"What can happen if my trauma isn't treated?" ep.180

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  • This week licensed therapist Kati Morton discusses the long term effects of trauma, and what can happen if we never get treatment for it. She also explains why our mental health symptoms can get worse at night and why we can feel tired when we are depressed. She then shares why touch can be helpful and harmful in therapy and her stance on it. She later talks about why we can sometimes want to feel bad or do certain things for attention. This and so much more in this week’s episode!
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  • @TheBassetlover
    @TheBassetlover 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +78

    I started therapy 49 years after my father’s death in a car accident. 28 months of therapy was the best thing I ever did. Untreated childhood trauma and delayed grief brought my life to a standstill. Thankfully, I had a great therapist.

  • @jennyroth6583
    @jennyroth6583 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    I went into therapy at the age of 56 for a lot of serious trauma and issues, stayed in therapy for 6 years and it changed my life completely, it saved me and healed me, my life is SO much better

    • @PrivateUser737
      @PrivateUser737 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I'm just starting out and I'm 34. This is some scary stuff 😢

    • @watermelonwishes4193
      @watermelonwishes4193 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@PrivateUser737💙🙏💙 🤗

    • @johnmachesky4185
      @johnmachesky4185 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Just started at 69 from childhood.

    • @PrivateUser737
      @PrivateUser737 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I wish you all the best

    • @johnmachesky4185
      @johnmachesky4185 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@PrivateUser737 it certainly is, frightening but good at the same time

  • @hiesuk1985
    @hiesuk1985 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    I have C-PTSD and after trauma therapy a functional practicioner was my way out of severe digestive issued and a severely disrupted immune and hormone system when doctors could not help me anymore. I had food insensitivieties to the point where 10 foods where safe to eat, brain fog, ekzema, panic attacks. Now I can eat everything again and no panic attack since over a year...

    • @auntjuju
      @auntjuju 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Excellent News.

    • @aunabreslingaming3279
      @aunabreslingaming3279 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sensitivity, intolerance

  • @gilgrimes
    @gilgrimes 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    As a family doctor, one of the reasons I studied and learned therapy (somatic psychotherapy and EMDR) so I can provide this to the population I serve is because of seeing the connections between chronic disease and mental harms.

  • @openlybookish
    @openlybookish 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Finding a great therapist is so hard. 😭

  • @mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat
    @mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +62

    Untreated trauma causing physical health problems makes so much sense! I’m so interested to watch the rest of your video!

  • @Lemonady
    @Lemonady 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    Timestamps!
    Q1 - 0:28
    Q2 - 24:15
    Q3 - 33:44
    Q4 - 41:06
    Q5 - 46:13
    Q6 - 49:16
    Q7 - 54:25
    Q8 - 58:47

    • @jspider6185
      @jspider6185 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Thanks, I didn't bother watching yesterday cause there were no timestamps. If only I knew what the questions were without having to click and listen lol.

    • @JustD1zz
      @JustD1zz 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Timestamps for???..

    • @Lemonady
      @Lemonady 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jspider6185 You're welcome!

    • @scriptblender2660
      @scriptblender2660 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Useless without titles for the time stamps

  • @Minakie
    @Minakie 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    It's not just your opinion, Kati. In the book "The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Trauma and Adversity", Dr. Nadine Burke Harris confirms that childhood trauma and ongoing toxic stress are linked to all sorts of conditions, from eating disorders, and heart conditions but also auto-immune diseases.

  • @eryaviel
    @eryaviel 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Untreated trauma caused me seizures 5 years after the major event happened. I also have childhood trauma I'm really good at stuffing down. I was re-traumatized as an adult, and 5 years later when I was "safe" again, I started having seizures. Diagnosed with PNES and doing lots of therapy now.
    MRI shows my amygdala is physically different from a healthy person's. Don't stuff down your problems, y'all.

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I guess that's why it is said; what you resist, persist when you don't want to process the trauma and stuff it in.

  • @gigicatluvr9551
    @gigicatluvr9551 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    This is my first time commenting. I have an autoimmune disease. What I learned about mine and apparently other autoimmune diseases, is that it's partially a genetic predisposition, and partly brought on by stress.

    • @twokatmew
      @twokatmew 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This! Anyone who says we can het rid of a lifetime of autoimmune diseases is full of it. Blaming the victim never helps. Yes, our diseases can improve and even go into remission. Manage expectations please.

  • @Lyrielonwind
    @Lyrielonwind 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    There are levels of adrenal fatigue but if you they are exhausted, you can have whatever stressful situation and you won't get any adrenaline at all.
    It happened to me long ago. For no reason at all, a men started yelling me very aggressive (an unknown guy in the street) and I just told him to shoot me in the head and finish with my misery and the guy left me alone. I didn't feel fear or rage. I was collapsing.

    • @sharynmain2432
      @sharynmain2432 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Being ambushed by sudden abuse especially by strangers can be very unsettling. Hope you had a chance to take some self care.

