Encouragement During No Contact
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Coach Lee of MyExBackCoach.com discusses why it is important for you to stay in no contact and remain strong if you want your ex back.
He provides encouragement during no contact so that you have the best chance of getting your ex back as possible.
It's difficult to be out of contact with your ex, especially when you feel that you are losing them after a breakup.
Coach Lee explains that if you remain in no contact, you allow them to miss you, wonder about you, and recognize that they don't want the breakup.
He also asks what you could gain from contacting them. Will your ex suddenly remember you're alive?
They haven't forgotten about you and no amount of talking with them is going to change anything. It's just going to show them that you are trying to force yourself back into their life when they have said they do not want you there at the moment.
Being in no contact while trying to get an ex back is difficult, but Coach Lee asks if you are willing to do something difficult to get your ex back. Most likely, you'll say yes.
Well here it is.
Even though it's difficult, show your ex that you will bow out of his/her life if you are asked. Show your ex that you might hurt from the breakup but that you will move on, live life to the fullest, and that great things are in store for your future.
If you are in no contact with your ex and looking for encouragement that you are doing the right thing to maximize your chances of getting your ex back, this video of Coach Lee with MyExBackCoach.com is worth watching until the end. Schedule a coaching call with him so that the two of you can put together a plan to get your ex back at myexbackcoach....
I love your videos Coach Lee. Your advice is so valuable, insightful and has changed my mindset when it comes to breakups. I know I won't get another chance with my ex because he gave me so many chances before but I didn't know this information then. I had to break no contact with him because I needed a reference for a job offer I got in mid May, but I never talked about the relationship or break up so I don't know if that is good or bad. I know better next time when I get into a new relationship in the future. I don't blame myself for the mistakes I have made because he was my first boyfriend. I'll be extremely lucky if he comes back to me, even if I didn't beg or plead last time, I won't be waiting on him though.
MsxTrinity6 Hi has he ur ex come back to you? It's been couple of months since your posting :)
Bernese Muir No, and I don't want him to come back. I know he will be back one day though as he is insecure and has low self esteem. Right now, he doesn't want to give up his pride.
Same thing with my ex, I begged and pleaded for her but she ultimately blocked me in the end and I felt devastated and defeated. But my entire mindset changed when I researched what I could have done differently. I wouldn’t want to go back into a relationship with her. But she was a good girl and it hurts knowing I made her leave me. But I accepted the consequences of my actions and I am taking responsibility for what I had done and taking this as a learning experience for the future. I don’t think she will ever come back and that’s okay.
@@david443567 bro we in the same boat...see doesnt even want to see me nor talk to me...she is a good girl damit....it hurts to think i have made all the mistakes that ruin changes of ever getting back...
I dont know i have hope one day she wil come back but it ovious she wont...
Damit man it hurts like hell but if only see could see the version of me when we met and also the mistakes she made....but it okay life goes on these is an experience for future relationship wich i really dont want now maybee after years yes but now focus mainly on my self
Hi coach Lee i absolutely love your videos however all the videos i see are about getting your ex back. What if that isn't the case and your just trying to move on but can't because your dealing a narcissist and he plays all mind games to keep you in his life. Im dealing how to move on and control my mind not to be lured in back to the relationship. Im also 6 months pregnant was in a 5 year relationship with him. Please help
*finished No cantact and finally got my shit together , we finally met up after 1 month and she said "I really miss you and everything about you " . Guys I'm fucking crying tears of joy .
Happy for you Andrew! Move slowly. It’s okay for her to see progress but you don’t want her to think she could dump you and get you back with the snap of her fingers. That will drop attraction. Let her feel warmth with a bit of reservation. Enjoy the moments and avoid relationship talk for a bit. Laugh and enjoy life (and let her see that). Follow me on Instagram @RealCoachLee
@@RealCoachLee Will do !!!
Still together? Mine came back but I was so pleased to have her back I blew it...plus her ex was trying to get back with her. Left her as writing was on the wall. Back to no contact
U are so lucky bro🙂
Way to go, congratulations on getting your shit together.... And getting your girl back, .....we're all freaking happy for you!!
