Yes!!! Getting flewed out is fairly new ! They wasn’t “flewing” out back in 1989 when I was 21. At best they were buying 2 for 1 drinks down to the club if you got in before 10 lol
Right lmao like what y’all upset bc YALL men not getting flewed out or something?? Lol I’m sure it’s some rich mf out here who like men that will fly you out girl!! 😆😆 purrrr suh!! Get yours! 😆
@@Cutiepie50021 No, it's men getting triggered. Studies have shown that women actually become more confident as they age. They often stop measuring they're worth based on whether or not they're married or have had any kids once they reach a certain age (typically north of 35). Of course, this may be more the case in Western nations. But yeah. The women who are getting triggered are usually those who have been told their entire lives that they have no value unless someone else wants to marry them. Thankfully, with each generation, we seem to move further and further away from that lie. Also, people still desiring women over 30 =/= people trying to get married.
Who kids grown?!?!??! I'm 40 with a 5,3,and 1 year old...starting later with my husband made our parenting more emotionally, mentally, and financially enjoyable so I'll take it...retirement is going to be fulfilling and lovely 😊
You did things the right way mom had my brother at 36 and me at 38 she had lived a life traveling and doing her thing so did my dad so when they got together at 31 they was super grown and confident in themselves and stayed together until my mom died 29 years later All my other friend parents were divorced by high school I guess it was too much working raising kids and growing up themselves it put a strain
@@reeboo43 yea we got to live and travel, go to therapy, got on a path to healing, deeper relationships with God, family and friends...I don't think I would have made it having kids younger cause I was a mess, no way i couldhave loved and carred for them well...there are still things we want to do and when we plan it we can make it happen, having littles put limits on us sometimes, but again I don't mind, we're plenty tired but we're having fun😊
I’m 35 with a daughter who will be 2 next month … Her father is 46! I’m so glad I didn’t have any children before 30!!! I was able to live and learn from my mistakes before bringing another human being into this world! My mental state wasn’t where it needed to be …… I tell her all the time that she changed my life … She doesn’t understand it now but when she gets older she def will ♥️🥰
@@juspebbles1106 feel you 1000%. There would definitely be a strain on mine and my kids relationship if I had them any sooner...and based on the guys I dealt with at the time we'd all be screwed
Right 😂. We had ours at 39, pushing 40, and she’s almost 3. Half the people in my circle didn’t even start having kids until after they turned 36. I know only a few people with “grown” kids at 37, and all of them started super early. These days a ton of folks aren’t starting parenthood until well after 30.
This, too. I'm amazed by what some of my peers do. Maybe I'm too cautious, but when I get offers to fly out or go on trips, I decline, because I don't know these people well enough. I'd rather go by myself or with friends.
I was flying myself around the country and then around the world starting at 18 in the 1990’s. I’m now 46 and when I had my child, just got another passport and she got to see the world too. I wasn’t rich. Just worked hard and spent money on what was important to me. Traveling was what I enjoyed. Still do. You’re never too old to find what you enjoy in life. And it’s even better on your own terms 🥰
@@taz9234 See, there are probably more of us than we know because we weren’t out here “bragging”. Just living life! Happy to hear your baby traveled too ☺️
Hats off to you! I did the same thing...I was way more settled to parent at 39 then I would have been earlier...living a good life even though the growing pains...
My mom and dad had five kids. First one at 22 and fifth at 39. Not planned that way, but they managed. I had one at nearly 31 and she gave us three grandchildren!
Agree... Life is fabulous. The children are older, sometimes grown. Your body still feels good, you don't need a babysitter. And that career is bringing in the coins that you need to travel and see the world
I don't get the whole life is better after a "specific age". 30s are 30s and the whole decade is a good time. Hell late 20s to me is more "30s" then 20s. Yeah I know number wise it's 20s obviously, but I'm talking mentality and outlook. At 27, you may be close in (number) age to someone who is 21, but mentality and outlook you won't be that far off than someone who is 37.
It depends. Anyone can hit hard times. Don't shame people because they are still trying to get there. Some people have hard ships that can set them back considerably.
I'm 40 with five kids and a husband so I'm pretty uhh...stationary at the moment. However I will sat that I am LOVING being 40. I feel like I've learned a TON of life lessons, I'm extremely secure in myself, and just really content and happy. 21 year old me was an insecure ball of anxiety. I'd take genuine contentment over attention from random men anyday!!
I embrace my 30s I know you what I like and what I don’t like very little patience I see this little teenyboppers act I did the whole hair dying phase getting older is a good thing
I'm 30, and I'm in the beginning stages of not being a ball of insecurities and anxiety... I'm definitely more comfortable in my own skin and I am loving my peace. I searched for alot of validation outside of myself in my early 20s, then had to heal myself from the trauma I endured from looking for validation outside of myself lol
I can relate, all of my successes have happened after 37. I’m guessing 40 will be even better. I also regularly get hit on by 18-21 year old dudes. I’m too lazy to get flewed out though.
Thirty seven was a great age. I probably looked about the best I ever had, the money was being made, the house had been bought, the bank had money in it, etc. Those were the days…. 😂😂😂 But seriously, there’s something that is freeing and peaceful about knowing who you are as a person, what you want in life and what you will/won’t put up with, and being settled and happy.
My Mom's fiance lives in another country and flew her out because he missed her, and didn't want the financial burden on her. Find someone who values you, period. My whole crew, just about, is over 37. And none of us would go back to our 20s, except maybe me. I wasn't nearly as bad as I could've been. 😂 The more people you bury in this life, the more you realize getting older is a blessing. Soak up as much joy as you can muster, and make saving a priority.
