The image of you filming this and sitting on a couch and staring into nothingness pretending to listen to somebody is just hilarious great video and nails
“When consent and intent line up.” GIIIIRRRRLLLL You just spoke to my soul!! I’ve never had a healthy sexual experience (I’ve only had 3 total sexual encounters) because I was never able to A:Consent and B: have the actual intent to be sexual present with the guy and I never understood why I always felt dirty and sad (besides the fact that it was sexual assault by textbook definition) after it happened and it’s because of the main two reasons you listed that should be there and agreed by both parties when deciding to have a sexual relationship. I also agree with your thoughts on confidence-it’s a process that we must continue to develop and cultivate everyday.
Hey lovers! Next video is starring comedian Cynthia Luciette and is all about how to decrease drama in relationships. I think you guys will LOVE IT. Add any additional questions for a future Q & A here too oxo
Shan BOODY Dating someone older. I'm 29 with no kids. He's 42 divorced with 3 kids. Pro's and Cons and benefits will get from each other? What if he doesn't want to get married again? I refuse to be a long term girlfriend
The BI QUESTION THATS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL!! I've never been able to word it well enough, I'm attracted to girls and how beautiful they are but no girl has captured me yet
I like your answer to the sex before marriage I feel you were very very mature with the answer. I favor towards sex at marriage because I think it can save a lot of pain of opening yourself up physically to the wrong person. I wish I waited for marriage. Anyways, much love!
Thank you for being an example of what vulnerability looks like. It's hard for me to do so within myself. It's almost as if the robot within me doesn't want my female softness to live healthy. If that makes sense! Again thank you and many blessings to you!
Open relationships are kind of scary. But then again all relationships are. I happen to be in a "closed" relationship and it's not as easy as it might seem either. Thanks for your perspective ;)
HONESTLY I love these vids of yours because I literally interview myself in my bedroom exactly like this lmao! I love your honesty and your outlook on life!
That last answer about confidence was so valid. The way it was defined was exactly how I feel about it. Like I love me but I’m not where I want to be yet physically.
This was so real. I love that you speak from a place of science, which seems to inform the way you understand the world. It's realistic, and yet beautifully poetic. In fact, many philosophers were scientists. *I'd love for you to post a reading list* somewhere unless you already have, and I'm slacking. I understood what you meant about helplessly romantic love being possible if it is cultivated healthily. It takes discipline and intentionality. It can be the pages you read in fairy tale books, but it is also the labor that went into making the book. That the two, the labor and the love, exist simultaneously. They feed one another and allow it to be fairy tale beautiful. Also happy you had a practical answer about confidence. "Put the work in". If something bothers you, change it. So that the real you can shine, not the insecurities. Ugh, I appreciate your existence so so much. So eloquent. Thank you for sharing you with the world.
This was a fantastic video, I can see both sides of you (business/partner). You are so much smarter than your years and a true inspiration to me as well as others. Life would be so much better if more men and women were so open and honest about their feelings. I can see myself in so much of your conversations and openly and daily try to live and love in the ways you express it. So glad I found you and Jared, you both are shining stars. Love you more each day. Thanks
Uh ! I relate so much to the part when you describe your sexuality . Shan you inspire me so much . You are so knowledgeable and enlightening . I look up to you . I love your personality. The video was amazing . Love ya
I loved this video so much. Probably my favorite video of yours Shannon. Keep on being open and honest about yourself and your journey. My question for you is, how do you deal with the fear and anxiety of leaving a life behind and "following your dreams"? I know you left Canada to pursue your career and take it to new heights but how do you deal with the fear of "OMG am I making the right decision?".
I don’t really think they are logical actually. However that’s based on my past experience. If your a man and your dating 3-5 women regularly that could be very expensive, and that expensive usually creates shallow relationships. However if you have one your mind is not always thinking about the others. And your time and money can be spent more intentionally.
@@king-nick2023 I like this perspective. I kind of think about it like trying to master a skill ... the one I put the most energy into is the one I'm going to receive the greatest return on. Spreading yourself thin isn't as effective.
because open relationships go against the messages we’ve been inundated with from society. that love = sacrifice and codependence and ownership, when really love = freedom and openness.
I love what you said about 9:41! I'm pretty hedonistic and love feeling things out naturally, but I've found that being more intentional about my (polyamorous) relationships has been really valuable.
You are a modern day philosopher, thank you for giving yourself by way of TH-cam. I really resonate with the things you say and I come away from your videos with a new perspective. I love you 💗❤️
Your answer on confidence really resonated with me because I am going through the process of adjusting right now. I realized I spend so much time in my head, it detracts from me being able to be me. Thank you for always being so honest and educational! I love your channel.
Hi Shannon. I am a Children's Author who is quite confident. However, I've noticed that seems like a problem to people around me including guys who are scared to step coz they thought I maybe hard to tame. Watching your videos has enabled me to see what knowing your core looks like. It makes me brave watching you. xoxo.