Man I feel like a straight bitch!😂😂😂 I cant believe I let someone have this much power over me. Im 40 days into no contact. I want her back but something is changing inside me. Im starting to feel powerful. I feel like I got some control back. Im tired of rolling the dice bro. Theres too many girls on this planet to want one that dont want me. Love should not be this hard.
Maybe you're right, keep getting stronger
I'm so tired of crying😭😭😭😭
Kelly Perkins keep ur head up . Be strong .
Stay strong. Your strong.
Be strong you can do it
Stay strong
Stay strong I have the same feeling
Stay strong everyone. We are in this together!
Im on day 1 anxiety through the roof -.-
We got back together and broke up again 🤣
@@jamalcell8179 we are together again 🤦
@@yasminkhasrawy1119 lmao update ?
Thank you❤
The most important thing I realized when she asked for time apart was that if someone doesn’t want you in your life, than you are better off without them. I know it is hard and it hurts so bad when someone you love says they want a break, but you will grow even stronger because of it. If you are here reading this right now, you are a really good person, and if they don’t want you in their life, then it is their loss. We all deserve someone who loves us and wants to be with us. But they are not that person, so for now you must move on and choose to love yourself because you are amazing.
“When someone wants you out of their life, you must back away and give them that”
OUCH!
You’re an amazing guy, coach Lee!
Out of the about 50 no contact related videos I've seen in the last few days, this is the best! You express it all clearly and flawlessly. Thank you!
Greg, thank you very much! This video might also be helpful and interesting to you: th-cam.com/video/2v_9UTypfCs/w-d-xo.html Be sure to watch until the end.
I agree! So articulate and funny too. He’s very calming as well .
@@RealCoachLee you have literally saved me over the past few weeks. I know your videos are from a couple of years ago but my boyfriend of almost a year dumped me, after an amazing weekend together, through a text. We are both 44 years old! I never begged him or pleaded. I was quite nasty and mean because his best friend has tried to sabotage our relationship since the day his(the bff's) girlfriend died of a brain aneurism. It has been the friend's M.O. for years to sabotage his relationships and has done it successfully. I'm now on day 9 of no contact and I have never shown up at his job, his house, etc.i don't blow up his phone.that weekend we spent together was amazing! He held me so close, told me he loved me so much, etc...then dumped me out of the blue and blocked me from Facebook. Such a strange situation.
Strong people realize they never had control. - Gold. Thank you Coach.
Exactly. Agency is an illusion, we are simply the universe experiencing itself.
Day 17 No contact 💪🏻!! I’ll survive
Some update?
I contacted him after 2months and he said he doesn’t want anything and told me to move on.. Now it’s 3rd month of breakup and I’m trying to move on
Day9😭
@@meshamalik5048 2 months might had been too long? the recommened 1 month
@@meshamalik5048 You will move on Mesha! I believe in you! You will find so many amazing people and will be able to forget that jerk. We all will pray for you!
I tried no contact hahaha my ex didn’t even last 4 days he came to my house to talk n see me was worried I wasn’t answering him. He missed me like crazy n we are back 😎❤️❤️
Evelyn Castillo very happy for you !!!
Still together?
Happy to hear that!
You guys had a fake break up
yeah but that was a fake break up. You'll probably break up few more times
no contact is an action. it is louder than any words you say
Currently on day 16 no contact. I hope he’ll miss me someday. I was feeling okay for that last 2 weeks but since yesterday I’ve been thinking about him a lot again. Watching your videos calms me down. Because I know there is nothing I could do more at this very moment than to just stay away from him.
keyumi98 ....i feel u. i feel d same
keyumi98 update?
I feel your pain- you’ll feel better! Stay strong- if he doesn’t comeback-- you will find the ONE!
Is he back?
Yea these videos give hope. And makes us better. I just want to be happy!!
Don’t chase be chased
Know your value
If you don’t / work on that
Today is a very tough day for me. I’m listening to this video and I’m all in my emotions. Between Coach Lee and the Almighty above that’s where I’m drawing my strength from.
They will definitely come back.
