Should Christians Kiss Before Marriage?- Boundaries In Christian Dating
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- 'Should Christians Kiss Before Marriage?- Boundaries In Christian Dating’
Enjoy the 2nd video is our series, 'Boundaries In Christian Dating!' We feel like kissing before marriage is an important topic that should be talked about! Is it a bad idea, and if so, why? Or is it not a big deal? Let's dive in, yay!!
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There was a time in high school where all I wanted was to be kissed, but after a while I just realized that it would cause emotional attachment and decided to wait. I actually wanted to wait until marriage to have my first kiss, but the idea of doing that in front of a bunch of people is somewhat terrifying, so now I'm thinking I'll either stick with that or wait until I get engaged, but I trust that'll be a conversation between my future hubs and I!
vivacioushannah There you go :) I would just say, the longer you wait, the better! Having your first kiss on the wedding day is so so rare nowadays, but really beautiful
vivacioushannah
Doing it in front of an audience is ridiculously scary, but I encourage you to wait until marriage for your first kiss. The way I see it is kissing is technically oral intimacy which is forbidden until marriage. Forgoing all the physical stuff helps you to get to focus on who your partner is as a person and not how he touches you or how his kisses make you feel. And for the first-kiss-at-the-altar-stuff, you can totes not do it there. I don't think anyone is entitled to seeing such a special and private moment of yours. I once saw a wedding where the bride and groom skipped the kiss part entirely and had their first one alone. In my opinion it is very special and you don't have to share it with a whole bunch of other people if you don't want to. It's your wedding.
vivacioushannah y'd u use hubs plural?
Since I was like 12, I've wanted to save my first kiss until marriage (I know it's not for everyone). I heard that it can be awkward. I love feeling like I'm not alone. I like your (Paul and Morgan)'s idea of waiting until he asked your dad. And I love the idea of a forehead kiss in front of everyone. What a cute idea.
nit picking for what
I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and we're waiting until marriage to have sex but I do think it's kind of silly to wait until marriage to kiss. It's really easy for us to stop ourselves before things get too out of hand. But I guess not everyone has that control. We did set very important boundaries before we ever kissed so I think that helped a lot.
Can you please give any tips on how you did have those boundaries? It should help a lot. Cause it is not easy to wait and boundaries is a good way to prevent it from happening.
@@dimitra3574 dont listen to her. Do not kiss before marriage🤦🏽♂️
@@smokerx6291 I agree with you
To say things like "it's really easy for us to stop ourselves" or "I can control myself" is an extremely slippery slope. That is where the devil gets people, when they start to trust their own strength too much.
Waiting is not silly at all when you can't be sure if you're going to be with the person for the rest of your life. Things happen; I've seen so many people get as far as engagement, and everyone thought it was so serious and that they would get married. And then things were broken off. You never know what could happen; it's best to wait until the wedding ring is on the finger.
Lol... Just look at you?! 😂
Having remorse the rest of my life over kissing someone... sorry what?
brooklyn yager he clearly wasn't saying that you'd be remorseful over kissing someone 🤦🏾♀️ he was saying that the if the kiss leads to sex and you break up you could regret it in your future lol
I would agree,he's not saying you'd be remorseful over kissing someone, but I would also say that I personally do have remorse over kissing the first person I kissed, because it ended up not meaning anything and I did it because I was tired of being single. I wish I had waited. Was is sex? Nahhh, not by a long shot! Nor is it a huuuuuuge remorse or shame, but do I wish I hadn't done it? Yeah.
I know right. I didn’t feel shit when I kissed a guy who I’d went on a few dates with. That’s when we both realized we kinda didn’t have any chemistry, we both went our separate ways no hard feelings. Don’t regret it and I certainly wasn’t all “emotional” because I’m a female or some shit, Jesus Christ.
Yeah especially someone you ended up marrying.. that is so sad.
Marie S Jesus Christ is Lord! Not an expression 🙂🙂🙂🙂
This really rubs me wrong, my husband and I dated for 4 years before we got married we kissed made out whatever you want to call it for those four years and not once did we have sex until our wedding night, so saying that it just doesn’t work like that just simply isn’t true. You and your partner have to be on that same understanding and level. I don’t think all Christians should be put under one umbrella 🤔
I agree, there's nothing sinful with kissing someone before marriage, as long as you don't intentionally lust after your partner.
I think you kind of missed their point. It seemed to me they were just saying that you should do what you and your partner are comfortable with. They recommended not kissing someone until your relationship has developed a little more, or maybe even wait until you know you're going to marry them for assurance ig. Either way we each have different limits and boundaries to prevent us from sinning, so although it's great you and your husband made it 4 years kissing without it leading to other things, that simply isn't the case for everyone. They didn't say that kissing is evil and to wait eternity and a day, they just gave their own experiences.
I agree
I think they're try trying to say that things could go this way and often do. They aren't saying that everybody should follow what they claim, and I'm sure they know that everyone is different. The point of this video and the point of their channel really is to give christian advice and things to think about that you may or may not want to apply your life and it's style❣️
You missed out 4 years of sex. For what?