Honestly, I just love you! Your confidence is inspiring and your content is unparalleled! I always get so excited when a new video comes out and they never disappoint. Our culture, relationships, and sexualities need your unique, intelligent, and thoughtful voice to make sense of its rapid changes. YOU DA BOMB SHAN BOODY
Talking about doing things that pop culture might consider 'superficial' so that your actions come only from your flow state is a really interesting way to look at it. I like to think of it as removing as many excuses as possible because, as humans, we will always looks for ways to take the easy route and if we can't rationalize the easy route with excuses then we are more likely to do the hard work which usually gets us closer to where we should be.
Those editing skills 👌🏼👌🏼 honestly, I think I would get so frustrated to when there is people asking the same dam questions about your relationship. I mean if you weren't giving us much into it then ok, I'd get why people would be curious but come on people. WATCH THE DAM VIDEOS!! Lol x
I just want to say I love what you're doing and really appreciate the information a lot of my relationship questions get answered and those that don't well may not need to be lol but keep going there are plenty of us who appreciate this stay cool
Your insight has always been so amazing to me, literally no matter what the topic is. You are so inspiring and I relate to the subjects you take on so much. Thank you for your energy that you share with us.
The part about confidence speaks volumes to me. I may have been sleeping on "Shan Boody" for awhile. I cant believe how amazing she is! The conversation with yourself, just brilliant!
Thanks for reminding me how I can improve my interpersonal relationships, Shan Shan! These talks are always super insightful, and as someone who tends to be very straightforward about a lot of things myself, the dialogue is definitely relatable. (i talk to myself A LOT lol) I also have a comment based on what someone asked you. I feel like people who ask when the "right time to have sex" is are a danger to themselves, in a way. One, because this question implies that you are not consulting yourself first on what you feel is the type of sexual relationship you desire. Two, that's dangerous because then you fall victim to non-consensual situations and miscommunication. Anyone asking this question is either looking for a way to mask their true sexual desires by not coming off as a "hoe" or vice versa, a prude. Mimick Shannon if you have to -- consult yourself on your desires and act/interact with intention.
Wow I really appreciated the bit on confidence. I like that you mention that knowing your not at ur 100% and being okay with that is a factor of confidence. I like that u say its work and prep because some people like to say its just knowing.. which also makes sense in context I guess. Anyways yeah that was a little motivational considering I literally hate myself most days because I know I'm not enough and I know there's so much Shit I gotta work on and it takes me so long to get with it. But I guess where ill find my confidence is in knowing that if I put the work in I can get to where I wanna be. I just gotta pull through. Thanks for being out here for all of us. I mean it.
Loved this! As always you are creative, thorough and funny in your videos :) As a big fan of Those Girls Are Wild (still bummed over that I never got the hat) - where I was introduced to you & your work in the FIRST place - and following the both of ya'll here on YT, I totally get that it is in the PAST. It was the both of you who decided for whatever reason to end the collaboration. I also recall both of you mentioning in broad strokes what triggered this decision. I have been friends with people, I have collaborated with people, and when it works it works, and when it doesn't it doesn't. I also have come to the conclusion that it is what it is for whatever reasons; not agreeing on things, different lifestyles, ways to maintain a friendship or the lack of. Sometimes some friendships, work relations, and romantic relationships were only healthy, valid, fruitful in a certain time period of your life. When the lesson is learned or you are ready to move forward from this, you will. Not saying you cannot ever become friends again, lovers or work together again. Because life lessons, time and continuing on working on loving ourselves, will change us into the best versions of ourselves who can make better decisions for ourselves. This year has been a hard a process of getting to know myself better through therapy and now coaching. I've really started to look myself in the eye, and it is difficult to face you demons, your innermost sad and concerned thoughts. But it leads you to the answer of why you are unhappy or not being your best self. When Shannon mentions confidence, I 100% agree that loving yourself is the key to loving your life. It has nothing to do with appearance, the perfect career, home, partner or being rich. You may have all of this and still feel pain in the soul. This point may seem obvious, but our society puts so much emphasize on all these things, and that we're just supposed to pop a pill, get a diagnosis or ignore all together than actually listening to ourselves and our own bodies when you feel wronged. Kind of like Shannon's channel teaching about the female sexual experience and sex in general, which was also never taught to us. So finding YOUR truth is essential instead of following or comparing to others. Anyway, that was a long rant, I had a moment... I have a QUESTION: What do you do for exercise besides getting between the sheets? I just started going to a yin yoga class to get more in tune with my breath and body.
Um so this video was the bomb!! And this was perfect timing. I literally just had a date with an old friend. We've liked each other but it was bad timing and we lost contact for 7 years. I like him alot and he makes me nervous and although I want to wait til marriage or when we're comfortable. My hormones want him now!!! Lol
Q: Are you Bi or queer her Answer: I love women they beautiful and I identify with them more etc etc "but I don't see me sharing with a woman in that way that goes beyond friendship but I'm always going to open to it. But I won't pressure myself. It's ok to just say you "straight" you know. No need to talk as if you walking on egg-shells. (most people are straight by the way)
How do you keep the flame going in your relationship? I've been with the same guy for almost three years and I'm bored. We are in a routine. We do the same stuff sexually and just in general. Our dates are either stay at home and watch tv, go out to eat, or go to the movies. I need ideas! Help!!!!
