What Gets A Guy Sexually Hooked On You - Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy
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Every magazine tells you how to have great sex, how to spice up your marriage, and what positions to try when you’re bored.
But what really gets men hooked sexually on one woman isn't some secret sex position...
It's when he feels comfortable being able to express all of his dirty thoughts WITHOUT being judged.
When we’re with someone long enough, we become used to them. They become our best friend. That’s when it becomes scary to reveal a new, kinky, sexual desire with the person we love.
In this week’s episode of iHeart, we talk about how to get out of this feeling of being “trapped” sexually, so that both men and women can create an environment where they truly become one another's sexual fantasy (as well as loving partner)!
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Why am i watching this i don't even have a man
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Me neither but being mentally ready for these phases totally helps!
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same lmao
"i really believe that nothing should be considered embarrassing between two people who love each other." Gold!
Matthew's advice is as brilliant as the line, "He's just not that into you." He tells women what they need to hear. Not what we want to hear. I so wish I had his advice when I was single 20 years ago! Life would have been a lot easier. Still love hearing his advice even though I'm happily married. His advice works for us married folk too. Thanks Matthew!
from what I think I learned, if he's not into a woman for wrong reasons, he is bad. like how if I don't want to have sex with a 3 foot tall, non white, 400 pound no-op , no HRT trans man with a mental disablity...oh boy. full of hate!
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Your eloquence and authenticity are so unique for your age and your advice is just priceless! All the best from Switzerland
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Schwizer High-Five! :)
Matthew Hussey You are such a charming fellow, I heard a lot about you, and decided to watch some of your videos the other day. What I like most about your approach not just as a dating coach, but as a person, is your quirky, weird, sense of humor. I was not expecting that🧐😎
M-- I'm touched by the degree of your self-examination, analysis in general. You're a philosopher, always seeking to understand what others take for granted. You're true blue.
awwwww that was nice
+Matthew Hussey how can I send you a question I have about my relationship
+Matthew Hussey You are painfully cute, and refreshingly intelligent. What a great combo. Too bad you're straight. I'm super jealous of whoever your current or future girlfriend is.
You took the words out of my mouth, Jan!
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"most people would feel more comfortable doing weird and crazy stuff with someone they barely know than with the person they love", yep that rings true. Thanks for the tips Matthew! I'm going to work on it.
That's so true what Mathew said ; The only way to spice up the relationship is to talk about each other's fantasies, fetishs, desires, wants and needs. People tend to censor and shut down sexual activities and that's why these relationships backfires and ends up ultimately
100% agree. I've been thinking this way for years. So important to be able to communicate. This is why casual sex isn't going to rock like an awesome relationship can. Not all partners can open up but u can train them. :)
Thank you so much for being here on internet with us. I just finished my 8 year relationship and your videos help me get through it.
Bringing conscious communication and confronting the issues with the open dialing is the best way.. Love it
Absolutely brilliant!
There’s nothing more intimate and beautiful than seeing two people in love trying their best to spice up their sexual life while staying committed to each other ❤
OMG Matt your timing is creeping the hell out of me, you always know what kind of video to put up it's scary. Thank you so much!
+Matthew Hussey Your words are dead on right!! The thing that makes me really sad is that these things you speak of are happening all over the world and ALL of the time, so timing is the easy part. ;)
I know you will understand what I am saying and that I am with you, not against you. Keep on speaking the truth and helping people!!!
You can actually tell him what you are interested in hearing on a video. If many people ask him a question of course he cares to respond. What is cool is that he gives an answer that shows real experience and knowledge that can help.
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Never do anything that you don't want or like, within your intimate relationship.
You are very intelligent, Matthew! Thanks for questioning things, for lifting important subjects and teaching us what you know. It makes me think outside the box and reflect in a way that's not only beneficial for me, but also is much less destructive than before.
I`M A COMPLETE MATTHEW HUSSEY JUNKIE...
I can't help myself and not click on the video
MARIA EUGENIA OROPEZA R. Meeee too!
Me too l see one and am like “ooh what do you got ?”
So am I.