  • @yugopolis861
    @yugopolis861 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    Do you know the channel crappy childhood fairy? Anna talks a lot about connection between physical health (including autoimmune diseases) and specifically childhood trauma. If there was any valuable research in the topic, I'm sure she knows it.

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Gabor Mate. Peter Levine, Porges.

    • @katydid594
      @katydid594 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Lyrielonwind100%

    • @cathycoryell2351
      @cathycoryell2351 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@Lyrielonwindadding Irene Lyon, as her work 8s based on that foundation. She adds a way out, implementing somatic experience therapy. It's effective to help process and release old emotions, stuffed experience, trauma.

    • @thewatchers5930
      @thewatchers5930 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@Lyrielonwind
      Definitely Dr Gabor Matè

  • @SuperAtlantis1
    @SuperAtlantis1 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I experienced trauma as a child. I was diagnosed with high blood pressure in my 20s. I understand now why. My mom also experienced a lot of trauma in her childhood. She was always sick and had diabetes, high blood pressure etc. She was always complaining about some pain. She died at 54 years old. Now at 60 after going to therapy i understand myself and my mom. Thank you Katie for your video.

  • @olivierkreitner1587
    @olivierkreitner1587 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Random but my new therapist is super rad and the fit feels great - feeling very optimistic about the next leg of the journey

  • @lisasconsciousrecovery
    @lisasconsciousrecovery 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Gabor mate speaks about this and your right definitely a correlation there. I am working on healing from hashimotos it definitely was from trauma!

  • @naturallaw52
    @naturallaw52 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    This is one of the best psyche videos I have ever seen. Very comprehensive. I love you for making it sound gentle and do-able

  • @meri.dilkidhadkan
    @meri.dilkidhadkan 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Went through bullying and abuse during college just the same amount of shit was what grief can really hurt a person and break a person!

  • @StrawberryMilkForYou
    @StrawberryMilkForYou 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    How awesome would it be if Kati made a series where she talked about certain topics but like in an asmr type video. That'd be so cool 😭

  • @monikadraws
    @monikadraws 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Some of the books that talk about trauma-body connection are "Myth of Normal" and "When the body says no" by Gabor Mate and "Body keeps the score" by Bessel van der Kolk.
    The books mention relevant research and clinical observations about how trauma and stress affect our body. It does mention the link between trauma and worsening of autoimmune disorders, however it feels like this research is in it's early stages.

  • @janejones6267
    @janejones6267 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is so helpful, thank you ♥️

  • @GN315-pe6ul
    @GN315-pe6ul 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I have spent over two decades (sometimes off and on) in therapy, so I am very upset that some of my trauma cannot be addressed in therapy because it is persistently denied and lied about. I can only work on the impacts of some parts of trauma when the truth of it is denied. For example, I cannot move forward with trusting others when I am denied ever having the full truth of exactly how I was betrayed, by whom, for how long, in what ways, yet I know I was betrayed based on unexplainable events not being possible other than through the betrayal of those close to me. This denial of my ability to work on some of this trauma ultimately puts an additional cost on me, that I am the one who pays. It is the abusers effectively making me pay for their refusal of accountability, yet again. It is infuriating. I have a lot of physical costs already from what I DO know about, including adrenal fatigue and other internal organ failures. It has absolutely cost me life off my body. I pay that. The abusers walk away with no cost to pay, and in some cases better off socially and even financially for having participated in my exploitation and abuse.

    • @user-iu1cc1yc5n
      @user-iu1cc1yc5n 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I could not have written it better. Are you a doppelganger

    • @Ahb2121
      @Ahb2121 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I get this. A lot of people wouldn’t get this. But I experience this 100%. Sending you courage.

  • @fifteenbyfive
    @fifteenbyfive 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for sharing your knowledge. Thank you for helping people. You're a good teacher.

  • @alexandria3458
    @alexandria3458 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Ace score of 8. Prison, drugs, observed physical violence to Mom. I have high anxiety and depression and this information is helping me understand my diagnosis. Childhood was super rough, but I put myself through school and got a degree. It's very weird to be successful in life and have no one to enjoy my success with.
    Therapy has helped, I have had this diagnosis since 2017. Just try to find a good therapist and be KIND TO YOURSELF. Thank you for making this content. People need to hear this information and connect the dots.

  • @olivierkreitner1587
    @olivierkreitner1587 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for the upload Kati C:

  • @outdoorswithwoodswoman8467
    @outdoorswithwoodswoman8467 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    wish you where my therapist you are so cool and on point on everything..thanks for all you do

  • @SynnCity
    @SynnCity 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I REALLY, REALLY APPRECIATE YOUR VIDEOS! THANK YOU! 😀💜
    P.S. Your eyebrows are fantastic! 🙂

  • @JuliaShalomJordan
    @JuliaShalomJordan 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love this new format.❤

  • @josoffat7649
    @josoffat7649 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I have gone 40 years without real treatment and it has destroyed my life.