You stated that you generally do the same stuff, try to intiate new experiences together, sexual ly and generally. Also conversation is key, b/c it should be things that you both want to entertain.for yourself as an individual, try changing up your look (not insulting your look now) but new hair or new style can make u feel confident, and opens up other components of your personality which will help to assist you with embracing your new experiences.
Travel! Go to places you guys have never seen. Don’t be cheap with the travel either. Make it extravagant and when you come back you’ll have something to talk about with your partner and sharing new experiences with your partner will always help you get even closer. There’s so many things to not be bored
What about doing group session Q&A with Amber, Ava Ari, Foxy, Domo, Crissy, Tia, Elan, Cemere, Sierra, Ace Family and some more cool TH-camrs about relationship, sex, life, and other interesting topics?
Hi Shannon! I've been changing a lot of things in my life lately and just want to say thank you for making videos. I've learned so much and feel blessed to get to enjoy your content. Keep doing you!
Love watching and listening to your channel so many relatable topics . Thanks for just being you and sharing a part of you on TH-cam to better educate ourselves ❤️
Shannon!!!! I loved this. It's not something see often. So, I have 2 QUESTIONS.. 1. Are you still doing the 30minute mentoring sessions? I was looking, couldn't find it, and I would really like to have a conversation with you about something. 2. Can you go into detail about your work on "The Bold Type" & with Cosmo; Are you working on the 2nd season?
Shan BOODY are you saying that your relationship with Jared (he's a babe btw ) allows you both to disclose to each other, any encounters you may have had ,perhaps even have them in each others presence and neither of you makes the other feel ashamed ,or feels betrayed. Is that what you've got going on over there? Is that why you love him so?
I totally agree with the reunion part. People need to stop asking people they haven't bothered to talk to for years to "meet up". Why do people do that ? Okay we went to middle school together that was great then but now is not then, and I barely have time to see the friends I like so why would I want to make time for someone I once knew ?
Please do a video about what went wrong with your partner on "Those Girls Are Wild". This video was fantastic. Beautiful shots and beautiful editing, as always.
I love you a ton!! And can we please talk about how you filmed this Q&A? cause ya girl wasn't ready lol. My ass thought you really had a special guess... how clever! You will forever be goals.
Great video and I love the creativity behind it. I love watching your videos because you are such an inspiration and amazing women. You're awesome, Shan!! I don't have a question, but next time you're in Atlanta, I want to meet you☺☺
Can you discuss with us some questions you have asked yourself in order to understand who you are, your sexuality, and what you want in life? Can you also include a list of books, videos, workshops, or whatever resources that have influenced you into becoming who you are today?
1. What is a (safe) fantasy that you could share? 2. What are some future video ideas that you have for your channel? 3. Have you ever had to pick a safe word? 😂😉 (leave out the details if it's too much to go into). 4. You have mentioned (several times) fear of judgement from family ...especially parents... about what you do and/or about being seen or depicted in any context that might be __xual. This would seem to be something that would shackle you & stop you from being your true self. This is especially true considering your chosen field. It's a recipe for not living life to the fullest and not getting what YOU want out of it. On the flipside, you also mentioned in the past couple of years that you would no longer allow judgement or negative opinions of others (because you talk about s3x and are a very __xual person) to dictate what you do or limit you in any way. So is the judgement or negative opinion of your parents & other relatives your greatest fear? If this isn't your greatest fear, then what is? 5. Do you have a k(ink) that you have explored or would like to explore that other people might find strange...or do you have a k__k that you are so self-conscious about that you have never mentioned it to anyone? (You don't have to go into detail about the k__k...if you are embarrassed...just acknowledge yes or no as to the existence of such a k__k). 6. If you were offered a million dollars (with half going to a charity or charities of your choice and the rest going to you) would you pose in 🎂👔 for Pboy or for any other platform, with your choice of Annie Leibovitz, Ron Harris, Spencer Tunick...or any photographer of your choice...where you enjoyed some create input, and if you had the final say on which photos to keep or cut? 7. Where do you see yourself 10 years from now? 8. If you could design your own dream job, what would that job entail? 9. Considering that there are a few youtubers, including another female love & relationship vlogger, involved in poly relationships or arrangements...even raising a family together...could you see yourself in a relationship or arrangement with 2 or 3 men (For the sake of this question... being under one roof wouldn't be required)? P.S. You should add a membership option or subscription service (a few good platforms out there to choose from) so that you could do more q&a's, offer behind the scenes video, exclusive content, and video on more touchy subjects in a safer environment where you could be more candid while avoiding most of the trolls, judgement and negative feedback. These services not only offer you more control over access & provide a more safe space...but they could also provide a significant boost in income. One site could offer you at least $4-5k a month if you just set up an account & get a few hundred subs. Money that is already yours...but unclaimed basically. This would be in addition to your normal youtube channel...not as a replacement for. This would give you more versatility...and more $ to do even more videos (important to consider in light of how youtube has changed its algorithm & revenue sharing program...paying far less money). Have an awesome day.