Amy I went NC 20 days ago. He texted me the excuse to ask about my brothers illness this morning ,telling he me he thinks about me only when he's awake. And I messaged him back told him Thanks for inquiring about my brother. I never said anything to him about missing him. If he calls just be polite, he will proceed in time. I just gave him enough to make him think that maybe, just maybe I can get back to her. He's got a lot to learn.But just hold on and don't contact like Lee says .I pray the best for us , hang in there and just let him stew in his own shit for a while.
Amy Mitchell. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
How are you doing now?I'm 3 weeks no contact and come to the realisation that's it. Best wishes
Around 3 months plus with fully no contact. Will do my best and stay firm not to break the no contact.
It wouldn’t hurt you to reach out at this point.
I thought we weren't supposed to reach out on our own, to let them come to us?
@@RealCoachLee she broke up with me the day after my bday and i wanna reach out.. its been like 7 weeks. What advice could u offer?
Will I ask for my stuff at his house back , his BD coming up will I send him BD wish.? Pleas advise
Update what happened?? Did you lose her or get her back??
I’m not gonna lie it’s been 10 months since my ex broke things off with me and I’ll admit I’ve even had my moments of weakness. I either pull out my journal and write down what I’m feeling or come on TH-cam and listen to Coach Lee videos.
He’s fucking epic. Always glad to hear his message. Needed.
I followed his advice and it worked. I swear to God. she came back after 4 months but I had already moved on and wasn't interested, she wasn't worth it why would I want to be with someone who didn't want me in the first place. honestly the pain is gonna worth it and will teach you
Very often, yes. If your relationship was good, there was a connection, and you didn’t make the breakup too awkward for your ex.
Coach Lee I've been in a 45day NC now. my ex gf posted a subliminal message about getting another chance and being decisive to grow old with me. her post can only be seen by me. what should i do?
i begged the day of breakup and made a clean slate the next day then started NC. we had a 2yr relationship. she keeps in contact and wants to be friends. i just bid farewell then do NC.
i still feel a little insecure once in a while but already did going to gym and started 2 jobs.
i should push my NC, right?
if yes, then how long should my NC period?
shes my 2nd ex gf. i dont wanna screw up again like what i did with my 1st ex gf.
im already happy without her but sometimes i feel i still love her. i was needy and also neglect her for the last 4 months before breakup
@@majadera2233 what eventually happened?
Ex broke up with me 1 week ago and we've been in a relationship for 5 years. Did not wish her a happy birthday and are anniversary is coming up. NC, I am strong and my value is worth a lot.
I was feeling more motivated then until I read this comment. I made things hard at the end. But he said he wants to be friends, still friends on social media and he still has our photos on there. I'm in 5th week on nc
I was in tears before I heard the truth bombs in this clip. The swing between mental strength and weakness is exhausting. Thank-you for reminding me of the bigger picture.
Day 80 of NC. I don't cry, I can eat, I don't smoke anymore like the first weeks, but still can't stop thinking about him.
bb-hu4li I'm sorry to hear about day 80, and still no contact. Sometimes these things happen and they lose attraction. Try to get out of the house more with your friends, watch Coach Lee's videos and pick up a hobby. Take care of YOU...❤
@@jannlewandowski5540 I have no friends or family, he was the only person I had around, but thanks for your words, I appreciate that. He told me he had feelings for me but couldn't see us succeding long term. And then disappeared.
Coach Lee,
I really like to find a way to make sure you and your followers ARE ABLE TO SEE THIS MESSAGE:
Your teachings are AMAZING.
NO CONTACT IS PERHAPS THE ONLY WAY TO GO in a situation of a breakup or feeling that she is not appreciating you.
No Contact will be extremely difficult and hurtful but trust and believe you must show that you have selfRESPECT.
While you are on No Contact, it is mandatory to upgrade YOURSELF.
Of course, make sure you don’t throw negative words or songs on Social Media.
MIND YOU: every case isn’t exactly the same.
In my case, after a month and 1/2 I decided to reach back because I a feeling that she was waiting for me.
So I did reach out, and I was right. She was her sweet beautiful self, giving me the respect and love that I missed so so so much.
Thank you Coach Lee,
God bless you for your kindness and share of knowledge.