I would hope by 37 you know the strings that come attached with being “flewed out” lol… Even if I was single I wouldn’t have the patience to deal with that foolishness…. But to each their own! Be safe out there ladies!
Definitely laughing at "your kids are grown"...I'm almost 38 and now I'm ready for children. I traveled w/ my husband, bought my first home, earned my M.Ed, and now in my 2nd career. 🙌🏽 I definitely wasn't ready for children any earlier than now...😏
37 is NOT old. 🙄 A lot of women in their 20s, specifically women who think being flewed out is important seem not to realize their ass gonna be 37 too someday. If they make it there. Bless y'all. All I want when I'm 37 is exactly what I got now. Love, peace, and naps. 🤷🏽♀️
❤️❤️Girl, I agree. I just turned 40. I'm divorced and I swear I've never been happier... And you're right about not needing a babysitter and I can go as I please, because I'm a business owner. As far as children. I only had one. I'm good. Lol.. ( it's harder to find a babysitter when you have a lot of children) This video on point❤️❤️❤️
I don't know about being "flewed out" (I think I was in my thirties when I went on a plane for the first time), but live your life to the fullest.... one day I woke up and I was in my 50's and the next time I'm here now at 62 (just had a bday on the 13th) ready to embark on my next chapter. Turn the pages ladies and if necessary get a new book. Happy Bday to EJ and all the Leo's in the house!!!
@@divineapology818 It would be so much smarter if they flew themselves out,paid for their own accommodations instead of trying to get a free trip out of a stranger who may want repayment in blood or ass. My bag is the best bag .
Age is all about a mindset, you are only as old as you think you are. You are never too old to move your life in new directions it's all about how the person feels PERIOD
This is really good. I’m 29 now and feeling a little funny cause most people around me are having babies, buying houses and I feel like I’m not going at the same speed as them. I know I’m not supposed to compare myself to others, but I still do. It’s good to hear that things start to pay off as we get older.
I'm a Y millennial. First off, we didn't have the capacity to be meeting and talking to people in our twenties, unless we met on MySpace, and by the time we finish waiting for dial up, and getting kicked off the internet whenever a call came through, and messing around with 3G cellular , we didn't have time to create relationships meaningful enough to get flown out.
I’m 41 and I’m going out of the country for the first time to Fiji and then Mexico this month for business/pleasure trips. I own my business and fly myself. But my husband is coming too…I don’t want to have to talk to people and rent a car by myself. He takes care of me that way. But yeah, I’m just getting started!
I don't look 38, but I feel my age and then some 😂😭 I think it's just better to fly yourself (or with your loved one(s)) out than rely on a complete stranger that might harvest your organs after clubbing. Or that's just my middle-aged paranoia and hostel movie watchings talking lol
I am 49 and I have lived my best life so far in my 40s. Until you get there you won’t understand the way you process differently. I’m getting “flewed” out currently and if and when I decide to “flew” myself out I can do that too with no problem. Just keep living little mamma you will see. 😁
@@MsMockingbird06 absolutely! Y’all will really have the best time together. y daughter is 28 and she knows call first because mamma might be gone out of town. Lol
I agree with you! Younger people and ppl in general better wake up to the fact that everybody gets old and stop with the ageism mess. Some younger ppl like to say “she/he too old for that”. Soon they will be around that age too. Time flies like nobody’s business. I’m 35 and just got my PhD this year. You’re never too old to do what you want to do.
I'll be 35 next month and that's one thing I have stopped myself from accomplishing is education unfortunately. Even though I had kids no one really stopped me from pursuing but myself so congrats to you
I not buying my first home until around 43ish….I’m 40 still working on my degree…I’ve never been out the country….never travelled alone BUT….when I buy my first home at 43ish guess what, my youngest will be the last of the nest. My oldest is 18 already on her way to college. Im very blessed at how it worked out! I’ve heard from many women that the 40’s are the funnest most fulfilling time of a woman’s life, 🤗
Girl I'm subscribing toall these ambient channels on YT...rain & crackling fireplace, cozy coffee shop with snow...being flewed out can't beat dis here! I need my peace! 🤪
Who in the H E double hockey sticks think thirty anything is "too old"? We in our 50s and 60s are living our best lives ever and flying everywhere with whoever and whenever we want to... Wake up and keep on living you young puppies.... you will see if you are blessed enough to live long enough.
37 is oddly specific. I will say what my aunties use to say “ just keep on livin. “ If you are blessed to still be here living life, then live on your terms.
Society is backwards: how is that if a person dies at 37 you hear "Oh, they was so young!! Still had they life ahead of them!!" but if you are alive at 37 "You old, you too old to be..." Make it make sense.
I'm 37 and loving every moment. I'm aging so well that I'm looking forward to getting older just to measure how much more sexier I become😂. P.S. those young men stay watching.👀😆😆
This is funny, because the first time I was actually flown out, was when I was 35. He was a multi-millionaire in the finance industry, and he spoiled me for a couple years. Even I was surprised that this happened in my mid-30s, and not my 20s. However, with that said, most men DO prefer younger women, but once a woman matures and becomes more classy and reserved, she may attract more wealthy men. Some rich men do not like the drama and games that come with women in their 20s.
I’m 24 now and I can’t wait for my 30s lmao. Like I see the older women in my life LIV-ING and they inspire the hell outta me. Hell most of the BW I see even in these comments inspire me. It helps me to see older women thrive because it pushes against that misogynistic (and frankly very weird if you think about it too long) idea of youth being the end all be all for women. I’m excited to live a full life because it’s frfr an opportunity that some won’t get to experience.
