When my husband and I were working on the content for this episode we really wanted to make sure that it didn't appeal to the selfish ego - and instead to the higher self. We'd love to receive you comments on how you authentically ensure that you're likable at work. And have you every applied any of the practices shared in the video?
Hi Shadé Just to share my experience here... I think what made my professional life easier and sane at places where I worked were a few things like... Honesty and integrity for work at hand and according highest priority to work. Shirking work is a deep rooted habit among people at workplace. Not shouldering responsibility for the work done by someone is another trait, particularly when there has been some questions about the quality of work. So integrity and honesty for one's responsibility at work paid off well for me. The second one was that I avoided to be part of all gossip in the office, which comes under your 'Rise above toxicity'. Gossip about all women among men particularly was quite rampant and it used to be really nasty and ugly. So i kept my mind away from this filthy mess and my peers at work acknowledged my non-involvement in it after a while though. So that was what made my professional life meaningful at work. Trust it achieves your objective of us sharing our experiences with you. 🙏
On a side note, not related to the video (which is great), it feels like you are exhausted/feeling unwell or sad today, unlike the other days. My perception might be wrong, but it's just a feeling. I hope you are okay.
How to be more likeable: 1. Only seek out the good in people. (Have a positive attitude). 2. Rise above the toxicity. (Avoid gossip and back-biting.) 3. Don't bond through unhappiness with people.
What is wrong with unhappiness being the basis of bonding? People who feel oppressed, often have only mechanism to cope, by seeking out others in similar position.
I say this to my students all the time because my mom used to tell me this. I am guilty of forgetting at times. I need to commit to practice this in *all* of my interactions.
It's not that simple. People in their workplace may make your life a hell without any reason even if they're subordinate of yours. That totally depends upon the culture of a company
Authentic likeability, plus competence - seek out the good - catch them doing things right - focus on the stars - positive reinforcement- valued - loved / rise above toxicity - specific quality may be check in / trustworthy - avoid unhappiness bonding
Found your channel today and am so glad! You are covering all the topics with respect to chemistry with colleagues at work and stuffs and I'm grateful to have found this. Needed this help real bad !
Great advice. I work in a very large city education department. The toxicity is enormous. One way to become likeable in a toxic environment is to not show off to your coworkers too much. Just "show off" to the boss (if he/she is not insecure). I have found that my abilities naturally threaten others. So I try to not display my talents too much.
@@jasmine_edification expert level in Excel , PowerPoint and Word. SQL, Python, VBA additionally I’m a good writer and presenter. I’m in my 50’s so I’ve been working a long time and have time to develop those skills. Much of my skills is through TH-cam , reading articles and trial and error. AND MOST OF ALL: a lot of sacrificing of time. While others go out drinking Saturday night I practice and refine my skills.
Highly underrated content on this channel. Stumbled across this channel a few days ago and as a growing engineer in my field in 🇿🇲 , content has been extremely practical and insightful.
In order to likeable in work, just share your ideas, beliefs and ask for feedback if you are in senior role. As per my experience as a Branch Manager role in Banking industry, just ignore the negativity and accept the challenges and try to coach for good things to your team members. Still, there are lots of things to do more in this topic, mostly it will also depends upon the EI. Also try to avoid the toxic people and multiply your positive attitude.
Very good advice. Thanks for sharing Shade. Some of my experience to be like-ability at workplace is to always keep smiling, walk your talk, be willing to help others, always be positive and be accountable.
This is such a helpful video. I have just started at a new job and one of my colleagues actually rolled her eyes at me the other day, I was devastated when I got home that night and reflected on my actions - I realised I was doing so much wrong, I was gossiping, getting carried away with 'and another thing' and 'someone told me this about him', etc. I will implement these practices straight away! Many thanks.
It's so wonderful to get to know things that I was doing subconsciously and now I realized what to do. Thank you soooooooooo much! You are amazing as always! :D
Shade love the points - be a good human question - we say to be followed and like you need to be truly vulnerable- how do we fit with like ability and avoid unhappy bonding
Thank you for sharing this knowledge, Shade! I found myself speechless and didnt know what to say/do when others gossip about someone else to me . And Now, I can learn from you to be more authentic and spread positivity
You say “I don’t know anything about that/them, and I don’t care to.” Then switch the subject. It’s best to be forward about it, otherwise true gossipers will rebuff every subtle attempt to not talk about others.
