw... It is because of you that I am the Tarot reader that I am. I will forever be so grateful. The butterfly effect is powerful and it's real. And if that ain't magic, I don't know what it is .. Thank you . ❤
I definitely cringe at all the bad tarot readers out there even before I was a witch I dabbled in tarot cards there's so much more to most of the cards that what is the word of the name is
Right now, my witchy cringe is tiktokd of people telling others how to witch and that others are doing doing it wrong. Not considering or knowing the others' personal Gnosis or traditions. Also, people who are on tiktok selling scanned pages from their family book of shadows have been passed down for 100s of years. (When you can tell that it is an art project that person has created )
This is personal to me. Not attacking anyone. Crystals are cringe for me. Whether you're a witch or not, we are all stewards of our planet. I'm not sure how pillaging our earth of non-renewable gems is helpful or healing. There are several gemstone shows at the convention center and the amount of crystals there is astounding.
I understand your point, I think it's a decent stance however, if we are stewards of the land then they means we can't pillage for metals..which we use in a lot of things. Which metals have more of a use than crystals...except for clear quartz.
I very much hear you. I purchased crystals years ago before the ecological impact ever occurred to me. I have kept them and I treasure them so much but I am clued up on the massive damage caused by the industry now and I act accordingly.
@@teslagoth9401Of course I'm pillaging it, but I don't wanna pillage it more than I already am by being here. 😅 I don't think refraining from unnecessary consumption is saying that you're not harming the planet in ways you can't control.
Even with my minimal practice, I feel a lot of this, haha. I've experienced, when trying to explain my relationship, experiences, and feelings about my deity, someone assuming I was defining the way things worked or should work for everyone, when in reality, it's very personal to me! I don't think all relationships with deities work that way, and I don't even think everyone's relationship with my particular one work the same. Maybe it's a factor of so many prominent faiths having specific ideas about the true way to revere their particular divinities, I dunno 😵💫
I'm Australian, so always get the drunken sports fan stereotype abroad, I rarely drink and I'm not interested in sports. This was an enjoyable video. I remember in my early 20s when I was first going down the spiritual path some of the stuff I said to "regular" people and how it makes me cringe now!
Hahaha! I was cringing at myself watching this! 😂 I'm sure somewhere in the archives of my early social media I still have the 'granddaughters' meme somewhere 🫠. I'm big on showing my workings though (as in primary school maths) so it can stay as a cautionary tale lol. I also voted for Brexit (don't hate me 😬) because there was a whole period somewhere in the middle there, where I was about as programmed as it gets! The last decade has been a STEEP learning curve for me 😅. Great vid, as always 😘
I don't judge you. A couple of my absolute closest loved ones voted for Brexit and were deep into the propaganda. Their personal story arcs are amongst the most interesting that I have heard.
48:24 my cringe is when a witch says something that makes me feel like they don’t believe in magic at all. Like they think it’s just a psychological boost. Pushing the idea that magic WONT work if you don’t “act in accord”… I think acting in accord is important because you don’t want to be acting AGAINST your own magic, because our mundane acts also produce energy to the universe, but imo real magic WORKS even if you don’t match it on the material plane. Like if you do a banishing spell… you don’t do anything you wait for it to work. If you do a spell to draw love, it helps if you are actively dating but I dont think it’s required. Many people meet their true love when they aren’t looking. I’ve heard people outright say “it won’t work if you don,t do these mundane things,” and to me that’s saying… it just doesn’t work. That’s not a person who truly believes in magic imo or understands how it works (manipulating energy, correspondences, etc). And they just think its a playful confidence boost.
This is such an interesting comment. You have a really good point here. And, like, some witches dooo actually just think magick is a playful confidence boost in the sense that they don't believe there is an energetic element to it. But they should just say so. For some witches, magick is purely self-transformative psychodrama. Perhaps some of the witches who feel that way don't even KNOW they do. I am in the same boat as you. I believe it works but I believe it can potentially be hindered by too many counterproductive actions.
I am not a witch any more, but I still enjoy your videos from time to time. However, I do resonate with one you said specifically. I love Tricksters, but everyone always talks negatively about them, and says to stay away from them, so it is this patronising feel people give off when talking about different deities or different entities in pantheons. But, I believe if you have a belief in the spiritual sense, it could manifest a lot more easily, so if you believe a Trickster is evil, that evil will manifest for you, if you believe they won't hurt you, that will manifest too, Loki and Eshu and Hermes have been nothing but amazing for me. I have even had some experiences with the Egyptian "demon" Apep that were positive. It is always to me, about your mindset and beliefs. If a deity is evil to you, it could easily manifest that way to you as your pre conceived notions of that specific deity not only helps create the situation of what you feel in yourself about the deity and will tar the whole experience, but also seems, from my standpoint, to create a sort of "reality" behind that belief. If you believe something will be evil, would you be shocked if it turned out they were "evil" to you?? It is how you thought, how you believed. And to me, that is the key. If you believe Loki is evil, he will be evil to you and maybe you will attribute things that have happened during the day to him, and think of them as evil, but also, you might have a malicious dream about Loki too, or feel a sort of maliciousness from Loki's presence if he does manifest for you. Everything is of the mind... The mind can easily warp things and make you believe something that just isn't real reality due to your perceptions... So, knowing everything is of the mind, it really ticks me off when people patronise me or others for liking Tricksters, Tricksters they see as evil.
Loved so much about this list of ugh. "the gift should be given for free" just SENT me. I learned (the hard way lol) the complete opposite of that. Always "cross my palm with silver" as the saying goes (metaphorically or literally). My time, worth, energy, and gifts should be remunerated. As should those of others. When I felt compelled, and was asked and basically shamed repeatedly, to just give and do and give and do and give.... just drained the life right out of me.
