My first gf in highschool had me hanging out with her fb. We were 17 he was 35 and her dad's alleged friend. She got married for the second time about two years ago and ol boy is is in the Facebook comments congratulating her. Crazy shit 😂😅
This is my husband of 23 years. Found out he was leading a double life, having meet ups casual sex with other men. He even got into a relationship with one of the guys. I cannot forgive his treatment of me over the years. I'm boiling mad with him, I'm broken but estranged from I'm now. I need time to myself heal and will not speak with him anymore. X
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
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Mine was a huge sex/porn/women addict. He cheated like crazy and hid all his devious behaviors and porn addiction. I discovered it, thankfully, but it was traumatizing to see what I saw on his phone. Very dark, disturbing stuff that you can’t unsee. Still working through that. I saw other texts from past girlfriends, accusing him of deviant sexual behaviors with them. One thing after another, began to emerge after we were together about a year and it’s some thing I wouldn’t wish on anybody! They live dark secret lives, while portraying themselves, good, decent, even Christian people. It’s so mind-boggling! I am so glad to be done with him!
@@luvphoenix956 🫤. So many of them are sooo similar. Like they say…they operate out of the same playbook. I feel, for anyone going through anything remotely close to what I did! 😢
Me too. I'm wondering how we'd feel if we had absolute proof of what we know them to be. I think my legs would buckle under me and I'd feel dirty for ever sleeping with him.
My ex was addicted to porn,and during a discussion one day said there was nothing wrong with men visiting prostitutes if their wife was ill or in hospital,really made me stop and think what kind of person he was.
that’s wild. my ex said some similar story after i was sicker after we abruptly moved to high altitude on his whim for a carrer move. downhill almost totally thenafter. luckily extracted but still miss the dream we once both seemed to hold!
💯‼️ I FINALLY busted my covert Narc husband on the online apps messaging women and posting some creepy porn. I already knew anyone could take my place when we were having sex (with porn on in the background) bc it was so disconnected. His phone was attached to him like a 3rd arm or something, 24/7! It's like being single even though you're married bc he lives a seperate life and occasionally throws me a crumb by going to a movie and he even picks the movie as well 🙄 He has never done anything with me that is something I'm interested in, he will only do things that he is into period! Selfish and cruel doesn't even cut it, soul suckling vampires for sure! Thanks for warning people bc I didn't learn about this stuff until almost 30 years in with this man 🤦♀️
@@SabrinasTwistofColor I got into his phone and he forgot to log out that particular night of certain apps so I busted him. Truthfully though, if you already know what’s going on…get out if you can. The damage is UNREAL, esp the longer it goes on. It literally rewires your brain bc of the trauma and insanity. You’ll then start acting insane and hate yourself💯 It’s a lonely existence! They NEVER change, lying to them is like breathing to us 💯 GL 🙏
Mine would lay there with his eyes closed talking about being “so relaxed”.. BS. I know he was running porno images thru his mind. Also had a big habit of having little accidents just from a kiss or hug..????
Wonderful video! I am an empath. I have been with two female, covert narcissists. Both abused as children. I hate what they experienced as little ones, but they are filled with demons.
I just broke up with a female covert that was sleeping with a married man that she met online and wrecked a marriage. She always said she was abused as a kid, and even if she was it doesnt justify what she has done to me and other men including her ex husband in which she cheated on him 3 times. (that he knows about at least)
You are 💯percent correct ! It’s sickening! Everything you said I personally experienced! They never change and it will never get better! Only worse! It will get very ugly the longer you stay and more dangerous the older they get! Get away and run as far as you can ! Your worth it!
I BEG TO DIE. Every night: nightmares. Every day: panic attacks. I want to die. Every morning I wake up in despair, desperately praying to die. I can no longer bear the pain. I could die from the pain of missing my best friend. He betrayed and abandoned me, discarded me like garbage. My mind can't fathom, my heart can't comprehend. I live in perpetual panic and terror and loneliness and longing... I'm so alone in the world. I die of fear. I'm so fucking traumatized and terrorized and terrified. How could he not miss me? How could he do this to me? How the actual fuck could he really do this to me? Did he just replace me? Yes, yes: he really truly actually did. I'm dying inside. My soul is raped. He's given me severe PTSD. Severe! Severe! Severe! How and when will I ever heal? In 6 days, it'll be exactly 5 months... God, as I walk through this hell and heartache and grief, I pray you guide and direct and hold me... I won't be stuck in hell anymore. Enough is enough. It's time to be free: in Jesus's name. REMINDER TO SELF: When you chase a man, you NEVER get the man, and you ALWAYS lose yourself!
Sister, I can feel what you feel, I was asking the same questions like you do. But after accepting the fact that he cannot change and I don't want to live miserable for the rest of my life, I finally let him go.
Now instead a man, put mom and dad... if my inner baby can survive, ypu can too, just stop using imagination to imagine what they not, they losers and self love is better. Dont die, dont say you want that because they are stupid... ❤ stay strong
I’m so sorry you went through this and I know it’s not easy but just know that there are billions of men out here and some of them are ring abused by narcs too. I’m still trying to learn the signs so I can avoid narcs in general.
Thank you for confirming all I have felt and found to be true about my narcissistic ex. I appreciate the you're not crazy, trust your gut vibe of your video.
Mine was having sex with hookers. He blamed me for it and then cheated on me again with a married coworker in my own home. He was not going to stop until he scorched the earth. He’s still with the coworker years later and they think I’m the crazy one.
I made that dame stupid mistake Sweetheart and I'm trying to stop watching porn but sleeping around and prostitutes that's a no no , even thoe I get an urge but it's been 4 yrs , I'm just taking it one day at a time
Gaining supply is not an issue with the female covert. Men flock to the damsel in distress, little bird with a broken wing routine like fly's to sugar. That's the bait, then comes the sexual Jedi, and most men never knew what hit them... love bombed, gas-lit and then the sadistic shit starts...coverts are like vampires, by the time you have a half a clue as to what your dealing with, they've already had their teeth sunk in your neck for years...
First time to your channel as I’m trying to get some clarity on what is going on with me and my now known narcissistic boyfriend. I’ve had that gut feeling for a long time. Kept thinking something was wrong with me. Everything you said about this is true. The “rules”, withholding (punishment), or excuses why we couldn’t have sex. It has been so painful. I have recently found out that he’s been seeing escorts and nearly got caught by the police. A LOT of emotions right now. Feeling so sick to my stomach. The reality is killing me. I appreciate your video. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing this.i habe been divorced for a month now.My gut was screaming for 4 years that something was "off" and that she was hiding something.She witheld sex,stating it was too emotional for her.Mind you...i met her in chuch..I found out a few months ago that she had been protituting for years...so yeah..always go with your gut.these "people" absolutely live double-lives
Very sad. I'm sorry your moving through this. Pray , God's our comforter. , Healer, provider, None of us deserved this t. But God will use .our entire testimony. For the good and glory of his name.
yes your gut will tell you something is not right!! go with your gut!! you will see signs from them that they have been or are with others. Narcissists think we are stupid but we are not! Narcissists treat you like you don’t exist. They don’t listen to what you say because they think they are perfect….