  • @priusa8113
    @priusa8113 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    How to END trauma and not just cope/manage?! Thanks Kati we love u❤❤

    • @Hello34633
      @Hello34633 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I think a good start is feeling and processing it and not let it stay in your body

  • @morganrobertson3721
    @morganrobertson3721 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thanks so much for everything you post. My healing journey continues to get better no matter what challenges try to hit me. I'd like to kindly request a video on coping with triggers relating to grief? I lost my parents and only brother so young to terminal illnesses, October is always a hard month for me because it triggers my grief due to my late brother's birthday on November 1st, my parents who were emotionally immature did not believe in God, I found out during early adulthood that they believed in that Pagan stuff. I felt so angry at them for not being a role models to follow a different faith such as Christianity to teach my brother and I. I stopped celebrating Halloween all because of that issue. I feel like every year it gets harder to cope with grief during that month and the holiday time. Thanks again for everything you do.

  • @callmequasha
    @callmequasha 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This conversation is about to be 🔥

  • @jiayantang8771
    @jiayantang8771 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    thank you for your work,really help me a lot

    • @jiayantang8771
      @jiayantang8771 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      i have Hashimoto,i have never thought it could relate to trauma😅

  • @il3mendo
    @il3mendo 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am sorry for your losts. ❤❤❤

  • @yvonnemiles7433
    @yvonnemiles7433 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I don’t have BPD but I too get easily overwhelmed with any emotion good or bad but I believe it’s a control thing. It just feels safer not feeling anything

  • @tamaraann5926
    @tamaraann5926 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    As I’ve been getting older the more I realize how much my trauma has affected me over the years for not healing properly. This healing journey has opened my eyes to so much I’ve been blinded to and how much it truly has affected me. I appreciate these videos and wish there were more people like Katie 🩷

  • @athoughtfulwillow
    @athoughtfulwillow 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was abused and bullied for a very long time. It caused my brain to suffer, leading to psychosis. The mistreatment I got after being diagnosed further traumatized me. I also had to move to my home country after growing up abroad, and I lost all my connections. And now, in my country, I'm not even sure if I can trust anyone anymore. Honestly, life is kind of scary and I think my existence is harmful to society.

  • @janetbellini8065
    @janetbellini8065 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Due to my childhood trauma and the trauma in my marriage, I have developed type 1 diabetes and autoimmune liver disease and depression. Thank you for this video.

  • @andrewworthy4931
    @andrewworthy4931 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Another fine video Kati, thank you! I was 49 years old (now 52) when I began therapy and learned that I present all the 'classic' signs and symptoms of C-PTSD and that I experienced 9 of the 10 specified ACEs. Seeking therapy was based on a previous medical diagnosis of clinical depression, generalised anxiety disorder, hypertension, myalgic encephalomyelitis (ME), and a bunch of sleep disorders. Talk about ripple effects; perhaps no wonder I'm single and don't have children, or a career. My way of dealing with this is through writing a creative nonfiction account of the complexities and consequences of developmental trauma. Other than focusing on creativity, flow states, and specifically the beauty of conceptual and linguistic metaphor, what drives me forward is my refusal to give my abusers the energy that they so desperately crave. The abuse is all theirs, not mine. Recently learning that I'm an HSP with sensory processing sensitivity has also benefited my developing sense of self and concept of home.

  • @kiterafrey
    @kiterafrey 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have CPTSD and sleep is the hardest for me. I have to take Trazadone and when I can't get it refilled I have to take the max melatonin. I never thought before it could be my CPTSD, but it makes sense that I struggle with sleep even more when doing therapy sprints of working through bottled up traumas.

  • @LiveFaustDieJung
    @LiveFaustDieJung 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Some connective tissue disorders can also cause mental issues. They seem to have a link. I recently read about this. Due to the weakened tissues and altered nervous system. A lot of physical ailments can be passed off as mental illness. Unfortunately. Sometimes it’s both!

