I literally just learned how to care about myself and set boundaries without feeling guilty!! So wild. My life has completely shifted because of this. Thanks for the reminders ✨
Literally? Like so just now as you were typing this comment you learned? 🤣 I think it’s hysterical when people use the word literally in a figurative way 🤣
So accurate! While doing an EFT session a month or so ago I realized my 15+ years of chronic pain & headaches has been my way of asserting boundaries for opting out of things I didn’t want to do but didn’t feel I could overtly state. I always needed a lot of personal space as a kid but never got it. My boundaries were always violated & I was always being told what to do EXCEPT when I was sick. Then I was given space, which is what I really wanted.
It would be great to be sure we are not bringing bad things on ourselves for secondary gains and good to realize what we want and need and to be able to do of
OMG, now I understand the amount of pressure put by family upon me. I also understand why I got tuberculosis while being pressure-cooked to be an engineer. I am something else and we completely denied and disowned that as a family.
What if you could Engineer the Mythical.? What would that look like? Also, have you engineered your birthchart? Even just your birthday contains Epic Directives that will show this conflict quite clearly! Even your parents pressure cooking.. Even bacterial infections. That is Structure of The Etheral, non-material Reality and Still Engineering.
Man, this was a good one. That first example really hit home. My single mother was adamant that I be independent and belittled femininity, but I have always wanted to be a homemaker. I took got myself into a leadership position but feel very insincere about it even when I do an ostensibly good job because I'd rather not be expected to make money on top of caregiving and housework. I have let my body atrophy in order to get my husband to take on more gendered responsibilities because I felt like I would have to do everything if I didn't have some weakness preventing it. I'm overt about my desire now but still have to go through the motions until we can afford for me to be a full time domestic. I wonder how many modern identities are covert bids for relief from expectations. If you have a label, you don't have to directly assert them.
Ahhhh Faith- with a name like Faith, how can you NOT be an amazing home maker…. or an amazing anything/one else for that matter. I too wonder how many of us have drank the koolade and not been true to ourselves. IOW who would Faith or Andrew be if money didn’t matter, we knew we wouldn’t fail, and we were truly capable of deciding AND executing independently of the good or bad opinions of others AND without the need/desire for external approval, validation or affirmation. Now that question is worth asking.. and answering… and doing for that matter. Regardless, thank you, Faith, for your candor, your vulnerability, and your honesty. There are a lot of us out there, and I am one of them.
”If something doesn’t change, or you can’t make something happen no matter how hard you try, it means you are up against resistance. And that resistance is there for a very important reason. In fact, you’re up against two layers of resistance. 1. Your resistance to making the change/doing a certain thing or being a certain way because it opposes your personal truth (boundaries). 2. Your resistance to seeing the truth about yourself/ being honest with yourself and others about that truth you don’t want to see. Because this is the case, you must deal with this resistance and work to resolve it”. Teal. Thank you Teal 🌎
I found Teal in 2012 and her teachings about boundaries were a humungous part of how I healed from abuse, addiction, depression, and anxiety. My family saw my healing and it has been a huge part of their own inspiration to heal and we have become so much stronger together and continue to take important steps toward healing. I'm thankful for Teal every single day. With her teachings, I was able to discover an actual personality of my own and become an honorable person with real integrity.
There are some questions that you would benefit by asking yourself: What does my behavior (intentional or not) force other people to do or to not do? And what does that mean about what I truly want? Have I been trying to hide something from myself? Is there something I feel ashamed to admit to? If I could do or be anything at all right now with the snap of my fingers and people would not only be happy about it, but also consider me good for it, what would it be? If I could trade places with anyone else’s life with the snap of my fingers and people would not only be happy about it, but also consider me good for it, whose life would I want? What might be so bad about seeing what I don’t want to see about myself? What do people who have been experiencing my behavior keep reflecting to me regarding what it seems to them like I want? If I didn’t want to see something about myself and about why I am doing what I am doing, what would it be? ❤🙏🏻
Hi Teal! Usually I never write comments but I wanted to say this for such a long time: Thank you so so much for every single video you've ever done!!! Words can't describe how much you have helped me (and therefore indirectly the people in my life) over the years! I don't know where I would be without you... I agree with you on everything I have heard you say so far and that is EXTREMELY rare for me. I never just believe anything but always check everything in my heart. When it comes to covert boundaries I think my skinpicking is the hardest thing for me to replace with real overt boundaries. But I am working on the pile of shame regarding my existence that is at the root of not being able to overtly live by what I want and don't want - and even hiding it from myself because it hurts too much to know what you want when you think you can never have it anyway, so what's the point... Anyway... Maybe you could do a video about skinpicking or BFRBs (body focused repetitive behaviors) in general?? I feel like they are on the rise and I know I am not the only one who would very much appreciate a video on this topic. Lots of love, Charly
I don't really want a career and I only work as many hours as absolutely required for my own survival. I find ways to avoid taking on too many jobs and responsibilities because what I really want is to live a part of my childhood stage where I felt like I'd missed out on the opportunity to be myself, with no expectations and be taken care of simply for existing. It is quite scary to know this about myself because it causes me to worry about how to support myself. I really just want to spend my life in play, so that I can bring wholeness and healing to the inner child aspect. Lately I have been focusing MAINLY on play and less on "work" and I feel like my inner guidance is actually informing me that I will actually make more money once I really embrace my need to play and fill my days with fun.
Thank you, I resonate very closely to your conclusions, not completely but very close to it. But I couldn't put it in words like yourself, so thank you for your comment its inspiring to know I am not alone in thinking and acting like this.