They basically view people as masturbation toys in the flesh. In reality the narcissist tend to fear intimacy, so sex often vanishes completely after a while.
The truth. Social networks are their real world! That's where the strengths are. Experienced it personally after 20 years of marriage. He provided everything she asked for and was always there for her. BUT! If they catch you knowing what they're doing on social networks, you'd better pick yourself up and leave or you'll be subjected to terrible mental harassment. 20 years of marriage, I'm recovering now and it's very hard. But it will pass. Sorry for litle bad english ❤
They love the supply. With all these dating apps it’s easy for them to get all the supply. A thing I have found is that they love couples. They love coming in between them and having both partners thinking they are in love. Very deviant
My wife always targets married men.... I think she gets a mental kick to think that she has been able to entice this man away from his wife with her seductive powers. One thing I have noticed is that she is 44 and she has been riding the carasol for 3 years now and all she is getting is smashed and they move on very quickly no LTR
My wife always targets married men.... I think she gets a mental kick to think that she has been able to entice this man away from his wife with her seductive powers. One thing I have noticed is that she is 44 and she has been riding the carasol for 3 years now and all she is getting is smashed and they move on very quickly no LTR
Thank you sooooo much for this video! It explained my ex husband to a T! It's really great to hear that I'm not crazy. I wasn't making it all up. Bless that next girls heart. She'll go through it too.
My narc was covert , an addict, and I suffered domestic violence and isolation. He lived a double life , I believed he was heterosexual. Never thought he was gay . Truth always comes out. Always . God reveals the truth in his perfect timing. He would gay bash. (Which was a cover up). I look back now , after he passed away I now see the red flags , but also he was so cunning that I wanted to trust him and desired to be loved . I was conditioned in my family to accept the unacceptable.. Brush Everything u der the rug. Just to keep peace. Very sad . But we learn how to love ourselves and not accept the unacceptable.
My covert narc would take multiple bathroom breaks a day which exposed his porn addiction. He hid it for a long time, but I revealed to him when we first met that I had no tolerance for porn addiction because my ex was a PA addict. Through learning about me and sharing this with him in the beginning stages, he used that info to better hide his addiction. It became pretty obvious with the erectile dysfunction but he blamed it on loving me so much he didn’t want to hurt me, what a joke. Sex was very robotic. It felt mechanical and detached. I straight up told him it felt like I was a “pump and dump”. Sex with him made me feel disgusting, so would often turn over and cry softly to myself after being intimate. We broke up then got back together long distance and I ended it two weeks or so ago. It’s very clear he hasn’t stopped using, as he is number one and in three plus years he has only complimented me twice. All his energy and compliments go to his E girls. I don’t regret blocking his phone calls or texts. He’s not in it for a partnership, he wants to be a little boy and have it his way. Thanks for the video and the insight. You nailed it when you mentioned that these types are not there for a partnership at all.
My ex narc was, for lack of a better term, "adolescent" about sex. He never outgrew that mentality. Yes, he sure had that porn addiction - the final piece that identified him as a Covert. There was no information about this type of narcissism back then and the closest I got was when a therapist suggested I read "Living With the Passive-Aggressive Man." The first time I expressed discomfort, he retorted that it was "because of my childhood." It took me a while before I accepted that it didn't matter WHY I was uncomfortable. I'm sure others here can relate to not feeling entitled to our own feelings. Ugh. I attributed his addiction(s) to his being shame and fear based - so I let him have at it, with the occasional reminder that I was aware of it, and disappointed that for all the porn he watched, he was rather boring in bed. Small "victories" that informed him that I still had a backbone were all I had. Later, after leaving him, I let him know that he was nothing. He had no power, and that I KNEW him. After all, I'd spent 25 years with him. I knew him but even though I think he feared my insight, he had underestimated ME. He could not have predicted my rebirth - it was glorious. I didn't think he was watching my social media and now I'm pretty certain he was. THAT is a satisfying thought because it could only have reinforced what he already knew - I found him boring. Now to work through my crap with the original narcs. Life. Embrace the small victories and celebrate yourselves!
@@missminti My partner's mother used to talk baby talk to her son. That was pukable too. Nothing cute about an old woman doing baby talk to a grown man.
The timing of this was perfect, thank you. I so needed to hear this tonight. I was really missing him physically and everything you discussed was how he was sexually. Great topic. Thank you for helping us get through the evil that these people put us through.
Spot on! My ex Narc still has a hidden network in my house so he can go on these hookup websites under our son's and my accounts and has sex with these strange women/prostitutes on a routine basis. I guess it was a good thing he would not be intimate with me, except when he wanted to play mind games and act like he wanted to work on things, when he had no intention of being in a committed relationship. I have recently bought new phones again for my son and I only to be taken over by this narcissist and he thinks I'm unaware of his sick addiction. He has my vehicle tapped in several ways so if I drive close to his house, my lights/electricity dim which gives him a signal I'm nearby so he doesn't get caught. Two more years and our son will be 18 and I'm planning on moving away and changing my name so I don't have to be exploited by this monster ever again!
Excellent message. My narc ex-wife was in a hurry to get married, but then turned off intimacy like a light switch and started disappearing / ghosting me for long periods of time. This explains so much.
I was absolutely married to that man you so perfectly discribed. I know now that I wore those rose colored glasses. I loved a man who was not real. He had no trouble finding people to play disgusting sex games with. Not one of them gave a good dam who they were hurting as long as they were doing what tthe hell entertained them. He really knew all the damaged people. A lot of what he and his play toys did was drug fueled. He confessed days befor he died and I am still in shock. I do not like who he really was much. I dislike the fact that he played with my life and had a great time trying to destroy me . But I am stronger then he gave me credit for and I am doing oK .Hopefully someday I will be at peace with the hand I was dealt.
You are strong and you will find peace. If I can do it you can too. My ex was with hundreds of prostitutes, massage parlor workers and strippers for over 25 years and when I finally found out what he had been doing I literally wanted to die and thought about suicide daily. But then one day a friend said "You are a good and trusting person and your ex always acted like the nicest guy in the world so you trusted that he was. Be proud of yourself for being a good person and have lived a life caring about others. Get strong and start a new life and don't look back. So what's done is done and you will never be able to change it. Find peace and focus on other things and it will all work out.
Any guy that cheated on such a good looking lady as yourself is an idiot! I pray that you heal and meet someone who will respect you in the way you deserve. Blessings 🙌🕎
Rachel Mcelroy everyone who gets out of a relationship with a narcissist should immediately get tested for all STD’s. It’s scary especially since you May have been in a relationship with one for many years with no clue they were not monogamous.
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery with Coach Kat seriously! I blame my own naïveté. 5 years and by the end I was merely a shell of who I used to be. Then when everything came to light I felt so confused and violated!! While I understand now, I still have no idea how these people get away with it!!
