This tactic was discussed years ago in the book Have a New Husband by Friday. The premise was instead of nagging on the things your partner does wrong, start praising them on the things they do right. People are less motivated to change or strive to be better when you harp on the negative. When you make them feel good they will chase the behavior that led to the positive feeling.
@@boomerangsruckflug8513 why would you be resentful if the behavior stopped? That is the ultimate outcome you want, right? As a comparison- you have people who swear by positive only dog training as the best/only way to train an animal but then goes the opposite direction when addressing issues with a partner. Not saying people are animals but training and conditioning works for a reason.
I'll give you the secret It's about your Mind when it comes to a Man's Sexual Ability. Being able to read body language and getting a bead on a Woman. Each women is different. Some Women hit Climax from Clitoral Stimulation, some from G-Spot Simulation, some from other parts of their body(Yeah Women can have orgasm from say Feet stimulation) there is subtle changes when she reaches climax. Being able to read when you hit the right spot and alot of the times mental as well as physical. When you start to notice her breathing gets harder and harder or she twitches when you hit a certain spot. It's about pattern recognition. Building up to the Climax. I can make a Woman essentially have a non stop orgasm the whole time. Sex is a Spiritual Experience, and I don't recommend you do it with someone you don't have an emotional connection with. When it comes down to it, it is the most Spiritual Experience you can have. You are creating Life. At least that is what Sex is naturally. A Man and Woman joining in One Flesh=Life When you as a Man master Sex, it isn't an ability you should use lightly. You can harm a lot of people with it. If you use it carelessly. I have broke a lot of Women and I feel terrible for it. Because when you give a Woman amazing Sex. They are not like Men. They can not just turn off the Emotional aspect. Remember Women are much more Mental/Emotional in Sex while Men it's more of a Bodily Function. Be careful
Don't QUIT, just read body language. COMMUNICATE! Just ask her what she likes. Talk to her through the experience until you master her body. I know that is awkward to be asking what she likes during the experience. But it will help you understand her body better. What makes a good Sexual Partner is their willingness to please. Remember each person is different. Some Women just like a Man going Ham and not caring about her pleasure. You simply adapt to her sexuality.
IMO i think there are many things required for being great in bed, firstly there has to be animal attraction and appealing to all the senses; smell, touch, taste are important. Then there’s the mental aspect: emotional, psychological, intellectual with a willingness to be vulnerable, uninhibited, dirty and ability to push each other’s buttons and push each other to the limit, at the same time, have trust and caring for each other. For me, without any of these aspects, i don’t Feel strong sexual attraction
For me sex is just the extension of communication on another level. Is the communication good, the sex will be good as well. That's my experience, it was always like that.
Yes and no.. I think our best selves come out after we are fairly comfortable and added on that have a connection with and encouraged to be confident by our partner!
Without sounding big headed or that I know everything, as I know I really don't..I think the majority of the time Im good at adapting to sexual responses in the moment. I am very Intuitive and my senses are super heightened, so I pick up on those physical changes. If I see she changes position even slightly or there's a small change in her, good or bad, I react accordingly. I've had some blunt pushbacks though straight off the bat and that can kill the momentum instantly. It doesn't need to be done aggressively or sometimes even said, it can all be through movement, touches to communicate, nods or changing position, and when it's good you'll know..🤗
My biggest thing is meeting a decent guy that wants more. So many want friends with benefits, and don't want to get to know you first. And then if you do anything or don't they ghost you, they say they're too busy without any context. If someone is new in your life, take time, but be yourself, if you want a chance be kind. It takes me awhile to get to know someone. We all have insecurities, but if you expect perfection from someone, know that your not perfect either. The "I'm drunk" excuse is flimsy
I like his gfs perspective!! I love that he wants to include her in his life. He wants us to get to know her and she is making it more interesting!! ❤️❤️
Yeah. They need a female voice. I also really like that he includes his brother who is coming at this, again, from a different perspective. I like that they are all here.
Not sure if this has been a topic of discussion, but I'd like to hear more about the next step when you are mentally and emotionally ready for a "healthy" relationship, after all these toxic ones. There is someone I like, but neither of us have had healthy relationships, we don't know the good habits and "starting points" to keep in mind or to move forward with? Been best friends for 5 years, not sure if we are friendzoned, though neither of us say "friends" or "like siblings" ever! Maybe we just aren't used to, or aware of a friendship foundation first and foremost, and how to step out of that into a intimate relationship. Both of us are shy which is Great 😫🙃
If a doctor told u that tommorow you will die what will you do today? You need to enjoy the present and be honest with yourself and have fun. You think too much of the past the past have past and the future still has to come but what do you have today? Make the most of it fill yourself with gratitude have fun have sex be happy and see. Dont expect that it will work out or not it doesnt matter what matters is you convey what you want in that moment. Thats for me.