Hey Shan! My question would be: Do you have any foreseeable plans to tour/travel so your followers around the world have an opportunity to meet/discuss with you?
I hope this isn't annoying but I have seen A LOT of your content because I absolutely love you and I don't think I've seen you address this before. What do you think about hybrid relationships? Wherein one partner is mono and the other in nonmono. Do you think it is actually achievable and can be a successful relationship form?
Can you talk about more controversial/non-traditional relationships that people might have a misunderstanding for ? I also experience shame in my relationship. I'm in a Poly relationship and I was previously in a Sugar daddy/ Sugar Baby relationship. Both relationships were completely consensual, everyone in both relationships were completely happy but the shame of others opinions always added strain. Can you please talk about myths and misunderstandings of non-traditional relationships?
Hey Shan Boody! Really dig your videos. I'm always so impressed with their thoughtfulness, candor and humour. Love the idea of seeing a speech therapist! Some questions from me - 1. Do you have a daily practice for presence and confidence? Maybe even sexual vitality? The way you answered a question in this video suggested you might. 2. Have you studied sex therapy or related fields? Def sounds like you know what you're talking about :) 3. Book recommendations please
Steph Shidler Self love would be one of the First things to Help her understand . But It will start with you because daughters observe everything a mother does So if your all good you don't have to worry . Just Keep an Open mind with Her that way she feels and knows your the first person she can openly speak to for advice and not be JUDGED . I'm a brother yes but i have a baby girl and they pick things up wayyyy faster than boys . And from the ladies I've come across in my life( Sexual/Just Friends) Growing up they just wanted someone with an open mind to speak to its already hard enough Being a woman in this world . 🍻
I wonder how long Shan was staring at the empty end of a couch to get the video right. We appreciate you.
Red is Not a Flavor Not that long. You can see that it loops at some parts because she keeps having the same face scratches.
I was confused the self interview was too realistic
+Jiggaboo Huntress yay
"when consent & intent are aligned" such a deep phrase. I couldn't agree more.
yep, this phrase was epic
Man... the girl you’re interviewing look reallll familiar👀can’t put my finger on it.
nothing nothing bruh Ikr
Pretty sure she’s been on Shan’s channel before but idk...
Aline Vieira we know girl... go with the flow 😁
lol no shit
Fr tho. I'm trynna place where I've seen her, but I can't place it.
The image of you filming this and sitting on a couch and staring into nothingness pretending to listen to somebody is just hilarious
great video and nails
xwoolf Right?! Takes dedication! Clearly, she puts in that WORK to make these videos happen 👏🏽👏🏽
I love your creativity. This style of q and a was dope. The way you talk about your partner is so beautiful even if it's scientific.
Shan telling herself she's on her team made me emotional. I'm on your team too Shannon. Love you and so proud of you
+Stephanie Nguyen thank you I’m on ur team too Stephanie. We are all in this together trying to love and be loved abundantly
“When consent and intent line up.” GIIIIRRRRLLLL You just spoke to my soul!! I’ve never had a healthy sexual experience (I’ve only had 3 total sexual encounters) because I was never able to A:Consent and B: have the actual intent to be sexual present with the guy and I never understood why I always felt dirty and sad (besides the fact that it was sexual assault by textbook definition) after it happened and it’s because of the main two reasons you listed that should be there and agreed by both parties when deciding to have a sexual relationship. I also agree with your thoughts on confidence-it’s a process that we must continue to develop and cultivate everyday.
It takes a lot of courage to share experiences so thank you... I agree the consent/intent response that Shannon made hit home.
Hey lovers! Next video is starring comedian Cynthia Luciette and is all about how to decrease drama in relationships. I think you guys will LOVE IT. Add any additional questions for a future Q & A here too oxo
Shan BOODY hi Shannon i love so much i enjoy your videos so much thank you for hard work and you honestly ❤
Male hygiene questions. Like the best way shave down there. Or like best Cologne that woman like. Stuff like that.
Shan. What you tryna do? You & Cynthia in the same video gonna give me a heartattack. Bring it on so I can die happy lol
Shan BOODY Dating someone older. I'm 29 with no kids. He's 42 divorced with 3 kids. Pro's and Cons and benefits will get from each other? What if he doesn't want to get married again? I refuse to be a long term girlfriend
So I'm the only on who see's the resemblance of the woman to Shanbooty 🤔 woah
"Not hopeless romantic, I'm a purposeful romantic." Love that
The BI QUESTION THATS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL!! I've never been able to word it well enough, I'm attracted to girls and how beautiful they are but no girl has captured me yet
Always enjoy your alter ego self videos... Straightforward
I like your answer to the sex before marriage I feel you were very very mature with the answer. I favor towards sex at marriage because I think it can save a lot of pain of opening yourself up physically to the wrong person. I wish I waited for marriage. Anyways, much love!
+manicoquita thank YOU
You deserve millions of subscribers. Your videos are so underrated and absolutely amazing.
