****Thank you for your kind words. I welcome edifying comments toward me but please refrain from any negative or disparaging statements about my recent love interest. She's a Godly woman and has the utmost character. It's because of her phenomenal character and heart to please God, that propelled her to make the difficult decision to release me. It was her love for me and the care she has for my heart that forced her to make the wise decision to let go and let God. She is healing from heartbreak as well. Any comments I find to be counterproductive to my journey will be deleted. Respectfully, Laterras.
Well said! Some people don’t understand spiritual things. Spiritual warfare is real. The adversary doesn’t want this God ordained union to happen. I know this way too personally.
This is one thing I absolutely admire about you Letteras. Despite the heartache and pain you're going through you still have a heart of gold. Sometimes it could be bad timing when 2 people meet. What I do appreciate about your love interest is that she had the respect for you to be honest 💯 even if it hurts. Transparency is a good sign. Desception and confusion is not. You got some answers and no guessing on what ifs. Many people avoid conversations and ghost the other person which is more painful. If God want you two back together, it will happen. If not, there someone better fit for what you can provide and she can provide to you. I pray for you and her and get the healing 🙏🏾 ❤️ in your hearts to continue this journey of love.
There is an appointed time for all things. “God makes all things beautiful in it’s time” Ecc 3:11. “God is not man that he should lie” Num 23:19. You sought God, he spoke through the Holy Spirit. I hear what she is saying, but trust God. Trust what he spoke to you. Trust his timing and his perfect ways. God Bless brother
This is why I subscribe. Appreciate you taking us along the journey. Prayers 🙏🏾 up for you both. I prayer December starts to bring you moments of joy and life. And no longer death. 😇
I respect this woman for admitting she has things to deal with instead of getting into a relationship knowing she wasn't ready and breaking him because she's broken. I wish more people would have that level of honesty and self awareness.
God still has a plan for your life.Healing,Tears,Is Another Process.Yes it hurts.There is a lesson.God Will reveal.She was very respectful to confirm that it wouldn't be fair.She has a lot going on in Her Life.She couldn't give you her love 💯.when deep down she's wounded.Thanks for sharing.She love you enough to be Honest.🙏
I respect her for being honest but also she should have not got as close as she did if she was not sure she should have said something way before he got In Too Deep with her it's unfair considering the fact that she know what he's looking for and been through as well as her
Take aways: Heal from a heart break . 💔 Do not self medicate with another man/woman. Keep your heart and hands clean . Do the work ❤. Do not give up or walk in shame . God will give you better than what you lost 🙏🏽💍❤️
Laterras YOU ARE AMAZING! This is the realest most rawest video on the internet!!! Your vulnerability will set precedent for the remainder of the year. How you spoke your truth whilst being careful to praise and uphold her integrity is truly fascinating. Gods plan is still unfolding, you may be confused but He is not. Love always friend ❤️
I'm so sorry for your hurt, but sometimes life is so hard. Know this if it's meant to be it will. Do give up God has you just know God doesn't make mistakes. Good Bless You!!
These are the podcasts we need from men. To really understand their heart,vulnerability, and compassion for love. Not once did you project negativity towards her and you are commended for that alone! May your heart heal and be restored✝️❤️
No ma'am....Podcast like this need to be kept private! It's not our business to know! This man is HURTING! Now why would it be any concern of yours? Do you think he's gonna personally call you & explain in detail what really happened w/this woman? #I'llWait #BeingNosy2023
This statement really hit me and put in perspective my own journey knowing when the door has been closed I’ve walked away, questioning myself if I really cared but the pain and healing process answers. When King David son died it was only then when he washed and ate food. This is a God given truth
Bro I’ve only recently started watching your podcasts and sharing them with my close circle of brothers, I’ve laughed so much and had so many debates but this one…….. this one was the truth bro, resonated with me so deep. You wear your heart on your sleeve and are so transparent. Thankyou for being so vulnerable but please remember as the psalms say, guard your heart. Blessings.
I experienced this. I saw the guy in a dream before I even met him. We were so in sync but he had things in him that he had not addressed. I learned that there is no One... Only the obedient. Everyone has free will. Some folks can choose to walk into destiny or walk away from it. But God is going to make sure His will is done in the earth. My ❤ was broken when this happened to me. But him saying he didn't feel like he was the one helped me to break that tie so that months later when God sent someone who did want me and sought God for someone like me I was free to love. 10 yrs later we are still married.
Only the obedient…a lesson that I’ve learned for sure. Just like someone can walk away from a calling; the same way we can ignore the inkling to check on someone…that same free will…we can turn away from the good thing God presents. I’m convinced that many fit the bill. It’s a matter of who’s willing to step up to the opportunity. It hurts. But there is no shame in loving someone and being willing to take the journey.
Please be encouraged! My testimony is similar... I prayed about a relationship and everything pointed to this person. Then he suddenly chose to walk away. God used that heartbreak to prepare me for my husband. I was so hurt, but God spoke to me and told me to stop crying and get up. I was obedient and I started putting myself our there again. Two months later, my husband found me and we got married within 6 months of meeting each other. We just celebrated our one year anniversary and its so much more than I could have imagined godly love would be! This podcast was a major part of my journey to finding love and preparing myself for marriage. If he can do it for me, I am believing the same thing for you!
I appreciate your vulnerability. I’ve never thought about what heartbreak looks like from a man’s point of view. In protecting my own heart, I’ve never considered how walking away affected the other person. My thought process lead me to believe “He’s a man. He doesn’t care. He’ll be fine.” This video is an eye-opener. Thank you. 🙏🏽
I believe she was truly scared. We self-sabotage so much that we truly push away someone who had the best intentions for us. I pray she receives the healing and peace she truly desires. Thank you for being transperent.
This hit me. Because almost 10 years ago my now husband came along and was trying to pursue me and although I felt safe and heard the Lord. I was terrified. I was a victim of complex trauma. And I had not dated for 10 years as I went through healing. So as he pursued I backed out of it 5 times saying, “ I’m not sure if this is God… I don’t have peace”. In actuality I was so afraid. I felt 100% sure Jesus would not hurt me but of course this man was not Jesus and I was scared. He was so patient and gentle although secretly wondering if I was crazy.😂😂 He prayed for my heart and finally the Lord spoke firmly to me about him. And now we are approaching our 8th wedding anniversary. So, my brother I pray for you. You never know how the Lord will unfold your story. I am truly sorry for your heart break. I hope this young lady receives the healing she needs and that self sabotaging will not be her portion. Be bless. Healing in all situations. You will not be disappointed with the goodness the Lord has.
joi226….. I know exactly what you are talking about. Complex trauma is affecting so many of us and we don’t know it and can’t see our own patterns. I don’t know if you are familiar with attachment styles, but she gave so many signals of being a fearful avoidant….self sabotage all over the place. Unfortunately, she has to do the work , but the more he pursues, the more she will pull back.
That man hasn't approached me but I just read me in you with haven't dated in years! I have done the work on myself, raised my son and continuing my education. All I can say is, they are very few out here. I am open and have no hard feeling towards anyone, I just want to make sure, it's a life time. Congratulations to you for allowing him to come in.
Hey Laterras! I had my first heartbreak last year. I was confused, angry, hurt, sad, thought about seeking revenge etc.. During that heartbreak season (because it is a season that will pass) I binged watched your videos. Your videos gave me hope and motivated me to keep going. So I want to return the favor and tell you to keep going. I'm excited for you! God healed and restored my heart. I know he will do the same for you. Psalm 147:3 "He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds."
After my last relationship ended a few months ago, but to be honest, I was the one that was in the relationship. I am healing from heartbreak and prayed to GOD to guide me because the other side of me wanted to tear some mess up. January 1st, I started to focus on me more than others, pray, confess to GOD, read, and so much more. This too shall pass because this lm year is OUR winning season!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️
He left me walked out and now he wants to come back he's very narcissistic. I have to learn how to let go let God and love myself I had to have such a low self-esteem to marry someone who can offer me that I forgive myself I forgive him and now like Humpty Dumpty I'm putting myself back together again with the help of my father the Lord amen.
Right after a major heartbreak, I met my husband. The love of my life. I was extremely confused and disheartened because I was closely following God and even had a prophetic dream. You will look at this video one day soon and realize just how much God loves and protects you as his beloved son. Chin up, shoulders back. Thanking God for your soon to be my brother!
Lateras my name is Ladina Whitfield, no we are not related. Your courage to expose this pain is healing a nation! Intentionality is not inclusively spirituality and rationality. You merely offered too much too soon to someone not ready to receive the wellspring flowing from within you and that is to jer credit to be honest she is not ready for you! Seeing your pain I cried with you as my prayer line role is on marriage and the sacredness of singleness. You are NOT LOST AT SEA, you are walking on water with the faith of God carrying you precious brother! He gave you the miracle of honesty! He has already blessed you in transparency even in your unwillingness to accept it! He sends you who you need not all the things you believed you wanted! You have too much to do to be distracted and deceived no matter how good the packaging and the presentation looks! You know what God want God wants for you and it is not to make it happen but allow it to happen! I pray for you and your healing and that deters your mission! Amen
"I start over as often as is necessary because I’m not starting from scratch, I’m starting from experience. From every experience, I grow healthier and mature."
If a woman has never experienced the kind of love and security that you provided for her, especially if she never received that from her father or a father figure during her childhood, it will feel extremely uncomfortable to her because it is foreign to her. Keep your head up. The gift of love and selflessness that you gave her will find its way back to you. My son went through this type of heartbreak recently. My heart goes out to you. God will see you through this.
"Joy comes in the morning". God is faithful. He has lots of beautiful daughters in daily worship and prayer to him. Trusting God for His ordained partner for them while celibate & growing in all areas of life. God has a beautiful, faithful daughter of Zion for you. Believe! Be healed in Jesus mighty name. 🙏 by 🔥 🙏 🙏 🙏
I am one of those women. It hurts him now but she did the right thing. It will save him for a woman who can reciprocate what he can give. I have been that woman who knew she wasn't healed and had to let a great man go so that he could find someone who could be his partner, not his patient.
Laterras, the intent behind your message is not in vain. This video...Wow! You are inspirational and you are courageous. You are exactly who the Father says you are. You are lovable, you are kind-hearted, you are a King, you are worthy, and you will connect with YOUR RIB in due season. All is not lost my dear brother. The Father is preparing a queen for His beloved son. Your QUEEN! Do not ever forget that you are the apple of His eye. The Father is concerned about all that concerns you and He hears your heart....He has heard your cry. All will be well. Your breakthrough is coming and you will be a great husband to your wife and she will compliment and be everything that you need her to be for you and you alone. Continue trusting and relying on Him as this process is necessary. It is not fun, but it is necessary. Take this time to heal, assess, heal, redirect, heal, connect, and pour into Laterras. I pray the right friends and family are available for you in this season whenever you need them. I pray they allow you space to get it all out and to just listen to your heart and allow a soft landing space for your pain. You have touched so many lives in a positive way and it is our time to hold you up my brother. My prayers are with you.
Yes! I am walking through a season as well, where God lead me to a point where I placed my hope in God and listened for his word and guidance and everything fell apart. I was getting confirmation and the loose strings started to show. I started to panic. I leaned my full weight on God and it collapsed underneath me. I was soo hurt and terrified of listening and maybe hearing the wrong thing. God is in the mist of everything. He showed me that following him will not lead to our ideal outcome, but his ideal outcome. ❤
As I was looking at your transparency, it hit me. *He's reaping". Remember, the Bible says whatsoever a man sow, THAT is what he will reap. You had to reap from what you did to women in the past. God allowed you to experience the hurt you caused others so that you won't make the same mistake when the real one comes...bc you now know what it feels like! I know you gave your all to the woman you felt was "The One", but God will show you, in due time, that the next one???? Will be a love like no other!!!! She will embrace it, nurture and cherish it just as much as you do!! The next one? She will see you as a gift that God has allowed her to unwrap DAILY instead of thinking that you are too good to be true. Trust God and your process. She's out there. You just haven't found her yet. 🙏🏾 Be blessed ❤️
“May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of a lover.” -that part. I’m so sorry for your heartbreak. Heartbreak almost took me OUT!! But honestly…she sounds like she would be an amazing friend! We will keep hope alive. You are an EXCEPTION to all the relationship games. Press on King. We love you.