Kissing is not necessarily sexual. I've had makeout sessions that were completely out of the emotions that I had for that person and not lust. It's a way to express your adoration for them. I can't imagine not kissing someone passionately before marriage and then going straight to full on sex the day of. It's not natural. And not kissing because it might cause more heartache after a breakup? Grow up! Heart breaks are part of being human. If you're constantly guarding yourself that much, you're gonna have no idea how to handle a bad heartbreak when you have no control over it. This video is full of judgmental opinions. No one loses their value or worth as a person or a spouse by how many people they've kissed!
O livia well they didn't say that someone who hasn't been kissing a lot of different people is a better person than the other... I think (my opinion) they just meant that don't do that because you might regret it and it's not always a good idea. Do it when you are sure it IS good
Its still your choice, this is for people like me that want advice and are looking for smart ways that may stop the urge from being so strong to wanting to have sex outside of marriage. If you listened correctly they said that kissing is emotional and leads to sexual things. You have to listen with the intention of gaining information or seeing a different outlook of things rather than finding flaws and blowing them up as if all people weren't made to have their own opinions. Now this video was based off of their own experience so its factual to them and they felt the need to share in order to help someone else out. On top of all that heart breaks are normal, yes we all may deal with them, but God might not always want a person to have to go through heartbreaks relationally (with a significant other). We could go through heartbreaks in other ways. Generally if a person knows that they can avoid and have common sense not to go through it, they wouldn't. Hope you actually learned something from the video sus because everybody is not perfect.
I totally agree with you and I do realize I came off pretty strong, I actually watch some of their videos with the sole purpose of listening to another perspective. I can listen, and not agree. If this is what works for them, or for other people then great. I just have a problem with what they say coming off as judgmental and implying that as Christians, we should all be this prude. They also come off as assuming that all people are super sexual and have problems with lust, which is not true. I think its great advice to not go into kissing someone right when you first start dating, but to encourage waiting until marriage is extreme imo. There is middle ground. Maybe they should make a video about how to set boundaries with your SO that isn't "Let's not be physically intimate at all ever until marriage" cause that's more practical.
O livia and I personally don't think that waiting to kiss until marriage is kinda stupid. Just because you kinda "need" the "sparkle and butterflies" to your relationship so it can work (not in all relationships) and if you don't have it you're just like kind of friends. I think sex can be such an important thing in a relationship and couples should be sure they have that sparkle. That's why you shouldn't always be with your friends like you never are just with your partner
O livia like I mean the attraction is important and it "should" be a part of a relationship
"I don't want to know she's kissed numerous guys. Like, that hurts me." It's one thing to say you want to save kissing as a special connection with someone; it's quite another to claim you're actually 'hurt' by the thought of a woman kissing people before she kissed you. It's just being melodramatic and it's the start of the slippery slope to 'Biblical womanhood' and the notion that it's women's fault when men's lustful thoughts turn into bad actions.
I wish Christians would spend more time making videos about stuff that's REALLY hurtful, like child poverty, and systemic racism and the sexual abuse in the Quiverfull movement. That stuff REALLY hurts people - most of them children.
I was shocked by that comment as well...
Exactly thank you! And nothing they said is supported by scripture. This is entirely their perspective and opinion.
InsertSmileyFace this a prespective coming from Christian people, I believe this is mainly the purpose of their videos.
Sarah Welstead the topics you posted are important but the topic that they spoke about is also important. Little things like this matter too in your walk w/ God.
I totally get your point, and I understand that most religious people think the small things are important. That's okay. But there seem to be a zillion Christian TH-camrs doing zillions of videos about really ridiculous nitpicky stuff like "Should Christians ever kiss on the left side of the cheek before marriage?" or "Are short-sleeved shirts acceptable for modest Christian women?" and hardly any of these good Christians addressing the big New Testament directives.
Spending 4 hours a day making videos about modest necklines seems awfully frivolous when you could be spending that time volunteering at a food bank, or caring for a housebound senior, or raising money for a Yemeni family who are slowly starving to death in the famine in Yemen. I find myself increasingly frustrated with people who claim that their walk with god is the biggest thing in their life and yet seem to have missed the big picture of Christ and the New Testament.
I totally respect people who choose to wait to kiss until marriage, but I definitely don't think it's necessary. I was JUST 16 when I started dating the man I've been with now for over 3 years and will marry. We waited a month to kiss, until we were really sure that what we had was special and real.
I’m 19 and my mother is telling me I need to wait to kiss my 20 year old girlfriend. That’s why I’m here
next time maybe use some scripture or biblical context to back up your claims and beliefs....
arina they don’t have any scripture to back it up. the Bible never says any of this they just kind of made it up. Which is also probably why she has tattoos but won’t hug someone...
Arina and Max: They did specify that, while kissing before marriage in and of itself may or may not be sinful, it easily can progress to something that is.
Here is a link to many Bible verses on this topic: www.openbible.info/topics/no_sex_before_marriage
megalopolis2015 The link doesn't exactly back up what you're trying to say
G.L.: Only if you truly don't think that kissing easily leads to other things that is wrong from a Biblical standpoint, or that thoughts themselves can be sinful.
