Hi Jennifer. Love your work. I often show your you tube clips in my DBT education groups. You are brilliant at explaining the skills. And it gives me some breathing space in a full day of teaching :) thanks for your work. I appreciate it.
This was a hard one for me. I often dissociate listening to these very helpful videos, but I have to repeat them a few times to absorb them fully. This video helped me realize why my legs literally felt like Jello and they gave out on me at work when an ex coworker (who had violently raped me years before) from an old job walked into my new job. I was cashiering and he walked in. I could barely breathe or see, my heart was racing, I assume I almost passed out, or maybe I did. I don't like thinking of my traumas, but I understand the necessity of processing these things, and doing the "inner work". Thank you so much for taking the time to make these videos. I share yours, and Dr. Fox's a lot. You are so appreciated. 🙏
Hi Rescue Lady, Thanks for your note and for sharing your experience. I bet a lot of people out there can relate! Although it was unpleasant, your body showed its intelligence by trying to quickly prepare you to mobilize your fight/flight defenses when a threatening person came into your job. While you cannot change what happened in the past, the good news is you can still find ways to manage your intense animal defenses and set healthy boundaries from an empowered place now. I'm glad that my videos might be helping you in this process. Best always,
@@jennifermayph.d.2761 Definitely. I'm a big believer in setting healthy bounderies, and I try to help younger people learn these lessons now too. That incident actually happened over 30 years ago, I was 17 at the time, and when he walked into my job, it was about 2 years later. I think I was upset he was just walking about, free to hurt more people, more than I feared him hurting me. I wasn't afraid of him, I was surrounded by coworkers and customers. I was upset that he was free, and that he walked into my job- like the audacity of this person... but I never reported it, so what could I expect?🤷♀️ I have a lot of guilt because of that, because who knows how many more he's victimized because he was never prosecuted. I know a lot of people relate, and it's so sad that they do. I know and accept all that happens to us are lessons to learn from, and they make us who we are. Thank you again. 😊
Wow! Again so helpful in so many ways - with a variety of people in my life as well as the workplace and helping me navigate different people and differences of opinions!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
That's a great question. I think that it's important to look at the whole picture the person is presenting, the whole context. Take note of your expectations as well. If you want and expect someone to be nice, you might miss out on clues that they are not so nice. Practice trusting your gut rather than overriding it. If you want more info about this, you can take a look at a video I made called, "Spotting Dangerous People Using Pre-Incident Indicators." There's also a Sensorimotor Psychotherapy video I made called "Neuroception and the Window of Tolerance" which talks about the concept of faulty neuroception. This is when we misperceive dangerous things/people as safe, and misperceive safe ones as dangerous. Hope that helps a little!
Yes, both sensing your body and setting boundaries can both be a challenge (not to mention dealing with hostile people). If you are interested in getting better at physically sensing your body, you may benefit from the Sensorimotor Psychotherapy video I have "10 - SP - Exploring Body Sensations." It offers a "sensation vocabulary" and there are a few exercises that are suggested that involve using movement and touch to increase sensation. (These are things you can practice on your own at a time when you feel safe and are not around hostile people.)
I work in a state psychiatric hospital on Long Island, NY. I used to do some private practice but I don’t do that now. I occasionally do lectures for local libraries that are free for members of the community. The TH-cam channel is just a hobby. 😊
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Excellent work on this video it's very well explained
Hi Jennifer. Love your work. I often show your you tube clips in my DBT education groups. You are brilliant at explaining the skills. And it gives me some breathing space in a full day of teaching :) thanks for your work. I appreciate it.
Thanks so much! Glad to be of help to you and your group! I appreciate your kind words. 🙏💕
Gods work my friend!
Great video 🙏🙏🙏🙏
This was a hard one for me. I often dissociate listening to these very helpful videos, but I have to repeat them a few times to absorb them fully. This video helped me realize why my legs literally felt like Jello and they gave out on me at work when an ex coworker (who had violently raped me years before) from an old job walked into my new job. I was cashiering and he walked in. I could barely breathe or see, my heart was racing, I assume I almost passed out, or maybe I did. I don't like thinking of my traumas, but I understand the necessity of processing these things, and doing the "inner work". Thank you so much for taking the time to make these videos. I share yours, and Dr. Fox's a lot. You are so appreciated. 🙏
Hi Rescue Lady,
Thanks for your note and for sharing your experience. I bet a lot of people out there can relate!
Although it was unpleasant, your body showed its intelligence by trying to quickly prepare you to mobilize your fight/flight defenses when a threatening person came into your job.
While you cannot change what happened in the past, the good news is you can still find ways to manage your intense animal defenses and set healthy boundaries from an empowered place now. I'm glad that my videos might be helping you in this process.
Best always,
@@jennifermayph.d.2761 Definitely. I'm a big believer in setting healthy bounderies, and I try to help younger people learn these lessons now too. That incident actually happened over 30 years ago, I was 17 at the time, and when he walked into my job, it was about 2 years later. I think I was upset he was just walking about, free to hurt more people, more than I feared him hurting me. I wasn't afraid of him, I was surrounded by coworkers and customers. I was upset that he was free, and that he walked into my job- like the audacity of this person... but I never reported it, so what could I expect?🤷♀️ I have a lot of guilt because of that, because who knows how many more he's victimized because he was never prosecuted. I know a lot of people relate, and it's so sad that they do. I know and accept all that happens to us are lessons to learn from, and they make us who we are. Thank you again. 😊
Wow! Again so helpful in so many ways - with a variety of people in my life as well as the workplace and helping me navigate different people and differences of opinions!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thanks! Glad to hear! 👍🏻
Thank you so much for all of your incredible work. I am so deeply grateful.
Awh, thanks so much. Thanks for watching! 🙏💕
What about manipulative people who use physical body language tactics ? I have gotten so fooled by these type of people’s body language .
That's a great question. I think that it's important to look at the whole picture the person is presenting, the whole context. Take note of your expectations as well. If you want and expect someone to be nice, you might miss out on clues that they are not so nice. Practice trusting your gut rather than overriding it.
If you want more info about this, you can take a look at a video I made called, "Spotting Dangerous People Using Pre-Incident Indicators."
There's also a Sensorimotor Psychotherapy video I made called "Neuroception and the Window of Tolerance" which talks about the concept of faulty neuroception. This is when we misperceive dangerous things/people as safe, and misperceive safe ones as dangerous.
Hope that helps a little!
I am not able to physically sense , thats the problem I have , mixed in with hostile people around me .
Yes, both sensing your body and setting boundaries can both be a challenge (not to mention dealing with hostile people).
If you are interested in getting better at physically sensing your body, you may benefit from the Sensorimotor Psychotherapy video I have "10 - SP - Exploring Body Sensations." It offers a "sensation vocabulary" and there are a few exercises that are suggested that involve using movement and touch to increase sensation. (These are things you can practice on your own at a time when you feel safe and are not around hostile people.)
Yet again, great information…. Do you have a Facebook group or web page?
Thanks! I don’t have a FB group or web page though.
@@jennifermayph.d.2761 do you have a service? Where do you operate?
I work in a state psychiatric hospital on Long Island, NY. I used to do some private practice but I don’t do that now. I occasionally do lectures for local libraries that are free for members of the community. The TH-cam channel is just a hobby. 😊