I very much appreciate your videos and your information. You are helping me to see my husbands side a little. I feel so much more validated since watching your videos and that alone has calmed me, you showed me that some of the feelings I was having are normal and that betrayal is betrayal and its valid to feel less secure and experience some anxiety. I was feeling like I wasn't getting over our problem quickly enough, that I was being over angry and yet I felt like I had a right to be at the same time. Thank you for explaining the healing process and for helping me to heal myself. Thank you.
Wherever you want to call it, It’s Cheating.. Zero respect for the other person.. Making a deal with cheater is making a deal with the devil.. or worse: is like making a deal with terrorist it will fail over an over again they will always have an excuse, you just don’t make any deal at all.. move on...
With porn the emotional attachment is obviously not for the “partner” (really endless objects)but the connection is with the emotional/brain/drug experience that gives the user temporary satisfaction. The emotions they feel become the thing they crave anticipate and long for. They get all the same things that a person to person affair brings. Easy to rationalize because they are free from any conscious responsibility to the person bringing them the 3 components.
It had all 3 and because it was long distance he did so much behind my back ! Just confessed after 3 years and its it's its so painful still to even deal with
What do you call a man that does NOT stop cheating and is always running back to me begging crying he’s sorry and gonna stop. But after a peaceful happy time together he will start right up again sneaking around and I always catch him in lies. Is he addicted to the feeling of getting away with cheating? Is he a sex addict? Is it his ego? I don’t understand it. It’s sick and I’m drained. and I’m really done this time around and putting up boundaries. It’s time to move on with my life.
What if there is no sexual energy? My husband had a secret, emotional connection with a coworker but maintains he did nothing wrong because he had no sexual desire and was not trying to pursue a sexual relationship. He did admit he had an emotional connection to her but that he was just trying to be a good friend and good person by helping out someone. For what it’s worth I don’t believe him when he says that there was NO sexual attraction. I found out after he volunteered to run some errands only to see his location somewhere unknown when I checked after he took a bit too long. He admitted he bought her food and took it to her after I pressed him multiple times about where all he went and he knew I saw his location he finally admitted it.
a partner addicted to hookers it didn't hurt too much but the lieing hurt and killed the relationship. A new partner had an emotional affair hurt wayyy worse - still getting over it.
This book told me a woman should be blind and a man should be deaf ....whoever effing cheating cheated on their self........yeah betrayal is ignorant but guard your heart ....im an open book...i chose to keep one thing sacred and it was marriage...i talk alot and I have whispering man here ...but I show him everything...but I have trust issues
I have recently discovered that my wife has been in an affair for two plus years. I have a therapist to help me through this process but he does not have the experience to help me in this process. I have watched 5 of your videos and it has helped me in so many ways. TBH, I am hurting. I love my wife but I don't trust her at this point. She told me, the first time we tried to rekindle, then I find out she never severed the relationship. How do I recovery if she is not truly honest?
My husband had a 2 year affair says he wasn’t attracted to her says they never had sex but the messages say they did. He called her babe. Etc. apparently she made him feel good about himself she sent him nudes etc I am assuming he is lying he had an emotional affair that turned physical affair. Makes me sick
Do you guys offer skype or online counselling? Am based in South Africa and found your video quite insightfull and I think both my wife and I could benefit substantially from engaging with you..
My husband has all these things with a lot of women. He just as his 4th affair and is back home. I have no idea what to do with him now. I have lost interest.
If he won't change his behaviour, it's time to exit the relationship. There is a thing called Lying Low in between affairs. They'll be more attentive to your relationship for a while. But will most certainly continue to cheat.
You are extremely articulate and I compliment your gift from your higher power....you have shining lights in your eyes tyvm kiss yourself you're so awesome....i don't know all the sex and now the book said skene gland I got scared so how or what can I learn ...do u know skene
I very much appreciate your videos and your information. You are helping me to see my husbands side a little. I feel so much more validated since watching your videos and that alone has calmed me, you showed me that some of the feelings I was having are normal and that betrayal is betrayal and its valid to feel less secure and experience some anxiety. I was feeling like I wasn't getting over our problem quickly enough, that I was being over angry and yet I felt like I had a right to be at the same time. Thank you for explaining the healing process and for helping me to heal myself. Thank you.
sus_e glad I could help. Definitely consider counseling as well
@@hasanipettiford thank you, I will.
The key to successful relationship is sacrificing and trust when that goes ya got nothing leave 👍👍
Best analysis I've heard...
