For the person that was debating the between space of nonbinary and being a trans man, I know they'll probably never see this, but demiboy/demiguy falls under the nonbinary umbrella and is something that not a lot of people know about. 💛
Thank you so much for talking about laser hair removal. I want to start T but I'm not positive about facial hair. The idea that someone else is like this and actually did laser was really encouraging.
I was thinking about going on T for a while, and I relate to a lot of your doubts about it that you described. But I like the message about us having only this one life and one body. Also I really really like the way you look, in a way that I think I would've loved to sound and look somewhat like this, too. I think your voice sounds very androginous and it greatly inspires me on my own journey! I know no person would have the same result and stuff, but I'm just so glad I found another nonbinary person who's on T to whom I relate to so much, so thank you for sharing and talking about everything in depth!
I’m Immunocompromised in the USA. I’ve had Covid 6 times while isolation first for a year, 8 months and e days. And then 3 months at a time. With seeing individuals about 8 times in 3 years at this point. I started T about 6 months before the pandemic. 3 years out of 3.5 of my time on testosterone has been mostly unseen. It saved my life. It just me here, and my body needs to house me. My dysphoria is profound. It’s mostly body based. My identity is non-binary, but my body map is male. My body is dictated in precise terms. But I’m still not “man”. I will be indistinguishable from a man. I already look like a yeti. I’m trans-masc. i say I’m ftm a lot because I’m 50, and it’s easier. I’m not a woman at all. I’m man-like. I wonder if I was amab I would be non-binary but not want to medically transition because my body was in the spaces it was supposed to be?
This video is amazing! Thank you for putting your effort in it! You are such a wonderful human being 🥰. I am Adi, non-binary, been on T for 6 months and have my own struggles trying to be understood in my workplace or by friends, etc. I find it hard to maintain an identity, and I am missing nonbinary folx who think alike. I see you as a positive queer, you look amazing and you sound amazing and it's so comforting seeing you share your experiences. Sending ❤️
About flexibility. I know many people who have joint issues and are more flexible because of that report an improvement in their joint issues when on T. So it definitely does something to the joints! And makes them stiffer.
I do prefer to be read as male than female I think, in any case it's impossible to read me otherwise now and I'm fine with being read easily I think. But the biggest issue is what you've raised, the fact that they don't see us for what we are. They're.... Seeing as something we're not. Which is something we already went through before. And I'm frustrated by that. So yeah, I'm comfortable with that easy read of me as male as long as these people are acquaintnces. But if they're more long term people, knowing someone sees me as non-binary is just so good. I mean... I literally had a crush on the last person who did that, because it happens so very rarely...
I am not quite sure how I identify yet, but this video has been helpful in my recent thoughts about starting low dose T. You have great energy and confidence and it's inspiring ✨️
Thank you for allowing this conversation to explore so many different avenues of your experience as a non binary person. You are lovely and it feels incredible to see you.
as an AFAB nonbinary person, I find it amusing to be read as a man (actually, with my height, as a boy) as it is very rare. My feeling is like... since being read as nonbinary is not possible with most people, I would be happy being read as a lesbian (which I am not, I am aroace). So I guess I prefer being read as a woman - partially because I want women to feel comfortable around me the way I feel with them. Thank you for sharing your experience - this confirms for me that T is not right for me, though I'd love to be a bit stronger.
side note that I realize that some lesbians experience women Not being comfortable with them because of homophobia - I am fortunate to be in many queer and queer friendly environments so that's what I'm thinking of.
To the person who feels more comfortable being read as male, Same! For me though I think it’s just because I lean towards a more masculine look so to me it validates that I am looking and sounding how I want to, even though that is not how I identify. I inversely hate hate hate when people gender me as female, because of the opposite. It makes me question how I can wear a binder, have this muscular body frame, and a low voice yet still be gendered as female. For me male is just less wrong than female, even though non-binary is more representative and inclusive of what I feel ❤️ Hope that helps, sending lots of love to you and the rest of our Trans family. We will navigate these things together as we have always done ☺️
I'm going thru pre menopause and I heard that your hot flashes are similiar to what I've began suffering. It sure sounds like it! What has worked for me is taking 10-15 mg of DHEA daily. (I did hear it suggested once by a trans man taking T). You can buy it online,but I suggest you talk to your doctor if you decide to try it.
