You lose the memories you need to remember, but they return... I watched the video and was moved by it. However, when I recalled the great tragedies-the thousands of people who lost not only their memories but their lives-I almost cried for you, Palestine.
Especially if you've experienced that kind of relief yourself when you're sure you've screwed the pooch and you really didn't. That sweet relief hits different.
@@claudialandgraf4450 I do this kind of thing often, at inappropriate times. Sometimes I actually manage to say to myself, "Just leave it.", and I do. Other times it feels compulsory to do it right then. Not good.
This was a fantastic short! Thank you for sharing it. The only thing you missed is re-entering the house at least 3 times because you forgot your glasses, phone, wallet, hat, coat, bag you meant to bring, etcccccccc haha :)
THIIIIIISSSSSS. My husband is the total opposite, if something is forgotten inside, he won't even return FROM THE DRIVEWAY to get it. It drives me completely nuts.
@@eyou2813that happens to me but while I’m driving away I feel like somethings missing *30 seconds later yells and does a U-turn knowing she’s just added another 5 minutes onto already being late*
This is so RELATABLE!!! I actually ask God before I leave the house if I forgot anything. 😅 Thankfully my sweet husband has helped me immensely with time management and filling my car!! 😍 BTW, there’s nothing wrong with doodling! 🧚🏻 *I’m showing my husband this when he wakes up… 🤣🤣💛
The opening… checking to make sure everything is off… the way a strangers words feel like heavy criticism… the toothpaste on the jacket… all the notes… so much of this… thank you
I have ADHD and coincidentally a daughter who is an artist, illustrator and a writer with ADHA and she thinks she also has a learning disability that went undiagnosed in her childhood. The thing that resonated with me the most was the appointment being at 1:00 not 11. That happens to me all the time. Sometimes I think my subconscious does that to me on purpose to keep me ahead of task not just on it. Most adults with this problem, have coping mechanisms like an extra jacket in the car, or a stain removal kit etc. Still something always go missing or is off.
The entire range of emotions this sent me through: anxiety, stress, relational empathy, frustration, relief, annoyance, grief, excitement. I felt like I was watching myself TRYING.
Yes! This is me just trying to get to work, doing a job that I'm overqualified for but still fail at because I do things like forgetting to lock the back door when I leave work! But I'm trying...
Yeah the whole time I was thinking of all the times I’ve had similar things happen… even thinking an appointment was earlier 😂 … Also in that boat, missing when someone delays a meeting to another day. I show up to the meeting wondering where they are-then discover they messaged me earlier telling me they needed to postpone or cancel… always a relief because I probably wasn’t ready the first time anyways 😂😂
Yep everyday. I have adhd children too. Imagine this lady, plus two kids just like this too, all trying to get out the door at the same time to go to school and work in the morning. Life feel like a whirlwind. And we get really tired of it too. This is also why we zone out for long periods of time and sleep in, we get sooo tired.
This needs to be a network series!!! Please Please Please 🙏 I was diagnosed at 68 yo; imagine spending your entire life believing you’re somehow broken.
Thanks for this, Sharon. I would love that. I'm so happy you got your diagnosis when you did, and also sorry it took so long. Mine was thinking I was "stupid" and "crazy". Thanks again for watching. xx
I was 40 when I was finally diagnosed. This was at a time when adult ADD was just being recognizedhat was recognized as a possibility. It was after the birth of my second daughter who had a years long extended version of the terrible two's. That's when the cracks starting appearing in my ability to manage raising kids, a large home 10 miles from town, pets, plants, cooking, cleaning, laundry, kid's activities, etc. and a spouse who traveled frequently. I stumbled across an article on adult ADD and realized this could explain my entire life. Unfortunately, I believe my now ex husband did not, or would not believe ADD was real. Therefore, he became increasingly critical and eventually walked out.
This is so accurate. I cried when she said, "Thank you for your time, Mrs. Hazel." The lifelong, unrelenting cycle of lifting yourself up and then rock-bottoming yet again because you're such a f-up. People without ADHD will see this as the story of a nervous, disorganized, insecure, quirky but loveable goofball who can't quite adult. People with ADHD will squirm and tense up when the toothpaste drops, when the keys aren't there, when she has to tell her friend that she messed up yet again... It's so real it hurts. Congratulations and thank you for making this 🙏
You absolutely nailed it. It's been fascinating reading through the comments on this. Thanks for watching and for this reflection. Means a lot to me. xx
Oh man, at the beginning, when she stopped and was just standing there, I knew exactly what was going on and I could narrate exactly what was going on in her head…which was “what was I doing?”…and she blew out the candle for the second time, and I felt like I was watching me…I’m a guy, but this hits home hard! The school stuff got me straight tearing up, cuz I too was that kid…
That bit Where she piles up the things that she needs to have together before she leaves the house. I thought that was normal. I do it every morning. It's so true to life. I don't know how other people manage to leave the house so quickly.
100000%. I don't know how anyone does anything quickly. It seems like NT people do things in sequence or in the same way every time...without distractions? And don't get caught up in details or worrying. It's wild.
@@linachristopoulou8670 I would like to say sometimes I say all those things out loud when I am trying to rush out the door, the amount of times I talk out loud to myself because I am struggling to sort through all my thoughts! Crazy how true this is!
wow I didnt think that was a ADHD thing. I always have like 10 things in my hands before leaving even though I carry a big bag. I dont understand why I cant just place the phone, key, wallet inside the bag but have to carry them with my hands 😂
Yikes this is everything. Lack of control on the expressions, the anger flares, forgetfullness, the fighting to be taken seriously, the overthinking, the notes everywhere, the second guessing of oneself and others doing it, the nervous ticking, the compulsive need to check everything FOR SURE, the gas situation, bringing things you don't actually need because you think you MIGHT need it because you are forgetful and it might just save you... The things that fall through the cracks so easily and having to live with needing to push them to the side... Wow this was it all.
You nailed it. This was my first "real" script I've written, and it's something I'm really proud of. Everything was extremely intentional in how the story was being told with what I knew and learned at the time (almost 4 years ago!) Thanks for this and for watching. 🦢
@@samlabbq wow love that/this! the authenticity really shone through, you made your experience so accessible to others, Love that you were 'intentional' about it, great word! thank you and awesome to see you be so equally thoughtful in your replies to your viewers/subscribers.
@@carolinelong1 thank you 🥺 I later learned I had adhd myself, it's been a wild ride. Making this film has changed my life for the better. So grateful for the communities surrounding it. 💚
@sluhbrek This is excellent! It really shows the truth of what some of us go through. Reading through the comments shows that it means a lot to many people. I think we feel seen, I do, for sure. Thank you!
...and most of all, saying it in our own heads 💔 But so many peiple don't _quite_ believe that ADHD is actually real -- even those closest to us -- and so it starts to feel like maybe they're right. The "why can't I do things like everyone else?" tape plays on and on in my head. I'm 55 😢
I got a "Trying" tattoo of the title card after I made the film, and was seriously considering getting "Doing" instead. By trying, we are doing. The potential thing is exhausting. Sending hugs and thanks for watching.
@@camez2345 Totally. I've felt I'm "stupid" and "crazy" for so long. Even reading these comments has been a trip, but I'm so glad I've been in therapy for a while and built my self confidence so I can discern what is true and what isn't. You're not alone and you got this. And happy you're part of the Trying Fam :')
Imagine someone who has ADHD but hasn’t been diagnosed. There are many people who have these issues and symptoms that don’t understand why they’re so different from others. Everything they do is a complicated task. Bravo to the writer of this story and the amazing actress who plays her part so convincingly.
Thank you for this. As the writer and actor, seriously, thank you. I personally know dozens of people who have watched this film and gone on to get diagnosed and research adhd. The fact that "Trying" has changed people's lives has made me understand my purpose here in this life. :')
I'm sure I have ADHD, but I was never diagnosed. When I was a kid, I never finished tests in time, and my mother bought me a clock. I struggled so much. When I was 13, I had a high school trip and lost the passport a week before going to Italy. Oh god, I remember the fury, the frustration of my parents, my tantrums of eternal frustration. I'm diagnosed by myself and that's fine, I don't want a hard medication, then I wouldn't be myself. I'm just messy sometimes, and everyone should be allowed to be messy, because we are never messy in purpose.
@@joanaborrellsanchez9225 When I accepted I have ADHD (after becoming friends with two women who have both been diagnosed, one as a child, the other as an adult), I too thought "what's the point of getting a diagnosis", but now I wish I'd asked my doctor to refer me straight away, because the waiting lists are so horribly long, at least where I live (I have 11 months left to wait, out of 36). I'm not sure I would want drugs either, but I've realised it means a lot to me to get this thing on a piece of paper.
The word "TRYING" reeled me in. I was diagnosed with ADD at uni, at the age of 46. The diagnosis put my whole past into perspective. I have had 30 jobs. I was finally starting to accept my diagnosis and feel more empowered, when I visited my sister who`s a mental health nurse and she decided to tell me that I just need to try harder. And that I can do things if I really want to. Wtf?!!!!!!!!!!.... This video strikes a cord! It shows the reality of what many of us have to deal with on a daily basis.
1000%. I got "TRYING" tattoo'd after I made the film as a reminder, and have been offering myself more compassion since making the film. I'm sorry that happened with your sister. You're not alone. Thanks for watching and sharing 🥲
i can almost sense the deflation that conversation may have temporarily (hopefully) caused. Conversations/comments like that are a BIG part of why I went into mental health the most; in hopes of bulldozing the 'advisement' approach to pave 'help me understand your experience/perspective approach'. I struggle with MH services that operate through a rote/scripted method, asking standard questions rather than seeing a purpose in having a conversation that helps put someone at ease. Motivational Interviewing is a modality that inspired me to re-think and transform my engagement with people. Problem is I only want to have meaningful conversation with people and struggle with small talk (referring to my other relationships/parents)I so it's been a life-long learning in how to have realistic expectations, and still find a way to be myself, express my passions, with the right people. I have always been passionate about pushing against the grain and it's got me in trouble with certain work places, I like to think of myself as a fierce advocate because nothing fires me up more than social justice (anyone relate?) I'm not sure if this is even a linear post but Your sister's well intentioned comment got me a bit fired up too :) My dad used the statement "manage your money like the rest of us"...or something stupid like that. It upset me but I have learned to be more compassionate toward myself through support of a life coach. BTW if anyone is looking for a life coach, she is a rare breed in my opinion, and is just great at exuding understanding and listening with intention; she's great at somatic/breathing exercises and super creative/artistic/musical, which is not necessarily relevant to the sessions, but more to do with what is at her core and creativity comes through in her approaches as well. Truly, let me know! It's virtual but for some that works! Unless you live in Buffalo than you can probably arrange in person?! Hope that helps someone :)
Augh this is too relatable, started tearing up. The oversharing about personal stories with random strangers and not realizing it. The difficulty in controlling emotions. The difficulty of remembering to do things, the constant fight to avoid distractions.
I was about to type this!!! I was finally diagnosed at 38, I'm in my early forties now. Somehow being "older" now has made my ADHD so much worse. 😳 Thank you so much for making this short film!! I'm going to send it to my neurotypical best friend immediately!!
The moment I was thinking, "is this me???" her phone showed her name.. Megan.. which is MY NAME. What the heck. I relate to this so much, it gives me chills.
Also go by Meg, have applied for a teaching position at the school I graduated from teaching digital scripture. I have Autism and a big imagination. I felt so connected to this character and her struggles!
Your video is the reason I started researching ADHD symptoms in women, and the reason that only now, after 25 years (I'm 33) of blaming myself and experiencing constant failure and psychological pain, I finally have an answer. The value of your film and what it has given me exceeds what I'm able to offer you, but know that I am eternally grateful for this life-changing insight.
Wow...hon, this made me cry. And gave me goosebumps. I didn't know I had ADHD until a year after shooting the film, and I wouldn't have known I did if I hadn't made this film, so I completely empathize with you, and I'm truly just floored by your note, and by your generosity. Making this film took everything out of me and I resented it for a small time (because it came at the cost of my health at the time), and now, three years later, I'm just so extremely grateful that it's out in the world, and that it's helped you understand yourself so much better. My life completely changed when I learned I have ADHD, and your generosity of wanting to give is something that I can't really articulate at the moment. It's really impactful for me, so really, from the bottom of my heart, thank you. For me, life got a little easier when I realized I wasn't crazy or stupid, I just had a brain that works a certain way. And thank god for it. Sending so, so, so many hugs. xx - Sam
"Hurts, but in a 'good' way" feels fitting to describe this and other similar films. We never asked to be like this, but even though it may be painful to see others go through the same thing, it's nice to know there are others out there who actually GET us. Thank you for making this.
@@samlabbq Before you replied, I didn't even notice that you personally replied to every other comment on this. If anyone ever questions your dedication again, just show them this comment section. I'm definitely gonna keep TRYING in life & this was a great reminder, so again, thank you. I hope you get more recognition.
@ 🥲 this film changed my life in so many ways, and it being recognized by the community and so many people feeling passionately enough to share and comment on it is extremely fulfilling for me. Just so grateful to be here 🥲💚 thanks for watching and enjoying it. Appreciate yah!!!!
This was supposed to be a comedy in many ways, but I cried through the entire thing. The pain, shame, and disgust in yourself for constantly feeling like you can't do anything right is so overwhelming. I loved this. I genuinely feel seen.
