****Thank you for your kind words. I welcome edifying comments toward me but please refrain from any negative or disparaging statements about my recent love interest. She's a Godly woman and has the utmost character. It's because of her phenomenal character and heart to please God, that propelled her to make the difficult decision to release me. It was her love for me and the care she has for my heart that forced her to make the wise decision to let go and let God. She is healing from heartbreak as well. Any comments I find to be counterproductive to my journey will be deleted. Respectfully, Laterras.
Well said! Some people don’t understand spiritual things. Spiritual warfare is real. The adversary doesn’t want this God ordained union to happen. I know this way too personally.
This is one thing I absolutely admire about you Letteras. Despite the heartache and pain you're going through you still have a heart of gold. Sometimes it could be bad timing when 2 people meet. What I do appreciate about your love interest is that she had the respect for you to be honest 💯 even if it hurts. Transparency is a good sign. Desception and confusion is not. You got some answers and no guessing on what ifs. Many people avoid conversations and ghost the other person which is more painful. If God want you two back together, it will happen. If not, there someone better fit for what you can provide and she can provide to you. I pray for you and her and get the healing 🙏🏾 ❤️ in your hearts to continue this journey of love.
There is an appointed time for all things. “God makes all things beautiful in it’s time” Ecc 3:11. “God is not man that he should lie” Num 23:19. You sought God, he spoke through the Holy Spirit. I hear what she is saying, but trust God. Trust what he spoke to you. Trust his timing and his perfect ways. God Bless brother
This is why I subscribe. Appreciate you taking us along the journey. Prayers 🙏🏾 up for you both. I prayer December starts to bring you moments of joy and life. And no longer death. 😇
I respect this woman for admitting she has things to deal with instead of getting into a relationship knowing she wasn't ready and breaking him because she's broken. I wish more people would have that level of honesty and self awareness.
God still has a plan for your life.Healing,Tears,Is Another Process.Yes it hurts.There is a lesson.God Will reveal.She was very respectful to confirm that it wouldn't be fair.She has a lot going on in Her Life.She couldn't give you her love 💯.when deep down she's wounded.Thanks for sharing.She love you enough to be Honest.🙏
I respect her for being honest but also she should have not got as close as she did if she was not sure she should have said something way before he got In Too Deep with her it's unfair considering the fact that she know what he's looking for and been through as well as her
This statement really hit me and put in perspective my own journey knowing when the door has been closed I’ve walked away, questioning myself if I really cared but the pain and healing process answers. When King David son died it was only then when he washed and ate food. This is a God given truth
Bro I’ve only recently started watching your podcasts and sharing them with my close circle of brothers, I’ve laughed so much and had so many debates but this one…….. this one was the truth bro, resonated with me so deep. You wear your heart on your sleeve and are so transparent. Thankyou for being so vulnerable but please remember as the psalms say, guard your heart. Blessings.
Take aways: Heal from a heart break . 💔 Do not self medicate with another man/woman. Keep your heart and hands clean . Do the work ❤. Do not give up or walk in shame . God will give you better than what you lost 🙏🏽💍❤️
I experienced this. I saw the guy in a dream before I even met him. We were so in sync but he had things in him that he had not addressed. I learned that there is no One... Only the obedient. Everyone has free will. Some folks can choose to walk into destiny or walk away from it. But God is going to make sure His will is done in the earth. My ❤ was broken when this happened to me. But him saying he didn't feel like he was the one helped me to break that tie so that months later when God sent someone who did want me and sought God for someone like me I was free to love. 10 yrs later we are still married.
Only the obedient…a lesson that I’ve learned for sure. Just like someone can walk away from a calling; the same way we can ignore the inkling to check on someone…that same free will…we can turn away from the good thing God presents. I’m convinced that many fit the bill. It’s a matter of who’s willing to step up to the opportunity. It hurts. But there is no shame in loving someone and being willing to take the journey.
Please be encouraged! My testimony is similar... I prayed about a relationship and everything pointed to this person. Then he suddenly chose to walk away. God used that heartbreak to prepare me for my husband. I was so hurt, but God spoke to me and told me to stop crying and get up. I was obedient and I started putting myself our there again. Two months later, my husband found me and we got married within 6 months of meeting each other. We just celebrated our one year anniversary and its so much more than I could have imagined godly love would be! This podcast was a major part of my journey to finding love and preparing myself for marriage. If he can do it for me, I am believing the same thing for you!
I believe she was truly scared. We self-sabotage so much that we truly push away someone who had the best intentions for us. I pray she receives the healing and peace she truly desires. Thank you for being transperent.
This hit me. Because almost 10 years ago my now husband came along and was trying to pursue me and although I felt safe and heard the Lord. I was terrified. I was a victim of complex trauma. And I had not dated for 10 years as I went through healing. So as he pursued I backed out of it 5 times saying, “ I’m not sure if this is God… I don’t have peace”. In actuality I was so afraid. I felt 100% sure Jesus would not hurt me but of course this man was not Jesus and I was scared. He was so patient and gentle although secretly wondering if I was crazy.😂😂 He prayed for my heart and finally the Lord spoke firmly to me about him. And now we are approaching our 8th wedding anniversary. So, my brother I pray for you. You never know how the Lord will unfold your story. I am truly sorry for your heart break. I hope this young lady receives the healing she needs and that self sabotaging will not be her portion. Be bless. Healing in all situations. You will not be disappointed with the goodness the Lord has.
joi226….. I know exactly what you are talking about. Complex trauma is affecting so many of us and we don’t know it and can’t see our own patterns. I don’t know if you are familiar with attachment styles, but she gave so many signals of being a fearful avoidant….self sabotage all over the place. Unfortunately, she has to do the work , but the more he pursues, the more she will pull back.
That man hasn't approached me but I just read me in you with haven't dated in years! I have done the work on myself, raised my son and continuing my education. All I can say is, they are very few out here. I am open and have no hard feeling towards anyone, I just want to make sure, it's a life time. Congratulations to you for allowing him to come in.
Laterras YOU ARE AMAZING! This is the realest most rawest video on the internet!!! Your vulnerability will set precedent for the remainder of the year. How you spoke your truth whilst being careful to praise and uphold her integrity is truly fascinating. Gods plan is still unfolding, you may be confused but He is not. Love always friend ❤️
I'm so sorry for your hurt, but sometimes life is so hard. Know this if it's meant to be it will. Do give up God has you just know God doesn't make mistakes. Good Bless You!!
These are the podcasts we need from men. To really understand their heart,vulnerability, and compassion for love. Not once did you project negativity towards her and you are commended for that alone! May your heart heal and be restored✝️❤️
No ma'am....Podcast like this need to be kept private! It's not our business to know! This man is HURTING! Now why would it be any concern of yours? Do you think he's gonna personally call you & explain in detail what really happened w/this woman? #I'llWait #BeingNosy2023
I'm not sure why I happened to come across this episode now. But it spoke to me!! After just 4yrs of marriage, I'm getting divorced. I'm broken, bitter, angry, & confused. I cant help but feel unheard, misunderstood &, abandoned, without the ability to figure out how to go about healing to mend this brokeness. When Laterras said "it feels empty to be seen by millions if you're not seen by the one" crushed me! "It won't always be like this" gives me hope! I love this podcast!!
Hey Laterras! I had my first heartbreak last year. I was confused, angry, hurt, sad, thought about seeking revenge etc.. During that heartbreak season (because it is a season that will pass) I binged watched your videos. Your videos gave me hope and motivated me to keep going. So I want to return the favor and tell you to keep going. I'm excited for you! God healed and restored my heart. I know he will do the same for you. Psalm 147:3 "He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds."
After my last relationship ended a few months ago, but to be honest, I was the one that was in the relationship. I am healing from heartbreak and prayed to GOD to guide me because the other side of me wanted to tear some mess up. January 1st, I started to focus on me more than others, pray, confess to GOD, read, and so much more. This too shall pass because this lm year is OUR winning season!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️
He left me walked out and now he wants to come back he's very narcissistic. I have to learn how to let go let God and love myself I had to have such a low self-esteem to marry someone who can offer me that I forgive myself I forgive him and now like Humpty Dumpty I'm putting myself back together again with the help of my father the Lord amen.
I appreciate your vulnerability. I’ve never thought about what heartbreak looks like from a man’s point of view. In protecting my own heart, I’ve never considered how walking away affected the other person. My thought process lead me to believe “He’s a man. He doesn’t care. He’ll be fine.” This video is an eye-opener. Thank you. 🙏🏽
Right after a major heartbreak, I met my husband. The love of my life. I was extremely confused and disheartened because I was closely following God and even had a prophetic dream. You will look at this video one day soon and realize just how much God loves and protects you as his beloved son. Chin up, shoulders back. Thanking God for your soon to be my brother!
Unfortunately lack of personal healing can present as self sabotage. Her transparency is gold. May we all build and grow in transparency and accountability in our relationships.
Hey Laterras, I know how you feel. My husband asked me to let him go back in 2008 so he could do the inner work. I am so glad I let him go because I know for sure he is all in now and have healed. God brought us back together and we got married in 2021 in Hawaii.
"I start over as often as is necessary because I’m not starting from scratch, I’m starting from experience. From every experience, I grow healthier and mature."
Laterras, thank you for baring your scars so that others may heal. My prayer for you is that the Lord changes your memory of the month of December, and it will become your most favorite time of the year. 🙏🏾 May your December 2023 be “THE ONE” to remember! ❤️
You are an amazing King, man of God, Laterras!! Hang in there, your wife is coming in due time. Once you stop thinking about the ultimate goal, she will practically drop in your lap, I believe. 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️🙌🏽
I have NEVER heard a man be this transparent about healing. I've listened to this all day. The authenticity of this was so real. I felt every single word. I'm currently experiencing a divorce and it's like DEATH...I'm not sure how to UN-LOVE someone but I'm trusting God on this one!! Thank you so much although it was tough to watch!!!!! But it's helped me. Be well and may God continue to heal your beautiful heart.🙌🏾❤
Praying for your healing. Divorce is like a death. Speaking from self experience. With God, a great therapist and a loving family, I made it through. 🙏💞
Be assured - divorce IS Death… of a dream, vision, hope and a future. BUT AbbaYah proves Himself faithful to Jeremiah 29:11-13a!! It is at the darkest times that He makes and FULFILLS the greatest promises! He will be found by us as we seek Him with our whole hearts!!! Be assured @Dear Future Wifey - you too!
So many of us men needed to see this. I am sorry you are hurting and pray for your peace and strength. WE STAND WITH YOU IN FAITH AND PRAYER. I am also dealing with the heartbreak of how my 2 year relationship just ended. You gave me blueprint to help 'deal'. So, thank you brother. Simply, thank you and I pray healing and strength for your wounded heart.
I never knew a man had feelings, the way a man treats a woman sometimes in a marriage r relationship, terrible. U r a blessing from God!! U had me crying!!
09.09.2024, I sit today watching this episode and I am sitting with the same pain. I am grieving! it is painful. The thought of putting yourself back into the world, the fear and doing that one again, frightens me too! I am heart broken. it's hard. it's so hard, and you talk to God but my oh my, it's painful! I watched the episode of RC Blakes and His wife last night, and one thing I have learnt is to lean onto God and just let this go and find peace in God...Loving someone is special but nothing you can do when that person walks away to unlearn some issues.. Sometimes I wonder if I shouldn't have given him my all, if I was stupid to love the way I did.. wow.. thank you Laterras.. Thank you for sharing this..
If a woman has never experienced the kind of love and security that you provided for her, especially if she never received that from her father or a father figure during her childhood, it will feel extremely uncomfortable to her because it is foreign to her. Keep your head up. The gift of love and selflessness that you gave her will find its way back to you. My son went through this type of heartbreak recently. My heart goes out to you. God will see you through this.
"Joy comes in the morning". God is faithful. He has lots of beautiful daughters in daily worship and prayer to him. Trusting God for His ordained partner for them while celibate & growing in all areas of life. God has a beautiful, faithful daughter of Zion for you. Believe! Be healed in Jesus mighty name. 🙏 by 🔥 🙏 🙏 🙏
I am one of those women. It hurts him now but she did the right thing. It will save him for a woman who can reciprocate what he can give. I have been that woman who knew she wasn't healed and had to let a great man go so that he could find someone who could be his partner, not his patient.
“May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of a lover.” -that part. I’m so sorry for your heartbreak. Heartbreak almost took me OUT!! But honestly…she sounds like she would be an amazing friend! We will keep hope alive. You are an EXCEPTION to all the relationship games. Press on King. We love you.
God knows more than you know. The bible tells us in : Psalm 34:18-NIV “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Please don't let this change you. God will heal your heart and these tears will turn into tears of joy one day. I will keep you in my prayers and God bless you.!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
When Pastor Eben prayed in the intro. Your wife is being preserved for you, brought tears to my eyes. I prayed to God and ask him why is it taking so long to bring my mate into my life, I can't do anything, no dating, no DM's nothing...now I know why God is preserving me for my husband.❤ I feel so much better.
Laterras, the intent behind your message is not in vain. This video...Wow! You are inspirational and you are courageous. You are exactly who the Father says you are. You are lovable, you are kind-hearted, you are a King, you are worthy, and you will connect with YOUR RIB in due season. All is not lost my dear brother. The Father is preparing a queen for His beloved son. Your QUEEN! Do not ever forget that you are the apple of His eye. The Father is concerned about all that concerns you and He hears your heart....He has heard your cry. All will be well. Your breakthrough is coming and you will be a great husband to your wife and she will compliment and be everything that you need her to be for you and you alone. Continue trusting and relying on Him as this process is necessary. It is not fun, but it is necessary. Take this time to heal, assess, heal, redirect, heal, connect, and pour into Laterras. I pray the right friends and family are available for you in this season whenever you need them. I pray they allow you space to get it all out and to just listen to your heart and allow a soft landing space for your pain. You have touched so many lives in a positive way and it is our time to hold you up my brother. My prayers are with you.