That's very good...and they get great pleasure rubbing them (insecurities) in your face...even though it's done in a sneaky way...they b like...who me? I wouldn't do that..
@@climboutoftraumawithcoachk8245 certainly,this concerns me 100% After 17yrs I spent with my Ex Covert Narcissist Husband,with 3 kids, I got out last year December, to realize he was a true Womanizer! And only four months away from him, he has already impregnated his new Supply and wants to marry her! It's so sad,and very scary how they change totally to a Wild Beast and show their true Colors in a blink of an eye!!
For many years he got defensive, angry, “how dare you accuse me”- or, “you're crazy! Or paranoid!!!” I knew what I knew though, after # 7 or 8. So, in order to get the truth, and stop feeling crazy, I began tracking these women down-one by one. Went directly to their homes, and refused to leave until they told me the TRUTH!! One by one, I was vindicated!!!! One particular bee-ach said, “it's none of your business what I did with your husband”. Although I wanted to punch her in the face, I didn't. I just laughed, and thanked her for confirming what I already knew!!! The pain of betrayal is brutal!! But after so many, you just don't even care anymore!! (there have been 13 that I know of...but probably more!!). I told him I wouldn't touch that thing with a 10 ft pole!!! Desperately trying to get out!!! But he has me by the throat financially, psychologically, etc. I'm so broken. 😢
That was 9 months ago you left that comment but if you're still with the monster you've got to go and leaving everything behind will refresh everything you know about yourself over time. Unfortunately I've done it many times and ended up with him this time is permanent because there is another protection order and I filed for divorce a couple days ago. 18 years. 18 years married but by myself. 18 crazy making gaslighting word salad plausible deniability BS time wasted. Just get out you got to get out.
I called the ex a sexual deviant, he actually sexually assaulted me once and I now put it down to the depraved porn he was watching but didn't know about at the time
I found what really helped me was to disengage! I've been married to a narcissist for 28years. Now we sleep in separate bedrooms, I haven't had sex with him in 8 months. I told him it's over! And please just leave . He refuses to just go away. All our kids are grown except for the last one, who starts highschool in the fall.
Oh, yes. Sex was a tool. He made promises of how good it would be, how I would love being with him, etc. When he was offered the reality of actually getting together he was all about excuses for why it wasn't a good time. How I'd built things up too much in my mind, etc. When I called him out for being all talk he became furious and accused me of the same thing. He just wanted to keep me on the hook talking to him about sex without actually coming through.
Just was with a girl that promised everything, turns out I didn't hear from her for a bit and said she just had a lot going on. Then start hearing she was out with other multiple guys late night. Atleast I pieces it together and can finally move on. I knew in my gut with her eyes that she wasn't trustworthy but she was a gold star liar. She won't get away with it forever.
A lot of narcissists are into BDSM, kink, and sadomasochism. They love to use kink as a camouflage and love Dom/sub dynamics. Tons of them love to masquerade as Doms.
I've been looking for this comment for some time. It doesn't seem to be a well known connection. Look up the margins of the hotwife c**kold kink. Woman actively finds big xyz type guys and husband actively consents and is locked up never had has sex with narc hotwife. The "consent" idea is pretty gray on that level. Very little about this online.
I’ve always suspected my ex was cheating or something was going on but never had any proof. She gave the most bizarre explanations that made me doubt even more but still no evidence. Then (I’m afraid I did snoop) and found a couple of things that pointed towards an STI. I confronted her which confirmed it. First concrete evidence but so much will always remain a mystery.
Ugh same!! At the end, it’s not that he may have been cheating. I’d be fine after getting over the relationship but the fact that you could never get the truth after dumping them just bothered me more than if I did find out right there and then. But sometimes too, have you you evr found them trusting you w/ certain things and just tell on themselves. Like one time my ex narc showed me a calculator app that actually was an app to hide private pictures. Lol I was like wowwww.
Yeah the narc I was with looked macho and fit. But the first time we watched a movie at his house I noticed he had a belly ring with a tattoo around it. I thought hmm why would a manly guy get a belly ring. When I asked him about it he said his friends dared him. But it just gave a a weird feeling.
The guy that I was with was definitely using it as a tool and as a reward and not giving me any at times as a punishment. Kissing during sex actually made him go limp. It was a turn off for him. He seemed to intentionally fight with me at times so that he didn’t have to have it with me.
@@gerardusch Possibly because he didn’t have many friends. Maybe he wanted someone to blame or do things for him or possibly because I am a creative person which could help make things for to help with his small business . You would have to be inside his brain to really know.
Many years ago I worked for a narcissist & he did two things that made me quit: 1. He kept trying to get me to eff his wife. 2. He spent his days looking for 15 year old girls to eff. His business mostly ran itself so he had all day & plenty of money to $$$ play.
thats true.. my gut was screaming telling me something was wrong.. i remember even crying one day about it.. it was awful.. it was like something was just telling me something was off but i couldn't put my finger on what was happening.. finally at some point i just got tired of it all and let her go for good
You rite with the gut. The covert narc girlfriend was always there in the evening. But seeing poeple in the day time. She would always say what time you in tomorrow only we could go some where if your not working. She ask this so she would no what time you were in from work the next day because she would be banging some one. I often had gut feelings especially towards the end of the relation ship before I was discarded.
I stayed with this guy with a porn addiction, but stopped being intimate with him as he just learnt to hide it. Recently discovered he is in to BDSM & all sorts of weird shit on you tube. Hidden apps hides it all. I just broke up with him
I had a woman come up behind me at an event. She said to me that I seemed like A nice person and asked me why I was with the person I was with. She said that I should find another boyfriend, because he has some “deep dark secrets “ . When I asked what, when, where, why, who? She didn’t give me any receipts. So I thought she was just trying to cause trouble. I wanted some info as to how she knew but she didn’t give me anything. I wish she would have. I would have RAN!
Thanks one more time , I’m very very happy for all this information and you’re very clear on this , I see it the all view of my relationship with this woman , I’m so proud of myself and much better now 💪 , thanks you and Paz ✌️.
Great points made. Mine said he was so tired of the tons of sluts he had had before, said he now wanted real connection....and NOW he was ready, for a real relationship. With me. 😂😂😅😂😂😂 He knew he was screwed up. But that does not mean he wanted, to improve, change, grow.
We never had intimacy, he would pretend to ejaculate because of how much he got male or female. We never consummated the marriage. He would bring meth heads and introduce them as a weed connection. 13 years and I completely understand Macbeth. I live it
My ex female narc was definitely bisexual if not a lesbian. She told me on the second date she was open to women as sexual partners. Most of her flying monkeys are lesbians or very butch women. She had a shrine to her high school girlfriend in her bedroom. No pictures of her ex husband or daughters but the high school friend on her nighstand with their arms around each other plus a piece of the girlfriends art work on the bedroom wall. The high school was also a female only boarding school and the narcs youngest daughter is a lesbian. Very strong circumstantial evidence plus her hostility and hatred towards me and her father.