  • @booksale5
    @booksale5 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    2:50 This is brilliant Kati! I have to sheepishly admit, I feel like a bulk of the medical community, and I’m speaking as a physician, are incredibly ignorant at the mind-body connection. And no kidding today I we had a patient that I literally used a very similar analogy that you did with her. There are so many patients that are referred to evaluate for XYZ within my specialty, and I feel like it’s such a disservice to patients when physicians just give them a medication that kind of treats, whatever symptoms, but it isn’t even the actual disorder the person has it’s just kind of similar so they figured if they throw in Medication addit O’Hare Neyda patient will be better. But they don’t just stop and think where else could I be looking or where else can I educate myself at this patient’s symptoms, which we have no data regarding the pathophysiology. Without a doubt I usually go to an analogy I use with a lot of patience who have a lot of somatic true physical symptoms but they’re not secondary to some infectious or inflammatory condition. They’re what I say. Your subconscious brain has just so much I can store and it’s trauma box and if you see these diseases come on when we’re in our 30s and 40s and what that means is that your trauma box is stuffed and your body doesn’t know what you do with it so when you see something you’re not consciously aware of this your subconscious is that reminds you of potentially that traumatic event then you have this flaring episode which you feel like you’re dying and you think you’re having a reaction but it’s not it’s actually your nervous system that’s really become just regulated and then I actually talk about the same sympathetic responses. And then I really try to educate them on the importance of seeking out a therapist who’s trauma informed because it’s not something that’s just any therapist is able to do the deep dive and start untangling. I was really hoping the pandemic would bring even more attention to mental health, and even legislation to increase access to mental health but no.
    I am very honored and grateful for my patients, who think extremely high of me, I think it’s actually resulted in some pathological jealousy, which has resulted in bullying and mobbing which is sad in the healing profession that your colleagues don’t value you as your patience to do it and so instead, they seek to destroy who you are. Speaking of, I would love for you to do a video on the psychology of workplace, bullying and mopping because it’s the same pattern wherever you are in the world because it’s all based in deep subconscious psychology, thank you for all you do and I love that you can be so vulnerable on your videos and it’s giving me courage to be vulnerable with my patients as I move through one of the most devastating periods of my life. Please pardon any typos, as I am dictating to text.

  • @Maggsreacts82
    @Maggsreacts82 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    26:24 ❤i relate to this so much!

  • @HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHVoo
    @HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHVoo 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Hi Kati, thanks for your amazing work! I really enjoy your videos!
    I was wondering if you could explain the differentials between BPD, ASD and bipolar in adult females and women?
    Also, how would you differentiate between an autistic meltdown and a panic attack? (in adults)
    Thank you!

  • @davidyunusov4111
    @davidyunusov4111 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    What do you do if your trauma was never treated and then added but can't afford help. Who should I talk to or reach out because it feels like I can't do this anymore.

  • @kiterafrey
    @kiterafrey 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My trauma started before I could remember, but at 5 when my baby brother was born I went to get help. I had to testify in open court. I then faced years of trauma with the church blaming me for seducing (as a toddler mind you) an adult. I can only remember trauma now. I don't really have any memories before around 7 or 8 that are pleasant. And as I get older I lose more happy memories but the trauma and the victim shaming post trauma are all I remember. I imagine that has greatly shaped me as a person.

    • @user-iu1cc1yc5n
      @user-iu1cc1yc5n 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ive got my sibs blaming me for the abuse all of us had to survive

  • @syzygy4365
    @syzygy4365 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow, I'm seeing a huge connection in this. Time for therapy. I don't want to put it off any longer.

  • @Maggsreacts82
    @Maggsreacts82 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    13:59 -14:19 ❤this gave me an AHHAAA moment! Thank you so much!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @amnethercott5406
    @amnethercott5406 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is amazing !

  • @Loveherrnails
    @Loveherrnails 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    How do you know you have actually processed childhood trauma?

    • @James-Johnson313
      @James-Johnson313 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@AnthonyManzio Disagree completely. Therapy helps orient you in the proper direction, and then YOU must take the steps and put in the work to get better. Just talking doesn't fix anything, you have to learn skills (DBT for example) and implement them.

    • @sarahw7616
      @sarahw7616 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Your body will begin to change. You will feel it. Also, your personality changes for the better.

    • @janetdodson3529
      @janetdodson3529 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@AnthonyManzio then why bother to post on this site ?

    • @James-Johnson313
      @James-Johnson313 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@janetdodson3529 narcissism. I'm not saying he's NPD, but saying he is high in the personality trait of narcissism. They can't let others be, they can't stand people living their lives and minding their own business. They can't stand others bettering themselves. They have to 💩 on things that people value and find helpful. They cannot lift themselves up, so they bring others down, which makes them feel "uplifted" in comparison to their targets.

    • @janetdodson3529
      @janetdodson3529 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@James-Johnson313 Exactly right!!!

  • @jilldickson4352
    @jilldickson4352 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I was told by a consultant that if I sorted out my anxiety then he would sort out my digestive system. 😢

    • @thefool3571
      @thefool3571 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Wait what

    • @syzygy4365
      @syzygy4365 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What kind of consultant are we talking about?

  • @hanhnguyen9467
    @hanhnguyen9467 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Tks u so mục

  • @grandmastermario3695
    @grandmastermario3695 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I scored at least a 9 out of 10 on the ace test, plus i had other traumas, like losing grandparents dental surgerys and bullied at school as well as at home etc etc.

  • @sashabrown1732
    @sashabrown1732 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Dr Gabor Mate' has a lot of info on trauma and the link to physical health 👍

  • @karasmusic123
    @karasmusic123 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great audio!

  • @alain_sans_c
    @alain_sans_c 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I push my fingers into my eyes.. it's the only thing that slowly stops the ache...

