Thank you to this community for bearing your hearts, souls, and struggles to me. I love this FFXIV community and the people I have met. I hope this touches your heart ❤️
Spoiler free: Endwalker has themes which hit most of us HARD, through a combination of personal underlying issues in folks' individual lives + the COVID lockdown era where many people, globally, were socially isolated to an extreme degree FFXIV has kind of always had brutal mental health themes (which has led many, myself included, to seek professional help!) but Endwalker is... again, spoiler free... ESPECIALLY brutal, psychologically.
I've seen a lot of people scoff at fiction as simply a waste of time, but it is impressive how much they can pass on important lessons if you can look at the fundamental principals. I didn't personally experience the same feelings from FF14, but I can appreciate that others would have had the source of their problems been different. The timing of the lockdowns really was a big source of strife. Where I lived, there was massive amounts of coercive pressure put on people to do the correct thing, to the point where it felt like a violation. But I'd been pro-choice my entire life, and saw the forced violation of a person's body as the worst thing ever, even if it's something I'd normally have supported. The moral dilemma between doing what would on paper be the correct decision, and doing what was morally right was destroying my mental state. The novel Words of Radiance is what finally gave me the courage to commit to opposing evil, and do what was right despite the sacrifices I had to make as a consequence. It was far more useful than the experiences that I had had with a therapist in the past. Now that I've made my way back to a great place in my life, when I look back, I can honestly say that it was fiction that saved me from the self-destructive spiral I'd been trapped in.
So glad i found you, been going through my own experience, and share so many parallels with the story you've shared. Thanks so much for being you. People in need of some healing are guided to those who can provide some form of out. Having a safe space to speak and be truly heard, with no judgements towards who you are is so essential, and i think for people in this community especially, it can be hard to find. Sometimes all it takes it someone to stand out, to really be themselves, and provide the example thats ok to be vulnerable. It's no suprise people feel safe coming to you, seems you may have provided both of those for them, and thank goodness. Thank goodness for the wounded healers.
people dont know how much eating healthy and staying hydrated actually help. as well as NOT isolating yourself. never ever ever isolate yourself. you are not a bother to your friends. dont let your thoughts say otherwise
Endwalker is my favorite expansion, precisely because it pulls no punches. It explores so many themes relevant to our age, like suicide, propaganda, global crises, nihilism, the meaning of existence, Etc. SPOILERS BELOW Hermes was one of the best interpretations of a clinically depressed man that I've ever seen in video games. He was a man with a conscience in an age where conscience was considered unnecessary to life. The Ancients could decide who was worthy of life, and wipe out anything that didn't meet their criteria. They weren't exactly cruel, they just didn’t all grasp the idea that all life had value (we were shown only a few people in the ancient world who did: Venat, her followers & Hermes). I've seen people do the Garlemald questline and have to stop playing after the stuff with Quintus. For me, that plus the soup scene with Jullus is exactly why I love FFXIV. It shows the ugliness of life, but also the beauty.😢
You. Are. Amazing. That’s all else I can say. The fact you’re speaking about this and allowing yourself to be vulnerable for us is exactly what the ffxiv community needs. You don’t know it quite yet, but you’re going to be a very important content creator in this community, especially since you’re backing your content behind your words here. I can even say you have helped me a time or two getting me through a day with your kind words. Of course you have to go through the steps like every other content creator has to do, but this… this. This is more important than you even know yet. We need more people speaking about these important things. I’m very happy to have met you and I’m ecstatic to be a part of your community. Keep it up. You’re so great and I can’t tell you that enough. We lubbs yew, Nurddiii! 💜
It’s worth adding I think that how more extroverted people experience depression as oppose to those who are more introverted or have chronic depression. Imagine feeling horrible and anxious but nothing has happened that is traumatic or life changing. At best you can identify it quickly and drag around the iron ball until it lifts. At worse you will begin trying to identify the sources of your pain and drive yourself crazy and even start looking into the ‘void’. So you can imagine how the iron ball does not feel as heavy during gaming sessions. FFXIV does have the added benefit of exploring important themes that you yourself may not have had time to experience yet. There are many characters to identify with and understand why they react the way they do.