Did u beg after she broke up with u?
did you beg after the break up?
My GF of a year and 9 months broke up with me 5 days ago. I initiated NC and so far the “addiction” is tearing me up on the inside. I want to reach out so bad but I deleted her number from my phone to prevent me from doing something stupid and all my social media is deactivated as well. It’s Christmas time and this is so hard. Thanks Coach for your words of encouragement. I’ll try and keep you posted what ends up happening.
Hey Bro, so how did it turn out? Did you get back together?
What happened
Damn it dude come back
Dude literally ghosted us
@@XVNRX man I always think when there is no update that they are broken down and they never seen each other... But a corner in my mind says : maybe they are back together and to happy to respond or forget it ... Don't know who to trust lol..
The only way I’ve been able to get through NC is watching these videos. I’d made it 5 days then caved. Wished I hadn’t. Now I’m one day in NC again and every time I get an urge I start rolling through videos until it passes. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Me too.
I had forgotten about this comment. My guy did come back ♥️
@@welovee1680 woww... How????
Amazing, how over 140k views and only 2.5k likes! What the hell people! You know he helps all of you on some level! Hit those likes, people!
Thank you Coach Lee. You know contact solutions I have works for me greatly. My ex had broken up with me and I was in a downward spiral. I gave her a little too much pushback and tried to force her to see that I was a good guy. Then out of nowhere I just stop talking to her thanks to your videos. After about three months of no contacts, I started to get discouraged because she did not reach out to me. So to see if she was still interested in to see if I can move forward I saw one of your videos that said it’s OK to reach out and I did. And what I found out is that she was missing Mimi Mora that I was missing her. We had a great first conversation when we met in person. And now we are dating stronger than ever
Happy for you😭... I hope my situation gonna be like yours.
how did you reach out? what did you say?
Isn't coach Lee, so intelligent? He he's straight forward, I LOVE U.
"Oh, I forgot you were alive."
Lee, that was amazing. :D
I good thing about no contact is after nearly 2 months of it I do not care any more :) freedom!
This helps me so much. I watch this video every other day for encouragement.
I’m glad. I try to be encouraging on Instagram at instagram.com/realcoachlee so follow me there as well.
Yeah these videos are awesome
I watch this everyday when I lose control
I love you and your advices soooo much!!!
I've been through hell these days, and I'm trying finally no contact.
We broke up after 6 painful years...and lately, I'm falling asleep crying and waking up after 30 min, with your videos on my headphones.
You are my best friend, ...I can't wait to be at home alone and listen to your advices online.
There are my only aid to a broken heart.
I feel you!!! same!!!
You ll be okay
I look at this video along with prayer, whenever I feel to reach out during no contact. Thank you for your videos and advice. You will survive no matter what!
Wish i found this video long time ago.so .i never suffered that much
Day 62 and still have to watch these vids some days
"they cant miss you if you're there" ...what a great point
I pretend to have a conversation with them. Or I will right it down . It helps
"Low Ball Bid", I spit my drink. Coach Lee you are Awesome. Great advice. Your videos are helping me stay strong during this difficult time.
Yeah I also did the same mistake, what happened after that tho?
I was on the verge of texting him... Thankfully I came to this video instead. I was in tears, but now I feel so much better.
It is crazy how i have to keep listening to this. Heartbreak so painful and i am so tired!
Coach Lee is the best. I don't even listen to other breakup coaches anymore because a lot of what they say doesn't make sense or help you when youre suffering.
I had a breakup after 4 years of being with someone and Coach Lees videos helped so much. We did end up getting back together but there was too much arguing so we split up again. But No Contact made me way more confident and strong, so the second time we broke up I was already used to the horrible feeling and just had to ride it out. It took about 3 months to feel normal. He did reach out after a month but I knew where it was headed and didn't want that again. Either way it does work, whether you're wanting them back or wanting more confidence and strength, or maybe to realize they weren't the best for you.
