After my meals while traveling, I journal how I handled the change in situation. Today I had a hotel breakfast where I had some desire to make it interesting, and my part of the table got crowded. Parents kept correcting my manners, which tensed me up and kept me wanting to make the meal last. Fumbling hard while I wanted to "feast", I end up asking myself: "How I can take input without my nerves/presence deterioating?"~ My realization was: "Don't struggle for slow, strive for steady."
Your videos really changed my life, after struggling with compulsive eating for decades. You taught me to be more in touch with my feelings, more compassionate towards my body... I've stopped restricting and started eating more mindfully. I started putting aside more time every day to plan, shop and cook my own food and discovered that satiety actually starts while browsing a beautiful vegetable isle. I am feeling so much better, have a ton of energy, have not had any urge to overeat and is just at peace with food for the first time ever. And as a bonus, have lost 5kg. Thank you so much for changing my fraught relationship with food, and turning it into the joy it is meant to be. ❤❤❤
We were taught not to waste food. So, it's hard to throw food away. I relate to grieving the end of the meal. I realize that sometimes I'm not totally present when that happens, so I've in a way missed part of the meal.
I'm 63 and gained 3 Stones and lost it a few times in my life. I'm either really good , through will power or I'm bindging . Listening to you today I've had a lightbulb 💡 moment. My Mother always made delicious 😋 meals always fed us well . We wasn't allowed to eat in-between meals and didn't need to. But when I was feeling insecure I would eat secretly. Cooking was mums way of showing me/us how much she loved us. So when I'm lonely I eat.... binge.... hopefully I might be able to understand now and start to control the binging. Thank you ❤
I can relate to “the I’ve blown it” mentality! That’s me!!!! Ok, I need to break out from this by saying…what makes me think I can do it tomorrow if I struggled with today? It’s ok to eat more someday, it’s not the end of the world. I have to be kind to myself 🥰 Thanks u Sarah ❤
Something that has worked for me is thinking ahead about the meal and considering if it will be satisfying. Not just will it satisfy my hunger but will it satisfy my need for variety or tastes, textures, and types of foods. If I DECIDE ahead of time that what I’m going to eat WILL satisfy, then I find I enjoy the meal more and don’t keep reaching for something else.
These videos are really helpful. At the age of 62, I am sick of bingeing when I'm tired or distessed. Evenings are difficult because I'm tired but I'm learning to sit with it. I go to bed at 9pm now. My bingeing is less to do with restriction and more to do with emotional distress, anxiety and chronic insomnia from working nights. Now I'm retired, my sleep is better and I've got time for me. I watch one video a day, let it sink in and I'm slowly reading your book. Thank you 😊
Being sad my meal or dessert is over is something I've never been able to identify. I always go get more. You made some really good points here that I've never thought of before. Thank you, I'm glad this video randomly popped up for me.
very helpful! THANK YOU, Sarah!! Staying conscious when it comes to food is an ongoing struggle for me - but kindness and self-compassion appears to be the ONLY way forward! 🥰
You just honestly get it and have a very clear and helpful way of articulating the internal struggles that I identify with so much. Thank you. I would like to add something that helps me anticipate eating less and making it a positive instead of a negative. When I do this, it is helpful. I know I will be going out with friends to eat Mexican food. I know it’s going to be delicious and we do this once a month. It used to be an episode of overeating that I used to anticipate with pleasure. It can be scary now when I don’t want to do that and difficult to not do it. So I spend some time now anticipating how it’s going to be delicious and because there is only so much room in my body, only so many bites are actually enjoyable. The first three bites are ‘10’ delicious. The next three or four bites are ‘7-8’ range. As I have maybe 5 to 10 more bites they start to fall down into the ‘5’ range. I know at that point my body will have had enough and if I continue eating that the bites will be 2s and 1s and maybe even negative numbers. So the overall grade point average of deliciousness just falls the more I eat. I do grieve the end of the meal, but if I’m honest, I become more aware that I’m actually not enjoying it anymore. I really want to stop and not kill it with low quality less enjoyable bites. Thinking of it this way helps me be happy to let enough be enough. Still not easy but this process helps me. Just offering it in case it might be helpful.
Trying to diet again and your videos are very helpful understanding how to control some impulsive behavior. I know my demons and are trying to keep them at bay. Thank you for the videos.