God knows more than you know. The bible tells us in : Psalm 34:18-NIV “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Please don't let this change you. God will heal your heart and these tears will turn into tears of joy one day. I will keep you in my prayers and God bless you.!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I have NEVER heard a man be this transparent about healing. I've listened to this all day. The authenticity of this was so real. I felt every single word. I'm currently experiencing a divorce and it's like DEATH...I'm not sure how to UN-LOVE someone but I'm trusting God on this one!! Thank you so much although it was tough to watch!!!!! But it's helped me. Be well and may God continue to heal your beautiful heart.🙌🏾❤
Praying for your healing. Divorce is like a death. Speaking from self experience. With God, a great therapist and a loving family, I made it through. 🙏💞
Be assured - divorce IS Death… of a dream, vision, hope and a future. BUT AbbaYah proves Himself faithful to Jeremiah 29:11-13a!! It is at the darkest times that He makes and FULFILLS the greatest promises! He will be found by us as we seek Him with our whole hearts!!! Be assured @Dear Future Wifey - you too!
"I will heal, I will deal ,and God will be revealed." I felt that. I am matching my faith with your faith Laterras for your healing and love in God's will.
For me, It was when you told the enemy thru your tears that no matter what you would NOT settle for a woman who was not a kingdom woman. That was powerful and you made me make up my mind that I wouldn't settle for less than what I've been asking the Lord for either. Thank you Laterras! This won't last forever. Like the song says trouble don't last always. Thank you that even though you're hurting others are being healed, helped and set free through your testimony and transparency.
I know this podcast was recorded over a year ago, but today is my first time seeing it. As I am watching this I am reliving instances of my life in which I thought I was so sure of the will of God for my life, and where I gave it my all with all my intention thinking that all I had to do was that, be intentional, and all the other pieces would fall into place... But God just keeps taking our lives to higher and higher levels. For every heart break I have learned that God is still God, and that love is still love and nothing can separate us from the love of God that is through Christ Jesus. "After you've done all you can, you just stand" (I also cried out this song to God so many times... but the season of beauty for ashes has come). Thank you for sharing your heart, the grain of wheat does not bear fruit until it has died. Your pain then has blessed so many lives, and it is blessing my life now as well. Stay strong, your time is coming!
So many of us men needed to see this. I am sorry you are hurting and pray for your peace and strength. WE STAND WITH YOU IN FAITH AND PRAYER. I am also dealing with the heartbreak of how my 2 year relationship just ended. You gave me blueprint to help 'deal'. So, thank you brother. Simply, thank you and I pray healing and strength for your wounded heart.
I never knew a man had feelings, the way a man treats a woman sometimes in a marriage r relationship, terrible. U r a blessing from God!! U had me crying!!
Wow. Let this be a lesson for us to do our work in our single season! God forbid we meet one fashioned for us and have to forfeit it because we haven’t done the work 🙏🏽 Praying for you Laterras ❤
I agree .. I also feel no one should start dating or enter courtship until that have gone through a sanctification period with the Lord. Then and only then can situations like this be avoided because you already k now where you stand in receiving what God has for you . And many times, we know early on if the person is “ it” or not. Both parties have to agree. This was a sobering moment for all of us
Unfortunately lack of personal healing can present as self sabotage. Her transparency is gold. May we all build and grow in transparency and accountability in our relationships.
Hey Laterras, I know how you feel. My husband asked me to let him go back in 2008 so he could do the inner work. I am so glad I let him go because I know for sure he is all in now and have healed. God brought us back together and we got married in 2021 in Hawaii.
As a brother in Christ, this truly broke my heart and brought me to tears. Thank you for your transparency and being true to your words. I will pray for you and look forward to celebrating that wedding when God reveals the ONE. Many blessings upon you and much love.
I've been told that there's always a counterfeit that comes before the real comes. God showed you the best is yet to come. Prayers and comfort during this time🥰
When Pastor Eben prayed in the intro. Your wife is being preserved for you, brought tears to my eyes. I prayed to God and ask him why is it taking so long to bring my mate into my life, I can't do anything, no dating, no DM's nothing...now I know why God is preserving me for my husband.❤ I feel so much better.
Another breakthrough is coming, Laterras!!! Also, note that healing is on-going. Healing takes time, but it shouldn't hinder you from still loving. God has you covered, and He will restore. Thank you for being vulnerable with us. This episode was needed.
Latteras I totally get it sir. So to be honest with you I love hard as well and right now I am afraid of going into another relationship because of the letdown myself. Thank you for being so transparent as a man🤗💙💙💙🚶🏾♂️🚶🏾♂️ Gods got you and me... Happy blessed New Year 2023...
Laterras, watching this broke me… My heart so hurts for you.. I am one of the ones who has literally given up hope. Birthday was Dec 30th, turned 49, never married, no children.. I’ve had several false starts from ghosting, talking stages, “I don’t know what I want” etc…. it’s too much… But watching this episode gave me a boost to not give up…Your plea and prayer to God was so sincere and heartfelt.. I know he is setting you up for the greatest love story ever.. I can’t wait to see what unfolds for your future. You will be saying “God Remembered” ❤🙌🏾🙏🏿
AMEN!! I agree with you sis. Again, let’s see what the Lord will do in both your situation & Laterras’. Our God knows how to orchestrate “suddenly” blessings! I’m looking forward to hearing about yours and Laterras’. It ain’t over! God’s got you both. Amen.🙏🏾
@nadjahdabney6737 right there with u sis...will be 45 in a couple weeks, never married, no kids and only failed r'ships. I always take time to heal after r'ships, but it does get harder to hold out hope for love the older we get. I'll continue to do the work on me and trust God. So hang in there!
I'm just watching this. God has a plan. He wanted you to pause for "this" to help someone else. But you got this! You earned the badge, now go forth. He is preparing her😊
At least she told you she wasn’t ready and that shows how much she cares for you. As corny as it sounds, rejection really is protection. God knows what you need and he saw and heard things you couldn’t. Sorry for your losses. Thank you for your transparency.
So true! Not corny at all! I am grateful for the things that I just knew that I needed, begged for, and nearly cursed God for not giving me! To be stuck with those things.... phew. I've had to dig myself out of some things that were not aligned with my purpose and God's plan for me.
This broke my heart. It's rough out here. Finding love and someone to have a healthy marriage with almost seems impossible nowadays. I appreciate Laterras for being vulnerable and sharing his life experiences with the world. Laterras is a great guy and would be a great husband to a blessed woman. I pray that this period of heartbreak doesn't last long and God sends him the right wifey when he has healed from this.
Laterras, thank you for baring your scars so that others may heal. My prayer for you is that the Lord changes your memory of the month of December, and it will become your most favorite time of the year. 🙏🏾 May your December 2023 be “THE ONE” to remember! ❤️
I'm not sure why I happened to come across this episode now. But it spoke to me!! After just 4yrs of marriage, I'm getting divorced. I'm broken, bitter, angry, & confused. I cant help but feel unheard, misunderstood &, abandoned, without the ability to figure out how to go about healing to mend this brokeness. When Laterras said "it feels empty to be seen by millions if you're not seen by the one" crushed me! "It won't always be like this" gives me hope! I love this podcast!!
This is the most beautiful display of a human man reaching out to our God for a miracle. You’ll never know how much this video helped me as I’m sure it is helping others. Thank you for this message even though it was painful and raw. We “stand” with you in community holding you through this moment of heartbreak. Let those tears flow; they are your healing rain. We humbly dry them with you in this sacred space. ❤🙏
As an empath, this was so heavy. I was almost in tears. I had to take breaks. I will pray for the healing of both of you. She may have been right to step away. Before I began my healing 2022, I was a completely different person. I used 2022 to be with myself, go to therapy, be with my loved ones. I was at my lowest at one point. It would have been wrong of me to date someone. It's actually possible that you may not be compatible with her healed self. Out of the 4 men I have dated in previous years, current me would have only dated maybe 1 of them. But I learned alot about myself and what I need in a partner from each one. In time, the lesson will reveal itself. Unfortunately, everyone that comes into our lives isn't meant to be forever. God may have used you to help her start her healing journey and to show her what true love looks like. Though you are rightfully sad at this loss, this was a blessing. God's timing is everything. You will once again meet a woman that God calls you to pursue and she will not run. God will affirm it for her too and she will present. I've been there. Felt in love for the first time ever. Only took 3 months, but I later realized it was out of order from the beginning. I felt such a great emotional and spiritual connection, but that was not enough. He had to see it too. He was not pursuing and it was as if I was persuading. He finally told me God told him no. I was devastated, but I quickly thanked God because I now had an answer. I told God that I would do it right next time and pray for discernment along the way. I deserve to be loved like Christ loved His church...by a man that sees me as his wife. In the process, I have recommitted myself to learning the Word and investing in my own self care and goals (healing traumas, mental/physical health, my physical appearance, career, etc). In the last few months alone, I have never been approached by this many men in my life. I haven't even used an app in 1.5 yrs. So take the lesson for what it is. God's time is the right time. Your good thing is out there. I actually say a prayer for my future husband a few times a week. Among other things, I pray for his health, any healing he may need, his relationship with God, success (whatever that means to him), and that he is growing wiser and more humble every day to be able to lead himself and our future family. Hopefully, the next wonderful woman you meet will be an answer to that prayer. Blessings to you. 🙏
I empathize with you I'm right there with you and your love you love hard I know all to well this feeling of brokenness it will take time to heal and I get it how many times do u have to go through this type of pain that was my question to God but he God knows all things lean NOT UNTO OUR OWN UNDERSTANDING thats my goto because I had so so many questions for God but he knows whats Wright 4 US he's a right on time God !! Man of God i can only tell u from experience let go and let God we all grieve different buts thats my advice love in Jesus mighty holy Name and Thank you for putting yourself out there my tears for you that you'll heal healthy and whole heartedly so with that said keep God in the center and you will get through it my brother just hold fast steadfast in Jesus mighty holy name amen 🙏 💔😪🤗🌻🍩☕🦞🍷🍰🍿🍦😴😴
Sis! Your comment was profound and full of wisdom. I will add nothing and couldn't have said it better. I have had a very similar situation as you speak about and there is nothing like God's leading and his timing. I've learned that his "No" is not my punishment but my peace and his PROTECTION. His time is never late. Thank you for the encouragement not just for our bro here....this also encouraged me. 💓
Tears are cleansing, Laterras. Thank you for sharing your heartbreak even though you weren't feeling up to it. Your followers love you. We stand with you. ❤️
Please know and believe that you are worth the wait. True and real love will find you and don’t you dare push it away because of what has happened in the past. Be cautious, but just enjoy life. Rename December. You’re more than a conqueror. Prayers for you…Jer 29:11. Ish 61:3. NEVER SUBMIT and NO SHAME!!! God ALWAYS gets the GLORY!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 38:21
You are an amazing King, man of God, Laterras!! Hang in there, your wife is coming in due time. Once you stop thinking about the ultimate goal, she will practically drop in your lap, I believe. 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️🙌🏽
This is the definition of strenghth. Thanks for being vulnerable with us. Nothing catches God by surprise. He has Got you covered and we will witness a turnaround. Your podcasts never disappoint.