Your videos give hope of goodness in this whole world because your words are travelling beyond boundaries with a message for positivity. God bless your family.
I can personally relate to the third virtue. Ever since I avoided people who crib for everything and connected with people who are more positive ,it made me feel positive too..
Shade my experience is when we are real and even though we are not participating in negative gossip for a particular person &we don't support negative thinkers My practical & personal experience is we suffer more as we standout in flocks & there gives rise to nepotism & negative influencers about us too.
The point made about authenticity is really important and that is what seals the deal. No one likes fake 24 hrs positive drum beating. I notice such people seem to appear to be superficial, untrustworthy and dishonest. People like real and reliable. Overall, this video is really insigtful.
Amazing!! I just discovered your channel. In a teacher training institute like this your words are framed in gold. Amazing!! I will be waiting for more videos.
I really needed this! There's a lot of talk about people behind the back & I wonder what they may be saying about me. However, these tips will help me focus my energy outward. Thank you!
Lol, Unhapiness bonding is so true, I hv been there myself! Not a very viable idea unless your miseries possibly give way for a more positive outcome. 🍷
Wow! This video is a gem. Learnt to deal with situations constructively which inturn improves likeability. Thank you for sharing such valuable and positive words. 🙌
Be a Good Human....😊Likeability is just a byproduct......true n authentic likeability always comes from within. It depends upon the core value system of the person. ur video is def to the point, doesnt serve the self ego , contributes becoming more in alignment with our higher self....keep up the good work👍
Your videos are simply superb. I regularly share it with my adult ENGLISH LEARNERS. Your well researched content is sure to ILLUMINATE ALL THOSE WHO HAPPEN TO WATCH IT AND HAVE GOOD ENGLISH TO COMPREHEND IT TOO. Solicit more useful content like this.
Watching videos the past 6 months on how to be more likeable at my work place. And I must say, though I have done all of the above you have mentioned as they come naturally to me, it hasn't worked. If you are a good human, purely a good human, this doesn't work. Especially no.2! I don't like gossip at work and to be honest I find it a bit disrespectful when it happens at work. I have used that answer you gave when I was in front of two coworkers talking bad about another team member and it got me even more dislikeable. Some see me as not fun if I don't gossip. To be honest, I'm struggling. Maybe it's how I say things and not what I say, but still being kind and professional doesn't work in toxic environments.
Hi Dimitra, Thank you for sharing about your experience. When the workplace culture is too far gone down the hole of gossip and backbiting, it's reasonable to expect that someone with your qualities to not fit in. I commend you for trying your best without compromising your values. Gossip is awful. Even listening to it is harmful. Wherever possible it is best to avoid being around it. You might have already asked yourself these questions: 1. Is being likable (by those who engaging in gossiping) necessary for you to perform your role well and for your career to advance? 2. Are you able to keep away from the toxic behavior and maintain a positive state? 3. Given the choice would you stay or get a job elsewhere with a healthier culture? Asking yourself some questions will help you gain some clarity and to decide how you're going to move forward. Best wishes!
Dynamic once again Shade Just truly on key point. Thank you for your pleasant way of helping us all aspire to become our very best from the moment the sun rises each day.
Try to become a solar system in the organization to give energy to others to accomplish the company's goals. Cringe away from negative people and focus on achieving your own objectives. I believe that all points mentioned in the video are worth adopting for career development.
@Shade 🎉 hope you are crushing IT! Doing all 3 and am looking forward to a brand new Career path as I live with Ambergy (positive radiant energy that shows up to champion with authenticity)… Thanks
Funnily enough we had a manager from a different department who was being horrible to the extent affecting people's 'nocturnal pattern'. I advised my colleagues that the manager is now under a new director so most likely has different goals and expectations and this may be being filtered through to all the staff. I suggested to not to let it get to the said colleague who acknowledged this yet is not happy that they're having to face the brunt of this new office dynamics.
I am the one who is eagerly waiting for your amazing videos to learn from them. Your explanation is outstanding in those videos covered with Real life experiences which teaches a lot. Thank You Very Much for being connected and Motivating Us... May God Bless You @Shadezahrai 🤲👍🙂
Hello Professor Thank you so much for your help and advice, i do appreciate your job. I wish you peace and happness under the sky of prosperity. All the best. Take care and have a good time. Your Student from Algeria.