Eat a lot more protein and fat at a meal will help you to feel full. Eating mostly carbohydrates at meals will cause your blood sugar to spike and make you more hungry between meals leading to snacking.
Have you talked to a doctor? It may be hormonal. To feel satisfied there are two big things: protein and bulk (fibre). We eat until we get enough protein (so if you get your protein from sugary things you'll have to eat lots. Then there is the feeling of being physically full from the amount we eat - so eating veg & fruit is a way to get this.
5:11 I choose to be striving instead of struggling. To strive for better is different because you don't let yourself be looked at(, by you or {the patronization from} others) in a way that suggests you are tangled in your wishes. This allows me to stand up (for myself) to the sneaky notion that my immediate effort is in vain or obsessive.
In this part I’m speaking to the ‘diet-starts-tomorrow’ mentality. I had binge eating disorder and would make the same promise to myself that tomorrow I would do it differently. Calling myself out in the moment would sometimes stop a binge (not always) because I realised I couldn’t keep kidding myself that I just be able to transform overnight. It helped me to stop heaping all the responsibility onto tomorrow me and focus on what might be possible now.
One tip I'd like to offer anyone struggling with this: Lose the desperation. I used to get so uptight after standing on the scale and not liking the number, that I would just feel what I can only describe as panic. This was an immediate gateway to punitive behavior and just being horrible and angry at myself and my defective body that can't just be proportioned "properly" no matter what I do. You can hear the disgust and shaming here can't you? I slowly changed this by being truly gentle and kind to myself - not faking it, and doing so consistently. Being authentically patient and sweet and good-natured, and even using a bit of humor. After all, even at my heaviest, the fattest thing in the room was my rage! Just take the out-sized energy *down* on the whole ridiculous thing. I did so over time, by teaching myself to only speak to myself as I would to my sister or daughter or granddaughter. I mean my God, I cannot imagine being remotely awful to one of them. They are incomparably beautiful to me. Yet they are seeing *me* in that exact same light, and I matter equally. I want to show myself the kind of respect, love and grace they feel towards me. Just seriously, never underestimate the miraculous power of *Gentleness.*
I wish these videos had been available to me 20 years ago, when I was a teenager. Could have saved me a lot of misery, surviving on a diet of Diet Coke and salad, always freezing and exhausted…
Just stumbled across your channel. Your video completely encapsulates my problem almost as if you were speaking about me, grieving the end of the meal. I've never left an empty plate in my life, I can eat everything in huge amounts. I'm not "fat" but have an almost unstoppable appetite - I can literally eat all day long in amounts that many think impossible. I have gotten away with this habit for years but it's catching up with me and I need to address it. I've bought your book for some help and inspiration.
Your videos have/are helping me through so much. I had no idea I even had an eating disorder for so long but I’m slowly uncovering it and it’s all starting to make sense. watching your videos has validated a lot of my feelings and made me feel less crazy. Thank you for sharing xxx
I really relate to the grieving the end of a meal and the childhood relationship. I am autistic and ADHD and really I just love food. Since I was a child I just love textures and the pleasure sensory of food, specifically adding crunch to everything. I remember some crazy concoctions of food I created as a kid that to this day are amazing. Food is fun to me and brings me joy regardless of my mood or what is going on during the day. So I find myself chasing that sensory experience and dopamine quite a bit, mostly in the evening when I have the access and spare time at home. I can get distracted by activities I am doing but I will always realize reach for that experience because it’s yummy and fun. 😫 makes it so hard. And I gain weight very easily, have PCOS, imbalanced hormones and fairly certain I am pretty sensitive to carbohydrates because of this. Of course my favorite sensory foods are carbs or contain a decent amount of carbs. When I remove these items from my diet, I am severely dissatisfied so the cycle of restrict food group, be mentally unsatisfied finally ending up overeating those foods after removing them for a short period, to then research every day a solution to break the cycle. It is super annoying.
Sometime I feel like my biology is also scared of my own psychology. I've restricted my own food in the past on and off, so I can also see how my appetite my try extra hard to obtain as much food as possible in case my shame tries to cut off food again.
Stress made me go down the slippery slope of binge eating. After a whole year of not tracking my food, I stopped having those big binges, but I was still overeating. Then when I finally got a break from both my job and side job, I started losing weight. I've lost 6 kg since the beginning of May and now I have the eating habits of a normal person 😭😭😭 I don't want to go back to work, I'll gain all the weight back.