Seeing people coming in and being embraced heartens me and hope that everyone is having this same feeling. I'm a FFXIV player since ARR Reborn and as my first time playing a MMORPG I struggled at the beggining of my journey with the salty comments from random players about how I suck. I must confess that it put me out of some normal raids and extreme trials to avoid "waste other people's time" since my weak performance could be of prejudice to a whole party. Somehow this unworthiness feeling in real life was getting in the game and the "MUST NOT FAIL" pressure hold me back to not even try things. I could have given up but the alive game feeling and randomness of things gave me a different social interaction, the feeling of being part of something in the first free company I joined. Although I avoided the end game contents, I was focused in doing things that could benefit all members even with the little I could. Probably there was also the mindset that I want "please others to be acceptable" but it gave some determination to keep playing and getting better. After these whole years, I was happy to clear an extreme trial/savage raid with the fc party when it was launched. I am not the PRO player I wish to be but I also understood that I'm not that full crap either and there's always a progress to celebrate when you beat each %. It helped me understand the uniqueness of each one and that our skills together, could make amazing things. I'm sure I also have lots of things to learn from old and new players. Y'all are important to me not matter how bad you feel about yourself. Let's stand together!
I hear ya but I kinda look back at how we handled strife historically. Lets look at the past 100 years for example. We only had this level of communication and technology recently. I wonder if this is something we as the human race make more of a big deal recently because we do not live with the same struggles as we do say, 100 years ago or 200 years ago. The things we as humans would have to endure to just survive such as acquire food, shelter and stimuli. I wonder how our ancestors would look to us now knowing what they went through.
Thank you to this community for bearing your hearts, souls, and struggles to me. I love this FFXIV community and the people I have met. I hope this touches your heart ❤️
Spoiler free: Endwalker has themes which hit most of us HARD, through a combination of personal underlying issues in folks' individual lives + the COVID lockdown era where many people, globally, were socially isolated to an extreme degree
FFXIV has kind of always had brutal mental health themes (which has led many, myself included, to seek professional help!) but Endwalker is... again, spoiler free... ESPECIALLY brutal, psychologically.
true that. FF14 is not a pretty mature game with a lot of heavy themes... but.. you know .. 'weeb game' ...
I've seen a lot of people scoff at fiction as simply a waste of time, but it is impressive how much they can pass on important lessons if you can look at the fundamental principals.
I didn't personally experience the same feelings from FF14, but I can appreciate that others would have had the source of their problems been different. The timing of the lockdowns really was a big source of strife. Where I lived, there was massive amounts of coercive pressure put on people to do the correct thing, to the point where it felt like a violation. But I'd been pro-choice my entire life, and saw the forced violation of a person's body as the worst thing ever, even if it's something I'd normally have supported. The moral dilemma between doing what would on paper be the correct decision, and doing what was morally right was destroying my mental state.
The novel Words of Radiance is what finally gave me the courage to commit to opposing evil, and do what was right despite the sacrifices I had to make as a consequence. It was far more useful than the experiences that I had had with a therapist in the past. Now that I've made my way back to a great place in my life, when I look back, I can honestly say that it was fiction that saved me from the self-destructive spiral I'd been trapped in.
So glad i found you, been going through my own experience, and share so many parallels with the story you've shared. Thanks so much for being you. People in need of some healing are guided to those who can provide some form of out. Having a safe space to speak and be truly heard, with no judgements towards who you are is so essential, and i think for people in this community especially, it can be hard to find. Sometimes all it takes it someone to stand out, to really be themselves, and provide the example thats ok to be vulnerable. It's no suprise people feel safe coming to you, seems you may have provided both of those for them, and thank goodness. Thank goodness for the wounded healers.
people dont know how much eating healthy and staying hydrated actually help. as well as NOT isolating yourself. never ever ever isolate yourself. you are not a bother to your friends. dont let your thoughts say otherwise
This ^^^^^
Thank you for your vulnerability, and insight. Be well, and may your healing journey go as smoothly as possible. Much love.
I respect this so much! Thank you!