Kissing isn’t bad. Like they said, but it CAN lead to temptation which can lead to sin over time, Aka having sex before marriage. It’s more or less a way of protecting our purity and not allowing ourselves to even go there. God says not to have sex before marriage. Yes that IS in the Bible. So it would be unwise to get as close to that border of sin as possible so we aren’t tempted. Again kissing isn’t bad, in the Bible it even speaks of kissing as good such as welcoming someone with a kiss, but it CAN lead to temptation which is what they are saying here. As a Christian it’s easy to fall into the trap of temptation so it’s important to guard our hearts and minds in our actions and thoughts. ❤️
Being hurt by your boyfriend having kissed someone before they even knew you is a weird construct to me. Seems like insecurity to me.
Lying to yourself to cope. No woman wants to share her man with other women. You remind me of those coping boomers talking about " I don't care that my wife was a party girl and had sex with 50 guys before me, the past is the past!!" Can everyone just stop lying to themselves?
People are different
@@shalomokeke3509yes. Some people are rational and others aren’t 😂
I will never feel comfortable about the whole ‘asking for your father/parents permission’ to marry someone. It feels really possessive and unhealthy to me, like your body and life belongs to your parents, not yourself. The same goes with ‘I didn’t want my future wife to have kissed any one else.’
It’s like someone is ‘tainted’ or something because they aren’t ‘all for you’ which honestly again, sounds sooo possessive. Isn’t it amazing enough that someone proclaims their love for you and wants to commit to marriage and spending your lives together? I feel like judging someone’s past is the most unchristian thing ever.
I don’t judge anyone for saving intimacy or anything for marriage, every relationship is different, just the whole possessive aspect of a few of your points really disturb me.
I totally agree with you. It's very disturbing.
As a Christian, the asking the father/parents for permission comes from respect for the family. And if your family is Christian and have a bad feeling about the guy, chances are he's not the right person for you. I will not voice judgement on people's past, but if the guy has had 15 girlfriends beforehand it's going to weigh on your mind
Brianna Webber the thing about asking permission sets us back soooo many centuries. It views women as ‘property.’ In fact, the real message behind marriage was just that, a family selling off their daughter for social/political/money reasons. As a culture, I believe we have come such a long way and yet unhealthy customs such as that seem to stick, a lot of people doing so for religious purposes. I guess it’s a matter of opinion wether or not you believe a woman has a right to her own body and life choices. I know that doesn’t align with most of the Christian faith, as women are seen and followers, second class and not as worthy as a man.
@@emhansford1997 Girl you are missing my point. I see what you are saying and I don't believe women, particularly Christian women, are seen as property or not in command of their own body and choices. It is simply out of respect for your parents from both you and the guy who wants to marry you that he still feels like he should ask. Sure it came from not great traditions (believe me, I don't like the idea of being sold off etc), but modern Christian men don't think like that.
Thanks for talking with me about this though. It's interesting to hear others' opinions
@@briannawebber9406 I understand what you mean. There's nothing wrong with showing respect. I think it becomes disturbing when you analyze the cultural and social implications behind that (sexism, women seen as property and control of female sexuality). If a man "feels like" he "somehow has to" ask her girlfriend's hand to her parents, both of them and the family are a victim of this mentality. As long as a woman is happy that her future husband needs to ask for her father's permission to marry her, there's no problem. Back in the days it wasn't a choice. I respect your prospective, and I understand that you care about your family and you want to respect them. But there's something more to think about :why is the man that have to ask the woman's hand to her father? And not the woman to the man's mother? And again: why is always the woman that have to choose the "right guy" as if the guys were promiscuous and dangerous, and the girls pure and virgin, only willing to get married and settle down? (I think that if you do some research it is not hard to find an answer.) ^^
My hubby and I saved our first kiss at our wedding ceremony and we never regret the decision we made. We totally agree on the progression and that’s exactly our concern, we also wanna flee from temptation of premarital sex and save more for our marriage life. Glad to hear other Christian couples pursuing the same direction :)) May the videos you made give insights and wisdom to the youths who need guidance and examples on relationship! Bless you two :))
I am so grateful for this helpful advice. As a Christian 26 year old woman to be a virgin and still never kissing a guy before I’ve been seen as a bit odd. But I always felt that that was a connection that you should feel with someone you love and the one you want to marry. It’s nice finding someone in this generation that believes that.
In my experience, i have 5 cousins who are all christians. the worst marriage that has no love and no respect is the one where they didn't kiss or even touch until their wedding. they had no chemistry, no connection. it feels like they don't even know each other. this mentality absolutely isn't for me
Thank you guys for uploading content like this. As a young 17-year-old girl coming out of a very secular and God-denying relationship, It's so great to have people like you on social media to keep me encouraged and excited for the greater plan that God has in store for me - in a future lasting relationship and in my relationship with God. It's a scary and crazy world that we live in, today...yet how uplifting it is to stumble across people like you! :)
When I was a teenager, I thought it was crazy! But as I got older, God and relationships showed me this is just real WISDOM! I want to wait til my wedding day to kiss my future husband
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This video just affirmed my decision (that I made in high school, now 23) to save my first kiss for my wedding day. And I have to believe that a guy who will respect my decision is out there.
Right!
if he's the one he will
it will give him joy to fulfill your wishes
I'm saving my first kiss for my husband. I've been in a previous relationship where we reached engagement, so I'm glad we went that extra step of saving it until marriage, because that guy is not my husband now.
