“When you have a lot of choices don’t make a choice “…….. “wait until you meet someone that doesn’t leave you a choice”……. But you make that person a decision 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽….. purpose over preference 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Wow my husband told me the same thing...I was a 30 year old virgin and when I met my husband (who was definitely not). I told him I was too old to be somebody's girlfriend..he told me straight.." I'm not looking for a girlfriend, I'm looking for a wife" ...mic drop..9 months later we got married...going on 12 years now!!
@Viku Mugisha just trust God. I told him I was tired of picking. I wanted my heavenly father to pick for me and it was the best choice I never made🤣 of course I had the free will to say yes or no , but you know what I mean
When he apologized on behalf of men who have hurt women, I stopped, and I received it. Then I cried...I didn't know that I needed that apology. Thank you for another great interview!
I told my Pastor, " I scare men away when I tell them I am not looking for a boyfriend...I WANT A KINGDOM HUSBAND. TOO OLD FOR A BOYFRIEND. God handcrafted me in being a GODLY WIFE again. 😇 #MyHeartIsHealed #HealBeforeYouAskGodForYourHusbandOrWife #GodHasGivenMeVisionsOfWaitingKeepBusyInHisWordWalkingInFaithBelieving Preparation
I can’t wait until Brother Laterras gets married! She probably watching your podcasts everyday! It’s gonna be nice seeing y’all host dear wifey together! Heyyyyy Your gonna have to change the name to “Dear LORD I found wifey “😀💍
@@girlmeetskingdom FACTS 👊🏽 I’m gonna sit in front of my screen dressed 👗 Like I was at the wedding in person 🤣 I love the way He’s “learning” and “waiting” to make sure the 2nd time around will be better than the first time 😢BEAUTIFUL 🌹 😍🥰 #DearWifey the day has come! 🥳 🍾 🎊 💃.🕺
Listen, knowing Kanita and Ryan personally let me be the first to say THEY ARE THE REAL DEAL!!!! My sis Kanita has always been such an inspiration and practices what she preaches! When me and my husband met Ryan for the first time and how he cared for her we knew this connection they had was special and God-made. I am so glad they are able to share their story and also preach (cause they def did that on this podcast today!!!!) that love and marriage can be healthy and filled with purpose, love, passion, and all the good stuff when entered with intention, understanding, and on a foundation of Christ.
I met my husband in the DMs. We met on Instagram...was engaged within 3 months and married within a year. We just celebrated our 1 year anniversary on 9/25/2022. It's been bliss 😊
@@chayilevents7979 so love can happen from Instagram? My husband passed Jan 24 2022 after 37 years. I promised that I would never marry again because the love I have for him. Dec 2022 I answered someone who has been in my DM since Sep. we have been texting and talking since then. I'm due to personally meet him in Feb. he told me when he saw me God told him I was his wife. Both of us lost our spouses. I'm looking forward to meeting him soon.
When he apologized on behalf of all the men who did women dirty, I immediately teared up!! It’s the apology that needed to be heard! Thank you brother!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I enjoyed this episode. I have been married for 17 years. I met my husband in March and got married in December. We dated for 6 months. It's so refreshing to see that men like this still exist. He reminds me of my dear husband. Single Ladies, you are worthy of a love like this. It's amazing to be truly loved by my husband.
I’ve just been REBORN through this conversation!!! I’m 6 yrs divorced after 24 yrs of marriage and desiring to be remarried again but in Christ! You’ve given me a spiritual platform in which to walk in. THANK YOU BOTH! Blessings ❤
This was special and you could see and hear the love they have for each other. HAPPY 1 Year Anniversary to the Rutley's. 💖🙏🏽💕🙌🏿 !!! I trust you Lord and there is nothing too hard for you. God's Blessings to you both!
Yep… me too! 5yrs divorced after 26 years of marriage and for the first time, through this conversation, I actually believe that there is hope for a new marriage with a Godly man.
Wow same here married for almost 25 years have been divorced and single for 5 years and 3 months … I want to marry again in the Lord…. This blessed anointed couple gave me such hope ❤Thank you so much!!!❤
I love how she said make sure you have spiritual equity, make sure that you know if he is accountable and open to accountability and knowing his circle… loved how she said the more you are connected and receiving love from God when you enter a relationship you will see when that person is not loving you like the lover of your souls does… wow I love that !!! Thank you so much for being so open ❤
I love that! Summarized, "don't make a choice when you have many choices, wait until you meet the person that eliminates all the choices and leaves you no choice but to make that person your decision". Look at God!
This was such a beautiful interview 🙂 1. When he apologized to all the women that has been abused. I cried. It meant a lot. Usually the people closest to a person don’t even say that. 2. Great question Laterras. As I was listening to her explain the courtship, I was thinking narcissists do the same things. Fast, pray, talk on the phone for a long time, make women feel comfortable, move intentionally… I think having people that love you take a look at the person is one of the best ways prevent falling for the charades.
@@aligned4purpose980 Sure. Eventually the mask will fall and some red flags are: 1. Constant confusion 2. Gaslighting 3. Devaluing - they can make you feel unworthy of the best 4. What are his fruits?How is his character? 5. Listen to his stories about other people. If he is sneaky and deceitful towards others, he will do it to you. There are a lot of good channels out there that speak about signs and symptoms of narcissist
@@akilahbatyah6505thank you! yeah I'm very familiar with all the traits I just never met anyone that did everything right, it was always something that I was able to see spiritually that may not have seen naturally or I ignored smh. So I was just wondering if it was anything different that I have not experienced cause lawd I can not deal 😂
I love the way she looks at her husband while he speaks. I’m praying for my husband from God so I can feel the same way and cherish my man. I’m so ready to give my love.
