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For Anyone Who’s Been Told It’s “Just A Phase”
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 มี.ค. 2016
- “When they tell you your love is just a phase, tell them you don’t like the word just.”
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I remember my parents wanting to throw out my brother when he came out, and the only thing I said was: If he leaves, I'm leaving with him. They wanted to throw their own child out because of 1 thing. 1 thing that never changed him as a person.
Jack Morrison ❤
Jack Morrison aw that's not fair! you sound like a lovely brother
#EveCinnamond * Thank you! I'll defend my little brother any time.
Jack Morrison My friend's aunt endes her marriage with her husband because when her son came out as gay she thought her husband had 'touched' him and made him that way.
These are my favourite kinds of BuzzFeed videos.
same
agreed
Nope lmao they gay
Same
+Griffin Lamon that's why they're my favourite soo
"but I'm afraid if write one now it will sound too much like the suicide note he did not leave" I wasn't ready for that
I know right.
this is so beautiful! I was told that my attraction to women was "just a phase" by my mom when I was 12. I am now 38 and I am happy to report that she was very wrong. In fact - my wife and I have been together for 15 years this month. For anyone who is doubting themselves - cling to your truth as best as you can because it is the only thing that will see you through. Surround yourself with positive people who see, accept and love you for you. As for my mom, she finally came round but it was tough on both of us. At the end of the day I had to let go of my desire for her to "accept" my sexuality in order to be happy, and once I let go of this desire, she opened up.
I love your story!❤️🌈
I hope you have a happily ever after with your wife❤️
im like...sobbing now because this was so beautiful
Same
Yes it was and was inspiring
i've been told its just a phase just for..different reasons
the poem delivery was really annoying. oh well buzzfeed, I'm sure it's just a phase
No.
When I was *9* years old I tried to tell my mom I'm *bisexual.* She *didn't believe me* and said I was *too young.*
A couple months ago I was talking to a guidance counselor with my best friend because of drama. I mentioned that I'm bisexual and then my best friend said she was pansexual. The *guidance counselor* said it was *just a phase.*
Last week my friend told my crush I liked them. My crush said *she* liked me back. We are now *dating.*
My best friend came out to her parents last week, the day my crush asked me out. My best friend asked if she could tell her own parents that I'm bisexual. I said I don't care because *you're parents will support me more than my own mother.*
I can't tell my mom I'm *dating another girl* because she *won't approve.*
This video came out in 2016 but still has comments from an hour ago. This says it all.
This video came out in 2,016 and I haven't came out yet xd
It really hit me when they said it’s not “JUST a phase” and I really took away from that how even if something is a “phase” during that time and experience of a phase it doesn’t make it any less valid than it is.
1:28 ".. And I'm afraid if I write him one now it will sound too much like a suicide note that he did not leave.."
This hit me more than I expected
I know right, I started crying when he said that
Me too...
Every time they started speaking together, I got chills.
Im crying.
To anyone who's been told it's just a phase, I'm sorry. To anyone who may have been wrong about their sexuality, gender, or whatever and they're scared to come out because the demons on the outside will say, it's just a phase, it's okay, it wasn't a phase it was an experience. To those kids who are now adults who finally have the right body, the right person, who are still told it's just a phase, it's not, you're you. I accept you.
Sincerely,
A pansexual closeted demi-boy.
The_Rising_Pheonix thankyou
Sincerely
Another closeted pansexual
“He’d exchange poetry for portraits, but I’m afraid that if I write one now, it’ll sound too much like the suicide note he did not leave.” my heart sank...
I THOUGHT THIS WAS ABOUT BEING EMO BUT I WAS PLEASANTLY SURPRISED
Emily leeds same
i was disappointed af
ITS STILL NOT A PHASE
Yeah me to lol
My sister continuously says that me being a demiboy and gay is just a phase. And it hurts to know that someone in my family that I trust more than anyone told me it is just a phase and I'll grow out of it..but I tell her. That being straight, was my phase...
SAME!
When someone tells me being ftm transgender is "just a phase" my reply is "yes being a girl was just a phase." Then I flip them off and go get ice cream or something.
Same thooo
Can you be my icon?!
Yesssss
Moooooooood
Can I have some?
I came out to my sister today as lesbian, and she said "your probably just going through a phase "
I don't think 11 YEARS is a phase...
I thought you were American
@@picklejuice8210 the joke is that the brother thought that "lesbian" is a country just like America. Which is why he responded with " I thought u were American" in the vine lol.
@@picklejuice8210 no problem 😊
My anxiety? A phase. My depression? A phase. My slight anorexia? Just a phase.
Or so they say, but to me, they are not. They are the demons who haunt my life, ever day.
