The unexpected side effect of being happy alone is losing interest in dating. I always wind up with years-long gaps between relationships because being single ends up being kind of nice, lol.
@@fatcatontario Well, I keep an eye out in case someone comes along. But in the meantime you just live your life in a way that works for you. Satisfaction as a single person won't happen overnight, but reframing my mindset went a long way. And as Susan said, if you find the right partner it'll be an addition to what you already have alone.
You can be living the fullest life you can and STILL have an emptyness, still have a void in your life if you want to be in a relationship and you're not. A full life and inner peace doesn't replace love.
Personally, I've never sought for love; it always found me. Bizet's Habanera aria is so good at describing love's untamed nature: ''The bird you thought you had caught beat its wings and flew away love stays away, you wait and wait; when least expected, there it is!''
Fantastic. You obviously feel a lot of self-confidence and know that that level of confidence will continue to attract love. Now, if you could bottle and sell that...
Susan, this is so wonderful. I am experiencing the true joy of being single, free, and happy. It has made me think about all different kinds and sources of love. My nephew, my siblings, friends, my writing peers, my creative process, my daily routines, my daydreaming, food, flowers, walks, movies! Finding joy and love in everyday is so freeing. A romantic love would be a cherry on top, but only if it's right.
Literally God showed me this video.. to remind me to continue to practice self love and remind myself he is true love and the light that I truly NEED.. Thanks Susan.
Love this video. If you give someone the power to make you happy, you also give them the power to make you sad. No one should have that kind of power over you.
so much to is where you live i am in a college town/family town so hard to meet any decent , single, older men I am attracted to , live in a state that doesnt have a lot of people period!
The societal stigma is real especially as a single mum I have been clearly pressured by others that I should be with someone because If i dont , there must be something wrong with me.I don't date.I got disappointed investing into men who weren't worth it and now my own fullfilment and happiness are my priority and setting up the goals for myself that don't involve dating anymore.If I'm meant to be with someone they will have to find me now
The person I was into for a whole year just told me to stop texting him. I asserted my needs and wanted to discuss them in a kind manner and he couldn't handle it and told me to stop texting him. I have a right to a reciprocated and loving relationship! He couldn't handle the truth, at nearly 50 years old! What an immature and selfish person. I'm going into therapy over this in order to heal myself. Thank you, Susan, for all the help you give us on here.
OH, thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry for your experience. Even more so, I'm sorry that he is so inadequate for you in every way. You can do far better and I'm pretty sure he hit his 'max' with you (then blew it).
@@SusanWinter Thank you so much for replying! I've been watching your videos for years. You are so right. I had basically kept my feelings inside but he was acting up so badly he sure did reach his "max" with me and I was at a breaking point and had to talk about my needs. He couldn't handle my truth and he shut down on me, ignored me for a week, then acted like I was the crazy one and told me to stop texting. He sure was inadequate for me in every way. I'm proud of myself for speaking the truth with him and not being afraid. It's the first time I did that! Thank you so much.
4:10 "You are the originator of the experience. And you are the owner of the experience. People can love you and you can not even feel it if you don't own that yourself."
Susan that's easy for you to say. My aunt and uncle have been married for nearly 60 years. Dating and relationships weren't as complex and complicated as they are now. Everything now is based on expectations and a grocery list of dating/relationship requirements. For example, if a man isn't six feet tall or more (like me for example I'm 5′10), that's a dating/relationship red flag apparently to women.
Darren, I'm sorry that that's the experience you've had. True. It was far less complicated 60 years ago. Rolls were fixed and women had very few choices. If they were lucky like your aunt and uncle, they found true love. But the laundry list you mention isn't a given in- I've worked with thousands of individuals and they do indeed find a healthy, happy match independent of height, age, asserts, looks, and status. Here's hoping you meet better candidates for yourself out there.
Hi dear Susan, "being the source of love" is an inner revolutionary concept. Probably, some spiritual work is required to get there; but I like this perspective very much because the premise is that you are full of Love. 💛 When you’re a giver, you might then experience the deep desire to give, share, impart or foster that love too… Thank you for your luminous insights. 💛
Dating is very challenging, unpleasant at times and tough on your Ego. Not everyone sees dating as an opportunity to overcome their fears, to grow and to get their person (self-image) out of the way to allow presence to shine. Keep dating, select your pound of people you want to connect with and enjoy the journey!