Hi! Thanks :) I don’t think it has a name. I shave it number 1 on one side, but about 1 inch further into my hair than my natural part. Then I’m letting it grow out on the other side
if you stay on high t dose, could your facial hair grow back even though you have been doing laser removal? very curious if you know anything about this! (for me, the body hair and facial hair, is what I find the most hard on t, although the body form, how the fat is on testosterone, makes me incredibly happy and comfortable; it resolves my body dysphoria. but then I get dysphoria because of the hair. and I do find it conflicting that my voice drops so deeply.)
lol the gym bro's behavior was so illegible to you because you're not male :D I actually think that him asking about your tank top was more like a sniff of the crotch - not really a challenge to your masculinity, more like he was pinging you for a gendered response - the only reason I think I have perspective on this is that I had a very different experience than many trans women, and because of that I actually got good at LARPing as a man, so I actually did this kind of thing with other men, and learned how to respond to it and everything... you can emulate it if the cultivation of that skill isn't too traumatic right lol... so yeah I went up against the other men in this kind of way where it comes off as a challenge, the surrounding women can't read what's going on, but it's just the establishment of your relative gender expressions so they know how to relate to you... lol this was his way of like "tell me what your pronouns/gender is without telling me what your pronouns/gender is" BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY, BODI, AS A FELLOW PISCES, I HAVE AN IMPORTANT MESSAGE FOR YOU:
Your videos are so, so helpful for me. I've been considering low-dose T for a long time, but didn't know fully how it could affect me, and what that could look like over time, and you've explained everything so thoroughly, and I feel more confident in my decision to try T, now. 🥹 Thank you for being so open & transparent about your experiences.
For the person that was debating the between space of nonbinary and being a trans man, I know they'll probably never see this, but demiboy/demiguy falls under the nonbinary umbrella and is something that not a lot of people know about. 💛
Thank you so much for talking about laser hair removal. I want to start T but I'm not positive about facial hair. The idea that someone else is like this and actually did laser was really encouraging.
I was thinking about going on T for a while, and I relate to a lot of your doubts about it that you described. But I like the message about us having only this one life and one body. Also I really really like the way you look, in a way that I think I would've loved to sound and look somewhat like this, too. I think your voice sounds very androginous and it greatly inspires me on my own journey!
I know no person would have the same result and stuff, but I'm just so glad I found another nonbinary person who's on T to whom I relate to so much, so thank you for sharing and talking about everything in depth!
I’m Immunocompromised in the USA. I’ve had Covid 6 times while isolation first for a year, 8 months and e days. And then 3 months at a time. With seeing individuals about 8 times in 3 years at this point. I started T about 6 months before the pandemic. 3 years out of 3.5 of my time on testosterone has been mostly unseen. It saved my life. It just me here, and my body needs to house me. My dysphoria is profound. It’s mostly body based. My identity is non-binary, but my body map is male. My body is dictated in precise terms. But I’m still not “man”. I will be indistinguishable from a man. I already look like a yeti. I’m trans-masc. i say I’m ftm a lot because I’m 50, and it’s easier.
I’m not a woman at all. I’m man-like. I wonder if I was amab I would be non-binary but not want to medically transition because my body was in the spaces it was supposed to be?
This video is amazing! Thank you for putting your effort in it! You are such a wonderful human being 🥰. I am Adi, non-binary, been on T for 6 months and have my own struggles trying to be understood in my workplace or by friends, etc. I find it hard to maintain an identity, and I am missing nonbinary folx who think alike. I see you as a positive queer, you look amazing and you sound amazing and it's so comforting seeing you share your experiences. Sending ❤️
About flexibility. I know many people who have joint issues and are more flexible because of that report an improvement in their joint issues when on T. So it definitely does something to the joints! And makes them stiffer.
Great channel, you are a great talker/presenter!
So happy to see you on here! Thank you for this update!!
I do prefer to be read as male than female I think, in any case it's impossible to read me otherwise now and I'm fine with being read easily I think. But the biggest issue is what you've raised, the fact that they don't see us for what we are. They're.... Seeing as something we're not. Which is something we already went through before. And I'm frustrated by that. So yeah, I'm comfortable with that easy read of me as male as long as these people are acquaintnces. But if they're more long term people, knowing someone sees me as non-binary is just so good. I mean... I literally had a crush on the last person who did that, because it happens so very rarely...
Lovely to see you back with such a positive update (mostly!). Take care of yourself.
Thank you :) You too!