I am living with my almond mom currently and I have no other choice. She keeps making comments about my body and my weight. For her if I don’t lose weight immediately I won’t be able to find clothes that fits me and I will keep gaining weight. Even tho I told her to stop, I won’t try to lose weight she still trys to make me do some diet by secretly (I don’t know if that makes sense). Like by saying “ You don’t eat in the mornings if you stop eating at night you will lose weight.“ or “ You need to cut of gluten.” And I can’t make her stop for the life of me. I can see how she is disgusted by my body. It hurts a lot and the bad thing I started to see myself exactly like how she does. I really need an advice on how to make her stop because she affects my recovery so much and I find myself relapsing .
Oh jeez! What a distressing situation for you. I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with that. We have actually recorded a podcast episode about this and it will be released on TH-cam on Tuesday 9th July over on the Life After Diets Podcast channel. Hopefully it will give you some ideas about how to handle this. There is too much to say about this for me to put in a comment...
2:41 I have watched your videos on and off for quite some time now (& really enjoy them) I understand your message of not dieting BUT I’m in my late 50’s over 322 pounds and I’m finding a variety of health problems popping up (I had been very lucky of being fairly healthy even though I was this heavy before) Please- there must be a way of losing weight but not bringing in the binge/restrict cycle????? Thank you 💗
I'm in the same situation. The drive to lose weight has moved from wanting to look nice...to needing to lose weight for health reasons. I often feel defeated before I even begin.
If I had the answer to that one I promise I wouldn’t be keeping it to myself. I hear what you’re saying and I know it’s easy for someone like me to say ‘accept your body’ when I have never existed in your body. The only thing I can offer is to heal the bingeing first and then figure out what is possible for you. Some people can intentionally lose weight after struggling with bingeing and for some the bingeing always comes back. Bodies and psychologicalies are so diverse in how they react that it’s impossible to speak to everyone about this topic on any meaningful way ❤️❤️
If I can't stop because I have adhd and eating pleasure foods makes me relapse even after I fixed my beliefs and followed all of your I advices would it be a wise decision to restrict?
Unfortunately I’m not able to answer this for you because for one person it might be wise to have some boundaries around certain foods and for others it could make it worse. Check out the Healthy Gamer TH-cam channel and search the channel for adhd. Dr K has some great (and really hopeful) videos about managing ADHD, some of which could apply to food ❤️
There is a lack of research into neurodiversity and binge eating so we have a big gap in evidence-based knowledge, which makes it very hard to answer this in a comment. With my neurodiverse clients we have to piece together what we understand about their processes and figure it out from there on an individual basis as there is so much diversity within neurodiversity.
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist thank you! A few minutes in I realized this wasn't for me. Appreciate the honesty of there not being enough research. I wish other types of therapists would be more honest about us needing different therapy. ♥
@@ruthhorowitz7625 I'm glad you were able to identify what you didn't need in my video and actually your comment is inspiring a possible video idea. I've been reluctant to make one because there doesn't seem to be enough information about it, but maybe that's why I should 🤔 One of my very closest friends is another therapist who is neurodivergent (ADHD and autism) and she has had therapy as a client where she was missed on so many levels and at the time (pre diagnosis) blamed herself for not being able to make the changes she was trying to make. We have a lot of conversations about how to make therapy a safe and helpful place for neurodivergent. She is my go-to person whenever I need her perspective and I have learned so much through our friendship 🤩
"grieving the end of a meal." WOW, that resonates with me.
Yup!
Especially if it’s sweets or candy. Something that is “bad”
So true!!
After my meals while traveling, I journal how I handled the change in situation. Today I had a hotel breakfast where I had some desire to make it interesting, and my part of the table got crowded. Parents kept correcting my manners, which tensed me up and kept me wanting to make the meal last.
Fumbling hard while I wanted to "feast", I end up asking myself: "How I can take input without my nerves/presence deterioating?"~
My realization was:
"Don't struggle for slow, strive for steady."
Me too, and I never fully understood that feeling until she articulated it.