I’m 37, so I clicked this right quick! My kids aren’t grown but as usual I agree with you on this Ms EJ. 💯 All you can guarantee at this age is that you have experience… you’ve lived alot of life but still have alot of life left to live!😊 Who am I to say no if someone wanted to fly me out? But yes my husband would need a ticket as well lol
I love seeing women without makeup. I’ve just always felt that if men can go around without wearing makeup and covering flaws, then so can I. This lady’s natural face looks really good.
EJ this was funny but was so sweet. I was one that got married at 24 and woke up at 37 sad and depressed. At 37 I got divorced and at 44 I am living my best life and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. Thanks for this💛
I'm a couple moons past 27 but accomplished a lot in my thirties in full gear of my career and family but 40 brought about a clarity a💡moment. I knew exactly how I was going to move going forward the people, the spaces, friendships, etc. without explaining or apologizing. But when you ask if I could go back to my 20's without what I know and have gained now. Hell to NOOOO because I really didn't know nothing just thought I did 😉
At age 37, why would someone desire or depend on “ballers” to fly them out rather than having a stable lifestyle to fly yourself or at least be in a committed relationship to vacation with your boyfriend or spouse? 🤷🏾♀️
No it's not to old. I actually felt more comfortable in my skin after that age while when I was in my twenties I was so awkward 😅! I just turned 50 this year and even though I have alot of things to improve on health wise I just feel blessed to still be here. Looking at the caption I kinda laughed. Two years ago was my first time flying so I might me old to some of these young women 😅.
The girl who felt the need to share that thought on Twitter will look back at herself one day and see just how foolish she is. I'm glad JT nicely put her in her place, at first I was thinking Jt said that shameful stuff.
Somebody tripping. 37 too old, really, I am in my 60s living and having a damn good life and the best is yet to come and so do I, if you get my meaning. And my kids give me money and buy me things. Ms EJ rocks!
Well let's see...I'm 46 and went on my first cruise at 42 (without help from anyone mind you). Since then I've been on a 2nd cruise, vacationed at a luxury resort in Cancun and am finally planning to become a first time homebuyer hopefully by the end of this year sooo...umm nope I'm not too old!
That's that "young girl" thinking 37 is too old for things like that. When they get their "Grown Woman" thinking then we can talk. I can't have a serious conversation with someone who still has breast milk on their breath. Cause girl, you're about to be 37 tomorrow!
Honey I'm 48 and been "flewed" out in and out the country. Difference is when you are over 40 you can probably pay for your own trip so you are selective with who you roll with. I have graciously declined trips based on who was doing the offering.
I just turned 57 and while I'm not interested in getting flewed out, I started a rebirth of my ENTIRE life and thought process, so it's NEVER too late until you're taking that final ride.
It's weird to me that there are people still trying to keep these antiquated tropes alive in an era where so many people in their 60s and 70s are living their best lives right now. And I'm not just talking about celebrities. Honey, if you feel your best days are behind when you turn 30, then you're living life wrong.
I think it’s archaic to put those sorts of limitations on women. Geez. What is flewed out? Someone paying for your vacation. I don’t think I’ll ever be to old for that 😂. God bless the 50 year olds getting flewed out.
Darlin’!!!! When a woman comes into her 30’s she starts to really live. At 37 I met a guy ( online) he flew me to California ( from NC) , Hawaii, Korea. That didn’t work ( I received some amazing parting gifts and swag along the way ) . I am kept in Chicago now on Lake Michigan ( at 56) I have no intentions on settling down. I did that mess in high school. I decided I wanted to travel, so I have and do!
Definitely agree with you and JT! Getting "flexed out" is a fairly new act and as someone who is probably the same age as you EJ meaning I'll be 40 in a hot 10 minutes. When I was dating in my late 20s between serious relationships, I think I got "flewed out" one time for a long weekend across the country but NEVER out of the country! Your 30s/late 30s in particular are great as you have learned more, are earning more money, and know yourself. As myself and my peers prepare to enter our 40s soon, the single friends are still going to be "flewed out" so mind your business 20-somethings that have issue with the aunties/pre-cougars being treated this way!
BEAUTIFUL👑 @ejspeaks....I'm 63 years soon 64 and ✈️FLY ✈️FLY ON✈️don't matter how you be flying, flew, flewed, flown out, you pay, he pay✈️✈️ JUST FLY🥳✈️
im 31 and a mom of three . i work for delta airlines before i started my job my youngest kids dad we was going places on his expensive and before they was born me and my oldest has been places via car plane and greyhound with passports. My family is from 🇹🇹 so im teaching my kids to live the best life when they need to while doing your career choce i love ya ej and all your videos !!!!!
So proud of EJ, I love this woman!!! Huge congratulations EJ and I concur… ain’t nobody too old for nothing… many things that I value today didn’t happen until after 40 for me, comparing to others is preparing for misery… we may do some things similarly but we are truly individuals.
No, lol if someone knows your age and doesn’t care and then offers to fly you out why shouldn’t you go? A free trip is a free trip. Just make sure you have enough to get back on your own if something happens
Congrats on your accomplishments 👏. 55 just started flew out. Got international friends. Been through so much just starting to live. Wish half the knowledge and vocabulary and assistance was available to me years ago. Y'all ahead of the game.
Yeah, “flewed out” is new, but if it was old I still don’t believe there is anything wrong with it. But, just make sure you also “flewed back” on the same ticket, AND have your fare home, you never know. 🤷🏾♀️
Hey ya'll 37 is not old you are just beginning to find yourself as a person a individual a human being i say keep it moving don't stop the music in Jesus name.