She was telling you directly that she was bisexual. In my case I suspected that my ex narc gf was bisexual but never had any evidence. It was her masculine energy as well as my gut intuition.
I am so sad when I read all these comments, that you all went through this. And then I remember I did too. She’s right on. I thought it was a monogamous relationship. He was a performer but also was good at making me feel cherished. That was until I learned about all the others. We are all worth so much more!
2:57 I don't think it's just about validation. I think many narcissists just have high levels of testosterone, and as a result high sex drives. Their testosterone levels also contribute to their predatory nature.
My ex was a covert narc- he took injectable testosterone and he was very sexually active w me. He had a high sex drive but the sex was empty and meaningless, it was just a performance for him. I agree with your statement. I think even if he didn’t take testosterone he would’ve been the same way but it just made it even more so
Your always gonna be with a narc if Christ isn't first and foremost in both of your lives. Lust and fornication and adultery are exactly what the Bible says it is and any relationship started this way is cursed.
My ex and I went to church, prayed together, daily devotionals and he was a narcissist. I couldn't wrap my head around it. How he could worship God with me and still be a cheater. Then God revealed to me that he went to church for status not for a closer relationship with God.
I think many people think they are going to be “Pauline” about it, and win the spouse over to Christ, but then demons see that is what the Christians are doing and do have the narc as a vessel for destruction sitting at their disposal, after all.
True..but when they bring you home a disease, you definitely slow down or cut back if you are married. No one wants to die because someone else is selfish
My mother is a covert narc I awakened 3 years ago I'm a super empath I found out she has a secret sex life and was sleeping with the same sex and on dating sites
This had happened to me: I was scammed by psychopath. He was a complete looser, cheater and he gave me STDs by raping me the 1st time I met him in person.
My ex had such a high sex drive, he always wanted it, and he would be texting me during the day telling me what he wanted to do when we saw each other. I just thought it was because he was a young guy and that’s just the way it was. It still didn’t seem normal to me, I started to google his behaviors and narcissism came up! It all made sense, he would accuse me of cheating on him when I said no, he would fight with me and call me names, he didn’t care if I was tired or on my period or had to get up early for work and just wanted to sleep, if he wanted sex, that’s all that mattered. He never wanted to use condoms and if I asked him to, he would get mad at me. Towards the end of the relationship I started to get bv every time I was with him, every single time! This had never happened with any other guy, only him. I was constantly on antibiotics, it was horrible, I think this was one of the many ways my body was rejecting him. Good riddance!
The narcissists in my life taught me to keep my love life an absolute secret, as well as I can possibly muster. Not the same as what's being said here. I'm just sharing pro-tips with other survivors of narcissism.
Yes there is a high predisposition for narcissists especially covert narcassists towards bisexuality and some kind of sexual addiction. They do lead dark double lives and hide it well.
Mine had prostate surgery that made him impotent. It bothered me...Not! Years later I found a glass [recently used] butt plug in his computer desk drawer. He was an altar boy + eventually joined military. Don't ask don't tell policy?
Sex is horrible and empty with s narc
Absolutely my gut was telling me something wasn’t right it was very robotic and very infrequent!
Same here we have 2 trust our guts
They often hide their sexual connections in plain sight. They'll be work colleagues friends etc.
In plain sight, you think its stranger and its cw
My first gf in highschool had me hanging out with her fb. We were 17 he was 35 and her dad's alleged friend. She got married for the second time about two years ago and ol boy is is in the Facebook comments congratulating her. Crazy shit 😂😅
They hide their sexual diseases also
Amen 🙏🏽 I lived it for 30 years. Only by the grace of God I got out last year.
The narc doesn't have love. These creatures have lust. Stay away God bless
maybe maybe not ! ? .
Yea. That's why they're cursed by God and will be poor at everything.
You nailed it! Sex was never about the intimacy or love, he just thought he was a great performer- notice I said “thought” lol
Lol
It was like he wanted me to applaud when he was done. So sad. Sure wished I knew about this years and years ago. I now feel so sad for his new wife.
@@Gimo76 same with my ex
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This is my husband of 23 years. Found out he was leading a double life, having meet ups casual sex with other men. He even got into a relationship with one of the guys. I cannot forgive his treatment of me over the years. I'm boiling mad with him, I'm broken but estranged from I'm now. I need time to myself heal and will not speak with him anymore. X
I’m so sorry that happened to you, these people are evil!
Hopefully you got tested for STDs etc…
@@GotoworkkkViral warts? 😥
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
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Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Our biggest mistake was not seeing him for who he has always been. A bad guy
Mine was a huge sex/porn/women addict. He cheated like crazy and hid all his devious behaviors and porn addiction. I discovered it, thankfully, but it was traumatizing to see what I saw on his phone. Very dark, disturbing stuff that you can’t unsee. Still working through that. I saw other texts from past girlfriends, accusing him of deviant sexual behaviors with them. One thing after another, began to emerge after we were together about a year and it’s some thing I wouldn’t wish on anybody! They live dark secret lives, while portraying themselves, good, decent, even Christian people. It’s so mind-boggling! I am so glad to be done with him!
Wow! Hit the nail on the head
I thought I was reading my life story with ur post omg ❤
@@luvphoenix956 🫤. So many of them are sooo similar. Like they say…they operate out of the same playbook. I feel, for anyone going through anything remotely close to what I did! 😢
Mine disturbed me so much one night, his porn was on the same lines when I discovered it. I'm really struggling to get past it.
Me too. I'm wondering how we'd feel if we had absolute proof of what we know them to be. I think my legs would buckle under me and I'd feel dirty for ever sleeping with him.
And meanwhile they're sleeping with the community 😂! He, she, it!
Yes so true and sad gonna end up catching something I rather be celibate then lay down with a dog 2 get fleas
They are seriel man whores. They sleep with the whole community indeed. Sex is performance not connection. They spread STI's & STD's.
Nothing is hidden Yahuah sees everything! 🕎🙌
Yes He does....🙏
Yes!! Praise the Lord 🙏
Yes he does! And he gives us the discernment and intuition to see their disgusting behavior!
Yes!! And He is faithful to expose them
My ex was addicted to porn,and during a discussion one day said there was nothing wrong with men visiting prostitutes if their wife was ill or in hospital,really made me stop and think what kind of person he was.
My ex was the same. I relate.
that’s wild. my ex said some similar story after i was sicker after we abruptly moved to high altitude on his whim for a carrer move. downhill almost totally thenafter. luckily extracted but still miss the dream we once both seemed to hold!
Yes , cold and robotic.
💯
Like bad porn movie with only 1 person satisfied!
Mine made me feel like a hoover.