Praying for you both. You loved her well. In return, it led her to seek out healing so that there would be reciprocity. This love story only confirms for me that we want love, but many of us don't know how to receive true authentic love. It just goes to show how powerful love really is. God's blessings on you both and prayerfully God can reconnect you when it's right for the both of you. Stay strong - God's got you 🙏🏾❤💙
"Keep your hands and heart clean." This was the perfect advice given to you Laterras. I'm praying for both of your hearts 💕. I respect this young lady because she recognized that she could harm your emotions and heart. But that was love! I pray for this young lady's healing so that she doesn't miss any blessings in hee life. I also felt your heart Laterras. I praying that you feel all of the pain at once so that you can overcome. As this young lady stated, if you 2 were meant to be, then GOD will bring you 2 back together. Only after healing takes place from both. I still felt that you experienced a miracle because you said that the LORD spoke to both of your hearts concerning one another, affirming what you both have prayed for. That is a blessing to have experienced. Not many can say that they have. You both are in my prayers. Keep on loving Laterras!
Laterras, I lift you up in prayer right now🙏🏻. I truly feel as you were sharing this that this heartbreak may not be solely about your pain but for the growth in the partner you were dating. Praise God that you were able to show her that there are good men out there, you’ve helped her get one step closer to her healing! And God used you in this way because he knew the pain you could bear and the next door that opens up will be so unexpected and on time that your praise report is going to break the internet!!! I thank you for sharing your vulnerability & your ministry didn’t just heal her but it’s helping us all heal too. May God bless you, may God continue to smile on you, and may he continue to open a window to pour out blessings in your life.
Yes, yes, yes... what perspective! We weep with Laterras today, but later we will all rejoice when he presents his purpose partner to the world. The pain and heartache he is experiencing today will then be overshadowed by a joy unspeakable - his due recompense. Also, after having watched this episode, I can’t help but be reminded of ROMANS 8:28 - And we know that ALL THINGS WORK TOGETHER FOR GOOD to them who are the called according to His purpose. Laterras, I pray this experience leads to an increase of wisdom and understanding that will position you to be a greater blessing to those whom you minister to - it is not for naught. 🙏🏼
“It won't always be like this He will perfect that concerning me And sooner or later, it will turn in my favour Sooner or later, turn in my favour It's turning around for me” A song I’ve held onto that I hope resonates 💛
I experienced the exact same thing this December. He broke things off on Christmas day for the same reason. Too good to be true. Man how I cried but I realized really quickly that God's planning for what he wanted me to experience in that relationship wasn't happening. He spoke to me about this man, about this year and I did my own thing any way. I really thought he was/is my person. Praying for your healing because I know exactly what you're feeling.
This is how your podcast is so impactful. Listening all the way from Burundi 🇧🇮. You might even not recognize the country. Burundi, the Heart of Africa. But to make it easy, the drums that were played in wakanda forever, bingo.
One thing I took away from this, as I am also in the midst of a “breakup”/divorce, is we have to stop playing spouse for people who aren’t our spouse. We can’t save someone from their work nor can we force them through it. We often times try to attach ourselves to mess thinking we can make it better. When sometimes loving that person despite is just PART of the journey i yet we make it the final destination. It is hard in the midst to see it as a blessing. But it truly is. It shows you that you have the capacity to love. But it also shows where you can still mature. Thank God she was mature enough to stop it in its tracks. I wish I had spoken up before marriage when I didn’t have peace. Yet he was persistent about it being God ordained and everyone else supported it; so I took that as what I was feeling must not be factual. It was! God was trying to protect me and I blatantly ignored him. Maybe that’s not what’s happening here. Maybe this will just be a part of y’all’s love story. Or maybe God has EVEN BETTER than you perceived as his best work. Keep praying and seeking Him and doing what he tells you to do. And stay accountable to someone.
This happened to my wonderful son, the woman, because of her past traumas, she could not believe he was such a wonderful guy. She kept expecting the other shoe to drop. She finally ran him off because she felt he was too good to be true. My heart hurt for her. I wish she knew how it feels to be loved by a really good man.
This episode made me tell my husband of almost 20 years I’m sorry for every hurtful thing I ever did to him and I would never hurt him again! “Men hurt”
The most challenging thing an artist can achieve is a self portrait. That’s because of the natural urge to edit what we see into what we want to see. Thank you for sharing so many of your “self-portraits”.
Dear Bro. Laterras, I'm one of those sisters in her mid-fifties. I'm crying with you, too. Your ministry has given me hope on my love journey, even now! As you've encouraged me, I encourage you NOW to keep your eyes on Jesus. Continue to cast your cares on Him. Continue to trust Him with your tears! You’re on the right path, and you're helping so many to see Jesus on their love journeys, too! THANK YOU!
So touched by your sincerety. It has been 25 Years since my heart was crushed on the passing of my husband. I could only trust God to be my husband because I was /am afraid to go through such grief again. My journey was not an easy one, but My God provides my daily needs. I have not looked for or had any other partner. I pray that God grant you your heart"s desire in His perfect time.
I wished I had prayed my way through my heart break. Instead, I did the opposite and i regretted it. I went on shut down, shut out, almost lost my job for missing to many days. I stop going to church because I was very active in church. I was over the youth department, writing plays and skits. I taught Sunday school, Bible Study for teens when I (thought) I heard God say, this was my husband. I was mad at myself that I allowed this man in my life. That was 6 years ago. Praise God I made it with the help of God and therapy. I forgave myself and him and hallelujah I am headed. God told me I would have made him my God because I’m a giver and he would have took my love from him because i wanted so bad. I actually understood that. I know now that if that is not the person God has for me and I am not listening, he will make the pain greater now before we make the wrong decision and regret it later. Love your podcast. I’m new and I stay up late watching and learning. Playing catch up. God bless you and God has someone for us and it won’t hurt. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 I thank God that he did not give up on me and excepted me back with open arms. I tell my testimony in church and to anyone who will listen. The break up was to help me not to hurt me.
"I can deal with the wishy-washyness...but if you ever say that I'm not the one, I have nothing to fight for." 22:05 Whew! That sat right there in my ribcage. Praying for you, brother.
Just know that she was brave enough to let you go. So many of us hold on to people when we know we are not ready. She didn’t want to waste your time, your patience or your love. This is emotional maturity/intelligence in the flesh. It is hard, but thank God for your experience with her. Remember, pain signifies a breakthrough. You are getting closer to what God has for you. I will pray for both of you.
It’s one thing to walk away from a relationship, but walking away when you know that you have God’s voice and tell you who that person is supposed to be to you. That’s so hard. Doing it now and I literally all you can do is ask that at the end God’s will be done. Thank you for this level or transparency. Inspirational and healing at the same time. We cry with you. 🙏🏾🖤
This is was story of my marriage of 10 years. He turned and told me "I know I am suppose to be with you and your my wife but I no longer want it".4 years later I still dont understand but Im trying to keep my faith and push forward its hard though because I cant understand how God gives you something and takes it away like he did. I guess we all have CHOICES and FREE WILL so I understand the pain in this video but I NEVER want to feel it again.
@@ericadancer8846 sooo sorry. praying with and for you for immediate reconciliation OR release, peace, and the Ephesians 3:20 replacement. In Jesus Name. Amen 🙏🏾 ❤
Im in this situation too and it's so hard. Me and this man went to University together and in Jan 2021 God revealed to me in a fast who my husband was. I know that it was God. But here I am and we are not together because i will not chase or pursue. He is inconsistent and to be quite frankly honest he still exploring. In the meantime I am pursuing my career and doing my best to love myself with my own love languages as a single woman and drawing closer to God. He calls every now and then to check up on me but im praying that he has his own revelation. Still Here Waiting on God. To Erica Dancer point - free will and choice are real things and we need to be accepting that he may choose a life and wife outside of me and im humble enough to accept that that could be my fate but I know what God told me .
09.09.2024, I sit today watching this episode and I am sitting with the same pain. I am grieving! it is painful. The thought of putting yourself back into the world, the fear and doing that one again, frightens me too! I am heart broken. it's hard. it's so hard, and you talk to God but my oh my, it's painful! I watched the episode of RC Blakes and His wife last night, and one thing I have learnt is to lean onto God and just let this go and find peace in God...Loving someone is special but nothing you can do when that person walks away to unlearn some issues.. Sometimes I wonder if I shouldn't have given him my all, if I was stupid to love the way I did.. wow.. thank you Laterras.. Thank you for sharing this..
Imagine what’s to come from the seeds you’ve sown. Take your time grieving and healing. Thank you for opening your heart and being so vulnerable. It’s not easy. It’s so courageous of you. Love you, Laterras.
Hi Mr Witfield the same God who has given you the ability to do these Podcast will give you the strength to overcome. If she is the one she will come back, trust God He will give you the strength to go on, Remember the story of Abraham and his wife Sarah and Isaac. Go promise them a soñ Isaac. They have their son after waiting for twenty five years. Hold on God is still in charge of your life.
Its 4am in South Africa, i ran out of sleep, having discovered something a few hours ago heartbreaking as well, i came on TH-cam & saw this episode. Praying for His comfort, healing & peace for you both. What God has been teaching me is the heartbreak we experience at present is protection from greater pain & damage down the road we might not be aware of. Sometimes it’s redirection, sometimes its a shift of focus for the season, sometimes it’s putting Isaac on the altar, sometimes its Ismael showing up before the promise Isaac. We live life looking forward but understand it looking backwards, we might not understand today but we know all thing work together for our good, even this. We see the corner but our Shepherd sees around the corner, we see the mountain & He sees around the mountain. Yes He speaks to us & confirms His Word, but also people make their choices (that mustn’t lead us to think we heard God wrong, the person just made their own choice). We pray above all things that you will prosper, be in health even as your soul prospers. We cover you, your loved ones & everything concerning you with the blood of Jesus. He is faithful, the good work He started in you He will complete.
I’ve had a similar experience from years ago. God blessed me with my current husband about 3 years later. God is good at giving us double for our trouble. May He do it again for you. The best is yet to come Bro. Laterras!!🙌🏾
It’s really brave of you Laterras to still want to experience love after a heartbreak. Thank you for being transparent with us. She’s definitely out there and God will lead you to her
"It feels empty to be seen by millions and not by the one!" I felt that and so how true it is. Blessings and and favor Man of God. Thank you for your transparency, and it continues to lead you to transformation #Growth 💙
I’ve been watching this for 2 days and my heart is overwhelmed with your sincerity, transparency and vulnerability. May the heal you, cover you and keep you
I was where you are 17 years ago. I wanted a relationship but the guy didn’t so it ended. Months later God made me aware of who I would marry. Scary thing is I married my best friend not knowing he was who God wanted for me the whole time. ❤ 15years and we still going strong! Jesus is faithful even if what he has doesn’t line up with what we want. 💕
It's so crazy that I stumbled across this episode today. On the very day that you recorded this podcast, I too was sitting in the seat of heartbreak and devastation. I'd met who I just knew was God's promise to me after widowhood. All for me to be left to grieve yet again. The free will of others can sometimes knock all of the wind out of our sail....but one thing I do know is that God will make good on His promises towards me. And I'm praying that He will do the same for you.
Why do relationships have to be so difficult?! Ugh. Heartbreak is so real. God bless your ability to verbally express your feelings so well, to help others. Prayers for healing.
Laterras, this was the bravest thing I've ever seen. Thank you for your transparency and realness. You are helping people more than you could ever know.
The strength it took for you to share your heartbreak was a God move. The intention in your words to share your thoughts and what occurred served as a reminder for me, and I am sure others, what love entails. Praying with you as you heal. Brother, we see you and will keep you lifted. ❤
Latteras,ummm,Sir, LEAVE IT alone. God can handle it better than you can, leave it alone! Period. Sir, she has told you on numerous occasions that you are NOT the one, so, BELIEVE her! Don't keep poking the bear and mess around and get sick, lose faith in God or the hope in mankind OR develop a "new" contious. Your contious is your connection but when you just will not hear it ten God has no choice but to let you learn the hard way. That is so hard when you have so much to give and receive. She asked you in the beginning about your videos that had gone viral, so clearly there is something that spiked her interest to outdo that video and what better way to do it but hit you where it hurt and that is your ❤️. The core of this show is YOUR heart, love, peace. You desire to give your whole heart to someone, to have love and to have peace and stability; however, you have to listen! You have to acknowledge in all your ways and thoughts and he will give you the desires of your heart. Please don't lean to your own understanding but trust the process! You didn't come this far JUST to get this far. Hold on sweet angel, GOD can handle it better than you can just leave it alone! PERIOD.