Whoops my asexuality is just a phase
You basically just described me o
My dad told me it was just a phase.. To him, my depression is a phase! I understand, he wants it to be a phase, he wants me to be the perfect little girl. Doesn’t every parent want a perfect child? Stereotypes and the word “perfect” play a role in this. Because of being told, “it’s just s phase, I took back my coming out, and now my parents think I’m straight! Which I’m not.
Obviously Toast it's not that they want you to be perfect, it's that they want you to be happy.
No one has ever told me "It's just a phase" until today when my mom said "You don't know what your sexualities really mean, you and all your friends are just going through a phase". Right when she said that this video came to my mind and it made me feel so much better, and my friend thought this video was touching. I know my love isn't just a phase, it is a part of me and I am proud of it, and I'm about to send this video to my mom. Thank you BuzzFeed❤️💛💚💙💜
Thinking I was a girl was the phase. Believing I could live happily as someone I didn't _want_ to be for the sake of keeping my family at peace was the phase. My gender, my attraction isn't a phase. Thank you for this. I really needed to hear it.
My mother runs a gsa for her clients, she’s an occupational therapist for young adults.
I came out to her as bi, she called it a phase. That was two years ago. I’m still bi.
I came out to her as trans earlier this year. She doesn’t believe me. I had known for six months. I’m still trans.
She’d rather ignore the signs and act surprised than accept that her child is a son.
She still ignores it. I’m still me.
GalacticParker you're awesome and valid. Love from ~ a fellow but closeted trans.
I understand this? My parents have thrown me back into the closet even though i’ve felt this way for almost 5 years now.
I feel you. My mom acts so supportive to other LGBT folks but never to her own kids. It’s hard to deal with.
Never felt good about something that just says gay/straight
I got the chills whenever they talked at the same time, their voices are so powerful and beautiful. I love this video so much, I hope many other struggling LGBTQ+ people hear this and take it to heart
I've never been told this, but it's still a powerful message to me: Believe in who you are, not what others expect you to be. This meaning has carried so much weight and meaning through my toughest hours, and it helps me just stop and remember to believe in who I am no matter what people yell at me.
1:16 "In high school, I knew this painter. A cocksure comet with a confident, smarter-than-you smile that showed no signs of burning out. A hopeful romantic, who always wanted to exchange poems, and I'm afraid if I write him one now, it will sound too much like the suicide note that he did not leave, signed,"
This hit me right in the feels
l a u r en
I didn't get that part, can you please explain.
Kevin (person wearing the beanie) is describing a person that he loved in high school that seemed like a confident person, full of life with no problems. Eventually the painter committed suicide but did not leave a note. So Kevin explains that if he wrote him a poem now, it would sound like a suicide letter, because of the heartbreak of loosing someone dear so suddenly.
Alexander Chrisander
Oh, ok thankyou.
This video gave me chills. My daughter is part of the LGBT+ community and I support her 100% but my mother is a very sonservative Christian and called her an abomination. It breaks my heart that people are so ignorant and blinded by hate. Amazing poem.
I wish you could tell my parents this they think I'm a useless child to them just because I'm gay😭😭
As someone who can’t be out to both parents safely, thank you for loving and supporting your child for being *herself* , not the person *you* want her to be. My generation needs more parents like you 💜
I did go through a phase...Its called thinking I was straight
Dragons Eclipse omg Same!
"Trust in your own gravity. We are closer to the stars than they will ever be"
This is so beautiful, I can't help but love myself after this amazing video.
Oh My God
I am fairly young and I try to convince myself it is a phase.
I don’t want it to be just a phase.
I want it to be a real experience that is not shameful but empowering.
I do not want to hide this part of me from the people I love.
This is my statement of self empowerment to ensure my place in this world among those who are truly themselves and are truly happy.
I want to be truly happy and I want people to know the real me.
Every time I've tried to come out to my parents they've always said it's a phase and shoved me back in the closet. I've always felt so humiliated every time. I haven't seen this video until now.
Why did I just saw this in my recommended???? I should have watched this a year ago.
JJ Reyes saaaaame
I love this poem it's so beautiful
"Phase hate out of your sky"
Hate is the only thing that should be just a phase.
Im not gay but I support LGBT rights. I have this really homophobic friend and I don't know what to do. What would do do?
Kate Gronquist: I would probably not be friends with them anymore because if they can hate me for just being who I am but that is just how I handle that situation I know that probably isn't the way to handle things but I don't like the fact my friend using bible verses telling me that I am signing when she sins to my coming out to her just didn't work out I probably shouldn't have told her that I am a lesbian but I thought she would have been open minded but she wasn't and I didn't want to feel like things were going to change with our friendship so I just ended the friendship
so if you're friend is making you feel uncomfortable I would just end the friendship because you being hurt isn't how a friendship should work I hope this helps I try to give out the best advice I can.