Totally. Getting my diagnosis, mixed with INCREDIBLE self love and compassion, therapy, and other ND friends...I've finally started to think maybe I'm not insane. And all these comments :')
Your editor did a great job! I can feel the stress and urgency as Meg rushes around and then the significance of Meg defending herself at the interview.
Thanks, Livy. Our editor Austin absolutely nailed it. The opening sequence is my favorite scene. I spent the most amount of time writing the interview scene, I always wonder if I'd do what Meg did in that position myself.
My mum and I have a deal where she messages me “I did it!” in the morning to confirm she did her workout and remind me to exercise and if she misses her workout then I don’t have to do it either haha
The interviewer/teacher sound so much like my own mother. Im 41 years old. I wasnt diagnosed with ADHD until a week before my 40th birthday. It made so much sense. It exlained everything about my childhood. I told my mom right away. She basically rolled her eyes at me. She still criticizes my every move and frequently reminds me about how much of a failure i am. 🙃
Wow 5*58. The candy bar, the Llama and flower - all the details. Then the fellow on the bike and her humorous retort with his Fck You - cinema verite on a whole chaotic, real level. The hope that there is still time to get to the appointment.
Oh, meant this as a general comment, but it looks like a reply to your comment. Ironically, by some coincidence, while marvelling at this film, with the thought that there is also family dynamics to consider. The pressure to perform, to be dismissed and totally be a person non grata, and when reaching out, being met with hostility. So sorry your mom talks to you like that. Imagine her internal dialogue as a virus. You are a beautiful creation. Don't let anyone clip your wings. It does get better. What is working for me is simplifying, and much time outdoors... But the chaos is always there in my mind....
Omg I have never watched something and identified with it so much before. I AM LITERALLY AN ART TEACHER with ADHD and I struggle with it every single day. Thanks so much for representing my struggle and everyday disfunction so accurately!!!!
YOU ARE MEG!! I always knew Meg had to be an art teacher. There just felt like no other option. Thanks for watching and for your amazing work educating with art 🥲
After years of feeling shame about my "limitations," I'm finally living life on my own terms. I've made up my own method of teaching creative writing and work with a lot of neurodiverse people like me. We see the world differently and we have so much to give, though it took me years to know this. Your film is going to help so many. Thank you.
I have never related to anything as much as this, it actually made me cry because so many don't understand the struggle, and also the amazing creativity in our brains, thank you for making this video.
I CRIED! Actually cried.. This is my story, too. After a decade of nomadic jobs that took me around the world, I became a teacher. My desk area around my desk was always a disaster. My piles had piles. But my lessons were super-fun and engaging! I became the teacher I wish I had! Yeah, my desk area was a mess, but I won three Teacher of the Year awards for making learning fun, and for students learning a lot. Just like our protagonist here, my lessons were very creative, and I worked to connect them to all students. In my class, we'd spend the first few weeks doing activities where students learn about the/their brain. ADHD kids were my favorite. Yet, what works for them, works for ALL students. But my lessons were specifically created with ADHD kids in mind. I'm recently retired. I just moved to another state, and had to get a formal ADHD diagnosis again, as a senior citizen, since I couldn't get my records from decades ago. I'm sending a link to this video to several friends. Thanks for making and posting on TH-cam. 🌟❤🌟
@@ShellBAtoms this made ME cry. Wow. Thank you so much for sharing and for all you've done as a teacher, and for supporting all of your students how you have. I love hearing that what worked for your adhd students worked for everyone...I think this needs to be in a teaching course somewhere. My heart is swelling. Thank you for watching, sharing, and being you 💚
Tears in my eyes. This is so relatable. I became a nanny as I felt that I could help those who are more sensitive and more “difficult” to understand (because people lack knowledge), it was in training to be a Montessori teacher and focusing on a more neuroscience based approach that I finally understood that I too belong to the category of autism and adhd. I suffered, trying, for about 30 years before I understood why I am the way I am. A beautiful unorchestrated mess ✨ And I wouldn’t have it any other way. Sadly the world judges us for being different and while we make accommodations for them all day every day - others in the world do not. Here’s hope to a more inclusive and caring future 💞
Thanks so much for watching and sharing, seriously. This means so much to me and everything you're speaking on is so important. A beautiful unorchestrated mess!
This really resonates with me. I've had a day like this so many times, and instead of calling for gas, because I was running late, I was frazzled and accidentally put diesel in my gas tank instead of regular gas.It'ss such an ADHD thing,Ii know 😫 i still have nightmares about running out of gas. Everything here was spot on. Thank you for seeing me and others who struggle with this. Ive spent my whole life trying and being told I'm not good enough or not trying hard enough. But I'm trying so hard and often it feels like no one sees that. Thank you for seeing that.
I really needed this today! I was spiraling in shame as I am desperately trying to meet a deadline for my work that comes up once every 2 years, after a helpful someone said “maybe next time start it sooner”…(great unsolicited advice, Mr. Neurotypical!)…except I’ve taken the week off from work to jump through the hoops and keep getting sidetracked by a million small to large fires. ADHD is hell. I wish my life was as organized as hers, well, maybe I was in my 20’s…it is way worse in my 50’s, at least she was diagnosed prior to menopause, it’s incredibly good info to have. ❤ This definitely captured the feelings of the struggle.
You've got my support. When is the deadline? Maybe it can help: 1. take a step back 2. simplify 3. prioritize 4. visualise + if possible get external help / delegate and / or say no or postpone things that are coming into your way until this deadline. You've got this 🤗❤✨
100%, Jen. Us on the crew for this film were also adhd'ers (though we didn't know it at the time...wild story) and ended up staying up all night...the night of a holiday...to get the deadline done for our first screening of the film. It didn't happen, and I had to spend a whole lot of cash to move things around and eventually get it there. Experienced long-term burnout after that, which caused me to take a break from making projects altogether. I wish there was a magic wand to make it all better. My heart's with you.
It IS hell. And Menopause was absolutely the worst struggle! Everything came crashing down and I nearly took my own life. I’m still here with a lot of support from family, friends and therapy. Understanding our weaknesses and triggers is really helpful though. I’m learning for myself how to stay out of that high stress zone which always sends me into overwhelm mode and task paralysis. Just do what you can and celebrate even the smallest achievements! Mr Neurotypical wouldn’t last a week in our shoes.
I thought this was about OCD when I started watching it because I have OCD, and the repeated checking resonated a lot. Maybe i have ADHD too? This was really relatable. and totally believable. Thank you.
Beautiful! Criminally underrated. Perfectly captures the whole experience. From stress to imposter syndrome, to oversharing and having to constantly explain ourselves to the stereotypes that follow us all our lives. So well done! ❤
@@Distracted_Genius you nailed it. Thanks so much for watching. A lot of love, care, introspection, research, and collaboration made this film possible. So happy you enjoyed it!! 💚
This really made me feel seen! the chaos, the double checking, the thinking you’ve got everything covered. The overwhelming emotions. The oversharing. Appearing disheveled, the loudness of the ticking clock and how seconds feel like hours and just when you’re about to snap they walk in the door.
I ugly cried at the end. That was a masterpiece. I have watched this video to procrastinate on my project due tomorrow and dont regret it. Outstanding job! Love, an Adhder from Germany
Wow, thank you for this, and for watching all the way from Germany. It took a lot of hard work to make it what it is...and HAHA at procrastinating!! SO relatable. Hope it all got done and went well (I'm sure it did, right through to that deadline 😉)
I felt all of this especially forgetting the cup of coffee. All the anxiety over what other adults wanted. But especially that she was at her calmest with the child and I wanted to cheer yes she is the person you're looking for to be an elementary school art teacher! Brilliant short film
You nailed it. The more visually colorful scenes are when Meg can be herself and not worry so much about masking, the more mutely colored scenes are the opposite. Thanks for watching :')
I cried 3 times the first 5 minutes I relate to this so much. So many accurate little details about living with ADHD. I cried a few more times until the end. The gratitude and relief when she got the job after all the emotional upheaval and inner turmoil. Her students will love her and she will love her job and be good at it, I predict. As an unmedicated ADHD TK/K teacher who stresses myself out and cries in the car often, thank you.
Wow. Thank you, Celeste. Yes to all of this. Based on personal experience! Thank you for watching and sharing, and for doing what you're doing with the kiddos. You're awesome. 🥺
The bruise you notice and have no idea when you got it (but at the same time, know it could have been from any of one thousand chaotic moments you’ve experienced earlier in the day!) The struggle to leave the house with everything you need, no matter how early you plan or even having prepared some of what you need the night before! Spills, knocks, scrapes- things that feel inevitable not unusual like it seems for most other adults. And yes, the over sharing and timelessness with strangers! Amazing video, wish I had watched it sooner. Thankyou for the understanding you are bringing to the world ❤
Reading the comments on the impact the movie has on people’s lives makes me cry with joy and hope. This is the magic of a story. The magic of the courage to tell a story. Thank you, Sam!
I have never felt so close to a perfect stranger in my while life! You're a wonderful actress and didn't miss a thing in all those visuals and incidents that only a person with ADHD could understand. The sticky notes....OMG!. The "GAS" note on the front door (the most urgent task goes on the front door). The panic, the frustrations, the self-doubt, the feeling like a loser even though you know you are as smart or smarter than most and are completely aware of why and how these situations happen on the daily, but still are not able to control them. Thank you for this wonderful example of life with ADHD. Repeat same process all day long and it's no wonder that we burn out on a daily basis just from being alive. I was impressed that you just blurted out to your interviewer that you have ADHD. And I do believe, had this story been true, that is why you got the job. Luckily, you chose a job that works well with your ADHD and were creative enough to hide that stain with a ribbon of sorts, and didn't give up as you struggled to get to that interview. I also felt your agony as you waited, trapped in a room sitting on a chair, for a full 15 minutes (translated to a full day in ADHD time) before your interviewer showed up. In my world, waiting like that is called hell on earth and I refuse to endure it unless I have some form of external entertainment or something to focus on besides 'waiting'. I grew up in your mothers time, when being 'impatient' was considered a terrible sin. I felt like I was a bad person my entire childhood and most of my adulthood, for more than just being impatient. I had no idea that I had ADHD, even though my youngest sister had ADD (which we just called 'hyper' and could do nothing about it as she bounced off the walls and got in trouble on a daily basis).. I was not like her at all. Completely opposite personalities. But I still had ADHD. When I was 12 I made a decision that I was going to be successful somehow. I knew I was different but didn't know why. That drive, and my natural curiosity about absolutely everything in the world, helped me skid by, raise two kids well as a single mom, hold down successful (and high stress jobs), until I turned 50. When menopause happened, my estrogen went away (never underestimate the power of estrogen), my kids grew up and left home, and I no longer had any reason to perform at such a high level. I disintegrated like a slowly melting snowman until I was finally diagnosed with ADHD at age 55. Now it feel like my life is starting over. I have meds which help immensely. But those coping strategies don't come with the prescription. They come with knowledge and practice, and video's like this. I'm a work in progress. And I thank you for helping me with my journey to find, and manage, the real me before I die. I'm also determined to have my gravestone say something like "ADHD didn't kill me, but not knowing I had ADHD probably did". Nothing could be truer. Thanks again for an honest, enlightening, and very well produced look into just a few hours of a day in the life of an adult with ADHD. You have touched many. Never doubt that. If you do nothing else in your life, this one 15 minute short story has made your mark on the world and you've done enough already.
Just want you to know that I read your comment as soon as you posted it, and promptly burst into tears. I feel like I'm still processing everything you're sharing, and appreciate you immensely. Thank you for being you, and thank you for being here. So happy to have you as part of the Trying Fam, and thank you for your immensely kind and deeply moving words. Happy new year 💚💚💚💚💚💚
This is me. I'm late for everything no matter how hard I try. I literally suck at everything, I can never keep appointments straight, but somehow I remember past events better than anyone else I know. My only strength is my level of attention to detail if were being positive.. the negative of that is getting hung up on them far beyond what's reasonable. I also have OCD that makes me believe I'm always faking something, even though I'm not. Heaven forbid I get a concrete answer for what's wrong with me.
@CDMButterfly No, I don't think you understand. When I say "wrong," I mean it is deeper than just having quirks or not fitting in with society or my peers. When i say there is something wrong with me, I mean that the way my brain works makes it really hard to function and execute like a normal person, to the point that I can't hold a job or have meaningful intimate relationships.. (well, that might be trauma related) but I struggle too much on a daily basis to be able to believe there's nothing wrong with me. Thank you for being kind, though.