Something thats helped me when family keeps asking why im still single is that if i got through 24 years without human warmth or love, i can do another 24 years
Love your channel and your messages Susan. Such truth🙏It’s exhausting ‘looking for love’.. at least real and genuine healthy love. I finally realize it’s about feeling the love within and not seek it externally… the complete opposite of what we’ve been taught from a young age!
I cannot seem to convert the online conversation to an actual date. Lots of interest and chats but they either say lets meet then ghost when it comes to it or it juts dies out. I am at a loss what to do
We're not born to live alone. When you have noone else but you that's called loneliness. You can love yourself enough but you need to be lucky to find love. That's so sad, Susan.
Hi lovely Susan and Happy 4th to you and Nikka. Finding that someone special should be like looking for a job…..you have to put the work in. Let family members,,friends and neighbors know of your interest in finding a woman and use them to vette these ladies…….this is how I FINALLY found someone (Susan Winter was not available🤪😎😘….ha ha)!
The unexpected side effect of being happy alone is losing interest in dating. I always wind up with years-long gaps between relationships because being single ends up being kind of nice, lol.
Me too!! I love being single and then, if desired, adding in the right type of partner
I agree wholeheartedly with this! I value my alone time ❤
Totally agree @ChrisLT 💯
I really would like to get to this place...It feels like I am constantly searching and really want to be content and not look. 😔
@@fatcatontario Well, I keep an eye out in case someone comes along. But in the meantime you just live your life in a way that works for you. Satisfaction as a single person won't happen overnight, but reframing my mindset went a long way. And as Susan said, if you find the right partner it'll be an addition to what you already have alone.
You can be living the fullest life you can and STILL have an emptyness, still have a void in your life if you want to be in a relationship and you're not. A full life and inner peace doesn't replace love.
You're so right.
Personally, I've never sought for love; it always found me. Bizet's Habanera aria is so good at describing love's untamed nature: ''The bird you thought you had caught
beat its wings and flew away
love stays away, you wait and wait;
when least expected, there it is!''
Fantastic. You obviously feel a lot of self-confidence and know that that level of confidence will continue to attract love. Now, if you could bottle and sell that...
I'm tired. Not looking anymore. He can find me.
They always do once you stop searching
Susan, this is so wonderful. I am experiencing the true joy of being single, free, and happy. It has made me think about all different kinds and sources of love. My nephew, my siblings, friends, my writing peers, my creative process, my daily routines, my daydreaming, food, flowers, walks, movies! Finding joy and love in everyday is so freeing. A romantic love would be a cherry on top, but only if it's right.
That’s wonderful to hear! There’s so much value in being single and being able to really appreciate your non romantic relationships is one of them
Literally God showed me this video.. to remind me to continue to practice self love and remind myself he is true love and the light that I truly NEED..
Thanks Susan.
Love this video. If you give someone the power to make you happy, you also give them the power to make you sad. No one should have that kind of power over you.
so much to is where you live i am in a college town/family town so hard to meet any decent , single, older men I am attracted to , live in a state that doesnt have a lot of people period!
The societal stigma is real especially as a single mum I have been clearly pressured by others that I should be with someone because If i dont , there must be something wrong with me.I don't date.I got disappointed investing into men who weren't worth it and now my own fullfilment and happiness are my priority and setting up the goals for myself that don't involve dating anymore.If I'm meant to be with someone they will have to find me now
I’m so happy to hear that your self love and care are a priority ❤
@@SusanWinter 🙂🙌❤
The person I was into for a whole year just told me to stop texting him. I asserted my needs and wanted to discuss them in a kind manner and he couldn't handle it and told me to stop texting him. I have a right to a reciprocated and loving relationship! He couldn't handle the truth, at nearly 50 years old! What an immature and selfish person. I'm going into therapy over this in order to heal myself. Thank you, Susan, for all the help you give us on here.