I'm also on second breakup but the first time I didn't know anything about NC but I unknowingly did it anyway and he came back after 5 days. 6 months later he breaks up with me again for same reasons and he thinks I can't change. I was devastated, it's been over a month now since the breakup but I really don't think he's coming back this time, told me not to wait, to move on, all my friends think it wouldn't be healthy to get back together. I've done so much reflecting and going to therapy. I believe I have changed now but I think it's too late already... we lasted 1.5years.... I really love him but wanting someone who doesn't want you hurts so much...
For all the mates who were dumped around the World, use the No Contact to take care of yourself, do a check-up with the doc, do therapy and go to the gym, after two weeks, don't be afraid to go out with another person, be happy! Coach Lee, thank you for everything, your videos helped me to heal up mentally and emotionally, one month has passed and step by step from your words, my world changed drastically for good, now I am just watching for curiosity.
Best relationship coach on TH-cam
This guy has taken me out of my darkest moments.
He said don't call me I'll call you ( of course he was basically saying leave him alone) so I said to him I know you won't call and I'll give you what you want. I won't call you either. Its been 3 weeks and he has not reached out. I won't either.
What has happened since? I am on day 13 of no contact. This is killing me! I miss her!
@@kratosbear316 hey how are you?
@@oddentertaining6234 going great! I reached out after day 20. We have been inseparable ever since. In my case it has worked.
Dynasty j, hang in there, they act like we don't even exist. And that is what hurts, so bad, because it looks like they don't, even think about us it's been 2 months no contact, and 5 months of being broke up.i know he's intimate with someone and I have not been intimate with anyone seens him.what are we going to do. Pray to our Father God give all our pain to him, and he will ease it cuz i was a deck, at first lost 10 pounds couldn't eat or sleep god has brung me a long way. Pray to him for strength.
@@kratosbear316 I'm in the same boat, I miss him so much, it's been 2months of no contact and 5 months of being broke up mind u we were together for 17yrs, and it's like he don't give a crap. I no he's in a rebound relationship, and he did this a month after being broke up I'm not stupid. He lives down the street which makes it even harder.all I do everyday is listen to coach Lee, as therapy, and my father God, which has brung me a long way I couldn't sleep, eat, think nothing and now I'm able to do it because of my faith in God. It's so hard😣😣maybe we can comfort each other u need me I'm here.
Thank you for this real video ! Can't believe i was once at a stage where i would beg my ex to unblock me and ask my friends to ask him . wow theses videos do make me grow !!!
You're so welcome!
Your analogies are always helpful. And I like your sterness. Makes me feel like you are speaking directly to me. Very very helpful. Thank you for doing these videos.
Thank you!! I needed this encouragement & I will "SURVIVE".
You've helped me loads today, thank you! About 5 years ago my self-esteem and confidence was pretty high, so i found it easy to implement the "no contact" rule. However, my self worth plummeted dramatically since then and I have been needy and desperate. It doesn't feel like me. Listening to you has given me strength to stay away from my ex!
“If you love them you will do it” thank you!
Its been almost 1 month. I reached out to him the day of his mother's funeral with a short text that morning. I broke down and sent an " I miss you" text, no response. I started watching these videos and I've learned alot. I'm going to be strong!
@Erica Valentine Hang in there and good luck. We are all in the same boat ❤️
Coach Lee your saving my life right now
Mo, thank you, but I believe you are strong and can do this with or without me. You are the man!
Thank you coach lee you are so appreciated!
I thank God for you, Coach Lee. Your words give me hope and peace.
I listen to your videos everyday since he ghosted me to remind me what to do. These help me a lot. If he doesn't reach out to me at least my listening English skill get improve. 😁 You are the best Coach Lee 👍
God I needed this video today🙌🏽
This is so powerful still. Thank you.
Even if my ex doesn’t come back this helps my inner strength.
I really needed to hear this message
I went NC 3 weeks ago
Nothing has changed
I’ve been the strongest ever in 3 yrs.
I really don’t think he will ever contact me again
any progres?
yes, i wish some people would update
Stay patient...
How did your story turn out Jenny???
I'm at 3 weeks now....and no word from my ex. Super sucks.
Coach Lee, you are the one...After 2 months of no contact came to the point to break it but then listen to your video and I will never do it.
Thank you so much.
It’s getting really hard but I’m gonna get through this no contact 12 days!!