I divulged to my ex friend that I bought dried sunflower petals from Greece for a summer solstice because I wanted to connect to something from Greece since I work with Greek deities. I knew that they were not going to get here in time so I ordered a small pack on Amazon. She blew up on me saying that I'm not a real witch or a pagan the Gods especially Hecate (I don't work with Hecate) would approve this etc. I said my peace to her and blocked her. Then about a week after, the place where I ordered from refunded me my money because of reasons...so it never came..so the fight could have never happened. However, I am glad that it did because I was starting to hope something would happen between us to where we were no longer friends...she was getting to be too much for me. I did a fiery wall of protection just in case. The first time I heard "We are the granddaughters of the witches you couldn't burn" I thought it was neat but then the second time I heard it it felt off 😂 I know why it felt off the second time I heard it. Thank you for bringing up the men. I am learning to choose my battles with people who do not agree. About 3 years ago my parents were in the hospital, I went to go visit them. I visited my Dad first then my Mom. While I was with my Mom my aunt Barbara arrived to visit both of them. My aunt said that when we are done we needed to talk. We left my Mom's room and she said that my Dad told her that I was a witch..which made me upset. So we had a polite debate in the hallway. That year for my birthday and Christmas I got Christian stuff. But now, she has mostly accepted it and accepted that I'm pagan too. I feel like their is going to be more fake spiritual people to get into people's pants mostly because of the ✨astrology girlies✨ and angel number girlies becoming popular online. Does the guy actually believe in that or does he know that you are into it and will send you a message at 11:11 tricking you into thinking it's a sign? Yeah, I don't like the patronizing. I saw a tiktok live where a woman was doing tarot readings and she asked the question once shuffle for like 3 seconds pull the card out without looking at the card and say yes or no, put the card back and repeat. To me, you can't connect to a person's energy in like 2 seconds get an answer then repeat that dozens of times. Ugh yes! I can't stand witches who shame others who charge their services...like SORRY we live in a capitalistic society!!!!
Another brilliant video! I agree with you on so many of the cringes. My biggest cringe is telling others how to practice. It may not have worked for you but that doesn't mean it won't work for someone else. I think this has gotten worse with social media. A witch may be something i don't agree with i just move on. I don't feel the need to shame. FREE PALESTINE 🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸
Yes, the "We are the granddaughters" makes me so mad. Same with things referencing Salem and the witch trials ("est. 1692" is really popular to put on things). None of those people were witches. That's the point - these were huge moments of human rights atrocities! Stop using them for an aesthetic!
Hexing and Cursing is a matter of accepting responsibility. You know there can be legitimate repercussions. So you only act/react, knowing that your actions will have a response. It's a tough decision. Sometimes necessary, but always a decision made mindfully (hopefully).
So excited for the workshop on Sunday! You’re definitely not alone in cringing at emphatic and reductive tarot teachers haha I made a t-shirt to wear for a pride march years ago that said something about being the children of the witches they couldn’t burn etc, I think at the time it felt like as a queer gnc disabled etc person with a long family history of madness and autism it felt like quite a resonant statement, but it does feel a bit cringe now. The meme/merchification/whitewashing of such a brutal part of history is very gross and I wouldn’t want to be part of that now.
The cringe with card readers I’ve felt a lot I don’t even watch them anymore I stick with my one person who always feels like she’s speaking directly to me and my own readings. The cringe is real. You’re 1000% I’ve clicked off so fast so many times I cackled when you said the angry part. It’s so true. I agree with all of what you said really. My cringe is no matter how many times I’ve explained how magic isn’t like a Harry Potter film and that’s still expected anyways. It’s something I just have to accept. lol no hard feelings to them of course
Diplomatic tone is probably what I'm missing. I guess i think it is obvious that I'm speaking from my perspective and logic, and maybe it might help them. Like recently, someone mentioned that they made an astrological mistake that is making them experience duress. I offered something that was meant to help them find, or re-find, their Universe-given alignment or center, no matter the astrological forces. Maybe i talk like I'm to familiar with anyone, expecting to hold a dialogue. Maybe I'm being manipulative, trying to induce a dialogue.
No. I'm saying you pointed out that I could've been a little more sensitive in how approached his predicament. I've gotten no indication that he was offended by my words, but I think I may have come across as making his view of astrology as wrong. Now that I think about it, I presumed to know his view of astrology by his one post. I should thank you for your post, for making me think about my tone. It is probably a big element in my being rather alone (among other character traits).
@@Infinitesimal-ho7it Ahh, I see what you mean. Some people are naturally more blunt and less 'flowery' in their language. In fact some entire cultures are like that. (The Dutch are one that comes to mind.) I know that it's not inherently bad, but it just grates on me. Perhaps for blunt people, it's useful to be reminded that they have options with language, to make it sound more polite, I guess. It helps them to get their point across without ruffling feathers. 😍
@@Infinitesimal-ho7it This can certainly be a reason for differences in communication style and comprehension. 🫂💛 This is why it's important for everyone to be kind and learn about the spectrum. Lots of people really don't mean to be rude. I hope you're ok and that you can have access to the means of diagnosis if that's what you want. X
Yeah, I find Rule of Three fine for personal use, but it tends to be one of things that gets thrown at people who don't practice it, as a method of control or a shaming tactic. Not cute.
@@kelly-annmaddox I definitely believe signs and the like can come in 3s but yea I can't help but cringe when I see people saying, "oh remember the rule of 3 blah blah blah."
I interpreted the saying like the best witches have been successful in escaping from being burned, and there's a power in that. "We are still here!" -Matrix & Hardcore never dies style. Weeds are amazing. That the saying was pointing in the direction of that kind of power.
Isn't that.. distasteful? To say, 'The weaker people burned?' 😬 I dunno. I'm not into that, personally, but that's just me. Not saying I am right or wrong. But that would be like saying that the men who came back from the 2nd world war were stronger and more worthy of glory than those who died, or something.