Yes! I am walking through a season as well, where God lead me to a point where I placed my hope in God and listened for his word and guidance and everything fell apart. I was getting confirmation and the loose strings started to show. I started to panic. I leaned my full weight on God and it collapsed underneath me. I was soo hurt and terrified of listening and maybe hearing the wrong thing. God is in the mist of everything. He showed me that following him will not lead to our ideal outcome, but his ideal outcome. ❤
As I was looking at your transparency, it hit me. *He's reaping". Remember, the Bible says whatsoever a man sow, THAT is what he will reap. You had to reap from what you did to women in the past. God allowed you to experience the hurt you caused others so that you won't make the same mistake when the real one comes...bc you now know what it feels like! I know you gave your all to the woman you felt was "The One", but God will show you, in due time, that the next one???? Will be a love like no other!!!! She will embrace it, nurture and cherish it just as much as you do!! The next one? She will see you as a gift that God has allowed her to unwrap DAILY instead of thinking that you are too good to be true. Trust God and your process. She's out there. You just haven't found her yet. 🙏🏾 Be blessed ❤️
"I will heal, I will deal ,and God will be revealed." I felt that. I am matching my faith with your faith Laterras for your healing and love in God's will.
I know this podcast was recorded over a year ago, but today is my first time seeing it. As I am watching this I am reliving instances of my life in which I thought I was so sure of the will of God for my life, and where I gave it my all with all my intention thinking that all I had to do was that, be intentional, and all the other pieces would fall into place... But God just keeps taking our lives to higher and higher levels. For every heart break I have learned that God is still God, and that love is still love and nothing can separate us from the love of God that is through Christ Jesus. "After you've done all you can, you just stand" (I also cried out this song to God so many times... but the season of beauty for ashes has come). Thank you for sharing your heart, the grain of wheat does not bear fruit until it has died. Your pain then has blessed so many lives, and it is blessing my life now as well. Stay strong, your time is coming!
If I may offer a different opinion: First flag - Fell Deeply in Love with someone in 2 months. You didn’t know enough about this woman in the relationship. You are in your “newness” and you are feeling dopamine that gets released in your brain. Don’t confuse that with love. It’s new. Enjoy the newness. You haven’t seen her in her other seasons to determine if she is really the one. Second Flag - You introduced too much too fast. That pre-pre marriage counseling is way too soon, and could be considered too much when you’re just getting to know someone. Y’all bringing up triggers within 8 weeks of knowing each other in therapy. Call it what you want… that was pre-marriage counseling. That can deflate the relationship really fast when you don’t have a solid foundation that’s needed from BOTH parties. You clearly was there, but it doesn’t appear she was (even though she went with you) That’s a really heavy place to be in 8 weeks of dating each other. Third flag - Speaking finality of marriage within 8 weeks of meeting. Again, really heavy to be at in 8 weeks. You are within your right to feel those feelings, but there is SO much that you must establish with her (ex. trust, loyalty, confidence in your leadership abilities, etc.) BEFORE acting on this feeling. Once you’ve established these things, then she’d be at a place to welcome this conversation. It was only 61-62 days… you didn’t even scratch the surface my friend. My point: Slow down and enjoy the ride. She clearly had some things to work on, but you were so ready to marry her she felt her back was against the wall. Slow down and enjoy each other, allow her to reveal her struggles, and slowly do the work is how you will get her. It takes WORK & TIME. You can’t bake a wedding cake in 1 min
I understand where you are coming from, and I think these are from a good place; however, the delivery appears insensitive. It is said that you should never kick a man when he is down. Love is a tricky phenomenon to define given the who, what, when where, why, and how to depends on individual experiences, perspective, and conviction. In light of this, the insinuation you make in your comment about "falling in love deeply in 2 months" is flawed. Also, the adjective ‘enough’ is subjective. I don’t believe the relationship would have progressed had his fundamental criteria not been met. Moreover, there’s only so much one can know about a person pre-marriage. That's hardly an attainable goal for a lifetime! From your second flag, I deduct that you are generalizing and using the same rubric you would use on yourself. While there are books and leading voices discussing this issue, they offer some useful solutions. However, we must learn to separate the wheat from the chaff or else collectivism will undermine individualism. There’s no hard and fast rule about love and marriage, from Adam to Isaac and Hosea, different rules apply. Onto your third flag. He has made everything beautiful in its time (Eccl 3:11). Process is an inevitability that cannot be circumvented; however, I believe the pace of progress per process depends on individuals' maturity and readiness. The more prepared a person is, the more likely their journey will be accelerated. My point: Don't judge, especially when you only know a small part of the full story. There is no guarantee that what works for one person will also work for another, so avoid generalizing. Consider his situation from his perspective, and be compassionate towards him. Be kind and supportive as you would like to be treated. Anything can happen in God’s timing. @DearFutureWifey, I commend your L.I.T. and pray for your speedy recovery. Your testimony will soon come through, so keep looking up and pressing forward.
@@jeaneb01 - First, thanks for your perspective. I love being able to have a healthy debate online without it getting out of hand with name calling and the like. I am far from kicking him while he’s down. I listened to his entire video, and I am offering a different perspective to the possibility of how he got to this position. I’m not mocking him, joking him, nor am I belittling his decisions. As a man, I listened to this man talk about his situation and I responded how I would respond to my best friend. He has to take responsibility for his actions and not point the finger like she just upped and left for no reasons of his own. In the video, he never takes accountability for his actions. I agree wholeheartedly about love not having a timeline, but you must remember that there are two people in this relationship. He was so focused on his desires, that it appears he didn’t consider her and went for what he wanted. I’ve learned that some people will go along with you even though in there heart of hearts they don’t want to. For my second flag… Google “pre-pre marriage counseling” and tell me what you find? To save you some time… there’s no such thing. This man created something that doesn’t exist to get what he wanted. You go from meeting someone to 7-8 weeks later sharing traumatic events in your life in front of his counseling friends…. That doesn’t scream “flag” to you? For my third flag, I made it clear that HE has every right to feel those feelings, but he has to prove himself worthy to her to truly say yes. The Bible says that the heart is deceitful above all things, who can understand it (Jer 17:9). This tells me that though I may have the feelings, time must be present to ensure that I’m really feeling what I’m feeling. There are two people in this relationship, and regardless of how you feel about where things are, relationships are about putting the other person’s feelings into consideration. Your rebuttal only focuses on him, and not his ex-fiancé. Forever is a mighty long time (shoutout to Anthony David and Algebra Blesset), and you have to know someone has the foundational skills to have a successful marriage.
Very well spoken in your initial comment and replies. I agree with every word. We are quick to say it's her, but maybe she seen some things in him he needed to address and the decision was for the best for both of them. The more I listen to the podcast the more I see that he has some healing of his own he needs to do. I pray God continues to heal and work on each party in that situation.
Another breakthrough is coming, Laterras!!! Also, note that healing is on-going. Healing takes time, but it shouldn't hinder you from still loving. God has you covered, and He will restore. Thank you for being vulnerable with us. This episode was needed.
Latteras I totally get it sir. So to be honest with you I love hard as well and right now I am afraid of going into another relationship because of the letdown myself. Thank you for being so transparent as a man🤗💙💙💙🚶🏾♂️🚶🏾♂️ Gods got you and me... Happy blessed New Year 2023...
Lateras my name is Ladina Whitfield, no we are not related. Your courage to expose this pain is healing a nation! Intentionality is not inclusively spirituality and rationality. You merely offered too much too soon to someone not ready to receive the wellspring flowing from within you and that is to jer credit to be honest she is not ready for you! Seeing your pain I cried with you as my prayer line role is on marriage and the sacredness of singleness. You are NOT LOST AT SEA, you are walking on water with the faith of God carrying you precious brother! He gave you the miracle of honesty! He has already blessed you in transparency even in your unwillingness to accept it! He sends you who you need not all the things you believed you wanted! You have too much to do to be distracted and deceived no matter how good the packaging and the presentation looks! You know what God want God wants for you and it is not to make it happen but allow it to happen! I pray for you and your healing and that deters your mission! Amen
Wow. Let this be a lesson for us to do our work in our single season! God forbid we meet one fashioned for us and have to forfeit it because we haven’t done the work 🙏🏽 Praying for you Laterras ❤
I agree .. I also feel no one should start dating or enter courtship until that have gone through a sanctification period with the Lord. Then and only then can situations like this be avoided because you already k now where you stand in receiving what God has for you . And many times, we know early on if the person is “ it” or not. Both parties have to agree. This was a sobering moment for all of us
Laterras, watching this broke me… My heart so hurts for you.. I am one of the ones who has literally given up hope. Birthday was Dec 30th, turned 49, never married, no children.. I’ve had several false starts from ghosting, talking stages, “I don’t know what I want” etc…. it’s too much… But watching this episode gave me a boost to not give up…Your plea and prayer to God was so sincere and heartfelt.. I know he is setting you up for the greatest love story ever.. I can’t wait to see what unfolds for your future. You will be saying “God Remembered” ❤🙌🏾🙏🏿
AMEN!! I agree with you sis. Again, let’s see what the Lord will do in both your situation & Laterras’. Our God knows how to orchestrate “suddenly” blessings! I’m looking forward to hearing about yours and Laterras’. It ain’t over! God’s got you both. Amen.🙏🏾
@nadjahdabney6737 right there with u sis...will be 45 in a couple weeks, never married, no kids and only failed r'ships. I always take time to heal after r'ships, but it does get harder to hold out hope for love the older we get. I'll continue to do the work on me and trust God. So hang in there!
"Sometimes they know something we don't." I was thinking the same thing concerning her. Seems like she loves you enough to spare you pain. Thank you for sharing. Wellness to you❤
For me, It was when you told the enemy thru your tears that no matter what you would NOT settle for a woman who was not a kingdom woman. That was powerful and you made me make up my mind that I wouldn't settle for less than what I've been asking the Lord for either. Thank you Laterras! This won't last forever. Like the song says trouble don't last always. Thank you that even though you're hurting others are being healed, helped and set free through your testimony and transparency.
Laterras, I lift you up in prayer right now🙏🏻. I truly feel as you were sharing this that this heartbreak may not be solely about your pain but for the growth in the partner you were dating. Praise God that you were able to show her that there are good men out there, you’ve helped her get one step closer to her healing! And God used you in this way because he knew the pain you could bear and the next door that opens up will be so unexpected and on time that your praise report is going to break the internet!!! I thank you for sharing your vulnerability & your ministry didn’t just heal her but it’s helping us all heal too. May God bless you, may God continue to smile on you, and may he continue to open a window to pour out blessings in your life.
Yes, yes, yes... what perspective! We weep with Laterras today, but later we will all rejoice when he presents his purpose partner to the world. The pain and heartache he is experiencing today will then be overshadowed by a joy unspeakable - his due recompense. Also, after having watched this episode, I can’t help but be reminded of ROMANS 8:28 - And we know that ALL THINGS WORK TOGETHER FOR GOOD to them who are the called according to His purpose. Laterras, I pray this experience leads to an increase of wisdom and understanding that will position you to be a greater blessing to those whom you minister to - it is not for naught. 🙏🏼
It's so crazy that I stumbled across this episode today. On the very day that you recorded this podcast, I too was sitting in the seat of heartbreak and devastation. I'd met who I just knew was God's promise to me after widowhood. All for me to be left to grieve yet again. The free will of others can sometimes knock all of the wind out of our sail....but one thing I do know is that God will make good on His promises towards me. And I'm praying that He will do the same for you.
I've been told that there's always a counterfeit that comes before the real comes. God showed you the best is yet to come. Prayers and comfort during this time🥰
Tears are cleansing, Laterras. Thank you for sharing your heartbreak even though you weren't feeling up to it. Your followers love you. We stand with you. ❤️
Please know and believe that you are worth the wait. True and real love will find you and don’t you dare push it away because of what has happened in the past. Be cautious, but just enjoy life. Rename December. You’re more than a conqueror. Prayers for you…Jer 29:11. Ish 61:3. NEVER SUBMIT and NO SHAME!!! God ALWAYS gets the GLORY!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 38:21
At least she told you she wasn’t ready and that shows how much she cares for you. As corny as it sounds, rejection really is protection. God knows what you need and he saw and heard things you couldn’t. Sorry for your losses. Thank you for your transparency.
So true! Not corny at all! I am grateful for the things that I just knew that I needed, begged for, and nearly cursed God for not giving me! To be stuck with those things.... phew. I've had to dig myself out of some things that were not aligned with my purpose and God's plan for me.
Praying for you both. You loved her well. In return, it led her to seek out healing so that there would be reciprocity. This love story only confirms for me that we want love, but many of us don't know how to receive true authentic love. It just goes to show how powerful love really is. God's blessings on you both and prayerfully God can reconnect you when it's right for the both of you. Stay strong - God's got you 🙏🏾❤💙
As an empath, this was so heavy. I was almost in tears. I had to take breaks. I will pray for the healing of both of you. She may have been right to step away. Before I began my healing 2022, I was a completely different person. I used 2022 to be with myself, go to therapy, be with my loved ones. I was at my lowest at one point. It would have been wrong of me to date someone. It's actually possible that you may not be compatible with her healed self. Out of the 4 men I have dated in previous years, current me would have only dated maybe 1 of them. But I learned alot about myself and what I need in a partner from each one. In time, the lesson will reveal itself. Unfortunately, everyone that comes into our lives isn't meant to be forever. God may have used you to help her start her healing journey and to show her what true love looks like. Though you are rightfully sad at this loss, this was a blessing. God's timing is everything. You will once again meet a woman that God calls you to pursue and she will not run. God will affirm it for her too and she will present. I've been there. Felt in love for the first time ever. Only took 3 months, but I later realized it was out of order from the beginning. I felt such a great emotional and spiritual connection, but that was not enough. He had to see it too. He was not pursuing and it was as if I was persuading. He finally told me God told him no. I was devastated, but I quickly thanked God because I now had an answer. I told God that I would do it right next time and pray for discernment along the way. I deserve to be loved like Christ loved His church...by a man that sees me as his wife. In the process, I have recommitted myself to learning the Word and investing in my own self care and goals (healing traumas, mental/physical health, my physical appearance, career, etc). In the last few months alone, I have never been approached by this many men in my life. I haven't even used an app in 1.5 yrs. So take the lesson for what it is. God's time is the right time. Your good thing is out there. I actually say a prayer for my future husband a few times a week. Among other things, I pray for his health, any healing he may need, his relationship with God, success (whatever that means to him), and that he is growing wiser and more humble every day to be able to lead himself and our future family. Hopefully, the next wonderful woman you meet will be an answer to that prayer. Blessings to you. 🙏
I empathize with you I'm right there with you and your love you love hard I know all to well this feeling of brokenness it will take time to heal and I get it how many times do u have to go through this type of pain that was my question to God but he God knows all things lean NOT UNTO OUR OWN UNDERSTANDING thats my goto because I had so so many questions for God but he knows whats Wright 4 US he's a right on time God !! Man of God i can only tell u from experience let go and let God we all grieve different buts thats my advice love in Jesus mighty holy Name and Thank you for putting yourself out there my tears for you that you'll heal healthy and whole heartedly so with that said keep God in the center and you will get through it my brother just hold fast steadfast in Jesus mighty holy name amen 🙏 💔😪🤗🌻🍩☕🦞🍷🍰🍿🍦😴😴
Sis! Your comment was profound and full of wisdom. I will add nothing and couldn't have said it better. I have had a very similar situation as you speak about and there is nothing like God's leading and his timing. I've learned that his "No" is not my punishment but my peace and his PROTECTION. His time is never late. Thank you for the encouragement not just for our bro here....this also encouraged me. 💓
As a brother in Christ, this truly broke my heart and brought me to tears. Thank you for your transparency and being true to your words. I will pray for you and look forward to celebrating that wedding when God reveals the ONE. Many blessings upon you and much love.