I wish you two the absolute best! The best relationships start off as friends or when you least expect it! You’re absolutely gorgeous (from what I can see ☺️) and he’s a very lucky man! Just get out of your head a little and do it, life is so short.. He already adores you and enjoys your presence (because you two are already good longtime friends) so you know there’s chemistry there and if you both are on the same page about being in a relationship then go for it! It might just be the best thing you’ve ever done! Good luck gorgeous and update us under these comments in a few months/ year lol! I’m emotionally invested now 😂♥️!
@@jaylanichole5136 the sweetest response!! Thank you, I will do my best, and YES get out of my head, and into the "feeling" not thoughts of it all Thank you for your kind words, you are so right 😃😍💜❤️
The problem is people(in general) cannot truly explain what attracts them from relationships to sex...since most decision are made on "the vibe" (feelings)...those can change for any reason. The genuine burning desire...so to speak...women need to stay in a long term relationship can never be really negotiated...either have it do they don't. Right now in the video... she has it for Matt...as seen by her staring and giggling at him.
I AM great in bed. I’ve been told many times. BUT my personality flaws or BPD seem to be the reason previous lives have left. Also I choose emotionally unavailable men….
@@judyperri9496 I’ve had two separate lovers come back and corner me to say they either want me back or they can’t stop thinking about me. I always ask why and they say they feel deep connection with me and we’re scared. But yes, I wonder often if they are being truthful. One was in a new relationship and said it doesn’t compare and the other remained single after dating me to this day. I don’t know what is going on inside their minds but I have learned to just take it as a compliment and move on.
Well if they were with you on the high, yeah there can be fireworks. When it comes to choosing unavailable men, ask yourself what draws you to them. And adress that part of yourself.
Great sex comes in the mind. A lot of women i talked to and met been faking orgasm or never had one. And i dont understand it. And it isnt about the size. I think its a lot about the mind and i think i lot of people doesnt talk about it. What they like. Its a good topic. Specially if your looking for a long term relationship. But i think women should be honest with their guy if not you will having lousy sex in long term and believe me from my experience better to be clear at it from the start. Experimenting is also a key to this and honesty.
Matt, I don't know what I am doing in this department. True, I sux in bed. I was told this before. I was cheated on so many times. Sigh..... I am back in church and I vowed to practice Abstinence when I joined the church. :-/ Don't know what to say.
Idk how she can talk about sex so openly with her partner’s brother, most people would be extremely cringed out and embarrassed haha, interesting dynamic for sure
There is a problem when your partner won't talk to you about things like that and when you get into your middle age years most men really are not looking to have sex it's all about companionship. No Lie, very disappointing
@@ramparkash2318 where I choose to date and the men I choose to talk to that's what I hear 90% of the time when you bring up sex. It's all about companionship and not sex they tell me that. And it's sad it brings up some red flags
@@ramparkash2318 I wasn't referring to you I was referring to my experiences I can't say that about everybody because obviously that would be impossible for me to know
The examples in the web page are not describing my problem, in fact I’ve looked for advise in several websites but not finding solution, my boyfriend is in love with his mom!!! I feel the other woman here, I hope and be greatfull if you can address this issue in one of your episodes, thank you and greetings to your audience
girl notices immediately how the guy phrased the question "if your partner did something you liked 20 years ago" bruh, are you for real? Leading her to the right assumption that the sex life between the two people is bad. And the guy denied it. How tf can you keep something your girl did 20 years ago in your head and not share it earlier. Don't need to watch the rest of the video to conclude the guy in this video has no idea what he's doing.
They are just bad things that have happened to you so far. Don't let them define you. As hard as it is, remember that everyday is a new day and you can start as if you just started your life
I'm very sorry. This brings tears to my eyes and I don't even know you. Please ask God to take away your pain. It will hopefully help you to heal. God has helped me through trauma & pain, too. I understand.
Matthew says that Audrey is "running her mouth"....to me that is slightly abusive.....in another video he calls her "Babe".......maybe Matthew is a little to much of an abusive guy with a huge ego.
This tactic was discussed years ago in the book Have a New Husband by Friday. The premise was instead of nagging on the things your partner does wrong, start praising them on the things they do right. People are less motivated to change or strive to be better when you harp on the negative. When you make them feel good they will chase the behavior that led to the positive feeling.
I'm happy to compliment ppl but sometimes you need to discuss and resolve issues. This can't be done with plain compliments.