@kelly-annmaddox Oh, absolutely, I don't like the saying, it was just the only way I could make sense of it. Trying to come up with reasons why I think it could mean something to anyone else.
The example with The Fool really pinpoints an issue with those kinds of at-face-value readings. Some people will talk about the character depictions as a specific personality when really they're more like the negative space in a black and white print. These figures are parts of a concept, they're not "people". The character isn't the whole card.
One thing I didn't add in my critique of the 'witches you couldn't burn' slogan is that witch-hunts are a contemporary phenomenon occurring globally, with notable occurrences in Sub-Saharan Africa, India, Nepal, and Papua New Guinea. There's a lack of sensitivity towards that fact, I think. Sadly, witch panic is not a thing of the past.
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There's so much to hate about that slogan. I'll add two more:
1) Even assuming that it was true that only witches were burned, it's statistically more likely that you're the grandchild of one of the executioners and not an escapee.
2) JK Rowling seems to love that damn slogan, so it blows chunks by association.
@1980rlquinn Not sure about the first one.. There weren't THAT many executioners. 😅 Or maybe you meaning something less literal?
As for the second point, ugh, JK is just such a fucking loser.
I also cringe at the idea that the “weaker” witches were the ones who succumbed to the trials, while some superior specimens went on to reproduce sacred lines that are obviously today’s witches..
My number one witchcraft cringe is prosperity magick as a main shtick. There's nothing wrong with spells for material gain, but when I see people selling their craft in exactly the same way as a MLM or get-rich-quick advert, it *really* turns me sour.
Absolutely agreed on the "We are the granddaughters..." cringe. Has always felt icky to me, for the exact same reasons you expressed.
Another big cringe for me personally is the tendency to have a very.. grandiose past life? Like how it seems everyone was Cleopatra or a Priestess of Avalon or some kind of Oracle of Delphi. Of course to each their own but it feels a little self aggrandizing.
Haha, omg yeah, so many people have told me how hard they roll their eyes when a spiritual teacher was previously Cleopatra. Like, of course, naturally. 😄 No one was ever a lowly farmer.
Lol this I love this comment. very prevalent among African spiritual girlies how grand and powerful the previous life was...it has to do with us romanticizing our history which is understandable but stilllll...
Yes! I mean there can only be so many reincarnations of Cleopatra and why would any goddess come back in human form. Lol
@@yinze0089Cleo was a queen (unless you're referring to something else) but yeah, it's unlikely that a metric shit-tonne of spiritual women were her in a past life Hehe x
@@kelly-annmaddox yes. I was referring to all the queens and goddesses. I'm happy just being me.
I cringe when people complain that someone charges too much for a tarot reading. It’s like they can charge whatever they want, you don’t have to buy a reading from THAT reader but if you do, you pay THEIR prices. If you want to pay less find someone who charges what you want to pay.
I really don't like it when people tell me I charge too much. It's always back-handed too. 'I would LOVE to be able to work with you but you just charge too much.' Like, I am an award-winning Tarot reader and author and I have put 700 free videos out online, and you don't think I should be able to, like, eat? 🤔 I have also ALWAYS copped shit for having a Patreon and for selling courses. There have been plenty of people who have been blocked on my socials for having a lot to say about me putting things behind a paywall. Those people think my food and rent money just falls into my hands from the fucking sky. 🤣
I casually mentioned that i did tarot to a new friend and she put her hands over her ears and said "no, no, no, no ,nooo, i can't hear this " I was too shocked to even respond! I've never seen her again.
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About the whole professional witch bit - have the people who say there should not be paid for their service never read a fairytale or listened to the old stories? Those are filled with witches getting paid and/or the consequences of not doing so.
binding is an important tool, particularly in situations of stalking, exes, etc. because there are a lot of situations where the legal system/police etc. cannot or will not help, or could make things worse. things that don't quite rise to a legal level but still create large issues in your life, things like that. totally agree with you that it's a position of privilege to moralize against it, and it's a tool I would not want to write off, particularly as it's often a defensive rather than aggressive action. I haven't done a lot of hexing, but again, you never know where you might find yourself, and you certainly don't know where others find themselves. caution is good, prohibition not so much.
As a research scientist who has a PhD (and a sorcerer too) I apologise on behalf of that insufferable woman who attempted to belittle your practice, we don't claim her. I'd like to think attitudes are changing because in my company of scientists there are several who are openly religious and no one has a bad word to say about them, it's a very respectful atmosphere and as adults we just know that everyone's views are their own and what you believe metaphysically doesn't impact on your knowledge and skill as a scientist.
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I also find it cringe when people say that a love spell will cause someone to get assaulted by an obsessed magically drugged person. Like one I don’t think the universe would ever confuse love for r@pe or obsession…. If it won’t work because of personal free will then it won’t work or maybe it will backfire- but not that way.
Haha, wow yeah. Those people watched The Craft too many times as teenagers. 😉
I did a sketch of a fool tarot card based on the Beatles song- The fool in the hill. Which I always felt it was like someone who knew deep wisdom but was seen as a fool by people with.. no vision.
So many excellent points! I studied the witch trials at university and I legitimately cringe every time someone refers to it as 'the burning times'.
😅 Oh gods, no. Bless you.
Do you let it go? Or do you strive to educate? 🤔
@@kelly-annmaddox Sometimes it's in witchy books so I definitely ignore it then! If it's online then I just politely drop in a few facts. I try to avoid sounding patronising 😂.
@@asimplealtar Not in the witchy books. 🤦🏻♀️😅 Ouch.
@@asimplealtar Thank you for your service when you can gently drop some facts.
I think that your section on the Witchcraft Trials etc. should be a whole video on its own. So much stuff on this one is great though, and thoroughly enjoyed it, thank you..