I have to give credit to where credit is due. To Brother Laterras R. Whitfield thank you for creating the Dear Future Wifey Podcast. I am always blessed by each episode, but today, this episode with the Rutleys really blessed me. Brother and Sister Rutley, you both blessed me so much today. God really brought a word in this episode today and I'll be forever changed because of it. When it comes to relationships and marriage, I have a greater perspective now. Thank you all so much, God bless you all
Yeeesssss! Can you imagine the deficit we would be left with if he hadn’t been obedient and started this podcast?! Praise Jesus for Laterras and his journey!
Amen!! This episode was truly a blessing! An episode that has forever changed my life! Thank you and God bless your union and the ministry God has on y’all two lives!
I also loved it when Kanita said“ my husband loves me well” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 It is one of my desires, and one of the things I ask God about my future husband. This is why I say that watching the DFW episodes contributes to things that I feel are being confirmed for me.
WOW...this was great. When she spoke to the woman's deep need for love and how that shows up in who they chose, so profound. Then him saying he "I inquired of The Lord...." This right here is so encouraging to know that there really are obedient men who will do it Gods way out here. Love it. "The last thing she wanna see is another thing she already saw!" The truth of this statement...and I love that you asked her about knowing the difference between the real and fake....ACCOUNTABILITY .💯
What ALOT of folks will miss about ALL that this brother has said here he had PREFERENCE and how he had to surrender his preference for the Lord's will......his ways are higher then ours! ☺
This episode has truly blessed me because I can relate to Kanita with being single for so long and being able to know when God has orchestrated everything that happens.
I just love how purposeful and intentional the Lord is,He is concerned about the things that concern us and He will prefect that which concerns us. Spiritual equity, that's dope.
I’ve never been a married woman. However I’ve been around marriage. Seen my mom and dad married for over 30 years. They married until death departed them. Then I have an older sister whose married for over 20 years. I became a single mom of two and understand how it happened. Put it like this, if I was the woman in Christ that I am now. Life would have went in a total different direction for me❤
Laterras I love that you interview "regular" people we can identify with. Not that celebrities are not regular but they have a visible lifestyle. Thank you.
What a wonderful story! An example of how her earthly Dad covered her, how her husband covered her and how God our Father covered them both in their marriage. ❤
Omg so powerful and spoke to me on so many levels about my current relationship. 😭 He made me cry when he said I would like to say I'm sorry to the women out there who experienced abuse, games, been hurt etc and I felt the presence of God in his sincerity. I receive that word. 🙌🏾 I loved how she said he came to her and said exactly what he wanted and that he is not a BOYFRIEND he is a HUSBAND. They didn't waste time because he knew she was the DECISION and went forth to propose and then marriage. It never takes long when 2 people know what they want and need when the right 1 is presented by God. I wish them well.
I have watched many of your episodes. But this one I really felt the presence of God. I am at a stage in my life where I am tired of leading. Kanita said something that I needed to hear. "When he spoke, I immediately felt safe." Thank you for having them on your show. It is so encouraging.
This episode took me to another place. I did the hollering, the church run, & cried. This one hit me right in the heart. Gratitude for you alls openness, vulnerability, and willingness to share your experience.
"I'm not a boyfriend, I'm a husband" Man, I tell men this all the time when they ask me why I don't casually date because I'm not trying to be a girlfriend, I am a wife! Come through man of God. Lord, I see what you have done for others! 🙌🏽
Laterras, you went in on this episode. I loved it. Both Ryan and Kanita spoke into my spirit. This gives me more hope that real love is still possible.
WOW... What a beautiful couple! The spiritual maturity was inspiring. They showed how a person can love God, be submitted to Him AND be intentional about seeking and preparing for a mate... and they made it look GOOD!😊
Thank you for that apology from all men that didn't say it cause tears rolled on my face. Healing is a process and some of us needs that to move on. I'm divorced and learning to heal. Blessing to you both.
This is exactly what I needed! Thank you Lord. I've been holding on to someone I don't need but talked myself into waiting on him😔😔😔😔knowing it's a dead end. THIS IS My breakthrough to a deeper intimacy I've been desiring with Christ. Thank you Lord Jesus!
You got this my sister 🙏🏾 We have to trust God will send you someone you don’t have to wait on or be hurt by. Focus on Christ and He will send you that special someone🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@@deannalawson9456 God got you too. If God can do it for one He can do it for all. He’s not a respecter of person. We just have to be patient and believe He has better for us. Trust me, I’ve been there. I’m praying for ALL the women who struggle in this area of waiting on someone🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
This episode was so amazing! I personally know Ryan and this is exactly who he is and who he’s always been. Very genuine. God blessed him with a beautiful woman that he deserves. I’m extremely happy for both of them. God is so intentional and good!
He apologizing on behalf of all men 😢.. this is a definition of a Godly Man… see, let’s just trust in God alone to give us partners .. great great couple ❤
Definitely a good listen. That part about baggage and luggage stood out to me. To me, what I saw between the two is luggage is something you unpack, but baggage you don't. This was another great episode. I'm constantly hearing and seeing preference being shunned while purpose is being embraced. I love it!
There’s always so many synchronicities in the episodes! My husband and I are from Detroit, we are artists, ministers and producers, my husband tours, the date God gave me for my engagement party was 5/17 and March 17th is my daughter birthday. I also kept being placed in the same room as my husband and we reconnected through DM. God made it obvious no one else was a choice when we made a decision to keep God first daily 💝
Thank you King for apologizing for all the men, who didn't man up or value women.Thank you Queen for being open to receive and see the who you prayed for, to the Glory of God!
Mr Whitfield i must tell you since stumbling across your podcast with the episode about Kenny Lattimore i haven't been able to stop watching your podcast. All of the episode has been very forfilling for me . Keep up the good work and may God continues to BLESS you.