E.J. let's celebrate your milestones first! You're amazing and I'm so grateful you are thriving! Congratulations! So yeah, I'm 43, and dudes half my age have asked to "fly me out." I'm not sure they are on Twitter because they clearly didn't get the memo.
Also… being flewed out at 37 means there’s more of a chance you can afford to get back if necessary. Unlike that girl who was left stranded in your other video. Everyone likes to be wined and dined, there’s no age limit to that.
I’m 37 w/ 1 child and 4 grandchildren! I feel like you EJ! Perfect age to explore life independently if that’s your speed! Ive done solo trips, solo dates and everything . I enjoy me! 37 here and will fly MYSELF OUT ❤… it’s UP 🎉
As someone who is turning 37 next Saturday, I'm so happy to hear that it still acceptable for me to get flown out...whew 🤣🤣🤣. But seriously, age is nothing but a number. You do whatever YOU feel like doing. I always say, society doesn't make rules for me 😁. Enjoy life.
It was the " hips added" to me. I'm hollering 🤣🤣. Nothing wrong with woman of a more mature age being "flewed" out. As long as she can get herself home if shit goes sideways IJS 🤷🏾♀️.
How about we stop to congratulate Ms. E.J for writing for the BET awards and TPH that's what's up. 👏
Ikr!!! So awesome! I didn't know that
Yasss flowers girl
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Congrats 🎊🎈🍾🎉
YASSSSS!!!! I’m so happy for her!!!
My momma always told me "don't go nowhere you can't afford to get home from"
Wise woman!! 😂
I love that one! Imma steal that!!!
Same here.
Exactly and its what I taught my daughter. 💯
Right
Never let ageism stop you from living your life.
Totally agree. I just turned 40 in June. I didn't really start living until about 3 years ago. I have accomplished so much in my late 30's
@ Taisha Mack That part!! 🗣💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
True statement
I’ll be 42 in December. I SO needed this!
Yes!!!Priceless advice!!!
You are never too old to be treated like the prize you are.
THIS!
Thank you for catching that part 🥰✨
Yes!!!!
This sounds the opposite of being treated like a prize. It sounds like being treated like a call girl.
Yes!!! Getting flewed out is fairly new ! They wasn’t “flewing” out back in 1989 when I was 21. At best they were buying 2 for 1 drinks down to the club if you got in before 10 lol
THIS!!!!
LOL!!
Yep!😄
I was 21 in 1991 and nobody was getting flew out then either and you might get a free drink at the club only on ladies night 😂
They were flying out in the 90s. Trust me
Insecure men getting triggered about women still being desired after 30 will never not be funny to me. Flip your hair and keep it pushing ladies.
Right lmao like what y’all upset bc YALL men not getting flewed out or something?? Lol I’m sure it’s some rich mf out here who like men that will fly you out girl!! 😆😆 purrrr suh!! Get yours! 😆
I don’t think men are triggered. I think we are 😂 I mean biologically and historically after 30 women have a harder time getting married
@@Cutiepie50021 and who is responsible for that social construction?
Insecure men trying to control the terms of women’s desirability to others.
@@Cutiepie50021 No, it's men getting triggered. Studies have shown that women actually become more confident as they age. They often stop measuring they're worth based on whether or not they're married or have had any kids once they reach a certain age (typically north of 35). Of course, this may be more the case in Western nations.
But yeah. The women who are getting triggered are usually those who have been told their entire lives that they have no value unless someone else wants to marry them. Thankfully, with each generation, we seem to move further and further away from that lie.
Also, people still desiring women over 30 =/= people trying to get married.
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Who kids grown?!?!??! I'm 40 with a 5,3,and 1 year old...starting later with my husband made our parenting more emotionally, mentally, and financially enjoyable so I'll take it...retirement is going to be fulfilling and lovely 😊
You did things the right way mom had my brother at 36 and me at 38 she had lived a life traveling and doing her thing so did my dad so when they got together at 31 they was super grown and confident in themselves and stayed together until my mom died 29 years later
All my other friend parents were divorced by high school I guess it was too much working raising kids and growing up themselves it put a strain
@@reeboo43 yea we got to live and travel, go to therapy, got on a path to healing, deeper relationships with God, family and friends...I don't think I would have made it having kids younger cause I was a mess, no way i couldhave loved and carred for them well...there are still things we want to do and when we plan it we can make it happen, having littles put limits on us sometimes, but again I don't mind, we're plenty tired but we're having fun😊
I’m 35 with a daughter who will be 2 next month … Her father is 46! I’m so glad I didn’t have any children before 30!!! I was able to live and learn from my mistakes before bringing another human being into this world! My mental state wasn’t where it needed to be ……
I tell her all the time that she changed my life … She doesn’t understand it now but when she gets older she def will ♥️🥰
@@juspebbles1106 feel you 1000%. There would definitely be a strain on mine and my kids relationship if I had them any sooner...and based on the guys I dealt with at the time we'd all be screwed
Right 😂. We had ours at 39, pushing 40, and she’s almost 3. Half the people in my circle didn’t even start having kids until after they turned 36. I know only a few people with “grown” kids at 37, and all of them started super early. These days a ton of folks aren’t starting parenthood until well after 30.
I'd rather " flew" my own self out than trust my safety and well being to a person I barely know👍
@ Deborah Sparks Same here ma’am 👍🏾👌🏾
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This, too. I'm amazed by what some of my peers do. Maybe I'm too cautious, but when I get offers to fly out or go on trips, I decline, because I don't know these people well enough. I'd rather go by myself or with friends.
Straight facts!
Right? And a dude who's probably trying to exploit you no less. No thanks!
First of all NO, the ageism in society is ridiculous
Honestly, that tweet sounded like somebody's mad their potential sugar daddy chose someone close to his own age.