To each his own but I couldn't wait until marriage for a kiss. I crave that kind of intimacy. Without it my boyfriend would feel like he's just a friend. Besides, the bible doesn't even say abstain from kissing until you're married, and it doesn't say you'll be heart broken after breaking up because you kissed. It's sex that creates soul ties, not kissing.....
I THINK YALL DID IT A PERFECT WAY!!! I would want my guy to commit before I let the relationship get deeper. And y’all are so right after kissing it progresses faster and it gets harder to resist so when the right one comes I think it is such a good idea to wait till engagement to kiss so that you ensure he wants you for your heart and to ensure that the relationship is built on Christ alone that he is the foundation. So important and so cool that y’all did that. When I am old enough I hope my boyfriend will wait to kiss me!
Beautiful post!!!
When it comes to physical contact like this, I'm pretty sure we all have different perspectives, but from all the comments I've read, I think most of them misunderstood this video.
This video is not SHOVING-OFF-down-your-throat that kissing is bad. This is them, sharing their journeys of discernment between their relationship and God. They shared it because they care to those people out there who's looking directions on the path of being pure as woman/man.
This is a pretty serious video and you both lead me to be more cautious and pure. Praise God for you both!
I want to save my first kiss for marriage. I’m 19 and everyone thinks I’m crazy, but I believe God intended all of that to be shared only with your husband...
I probably wouldn't wait for marriage with just kissing, BUT I definitely think you should wait a certain time to kiss your boyfriend/girlfriend until you know you are ready for it and comfortable enough with that person.
Thank you for filming this! Whenever I've thought about kissing in a relationship, I never took it very seriously. You guys had a lot of really solid points, and reasons to wait in an effort to keep kissing special and for the right person. I really appreciate your honesty and boldness, particularly in your reminder that we are not as strong as we think. I totally had that mindset with basically every aspect in dating, and didn't even realize how naive I was until watching this. So, thank you. I'll remember this. :)
Thank you, Victoria!
Hi Guys!!
Thanks so much for this video. This is a great topic to discuss and I also feel more people should talk about these relationship issues.
I've been married for almost two years now and both my husband and I decided to save our first kiss for our wedding day. This seemed crazy at first, but now looking back, I am so grateful that we saved EVERYTHING for marriage. I will never take it back.
As you mentioned in the video kissing is not such a bid deal, BUT it does lead to bigger things making it very difficult to completely stay pure and wait for marriage.
I so agree with your video, but can also testify of the great reward God gives when you safe everything, even kissing, for marriage.
At first, I thought this question was ridiculous and just weird. But after listening to what you two were saying, I have a change of heart. I don't know that I'll save kissing until I'm engaged to someone, but it might be worth considering.
Thanks for the comment!
it'd be super great if you could not perpetuate the nonsensical idea that women are just SO emotional that if they kissed someone and then ended it one week later that that would just be SO devastating to them while the guy walks away feeling nothing. it's ridiculous to think like that and it's honestly insulting to women to act like we're that weak. it's also toxic to guys because you're continuing to perpetuate this idea that men don't have feelings or shouldn't. men and women are honestly not that different when it comes to emotions and mood swings. the only difference is that people like you continue to push this idea that women are fragile and emotional while men are tough and untouched by emotion. the difference is in our perception, not reality. also, if you're in a relationship with someone, you should feel comfortable with them. you should feel emotionally connected to them. that's not a bad thing. those things don't HAVE to lead to sex if you want to wait till marriage. finally, I don't know you guys and I've honestly only seen a couple of videos of yours. but from what I've seen, it already seems like paul has straight up brainwashed morgan into his stricter beliefs. morgan was more lenient in a lot of ways till paul came along. like okay...I just really hope that isn't the case because that's messed up. it also is crazy to think no one has any self control. if you want to wait till marriage to have sex..you 100% can kiss someone and not have it go further. I can't relate because under no circumstance was I waiting till marriage. but don't act like humans are wild animals with no self control. clearly morgan understood that it can be done..until paul told her otherwise. see what I mean about the brainwashing 🙄
It all depends on the person and I know that I feel convicted whenever I kiss a guy and then we don’t work out. It does hurt the both of us because we thought it was going somewhere and then it didn’t. I know I’m waiting for marriage because The Holy Spirit is guiding my heart to do that. 💗
Thank you!
yall give me so much hope. THANK YOU. I admire you deeeeply
Liked hearing your all’s perspective on this. I think even a simple touch can arouse someone! I guess you can never be too careful. I still have my virgin lips and hope to keep them that way for the guy I marry:)
Julia Olliges haha Amen Julia! It’s just wise to be cautious with our purity. And it always pays off in the end!
Wow. This is just crazy talk. I mean, you do you. But don’t tell others that’s what they need to do. Lame.