I experienced a similar situation. I just knew this man was heaven sent. He accepted me for my flaws and he spoke to my soul in a way I never experienced. People saw us and could feel the love between us. I felt my presence brighten his spirit. I felt at peace with him. I was no longer afraid. Then one day he ended it. He says I did nothing wrong. He said I was perfect. I was his dream girl. I still haven’t recovered. I was so blindsided. You couldn’t tell me this man didn’t love me and that we wouldn’t be together forever. I don’t even feel like I can love again.
This is the most beautiful display of a human man reaching out to our God for a miracle. You’ll never know how much this video helped me as I’m sure it is helping others. Thank you for this message even though it was painful and raw. We “stand” with you in community holding you through this moment of heartbreak. Let those tears flow; they are your healing rain. We humbly dry them with you in this sacred space. ❤🙏
“It won't always be like this He will perfect that concerning me And sooner or later, it will turn in my favour Sooner or later, turn in my favour It's turning around for me” A song I’ve held onto that I hope resonates 💛
This broke my heart. It's rough out here. Finding love and someone to have a healthy marriage with almost seems impossible nowadays. I appreciate Laterras for being vulnerable and sharing his life experiences with the world. Laterras is a great guy and would be a great husband to a blessed woman. I pray that this period of heartbreak doesn't last long and God sends him the right wifey when he has healed from this.
"It feels empty to be seen by millions and not by the one!" I felt that and so how true it is. Blessings and and favor Man of God. Thank you for your transparency, and it continues to lead you to transformation #Growth 💙
"Keep your hands and heart clean." This was the perfect advice given to you Laterras. I'm praying for both of your hearts 💕. I respect this young lady because she recognized that she could harm your emotions and heart. But that was love! I pray for this young lady's healing so that she doesn't miss any blessings in hee life. I also felt your heart Laterras. I praying that you feel all of the pain at once so that you can overcome. As this young lady stated, if you 2 were meant to be, then GOD will bring you 2 back together. Only after healing takes place from both. I still felt that you experienced a miracle because you said that the LORD spoke to both of your hearts concerning one another, affirming what you both have prayed for. That is a blessing to have experienced. Not many can say that they have. You both are in my prayers. Keep on loving Laterras!
One thing I took away from this, as I am also in the midst of a “breakup”/divorce, is we have to stop playing spouse for people who aren’t our spouse. We can’t save someone from their work nor can we force them through it. We often times try to attach ourselves to mess thinking we can make it better. When sometimes loving that person despite is just PART of the journey i yet we make it the final destination. It is hard in the midst to see it as a blessing. But it truly is. It shows you that you have the capacity to love. But it also shows where you can still mature. Thank God she was mature enough to stop it in its tracks. I wish I had spoken up before marriage when I didn’t have peace. Yet he was persistent about it being God ordained and everyone else supported it; so I took that as what I was feeling must not be factual. It was! God was trying to protect me and I blatantly ignored him. Maybe that’s not what’s happening here. Maybe this will just be a part of y’all’s love story. Or maybe God has EVEN BETTER than you perceived as his best work. Keep praying and seeking Him and doing what he tells you to do. And stay accountable to someone.
I experienced the exact same thing this December. He broke things off on Christmas day for the same reason. Too good to be true. Man how I cried but I realized really quickly that God's planning for what he wanted me to experience in that relationship wasn't happening. He spoke to me about this man, about this year and I did my own thing any way. I really thought he was/is my person. Praying for your healing because I know exactly what you're feeling.
I cannot explain HOW watching YOU, a strong MAN, opening up about your heartbreak to us in such a deeply descriptive way. I am having my “Month of March Madness” like your “Death of December”, the heartbreak and life’s disappointments with my own son, and still currently fighting for some things now, I feel validated that I’m not goin through this alone AND that it’s not just women going this but STRONG MEN too. I know this may not mean anything to you now, but I KNOW and SEE things turning around for you and for me too! God bless and keep going!
The most challenging thing an artist can achieve is a self portrait. That’s because of the natural urge to edit what we see into what we want to see. Thank you for sharing so many of your “self-portraits”.
I cried when you cried. You’ve become a consistent part of my life. Each and every post and video are not missed and I pray for your heart to heal from this. If the eyes are the window to the soul then you just poured your soul out. And that’s completely okay. I love you Laterras and I only know you from your platform but it has been a blessing to watch you. I know EXACTLY what you’re feeling because the same thing happened to me 2 years ago. I didn’t want to ever love again but your episodes have given myself and many others hope. Don’t give up on your love journey. I’m definitely not giving up on mine. God bless you ❤
This is the definition of strenghth. Thanks for being vulnerable with us. Nothing catches God by surprise. He has Got you covered and we will witness a turnaround. Your podcasts never disappoint.
My brother let me say I'm sorry for the heartache that you are going through and the transparency that you show. I'm late to your podcast but ive been consuming as much as i can. I believe God has touch you and is pulling you through this journey to help people. I get so much food that fills me through your guest and your words. Your Queen is out there. As much as heartache hurts when it comes to love it's giving us lessons to be ready for the one that is truly God sent. Thnk you my Brother.
Dear Bro. Laterras, I'm one of those sisters in her mid-fifties. I'm crying with you, too. Your ministry has given me hope on my love journey, even now! As you've encouraged me, I encourage you NOW to keep your eyes on Jesus. Continue to cast your cares on Him. Continue to trust Him with your tears! You’re on the right path, and you're helping so many to see Jesus on their love journeys, too! THANK YOU!
So touched by your sincerety. It has been 25 Years since my heart was crushed on the passing of my husband. I could only trust God to be my husband because I was /am afraid to go through such grief again. My journey was not an easy one, but My God provides my daily needs. I have not looked for or had any other partner. I pray that God grant you your heart"s desire in His perfect time.
Imagine what’s to come from the seeds you’ve sown. Take your time grieving and healing. Thank you for opening your heart and being so vulnerable. It’s not easy. It’s so courageous of you. Love you, Laterras.
Hi Mr Witfield the same God who has given you the ability to do these Podcast will give you the strength to overcome. If she is the one she will come back, trust God He will give you the strength to go on, Remember the story of Abraham and his wife Sarah and Isaac. Go promise them a soñ Isaac. They have their son after waiting for twenty five years. Hold on God is still in charge of your life.
This happened to my wonderful son, the woman, because of her past traumas, she could not believe he was such a wonderful guy. She kept expecting the other shoe to drop. She finally ran him off because she felt he was too good to be true. My heart hurt for her. I wish she knew how it feels to be loved by a really good man.
Great message and I appreciate your transparency! I love the fact that you called out the things you will not submit to, even while hurting. God knows best and thank God for her honesty.
It’s one thing to walk away from a relationship, but walking away when you know that you have God’s voice and tell you who that person is supposed to be to you. That’s so hard. Doing it now and I literally all you can do is ask that at the end God’s will be done. Thank you for this level or transparency. Inspirational and healing at the same time. We cry with you. 🙏🏾🖤
This is was story of my marriage of 10 years. He turned and told me "I know I am suppose to be with you and your my wife but I no longer want it".4 years later I still dont understand but Im trying to keep my faith and push forward its hard though because I cant understand how God gives you something and takes it away like he did. I guess we all have CHOICES and FREE WILL so I understand the pain in this video but I NEVER want to feel it again.
@@ericadancer8846 sooo sorry. praying with and for you for immediate reconciliation OR release, peace, and the Ephesians 3:20 replacement. In Jesus Name. Amen 🙏🏾 ❤
Im in this situation too and it's so hard. Me and this man went to University together and in Jan 2021 God revealed to me in a fast who my husband was. I know that it was God. But here I am and we are not together because i will not chase or pursue. He is inconsistent and to be quite frankly honest he still exploring. In the meantime I am pursuing my career and doing my best to love myself with my own love languages as a single woman and drawing closer to God. He calls every now and then to check up on me but im praying that he has his own revelation. Still Here Waiting on God. To Erica Dancer point - free will and choice are real things and we need to be accepting that he may choose a life and wife outside of me and im humble enough to accept that that could be my fate but I know what God told me .
I’ve been watching this for 2 days and my heart is overwhelmed with your sincerity, transparency and vulnerability. May the heal you, cover you and keep you
Wow!!!! Tears fell from my eyes like a stream, listening to you pour out your heart to the world. Even with your broken heart you continued to give our God all the Glory, Honour and deserving Praise. Your podcast popped up on my feed immediately after my morning prayer and me asking (for the first time in my life) a husband. After listening to you, I’m now going to be listening to God’s voice in a more intentional way. My dear young man, tears are a language that God understands. I felt every word coming from your heart and thank God for talking to you through this and more importantly for your obedience to God. Thank you for your honesty, your openness, your insight, your learning, your Love. I know you won’t give up the search for your ‘future wifey’ and it may well turn out to be the lady who broke your heart, but simply the wrong time. So keep listening to God. Like a diamond in the rough, I believe God is preparing your wife for you. Thank you for showing me what to expect from a man and not compromising on my values. I thank God for you. May God richly bless and keep you, in His perfect peace ❤
This podcast TOTALLY resonated with me. I'm a divorced 46 yo woman from a 21 year marriage. I got therapy and did my part in the healing process. To be honest, I feel like the healing is continual. However, I dated this guy for 3 months. He said and did ALL the right things. He even said that I was "the one." Unfortunately, after 3 months he completely changed his mind. I was heartbroken. Looking back, I'm so grateful.
Just know that she was brave enough to let you go. So many of us hold on to people when we know we are not ready. She didn’t want to waste your time, your patience or your love. This is emotional maturity/intelligence in the flesh. It is hard, but thank God for your experience with her. Remember, pain signifies a breakthrough. You are getting closer to what God has for you. I will pray for both of you.
It’s really brave of you Laterras to still want to experience love after a heartbreak. Thank you for being transparent with us. She’s definitely out there and God will lead you to her
I identify with your vulnerability. I appreciate your honesty and transparency. Thank you. I never got the closure you did. I was just left with the question marks. Healing is indeed a choice. I chose it intentionally. I leaned into God closer during my process. If I hadn't, I believe I would have succumb to the pain. I had panic attacks, my fight or flight mechanism was stuck in the "on" position, my nervous system went haywire, and it started to affect my immune system. Heartbreak is REAL..But so is GOD 🙌🏾
The strength it took for you to share your heartbreak was a God move. The intention in your words to share your thoughts and what occurred served as a reminder for me, and I am sure others, what love entails. Praying with you as you heal. Brother, we see you and will keep you lifted. ❤
Latteras,ummm,Sir, LEAVE IT alone. God can handle it better than you can, leave it alone! Period. Sir, she has told you on numerous occasions that you are NOT the one, so, BELIEVE her! Don't keep poking the bear and mess around and get sick, lose faith in God or the hope in mankind OR develop a "new" contious. Your contious is your connection but when you just will not hear it ten God has no choice but to let you learn the hard way. That is so hard when you have so much to give and receive. She asked you in the beginning about your videos that had gone viral, so clearly there is something that spiked her interest to outdo that video and what better way to do it but hit you where it hurt and that is your ❤️. The core of this show is YOUR heart, love, peace. You desire to give your whole heart to someone, to have love and to have peace and stability; however, you have to listen! You have to acknowledge in all your ways and thoughts and he will give you the desires of your heart. Please don't lean to your own understanding but trust the process! You didn't come this far JUST to get this far. Hold on sweet angel, GOD can handle it better than you can just leave it alone! PERIOD.
I used to be her who didn’t know how to recognize love. What it looks like or what it feels like. I am so glad I did my work and have healed from my brokenness. I know I still have work to do but I’m not there anymore. I pray for you sir for your health and your heart to heal. You are love and loved by many and this too shall pass. Thank you for your transparency. This episode hurts my heart deeply for you.
I don't know I feel like she's still the one but the timing is not perfect... I will say let it go if it's truly what God has for you it will come back to you... when the time is right
I can relate to you as well in your message. The act of actions in knowing expression of receiving and showing love. Some people doesn't deserve your time or love. Continue to let God lead you in knowing he will reveal the discernment of people heart.
@tonnica364 I’m trying to heal my brokenness too, one I’ll be on your level. I keep pushing great men away , because I don’t know what love ❤️ looks like. I’ve been a narcissistic relationship for 23 years damaged. It’s been since October 2019 and I’m hurting. You’re comment touch me on so many levels, and I want to be where you are spiritually , emotionally. Thank you 🙏🏾
@@chynadoll77cyn59 I have been abused and strangled to the brink of death…but God. Also been in a narcissist relationship too. Talk about learning to love myself, healing myself and feeling love. Oh how weird it felt almost strange as to where I questioned was the feeling real! I had to seek out therapy because I was truly broken and I promised myself I would not hurt anyone because I was hurt. Hurt people hurt people. I can now recognize when a man has not truly healed and I bow out gracefully. I refuse to go backwards. It may be painful but it’s better in the long run. The confidence that I have now is amazing. I pray all the best for you and that you learn to love yourself again. Love you sis!