This is so smart , honest , real and true. I am a phone sex actress and the majority of the calls I get are men wanting things with their wives- not someone else- that they can't experience with her for fear of rejection or her lack of interest. It is so much easier to explore with a stranger, but being known to that level is a deeper intimacy and is a stunning part of a person to know. Some women would be so angry that their men call for phone sex- if only she knew his fantasies are all about her. It's tricky, though- it's easy to feel inadequate when you aren't giving your SO what they want because you might feel embarrassed or unattractive.
You are an incredible intuitive and open man, Matt- I really enjoy your videos and you are really illuminating people and making the world a little better by helping people love more. xx
Leonna Love how did u get into that gig? does it pay well?
only perverts would call for phone sex or go for prostitutes after marriage
So you help men cheat on their wives... lol
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...and your man will go elsewhere with that thinking. He certainly wouldn't let you know.
What sort of things are men interested in over the phone? Btw, many women don't get the extent fantasy plays in the lives of men. But I do.
Great advice Matt! 8yrs married & we're still learning more about the other. Early on i learned speaking aloud is difficult for him so i wrote that very question (whatre u wanting?) & passed it to him w/shy smile & gave him time alone to reply. That way i can process reply without him watching for reaction & it worked like a charm! We have a lot of fun 😁
This is stupidly relatable, you're a genius...
Thank you so much for this video! It's exactly what happened to my bf and me. We've been together for almost four years now with a break over the last five months. I've been so insecure about expressing my wants and desires to him before. But now that we're back together (also thanks to your advices ;) ) I'm super comfortable with voicing what turns me on that in the beginning he was positively surprised about how "bold" and "exciting" this new interaction was that he's now nuts about it :D
i love how you discuss this matter... very diplomatic
this is something very important that a couple should know thank you.
You're so cool dude. I just feel like you were so predestined to do all this stuff. Like, I'm sure you've been through a whole lot of life so that you could learn from all those experiences that brought you to this place you're at now. It's cool. Good for you man seriously thank you so much for spreading your message and helping a lot of people find their way in love.
I am falling for your thoughtfulness and observant nature. Good luck!
One of the best advice which I discovered through your videos, Mathew! Thanks for guiding us with these valuable nuggets. You are the best!!
Love the short-term vs. long-term point. Great advice as always!
Love the explanation of feedback with the ego and how we should prioritize long term Vs short term. Great content
Matthew is simply brilliant. The insights that he brings out.
Hi Matthew I am following your videos only few months and I really appreciate that you bit into "difficult" topics !
I love how you explored this topic. Great advice. Now undoubtedly, we will open this door and reveal each others fantasies, and a hideous buzzard of an idea will want to come out to and play. Something you would never do! Please do another video explaining what to say when your partner's sexual fantasy crosses your boundary. Once you know your man wants something you find offensive, you will forever wonder if he is willing to cheat on you to get that sexual need met. Thank you for all that you do.
what a great point! if you're not helping them change now, you're doing a bigger damage to their ego in the long term
Finding Matthew in 2016 lol obviously I'm late the party. At first I was like what does this young man who's barely out of his 20s know about relationships? After listening to him on YT then buying his audio book which I listened to all in a day, I absolutely respect his work. He's like an old soul, obviously wise beyond his age. Having been single for over five years out of choice, his advice has been handy from the point I decided to actually 'get the guy' I'm working on it. Matthew has certainly made my transition a lot easier than I expected:)
If you love your partner, you should be open to him about anything because being in a relationship is a partnership, so communication is a must in all aspects especially when it comes to your physical needs.
I've been looking for something like else almost my entire life this was so helpful
You're so right. After a 25+ year marriage I can state this honestly, the wide sexual repertoire that started so well in the beginning of the relationship slowly contracted because I never wanted to tell him that if he'd just move his thumb right here (or whatever tiny shift we needed to make) that would have helped me so much and it would have helped him too. After so long of doing it "that way" I was afraid to hurt him and say, "Nope, not really, actually". I know he only ever wanted to make me happy in bed but it's that fear of hurting the guy's feelings in the moment I couldn't stand. Next time, I'll say, "You know what, that works great but I saw this today and, wow. " I'll be open and transparent and brave next time. It's really the most loving thing we can do.
You sound like me lol
And the reverse is true for him. He's thinking "She thinks I'm totally satisfied with what she does or doesn't do in bed, and I'd hate to scare her or hurt her feelings by telling her that I've been bored with just average (or whatever) for 10 years." Time to mix it up woman lol
you are such a breath of fresh air! Thank you!