This episode made me worship!!!!...sitting in my bedroom crying and worshipping my Father in Heaven about how strategic and purposeful GOD is!!!! Eleven years single and KEPT because of my Father in Heaven. This couple right here exemplifies exactly what I've been praying for and manifestation is so close. Thank you Dear Future Wifey Podcast, keep going for the Kingdom! God Bless you!
This was absolutely amazing! I have been single 19 years. It’s been good for the most part. I’ve done a lot and I’ve experienced a lot. But I must say that I am ready for my husband, my purpose partner. I accept that apology from Ryan. Thank you brother. The way they connected was God. I love how both of them asked God for His help. I don’t want my preference. It hasn’t worked out for me. I wanna do it in God’s presence. I need some spiritual equity. Jesus this was good!!!
I’m late BUT out of all of the episodes I’ve watched, this one and the one with Mr. & Mrs. Kev on Stage are my top 2 favorites! I feel like this one teaches us HOW to get married and the one with Kev on Stage and his wife teaches us how to STAY married!!! ❤️
I love how they each sit calmly and quietly when the other is talking. They have such a loving and respectful energy toward one another. Thank you for sharing this with us.❤❤❤
Wow. Someone stole my pillow and read what each tear represented. Thank you for sharing as it’s made me see the work still remaining to do..before I meet my future husband. Yes I want a man that prayers over and with me.Amen.Amen
This is sooooo refreshing because it confirms I'm not going crazy. I prayed God would put new desires in my heart that would show up as answered prayers to my husband. Babyyyyyyyyyyy I've discovered things I didn't even know existed, it's not just a curiosity, it's a passion. Call me crazy but there are times I really feel my husband needs me to pray and I will be prompted to pray for him. I'm currently single but I have this connection with my future husband because God drops those little hints , just as a father gives his kids clues .... once this man finds me, I will come back with a testimony. A testimony of how God orchestrates everything, don't just listen to their story or the podcasts, ask God to open your inner eye, to open your heart to listen to your spirit man and hear what God is saying through this episodes. 🙏🏿 Thank you LT ❤️❤️❤️
This podcast is E-V-E-R-Y THING! I definitely needed this. The deliverance that came from this! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾😭😭😭 I am so thankful for their testimony. "Spiritual Equity" Lord I heard that! All of my alone time is stock piling for my good! Laterrias preaching took me completely out! My Dad didn't come to my wedding. (Even though I shouldn't have married the person that I married.) This hit me deep! 😭 I just realized I never had a covering. This was a whole counseling session! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 I was driving and crying. I have to listen again and take notes to fully appreciate this sermon. Yes, I said "sermon" because THIS was a word!
Oh Laterras, thank you for allowing the Holy Spirit to have you speak on the clear differentiation between honest love and manipulation through love bombing and moving at the speed of light to hide their hands. That is so important to know the real difference. Manipulation is hot in these dating streets, unfortunately. It’s the practical along with the spiritual key points on this issue that are so essential to point. Very, very good.
Spiritual equity. And that ACCOUNTABILITY part is MAJOR. I am so glad they brought up love bombing. It is so real. Covert narcs make all of that difficult because they can wear a mask for quite a while. Pay attention to how the person handles conflict and if they are able to apologize, be accountable and be empathetic.
Thanks to the friend that recommended this couple! I enjoyed and felt moved by this episode 🙌🏾🙌🏾💞🙏🏾🥂 Simply amazing..congratulations to their journey..blessings to you all
I thank God for this episode. I can totally relate to Kanita. I’ve been single for 10yrs. I know whole heartedly that it’s God’s doing. I’ve been content in my singleness and focused. Focused on my daughter and whatever the Lord wants me to do. I’ve always known that he wanted more for me, but whenever I was in a relationship my mind was clouded and my vision was blurred. I had to be set aside, learn who I was in Christ, start reading the word of God and living my life for Christ. My discernment has grown tremendously and anyone I am slightly interested in, I ask God about him immediately and whatever he tells me I run with it. In these 10yrs I’ve had 2 prospects and been on 1 date. I could hear the Lord clear as day say NOPE. I’m just now at a place where I do desire to be a wife, but I’m also at a place where if God says “not in this lifetime”, I have to be ok with that. But, if the Lord sees fit I’m ready.
Great episode! I have never been married and have been waiting over 30 years! I needed to hear this because I do believe By faith that it can happen for me and for all that desire it. Praying for all you!
I hear. Never married. Been desiring, praying for 27 years. Love to hear these testimonies but can’t help to wonder when is my time. God certainly has some single men hid away which is encouraging.
It’s good to know that we are never alone. The Enemy wants us to feel abandoned. God said he will never leave nor forsake us. Yes, it gets hard but he will never fail us. Praying for all the singles to get what God has for us. Be and stay encouraged!
I watched this at work and when Ryan apologized I started to cry!. This was such a help, I too want to be a wife, I am divorced, I have tried twice but I know God has someone for me to finish my life with while also living for God. So tired of these men right now, I am about to give up... They give me hope!!! Sir we need to meet! I need a friend like you in my in life Laterras...!!!
"The spiritual equity was already built" Laterras had the nerve to go into preaching mode and exegete this and I am over here yelling "preach" to my phone as if he could really hear me. 😂❤❤❤❤❤ 🔥 🔥
I was single and celibate 13yrs before my fiance found me... And I would have waited another 13... I'll wait for God as long as it takes.. Love this interview...
I love this couple!!!!! Dropping so many gems. I can’t wait to get remarried and putting all of my trust in God to create the situation according to His Will. This is very encouraging!