I relate to the details/perfectionist thing so much. one example from my personal experience: I used to work a lot with Excel at my old job. the amount of time I would spend on spacing out the cells ✨perfectly✨ to my personal standard of acceptance, choosing the ✨right✨ colors for the outlines or the size of the letters or really ANYTHING minuscule like that, was insanely ridiculous... 😂 like girl, just create the table and put in the data, it's NOT THAT SERIOUS 😭
:') I feel that! But when I don't do it, I can't work on it bc my brain goes: "noo that's so uglyyyyyy you can't deliver this! Noooo I don't want toooooooo whyyyyyyy - oh no, the word is too long, I need to fix the whole design!!" 😆😆 On "how to ADHD" there was this advice to always play "ADEQUATE ADEQUATE!" in your head, so perfectionism gets the reminder it's not wanted :')
So much of this resonates with me like the amount of effort it takes just to get out the door in the morning. And the part when you got the times confused OMG! I was a half hour late for my first ADHD assessment appointment because I got two appointments confused. Honestly though it worked out great. They got to see me in all of my unmasked and off-kilter glory. I knocked 'problems with time management' out of the park before I even walked through the door 😅
Hahahahha oh my god this is hilarious. YUP!!!! When I did my assessment I explained the burnout I experienced for *ahem* a full year after making this film, about adhd, and they were like uhhhh ✅ lmaooooo
The part with the running out of gas and having a conversation with the guy putting the gas in the tank who says “when the gas gauge is low…” and she’s engaging with him like she has all the time in the world to talk. Then catches a break discovering the interview is at 1 and then wastes time in the car nervously asking for advice from her mom… I was one 20 minutes late for an interview and still got the job! I never thought I’d ever be on time for work all that energy spent on every distraction and still leave the house with my jacket 1/2 on and shoes on without putting my heels in them. If you know , you know and it’s so difficult and beautiful at the same time. Thanks for the short, it was great
i am only just realising i dont have an anxiety disorder, im not hyper around people for no reason, its not normal to have 15 trains of thought at once, everybody doesnt hate me, that procrastination and leaving everything till last minute isnt laziness...its that i have undiagnosed adhd. Going to book to see a specialist as it explains last 30 years of disasters in my love, friends and relationships life 100%
Wow. Thank you for sharing this. I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression right before writing this film in 2021, and then didn't realize I had adhd and got a diagnosis until late 2022...it's so wild how these things manifest. This film has been instrumental in so many people learning about adhd, there's so much still to learn and explore about it and bringing awareness to it. Wishing you the best on your journey. xx
That thing when you create rituals, like always putting your keys in the front right pocket but then sometimes you put them in a different pocket and have a panic attack because your keys are just gone in your mind... I don't know if I've eaten food today. Except I might have eaten deviled eggs or that was yesterday. Do any of you remember the original Transformer toys? Die cast metal, rubber tires. They were SOOOO cool.
As a 34 year old woman with recently diagnosed adhd.. This is the most relatable video I have ever seen. I felt so much emotion when watching this. The frustration, anger, sadness, fear, relief... Thankyou
Yeah for me too, especially because she said it to one of her old teachers who didn't know what she had back then. I've actually daydreamed about telling my past teachers why I was like that.
@@mikeskybrowserboth my parents were teachers, neither recognized I had ADHD growing up. Both have said recently, 'it seems like everyone has ADHD now' with zero concept of the irony of STILL not seeing what has presented in their own daughter her whole life.
I’m always telling people this too. It’s like they don’t understand us, but at least saying it, helps them understand a tiny bit. But in reality they will never understand the struggles. Only people who have been through it, understand.
Walking around while brushing your teeth because you need to do NOW the things you might/ know you will forget later...and everything else. What a perfect depiction of what our lives are like!! Fortunately for me, as an English and art teacher, it makes me extremely empathetic and good at my job, even though it comes at a high cost. Thank you, Sam!! You are amazing!!
LITERALLY! 😭🪥 absolutely. The pros and the cons are real...and I wanted to make sure we saw both in the film. I'm sure you're an awesome teacher. Thanks for this and for watching 🥹💚
Looool I have ADHD diagnosis but this video hit me more than a diagnosis. I REALIZED what I always do by watching her, and realized that, no, it was not "everyone".
Aw man, this is so sweet. Thanks, Katie. I've put it up on down on Vimeo and TH-cam, but almost 3 years after the premiere, it's fascinating that it's popping right now. Thanks again for this 🥲💚
Her interview was what really got me. Like a lot of people with ADHD, the mistreatment and hurtful comments by people that enjoy digging into your mistakes to make themselves feel better (as well as the RSD often making you perceive that they are when they might not be) that hurt never eases. I carry a lot of those experiences with me without meaning to
10000%. One of my biggest pieces of self work right now is understanding that everyone is always projecting and has their own inner world going on. I take responsibility for myself and my actions, but I'm working on pushing unhelpful comments in one ear and out the other. Even on comments here on TH-cam! Sending hugs 💚
I started crying after you were validating yourself in the interview!! To go from the crushing feeling of Mrs. Hazel scrutinizing to that was a great feeling!
I’ve spent my life getting used to people just making me feel bad. I have all of these prevent defense behaviors I had no idea I was doing to stave off the negativity. I am 37 now coming to terms with this condition not a lot of things in my life have made me emotional but letting myself “have” ADHD was one of them. Growing up it wasn’t a real disorder. I’m now finding all these resources to make sense of my life. Up to this point I lived by the motto “I can’t fix my life because I’m too busy messing it up!”
This is so relatable and so real. Realizing I have ADHD was life-changing for me too...and I didn't realize until a year after I made this film, which is bonkers. We're not crazy, our brains just work differently (but I'm starting to think we may actually be in the majority...but idk if they're ready for that yet). Sending lots of hugs.
@ well I appreciate the film it’s really well written. You should be proud because it means you aren’t just trying. You succeeded, and that’s huge… if you can convince yourself of it. Stopping to fix the painting while in a rush was the most relatable moment I have ever seen in my life.
@ thank you. I really appreciate this. Thankfully, I am at a place where I can acknowledge and accept it. Thank God. I got a tattoo of the "Trying" logo and at first was apprehensive because I thought maybe I should get a tattoo of "doing "or something like that… Then a friend told me that by trying, I am doing. Which brought me a lot of peace. But finishing and accomplishing this fell really did change my life and understanding what I'm capable of. So again, thank you!!!
This is one of the most relatable things I have EVER watched and I’m a teenager. I’m not trying to get a job or anything like that. I’m just trying to get through life. And honestly, this is what it feels like. I’m not diagnosed with adhd and I still don’t know if I have it but I’m starting to feel like I actually might.
10000%. Thanks for watching and could be something to look into. I was diagnosed at 27 and it changed a lot for me as far as mindset. Ultimately, all of our brains work differently, so figuring out what works for us is really the journey of life.
Wow, this short perfectly described my entire life. I am an early childhood teaching assistant, but I'm also drawn to arts and crafts. I felt represented in every moment, and everything that happened resonated with real situations in my life. The part where Megan’s boyfriend reminded her of her appointment is exactly what happens with me and my fiancé. He knows all the details of my life and has reminded me of several tasks or appointments I was about to forget, helping me stay on top of future ones. Having an understanding partner by your side (especially if they’re neurotypical) who supports you is amazing, and I could feel that same care in her boyfriend’s tone of voice. NOT ME PAUSING THE VIDEO TO TRY MAKING BROWN OUT OF ORANGE AND BLUE
@@esterazevedo05 oh wow. Thank you so much for sharing this. Everything about Meg's life and in the film was so carefully created to reflect all of this, so it makes me so happy that it resonated with you 🥺 and I'm so happy to hear about your fiancé. That's so amazing. I'm manifesting that for all ND bebes who desire it!!! 🥰 and HAHAHH there was a whole other bit about the colors that didn't end up working in the Final Cut...I pride myself on the amount of research went into this film, but I FUMBLED "what colors make orange and blue" but not actually confirming the paints myself 😭😭😭 smh!!!! Lol
Loved this short film, a perfect snapshot into the life of someone with ADHD. It encapsulated how I feel a lot of the time. It was stressful, but the relief at the end left me with a huge feel good smile. Loved it 👏👏👏
Soooooo happy to hear this. Thanks for watching and sharing 🥹 it's crazy...I originally left the ending "open-ended", but knew we had to see Meg get the job. PHEW! 💚
Watched this with my daughter who has ADHD (as do half my siblings and my husband). She related to it immediately. So glad TH-cam stuck this in my recommended videos list. I sure hope I can do a good job supporting my brilliant neurodivergent kiddos well. School stinks.
Wow. Thanks so much for sharing this. I made a mini doc in 2023 on a young student with ADHD, and was so impressed with the amount of support his parents gave him regarding his schooling, and how many more options there are today to support ND kiddos. Not enough, in my opinion, but there's some sort of progress. 💚
This short film made me cry so much. 😭 It's so relatable to me. Nowadays, I'm almost sure I'm AuADHD (I'm just diagnosed with autism) as, finally, I can't keep masking even with me anymore. Living alone, working and having some duties at the same time is truly tiring mentally and physically. I can't pretend to be the perfect student/girl as I'm used to. My life can be sum up in a word: chaos. Congratulations for your video. You are an awesome actress and storywriter!! ❤
Wow. Thanks so much for this and for sharing, hon. You just made me realize more deeply that I'm still carrying the "perfect" thing even though I've been working to shed it. You're awesome. And thank you :')
@sluhbrek I understand you. It's perfectly normal, we have learnt from childhood that we need to overcompensate every aspect of us that doesn't follow the norm or, in other words, be different from we really are. Anyone teached us how to be ourselves, so we're walking the only path we know although we deserve another one. Maybe should we create our own definition of what's to be a great girl with our own words? At least in my case, when I try to stick to a new habit, what I found best for it is replacing a habit to another one instead of creating a new one from scratch (I mean creating something completely different from what exists). So, regarding this, redefining should be better than trying to shed a part of ourselves. Consequently, we are not bad designed, so we should be loved as we love and accept neurotypical people the way they are. We are loveable. P.S.: I've being working towards accepting me since I watched your video. 💕💕 Thank you for answering me. Have a wonderful day!! 😍
@@MovidasMatematicas I love all of this. Absolutely love the re-define. Going to sit with this, this week 🥺💚 so happy to hear that. You're AWESOME! Xoxo
I truly related to this so much. The entire beginning sequence- perfect. And watching it again, the moment realizing that she actually CAN do the interview and was panicking for no reason. Been there!! And just the gradual progression of intensity. All the feels ❤️
Jeez. This was perfect. I do not own a car so I skipped the part w car but otherwise everything here is so damn me. Adhd people are like a chest full of gold but everyday we lose a key to it. Thank you for this!
I don't have ADHD. I was really surprised by all the sticky notes and the double checking everything. That would be very tiring. I did relate to feeling frustrated at the strangers comment but I personally wouldn't have shared so openly the history of the painting. It's nice that she was so open with him though.
My neurotypical friends who have seen the film assumed the story was a once-in-a-while occurrence (which they related to), versus an every-day occurrence. That seemed to be the biggest distinction. I still have to defend the film, almost 4 years after I wrote it. Sigh.
This captures so much adhd it is absolutely brilliant! Even down to the colorful watch! Nice touch! Yeah that’s an adhd things too! (We like things with color, and we like things that are slightly unusual, we are also not afraid to stand out). What else? The explanation of the differences between a swan and a goose (yup, adhd people know stuff like this, and we will explain it to you with lots of details). The fidgeting with her rings, tapping her leg, spilling things, shoving stuff into her car, staining her clothes (and quickly coming up with a cleaver solution), running late, checking everything multiple times before leaving and still forgetting something. The random bruise on her elbow (yes we get so many random bruises and we have no idea how we got them), confusing 1:00 with 11:00, worrying about every detail, stopping to fix the one thing on the painting even when running late…wondering why you don’t have a master’s (or PhD), struggling to get a job that you are well over qualified…all adhd! This was really well done!! (Also an adhd thing, adhd people do things really well…the things we are good at we are really good at, and we make sure they are done really, really well (because we can’t stop until they are, and we are really cleaver, creative, and we take a lot of pride in our work).
You nailed it on the head. Thank you so much for watching and for this. And for saying us ADHDers do things extremely well...this made me tear up. Thank you. 🥹💚
I love how she would see the stove and check it, forget that she had done so, see the candle and remember the stove and check it, then reach for the keys not there go looking for them find them by the candle think of the stove and check it, see the note on the door ( thought I was the only one that did this) and check the stove and the candle just incase you aren't remembering correctly that you did indeed check them today and there fine or that you thought really hard to check them and didn't actually do it. been there soo many time. and yes i too have ADHD. really wish i lived in a world that understood what this disorder does to your self-image, your motivation, your understanding of general comprehension and conversations.
100000%. Love this perspective of it and so happy you relate. I've been working so much on my self compassion and confidence the past few years since my diagnosis because you're so right, it affects SO many things, as well as how the world is set up. Sending all the hugs and thanks for watching. 💚
My T Shirt says: “I’m trying my best.” I cried when my partner thought that was a “fitting” gift for me. Many similarities in this film to my daily routine, except I don’t write notes, I take pictures of everything to help me remember what to do all day. ❤
Chills! Watching this brought tears to my eyes, very validating and surreal, I'm amazed at how common these super specific experiences are. Thank you Sam for bringing the sensitivity and understanding and making it enjoyable!
Dang, thanks for watching and for this comment, Briony. A lot of time and care was put into making this, and I'm glad it comes off the way you mention. 💚
Oh mu gosh, it's like you told my story... Finding a job is so hard for me, that I always end up working on my own, but I'm a bad entrepreneur, so I'm trying to learn business stuff so I can do it better next time. Job interviews have always been a big anxiety trigger, and always made feel frustrated in the end. Never got hired, only temporary things, in a testing mode, and when the test period ended, they never called back. I'm 35 and still live with my mom. Hope I can work on my own, this time as a one-on-one dog trainer and a freelance illustrator
I so relate to this. My whole life I've wanted to be an entrepreneur and work for myself, not have to answer to anybody...now that I'm finally here, it's been extremely difficult to do tasks I can't find the motivation to do (even ones that could make me lots of $). Something I'm trying to focus on is really prioritizing the tasks that I enjoy doing and I'm really good at. There's a market for everything. Dog training and illustrating are awesome paths. You've got this.