Your videos really changed my life, after struggling with compulsive eating for decades. You taught me to be more in touch with my feelings, more compassionate towards my body... I've stopped restricting and started eating more mindfully. I started putting aside more time every day to plan, shop and cook my own food and discovered that satiety actually starts while browsing a beautiful vegetable isle. I am feeling so much better, have a ton of energy, have not had any urge to overeat and is just at peace with food for the first time ever. And as a bonus, have lost 5kg. Thank you so much for changing my fraught relationship with food, and turning it into the joy it is meant to be. ❤❤❤
That's brilliant! Although I think the credit belongs to you for putting it all into practice ❤
So good!✌😁
We were taught not to waste food. So, it's hard to throw food away.
I relate to grieving the end of the meal. I realize that sometimes I'm not totally present when that happens, so I've in a way missed part of the meal.
I'm 63 and gained 3 Stones and lost it a few times in my life. I'm either really good , through will power or I'm bindging . Listening to you today I've had a lightbulb 💡 moment. My Mother always made delicious 😋 meals always fed us well . We wasn't allowed to eat in-between meals and didn't need to. But when I was feeling insecure I would eat secretly. Cooking was mums way of showing me/us how much she loved us. So when I'm lonely I eat.... binge.... hopefully I might be able to understand now and start to control the binging. Thank you ❤
I can relate to “the I’ve blown it” mentality! That’s me!!!!
Ok, I need to break out from this by saying…what makes me think I can do it tomorrow if I struggled with today? It’s ok to eat more someday, it’s not the end of the world. I have to be kind to myself 🥰
Thanks u Sarah ❤
Something that has worked for me is thinking ahead about the meal and considering if it will be satisfying. Not just will it satisfy my hunger but will it satisfy my need for variety or tastes, textures, and types of foods. If I DECIDE ahead of time that what I’m going to eat WILL satisfy, then I find I enjoy the meal more and don’t keep reaching for something else.
These videos are really helpful. At the age of 62, I am sick of bingeing when I'm tired or distessed. Evenings are difficult because I'm tired but I'm learning to sit with it. I go to bed at 9pm now. My bingeing is less to do with restriction and more to do with emotional distress, anxiety and chronic insomnia from working nights. Now I'm retired, my sleep is better and I've got time for me. I watch one video a day, let it sink in and I'm slowly reading your book. Thank you 😊
So good. This is also a helpful comment for me.
Wishing you the best!
Being sad my meal or dessert is over is something I've never been able to identify. I always go get more. You made some really good points here that I've never thought of before. Thank you, I'm glad this video randomly popped up for me.
very helpful! THANK YOU, Sarah!! Staying conscious when it comes to food is an ongoing struggle for me - but kindness and self-compassion appears to be the ONLY way forward! 🥰
You just honestly get it and have a very clear and helpful way of articulating the internal struggles that I identify with so much. Thank you.
I would like to add something that helps me anticipate eating less and making it a positive instead of a negative. When I do this, it is helpful. I know I will be going out with friends to eat Mexican food. I know it’s going to be delicious and we do this once a month. It used to be an episode of overeating that I used to anticipate with pleasure. It can be scary now when I don’t want to do that and difficult to not do it. So I spend some time now anticipating how it’s going to be delicious and because there is only so much room in my body, only so many bites are actually enjoyable. The first three bites are ‘10’ delicious. The next three or four bites are ‘7-8’ range. As I have maybe 5 to 10 more bites they start to fall down into the ‘5’ range. I know at that point my body will have had enough and if I continue eating that the bites will be 2s and 1s and maybe even negative numbers. So the overall grade point average of deliciousness just falls the more I eat. I do grieve the end of the meal, but if I’m honest, I become more aware that I’m actually not enjoying it anymore. I really want to stop and not kill it with low quality less enjoyable bites. Thinking of it this way helps me be happy to let enough be enough. Still not easy but this process helps me. Just offering it in case it might be helpful.
Trying to diet again and your videos are very helpful understanding how to control some impulsive behavior. I know my demons and are trying to keep them at bay. Thank you for the videos.
Once I start I can’t stop. Literally. I hate food but I eat it nonstop unless I’m asleep 😢
Eat a lot more protein and fat at a meal will help you to feel full. Eating mostly carbohydrates at meals will cause your blood sugar to spike and make you more hungry between meals leading to snacking.
Have you talked to a doctor? It may be hormonal. To feel satisfied there are two big things: protein and bulk (fibre). We eat until we get enough protein (so if you get your protein from sugary things you'll have to eat lots. Then there is the feeling of being physically full from the amount we eat - so eating veg & fruit is a way to get this.