    • @MrEpsilonZero
      @MrEpsilonZero 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Slipknot- duality !?

    • @alain_sans_c
      @alain_sans_c 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@MrEpsilonZero exactly 🤘

  • @hannahbarker7401
    @hannahbarker7401 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’ve had three different therapists throughout the years due to moving to different towns. My therapist right now (been seeing them for about 6 months now) is telling me that I have been through some traumas with being overweight in my childhood, college because it destroyed my mental health, and I was never good at school period. In college, I used self harm as a coping skill and I have still been using self harm as of 4 months ago. Haven’t self harmed since then. He wants to incorporate EMDR therapy and it will be my first time going through EMDR.

  • @user-eq7iq3do6v
    @user-eq7iq3do6v 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi,Kati, I feel so sorry for that Mommas Loss

  • @victoriareilly6223
    @victoriareilly6223 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I think it was the ending elementary or the beginning or in the middle of middle school. One of my brother's closest friends had just hit puberty and was excited about his family jewels. I was the only female in the neighborhood. So he was like I got an exciting surprise to show me. I was uncomfortable once he reached out for my hand to put over his unzipped jeans. My family never knew about this because I believed that they would not believe me if I brought it up.

  • @kevingalbraith6579
    @kevingalbraith6579 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Process.. I love that word i also use it alot too

  • @Sarah_Sunshine1
    @Sarah_Sunshine1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Do you think that cPTSD could trigger adrenal insufficiency (not Addison"s or primary)? They don't know the reason yet. I have some additional genetic diseases as well which got much worse at age 40. I can't handle any kind of stress, noise, and exercise anymore. And the "on edge" phenomenon came with it.

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I had a terrible marriage and I ended up with adrenal fatigue. I was young but still dragging my body everywhere and I wouldn't even get angry or nervous in a stressful situation. It got better but it took time in a safer environment (after I went no contact and filed for the divorce). I would have died if I had spent more time in that situation. I was getting sick continually (virus, infections, candida albicans...).
      I know I have CPTSD now but at that time, every doctor would diagnosed me with depression since not even the chronic fatigue syndrome or fibromyalgia were taking seriously by doctors.
      I'm the scapegoat of my family so, I had very few periods in my life I can recall as happy.

  • @james22939
    @james22939 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love seeing you

  • @meri.dilkidhadkan
    @meri.dilkidhadkan 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I went through a time period of dissociative shit going on because so much was going on in my personal life no such comfort as such really there was abuse after abuse betrayal after betrayal and it got worse to a point I felt like I couldn’t even trust a single person ever in this world my friends and even my own family ditched me for sure and I remember feeling powerless about the break up when it had happened with me cuz I was feeling super lonely

  • @andersonst.claire5119
    @andersonst.claire5119 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    When Bassettlover refers to ‘standstill’ (see below) would this be a reference to a nexus point where you literally stop-dead in your tracks and see nothing good ahead, only bad behind and not much point in visiting either one? I ask since I feel like I have hit that point. The place where baggage finally gets so heavy it actually forces you to stand still - it’s a weird place. Again, looking back with regret and forward with dread can only be expressed through complete incapacitation. A state of inaction bordered by the suffocating thoughts of both what has been and what lies in store!
    How to just drop those bags - what a great idea!

  • @katherinemnusa
    @katherinemnusa 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Mel what is your take on Ketamine infusions, I just completed six my right away. The deep down depression is gone, it’s
    Feels like. A weight in my chest is lifted, I still need to set boundaries..because my boundaries were not much of anything before!

  • @philuin9594
    @philuin9594 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hey Kati, I got a question about trauma! Say you went for help and instead of help the dr gave you trauma by kidnapping you taking you hostage interrogating you! Doing a number on you where you do your best to avoid getting trapped in a room with a doctor! How could you help yourself taking the doctor out of it?

  • @letilawless
    @letilawless 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    From your pov, is it possible to self-treat trauma?

    • @harleyquinn5774
      @harleyquinn5774 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      No. Psychiatric medication will be needed for many. Ex: Me.

    • @James-Johnson313
      @James-Johnson313 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It is best to treat trauma with all approaches available. Professional help, medication, self-help, etc.
      Throw the kitchen sink at it!

    • @cathycoryell2351
      @cathycoryell2351 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      There is good support in a variety of YT videos. However, having a therapist, or st least pay and follow one of the programs these YT therapists programs will be much more effective. A road map, and support groups are far more effective and efficient than randomly trying one thing, one time. Consider Irene lyon, Patrick teahan, crappy childhood fairy, EFT Tapping app, and others. Not all talk therapy in-person is actually helpful. Do the DBT exercises, or physical exercises, tapping. You can begin to improve how you feel.... there is affordable options.

    • @cathycoryell2351
      @cathycoryell2351 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Also, check out the book , widen the window.