That's a great idea. I will make it into a Quick Bite episode at some point. X
What makes me cringe is when "spiritual" people insist that I should love everyone and do so unconditionally...that's unrealistic and toxic to me. I believe that I don't owe love to my abusers and actually one of the exes who manipulated me and cheated on me used to use the concept of spiritual love as a way to keep me around. I later realized that I just lacked self-respect and healthy boundaries at the time. Not saying this is the case for everyone who's been cheated on or abused or manipulated, but it was for me. The whole spiritual love crap used to make me go for broken people because I thought it was my "duty" to love them until they got better....except they would just get worse and use it as an excuse to be abusive. Nowadays, I love my family, my friends, and my pets. Everyone else gets basic human respect and definitely not all the special privileges that come with love!
Oh this is the epitome of cringe for sure.
Kelly-Ann I LOVE your hair here! 🤩
🤭😍🥰 Aww thanks so much, angel x
It’s really so cute!!
It's giving Jude Duarte (cruel prince series) vibes. Love it!❤
@@KnottyHookersHollow Hehe oh yeah!
Reading Justice as “someone’s going to take you to court” is so fucking funny 😭
Presumably to this person pulling the Fool next means your lawyer will be a silly man in tights and then the Sun means to look directly into it where you’ll see the teletubby baby smiling down at you.
@RachaelStephen Haha, and then The Tower comes up and it blatantly means you need some urgent house repairs.
SKSKDDD made me laugh out loud omgg😭😭
I work with Loki and nothing makes me cringe more than telling someone I work with Loki and them saying 'oh be careful he's X and causes problems' like?? I've been working with him for 13 years I don't need you to tell me what my deity is and isn't. I'll also add that I met a tarot reader in uni who told me that if I didn't 'knock on my deck' before starting a reading to dispel bad energy I was 'reading wrong'. The assumption that I don't know what I'm doing without even asking me what my practice looks like is so irritating. This black and white thinking that some people develop in witchcraft makes no sense to me. Isn't the point of this practice the exact opposite of dogma? Why wouldn't I question what is being fed to me if it doesn't feel right to me? Anyway loved the video, you put into words a lot of the things that rub me the wrong way too 😂
Oh my goddess, the way people always think they need to give the 'Big Bad Loki' warning. 🙄 People on the forums were literally salivating and falling over themselves to tell me to reconsider working with Hel because Loki is a possessive, protective dad who would cause trouble for me. I dunno if that was just projection or what? But Loki hasn't caused me even 5 minutes of trouble in the last 13 years of working with Hel. 😅😅
@kelly-annmaddox he's the chillest deity I've ever worked with! Never seemed possessive to me either, if anything I get pride from him when I work with Hel ❤️ Hel is doing her own thing she doesn't need her dad protecting her haha
I remember when I was a teenage super conservative Christian and this girl I'd just met like a day before started telling me she was a witch and her brother was a warlock and a bunch of details about their practice.
I'm still so proud of myself for holding it together and not acting like a prudish weirdo lol. I genuinely hope she doesn't look back on that and cringe.
My biggest cringe moment is that time I told my friend I had a huge crush on that I'd done a spell to bring us together. It REALLY freaked him out. Very dumb. Don't do that.
I love that you held it together. ❤ You were one of the good ones.
And thank you for sitting with me on the witchy oversharing bench. 😂🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
It's nice to hear about cringe and relate because everyone feels it even in situations we don't want to
I totally get you on the over-sharing. It took a few inappropriate shares about successful spells before I really understood 'to know, to will, to dare and to keep silent' !
Yesss, for sure, that last one takes a while. 😄🫠❤
Thank you so much for being so open about your personal experiences and mistakes. It makes me feel more human and able to move on from my own cringey moments that have really affected my ability to practice.
And just while I’ve got the book open next to me, thank you for giving me permission to follow my nonsensical instincts. Rebel Witch is giving me a new lease of life even as a seasoned witch and allowing me to connect with my inner child. I’m so glad I found you.
Thank you so much for watching and for your gorgeous words about my book. I really appreciate you ❤
my biggest ones?
1) the word "narcissist" (except for people who actually have npd talking about their experiences), and generally using psychological terms when you could just say "a person who abused me" or "a person who behaved poorly"
2) the word "quantum" used in any context other than actual quantum theory (not that you have to be a scientist to be interested in quantum theory, but if you're not talking about science then plsss don't use "quantum" as if using a random science word makes your magic more legit)
3) pseudo-history and pseudo-archaeology - no, not every christian tradition was stolen from paganism... for example.
All I can think of with cringe 2, is the fact that if that was still going on today, I'd have been dragged in for trial A LOT!!! There are way too many experiences I've had even in this life, where people accuse me of putting a spell on them, because they can't take ownership of their own manifested misfortune.
I was physically cringing while you were describing those tarot “teaching” moments. I skip past those TikToks every time! They’re so literal & it just makes me wonder how much time they’ve actually spent doing every day readings before proclaiming themselves a Tarot Teacher 😬😬😬
Right?! The cringe is deeply physical. 😆 Like, I need a nap after cringing that hard. 🥱 No judgement to anyone who wants to read the cards in whatever fashion they see fit. But to TEACH it like that, with so much self-righteousness, is such a hard no.
#7 -- beautiful explanation! The world is full of broken and corrupt systems are run by broken and corrupt people and those systems do great harm to those they're actually supposed to help. When someone is denied justice they should have received and were even harmed because the system or people in it are twisted, flawed, and unethical, turning to magical means for restorative justice is all that's left.
This was definitely my favorite section in the video 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Hello there I'm a new fan in the last 24 hours. I've had your vid on my watch later for a while and finally had a moment today. I really love your videos thank you!
Welcome aboard! 🥰🥰🥰
Incredible honesty. Most people don't talk about that kind of thing.