5:11 I choose to be striving instead of struggling. To strive for better is different because you don't let yourself be looked at(, by you or {the patronization from} others) in a way that suggests you are tangled in your wishes.
This allows me to stand up (for myself) to the sneaky notion that my immediate effort is in vain or obsessive.
In this part I’m speaking to the ‘diet-starts-tomorrow’ mentality. I had binge eating disorder and would make the same promise to myself that tomorrow I would do it differently. Calling myself out in the moment would sometimes stop a binge (not always) because I realised I couldn’t keep kidding myself that I just be able to transform overnight. It helped me to stop heaping all the responsibility onto tomorrow me and focus on what might be possible now.
One tip I'd like to offer anyone struggling with this: Lose the desperation. I used to get so uptight after standing on the scale and not liking the number, that I would just feel what I can only describe as panic. This was an immediate gateway to punitive behavior and just being horrible and angry at myself and my defective body that can't just be proportioned "properly" no matter what I do. You can hear the disgust and shaming here can't you?
I slowly changed this by being truly gentle and kind to myself - not faking it, and doing so consistently. Being authentically patient and sweet and good-natured, and even using a bit of humor. After all, even at my heaviest, the fattest thing in the room was my rage! Just take the out-sized energy *down* on the whole ridiculous thing.
I did so over time, by teaching myself to only speak to myself as I would to my sister or daughter or granddaughter. I mean my God, I cannot imagine being remotely awful to one of them. They are incomparably beautiful to me. Yet they are seeing *me* in that exact same light, and I matter equally. I want to show myself the kind of respect, love and grace they feel towards me.
Just seriously, never underestimate the miraculous power of *Gentleness.*
Loved this! My Grandmother used to say “She’s just hongry Allll the time!”
So relatable! Thank you 💜🇬🇧
Such good ideas and thoughts. Thank you
Grieving the end of a meal is hit a nail on the head 👍
Thank you for mentioning this.
So grateful for another video. Hope you are doing splendidly
I wish these videos had been available to me 20 years ago, when I was a teenager. Could have saved me a lot of misery, surviving on a diet of Diet Coke and salad, always freezing and exhausted…
❤️🩹❤️🩹
😊thankyou again so bery helpful xx
Just stumbled across your channel. Your video completely encapsulates my problem almost as if you were speaking about me, grieving the end of the meal. I've never left an empty plate in my life, I can eat everything in huge amounts. I'm not "fat" but have an almost unstoppable appetite - I can literally eat all day long in amounts that many think impossible. I have gotten away with this habit for years but it's catching up with me and I need to address it. I've bought your book for some help and inspiration.
Your videos have/are helping me through so much. I had no idea I even had an eating disorder for so long but I’m slowly uncovering it and it’s all starting to make sense. watching your videos has validated a lot of my feelings and made me feel less crazy. Thank you for sharing xxx
Youre amazing, thamkyou😊
I really relate to the grieving the end of a meal and the childhood relationship. I am autistic and ADHD and really I just love food. Since I was a child I just love textures and the pleasure sensory of food, specifically adding crunch to everything. I remember some crazy concoctions of food I created as a kid that to this day are amazing. Food is fun to me and brings me joy regardless of my mood or what is going on during the day. So I find myself chasing that sensory experience and dopamine quite a bit, mostly in the evening when I have the access and spare time at home. I can get distracted by activities I am doing but I will always realize reach for that experience because it’s yummy and fun. 😫 makes it so hard. And I gain weight very easily, have PCOS, imbalanced hormones and fairly certain I am pretty sensitive to carbohydrates because of this. Of course my favorite sensory foods are carbs or contain a decent amount of carbs. When I remove these items from my diet, I am severely dissatisfied so the cycle of restrict food group, be mentally unsatisfied finally ending up overeating those foods after removing them for a short period, to then research every day a solution to break the cycle. It is super annoying.
This was extremely helpful. ❤ I’m going to watch it again to really cement these ideas in my mind. Thank you!
Sometime I feel like my biology is also scared of my own psychology. I've restricted my own food in the past on and off, so I can also see how my appetite my try extra hard to obtain as much food as possible in case my shame tries to cut off food again.
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Wow ! This was one of the best videos I’ve heard on the subject .