This is exactly what I am going through right now, I just want time to rest and lay back, I don't want to have no talent and no job and no responsibility, I miss the time where time was meaningless, now everything in clocked, and I am constantly thinking about the next thing I gotta do, never a full rest day.
My boundary says "do not lie to me." My sense of self is rooted in the knowing that I can be trusted with the truth. When I am treated like I am not allowed to know the truth, I feel hatred and resentment.
I also have a tendency to overreact to people's lies and untruths! I just feel so disgusted with them🤥🤣 I feel that being honest in one's beliefs is hard enough without all the misleading dishonesty added in. Now being more chilled and relaxed, practicing not overreacting😄
I love you, Teal. You’ve changed my life entirely for the better, although it is I who stepped into awareness, I couldn’t have done it without these videos ❤ changing the world one video at a time 🙏☺️
I feel like I’ve been mentally tormented around this very issue for weeks and have put so much contemplation to it. I feel like this is the review lesson for myself like the universe asking me “what did you learn this last cycle?” Thank you so much for this video
Not even the whole hour ago I was thinking right about that issue you mentioned at very begining, issue, which on my opinion is the basis of all the illnesses, especially menthal, in our lifes, and it's the fact, we are taught, since the day we are born, to NOT be ourselves. From various reasons, like our parents fears, we won't be accepted, we will be rejected, bullied, not loved for who we are. "To fit into" society. So we learn to suppress, oppress and reppress parts of us we are told are not ok, or what we see is not likeable from reactions around us. And until we reach puberty, we loose ourselfs completely.
Thank you for the video and its great examples. It resonates. I heard from Marshall Vian Summers - that you confirmed as well - that you should teach children to value their experience - but how many do that? He says that to teach your child to value their experience you should ask these questions from your children: What did you feel today in seeing this thing? How did you feel about being around these people? What are you feeling at this moment? I really resonate!
There's no such thing as A.D.D. The problem is D.A.D.D......... Dad Attention Deficit Disorder. This talking with your children looks like a great start!
This video really lends some new insights into the shadow self. I can see how a fractured consciousness creates a covert boundary that goes against what we know or want. To be more specific: Someone who's been traumatized can feel like they have NO BOUNDARIES at all, and therefore create a fractured protector persona that creates a boundary like a brick wall around them. This brick wall can come in many different forms. It could be from self-sabotage (this way no one or no thing gets near), it could be icy cold and emotionally vapid (again, it keeps everyone away), or it could be just the opposite and be a master manipulator so that it overly controls everyone and everything in its environment.
Teal, you have simply explained a concept many people including myself have been blind to and in effect suffering from. This gives me hope. Thank you awesome Teal. ❤️
This information is so valuable...it actually is an eye opener for me....I do have a certain resistance..and nothing changes. Thank you so much for this! I will have to reflect on some things. Wow
Sincerely thank full for your deep insight into understanding and dissecting the human condition on the highest levels, your videos are my daily motivation into my own awareness in relation to my surrounding. I WISH THE BEST OF BEST, YOU ARE A GIFT TO HUMANITY ❤
I was expecting Matthew to have become a criminal due to the taboo nature of ambition and self interest instilled by his family. And had they not put ambition and self interest in such a bad light, he may have had a healthier relationship with "success". But due to the manipulatory nature of their parents they ended up raising a confused criminal.
Wow - this makes so much sense and fills in so many blanks, it’s uncanny. Thank you, Teal! BTW - Learning or being taught this sort of subject matter in school vs. oh, say subjects like Latin or Algebra would have been profoundly useful. I can’t remember the last time I spoke Latin or solved a quadratic equation, meanwhile I have subconsciously, unknowingly resisted the/my ‘truth’, and in turn, created a lot of undue, unnecessary discomfort, pain and harm to myself and those around me. Ugh!Thank you Teal.
Teal, at age 57 I recently decided I'm just defective in these areas and I have failed over and over to change that and so I should just give up trying. I have been feeling so defeated and sad about that. I tried to explain it to my partner and myself but could not articulate exactiy, other than to say "I am failing at life and there is no solution to change it." THANK YOU so much for this video! It's life-changing and I'm so very grateful to you.
Another integration done in my psyche thanks to you Teal. Thank you thank you thank you 💗 I have no idea where I would be in life without your advices Wish you the best !
I'm just here to tell you, that you are amazing, extremely powerful and that you can manifest anything. 😊 If you truly trust in it, your "biggest" manifestations are inevitable! 💖✨ And yes boundaries are important. Follow your inspiration, don't let naysayers discourage you! We were programmed to all be the same and to become powerless working bees. But the truth is, we can be way more than that. There are more than enough examples out there, of what you can achieve when you follow your path and don't let anything or anyone distract or discourage you. 😊🗝️
Wow! This was powerful. I recognie the overly control;ing parents who misguided me into being something I never wanted to be. I also recognie how I tried to do the same with my son - best intentions in mind. Weak boundaries have always been an issue for me. I have some work ahead of me to do - thank you so much for the enlightenment .
Another piece of the puzzle, thank you so much Teal. Your crystal clear information lights up my path. Deeply grateful. Take care and lots of love XX ❤
Amazing. The positions I'm putting myself subconsciously I've felt like are needed but hard to explain to my parents why. And this is such a great example putting it in words! A covert way to express the true self! Glad I found your videos Teal!