Being straight WAS my PHASE.
Being female WAS my PHASE
. im trans (FtM) and Bisexual
JG-Jay that doesn’t make you non female
Alex Is AWESOME Mig I don’t know what you mean, but I know I ain’t a female.
good luck on your journey 😊 like the poem said: "trust in your own gravity"
victoria maakulmamerijärvi thanks a billion😊😊☺️☺️
I'm Nonbinary and Pansexual
I came out to my mother when I was 15. I’m 18 now. When I did she told me that she’d love me no matter what, but over the past couple of years she’s been acting weird about it. She keeps trying to convince me that I might be bi, and that she doesn’t think I’d enjoy being with a man. Every time she mentions it I tell her the same thing which is that I just am not attracted to the female form the same way I am to the male form. She tried to make me promise her that I’d try being with a woman, and that I wouldn’t wear a dress, the latter of which shouldn’t be an issue since I’ve never shown interest in dresses or makeup or anything like that. Since I’ve come out however, she’s become increasingly transphobic over the years and it’s bled into the way that she views me. She tells me every once in a while that I’m a boy and that I always will be a boy, or acts relieved when I’m around people putting on makeup and don’t receive any, like it’s some kind of drug that I can’t resist, or gives me weird looks whenever I do something feminine like the one time my little sister put a flower in my hair and I didn’t take it out. Her weirdness hurts... a lot, and it makes me angry. But I don’t want to bring it up because it doesn’t happen very often and I don’t want her to feel bad or act a different kind of weird.
Sorry for wall of text, I just needed to let my feelings out a bit
I hear you
Thank you for sharing 🌻
"I'm afraid it will sound too much like the suicide note that he did not leave" This line struck me like a hammer, I'm sorry.
Pro IBrickwall i was looking for a comment talking about this line. It is heart breaking.
Yeah it hit really hard I teared up
To everyone in the comments section at midnight, one a.m. ten p.m., noon, whatever time it is for you, if you are reading this, I want to remind you that you are loved. Your identity as you isn't just a phase. You are you. Nobody can say otherwise and still have a clear conscience at the end of the day. I myself am currently in the midst of a mild identity crisis and I don't know 100% who I am. But even though this video is two years old, it's relevant. I know I'm two years late to comment on this, but I really just want to remind you all that you aren't forgotten. Your satellite didn't get lost in space. And friends, I want to remind you that no matter what anyone says, you have value and are loved.
just found this video again after looking for hours in my youtube history. ive written this poetry in my journal when i was fifteen years old, and now im here four years later. i'm glad i found this video back then, because it gave me a lot of hope and courage. i was confused and sad because of my sexuality but now i embrace it and im proud of who ive become.
al j. min I always come back to this video every now and then the word ‘Phase’ has stuck with me
these comments make me wanna cry wtf ? it's such a beautiful poem and the comments are jokes and people complaining. ugh
Profile picture checks out
Same
+James Downing lmao
SAME
Hai phandom
And true. This video is so beautiful omg
This is the most beautiful slam poem i've ever heard
Hey guys. I'm bisexual.
And I just came out to my mom.
Her reaction was...not expected. But it's better than not being accepted at all and ignored. To all the people who came out as anything and weren't exactly accepted and/or just not someone people would talk about with a smile, you're beautiful. You're handsome. Whatever you prefer, because you could like either or neither and I would be just as accepting because I accept you as a person, no matter what you identify as or what you're attracted to, what you look like, what you like to do.
This video helped me so much.
I hope it helped you.
My family rather have a suicidal daughter than a happy son. This video got me threw these years and still does. To the people that need this, you're beautiful/handsome. You are wanted and needed. It may be terrible right now but at least it's not yesterday and your one day closer to whatever you want. I hope you have a good day. Goodbye.
Michael jack that is sad but I hope you will have a light somewhere =)
I think this message should go beyond sexuality. This can be about anything and the world needs to listen. Be who you want to be, and the right people will love you.
Am I the only one who thinks that the girl had the most beautiful voice?
*”you’re too young”*
“You don’t really feel that way”
“It’s just a phase”
“It’s wrong”
“Why are you so proud”
“Look I get that your Bi but do you really have to tell the world.”
“You shouldn’t put ‘Bi’ in your username, it’s like your begging for attention.”
“Are you for real, or do you just want attention.”
I am 12, and I have figured out that I am Bisexual.
A lot of people ask “ your so young how?”
Or they say, “your parents forced this onto you.”
They are strangers.
But, even my friends get annoyed by me, constantly happy and joyous, telling everyone I can, because I’m happy and I want to spread that joy.
I’m 12, I’m Bi, and I’m in the closet, my family on the outside.
But I know it’s not “a phase”
Thank you for helping me with this, I cried because think about how many *need* this, how old they are, and what would happen if they came out.