I was flying myself around the country and then around the world starting at 18 in the 1990’s. I’m now 46 and when I had my child, just got another passport and she got to see the world too. I wasn’t rich. Just worked hard and spent money on what was important to me. Traveling was what I enjoyed. Still do. You’re never too old to find what you enjoy in life. And it’s even better on your own terms 🥰
Exactly! My child got a passport and has flown to more countries than adults.
Love this.
I am for this👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
@@taz9234 See, there are probably more of us than we know because we weren’t out here “bragging”. Just living life! Happy to hear your baby traveled too ☺️
My child has her passport and we travel together also. I’m searching for our first international spot.
Had to laugh at "your kids are grown!" I had my one and only at 39. Traveled up to that point, now we travel together. ✈️
Hats off to you! I did the same thing...I was way more settled to parent at 39 then I would have been earlier...living a good life even though the growing pains...
My daughter was and still is my favorite traveling companion.
My mom and dad had five kids. First one at 22 and fifth at 39. Not planned that way, but they managed. I had one at nearly 31 and she gave us three grandchildren!
Same and same!
Awesome!
In what world is 37 old? Life is good after 35.
Agree... Life is fabulous. The children are older, sometimes grown. Your body still feels good, you don't need a babysitter. And that career is bringing in the coins that you need to travel and see the world
I can’t comprehend people thinking that “old” is some time in your 30s. A lot of young folks today are straight tripping.
37 ain't old but I ain't getting "flewd out" either
Had my only child, son at 37. He is not grown yet.
I don't get the whole life is better after a "specific age". 30s are 30s and the whole decade is a good time. Hell late 20s to me is more "30s" then 20s. Yeah I know number wise it's 20s obviously, but I'm talking mentality and outlook. At 27, you may be close in (number) age to someone who is 21, but mentality and outlook you won't be that far off than someone who is 37.
37 definitely is not old in fact 47 is not really old nowadays. However after 30 you should be able to cover any trip you want to take on your own.
EXACTLY. If you have no man to treat you at ANY age, you can always treat yourself.
@@BooDotBoo amen to that.
It depends. Anyone can hit hard times. Don't shame people because they are still trying to get there. Some people have hard ships that can set them back considerably.
I'm 40 with five kids and a husband so I'm pretty uhh...stationary at the moment. However I will sat that I am LOVING being 40. I feel like I've learned a TON of life lessons, I'm extremely secure in myself, and just really content and happy. 21 year old me was an insecure ball of anxiety. I'd take genuine contentment over attention from random men anyday!!
Very well said
I'm 40 and happier with myself now than ever. I am healthy, confident, and still look like I am 21.
I embrace my 30s I know you what I like and what I don’t like very little patience I see this little teenyboppers act I did the whole hair dying phase getting older is a good thing
It’s called denial.
I'm 30, and I'm in the beginning stages of not being a ball of insecurities and anxiety...
I'm definitely more comfortable in my own skin and I am loving my peace.
I searched for alot of validation outside of myself in my early 20s, then had to heal myself from the trauma I endured from looking for validation outside of myself lol
I can relate, all of my successes have happened after 37. I’m guessing 40 will be even better. I also regularly get hit on by 18-21 year old dudes. I’m too lazy to get flewed out though.
I got hit on by a 25 year old last week, I felt sexy asf for a second.
@Lost years 30-35 were HARD AF life lessons for me. You got this, and God will bless your diligence! You will get to where you can flourish!!
Too lazy to get flewed out. 😄😆
@@casandratappin6349 needed this 💜 thank you 💕
Y’all giving me hope! 35 in 2 weeks n it’s been a doozy!! 😳😳
Thirty seven was a great age. I probably looked about the best I ever had, the money was being made, the house had been bought, the bank had money in it, etc. Those were the days…. 😂😂😂 But seriously, there’s something that is freeing and peaceful about knowing who you are as a person, what you want in life and what you will/won’t put up with, and being settled and happy.
I love this❤️
This RIGHT Here💯💯
yassss!!!!! I with u on that!
My Mom's fiance lives in another country and flew her out because he missed her, and didn't want the financial burden on her. Find someone who values you, period.
My whole crew, just about, is over 37. And none of us would go back to our 20s, except maybe me. I wasn't nearly as bad as I could've been. 😂 The more people you bury in this life, the more you realize getting older is a blessing. Soak up as much joy as you can muster, and make saving a priority.
I would hope by 37 you know the strings that come attached with being “flewed out” lol… Even if I was single I wouldn’t have the patience to deal with that foolishness…. But to each their own! Be safe out there ladies!
Exactly.
Exactly I just made a comment! Getting flown out comes with a price!
Right , getting forward out ain’t free.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 couldn't agree more
If ur 37 and a guy is flying you out, I hope YOU are ready to be his wife or one of his wives 😂🤷♂️💯 What's It Gone Be?
Definitely laughing at "your kids are grown"...I'm almost 38 and now I'm ready for children. I traveled w/ my husband, bought my first home, earned my M.Ed, and now in my 2nd career. 🙌🏽 I definitely wasn't ready for children any earlier than now...😏
37 is PRIME TIME!!!
Preach!
PRIME, SIS!
37 is NOT old. 🙄
A lot of women in their 20s, specifically women who think being flewed out is important seem not to realize their ass gonna be 37 too someday. If they make it there. Bless y'all.
All I want when I'm 37 is exactly what I got now. Love, peace, and naps. 🤷🏽♀️
I miss naps!
I’m 31. Still don’t feel like I’ve accomplished everything I want. This was so insightful. Thank you EJ.