This is my favorite episode…Thank you to this beautiful couple for sharing their love testimony…thank you Laterras for your dedication to Dear Future Wifey, I’m 47 and never married, this gives me hope 🙏🏾
That apology IMMEDIATELY sent tears flowing down my face... SO thank you thank you thank you. My soul received that... 🥰🌻‼️🥺🥺 VERY POWERFUL episode Also THANK YOU Laterras for speaking to your relationship with the church that's EXACTLY how I feel. I have yet to return to or officially join another church since my 1st Divorce.... so I appreciate the transparency in that.. 🌻💪🏾
Wow!!!! There were so many gems 💎 dropped in this episode. When Ryan talked about his choice of the picnic for their first date, I immediately thought about Jason’s Lyric. How he showed the creativity of his love for her is what has raised the standard so high for me. I commend you for taking it back to the garden. The simplicity of the garden is that God was with them there. What a beautiful and powerful reference. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 God wrote such a beautiful love story and presented it today. Oh taste and see that the Lord is good. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🤎🤎
I’m not religious but very spiritually an the way she breaks things down is extremely helpful even for those not familiar or hold beliefs in the Bible I can still relate an understand on a deep level exactly what she’s saying
Thank you so much for always bringing up these inspiring conversations. Every time I listen I am encouraged and strengthened in my marriage and in my life
I knew this would be a great episode when I wanted to throw my phone at the 30 SECONDS mark! This goes down in my “Top 10” of favs! Ryan’s apology was confirmation that what I went through was a part of my testimony. Every time I watch an episode, I’m reminded that God is preparing me for greater. Thanks, Laterras, for having this beautiful, Godly couple on! 🙏🏾
I am a big fan of your platform. This has been big for me. Been through to marriages, walked away with anxiety. Now trying to get my life together. 1. This has given me something to measure myself (no father figure) 2. Help me correct my wrongs as a man and a husband if I happen to marry again. That being said I loved this interview. I didn’t it the topic like I thought it should, but I loved. I was hoping this interview would have close to the first one speaking on husbands. This should have been “Love after losing love!” My trauma from being twice, have me second guessing everything. The reason why I love this interview. Be blessed and continue to doing what you doing.
This episode gave me such hope! God keeps the hope alive everytime I see someone this. He's working on me right now and I know He is working on my future hubby! This couple is awesome and a beautiful representation of Kingdom love! Blessings to all of you!
I'm challenged to think of a creative, positive comment because each episode just gets gooder and gooderer. ALL of them have been a well done blessing, but I think it's me. As I'm changing and growing as part of this community, I can relate more and more. Thank you.
I loved seeing the true joy, love, peace and genuine happiness they have for each other, with each and towards one another. We definitely need to see more of that in the world today. That's what you call Divine appointed connections..
I love it!! Take her back to the garden babeee!! I love it. I love their story and how this King’s intentions were to hear God for each level for his Queen. I love he didn’t talk about prayer when she needed it…he activated prayer. He planned and he came to her to in Philly. You Go King!!! Pray a lifetime of love, joy, peace and happiness for you two!!
“When you have a lot of choices don’t make a choice “…….. “wait until you meet someone that doesn’t leave you a choice”……. But you make that person a decision 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽….. purpose over preference 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
That part!❤🎉
My God 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I love it 😻!!! “Purpose over preference “
yesss that part!👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾
It is like people over party.
Wow my husband told me the same thing...I was a 30 year old virgin and when I met my husband (who was definitely not). I told him I was too old to be somebody's girlfriend..he told me straight.." I'm not looking for a girlfriend, I'm looking for a wife" ...mic drop..9 months later we got married...going on 12 years now!!
Amazing story
🥺🥺🥺
So beautiful, I am an almost 28 virgin and still waiting for my husband, thanks for the testimony gives me hope.
@Viku Mugisha just trust God. I told him I was tired of picking. I wanted my heavenly father to pick for me and it was the best choice I never made🤣 of course I had the free will to say yes or no , but you know what I mean
Ooh but the Almighty is the best orchestrator. Simply gorgeous testimony.
When he apologized on behalf of men who have hurt women, I stopped, and I received it. Then I cried...I didn't know that I needed that apology. Thank you for another great interview!
I was reading this as he was saying it!!!
Same I knew the apology was coming but somehow hearing it lifted a weight off me.
This … it was the apology I didn’t know I always needed 🥹
Amen. To God be all the glory! Hallelujah the weight and wait was over!
“Have someone who is discerning in your life when you are not !” Now that’s a Word 🙌🏽 Spiritual equity is a must 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I told my Pastor, " I scare men away when I tell them I am not looking for a boyfriend...I WANT A KINGDOM HUSBAND. TOO OLD FOR A BOYFRIEND. God handcrafted me in being a GODLY WIFE again. 😇
#MyHeartIsHealed #HealBeforeYouAskGodForYourHusbandOrWife #GodHasGivenMeVisionsOfWaitingKeepBusyInHisWordWalkingInFaithBelieving
Preparation
Facts 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@@ketofitqueen Amen. Truth Keep scaring them away with this truth (high Five) lol
1:12:22 Do not jump into marriage just because you are tired of waiting. Noted. That is powerful
I did that. Jumped and got married to my red flags because I was tired of being alone. Been there and never want to do that again.
I can’t wait until Brother Laterras gets married! She probably watching your podcasts everyday! It’s gonna be nice seeing y’all host dear wifey together! Heyyyyy Your gonna have to change the name to “Dear LORD I found wifey “😀💍
He gonna have to do a live recording and invite ALL OF US!!! Legit rooting for him. He has an anointing!
@@girlmeetskingdom FACTS 👊🏽
I’m gonna sit in front of my screen dressed 👗
Like I was at the wedding in person 🤣
I love the way He’s “learning” and “waiting” to make sure the 2nd time around will be better than the first time 😢BEAUTIFUL 🌹
😍🥰 #DearWifey the day has come!