    • @americasariesson1862
      @americasariesson1862 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Therapy..and I tried for decades on and off - did zero for me. First, because I didn’t understand and apparently they didn’t have a clue either about PTSD let alone cptsd and secondly, because I cannot talk about my experiences because it sends me into confusion and emotional dysregulation. So I work on my own using great resources like Melanie Tanya Evans and the narcassistic abuse program and Crappy childhood fairy Anna Runkle - both on youtube and both incredibly informative..they give out a lot of help for free!

  • @user-gv7eh1ei4z
    @user-gv7eh1ei4z 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Is there a reason you posted this here, and not just the AKA & OTDM Podcasts? Btw, thanks for the great content!

  • @user-kp8do9bp8c
    @user-kp8do9bp8c 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I’ve been having sleep anxiety where I think about living alone and can’t sleep at night as a young adult and I would resort to hiding under my blanket and sweating

  • @noturbo
    @noturbo 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i lived in the same house from 0 to 10 i dont remember even having a meal there or what my room looked like had an event happen there that had me leave my body

  • @Unit68
    @Unit68 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The trouble I have with the word 'trauma' is the overuse of the word to describe slight and very common anxieties experienced during a very normal life. Everyone seems to think they have PTSD these days.

    • @user-iu1cc1yc5n
      @user-iu1cc1yc5n 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Are you a physician or psychologist

    • @priscillacarlisle3717
      @priscillacarlisle3717 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ...Maybe they do🙏💗Remember to have empathy, suffering or struggling is different and personal for everyone.Imagine if someone responded to your trauma like your comment.

  • @arjanwilbie2511
    @arjanwilbie2511 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I waited 5 years on treatment after abuse, i was cut loose as i wasn't suicidal enough. I am not worth to get treatment i guess. I give up.

  • @madelinerae3234
    @madelinerae3234 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Where can we ask a question? On Patreon?

  • @user-iu1cc1yc5n
    @user-iu1cc1yc5n 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Gabor Mate has a good message. My favorite is still Pete Walker

  • @bchristian85
    @bchristian85 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You have a mental breakdown. It happened to me in 2020 and I'm scarred for life because of it. Could have avoided this if I would have got therapy in my 20s.

  • @KLR2322
    @KLR2322 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I wish I could show my loved one who holds on to trauma this video and the comments with it

  • @tarab3746
    @tarab3746 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Hi Katie, are you a Psychologist or a Social Worker? I’m at a cross road with my education and don’t know which route to take. I want to be a counselor but I also don’t want to only be a counselor. I don’t know, I just love people. I would love a little insight if you ever feel inclined to share a little. 🙏

    • @kathyjennings3907
      @kathyjennings3907 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I am not answering your question for Katie-but there is more versatility with a licensed social work trajectory.

    • @evagabrysova8871
      @evagabrysova8871 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Kati is a therapist:) amazing that you love people ❤ hating people seems to be too trendy 😅

    • @cassyschraft6268
      @cassyschraft6268 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It depends on what you mean by not wanting to be just a counselor! I am an LPC and I will tell you that most of my most beneficial training and skills came from continuing education training opportunities i pursued after i completed school, not my coursework itself. Most of the non-therapy aspects of what i do did not come from my education, but from networking with other professionals and seeking those additional skills out on my own. I have colleagues who also pursued additional avenues for helping people heal such as integrative medicine, massage therapy, and reiki as a few examples. The education is only a piece of the puzzle. One of my favorite stories to tell is how at my previous practice i had patients who were referred to me because of my area of specialty who refused to see me because they wanted to see our psychologist instead, supposedly assuming that his phd compared to my masters degree meant better quality of care. He was a great psychologist, but did not have the training i had in my area of specialty. Often one of two things would happen...he would tell them he couldn't treat them and refer them back to me, or they would get frustrated with their lack of progress and ask for a different provider and would end up on my schedule. Moral of the story...your education isn't everything!

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Try courses in psychology in a Community College and see if you like it. Maybe after that you have a better idea about your interets and options.

  • @tboned1
    @tboned1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am grieving the loss of my marriage and I just found out a childhood friend died. I can't quit crying and I have never cried in my life. I'm so sad

    • @americasariesson1862
      @americasariesson1862 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You’re in the middle of a storm - your response is normal so cry it out and whatever because that kind of back to back loss is huge.

  • @ylana4444
    @ylana4444 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I feel like there were waaaay too many commercials on this channel. Love your content tho, thank you!

    • @Katimorton
      @Katimorton  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I am seeing the same. I think YT has altered how they are placing ads. Looking into it today. Thanks!

  • @meri.dilkidhadkan
    @meri.dilkidhadkan 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    For me I felt powerless and threatened with a lot of other things I felt isolated so disconnected for so long

    • @KellenAdair
      @KellenAdair 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And my SLP/ problems, and my Speech Tx, (K & 41:35 41:35 1st. Grades) issues, all revisited. 😢😮
      Dealing with linguistic Ninjas and professional Liars. Dirt bag cultist and the bully who made him that way.