This was sooooooo helpful! It's backwards for me because I broke up with them (it was a toxic / trauma bond) I love him but I know there is no future with him. So I need to keep convincing myself to stop reaching out because it will take me nowhere! I may need to see this video a few times over the next few weeks lol
Yolanda Vargas, if you need extra help, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent! It has strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Well, I am very glad that I watched this video for the 3rd time.
I miss her every day. Haven’t spoken to her for about a month
Hang in there and believe the process!! This video is really important!
Man you are seriously such a figure to me now at this point. You have helped me so much, thank you.
I literally use these videos as my pacifier lol. Thank you Coach Lee 🙏
I’m so appreciative of this video. I have moments where I think I’m doing just fine and then it feels like I got hit by a train of emotion. I’ve been watching so many videos trying to educate myself. I have taken a careers assessment to maybe switch up my career and find something I enjoy doing if I hadn’t injured my shoulder I would be back in the gym every day I realize I made a lot of mistakes in the relationship by acting weak and needy, and I should’ve been more of the rock in the relationship, I think staying in no contact and with your encouragement is helping me to find my strength.
I can guarantee that when your girlfriend comes back you will wish she hadn't. Go through the dark night and emerge into the light of freedom.
needed this
Either that or she's the one, but either way you need to the journey to get to one of those places
I will always remember these sad painful times and who helped me get through it.
You're an Angel 😭
You are the best mate...literally...I watch your videos everyday when I wake up...it keeps me going...you are a good person Coach Lee...Godspeed to you mate❤️
bro i did one week of no contact and broke it bc i had confidence in something idk what but nothing bad happened but it made me feel awful after contacting them, i LITERALLY need to watch this video every day(also your videos are great man keep it up!)
Cobra Commander. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
I love this video! I watch every time I feel weak lol. I love how he doesn’t sugar coat shit. The video is hilarious and gives me so much motivation to not contact my ex! 💪🏾
In No Contact for two weeks. The three years with him and engagement has made this so painful. I need to fake it till I make it. But I’m not even gonna take friendship for an answer. It’s all or nothing because I don’t want to be playing games.
Any update ali?
ro-ann ocampo he is getting mad at the very sound of my name. He has talked to me to check on me here and there and I’m okay with that. I keep it friendly and don’t spam messages. I also found out he is dating someone new and that was in a way clarity for me. Now I have been more at peace. If he comes back he will. I made it clear that right now I don’t want to be friends. But we are past the level of communication where it is full on avoidance. We didn’t block each other so yeah. I’m happy because I have my friends support. And by friends I mean ones who barely know the guy and I trust
Ali Nevells im in a bad place now. Its confirmed my ex cheated on me with the woman he said just a colleague. And they are together onboard(working for carnival casino sailing). That cheater kept on telling me that we will fix our relationship once hes back here in philippines. Thank God i found sooner.
ro-ann ocampo you will get stronger.
Ali Nevells i hope so. Right now it feels like my heart is crushed into pieces.
thank you man, i love your channel. been broken up for about 2 weeks now. a fiance who ive been with for 5 years and have a 5 month old daughter with. i only communicate with her if it involves our daughter other than that i dont reach out. the hardest thing in the world having someone with you everyday and in your life to all of a sudden being a total stranger. your videos are really helping me keep my spirits up.
I clicked on this video because I’m on like day 3 or 4 of no contact and sometimes I feel like I want to crack but I came here for encouragement. Coach Lee is right. I will keep y’all updated on what happens
Sundown’s Craftventures day 5 here
PinkElevator sams here lol
Any update?
Mentally unstable 😂😂😂 i love u Coach Lee thanks for making me laugh during this difficult time. I broke up with my ex 5 days ago and it sucks 😞
😂 I laugh so much as well ! This Guy is the best ;)
I am in your same situation, i mean my boyfriend left me but no contact and focus is the only solution for us and maybe for get them back.
So u are the dumper? If so, u should be the 1 who should reach out.