Hehe, I find it very hard to shut up tbh.
Yes and so much yes, I feel this too to your number 9 public witch woes. ❤
Cringe is a great word to use for shadow work. I always wonder why something can make me feel like that.
Hehe, it is great to look at cringe in a shadow work context. Both in terms of why something makes you cringe and also in terms of any worries you have that people might be cringing at you. Cringe has been so weaponised against people who are trying to be their authentic selves. It can make people scared to be honest. (I almost ended up not making this video for that very reason - I don't want to make people feel that way.) But in the end I just hope people know I am just having fun, for the most part.
@@kelly-annmaddox authenticity! Ofcourse. Very insightful, thanks. Off to journal.
It's great that you support a humanitarian cause. Love the pet names too!
Thanks, Poptart ❤
i have so many cringes and no more patience to express them tactfully😂
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Cringe is the ultimate transgression, being knowingly cringe is a revolutionary act, friction breeds innovation, be the biggest fool you know ❤
Definitely relate to a handful of these. I’m glad you said something about the “granddaughters of…” merch/meme because I never liked it either. Couldn’t say why. I think your reasons resound with me, and you touched on the very gendered thinking of the subject too. Misogyny is a real problem, but I tend to clam up/unfollow when I get the feeling that certain public witches only care about women when trans people, NB people, and men exist in the witchy space as well.
I love listening to you rant! Could listen all day, in fact, I think I will! Time to binge your content 😁 but seriously, you are so articulate and hilarious and lovely 🥰 thank you for the amazing content✨
@@breannaanglin2645 🤭🥰😍 Thank you darling!
I just want to say thank you for always speaking on the Genocide of the Palestinian people.
No 10 is a big cringe for me. It shows you are not willing to speak against human abuses because of financial and/or social status. It’s wishy washy & shows a lack of integrity - whichever position you take on the issue.
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I definitely feel the cringe of telling people about my practice/spirituality in my early days. Because this attracted insincere people. I look back & think I was so innocent & naive.
I was part of the late 90’s “witch wave” where I discovered paganism & witchcraft. So I was in this mindset that it was something everybody would respect or be interested in tarot & magic etc. I would talk to anybody that asked without hesitation & would even do ritual in public without filter - not for attention just out of feeling “free” to express. Unfortunately, it attracted unwanted attention.
I cringe thinking about it but at the same time I have a fondness towards my younger self for being brave to explore spirituality and trust what I was experiencing.
I did a banishing on my friends abusive boyfriend (she had asked me for some type of help) and a few days later he was picked up by cops who where in the area for a completely different reason. She didn’t know I did a spell but she was telling me the details and she was quite shocked by how it all played out. So I will take the credit. Lol. I’ve honestly only done very few spells. Banishings must be potent though.
Some witches are particularly good at defensive magick. 👌 ✨️💥 It's like a key skill. Well done. 🥰
Thanks for posting this as these are things I’m cringe of also. As a eitch myself and a tarot reader I have similar stories that I could go on for hours. This was extremely enjoyable to watch!
Ok, but look at that gorgeous hair! ✨
let me get some biscuits for this pipping hot tea
😍 Ahhh tell me what you think, babe x
I love the thumbnail for this video! Its adorable and makes me smile! 🥰
Loved this video so much I agree about with a lot of points you made here.
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Can’t believe they actually thought witches could fly 🤦🏻♀️ I don’t even ask other witches anything anymore. They are kind of rude especially to beginners ugh. Ur hair is cute ❤ idk the cards that well yet but I do know the fool mostly and that did kind of make me cringe lol
Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. And sometimes a weapon is the right tool for the job.
Love this. What a strong statement.
Preach, girl, preach! I can't believe I've only just stumbled across your channel. I've been eating up your Vibing With series. Your videos are so juicy and satisfying like a full course meal when so much other tarot content I've seen on youtube feels terribly reductionist, trying to cram everything about a card into the space of ten minutes or less. Granted, I could have just been looking in the wrong places. I wholeheartedly appreciate how much time you dedicate to go over the nuances of each card and I can't wait to see what you have to say about the rest!
Loved this so much!
One of the things that I see in witchcraft books primarily in Wiccan books they talk about never charging someone for a tarot reading or crystal reading if you're another witch if you're somebody that's not not in the community and they're asking for it they are supposed to pay you these are the old witchcraft books I don't know about the newer ones because I haven't read any of the beginner books for a long time that might be why and maybe they're revamping books to say that you can't charge somebody for giving them a reading and yeah I can see why that would make you cringe if you're giving a reading to somebody you are using your energy it's only fair that you asked for money for it unless you feel like you want to give it to them for free
Omg love the clips in between. Yass for the thick of it and Peter Capaldi 😂😂❤❤
Ok I LOVE that you know The Thick of It 😍😍😍
@@kelly-annmaddox oh yes! If mighty Boosh was a clip I would’ve lost it! 😂😂😂 great vid and I agree with everything you said. Love you and can’t wait for our date soon. Come to Cali dammit!! lol ❤️❤️❤️
@carliemichelle3110 Hehe, oh yesss, Mighty Boosh clips are defo being put in at some point. 😂 When I get to Cali you'll be my first visit. ❤
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"You're from England, why do you all love the royal family?" - such a British problem! No hun, we're not all monarchist gammons, don't get it twisted 😅
Omg thank you for number 2 darling. I’m so sick of seeing it everywhere still. lol ❤
I can't tell you how much I love this video. ❤ 🎉
😚 Thank you darling x
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i feel like we al have at least one of these and mine is the overly explaining / sometime patronizing one, and i'm working on it,
but VERY VERY few things will make me go into that mode than the overly literal card meanings / "this is a wholly bad card" / "this is a wholly good card" (although i think there are more less nuancedly good cards than less nuancedly bad cards, every card has positive and negative elements), anyway, that shit sets me off and i'm working on it,
but the "death card means literally dying and nothing else" / "justice is the legal system" / "king of pentacles is a billionaire businessman" NONSENSE sets me off af lol, it's a PET PEEVE of mine,
my TOP EXTREME ISSUE NOT JUST CRINGE is when people are so ignorant they think there's "right wing" witchcraft, or complacent witchcraft, witches have ALWAYS fought oppression and fought for liberation, that is the JOB,
anyway AMAZING video as always
Can you imagine saying to a doctor, “What makes YOU think that you can save lives.” 22:11
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Ooouu 'things that make me cringe' as possible shadow work prompts?!