Your stories about different characters were so helpful to getting me to relate this concept to my own life and start to recognise similar patterns. There are some important decisions I've been struggling with and this helps provide clarity.
Wow Teal, your incredible wisdom on human behavior and the subconscious is out of this world! I love how you explain everything and the examples you give really hit it home. I thank you so much with all of my being! All my love, and wishing you the happiest of holidays! 🙏💖🤗
I'm so ready for your 2023 Predictions video. I'm guessing this next year's going to be a Wild ride. Your insights are always so helpful and great reminders to look within for the world/experience you're desiring.❤️🙏✨
I truly want to not be alone. I want to be popular and needed and wanted and admired. And I have gone my whole life using my creative output as a means to make myself feel important and garner attention, and when that hasn't worked, because so much of my personality was intertwined in that... I have been using those creative outlets to TRY to fill the part of me that just wants people to like and love and care about me WITHOUT having to give myself a "big special thing" I do. Because I really don't know who I am anymore, as an adult, beyond doing those things. And I've struggled to meet that need for connection, often feeling like my value to others, however small, is always relative to what I can DO for them, or do to impress them. An thus I'm unhappy alone, I lost my creative passion, I always feel like I want more out of life, I feel utterly powerless to meet my OWN needs because beyond the need for connection, I'm not even certain what else I actually want or enjoy. So outside of time spent with others feeling connected, a lot of the time lately I've felt like I'm just doing whatever I can to "get by" when I'm alone... watching TH-cam videos, listening to music, just trying to entertain myself. And often I've felt directionless. Often I either just want to die, or to run away and start fresh somewhere, try to be a new person entirely, just keep trying until I find a new way of life that feels more aligned. I just try to follow whatever impulse feels a little bit better. I may not have even discovered the depths of myself completely, but I do feel this great depth and capacity for greatness beyond just "what I've done" - like there are so many other potential paths or passions or people out there who may share the same values and appreciate me without me even needing to disclose that I make films or art or whatever. I'd love to re-socialize myself without that prior concept of who I've been or who I've been TOLD I am. And that's going to mean I need to try new things, meet new people and continue to challenge my conception of WHO I AM to begin with.
You rock Teal and you are the best ❤️❤️❤️ I know you had your challenges and there are many forces in this world that probably would like you to fail but you are never going to do that simply because you are so very genuine ❤️❤️❤️ we are many more who love you than those who don’t ❤️❤️❤️
Seeing what I don't want to see about myself would make me feel miserable because I was often feeling miserable and abused and left behind in my family. I felt the weakest and nobody was willing to protect me and understand my point of view. I don't want to be weak but I often feel it and that's why I push people away.
Teal, I’m experiencing extreme shakiness and doubt in my spiritual beliefs in these times. Can you please do a video on that topic? Have you ever gone through something like this?
Wow, this is life-changing. 🙂 I deeply resonate with nr 1 and see now that my family background and maybe also the general performance society has pushed me into nr 2, maybe even the woman empowerment movement. Seeing this video I feel so much stress is going from me. I feel deeply relieved and at ease. 🙏.I really want to be in my own frame as well... wondering how it all goes together but I am sure step by step...feeling deeply grateful for this perspective... thank you thank you thank you :)
Mathew is the exact replica of me... even down to the wardolf education, being the forced servant of others, I've given till I have nothing left to give!
I do a lot of self work but I’m not naive enough to assume there are things I haven’t worked out yet . How do I work out if I have a covert boundary ? Have I got a covert boundary simply by deliberately following my own path and being clear with my boundaries and goals with others ?
I appreciate you somewhat calling out Waldorf education. They definitely tell boys in particular that they have to be feminine and selfless. Been there.
Hi Teal merry Christmas. And merry Xmas to your team.💜. I listened to this video tonight . I listened to last 10 minutes and questions at least 25 to 30 times. It takes better shape for me this way. I also watched the other 3 and I was becoming and accepting the resistant part before you mentioned channeling. The love was real it really hit me.. ty for videos. Happy new year to all of you.
The last story is me except I was molested or anything and I'm underweight instead of overweight. I already knew why I was dressing grubby. Thanks for the questions, I will think about this.
My behavior forces people to feel bad about themselves because I always try to be the smartest. I believe that by being the smartest I get and deserve the most attention. I actually want people to see and hear my emotions, not my smart thoughts, but my feelings were rejected so many times that I am used to hiding them. I just want the truth to be heard.
Please create videos with Spanish subtitles. I am an American Living in Ensenada Baja California Mexico and have a lot of Spanish speaking followers! Thank you!
“Thea” got thrust into homelessness and was being haunted possessed and in and out of psychosis which is why she didn’t step up it’s not just pressure. She wanted to be a magician. Matthew is spot on except the greed thing. I wasn’t always so money focused but homelessness and the spiral that came with it made me solely focused on that bc I was terrified to be homeless. Sorry teal but these are me.
Yes, I need a counselor I don’t even know where to start. If anyone has any suggestions, I would be so much very very grateful. At least I have a place to live a mobile home that I own. Thank goodness I’m grateful for that but I am on disability for severe fibromyalgia, etc. And can barely make ends meet I have $.27 to my name right now but deep inside I’ve always known I’m a warrior and I never give up will but I am also all alone. My mother passed away in 2018. she was my best friend and now I have no one sound so pathetic anyway… I’m grateful that I can just voice my feelings at this moment. Thank you.