OH, thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry for your experience. Even more so, I'm sorry that he is so inadequate for you in every way. You can do far better and I'm pretty sure he hit his 'max' with you (then blew it).
@@SusanWinter Thank you so much for replying! I've been watching your videos for years. You are so right. I had basically kept my feelings inside but he was acting up so badly he sure did reach his "max" with me and I was at a breaking point and had to talk about my needs. He couldn't handle my truth and he shut down on me, ignored me for a week, then acted like I was the crazy one and told me to stop texting. He sure was inadequate for me in every way. I'm proud of myself for speaking the truth with him and not being afraid. It's the first time I did that! Thank you so much.
He didn't love you back, i'm sorry. You cannot beg someone to love you. It really hurts.
4:10 "You are the originator of the experience. And you are the owner of the experience. People can love you and you can not even feel it if you don't own that yourself."
Susan that's easy for you to say. My aunt and uncle have been married for nearly 60 years. Dating and relationships weren't as complex and complicated as they are now. Everything now is based on expectations and a grocery list of dating/relationship requirements. For example, if a man isn't six feet tall or more (like me for example I'm 5′10), that's a dating/relationship red flag apparently to women.
Darren, I'm sorry that that's the experience you've had. True. It was far less complicated 60 years ago. Rolls were fixed and women had very few choices. If they were lucky like your aunt and uncle, they found true love. But the laundry list you mention isn't a given in- I've worked with thousands of individuals and they do indeed find a healthy, happy match independent of height, age, asserts, looks, and status. Here's hoping you meet better candidates for yourself out there.
Plus I date shorter men and I’m a 5’8 gal. We are out there! Don’t let the superficial beauty standards get in your head.
Hi dear Susan, "being the source of love" is an inner revolutionary concept. Probably, some spiritual work is required to get there; but I like this perspective very much because the premise is that you are full of Love. 💛 When you’re a giver, you might then experience the deep desire to give, share, impart or foster that love too… Thank you for your luminous insights. 💛
Thank you!
Dating is very challenging, unpleasant at times and tough on your Ego. Not everyone sees dating as an opportunity to overcome their fears, to grow and to get their person (self-image) out of the way to allow presence to shine. Keep dating, select your pound of people you want to connect with and enjoy the journey!
Good advice. Thanks for sharing
Something thats helped me when family keeps asking why im still single is that if i got through 24 years without human warmth or love, i can do another 24 years
Needed that reminder. Thank you always❤️
You are welcome, always!
Love your channel and your messages Susan. Such truth🙏It’s exhausting ‘looking for love’.. at least real and genuine healthy love. I finally realize it’s about feeling the love within and not seek it externally… the complete opposite of what we’ve been taught from a young age!
Thank you for watching! ❤
Love your content! 😀 Keeps me sane. Love your hair too by the way..😉
Yay! Thank you!
You are such a light Susan. Thank you for all that you share with us, it's life-changing 🙏🏻
You’re so sweet! Thanks for watching!
@susan winter heard today… like attracts like and you meet people where you are 🙌🏻
Light and love 💕 from Hawaii 🌺
❤❤❤❤❤ I truly believe that!
This is VERY VERY good Susan. Loves comes from you.
Thank you!! 🤗
I cannot seem to convert the online conversation to an actual date. Lots of interest and chats but they either say lets meet then ghost when it comes to it or it juts dies out. I am at a loss what to do
Oh Susan, thank you for these videos. You really help me shift my perspective
Great video ❤
I like the time on this segment. I take information in and process and take notes. Thank you for sharing your expertise.
Glad it was helpful! ❤
❤❤❤❤ you are so amazing 😍🤩😍 Susan
Great video ❤
Thanks for the visit
We're not born to live alone.
When you have noone else but you that's called loneliness.
You can love yourself enough but you need to be lucky to find love. That's so sad, Susan.
Hi lovely Susan and Happy 4th to you and Nikka. Finding that someone special should be like looking for a job…..you have to put the work in. Let family members,,friends and neighbors know of your interest in finding a woman and use them to vette these ladies…….this is how I FINALLY found someone (Susan Winter was not available🤪😎😘….ha ha)!
I do agree! You do have to make some effort and use your connections
GNARLYCAT!!