Endwalker is my favorite expansion, precisely because it pulls no punches. It explores so many themes relevant to our age, like suicide, propaganda, global crises, nihilism, the meaning of existence, Etc.
SPOILERS BELOW
Hermes was one of the best interpretations of a clinically depressed man that I've ever seen in video games. He was a man with a conscience in an age where conscience was considered unnecessary to life. The Ancients could decide who was worthy of life, and wipe out anything that didn't meet their criteria. They weren't exactly cruel, they just didn’t all grasp the idea that all life had value (we were shown only a few people in the ancient world who did: Venat, her followers & Hermes).
I've seen people do the Garlemald questline and have to stop playing after the stuff with Quintus. For me, that plus the soup scene with Jullus is exactly why I love FFXIV. It shows the ugliness of life, but also the beauty.😢
💯
The soup scene with Julius always makes me cry
You. Are. Amazing.
That’s all else I can say. The fact you’re speaking about this and allowing yourself to be vulnerable for us is exactly what the ffxiv community needs.
You don’t know it quite yet, but you’re going to be a very important content creator in this community, especially since you’re backing your content behind your words here. I can even say you have helped me a time or two getting me through a day with your kind words.
Of course you have to go through the steps like every other content creator has to do, but this… this. This is more important than you even know yet.
We need more people speaking about these important things. I’m very happy to have met you and I’m ecstatic to be a part of your community. Keep it up. You’re so great and I can’t tell you that enough.
We lubbs yew, Nurddiii! 💜
It’s worth adding I think that how more extroverted people experience depression as oppose to those who are more introverted or have chronic depression. Imagine feeling horrible and anxious but nothing has happened that is traumatic or life changing. At best you can identify it quickly and drag around the iron ball until it lifts. At worse you will begin trying to identify the sources of your pain and drive yourself crazy and even start looking into the ‘void’.
So you can imagine how the iron ball does not feel as heavy during gaming sessions. FFXIV does have the added benefit of exploring important themes that you yourself may not have had time to experience yet. There are many characters to identify with and understand why they react the way they do.
Seeing people coming in and being embraced heartens me and hope that everyone is having this same feeling.
I'm a FFXIV player since ARR Reborn and as my first time playing a MMORPG I struggled at the beggining of my journey with the salty comments from random players about how I suck. I must confess that it put me out of some normal raids and extreme trials to avoid "waste other people's time" since my weak performance could be of prejudice to a whole party.
Somehow this unworthiness feeling in real life was getting in the game and the "MUST NOT FAIL" pressure hold me back to not even try things.
I could have given up but the alive game feeling and randomness of things gave me a different social interaction, the feeling of being part of something in the first free company I joined.
Although I avoided the end game contents, I was focused in doing things that could benefit all members even with the little I could. Probably there was also the mindset that I want "please others to be acceptable" but it gave some determination to keep playing and getting better.
After these whole years, I was happy to clear an extreme trial/savage raid with the fc party when it was launched. I am not the PRO player I wish to be but I also understood that I'm not that full crap either and there's always a progress to celebrate when you beat each %. It helped me understand the uniqueness of each one and that our skills together, could make amazing things.
I'm sure I also have lots of things to learn from old and new players. Y'all are important to me not matter how bad you feel about yourself. Let's stand together!
Right channel on this is weird, if you have the fixed track a re-up would be nice, especially for your message you're delivering
Sadly the video has to run its course per contract - the message will shine through despite a minor technical mic issue ❤️
If you're on Windows, hit the Windows key and type "mono" and then enable mono. It will fix the issue.
@@BabyShenanigans not working for me, nothing happens when I press it
Yeah, right channel is just white noise. I'm deaf in my left ear and had to flip my headphones around.
I hear ya but I kinda look back at how we handled strife historically. Lets look at the past 100 years for example. We only had this level of communication and technology recently. I wonder if this is something we as the human race make more of a big deal recently because we do not live with the same struggles as we do say, 100 years ago or 200 years ago. The things we as humans would have to endure to just survive such as acquire food, shelter and stimuli. I wonder how our ancestors would look to us now knowing what they went through.
Good Video. Subbed. I know a lot of FF14 players with issues .. myself included. beign together in this world helps a bit..