Thank you.
I was 11 when I found out, I told my dad he said to admire is okay. I use to say I like that boy just to cover up my gayness 😂
Quiznacking_cat when do I come out of the closet I am 11 and it isn't a phase I know it is not a phase I just don't know when to come out please someone help me tell me when to come out I don't know I'm lost
Isabella Robinson
AAHHHHH HI!
Ashia Martin
Thank you for commenting.
ruby d
I’m no therapist but I’d say that you should come out when you feel like it, for me it’s kind of a shelter, I hope I helped.
the camera stopped focusing on that artist to show that he faded out of existence. beautiful.
I LOVE THIS. OH MY GOD. THIS NEEDS TO BE REPOSTED. EVERYWHERE.
there's so much time that went into this and effort this is gorgeous I love it
My father knows I'm bisexual, he has fully accepted that I might one day come home with a guy OR a girl, he just wants me to be happy, that's all that matters to him.
This deserves an Oscar award award a standing ovation *cries, stands up, and claps*
My aunt: so how's your gay phase going?
Me: stronger than your marriage.
Wizardporn2008 this is the most amazing this I have ever seen
Wizardporn2008 savage, but good. Really good.
"the most amazing this"
Duuude xD That's awesome 👍
YES
It's just a phase....
....that never ends
What a beautiful video. This really means a lot from an Aro Ace. A lot of people think that it’s a phase.
“Your too young”
“Your supposed to love someone”
I miss these buzzfeed videos.
Thanks
~someone who has been told “it’s just a phase”
I'm crying tears of joy. They've come out of the corners of my eyes like when I came out of the closet, and was treated like it was all just a phase. Everyone else who's like this, you're not alone. This video means so much to most likely everyone in the world who understands further than the stars of those with small minds who are forever stuck on Earth.
ShallowSen Studios dude, their just tears, they don't have a sexuality
when i was 10, i knew i was attracted to women. i thought it was just a phase. I'm 15 now, and I'm still attracted to women.
Same I'm now 17 and just came out as a Lesbian to my family my mom was not supportive but my dad was . They kind of think that being Gay is a phase because their sending me to conversion Theropy I'm scared .
Elena Schiff Do you have an other person who can help you ? These "therapy" are dangerous and really problematic, please don't stay alone with your parent's decision. Please find someone to save you from it. Take care of yourslef, I hope you're okay
Thanks , I'm ok now my dad had a long chat with my mom and told not to send me to conversion therapy unless it was my choice so she agreed not to send me to conversion therapy
same. I was eleven when I started to understand.
This is what i want to see from buzzfeed
Hillary Quack that would raise the quality game by a level youtube didnt see before
hello I'm crying on the bus. my friend just sent this to me and I love him so much I can't even express it. this is such a beautiful poem, everyone needs to hear it
I’m bisexual and it feels as if some people believe I’m in a phase and I’m not. My sexuality isn’t a phase, I’m not
“experimenting”, I’m not greedy, I’m not selfish, I’m not trying to find my real sexuality. I’ve already found it. I love both men and women. And it’s not a phase, and won’t ever be a phase. Because now I am myself, my real self.
LizzyNova yeS BBY :0
This is really beautiful
I am a lesbian. Not a phase. I am a person. Not an image.
I'm bisexual. And people tell me it's just a phase. My phase had always been that I was to scared to stop them. I let those voices hurt me. Define me. But that phase is over.
And it won't be coming back.
Sexuality isn’t a phase.
Gay.
Not “sinful”
Asexual.
Not “lonely”
Bisexual.
Not “confused”
Straight.
Not “boring”
Not a “phase”
Love who you want to love
And be who you want to be
And I promise you, it isn’t a phase.
- Noodleraptor
Noodleraptor would God still love me if I’m bisexual
Noodleraptor yassssss
Rachel Hammerle Yes.
I was once told I was boring for being straight haha
🙏 thank you Im not confused or experimenting
It's -just a phase- who I am.
"Oh she's just a tomboy," says my mother. "It wont last for long, I'll pressure her to be more girly, get her to wear dresses, skirts, pink and makeup even if she doesn't want to, even though she has been a tomboy since birth, there is no way she could be transgender, she just wants to join in with the 'fad' of coming out, it's just a phase"
"She is just a teenager" says my father " even though she has become reclusive, stopped talking to people, is unable to sleep, harms herself with self inflicted scratches and steals from us, she is just a teenager, going through a phase, trying to get our attention".