Thanks for all the help that there is in your videos. There is really a lot to learn, especially for people who are new to this type of business. I really need a lot of information. THANKS for the trust.
Hi Shade Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom on this topic very helpful and such a great service to the community by doing this thank you again
It seems like you have also gone through the life of Prophet Muhammad behavior in different situations and among the different groups of people and personalities, very nice
Although I'm not a Muslim (I'm a Baha'i) and have limited knowledge of the life of Prophet Muhammed it is no surprise that there's alignment in spiritual values among religions.
@@ShadeZahrai Zahrai I really am fascinated with your talk, thought and presentation. It may illuminate a success path for someone and may have already done much, thanks 🙏👍❤️
Ma'am your content is absolutely fantastic, unique and deeply insightful at a same time👌☺️ it's only 3 days since I came across your videos but became your fan... Keep motivated and happy, you and sir are doing a great and holy work.👍😊💐
Hi Shade, thanks for this so educative clip. My questions is when we want to comment on the unpleasant and corrupt practices of the ruling party and ministers, how this 'seek good in(these) people' will help?
It's very nice to learn small things but it has a big impact not only in the corporate world but in daily life... #Shade ur accent is too good#.. i also wanna learn ..
I like the points but in certain situations if you don't give a negative option about someone when all your peers are giving it. It may lead to a negative publicity for yourself leading to your peers turning against you.. Thoughts?
I know how it feels when u were great with people at previous company and all of sudden in ur company nothing works .. everything falls apart simple conversation is taken wrongly .. even after putting extra hours . nothing work.
When my husband and I were working on the content for this episode we really wanted to make sure that it didn't appeal to the selfish ego - and instead to the higher self. We'd love to receive you comments on how you authentically ensure that you're likable at work. And have you every applied any of the practices shared in the video?
Hi Shadé
Just to share my experience here...
I think what made my professional life easier and sane at places where I worked were a few things like...
Honesty and integrity for work at hand and according highest priority to work.
Shirking work is a deep rooted habit among people at workplace. Not shouldering responsibility for the work done by someone is another trait, particularly when there has been some questions about the quality of work.
So integrity and honesty for one's responsibility at work paid off well for me.
The second one was that I avoided to be part of all gossip in the office, which comes under your 'Rise above toxicity'.
Gossip about all women among men particularly was quite rampant and it used to be really nasty and ugly. So i kept my mind away from this filthy mess and my peers at work acknowledged my non-involvement in it after a while though.
So that was what made my professional life meaningful at work. Trust it achieves your objective of us sharing our experiences with you. 🙏
On a side note, not related to the video (which is great), it feels like you are exhausted/feeling unwell or sad today, unlike the other days. My perception might be wrong, but it's just a feeling. I hope you are okay.
The video was beyond my imagination. Love from India👍
Throw in your hubby sometime.
What happens with toxic positivity in these cases?
How to be more likeable:
1. Only seek out the good in people. (Have a positive attitude).
2. Rise above the toxicity. (Avoid gossip and back-biting.)
3. Don't bond through unhappiness with people.
Thanks
Third one is awesome advice! Well all are really crucial.
Just be a good human :-)
What is wrong with unhappiness being the basis of bonding? People who feel oppressed, often have only mechanism to cope, by seeking out others in similar position.
In a nutshell: Be a good human.
I say this to my students all the time because my mom used to tell me this. I am guilty of forgetting at times. I need to commit to practice this in *all* of my interactions.
Lol
It's not that simple. People in their workplace may make your life a hell without any reason even if they're subordinate of yours. That totally depends upon the culture of a company
True. Authenticity is the most likeable trait
My experience says be positive and calm no one can hurt you.
I don't know why this chnl is so under rated 🤔🙁. You deserve much more ma'am
Authentic likeability, plus competence - seek out the good - catch them doing things right - focus on the stars - positive reinforcement- valued - loved / rise above toxicity - specific quality may be check in / trustworthy - avoid unhappiness bonding
You are such a beautiful person inside and out. Thank you for teaching the world to be better!