How rude of you for not introducing your host to us...smh 🙄😂
I2I Presentation I trust you ☺️
+I2I Presentation I been checking you out son you 🔥🔥🔥
leave it to shan to find a new and interesting way to do Q&A. :*
Thank you for being an example of what vulnerability looks like. It's hard for me to do so within myself. It's almost as if the robot within me doesn't want my female softness to live healthy. If that makes sense! Again thank you and many blessings to you!
SHAN DID THAT. This video is so greeeat. Love it, love watching your videos and content evolve.
Love this! Your strong confident answers are always inspiring
Confidence is preparation... Love Love LOVE that!!
Open relationships are kind of scary. But then again all relationships are. I happen to be in a "closed" relationship and it's not as easy as it might seem either.
Thanks for your perspective ;)
HONESTLY I love these vids of yours because I literally interview myself in my bedroom exactly like this lmao! I love your honesty and your outlook on life!
And my question for next time- Have you ever struggled with Depression or Anxiety and if so, how did you cope with it?
That last answer about confidence was so valid. The way it was defined was exactly how I feel about it. Like I love me but I’m not where I want to be yet physically.
I have been subscribed for about a year and a half maybe 2 years now and I still can't get over your eyes they are so satisfying to look at.
This was so real. I love that you speak from a place of science, which seems to inform the way you understand the world. It's realistic, and yet beautifully poetic. In fact, many philosophers were scientists. *I'd love for you to post a reading list* somewhere unless you already have, and I'm slacking. I understood what you meant about helplessly romantic love being possible if it is cultivated healthily. It takes discipline and intentionality. It can be the pages you read in fairy tale books, but it is also the labor that went into making the book. That the two, the labor and the love, exist simultaneously. They feed one another and allow it to be fairy tale beautiful. Also happy you had a practical answer about confidence. "Put the work in". If something bothers you, change it. So that the real you can shine, not the insecurities. Ugh, I appreciate your existence so so much. So eloquent. Thank you for sharing you with the world.
This was a fantastic video, I can see both sides of you (business/partner). You are so much smarter than your years and a true inspiration to me as well as others. Life would be so much better if more men and women were so open and honest about their feelings. I can see myself in so much of your conversations and openly and daily try to live and love in the ways you express it. So glad I found you and Jared, you both are shining stars. Love you more each day. Thanks
Carl Poston this was a really sweet comment..I agree with everything u said
Uh ! I relate so much to the part when you describe your sexuality . Shan you inspire me so much . You are so knowledgeable and enlightening . I look up to you . I love your personality. The video was amazing . Love ya
Lost Minds same here!
If my man doesnt look at my as Shan looks at herself, i dont want him
Shan i fucking love and appreciate everything about you.
I loved this video so much. Probably my favorite video of yours Shannon. Keep on being open and honest about yourself and your journey. My question for you is, how do you deal with the fear and anxiety of leaving a life behind and "following your dreams"? I know you left Canada to pursue your career and take it to new heights but how do you deal with the fear of "OMG am I making the right decision?".
SunshineMena SAME! I WANT to do the same but I'm scared
Really liked this. Your answers, your look, your growth, your confidence, everything. You're a BAWSE.
Why are open relationships so logical, yet soooo intimidating? ❤
The commitment and energy they require to keep them healthy--it can be intimidating.
I don’t really think they are logical actually. However that’s based on my past experience. If your a man and your dating 3-5 women regularly that could be very expensive, and that expensive usually creates shallow relationships. However if you have one your mind is not always thinking about the others. And your time and money can be spent more intentionally.
@@king-nick2023 I like this perspective. I kind of think about it like trying to master a skill ... the one I put the most energy into is the one I'm going to receive the greatest return on. Spreading yourself thin isn't as effective.
Dawn Hawkins lol very true. A jack of all trades but a master of one.
because open relationships go against the messages we’ve been inundated with from society. that love = sacrifice and codependence and ownership, when really love = freedom and openness.
Honest answers. Thank you.
I love her Q&As cause not only do you learn about who she is but you can learn a thing or two from what she’s saying. Truly look up to this woman
I love what you said about 9:41! I'm pretty hedonistic and love feeling things out naturally, but I've found that being more intentional about my (polyamorous) relationships has been really valuable.
What are some practices you implement to connect to your highest self to help you continuously reach your goals?
Ciera Nelson, that is a great and insightful question :-)
You are a modern day philosopher, thank you for giving yourself by way of TH-cam. I really resonate with the things you say and I come away from your videos with a new perspective. I love you 💗❤️
Your answer on confidence really resonated with me because I am going through the process of adjusting right now. I realized I spend so much time in my head, it detracts from me being able to be me. Thank you for always being so honest and educational! I love your channel.
You are a beautiful person 😍 Always learning from your videos. I love them!! Keep going girl👏!
Hi Shannon. I am a Children's Author who is quite confident. However, I've noticed that seems like a problem to people around me including guys who are scared to step coz they thought I maybe hard to tame. Watching your videos has enabled me to see what knowing your core looks like. It makes me brave watching you. xoxo.
Hey person like me looking in the comments for when the actual title question gets answered it’s at 4:20 *whispers* you’re welcome 🤝😉
Yes! Loving yourself and learning to identify and change the things you don’t love about yourself helps you exude confidence!