I think discernment is the toughest lesson I've learned. Yes, silence can be a great deal of self care.
I love the hair accessories!!!
Thanks doll 😘
KAM has nailed the hair in this vid
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@@kelly-annmaddoxstill watching the video, the accuracy tho of “magic roundabout theme has started playing in my head” 😂😂
Me: I have read tarot and cards for 50 years.
Karen: Oh, those cards are of the DEVIL!!!
Me: Most common people believe that...I mean, that's a common belief.
Preach! 💜 I feel all of the things you talked about but especially the cardslinger things! 😬😅
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I I've never had that happen to me but I can see why that would make you cringe
You are a beautiful human being and soul Kelly-Ann thank you for sharing and posting this. Thank you for being true to you. And being 💯 percent real and genuinely you. Bless you and all that you do!!! Thank you 🙏 so much ❤ gosh girl I sooooo…needed to hear this 🤘🏽🤘🏽
Thank you, darling. ❤
I recently had a cringe moment where a girl wanted me to do a cord cutting ✂️ for her between her and her ex and I told her no I simply didn't feel comfortable about doing it for her.because I didn't have any connection to her ex I don't even know him and I just refused
It's very cool that she honoured your power enough to ask you, I think. But it's definitely your right to refuse and many witches would.
LOVE you hair and outfit for this vid. Chefs kiss 🤌
❤😚 Thanks darling
Adult women calling themselves 'baby witch' is the ultimate cringe.
It's silly and demeaning. Don't do that to yourself. Words matter.
Yeah, this one made me cringe hard when it started making the rounds. I’m never going to tell someone what to call themselves, but what the heck was wrong with “newbie” or “seeker”? 😬
@WilderGunn I called myself a noob witch lol
@@someonerandom256 lol, Noob gets the point across! 😄💚
Thank you! It's really cringe.
Sometimes new souls want to feel deeply relevant while at the same time knowing they have no confidence in themselves. They are seeking to take the confidence or power from others they know HAVE IT and feel very uneasy about those they fear. Great presentation! Respect!
I feel like the banishing story is something that would happen to me😂 I’m the oversharing queen
The Scientists who poo on the woo and the gatekeepers who tell you how it works are the same picture.
Yes I live to regret telling someone about a spell they could do!!!
The granddaughters thing, I've always read it more as a metaphor than referring to actual witches and the trials. I do agree with your takes with it being insensitive from the witch perspective, but I can also see it as a feminist saying in the sense that we're never going to stop fighting the patriarchy sort of. The burning is giving in and internalising... Don't know if that makes sense though 😅
Kelly-Ann!!!!! First of all, you look like an anime character today and I LIVE for that look. ♥️♥️ Thank you for this video by the way! The parts about "we are the grand daughters of the witches you couldn't burn" and bad Tarot teachers really freaking stroke a cord with me, hahaha. I cannot wait for your second book to come out. And btw... It is because of you that I am the Tarot reader that I am. I will forever be so grateful. The butterfly effect is powerful and it's real. And if that ain't magic, I don't know what it is .. Thank you . ❤
Ahahah! The tarot lady in the bar! I try to fill myself with compassion ❤
Thank you. Very helpful. ❤
I definitely cringe at all the bad tarot readers out there even before I was a witch I dabbled in tarot cards there's so much more to most of the cards that what is the word of the name is
in my opinion, one of the key reasons a witch is a witch is because that person is a nonconformist. it's about *not* being a follower.
Right now, my witchy cringe is tiktokd of people telling others how to witch and that others are doing doing it wrong. Not considering or knowing the others' personal Gnosis or traditions. Also, people who are on tiktok selling scanned pages from their family book of shadows have been passed down for 100s of years. (When you can tell that it is an art project that person has created )
Is it bad I would love to see you at a bar sparing with somone about witchy content who don't under stand what we do. My money is always on you KAM
OMFG I really wanna see these fake family grimoire pages hahaha 😂
@@NathansWayHehe, one day I will SNAP at one of these haughty bar bitches and when I do.. I promise to live stream it. 😆
@@kelly-annmaddoxI will send via discord (if I didn't block them)
This is personal to me. Not attacking anyone. Crystals are cringe for me. Whether you're a witch or not, we are all stewards of our planet. I'm not sure how pillaging our earth of non-renewable gems is helpful or healing. There are several gemstone shows at the convention center and the amount of crystals there is astounding.
I understand your point, I think it's a decent stance however, if we are stewards of the land then they means we can't pillage for metals..which we use in a lot of things. Which metals have more of a use than crystals...except for clear quartz.
I very much hear you. I purchased crystals years ago before the ecological impact ever occurred to me. I have kept them and I treasure them so much but I am clued up on the massive damage caused by the industry now and I act accordingly.
Humans just existing on this planet are pillaging it (probably unknowingly) on a daily basis
@@teslagoth9401Of course I'm pillaging it, but I don't wanna pillage it more than I already am by being here. 😅 I don't think refraining from unnecessary consumption is saying that you're not harming the planet in ways you can't control.
Yes, I totally agree at the 13 minutes mark, about the T-shirt quote. I never have liked that!