Found your channel today and am so glad! You are covering all the topics with respect to chemistry with colleagues at work and stuffs and I'm grateful to have found this. Needed this help real bad !
positivity is the key to reality thank you! life is short to deal with crappy coworkers just leave them
Great advice. I work in a very large city education department. The toxicity is enormous. One way to become likeable in a toxic environment is to not show off to your coworkers too much. Just "show off" to the boss (if he/she is not insecure). I have found that my abilities naturally threaten others. So I try to not display my talents too much.
Can u plz mention sOme talents and how u upgraded them
@@jasmine_edification expert level in Excel , PowerPoint and Word. SQL, Python, VBA additionally I’m a good writer and presenter. I’m in my 50’s so I’ve been working a long time and have time to develop those skills. Much of my skills is through TH-cam , reading articles and trial and error. AND MOST OF ALL: a lot of sacrificing of time. While others go out drinking Saturday night I practice and refine my skills.
@@officesuperhero9611 appreciate that thnku sir
Highly underrated content on this channel. Stumbled across this channel a few days ago and as a growing engineer in my field in 🇿🇲 , content has been extremely practical and insightful.
Likability made so simple, that’s Shadé for us. ❤️
Loved the soft background.
Lovely. 🙏🏽
Glad you enjoyed the entire experience!
@@ShadeZahrai 🙏🏽
In order to likeable in work, just share your ideas, beliefs and ask for feedback if you are in senior role. As per my experience as a Branch Manager role in Banking industry, just ignore the negativity and accept the challenges and try to coach for good things to your team members. Still, there are lots of things to do more in this topic, mostly it will also depends upon the EI. Also try to avoid the toxic people and multiply your positive attitude.
Lol as per my experience in retail banking at a strip mall.
Very good advice. Thanks for sharing Shade. Some of my experience to be like-ability at workplace is to always keep smiling, walk your talk, be willing to help others, always be positive and be accountable.
This is such a helpful video. I have just started at a new job and one of my colleagues actually rolled her eyes at me the other day, I was devastated when I got home that night and reflected on my actions - I realised I was doing so much wrong, I was gossiping, getting carried away with 'and another thing' and 'someone told me this about him', etc. I will implement these practices straight away! Many thanks.
Just ignore her, and don't mind her, if you're hurt what she did, just don't gossip to other co employees
It's so wonderful to get to know things that I was doing subconsciously and now I realized what to do. Thank you soooooooooo much! You are amazing as always! :D
Our pleasure Sandiep. We're glad that you find this helpful. 😊👍🏽
Shade love the points - be a good human question - we say to be followed and like you need to be truly vulnerable- how do we fit with like ability and avoid unhappy bonding
Positive attitude
Seek the good
Avoiding gossip
Thank you for sharing this knowledge, Shade! I found myself speechless and didnt know what to say/do when others gossip about someone else to me . And Now, I can learn from you to be more authentic and spread positivity
You are so welcome!
You say “I don’t know anything about that/them, and I don’t care to.” Then switch the subject. It’s best to be forward about it, otherwise true gossipers will rebuff every subtle attempt to not talk about others.
Best of the video - Be a good human, likeability is the byproduct
Like you said be a good human being likeability will automatically follow you... that's very true and Guru mantra for likeability 👍👍
Was just discussing this with a coworker at this job I recently started. Thanks for unpacking it for us all.
Your videos give hope of goodness in this whole world because your words are travelling beyond boundaries with a message for positivity. God bless your family.
I can personally relate to the third virtue. Ever since I avoided people who crib for everything and connected with people who are more positive ,it made me feel positive too..
So very true especially backbiting and gossiping can ruin one’s reputation, spot on❤
Shade my experience is when we are real and even though we are not participating in negative gossip for a particular person &we don't support negative thinkers
My practical & personal experience is we suffer more as we standout in flocks & there gives rise to nepotism & negative influencers about us too.
The point made about authenticity is really important and that is what seals the deal. No one likes fake 24 hrs positive drum beating. I notice such people seem to appear to be superficial, untrustworthy and dishonest. People like real and reliable. Overall, this video is really insigtful.
This channel deserves more recognition ❤️❤️❤️
Amazing!! I just discovered your channel. In a teacher training institute like this your words are framed in gold. Amazing!! I will be waiting for more videos.
Wow, thank you!
I really needed this! There's a lot of talk about people behind the back & I wonder what they may be saying about me. However, these tips will help me focus my energy outward. Thank you!