Wow! Just wow. Are you really taking me back years! Remembering how my mother seem to love my sister , who was 4 1/2 years older than me, and began taking drugs at a very young age, and stole from me, and from other people and manipulated her boyfriend to get what she wanted And was just all-around mean. I loved her anyway, and I always saw her pain… Her dad was in the Air Force. He was in a high-ranking position, but became a horrible alcoholic, and my mother suffered greatly before leaving him and I was even born. She finally left him after 20 yrs of marriage when my sister was just two years old and then never mentioned him to my sister although she would on occasion confide to me about him. I was born as a result of my mother sleeping with my father after her military first husband. He was madly in love w/ her and She married him because that was the thing to do in 1967 when you got pregnant. When I was four or five she met a man that she loved very dearly very dearly, but he died after 4 1/2 years of marriage. my dad loved me. I was his only child he loved me dearly and I loved him. The problem is my sister had no dad and I did. (Long, complicated story)So she hated me for that my whole life and last out of me in horrible ways really. She was blonde hair blue I eyes and beautiful. I had brown hair green eyes and was striking, as my family would say. I knew my sister was beautiful, but I was always content and happy with myself, because I felt like I was honest and pure in my heart. I didn’t steal, and I tried not to hurt people. The problem was, I always felt my mom loved her more. So I began to do drugs and even told my mom that I was to prove something to myself and ?? I really didn’t want to, but I did anyway and then became hooked. All to find out if being “bad” would ??? Anyway, now I’m just venting and speaking out loud I truth that I need to delve into before I can heal, Thank you though SO VERY MUCH for allowing me to remember where to possibly start healing!!! This is the first time I’ve found you here on TH-cam. I have been listening to a lot of stuff about the aliens being out there in our atmosphere and a lot of people commenting on how they want to ascendant thank you thank you and all this, and I always tried to take a positive message from what I would hear, but yet was very cautious And then feel bad because I’m not a believer just so much confusion I felt like I was losing my mind I guess I should stay… I feel like I’m losing my mind this morning, and yesterday I acted in despair and told my youngest boy, whom I love more than life itself, that I had finally quit using And it had been two months and I was so proud of myself and I just had to tell him the truth because I feel like I just can’t hold it in any longer. I don’t think he knew that I was on drugs, and I told him this after drinking hundred proof vodka And was very drunk. Now I haven’t heard from him in over two weeks and I can’t hardly take it a I’ve been contacting him out of despair and so when I saw your video about despair, it hit me like a ton of bricks. So I am not going to reach out to him until I am out of the state of despair and now I’m crying but I’m grateful I will continue to listen to your videos. I just wanted to say thank you and I said way too much I know, but I really do think you do!
I realized I had resistance because it turns out I had autism my whole life and was finally diagnosed this year decades too late and have been traumatized over and over again due to hypersensitivities and people taking advantage of me...
I have carried so much hatred for inauthentic sociopathic people like this especially being on the absolute receiving end. So for teal to say it's not an evil thing is like challenging my own resistance. Because how can people not know what they actually want? It's gaslighting to hear something like that. Especially in the workplace, see people who don't value their position all the time yet somehow are still choosing to be there and the people who truly would want the position don't get chosen for it.
I literally just learned how to care about myself and set boundaries without feeling guilty!! So wild. My life has completely shifted because of this. Thanks for the reminders ✨
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Ahh I need help with this … I feel so out of touch with myself I don’t even know what my truth is anymore…
Literally? Like so just now as you were typing this comment you learned? 🤣 I think it’s hysterical when people use the word literally in a figurative way 🤣
@@baddidea4820 it (literally) comes from a place of excitement to feel a sense of freedom..but I see what's you're saying
For those who still feel guilty, i think it’s better to live with that than to keep betraying ourselves.
So accurate! While doing an EFT session a month or so ago I realized my 15+ years of chronic pain & headaches has been my way of asserting boundaries for opting out of things I didn’t want to do but didn’t feel I could overtly state. I always needed a lot of personal space as a kid but never got it. My boundaries were always violated & I was always being told what to do EXCEPT when I was sick. Then I was given space, which is what I really wanted.
It would be great to be sure we are not bringing bad things on ourselves for secondary gains and good to realize what we want and need and to be able to do of
Your ability to use words to describe covert patterns and shine light on them by exposing them from the dark is a true gift.
OMG, now I understand the amount of pressure put by family upon me. I also understand why I got tuberculosis while being pressure-cooked to be an engineer. I am something else and we completely denied and disowned that as a family.
What if you could Engineer the Mythical.? What would that look like? Also, have you engineered your birthchart? Even just your birthday contains Epic Directives that will show this conflict quite clearly! Even your parents pressure cooking.. Even bacterial infections. That is Structure of The Etheral, non-material Reality and Still Engineering.
Man, this was a good one. That first example really hit home. My single mother was adamant that I be independent and belittled femininity, but I have always wanted to be a homemaker. I took got myself into a leadership position but feel very insincere about it even when I do an ostensibly good job because I'd rather not be expected to make money on top of caregiving and housework. I have let my body atrophy in order to get my husband to take on more gendered responsibilities because I felt like I would have to do everything if I didn't have some weakness preventing it. I'm overt about my desire now but still have to go through the motions until we can afford for me to be a full time domestic.
I wonder how many modern identities are covert bids for relief from expectations. If you have a label, you don't have to directly assert them.