Omg I never seen a man cry . This is such an eye opener for women to see that men have feelings to and they hurt also . Thank you for your transparency and being totally open you don't know how you just healed thousands in the midst of your own suffering
I still believe she’s the one just have to heal from her past hurts but I love that you are so transparent just making me cry 😢 never heard a man talk about their pain before. Much respect and God bless you 💜
I also believe she is the one, maybe the timing is not right due to the healing she has to go through. If she truly is the one, I pray that God brings them back together.
I completely agree! Laterras, I DO believe she is the one; it's just that she is not ready. My prayer is that God will quicken her healing, open her eyes and reconnect you. God is not a man that he should lie nor a son of man that He should repent. God is sovereign, and He can be trusted.
Man I went through a similar situation for about 2 months too here recently. Thought I had found the ONE I've been looking for. We actually met on a Christian Dating app. I was in love and it happened so quickly because I knew what I was looking for. When you said she told you things you had never heard before, this woman did the same to me. She prayed for and encouraged me every day and I did the same for her. She knew the word of God, she was in ministry, she was Spirit filled, so caring, loving, respectful, beautiful inside and out. We talked for almost 2 months. But as I continued to pray about our relationship and really asking the Lord to please confirm to me if we should continue to move forward in the relationship I started losing my peace. I couldn't understand it because she seemed so right for me. I tried to disregard the absence of the peace of God but it only got worse. I couldn't sleep, would start feeling really bad with pains in my stomach and chest for no reason at all other than just thinking about us being together. The only thing that gave me peace was when I would think about how it just wasn't meant to be. That it wasn't God's perfect will for us to be together. The peace would flood my soul whenever I thought about it like that. Then and only then could I sleep at night because I knew that was the right decision. She was so hurt because her hopes were so high that I was the one she had been waiting on too. I loved her and sometimes I still long to talk to her but we both agreed that there was no way we could just be friends because our feelings were too strong for each other so we decided to part ways. It hurt so bad because I loved her and I knew she really loved me too. The Lord knows best and will never steer us wrong. If we trust Him and wait on Him He will do exceedingly abundantly above all we can ask or think. Her love and care for me really showed me that there is a woman out there who will be just what I'm looking for and be the ONE that God has for me. My heart was so broken but yet encouraged. I will wait on the Lord because He is good to those that wait on Him. Wait on the Lord my bro even when you don't understand because He knows the plans that He has for you and He knows who you need to help you fulfill those plans.
Blessings to you! Because of your Personal relationship with God, and you know His voice, you were obedient. I will say this, sometimes we want someone who we believe are meant for us, only to realize that the heart and head are not aligned. Thank God that you listened. He saved you from a lot of heart ache. Be encouraged.
Thank you for sharing, thank you for the clarification. Thank you for being real about life on earth and loving God. Finally i see that loving hard is a gift.
I cried when you cried. You’ve become a consistent part of my life. Each and every post and video are not missed and I pray for your heart to heal from this. If the eyes are the window to the soul then you just poured your soul out. And that’s completely okay. I love you Laterras and I only know you from your platform but it has been a blessing to watch you. I know EXACTLY what you’re feeling because the same thing happened to me 2 years ago. I didn’t want to ever love again but your episodes have given myself and many others hope. Don’t give up on your love journey. I’m definitely not giving up on mine. God bless you ❤
Your Wife Is ON THE WAY! God needed to prove YOU to YOU. He needed you to see how much you’ve changed, from your last marriage, and to be able to apply what you’ve learned. He allowed you to choose someone to commit to and be faithful with little, so that when Your Wife, that HE has chosen for you arrives, you will be prepared and have no doubt that you can truly be the husband that she deserves. Many Continued blessings to you and your future Mrs Whitfield.
I think one of the hardest things in life to deal with is what to do when your paths aren’t aligned (at that time). The realization that your plan is not his plan. For you, you’ve been doing an incredible amount of the right kind of work. While you may be willing to support her in her own personal journey, she (looking out for you) didn’t want you to carry that burden. Sometimes God tests our faith, here is your test on your healing journey. You got this! This is so powerful because people need to see how one maintains their purpose during heart break, a storm, etc. GOD IS WORKING FOR YOUR GOOD.
18:00 this resonates with a prayer I made a few years ago , that "Lord send me someone who will love me to heal me" I know God is our healer but I had the sense that some wounds we have will only be healed by the people who will love us right and vise versa
I used to be her who didn’t know how to recognize love. What it looks like or what it feels like. I am so glad I did my work and have healed from my brokenness. I know I still have work to do but I’m not there anymore. I pray for you sir for your health and your heart to heal. You are love and loved by many and this too shall pass. Thank you for your transparency. This episode hurts my heart deeply for you.
I don't know I feel like she's still the one but the timing is not perfect... I will say let it go if it's truly what God has for you it will come back to you... when the time is right
I can relate to you as well in your message. The act of actions in knowing expression of receiving and showing love. Some people doesn't deserve your time or love. Continue to let God lead you in knowing he will reveal the discernment of people heart.
@tonnica364 I’m trying to heal my brokenness too, one I’ll be on your level. I keep pushing great men away , because I don’t know what love ❤️ looks like. I’ve been a narcissistic relationship for 23 years damaged. It’s been since October 2019 and I’m hurting. You’re comment touch me on so many levels, and I want to be where you are spiritually , emotionally. Thank you 🙏🏾
@@chynadoll77cyn59 I have been abused and strangled to the brink of death…but God. Also been in a narcissist relationship too. Talk about learning to love myself, healing myself and feeling love. Oh how weird it felt almost strange as to where I questioned was the feeling real! I had to seek out therapy because I was truly broken and I promised myself I would not hurt anyone because I was hurt. Hurt people hurt people. I can now recognize when a man has not truly healed and I bow out gracefully. I refuse to go backwards. It may be painful but it’s better in the long run. The confidence that I have now is amazing. I pray all the best for you and that you learn to love yourself again. Love you sis!
@@lesegomlisane260 beloved, if I may, God doesn't operate like this. He will not allow His children to be in pain. Sometimes we miss the mark. I was in this same situation. She isn't the one. Man's rejection is God's protection.
The prophecy has already started to come true. The calling over the relationship is showing even in this moment. This is helping so many even though it is a “success” story. Unfortunately, sometimes we must experience pain to help our brothers and sisters along. Someone else may have processed this pain difference had they not seen this video. Thank you for sharing! God is not done yet. 🙏🏾❤️
I agree. Many times we say "I surrender my life to the Lord". Then he allows something to challenge our faith. Whew! I remember my heartbreaking 💔 However, Holy Spirit revealed that forgiveness is remembering without the pain. Today I'm not just healed but whole!
This podcast TOTALLY resonated with me. I'm a divorced 46 yo woman from a 21 year marriage. I got therapy and did my part in the healing process. To be honest, I feel like the healing is continual. However, I dated this guy for 3 months. He said and did ALL the right things. He even said that I was "the one." Unfortunately, after 3 months he completely changed his mind. I was heartbroken. Looking back, I'm so grateful.
I experienced a similar situation. I just knew this man was heaven sent. He accepted me for my flaws and he spoke to my soul in a way I never experienced. People saw us and could feel the love between us. I felt my presence brighten his spirit. I felt at peace with him. I was no longer afraid. Then one day he ended it. He says I did nothing wrong. He said I was perfect. I was his dream girl. I still haven’t recovered. I was so blindsided. You couldn’t tell me this man didn’t love me and that we wouldn’t be together forever. I don’t even feel like I can love again.
I feel for you Bro and took a lot of courage to air it out there like that. You helped me heal just by sharing your story. You are not alone in this. Be strong and don’t be afraid to try love again.
****Thank you for your kind words. I welcome edifying comments toward me but please refrain from any negative or disparaging statements about my recent love interest. She's a Godly woman and has the utmost character. It's because of her phenomenal character and heart to please God, that propelled her to make the difficult decision to release me. It was her love for me and the care she has for my heart that forced her to make the wise decision to let go and let God. She is healing from heartbreak as well. Any comments I find to be counterproductive to my journey will be deleted. Respectfully, Laterras.
Well said! Some people don’t understand spiritual things. Spiritual warfare is real. The adversary doesn’t want this God ordained union to happen. I know this way too personally.
Class act.
This is one thing I absolutely admire about you Letteras. Despite the heartache and pain you're going through you still have a heart of gold. Sometimes it could be bad timing when 2 people meet. What I do appreciate about your love interest is that she had the respect for you to be honest 💯 even if it hurts. Transparency is a good sign. Desception and confusion is not. You got some answers and no guessing on what ifs. Many people avoid conversations and ghost the other person which is more painful. If God want you two back together, it will happen. If not, there someone better fit for what you can provide and she can provide to you. I pray for you and her and get the healing 🙏🏾 ❤️ in your hearts to continue this journey of love.
There is an appointed time for all things. “God makes all things beautiful in it’s time” Ecc 3:11. “God is not man that he should lie” Num 23:19. You sought God, he spoke through the Holy Spirit. I hear what she is saying, but trust God. Trust what he spoke to you. Trust his timing and his perfect ways. God Bless brother
This is why I subscribe. Appreciate you taking us along the journey. Prayers 🙏🏾 up for you both. I prayer December starts to bring you moments of joy and life. And no longer death. 😇
I respect this woman for admitting she has things to deal with instead of getting into a relationship knowing she wasn't ready and breaking him because she's broken. I wish more people would have that level of honesty and self awareness.
God still has a plan for your life.Healing,Tears,Is Another Process.Yes it hurts.There is a lesson.God Will reveal.She was very respectful to confirm that it wouldn't be fair.She has a lot going on in Her Life.She couldn't give you her love 💯.when deep down she's wounded.Thanks for sharing.She love you enough to be Honest.🙏
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I do commend her for being honest, but a small part of me wishes she would have not even entered the relationship knowing she wasn't ready.
Maturity is the key to operating or encouraging someone to a better choice of healing restoration. Thank you, Lord for this process amen.
I respect her for being honest but also she should have not got as close as she did if she was not sure she should have said something way before he got In Too Deep with her it's unfair considering the fact that she know what he's looking for and been through as well as her
“It feels empty to be seen by millions but not seen by the one.” What a profound statement!
So true love the statement ❤
Exactly the same thing I said!💯💯💯 my eyes 👀 👀
L: you are going to be better for this.
Oh my God...this is heartfelt!! In desperation your people cry out to you...have your way, bring healing and peace ♥ 🙏
So true...
Take aways: Heal from a heart break . 💔 Do not self medicate with another man/woman. Keep your heart and hands clean . Do the work ❤. Do not give up or walk in shame . God will give you better than what you lost
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Laterras YOU ARE AMAZING! This is the realest most rawest video on the internet!!! Your vulnerability will set precedent for the remainder of the year. How you spoke your truth whilst being careful to praise and uphold her integrity is truly fascinating. Gods plan is still unfolding, you may be confused but He is not. Love always friend ❤️
I'm so sorry for your hurt, but sometimes life is so hard. Know this if it's meant to be it will. Do give up God has you just know God doesn't make mistakes. Good Bless You!!
What a beautiful response. “You May be confused but Hes not”. Wow.
These are the podcasts we need from men. To really understand their heart,vulnerability, and compassion for love. Not once did you project negativity towards her and you are commended for that alone! May your heart heal and be restored✝️❤️
No ma'am....Podcast like this need to be kept private! It's not our business to know! This man is HURTING! Now why would it be any concern of yours? Do you think he's gonna personally call you & explain in detail what really happened w/this woman? #I'llWait #BeingNosy2023
I agree!!! Seeing him cry was so healing to me. Can't remember the last time I saw a man this vulnerable 🙏
@ Chrissy yessss it's so refreshing and gives me a whole new perspective truly. I hope men/women see this and become intentional about their healing.