So much I relate to! The forgetting appointment times, no matter how often I've looked at my calendar including multiple times the day of. Guess we're just meant for more important things. 🤷
Leaving the house in the morning gives me so much anxiety. I pack everything, just in case. When my kids interrupt me I have to start from scratch. I keep the list in my head, procrastinating writing it down. Thank you so much for this film. 🙌🏼
Living with ADHD is never boring. We can handle any storm. I think this short story captured a fraction of my life. My mother doesn't know that I have ADHD. She just thinks that I'm weird. I'm 62.5 years old. 😂😂😂
@@christinefernandez379 10000%. YEP! And omg about your mom...it's so interesting the way things work out. I'm so glad you've got awareness and acceptance for yourself. Sending hugs 🤗💚
I saw this a while ago and its always been in the back of my mind. I'm an AuDHDer and this is so damm relatable and really well done. Just saw this pop up on my home page again and had to do a double take because I thought this had like a million views. Insanely underrated. Keep at it!
Dang. This really means a lot to me, thank you for sharing and for watching. Had to take a break from the "Trying" world for a bit hence the low profile, but definitely more to come. Million views right around the corner 😤
It’s hell 🙁 I have chronic illness now as well, making me extra high maintenance. Understanding executive function more and getting support as a child could have made so much difference in preventing burnout as an adult.
I so get it. I'm so happy you know at this point in your life what your needs are, but I know that doesn't make them feel any less intrusive. You're not alone. Sending hugs.
This video makes me feel seen and heard! You have thoughtfully and even poetically portrayed so many core struggles of people with ADHD/Neurodivergence. Your portrayal of reminders strewn about your living spaces made me look around mine and ask myself where I need more of those! I'm 44 and live with a profound sense of failure and unworthiness, and on the flipside of that I have a deep love and appreciation of people's stories and work in mental health which is my 'art class'...working on a crisis line is an outlet to support people feeling seen and heard and allows me to be resourceful and creative in my thinking. I don't know if that sounds weird in that context, but I have always loved language and have always valued authenticity and have tried to marry the two in every role I have had the privilege of working. Like so many people with ADHD moderation is a struggle so the only outlet I feel I am contributing meaningfully to, is often making me burn out and it gets my best rather than the other relationships in my life (with exception of my kids/husband, but that's not even being fully honest with myself and an area I am continuing to work on. Friendships and extended family fall off my radar at an embarrassing rate sometimes. I rarely remember to charge my phone and once lost all my phone contacts and was dreading/resigning to the 'fact' that these relationships were now gone cause the phone is a hub that stores reminders (in picture form - which i loved that you included your gas can photo!) Any how I am glad I came across this video/page. I'm grateful you used this platform to share a message about a ADHD which still has a long way to go when it comes to stigma/judgment from others. I grew up when this wasn't even acknowledged, I was diagnosed at the same time as my son in 2018. My son is bright and articulate and funny and awesome and his grade 1 teacher (when he just turned 6) called me on his birthday telling me that he 'made fun of someone's art' or said something that was perceived as this (feedback from teachers I remember all too well with myself, when my jokes were taken to be offensive)...anyway the principal called my son's behaviour "disturbing" on his f*cking birthday! He was at an academic school which gave him homework EVERY NIGHT, and he was 5 for the first 2 months of grade 1. He was spelling words frontwards and backwards in SK. But he also seemed to love swear words as much as he loved other language and this always seemed to keep him on the 'outs'. He didn't go around swearing at everyone but he loved villians and acting out intense characters. Any how I didn't expect to write all that, and if you have ADHD I don't expect you to read all that either ;) I think this video gave me validation and I wanted to validate my son in the same paragraph. He's almost 14 now and he's a bright, scattered, high energy, sensitive, musical kid. He started drum lessons approx. 5 months ago and was insistent on playing challenging rhythmic beats. He taught himself 'Toxicity' in like a week which is a grade 7 level song apparently. He just keeps amazing me, and the part in the video with the teacher made me want to praise the crap out of my kid. I have 2 wonderful children, my daughter is 11, not sure if she has ADHD, lots of indications she might, but I've chosen to not go looking for it. She's still her and she loves school and hasn't needed testing at this time. She's one of a kind too, but I have talked your ear off, and I appreciate this platform again and anyone who can relate to the examples you shared or even that I shared too. xx
@@carolinelong1 hi Caroline, thank you so much for watching and for sharing your insights and experiences as a parent, and as a human. Sounds like you're a pretty awesome and amazing person too...love what you're doing with your work, your complex levels of awareness, and vulnerability. You're the reason I made this film, so thank you for being you, and being here. Welcome to the Trying Fam 🥲🫶💚
I cried because i felt deeply about living this exact kind of day. Before i was diagnosed, i thought i was an irresponsible and unworthy person, even though i was trying so hard, i just couldn't get it together.
I totally get it. I've felt stupid, and crazy, for so long. You're not. We're not. I've been trying (trying heh) to give myself so much compassion these days. Not being able to do xyz doesn't make us bad, our brains just work differently. Sending you hugs.
This video described the difficulties I live with every day in a way I have never seen, or thought of, or heard before! Thank you Sam. Thank you for this. It was hard to watch at times but only because the accuracy was so absolutely incredible. You are amazing and I’m so glad I found this video today. I feel less misunderstood. Thank you 💜🩷💜
This is me - I forgot to put gas ⛽️ in my car and was on the side of the road, mixed up times, over talks, sensitive AF, over thinks everything , worries about my age, apartment is a mess, and trying to hold in my anger when someone trash talks unaware that I have ADHD…I felt her pain when she told off the interviewer about her past. So relatable.
@@bellaladonna 💯💯💯 wow, thanks for this Bella. That scene was inspired by the time I ran out of gas on the PCH, 2 hours late to my dad's birthday dinner, after a day stuffed full of work, meetings, and appointments. Glad this film can accurately represent the journey, so others can understand what's going on for people with adhd like us. Thank you for watching and for sharing 🫶
SO GOOD. Laughed, cried, laughed, sobbed - screeched... Had to stop watching in a few spots, hit way too close to home. Watched again and now again. Sooooooo good. So good. Thank you for putting this into the world! So good.
I started to cry and become overwhelmed after the interview because I’ve had those conversations with teachers and then completely burst out crying of happiness once the email at the end. I felt so seen in so many ways and would adore this to be a tv series, so many emotions and it was all so relatable
Thank you so much for this, seriously. It means so much to me. Thank you for watching and understanding...I'm thinking of making a part two seeing Meg in action. Maybe her on a good day with a few more laughs than tears
@samlabbq thank you for making this!! Yes, I would adore seeing more into Megs life, it helps to feel not as alone in these daily struggles!!!! Massive fan of the work, you're doing amazing!
😊 Very nicely done Sam - from start to finish! I was immediately captivated by the logistical hurdles, emotional landscape, and tension that felt very real to me as one with ADHD. You also did a nice job presenting the additional barriers of stigma, misconceptions, and misunderstandings of ADHD.
Thank you so much, Frets! So happy to you related to it and enjoyed the film. A lot of heart when into making this film by the team, so we really appreciate it. Keep an eye out for the next version… :)
YES TO THIS. I can also recommend loving yourself. I didn't when we shot this (over 3 years ago), and it's amazing seeing the difference between then and now...including getting a diagnosis. This comment made my day. Thank you.
COMMENTS SPOILER ALERT: Don't read the comments until you've finished the film! Spoilers galore! 😅
Ha. This is probably the only video I've watched without reading the comments at the same time in my life. ( because of your post.) ❤❤❤🙂🙂🙂🙂
Thanks for the reminder
It was a challenge, but I succeeded! Thank you for your wonderful representation of adhd..that was me! 🤗
You lose the memories you need to remember, but they return... I watched the video and was moved by it. However, when I recalled the great tragedies-the thousands of people who lost not only their memories but their lives-I almost cried for you, Palestine.
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The realization you haven’t actually missed an event is something I felt in my soul wow
@@Heuheuheu7 literally...the tears were real lmao. Thanks for watching :')
THE RELIEF I FELT AFTER “Isn’t the interview at one? Don’t you do Pilates at 11?” OH MY GOD
Me too
Especially if you've experienced that kind of relief yourself when you're sure you've screwed the pooch and you really didn't. That sweet relief hits different.
😭😭😭💚💚💚 (based on real-life experiences SMH)
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From my own experience: try to incorporate whiteboards into your life, they are your best friend.
@@samlabbq Which no-one else would believe - we're the only ones who know it.
The urge to correct a spot on the painting to get it finally right. Because details matters - even when its not the "right" time to do it.
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 (help lol)
@@claudialandgraf4450 Yip
@@claudialandgraf4450 yes!! Probably why I am late for so many things! What if I forget to do it???
Yes! As an artist I have so many moments like this.
@@claudialandgraf4450 I do this kind of thing often, at inappropriate times. Sometimes I actually manage to say to myself, "Just leave it.", and I do. Other times it feels compulsory to do it right then. Not good.
This was a fantastic short! Thank you for sharing it. The only thing you missed is re-entering the house at least 3 times because you forgot your glasses, phone, wallet, hat, coat, bag you meant to bring, etcccccccc haha :)
THIIIIIISSSSSS. My husband is the total opposite, if something is forgotten inside, he won't even return FROM THE DRIVEWAY to get it. It drives me completely nuts.
wait, but there's also standing there for 10 minutes freaking out bc you KNOW you forgot something important
@@eyou2813that happens to me but while I’m driving away I feel like somethings missing
*30 seconds later yells and does a U-turn knowing she’s just added another 5 minutes onto already being late*
@@jenmovies TRUE bahahaha I bet we have the footage for it...extended cut version???!! ;)
This is so RELATABLE!!! I actually ask God before I leave the house if I forgot anything. 😅 Thankfully my sweet husband has helped me immensely with time management and filling my car!! 😍 BTW, there’s nothing wrong with doodling! 🧚🏻 *I’m showing my husband this when he wakes up… 🤣🤣💛
The opening… checking to make sure everything is off… the way a strangers words feel like heavy criticism… the toothpaste on the jacket… all the notes… so much of this… thank you
The keys...the coffee that got left 😅
Thanks, Danee. I lot of care went into make this. Really appreciate you watching.
@@MichellePrice007 literally 😭
If I had a dollar for every time I’ve gotten toothpaste on the only top I can comfortably wear and start chucking a tantie.. millionaire
I have ADHD and coincidentally a daughter who is an artist, illustrator and a writer with ADHA and she thinks she also has a learning disability that went undiagnosed in her childhood. The thing that resonated with me the most was the appointment being at 1:00 not 11. That happens to me all the time. Sometimes I think my subconscious does that to me on purpose to keep me ahead of task not just on it. Most adults with this problem, have coping mechanisms like an extra jacket in the car, or a stain removal kit etc. Still something always go missing or is off.
The entire range of emotions this sent me through: anxiety, stress, relational empathy, frustration, relief, annoyance, grief, excitement. I felt like I was watching myself TRYING.
Yes! This is me just trying to get to work, doing a job that I'm overqualified for but still fail at because I do things like forgetting to lock the back door when I leave work! But I'm trying...
@Anne-za I feel you. Hang in there. You're doing your best and your best is OK.
🥺 I so get it. Thank you for watching, and thank you for Trying (aka doing). Sending hugs. xx
Yeah the whole time I was thinking of all the times I’ve had similar things happen… even thinking an appointment was earlier 😂 … Also in that boat, missing when someone delays a meeting to another day. I show up to the meeting wondering where they are-then discover they messaged me earlier telling me they needed to postpone or cancel… always a relief because I probably wasn’t ready the first time anyways 😂😂
This would be a particularly bad day for a normal person. But for an ADHD-er, or similar challenges, it's every day
Exactly. This is the biggest distinction to make to neurotypicals. What a ride.
Yep everyday. I have adhd children too. Imagine this lady, plus two kids just like this too, all trying to get out the door at the same time to go to school and work in the morning. Life feel like a whirlwind. And we get really tired of it too. This is also why we zone out for long periods of time and sleep in, we get sooo tired.
This needs to be a network series!!! Please Please Please 🙏
I was diagnosed at 68 yo; imagine spending your entire life believing you’re somehow broken.
I am about your age and was just diagnosed. I figured I was.
Me too
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Thanks for this, Sharon. I would love that. I'm so happy you got your diagnosis when you did, and also sorry it took so long. Mine was thinking I was "stupid" and "crazy". Thanks again for watching. xx
I was 40 when I was finally diagnosed. This was at a time when adult ADD was just being recognizedhat was recognized as a possibility. It was after the birth of my second daughter who had a years long extended version of the terrible two's. That's when the cracks starting appearing in my ability to manage raising kids, a large home 10 miles from town, pets, plants, cooking, cleaning, laundry, kid's activities, etc. and a spouse who traveled frequently. I stumbled across an article on adult ADD and realized this could explain my entire life. Unfortunately, I believe my now ex husband did not, or would not believe ADD was real. Therefore, he became increasingly critical and eventually walked out.