Thank you for sharing ❤
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Ahhhh Faith- with a name like Faith, how can you NOT be an amazing home maker…. or an amazing anything/one else for that matter. I too wonder how many of us have drank the koolade and not been true to ourselves. IOW who would Faith or Andrew be if money didn’t matter, we knew we wouldn’t fail, and we were truly capable of deciding AND executing independently of the good or bad opinions of others AND without the need/desire for external approval, validation or affirmation. Now that question is worth asking.. and answering… and doing for that matter. Regardless, thank you, Faith, for your candor, your vulnerability, and your honesty. There are a lot of us out there, and I am one of them.
I hope you get to be a homemaker soon, and it's everything you dreamed it would be :)
”If something doesn’t change, or you can’t make something happen no matter how hard you try, it means you are up against resistance. And that resistance is there for a very important reason. In fact, you’re up against two layers of resistance. 1. Your resistance to making the change/doing a certain thing or being a certain way because it opposes your personal truth (boundaries). 2. Your resistance to seeing the truth about yourself/ being honest with yourself and others about that truth you don’t want to see. Because this is the case, you must deal with this resistance and work to resolve it”. Teal. Thank you Teal 🌎
What you Resist, Persists.
I found Teal in 2012 and her teachings about boundaries were a humungous part of how I healed from abuse, addiction, depression, and anxiety. My family saw my healing and it has been a huge part of their own inspiration to heal and we have become so much stronger together and continue to take important steps toward healing. I'm thankful for Teal every single day. With her teachings, I was able to discover an actual personality of my own and become an honorable person with real integrity.
There are some questions that you would benefit by asking yourself:
What does my behavior (intentional or not) force other people to do or to not do?
And what does that mean about what I truly want?
Have I been trying to hide something from myself?
Is there something I feel ashamed to admit to?
If I could do or be anything at all right now with the snap of my fingers and people would not only be happy about it, but also consider me good for it, what would it be?
If I could trade places with anyone else’s life with the snap of my fingers and people would not only be happy about it, but also consider me good for it, whose life would I want?
What might be so bad about seeing what I don’t want to see about myself?
What do people who have been experiencing my behavior keep reflecting to me regarding what it seems to them like I want?
If I didn’t want to see something about myself and about why I am doing what I am doing, what would it be? ❤🙏🏻
🙏Wow, dank je wel, you are like a 2nd Teal🦢! Much appreciated, since I couldn't answer as rapidly as she was firing those questions.
Thank you!
I just replayed the video like 6 times to get these, lol! Wish I'd scrolled through comments first! So kind of you to do this.
Lies... Sniff them out. That's all your questions help find. Free will is there behind all the shame. It's going to be OK🙏
Thank you! I was looking for a list like this
Hi Teal!
Usually I never write comments but I wanted to say this for such a long time:
Thank you so so much for every single video you've ever done!!! Words can't describe how much you have helped me (and therefore indirectly the people in my life) over the years! I don't know where I would be without you... I agree with you on everything I have heard you say so far and that is EXTREMELY rare for me. I never just believe anything but always check everything in my heart.
When it comes to covert boundaries I think my skinpicking is the hardest thing for me to replace with real overt boundaries. But I am working on the pile of shame regarding my existence that is at the root of not being able to overtly live by what I want and don't want - and even hiding it from myself because it hurts too much to know what you want when you think you can never have it anyway, so what's the point...
Anyway... Maybe you could do a video about skinpicking or BFRBs (body focused repetitive behaviors) in general?? I feel like they are on the rise and I know I am not the only one who would very much appreciate a video on this topic.
Lots of love,
Charly
Crazy . I’m picking my head/scalp to BITSas I read this.
Yoga helps. Seriously try it. Better than hypnosis or regression therapy. Just breathe. No one can teach you to be in your body but you. You got this!
I sooo agree and can relate to the skin picking!! Please Teal if you'd be able to do a video on that would be so helpful
I don't really want a career and I only work as many hours as absolutely required for my own survival. I find ways to avoid taking on too many jobs and responsibilities because what I really want is to live a part of my childhood stage where I felt like I'd missed out on the opportunity to be myself, with no expectations and be taken care of simply for existing.
It is quite scary to know this about myself because it causes me to worry about how to support myself.
I really just want to spend my life in play, so that I can bring wholeness and healing to the inner child aspect.
Lately I have been focusing MAINLY on play and less on "work" and I feel like my inner guidance is actually informing me that I will actually make more money once I really embrace my need to play and fill my days with fun.
Thank you, I resonate very closely to your conclusions, not completely but very close to it. But I couldn't put it in words like yourself, so thank you for your comment its inspiring to know I am not alone in thinking and acting like this.
Thank you for sharing your personal truth as it helped me see it might also be mine. ❤️
This is exactly what I am going through right now, I just want time to rest and lay back, I don't want to have no talent and no job and no responsibility, I miss the time where time was meaningless, now everything in clocked, and I am constantly thinking about the next thing I gotta do, never a full rest day.
My boundary says "do not lie to me." My sense of self is rooted in the knowing that I can be trusted with the truth. When I am treated like I am not allowed to know the truth, I feel hatred and resentment.
I also have a tendency to overreact to people's lies and untruths! I just feel so disgusted with them🤥🤣 I feel that being honest in one's beliefs is hard enough without all the misleading dishonesty added in.
Now being more chilled and relaxed, practicing not overreacting😄
So what does that mean for people who experience you as inherently unsafe with their truth?
"You wanna know the truth: you can't haaandle the truth!" was the favorite entrance statement of a math teacher here. The kids loved him. 😆
Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/the-covert-boundary-pattern-r534/
Love it. Teal is the red pill of spirituality
Beautifully put
This video should have “career advice” in the title. Really helpful, thank you Teal 🙏
It is baffling the amount of new information your able to put out so often!