Sometimes we have to take the law into our own hands and put them in their place in a world of s***
💯‼️ I FINALLY busted my covert Narc husband on the online apps messaging women and posting some creepy porn. I already knew anyone could take my place when we were having sex (with porn on in the background) bc it was so disconnected. His phone was attached to him like a 3rd arm or something, 24/7! It's like being single even though you're married bc he lives a seperate life and occasionally throws me a crumb by going to a movie and he even picks the movie as well 🙄 He has never done anything with me that is something I'm interested in, he will only do things that he is into period! Selfish and cruel doesn't even cut it, soul suckling vampires for sure! Thanks for warning people bc I didn't learn about this stuff until almost 30 years in with this man 🤦♀️
Get out. Even more reason if he’s scary and you’re worried about post separation abuse.
I was 34 years before I got out its not too late.
How did you do it?? I know mine like that and I’ve been doing some snooping but he’s gotten slick bc he knows I’ve been watching him.
@@SabrinasTwistofColor I got into his phone and he forgot to log out that particular night of certain apps so I busted him. Truthfully though, if you already know what’s going on…get out if you can. The damage is UNREAL, esp the longer it goes on. It literally rewires your brain bc of the trauma and insanity. You’ll then start acting insane and hate yourself💯 It’s a lonely existence! They NEVER change, lying to them is like breathing to us 💯 GL 🙏
You are soooo right,, the sex is all about performance. To get you hooked and to give the narc self esteem...
They think they going to get away in this life of all the things they do to others.
Well said
That!!
Karma always comes back people like this
They'll reap what they sow. Everybody does.
yea
You can think you're having a good time until you try to get away, then they come and slash your tires. Scary people.
It's true, one of my exes would never kiss me before or after sex... We actually never kissed.
Goosh! It's the same with my ex Covert Narcissist Husband.
There were no kisses nor I love you..no nothing!
Just sex and he's off to sleep..deeply
Oh my word.. I'm sorry you guys had to deal with this.
Same she would hardly ever kiss
Narcs don’t kiss.
Mine would lay there with his eyes closed talking about being “so relaxed”.. BS. I know he was running porno images thru his mind. Also had a big habit of having little accidents just from a kiss or hug..????
This describes my narcissistic ex husband to a T. He disgusts me.
Wonderful video! I am an empath. I have been with two female, covert narcissists. Both abused as children. I hate what they experienced as little ones, but they are filled with demons.
Facts
Oh man Oh man! I feel you.
People that don't heal tend to bleed on those that NEVER cut them. It's sad, but you cannot help them. They will even manipulate therapists...
I just broke up with a female covert that was sleeping with a married man that she met online and wrecked a marriage. She always said she was abused as a kid, and even if she was it doesnt justify what she has done to me and other men including her ex husband in which she cheated on him 3 times. (that he knows about at least)
yes. demons. That is the word.
You are 💯percent correct ! It’s sickening! Everything you said I personally experienced! They never change and it will never get better! Only worse! It will get very ugly the longer you stay and more dangerous the older they get! Get away and run as far as you can ! Your worth it!
Mechanical. Sex isn’t special with a narcissists.
My ex narc was a cheater. he was always looking for the new supply. Thank you.
I BEG TO DIE.
Every night: nightmares.
Every day: panic attacks.
I want to die.
Every morning I wake up in despair,
desperately praying to die.
I can no longer bear the pain.
I could die from the pain of missing my best friend.
He betrayed and abandoned me, discarded me like garbage.
My mind can't fathom, my heart can't comprehend.
I live in perpetual panic and terror and loneliness and longing...
I'm so alone in the world. I die of fear.
I'm so fucking traumatized and terrorized and terrified.
How could he not miss me?
How could he do this to me?
How the actual fuck could he really do this to me?
Did he just replace me? Yes, yes: he really truly actually did.
I'm dying inside. My soul is raped.
He's given me severe PTSD. Severe! Severe! Severe!
How and when will I ever heal?
In 6 days, it'll be exactly 5 months...
God, as I walk through this hell and heartache and grief,
I pray you guide and direct and hold me...
I won't be stuck in hell anymore. Enough is enough.
It's time to be free: in Jesus's name.
REMINDER TO SELF:
When you chase a man,
you NEVER get the man,
and you ALWAYS lose yourself!
Sister, I can feel what you feel, I was asking the same questions like you do. But after accepting the fact that he cannot change and I don't want to live miserable for the rest of my life, I finally let him go.
Now instead a man, put mom and dad... if my inner baby can survive, ypu can too, just stop using imagination to imagine what they not, they losers and self love is better. Dont die, dont say you want that because they are stupid... ❤ stay strong
You're not alone.
I’m so sorry you went through this and I know it’s not easy but just know that there are billions of men out here and some of them are ring abused by narcs too. I’m still trying to learn the signs so I can avoid narcs in general.
You left him right??
Thank you for confirming all I have felt and found to be true about my narcissistic ex. I appreciate the you're not crazy, trust your gut vibe of your video.
Kathy Clancy,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌺, hope you are not with a narc 😈!!
@@CasualPower9 be tired no more. TAKE YOUR POWER, BACK frm the vampire1🧛♀️🦇
@@beneiseoleinmheart5614p😊
You are spot on with the trust your gut comment!!!!
Mine was having sex with hookers. He blamed me for it and then cheated on me again with a married coworker in my own home. He was not going to stop until he scorched the earth. He’s still with the coworker years later and they think I’m the crazy one.
I made that dame stupid mistake Sweetheart and I'm trying to stop watching porn but sleeping around and prostitutes that's a no no , even thoe I get an urge but it's been 4 yrs , I'm just taking it one day at a time
So glad you got away from this monster.
Gaining supply is not an issue with the female covert.
Men flock to the damsel in distress, little bird with a broken wing routine like fly's to sugar. That's the bait, then comes the sexual Jedi, and most men never knew what hit them... love bombed, gas-lit and then the sadistic shit starts...coverts are like vampires, by the time you have a half a clue as to what your dealing with, they've already had their teeth sunk in your neck for years...
Good definition
Damn! Spot on 🤦🏾
First time to your channel as I’m trying to get some clarity on what is going on with me and my now known narcissistic boyfriend. I’ve had that gut feeling for a long time. Kept thinking something was wrong with me. Everything you said about this is true. The “rules”, withholding (punishment), or excuses why we couldn’t have sex. It has been so painful. I have recently found out that he’s been seeing escorts and nearly got caught by the police. A LOT of emotions right now. Feeling so sick to my stomach. The reality is killing me. I appreciate your video. Thank you.
I’m so sorry you experienced this. The trauma that survivors go through is so difficult but you will heal. You will feel better🙏
Thank you for sharing this.i habe been divorced for a month now.My gut was screaming for 4 years that something was "off" and that she was hiding something.She witheld sex,stating it was too emotional for her.Mind you...i met her in chuch..I found out a few months ago that she had been protituting for years...so yeah..always go with your gut.these "people" absolutely live double-lives
U dig deeper it's alot worse just know there incapable of lovi n g anyone LEAVE LEAVE RYN !
Very sad. I'm sorry your moving through this. Pray , God's our comforter. , Healer, provider, None of us deserved this t. But God will use .our entire testimony. For the good and glory of his name.
yes your gut will tell you something is not right!! go with your gut!! you will see signs from them that they have been or are with others. Narcissists think we are stupid but we are not! Narcissists treat you like you don’t exist. They don’t listen to what you say because they think they are perfect….