Lmao the roomba giving you your T shot killed me
I am not quite sure how I identify yet, but this video has been helpful in my recent thoughts about starting low dose T. You have great energy and confidence and it's inspiring ✨️
Thank you for allowing this conversation to explore so many different avenues of your experience as a non binary person. You are lovely and it feels incredible to see you.
Wow... Your voice has been changed💜
as an AFAB nonbinary person, I find it amusing to be read as a man (actually, with my height, as a boy) as it is very rare. My feeling is like... since being read as nonbinary is not possible with most people, I would be happy being read as a lesbian (which I am not, I am aroace). So I guess I prefer being read as a woman - partially because I want women to feel comfortable around me the way I feel with them. Thank you for sharing your experience - this confirms for me that T is not right for me, though I'd love to be a bit stronger.
side note that I realize that some lesbians experience women Not being comfortable with them because of homophobia - I am fortunate to be in many queer and queer friendly environments so that's what I'm thinking of.
To the person who feels more comfortable being read as male, Same! For me though I think it’s just because I lean towards a more masculine look so to me it validates that I am looking and sounding how I want to, even though that is not how I identify. I inversely hate hate hate when people gender me as female, because of the opposite. It makes me question how I can wear a binder, have this muscular body frame, and a low voice yet still be gendered as female. For me male is just less wrong than female, even though non-binary is more representative and inclusive of what I feel ❤️ Hope that helps, sending lots of love to you and the rest of our Trans family. We will navigate these things together as we have always done ☺️
LOL TH-cam SENT ME TO A "Recovering from Complex PTSD" VID AFTER THIS ONE AWWWWW I SEE WHAT YOU DID THERE MR & MRS ALL GO RHYTHM
Thank you for sharing Bode! ❤️
Patches didn't work for me because skin irritation, and I shower a lot but I hope they work for you!
yeah I've heard the skin irritation is super common! and not fun x_x
I'm going thru pre menopause and I heard that your hot flashes are similiar to what I've began suffering. It sure sounds like it! What has worked for me is taking 10-15 mg of DHEA daily. (I did hear it suggested once by a trans man taking T). You can buy it online,but I suggest you talk to your doctor if you decide to try it.
I used to cry all the time and like 4 months now it's difficult to cry even if I want to
By the way I really like your hairstyle! What do you have exactly? How short are the sides?
Hi! Thanks :) I don’t think it has a name. I shave it number 1 on one side, but about 1 inch further into my hair than my natural part. Then I’m letting it grow out on the other side
Hi Scotty, I'm the internet!
amazing video, keep it up :))
I like being seen as a man or woman but I’m on T so I always am seen as a man. I’d rather be comfortable with myself though so it’s okay for me.
dear god, if i ever get reborn: let it be on a planet where gender is not such a big deal, so i can just be me. XOXO :D
if you stay on high t dose, could your facial hair grow back even though you have been doing laser removal? very curious if you know anything about this! (for me, the body hair and facial hair, is what I find the most hard on t, although the body form, how the fat is on testosterone, makes me incredibly happy and comfortable; it resolves my body dysphoria. but then I get dysphoria because of the hair. and I do find it conflicting that my voice drops so deeply.)
Yes it could grow back a bit. But lazer has done a lot. I'm also taking finasteride daily, which slows down facial hair growth too.
lol the gym bro's behavior was so illegible to you because you're not male :D I actually think that him asking about your tank top was more like a sniff of the crotch - not really a challenge to your masculinity, more like he was pinging you for a gendered response - the only reason I think I have perspective on this is that I had a very different experience than many trans women, and because of that I actually got good at LARPing as a man, so I actually did this kind of thing with other men, and learned how to respond to it and everything... you can emulate it if the cultivation of that skill isn't too traumatic right lol... so yeah I went up against the other men in this kind of way where it comes off as a challenge, the surrounding women can't read what's going on, but it's just the establishment of your relative gender expressions so they know how to relate to you... lol this was his way of like "tell me what your pronouns/gender is without telling me what your pronouns/gender is" BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY, BODI, AS A FELLOW PISCES, I HAVE AN IMPORTANT MESSAGE FOR YOU:
Thank you!
Your videos are so, so helpful for me. I've been considering low-dose T for a long time, but didn't know fully how it could affect me, and what that could look like over time, and you've explained everything so thoroughly, and I feel more confident in my decision to try T, now. 🥹 Thank you for being so open & transparent about your experiences.