❤️❤️Girl, I agree. I just turned 40. I'm divorced and I swear I've never been happier... And you're right about not needing a babysitter and I can go as I please, because I'm a business owner.
As far as children. I only had one. I'm good. Lol.. ( it's harder to find a babysitter when you have a lot of children)
This video on point❤️❤️❤️
I got divorced at 38, couldn't be happier, being single, and "flew" myself and my kids out!!!!
I don't know about being "flewed out" (I think I was in my thirties when I went on a plane for the first time), but live your life to the fullest.... one day I woke up and I was in my 50's and the next time I'm here now at 62 (just had a bday on the 13th) ready to embark on my next chapter. Turn the pages ladies and if necessary get a new book. Happy Bday to EJ and all the Leo's in the house!!!
Belated birthday greetings to you 🎉🎉🎉💐💐
Ma'am how come I read that as you just had a baby on the 13th and not bday?
Lol.
Lol everybody... sorry for the confusion. Thanks for the birthday wishes but at 62 no babies here lol🤣🤣🤣🤣
I agree!! I will be 34 next month and I have done so much more and learned more in my 30s than I EVVVVVAAAA DID.. in my 20s 🙌🏾
I’m 35 and I’m totally open to the thought of getting flewed out 😅😂 But ima be sure to have my own money .. JUST IN CASE 🤷🏽♀️
See. You're a smart woman! Because sometimes those girls get flown out, the guy gets made, then they are STUCK!
@@AllThingsNella Flown out? They're getting stuck at restaurants these days, lol.
Yes ma'am
Smart woman 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@@divineapology818 It would be so much smarter if they flew themselves out,paid for their own accommodations instead of trying to get a free trip out of a stranger who may want repayment in blood or ass. My bag is the best bag .
Age is all about a mindset, you are only as old as you think you are. You are never too old to move your life in new directions it's all about how the person feels PERIOD
This is really good. I’m 29 now and feeling a little funny cause most people around me are having babies, buying houses and I feel like I’m not going at the same speed as them. I know I’m not supposed to compare myself to others, but I still do. It’s good to hear that things start to pay off as we get older.
Same sis same
that is if you find a good job and manage you money well
Same here
I'm a Y millennial. First off, we didn't have the capacity to be meeting and talking to people in our twenties, unless we met on MySpace, and by the time we finish waiting for dial up, and getting kicked off the internet whenever a call came through, and messing around with 3G cellular , we didn't have time to create relationships meaningful enough to get flown out.
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Don’t forget about them chat rooms. Going to another county was a long distance situation 😂😂😂
Exactly!
LMAO 🤣🤣 don't forget meeting people on Black Planet!!!
I’m 41 and I’m going out of the country for the first time to Fiji and then Mexico this month for business/pleasure trips. I own my business and fly myself. But my husband is coming too…I don’t want to have to talk to people and rent a car by myself. He takes care of me that way. But yeah, I’m just getting started!
I turn 37 on the 22nd and I am living my best life!
I don't look 38, but I feel my age and then some 😂😭 I think it's just better to fly yourself (or with your loved one(s)) out than rely on a complete stranger that might harvest your organs after clubbing. Or that's just my middle-aged paranoia and hostel movie watchings talking lol
No your RIGHT!!! these girls don't be thinking, we in wayyyyy mire desperate times right now!!!
I am 49 and I have lived my best life so far in my 40s. Until you get there you won’t understand the way you process differently. I’m getting “flewed” out currently and if and when I decide to “flew” myself out I can do that too with no problem. Just keep living little mamma you will see. 😁
I’m excited for my 40s. The kids will be nearly grown and I’ll have the freedom to do whatever, whenever with my husband 😁
@@MsMockingbird06 absolutely! Y’all will really have the best time together. y daughter is 28 and she knows call first because mamma might be gone out of town. Lol
Yes!!
I agree with you! Younger people and ppl in general better wake up to the fact that everybody gets old and stop with the ageism mess. Some younger ppl like to say “she/he too old for that”. Soon they will be around that age too. Time flies like nobody’s business. I’m 35 and just got my PhD this year. You’re never too old to do what you want to do.
Congratulations, Dr.! 🎈👏💕
Welcome to the 1%, Doc. PhD (03).
Congratulations Sis...I am so proud of you!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I'll be 35 next month and that's one thing I have stopped myself from accomplishing is education unfortunately. Even though I had kids no one really stopped me from pursuing but myself so congrats to you
Congratulations! I'm trying to love myself back to school to get mine. Thank you for the inspiration.
She out here talking bout “the kids are grown” at 37 and me and half my peers didn’t even start having kids until our LATE 30s 😂.
I not buying my first home until around 43ish….I’m 40 still working on my degree…I’ve never been out the country….never travelled alone BUT….when I buy my first home at 43ish guess what, my youngest will be the last of the nest. My oldest is 18 already on her way to college. Im very blessed at how it worked out! I’ve heard from many women that the 40’s are the funnest most fulfilling time of a woman’s life, 🤗
Girl I'm subscribing toall these ambient channels on YT...rain & crackling fireplace, cozy coffee shop with snow...being flewed out can't beat dis here! I need my peace! 🤪
It’s the specificity that gets me. Not 35, not 40. 37 to be exact!👆🏾
Who in the H E double hockey sticks think thirty anything is "too old"?
We in our 50s and 60s are living our best lives ever and flying everywhere with whoever and whenever we want to...
Wake up and keep on living you young puppies.... you will see if you are blessed enough to live long enough.
37 is oddly specific. I will say what my aunties use to say “ just keep on livin. “ If you are blessed to still be here living life, then live on your terms.