This is so accurate. I cried when she said, "Thank you for your time, Mrs. Hazel." The lifelong, unrelenting cycle of lifting yourself up and then rock-bottoming yet again because you're such a f-up.
People without ADHD will see this as the story of a nervous, disorganized, insecure, quirky but loveable goofball who can't quite adult. People with ADHD will squirm and tense up when the toothpaste drops, when the keys aren't there, when she has to tell her friend that she messed up yet again... It's so real it hurts.
Congratulations and thank you for making this 🙏
Welp. I almost got through this video without crying, then this comment. 😭 it’s so exhausting ona spiritual level
You absolutely nailed it. It's been fascinating reading through the comments on this. Thanks for watching and for this reflection. Means a lot to me. xx
I had to stop watching at 4:36. It's so painful I want to puke. I feel like I'm watching myself.
@ 🥺 (SPOILER)...it is a happy ending. 💚
This is very relatable when you have ADHD.. All the struggles that you never understood until you were an adult...
Oh man, at the beginning, when she stopped and was just standing there, I knew exactly what was going on and I could narrate exactly what was going on in her head…which was “what was I doing?”…and she blew out the candle for the second time, and I felt like I was watching me…I’m a guy, but this hits home hard! The school stuff got me straight tearing up, cuz I too was that kid…
The clock ticking so loud too.....ugh i just FREEZE.
Nailed it on the head. You're not alone. Thanks for sharing 🥲
Yes. And the hand tap. I DO that.
Ditto. I was thinking: "I really don't appreciate that the filmmaker shot that first scene in my house without me knowing..."
@@amywaterman-mcintyre I keep my house FREE of ticking clocks! They ramp my anxiety into overdrive.
That bit Where she piles up the things that she needs to have together before she leaves the house. I thought that was normal. I do it every morning. It's so true to life. I don't know how other people manage to leave the house so quickly.
Wait ... That isn't normal? o.o How do "normal" people do it?
I think they do it the morning before- OVER RATED
100000%. I don't know how anyone does anything quickly. It seems like NT people do things in sequence or in the same way every time...without distractions? And don't get caught up in details or worrying. It's wild.
@@linachristopoulou8670 I would like to say sometimes I say all those things out loud when I am trying to rush out the door, the amount of times I talk out loud to myself because I am struggling to sort through all my thoughts! Crazy how true this is!
wow I didnt think that was a ADHD thing. I always have like 10 things in my hands before leaving even though I carry a big bag. I dont understand why I cant just place the phone, key, wallet inside the bag but have to carry them with my hands 😂
Yikes this is everything. Lack of control on the expressions, the anger flares, forgetfullness, the fighting to be taken seriously, the overthinking, the notes everywhere, the second guessing of oneself and others doing it, the nervous ticking, the compulsive need to check everything FOR SURE, the gas situation, bringing things you don't actually need because you think you MIGHT need it because you are forgetful and it might just save you... The things that fall through the cracks so easily and having to live with needing to push them to the side... Wow this was it all.
You nailed it. This was my first "real" script I've written, and it's something I'm really proud of. Everything was extremely intentional in how the story was being told with what I knew and learned at the time (almost 4 years ago!) Thanks for this and for watching. 🦢
@@samlabbq wow love that/this! the authenticity really shone through, you made your experience so accessible to others, Love that you were 'intentional' about it, great word! thank you and awesome to see you be so equally thoughtful in your replies to your viewers/subscribers.
@@carolinelong1 thank you 🥺 I later learned I had adhd myself, it's been a wild ride. Making this film has changed my life for the better. So grateful for the communities surrounding it. 💚
@sluhbrek This is excellent! It really shows the truth of what some of us go through. Reading through the comments shows that it means a lot to many people. I think we feel seen, I do, for sure. Thank you!
@ 🥹 thanks for this, Julie. It means so much. Making this film was a labor of pain and love...and it's truly been the best gift.
The title is so perfect.
I genuinely feel like my whole entire life is just me trying and hearing everyone tell me about my unused potential. 💀💀
...and most of all, saying it in our own heads 💔
But so many peiple don't _quite_ believe that ADHD is actually real -- even those closest to us -- and so it starts to feel like maybe they're right. The "why can't I do things like everyone else?" tape plays on and on in my head. I'm 55 😢
I got a "Trying" tattoo of the title card after I made the film, and was seriously considering getting "Doing" instead. By trying, we are doing. The potential thing is exhausting. Sending hugs and thanks for watching.
@@camez2345 Totally. I've felt I'm "stupid" and "crazy" for so long. Even reading these comments has been a trip, but I'm so glad I've been in therapy for a while and built my self confidence so I can discern what is true and what isn't. You're not alone and you got this. And happy you're part of the Trying Fam :')
why everyone says that you have potential? i didnt lnoe it was that common i thought only i was told this
Imagine someone who has ADHD but hasn’t been diagnosed. There are many people who have these issues and symptoms that don’t understand why they’re so different from others. Everything they do is a complicated task. Bravo to the writer of this story and the amazing actress who plays her part so convincingly.
Thank you for this. As the writer and actor, seriously, thank you. I personally know dozens of people who have watched this film and gone on to get diagnosed and research adhd. The fact that "Trying" has changed people's lives has made me understand my purpose here in this life. :')
I'm sure I have ADHD, but I was never diagnosed. When I was a kid, I never finished tests in time, and my mother bought me a clock. I struggled so much. When I was 13, I had a high school trip and lost the passport a week before going to Italy. Oh god, I remember the fury, the frustration of my parents, my tantrums of eternal frustration. I'm diagnosed by myself and that's fine, I don't want a hard medication, then I wouldn't be myself. I'm just messy sometimes, and everyone should be allowed to be messy, because we are never messy in purpose.
Me! This video finally answered the question - "why cant I ever do anything right?"
@@joanaborrellsanchez9225 When I accepted I have ADHD (after becoming friends with two women who have both been diagnosed, one as a child, the other as an adult), I too thought "what's the point of getting a diagnosis", but now I wish I'd asked my doctor to refer me straight away, because the waiting lists are so horribly long, at least where I live (I have 11 months left to wait, out of 36). I'm not sure I would want drugs either, but I've realised it means a lot to me to get this thing on a piece of paper.
The word "TRYING" reeled me in. I was diagnosed with ADD at uni, at the age of 46. The diagnosis put my whole past into perspective. I have had 30 jobs. I was finally starting to accept my diagnosis and feel more empowered, when I visited my sister who`s a mental health nurse and she decided to tell me that I just need to try harder. And that I can do things if I really want to. Wtf?!!!!!!!!!!.... This video strikes a cord! It shows the reality of what many of us have to deal with on a daily basis.
I wasn't dx until 52 yrs old.
44 here.
1000%. I got "TRYING" tattoo'd after I made the film as a reminder, and have been offering myself more compassion since making the film. I'm sorry that happened with your sister. You're not alone. Thanks for watching and sharing 🥲
@@samlabbq❤
i can almost sense the deflation that conversation may have temporarily (hopefully) caused. Conversations/comments like that are a BIG part of why I went into mental health the most; in hopes of bulldozing the 'advisement' approach to pave 'help me understand your experience/perspective approach'. I struggle with MH services that operate through a rote/scripted method, asking standard questions rather than seeing a purpose in having a conversation that helps put someone at ease. Motivational Interviewing is a modality that inspired me to re-think and transform my engagement with people. Problem is I only want to have meaningful conversation with people and struggle with small talk (referring to my other relationships/parents)I so it's been a life-long learning in how to have realistic expectations, and still find a way to be myself, express my passions, with the right people. I have always been passionate about pushing against the grain and it's got me in trouble with certain work places, I like to think of myself as a fierce advocate because nothing fires me up more than social justice (anyone relate?) I'm not sure if this is even a linear post but Your sister's well intentioned comment got me a bit fired up too :) My dad used the statement "manage your money like the rest of us"...or something stupid like that. It upset me but I have learned to be more compassionate toward myself through support of a life coach. BTW if anyone is looking for a life coach, she is a rare breed in my opinion, and is just great at exuding understanding and listening with intention; she's great at somatic/breathing exercises and super creative/artistic/musical, which is not necessarily relevant to the sessions, but more to do with what is at her core and creativity comes through in her approaches as well. Truly, let me know! It's virtual but for some that works! Unless you live in Buffalo than you can probably arrange in person?! Hope that helps someone :)
Augh this is too relatable, started tearing up. The oversharing about personal stories with random strangers and not realizing it. The difficulty in controlling emotions. The difficulty of remembering to do things, the constant fight to avoid distractions.
🥺 you're not alone. Welcome to the Trying Fam :')
Yes I found it terribly sad, even painful.
I have never felt so seen or represented in a movie ever. Thank you for your amazing work.
@@samanthacampbell375 thanks, fellow Samantha. This means more than you know. Hopefully more where this comes from 💥
I was about to type this!!! I was finally diagnosed at 38, I'm in my early forties now. Somehow being "older" now has made my ADHD so much worse. 😳 Thank you so much for making this short film!! I'm going to send it to my neurotypical best friend immediately!!
The moment I was thinking, "is this me???" her phone showed her name.. Megan.. which is MY NAME. What the heck. I relate to this so much, it gives me chills.
Get out that's so wild 😭 that just gave ME chills. You were meant to see this. So glad you did.
Exact thing happened with me when I saw “Fischer” (my maiden name)!
So rude 🤣 my name is Megan also and this is my life
I was shocked to learn that too! ADHD and Megan is a strong correlation apparently! 😂
Also go by Meg, have applied for a teaching position at the school I graduated from teaching digital scripture. I have Autism and a big imagination. I felt so connected to this character and her struggles!
Your video is the reason I started researching ADHD symptoms in women, and the reason that only now, after 25 years (I'm 33) of blaming myself and experiencing constant failure and psychological pain, I finally have an answer. The value of your film and what it has given me exceeds what I'm able to offer you, but know that I am eternally grateful for this life-changing insight.
Wow...hon, this made me cry. And gave me goosebumps. I didn't know I had ADHD until a year after shooting the film, and I wouldn't have known I did if I hadn't made this film, so I completely empathize with you, and I'm truly just floored by your note, and by your generosity. Making this film took everything out of me and I resented it for a small time (because it came at the cost of my health at the time), and now, three years later, I'm just so extremely grateful that it's out in the world, and that it's helped you understand yourself so much better. My life completely changed when I learned I have ADHD, and your generosity of wanting to give is something that I can't really articulate at the moment. It's really impactful for me, so really, from the bottom of my heart, thank you. For me, life got a little easier when I realized I wasn't crazy or stupid, I just had a brain that works a certain way. And thank god for it. Sending so, so, so many hugs. xx - Sam
So Proud of Everything you do@@samlabbq May Allah The Almighty be The Provider Protector and The Supporter be your Guide.Amen
I used to say to my mom “I’m trying” and she would reply “yes, very trying”. So this title resonated with me.
🥺💚 I knew the title of the film before I wrote it, because it nailed so much. Got a tattoo of it, too. But trying, we are doing. Sending hugs.
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"Hurts, but in a 'good' way" feels fitting to describe this and other similar films. We never asked to be like this, but even though it may be painful to see others go through the same thing, it's nice to know there are others out there who actually GET us. Thank you for making this.
Absolutely. So happy to hear this and thank you for sharing and watching. Happy to have you in the Trying Fam 🫶
@@samlabbq Before you replied, I didn't even notice that you personally replied to every other comment on this. If anyone ever questions your dedication again, just show them this comment section. I'm definitely gonna keep TRYING in life & this was a great reminder, so again, thank you. I hope you get more recognition.
@ 🥲 this film changed my life in so many ways, and it being recognized by the community and so many people feeling passionately enough to share and comment on it is extremely fulfilling for me. Just so grateful to be here 🥲💚 thanks for watching and enjoying it. Appreciate yah!!!!
This was supposed to be a comedy in many ways, but I cried through the entire thing. The pain, shame, and disgust in yourself for constantly feeling like you can't do anything right is so overwhelming. I loved this. I genuinely feel seen.
@@ILuvThunderclan I know. It's a wild ride (the film, and life 🥺). Thanks for watching and being part of the Trying Fam 🥲💚
It explains why many of us become recluses as we get older - conforming, constantly apologizing, worrying. It’s all too much. I need peace to be me.
Totally. Getting my diagnosis, mixed with INCREDIBLE self love and compassion, therapy, and other ND friends...I've finally started to think maybe I'm not insane. And all these comments :')
Yeah the shame is so intense at times.
Your editor did a great job! I can feel the stress and urgency as Meg rushes around and then the significance of Meg defending herself at the interview.
I cried when she cried. The lion painting tho 🔥❤
Thanks, Livy. Our editor Austin absolutely nailed it. The opening sequence is my favorite scene. I spent the most amount of time writing the interview scene, I always wonder if I'd do what Meg did in that position myself.
@@gettingintrospective 🥲🥲🥲
My mum and I have a deal where she messages me “I did it!” in the morning to confirm she did her workout and remind me to exercise and if she misses her workout then I don’t have to do it either haha
This is a wholesome idea!
I love this lol 😭
The interviewer/teacher sound so much like my own mother.
Im 41 years old. I wasnt diagnosed with ADHD until a week before my 40th birthday. It made so much sense. It exlained everything about my childhood.