"YES" I shout, though no one is able to hear me because half the conversations I have are in my head due to crippling anxiety "it is a grab at attention, a desperate bid in fact, I want you to notice me , to help me, but in a house of five kids which suffocate you, it's hard to get attention" "and yes mum" I say "I am a tomboy, but that knowing that I am a tomboy has slowly morphed into the realisation that I am transgender and I am depressed, dad. And you cant accept that yet you want me to love and be with you because you helped me grow up, yet half of that maturing was done on my own due to a lack of mothering on my mother's part and a lack of parenting on both of my dad's parts (one estranged) meaning that I had to learn how to cook and iron and do my laundry and had to look after four younger siblings that stole attention away from me and bullied me but got away with it because I shouldn't be able to be hurt by the words of someone four years younger than me even if the words are reiterations of my parents. I am not going through a phase, so please, stop saying that" and I stop and curl up in a ball, a fetal posistion, and begin to shake with fear and pain and a loss of the love that most kids have. But no one hears me, no one even glances at me, because this is all done inside my head, at night, when I'm supposed to be sleeping. Sorry for interrupting yours with my pained sobs, but it is not just a phase.
What I have been through is nothing compared to your daily struggles but that should not keep a fellow human, a fellow member of the LGBT+ community if you would like to identify that way, from comforting one another. You are not alone in this darkness and; be sure to know, family are not always the ones you are physically related to. A bond stronger than that is love. Whoever you love is your family. Choose your family. Build your life. You are a beautiful human
Blood doesn't make a family. Love does
I'm so sorry for you I know my struggles are nothing compared to yours but I really hope you get better and I wish I could find someone to talk to I love you
It's not a phase. Don't starve yourself from people. Find some friends that are going through thia too. Build your own family that loving and supportive of everyone❤❤❤❤
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
i've been told that being pan is "just a phase"
i was told that i didn't know what i was and that i would grow out of being who i am and that everyone wants to be something these days and that i was invalid and i needed to stop begging for attention.
some roses are red
others are tan
this is a poem to say
that i am indeed pan
The one person i trusted to tell that i was pan, they told me 'its just a phase' or im 'joining in on the trend' its so irritating so im not telling anyone else 😞
I really understand why you don't want to tell anyone know, but please don't let one bad experience ruin coming out to people for you. I'm really sorry it didn't work out with them, but don't let that stop you from telling anyone you feel you can trust in the future. Stay safe
Same but bi
Pansexual = Bisexual = Gay
Being *straight* was my phase ❤💛💚💙💜
Same. :)
*PLOT TWIST*
Same
Your pic tho- it’s a homophobic reading that comment xD
Your a sussy baka
If you ask yourself "what if this is just a phase"
Thats okay we all go through phases at least you went through it and found yourself then not having to find yourself at all..
Year's later and im ready to go through this phase to find myself
Guys, a moon may have its phases, but it's still a moon. Just because it doesn't always show its full self, doesn't mean it has changed or anything. It's still a moon.
So what u mean its a phase for lgbtq or not a phasr
To all the people in the comments saying how people told them it was just a “phase”, don’t listen to them. Only you can know who you truly are on the inside. If you know that, then it doesn’t matter what anyone else has to say about it because you are who you are and nobody can change that.
my mom told me it's a phase in public, I wanted to cry so I put on headphones, put on my fav song and turned the volume all the way up and had a sad face all day
I honestly would’ve done the same...
im not crying youre crying. my eyes are just sweating-
thank you this was very useful, I'm transgender ftm and I'm constantly being told " it's just a phase " or " it's just your tomboy stage " and it hurts because I've felt this way for years but kept it bottled up inside instead of embracing it I've just recently come to terms with it and started coming out to people but I'm still being told it's a phase. This video helped it reminded me that one day I will be on T and perhaps have top surgery and then they will know it wasn't a phase.
My best advice is just be yourself.
Do u have a binder and if u do... Give me some tips on how to get it without my parents knowing. Ftm trans gay male here...
My parents think that me being asexual aromantic is just... me having a fear of romance. They think that I’m lying about not ever having a crush on anyone? Apparently it’s ‘impossible’. I have no fear, or problem, with any of that! I just don’t want to love romantically or sexually. I wish that people could understand that.
Katlyn AnimalClan I understand that! I'm here for you!!! 💛
I wish you the best! I hope your parents will understand you one day. But until then: Be sure to know that there are people out there who understand you now. You are not alone at all.
I watch this video so often. It still gives me chills on the a thousandth time.