They basically view people as masturbation toys in the flesh. In reality the narcissist tend to fear intimacy, so sex often vanishes completely after a while.
Yes!! I totally agree..double life monster's
The truth. Social networks are their real world! That's where the strengths are. Experienced it personally after 20 years of marriage. He provided everything she asked for and was always there for her. BUT! If they catch you knowing what they're doing on social networks, you'd better pick yourself up and leave or you'll be subjected to terrible mental harassment. 20 years of marriage, I'm recovering now and it's very hard. But it will pass. Sorry for litle bad english ❤
They love the supply. With all these dating apps it’s easy for them to get all the supply. A thing I have found is that they love couples. They love coming in between them and having both partners thinking they are in love. Very deviant
My wife always targets married men.... I think she gets a mental kick to think that she has been able to entice this man away from his wife with her seductive powers. One thing I have noticed is that she is 44 and she has been riding the carasol for 3 years now and all she is getting is smashed and they move on very quickly no LTR
My wife always targets married men.... I think she gets a mental kick to think that she has been able to entice this man away from his wife with her seductive powers. One thing I have noticed is that she is 44 and she has been riding the carasol for 3 years now and all she is getting is smashed and they move on very quickly no LTR
Thank you sooooo much for this video! It explained my ex husband to a T! It's really great to hear that I'm not crazy. I wasn't making it all up. Bless that next girls heart. She'll go through it too.
Yes they find a weaker target n an oblivious one dat doesn't know them
My narc was covert , an addict, and I suffered domestic violence and isolation. He lived a double life , I believed he was heterosexual. Never thought he was gay . Truth always comes out. Always . God reveals the truth in his perfect timing. He would gay bash. (Which was a cover up). I look back now , after he passed away I now see the red flags , but also he was so cunning that I wanted to trust him and desired to be loved . I was conditioned in my family to accept the unacceptable.. Brush Everything u der the rug. Just to keep peace. Very sad . But we learn how to love ourselves and not accept the unacceptable.
It’s all a performance to them, the opposite of love👹
My covert narc would take multiple bathroom breaks a day which exposed his porn addiction. He hid it for a long time, but I revealed to him when we first met that I had no tolerance for porn addiction because my ex was a PA addict. Through learning about me and sharing this with him in the beginning stages, he used that info to better hide his addiction. It became pretty obvious with the erectile dysfunction but he blamed it on loving me so much he didn’t want to hurt me, what a joke. Sex was very robotic. It felt mechanical and detached. I straight up told him it felt like I was a “pump and dump”. Sex with him made me feel disgusting, so would often turn over and cry softly to myself after being intimate. We broke up then got back together long distance and I ended it two weeks or so ago. It’s very clear he hasn’t stopped using, as he is number one and in three plus years he has only complimented me twice. All his energy and compliments go to his E girls. I don’t regret blocking his phone calls or texts. He’s not in it for a partnership, he wants to be a little boy and have it his way. Thanks for the video and the insight. You nailed it when you mentioned that these types are not there for a partnership at all.
Thank you so much. Validation is so important for healing to take place!
My ex narc was, for lack of a better term, "adolescent" about sex. He never outgrew that mentality. Yes, he sure had that porn addiction - the final piece that identified him as a Covert. There was no information about this type of narcissism back then and the closest I got was when a therapist suggested I read "Living With the Passive-Aggressive Man." The first time I expressed discomfort, he retorted that it was "because of my childhood." It took me a while before I accepted that it didn't matter WHY I was uncomfortable. I'm sure others here can relate to not feeling entitled to our own feelings. Ugh. I attributed his addiction(s) to his being shame and fear based - so I let him have at it, with the occasional reminder that I was aware of it, and disappointed that for all the porn he watched, he was rather boring in bed. Small "victories" that informed him that I still had a backbone were all I had. Later, after leaving him, I let him know that he was nothing. He had no power, and that I KNEW him. After all, I'd spent 25 years with him. I knew him but even though I think he feared my insight, he had underestimated ME. He could not have predicted my rebirth - it was glorious. I didn't think he was watching my social media and now I'm pretty certain he was. THAT is a satisfying thought because it could only have reinforced what he already knew - I found him boring. Now to work through my crap with the original narcs. Life. Embrace the small victories and celebrate yourselves!
Judith Stadelmaier,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🥀,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!
@@christianpulisic7784 , ty and I walked away 12 years ago 😁
@@deftlefthand9964 Oh ok dearest 🌷🌹🌹.I am Christian from the States.You?
Mine would baby talk me and it made me want to puke. They are so WEIRD
@@missminti My partner's mother used to talk baby talk to her son. That was pukable too. Nothing cute about an old woman doing baby talk to a grown man.
The timing of this was perfect, thank you. I so needed to hear this tonight. I was really missing him physically and everything you discussed was how he was sexually. Great topic. Thank you for helping us get through the evil that these people put us through.
I knew something was off lack of affection or interest plus Ed smh but when it did which was rare it was like robotic I left I never returned
Spot on! My ex Narc still has a hidden network in my house so he can go on these hookup websites under our son's and my accounts and has sex with these strange women/prostitutes on a routine basis. I guess it was a good thing he would not be intimate with me, except when he wanted to play mind games and act like he wanted to work on things, when he had no intention of being in a committed relationship. I have recently bought new phones again for my son and I only to be taken over by this narcissist and he thinks I'm unaware of his sick addiction. He has my vehicle tapped in several ways so if I drive close to his house, my lights/electricity dim which gives him a signal I'm nearby so he doesn't get caught. Two more years and our son will be 18 and I'm planning on moving away and changing my name so I don't have to be exploited by this monster ever again!
Honestly, you should’ve left him already You are putting your son in harms way for years now. Protect him at least. Best of luck ❤
If I may ask?-.. Hidden network?
Excellent message. My narc ex-wife was in a hurry to get married, but then turned off intimacy like a light switch and started disappearing / ghosting me for long periods of time. This explains so much.
You mean no sex. How long
@@alfx5432, not just sex - eye contact, cuddling. She took the mask off.
Now happily divorced.
@@VoxLesPaul My husband is like this too
@@savewaterdrinkwine3802, sorry to learn this. I hope you can draw the appropriate response to your situation that gives you peace and respects you.
Same
No emotions only manipulation control
I was absolutely married to that man you so perfectly discribed. I know now that I wore those rose colored glasses. I loved a man who was not real. He had no trouble finding people to play disgusting sex games with. Not one of them gave a good dam who they were hurting as long as they were doing what tthe hell entertained them. He really knew all the damaged people. A lot of what he and his play toys did was drug fueled. He confessed days befor he died and I am still in shock. I do not like who he really was much. I dislike the fact that he played with my life and had a great time trying to destroy me . But I am stronger then he gave me credit for and I am doing oK .Hopefully someday I will be at peace with the hand I was dealt.