    • @meri.dilkidhadkan
      @meri.dilkidhadkan 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@KellenAdair what is SLp?

  • @hunnybSue
    @hunnybSue 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I've been trying to heal from my childhood abuse since I was 16. Nothing works. I've been in and out of therapy, I can't build trust with anyone. Sooner or later something will happen, a look a comment even a simple body gesture, and my brain is saying I need to leave. My current therapist keeps telling me its ok to show emotion ( crying) I've told her I don't cry in therapy. She's also asking questions that I can't answer. I end up sitting in silence, but wanting to yell shut up and leave me alone. I ended up saying I don't know what you want me to say. I'm not getting any better. I've lost count of how many therapists. I know I'm the problem.

    • @timwhite794
      @timwhite794 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You’re not the problem. The problem was inflicted on you at a point where you could not protect yourself. Keep trying to find that right therapist

  • @stellaancimer8505
    @stellaancimer8505 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You can become in denial, and project everything on others, you can become delusional, ect..
    All the best

  • @JL-kk9hl
    @JL-kk9hl หลายเดือนก่อน

    What happens when trauma can't be treated? Like everything fails? What do you do with a really stressful job you can't ever leave until you retire? What about infant adoptees who don't exist without trauma?

  • @reallovechannel1309
    @reallovechannel1309 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Goodnigh Lisa. I have had enough

  • @thegamercat4447
    @thegamercat4447 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have scored a 8 on the aces

  • @j0.ZEF-Who
    @j0.ZEF-Who 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    How do you recognizing a spiral - a spiral to me is a random response to an overly strong emotion or mix of emotions going on at once. I find myself very emotional when I'm all alone and free to self-search or go over the past day events sometimes maybe thinking about the day in advance too - mf emotions are the worst ehh. What's a spiral and how do I recognize it? Might help more peeps keep up the terrific job! Please!!

    • @j0.ZEF-Who
      @j0.ZEF-Who 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      kinda hit on it - yup yup

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Maybe you can try some breathing techniques to stop the spiral. I have found many videos of guided meditation and I'm also not to repress emotions but stay with them until it goes but there must be one emotion, not too many.
      I'm not a therapist but that's what I have been doing lately. Started with breathing exercises and later muscle relaxation. I can't do yoga on my own yet.
      I hope it helps

  • @eliwahuhu
    @eliwahuhu 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    These days, you better not even lay a finger on anyone else. With or without consent. You never know if someone will use it against you.

  • @LessThanThree76
    @LessThanThree76 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wait - this is posted on your main channel?! 😳 I’m confused. 😅

    • @Katimorton
      @Katimorton  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Testing out to see if it is better to have the podcast on the main channel.

  • @indridcold8433
    @indridcold8433 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was treated. But I think it was unsuccessful. I know the physical issue is very real. This, I monitor my physical health almost to a fault and am constantly exercising. I have avoided physical effects so far, because of my over monitoring. But this does little for the mental issue. I just do not want to try to treat the issue again. The first time was agonising. I was even institionalised. I am not willing to go through that again.

    • @harleyquinn5774
      @harleyquinn5774 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Trauma isn’t guaranteed fixed. Chronic trauma has to be managed every day.

    • @indridcold8433
      @indridcold8433 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@harleyquinn5774 I just inundate myself with the maintenance, repair, upkeep, modification, and learning about, all I know about my home, land, and machinery. I never employ mechanics, plumbers, electricians, computer specialists, electronic technicians and engineers, carpenters, nor anybody else. I am constantly studying or working on my property to keep myself occupied to the fullest. This will keep any horrific thoughts and depression from becoming uncontrollable. At work, I insisted on a position that many can not keep too long because of the isolation. For me, this is perfect. It keeps me completely transfixed on my job, and nothing else. I have three nights off a week. Those are the nights I work as hard as I can on my property and belongings. This constant business has had somewhat therapeutic effects on me. Even this semi-anonymous TH-cam rant is keeping me as busy as possible. I taught myself written English with it. At work, I get paid extra for translating many documents to Spanish, French, English. Complete occupation has worked somewhat, so far.

  • @tommays56
    @tommays56 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My older brother and myself suffered long term sexual abuse by a psychologist involved through the Boy Scouts
    My brother never left the mental health system and I have had a lifetime of issues and at 67 still have to convince myself it’s safe to do normal things
    Nicini VS Morra our abuser was Morra and the system let him abuse for a good 30 years

  • @il3mendo
    @il3mendo 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Trauma , as a maternal feeding, early inflammation can balance our microbiota. ( Such Epstein Barr Virus or Hsv 1).
    With low lactobacillus and bifidobacterius, your adrenal glands will increase cortisol and will create inflammation creating the cytokines storms.
    Many of the chronic illnesses are triggered when you carry the mhc 2 gets triggered by the plasma cells whixh will then create antibidies and further inflammation.
    Alessio Fasano, which is one if the most important gastroenterologist in the world, discussed many times about this topic.
    He also the one that discovered Zonulin which is ine if the market for leaky gut and schizofrenia.