I told my mom right away. She basically rolled her eyes at me. She still criticizes my every move and frequently reminds me about how much of a failure i am. 🙃
Just know that you're not a failure. I'm very sorry that your mother has treated you that way
There's nothing wrong with you. Your mother sounds like a narcissist.
Ok, got to 1*56. Would like to send this out to so many. My heart goes out to this character/younger self. It does get better, imo.
Wow 5*58. The candy bar, the Llama and flower - all the details. Then the fellow on the bike and her humorous retort with his Fck You - cinema verite on a whole chaotic, real level. The hope that there is still time to get to the appointment.
Oh, meant this as a general comment, but it looks like a reply to your comment. Ironically, by some coincidence, while marvelling at this film, with the thought that there is also family dynamics to consider. The pressure to perform, to be dismissed and totally be a person non grata, and when reaching out, being met with hostility. So sorry your mom talks to you like that. Imagine her internal dialogue as a virus. You are a beautiful creation. Don't let anyone clip your wings. It does get better. What is working for me is simplifying, and much time outdoors... But the chaos is always there in my mind....
Omg I have never watched something and identified with it so much before. I AM LITERALLY AN ART TEACHER with ADHD and I struggle with it every single day. Thanks so much for representing my struggle and everyday disfunction so accurately!!!!
Music teacher with ADHD 🙋🏻♀️ and SAME
YOU ARE MEG!! I always knew Meg had to be an art teacher. There just felt like no other option. Thanks for watching and for your amazing work educating with art 🥲
@@MaestraJ truly meant to be. I teach kids theatre. Art + teaching =
After years of feeling shame about my "limitations," I'm finally living life on my own terms. I've made up my own method of teaching creative writing and work with a lot of neurodiverse people like me. We see the world differently and we have so much to give, though it took me years to know this. Your film is going to help so many. Thank you.
I have never related to anything as much as this, it actually made me cry because so many don't understand the struggle, and also the amazing creativity in our brains, thank you for making this video.
I CRIED! Actually cried.. This is my story, too.
After a decade of nomadic jobs that took me around the world, I became a teacher.
My desk area around my desk was always a disaster. My piles had piles.
But my lessons were super-fun and engaging! I became the teacher I wish I had!
Yeah, my desk area was a mess, but I won three Teacher of the Year awards for making learning fun, and for students learning a lot.
Just like our protagonist here, my lessons were very creative, and I worked to connect them to all students.
In my class, we'd spend the first few weeks doing activities where students learn about the/their brain.
ADHD kids were my favorite. Yet, what works for them, works for ALL students.
But my lessons were specifically created with ADHD kids in mind.
I'm recently retired.
I just moved to another state, and had to get a formal ADHD diagnosis again, as a senior citizen, since I couldn't get my records from decades ago.
I'm sending a link to this video to several friends. Thanks for making and posting on TH-cam.
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@@ShellBAtoms this made ME cry. Wow. Thank you so much for sharing and for all you've done as a teacher, and for supporting all of your students how you have. I love hearing that what worked for your adhd students worked for everyone...I think this needs to be in a teaching course somewhere. My heart is swelling. Thank you for watching, sharing, and being you 💚
The finger flicking while trying to reboot is insanely accurate...
Yes!!
Yes!!
:') 💚
Reboot!!! finally have a word for this. ty!
Tears in my eyes. This is so relatable. I became a nanny as I felt that I could help those who are more sensitive and more “difficult” to understand (because people lack knowledge), it was in training to be a Montessori teacher and focusing on a more neuroscience based approach that I finally understood that I too belong to the category of autism and adhd. I suffered, trying, for about 30 years before I understood why I am the way I am. A beautiful unorchestrated mess ✨ And I wouldn’t have it any other way. Sadly the world judges us for being different and while we make accommodations for them all day every day - others in the world do not. Here’s hope to a more inclusive and caring future 💞
Thanks so much for watching and sharing, seriously. This means so much to me and everything you're speaking on is so important. A beautiful unorchestrated mess!
Damn. It may just be that I’m starting my period soon, but this got me crying harder than the movie.
love this - "A beautiful unorchestrated mess" - love the ownership in that statement
This really resonates with me. I've had a day like this so many times, and instead of calling for gas, because I was running late, I was frazzled and accidentally put diesel in my gas tank instead of regular gas.It'ss such an ADHD thing,Ii know 😫 i still have nightmares about running out of gas. Everything here was spot on. Thank you for seeing me and others who struggle with this. Ive spent my whole life trying and being told I'm not good enough or not trying hard enough. But I'm trying so hard and often it feels like no one sees that. Thank you for seeing that.
I really needed this today! I was spiraling in shame as I am desperately trying to meet a deadline for my work that comes up once every 2 years, after a helpful someone said “maybe next time start it sooner”…(great unsolicited advice, Mr. Neurotypical!)…except I’ve taken the week off from work to jump through the hoops and keep getting sidetracked by a million small to large fires. ADHD is hell. I wish my life was as organized as hers, well, maybe I was in my 20’s…it is way worse in my 50’s, at least she was diagnosed prior to menopause, it’s incredibly good info to have. ❤ This definitely captured the feelings of the struggle.
You've got my support.
When is the deadline?
Maybe it can help:
1. take a step back
2. simplify
3. prioritize
4. visualise
+ if possible get external help / delegate and / or say no or postpone things that are coming into your way until this deadline.
You've got this 🤗❤✨
100%, Jen. Us on the crew for this film were also adhd'ers (though we didn't know it at the time...wild story) and ended up staying up all night...the night of a holiday...to get the deadline done for our first screening of the film. It didn't happen, and I had to spend a whole lot of cash to move things around and eventually get it there. Experienced long-term burnout after that, which caused me to take a break from making projects altogether. I wish there was a magic wand to make it all better. My heart's with you.
It IS hell. And Menopause was absolutely the worst struggle! Everything came crashing down and I nearly took my own life. I’m still here with a lot of support from family, friends and therapy.
Understanding our weaknesses and triggers is really helpful though. I’m learning for myself how to stay out of that high stress zone which always sends me into overwhelm mode and task paralysis.
Just do what you can and celebrate even the smallest achievements! Mr Neurotypical wouldn’t last a week in our shoes.
I have neither family nor friends so i dont look forward to menopause as am audhd person...@@sharonhinds4808
I thought this was about OCD when I started watching it because I have OCD, and the repeated checking resonated a lot. Maybe i have ADHD too? This was really relatable. and totally believable. Thank you.
This film literally made me cry and it is pretty much everything I go through with ADHD and have gone through my entire life
🥺 sending hugs. Thanks for watching and you're not alone. xx
Beautiful! Criminally underrated. Perfectly captures the whole experience. From stress to imposter syndrome, to oversharing and having to constantly explain ourselves to the stereotypes that follow us all our lives. So well done! ❤
@@Distracted_Genius you nailed it. Thanks so much for watching. A lot of love, care, introspection, research, and collaboration made this film possible. So happy you enjoyed it!! 💚
"Trying" is such a good title. The fear that I'll forget to remember to do the most basic of things is the bane of my existence.
10000%. I knew the title before I wrote the film, born out of the midst of a quarter life crisis on top of everything else 🤩
This really made me feel seen! the chaos, the double checking, the thinking you’ve got everything covered. The overwhelming emotions. The oversharing. Appearing disheveled, the loudness of the ticking clock and how seconds feel like hours and just when you’re about to snap they walk in the door.
10000%. Welcome to the Trying Fam. :')
I ugly cried at the end. That was a masterpiece. I have watched this video to procrastinate on my project due tomorrow and dont regret it. Outstanding job! Love, an Adhder from Germany
Wow, thank you for this, and for watching all the way from Germany. It took a lot of hard work to make it what it is...and HAHA at procrastinating!! SO relatable. Hope it all got done and went well (I'm sure it did, right through to that deadline 😉)
I felt all of this especially forgetting the cup of coffee. All the anxiety over what other adults wanted. But especially that she was at her calmest with the child and I wanted to cheer yes she is the person you're looking for to be an elementary school art teacher! Brilliant short film
You nailed it. The more visually colorful scenes are when Meg can be herself and not worry so much about masking, the more mutely colored scenes are the opposite. Thanks for watching :')
I cried 3 times the first 5 minutes I relate to this so much. So many accurate little details about living with ADHD. I cried a few more times until the end. The gratitude and relief when she got the job after all the emotional upheaval and inner turmoil. Her students will love her and she will love her job and be good at it, I predict. As an unmedicated ADHD TK/K teacher who stresses myself out and cries in the car often, thank you.
Wow. Thank you, Celeste. Yes to all of this. Based on personal experience! Thank you for watching and sharing, and for doing what you're doing with the kiddos. You're awesome. 🥺
The bruise you notice and have no idea when you got it (but at the same time, know it could have been from any of one thousand chaotic moments you’ve experienced earlier in the day!)
The struggle to leave the house with everything you need, no matter how early you plan or even having prepared some of what you need the night before! Spills, knocks, scrapes- things that feel inevitable not unusual like it seems for most other adults. And yes, the over sharing and timelessness with strangers!
Amazing video, wish I had watched it sooner. Thankyou for the understanding you are bringing to the world ❤
Wow. Thanks so much for this, Alice. Happy to have you in the Trying Fam :')
Reading the comments on the impact the movie has on people’s lives makes me cry with joy and hope. This is the magic of a story. The magic of the courage to tell a story. Thank you, Sam!
Thanks, Beca 🥲 it's surreal connecting with so many in the community, still, all these years later. Thank you. 💚
The number of people who comment on the relatability of this film will be very interesting! Nailed it, beautifully
It's honestly surreal. I made this back in 2021, but it's just now really expanding to the public. Thank you for this, and for watching 🥲
I have never felt so close to a perfect stranger in my while life! You're a wonderful actress and didn't miss a thing in all those visuals and incidents that only a person with ADHD could understand. The sticky notes....OMG!. The "GAS" note on the front door (the most urgent task goes on the front door). The panic, the frustrations, the self-doubt, the feeling like a loser even though you know you are as smart or smarter than most and are completely aware of why and how these situations happen on the daily, but still are not able to control them. Thank you for this wonderful example of life with ADHD. Repeat same process all day long and it's no wonder that we burn out on a daily basis just from being alive.
I was impressed that you just blurted out to your interviewer that you have ADHD. And I do believe, had this story been true, that is why you got the job. Luckily, you chose a job that works well with your ADHD and were creative enough to hide that stain with a ribbon of sorts, and didn't give up as you struggled to get to that interview. I also felt your agony as you waited, trapped in a room sitting on a chair, for a full 15 minutes (translated to a full day in ADHD time) before your interviewer showed up. In my world, waiting like that is called hell on earth and I refuse to endure it unless I have some form of external entertainment or something to focus on besides 'waiting'.
I grew up in your mothers time, when being 'impatient' was considered a terrible sin. I felt like I was a bad person my entire childhood and most of my adulthood, for more than just being impatient. I had no idea that I had ADHD, even though my youngest sister had ADD (which we just called 'hyper' and could do nothing about it as she bounced off the walls and got in trouble on a daily basis).. I was not like her at all. Completely opposite personalities. But I still had ADHD. When I was 12 I made a decision that I was going to be successful somehow. I knew I was different but didn't know why. That drive, and my natural curiosity about absolutely everything in the world, helped me skid by, raise two kids well as a single mom, hold down successful (and high stress jobs), until I turned 50. When menopause happened, my estrogen went away (never underestimate the power of estrogen), my kids grew up and left home, and I no longer had any reason to perform at such a high level. I disintegrated like a slowly melting snowman until I was finally diagnosed with ADHD at age 55. Now it feel like my life is starting over. I have meds which help immensely. But those coping strategies don't come with the prescription. They come with knowledge and practice, and video's like this. I'm a work in progress. And I thank you for helping me with my journey to find, and manage, the real me before I die. I'm also determined to have my gravestone say something like "ADHD didn't kill me, but not knowing I had ADHD probably did". Nothing could be truer. Thanks again for an honest, enlightening, and very well produced look into just a few hours of a day in the life of an adult with ADHD. You have touched many. Never doubt that. If you do nothing else in your life, this one 15 minute short story has made your mark on the world and you've done enough already.
Just want you to know that I read your comment as soon as you posted it, and promptly burst into tears. I feel like I'm still processing everything you're sharing, and appreciate you immensely. Thank you for being you, and thank you for being here. So happy to have you as part of the Trying Fam, and thank you for your immensely kind and deeply moving words. Happy new year 💚💚💚💚💚💚
Thanks Samantha!
Thanks for watching! :)
This is me. I'm late for everything no matter how hard I try. I literally suck at everything, I can never keep appointments straight, but somehow I remember past events better than anyone else I know. My only strength is my level of attention to detail if were being positive.. the negative of that is getting hung up on them far beyond what's reasonable. I also have OCD that makes me believe I'm always faking something, even though I'm not. Heaven forbid I get a concrete answer for what's wrong with me.
Oh sweetie, nothing is wrong with you.
@CDMButterfly No, I don't think you understand. When I say "wrong," I mean it is deeper than just having quirks or not fitting in with society or my peers. When i say there is something wrong with me, I mean that the way my brain works makes it really hard to function and execute like a normal person, to the point that I can't hold a job or have meaningful intimate relationships.. (well, that might be trauma related) but I struggle too much on a daily basis to be able to believe there's nothing wrong with me. Thank you for being kind, though.