@@lesegomlisane260 beloved, if I may, God doesn't operate like this. He will not allow His children to be in pain. Sometimes we miss the mark. I was in this same situation. She isn't the one. Man's rejection is God's protection.
I'm recovering from soul crushing unexpected heartbreak. I felt every bit of this. Never thought I'd be in this position. It's one day at a time. Prayers to you on your healing journey.
I think one of the hardest things in life to deal with is what to do when your paths aren’t aligned (at that time). The realization that your plan is not his plan. For you, you’ve been doing an incredible amount of the right kind of work. While you may be willing to support her in her own personal journey, she (looking out for you) didn’t want you to carry that burden. Sometimes God tests our faith, here is your test on your healing journey. You got this! This is so powerful because people need to see how one maintains their purpose during heart break, a storm, etc. GOD IS WORKING FOR YOUR GOOD.
I’m new to Dear Future Wifey podcast and truly enjoy the episodes. Laterres, please be encouraged. I dealt with the same situation, had my heart broken after the person I thought was my forever, walked away. When I wasn’t looking, God sent my husband to me. I almost passed him by because I thought he was too good to be true and I believed I didn’t deserve him. I’m happy to report we celebrated 20 years of marriage in 2023. Keep on your journey, your forever is out there.
Why do relationships have to be so difficult?! Ugh. Heartbreak is so real. God bless your ability to verbally express your feelings so well, to help others. Prayers for healing.
Thanks for sharing. I know only to well what you are dealing with. I am 57, married my husband at 47 and felt like God had answered my prayers, only to feel the heartbreak of a break-up and divorce a few years later. I questioned God the same as you did, why would he allow me to go through this after I consulted him in my steps. Well, to make a long story short, we just got remarried in August of 2022 and it confirmed what I felt when my journey began on December 31st of 2012 so many years ago. Please keep believing that God has a plan and you will heal.
Laterras, this was the bravest thing I've ever seen. Thank you for your transparency and realness. You are helping people more than you could ever know.
Its 4am in South Africa, i ran out of sleep, having discovered something a few hours ago heartbreaking as well, i came on TH-cam & saw this episode. Praying for His comfort, healing & peace for you both. What God has been teaching me is the heartbreak we experience at present is protection from greater pain & damage down the road we might not be aware of. Sometimes it’s redirection, sometimes its a shift of focus for the season, sometimes it’s putting Isaac on the altar, sometimes its Ismael showing up before the promise Isaac. We live life looking forward but understand it looking backwards, we might not understand today but we know all thing work together for our good, even this. We see the corner but our Shepherd sees around the corner, we see the mountain & He sees around the mountain. Yes He speaks to us & confirms His Word, but also people make their choices (that mustn’t lead us to think we heard God wrong, the person just made their own choice). We pray above all things that you will prosper, be in health even as your soul prospers. We cover you, your loved ones & everything concerning you with the blood of Jesus. He is faithful, the good work He started in you He will complete.
This was such a hard episode to watch, but so enlightening at the same time. I commend the woman you were with for being so brave and removing herself from a relationship she knew in her heart she wasn’t ready for, but always wanted! Goodness, that’s tough, but such an act of unselfishness. I’m so happy that even through your pain, you could honor her bravery. You guys are both displaying what real love is to one another, even though it may not be in the form in how you both want to receive it. Still such a blessing! Your letter was perfectly written. You could be writing to this particular woman, or someone else. Either way, she’s on the way! You hang tight, keep pouring into yourself, and keep God at the front and center of your life. I believe that nothing happens coincidentally. You’re so close. Happy New Year, Laterras! Many, many blessings to you 😊🤍✨
Yes it sure was I almost cut it off at 42:23 because I can’t. Not to mention I’m dealing with my own healing ❤️🩹 it’s been 3 years , I’ve gotten my heart broken. Then I met someone very nice dated for nine months physical interaction he was a very nice men , he bought me a ring I couldn’t accept it. Its me I told him but he was willing to continue to wait , but it’s not right nor fair to him. So I had to let it go , I know I hurt him deeply I felt so bad. I think 🤔 about every day . Sometimes I wish I can reach out to him but I don’t wanted to disturb his peace. All I can say Dj I’m sorry miss you 🥰.
Hey Laterras, I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I know how painful heartbreak can be. We are birthday twins (3/29) so in many ways I feel your pain. I found DFW because like you, I desire to find the one God has for me but only after doing the work to heal from anything that would cause future pain. I'm crying with you because I too love hard. I know you were all in. When my heart was broken I was terribly confused because I was so sure that I heard from God. So sure. It hurts but I'm sure there is a purpose. You are our example. We are learning with you. Thank you for your vulnerability and sacrifice. I pray that your healing is quick and insightful. I pray that your heart remains open and your hope is strengthened because your future wifey is even closer and you know she's got to be AMAZING! Love you, Laterras! 💪🏾🙏🏽❤
Laterras, I see that I’m nearly 7 months behind, but this episode right here has compelled me to…as you say, “Stop shacking with the DearFutureWifey podcast ”. I have just subscribed AND hit the notification 🔔 so that I’ll never miss another one! Thank you so much for your raw, intentional transparency as you moved through the real-time moments of your heartbreak. Having recently gone through a breakup myself, the spiritual alignment you experienced in your relationship has confirmed to me that it is 100% possible. I refuse to compromise that ever again. Also your closing prayer of gratitude and surrender to God in spite of your hurt brought tears of the same to my eyes. Be blessed, and thank you for allowing our Lord God to use your life to help so many others.
Laterras I just came across your podcast and I am blessed to have done so. You cant imagine how healing this is to women also. It softens our notions about the human side of men, and showcases your emotional intelligence. I'm healing from a breakup and I'm a year in my healing and celibacy. I'm a seasoned woman and I have much experience at life, yet never have I witnessed this level of emotional intelligence in the face of ego. For us women who truly honor and revere our men especially black men we thank you for your transparency.
Man I went through a similar situation for about 2 months too here recently. Thought I had found the ONE I've been looking for. We actually met on a Christian Dating app. I was in love and it happened so quickly because I knew what I was looking for. When you said she told you things you had never heard before, this woman did the same to me. She prayed for and encouraged me every day and I did the same for her. She knew the word of God, she was in ministry, she was Spirit filled, so caring, loving, respectful, beautiful inside and out. We talked for almost 2 months. But as I continued to pray about our relationship and really asking the Lord to please confirm to me if we should continue to move forward in the relationship I started losing my peace. I couldn't understand it because she seemed so right for me. I tried to disregard the absence of the peace of God but it only got worse. I couldn't sleep, would start feeling really bad with pains in my stomach and chest for no reason at all other than just thinking about us being together. The only thing that gave me peace was when I would think about how it just wasn't meant to be. That it wasn't God's perfect will for us to be together. The peace would flood my soul whenever I thought about it like that. Then and only then could I sleep at night because I knew that was the right decision. She was so hurt because her hopes were so high that I was the one she had been waiting on too. I loved her and sometimes I still long to talk to her but we both agreed that there was no way we could just be friends because our feelings were too strong for each other so we decided to part ways. It hurt so bad because I loved her and I knew she really loved me too. The Lord knows best and will never steer us wrong. If we trust Him and wait on Him He will do exceedingly abundantly above all we can ask or think. Her love and care for me really showed me that there is a woman out there who will be just what I'm looking for and be the ONE that God has for me. My heart was so broken but yet encouraged. I will wait on the Lord because He is good to those that wait on Him. Wait on the Lord my bro even when you don't understand because He knows the plans that He has for you and He knows who you need to help you fulfill those plans.
Blessings to you! Because of your Personal relationship with God, and you know His voice, you were obedient. I will say this, sometimes we want someone who we believe are meant for us, only to realize that the heart and head are not aligned. Thank God that you listened. He saved you from a lot of heart ache. Be encouraged.
Thank you for sharing, thank you for the clarification. Thank you for being real about life on earth and loving God. Finally i see that loving hard is a gift.
She knows something you don't about where she is. She cared enough about you to walk away and hurt you a little now instead of a lot later. I so admire this level of transparency and aspire to it in my own platform. God will redeem the time, heal your heart and make your path straight. I am praying for you where I only yesterday just enjoyed your work.♥
I also pray that God will heal her brokenness she also needs you, Jesus. Have your way in both of their heart's. Lord Jesus, you love both of them, so I know that there will be something good that will come out of this situation. Amen
Recording this episode is the beginning of your healing, God knows what you're feeling and what you're going through, He's got you we're praying with you and for you.
Omg I never seen a man cry . This is such an eye opener for women to see that men have feelings to and they hurt also . Thank you for your transparency and being totally open you don't know how you just healed thousands in the midst of your own suffering
⭐️ Laterras- There's purpose even in pain. I prayed for you while I watched your "open heart surgery". You speak about transparency in your episodes and oh boy; you are true to form. This episode taught me many things, especially as a woman. One thing is that we must be very careful with the person who is falling in love with us when we can see their love unfolding in real time. We usually can tell when a person is falling for us. We don't always have to be told. If we don't feel the same, if the love is unrequited, we should tell them that the feeling is not mutual---asap. We should help them have a softer landing and be honest with them before they crash. Laterras, You already know that you will heal from this. It is an affirmation for you that you are a man who can love selflessly and deeply. You give your whole heart. One day, a woman will be ready to give her whole heart to you and your hearts will become one. Continue being "intentional". Don't diminish your love language. Please take good care of yourself. God will see you through this. You will get stronger. ||
50:03 Much respect to you and clarification for me after a divorce of 20 years, which was Half of my life! God sent me MY “perfect”match. After 6 years…God’s promise is coming to you my brother 🙌🏽
I'm so sorry Laterras! My heart breaks for you. Everyone deserves love, and to be loved well. This shows that even when love is in your face, sometimes others just aren't ready. It's difficult to not internalize it especially when you love hard. And it's unfortunate, especially when you feel you're almost there. I love that God sends love our way, but we have to be healed to be able to even receive it. She will heal...and so will you! Don't let go of the way that you love. I'm still hoping God's best for you, that you heal from this, and that you grow stronger because of it. We are all cheering for you... you're our #goal when it comes to hope! Don't give up Sir! We need you to not give up. 😊
****Thank you for your kind words. I welcome edifying comments toward me but please refrain from any negative or disparaging statements about my recent love interest. She's a Godly woman and has the utmost character. It's because of her phenomenal character and heart to please God, that propelled her to make the difficult decision to release me. It was her love for me and the care she has for my heart that forced her to make the wise decision to let go and let God. She is healing from heartbreak as well. Any comments I find to be counterproductive to my journey will be deleted. Respectfully, Laterras.
Well said! Some people don’t understand spiritual things. Spiritual warfare is real. The adversary doesn’t want this God ordained union to happen. I know this way too personally.
Class act.
This is one thing I absolutely admire about you Letteras. Despite the heartache and pain you're going through you still have a heart of gold. Sometimes it could be bad timing when 2 people meet. What I do appreciate about your love interest is that she had the respect for you to be honest 💯 even if it hurts. Transparency is a good sign. Desception and confusion is not. You got some answers and no guessing on what ifs. Many people avoid conversations and ghost the other person which is more painful. If God want you two back together, it will happen. If not, there someone better fit for what you can provide and she can provide to you. I pray for you and her and get the healing 🙏🏾 ❤️ in your hearts to continue this journey of love.
There is an appointed time for all things. “God makes all things beautiful in it’s time” Ecc 3:11. “God is not man that he should lie” Num 23:19. You sought God, he spoke through the Holy Spirit. I hear what she is saying, but trust God. Trust what he spoke to you. Trust his timing and his perfect ways. God Bless brother
This is why I subscribe. Appreciate you taking us along the journey. Prayers 🙏🏾 up for you both. I prayer December starts to bring you moments of joy and life. And no longer death. 😇
I respect this woman for admitting she has things to deal with instead of getting into a relationship knowing she wasn't ready and breaking him because she's broken. I wish more people would have that level of honesty and self awareness.
God still has a plan for your life.Healing,Tears,Is Another Process.Yes it hurts.There is a lesson.God Will reveal.She was very respectful to confirm that it wouldn't be fair.She has a lot going on in Her Life.She couldn't give you her love 💯.when deep down she's wounded.Thanks for sharing.She love you enough to be Honest.🙏
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I do commend her for being honest, but a small part of me wishes she would have not even entered the relationship knowing she wasn't ready.
Maturity is the key to operating or encouraging someone to a better choice of healing restoration. Thank you, Lord for this process amen.
I respect her for being honest but also she should have not got as close as she did if she was not sure she should have said something way before he got In Too Deep with her it's unfair considering the fact that she know what he's looking for and been through as well as her
"Men should pursue and not persuade and women should present and not pursue" This!!!!🙌
That was awesome 💌
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This!!❤❤❤
This statement really hit me and put in perspective my own journey knowing when the door has been closed I’ve walked away, questioning myself if I really cared but the pain and healing process answers. When King David son died it was only then when he washed and ate food. This is a God given truth
Bro I’ve only recently started watching your podcasts and sharing them with my close circle of brothers, I’ve laughed so much and had so many debates but this one…….. this one was the truth bro, resonated with me so deep. You wear your heart on your sleeve and are so transparent. Thankyou for being so vulnerable but please remember as the psalms say, guard your heart. Blessings.
Take aways: Heal from a heart break . 💔 Do not self medicate with another man/woman. Keep your heart and hands clean . Do the work ❤. Do not give up or walk in shame . God will give you better than what you lost
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I experienced this. I saw the guy in a dream before I even met him. We were so in sync but he had things in him that he had not addressed. I learned that there is no One... Only the obedient. Everyone has free will. Some folks can choose to walk into destiny or walk away from it. But God is going to make sure His will is done in the earth. My ❤ was broken when this happened to me. But him saying he didn't feel like he was the one helped me to break that tie so that months later when God sent someone who did want me and sought God for someone like me I was free to love. 10 yrs later we are still married.