Stress made me go down the slippery slope of binge eating. After a whole year of not tracking my food, I stopped having those big binges, but I was still overeating. Then when I finally got a break from both my job and side job, I started losing weight. I've lost 6 kg since the beginning of May and now I have the eating habits of a normal person 😭😭😭 I don't want to go back to work, I'll gain all the weight back.
I wish I had the money to work with you!!
I just discovered you recently.
I am living with my almond mom currently and I have no other choice. She keeps making comments about my body and my weight. For her if I don’t lose weight immediately I won’t be able to find clothes that fits me and I will keep gaining weight. Even tho I told her to stop, I won’t try to lose weight she still trys to make me do some diet by secretly (I don’t know if that makes sense). Like by saying “ You don’t eat in the mornings if you stop eating at night you will lose weight.“ or “ You need to cut of gluten.” And I can’t make her stop for the life of me. I can see how she is disgusted by my body. It hurts a lot and the bad thing I started to see myself exactly like how she does. I really need an advice on how to make her stop because she affects my recovery so much and I find myself relapsing .
Oh jeez! What a distressing situation for you. I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with that.
We have actually recorded a podcast episode about this and it will be released on TH-cam on Tuesday 9th July over on the Life After Diets Podcast channel. Hopefully it will give you some ideas about how to handle this. There is too much to say about this for me to put in a comment...
Thank you so much!
2:41
I have watched your videos on and off for quite some time now (& really enjoy them)
I understand your message of not dieting
BUT I’m in my late 50’s over 322 pounds and I’m finding a variety of health problems popping up (I had been very lucky of being fairly healthy even though I was this heavy before)
Please- there must be a way of losing weight but not bringing in the binge/restrict cycle?????
Thank you 💗
I'm in the same situation. The drive to lose weight has moved from wanting to look nice...to needing to lose weight for health reasons. I often feel defeated before I even begin.
If I had the answer to that one I promise I wouldn’t be keeping it to myself. I hear what you’re saying and I know it’s easy for someone like me to say ‘accept your body’ when I have never existed in your body. The only thing I can offer is to heal the bingeing first and then figure out what is possible for you. Some people can intentionally lose weight after struggling with bingeing and for some the bingeing always comes back. Bodies and psychologicalies are so diverse in how they react that it’s impossible to speak to everyone about this topic on any meaningful way ❤️❤️
Have you heard of Dr Mindy Pelz? If not, please watch a few of her TH-cam videos. I hope this helps 🙏
Thank you 😊😊
True satisfaction for me just "love". I know that it is not food
To me that sounds like the antidote to the deep existential dissatisfaction many of us feel ❤
👍👍very nice thank you
Anyways ILYSM even tho I'm still relapsing you helped me alot
If I can't stop because I have adhd and eating pleasure foods makes me relapse even after I fixed my beliefs and followed all of your I advices would it be a wise decision to restrict?
Cause I don't have a choice once I eat choclate or whatever my adhd gets triggered again 🥲
Unfortunately I’m not able to answer this for you because for one person it might be wise to have some boundaries around certain foods and for others it could make it worse. Check out the Healthy Gamer TH-cam channel and search the channel for adhd. Dr K has some great (and really hopeful) videos about managing ADHD, some of which could apply to food ❤️
@TheBingeEatingTherapist okay thank you for your guidance 💗
🙏
How does all this in neurodivergent minds?
There is a lack of research into neurodiversity and binge eating so we have a big gap in evidence-based knowledge, which makes it very hard to answer this in a comment.
With my neurodiverse clients we have to piece together what we understand about their processes and figure it out from there on an individual basis as there is so much diversity within neurodiversity.
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist thank you! A few minutes in I realized this wasn't for me. Appreciate the honesty of there not being enough research. I wish other types of therapists would be more honest about us needing different therapy. ♥
@@ruthhorowitz7625
I'm glad you were able to identify what you didn't need in my video and actually your comment is inspiring a possible video idea. I've been reluctant to make one because there doesn't seem to be enough information about it, but maybe that's why I should 🤔
One of my very closest friends is another therapist who is neurodivergent (ADHD and autism) and she has had therapy as a client where she was missed on so many levels and at the time (pre diagnosis) blamed herself for not being able to make the changes she was trying to make. We have a lot of conversations about how to make therapy a safe and helpful place for neurodivergent. She is my go-to person whenever I need her perspective and I have learned so much through our friendship 🤩