Paul I respect you for keeping your standards. You're inspiring me. Keep running the race. Morgan thank you for being supportive and willing to learn and understand your 'other half' (even if at first your did not understand). Being tolerant and willing to learn from each other takes away selfishness and conceit and open the door to 'oneness' (of mind) which shows unconditional love. That is because we have to love and accept people for what they choose to be even if we do not agree will all they say or do. May the Lord continue to bless your relationship and your channel and all your endeavors. We are having fun and laughing 'cause you guys are hilarious in your videos but the work that you do helps a lot of people who tune (in including myself). Stay woke
Awe praise God! Thanks for the comment :)
Woww, I didnt knew you guys before but everything is touching my heart soo deep!! Its amazing that a young couple like you have so amazing and godly standards AND that you share those!! God bless you ❤️❤️
Oh and youre already invited to my wedding whenever that will be!! 😜
Awe praise God, thanks for sharing❤️
Im soooo glad I found you two because I’ve always wanted to talk to my parents and sisters about this kind of stuff, but I was too embarrassed hahaaa thanks sooo much for making videos like this!!! God has truly blessed you guys!!! Sending luv ❤️❤️
Awe so cool, you’re welcome :)
This video is full of wisdom, and I can see that you both fully believe it. It is true, once you kiss someone, there is that line that you cross. Once over it you aren't able to go back to the light feeling and friend stage, especially if you do not have a close friendship yet. It's harder to get to know someone once you are involved physically because naturally, that is all your bodies want to do. It's in our DNA, so that is very wise. Thank you for being real. God bless you both, love watching your channel :)
Thank you so much! Yes, that's so true! Gotta be careful what lines we cross and how soon.
Waiting to kiss until your wedding day is ideal. Not everyone is convicted to wait til marriage to kiss. But, kissing your one and only love on that special day sounds magical and meaningful.
When Paul was kissing his hands and Morgan was like 😯 oh woah 🤣🤣🤣
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Personally, I'm a Christian woman and know that I am just as strong as I think if I have the Lord's strength on my side. I was in a situation back in high school where we were kissing and we could have gone all the way if we both wanted to since we were alone. I stopped him when he tried to take some clothes off and I explained that it wasn't that I didn't find him attractive (because it's important that your partner knows that you're attracted to them), but that I wasn't ready to go forward. He was 100% respectful of where I was coming from. Looking back, if he wasn't ok with the fact that I wasn't ready, it would have lead to us breaking up. To this day, I don't regret waiting and I still am waiting for marriage. That said, I don't think that kissing always has to lead to sex. It's up to you to make your intentions known.
That's so awesome! Way to have the strength :)
Just found y’all’s youtube and I love your content! I’ve been a Christian all of my life and have never thought about waiting to kiss until you’re engaged or almost engaged! But I’m thankful you guys addressed the issue!! It definitely made me think about how I want to walk into a future relationship!
You guys should make a video about how to deal with sexual regret! Just another hot topic.
Lydia Sylvester That's a really good video topic. I'll add that one to the list. Thanks Lydia!
I think thats a good topic, but surely this couple is not that qualified for that?
Lydia Sylvester true
Lydia Sylvester ew
Bailey Barnes why did you say ew?
Yasss PREACH!!! Just found ya'll and love your channel!
Awesome! Thanks for your support 😊
I totally agree! I am in high school right now and made the decision to save my first kiss for my wedding day last year. Like I said, I am in high school so it can be hard at times waiting to date/court while seeing all my friends dating and stuff, but God always reminds me that He has a special man out there for me and it is worth waiting!
Amen sister. I love hearing that! Be the example!
Yes girl 🙌🙌I believe in you. I finished high school without dating any guy. Don't worry about being cool, but people who are your real friends gonna stick by you.
You guys are amazing :D thank you for speaking the truth. I really enjoy your videos! Be blessed and continue being a blessing for (young) people :) greetings from Switzerland
I feel like it's less about heartbreak although that does factor into it. I think it's about being pure and saving kissing and sex for marriage so it is only with the one person you will marry. And I think it should wait until marriage itself bc it's more special and bc in case something happens between you before you get married, you won't have kissed someone you're not married to. If that makes sense lolol
I personally don't think Kissing before marriage is a big deal. But SEX before Marriage is nothing but wickedness. And nastiness.
"I thought i was strong enough to stop at just a mwah" I feel you... i didn't know i was as weak as I am until the past few months, and I'm enjoying your videos a lot
There is definitely wisdom to what you are saying. I come from a very, very conservative background where we aren't allowed to sit next to or touch guys who aren't related to us or aren't our husband. Being very sensitive, I totally understand how any little touch can excite a courting couple and can easily lead to something more. Understanding this, I totally agree that these things should be avoided until marriage. People think it's crazy, but you're staying separate in order to keep pure and please G-d.
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Ok compared to you both I’m an “old or older generation” but I gotta say I love this video. Waiting to (fill in the blank) until marriage is a thing of the past. It’s so sad. I read the “ideal” number of sexual partners before marriage is 12????? That’s more then a soccer, football and baseball team. I believe it’s always better to wait for EVERYTHING including kissing and hugs.
Kissing, hugging, prolonged eye contact, and other gestures are all signs of intimacy, connection, and soul ties. In my case, not doing them does not seem to make a great deal of difference, as the emotional connection is still there. However, if things do not work out, not only is there immense heartbreak over that person no longer being there, but now there are memories to contend with. That is pain I would not wish on anyone. Thank you for shedding light on this topic.