I also laughed there 😂 my ex must have thought that of me at some point
Ya he's actually quite funny lol
Sound advice Coach Lee... I have just reached day 4 of NC (it is very tough indeed), I hope one day my ex reaches out to me but I am also preparing myself for it not to happen as well... I'm keeping busy, working on my classic car, going dancing, having coffee with friends and maybe other women.... who knows maybe I will realise I am fine without my ex .. Your videos have really helped me put my situation in perspective. Thank you.
You gave me my confidence back..thank you so much
My ex won't come back because I leave for college in less than 3 months so theres no point to starting a relationship again, but I am so thankful for your videos and I hope they get me through this summer :( The psychology behind this makes so much sense I just wish my situation was different
Sage advice as always, no contact is very empowering if you use it for YOURSELF
I'm in no contact now and have been for almost 2 weeks. Initially I made the mistake of begging and pleading for her to stay in the relationship. I'm actually finding it easier than I thought even though I love her and miss her. Thanks to coach Lee I will never again cheapen or humiliate myself for anyone like that again. I'm so angry at myself for giving up my dignity the way I did. If she reaches out so be it, we can give it another shot. If she doesn't then I'll be in the process of moving on and eventually meeting someone new. No contact really is win win. Thank you so much coach, you have no idea how much you have/are helping me.
Thanks Coach. I've been getting a lot of info from you. It gives me reassurance. I'm nearing the end of my hostility towards my ex gf. It's been 3 months now since last contact. I've maintained no contact since our last get together in August 2019. I often have a strong urge to reach out to her but haven't allowed myself for fear of pushing her further away. It's all on her. I have my doubts that she will come back and we had a lot of feelings towards each other. But I still have some hope.
I'm going to the gym, buying some new clothes and looking pretty good. Thanks again. :)
uptades ?
Udate, how is it going?
Day 45 of no contact and i am doing good ❤
That's good to hear, and I'm glad no contact is working out for you. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
i m so glad i found your channel you're my only hope during the day
I am tired of feeling this way man! Just want to sleep and never wake.
God knows how many times I've watched this video. Thank you Lee for the encouragement!
You make me feel calm and resolute with your logical, no nonsense advice. Thank you!
I am only about 10 weeks post breakup though it feels much longer. I am so glad that I did not beg or plead when my ex of around 15 months broke up with me. I was very angry because he broke up with me by text. I told him I hated him and that he was a coward. He begged me not to block him out of my life and that we could remain friends. I said no way I wanted to stay friends. He told me the reason was that he didn't have "the love feeling" with me, never had and never would. He said other things that really hurt me to hear. Then he said what a lovely and amazing person I am and that I deserve better (him trying to soften the blow). He broke up with me just before he went away on a camping and fishing holiday, and just before I started a new job. His timing worked well for him, but not me.
Then he texted me twice over the next few days but I didn't respond even though I felt like I was cracking up and cried so much. I hadn't seen Coach Lee or heard his advice.
At 3 weeks, I sent a brief text saying that I didn't hate him, that I wanted to thank him for being honest. That even though I didn't want this, I accepted it, held no bad feelings, wished him the best and now we could both move on and find happiness. He started sending me texts, asking for friendship. Wanted to see me. I said friendship maybe later, that I wasn't ready to see him, but am fine and moving on with my life.
My biggest concern has been has been that he
is contacting me regularly, and made no secret if wanting FWB, but I said no and have stuck with that
He has said in recent times that he was confused at the breakup and was wrong about some things, but I haven't asked for details
I found Coach Lee a few weeks ago, and listen every night before I go to sleep or more if I'm upset. I think I am doing all if the things Coach Lee recommends
We have discussed meeting up. I am quite anxious about it although I do feel the playing field is more even. I'm cautious of my ex, and tbh, have conflicting feelings. Mostly, I want to protect my heart
I think there is a possibility that we MIGHT get back together further down the track. Frankly, it would be way too soon for me right now.
I do wonder now if I had done these things at previous relationships that life may have worked out very differently - all if my exes came back, but I had truly moved in by then and didn't want them. Mostly, I had met someone else and made the same mistakes all over again
I see now that my behaviour caused attraction to lessen because I was too open about my feelings for them. I was always trying to be the perfect girlfriend so they wouldn't leave me. I just ended up repelling them. I developed strong feelings too quickly. Even though mostly, it was the men who initially moved too fast, I did myself a real disservice and a lot of hurt by not holding myself back, and not maintaining enough mystery.