@@kCuFfication
Can you drive a car?
I relate to the details/perfectionist thing so much. one example from my personal experience: I used to work a lot with Excel at my old job. the amount of time I would spend on spacing out the cells ✨perfectly✨ to my personal standard of acceptance, choosing the ✨right✨ colors for the outlines or the size of the letters or really ANYTHING minuscule like that, was insanely ridiculous... 😂 like girl, just create the table and put in the data, it's NOT THAT SERIOUS 😭
:') I feel that! But when I don't do it, I can't work on it bc my brain goes: "noo that's so uglyyyyyy you can't deliver this! Noooo I don't want toooooooo whyyyyyyy - oh no, the word is too long, I need to fix the whole design!!" 😆😆
On "how to ADHD" there was this advice to always play "ADEQUATE ADEQUATE!" in your head, so perfectionism gets the reminder it's not wanted :')
So much of this resonates with me like the amount of effort it takes just to get out the door in the morning. And the part when you got the times confused OMG! I was a half hour late for my first ADHD assessment appointment because I got two appointments confused. Honestly though it worked out great. They got to see me in all of my unmasked and off-kilter glory. I knocked 'problems with time management' out of the park before I even walked through the door 😅
Hahahahha oh my god this is hilarious. YUP!!!! When I did my assessment I explained the burnout I experienced for *ahem* a full year after making this film, about adhd, and they were like uhhhh ✅ lmaooooo
Lmaoooo i was half an hour late for mine too😭😭😭 i begged her to let me take the test like that because i couldn't bring myself to come back.
The part with the running out of gas and having a conversation with the guy putting the gas in the tank who says “when the gas gauge is low…” and she’s engaging with him like she has all the time in the world to talk. Then catches a break discovering the interview is at 1 and then wastes time in the car nervously asking for advice from her mom… I was one 20 minutes late for an interview and still got the job! I never thought I’d ever be on time for work all that energy spent on every distraction and still leave the house with my jacket 1/2 on and shoes on without putting my heels in them. If you know , you know and it’s so difficult and beautiful at the same time. Thanks for the short, it was great
You nailed it. Thanks for watching, Cecilia. And glad you still got the job :')
i am only just realising i dont have an anxiety disorder, im not hyper around people for no reason, its not normal to have 15 trains of thought at once, everybody doesnt hate me, that procrastination and leaving everything till last minute isnt laziness...its that i have undiagnosed adhd. Going to book to see a specialist as it explains last 30 years of disasters in my love, friends and relationships life 100%
Wow. Thank you for sharing this. I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression right before writing this film in 2021, and then didn't realize I had adhd and got a diagnosis until late 2022...it's so wild how these things manifest. This film has been instrumental in so many people learning about adhd, there's so much still to learn and explore about it and bringing awareness to it. Wishing you the best on your journey. xx
Me, me, me 😭
That thing when you create rituals, like always putting your keys in the front right pocket but then sometimes you put them in a different pocket and have a panic attack because your keys are just gone in your mind...
I don't know if I've eaten food today. Except I might have eaten deviled eggs or that was yesterday.
Do any of you remember the original Transformer toys? Die cast metal, rubber tires. They were SOOOO cool.
YUPPP. Relatable. 🥲
Я ставлю еду в микроволновку и думаю, что я уже поела. Нахожу еду испорченной на следующий день.
As a 34 year old woman with recently diagnosed adhd.. This is the most relatable video I have ever seen. I felt so much emotion when watching this. The frustration, anger, sadness, fear, relief...
Thankyou
🥹 welcome to the Trying Fam. Thank you for watching and for sharing 💚
The part where you blurt out “I have adhd” really hit me hard. I have no idea why!!
Yeah for me too, especially because she said it to one of her old teachers who didn't know what she had back then.
I've actually daydreamed about telling my past teachers why I was like that.
@@mikeskybrowserboth my parents were teachers, neither recognized I had ADHD growing up. Both have said recently, 'it seems like everyone has ADHD now' with zero concept of the irony of STILL not seeing what has presented in their own daughter her whole life.
I’m always telling people this too. It’s like they don’t understand us, but at least saying it, helps them understand a tiny bit. But in reality they will never understand the struggles. Only people who have been through it, understand.
I was really close to telling my last interview that I have autism.. I didn't, and I'm thinking maybe I should've.
@@jkardi9803 that must've been tough. It seems many teachers don't know what to look out for.
Walking around while brushing your teeth because you need to do NOW the things you might/ know you will forget later...and everything else. What a perfect depiction of what our lives are like!! Fortunately for me, as an English and art teacher, it makes me extremely empathetic and good at my job, even though it comes at a high cost. Thank you, Sam!! You are amazing!!
LITERALLY! 😭🪥 absolutely. The pros and the cons are real...and I wanted to make sure we saw both in the film. I'm sure you're an awesome teacher. Thanks for this and for watching 🥹💚
Looool I have ADHD diagnosis but this video hit me more than a diagnosis. I REALIZED what I always do by watching her, and realized that, no, it was not "everyone".
DANG. this hits me right in the chest. Thanks for watching, Jean.
One year later and you’re still reaching people all over. 💕 I just saw this pop on my feed and it makes me feel so seen. Thank you. 🙏🏻
Aw man, this is so sweet. Thanks, Katie. I've put it up on down on Vimeo and TH-cam, but almost 3 years after the premiere, it's fascinating that it's popping right now. Thanks again for this 🥲💚
I laughed, I cried, I felt this in my soul. If this was a series, I would watch it religiously! Incredible. Thank you for this ❤
🥹 welcome to the Trying Fam 💚 we'll see what's in the works 🤭 thank you for this and for watching!!!
Her interview was what really got me. Like a lot of people with ADHD, the mistreatment and hurtful comments by people that enjoy digging into your mistakes to make themselves feel better (as well as the RSD often making you perceive that they are when they might not be) that hurt never eases. I carry a lot of those experiences with me without meaning to
10000%. One of my biggest pieces of self work right now is understanding that everyone is always projecting and has their own inner world going on. I take responsibility for myself and my actions, but I'm working on pushing unhelpful comments in one ear and out the other. Even on comments here on TH-cam! Sending hugs 💚
I started crying after you were validating yourself in the interview!! To go from the crushing feeling of Mrs. Hazel scrutinizing to that was a great feeling!
I’ve spent my life getting used to people just making me feel bad. I have all of these prevent defense behaviors I had no idea I was doing to stave off the negativity. I am 37 now coming to terms with this condition not a lot of things in my life have made me emotional but letting myself “have” ADHD was one of them. Growing up it wasn’t a real disorder. I’m now finding all these resources to make sense of my life. Up to this point I lived by the motto “I can’t fix my life because I’m too busy messing it up!”
This is so relatable and so real. Realizing I have ADHD was life-changing for me too...and I didn't realize until a year after I made this film, which is bonkers. We're not crazy, our brains just work differently (but I'm starting to think we may actually be in the majority...but idk if they're ready for that yet). Sending lots of hugs.
@ well I appreciate the film it’s really well written. You should be proud because it means you aren’t just trying. You succeeded, and that’s huge… if you can convince yourself of it. Stopping to fix the painting while in a rush was the most relatable moment I have ever seen in my life.
@ thank you. I really appreciate this. Thankfully, I am at a place where I can acknowledge and accept it. Thank God. I got a tattoo of the "Trying" logo and at first was apprehensive because I thought maybe I should get a tattoo of "doing "or something like that… Then a friend told me that by trying, I am doing. Which brought me a lot of peace. But finishing and accomplishing this fell really did change my life and understanding what I'm capable of. So again, thank you!!!
This is one of the most relatable things I have EVER watched and I’m a teenager.
I’m not trying to get a job or anything like that. I’m just trying to get through life. And honestly, this is what it feels like. I’m not diagnosed with adhd and I still don’t know if I have it but I’m starting to feel like I actually might.
10000%. Thanks for watching and could be something to look into. I was diagnosed at 27 and it changed a lot for me as far as mindset. Ultimately, all of our brains work differently, so figuring out what works for us is really the journey of life.
Wow, this short perfectly described my entire life. I am an early childhood teaching assistant, but I'm also drawn to arts and crafts.
I felt represented in every moment, and everything that happened resonated with real situations in my life. The part where Megan’s boyfriend reminded her of her appointment is exactly what happens with me and my fiancé. He knows all the details of my life and has reminded me of several tasks or appointments I was about to forget, helping me stay on top of future ones. Having an understanding partner by your side (especially if they’re neurotypical) who supports you is amazing, and I could feel that same care in her boyfriend’s tone of voice.
NOT ME PAUSING THE VIDEO TO TRY MAKING BROWN OUT OF ORANGE AND BLUE
@@esterazevedo05 oh wow. Thank you so much for sharing this. Everything about Meg's life and in the film was so carefully created to reflect all of this, so it makes me so happy that it resonated with you 🥺 and I'm so happy to hear about your fiancé. That's so amazing. I'm manifesting that for all ND bebes who desire it!!! 🥰 and HAHAHH there was a whole other bit about the colors that didn't end up working in the Final Cut...I pride myself on the amount of research went into this film, but I FUMBLED "what colors make orange and blue" but not actually confirming the paints myself 😭😭😭 smh!!!! Lol
Mixing up the time of appointments, the frustration of messing up AGAIN, the anxiety. Yup.
Truly. Sigh.
Loved this short film, a perfect snapshot into the life of someone with ADHD. It encapsulated how I feel a lot of the time. It was stressful, but the relief at the end left me with a huge feel good smile. Loved it 👏👏👏
Soooooo happy to hear this. Thanks for watching and sharing 🥹 it's crazy...I originally left the ending "open-ended", but knew we had to see Meg get the job. PHEW! 💚
This resonates so much. I got a job teaching art to kids. Best job I’ve ever had. Fits me to a tee.
Incredible. You are Meg! There was no other job for her, in my opinion. Thanks for what you're doing for the kiddos :')
Watched this with my daughter who has ADHD (as do half my siblings and my husband). She related to it immediately. So glad TH-cam stuck this in my recommended videos list. I sure hope I can do a good job supporting my brilliant neurodivergent kiddos well. School stinks.
Wow. Thanks so much for sharing this. I made a mini doc in 2023 on a young student with ADHD, and was so impressed with the amount of support his parents gave him regarding his schooling, and how many more options there are today to support ND kiddos. Not enough, in my opinion, but there's some sort of progress. 💚
I am a man with ADHD and you made me feel seen! Lots of love-Mike
Thanks, Mike. Wrote this film almost 4 years ago and have learned a lot since then (including my own adhd diagnosis). Really apprecaite it.
I like that this one had a happy ending. It’s hard so see so many with unhappy endings.
Me too. We can live beautiful and fruitful lives. :')
This short film made me cry so much. 😭 It's so relatable to me. Nowadays, I'm almost sure I'm AuADHD (I'm just diagnosed with autism) as, finally, I can't keep masking even with me anymore. Living alone, working and having some duties at the same time is truly tiring mentally and physically. I can't pretend to be the perfect student/girl as I'm used to. My life can be sum up in a word: chaos.
Congratulations for your video. You are an awesome actress and storywriter!! ❤
Wow. Thanks so much for this and for sharing, hon. You just made me realize more deeply that I'm still carrying the "perfect" thing even though I've been working to shed it. You're awesome. And thank you :')
@sluhbrek I understand you. It's perfectly normal, we have learnt from childhood that we need to overcompensate every aspect of us that doesn't follow the norm or, in other words, be different from we really are. Anyone teached us how to be ourselves, so we're walking the only path we know although we deserve another one.
Maybe should we create our own definition of what's to be a great girl with our own words? At least in my case, when I try to stick to a new habit, what I found best for it is replacing a habit to another one instead of creating a new one from scratch (I mean creating something completely different from what exists). So, regarding this, redefining should be better than trying to shed a part of ourselves. Consequently, we are not bad designed, so we should be loved as we love and accept neurotypical people the way they are. We are loveable.
P.S.: I've being working towards accepting me since I watched your video. 💕💕
Thank you for answering me. Have a wonderful day!! 😍
@@MovidasMatematicas I love all of this. Absolutely love the re-define. Going to sit with this, this week 🥺💚 so happy to hear that. You're AWESOME! Xoxo
I truly related to this so much. The entire beginning sequence- perfect. And watching it again, the moment realizing that she actually CAN do the interview and was panicking for no reason. Been there!! And just the gradual progression of intensity. All the feels ❤️
Thanks Christina 🥺 100000%. We can do hard things, the leading up to them is sometimes the HARDEST part. Thanks for watching hon. xoxoxox.
Jeez. This was perfect. I do not own a car so I skipped the part w car but otherwise everything here is so damn me. Adhd people are like a chest full of gold but everyday we lose a key to it. Thank you for this!
Dang. This is so interesting and thoughtful. Thank you for watching :')
My bones ache from the accuracy of this journey through a day in the life of a woman with ADHD
🥲 welcome to the Trying Fam. Thanks for watching 💚
I really need to talk 5o someone who's not adhd and see how they see this because it's 100% life for me.
I want to see trauma-free neurotypical versions of this, with thought bubbles to understand how one might experience a day like that without adhd.