🥳 🍾 🎊 💃.🕺
Wow thank you
Agreed. You never know who's watching!🥰
He still has too many choices… too many countries…🤣😴
Listen, knowing Kanita and Ryan personally let me be the first to say THEY ARE THE REAL DEAL!!!! My sis Kanita has always been such an inspiration and practices what she preaches! When me and my husband met Ryan for the first time and how he cared for her we knew this connection they had was special and God-made. I am so glad they are able to share their story and also preach (cause they def did that on this podcast today!!!!) that love and marriage can be healthy and filled with purpose, love, passion, and all the good stuff when entered with intention, understanding, and on a foundation of Christ.
I love it! Thanks for the added insight.
Yesssssssss
Love this!
I enjoy hearing her talk with such assurance. She's a gem.
I receive it 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏾.
“God sees and understands our need to be loved” that was beautiful to hear❤️
Yes God
His Intentionality is admirable. Her grace and patience is admirable as well. They are beautiful together!
I met my husband in the DMs. We met on Instagram...was engaged within 3 months and married within a year. We just celebrated our 1 year anniversary on 9/25/2022. It's been bliss 😊
Happy Anniversary
Congrats!
Happy Anniversary!
Your lucky
@@chayilevents7979 so love can happen from Instagram? My husband passed Jan 24 2022 after 37 years. I promised that I would never marry again because the love I have for him. Dec 2022 I answered someone who has been in my DM since Sep. we have been texting and talking since then. I'm due to personally meet him in Feb. he told me when he saw me God told him I was his wife. Both of us lost our spouses. I'm looking forward to meeting him soon.
When he apologized on behalf of all the men who did women dirty, I immediately teared up!! It’s the apology that needed to be heard! Thank you brother!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Yes that broke me down.
I enjoyed this episode. I have been married for 17 years. I met my husband in March and got married in December. We dated for 6 months. It's so refreshing to see that men like this still exist. He reminds me of my dear husband. Single Ladies, you are worthy of a love like this. It's amazing to be truly loved by my husband.
I’ve just been REBORN through this conversation!!! I’m 6 yrs divorced after 24 yrs of marriage and desiring to be remarried again but in Christ! You’ve given me a spiritual platform in which to walk in. THANK YOU BOTH! Blessings ❤
Wow Sonja same story here!! 24 yrs of marriage 4 yrs divorced So inspiring this story there is hope.
This was special and you could see and hear the love they have for each other. HAPPY 1 Year Anniversary to the Rutley's. 💖🙏🏽💕🙌🏿 !!! I trust you Lord and there is nothing too hard for you. God's Blessings to you both!
Yep… me too! 5yrs divorced after 26 years of marriage and for the first time, through this conversation, I actually believe that there is hope for a new marriage with a Godly man.
Wow same here married for almost 25 years have been divorced and single for 5 years and 3 months … I want to marry again in the Lord…. This blessed anointed couple gave me such hope ❤Thank you so much!!!❤
I love how she said make sure you have spiritual equity, make sure that you know if he is accountable and open to accountability and knowing his circle… loved how she said the more you are connected and receiving love from God when you enter a relationship you will see when that person is not loving you like the lover of your souls does… wow I love that !!! Thank you so much for being so open ❤
I love that! Summarized, "don't make a choice when you have many choices, wait until you meet the person that eliminates all the choices and leaves you no choice but to make that person your decision". Look at God!
That was so powerful
This was such a beautiful interview 🙂
1. When he apologized to all the women that has been abused. I cried. It meant a lot. Usually the people closest to a person don’t even say that.
2. Great question Laterras. As I was listening to her explain the courtship, I was thinking narcissists do the same things. Fast, pray, talk on the phone for a long time, make women feel comfortable, move intentionally…
I think having people that love you take a look at the person is one of the best ways prevent falling for the charades.
Exactly. Seen it too much
THIS COMMENT... AMEN! Great interview! Loved this couple!
Oh Lord really? Now I'm really feeling messed up. So are there any red flags?
@@aligned4purpose980 Sure. Eventually the mask will fall and some red flags are:
1. Constant confusion
2. Gaslighting
3. Devaluing - they can make you feel unworthy of the best
4. What are his fruits?How is his character?
5. Listen to his stories about other people. If he is sneaky and deceitful towards others, he will do it to you.
There are a lot of good channels out there that speak about signs and symptoms of narcissist
@@akilahbatyah6505thank you! yeah I'm very familiar with all the traits I just never met anyone that did everything right, it was always something that I was able to see spiritually that may not have seen naturally or I ignored smh. So I was just wondering if it was anything different that I have not experienced cause lawd I can not deal 😂
I love the way she looks at her husband while he speaks. I’m praying for my husband from God so I can feel the same way and cherish my man. I’m so ready to give my love.
Wait for a man that Hears from God and is Obedient 🙌🏽
Say it loud
This is the most RESPECTED comment I've red and stopped reading comments after this....
I have to give credit to where credit is due. To Brother Laterras R. Whitfield thank you for creating the Dear Future Wifey Podcast. I am always blessed by each episode, but today, this episode with the Rutleys really blessed me. Brother and Sister Rutley, you both blessed me so much today. God really brought a word in this episode today and I'll be forever changed because of it. When it comes to relationships and marriage, I have a greater perspective now. Thank you all so much, God bless you all
Amein!
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Yeeesssss! Can you imagine the deficit we would be left with if he hadn’t been obedient and started this podcast?! Praise Jesus for Laterras and his journey!
I so agree, this podcast has only set me up for greatness in relationships.
Amen!! This episode was truly a blessing! An episode that has forever changed my life! Thank you and God bless your union and the ministry God has on y’all two lives!
When she got with him, she was "loved well", his love was a reflection of the love of Christ......that part, that difference, that love!!!🥰🥰🥰
“ Okay man, I surrender, I’m tired of meeting them “my way”!!!😅😂😂😂😭 I felt this soo much!!!