Honestly, I just love you! Your confidence is inspiring and your content is unparalleled! I always get so excited when a new video comes out and they never disappoint. Our culture, relationships, and sexualities need your unique, intelligent, and thoughtful voice to make sense of its rapid changes. YOU DA BOMB SHAN BOODY
Talking about doing things that pop culture might consider 'superficial' so that your actions come only from your flow state is a really interesting way to look at it. I like to think of it as removing as many excuses as possible because, as humans, we will always looks for ways to take the easy route and if we can't rationalize the easy route with excuses then we are more likely to do the hard work which usually gets us closer to where we should be.
Shan you are so amazing!! Another epic video 💕
Those editing skills 👌🏼👌🏼 honestly, I think I would get so frustrated to when there is people asking the same dam questions about your relationship. I mean if you weren't giving us much into it then ok, I'd get why people would be curious but come on people. WATCH THE DAM VIDEOS!! Lol x
I love the phrasing of putting effort into things so that you don't second guess yourself in response to confidence. I think that's important!
the one with the top knot is gorgeous
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Lmao
I just want to say I love what you're doing and really appreciate the information a lot of my relationship questions get answered and those that don't well may not need to be lol but keep going there are plenty of us who appreciate this stay cool
Your insight has always been so amazing to me, literally no matter what the topic is. You are so inspiring and I relate to the subjects you take on so much. Thank you for your energy that you share with us.
Ahhhhh this is so endearing 🙏🏽
Shan BOODY 💜
The part about confidence speaks volumes to me. I may have been sleeping on "Shan Boody" for awhile. I cant believe how amazing she is! The conversation with yourself, just brilliant!
The editing is genious!
Thanks for reminding me how I can improve my interpersonal relationships, Shan Shan! These talks are always super insightful, and as someone who tends to be very straightforward about a lot of things myself, the dialogue is definitely relatable. (i talk to myself A LOT lol)
I also have a comment based on what someone asked you. I feel like people who ask when the "right time to have sex" is are a danger to themselves, in a way. One, because this question implies that you are not consulting yourself first on what you feel is the type of sexual relationship you desire. Two, that's dangerous because then you fall victim to non-consensual situations and miscommunication. Anyone asking this question is either looking for a way to mask their true sexual desires by not coming off as a "hoe" or vice versa, a prude. Mimick Shannon if you have to -- consult yourself on your desires and act/interact with intention.
Wow I really appreciated the bit on confidence. I like that you mention that knowing your not at ur 100% and being okay with that is a factor of confidence. I like that u say its work and prep because some people like to say its just knowing.. which also makes sense in context I guess. Anyways yeah that was a little motivational considering I literally hate myself most days because I know I'm not enough and I know there's so much Shit I gotta work on and it takes me so long to get with it. But I guess where ill find my confidence is in knowing that if I put the work in I can get to where I wanna be. I just gotta pull through. Thanks for being out here for all of us. I mean it.
Loved this! As always you are creative, thorough and funny in your videos :) As a big fan of Those Girls Are Wild (still bummed over that I never got the hat) - where I was introduced to you & your work in the FIRST place - and following the both of ya'll here on YT, I totally get that it is in the PAST. It was the both of you who decided for whatever reason to end the collaboration. I also recall both of you mentioning in broad strokes what triggered this decision. I have been friends with people, I have collaborated with people, and when it works it works, and when it doesn't it doesn't. I also have come to the conclusion that it is what it is for whatever reasons; not agreeing on things, different lifestyles, ways to maintain a friendship or the lack of. Sometimes some friendships, work relations, and romantic relationships were only healthy, valid, fruitful in a certain time period of your life. When the lesson is learned or you are ready to move forward from this, you will. Not saying you cannot ever become friends again, lovers or work together again. Because life lessons, time and continuing on working on loving ourselves, will change us into the best versions of ourselves who can make better decisions for ourselves. This year has been a hard a process of getting to know myself better through therapy and now coaching. I've really started to look myself in the eye, and it is difficult to face you demons, your innermost sad and concerned thoughts. But it leads you to the answer of why you are unhappy or not being your best self. When Shannon mentions confidence, I 100% agree that loving yourself is the key to loving your life. It has nothing to do with appearance, the perfect career, home, partner or being rich. You may have all of this and still feel pain in the soul. This point may seem obvious, but our society puts so much emphasize on all these things, and that we're just supposed to pop a pill, get a diagnosis or ignore all together than actually listening to ourselves and our own bodies when you feel wronged. Kind of like Shannon's channel teaching about the female sexual experience and sex in general, which was also never taught to us. So finding YOUR truth is essential instead of following or comparing to others. Anyway, that was a long rant, I had a moment... I have a QUESTION: What do you do for exercise besides getting between the sheets? I just started going to a yin yoga class to get more in tune with my breath and body.
That ending... Honey, I needed that. Great segment. Keep them coming. You are an inspiration. We luv you girl!!!