Classy Kingdom guy!!! May God lead you to the ONE.
"Men should pursue and not persuade and women should present and not pursue" This!!!!🙌
That was awesome 💌
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This!!❤❤❤
This statement really hit me and put in perspective my own journey knowing when the door has been closed I’ve walked away, questioning myself if I really cared but the pain and healing process answers. When King David son died it was only then when he washed and ate food. This is a God given truth
Bro I’ve only recently started watching your podcasts and sharing them with my close circle of brothers, I’ve laughed so much and had so many debates but this one…….. this one was the truth bro, resonated with me so deep. You wear your heart on your sleeve and are so transparent. Thankyou for being so vulnerable but please remember as the psalms say, guard your heart. Blessings.
I feel so lost. My fiancé left me after 4 years together, and I don’t know how to move forward. I just want him back.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I went through a similar heartbreak, and I know how unbearable it feels.
How did you deal with it? Did you ever get your partner back?
Yes, I did, with the help of a spiritual guide Father Akabu. He has a gift for restoring broken relationships.
Really? Do you think he can help me?
I’m sure he can. He’s helped so many people, including me. You can search for him online he’s very powerful and kind.
I experienced this. I saw the guy in a dream before I even met him. We were so in sync but he had things in him that he had not addressed. I learned that there is no One... Only the obedient. Everyone has free will. Some folks can choose to walk into destiny or walk away from it. But God is going to make sure His will is done in the earth. My ❤ was broken when this happened to me. But him saying he didn't feel like he was the one helped me to break that tie so that months later when God sent someone who did want me and sought God for someone like me I was free to love. 10 yrs later we are still married.
Glory!!!! ❤
Only the obedient…a lesson that I’ve learned for sure. Just like someone can walk away from a calling; the same way we can ignore the inkling to check on someone…that same free will…we can turn away from the good thing God presents. I’m convinced that many fit the bill. It’s a matter of who’s willing to step up to the opportunity. It hurts. But there is no shame in loving someone and being willing to take the journey.
So true!!
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Thank you!! Only the obedient!
Please be encouraged! My testimony is similar... I prayed about a relationship and everything pointed to this person. Then he suddenly chose to walk away. God used that heartbreak to prepare me for my husband. I was so hurt, but God spoke to me and told me to stop crying and get up. I was obedient and I started putting myself our there again. Two months later, my husband found me and we got married within 6 months of meeting each other. We just celebrated our one year anniversary and its so much more than I could have imagined godly love would be! This podcast was a major part of my journey to finding love and preparing myself for marriage. If he can do it for me, I am believing the same thing for you!
Im claiming this testimony!
Amen! I'm so happy for you! And Congratulations on your one year anniversary. That gives me hope.
Thank you for sharing your testimony Queen!!!
Congratulations Mrs!!!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💕
Thanks for sharing!
Congratulations Angela. This is so encouraging. Am going through a breakup. I tap to your kind of testimony ❤️🙏🏽
I appreciate your vulnerability. I’ve never thought about what heartbreak looks like from a man’s point of view. In protecting my own heart, I’ve never considered how walking away affected the other person. My thought process lead me to believe “He’s a man. He doesn’t care. He’ll be fine.” This video is an eye-opener. Thank you. 🙏🏽
I believe she was truly scared. We self-sabotage so much that we truly push away someone who had the best intentions for us. I pray she receives the healing and peace she truly desires. Thank you for being transperent.
This hit me. Because almost 10 years ago my now husband came along and was trying to pursue me and although I felt safe and heard the Lord. I was terrified. I was a victim of complex trauma. And I had not dated for 10 years as I went through healing. So as he pursued I backed out of it 5 times saying, “ I’m not sure if this is God… I don’t have peace”. In actuality I was so afraid. I felt 100% sure Jesus would not hurt me but of course this man was not Jesus and I was scared. He was so patient and gentle although secretly wondering if I was crazy.😂😂 He prayed for my heart and finally the Lord spoke firmly to me about him. And now we are approaching our 8th wedding anniversary. So, my brother I pray for you. You never know how the Lord will unfold your story. I am truly sorry for your heart break. I hope this young lady receives the healing she needs and that self sabotaging will not be her portion. Be bless. Healing in all situations. You will not be disappointed with the goodness the Lord has.
This is soooo beautiful. ❤ Congratulations to you as well! Wow! We serve an awesome GOD!🥰🙏🏾🥳
joi226….. I know exactly what you are talking about. Complex trauma is affecting so many of us and we don’t know it and can’t see our own patterns. I don’t know if you are familiar with attachment styles, but she gave so many signals of being a fearful avoidant….self sabotage all over the place. Unfortunately, she has to do the work , but the more he pursues, the more she will pull back.
That man hasn't approached me but I just read me in you with haven't dated in years! I have done the work on myself, raised my son and continuing my education. All I can say is, they are very few out here. I am open and have no hard feeling towards anyone, I just want to make sure, it's a life time. Congratulations to you for allowing him to come in.
Amen I am praying that if she is the one that God will turn it around and she gets the inner healing… I’m rooting for you. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
This sounds like what I’m dealing with right now in this moment. I’ve been blessed with this story. Thank you!
Hey Laterras! I had my first heartbreak last year. I was confused, angry, hurt, sad, thought about seeking revenge etc.. During that heartbreak season (because it is a season that will pass) I binged watched your videos. Your videos gave me hope and motivated me to keep going. So I want to return the favor and tell you to keep going. I'm excited for you! God healed and restored my heart. I know he will do the same for you. Psalm 147:3 "He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds."
I binged watched during my heart break as well
Me too! 15 years.... filing for the papers. ....
After my last relationship ended a few months ago, but to be honest, I was the one that was in the relationship. I am healing from heartbreak and prayed to GOD to guide me because the other side of me wanted to tear some mess up. January 1st, I started to focus on me more than others, pray, confess to GOD, read, and so much more. This too shall pass because this lm year is OUR winning season!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️
So sorry Papa. Sorry hang on tight. It will get better. So sorry
He left me walked out and now he wants to come back he's very narcissistic. I have to learn how to let go let God and love myself I had to have such a low self-esteem to marry someone who can offer me that I forgive myself I forgive him and now like Humpty Dumpty I'm putting myself back together again with the help of my father the Lord amen.
Right after a major heartbreak, I met my husband. The love of my life. I was extremely confused and disheartened because I was closely following God and even had a prophetic dream. You will look at this video one day soon and realize just how much God loves and protects you as his beloved son. Chin up, shoulders back. Thanking God for your soon to be my brother!
Thank you for sharing this. I pray he reads your post.❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing this!
Lateras my name is Ladina Whitfield, no we are not related. Your courage to expose this pain is healing a nation! Intentionality is not inclusively spirituality and rationality. You merely offered too much too soon to someone not ready to receive the wellspring flowing from within you and that is to jer credit to be honest she is not ready for you! Seeing your pain I cried with you as my prayer line role is on marriage and the sacredness of singleness. You are NOT LOST AT SEA, you are walking on water with the faith of God carrying you precious brother! He gave you the miracle of honesty! He has already blessed you in transparency even in your unwillingness to accept it! He sends you who you need not all the things you believed you wanted! You have too much to do to be distracted and deceived no matter how good the packaging and the presentation looks! You know what God want God wants for you and it is not to make it happen but allow it to happen! I pray for you and your healing and that deters your mission! Amen
"I start over as often as is necessary because I’m not starting from scratch, I’m starting from experience. From every experience, I grow healthier and mature."
If a woman has never experienced the kind of love and security that you provided for her, especially if she never received that from her father or a father figure during her childhood, it will feel extremely uncomfortable to her because it is foreign to her. Keep your head up. The gift of love and selflessness that you gave her will find its way back to you. My son went through this type of heartbreak recently. My heart goes out to you. God will see you through this.
"Joy comes in the morning". God is faithful. He has lots of beautiful daughters in daily worship and prayer to him. Trusting God for His ordained partner for them while celibate & growing in all areas of life. God has a beautiful, faithful daughter of Zion for you. Believe! Be healed in Jesus mighty name. 🙏 by 🔥 🙏 🙏 🙏
I am one of those women. It hurts him now but she did the right thing. It will save him for a woman who can reciprocate what he can give. I have been that woman who knew she wasn't healed and had to let a great man go so that he could find someone who could be his partner, not his patient.
If it is love, if it is yours, it will come back. No crying. Where is your faith. Keep busy
"I can fight for you but I won't persuade you" ~Laterras Whitefield
Do you know how many out there wish they had a God fearing man like you? Keep your head up king! 👑
Laterras, the intent behind your message is not in vain. This video...Wow! You are inspirational and you are courageous. You are exactly who the Father says you are. You are lovable, you are kind-hearted, you are a King, you are worthy, and you will connect with YOUR RIB in due season. All is not lost my dear brother. The Father is preparing a queen for His beloved son. Your QUEEN! Do not ever forget that you are the apple of His eye. The Father is concerned about all that concerns you and He hears your heart....He has heard your cry. All will be well. Your breakthrough is coming and you will be a great husband to your wife and she will compliment and be everything that you need her to be for you and you alone. Continue trusting and relying on Him as this process is necessary. It is not fun, but it is necessary. Take this time to heal, assess, heal, redirect, heal, connect, and pour into Laterras. I pray the right friends and family are available for you in this season whenever you need them. I pray they allow you space to get it all out and to just listen to your heart and allow a soft landing space for your pain. You have touched so many lives in a positive way and it is our time to hold you up my brother. My prayers are with you.
Yes! I am walking through a season as well, where God lead me to a point where I placed my hope in God and listened for his word and guidance and everything fell apart. I was getting confirmation and the loose strings started to show. I started to panic. I leaned my full weight on God and it collapsed underneath me. I was soo hurt and terrified of listening and maybe hearing the wrong thing. God is in the mist of everything. He showed me that following him will not lead to our ideal outcome, but his ideal outcome. ❤
As I was looking at your transparency, it hit me. *He's reaping". Remember, the Bible says whatsoever a man sow, THAT is what he will reap. You had to reap from what you did to women in the past. God allowed you to experience the hurt you caused others so that you won't make the same mistake when the real one comes...bc you now know what it feels like! I know you gave your all to the woman you felt was "The One", but God will show you, in due time, that the next one???? Will be a love like no other!!!! She will embrace it, nurture and cherish it just as much as you do!! The next one? She will see you as a gift that God has allowed her to unwrap DAILY instead of thinking that you are too good to be true. Trust God and your process. She's out there. You just haven't found her yet. 🙏🏾 Be blessed ❤️
I didn’t know men could ever feel this way. This video was eye opening and almost overwhelming. You are the real deal.
With JESUS all things are possible.🥰
“May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of a lover.” -that part. I’m so sorry for your heartbreak. Heartbreak almost took me OUT!! But honestly…she sounds like she would be an amazing friend! We will keep hope alive. You are an EXCEPTION to all the relationship games. Press on King. We love you.
God knows more than you know. The bible tells us in :
Psalm 34:18-NIV
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Please don't let this change you. God will heal your heart and these tears will turn into tears of joy one day. I will keep you in my prayers and God bless you.!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@raquisharockforgod9620 Thank You for that ! I needed that ❤
“I will heal, I will deal, and God will be revealed “ as I am recovering from a heartbreak, I needed to hear that. Thank you!!
I have NEVER heard a man be this transparent about healing. I've listened to this all day. The authenticity of this was so real. I felt every single word. I'm currently experiencing a divorce and it's like DEATH...I'm not sure how to UN-LOVE someone but I'm trusting God on this one!! Thank you so much although it was tough to watch!!!!! But it's helped me. Be well and may God continue to heal your beautiful heart.🙌🏾❤
Praying for your healing. Divorce is like a death. Speaking from self experience. With God, a great therapist and a loving family, I made it through. 🙏💞
Be assured - divorce IS Death… of a dream, vision, hope and a future.
BUT AbbaYah proves Himself faithful to Jeremiah 29:11-13a!! It is at the darkest times that He makes and FULFILLS the greatest promises! He will be found by us as we seek Him with our whole hearts!!!