Glad you're finding them helpful Sam!
Lol, Unhapiness bonding is so true, I hv been there myself! Not a very viable idea unless your miseries possibly give way for a more positive outcome. 🍷
I think these practices are also good for "outside office" scenarios!!
i have to agree .. i cannot burden others with my issues. everyone is going thru some things
Trust me, Your are just becoming such an inspiration to me
Thank you Shadé! One of the best surprise find for me in TH-cam. You are awesome.. see! I already started learning from you 😃
You are so welcome! So glad that you're finding the videos useful. 😊
just subscribed! Thanks for making these amazing videos!
Me: How to be likable like Shadé?
God: You are neither good-looking nor eloquent!
@@anantambisht4895 me tooo
I am sure of one thing, that The Almighty God do not have time for you, even if second, God has many things to do instead of responding to nonsense.
Wow! This video is a gem. Learnt to deal with situations constructively which inturn improves likeability. Thank you for sharing such valuable and positive words. 🙌
Be a Good Human....😊Likeability is just a byproduct......true n authentic likeability always comes from within. It depends upon the core value system of the person. ur video is def to the point, doesnt serve the self ego , contributes becoming more in alignment with our higher self....keep up the good work👍
Your videos are simply superb. I regularly share it with my adult ENGLISH LEARNERS. Your well researched content is sure to ILLUMINATE ALL THOSE WHO HAPPEN TO WATCH IT AND HAVE GOOD ENGLISH TO COMPREHEND IT TOO. Solicit more useful content like this.
Watching videos the past 6 months on how to be more likeable at my work place. And I must say, though I have done all of the above you have mentioned as they come naturally to me, it hasn't worked. If you are a good human, purely a good human, this doesn't work. Especially no.2! I don't like gossip at work and to be honest I find it a bit disrespectful when it happens at work. I have used that answer you gave when I was in front of two coworkers talking bad about another team member and it got me even more dislikeable. Some see me as not fun if I don't gossip. To be honest, I'm struggling. Maybe it's how I say things and not what I say, but still being kind and professional doesn't work in toxic environments.
Hi Dimitra, Thank you for sharing about your experience. When the workplace culture is too far gone down the hole of gossip and backbiting, it's reasonable to expect that someone with your qualities to not fit in. I commend you for trying your best without compromising your values.
Gossip is awful. Even listening to it is harmful. Wherever possible it is best to avoid being around it.
You might have already asked yourself these questions:
1. Is being likable (by those who engaging in gossiping) necessary for you to perform your role well and for your career to advance?
2. Are you able to keep away from the toxic behavior and maintain a positive state?
3. Given the choice would you stay or get a job elsewhere with a healthier culture?
Asking yourself some questions will help you gain some clarity and to decide how you're going to move forward.
Best wishes!
I am learning one step a day from your channel to progress in workplace. Thank you for the info.
Sensible-honest aptitude , say negative truth by maintaining company and others respect .
Hi Shadé
I'm new to this channel. Loving you content. I started playing each one back to back.😅
Dynamic once again Shade
Just truly on key point. Thank you for your pleasant way of helping us all aspire to become our very best from the moment the sun rises each day.
Try to become a solar system in the organization to give energy to others to accomplish the company's goals. Cringe away from negative people and focus on achieving your own objectives. I believe that all points mentioned in the video are worth adopting for career development.
Thanks for all the great insights and very clear explanations. Keep up the good work
@Shade 🎉 hope you are crushing IT! Doing all 3 and am looking forward to a brand new Career path as I live with Ambergy (positive radiant energy that shows up to champion with authenticity)… Thanks
this was a great video, you provided easy ideas that are practical and that I can apply immediately. Thank you for this video!
I think this is good life advice. It definitely made me like and value you and this channel even more.
Funnily enough we had a manager from a different department who was being horrible to the extent affecting people's 'nocturnal pattern'. I advised my colleagues that the manager is now under a new director so most likely has different goals and expectations and this may be being filtered through to all the staff. I suggested to not to let it get to the said colleague who acknowledged this yet is not happy that they're having to face the brunt of this new office dynamics.
Shade’ , you r simply a beautiful human being. Keept it up. 👏🏻🤞🏻
Good job Shade. These are good tips
Awesome advice Shade. Thank you so much. Please make more videos.