John Gray also wrote about that many times.
@@saggiteightyfour8367 sure! Otherwise you are denying and after a while you will be more and more resentful.
@@boomerangsruckflug8513 why would you be resentful if the behavior stopped? That is the ultimate outcome you want, right? As a comparison- you have people who swear by positive only dog training as the best/only way to train an animal but then goes the opposite direction when addressing issues with a partner. Not saying people are animals but training and conditioning works for a reason.
@@saggiteightyfour8367 yeah but nagging doesn't help. I think you can be direct without the extra nagging and negativity.
No matter how many times you fail, you are not yet a failure until you quit trying.
%100
Sometimes quitting trying is the new thing to try.
Ok, I am going to keep asking woman in the comments section for pictures of their feet. Wish me luck.
I'll give you the secret
It's about your Mind when it comes to a Man's Sexual Ability. Being able to read body language and getting a bead on a Woman. Each women is different. Some Women hit Climax from Clitoral Stimulation, some from G-Spot Simulation, some from other parts of their body(Yeah Women can have orgasm from say Feet stimulation) there is subtle changes when she reaches climax. Being able to read when you hit the right spot and alot of the times mental as well as physical. When you start to notice her breathing gets harder and harder or she twitches when you hit a certain spot. It's about pattern recognition. Building up to the Climax. I can make a Woman essentially have a non stop orgasm the whole time.
Sex is a Spiritual Experience, and I don't recommend you do it with someone you don't have an emotional connection with.
When it comes down to it, it is the most Spiritual Experience you can have. You are creating Life. At least that is what Sex is naturally. A Man and Woman joining in One Flesh=Life
When you as a Man master Sex, it isn't an ability you should use lightly. You can harm a lot of people with it. If you use it carelessly.
I have broke a lot of Women and I feel terrible for it. Because when you give a Woman amazing Sex. They are not like Men. They can not just turn off the Emotional aspect.
Remember Women are much more Mental/Emotional in Sex while Men it's more of a Bodily Function.
Be careful
Don't QUIT, just read body language. COMMUNICATE! Just ask her what she likes. Talk to her through the experience until you master her body. I know that is awkward to be asking what she likes during the experience. But it will help you understand her body better. What makes a good Sexual Partner is their willingness to please. Remember each person is different. Some Women just like a Man going Ham and not caring about her pleasure. You simply adapt to her sexuality.
IMO i think there are many things required for being great in bed, firstly there has to be animal attraction and appealing to all the senses; smell, touch, taste are important. Then there’s the mental aspect: emotional, psychological, intellectual with a willingness to be vulnerable, uninhibited, dirty and ability to push each other’s buttons and push each other to the limit, at the same time, have trust and caring for each other. For me, without any of these aspects, i don’t Feel strong sexual attraction
I totally agree. Without all these factors I just can’t do it. Lol
👏👏👏👏👏
in other words. It is a rare event
All those words sound like to much hard work I'd rather just go to sleep and wake up feeling great and refreshed lol
Well not everyone is inhibited and they’re shy, it doesn’t mean that this is a turn off 🙄🙄🙄 sorry but that’s kinda pretentious
For me sex is just the extension of communication on another level. Is the communication good, the sex will be good as well. That's my experience, it was always like that.
wait that’s actually so true
Hmm I heard of it.. never thought it.. it's very true.
Doesn’t work all the time. For me, unfortunately
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@@maxdzhumyha6878 it works well with the right person.
Yes and no.. I think our best selves come out after we are fairly comfortable and added on that have a connection with and encouraged to be confident by our partner!
Like the saying goes "it's not what you say, it's how you say it."
I absolutely Love how You two are looking and smiling at each other it shows so much Love ❤️
Without sounding big headed or that I know everything, as I know I really don't..I think the majority of the time Im good at adapting to sexual responses in the moment. I am very Intuitive and my senses are super heightened, so I pick up on those physical changes. If I see she changes position even slightly or there's a small change in her, good or bad, I react accordingly. I've had some blunt pushbacks though straight off the bat and that can kill the momentum instantly. It doesn't need to be done aggressively or sometimes even said, it can all be through movement, touches to communicate, nods or changing position, and when it's good you'll know..🤗
This is what makes a good lover. Listening to sounds and breathing. Paying attention.