Even with my minimal practice, I feel a lot of this, haha. I've experienced, when trying to explain my relationship, experiences, and feelings about my deity, someone assuming I was defining the way things worked or should work for everyone, when in reality, it's very personal to me! I don't think all relationships with deities work that way, and I don't even think everyone's relationship with my particular one work the same. Maybe it's a factor of so many prominent faiths having specific ideas about the true way to revere their particular divinities, I dunno 😵💫
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Haha, but are you ready to CRINGE? 😅
@@kelly-annmaddox always!
I'm Australian, so always get the drunken sports fan stereotype abroad, I rarely drink and I'm not interested in sports. This was an enjoyable video. I remember in my early 20s when I was first going down the spiritual path some of the stuff I said to "regular" people and how it makes me cringe now!
Hahaha! I was cringing at myself watching this! 😂 I'm sure somewhere in the archives of my early social media I still have the 'granddaughters' meme somewhere 🫠. I'm big on showing my workings though (as in primary school maths) so it can stay as a cautionary tale lol. I also voted for Brexit (don't hate me 😬) because there was a whole period somewhere in the middle there, where I was about as programmed as it gets! The last decade has been a STEEP learning curve for me 😅. Great vid, as always 😘
I don't judge you. A couple of my absolute closest loved ones voted for Brexit and were deep into the propaganda. Their personal story arcs are amongst the most interesting that I have heard.
48:24 my cringe is when a witch says something that makes me feel like they don’t believe in magic at all. Like they think it’s just a psychological boost. Pushing the idea that magic WONT work if you don’t “act in accord”… I think acting in accord is important because you don’t want to be acting AGAINST your own magic, because our mundane acts also produce energy to the universe, but imo real magic WORKS even if you don’t match it on the material plane. Like if you do a banishing spell… you don’t do anything you wait for it to work. If you do a spell to draw love, it helps if you are actively dating but I dont think it’s required. Many people meet their true love when they aren’t looking. I’ve heard people outright say “it won’t work if you don,t do these mundane things,” and to me that’s saying… it just doesn’t work. That’s not a person who truly believes in magic imo or understands how it works (manipulating energy, correspondences, etc). And they just think its a playful confidence boost.
This is such an interesting comment. You have a really good point here. And, like, some witches dooo actually just think magick is a playful confidence boost in the sense that they don't believe there is an energetic element to it. But they should just say so. For some witches, magick is purely self-transformative psychodrama. Perhaps some of the witches who feel that way don't even KNOW they do.
I am in the same boat as you. I believe it works but I believe it can potentially be hindered by too many counterproductive actions.
Yes - preach! I loved your cringes and this video - giving a voice to all those cringeworthy moments! 💯👏
I am not a witch any more, but I still enjoy your videos from time to time. However, I do resonate with one you said specifically. I love Tricksters, but everyone always talks negatively about them, and says to stay away from them, so it is this patronising feel people give off when talking about different deities or different entities in pantheons.
But, I believe if you have a belief in the spiritual sense, it could manifest a lot more easily, so if you believe a Trickster is evil, that evil will manifest for you, if you believe they won't hurt you, that will manifest too, Loki and Eshu and Hermes have been nothing but amazing for me. I have even had some experiences with the Egyptian "demon" Apep that were positive.
It is always to me, about your mindset and beliefs. If a deity is evil to you, it could easily manifest that way to you as your pre conceived notions of that specific deity not only helps create the situation of what you feel in yourself about the deity and will tar the whole experience, but also seems, from my standpoint, to create a sort of "reality" behind that belief. If you believe something will be evil, would you be shocked if it turned out they were "evil" to you?? It is how you thought, how you believed. And to me, that is the key.
If you believe Loki is evil, he will be evil to you and maybe you will attribute things that have happened during the day to him, and think of them as evil, but also, you might have a malicious dream about Loki too, or feel a sort of maliciousness from Loki's presence if he does manifest for you.
Everything is of the mind...
The mind can easily warp things and make you believe something that just isn't real reality due to your perceptions...
So, knowing everything is of the mind, it really ticks me off when people patronise me or others for liking Tricksters, Tricksters they see as evil.
I love the trickster. Brier rabbit and bugs bunny are tricksters too.
Kelly-Ann.. You are Queen of the May... 🌸🌼🌸🌼 You look positively awesome.. the hair is everything ❤🌙
Thank you babe ❤ I was in a Spring/Summer mood 🌞
Loved so much about this list of ugh. "the gift should be given for free" just SENT me. I learned (the hard way lol) the complete opposite of that. Always "cross my palm with silver" as the saying goes (metaphorically or literally). My time, worth, energy, and gifts should be remunerated. As should those of others. When I felt compelled, and was asked and basically shamed repeatedly, to just give and do and give and do and give.... just drained the life right out of me.
I divulged to my ex friend that I bought dried sunflower petals from Greece for a summer solstice because I wanted to connect to something from Greece since I work with Greek deities. I knew that they were not going to get here in time so I ordered a small pack on Amazon. She blew up on me saying that I'm not a real witch or a pagan the Gods especially Hecate (I don't work with Hecate) would approve this etc. I said my peace to her and blocked her. Then about a week after, the place where I ordered from refunded me my money because of reasons...so it never came..so the fight could have never happened. However, I am glad that it did because I was starting to hope something would happen between us to where we were no longer friends...she was getting to be too much for me. I did a fiery wall of protection just in case.
The first time I heard "We are the granddaughters of the witches you couldn't burn" I thought it was neat but then the second time I heard it it felt off 😂 I know why it felt off the second time I heard it. Thank you for bringing up the men. I am learning to choose my battles with people who do not agree. About 3 years ago my parents were in the hospital, I went to go visit them. I visited my Dad first then my Mom. While I was with my Mom my aunt Barbara arrived to visit both of them. My aunt said that when we are done we needed to talk. We left my Mom's room and she said that my Dad told her that I was a witch..which made me upset. So we had a polite debate in the hallway. That year for my birthday and Christmas I got Christian stuff. But now, she has mostly accepted it and accepted that I'm pagan too.