I wonder what kind of weird stuff Matthew is into. OMG
The creepiest
Thanks, now I want to spank him :-p
Lol
Whatever it is, I’d help him.
He should have demonstrated with his wiered stuff.
Yes I completely agree with you Matthew. Communication is key and trying things out. Xxxx
So glad you touched on this because some times men look at you like who has she been with. When a woman can be as creative as a guy. We observe and say it would be cool if we tried to do this cause you know their flexability. But no instead they think the wrong way and loose out on a beautiful moment and kill their partners creativity and go back to their old boring ways
So sad they miss out on an experience just because a girl has learned it from another guy...
Matthew, you need to make a book on how to be witty, because I've listened to all your videos and it's all about being witty. Sometimes it's difficult for me to come up of something witty. We need the formula to help form the witty statement we want.
Oh jeez... Being too embarrassed to tell my partner what I like in bed has ALWAYS been a huge problem for me. Every time I tell a guy my fetish, it scares him away, or makes him lose interest in me sexually. Like everything is fine as long as I keep my mouth shut about it. But the minute I start feeling comfortable enough to tell him about it... Boom, he gradually starts backing away from me. Makes me feel like I just can't be honest with a guy. Or I can't ever let him really know me. Or maybe he just misunderstands me?
Like you said in your video, I don't mind blurting it out right here among strangers, lol. Because I don't know anybody here, and telling strangers won't ruin my relationship.
So here goes...
I basically have a "rough sex" fetish. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not talking about "50 Shades Of Grey" rough. I DON'T like being beaten, or degraded, or belittled, or humiliated. I don't like whips or clamps, or being tied down or anything. I don't even like being called bad names!
I just enjoy stuff like a bit of rough wrestling (and the guy winning) and maybe holding my wrists, maybe a gentle hair pull, or a gentle slap on the cheek... Kind of a rough rhythm while "going at it".... Even a hand over the mouth if I get too loud, or a kinky roleplay, like "predator and victim", etc., etc. To me, its just fun, frisky, INTENSE exciting, lol.
And naturally, I would never want to do that with a stranger. I would only do that with someone I love and trust.
WHY do I like that?? Oh I dunno. When I really think about it, I suppose it developed because I was always very shy growing up, especially with guys and I was raised by a tough, bad-ass Green Beret soldier who taught me "boys should chase girls, not the other way around-- and girls should keep their standards sky-high".
It wasn't really acceptable in my home for me to be dizzy over a boy-- I was supposed to be ABOVE that. Better than that. I was expected to let the BOY come to ME.
Dad also taught me to shoot, hunt, butcher my kill, survive in the wilderness, set traps, etc., lol. So I was often a bit of a Tom-boy, I was usually tougher than other girls/women. It always took a very different type of guy to make me feel "girly and feminine".
Sometimes I felt like I was tougher than most boys (oh yeah, that really had them lining up to date me... pfft!). While that made me feel independent, it also made me feel... Not so feminine.
But truth be told, I LOVE anything that makes me feel girly and feminine!
I guess my fetish probably developed from my extreme shyness with guys, combined with my preference for the GUY to make the major moves, etc. (because that's what I grew up idealizing).
I'm also extremely turned on by the difference between a man's strength and a woman's. Again, feeling that the guy is stronger makes me feel feminine and very girly, womanly, etc. I love that feeling!
So I love it when a man proves how much stronger he is than me, lol. For example, if I play arm wrestle with a guy, and he beats me like it was soooo easy... Omg... HOT! lol.
Yeah, I hate it when he lets me win, because I feel so butch, I mean jeez...
Or if there is something really heavy I can't lift, or a jar I can't open, or something too high for me to reach, but he does it like its a piece of cake... Yeah, I find that hot as hell.
Well... I'm the same way in bed. When he wrestles kinda rough with me, tosses me on the bed, etc., and I feel how much stronger he is than me-- its exciting for me. I guess it kind of erases the "Tom-boy" picture I have of myself and puts me in touch with my "inner primitive female". I feel like he is strong, so he's my man, my strength, my rock... And since we're technically just playing around and he loves me, would never harm me-- I feel safe with him. Very close to him. And DEFINITELY desired! I mean, he wouldn't be so animal-like with me, if he wasn't attracted and turned on, right? lol.