I don't have adhd but I can still identify with all of this.
I don't have ADHD. I was really surprised by all the sticky notes and the double checking everything. That would be very tiring. I did relate to feeling frustrated at the strangers comment but I personally wouldn't have shared so openly the history of the painting. It's nice that she was so open with him though.
My neurotypical friends who have seen the film assumed the story was a once-in-a-while occurrence (which they related to), versus an every-day occurrence. That seemed to be the biggest distinction. I still have to defend the film, almost 4 years after I wrote it. Sigh.
@@RachelRiner I agree. I want to see this too.
This captures so much adhd it is absolutely brilliant! Even down to the colorful watch! Nice touch! Yeah that’s an adhd things too! (We like things with color, and we like things that are slightly unusual, we are also not afraid to stand out). What else? The explanation of the differences between a swan and a goose (yup, adhd people know stuff like this, and we will explain it to you with lots of details). The fidgeting with her rings, tapping her leg, spilling things, shoving stuff into her car, staining her clothes (and quickly coming up with a cleaver solution), running late, checking everything multiple times before leaving and still forgetting something. The random bruise on her elbow (yes we get so many random bruises and we have no idea how we got them), confusing 1:00 with 11:00, worrying about every detail, stopping to fix the one thing on the painting even when running late…wondering why you don’t have a master’s (or PhD), struggling to get a job that you are well over qualified…all adhd! This was really well done!! (Also an adhd thing, adhd people do things really well…the things we are good at we are really good at, and we make sure they are done really, really well (because we can’t stop until they are, and we are really cleaver, creative, and we take a lot of pride in our work).
You nailed it on the head. Thank you so much for watching and for this. And for saying us ADHDers do things extremely well...this made me tear up. Thank you. 🥹💚
I love how she would see the stove and check it, forget that she had done so, see the candle and remember the stove and check it, then reach for the keys not there go looking for them find them by the candle think of the stove and check it, see the note on the door ( thought I was the only one that did this) and check the stove and the candle just incase you aren't remembering correctly that you did indeed check them today and there fine or that you thought really hard to check them and didn't actually do it. been there soo many time. and yes i too have ADHD. really wish i lived in a world that understood what this disorder does to your self-image, your motivation, your understanding of general comprehension and conversations.
100000%. Love this perspective of it and so happy you relate. I've been working so much on my self compassion and confidence the past few years since my diagnosis because you're so right, it affects SO many things, as well as how the world is set up. Sending all the hugs and thanks for watching. 💚
My T Shirt says: “I’m trying my best.” I cried when my partner thought that was a “fitting” gift for me. Many similarities in this film to my daily routine, except I don’t write notes, I take pictures of everything to help me remember what to do all day. ❤
Totally. I so get it. We're truly all trying 🥹💚thanks for watching and for sharing.
Chills! Watching this brought tears to my eyes, very validating and surreal, I'm amazed at how common these super specific experiences are. Thank you Sam for bringing the sensitivity and understanding and making it enjoyable!
Dang, thanks for watching and for this comment, Briony. A lot of time and care was put into making this, and I'm glad it comes off the way you mention. 💚
THIS IS THE BEST SHORT FILM I HAVE EVER WATCHED. The accuracy.👏👏 captured the essence of ADHD perfectly
UGHHHHH thank you for this what??!?!! Jeez. 🥺💚💚💚💚
I've never, ever felt so understood.
🙂 elated to hear this, Laurie.
Oh mu gosh, it's like you told my story... Finding a job is so hard for me, that I always end up working on my own, but I'm a bad entrepreneur, so I'm trying to learn business stuff so I can do it better next time. Job interviews have always been a big anxiety trigger, and always made feel frustrated in the end. Never got hired, only temporary things, in a testing mode, and when the test period ended, they never called back. I'm 35 and still live with my mom. Hope I can work on my own, this time as a one-on-one dog trainer and a freelance illustrator
I so relate to this. My whole life I've wanted to be an entrepreneur and work for myself, not have to answer to anybody...now that I'm finally here, it's been extremely difficult to do tasks I can't find the motivation to do (even ones that could make me lots of $). Something I'm trying to focus on is really prioritizing the tasks that I enjoy doing and I'm really good at. There's a market for everything. Dog training and illustrating are awesome paths. You've got this.
God, this movie did a good job at stressing me out! Completely relatable!!!
😭😭😭 welcome to the Trying Fam 💚
THE CLOCK TICKING WHEN SHE WAS WAITING IN THE OFFICE OMG I IMMEDIATELY STARTED SYMPATHETICALLY FIDGETING 😭❤️
Literally REAL LIFE INSIDE BRAIN lollll 😭💚
So much I relate to! The forgetting appointment times, no matter how often I've looked at my calendar including multiple times the day of. Guess we're just meant for more important things. 🤷
Honestly...I keep saying if I had a personal assistant, my life would be complete. Manifesting. xx
Yes!🎉
Leaving the house in the morning gives me so much anxiety. I pack everything, just in case. When my kids interrupt me I have to start from scratch. I keep the list in my head, procrastinating writing it down. Thank you so much for this film. 🙌🏼
10000%. I so get it. Thanks for watching and sharing :')
Living with ADHD is never boring. We can handle any storm. I think this short story captured a fraction of my life. My mother doesn't know that I have ADHD. She just thinks that I'm weird. I'm 62.5 years old. 😂😂😂
@@christinefernandez379 10000%. YEP! And omg about your mom...it's so interesting the way things work out. I'm so glad you've got awareness and acceptance for yourself. Sending hugs 🤗💚
I could relate to each and every scene in this short film. This is literally every day of my life. Thank you making this film!
Wow. Thank you for this, and for watching. Truly means so much to me 🥲 welcome to the Trying Fam 💚
I saw this a while ago and its always been in the back of my mind. I'm an AuDHDer and this is so damm relatable and really well done. Just saw this pop up on my home page again and had to do a double take because I thought this had like a million views. Insanely underrated. Keep at it!
Dang. This really means a lot to me, thank you for sharing and for watching. Had to take a break from the "Trying" world for a bit hence the low profile, but definitely more to come. Million views right around the corner 😤
It’s hell 🙁 I have chronic illness now as well, making me extra high maintenance. Understanding executive function more and getting support as a child could have made so much difference in preventing burnout as an adult.
I so get it. I'm so happy you know at this point in your life what your needs are, but I know that doesn't make them feel any less intrusive. You're not alone. Sending hugs.
This video makes me feel seen and heard! You have thoughtfully and even poetically portrayed so many core struggles of people with ADHD/Neurodivergence. Your portrayal of reminders strewn about your living spaces made me look around mine and ask myself where I need more of those! I'm 44 and live with a profound sense of failure and unworthiness, and on the flipside of that I have a deep love and appreciation of people's stories and work in mental health which is my 'art class'...working on a crisis line is an outlet to support people feeling seen and heard and allows me to be resourceful and creative in my thinking. I don't know if that sounds weird in that context, but I have always loved language and have always valued authenticity and have tried to marry the two in every role I have had the privilege of working. Like so many people with ADHD moderation is a struggle so the only outlet I feel I am contributing meaningfully to, is often making me burn out and it gets my best rather than the other relationships in my life (with exception of my kids/husband, but that's not even being fully honest with myself and an area I am continuing to work on. Friendships and extended family fall off my radar at an embarrassing rate sometimes. I rarely remember to charge my phone and once lost all my phone contacts and was dreading/resigning to the 'fact' that these relationships were now gone cause the phone is a hub that stores reminders (in picture form - which i loved that you included your gas can photo!)
Any how I am glad I came across this video/page. I'm grateful you used this platform to share a message about a ADHD which still has a long way to go when it comes to stigma/judgment from others. I grew up when this wasn't even acknowledged, I was diagnosed at the same time as my son in 2018. My son is bright and articulate and funny and awesome and his grade 1 teacher (when he just turned 6) called me on his birthday telling me that he 'made fun of someone's art' or said something that was perceived as this (feedback from teachers I remember all too well with myself, when my jokes were taken to be offensive)...anyway the principal called my son's behaviour "disturbing" on his f*cking birthday! He was at an academic school which gave him homework EVERY NIGHT, and he was 5 for the first 2 months of grade 1. He was spelling words frontwards and backwards in SK. But he also seemed to love swear words as much as he loved other language and this always seemed to keep him on the 'outs'. He didn't go around swearing at everyone but he loved villians and acting out intense characters. Any how I didn't expect to write all that, and if you have ADHD I don't expect you to read all that either ;) I think this video gave me validation and I wanted to validate my son in the same paragraph. He's almost 14 now and he's a bright, scattered, high energy, sensitive, musical kid. He started drum lessons approx. 5 months ago and was insistent on playing challenging rhythmic beats. He taught himself 'Toxicity' in like a week which is a grade 7 level song apparently. He just keeps amazing me, and the part in the video with the teacher made me want to praise the crap out of my kid. I have 2 wonderful children, my daughter is 11, not sure if she has ADHD, lots of indications she might, but I've chosen to not go looking for it. She's still her and she loves school and hasn't needed testing at this time. She's one of a kind too, but I have talked your ear off, and I appreciate this platform again and anyone who can relate to the examples you shared or even that I shared too. xx
@@carolinelong1 hi Caroline, thank you so much for watching and for sharing your insights and experiences as a parent, and as a human. Sounds like you're a pretty awesome and amazing person too...love what you're doing with your work, your complex levels of awareness, and vulnerability. You're the reason I made this film, so thank you for being you, and being here. Welcome to the Trying Fam 🥲🫶💚
@@samlabbq 🥰
I cried because i felt deeply about living this exact kind of day. Before i was diagnosed, i thought i was an irresponsible and unworthy person, even though i was trying so hard, i just couldn't get it together.
I totally get it. I've felt stupid, and crazy, for so long. You're not. We're not. I've been trying (trying heh) to give myself so much compassion these days. Not being able to do xyz doesn't make us bad, our brains just work differently. Sending you hugs.
This video described the difficulties I live with every day in a way I have never seen, or thought of, or heard before! Thank you Sam. Thank you for this. It was hard to watch at times but only because the accuracy was so absolutely incredible. You are amazing and I’m so glad I found this video today. I feel less misunderstood. Thank you 💜🩷💜
Wow. Thanks so much for sharing this, J. It truly means so much to me. Welcome to the Trying Fam. You're not alone.
@@samlabbq 💜❤️💜❤️💜
The funny thing is, before I was diagnosed, I thought I was simply 'multi-tasking'! 😂
@@arabellacox oh my god YES! 😂
@@samlabbq 😂🙂🤪🤔🙈
This is me - I forgot to put gas ⛽️ in my car and was on the side of the road, mixed up times, over talks, sensitive AF, over thinks everything , worries about my age, apartment is a mess, and trying to hold in my anger when someone trash talks unaware that I have ADHD…I felt her pain when she told off the interviewer about her past. So relatable.
@@bellaladonna 💯💯💯 wow, thanks for this Bella. That scene was inspired by the time I ran out of gas on the PCH, 2 hours late to my dad's birthday dinner, after a day stuffed full of work, meetings, and appointments. Glad this film can accurately represent the journey, so others can understand what's going on for people with adhd like us. Thank you for watching and for sharing 🫶
SO GOOD. Laughed, cried, laughed, sobbed - screeched... Had to stop watching in a few spots, hit way too close to home. Watched again and now again. Sooooooo good. So good. Thank you for putting this into the world! So good.
Phew. Thank for this, seriously. And for coming back. And sharing. Appreciate you. 🥺💚
I started to cry and become overwhelmed after the interview because I’ve had those conversations with teachers and then completely burst out crying of happiness once the email at the end. I felt so seen in so many ways and would adore this to be a tv series, so many emotions and it was all so relatable
Thank you so much for this, seriously. It means so much to me. Thank you for watching and understanding...I'm thinking of making a part two seeing Meg in action. Maybe her on a good day with a few more laughs than tears
@samlabbq thank you for making this!! Yes, I would adore seeing more into Megs life, it helps to feel not as alone in these daily struggles!!!! Massive fan of the work, you're doing amazing!
😊 Very nicely done Sam - from start to finish! I was immediately captivated by the logistical hurdles, emotional landscape, and tension that felt very real to me as one with ADHD. You also did a nice job presenting the additional barriers of stigma, misconceptions, and misunderstandings of ADHD.
Thank you so much, Frets! So happy to you related to it and enjoyed the film. A lot of heart when into making this film by the team, so we really appreciate it. Keep an eye out for the next version… :)
This film is EVERYTHING! Thank you! The range of emotions I felt throughout this film had my heart pounding.
@@UrsulaPowers 🥺 THANK YOU and thank you for watching! (And subscribing) Welcome to the Trying Fam 🥲💚
I cried allthe way through. It's so accurate 😢
Aw, man. Thanks for watching, and hugs/sorry. Appreciate you, you're not alone. 💚
Yes, that's me and I really love myself. I can really recommend loving yourself
YES TO THIS. I can also recommend loving yourself. I didn't when we shot this (over 3 years ago), and it's amazing seeing the difference between then and now...including getting a diagnosis. This comment made my day. Thank you.
Would love to see more "episodes". Enjoyed it a lot, sent it to my husband he had to laugh so hard, too.
@@ghenderson6717 curious to see if more will come, too. And omg @ your husband!!! 😂💚