So happy you two have met and share what seems honest strong love❤️❤️❤️
Her side eye to Matthew ❤
My biggest thing is meeting a decent guy that wants more. So many want friends with benefits, and don't want to get to know you first. And then if you do anything or don't they ghost you, they say they're too busy without any context. If someone is new in your life, take time, but be yourself, if you want a chance be kind. It takes me awhile to get to know someone. We all have insecurities, but if you expect perfection from someone, know that your not perfect either. The "I'm drunk" excuse is flimsy
I like his gfs perspective!! I love that he wants to include her in his life. He wants us to get to know her and she is making it more interesting!! ❤️❤️
Yeah. They need a female voice. I also really like that he includes his brother who is coming at this, again, from a different perspective. I like that they are all here.
@@kimberleybrown8076 yes He’s very sweet with his loved ones. I hope they value him as much as he values them.
@@kimberleybrown8076 yes I agree ❤️❤️
💯
His fiancée actuallly 😘
That look Audrey gives Matthew at 2:27 sums all of his flirting techniques. I gotta try this! 🤪😈
You go, Stephen! Yes, specificity!
I love that Audrey is on podcast along with Matthew, Stephen and Jameson!😄Such a breath of fresh air to have a female voice🥰.. Love you JAMS❤
MASJ!
(Mat, Audrey, Stephan and Jameson)
I don't. Not in a mean way, but.... I liked just the boys!
Absolutely! I love that there is now a female voice, Audrey we love you! you're the missing piece to complete this wonderful group 😉
Wow. The energy at 2:27
LOVE IT!!!
2:21 that's a look if I've ever seen one hahaha 👀😂
I have had that energy it means only one thing...
I love audrey. Please bring her again on the show. Would want to hear more from her.
“wHY are yoU giGgling liKe ScHOOl children?”
Me: 😂
You‘re all just great, guys. Thank you for you and for the value you bring along in EVERY video! ❤️
Not sure if this has been a topic of discussion, but I'd like to hear more about the next step when you are mentally and emotionally ready for a "healthy" relationship, after all these toxic ones. There is someone I like, but neither of us have had healthy relationships, we don't know the good habits and "starting points" to keep in mind or to move forward with?
Been best friends for 5 years, not sure if we are friendzoned, though neither of us say "friends" or "like siblings" ever! Maybe we just aren't used to, or aware of a friendship foundation first and foremost, and how to step out of that into a intimate relationship. Both of us are shy which is Great 😫🙃
If a doctor told u that tommorow you will die what will you do today? You need to enjoy the present and be honest with yourself and have fun. You think too much of the past the past have past and the future still has to come but what do you have today? Make the most of it fill yourself with gratitude have fun have sex be happy and see. Dont expect that it will work out or not it doesnt matter what matters is you convey what you want in that moment. Thats for me.
I wish you two the absolute best! The best relationships start off as friends or when you least expect it! You’re absolutely gorgeous (from what I can see ☺️) and he’s a very lucky man! Just get out of your head a little and do it, life is so short.. He already adores you and enjoys your presence (because you two are already good longtime friends) so you know there’s chemistry there and if you both are on the same page about being in a relationship then go for it! It might just be the best thing you’ve ever done! Good luck gorgeous and update us under these comments in a few months/ year lol! I’m emotionally invested now 😂♥️!
@@jaylanichole5136 the sweetest response!! Thank you,
I will do my best, and YES get out of my head, and into the "feeling" not thoughts of it all
Thank you for your kind words, you are so right 😃😍💜❤️
Communication is always the key and respect, sensitive
False communication is good yet doesnt make it better he doesnt do foreplay or touch
Confidence & Complimentary Play!
You guys are so cute, seemed like you’ve had such a raw moment here I loved it, looks like you really like and appreciate each other.
I disagree..... peoples best sexualising selves come out when they feel ....safe!
Yes, I so agree!! To feel safe is the key to exploring your own sexuality and your partners. And then confidence can grow!! k
Exactly. If someone makes you feel not good enough or ugly it ain't gonna be good!
The problem is people(in general) cannot truly explain what attracts them from relationships to sex...since most decision are made on "the vibe" (feelings)...those can change for any reason. The genuine burning desire...so to speak...women need to stay in a long term relationship can never be really negotiated...either have it do they don't. Right now in the video... she has it for Matt...as seen by her staring and giggling at him.
issue need to be honest with what they like and stop expecting the person to be a mind reader
FROM RSA 🇿🇦🇿🇦
Awe
Me too 🇿🇦
I AM great in bed. I’ve been told many times. BUT my personality flaws or BPD seem to be the reason previous lives have left. Also I choose emotionally unavailable men….