But I never could explain all that to a guy in a way that he really understood. Both husbands totally backed off when I tried to explain it... Maybe it freaked them out? Scared them? I don't know if I just explain it wrong, or what. But they always back off when I try to tell them this. So I always felt like they never really knew me, or understood me...
I dunno, maybe they misunderstand me and they think I'm some kind of supporter of sexual assault, lmao. Which is completely retarded! Quite frankly, I think rapists should be castrated or killed, or at least get the maximum penalty EVERY time. I mean jeez guys, give me a break, I'm not talking about hurting random strangers, or brutalizing innocent people. I'm talking about 2 people who trust, love and consent to each each other, playing around with some kink in bed. What the hell is so terrible about that?
No offense to guys, but... Some guys can be so dumb, lol.
MelissaINFJ dominatrix somewhat
Mimi M yes, role play...
MelissaINFJ I totally understand you
MelissaINFJ your fantasy is so tame girl! You've been dating pussies 😬🤣 Keep looking. It's not you hon it's them...
MelissaINFJ completely get it!
Awesome advice, Matt. I was just talking to a new guy about this (coincidentally, prior to watching your video), and he said he liked talking to me about this, and felt able to be really open about things with me :) Yay!
Thank you for braving this subject!
I hope everyone become more open minded & comfortable 😍
How true!! Another to the point video..thank you!
Thank you. This gave me insight into what went wrong in a past relationship. My ex felt very intimidated and threatened by it.
This was a wonderful video!!! Thank you!! Always so helpful!!
Very helpful and informative!
Thank you 🙏.
This is your best video!!! Thank you - absolutely brilliant!
YES Matthew!! Can you coach me and my ex husband. This is everything that is wrong with our relationship.
Matthew, you are such a breath of fresh air because you are sweet & wise! Do you ever have seminars in the United States?
What an amazing message. Just got a text message last night from a man who has been pursuing me for the past 5 weeks; but... via random text. Very bold last night about what he hoped for when we do get together. Then, just thought... for kicks and giggles... let's see what/where/how he's out in the world of social media and life ...for the heck of it. He's very non-existent since 2014, but his wife is all over it. Sort of disappointing but a real eye-opener. Life. It's always interesting. It knows how to throw a curveball. ~N
WoW you are very wise Sir! Keep these coming please!
Just watched and heard this! 4 years later!!! THANK YOU💖💖💖
Amen! Keep this talk up.....everyone!!!!
Thank you, Sir! Brilliant!
this video of yours just top my favorites! you are so right! thanks for your advice.
am interested in any videos regarding the straying outside the concept of monogamy whilst maintaining a serious relationship; ive actually been searching your channel for this subject matter and found nothing so far, therefore have been listening to any that i have not yet played...ran into this one - glad to hear you mention this.
Oh my , this is awesome! I'm going to start this with my new boyfriend - once I get one :)
Very accurate and eye opening. The thinking you know your lover and being shocked when they come with something new. To me it comes down to ACTIVELY listen to your partner/lover. So many just wait till they can talk again. Communication is key in a satisfying sexual relationship. "trying this with you...." Kudos, Sir. Good video per usual. :)
Open dialogue in a couple is the Best!
This is actually a really sweet idea. I like it
Just be yourself, self love, speak freely, respect your n his boundaries. Accept eachother as individuals. Love.
Great advice!! thanks so much for sharing!
No guy in my life right now. Just watching because I like his voice and that beard is looking great on him 😏🌺
Your great!! Very educating información.
really appreciate this. hes spot on and very articulate. thank you!
This here man, is my biggest crush, ever!
I could never have a relationship with this gentlemen. Because he is so analytical. . But yiu know what? I love this guy. He has a great way of putting things.
thank you for your insight:) this is so helpful!!
im a guy watching this and its very true. it does get harder, not easier, to bring up sex ideas the longer youve been with someone. the tip about saying "i want to do this with YOU" is a good one.