You are strong and you will find peace. If I can do it you can too. My ex was with hundreds of prostitutes, massage parlor workers and strippers for over 25 years and when I finally found out what he had been doing I literally wanted to die and thought about suicide daily. But then one day a friend said "You are a good and trusting person and your ex always acted like the nicest guy in the world so you trusted that he was. Be proud of yourself for being a good person and have lived a life caring about others. Get strong and start a new life and don't look back. So what's done is done and you will never be able to change it. Find peace and focus on other things and it will all work out.
Yes it's was all about my ex narc husbands performance. DO NOT IGNORE RED FLAGS! That gut feeling is important.
Any guy that cheated on such a good looking lady as yourself is an idiot! I pray that you heal and meet someone who will respect you in the way you deserve. Blessings 🙌🕎
They are a mirror to your own insecurities. I would recommend getting a check up ASAP
Rachel Mcelroy everyone who gets out of a relationship with a narcissist should immediately get tested for all STD’s. It’s scary especially since you May have been in a relationship with one for many years with no clue they were not monogamous.
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery with Coach Kat seriously! I blame my own naïveté. 5 years and by the end I was merely a shell of who I used to be. Then when everything came to light I felt so confused and violated!! While I understand now, I still have no idea how these people get away with it!!
That's very good...and they get great pleasure rubbing them (insecurities) in your face...even though it's done in a sneaky way...they b like...who me? I wouldn't do that..
@@climboutoftraumawithcoachk8245 certainly,this concerns me 100%
After 17yrs I spent with my Ex Covert Narcissist Husband,with 3 kids, I got out last year December, to realize he was a true Womanizer! And only four months away from him, he has already impregnated his new Supply and wants to marry her!
It's so sad,and very scary how they change totally to a Wild Beast and show their true Colors in a blink of an eye!!
Listen to your gut!
Tell them to take an STD test and than go silent....Great Talk. Sex Is Easy For Lazy People Too.
For many years he got defensive, angry, “how dare you accuse me”- or, “you're crazy! Or paranoid!!!”
I knew what I knew though, after # 7 or 8. So, in order to get the truth, and stop feeling crazy, I began tracking these women down-one by one. Went directly to their homes, and refused to leave until they told me the TRUTH!!
One by one, I was vindicated!!!!
One particular bee-ach said, “it's none of your business what I did with your husband”.
Although I wanted to punch her in the face, I didn't. I just laughed, and thanked her for confirming what I already knew!!!
The pain of betrayal is brutal!! But after so many, you just don't even care anymore!! (there have been 13 that I know of...but probably more!!).
I told him I wouldn't touch that thing with a 10 ft pole!!!
Desperately trying to get out!!! But he has me by the throat financially, psychologically, etc. I'm so broken. 😢
That was 9 months ago you left that comment but if you're still with the monster you've got to go and leaving everything behind will refresh everything you know about yourself over time. Unfortunately I've done it many times and ended up with him this time is permanent because there is another protection order and I filed for divorce a couple days ago. 18 years. 18 years married but by myself. 18 crazy making gaslighting word salad plausible deniability BS time wasted. Just get out you got to get out.
I’m sorry you’re going through this, but you should have planned your escape a long time ago…
I called the ex a sexual deviant, he actually sexually assaulted me once and I now put it down to the depraved porn he was watching but didn't know about at the time
Thank you this needs to be known
Thanks for this, beautiful lady. My battle is ongoing. I’m just realizing 20 years with my covert narc may have been full of these heartbreaks 😢
I found what really helped me was to disengage! I've been married to a narcissist for 28years. Now we sleep in separate bedrooms, I haven't had sex with him in 8 months. I told him it's over! And please just leave . He refuses to just go away. All our kids are grown except for the last one, who starts highschool in the fall.
Oh, yes. Sex was a tool. He made promises of how good it would be, how I would love being with him, etc. When he was offered the reality of actually getting together he was all about excuses for why it wasn't a good time. How I'd built things up too much in my mind, etc. When I called him out for being all talk he became furious and accused me of the same thing. He just wanted to keep me on the hook talking to him about sex without actually coming through.
😮they are all chat and promises......future faking......lying....denying......shouting.....TOXIC AND EVIL😮
Just was with a girl that promised everything, turns out I didn't hear from her for a bit and said she just had a lot going on. Then start hearing she was out with other multiple guys late night. Atleast I pieces it together and can finally move on. I knew in my gut with her eyes that she wasn't trustworthy but she was a gold star liar. She won't get away with it forever.
The 🎉 7:03
You are right on! I lived all this!
A lot of narcissists are into BDSM, kink, and sadomasochism. They love to use kink as a camouflage and love Dom/sub dynamics. Tons of them love to masquerade as Doms.
Yeeeeeeeeeeeeesss! Cannot agree more.
I have just discovered this.
He left his gag in the toilet.
I've been looking for this comment for some time. It doesn't seem to be a well known connection. Look up the margins of the hotwife c**kold kink. Woman actively finds big xyz type guys and husband actively consents and is locked up never had has sex with narc hotwife. The "consent" idea is pretty gray on that level. Very little about this online.
I’ve always suspected my ex was cheating or something was going on but never had any proof. She gave the most bizarre explanations that made me doubt even more but still no evidence. Then (I’m afraid I did snoop) and found a couple of things that pointed towards an STI. I confronted her which confirmed it. First concrete evidence but so much will always remain a mystery.
Ugh same!! At the end, it’s not that he may have been cheating. I’d be fine after getting over the relationship but the fact that you could never get the truth after dumping them just bothered me more than if I did find out right there and then. But sometimes too, have you you evr found them trusting you w/ certain things and just tell on themselves. Like one time my ex narc showed me a calculator app that actually was an app to hide private pictures. Lol I was like wowwww.
How articulate and truthful your authentic session was
She won’t kiss or look me in the eye. I feel very used.
Strange: I got the vibe from ex gf that she went both ways. No evidence, just a hunch
Yeah the narc I was with looked macho and fit. But the first time we watched a movie at his house I noticed he had a belly ring with a tattoo around it. I thought hmm why would a manly guy get a belly ring. When I asked him about it he said his friends dared him. But it just gave a a weird feeling.
The guy that I was with was definitely using it as a tool and as a reward and not giving me any at times as a punishment. Kissing during sex actually made him go limp. It was a turn off for him. He seemed to intentionally fight with me at times so that he didn’t have to have it with me.
Then why was he with you in the first place?
@@gerardusch Possibly because he didn’t have many friends. Maybe he wanted someone to blame or do things for him or possibly because I am a creative person which could help make things for to help with his small business . You would have to be inside his brain to really know.
Biggest advice: DO NOT IGNORE THE RED FLAGS.
You might see it, the ignoring it is where the danger comes in.
Well put! That's exactly what I saw.