Society is backwards: how is that if a person dies at 37 you hear "Oh, they was so young!! Still had they life ahead of them!!" but if you are alive at 37 "You old, you too old to be..." Make it make sense.
I’m 41 and living my best life💃🏾🔥🍷💰🎊
They use ALL their PTO. Yessssss🙌🏾
😳🤣🤣🤣 I don't give a d*** if I'm 67! If someone wants to fly me out... I'M GOING!!! I'M HOLLIN RIGHT NOW🤣🤣🤣 🛫✈️✈️
Okaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay 😘🙃🙌🏾🤗
I actually agree because at 67 why tf not. I plan on taking up drinking at that age. I want to be a drunk old lady.
@@Ruby0465 yyyyaaaaasssssss girl❤️
@@opulence_prime lol. A drink old lady, that can still get flewed TF out!!!! 💯💯💯
2:45 “As you age, you grow wiser!” 🙏
I love you soooooo much EJ!!! You are hilarious, yet deep, and you have an amazing pulse on our culture. Thank you, Sis.
I'm 37 and loving every moment. I'm aging so well that I'm looking forward to getting older just to measure how much more sexier I become😂. P.S. those young men stay watching.👀😆😆
And when you're in your 40s you don't even worry about these folks talking out the side of their necks. 💅🏾
I needed this message…at 37 I’m feeling kinda old. Thank you! Been doing the most flying I’ve done in years.
Shouldn't feel that way. 37 isn't old by any means
This is funny, because the first time I was actually flown out, was when I was 35. He was a multi-millionaire in the finance industry, and he spoiled me for a couple years. Even I was surprised that this happened in my mid-30s, and not my 20s. However, with that said, most men DO prefer younger women, but once a woman matures and becomes more classy and reserved, she may attract more wealthy men. Some rich men do not like the drama and games that come with women in their 20s.
Somebody gave you the key. When a single man gets his paper up he also wants to upgrade his lady. She’s too young if she’ll still do it in the car.
I’m turning 37 in a couple of days… I’m looking forward to more success, I don’t know about getting flewed out though😂thanks for giving me hope E.J.
I’m 24 now and I can’t wait for my 30s lmao. Like I see the older women in my life LIV-ING and they inspire the hell outta me. Hell most of the BW I see even in these comments inspire me. It helps me to see older women thrive because it pushes against that misogynistic (and frankly very weird if you think about it too long) idea of youth being the end all be all for women. I’m excited to live a full life because it’s frfr an opportunity that some won’t get to experience.
I’m 37, so I clicked this right quick!
My kids aren’t grown but as usual I agree with you on this Ms EJ. 💯 All you can guarantee at this age is that you have experience… you’ve lived alot of life but still have alot of life left to live!😊 Who am I to say no if someone wanted to fly me out? But yes my husband would need a ticket as well lol
I love seeing women without makeup. I’ve just always felt that if men can go around without wearing makeup and covering flaws, then so can I. This lady’s natural face looks really good.
37 ain't too old it's right on time! 🙏🏾🙌🏽🤲🏾🛫🌍
If no one is willing to judge old men from flewing barely legal women out, I don't see why age needs to come into play when talking about women.
You literally JUST judged them, and lots of other women do too; y'all just get ignored by the City Girl types who'll do anything for some cash.
EJ this was funny but was so sweet. I was one that got married at 24 and woke up at 37 sad and depressed. At 37 I got divorced and at 44 I am living my best life and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. Thanks for this💛
I'm a couple moons past 27 but accomplished a lot in my thirties in full gear of my career and family but 40 brought about a clarity a💡moment. I knew exactly how I was going to move going forward the people, the spaces, friendships, etc. without explaining or apologizing. But when you ask if I could go back to my 20's without what I know and have gained now. Hell to NOOOO because I really didn't know nothing just thought I did 😉
Congratulations to you EJ. Glory to God - you have accomplished many great things. May the Lord God Almighty continue to bless you and yours!
At age 37, why would someone desire or depend on “ballers” to fly them out rather than having a stable lifestyle to fly yourself or at least be in a committed relationship to vacation with your boyfriend or spouse? 🤷🏾♀️
PREACH!!!!
No it's not to old. I actually felt more comfortable in my skin after that age while when I was in my twenties I was so awkward 😅! I just turned 50 this year and even though I have alot of things to improve on health wise I just feel blessed to still be here.
Looking at the caption I kinda laughed. Two years ago was my first time flying so I might me old to some of these young women 😅.
The girl who felt the need to share that thought on Twitter will look back at herself one day and see just how foolish she is.
I'm glad JT nicely put her in her place, at first I was thinking Jt said that shameful stuff.
Somebody tripping. 37 too old, really, I am in my 60s living and having a damn good life and the best is yet to come and so do I, if you get my meaning. And my kids give me money and buy me things. Ms EJ rocks!
Well let's see...I'm 46 and went on my first cruise at 42 (without help from anyone mind you). Since then I've been on a 2nd cruise, vacationed at a luxury resort in Cancun and am finally planning to become a first time homebuyer hopefully by the end of this year sooo...umm nope I'm not too old!
That's that "young girl" thinking 37 is too old for things like that. When they get their "Grown Woman" thinking then we can talk. I can't have a serious conversation with someone who still has breast milk on their breath. Cause girl, you're about to be 37 tomorrow!
Congrats to you EJ on your growing career and success! Getting flewed out is for any age if somebody want you there.
Honey I'm 48 and been "flewed" out in and out the country. Difference is when you are over 40 you can probably pay for your own trip so you are selective with who you roll with. I have graciously declined trips based on who was doing the offering.