Thanks for sharing
u guys need to make a video on communicate skills cause i never met a guy so honest about his feelings n sharing it lengthy
Always love watching your videos. I never thought of kissing as a big deal, but I think it would be wise to think about who your kissing before you do. What if you dont want to kiss them and they do? Then don't kiss them. I've been in relationships where I felt I had to to make them happy. I finally came to terms that I need to stop doing that and if I don't feel like doing that then I won't. But I do see a lot of wisdom to it too.
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The part where you talk about butterflies flying out of your mouth and you roll the hen's morning crows just left me dead😂😂😂😂😂 omg i love your videos so much!!!!!!
Ok, back to the actual video as i haven't finished watching it☺😂😂😂
I always love your videos but this was particularly good. You're right, we're not as strong as we think. I've made mistakes in this respect that I regret. So yeah, good advice P + M !
The Growing Christian Man really appreciate it! Thanks for your support :)
I am 16 year old Christian and I have never been kissed and have never had a boyfriend. My friends I hang out with at school have had their first kiss and have lost their virginity (non-Christian school). My friends at school know that I am set in my ways, and that I wont have my first kiss till I have met the one and that I wont lose my virginity till marriage. i am torn between two worlds as i feel pressured to do those things. Can someone please help me and give me guidance?
Thank you so much for posting this video!!! Sometimes with the world around you it's hard to stick to the rules I've made for myself. And while I'm not dating/courting anyone yet, I really want to save myself for my future husband.
Agree with you Paul and Morgan. Great value you share, keep it up.
Just found y’all. Loving it, it’s like water in the desert.... and then it’s hurtful at times to watch. I think feeling hurt from a woman’s past (that she kissed a lot of men) is a little bigger of a flaw as a Christian than whether you wait to kiss her as your fiancé. Yeah, you can’t help but be hurt by her past (if it’s something that bothers you), but gosh the focus is so twisted. You highlight your discomfort as if you’re more concerned with whether you kiss her as your fiancé than whether you can let go of her past before she met you? What is Christianity all about again? I’m a single mom, and I’m starting to feel like if I take your advice... which I have been for years since this is what the Church teaches... all this time I’ve been taking advice from men who wouldn’t even date me whether I am living like this now or not... because of my past. ??? I think you should make your channel more clear as being one for Christians with relatively squeaky clean pasts.
I’m sorry y’all are doing a great work. I just feel a little less “belonging” the more I watch this and that’s ok. Different sheep for a different shepherd/voice.
Hi! I’m new here! And can I just say wow, you guys are goals and you guys give me hope and joy ❤️
It’s so good to hear that another couple agrees with me. I’ve had plenty of people laugh at me because of the thought of not kissing. But because of my past dating experience, I want to be able to keep myself pure for my husband. Thank you very much for making this video!
Amen Ashley, stay strong👊
Okay- It is VERY TRUE that kissing accelerates the emotional and physical affection towards both parties!!!
When i asked my mom how she didn't see certain traits (she doesn't like in my dad)before marrying him, she said he didn't behave that way when they were dating.
That got me thinking, if we're doing physical stuff and it accelerates things between us, i am going to be blindsided by the red flags that would have popped up if i was taking the time to study you.
Again, its a personal choice, but that's why we have the Bible to guide us and people like Paul and Morgan to inspire us with their stories!!❤
I'm not even or haven't been in a relationship yet. I have thought about the idea off and on for a few years and then I started thinking more about it like a month ago. Its so nice to hear your guy's points of view. I had never even thought about waiting untill your engaged,that is a good idea! Because I always never wanted to have my first kiss in front of a bunch of people................ awkward!
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God bless you! I am so grateful for you guys! And so blessed that my precious daughter, who is a freshman in college, is the one who pointed you out to me! I have believe in this ever since I was saved in 1996, and am always cheered when the message is reinforced; especially by such an attractive, young, couple like you two! So grateful my message got through to my kids! Again, God bless you!!!!
My daughter is 9 and I just found her watching tiktoks on kissing (yikes, need to reset pw on phone) but what books or TH-cam would you recommend to learn more on keeping purity and holiness for growing kids?
Hmm, interesting 🤔. I've been doing my personal research on this topic and I have heard similar answers from many ministers of God, that kissing outside marriage is sinful. But I have one question to ask: if kissing is biblically wrong outside the marital framework, why then does the Scriptures admonish Christians to greet one another with an ‘holy kiss’ (Romans 16:16; 1 Corinthians 16:20; 2 Corinthians 13:12; 1 Thessalonians 5:26; 1 Peter 5:14)? Note that the word ‘kiss’ appears about 46 times in the entire Bible 📖 and not one reference to it was sexual or lustful. Please can someone help me out? Remain blessed in Jesus' name 🙏.
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Seriously appreciating your videos guys! Cheers to new boundaries! :)
This brings a even deeper conviction to my beliefs! I love you guys!!
I generally agree, if not completely too, with what you two said. I see no problem with a peck on the cheek with someone you're engaged with. I heard a speaker talk about this. Absolutely I see no problem with the kisses and sex in marriage, and The Song of Solomon certainly recommends it! Withholding is for releasing, and if someone's not withheld, and won't, what is there to give?! I feel that long engagements--to be sure--are a temptation and a waste of time, too. If you know you know!
I love watching yalls video and knowing that im not the onky one that thinks this way the coming to the comment section and realising there are so many other people who are on the same page too.