Be assured @Dear Future Wifey - you too!
@@ellechance2344 Thank you for these kinds words and reminder.🙌🏾❤
@@cassandramcclenton8434 Thank you. It's been tough but God has NOT left me nor forsaken me.
Letting go takes God
"I will heal, I will deal ,and God will be revealed." I felt that. I am matching my faith with your faith Laterras for your healing and love in God's will.
I've never seen a man articulate his hurt so eloquently before. So raw. I don't ever want to contribute to a man's heart being broken. Thank You
Same here. Great comment Jackie.
For me, It was when you told the enemy thru your tears that no matter what you would NOT settle for a woman who was not a kingdom woman. That was powerful and you made me make up my mind that I wouldn't settle for less than what I've been asking the Lord for either. Thank you Laterras! This won't last forever. Like the song says trouble don't last always. Thank you that even though you're hurting others are being healed, helped and set free through your testimony and transparency.
Yasss! Because everything that settles ends up at the bottom.🙃
I am currently in the same boat brother. We’re going through this together. God will bring our queens in his perfect timing
Yes He Will
Sending yall hugs, heartbreak ain't no joke
"Empty to be seen by millions but not seen by the one"...my God, what a powerful message in itself🙏🙏🙏
I loved that 2 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Love this
Hallelujah to Jesus
God is working on you and for you
Blessings brother
I know this podcast was recorded over a year ago, but today is my first time seeing it. As I am watching this I am reliving instances of my life in which I thought I was so sure of the will of God for my life, and where I gave it my all with all my intention thinking that all I had to do was that, be intentional, and all the other pieces would fall into place... But God just keeps taking our lives to higher and higher levels. For every heart break I have learned that God is still God, and that love is still love and nothing can separate us from the love of God that is through Christ Jesus. "After you've done all you can, you just stand" (I also cried out this song to God so many times... but the season of beauty for ashes has come). Thank you for sharing your heart, the grain of wheat does not bear fruit until it has died. Your pain then has blessed so many lives, and it is blessing my life now as well. Stay strong, your time is coming!
So many of us men needed to see this. I am sorry you are hurting and pray for your peace and strength. WE STAND WITH YOU IN FAITH AND PRAYER. I am also dealing with the heartbreak of how my 2 year relationship just ended. You gave me blueprint to help 'deal'. So, thank you brother. Simply, thank you and I pray healing and strength for your wounded heart.
Proud of you, King! You got this.
I never knew a man had feelings, the way a man treats a woman sometimes in a marriage r relationship, terrible. U r a blessing from God!! U had me crying!!
Wow. Let this be a lesson for us to do our work in our single season! God forbid we meet one fashioned for us and have to forfeit it because we haven’t done the work 🙏🏽 Praying for you Laterras ❤
I agree .. I also feel no one should start dating or enter courtship until that have gone through a sanctification period with the Lord. Then and only then can situations like this be avoided because you already k now where you stand in receiving what God has for you . And many times, we know early on if the person is “ it” or not. Both parties have to agree. This was a sobering moment for all of us
So POWERFULLY said!!!! LOVE THIS, because it’s SO TRUE!
Powerful comment!!!!
You sais that
THIS comment was such FIRE for me!!!!! WOW!!!!
Your story is a great example of why it’s important to heal before dating. We must do the work!
Unfortunately lack of personal healing can present as self sabotage. Her transparency is gold. May we all build and grow in transparency and accountability in our relationships.
Hey Laterras, I know how you feel. My husband asked me to let him go back in 2008 so he could do the inner work. I am so glad I let him go because I know for sure he is all in now and have healed. God brought us back together and we got married in 2021 in Hawaii.
As a brother in Christ, this truly broke my heart and brought me to tears. Thank you for your transparency and being true to your words. I will pray for you and look forward to celebrating that wedding when God reveals the ONE. Many blessings upon you and much love.
I've been told that there's always a counterfeit that comes before the real comes. God showed you the best is yet to come. Prayers and comfort during this time🥰
Almost always. That’s so true.
When Pastor Eben prayed in the intro. Your wife is being preserved for you, brought tears to my eyes. I prayed to God and ask him why is it taking so long to bring my mate into my life, I can't do anything, no dating, no DM's nothing...now I know why God is preserving me for my husband.❤ I feel so much better.
Another breakthrough is coming, Laterras!!! Also, note that healing is on-going. Healing takes time, but it shouldn't hinder you from still loving. God has you covered, and He will restore.
Thank you for being vulnerable with us. This episode was needed.
Latteras I totally get it sir. So to be honest with you I love hard as well and right now I am afraid of going into another relationship because of the letdown myself. Thank you for being so transparent as a man🤗💙💙💙🚶🏾♂️🚶🏾♂️ Gods got you and me... Happy blessed New Year 2023...
Thank you for revealing your authentic experience and self to us. I respect your journey and transparency that you share with us...Thank you
Laterras, watching this broke me… My heart so hurts for you.. I am one of the ones who has literally given up hope. Birthday was Dec 30th, turned 49, never married, no children.. I’ve had several false starts from ghosting, talking stages, “I don’t know what I want” etc…. it’s too much… But watching this episode gave me a boost to not give up…Your plea and prayer to God was so sincere and heartfelt.. I know he is setting you up for the greatest love story ever.. I can’t wait to see what unfolds for your future. You will be saying “God Remembered” ❤🙌🏾🙏🏿
AMEN!! I agree with you sis. Again, let’s see what the Lord will do in both your situation & Laterras’. Our God knows how to orchestrate “suddenly” blessings! I’m looking forward to hearing about yours and Laterras’. It ain’t over! God’s got you both. Amen.🙏🏾
@nadjahdabney6737 right there with u sis...will be 45 in a couple weeks, never married, no kids and only failed r'ships. I always take time to heal after r'ships, but it does get harder to hold out hope for love the older we get. I'll continue to do the work on me and trust God. So hang in there!
And may you find yourself saying the same thing!
I'm just watching this. God has a plan. He wanted you to pause for "this" to help someone else. But you got this! You earned the badge, now go forth. He is preparing her😊
At least she told you she wasn’t ready and that shows how much she cares for you. As corny as it sounds, rejection really is protection. God knows what you need and he saw and heard things you couldn’t.
Sorry for your losses. Thank you for your transparency.
💯
Facts
Rejection is protection...I love it
Amen 🙏🏾 So true
So true! Not corny at all! I am grateful for the things that I just knew that I needed, begged for, and nearly cursed God for not giving me! To be stuck with those things.... phew. I've had to dig myself out of some things that were not aligned with my purpose and God's plan for me.
This broke my heart. It's rough out here. Finding love and someone to have a healthy marriage with almost seems impossible nowadays. I appreciate Laterras for being vulnerable and sharing his life experiences with the world. Laterras is a great guy and would be a great husband to a blessed woman. I pray that this period of heartbreak doesn't last long and God sends him the right wifey when he has healed from this.
Laterras, thank you for baring your scars so that others may heal. My prayer for you is that the Lord changes your memory of the month of December, and it will become your most favorite time of the year. 🙏🏾
May your December 2023 be “THE ONE” to remember! ❤️
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
HalleluYah
Yes, I touch and agree! Glory to God! ❤️❤️
LOVE IT
Amen!!!
I'm not sure why I happened to come across this episode now. But it spoke to me!!
After just 4yrs of marriage, I'm getting divorced.
I'm broken, bitter, angry, & confused. I cant help but feel unheard, misunderstood &, abandoned, without the ability to figure out how to go about healing to mend this brokeness.
When Laterras said "it feels empty to be seen by millions if you're not seen by the one" crushed me!
"It won't always be like this" gives me hope!
I love this podcast!!
I pray the Lord heals your heart
I just got divorced 4 months ago after 8 years of marriage. I'm still in disbelief my ex-husband could be so cruel and turn on me.
May your healing be complete 🙏🏽.
This is the most beautiful display of a human man reaching out to our God for a miracle. You’ll never know how much this video helped me as I’m sure it is helping others. Thank you for this message even though it was painful and raw. We “stand” with you in community holding you through this moment of heartbreak. Let those tears flow; they are your healing rain. We humbly dry them with you in this sacred space.
❤🙏
Beautiful comment 🦋
I wanted to comment but I had no words, thank you for saying what I wanted to articulate. Sincerely praying for Laterras 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
So beautifully articulated!
As an empath, this was so heavy. I was almost in tears. I had to take breaks. I will pray for the healing of both of you. She may have been right to step away. Before I began my healing 2022, I was a completely different person. I used 2022 to be with myself, go to therapy, be with my loved ones. I was at my lowest at one point. It would have been wrong of me to date someone. It's actually possible that you may not be compatible with her healed self. Out of the 4 men I have dated in previous years, current me would have only dated maybe 1 of them. But I learned alot about myself and what I need in a partner from each one. In time, the lesson will reveal itself. Unfortunately, everyone that comes into our lives isn't meant to be forever. God may have used you to help her start her healing journey and to show her what true love looks like. Though you are rightfully sad at this loss, this was a blessing. God's timing is everything. You will once again meet a woman that God calls you to pursue and she will not run. God will affirm it for her too and she will present.
I've been there. Felt in love for the first time ever. Only took 3 months, but I later realized it was out of order from the beginning. I felt such a great emotional and spiritual connection, but that was not enough. He had to see it too. He was not pursuing and it was as if I was persuading. He finally told me God told him no. I was devastated, but I quickly thanked God because I now had an answer. I told God that I would do it right next time and pray for discernment along the way. I deserve to be loved like Christ loved His church...by a man that sees me as his wife. In the process, I have recommitted myself to learning the Word and investing in my own self care and goals (healing traumas, mental/physical health, my physical appearance, career, etc). In the last few months alone, I have never been approached by this many men in my life. I haven't even used an app in 1.5 yrs. So take the lesson for what it is. God's time is the right time. Your good thing is out there.
I actually say a prayer for my future husband a few times a week. Among other things, I pray for his health, any healing he may need, his relationship with God, success (whatever that means to him), and that he is growing wiser and more humble every day to be able to lead himself and our future family. Hopefully, the next wonderful woman you meet will be an answer to that prayer. Blessings to you. 🙏
I empathize with you I'm right there with you and your love you love hard I know all to well this feeling of brokenness it will take time to heal and I get it how many times do u have to go through this type of pain that was my question to God but he God knows all things lean NOT UNTO OUR OWN UNDERSTANDING thats my goto because I had so so many questions for God but he knows whats Wright 4 US he's a right on time God !! Man of God i can only tell u from experience let go and let God we all grieve different buts thats my advice love in Jesus mighty holy Name and Thank you for putting yourself out there my tears for you that you'll heal healthy and whole heartedly so with that said keep God in the center and you will get through it my brother just hold fast steadfast in Jesus mighty holy name amen 🙏 💔😪🤗🌻🍩☕🦞🍷🍰🍿🍦😴😴
Wow. That was very well said. Beautiful advice. ❤️💜
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Sis! Your comment was profound and full of wisdom. I will add nothing and couldn't have said it better. I have had a very similar situation as you speak about and there is nothing like God's leading and his timing. I've learned that his "No" is not my punishment but my peace and his PROTECTION. His time is never late. Thank you for the encouragement not just for our bro here....this also encouraged me. 💓
@@lisatyson6599 thank you sis ❤️ that really means a lot to me🙏
Tears are cleansing, Laterras. Thank you for sharing your heartbreak even though you weren't feeling up to it. Your followers love you. We stand with you. ❤️
Amen.
Please know and believe that you are worth the wait. True and real love will find you and don’t you dare push it away because of what has happened in the past. Be cautious, but just enjoy life. Rename December. You’re more than a conqueror. Prayers for you…Jer 29:11. Ish 61:3. NEVER SUBMIT and NO SHAME!!! God ALWAYS gets the GLORY!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 38:21
You are an amazing King, man of God, Laterras!! Hang in there, your wife is coming in due time. Once you stop thinking about the ultimate goal, she will practically drop in your lap, I believe. 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️🙌🏽
This is the definition of strenghth. Thanks for being vulnerable with us. Nothing catches God by surprise. He has Got you covered and we will witness a turnaround. Your podcasts never disappoint.