I love you, Teal. You’ve changed my life entirely for the better, although it is I who stepped into awareness, I couldn’t have done it without these videos ❤ changing the world one video at a time 🙏☺️
Same. This video couldn't have come at a better time for me. Best of luck!
I feel like I’ve been mentally tormented around this very issue for weeks and have put so much contemplation to it. I feel like this is the review lesson for myself like the universe asking me “what did you learn this last cycle?”
Thank you so much for this video
Not even the whole hour ago I was thinking right about that issue you mentioned at very begining, issue, which on my opinion is the basis of all the illnesses, especially menthal, in our lifes, and it's the fact, we are taught, since the day we are born, to NOT be ourselves. From various reasons, like our parents fears, we won't be accepted, we will be rejected, bullied, not loved for who we are. "To fit into" society. So we learn to suppress, oppress and reppress parts of us we are told are not ok, or what we see is not likeable from reactions around us. And until we reach puberty, we loose ourselfs completely.
Thank you for the video and its great examples. It resonates. I heard from Marshall Vian Summers - that you confirmed as well - that you should teach children to value their experience - but how many do that? He says that to teach your child to value their experience you should ask these questions from your children:
What did you feel today in seeing this thing? How did you feel about being around these people? What are you feeling at this moment? I really resonate!
I get it.
Thanks!
There's no such thing as A.D.D. The problem is D.A.D.D......... Dad Attention Deficit Disorder. This talking with your children looks like a great start!
Thank you!
This video really lends some new insights into the shadow self. I can see how a fractured consciousness creates a covert boundary that goes against what we know or want.
To be more specific: Someone who's been traumatized can feel like they have NO BOUNDARIES at all, and therefore create a fractured protector persona that creates a boundary like a brick wall around them. This brick wall can come in many different forms. It could be from self-sabotage (this way no one or no thing gets near), it could be icy cold and emotionally vapid (again, it keeps everyone away), or it could be just the opposite and be a master manipulator so that it overly controls everyone and everything in its environment.
Teal, you have simply explained a concept many people including myself have been blind to and in effect suffering from. This gives me hope. Thank you awesome Teal. ❤️
This information is so valuable...it actually is an eye opener for me....I do have a certain resistance..and nothing changes. Thank you so much for this! I will have to reflect on some things. Wow
Thank you Teal. Perfect timing!
@ᴛᴇᴀʟ sᴡᴀɴ I am not sure about writing back so I'm going to research right now. Thank you and Merry Christmas to you.
Hits hard but it hits good🙂 thank you, I am big fan of your teachings!
Sincerely thank full for your deep insight into understanding and dissecting the human condition on the highest levels, your videos are my daily motivation into my own awareness in relation to my surrounding. I WISH THE BEST OF BEST, YOU ARE A GIFT TO HUMANITY ❤
I needed that!!!
Your videos are great when I need help with things. You are beautiful both inside and out and your eyes are amazing! Thank you for your knowledge.
I was expecting Matthew to have become a criminal due to the taboo nature of ambition and self interest instilled by his family.
And had they not put ambition and self interest in such a bad light, he may have had a healthier relationship with "success". But due to the manipulatory nature of their parents they ended up raising a confused criminal.
Wow - this makes so much sense and fills in so many blanks, it’s uncanny. Thank you, Teal! BTW - Learning or being taught this sort of subject matter in school vs. oh, say subjects like Latin or Algebra would have been profoundly useful. I can’t remember the last time I spoke Latin or solved a quadratic equation, meanwhile I have subconsciously, unknowingly resisted the/my ‘truth’, and in turn, created a lot of undue, unnecessary discomfort, pain and harm to myself and those around me. Ugh!Thank you Teal.
Teal, at age 57 I recently decided I'm just defective in these areas and I have failed over and over to change that and so I should just give up trying. I have been feeling so defeated and sad about that. I tried to explain it to my partner and myself but could not articulate exactiy, other than to say "I am failing at life and there is no solution to change it." THANK YOU so much for this video! It's life-changing and I'm so very grateful to you.
Thank you I just meditated for like an hour over this video. Really helpful information.
This is extremely interesting
Another integration done in my psyche thanks to you Teal. Thank you thank you thank you 💗
I have no idea where I would be in life without your advices
Wish you the best !
I'm just here to tell you, that you are amazing, extremely powerful and that you can manifest anything. 😊 If you truly trust in it, your "biggest" manifestations are inevitable! 💖✨
And yes boundaries are important. Follow your inspiration, don't let naysayers discourage you! We were programmed to all be the same and to become powerless working bees. But the truth is, we can be way more than that. There are more than enough examples out there, of what you can achieve when you follow your path and don't let anything or anyone distract or discourage you. 😊🗝️
So grateful for you.sending love and support to all.namaste xo
Every Saturday I get more out of your videos. Thanks for being here Teal. XO :)
Thank you so much Teal. I do have the boundaries issue with others. This is from how I grew up. 🙏🙏🙏
Wow! This was powerful. I recognie the overly control;ing parents who misguided me into being something I never wanted to be. I also recognie how I tried to do the same with my son - best intentions in mind. Weak boundaries have always been an issue for me. I have some work ahead of me to do - thank you so much for the enlightenment .
Another piece of the puzzle, thank you so much Teal. Your crystal clear information lights up my path. Deeply grateful. Take care and lots of love XX ❤
Amazing. The positions I'm putting myself subconsciously I've felt like are needed but hard to explain to my parents why. And this is such a great example putting it in words! A covert way to express the true self!