  • @fifteenbyfive
    @fifteenbyfive 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    15:01 the catalyst. ;)

  • @ScotttheCyborg
    @ScotttheCyborg 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The game Aliens: Dark Descent, based on the Alien franchise, actually has a game mechanic for trauma. After the team of marines suffer enough stress from xenomorph attacks, they begin to have traumas that make you more panicky, which means wasting ammo and bad aim, and less likey to follow the instructions of the player. Assuming they survive to return to base, they need to have therapy to overcome the trauma. A marine with trauma can go back out on a mission, but is much more likely to behave badly and panic, and also responds poorly to attempts to reduce the stress. If you try to skip the therapy, you will pay the price.

  • @oneflyguy1949
    @oneflyguy1949 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Everything is a threat to us

  • @natalieedelstein
    @natalieedelstein 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Adrenal fatigue is not recognized as a real medical phenomenon by any major medical organization. Harvard has an article on it. Cedars-Sinai has another, etc.

    • @harleyquinn5774
      @harleyquinn5774 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      That needs to change.

    • @natalieedelstein
      @natalieedelstein 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @harleyquinn5774 the reason is lack of evidence of the existence by any tests.

    • @Sarah_Sunshine1
      @Sarah_Sunshine1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Adrenal insufficiency is of course. It's when you don't produce enough cortisol and other hormones follow. It has do do with the HPA/hypothalamic-pituitary-axis in your brain. They can do a stress test which I did in hospital if your bloodwork is suspicious. If untreated it's really bad. I have to take in addition to thyroid hormones, hydrocortison now because my body can't do its job anymore.

    • @Sarah_Sunshine1
      @Sarah_Sunshine1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      This is treated in endocrinology.

    • @natalieedelstein
      @natalieedelstein 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @Sarah_Hope77 adrenal insufficiency is real. Adrenal fatigue is not.

  • @teresaflynn2831
    @teresaflynn2831 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Can you tell that to the mental health people that where I live!!!!I grew up with an abusive mother and siblings,two of my children were stillborn, my husband passed from cancer 16 years ago , I have had HBP forever, now, asthma, osteoarthritis, sleep apnea, COPD, sciatica, nerve pain , carpal tunnel, been diagnosed with, PTSD, GAD, MDD, OCD, ADHD, if I talk about my trauma I'm told back then that's the way mother's were.... she's your mother, she did the best she could... (my kids didn't grow up the way I did they are happy and thriving) if I talk about anxiety I'm overly sensitive, and I need to respect people that disrespect me even if they disrespect me lie to me steal from me, they have told me I'm too old to heal physically and mentally, im 56.... I would love to know what it's like before I'm gone to live , I've never really lived just existed.

    • @cynthiapetro8708
      @cynthiapetro8708 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I feel for you. Sorry for your constant pain. I have seen both psychiatrists and therapists, and even they (whom we are supposed to trust), cannot be trusted. The field itself has it's own agenda (I'm not talking about youtubers who sincerely desire to help). You may want to listen to some of Daniel Mackler's videos about why he's no longer a therapist. It helped me to validate my experiences, some are not SAFE!

  • @helenhenderson4746
    @helenhenderson4746 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I scored 9 on the ACES 😢

    • @lorismithstreeter4458
      @lorismithstreeter4458 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same. The only thing I don't have trauma about is a parent going to prison.

    • @grandmastermario3695
      @grandmastermario3695 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@lorismithstreeter4458 I scored a 9 as well the only trauma that, I didn't have or atleast NOT remember having was sexual abuse, but I could of though, so could be 10 but whatever it's all horrible stuff, that's caused me tons of trauma.

  • @thewatchers5930
    @thewatchers5930 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dr Gabor Matè says it will

  • @openlybookish
    @openlybookish 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If someone hasn't processed their grief and it's been like 16 years......😭😳

    • @user-iu1cc1yc5n
      @user-iu1cc1yc5n 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And the question please

  • @brigitteranocha7774
    @brigitteranocha7774 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My therapist said yesterday, that I have everything and I don't deserve help. After 7 units I don't feel much better. I had to leave. And I don't know what to do now. She said, I should end my life, if I want to. I tried Suizid in Mai but survive. Now I lost the only person I could talk to

    • @cynthiapetro8708
      @cynthiapetro8708 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      What a horrible therapist. YOU DO DESERVE HELP from someone who understands child trauma.

    • @johnmachesky4185
      @johnmachesky4185 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      For God's sake get another therapist, that one needs help.

    • @NigisttheKingsCHILD
      @NigisttheKingsCHILD 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Pray turn to Jesus. The best healer you can find and free.❤

  • @keithagee8972
    @keithagee8972 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Grief is a form of eustress...correct?