Glory!!!! ❤
Only the obedient…a lesson that I’ve learned for sure. Just like someone can walk away from a calling; the same way we can ignore the inkling to check on someone…that same free will…we can turn away from the good thing God presents. I’m convinced that many fit the bill. It’s a matter of who’s willing to step up to the opportunity. It hurts. But there is no shame in loving someone and being willing to take the journey.
So true!!
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Thank you!! Only the obedient!
Please be encouraged! My testimony is similar... I prayed about a relationship and everything pointed to this person. Then he suddenly chose to walk away. God used that heartbreak to prepare me for my husband. I was so hurt, but God spoke to me and told me to stop crying and get up. I was obedient and I started putting myself our there again. Two months later, my husband found me and we got married within 6 months of meeting each other. We just celebrated our one year anniversary and its so much more than I could have imagined godly love would be! This podcast was a major part of my journey to finding love and preparing myself for marriage. If he can do it for me, I am believing the same thing for you!
Im claiming this testimony!
Amen! I'm so happy for you! And Congratulations on your one year anniversary. That gives me hope.
Thank you for sharing your testimony Queen!!!
Congratulations Mrs!!!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💕
Thanks for sharing!
Congratulations Angela. This is so encouraging. Am going through a breakup. I tap to your kind of testimony ❤️🙏🏽
“It feels empty to be seen by millions but not seen by the one.” What a profound statement!
So true love the statement ❤
Exactly the same thing I said!💯💯💯 my eyes 👀 👀
L: you are going to be better for this.
Oh my God...this is heartfelt!! In desperation your people cry out to you...have your way, bring healing and peace ♥ 🙏
So true...
I believe she was truly scared. We self-sabotage so much that we truly push away someone who had the best intentions for us. I pray she receives the healing and peace she truly desires. Thank you for being transperent.
This hit me. Because almost 10 years ago my now husband came along and was trying to pursue me and although I felt safe and heard the Lord. I was terrified. I was a victim of complex trauma. And I had not dated for 10 years as I went through healing. So as he pursued I backed out of it 5 times saying, “ I’m not sure if this is God… I don’t have peace”. In actuality I was so afraid. I felt 100% sure Jesus would not hurt me but of course this man was not Jesus and I was scared. He was so patient and gentle although secretly wondering if I was crazy.😂😂 He prayed for my heart and finally the Lord spoke firmly to me about him. And now we are approaching our 8th wedding anniversary. So, my brother I pray for you. You never know how the Lord will unfold your story. I am truly sorry for your heart break. I hope this young lady receives the healing she needs and that self sabotaging will not be her portion. Be bless. Healing in all situations. You will not be disappointed with the goodness the Lord has.
This is soooo beautiful. ❤ Congratulations to you as well! Wow! We serve an awesome GOD!🥰🙏🏾🥳
joi226….. I know exactly what you are talking about. Complex trauma is affecting so many of us and we don’t know it and can’t see our own patterns. I don’t know if you are familiar with attachment styles, but she gave so many signals of being a fearful avoidant….self sabotage all over the place. Unfortunately, she has to do the work , but the more he pursues, the more she will pull back.
That man hasn't approached me but I just read me in you with haven't dated in years! I have done the work on myself, raised my son and continuing my education. All I can say is, they are very few out here. I am open and have no hard feeling towards anyone, I just want to make sure, it's a life time. Congratulations to you for allowing him to come in.
Amen I am praying that if she is the one that God will turn it around and she gets the inner healing… I’m rooting for you. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
This sounds like what I’m dealing with right now in this moment. I’ve been blessed with this story. Thank you!
Laterras YOU ARE AMAZING! This is the realest most rawest video on the internet!!! Your vulnerability will set precedent for the remainder of the year. How you spoke your truth whilst being careful to praise and uphold her integrity is truly fascinating. Gods plan is still unfolding, you may be confused but He is not. Love always friend ❤️
I'm so sorry for your hurt, but sometimes life is so hard. Know this if it's meant to be it will. Do give up God has you just know God doesn't make mistakes. Good Bless You!!
What a beautiful response. “You May be confused but Hes not”. Wow.
These are the podcasts we need from men. To really understand their heart,vulnerability, and compassion for love. Not once did you project negativity towards her and you are commended for that alone! May your heart heal and be restored✝️❤️
No ma'am....Podcast like this need to be kept private! It's not our business to know! This man is HURTING! Now why would it be any concern of yours? Do you think he's gonna personally call you & explain in detail what really happened w/this woman? #I'llWait #BeingNosy2023
I agree!!! Seeing him cry was so healing to me. Can't remember the last time I saw a man this vulnerable 🙏
@ Chrissy yessss it's so refreshing and gives me a whole new perspective truly. I hope men/women see this and become intentional about their healing.
Classy Kingdom guy!!! May God lead you to the ONE.
I'm not sure why I happened to come across this episode now. But it spoke to me!!
After just 4yrs of marriage, I'm getting divorced.
I'm broken, bitter, angry, & confused. I cant help but feel unheard, misunderstood &, abandoned, without the ability to figure out how to go about healing to mend this brokeness.
When Laterras said "it feels empty to be seen by millions if you're not seen by the one" crushed me!
"It won't always be like this" gives me hope!
I love this podcast!!
I pray the Lord heals your heart
I just got divorced 4 months ago after 8 years of marriage. I'm still in disbelief my ex-husband could be so cruel and turn on me.
May your healing be complete 🙏🏽.
Hey Laterras! I had my first heartbreak last year. I was confused, angry, hurt, sad, thought about seeking revenge etc.. During that heartbreak season (because it is a season that will pass) I binged watched your videos. Your videos gave me hope and motivated me to keep going. So I want to return the favor and tell you to keep going. I'm excited for you! God healed and restored my heart. I know he will do the same for you. Psalm 147:3 "He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds."
I binged watched during my heart break as well
Me too! 15 years.... filing for the papers. ....
After my last relationship ended a few months ago, but to be honest, I was the one that was in the relationship. I am healing from heartbreak and prayed to GOD to guide me because the other side of me wanted to tear some mess up. January 1st, I started to focus on me more than others, pray, confess to GOD, read, and so much more. This too shall pass because this lm year is OUR winning season!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️
So sorry Papa. Sorry hang on tight. It will get better. So sorry
He left me walked out and now he wants to come back he's very narcissistic. I have to learn how to let go let God and love myself I had to have such a low self-esteem to marry someone who can offer me that I forgive myself I forgive him and now like Humpty Dumpty I'm putting myself back together again with the help of my father the Lord amen.
I appreciate your vulnerability. I’ve never thought about what heartbreak looks like from a man’s point of view. In protecting my own heart, I’ve never considered how walking away affected the other person. My thought process lead me to believe “He’s a man. He doesn’t care. He’ll be fine.” This video is an eye-opener. Thank you. 🙏🏽
Right after a major heartbreak, I met my husband. The love of my life. I was extremely confused and disheartened because I was closely following God and even had a prophetic dream. You will look at this video one day soon and realize just how much God loves and protects you as his beloved son. Chin up, shoulders back. Thanking God for your soon to be my brother!
Thank you for sharing this. I pray he reads your post.❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing this!
Unfortunately lack of personal healing can present as self sabotage. Her transparency is gold. May we all build and grow in transparency and accountability in our relationships.
Hey Laterras, I know how you feel. My husband asked me to let him go back in 2008 so he could do the inner work. I am so glad I let him go because I know for sure he is all in now and have healed. God brought us back together and we got married in 2021 in Hawaii.
"I start over as often as is necessary because I’m not starting from scratch, I’m starting from experience. From every experience, I grow healthier and mature."
Laterras, thank you for baring your scars so that others may heal. My prayer for you is that the Lord changes your memory of the month of December, and it will become your most favorite time of the year. 🙏🏾
May your December 2023 be “THE ONE” to remember! ❤️
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HalleluYah
Yes, I touch and agree! Glory to God! ❤️❤️
LOVE IT
Amen!!!
You are an amazing King, man of God, Laterras!! Hang in there, your wife is coming in due time. Once you stop thinking about the ultimate goal, she will practically drop in your lap, I believe. 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️🙌🏽
I have NEVER heard a man be this transparent about healing. I've listened to this all day. The authenticity of this was so real. I felt every single word. I'm currently experiencing a divorce and it's like DEATH...I'm not sure how to UN-LOVE someone but I'm trusting God on this one!! Thank you so much although it was tough to watch!!!!! But it's helped me. Be well and may God continue to heal your beautiful heart.🙌🏾❤
Praying for your healing. Divorce is like a death. Speaking from self experience. With God, a great therapist and a loving family, I made it through. 🙏💞
Be assured - divorce IS Death… of a dream, vision, hope and a future.
BUT AbbaYah proves Himself faithful to Jeremiah 29:11-13a!! It is at the darkest times that He makes and FULFILLS the greatest promises! He will be found by us as we seek Him with our whole hearts!!!
Be assured @Dear Future Wifey - you too!
@@ellechance2344 Thank you for these kinds words and reminder.🙌🏾❤
@@cassandramcclenton8434 Thank you. It's been tough but God has NOT left me nor forsaken me.
Letting go takes God
So many of us men needed to see this. I am sorry you are hurting and pray for your peace and strength. WE STAND WITH YOU IN FAITH AND PRAYER. I am also dealing with the heartbreak of how my 2 year relationship just ended. You gave me blueprint to help 'deal'. So, thank you brother. Simply, thank you and I pray healing and strength for your wounded heart.
Proud of you, King! You got this.
I never knew a man had feelings, the way a man treats a woman sometimes in a marriage r relationship, terrible. U r a blessing from God!! U had me crying!!
I didn’t know men could ever feel this way. This video was eye opening and almost overwhelming. You are the real deal.
With JESUS all things are possible.🥰
09.09.2024, I sit today watching this episode and I am sitting with the same pain. I am grieving! it is painful. The thought of putting yourself back into the world, the fear and doing that one again, frightens me too! I am heart broken. it's hard. it's so hard, and you talk to God but my oh my, it's painful! I watched the episode of RC Blakes and His wife last night, and one thing I have learnt is to lean onto God and just let this go and find peace in God...Loving someone is special but nothing you can do when that person walks away to unlearn some issues.. Sometimes I wonder if I shouldn't have given him my all, if I was stupid to love the way I did.. wow.. thank you Laterras.. Thank you for sharing this..
If a woman has never experienced the kind of love and security that you provided for her, especially if she never received that from her father or a father figure during her childhood, it will feel extremely uncomfortable to her because it is foreign to her. Keep your head up. The gift of love and selflessness that you gave her will find its way back to you. My son went through this type of heartbreak recently. My heart goes out to you. God will see you through this.
"Joy comes in the morning". God is faithful. He has lots of beautiful daughters in daily worship and prayer to him. Trusting God for His ordained partner for them while celibate & growing in all areas of life. God has a beautiful, faithful daughter of Zion for you. Believe! Be healed in Jesus mighty name. 🙏 by 🔥 🙏 🙏 🙏
I am one of those women. It hurts him now but she did the right thing. It will save him for a woman who can reciprocate what he can give. I have been that woman who knew she wasn't healed and had to let a great man go so that he could find someone who could be his partner, not his patient.
If it is love, if it is yours, it will come back. No crying. Where is your faith. Keep busy
I've never seen a man articulate his hurt so eloquently before. So raw. I don't ever want to contribute to a man's heart being broken. Thank You
Same here. Great comment Jackie.
“May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of a lover.” -that part. I’m so sorry for your heartbreak. Heartbreak almost took me OUT!! But honestly…she sounds like she would be an amazing friend! We will keep hope alive. You are an EXCEPTION to all the relationship games. Press on King. We love you.
God knows more than you know. The bible tells us in :
Psalm 34:18-NIV
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Please don't let this change you. God will heal your heart and these tears will turn into tears of joy one day. I will keep you in my prayers and God bless you.!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@raquisharockforgod9620 Thank You for that ! I needed that ❤
When Pastor Eben prayed in the intro. Your wife is being preserved for you, brought tears to my eyes. I prayed to God and ask him why is it taking so long to bring my mate into my life, I can't do anything, no dating, no DM's nothing...now I know why God is preserving me for my husband.❤ I feel so much better.
Laterras, the intent behind your message is not in vain. This video...Wow! You are inspirational and you are courageous. You are exactly who the Father says you are. You are lovable, you are kind-hearted, you are a King, you are worthy, and you will connect with YOUR RIB in due season. All is not lost my dear brother. The Father is preparing a queen for His beloved son. Your QUEEN! Do not ever forget that you are the apple of His eye. The Father is concerned about all that concerns you and He hears your heart....He has heard your cry. All will be well. Your breakthrough is coming and you will be a great husband to your wife and she will compliment and be everything that you need her to be for you and you alone. Continue trusting and relying on Him as this process is necessary. It is not fun, but it is necessary. Take this time to heal, assess, heal, redirect, heal, connect, and pour into Laterras. I pray the right friends and family are available for you in this season whenever you need them. I pray they allow you space to get it all out and to just listen to your heart and allow a soft landing space for your pain. You have touched so many lives in a positive way and it is our time to hold you up my brother. My prayers are with you.
Yes! I am walking through a season as well, where God lead me to a point where I placed my hope in God and listened for his word and guidance and everything fell apart. I was getting confirmation and the loose strings started to show. I started to panic. I leaned my full weight on God and it collapsed underneath me. I was soo hurt and terrified of listening and maybe hearing the wrong thing. God is in the mist of everything. He showed me that following him will not lead to our ideal outcome, but his ideal outcome. ❤
As I was looking at your transparency, it hit me. *He's reaping". Remember, the Bible says whatsoever a man sow, THAT is what he will reap. You had to reap from what you did to women in the past. God allowed you to experience the hurt you caused others so that you won't make the same mistake when the real one comes...bc you now know what it feels like! I know you gave your all to the woman you felt was "The One", but God will show you, in due time, that the next one???? Will be a love like no other!!!! She will embrace it, nurture and cherish it just as much as you do!! The next one? She will see you as a gift that God has allowed her to unwrap DAILY instead of thinking that you are too good to be true. Trust God and your process. She's out there. You just haven't found her yet. 🙏🏾 Be blessed ❤️
"I will heal, I will deal ,and God will be revealed." I felt that. I am matching my faith with your faith Laterras for your healing and love in God's will.