Congrats Ms. Ej! So proud of you my sister ❤️
I just turned 57 and while I'm not interested in getting flewed out, I started a rebirth of my ENTIRE life and thought process, so it's NEVER too late until you're taking that final ride.
It's weird to me that there are people still trying to keep these antiquated tropes alive in an era where so many people in their 60s and 70s are living their best lives right now. And I'm not just talking about celebrities.
Honey, if you feel your best days are behind when you turn 30, then you're living life wrong.
I agree! And you go girl! I'll be 37 a few years from now, so this was inspirational!!!
I think it’s archaic to put those sorts of limitations on women. Geez. What is flewed out? Someone paying for your vacation. I don’t think I’ll ever be to old for that 😂. God bless the 50 year olds getting flewed out.
That last part!💯😄⚜️
@@ivyteacherwilson I hope my mama gets flewed out 😂
Girl u got me wanting to do a sleek ponytail. My curls are jealous right now. I love you. ❤
Darlin’!!!! When a woman comes into her 30’s she starts to really live. At 37 I met a guy ( online) he flew me to California ( from NC) , Hawaii, Korea. That didn’t work ( I received some amazing parting gifts and swag along the way ) . I am kept in Chicago now on Lake Michigan ( at 56) I have no intentions on settling down. I did that mess in high school. I decided I wanted to travel, so I have and do!
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I love watching and listening to EJ! She is awesome! 👍🏻❤️
37 is too old to be using the “term” flewed out! 😂
EJ you’re awesome and congratulations on your accolades 🙌🏽
Good positivity EJ!!! Thanks for your light 💡😘
Definitely agree with you and JT! Getting "flexed out" is a fairly new act and as someone who is probably the same age as you EJ meaning I'll be 40 in a hot 10 minutes. When I was dating in my late 20s between serious relationships, I think I got "flewed out" one time for a long weekend across the country but NEVER out of the country! Your 30s/late 30s in particular are great as you have learned more, are earning more money, and know yourself. As myself and my peers prepare to enter our 40s soon, the single friends are still going to be "flewed out" so mind your business 20-somethings that have issue with the aunties/pre-cougars being treated this way!
Wow! That’s honestly inspiring that you opened up about your testimony on your major accomplishments at 37.. truly inspiring and motivating!
"Oh umm, ion want dis"🤣🤣🤣😭 so accurate
BEAUTIFUL👑 @ejspeaks....I'm 63 years soon 64 and ✈️FLY ✈️FLY ON✈️don't matter how you be flying, flew, flewed, flown out, you pay, he pay✈️✈️ JUST FLY🥳✈️
You're Never too old to get flewd out. Everything depends on the Flewer and the Flewee 😁✌🏾💖
im 31 and a mom of three . i work for delta airlines before i started my job my youngest kids dad we was going places on his expensive and before they was born me and my oldest has been places via car plane and greyhound with passports. My family is from 🇹🇹 so im teaching my kids to live the best life when they need to while doing your career choce i love ya ej and all your videos !!!!!
You are as always, absolutely right, Ej!!
So proud of EJ, I love this woman!!! Huge congratulations EJ and I concur… ain’t nobody too old for nothing… many things that I value today didn’t happen until after 40 for me, comparing to others is preparing for misery… we may do some things similarly but we are truly individuals.
No, lol if someone knows your age and doesn’t care and then offers to fly you out why shouldn’t you go? A free trip is a free trip. Just make sure you have enough to get back on your own if something happens
Congrats on your accomplishments 👏. 55 just started flew out. Got international friends. Been through so much just starting to live. Wish half the knowledge and vocabulary and assistance was available to me years ago. Y'all ahead of the game.
Yeah, “flewed out” is new, but if it was old I still don’t believe there is anything wrong with it. But, just make sure you also “flewed back” on the same ticket, AND have your fare home, you never know. 🤷🏾♀️
Congrats on all your success, EJ! you have such an amazing story!
Team braces after 37!! 16 more months to go! ✝️🙌🏾
i'm 41 and they are still trying it. thank you!
Flewed out! 😝😆🤣😂 37 ain’t old. When you hit 61, then yeah. I’m 61. 🤷🏾♀️
And that isn't even old nowadays.
Society really thinks anyone above 21 is old. SMH.
Hey ya'll 37 is not old you are just beginning to find yourself as a person a individual a human being i say keep it moving don't stop the music in Jesus name.
E.J. let's celebrate your milestones first! You're amazing and I'm so grateful you are thriving! Congratulations!
So yeah, I'm 43, and dudes half my age have asked to "fly me out." I'm not sure they are on Twitter because they clearly didn't get the memo.
Also… being flewed out at 37 means there’s more of a chance you can afford to get back if necessary. Unlike that girl who was left stranded in your other video. Everyone likes to be wined and dined, there’s no age limit to that.
I’m 37 w/ 1 child and 4 grandchildren! I feel like you EJ! Perfect age to explore life independently if that’s your speed! Ive done solo trips, solo dates and everything . I enjoy me! 37 here and will fly MYSELF OUT ❤… it’s UP 🎉
As someone who is turning 37 next Saturday, I'm so happy to hear that it still acceptable for me to get flown out...whew 🤣🤣🤣.
But seriously, age is nothing but a number. You do whatever YOU feel like doing. I always say, society doesn't make rules for me 😁. Enjoy life.
Happy early birthday 🥳!!!
@@thevirgowayford124 thank you 😊
Welcome to 37 boo. It's fun up here 💋
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Congratulations on all your accomplishments!!!
It was the " hips added" to me. I'm hollering 🤣🤣. Nothing wrong with woman of a more mature age being "flewed" out. As long as she can get herself home if shit goes sideways IJS 🤷🏾♀️.