Many years ago I worked for a narcissist & he did two things that made me quit: 1. He kept trying to get me to eff his wife. 2. He spent his days looking for 15 year old girls to eff. His business mostly ran itself so he had all day & plenty of money to $$$ play.
thats true.. my gut was screaming telling me something was wrong.. i remember even crying one day about it.. it was awful.. it was like something was just telling me something was off but i couldn't put my finger on what was happening.. finally at some point i just got tired of it all and let her go for good
You rite with the gut. The covert narc girlfriend was always there in the evening. But seeing poeple in the day time. She would always say what time you in tomorrow only we could go some where if your not working. She ask this so she would no what time you were in from work the next day because she would be banging some one. I often had gut feelings especially towards the end of the relation ship before I was discarded.
Thank you very enlightening ❤
I stayed with this guy with a porn addiction, but stopped being intimate with him as he just learnt to hide it.
Recently discovered he is in to BDSM & all sorts of weird shit on you tube.
Hidden apps hides it all.
I just broke up with him
Dated a Marc who picked up prostitutes in front of me, daily. Definitely was bi-sexual and his his lustful ways. Thank God for freedom.
I had a woman come up behind me at an event. She said to me that I seemed like A nice person and asked me why I was with the person I was with. She said that I should find another boyfriend, because he has some “deep dark secrets “ . When I asked what, when, where, why, who? She didn’t give me any receipts. So I thought she was just trying to cause trouble. I wanted some info as to how she knew but she didn’t give me anything. I wish she would have. I would have RAN!
Thanks one more time , I’m very very happy for all this information and you’re very clear on this , I see it the all view of my relationship with this woman , I’m so proud of myself and much better now 💪 , thanks you and Paz ✌️.
Thank you so much for your video. I look forward to watching more. So relieved to have found your channel. God Bless!
Spot on. Thank you.
Omg this was spot on.
Great points made. Mine said he was so tired of the tons of sluts he had had before, said he now wanted real connection....and NOW he was ready, for a real relationship. With me.
😂😂😅😂😂😂
He knew he was screwed up.
But that does not mean he wanted, to improve, change, grow.
Famous line! I'm tired of 1 night stands. I want connection 😅
If only they'd stuck to one night stands.
We never had intimacy, he would pretend to ejaculate because of how much he got male or female. We never consummated the marriage. He would bring meth heads and introduce them as a weed connection. 13 years and I completely understand Macbeth. I live it
Yes. When your spouse tells you that the things you say that make you happy are hoops that he has to jump through.
My ex female narc was definitely bisexual if not a lesbian. She told me on the second date she was open to women as sexual partners. Most of her flying monkeys are lesbians or very butch women. She had a shrine to her high school girlfriend in her bedroom. No pictures of her ex husband or daughters but the high school friend on her nighstand with their arms around each other plus a piece of the girlfriends art work on the bedroom wall. The high school was also a female only boarding school and the narcs youngest daughter is a lesbian. Very strong circumstantial evidence plus her hostility and hatred towards me and her father.
She was telling you directly that she was bisexual. In my case I suspected that my ex narc gf was bisexual but never had any evidence. It was her masculine energy as well as my gut intuition.
I am so sad when I read all these comments, that you all went through this. And then I remember I did too.
She’s right on. I thought it was a monogamous relationship. He was a performer but also was good at making me feel cherished. That was until I learned about all the others.
We are all worth so much more!
Yep agreed it was just weird.
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When we kissed. He had his eyes open and a smirk on his face. Sneaky.
2:57 I don't think it's just about validation. I think many narcissists just have high levels of testosterone, and as a result high sex drives. Their testosterone levels also contribute to their predatory nature.
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My ex was a covert narc- he took injectable testosterone and he was very sexually active w me. He had a high sex drive but the sex was empty and meaningless, it was just a performance for him. I agree with your statement. I think even if he didn’t take testosterone he would’ve been the same way but it just made it even more so
Your always gonna be with a narc if Christ isn't first and foremost in both of your lives. Lust and fornication and adultery are exactly what the Bible says it is and any relationship started this way is cursed.
Yes!! Absolutely! That was the main reason I wanted out! I want to fly when that trumpet sounds!
Amen! We're turning into a modern day Sodom. The Bible says to FLEE sexual immorality. Flee is like running from a burning building.
My ex and I went to church, prayed together, daily devotionals and he was a narcissist. I couldn't wrap my head around it. How he could worship God with me and still be a cheater. Then God revealed to me that he went to church for status not for a closer relationship with God.
Easy prey. He was preying not praying.
I think many people think they are going to be “Pauline” about it, and win the spouse over to Christ, but then demons see that is what the Christians are doing and do have the narc as a vessel for destruction sitting at their disposal, after all.
True..but when they bring you home a disease, you definitely slow down or cut back if you are married. No one wants to die because someone else is selfish
Like the way you emphasise to TRUST YOUR GUT, YOUR INTUITION AND YOUR INSTINCTS!! Cos that too can be undermined with their constant lies!!
Thank you sweetie! Blessings stay safe and well-being!! 🙏🙏😘🇺🇸💞💓💕👣👸
Both of my narcissistic ex wives were exactly that. Both tried to get me to do gay stuff.
My mother is a covert narc I awakened 3 years ago I'm a super empath I found out she has a secret sex life and was sleeping with the same sex and on dating sites
Muslim girls need to watch this! Big no to polygamy marriages!
I really like your handle
Thank you so much God bless you
I’m Celibate and beyond happy. He was a down low doctor. He was having a relationship
With a male medical resident!!!!
This had happened to me: I was scammed by psychopath. He was a complete looser, cheater and he gave me STDs by raping me the 1st time I met him in person.
My ex had such a high sex drive, he always wanted it, and he would be texting me during the day telling me what he wanted to do when we saw each other. I just thought it was because he was a young guy and that’s just the way it was. It still didn’t seem normal to me, I started to google his behaviors and narcissism came up! It all made sense, he would accuse me of cheating on him when I said no, he would fight with me and call me names, he didn’t care if I was tired or on my period or had to get up early for work and just wanted to sleep, if he wanted sex, that’s all that mattered. He never wanted to use condoms and if I asked him to, he would get mad at me. Towards the end of the relationship I started to get bv every time I was with him, every single time! This had never happened with any other guy, only him. I was constantly on antibiotics, it was horrible, I think this was one of the many ways my body was rejecting him. Good riddance!
The narcissists in my life taught me to keep my love life an absolute secret, as well as I can possibly muster. Not the same as what's being said here. I'm just sharing pro-tips with other survivors of narcissism.
Mine wouldn’t try anything new. He ‘’knew’’ how to have sex. He didn’t
Omg!Exactly what I'm going thru!
Yes there is a high predisposition for narcissists especially covert narcassists towards bisexuality and some kind of sexual addiction. They do lead dark double lives and hide it well.
Wish I would’ve known about this when I met him. My world as I’ve known it, has been a lie for 22 years.
Mine had prostate surgery that made him impotent. It bothered me...Not! Years later I found a glass [recently used] butt plug in his computer desk drawer. He was an altar boy + eventually joined military. Don't ask don't tell policy?