Playing drums was my phase. Anime was my phase. Greek mythology was my phase. I struggle to even call those phases, because they still stick with me to this day in some capacity. But I've always felt this way. I've always known I wasn't a girl. My disgust at dresses and skirts. When I'd play as Dan the warrior and never Danielle the princess. When I'd pick the boy characters in video games. When I avoided mirrors for years because the person looking back wasn't me. When the little boy at my brother's birthday party though I was a boy and I felt strange correcting him. When I got so excited over drawing someone who's gender I couldn't see. When I first heard of singular they. When I got so exited at the idea of people not seeing me as a girl or boy. When I screenshoted a picture of the nonbinary flag last August and decided to figure myself out. When I went to homecoming wearing a tie. When I came out to my trans best friend. When I started going to the gsa as Dan. When I cut my hair and saw myself in the mirror for the first time. When I came out to my parents. When I started seeing a psychiatrist. When my psychiatrist gave me a more certain diagnosis of gender dysphoria than my ADHD. When I got my first binder. This has been here my entire life. This isn't just a phase. My entire life cannot just be a phase. This won't pass, mom. I know you see a lot of your gender nonconforming teenage years in me, but this isn't the same as you cutting your hair as an act of rebellion. This isn't the same as you thinking that you'd never want to get pregnant. This isn't the same as your style of clothing as a teen. I've always been this way. It's just taken me fourteen years to find the words to describe it. And I'm sorry Lior can't have an older sister. I know having two girls was important to you. But I'm still gonna love Lior with all my heart, and if anything this has brought us closer.
That was just so touching! I'm gender nonconforming too! And I'm so happy to hear your story! I can relate so much to the phrase, "It's just a phase"! But the actual phase is them learning to accept us!
I came out as gay last year and as gender nonconforming this year. Yes, it did take me a lot more time to get comfortable with people knowing about the latter than it did for the former 😅! But I'm glad to hear you! Btw did you send this to your mom?
@@vishnushankar7232 nice to hear that my message resonated! No, I didn't send this to my mom, I'm taking my social transition one step at a time and she's starting to come around, this was more for me and for people like you, so I'm happy it touched you!
@@dangreen3868 All the best in life🙆🙆
Tumblr is so happy right now
lmao
Im ace/aro and very scared to share this fact with others. Many times I have come out to people close to me and automatically they'll say, "Oh it's a phase,you have plenty of time to grow out of it." "It's because your young." or "That doesn't exist." Everyone should see this, no matter what, it's beautiful.
I've come out to my mum about being ace/aro, she said it was a phase to me.
I agree, everyone should see this. I want to show it to my mum, but ik she'll say something like "Abbie, why are you showing me this?"
"just a phase" - hurts my heart for me and all the people who have had people trying to silence them. Nobody chooses their own gender or sexuality, why do some think they are entitled to choose other people's?
This made me cry,
I'm figuring out what I am
And it's hard and the only support I have is on online :(
Baka Scribbles I support you
One day history will look back on us as ignorant beings.
Teachers will be lecturing about our social issues saying "People actually hated other people because of who they loved."
"What an awful thing to do" the students will say.
Hatred towards the LGBT community will be viewed in the same context as how we view slavery today. We will ask ourselves how something so inherently evil could exist between humans. I am not gay, bisexual, or transgender, but they are like me. Isn't it true that we are all just stardust?
i think i love your comment on a unhealthy level
+Marina and The Devil I'm glad my comment found you well
hopefully...one day no one will have to come out...hopefully one day my son or daughter (or anyone's son or daughter) will be able to just bring home their partner, regardless of their sex, and be able to introduce them to me...it won't be weird to the parents or shameful to the parents if their son brings home a boyfriend or daughter brings home a girlfriend...it will hopefully be just as normal as bringing home any heterosexual partner....hopefully
+Dovekin Humor is a powerful tool that can bring light to many issues in the world.
I'm happy people like you exist, it gives me shards of hope that future will be at least somewhat lovable.
I’m non binary and pansexual and my grandma and mom both say it’s just a phase and I’ll grow out of it, but I know who I am and this is 100% me
I am going through this right now. This video really touched me. I tried coming out to my mom before as a gay guy, but she thought it is "just a phase". I just realized after this video was that letting others and their words define who I am is the phase. I, myself am who I am. I will let no one else decide that.
Came back years later, did not expect to cry today...
Same
This is out of place but I always get told “it’s just a phase”..
I suffer from anxiety and depression, I’m a young girl but whenever I tell people about it they never take me seriously and tell me “it’s just a phase, you’ll get over it” and/or “stop being such an edgy teen (drama queen, etc).
My own father told me it was a phase.
I go to therapy but it hasn’t helped, I don’t know what I should do at this point.
Melodie Gaster Hi, I don't know you. But what you are going through is not just a phase. And don't listen to anyone who tells you so. I suffer from a mental illness myself plus depression and anxiety disorders . And although the people around me say that they understand me, I know they don't. I mean how can they? They've never been where I am. If there's anything I can tell you. I'll just tell you this. The people around you will never be able to fully understand you. I mean, how can they? They've never been where you are. There was a point in life where I used to get angry that nobody understood me nor even tried. But I came at the understanding at a later stage that nobody really can. In the meantime if there's a you want to talk about I'm here. 💕
Melodie Gaster, never stop fighting and love, love, love yourself. Find better company for yourself. You will do it and look back in some years or maybe months and be proud because you kept flying your way.