Am I the only one who thinks caring about how many people your girlfriend has kissed when she chose to date you and not kiss other people while dating you is creepy and sexist.
Ughhhhhhh i wanna cry! Thank you guys so much for your channel..this video alone has helped me so much. I really struggle with being easily sexual with guys and ive been wanting to stop everything with guys to hold out for my husband. This is so reassuring
I don’t care what everyone else is saying in the comments. People don’t like to hear the truth, especially when it goes against how they’ve been living. Paul and Morgan, you guys are such an inspiration and you’re absolutely right. God bless you both!!! ❤️❤️
It's not the truth though.... It's just their opinion. I go by the bible, and none of this is biblical.
What advice would you guys have for people who’ve already crossed he line, but wanna create those boundaries again and start anew ?
How do you think my boyfriend would react if i didn't kiss him anymore? hmmm.
It is that simple. I kissed quite a few people. I don’t have broken heart over someone I dated a week 😆. I don’t remember some names. It wasn’t at all how you described it. It doesn’t lead to sex 4 dates later. I have only had sex with my husband.
I hate purity culture that is happening in the church and have decided not raise my daughter in it. I’m not letting her get the used gum speech. I don’t want her getting married to a man like you who has obvious control issues and an intense obsession with sex.
With all the world’s ill’s this is the issue the evangelical church has taken and went crazy with it. I think you should find some real issues and put in actual Christian work.
See you in the next Ashley Madison scandal.
ya people look at me at church weirdly and hate if I touch or hug my girlfriend and tell me not to do it like awhile ago I was leaning on her shoulder in church and someone who is always commenting when I touch her tells me its inappropriate.the weird thing is its always the people who don't have a husband and its only woman who tell me this like im going to rape her like I've been told multiple times not to touch her because it makes us look like were married. the thing is they don't know that were dating at all but still despise when i hug her and the only thing they know is that I like her and were best friends.
For someone who has no regrets, shame etc, Why are you so judgemental, angry and bitter?!
If someone experiences more temptation and needs more boundaries, what is that to you?
Sasa Nodlesh Being judgemental, angry, and bitter is a side effect of being raised Fundamental Baptist.
You seem like a Baptist.
@@ayjamay dear Angela, I'm so sorry you experienced that.
No, I am not Baptist. I was raised Anglican and Presbyterian.
Suffice to say, we don't teach purity whatsoever or talk about sex.
I respect all those that do.
I struggled and still struggle w purity.
I love hearing teachings on that subject, even if I am single and never dated anyone.
I love seeing young Christians desiring more of God, and less of self.
Shalom peace be upon you and your house in the name of Yeshua!
Good job guys totally agree! God bless!
Is it a huge deal? Yes. I remember, the 'first kiss...' And it wasn't asked for, it was pressed upon me by a boyfriend who soon ended up being absorbed with being alone and soon becoming an ex-boyfriend. Morgan, saying, "you're not as strong as you think." Amen sister! I put a good Christian girlfriend on a pedestal and when I found out she had given herself to a guy before marriage I remember thinking, "But she was such a strong Christian." 1 Peter 5:8 Be sober-minded and alert. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.
Jennifer Nease Great comment and very insightful. That verse is right on.
That's so true. Well but speaking from a guy breaking up after kissing still does cause some heart ache. Guys let's be honest😋😂😂. Its true. I dated a girl for a week and we kissed on our second date. To this day I wish I wouldn't have done that. Cause that caused a lot of problems when we broke up. But ya definitely I agree. Great video!! Keep up the good work.
Munashe Dene Hey thanks so much. Yeah it def makes things tougher. Thanks for the comment!
I think you need therapy
Lol ur just emotionally unstable and were obviously not ready for a relationship
Get Therapy
LOL that ending with the “butterflies flying out of your mouth! *incoherent high pitched noise*”
i think its very wise to wait to kiss until marriage. It is definitely a gateway into other things and just makes things more intense so if you are wanting to pursue marriage with that person waiting for those things will not be a big deal at all.
Morgan, were on earth did you find a guy like Paul??!!! You guys are so awesome... I love your videos and this is so trueeeee!! 😭😭 I love you all!! 💞
Awe haha thank you Hannah!
I just recently (6 months) started my first relationship, he is my first kiss. It's true, kiss do escalate things, at first it was just a peck which now has turned into makeout sessions. I have no started to put of boundaries because I can feel myself liking it and I do believe I'm not strong enough.
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I never thought about it that way. I haven’t kissed any guy yet and I don’t think it’s going to happen any time soon. Thanks for the advice!
Yeah, I think that you're crazy 'cause nowadays, nobody wants to hear something like this, and believe, I really admire you. You are brave enough to obey God and to teach to the Youth to wait. I'm 16 and I agree with all those things. My friends are trying to find me a boyfriend. 😂😂😂 but I really wanna wait, God's purpose is perfect, even if the World says that it's alright... we need more people that talk about it, and say «Hey, World, Hey, Culture, maybe you're not right». It challenges us to wait, Thanks! (Writing from Colombia 💛💙❤, God bless you!)
