Sex And Trauma Bond In Narcissistic Relationship

[@nandinidashora5886]

You always think physical relations will develop bond with the narcissist but they don't feel it the same way

[@SupremeAtheist]

The connection we ever had: sex. He was so abusive I didn’t notice back then.

[@misspapillon8889]

This hits home for sure. Thank you as always 💖

[@petrabland3519]

There are times when sex feels so cold 🥶 and emotionless it's impossible to connect with them. 😥

[@kimberlymcneal8195]

I don’t know about this one. I stopped wanting to a long time ago. That’s all he wanted and would try n pressure me to have sex. I finally called it quits and went no contact.

[@reneebrown9451]

Same with me. His sex was the same position for 7 years. Him on top of me…. Boring.

[@susanfisher3655]

True that! It's a trick.

[@piorundip8705]

Diffrent narcissist diffrent strategies. My ex narc girl use sex as weapon. It happen in every relationship but here it was on another level. It was draining, giving amazing sex then withholding for months, then iwas blane for everythiing beceause i made some mistakes in sex that was only her projections. Her ex was with her about 6 years and the made sex just 5 times. That was weird. I made more sex with her but after all that abuse i lost all my libido for months. And that was just one of form of abuse, there was also about 95% other typical narc abuse. I have sexual problems to this day after narc sex abuse, its pretty sick what this monsers are able to do to another people.

[@hawaiigirl8089]

Narc men withhold too!!! It’s not only women. My ex husband would with hold sec for months. He also refused sex on every vacation

[@divyathena2756]

Nonsense relationship.😒

[@hawaiigirl8089]

I easily disconnected from my Ex husband the Narc. Once I knew he cheated on me & never admitted nor apologized but kept on while he was on trips. I NEVER had sex with him again. Last 5 years of our marriage.
He was cruel even in bed.

[@scc4348]

He always always showed a lot of emotions during sex and at the time I thought it was love. He would say how much he loved me and always said I didn’t look at him during the act and he was quite insecure about it. Now I realise it is because he needed to use this as a tool for me to be under his control.

[@KassieP-sf6nz]

I wish this video was longer my Narc had a sex addiction and did not know at the beginning of our relationship. I was still thinking about sex after I left him when I looked back he bread crumb me and told me what I wanted to hear to keep a sexual relationship with me. I blocked him been Narc free for 6 years now no contact so happy he has a new supply God set me free

[@jenniferyates8100]

In my experience that was so. As we got older, were together a very long time( married) we didn't grow together, no emotional connection ,or companionship. I would say this to him, but he wasn't one for deep conversation. I was his carer for 10 years out of 34 years. He is in a home now, last 22monrhs. In his element . Has validation from the carer's, but soon found a supply. I was told he is infatuated with her and she is very attractive. He has triangulated her with me. I am not falling for it, he can't hurt me anymore. I am free. 🙏🕊️🌈

[@enchantress6663]

Yep sex was our only connection besides our daughter bo emotinal connection nothing.. We barely spoke a word to each other but even that with him having a new supply, I was fuelling the behaviour even more 😔

[@olgicaranisavljevic4961]

Oh my God, it's true,oh shit😬

[@laceypotter3996]

There was only this connection till children came. Then it was wham bam thank you mame. Now it's all about him has been for years.

[@LoveSource1111]

after we broke up, I was really addicted to sex with other guys but not him.

[@hawaiigirl8089]

🎉GOOD for you❤ survival is crucial when stuck with these creeps

[@danajaye2911]

Not if they are a withholder for whatever their issues are. There are other areas to bond with- projects like hime improvements, work objectives, music, socializing, cooking. The intense attraction is still there and heightened dopamine levels - but the consummation is not.

[@Proverbsthreefivethrusix]

It's called a soul tie

[@kennaballard1664]

He hurt me so deeply a few times that my skin would crawl if he touched me. I was the one who stopped intimacy because I knew he just wanted it physically and I knew it wasn't emotional if he could hurt me so deeply. He liked make up sex in the beginning...fight hard be mean and then have sex to make it all good. I figured that out right away as well.

[@laynamaephillips6945]

I got punched in the head for refusing to have sex w him. I called the cops on him, filed a tro and on my path to heal...this year marks ten years dealing w his abusive ways. I’m done

[@SuvaMukherjee]

That's why Old wisdom .. & EVERY major religion in the world prohibits Fornication.
It is ment to save women from criminals who want use her .... while not giving her any legal commitment.
Marriage was a shield created to make sure women cannot be easily accessed & used.

[@SuvaMukherjee]

@@lorireed8046 Are you referring to abuse within marriage ?
That does not negate or discredit the institution of marriage itself. Exceptions will always be there. But marriage was intended to provide stability to society & commitment to women

[@alfonsobejarano4531]

With them is everything about lust.❤️‍🔥

[@andrejinatinta3061]

So true, so hurts

[@VaporRonin]

That's why personally, I carry a neutral stance on it, and why most people can make assumptions that they want to, There's simply no point in anything sexual with people that will complain about it, and no point in a relationship with people that aren't exactly made for it, and there's a lot of them out there

[@jackpot6829]

I just seen someone I know get with a narcissist I got discarded from a month ago. I initially felt sad but also I’m intrigued. He came over to me and tried to make jealous

[@patriciatoomingtheplantpar2558]

No sex for 15 of 20 years🤷
One less dirty chore

[@kayinatkidunya]

It's So True

[@Dana93Korn]

I had to beg... 💀

[@VaporRonin]

That's why, unless they're gonna be a consistent sexual partner, legit partner, or whatever the case may be, don't become involved at all, because once that's done, for some, there will be no bond at all, and that's equally frowned upon, some people lose feelings once sex happens because they never actually had feelings to begin with and it was more of an IDEA they had of the person rather than AT the very LEAST appreciating the person sexually, becomes a true case of something abusive as there is simply just someone using another out of convenience and accessibility, which again, is also debatable, there is no right answer. It depends on the people involved, that's all there is to it.

[@ARUN_339]

how to break it ??

[@VaporRonin]

Like with anything, Your personal choices are what you make it, not all sex or feelings of lust mean someone wants to use and abuse you, but it wouldn't stop someone from letting something happen if they could even if they don't have love for you in the traditional sense, but the seeming lack of comprehensible love is not the same as hate.

[@VaporRonin]

Love can be interpreted many ways, but there are ways to set the "true" kind apart from those that are situational, contextual, biased, blind, or temporary. It's not as simple as it seems.

[@mukttamahajan524]

True

[@Jay-bm7rw]

Well yes and no because with my dad or female friends no thanks but with a male friend I wouldn’t want to do it until I’m married I prefer to get to know the dude first before going into marriage or relationships because that is how women get raped !