I love these kinds of vids. Keep on the good work, Shan. You're amazing ✨
Um so this video was the bomb!! And this was perfect timing. I literally just had a date with an old friend. We've liked each other but it was bad timing and we lost contact for 7 years. I like him alot and he makes me nervous and although I want to wait til marriage or when we're comfortable. My hormones want him now!!! Lol
Q: Are you Bi or queer
her Answer: I love women they beautiful and I identify with them more etc etc "but I don't see me sharing with a woman in that way that goes beyond friendship but I'm always going to open to it. But I won't pressure myself.
It's ok to just say you "straight" you know. No need to talk as if you walking on egg-shells. (most people are straight by the way)
Or maybe she meant what she said..
She’s said I’m neither
man the work it took to make this video gets major props.. enjoyed that self reflection# goddess shan # oshun goddess
You’re an excellent speaker. I’m awaiting your TED Talk
How do you keep the flame going in your relationship? I've been with the same guy for almost three years and I'm bored. We are in a routine. We do the same stuff sexually and just in general. Our dates are either stay at home and watch tv, go out to eat, or go to the movies. I need ideas! Help!!!!
Aww, I hope that you will get the answer you need! 😊💕 (You can try couples counseling or just talk to your significant other- communication is key!)
I️ read this book the 5 love language you should try it , it’s tells you all you need to know you don’t regret investing in that book
Brittany douglas I'll look it up thanks!!
You stated that you generally do the same stuff, try to intiate new experiences together, sexual ly and generally. Also conversation is key, b/c it should be things that you both want to entertain.for yourself as an individual, try changing up your look (not insulting your look now) but new hair or new style can make u feel confident, and opens up other components of your personality which will help to assist you with embracing your new experiences.
Travel! Go to places you guys have never seen. Don’t be cheap with the travel either. Make it extravagant and when you come back you’ll have something to talk about with your partner and sharing new experiences with your partner will always help you get even closer. There’s so many things to not be bored
What about doing group session Q&A with Amber, Ava Ari, Foxy, Domo, Crissy, Tia, Elan, Cemere, Sierra, Ace Family and some more cool TH-camrs about relationship, sex, life, and other interesting topics?
I really enjoyed this! Your answers are deep AF. I love you Shan Boody!!
Hi Shannon!
I've been changing a lot of things in my life lately and just want to say thank you for making videos. I've learned so much and feel blessed to get to enjoy your content. Keep doing you!
+Lemonque ahhhhh thank you for sharing this I’m so glad and your words are so encouraging
Love watching and listening to your channel so many relatable topics . Thanks for just being you and sharing a part of you on TH-cam to better educate ourselves ❤️
In love with your content and creativity! Like that convo was so naturally! Love you Shan! You got all the gems!
The way you've set up these interviews, is great, very clever.
Shannon!!!! I loved this. It's not something see often. So, I have 2 QUESTIONS..
1. Are you still doing the 30minute mentoring sessions? I was looking, couldn't find it, and I would really like to have a conversation with you about something.
2. Can you go into detail about your work on "The Bold Type" & with Cosmo; Are you working on the 2nd season?
I get it. I see you. Loved the format,loved the content, forget those people ,the way you two are loving each other is beautiful.
+D Wright thank you x 1 milly
Shan BOODY are you saying that your relationship with Jared (he's a babe btw ) allows you both to disclose to each other, any encounters you may have had ,perhaps even have them in each others presence and neither of you makes the other feel ashamed ,or feels betrayed. Is that what you've got going on over there? Is that why you love him so?
Love your outlook on relationships, their abilities to transition and ability to be real and honest
I totally agree with the reunion part. People need to stop asking people they haven't bothered to talk to for years to "meet up". Why do people do that ? Okay we went to middle school together that was great then but now is not then, and I barely have time to see the friends I like so why would I want to make time for someone I once knew ?
I really loved that last bit of self love!!
Omg! I relate to all what you have said on this video. THANK YOU!
I dont know howwww I missed this vid but I'm glad I found it now it's always so great to here from you about you and your experiences.
What's your sign? What's your lovers sign? and what are your thoughts on zodiac compatability? Do you pay attention to it in relationship?
I LOVE these type of videos Shannon; so creative!! Loved your honest answers too, you're a babe! x
I completely agree with the love at first sight part. it makes so much sense that you can purposefully have one with the other :).
Such a creative format and as always...informative and entertaining!
Very articulate Shan! I wanna see a speech therapist now. Thank you for inspiring people with what you do!
Please do a video about what went wrong with your partner on "Those Girls Are Wild". This video was fantastic. Beautiful shots and beautiful editing, as always.
I don’t think she would be interested
Does anyone else have these imaginary interviews with themselves all the time, or just me? 👀
I love you a ton!! And can we please talk about how you filmed this Q&A? cause ya girl wasn't ready lol. My ass thought you really had a special guess... how clever! You will forever be goals.
Great video and I love the creativity behind it. I love watching your videos because you are such an inspiration and amazing women. You're awesome, Shan!! I don't have a question, but next time you're in Atlanta, I want to meet you☺☺
I love the way you speak. Very clear and explainitive. It's interesting to hear your opinion on different topics! Xo
Can you discuss with us some questions you have asked yourself in order to understand who you are, your sexuality, and what you want in life? Can you also include a list of books, videos, workshops, or whatever resources that have influenced you into becoming who you are today?