Awesome insight, Renatta.
completely on the same page with you, I'm also 16
Exactly
I am also 16 and in that same position. Thank you for sharing, sometimes while watching my friends I feel like I am alone in my decisions.
Wow that is so amazing! I am almost 27 and feel that from my past..God really showed me how important it is to just wait for the right man for everything...including kissing. I recently became Christian and was dating a guy who I kissed and then it didn’t work out. I do feel like if we didn’t kiss it wouldn’t hurt as much so I am just going to wait for my husband and make it such an amazing day and that way I know for sure that this will be the only man that I will kiss for the rest of my life 💗
“...know that she’s kissed numerous guys...” wow. You guys are so awesome and i love your channel but you also make me feel horrible about myself for things that I’ve done. No ones perfect. Hugging and kissing isn’t wrong. Sorry just had to put that out there!
You're an idiot. You know if you got married to a tall beautiful guy you would be jealous as f^&ck if he kissed numerous women in the past.
@@ratatat12356 what? 💀 kissing is natural, nobody will be jealous of that.
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Being jealous of a kiss is like being jealous of any other form of intimacy. If someone expects you to be free of all emotions and experience they don’t want a real person.
@@Grokford That's dumb. There's nothing stopping your husband/wife from saving all of themselves for their future spouse. This idea that "well... nobody is perfect so i gotta do at least SOME degeneracy with the opposite sex" is completely new. None of your ancestors did this since the dawn of time and no Christians did this until the 1960s after the sexual revolution.
Loved this video. My parents didn't kiss until they got engaged so I understand. You guys do a great job
Thank you!!! This is raw...love it💜
Awe thanks Connie :)
I'm just curious to see if your opinions change if you separate or divorce your spouse? Does this still apply if one chooses to get married more than once? Does anything have any thoughts on this?
I guess that there is so much wisdom in that !! I congratulations
There is serious wisdom with this. Great vid ya'll!
Absolutely wise guys that how it be when in a relationship is to wait for when the time is right to do things such as kissing amen thank you guys have an awesome day
Paul you give me hope that men like you still exist. I'll wait on God for man of God.
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PREACH!!!
One of the great comments I’ve seen here! We all want the easy way and try to make excuses to suit it & yet still claim to be CHRISTIANS living the #GODLY-LIFE. May God help me & help us all really
I agree with everything you two are saying. I like this guy and he likes me but we’re not getting into a relationship just yet bc
1. We would like to finish school
2. I think that we both have some parts of our life that are still needed to be fixed
3. We are both Christians and we are scared if we get into a relationship at the age we are now we may end up talking to each other more than we read our bible and pray (which we do together with our parents)
4. We are easy to get distracted by desires that God may have never intended us with
5. We just aren’t ready yet!!
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Loved all the honesty in this video, guys, and the way you emphasized that the physical progression is something that's God-given and so isn't sinful; what's sinful is when the progression is happening outside of God's boundaries (now I'm just gonna start using "progression" in my everyday speech to talk about this kinda stuff and no one's gonna understand what I'm saying hahaha) I completely agree with you guys!! Kristen from Girl Defined made a good point when she said that she waited to kiss her husband instead of kissing other guys she'd just dated because she didn't want to compare their kisses to his and I thought that was a really good point as well.
Tabby RH thank youuu! Coming from a girl who did kiss a few other guys before Paul... I wish I had been able to tell Paul he was my first kiss. He’s amazing though and never holds that against me. It’s totally a God-given thing and beautiful! Just within His plan. 😊
Paul and Morgan amen ,you are wonderful couple ! :) Greet from Ukraine ,Vitaly
Paul and Morgan Geez, why put unnecessary guilt upon yourself? Yes, you kissed guys before, so freaking what?? Paul should love you and you should feel loved and appreciated for WHO YOU ARE. You are your experiences. Don’t ever let yourself or Paul make you feel guilty about any of this. You did NOTHING wrong for crying out loud. If he wants to feel self righteous because he decided not to live life, that’s his prerogative. Religion feeds on guilt to keep people in it. That’s how cults do it. Why add to it??
just started watching u guys today and am in love with u both. U guys are amazing, and Morgan ur so beautiful
Did neither of you kiss anyone before you kissed each other? X
Morgan had, I hadn’t :)
This was very accurate and very helpful. Thanks 🙏
I think kissing is okay once you feel and know that this person is the one or might be the one and no I don’t mean 1 week or even 1 month in. I’m talking months of knowing them and being sure they’re the right match for you. Asking God. I think that’s the way to go
Again, such an amazing video - kissing before marriage can lead to other things that can push us further away from God. Thumbs up to this video!!
How do you talk about boundaries like this with your boyfriend tho? Like I feel like if you talked to your partner about this and they didn't have sexual thoughts about kissing and hugging then, they definitely would after the talk... so how would you go about that? Bc it's definitely a conversation I would like to have
But honestly. Everything they said is actually so right. Thanks so much for this video & channel!
Awe you’re welcome, Natalie!
Me and my girl French kiss a lot, we don’t fall into sin at all.
I'm bothered by the fact that the lady would sometimes be in a position where the horn on the background would be exactly at her back. And it looks like she has horns 😱😱😱
I most definitely agree with you guys. As someone who has been there and failed dismally I agree and wish I had head this sooner.
Thanks for the comment :)