Sex is a team work. I can't agree with you more! Thank you for the video, Matthew. Lots of love from Tokyo💗
This is soo true! I'm not unhappy with my guy but I wanted to try dressing up and I chickened out totally. The most I do is high heels in situ. Thanks Matthew, this is a great video as it not only gives me a way to express what I want but also highlights the importance of allowing him space to do the same. I really didn't think he is backward in coming forward but maybe I was making n assumption. He might be a furry for all I know...
So relatable thank you for bringing attention to this
Having the sex conversation is the most important part of any relationship. I completely agree.
I’m in my 2nd long term relationship this one 9 years and he and I love getting ideas from experts it keep our relationship exciting
So, so true. Thank you Matthew!
For me, good sex is when creative energy is combined with true intimacy. It's all about exploring and creating a safe, creative, and open environment.
I really do value my ability to use creative energy to fully vibe and connect with the other person.
the best video of yours. i like to come back here.
Communication is the big key when trying to try new things in the bedroom. Talk about what you want to try and remember to have a code word when feeling uncomfortable and or when boundaries are getting pushed to feeling uncomfortable and or when the new thing is beyond pleasure. Saying no! In a stern way can bring the partner down, feel bad, and or make the partner feel more insecure about themselves.
The problem is when your partner is a real shy guy and introverted. My ex husband could never tell me what he wanted (or just communicate in general). I also had a much higher sex drive... I tried introducing toys. I tried introducing different positions. I tried the sexy pillow talk. And got accused of CHEATING on him! Things just went downhill for us. My current partner is older, more experienced and very open minded. Best sex ever! You are never "too old" to have some fun.
The last thing Matthew said is very true.
Awesome video!
Incredible insight!
I am happily married (a long time), and I find your vids really fun, smart, and interesting. My husband agrees with most of what you say;-) Anyway, I enjoy watching/listening.
i really like the advice he gives. I would assume with this amount of work being done and the investment of trying to please someone sexually... would be ideally for people in committed relationships. My opinion.
Perfect timing! Thank you for helping me process in a healthy way all the uncertainty. It is so empowering when you can make proper sense of things. Thankful for all your help Matthew! You have no idea how much you are helping me and I am certain many others to live our best lives. 💕🤗
Just happened on your channel, really interesting. Thanks
Is it crazy that I’m satisfied just to listen to this Mathew guy talk about this..
I totally agree. Great video 😊
THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN MATTHEW FOR SHARING THIS!❤❤❤
Holy crap. thats som sexy, turning on dialogue from Matt. Yes, he's right, we should keep exploring because we are always changing and developing throughout our lives.
I love your video so much. I always did what you talk about. and I think what you said are true. every one of it.. ☺👍👍
I tried it all with my man and I'm glad I did because I enjoyed a lot of it myself
I love this. I think this is so useful to know. I am very comfortable with my sexuality, and comfortable talking about it, and I tend to assume all men everywhere are comfortable but...that's not true. So I'm trying to learn how to make my partners feel as comfortable as I do.
It can be hard because I feel like so many guys take sex so very personally, like it's their space to 'win' women, or like we're severely judging them based on their success or failure at sex. As though it's even possible to succeed or fail at!
Yeesh.
Very well spoken and true.
This beard is the look!
Right on and I'm 70. I just try to tell them ahead of time I'm a chameleon and I'm an Aquarian so I like change I like progression I like communication in all of its facets.
Fantastic advice! This WILL save relationships
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Great advice and sooo true
Mathew you talk straight to my hart
Hey Mattew. You are so right. My friend and I have no problem with sharing and asking this and I think it is a sing of being open and honest in your relation.
Having said this... I could not find a topic where I coulds ask you a question that I have, so I just ask it here...
During one of our fanstasy conversations (on the phone, we live more that a houre drive away from each other) het told me that he feels submissive with me and that he doesn't mind with me. And that he means this in a very positive way
If a man ( he is not a guy any more )is telling you this, will he be really serius about this?
I thanked him for this compliment and found it so sweet that he did, but I've never heard a man say this.
He is a pretty sensitive man and if he really means this I think that it is a very big thing to say/share this with you.
Thanks !
Matthew... I am a person who has physical barriers and sex is difficult for me. I cannot achieve most positions because of pain and lack of range of motion. I have no choice to communicate with my partner.... and a sense of humour helps tremendously!