Shadé, am just here coz I love the way you speak.
Content is really great and needful for now a days
Excellent! I am not sur how much it will help me but it has certainly given me a perspective! This will help me handling my team..
She is like a model
Her voice I am a fan of it
Love from India ❤️
I have had that.. being looked at as a threat for no reason
As always, thank you for your inspiring FREE cognitive behavioral training.
I am the one who is eagerly waiting for your amazing videos to learn from them. Your explanation is outstanding in those videos covered with Real life experiences which teaches a lot. Thank You Very Much for being connected and Motivating Us... May God Bless You @Shadezahrai 🤲👍🙂
Hello Professor
Thank you so much for your help and advice,
i do appreciate your job. I wish you peace and happness under the sky of prosperity. All the best. Take care and have a good time.
Your Student from Algeria.
Extremely enlightening
Thanks for all the help that there is in your videos. There is really a lot to learn, especially for people who are new to this type of business. I really need a lot of information. THANKS for the trust.
Hi Shade Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom on this topic very helpful and such a great service to the community by doing this thank you again
It seems like you have also gone through the life of Prophet Muhammad behavior in different situations and among the different groups of people and personalities, very nice
Although I'm not a Muslim (I'm a Baha'i) and have limited knowledge of the life of Prophet Muhammed it is no surprise that there's alignment in spiritual values among religions.
@@ShadeZahrai Zahrai I really am fascinated with your talk, thought and presentation. It may illuminate a success path for someone and may have already done much, thanks 🙏👍❤️
Thanks For Sharing I will Apply it in My Life I hope it's Video for my Life Changing
Thanks for sharing advices to me. It makes me understand what I should do at work ❤
Thank You Shade Zahrai...God Bless You Shade...Thank you
Ma'am your content is absolutely fantastic, unique and deeply insightful at a same time👌☺️ it's only 3 days since I came across your videos but became your fan... Keep motivated and happy, you and sir are doing a great and holy work.👍😊💐
Im fascinated with what is hidden in the darkness of the sky.
Thank you for such a great channel, love your pronunciation! ^^
Excellent advice! What if you're overcome with anxiety under pressure and it's hard to be positive? Any tips on snapping out of that state?
Hi Shade,
Appreciate your efforts.
Thank you,
Thats a really good video shade. Thanks for the vid
Your suggestions are making my life and professional career easier.... Thanks Shade'
Hi Shade, thanks for this so educative clip. My questions is when we want to comment on the unpleasant and corrupt practices of the ruling party and ministers, how this 'seek good in(these) people' will help?
Thank for the advice tekuiero femme🎉❤
Loved everything that was mentioned has practices and simply be a GOOOD Human Being
Thanks you Zahrai!!!
Loved the video and closing remarks Be a good human.
awesome. this channel needs more recognition
Smile is a key for success
Public comment. God bless you. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and inspiration with humanity. Continue the great job.
It's very nice to learn small things but it has a big impact not only in the corporate world but in daily life... #Shade ur accent is too good#.. i also wanna learn ..
Your contents are soooo valuable!
Glad you think so!
Couldn't agree with you more👍. True
Interesting! Thanks, for sharing.
Beautiful content. Can you add more to this topic and share with real life examples?? It will be very helpful.
Very beautifully communicated.
SHE IS THE BEST !
there is something about you that is so amazing
Seeking the good in others.
Such a excellent video great take away message I got is just be nice and see the goodness in others. Thank you for the great video
Hi Shade , Have seen couple of videos and it is really helpful. Thank you ! Wondering do you have any videos on eloquence and articulation. Thanks .
Nice content Shadè, Can you suggest me,how can I connect with more people of my field online..How to communicate with them
You're welcome Danesh. Please check out my video on personal brand that might help:
th-cam.com/video/S2MFYInrLsc/w-d-xo.html
I like the points but in certain situations if you don't give a negative option about someone when all your peers are giving it. It may lead to a negative publicity for yourself leading to your peers turning against you.. Thoughts?
Excellent advice.
great teacher love from dubai
Such a helpful video 🎉
I know how it feels when u were great with people at previous company and all of sudden in ur company nothing works .. everything falls apart simple conversation is taken wrongly .. even after putting extra hours . nothing work.