Hearing these beautiful, Christian marriages on the latest episodes has given me so much hope. If God can do it for them, He can do it for me. ❤
I also loved it when Kanita said“ my husband loves me well” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 It is one of my desires, and one of the things I ask God about my future husband. This is why I say that watching the DFW episodes contributes to things that I feel are being confirmed for me.
WOW...this was great. When she spoke to the woman's deep need for love and how that shows up in who they chose, so profound. Then him saying he "I inquired of The Lord...." This right here is so encouraging to know that there really are obedient men who will do it Gods way out here. Love it.
"The last thing she wanna see is another thing she already saw!" The truth of this statement...and I love that you asked her about knowing the difference between the real and fake....ACCOUNTABILITY .💯
What ALOT of folks will miss about ALL that this brother has said here he had PREFERENCE and how he had to surrender his preference for the Lord's will......his ways are higher then ours! ☺
PLEASE say it again!!!
I'M NOT A GIRLFRIEND I AM A WIFE🤷🏾♀️
This episode has truly blessed me because I can relate to Kanita with being single for so long and being able to know when God has orchestrated everything that happens.
It blessed me so much too!❤
Right
I just love how purposeful and intentional the Lord is,He is concerned about the things that concern us and He will prefect that which concerns us.
Spiritual equity, that's dope.
Amen to that 🙌🏽
I’ve never been a married woman. However I’ve been around marriage. Seen my mom and dad married for over 30 years. They married until death departed them.
Then I have an older sister whose married for over 20 years.
I became a single mom of two and understand how it happened. Put it like this, if I was the woman in Christ that I am now. Life would have went in a total different direction for me❤
Laterras I love that you interview "regular" people we can identify with. Not that celebrities are not regular but they have a visible lifestyle. Thank you.
That brought tears to my eyes. The apology on behalf of men who may never say I’m sorry.
I receive that! Thank You!
What a wonderful story! An example of how her earthly Dad covered her, how her husband covered her and how God our Father covered them both in their marriage. ❤
A man that can pray fast and humble themselves to Almighty God, will carry, protect and walk with you on that narrow road with joy
Omg so powerful and spoke to me on so many levels about my current relationship. 😭 He made me cry when he said I would like to say I'm sorry to the women out there who experienced abuse, games, been hurt etc and I felt the presence of God in his sincerity. I receive that word. 🙌🏾 I loved how she said he came to her and said exactly what he wanted and that he is not a BOYFRIEND he is a HUSBAND. They didn't waste time because he knew she was the DECISION and went forth to propose and then marriage. It never takes long when 2 people know what they want and need when the right 1 is presented by God. I wish them well.
I have watched many of your episodes. But this one I really felt the presence of God. I am at a stage in my life where I am tired of leading. Kanita said something that I needed to hear. "When he spoke, I immediately felt safe." Thank you for having them on your show. It is so encouraging.
This episode took me to another place. I did the hollering, the church run, & cried. This one hit me right in the heart. Gratitude for you alls openness, vulnerability, and willingness to share your experience.
I understand what you’re saying, I’m alone for 13yrs , waiting for the right king to come along. Right now I’m at peace with myself and waiting.
"I'm not a boyfriend, I'm a husband" Man, I tell men this all the time when they ask me why I don't casually date because I'm not trying to be a girlfriend, I am a wife! Come through man of God. Lord, I see what you have done for others! 🙌🏽
God's Timing is unmatched. He sent those messages, but she saw them at the exact time for them to connect.
This guy is off the chain anointed. There is HOPE!!!! Praise God. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Laterras, you went in on this episode. I loved it. Both Ryan and Kanita spoke into my spirit. This gives me more hope that real love is still possible.
WOW... What a beautiful couple! The spiritual maturity was inspiring. They showed how a person can love God, be submitted to Him AND be intentional about seeking and preparing for a mate... and they made it look GOOD!😊
I don’t have “traditional” social media anymore 🤷🏽♀️ He gonna have to find me on TH-cam or TikTok😂
When he apologized, I felt every word and cry! Thanks for giving me hope. Many blessings to you and your beautiful wife🙏🙌
This story is encouraging! I actually met my husband in a singles Facebook group and he was also into my DM’s.
I could listen to her talk all day!! She is teaching so naturally and organically. I loved listening to her!
Yes
Yes
Thank you for that apology from all men that didn't say it cause tears rolled on my face. Healing is a process and some of us needs that to move on. I'm divorced and learning to heal. Blessing to you both.
This is exactly what I needed! Thank you Lord. I've been holding on to someone I don't need but talked myself into waiting on him😔😔😔😔knowing it's a dead end. THIS IS My breakthrough to a deeper intimacy I've been desiring with Christ. Thank you Lord Jesus!
Well hopefully it will help me too! I’m going through the same thing 😢!!
Let it go sis. God can't open new doors when you're inside with someone you don't belong with behind closed doors.
You got this my sister 🙏🏾 We have to trust God will send you someone you don’t have to wait on or be hurt by. Focus on Christ and He will send you that special someone🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@@deannalawson9456 God got you too. If God can do it for one He can do it for all. He’s not a respecter of person. We just have to be patient and believe He has better for us. Trust me, I’ve been there. I’m praying for ALL the women who struggle in this area of waiting on someone🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
This was powerful!
This episode was so amazing! I personally know Ryan and this is exactly who he is and who he’s always been. Very genuine. God blessed him with a beautiful woman that he deserves. I’m extremely happy for both of them. God is so intentional and good!
We appreciate you, sis!
He apologizing on behalf of all men 😢.. this is a definition of a Godly Man… see, let’s just trust in God alone to give us partners .. great great couple ❤
Definitely a good listen. That part about baggage and luggage stood out to me. To me, what I saw between the two is luggage is something you unpack, but baggage you don't. This was another great episode. I'm constantly hearing and seeing preference being shunned while purpose is being embraced. I love it!