Thank you for your kind words! I never expected to get this..I was honestly waiting for “STOP TRYING TO GET ATTENTION AND LIKES” but you guys made me feel better. Thank you again
-Malassy Caster
Got depression too. So yeah I know what it feels like to tell what you feel to others but they don't understand, take you seriously. So I gave up opening myself to those who don't listen. I found that the people who listen are the ones who can relate to depression.
Focus on being yourself, don't censor yourself so people don't feel unconfortable, you don't have to bear their intolerance, they are the ones who need to become understanding and don't give up to depression. I know some days it's really hard.
Look for people who can relate to your experience. They are the best support, them and your true best friends.
Akasame I always feel so bad when people ask what’s wrong and I tell them the truth. The looks on their faces are either disgusted or sorry. Then the “Yeah right!” and the “Don’t worry, dear. I know how you feel” stuff happens. I often tell the people who have negative reactions that it’s just a joke so they talk to me again, I have friends who also suffer so I do have people who actually understand but it’s hard, ya’know?
I have genuinely never heard a more spectacular and important poem. Thank you
I tried telling my dad that I'm not sure I'm girl, that I'm not sure I'm his daughter, he blew me off and yelled at me because "I don't know what I'm talking about". He's always said I can talk to him about anything and everything, yet I try talking to him about my gender confusion and suddenly "I'm too young". I'm not sure what to do anymore, and I don't know who to go to. So I drown myself in self-pity and stories of who I wish I could be.
Clorax Bleach I'm very sorry your dad doesn't listen to you, I understand what you're going through and if you ever need anyone to talk to, I'll listen
Whatever you’re thinking, you need to know that you WILL BE OKAY. Take your time to let him sink in, or get someone who understands you and who will help you. YOU DO YOU! ❤️❤️❤️
Clorax Bleach I know how you feel my mom can't accept me being trans and I'm scared to loose my friends your a strong man and a brave boy keep it up
Clorax Bleach you're valid and loved, your father will come around one day and if he doesn't you're still loved. You're valid. Love from ~ a fellow by closeted trans
You did good buzzfeed. Well done.
Being straight was my phase 😂
Leah Weisz same
Leah Weisz Being a straight girl was my phase
Leah Weisz Exactly also I commented something similar to this but I just wanted to say that I didn’t steal it from you
I am a Non-Binary Biromantic and I told my mum. She thinks it is just hormones or a phase but I dont think that phases make you love girls and boys.
I don’t want to look up the term and not get information right, what is Biromantic? I ask because you say “Love Girls and Boys” and all I can think is Bisexuality as that is of loving both genders
Benjamin Wright Bisexuality is *sexually* liking both, I only *romantically* like them.
Ember Jackson ah I see
Benjamin Wright 👌
I'm asexual & aromantic and I've always been told it's a phase, and that I'll find someone some day. I've met thousands of people and not one have I had a crush on. I've never had an interest.
hesteia sameeeeeeee
hesteia I think that's lucky! You get nothing out of love and attraction and all that BS except for emotions and an unveil of a shamefully emotional side of you. That's something that messes up with your mind and restricts you from giving everything your best, going on with your talents and responsibilities. I think you are lucky. I wish I could be like you, I hope that I can try to be.
“A hopeful romantic, who always wanted to exchange paintings for poems. I’m afraid if I wrote him one now, it would sound too much like the suicide note he did not leave. Signed....”
“....Andrew”
I watched this 2 years ago, the day it was posted. I was closeted and isolated back then. I didn't understand every word, partly because I couldn't understand English as well as today and partly because I was crying and couldn't quite focus. Back then, this poem was a sign for me to keep going and it moved me more than I thought it would.
Today, I have a girlfriend, am out to all of my friends and siblings and more confident in myself as I'd ever been.
Thank you for this.