Wherever you want to call it,
It’s Cheating.. Zero respect for the other person..
Making a deal with cheater is making a deal with the devil.. or worse: is like making a deal with terrorist it will fail over an over again they will always have an excuse, you just don’t make any deal at all.. move on...
This was a VERY good video! The contact and explanation was awesome.
Thank you
With porn the emotional attachment is obviously not for the “partner” (really endless objects)but the connection is with the emotional/brain/drug experience that gives the user temporary satisfaction. The emotions they feel become the thing they crave anticipate and long for. They get all the same things that a person to person affair brings. Easy to rationalize because they are free from any conscious responsibility to the person bringing them the 3 components.
Another great video, thank you for explaining these different terms .
It had all 3 and because it was long distance he did so much behind my back ! Just confessed after 3 years and its it's its so painful still to even deal with
It is just the high they feel. Infatuation and endorphins that will all fade in time. It is not love.
I feel better today as I am going through this right now with my soon to be ex helps me understand her distancing from our home
What do you call a man that does NOT stop cheating and is always running back to me begging crying he’s sorry and gonna stop. But after a peaceful happy time together he will start right up again sneaking around and I always catch him in lies. Is he addicted to the feeling of getting away with cheating? Is he a sex addict? Is it his ego? I don’t understand it. It’s sick and I’m drained. and I’m really done this time around and putting up boundaries. It’s time to move on with my life.
What you say is partly correct however I’ve learned that some women have affairs and or cheating is away of getting out of a unhappy relationship!
Exactly true.. Sadly I know
What if there is no sexual energy? My husband had a secret, emotional connection with a coworker but maintains he did nothing wrong because he had no sexual desire and was not trying to pursue a sexual relationship. He did admit he had an emotional connection to her but that he was just trying to be a good friend and good person by helping out someone.
For what it’s worth I don’t believe him when he says that there was NO sexual attraction.
I found out after he volunteered to run some errands only to see his location somewhere unknown when I checked after he took a bit too long. He admitted he bought her food and took it to her after I pressed him multiple times about where all he went and he knew I saw his location he finally admitted it.
a partner addicted to hookers it didn't hurt too much but the lieing hurt and killed the relationship. A new partner had an emotional affair hurt wayyy worse - still getting over it.
This book told me a woman should be blind and a man should be deaf ....whoever effing cheating cheated on their self........yeah betrayal is ignorant but guard your heart ....im an open book...i chose to keep one thing sacred and it was marriage...i talk alot and I have whispering man here ...but I show him everything...but I have trust issues
I have recently discovered that my wife has been in an affair for two plus years. I have a therapist to help me through this process but he does not have the experience to help me in this process. I have watched 5 of your videos and it has helped me in so many ways. TBH, I am hurting. I love my wife but I don't trust her at this point. She told me, the first time we tried to rekindle, then I find out she never severed the relationship. How do I recovery if she is not truly honest?
You need to work with someone who can help you. Consider counseling with us
Agreeing with Hasani. This is a big thing that requires expert help
He blocked me and moved in with Java the hut. Now he's back
Thank you
What if it’s the first two for sure and possibly the third but only from one side?
My husband had a 2 year affair says he wasn’t attracted to her says they never had sex but the messages say they did. He called her babe. Etc. apparently she made him feel good about himself she sent him nudes etc I am assuming he is lying he had an emotional affair that turned physical affair. Makes me sick
Did you manage to forgive?
Throw the whole man away
@@kenmoek4025Forgive what? Why should she?
Sounds like if your spouse had an affair then leave because there missing something
Do you guys offer skype or online counselling? Am based in South Africa and found your video quite insightfull and I think both my wife and I could benefit substantially from engaging with you..
I think a quick hook up or a one night stand
Could be forgiving
But I fidelity long term
I think is a pattern and wont be changed
Great video!
My hopefully ex wife, is 44 her affair partner is 20yrs old, with a girlfriend and lives with girlfriend & her mother
My husband has all these things with a lot of women. He just as his 4th affair and is back home. I have no idea what to do with him now.
I have lost interest.
You are to special for this my love
If he won't change his behaviour, it's time to exit the relationship. There is a thing called Lying Low in between affairs. They'll be more attentive to your relationship for a while. But will most certainly continue to cheat.
You are extremely articulate and I compliment your gift from your higher power....you have shining lights in your eyes tyvm kiss yourself you're so awesome....i don't know all the sex and now the book said skene gland I got scared so how or what can I learn ...do u know skene
NOPE I won’t allow that either you are commited to the marriage or not!🥶