Hopefully, I'm getting better at all of this.
Unfortunately, it worked out badly. We are in full no contact now. My ex has dismissive avoidant attachment and I could not cope with his breadcrumbing ,not being valued, and so little attention from him, especially when I had a stretch of unemployment and he seemed not to care about me - I believe that's true. I think the only thing he cared about was sex. I was in so much pain and he said something so insensitive that I broke down and then shut down, felt empty, numb, nothingness. I don't want contact with him anymore, am working on my healing and moving on. I have gotten what appears to be a good job, and hoping to go on overseas holiday later in the year.
I love you coach Lee. I was devastated. I just started my no contact! I keep the hope alive that hopefully we get back together. Meanwhile i will work to heal myself❤
If it is meant to be, we will find our way to each other.
How’re you doing?
@@youloveemelia doing good.. 1 month of nc. Healing away.
@@youloveemelia still hopelessly in love w him, getting better and healing..
@@AKS_3280 🤣na I'm fine
how are you?
Day 5 no contact.
Will keep updating
Thank you coachlee I needed this today. This video is 5yrs old but it’s still helping me now. You are the best. I appreciate you. 🎉❤
It’s been a week since she blocked me on Facebook. Today is hitting me real hard, just can’t get how someone you showed nothing but love to can just disappear without a trace
jacaoous. I'm very sorry to hear that. You know there are so many people who do that, and it's unfair and cold!
I know it's very tough and I've certainly been there. I want to suggest that you consider Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's such a good guide to help you so that you aren't just wondering on your own. It covers a lot of situations and has strategies that you probably haven't thought of. The link for it is myexbackcoach.com/ebk. I wholeheartedly recommend it and wish you the very best of luck.
NC had me unable to fall asleep last night & this vid immediately put me at ease. Thank you.
Somehow made it to 2 months. I don’t think I’ll ever stop loving her but I’m beginning to thrive while being lonely and heartbroken…interesting 🤔. It all starts with the gym bois
Me too dude! Somedays are good some are bad, but I am trying all the way possible to stay calm.😅
Thank you for this ! Girl got my head fucked up with her depression she just wants to be alone
It’s been 14 days, I’ve lost 16lbs :( I’m broken but I get up everyday, go to work go to the gym, help the less fortunate, work on my side business and I still miss her. :/ I’m even looking at the Disney account where she kept my name with a heart. It’s still there 😢😢😢
65 days, losing hope and feel slightly ok with it. Time to move on, she opened her fb up, took many of our pics off but left some. I removed some too and some tags. She took off the relationshipstatus, so I just hide mine. A lot has happened. People tell me I have to fight for her and go to her. I have to try one last time. I’m thinking I might just call her that I’m in town and see if she wants to meet to talk because we have unfinished legal matters plus her boxes of things, if she wants to I’ll talk to her, if not I’ll leave her things with a letter getting my feelings out and move on. Close my social media and keep focusin on me. Still some what confused but finally yesterday at day 64 I felt a little bit better.
@@nairdah2c800update??
I did all of this and when he came back I genuinely don’t want him anymore and feel great about myself
How long did it take for you
We’ve been together for 2 1/2 years until he dumped me 2 weeks ago. 😩 At first, I begged him not to leave me but soon I realized that it makes him annoyed at me. So I decided to minimize the contact (Only replying when he needs to get his stuff. He’s slowly moving out.)
Sometimes I am numb like literally cannot feel anything but other times I feel so sad. Crying myself to sleep.
I just can’t imagine how he could be so okay and happy now that we’re separated. It’s like nothing for him. 😞
Coach Lee's best Tough Love to the point video!
Coach Lee always delivers powerful advices not only in terms of logic but more importantly he can build strength to push through hard times during no contact which is a life saver. Thanks coach Lee!
Thank you. This is day one and I'm already feeling overwhelmed. Thanks for this video
Anupa De Gazon, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you. It has EVERYTHING you need including strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Day 9 no contact. It’s getting easier but still very difficult
Update??