Did you ever think they were lying 🤣🤣🤣
@@judyperri9496 I’ve had two separate lovers come back and corner me to say they either want me back or they can’t stop thinking about me. I always ask why and they say they feel deep connection with me and we’re scared. But yes, I wonder often if they are being truthful. One was in a new relationship and said it doesn’t compare and the other remained single after dating me to this day. I don’t know what is going on inside their minds but I have learned to just take it as a compliment and move on.
Well if they were with you on the high, yeah there can be fireworks.
When it comes to choosing unavailable men, ask yourself what draws you to them. And adress that part of yourself.
I resonate SO much with this :-O
You sound like a fearful avoidant, like me :)
Great sex comes in the mind. A lot of women i talked to and met been faking orgasm or never had one. And i dont understand it. And it isnt about the size. I think its a lot about the mind and i think i lot of people doesnt talk about it. What they like. Its a good topic. Specially if your looking for a long term relationship. But i think women should be honest with their guy if not you will having lousy sex in long term and believe me from my experience better to be clear at it from the start. Experimenting is also a key to this and honesty.
I also don’t have orgasm during sex , but I really enjoy the intimacy with my boyfriend .
False when guy refuses for years to do foreplay or touch
You are an inspiration to me personal in running my channel
Me as a virgin girl watching this 😂😂
Being good in bed is feeling safe and comfortable with each other. If someone makes you feel ugly, judged, or unsafe it's not gonna be good.
False i feel safe comfortable and he is horrible
@@rb7154 Then maybe put in the work to show him what you like or leave. You're probably the one stifling him.
Yes more gf in videos plz!
This is one of your videos that fortunately I dont have to watch 😂
Thank you
Matt, I don't know what I am doing in this department. True, I sux in bed. I was told this before. I was cheated on so many times. Sigh..... I am back in church and I vowed to practice Abstinence when I joined the church. :-/ Don't know what to say.
Who is Steve!? He's adorable 😍
His brother.
Are they dating?! HOLY CHEMISTRY
They are engaged.
@@karenhardie1132 It was performative.
Which position to go left/right 😂
When you meet up in the hallway
I love you guys, but really there's nothing more funnily off putting that see a bunch of Britons talking 'bout sex, while giggling 😂😂😂
Idk how she can talk about sex so openly with her partner’s brother, most people would be extremely cringed out and embarrassed haha, interesting dynamic for sure
3:06 ❤
Hussey-shians are here!
There is a problem when your partner won't talk to you about things like that and when you get into your middle age years most men really are not looking to have sex it's all about companionship. No Lie, very disappointing
Wanda .How you can say men really are not looking to have sex.
@@ramparkash2318 where I choose to date and the men I choose to talk to that's what I hear 90% of the time when you bring up sex. It's all about companionship and not sex they tell me that. And it's sad it brings up some red flags
@@ramparkash2318 plenty of men are looking for a personal connection first and sexual second
@@ramparkash2318 I wasn't referring to you I was referring to my experiences I can't say that about everybody because obviously that would be impossible for me to know
The examples in the web page are not describing my problem, in fact I’ve looked for advise in several websites but not finding solution, my boyfriend is in love with his mom!!! I feel the other woman here, I hope and be greatfull if you can address this issue in one of your episodes, thank you and greetings to your audience
That not a "good" dynamic. I have experienced this before. You may want to consider removing yourself from that relationship.
girl notices immediately how the guy phrased the question "if your partner did something you liked 20 years ago" bruh, are you for real? Leading her to the right assumption that the sex life between the two people is bad. And the guy denied it. How tf can you keep something your girl did 20 years ago in your head and not share it earlier.
Don't need to watch the rest of the video to conclude the guy in this video has no idea what he's doing.
I don’t get to have sex or know human love, God has “blessed me” with rape, abuse, and extreme isolation. I feel so loved.
They are just bad things that have happened to you so far. Don't let them define you. As hard as it is, remember that everyday is a new day and you can start as if you just started your life
Hope you are able to heal 💕
I'm very sorry. This brings tears to my eyes and I don't even know you. Please ask God to take away your pain. It will hopefully help you to heal. God has helped me through trauma & pain, too. I understand.
A great connection, chemistry and confidence I'd say. I'm mostly demisexual
Is this Audrey, his fiance, in this video? :)
ay i hope u know i didnt mean to break up with you
They're flirting haha
Yup they're are engaged to be married :)
why does Matthew say that Audrey is "run her mouth"......that seems a bit abusive.
What if he gives me the ick?
Audrey is my new role model. She is amazing.
Something about her doesn't seem authentic to me.
❤
Matthew says that Audrey is "running her mouth"....to me that is slightly abusive.....in another video he calls her "Babe".......maybe Matthew is a little to much of an abusive guy with a huge ego.
Shut up