I am currently in the same boat brother. We’re going through this together. God will bring our queens in his perfect timing
Yes He Will
Sending yall hugs, heartbreak ain't no joke
I know this podcast was recorded over a year ago, but today is my first time seeing it. As I am watching this I am reliving instances of my life in which I thought I was so sure of the will of God for my life, and where I gave it my all with all my intention thinking that all I had to do was that, be intentional, and all the other pieces would fall into place... But God just keeps taking our lives to higher and higher levels. For every heart break I have learned that God is still God, and that love is still love and nothing can separate us from the love of God that is through Christ Jesus. "After you've done all you can, you just stand" (I also cried out this song to God so many times... but the season of beauty for ashes has come). Thank you for sharing your heart, the grain of wheat does not bear fruit until it has died. Your pain then has blessed so many lives, and it is blessing my life now as well. Stay strong, your time is coming!
If I may offer a different opinion:
First flag - Fell Deeply in Love with someone in 2 months. You didn’t know enough about this woman in the relationship. You are in your “newness” and you are feeling dopamine that gets released in your brain. Don’t confuse that with love. It’s new. Enjoy the newness. You haven’t seen her in her other seasons to determine if she is really the one.
Second Flag - You introduced too much too fast. That pre-pre marriage counseling is way too soon, and could be considered too much when you’re just getting to know someone. Y’all bringing up triggers within 8 weeks of knowing each other in therapy. Call it what you want… that was pre-marriage counseling. That can deflate the relationship really fast when you don’t have a solid foundation that’s needed from BOTH parties. You clearly was there, but it doesn’t appear she was (even though she went with you) That’s a really heavy place to be in 8 weeks of dating each other.
Third flag - Speaking finality of marriage within 8 weeks of meeting. Again, really heavy to be at in 8 weeks. You are within your right to feel those feelings, but there is SO much that you must establish with her (ex. trust, loyalty, confidence in your leadership abilities, etc.) BEFORE acting on this feeling. Once you’ve established these things, then she’d be at a place to welcome this conversation. It was only 61-62 days… you didn’t even scratch the surface my friend.
My point: Slow down and enjoy the ride. She clearly had some things to work on, but you were so ready to marry her she felt her back was against the wall. Slow down and enjoy each other, allow her to reveal her struggles, and slowly do the work is how you will get her. It takes WORK & TIME. You can’t bake a wedding cake in 1 min
This comment was 💯 true. I’m glad you wrote this bc I may possibly be entering a season such as this soon and this is some really good advice. 🙏
I understand where you are coming from, and I think these are from a good place; however, the delivery appears insensitive. It is said that you should never kick a man when he is down.
Love is a tricky phenomenon to define given the who, what, when where, why, and how to depends on individual experiences, perspective, and conviction. In light of this, the insinuation you make in your comment about "falling in love deeply in 2 months" is flawed. Also, the adjective ‘enough’ is subjective. I don’t believe the relationship would have progressed had his fundamental criteria not been met. Moreover, there’s only so much one can know about a person pre-marriage. That's hardly an attainable goal for a lifetime!
From your second flag, I deduct that you are generalizing and using the same rubric you would use on yourself. While there are books and leading voices discussing this issue, they offer some useful solutions. However, we must learn to separate the wheat from the chaff or else collectivism will undermine individualism. There’s no hard and fast rule about love and marriage, from Adam to Isaac and Hosea, different rules apply.
Onto your third flag. He has made everything beautiful in its time (Eccl 3:11). Process is an inevitability that cannot be circumvented; however, I believe the pace of progress per process depends on individuals' maturity and readiness. The more prepared a person is, the more likely their journey will be accelerated.
My point: Don't judge, especially when you only know a small part of the full story. There is no guarantee that what works for one person will also work for another, so avoid generalizing. Consider his situation from his perspective, and be compassionate towards him. Be kind and supportive as you would like to be treated. Anything can happen in God’s timing.
@DearFutureWifey, I commend your L.I.T. and pray for your speedy recovery. Your testimony will soon come through, so keep looking up and pressing forward.
@@jeaneb01 - First, thanks for your perspective. I love being able to have a healthy debate online without it getting out of hand with name calling and the like.
I am far from kicking him while he’s down. I listened to his entire video, and I am offering a different perspective to the possibility of how he got to this position. I’m not mocking him, joking him, nor am I belittling his decisions. As a man, I listened to this man talk about his situation and I responded how I would respond to my best friend. He has to take responsibility for his actions and not point the finger like she just upped and left for no reasons of his own. In the video, he never takes accountability for his actions.
I agree wholeheartedly about love not having a timeline, but you must remember that there are two people in this relationship. He was so focused on his desires, that it appears he didn’t consider her and went for what he wanted. I’ve learned that some people will go along with you even though in there heart of hearts they don’t want to.
For my second flag… Google “pre-pre marriage counseling” and tell me what you find? To save you some time… there’s no such thing. This man created something that doesn’t exist to get what he wanted. You go from meeting someone to 7-8 weeks later sharing traumatic events in your life in front of his counseling friends…. That doesn’t scream “flag” to you?
For my third flag, I made it clear that HE has every right to feel those feelings, but he has to prove himself worthy to her to truly say yes. The Bible says that the heart is deceitful above all things, who can understand it (Jer 17:9). This tells me that though I may have the feelings, time must be present to ensure that I’m really feeling what I’m feeling.
There are two people in this relationship, and regardless of how you feel about where things are, relationships are about putting the other person’s feelings into consideration. Your rebuttal only focuses on him, and not his ex-fiancé. Forever is a mighty long time (shoutout to Anthony David and Algebra Blesset), and you have to know someone has the foundational skills to have a successful marriage.
Very well spoken in your initial comment and replies. I agree with every word. We are quick to say it's her, but maybe she seen some things in him he needed to address and the decision was for the best for both of them. The more I listen to the podcast the more I see that he has some healing of his own he needs to do. I pray God continues to heal and work on each party in that situation.
Solid point of view
Your story is a great example of why it’s important to heal before dating. We must do the work!
Another breakthrough is coming, Laterras!!! Also, note that healing is on-going. Healing takes time, but it shouldn't hinder you from still loving. God has you covered, and He will restore.
Thank you for being vulnerable with us. This episode was needed.
Latteras I totally get it sir. So to be honest with you I love hard as well and right now I am afraid of going into another relationship because of the letdown myself. Thank you for being so transparent as a man🤗💙💙💙🚶🏾♂️🚶🏾♂️ Gods got you and me... Happy blessed New Year 2023...
Thank you for revealing your authentic experience and self to us. I respect your journey and transparency that you share with us...Thank you
Lateras my name is Ladina Whitfield, no we are not related. Your courage to expose this pain is healing a nation! Intentionality is not inclusively spirituality and rationality. You merely offered too much too soon to someone not ready to receive the wellspring flowing from within you and that is to jer credit to be honest she is not ready for you! Seeing your pain I cried with you as my prayer line role is on marriage and the sacredness of singleness. You are NOT LOST AT SEA, you are walking on water with the faith of God carrying you precious brother! He gave you the miracle of honesty! He has already blessed you in transparency even in your unwillingness to accept it! He sends you who you need not all the things you believed you wanted! You have too much to do to be distracted and deceived no matter how good the packaging and the presentation looks! You know what God want God wants for you and it is not to make it happen but allow it to happen! I pray for you and your healing and that deters your mission! Amen
Wow. Let this be a lesson for us to do our work in our single season! God forbid we meet one fashioned for us and have to forfeit it because we haven’t done the work 🙏🏽 Praying for you Laterras ❤
I agree .. I also feel no one should start dating or enter courtship until that have gone through a sanctification period with the Lord. Then and only then can situations like this be avoided because you already k now where you stand in receiving what God has for you . And many times, we know early on if the person is “ it” or not. Both parties have to agree. This was a sobering moment for all of us
So POWERFULLY said!!!! LOVE THIS, because it’s SO TRUE!
Powerful comment!!!!
You sais that
THIS comment was such FIRE for me!!!!! WOW!!!!
"Empty to be seen by millions but not seen by the one"...my God, what a powerful message in itself🙏🙏🙏
I loved that 2 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Love this
Hallelujah to Jesus
God is working on you and for you
Blessings brother
Laterras, watching this broke me… My heart so hurts for you.. I am one of the ones who has literally given up hope. Birthday was Dec 30th, turned 49, never married, no children.. I’ve had several false starts from ghosting, talking stages, “I don’t know what I want” etc…. it’s too much… But watching this episode gave me a boost to not give up…Your plea and prayer to God was so sincere and heartfelt.. I know he is setting you up for the greatest love story ever.. I can’t wait to see what unfolds for your future. You will be saying “God Remembered” ❤🙌🏾🙏🏿
AMEN!! I agree with you sis. Again, let’s see what the Lord will do in both your situation & Laterras’. Our God knows how to orchestrate “suddenly” blessings! I’m looking forward to hearing about yours and Laterras’. It ain’t over! God’s got you both. Amen.🙏🏾
@nadjahdabney6737 right there with u sis...will be 45 in a couple weeks, never married, no kids and only failed r'ships. I always take time to heal after r'ships, but it does get harder to hold out hope for love the older we get. I'll continue to do the work on me and trust God. So hang in there!
And may you find yourself saying the same thing!
"Sometimes they know something we don't."
I was thinking the same thing concerning her.
Seems like she loves you enough to spare you pain.
Thank you for sharing.
Wellness to you❤
For me, It was when you told the enemy thru your tears that no matter what you would NOT settle for a woman who was not a kingdom woman. That was powerful and you made me make up my mind that I wouldn't settle for less than what I've been asking the Lord for either. Thank you Laterras! This won't last forever. Like the song says trouble don't last always. Thank you that even though you're hurting others are being healed, helped and set free through your testimony and transparency.
Yasss! Because everything that settles ends up at the bottom.🙃
Laterras, I lift you up in prayer right now🙏🏻. I truly feel as you were sharing this that this heartbreak may not be solely about your pain but for the growth in the partner you were dating. Praise God that you were able to show her that there are good men out there, you’ve helped her get one step closer to her healing! And God used you in this way because he knew the pain you could bear and the next door that opens up will be so unexpected and on time that your praise report is going to break the internet!!! I thank you for sharing your vulnerability & your ministry didn’t just heal her but it’s helping us all heal too. May God bless you, may God continue to smile on you, and may he continue to open a window to pour out blessings in your life.
Yes, yes, yes... what perspective! We weep with Laterras today, but later we will all rejoice when he presents his purpose partner to the world. The pain and heartache he is experiencing today will then be overshadowed by a joy unspeakable - his due recompense.
Also, after having watched this episode, I can’t help but be reminded of ROMANS 8:28 - And we know that ALL THINGS WORK TOGETHER FOR GOOD to them who are the called according to His purpose.
Laterras, I pray this experience leads to an increase of wisdom and understanding that will position you to be a greater blessing to those whom you minister to - it is not for naught. 🙏🏼
The story is not over. God knows how to come full circle.
What beautiful prayers! Masha Allah.
Amen! Such a beautiful prayer.
Amen! Love this.
It's so crazy that I stumbled across this episode today. On the very day that you recorded this podcast, I too was sitting in the seat of heartbreak and devastation. I'd met who I just knew was God's promise to me after widowhood. All for me to be left to grieve yet again. The free will of others can sometimes knock all of the wind out of our sail....but one thing I do know is that God will make good on His promises towards me. And I'm praying that He will do the same for you.
Same here! Bless you, Sister! You will receive!
Amen
I've been told that there's always a counterfeit that comes before the real comes. God showed you the best is yet to come. Prayers and comfort during this time🥰
Almost always. That’s so true.
Tears are cleansing, Laterras. Thank you for sharing your heartbreak even though you weren't feeling up to it. Your followers love you. We stand with you. ❤️
Amen.
Please know and believe that you are worth the wait. True and real love will find you and don’t you dare push it away because of what has happened in the past. Be cautious, but just enjoy life. Rename December. You’re more than a conqueror. Prayers for you…Jer 29:11. Ish 61:3. NEVER SUBMIT and NO SHAME!!! God ALWAYS gets the GLORY!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 38:21
At least she told you she wasn’t ready and that shows how much she cares for you. As corny as it sounds, rejection really is protection. God knows what you need and he saw and heard things you couldn’t.
Sorry for your losses. Thank you for your transparency.
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Facts
Rejection is protection...I love it
Amen 🙏🏾 So true
So true! Not corny at all! I am grateful for the things that I just knew that I needed, begged for, and nearly cursed God for not giving me! To be stuck with those things.... phew. I've had to dig myself out of some things that were not aligned with my purpose and God's plan for me.
You went through the hurt to help bring the light of healing to many
Praying for you both. You loved her well. In return, it led her to seek out healing so that there would be reciprocity. This love story only confirms for me that we want love, but many of us don't know how to receive true authentic love. It just goes to show how powerful love really is. God's blessings on you both and prayerfully God can reconnect you when it's right for the both of you. Stay strong - God's got you 🙏🏾❤💙
Beautiful said💐
I am in agreeance with this post. God can still restore when the time is right 🙏🏽🥰
As an empath, this was so heavy. I was almost in tears. I had to take breaks. I will pray for the healing of both of you. She may have been right to step away. Before I began my healing 2022, I was a completely different person. I used 2022 to be with myself, go to therapy, be with my loved ones. I was at my lowest at one point. It would have been wrong of me to date someone. It's actually possible that you may not be compatible with her healed self. Out of the 4 men I have dated in previous years, current me would have only dated maybe 1 of them. But I learned alot about myself and what I need in a partner from each one. In time, the lesson will reveal itself. Unfortunately, everyone that comes into our lives isn't meant to be forever. God may have used you to help her start her healing journey and to show her what true love looks like. Though you are rightfully sad at this loss, this was a blessing. God's timing is everything. You will once again meet a woman that God calls you to pursue and she will not run. God will affirm it for her too and she will present.