I feel like their is going to be more fake spiritual people to get into people's pants mostly because of the ✨astrology girlies✨ and angel number girlies becoming popular online. Does the guy actually believe in that or does he know that you are into it and will send you a message at 11:11 tricking you into thinking it's a sign? Yeah, I don't like the patronizing. I saw a tiktok live where a woman was doing tarot readings and she asked the question once shuffle for like 3 seconds pull the card out without looking at the card and say yes or no, put the card back and repeat. To me, you can't connect to a person's energy in like 2 seconds get an answer then repeat that dozens of times. Ugh yes! I can't stand witches who shame others who charge their services...like SORRY we live in a capitalistic society!!!!
I enjoyed watching this so much! Please make a full video about shaming baneful witches! ✨✨✨🖤
Another brilliant video! I agree with you on so many of the cringes. My biggest cringe is telling others how to practice. It may not have worked for you but that doesn't mean it won't work for someone else. I think this has gotten worse with social media. A witch may be something i don't agree with i just move on. I don't feel the need to shame. FREE PALESTINE 🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸
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And really trying to connect the right energies, I have done this as my attempted being authentic lol❤
Yes, the "We are the granddaughters" makes me so mad. Same with things referencing Salem and the witch trials ("est. 1692" is really popular to put on things). None of those people were witches. That's the point - these were huge moments of human rights atrocities! Stop using them for an aesthetic!
Hexing and Cursing is a matter of accepting responsibility. You know there can be legitimate repercussions. So you only act/react, knowing that your actions will have a response. It's a tough decision. Sometimes necessary, but always a decision made mindfully (hopefully).
So excited for the workshop on Sunday! You’re definitely not alone in cringing at emphatic and reductive tarot teachers haha
I made a t-shirt to wear for a pride march years ago that said something about being the children of the witches they couldn’t burn etc, I think at the time it felt like as a queer gnc disabled etc person with a long family history of madness and autism it felt like quite a resonant statement, but it does feel a bit cringe now. The meme/merchification/whitewashing of such a brutal part of history is very gross and I wouldn’t want to be part of that now.
31:22 awee that bully was jealous of her all along
Hahahah factual!
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The cringe with card readers I’ve felt a lot I don’t even watch them anymore I stick with my one person who always feels like she’s speaking directly to me and my own readings. The cringe is real. You’re 1000% I’ve clicked off so fast so many times I cackled when you said the angry part. It’s so true. I agree with all of what you said really. My cringe is no matter how many times I’ve explained how magic isn’t like a Harry Potter film and that’s still expected anyways. It’s something I just have to accept. lol no hard feelings to them of course
Diplomatic tone is probably what I'm missing. I guess i think it is obvious that I'm speaking from my perspective and logic, and maybe it might help them.
Like recently, someone mentioned that they made an astrological mistake that is making them experience duress. I offered something that was meant to help them find, or re-find, their Universe-given alignment or center, no matter the astrological forces.
Maybe i talk like I'm to familiar with anyone, expecting to hold a dialogue. Maybe I'm being manipulative, trying to induce a dialogue.
Are you saying that the person you gave astro advice to took it the wrong way?
No. I'm saying you pointed out that I could've been a little more sensitive in how approached his predicament. I've gotten no indication that he was offended by my words, but I think I may have come across as making his view of astrology as wrong. Now that I think about it, I presumed to know his view of astrology by his one post.
I should thank you for your post, for making me think about my tone. It is probably a big element in my being rather alone (among other character traits).
@@Infinitesimal-ho7it Ahh, I see what you mean. Some people are naturally more blunt and less 'flowery' in their language. In fact some entire cultures are like that. (The Dutch are one that comes to mind.) I know that it's not inherently bad, but it just grates on me. Perhaps for blunt people, it's useful to be reminded that they have options with language, to make it sound more polite, I guess. It helps them to get their point across without ruffling feathers. 😍
@@kelly-annmaddox , maybe I'm on the spectrum. Sometimes I suspect it.
@@Infinitesimal-ho7it This can certainly be a reason for differences in communication style and comprehension. 🫂💛 This is why it's important for everyone to be kind and learn about the spectrum. Lots of people really don't mean to be rude. I hope you're ok and that you can have access to the means of diagnosis if that's what you want. X
Rule of 3 is a hard cringe for me 🤢
Yeah, I find Rule of Three fine for personal use, but it tends to be one of things that gets thrown at people who don't practice it, as a method of control or a shaming tactic. Not cute.
@@kelly-annmaddox I definitely believe signs and the like can come in 3s but yea I can't help but cringe when I see people saying, "oh remember the rule of 3 blah blah blah."
I interpreted the saying like the best witches have been successful in escaping from being burned, and there's a power in that. "We are still here!" -Matrix & Hardcore never dies style. Weeds are amazing. That the saying was pointing in the direction of that kind of power.
Isn't that.. distasteful? To say, 'The weaker people burned?' 😬 I dunno. I'm not into that, personally, but that's just me. Not saying I am right or wrong. But that would be like saying that the men who came back from the 2nd world war were stronger and more worthy of glory than those who died, or something.
@kelly-annmaddox Oh, absolutely, I don't like the saying, it was just the only way I could make sense of it. Trying to come up with reasons why I think it could mean something to anyone else.
@@kunstenaresprinses Ahh, I see. Yeah I think that mentality is in there somewhere, for sure.
The example with The Fool really pinpoints an issue with those kinds of at-face-value readings. Some people will talk about the character depictions as a specific personality when really they're more like the negative space in a black and white print. These figures are parts of a concept, they're not "people". The character isn't the whole card.