Glad I found your videos Teal!
Your stories about different characters were so helpful to getting me to relate this concept to my own life and start to recognise similar patterns. There are some important decisions I've been struggling with and this helps provide clarity.
Wow Teal, your incredible wisdom on human behavior and the subconscious is out of this world! I love how you explain everything and the examples you give really hit it home. I thank you so much with all of my being! All my love, and wishing you the happiest of holidays! 🙏💖🤗
I'm so ready for your 2023 Predictions video. I'm guessing this next year's going to be a Wild ride. Your insights are always so helpful and great reminders to look within for the world/experience you're desiring.❤️🙏✨
So enlightening, as always! Eternally grateful for you, Teal.
Thank you so much. Now I have the beginning of my red thread. Finally. Thank you so much 🫶🏼
I truly want to not be alone. I want to be popular and needed and wanted and admired. And I have gone my whole life using my creative output as a means to make myself feel important and garner attention, and when that hasn't worked, because so much of my personality was intertwined in that... I have been using those creative outlets to TRY to fill the part of me that just wants people to like and love and care about me WITHOUT having to give myself a "big special thing" I do. Because I really don't know who I am anymore, as an adult, beyond doing those things. And I've struggled to meet that need for connection, often feeling like my value to others, however small, is always relative to what I can DO for them, or do to impress them. An thus I'm unhappy alone, I lost my creative passion, I always feel like I want more out of life, I feel utterly powerless to meet my OWN needs because beyond the need for connection, I'm not even certain what else I actually want or enjoy. So outside of time spent with others feeling connected, a lot of the time lately I've felt like I'm just doing whatever I can to "get by" when I'm alone... watching TH-cam videos, listening to music, just trying to entertain myself. And often I've felt directionless. Often I either just want to die, or to run away and start fresh somewhere, try to be a new person entirely, just keep trying until I find a new way of life that feels more aligned. I just try to follow whatever impulse feels a little bit better. I may not have even discovered the depths of myself completely, but I do feel this great depth and capacity for greatness beyond just "what I've done" - like there are so many other potential paths or passions or people out there who may share the same values and appreciate me without me even needing to disclose that I make films or art or whatever. I'd love to re-socialize myself without that prior concept of who I've been or who I've been TOLD I am. And that's going to mean I need to try new things, meet new people and continue to challenge my conception of WHO I AM to begin with.
You rock Teal and you are the best ❤️❤️❤️ I know you had your challenges and there are many forces in this world that probably would like you to fail but you are never going to do that simply because you are so very genuine ❤️❤️❤️ we are many more who love you than those who don’t ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you
Seeing what I don't want to see about myself would make me feel miserable because I was often feeling miserable and abused and left behind in my family. I felt the weakest and nobody was willing to protect me and understand my point of view. I don't want to be weak but I often feel it and that's why I push people away.
People often say I want attention, want to be the best on the stage. Thas is true because being the best guarantees safety in a dysregulated family.
Thank you Teal❤️❤️❤️ it becomes more and more clear
Greatly explained as always! Thank you, Teal!
Wow thank you...I shared with all my female family and friends.
Thank you Teal, for this video you are still the best podcast on youtube 💋
I was waiting for that smile.
Teal, I’m experiencing extreme shakiness and doubt in my spiritual beliefs in these times. Can you please do a video on that topic? Have you ever gone through something like this?
As I grew up, I wasn't allowed to have needs NOR boundaries ... nor emotions.
Good video.
Wow, this is life-changing. 🙂 I deeply resonate with nr 1 and see now that my family background and maybe also the general performance society has pushed me into nr 2, maybe even the woman empowerment movement. Seeing this video I feel so much stress is going from me. I feel deeply relieved and at ease. 🙏.I really want to be in my own frame as well... wondering how it all goes together but I am sure step by step...feeling deeply grateful for this perspective... thank you thank you thank you :)
Thank you 🙏 i needed this ❤ lovelight to you!
@Teal-Swan Merry Christmas 🎄❤🥰
Thank you 🙏🏻 thank you 🙏🏻 thank you 🙏🏻
I liked this video it gave me lots to ask myself and be conscious of. 👍
Exactly what I need right now! ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥💎💎💎
I love you, Teal ❤️🔥
teal is more beautiful now than she was 10 years ago! how?💗💓💗
Thank you Teal! ❤
This was spot on for me today!
Mathew is the exact replica of me... even down to the wardolf education, being the forced servant of others, I've given till I have nothing left to give!
Came looking for this comment ❤️ I feel so much guilt and shame around being a Mathew.
Oh Teal, I love you so much.
I do a lot of self work but I’m not naive enough to assume there are things I haven’t worked out yet . How do I work out if I have a covert boundary ? Have I got a covert boundary simply by deliberately following my own path and being clear with my boundaries and goals with others ?
I appreciate you somewhat calling out Waldorf education. They definitely tell boys in particular that they have to be feminine and selfless. Been there.
Thank you Teal 💙
Thank you dear Teal❤😊
Hi Teal merry Christmas. And merry Xmas to your team.💜. I listened to this video tonight . I listened to last 10 minutes and questions at least 25 to 30 times. It takes better shape for me this way. I also watched the other 3 and I was becoming and accepting the resistant part before you mentioned channeling. The love was real it really hit me.. ty for videos. Happy new year to all of you.
compromising on our own self's values and wants, based on our unconscious beliefs of worthiness/unworthiness.