There’s always so many synchronicities in the episodes! My husband and I are from Detroit, we are artists, ministers and producers, my husband tours, the date God gave me for my engagement party was 5/17 and March 17th is my daughter birthday. I also kept being placed in the same room as my husband and we reconnected through DM. God made it obvious no one else was a choice when we made a decision to keep God first daily 💝
Same!!! my bday is March 17th and I met someone and reconnected through DM after saying happy birthday on their timeline 🙈
Thank you King for apologizing for all the men, who didn't man up or value women.Thank you Queen for being open to receive and see the who you prayed for, to the Glory of God!
Mr Whitfield i must tell you since stumbling across your podcast with the episode about Kenny Lattimore i haven't been able to stop watching your podcast. All of the episode has been very forfilling for me . Keep up the good work and may God continues to BLESS you.
Welcome aboard!
Welcome! You'll love it here!!
they are the best
Thank you...I start crying when he asked for women to forgive you guys. Literally
This episode made me worship!!!!...sitting in my bedroom crying and worshipping my Father in Heaven about how strategic and purposeful GOD is!!!! Eleven years single and KEPT because of my Father in Heaven. This couple right here exemplifies exactly what I've been praying for and manifestation is so close. Thank you Dear Future Wifey Podcast, keep going for the Kingdom! God Bless you!
This was absolutely amazing! I have been single 19 years. It’s been good for the most part. I’ve done a lot and I’ve experienced a lot. But I must say that I am ready for my husband, my purpose partner. I accept that apology from Ryan. Thank you brother. The way they connected was God. I love how both of them asked God for His help. I don’t want my preference. It hasn’t worked out for me. I wanna do it in God’s presence. I need some spiritual equity. Jesus this was good!!!
Agreeing with you in prayer for God's best, sis. Bless you!
I’m late BUT out of all of the episodes I’ve watched, this one and the one with Mr. & Mrs. Kev on Stage are my top 2 favorites! I feel like this one teaches us HOW to get married and the one with Kev on Stage and his wife teaches us how to STAY married!!! ❤️
I love how they each sit calmly and quietly when the other is talking. They have such a loving and respectful energy toward one another. Thank you for sharing this with us.❤❤❤
Wow. Someone stole my pillow and read what each tear represented. Thank you for sharing as it’s made me see the work still remaining to do..before I meet my future husband.
Yes I want a man that prayers over and with me.Amen.Amen
“I’m a grown man,what I look like with a girlfriend.”🤣🤣🤣 I love Laterras🤗❤
That young lady said nothing but the truth! Lord Jesus!!! Y’all snapping on here! I am now about to watch EVERY episode you have sir! Wow!
In my office weeping. When he said he apologized for all the men....I felt God
That part feeling safe, protected is special and amazing! 🙏🏽
This is sooooo refreshing because it confirms I'm not going crazy. I prayed God would put new desires in my heart that would show up as answered prayers to my husband. Babyyyyyyyyyyy I've discovered things I didn't even know existed, it's not just a curiosity, it's a passion. Call me crazy but there are times I really feel my husband needs me to pray and I will be prompted to pray for him. I'm currently single but I have this connection with my future husband because God drops those little hints , just as a father gives his kids clues .... once this man finds me, I will come back with a testimony. A testimony of how God orchestrates everything, don't just listen to their story or the podcasts, ask God to open your inner eye, to open your heart to listen to your spirit man and hear what God is saying through this episodes. 🙏🏿
Thank you LT ❤️❤️❤️
I love her speaking of her marriage being apart of her sanctification. What a blessing! 🙌🏽
Laterras and his shrills! Gotta love it!
Wow, she said that even though the courtship was very short, the spiritual equity was already built. That’s a deep!🙌🏾❤️🙏🏾
The POWER of the Paternal Position…this is sooooo good!
This podcast is E-V-E-R-Y THING!
I definitely needed this. The deliverance that came from this! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾😭😭😭
I am so thankful for their testimony.
"Spiritual Equity" Lord I heard that!
All of my alone time is stock piling for my good!
Laterrias preaching took me completely out!
My Dad didn't come to my wedding. (Even though I shouldn't have married the person that I married.) This hit me deep! 😭 I just realized I never had a covering. This was a whole counseling session! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I was driving and crying. I have to listen again and take notes to fully appreciate this sermon. Yes, I said "sermon" because THIS was a word!
Awesomeness at its best!!! Divorced 25yrs Marriage in God is still possible 🙏🏽 🙌 I'm soooooooo excited about what God has in store for me!
Oh Laterras, thank you for allowing the Holy Spirit to have you speak on the clear differentiation between honest love and manipulation through love bombing and moving at the speed of light to hide their hands. That is so important to know the real difference. Manipulation is hot in these dating streets, unfortunately. It’s the practical along with the spiritual key points on this issue that are so essential to point. Very, very good.
Spiritual equity. And that ACCOUNTABILITY part is MAJOR. I am so glad they brought up love bombing. It is so real. Covert narcs make all of that difficult because they can wear a mask for quite a while. Pay attention to how the person handles conflict and if they are able to apologize, be accountable and be empathetic.
Thanks to the friend that recommended this couple! I enjoyed and felt moved by this episode 🙌🏾🙌🏾💞🙏🏾🥂 Simply amazing..congratulations to their journey..blessings to you all
There were so many gems shared that will help singles!!! Thank you Laterras for having this beautiful couple on your channel!!
I LOVE HER! BEAUTIFUL GODLY COUPLE.