Amen 🙏🏽
Praying for you both. You loved her well. In return, it led her to seek out healing so that there would be reciprocity. This love story only confirms for me that we want love, but many of us don't know how to receive true authentic love. It just goes to show how powerful love really is. God's blessings on you both and prayerfully God can reconnect you when it's right for the both of you. Stay strong - God's got you 🙏🏾❤💙
Beautiful said💐
I am in agreeance with this post. God can still restore when the time is right 🙏🏽🥰
"Keep your hands and heart clean." This was the perfect advice given to you Laterras. I'm praying for both of your hearts 💕. I respect this young lady because she recognized that she could harm your emotions and heart. But that was love! I pray for this young lady's healing so that she doesn't miss any blessings in hee life. I also felt your heart Laterras. I praying that you feel all of the pain at once so that you can overcome. As this young lady stated, if you 2 were meant to be, then GOD will bring you 2 back together. Only after healing takes place from both. I still felt that you experienced a miracle because you said that the LORD spoke to both of your hearts concerning one another, affirming what you both have prayed for. That is a blessing to have experienced. Not many can say that they have. You both are in my prayers. Keep on loving Laterras!
You went through the hurt to help bring the light of healing to many
Laterras, I lift you up in prayer right now🙏🏻. I truly feel as you were sharing this that this heartbreak may not be solely about your pain but for the growth in the partner you were dating. Praise God that you were able to show her that there are good men out there, you’ve helped her get one step closer to her healing! And God used you in this way because he knew the pain you could bear and the next door that opens up will be so unexpected and on time that your praise report is going to break the internet!!! I thank you for sharing your vulnerability & your ministry didn’t just heal her but it’s helping us all heal too. May God bless you, may God continue to smile on you, and may he continue to open a window to pour out blessings in your life.
Yes, yes, yes... what perspective! We weep with Laterras today, but later we will all rejoice when he presents his purpose partner to the world. The pain and heartache he is experiencing today will then be overshadowed by a joy unspeakable - his due recompense.
Also, after having watched this episode, I can’t help but be reminded of ROMANS 8:28 - And we know that ALL THINGS WORK TOGETHER FOR GOOD to them who are the called according to His purpose.
Laterras, I pray this experience leads to an increase of wisdom and understanding that will position you to be a greater blessing to those whom you minister to - it is not for naught. 🙏🏼
The story is not over. God knows how to come full circle.
What beautiful prayers! Masha Allah.
Amen! Such a beautiful prayer.
Amen! Love this.
“It won't always be like this
He will perfect that concerning me
And sooner or later, it will turn in my favour
Sooner or later, turn in my favour
It's turning around for me”
A song I’ve held onto that I hope resonates 💛
Perfect encouragement.
Yes 🙌🏾
I experienced the exact same thing this December. He broke things off on Christmas day for the same reason. Too good to be true. Man how I cried but I realized really quickly that God's planning for what he wanted me to experience in that relationship wasn't happening. He spoke to me about this man, about this year and I did my own thing any way. I really thought he was/is my person.
Praying for your healing because I know exactly what you're feeling.
Sending love and healing to you my dear!
Im so sorry for you too May 2023 bring us all healing and love
I feel you
This is how your podcast is so impactful. Listening all the way from Burundi 🇧🇮. You might even not recognize the country. Burundi, the Heart of Africa.
But to make it easy, the drums that were played in wakanda forever, bingo.
One thing I took away from this, as I am also in the midst of a “breakup”/divorce, is we have to stop playing spouse for people who aren’t our spouse. We can’t save someone from their work nor can we force them through it. We often times try to attach ourselves to mess thinking we can make it better. When sometimes loving that person despite is just PART of the journey i yet we make it the final destination. It is hard in the midst to see it as a blessing. But it truly is. It shows you that you have the capacity to love. But it also shows where you can still mature.
Thank God she was mature enough to stop it in its tracks. I wish I had spoken up before marriage when I didn’t have peace. Yet he was persistent about it being God ordained and everyone else supported it; so I took that as what I was feeling must not be factual. It was! God was trying to protect me and I blatantly ignored him.
Maybe that’s not what’s happening here. Maybe this will just be a part of y’all’s love story. Or maybe God has EVEN BETTER than you perceived as his best work. Keep praying and seeking Him and doing what he tells you to do. And stay accountable to someone.
"It feels empty to be seen by millions if you're not seen by the ONE" Whewww how I felt this
This happened to my wonderful son, the woman, because of her past traumas, she could not believe he was such a wonderful guy. She kept expecting the other shoe to drop. She finally ran him off because she felt he was too good to be true. My heart hurt for her. I wish she knew how it feels to be loved by a really good man.
This episode made me tell my husband of almost 20 years I’m sorry for every hurtful thing I ever did to him and I would never hurt him again! “Men hurt”
To me, that’s the most important part, not allowing the disappointments to harden your heart ❤
Healing from HEARTBREAK
❤❤❤❤😢JESUS
Wow
Pre pre marital counseling. ❤
I applaud her she knew she wasn’t ready for you!!
The most challenging thing an artist can achieve is a self portrait. That’s because of the natural urge to edit what we see into what we want to see. Thank you for sharing so many of your “self-portraits”.
🔥🔥🔥
Well said
Dear Bro. Laterras, I'm one of those sisters in her mid-fifties. I'm crying with you, too. Your ministry has given me hope on my love journey, even now! As you've encouraged me, I encourage you NOW to keep your eyes on Jesus. Continue to cast your cares on Him. Continue to trust Him with your tears! You’re on the right path, and you're helping so many to see Jesus on their love journeys, too! THANK YOU!
So touched by your sincerety. It has been 25 Years since my heart was crushed on the passing of my husband. I could only trust God to be my husband because I was /am afraid to go through such grief again. My journey was not an easy one, but My God provides my daily needs. I have not looked for or had any other partner. I pray that God grant you your heart"s desire in His perfect time.
I wished I had prayed my way through my heart break. Instead, I did the opposite and i regretted it. I went on shut down, shut out, almost lost my job for missing to many days. I stop going to church because I was very active in church. I was over the youth department, writing plays and skits. I taught Sunday school, Bible Study for teens when I (thought) I heard God say, this was my husband. I was mad at myself that I allowed this man in my life. That was 6 years ago. Praise God I made it with the help of God and therapy. I forgave myself and him and hallelujah I am headed. God told me I would have made him my God because I’m a giver and he would have took my love from him because i wanted so bad. I actually understood that. I know now that if that is not the person God has for me and I am not listening, he will make the pain greater now before we make the wrong decision and regret it later. Love your podcast. I’m new and I stay up late watching and learning. Playing catch up. God bless you and God has someone for us and it won’t hurt. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 I thank God that he did not give up on me and excepted me back with open arms. I tell my testimony in church and to anyone who will listen. The break up was to help me not to hurt me.
"I can deal with the wishy-washyness...but if you ever say that I'm not the one, I have nothing to fight for." 22:05 Whew! That sat right there in my ribcage. Praying for you, brother.
I’m at the point where I can’t even deal with the wishy washiness. That IS rejection.
We are not heart surgeons for God in damaged peoples lives .Especially if they do not feel the same way about us. Its deceptive
Thing is we don't have to fight. God will do that. Exodus 14:14
Just know that she was brave enough to let you go. So many of us hold on to people when we know we are not ready. She didn’t want to waste your time, your patience or your love. This is emotional maturity/intelligence in the flesh. It is hard, but thank God for your experience with her. Remember, pain signifies a breakthrough. You are getting closer to what God has for you. I will pray for both of you.
What do you mean when you say pain signifies a break through. Please could you explain?
Timing with God is EVERYTHING!!!
It’s one thing to walk away from a relationship, but walking away when you know that you have God’s voice and tell you who that person is supposed to be to you. That’s so hard. Doing it now and I literally all you can do is ask that at the end God’s will be done. Thank you for this level or transparency. Inspirational and healing at the same time. We cry with you. 🙏🏾🖤
This is was story of my marriage of 10 years. He turned and told me "I know I am suppose to be with you and your my wife but I no longer want it".4 years later I still dont understand but Im trying to keep my faith and push forward its hard though because I cant understand how God gives you something and takes it away like he did. I guess we all have CHOICES and FREE WILL so I understand the pain in this video but I NEVER want to feel it again.
@@ericadancer8846 sooo sorry. praying with and for you for immediate reconciliation OR release, peace, and the Ephesians 3:20 replacement. In Jesus Name. Amen 🙏🏾 ❤
Im in this situation too and it's so hard. Me and this man went to University together and in Jan 2021 God revealed to me in a fast who my husband was. I know that it was God. But here I am and we are not together because i will not chase or pursue. He is inconsistent and to be quite frankly honest he still exploring. In the meantime I am pursuing my career and doing my best to love myself with my own love languages as a single woman and drawing closer to God. He calls every now and then to check up on me but im praying that he has his own revelation. Still Here Waiting on God. To Erica Dancer point - free will and choice are real things and we need to be accepting that he may choose a life and wife outside of me and im humble enough to accept that that could be my fate but I know what God told me
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09.09.2024, I sit today watching this episode and I am sitting with the same pain. I am grieving! it is painful. The thought of putting yourself back into the world, the fear and doing that one again, frightens me too! I am heart broken. it's hard. it's so hard, and you talk to God but my oh my, it's painful! I watched the episode of RC Blakes and His wife last night, and one thing I have learnt is to lean onto God and just let this go and find peace in God...Loving someone is special but nothing you can do when that person walks away to unlearn some issues.. Sometimes I wonder if I shouldn't have given him my all, if I was stupid to love the way I did.. wow.. thank you Laterras.. Thank you for sharing this..
Imagine what’s to come from the seeds you’ve sown. Take your time grieving and healing. Thank you for opening your heart and being so vulnerable. It’s not easy. It’s so courageous of you. Love you, Laterras.
Hi Mr Witfield the same God who has given you the ability to do these Podcast will give you the strength to overcome. If she is the one she will come back, trust God He will give you the strength to go on, Remember the story of Abraham and his wife Sarah and Isaac. Go promise them a soñ Isaac. They have their son after waiting for twenty five years. Hold on God is still in charge of your life.
Its 4am in South Africa, i ran out of sleep, having discovered something a few hours ago heartbreaking as well, i came on TH-cam & saw this episode. Praying for His comfort, healing & peace for you both.
What God has been teaching me is the heartbreak we experience at present is protection from greater pain & damage down the road we might not be aware of. Sometimes it’s redirection, sometimes its a shift of focus for the season, sometimes it’s putting Isaac on the altar, sometimes its Ismael showing up before the promise Isaac. We live life looking forward but understand it looking backwards, we might not understand today but we know all thing work together for our good, even this.
We see the corner but our Shepherd sees around the corner, we see the mountain & He sees around the mountain. Yes He speaks to us & confirms His Word, but also people make their choices (that mustn’t lead us to think we heard God wrong, the person just made their own choice).
We pray above all things that you will prosper, be in health even as your soul prospers. We cover you, your loved ones & everything concerning you with the blood of Jesus. He is faithful, the good work He started in you He will complete.
THANK YOU Mashadi100 Those words of wisdom and comfort for Letarass are well spoken by you.
Amen
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LOVE THIS!!!!
Amen!
One has to be healed in order to receive a healed heart!!!! Don’t beat up on yourself. Keep praying 🙏🏾
I’ve had a similar experience from years ago. God blessed me with my current husband about 3 years later. God is good at giving us double for our trouble. May He do it again for you. The best is yet to come Bro. Laterras!!🙌🏾
“Be a good steward over your healing.” My God. Thank you for this.