Quiet Ky That's really great. And also, nice profile pic
I know you will probably not read this, as so many wonderful people have commented, but thank you so much for making this. Thank you for being the voice for those whose voices cannot be heard. Thank you for being the words of those whose words are lost. Thank you for speaking the sounds that have been lost in the darkness. Thank you for showing us a little bit a light in a world that can be covered with darkness. Thank you for lending your voices to those that are trying to find theirs. For lending your strength to those that are struggling to regain theirs. Thank you for sending your hope and love to those that are trying so hard to find it. As a pansexual person trying so hard to convince people that what I identify as is not a phase, it is a relief to hear someone say for a change that it is okay for this to not be a phase. I have been told I’ll change out of this. I have been told I am just “easily influenced by those around me”. I have been told that what I feel for someone else isn’t love, but friendships that I am taking the wrong way, even when I know the way she makes me feel is more than friendship. When she smiles my world is lit up in ways I could never have imagined and despite the darkness of this world I see light. Her laughters is the sweetest sound in the universe and her features are beyond anything I have seen. Her personality, the things that drew me in, is one kinder than any other I have met and called “a friend” in many years. Yet, despite all this, some of the people I care about and love tell me my feelings for her are “influenced” or “a phase” or “friendship mistaken for more”. I know what... no... who I am, and to hear the words you spoke in this video makes me believe that I am okay to be who I am. I am okay to be pansexual. Liking that girl is not wrong, but who I am. So thank you. From those whose voices have been lost in the space we call our universe. From those whose bravery and hope has been smothered by the ashes of hate and war and injustice. From all those whom cannot yell for themselves because they are climbing through the dirt of hate and homophobic/transphobic people. Thank you
This is so moving!! Thank you so much for sharing your story!! You are such a brave and strong person, and by the way I saw and read your comment!😁😁😁😊😊❤💛💚💙💜
Luna at the Disco I am so happy and touched that you were moved by my story. I would not consider myself brave or strong. I’m just a girl that was moved by a poem someone else wrote, and I am just a girl that wanted to thank someone else for writing a poem that spoke about how I was feeling inside, but I am honoured to hear that you think I am brave and strong. Please, if you are ever feeling down or feeling like people don’t understand you, please don’t forget that you are amazing, brave and strong, and thank you again for the comment. It honestly made my day. Thank you for seeing and reading my comment. Long Days and Pleasant Nights.
This is a true work of art, im moved to tears! I've been going through a tough spot in my life and comments like these are the best thing that could happen to me me. I truly appreciate this. Thank you!❤❤❤
Nell O`Brien Oh my goodness! Thank you so much for saying that. It means so much to me to know my comment moved people. All I did was speak what I saw as the truth, but I am glad my truth was moving and that people see it as art. There is no need to say thank you, but thank you for writing such a lovely comment, and thank you for reading my comment. Thank you for seeing it. For noticing it and for taking the time to read my story. Thank you.
Thank you for writing this. Like everyone else, you moved me. It took me 8 years to come out of the closet because all through school I was hated for having a girl friend. When I was 16 I was told by who I thought was my best friend to try not being gay for a month and I'd probably feel better. After I kept hearing that I hid who I was for years. Subjecting myself to be " a normal girl" only to realize I can't hide who I truly am. I can't try and be what others think is normal. I don't want to be anything that I'm not. I want to be me. I came out to my parents and thankfully they grabbed me and hugged me and said we know and that they were both bi and to never be scared to tell them that kind of stuff. I finally told my friend and they accepted me for me. I finally told my best friend (not the same one in the beginning) who saved me from a man, and she wrapped her arms around me and said no matter what I got you. I want to say no matter who you are, no matter what your going through, I GOT YOU. I'm 23 and I'm proud to say I'm a lesbian.
My mom didn’t really tell me the exact words “it’s just a phase”. It’s more like “I don’t believe that. You know why? Because you always looked at the men in magazines at the hair salon when you were younger. Your generation just wants to be different.”
Random Unicorns I feel like that’s the worst part. It’s that they think it’s all some kind of joke. It devalues everything we had to work for to even convince ourselves that this is real and we are valid. Sadly they truly don’t take us seriously.
For most of us being straight was a phase though.
notsograceful For real though
Ikr
notsograceful
bi's and Pan's sometimes go back to that phase
@@flamethemaster2573 for disgusting gross people
this video highkey changed my life i am .. convinced i would not be who i am today if i had not watched this years ago
I came out to my parents and i thought it went well, but a couple days later they told me how its just a phase and all it will do is tear my family apart, how they will be ashamed of me if i fell in love.
This video really helps a lot. It gives me hope to know that no matter how many people disapprove of you, there will always be others who accept you with open arms.
you are not a phase, you’re you, and that’s amazing! if they can’t see that then they’re the only ones tearing anything apart
They are WRONG if they’re ashamed? Get a different family made of friends and companions if you are a minor study hard and get into a college that is far away from them so you can heal. Get with local organizations that can help
ok literally their voices together are amazing
When they talked together all I could think about demon voices from tv 😂 sorry ~ phase
+Emma thought the same
I know I'm not the only one
yup
Thank gosh I'm not the only one XD
SUPERNATURAL!!!!!
*I'm afraid if I write him one now, it'll sound too much like the suicide note that he did not leave*
This hit me so hard.
daniel zZZ it truly broke my heart
Well I cried so very hard. Thank you so much for this, I came out as pan to my mom and she still thinks it’s just a phase that I’m going through. It’s not.
Played this at my GSA’s meeting and it was met with tearful applause. Absolutely beautiful poem.