Haven’t been watching lately finna get caught up on all your vids loving this one for sure 🙌🏽
That part about confidence >>>
This is phenomenal! Love your videos! Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
1. What is a (safe) fantasy that you could share?
2. What are some future video ideas that you have for your channel?
3. Have you ever had to pick a safe word? 😂😉 (leave out the details if it's too much to go into).
4. You have mentioned (several times) fear of judgement from family ...especially parents... about what you do and/or about being seen or depicted in any context that might be __xual. This would seem to be something that would shackle you & stop you from being your true self. This is especially true considering your chosen field. It's a recipe for not living life to the fullest and not getting what YOU want out of it. On the flipside, you also mentioned in the past couple of years that you would no longer allow judgement or negative opinions of others (because you talk about s3x and are a very __xual person) to dictate what you do or limit you in any way. So is the judgement or negative opinion of your parents & other relatives your greatest fear? If this isn't your greatest fear, then what is?
5. Do you have a k(ink) that you have explored or would like to explore that other people might find strange...or do you have a k__k that you are so self-conscious about that you have never mentioned it to anyone? (You don't have to go into detail about the k__k...if you are embarrassed...just acknowledge yes or no as to the existence of such a k__k).
6. If you were offered a million dollars (with half going to a charity or charities of your choice and the rest going to you) would you pose in 🎂👔 for Pboy or for any other platform, with your choice of Annie Leibovitz, Ron Harris, Spencer Tunick...or any photographer of your choice...where you enjoyed some create input, and if you had the final say on which photos to keep or cut?
7. Where do you see yourself 10 years from now?
8. If you could design your own dream job, what would that job entail?
9. Considering that there are a few youtubers, including another female love & relationship vlogger, involved in poly relationships or arrangements...even raising a family together...could you see yourself in a relationship or arrangement with 2 or 3 men (For the sake of this question... being under one roof wouldn't be required)?
P.S.
You should add a membership option or subscription service (a few good platforms out there to choose from) so that you could do more q&a's, offer behind the scenes video, exclusive content, and video on more touchy subjects in a safer environment where you could be more candid while avoiding most of the trolls, judgement and negative feedback. These services not only offer you more control over access & provide a more safe space...but they could also provide a significant boost in income. One site could offer you at least $4-5k a month if you just set up an account & get a few hundred subs. Money that is already yours...but unclaimed basically. This would be in addition to your normal youtube channel...not as a replacement for. This would give you more versatility...and more $ to do even more videos (important to consider in light of how youtube has changed its algorithm & revenue sharing program...paying far less money).
Have an awesome day.
Absolutely LOVED!! this vid..would love to see another one x
Hey Shan! My question would be: Do you have any foreseeable plans to tour/travel so your followers around the world have an opportunity to meet/discuss with you?
Yes ShannoN! Just YES! Purposeful romantic. Finally something that describes who I am too :)
I love this so much! You’re amazing Shannon ❤️
I love this video , as I do all your videos because you're insight is truly inspiring. Do you have a book ? Or are you working on a book ?
I hope this isn't annoying but I have seen A LOT of your content because I absolutely love you and I don't think I've seen you address this before. What do you think about hybrid relationships? Wherein one partner is mono and the other in nonmono. Do you think it is actually achievable and can be a successful relationship form?
Hey Shannon!
This video just made me subscribe to your channel! You’re so intelligent and I love seeing women who use their brain! 👌❤️
Can you talk about more controversial/non-traditional relationships that people might have a misunderstanding for ? I also experience shame in my relationship. I'm in a Poly relationship and I was previously in a Sugar daddy/ Sugar Baby relationship. Both relationships were completely consensual, everyone in both relationships were completely happy but the shame of others opinions always added strain. Can you please talk about myths and misunderstandings of non-traditional relationships?
Hey Shan Boody! Really dig your videos. I'm always so impressed with their thoughtfulness, candor and humour. Love the idea of seeing a speech therapist! Some questions from me -
1. Do you have a daily practice for presence and confidence? Maybe even sexual vitality? The way you answered a question in this video suggested you might.
2. Have you studied sex therapy or related fields? Def sounds like you know what you're talking about :)
3. Book recommendations please
Best guest you've had, I love it!!
If you had a little girl what values would you instill in her? How would you do it? What rules would stick to for the little girl?
Steph Shidler Self love would be one of the First things to Help her understand . But It will start with you because daughters observe everything a mother does So if your all good you don't have to worry . Just Keep an Open mind with Her that way she feels and knows your the first person she can openly speak to for advice and not be JUDGED .
I'm a brother yes but i have a baby girl and they pick things up wayyyy faster than boys . And from the ladies I've come across in my life( Sexual/Just Friends) Growing up they just wanted someone with an open mind to speak to its already hard enough Being a woman in this world . 🍻
Denz YourGirlsSideTing thank you! Yeah I definitely do keep an open mind in communicating with her. She gives her secrets to me 😊 I will keep that up.