It’s really brave of you Laterras to still want to experience love after a heartbreak. Thank you for being transparent with us. She’s definitely out there and God will lead you to her
I was in this same place two years ago. But God is a healer and through prayer listening to your podcast. I can say I am healed.
Please don't lose hope. God is gonna bless you with your soul mate. REST!
"It feels empty to be seen by millions and not by the one!" I felt that and so how true it is. Blessings and and favor Man of God. Thank you for your transparency, and it continues to lead you to transformation #Growth 💙
I’ve been watching this for 2 days and my heart is overwhelmed with your sincerity, transparency and vulnerability. May the heal you, cover you and keep you
My heart hurts and I'm praying that God give you the strength that you need and pray that God also heal her as well. Be bless MOG.
@@mekeshapayton9873 amen
I was where you are 17 years ago. I wanted a relationship but the guy didn’t so it ended. Months later God made me aware of who I would marry. Scary thing is I married my best friend not knowing he was who God wanted for me the whole time. ❤ 15years and we still going strong!
Jesus is faithful even if what he has doesn’t line up with what we want. 💕
“Be a good steward over your healing.”
Powerful statement. Thank you!
It's so crazy that I stumbled across this episode today. On the very day that you recorded this podcast, I too was sitting in the seat of heartbreak and devastation. I'd met who I just knew was God's promise to me after widowhood. All for me to be left to grieve yet again. The free will of others can sometimes knock all of the wind out of our sail....but one thing I do know is that God will make good on His promises towards me. And I'm praying that He will do the same for you.
Same here! Bless you, Sister! You will receive!
Amen
Wait for her as long as your heart wants her. Don't suppress the love. Prepare for her. Heal first.❤️
Wait for her indeed God's best, not the one he sees as his best but His (King of kings) best in the Mighty name of Jesus Chirst of Nazareth.
Why do relationships have to be so difficult?! Ugh. Heartbreak is so real. God bless your ability to verbally express your feelings so well, to help others. Prayers for healing.
In agreement.
Laterras, this was the bravest thing I've ever seen. Thank you for your transparency and realness. You are helping people more than you could ever know.
Man I felt you 100% praying for your heart.. I pray it doesn’t grow cold. God knows exactly what you need and will provide it in his perfect timing 💗
The strength it took for you to share your heartbreak was a God move. The intention in your words to share your thoughts and what occurred served as a reminder for me, and I am sure others, what love entails. Praying with you as you heal. Brother, we see you and will keep you lifted. ❤
Latteras,ummm,Sir, LEAVE IT alone. God can handle it better than you can, leave it alone! Period. Sir, she has told you on numerous occasions that you are NOT the one, so, BELIEVE her! Don't keep poking the bear and mess around and get sick, lose faith in God or the hope in mankind OR develop a "new" contious. Your contious is your connection but when you just will not hear it ten God has no choice but to let you learn the hard way. That is so hard when you have so much to give and receive. She asked you in the beginning about your videos that had gone viral, so clearly there is something that spiked her interest to outdo that video and what better way to do it but hit you where it hurt and that is your ❤️. The core of this show is YOUR heart, love, peace. You desire to give your whole heart to someone, to have love and to have peace and stability; however, you have to listen! You have to acknowledge in all your ways and thoughts and he will give you the desires of your heart. Please don't lean to your own understanding but trust the process! You didn't come this far JUST to get this far. Hold on sweet angel, GOD can handle it better than you can just leave it alone! PERIOD.
@@irenecaldwell2251 Hi, I don't think you meant to share your thoughts under my comments, as it appears to be intended for the main forum. 🙏🏾
Omg I never seen a man cry . This is such an eye opener for women to see that men have feelings to and they hurt also . Thank you for your transparency and being totally open you don't know how you just healed thousands in the midst of your own suffering
I still believe she’s the one just have to heal from her past hurts but I love that you are so transparent just making me cry 😢 never heard a man talk about their pain before. Much respect and God bless you 💜
I agree. Only God knows. Maybe this is necessary.. I pray all hearts stay open to God.
If it's God and hearts are open.. Let His will be done.
I also believe she is the one, maybe the timing is not right due to the healing she has to go through. If she truly is the one, I pray that God brings them back together.
I completely agree! May God grant peace, healing & understanding.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I completely agree! Laterras, I DO believe she is the one; it's just that she is not ready. My prayer is that God will quicken her healing, open her eyes and reconnect you. God is not a man that he should lie nor a son of man that He should repent. God is sovereign, and He can be trusted.
Trusting in the Most High even when things don't go as you've planned. That's a huge eye opener 🥺
Man I went through a similar situation for about 2 months too here recently. Thought I had found the ONE I've been looking for. We actually met on a Christian Dating app. I was in love and it happened so quickly because I knew what I was looking for. When you said she told you things you had never heard before, this woman did the same to me. She prayed for and encouraged me every day and I did the same for her. She knew the word of God, she was in ministry, she was Spirit filled, so caring, loving, respectful, beautiful inside and out. We talked for almost 2 months. But as I continued to pray about our relationship and really asking the Lord to please confirm to me if we should continue to move forward in the relationship I started losing my peace. I couldn't understand it because she seemed so right for me. I tried to disregard the absence of the peace of God but it only got worse. I couldn't sleep, would start feeling really bad with pains in my stomach and chest for no reason at all other than just thinking about us being together. The only thing that gave me peace was when I would think about how it just wasn't meant to be. That it wasn't God's perfect will for us to be together. The peace would flood my soul whenever I thought about it like that. Then and only then could I sleep at night because I knew that was the right decision. She was so hurt because her hopes were so high that I was the one she had been waiting on too. I loved her and sometimes I still long to talk to her but we both agreed that there was no way we could just be friends because our feelings were too strong for each other so we decided to part ways. It hurt so bad because I loved her and I knew she really loved me too. The Lord knows best and will never steer us wrong. If we trust Him and wait on Him He will do exceedingly abundantly above all we can ask or think. Her love and care for me really showed me that there is a woman out there who will be just what I'm looking for and be the ONE that God has for me. My heart was so broken but yet encouraged. I will wait on the Lord because He is good to those that wait on Him. Wait on the Lord my bro even when you don't understand because He knows the plans that He has for you and He knows who you need to help you fulfill those plans.
Phew!!! Thanks for sharing.
Blessings to you! Because of your Personal relationship with God, and you know His voice, you were obedient. I will say this, sometimes we want someone who we believe are meant for us, only to realize that the heart and head are not aligned. Thank God that you listened. He saved you from a lot of heart ache. Be encouraged.
@@dstreet43 amen...thank you
@@izion515 Be encouraged
Thank you for sharing, thank you for the clarification. Thank you for being real about life on earth and loving God. Finally i see that loving hard is a gift.
I cried when you cried. You’ve become a consistent part of my life. Each and every post and video are not missed and I pray for your heart to heal from this. If the eyes are the window to the soul then you just poured your soul out. And that’s completely okay. I love you Laterras and I only know you from your platform but it has been a blessing to watch you. I know EXACTLY what you’re feeling because the same thing happened to me 2 years ago. I didn’t want to ever love again but your episodes have given myself and many others hope. Don’t give up on your love journey. I’m definitely not giving up on mine. God bless you ❤
Your Wife Is ON THE WAY! God needed to prove YOU to YOU. He needed you to see how much you’ve changed, from your last marriage, and to be able to apply what you’ve learned. He allowed you to choose someone to commit to and be faithful with little, so that when Your Wife, that HE has chosen for you arrives, you will be prepared and have no doubt that you can truly be the husband that she deserves. Many Continued blessings to you and your future Mrs Whitfield.
Wholeheartedly agree!!
This is the comment!! Yes she is on the way!
I think one of the hardest things in life to deal with is what to do when your paths aren’t aligned (at that time). The realization that your plan is not his plan. For you, you’ve been doing an incredible amount of the right kind of work. While you may be willing to support her in her own personal journey, she (looking out for you) didn’t want you to carry that burden. Sometimes God tests our faith, here is your test on your healing journey. You got this! This is so powerful because people need to see how one maintains their purpose during heart break, a storm, etc. GOD IS WORKING FOR YOUR GOOD.
And I posted this before 38 min time stamp! We love you.
Thanks
18:00 this resonates with a prayer I made a few years ago , that "Lord send me someone who will love me to heal me" I know God is our healer but I had the sense that some wounds we have will only be healed by the people who will love us right and vise versa
I used to be her who didn’t know how to recognize love. What it looks like or what it feels like. I am so glad I did my work and have healed from my brokenness. I know I still have work to do but I’m not there anymore. I pray for you sir for your health and your heart to heal. You are love and loved by many and this too shall pass. Thank you for your transparency. This episode hurts my heart deeply for you.
I don't know I feel like she's still the one but the timing is not perfect... I will say let it go if it's truly what God has for you it will come back to you... when the time is right
I can relate to you as well in your message. The act of actions in knowing expression of receiving and showing love. Some people doesn't deserve your time or love. Continue to let God lead you in knowing he will reveal the discernment of people heart.
@tonnica364 I’m trying to heal my brokenness too, one I’ll be on your level. I keep pushing great men away , because I don’t know what love ❤️ looks like. I’ve been a narcissistic relationship for 23 years damaged. It’s been since October 2019 and I’m hurting. You’re comment touch me on so many levels, and I want to be where you are spiritually , emotionally. Thank you 🙏🏾
@@chynadoll77cyn59 I have been abused and strangled to the brink of death…but God. Also been in a narcissist relationship too. Talk about learning to love myself, healing myself and feeling love. Oh how weird it felt almost strange as to where I questioned was the feeling real! I had to seek out therapy because I was truly broken and I promised myself I would not hurt anyone because I was hurt. Hurt people hurt people. I can now recognize when a man has not truly healed and I bow out gracefully. I refuse to go backwards. It may be painful but it’s better in the long run. The confidence that I have now is amazing. I pray all the best for you and that you learn to love yourself again. Love you sis!
@@lesegomlisane260 beloved, if I may, God doesn't operate like this. He will not allow His children to be in pain. Sometimes we miss the mark. I was in this same situation. She isn't the one. Man's rejection is God's protection.
The prophecy has already started to come true. The calling over the relationship is showing even in this moment. This is helping so many even though it is a “success” story. Unfortunately, sometimes we must experience pain to help our brothers and sisters along. Someone else may have processed this pain difference had they not seen this video. Thank you for sharing! God is not done yet. 🙏🏾❤️
I agree. Many times we say "I surrender my life to the Lord". Then he allows something to challenge our faith. Whew! I remember my heartbreaking 💔 However, Holy Spirit revealed that forgiveness is remembering without the pain. Today I'm not just healed but whole!
On the real !!!
This podcast TOTALLY resonated with me. I'm a divorced 46 yo woman from a 21 year marriage. I got therapy and did my part in the healing process. To be honest, I feel like the healing is continual. However, I dated this guy for 3 months. He said and did ALL the right things. He even said that I was "the one." Unfortunately, after 3 months he completely changed his mind. I was heartbroken. Looking back, I'm so grateful.
Do you feel now that there were things that you would regret in him had he not cut it off? In hindsight.
@@erickaj7373 ABSOLUTELY!!!!!
I experienced a similar situation. I just knew this man was heaven sent. He accepted me for my flaws and he spoke to my soul in a way I never experienced. People saw us and could feel the love between us. I felt my presence brighten his spirit. I felt at peace with him. I was no longer afraid. Then one day he ended it. He says I did nothing wrong. He said I was perfect. I was his dream girl. I still haven’t recovered. I was so blindsided. You couldn’t tell me this man didn’t love me and that we wouldn’t be together forever. I don’t even feel like I can love again.
I’m so sorry you dealt with this 😢 I pray the Most High renew you heart, mind, and spirit. 🙏🏾🥰
Oh wow......just look at it as God was saving u....maybe the pain u would hv felt down the rd would be worse
Praying that you've found the healing and peace your heart and soul needs to move forward.
I feel for you Bro and took a lot of courage to air it out there like that. You helped me heal just by sharing your story. You are not alone in this. Be strong and don’t be afraid to try love again.