So very helpfull
I Am Grateful for teal swan
The last story is me except I was molested or anything and I'm underweight instead of overweight. I already knew why I was dressing grubby. Thanks for the questions, I will think about this.
Really nice, Thanks
Have a good week Teal 🙏😋
My behavior forces people to feel bad about themselves because I always try to be the smartest. I believe that by being the smartest I get and deserve the most attention. I actually want people to see and hear my emotions, not my smart thoughts, but my feelings were rejected so many times that I am used to hiding them. I just want the truth to be heard.
Love it
@Teal-Swan lol
super cool
Matthew was a Capricorn 😊
Please create videos with Spanish subtitles. I am an American Living in Ensenada Baja California Mexico and have a lot of Spanish speaking followers! Thank you!
Incredible woman
“Thea” got thrust into homelessness and was being haunted possessed and in and out of psychosis which is why she didn’t step up it’s not just pressure. She wanted to be a magician. Matthew is spot on except the greed thing. I wasn’t always so money focused but homelessness and the spiral that came with it made me solely focused on that bc I was terrified to be homeless. Sorry teal but these are me.
VERY helpful info
I'd like to know where the second exemple can be successful and be the right person in the right place.
Yes, I need a counselor I don’t even know where to start. If anyone has any suggestions, I would be so much very very grateful. At least I have a place to live a mobile home that I own. Thank goodness I’m grateful for that but I am on disability for severe fibromyalgia, etc. And can barely make ends meet I have $.27 to my name right now but deep inside I’ve always known I’m a warrior and I never give up will but I am also all alone. My mother passed away in 2018. she was my best friend and now I have no one sound so pathetic anyway… I’m grateful that I can just voice my feelings at this moment. Thank you.
If I could be anything/anyone, I would be a badass teaching self-defence and boundaries and writing books about abuse from my personal experience.
Yeah exactly ☺️ thank you 💜
My awareness... Still a Force to Reckoned with ☝️😎 even in this skin suit 😊
Epic video.
May I ask, are you going to make a video regarding your predictions for 2023?
Wow! Just wow. Are you really taking me back years! Remembering how my mother seem to love my sister , who was 4 1/2 years older than me, and began taking drugs at a very young age, and stole from me, and from other people and manipulated her boyfriend to get what she wanted And was just all-around mean. I loved her anyway, and I always saw her pain… Her dad was in the Air Force. He was in a high-ranking position, but became a horrible alcoholic, and my mother suffered greatly before leaving him and I was even born. She finally left him after 20 yrs of marriage when my sister was just two years old and then never mentioned him to my sister although she would on occasion confide to me about him. I was born as a result of my mother sleeping with my father after her military first husband. He was madly in love w/ her and She married him because that was the thing to do in 1967 when you got pregnant. When I was four or five she met a man that she loved very dearly very dearly, but he died after 4 1/2 years of marriage. my dad loved me. I was his only child he loved me dearly and I loved him. The problem is my sister had no dad and I did. (Long, complicated story)So she hated me for that my whole life and last out of me in horrible ways really. She was blonde hair blue I eyes and beautiful. I had brown hair green eyes and was striking, as my family would say. I knew my sister was beautiful, but I was always content and happy with myself, because I felt like I was honest and pure in my heart. I didn’t steal, and I tried not to hurt people. The problem was, I always felt my mom loved her more. So I began to do drugs and even told my mom that I was to prove something to myself and ?? I really didn’t want to, but I did anyway and then became hooked. All to find out if being “bad” would ??? Anyway, now I’m just venting and speaking out loud I truth that I need to delve into before I can heal, Thank you though SO VERY MUCH for allowing me to remember where to possibly start healing!!! This is the first time I’ve found you here on TH-cam. I have been listening to a lot of stuff about the aliens being out there in our atmosphere and a lot of people commenting on how they want to ascendant thank you thank you and all this, and I always tried to take a positive message from what I would hear, but yet was very cautious And then feel bad because I’m not a believer just so much confusion I felt like I was losing my mind I guess I should stay… I feel like I’m losing my mind this morning, and yesterday I acted in despair and told my youngest boy, whom I love more than life itself, that I had finally quit using And it had been two months and I was so proud of myself and I just had to tell him the truth because I feel like I just can’t hold it in any longer. I don’t think he knew that I was on drugs, and I told him this after drinking hundred proof vodka And was very drunk. Now I haven’t heard from him in over two weeks and I can’t hardly take it a I’ve been contacting him out of despair and so when I saw your video about despair, it hit me like a ton of bricks. So I am not going to reach out to him until I am out of the state of despair and now I’m crying but I’m grateful I will continue to listen to your videos. I just wanted to say thank you and I said way too much I know, but I really do think you do!
9:47 He was raised to believe that money is the root is all evil, and he marries a CEO.
Wow. And I thought I knew what "disaster formula" was.
Teal, Can you please do a video on stalking?
I realized I had resistance because it turns out I had autism my whole life and was finally diagnosed this year decades too late and have been traumatized over and over again due to hypersensitivities and people taking advantage of me...
17:10 oh this one is a good question
I have carried so much hatred for inauthentic sociopathic people like this especially being on the absolute receiving end. So for teal to say it's not an evil thing is like challenging my own resistance. Because how can people not know what they actually want? It's gaslighting to hear something like that. Especially in the workplace, see people who don't value their position all the time yet somehow are still choosing to be there and the people who truly would want the position don't get chosen for it.
I always asserted personal boundaries, that's why I got beat down, humiliated, raped, and abandoned.