I thank God for this episode. I can totally relate to Kanita. I’ve been single for 10yrs. I know whole heartedly that it’s God’s doing. I’ve been content in my singleness and focused. Focused on my daughter and whatever the Lord wants me to do. I’ve always known that he wanted more for me, but whenever I was in a relationship my mind was clouded and my vision was blurred. I had to be set aside, learn who I was in Christ, start reading the word of God and living my life for Christ. My discernment has grown tremendously and anyone I am slightly interested in, I ask God about him immediately and whatever he tells me I run with it. In these 10yrs I’ve had 2 prospects and been on 1 date. I could hear the Lord clear as day say NOPE.
I’m just now at a place where I do desire to be a wife, but I’m also at a place where if God says “not in this lifetime”, I have to be ok with that. But, if the Lord sees fit I’m ready.
Thank you for sharing Queen Brica.
I needed to hear this
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Great episode! I have never been married and have been waiting over 30 years! I needed to hear this because I do believe By faith that it can happen for me and for all that desire it. Praying for all you!
I hear. Never married. Been desiring, praying for 27 years. Love to hear these testimonies but can’t help to wonder when is my time. God certainly has some single men hid away which is encouraging.
It’s good to know that we are never alone. The Enemy wants us to feel abandoned. God said he will never leave nor forsake us. Yes, it gets hard but he will never fail us. Praying for all the singles to get what God has for us. Be and stay encouraged!
I watched this at work and when Ryan apologized I started to cry!. This was such a help, I too want to be a wife, I am divorced, I have tried twice but I know God has someone for me to finish my life with while also living for God. So tired of these men right now, I am about to give up... They give me hope!!! Sir we need to meet! I need a friend like you in my in life Laterras...!!!
This episode was so encouraging as a Single Women!! Thank you!!!
"The spiritual equity was already built"
Laterras had the nerve to go into preaching mode and exegete this and I am over here yelling "preach" to my phone as if he could really hear me.
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I was single and celibate 13yrs before my fiance found me... And I would have waited another 13... I'll wait for God as long as it takes.. Love this interview...
They are a true definition of "what God has joined together". Awesome gems given out by everybody, a blessed episode.
I love this couple!!!!! Dropping so many gems. I can’t wait to get remarried and putting all of my trust in God to create the situation according to His Will. This is very encouraging!
Thanks Ryan 4 apologising on behalf of the broken men who hurt women...it means so much more thank you know.
This is my favorite episode…Thank you to this beautiful couple for sharing their love testimony…thank you Laterras for your dedication to Dear Future Wifey, I’m 47 and never married, this gives me hope 🙏🏾
you're not alone I'm 48 never married and still holding on to hope
That apology IMMEDIATELY sent tears flowing down my face... SO thank you thank you thank you. My soul received that... 🥰🌻‼️🥺🥺 VERY POWERFUL episode Also THANK YOU Laterras for speaking to your relationship with the church that's EXACTLY how I feel. I have yet to return to or officially join another church since my 1st Divorce.... so I appreciate the transparency in that.. 🌻💪🏾
Wow!!!! There were so many gems 💎 dropped in this episode. When Ryan talked about his choice of the picnic for their first date, I immediately thought about Jason’s Lyric. How he showed the creativity of his love for her is what has raised the standard so high for me. I commend you for taking it back to the garden. The simplicity of the garden is that God was with them there. What a beautiful and powerful reference. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 God wrote such a beautiful love story and presented it today. Oh taste and see that the Lord is good. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🤎🤎
I’m not religious but very spiritually an the way she breaks things down is extremely helpful even for those not familiar or hold beliefs in the Bible I can still relate an understand on a deep level exactly what she’s saying
Thank you so much for always bringing up these inspiring conversations. Every time I listen I am encouraged and strengthened in my marriage and in my life
It was the "What is the Spiritual Equity" for me. #MyGodTodayAndTakingNotes!!!
#Accountability
I knew this would be a great episode when I wanted to throw my phone at the 30 SECONDS mark! This goes down in my “Top 10” of favs! Ryan’s apology was confirmation that what I went through was a part of my testimony. Every time I watch an episode, I’m reminded that God is preparing me for greater. Thanks, Laterras, for having this beautiful, Godly couple on! 🙏🏾
I cried hearing that am sorry i have been waiting for years,God bless you'll
I am a big fan of your platform. This has been big for me. Been through to marriages, walked away with anxiety. Now trying to get my life together.
1. This has given me something to measure myself (no father figure)
2. Help me correct my wrongs as a man and a husband if I happen to marry again.
That being said I loved this interview. I didn’t it the topic like I thought it should, but I loved. I was hoping this interview would have close to the first one speaking on husbands. This should have been “Love after losing love!” My trauma from being twice, have me second guessing everything. The reason why I love this interview. Be blessed and continue to doing what you doing.
This episode gave me such hope! God keeps the hope alive everytime I see someone this. He's working on me right now and I know He is working on my future hubby! This couple is awesome and a beautiful representation of Kingdom love! Blessings to all of you!
I'm challenged to think of a creative, positive comment because each episode just gets gooder and gooderer. ALL of them have been a well done blessing, but I think it's me. As I'm changing and growing as part of this community, I can relate more and more. Thank you.
I 1000% agree!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Whew!! Taking off the garment of preference ! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽!
This is so beautiful 💚 how can we doubt God after this beautiful union orchestrated by God. Thank you for this beautiful love story 💚.
Oh my goodness! This spoke to my heart in such a big way. Spiritual equity and the blessings of the Father that floored me.
I loved seeing the true joy, love, peace and genuine happiness they have for each other, with each and towards one another. We definitely need to see more of that in the world today. That's what you call Divine appointed connections..
I love it!! Take her back to the garden babeee!! I love it. I love their story and how this King’s intentions were to hear God for each level for his Queen. I love he didn’t talk about prayer when she needed it…he activated prayer. He planned and he came to her to in Philly. You Go King!!! Pray a lifetime of love, joy, peace and happiness for you two!!
Sir… they need a part 2!!! I absolutely loved this episode ❤❤❤
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