I've been there. Felt in love for the first time ever. Only took 3 months, but I later realized it was out of order from the beginning. I felt such a great emotional and spiritual connection, but that was not enough. He had to see it too. He was not pursuing and it was as if I was persuading. He finally told me God told him no. I was devastated, but I quickly thanked God because I now had an answer. I told God that I would do it right next time and pray for discernment along the way. I deserve to be loved like Christ loved His church...by a man that sees me as his wife. In the process, I have recommitted myself to learning the Word and investing in my own self care and goals (healing traumas, mental/physical health, my physical appearance, career, etc). In the last few months alone, I have never been approached by this many men in my life. I haven't even used an app in 1.5 yrs. So take the lesson for what it is. God's time is the right time. Your good thing is out there.
I actually say a prayer for my future husband a few times a week. Among other things, I pray for his health, any healing he may need, his relationship with God, success (whatever that means to him), and that he is growing wiser and more humble every day to be able to lead himself and our future family. Hopefully, the next wonderful woman you meet will be an answer to that prayer. Blessings to you. 🙏
I empathize with you I'm right there with you and your love you love hard I know all to well this feeling of brokenness it will take time to heal and I get it how many times do u have to go through this type of pain that was my question to God but he God knows all things lean NOT UNTO OUR OWN UNDERSTANDING thats my goto because I had so so many questions for God but he knows whats Wright 4 US he's a right on time God !! Man of God i can only tell u from experience let go and let God we all grieve different buts thats my advice love in Jesus mighty holy Name and Thank you for putting yourself out there my tears for you that you'll heal healthy and whole heartedly so with that said keep God in the center and you will get through it my brother just hold fast steadfast in Jesus mighty holy name amen 🙏 💔😪🤗🌻🍩☕🦞🍷🍰🍿🍦😴😴
Wow. That was very well said. Beautiful advice. ❤️💜
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Sis! Your comment was profound and full of wisdom. I will add nothing and couldn't have said it better. I have had a very similar situation as you speak about and there is nothing like God's leading and his timing. I've learned that his "No" is not my punishment but my peace and his PROTECTION. His time is never late. Thank you for the encouragement not just for our bro here....this also encouraged me. 💓
@@lisatyson6599 thank you sis ❤️ that really means a lot to me🙏
As a brother in Christ, this truly broke my heart and brought me to tears. Thank you for your transparency and being true to your words. I will pray for you and look forward to celebrating that wedding when God reveals the ONE. Many blessings upon you and much love.
I experienced a similar situation. I just knew this man was heaven sent. He accepted me for my flaws and he spoke to my soul in a way I never experienced. People saw us and could feel the love between us. I felt my presence brighten his spirit. I felt at peace with him. I was no longer afraid. Then one day he ended it. He says I did nothing wrong. He said I was perfect. I was his dream girl. I still haven’t recovered. I was so blindsided. You couldn’t tell me this man didn’t love me and that we wouldn’t be together forever. I don’t even feel like I can love again.
I’m so sorry you dealt with this 😢 I pray the Most High renew you heart, mind, and spirit. 🙏🏾🥰
Oh wow......just look at it as God was saving u....maybe the pain u would hv felt down the rd would be worse
Praying that you've found the healing and peace your heart and soul needs to move forward.
This is the most beautiful display of a human man reaching out to our God for a miracle. You’ll never know how much this video helped me as I’m sure it is helping others. Thank you for this message even though it was painful and raw. We “stand” with you in community holding you through this moment of heartbreak. Let those tears flow; they are your healing rain. We humbly dry them with you in this sacred space.
❤🙏
Beautiful comment 🦋
I wanted to comment but I had no words, thank you for saying what I wanted to articulate. Sincerely praying for Laterras 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
So beautifully articulated!
“It won't always be like this
He will perfect that concerning me
And sooner or later, it will turn in my favour
Sooner or later, turn in my favour
It's turning around for me”
A song I’ve held onto that I hope resonates 💛
Perfect encouragement.
Yes 🙌🏾
This broke my heart. It's rough out here. Finding love and someone to have a healthy marriage with almost seems impossible nowadays. I appreciate Laterras for being vulnerable and sharing his life experiences with the world. Laterras is a great guy and would be a great husband to a blessed woman. I pray that this period of heartbreak doesn't last long and God sends him the right wifey when he has healed from this.
"It feels empty to be seen by millions and not by the one!" I felt that and so how true it is. Blessings and and favor Man of God. Thank you for your transparency, and it continues to lead you to transformation #Growth 💙
"Keep your hands and heart clean." This was the perfect advice given to you Laterras. I'm praying for both of your hearts 💕. I respect this young lady because she recognized that she could harm your emotions and heart. But that was love! I pray for this young lady's healing so that she doesn't miss any blessings in hee life. I also felt your heart Laterras. I praying that you feel all of the pain at once so that you can overcome. As this young lady stated, if you 2 were meant to be, then GOD will bring you 2 back together. Only after healing takes place from both. I still felt that you experienced a miracle because you said that the LORD spoke to both of your hearts concerning one another, affirming what you both have prayed for. That is a blessing to have experienced. Not many can say that they have. You both are in my prayers. Keep on loving Laterras!
One thing I took away from this, as I am also in the midst of a “breakup”/divorce, is we have to stop playing spouse for people who aren’t our spouse. We can’t save someone from their work nor can we force them through it. We often times try to attach ourselves to mess thinking we can make it better. When sometimes loving that person despite is just PART of the journey i yet we make it the final destination. It is hard in the midst to see it as a blessing. But it truly is. It shows you that you have the capacity to love. But it also shows where you can still mature.
Thank God she was mature enough to stop it in its tracks. I wish I had spoken up before marriage when I didn’t have peace. Yet he was persistent about it being God ordained and everyone else supported it; so I took that as what I was feeling must not be factual. It was! God was trying to protect me and I blatantly ignored him.
Maybe that’s not what’s happening here. Maybe this will just be a part of y’all’s love story. Or maybe God has EVEN BETTER than you perceived as his best work. Keep praying and seeking Him and doing what he tells you to do. And stay accountable to someone.
I experienced the exact same thing this December. He broke things off on Christmas day for the same reason. Too good to be true. Man how I cried but I realized really quickly that God's planning for what he wanted me to experience in that relationship wasn't happening. He spoke to me about this man, about this year and I did my own thing any way. I really thought he was/is my person.
Praying for your healing because I know exactly what you're feeling.
Sending love and healing to you my dear!
Im so sorry for you too May 2023 bring us all healing and love
I feel you
I cannot explain HOW watching YOU, a strong MAN, opening up about your heartbreak to us in such a deeply descriptive way. I am having my “Month of March Madness” like your “Death of December”, the heartbreak and life’s disappointments with my own son, and still currently fighting for some things now, I feel validated that I’m not goin through this alone AND that it’s not just women going this but STRONG MEN too. I know this may not mean anything to you now, but I KNOW and SEE things turning around for you and for me too! God bless and keep going!
The most challenging thing an artist can achieve is a self portrait. That’s because of the natural urge to edit what we see into what we want to see. Thank you for sharing so many of your “self-portraits”.
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Well said
I cried when you cried. You’ve become a consistent part of my life. Each and every post and video are not missed and I pray for your heart to heal from this. If the eyes are the window to the soul then you just poured your soul out. And that’s completely okay. I love you Laterras and I only know you from your platform but it has been a blessing to watch you. I know EXACTLY what you’re feeling because the same thing happened to me 2 years ago. I didn’t want to ever love again but your episodes have given myself and many others hope. Don’t give up on your love journey. I’m definitely not giving up on mine. God bless you ❤
This is the definition of strenghth. Thanks for being vulnerable with us. Nothing catches God by surprise. He has Got you covered and we will witness a turnaround. Your podcasts never disappoint.
Amen 🙏🏽
My brother let me say I'm sorry for the heartache that you are going through and the transparency that you show. I'm late to your podcast but ive been consuming as much as i can. I believe God has touch you and is pulling you through this journey to help people. I get so much food that fills me through your guest and your words. Your Queen is out there. As much as heartache hurts when it comes to love it's giving us lessons to be ready for the one that is truly God sent. Thnk you my Brother.
Dear Bro. Laterras, I'm one of those sisters in her mid-fifties. I'm crying with you, too. Your ministry has given me hope on my love journey, even now! As you've encouraged me, I encourage you NOW to keep your eyes on Jesus. Continue to cast your cares on Him. Continue to trust Him with your tears! You’re on the right path, and you're helping so many to see Jesus on their love journeys, too! THANK YOU!
So touched by your sincerety. It has been 25 Years since my heart was crushed on the passing of my husband. I could only trust God to be my husband because I was /am afraid to go through such grief again. My journey was not an easy one, but My God provides my daily needs. I have not looked for or had any other partner. I pray that God grant you your heart"s desire in His perfect time.
Imagine what’s to come from the seeds you’ve sown. Take your time grieving and healing. Thank you for opening your heart and being so vulnerable. It’s not easy. It’s so courageous of you. Love you, Laterras.
Hi Mr Witfield the same God who has given you the ability to do these Podcast will give you the strength to overcome. If she is the one she will come back, trust God He will give you the strength to go on, Remember the story of Abraham and his wife Sarah and Isaac. Go promise them a soñ Isaac. They have their son after waiting for twenty five years. Hold on God is still in charge of your life.
This happened to my wonderful son, the woman, because of her past traumas, she could not believe he was such a wonderful guy. She kept expecting the other shoe to drop. She finally ran him off because she felt he was too good to be true. My heart hurt for her. I wish she knew how it feels to be loved by a really good man.
Great message and I appreciate your transparency! I love the fact that you called out the things you will not submit to, even while hurting. God knows best and thank God for her honesty.
It’s one thing to walk away from a relationship, but walking away when you know that you have God’s voice and tell you who that person is supposed to be to you. That’s so hard. Doing it now and I literally all you can do is ask that at the end God’s will be done. Thank you for this level or transparency. Inspirational and healing at the same time. We cry with you. 🙏🏾🖤
This is was story of my marriage of 10 years. He turned and told me "I know I am suppose to be with you and your my wife but I no longer want it".4 years later I still dont understand but Im trying to keep my faith and push forward its hard though because I cant understand how God gives you something and takes it away like he did. I guess we all have CHOICES and FREE WILL so I understand the pain in this video but I NEVER want to feel it again.
@@ericadancer8846 sooo sorry. praying with and for you for immediate reconciliation OR release, peace, and the Ephesians 3:20 replacement. In Jesus Name. Amen 🙏🏾 ❤
Im in this situation too and it's so hard. Me and this man went to University together and in Jan 2021 God revealed to me in a fast who my husband was. I know that it was God. But here I am and we are not together because i will not chase or pursue. He is inconsistent and to be quite frankly honest he still exploring. In the meantime I am pursuing my career and doing my best to love myself with my own love languages as a single woman and drawing closer to God. He calls every now and then to check up on me but im praying that he has his own revelation. Still Here Waiting on God. To Erica Dancer point - free will and choice are real things and we need to be accepting that he may choose a life and wife outside of me and im humble enough to accept that that could be my fate but I know what God told me
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I was in this same place two years ago. But God is a healer and through prayer listening to your podcast. I can say I am healed.
Please don't lose hope. God is gonna bless you with your soul mate. REST!
I’ve been watching this for 2 days and my heart is overwhelmed with your sincerity, transparency and vulnerability. May the heal you, cover you and keep you
My heart hurts and I'm praying that God give you the strength that you need and pray that God also heal her as well. Be bless MOG.
@@mekeshapayton9873 amen
Wow!!!! Tears fell from my eyes like a stream, listening to you pour out your heart to the world. Even with your broken heart you continued to give our God all the Glory, Honour and deserving Praise.
Your podcast popped up on my feed immediately after my morning prayer and me asking (for the first time in my life) a husband. After listening to you, I’m now going to be listening to God’s voice in a more intentional way. My dear young man, tears are a language that God understands. I felt every word coming from your heart and thank God for talking to you through this and more importantly for your obedience to God. Thank you for your honesty, your openness, your insight, your learning, your Love. I know you won’t give up the search for your ‘future wifey’ and it may well turn out to be the lady who broke your heart, but simply the wrong time. So keep listening to God. Like a diamond in the rough, I believe God is preparing your wife for you.
Thank you for showing me what to expect from a man and not compromising on my values. I thank God for you. May God richly bless and keep you, in His perfect peace ❤
This podcast TOTALLY resonated with me. I'm a divorced 46 yo woman from a 21 year marriage. I got therapy and did my part in the healing process. To be honest, I feel like the healing is continual. However, I dated this guy for 3 months. He said and did ALL the right things. He even said that I was "the one." Unfortunately, after 3 months he completely changed his mind. I was heartbroken. Looking back, I'm so grateful.
Do you feel now that there were things that you would regret in him had he not cut it off? In hindsight.
@@erickaj7373 ABSOLUTELY!!!!!
Just know that she was brave enough to let you go. So many of us hold on to people when we know we are not ready. She didn’t want to waste your time, your patience or your love. This is emotional maturity/intelligence in the flesh. It is hard, but thank God for your experience with her. Remember, pain signifies a breakthrough. You are getting closer to what God has for you. I will pray for both of you.
What do you mean when you say pain signifies a break through. Please could you explain?
Timing with God is EVERYTHING!!!
It’s really brave of you Laterras to still want to experience love after a heartbreak. Thank you for being transparent with us. She’s definitely out there and God will lead you to her
I identify with your vulnerability. I appreciate your honesty and transparency. Thank you.
I never got the closure you did. I was just left with the question marks. Healing is indeed a choice. I chose it intentionally.
I leaned into God closer during my process. If I hadn't, I believe I would have succumb to the pain. I had panic attacks, my fight or flight mechanism was stuck in the "on" position, my nervous system went haywire, and it started to affect my immune system. Heartbreak is REAL..But so is GOD 🙌🏾
The strength it took for you to share your heartbreak was a God move. The intention in your words to share your thoughts and what occurred served as a reminder for me, and I am sure others, what love entails. Praying with you as you heal. Brother, we see you and will keep you lifted. ❤
Latteras,ummm,Sir, LEAVE IT alone. God can handle it better than you can, leave it alone! Period. Sir, she has told you on numerous occasions that you are NOT the one, so, BELIEVE her! Don't keep poking the bear and mess around and get sick, lose faith in God or the hope in mankind OR develop a "new" contious. Your contious is your connection but when you just will not hear it ten God has no choice but to let you learn the hard way. That is so hard when you have so much to give and receive. She asked you in the beginning about your videos that had gone viral, so clearly there is something that spiked her interest to outdo that video and what better way to do it but hit you where it hurt and that is your ❤️. The core of this show is YOUR heart, love, peace. You desire to give your whole heart to someone, to have love and to have peace and stability; however, you have to listen! You have to acknowledge in all your ways and thoughts and he will give you the desires of your heart. Please don't lean to your own understanding but trust the process! You didn't come this far JUST to get this far. Hold on sweet angel, GOD can handle it better than you can just leave it alone! PERIOD.
@@irenecaldwell2251 Hi, I don't think you meant to share your thoughts under my comments, as it appears to be intended for the main forum. 🙏🏾
I used to be her who didn’t know how to recognize love. What it looks like or what it feels like. I am so glad I did my work and have healed from my brokenness. I know I still have work to do but I’m not there anymore. I pray for you sir for your health and your heart to heal. You are love and loved by many and this too shall pass. Thank you for your transparency. This episode hurts my heart deeply for you.
I don't know I feel like she's still the one but the timing is not perfect... I will say let it go if it's truly what God has for you it will come back to you... when the time is right
I can relate to you as well in your message. The act of actions in knowing expression of receiving and showing love. Some people doesn't deserve your time or love. Continue to let God lead you in knowing he will reveal the discernment of people heart.
@tonnica364 I’m trying to heal my brokenness too, one I’ll be on your level. I keep pushing great men away , because I don’t know what love ❤️ looks like. I’ve been a narcissistic relationship for 23 years damaged. It’s been since October 2019 and I’m hurting. You’re comment touch me on so many levels, and I want to be where you are spiritually , emotionally. Thank you 🙏🏾
@@chynadoll77cyn59 I have been abused and strangled to the brink of death…but God. Also been in a narcissist relationship too. Talk about learning to love myself, healing myself and feeling love. Oh how weird it felt almost strange as to where I questioned was the feeling real! I had to seek out therapy because I was truly broken and I promised myself I would not hurt anyone because I was hurt. Hurt people hurt people. I can now recognize when a man has not truly healed and I bow out gracefully. I refuse to go backwards. It may be painful but it’s better in the long run. The confidence that I have now is amazing. I pray all the best for you and that you learn to love yourself again. Love you sis!
@@lesegomlisane260 beloved, if I may, God doesn't operate like this. He will not allow His children to be in pain. Sometimes we miss the mark. I was in this same situation. She isn't the one. Man's rejection is God's protection.
My mom always told me “the things you go through is because of who you’re called to” keep on keeping on !!! Sending virtual hugs 🤗🙏🏾
Did she explain what that means? I’m interested.
I'm recovering from soul crushing unexpected heartbreak. I felt every bit of this. Never thought I'd be in this position. It's one day at a time. Prayers to you on your healing journey.
**Hugs**
@@Lola77971 ❤️
One has to be healed in order to receive a healed heart!!!! Don’t beat up on yourself. Keep praying 🙏🏾
I think one of the hardest things in life to deal with is what to do when your paths aren’t aligned (at that time). The realization that your plan is not his plan. For you, you’ve been doing an incredible amount of the right kind of work. While you may be willing to support her in her own personal journey, she (looking out for you) didn’t want you to carry that burden. Sometimes God tests our faith, here is your test on your healing journey. You got this! This is so powerful because people need to see how one maintains their purpose during heart break, a storm, etc. GOD IS WORKING FOR YOUR GOOD.
And I posted this before 38 min time stamp! We love you.
Thanks
“Be a good steward over your healing.” My God. Thank you for this.
I’m new to Dear Future Wifey podcast and truly enjoy the episodes. Laterres, please be encouraged. I dealt with the same situation, had my heart broken after the person I thought was my forever, walked away. When I wasn’t looking, God sent my husband to me. I almost passed him by because I thought he was too good to be true and I believed I didn’t deserve him. I’m happy to report we celebrated 20 years of marriage in 2023. Keep on your journey, your forever is out there.
To me, that’s the most important part, not allowing the disappointments to harden your heart ❤
Healing from HEARTBREAK
❤❤❤❤😢JESUS
Wow
Pre pre marital counseling. ❤
I applaud her she knew she wasn’t ready for you!!
Why do relationships have to be so difficult?! Ugh. Heartbreak is so real. God bless your ability to verbally express your feelings so well, to help others. Prayers for healing.
In agreement.
"I can fight for you but I won't persuade you" ~Laterras Whitefield
Thanks for sharing. I know only to well what you are dealing with. I am 57, married my husband at 47 and felt like God had answered my prayers, only to feel the heartbreak of a break-up and divorce a few years later. I questioned God the same as you did, why would he allow me to go through this after I consulted him in my steps. Well, to make a long story short, we just got remarried in August of 2022 and it confirmed what I felt when my journey began on December 31st of 2012 so many years ago. Please keep believing that God has a plan and you will heal.
Laterras, this was the bravest thing I've ever seen. Thank you for your transparency and realness. You are helping people more than you could ever know.
Its 4am in South Africa, i ran out of sleep, having discovered something a few hours ago heartbreaking as well, i came on TH-cam & saw this episode. Praying for His comfort, healing & peace for you both.
What God has been teaching me is the heartbreak we experience at present is protection from greater pain & damage down the road we might not be aware of. Sometimes it’s redirection, sometimes its a shift of focus for the season, sometimes it’s putting Isaac on the altar, sometimes its Ismael showing up before the promise Isaac. We live life looking forward but understand it looking backwards, we might not understand today but we know all thing work together for our good, even this.
We see the corner but our Shepherd sees around the corner, we see the mountain & He sees around the mountain. Yes He speaks to us & confirms His Word, but also people make their choices (that mustn’t lead us to think we heard God wrong, the person just made their own choice).
We pray above all things that you will prosper, be in health even as your soul prospers. We cover you, your loved ones & everything concerning you with the blood of Jesus. He is faithful, the good work He started in you He will complete.
THANK YOU Mashadi100 Those words of wisdom and comfort for Letarass are well spoken by you.
Amen
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LOVE THIS!!!!
Amen!
This was such a hard episode to watch, but so enlightening at the same time. I commend the woman you were with for being so brave and removing herself from a relationship she knew in her heart she wasn’t ready for, but always wanted! Goodness, that’s tough, but such an act of unselfishness. I’m so happy that even through your pain, you could honor her bravery. You guys are both displaying what real love is to one another, even though it may not be in the form in how you both want to receive it. Still such a blessing!
Your letter was perfectly written. You could be writing to this particular woman, or someone else. Either way, she’s on the way! You hang tight, keep pouring into yourself, and keep God at the front and center of your life. I believe that nothing happens coincidentally. You’re so close.
Happy New Year, Laterras! Many, many blessings to you 😊🤍✨
Yes it sure was I almost cut it off at 42:23 because I can’t. Not to mention I’m dealing with my own healing ❤️🩹 it’s been 3 years , I’ve gotten my heart broken. Then I met someone very nice dated for nine months physical interaction he was a very nice men , he bought me a ring I couldn’t accept it. Its me I told him but he was willing to continue to wait , but it’s not right nor fair to him. So I had to let it go , I know I hurt him deeply I felt so bad. I think 🤔 about every day . Sometimes I wish I can reach out to him but I don’t wanted to disturb his peace. All I can say Dj I’m sorry miss you 🥰.
It’s very hard to watch
Speak God😇
Hey Laterras,
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I know how painful heartbreak can be. We are birthday twins (3/29) so in many ways I feel your pain. I found DFW because like you, I desire to find the one God has for me but only after doing the work to heal from anything that would cause future pain. I'm crying with you because I too love hard. I know you were all in. When my heart was broken I was terribly confused because I was so sure that I heard from God. So sure. It hurts but I'm sure there is a purpose. You are our example. We are learning with you. Thank you for your vulnerability and sacrifice. I pray that your healing is quick and insightful. I pray that your heart remains open and your hope is strengthened because your future wifey is even closer and you know she's got to be AMAZING! Love you, Laterras! 💪🏾🙏🏽❤
Laterras, I see that I’m nearly 7 months behind, but this episode right here has compelled me to…as you say, “Stop shacking with the DearFutureWifey podcast ”. I have just subscribed AND hit the notification 🔔 so that I’ll never miss another one! Thank you so much for your raw, intentional transparency as you moved through the real-time moments of your heartbreak. Having recently gone through a breakup myself, the spiritual alignment you experienced in your relationship has confirmed to me that it is 100% possible. I refuse to compromise that ever again. Also your closing prayer of gratitude and surrender to God in spite of your hurt brought tears of the same to my eyes. Be blessed, and thank you for allowing our Lord God to use your life to help so many others.
“Be a good steward over your healing.”
Powerful statement. Thank you!
Laterras I just came across your podcast and I am blessed to have done so. You cant imagine how healing this is to women also. It softens our notions about the human side of men, and showcases your emotional intelligence. I'm healing from a breakup and I'm a year in my healing and celibacy. I'm a seasoned woman and I have much experience at life, yet never have I witnessed this level of emotional intelligence in the face of ego. For us women who truly honor and revere our men especially black men we thank you for your transparency.
Man I went through a similar situation for about 2 months too here recently. Thought I had found the ONE I've been looking for. We actually met on a Christian Dating app. I was in love and it happened so quickly because I knew what I was looking for. When you said she told you things you had never heard before, this woman did the same to me. She prayed for and encouraged me every day and I did the same for her. She knew the word of God, she was in ministry, she was Spirit filled, so caring, loving, respectful, beautiful inside and out. We talked for almost 2 months. But as I continued to pray about our relationship and really asking the Lord to please confirm to me if we should continue to move forward in the relationship I started losing my peace. I couldn't understand it because she seemed so right for me. I tried to disregard the absence of the peace of God but it only got worse. I couldn't sleep, would start feeling really bad with pains in my stomach and chest for no reason at all other than just thinking about us being together. The only thing that gave me peace was when I would think about how it just wasn't meant to be. That it wasn't God's perfect will for us to be together. The peace would flood my soul whenever I thought about it like that. Then and only then could I sleep at night because I knew that was the right decision. She was so hurt because her hopes were so high that I was the one she had been waiting on too. I loved her and sometimes I still long to talk to her but we both agreed that there was no way we could just be friends because our feelings were too strong for each other so we decided to part ways. It hurt so bad because I loved her and I knew she really loved me too. The Lord knows best and will never steer us wrong. If we trust Him and wait on Him He will do exceedingly abundantly above all we can ask or think. Her love and care for me really showed me that there is a woman out there who will be just what I'm looking for and be the ONE that God has for me. My heart was so broken but yet encouraged. I will wait on the Lord because He is good to those that wait on Him. Wait on the Lord my bro even when you don't understand because He knows the plans that He has for you and He knows who you need to help you fulfill those plans.
Phew!!! Thanks for sharing.
Blessings to you! Because of your Personal relationship with God, and you know His voice, you were obedient. I will say this, sometimes we want someone who we believe are meant for us, only to realize that the heart and head are not aligned. Thank God that you listened. He saved you from a lot of heart ache. Be encouraged.
@@dstreet43 amen...thank you
@@izion515 Be encouraged
Thank you for sharing, thank you for the clarification. Thank you for being real about life on earth and loving God. Finally i see that loving hard is a gift.
She knows something you don't about where she is. She cared enough about you to walk away and hurt you a little now instead of a lot later. I so admire this level of transparency and aspire to it in my own platform. God will redeem the time, heal your heart and make your path straight. I am praying for you where I only yesterday just enjoyed your work.♥
I also pray that God will heal her brokenness she also needs you, Jesus. Have your way in both of their heart's. Lord Jesus, you love both of them, so I know that there will be something good that will come out of this situation. Amen
Amen 🙏 Amen 🙏 Amen 🙏
But didn't she knows this before entering in the relationship that causes a heart break question
Recording this episode is the beginning of your healing, God knows what you're feeling and what you're going through, He's got you we're praying with you and for you.
Omg I never seen a man cry . This is such an eye opener for women to see that men have feelings to and they hurt also . Thank you for your transparency and being totally open you don't know how you just healed thousands in the midst of your own suffering
⭐️ Laterras- There's purpose even in pain. I prayed for you while I watched your "open heart surgery". You speak about transparency in your episodes and oh boy; you are true to form. This episode taught me many things, especially as a woman. One thing is that we must be very careful with the person who is falling in love with us when we can see their love unfolding in real time. We usually can tell when a person is falling for us. We don't always have to be told. If we don't feel the same, if the love is unrequited, we should tell them that the feeling is not mutual---asap. We should help them have a softer landing and be honest with them before they crash. Laterras, You already know that you will heal from this. It is an affirmation for you that you are a man who can love selflessly and deeply. You give your whole heart. One day, a woman will be ready to give her whole heart to you and your hearts will become one. Continue being "intentional". Don't diminish your love language. Please take good care of yourself. God will see you through this. You will get stronger. ||
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50:03 Much respect to you and clarification for me after a divorce of 20 years, which was Half of my life! God sent me MY “perfect”match. After 6 years…God’s promise is coming to you my brother 🙌🏽
I'm so sorry Laterras! My heart breaks for you. Everyone deserves love, and to be loved well. This shows that even when love is in your face, sometimes others just aren't ready. It's difficult to not internalize it especially when you love hard. And it's unfortunate, especially when you feel you're almost there. I love that God sends love our way, but we have to be healed to be able to even receive it. She will heal...and so will you! Don't let go of the way that you love. I'm still hoping God's best for you, that you heal from this, and that you grow stronger because of it. We are all cheering for you... you're our #goal when it comes to hope! Don't give up Sir! We need you to not give up. 😊