First, I love that you didn’t edit out when the sprinklers went off! It’s a great reminder that we’re all living real life and it’s how we perceive and deal with things that matter. 2nd, I love this video, very timely for me in dealing with my son. He struggles with anxiety and as a result, OCD, both now severe as a consequence of the lockdowns. This filtering truly becomes a self fulfilling ritual as the more you notice the negative, the more you only notice the negative! Our brains try to prove what we think is true, so it seeks out proof of our thoughts, negative or positive. Thank you for the tips.
As an old saying goes: "we see the world not as it is, but as we are"... when we influence the way we are a bit, we can see most things in a brighter light!
@@HarmonyShoal And then there is Heisenbergs uncertainty principle that proved that you cannot see the world as it truly is, since the process of measuring changes it
@@HarmonyShoal it's all what perceptional lense you are looking through. Everyone's realities are different. Some are similar for ex 2020 has been a life changing year. This channel is not about put downs. It's about helping others and the community can help each other in the comments. Thank you for your insight. May you be safe, may you be kind, may you live with ease and may you give and receive love freely....have a wonderful rest of you day/night!!!!!!
Im super grateful for this channel. This is a much safer way to start my day rather than jumping into news and coffee. Thank you Emma for all of your work on this channel.
When your feeling depressed you cannot see any good in anything and you feel so alone and unwanted i know i suffer with it. If I'm feeling ok then nothing much gets me down, but if i am feeling down the world seems to be against me.
Yeah, I hear that, it can be so hard when you're feeling down. I feel like it just helps me to fight it a little by challenging my thoughts, then the lows aren't so low.
@@TherapyinaNutshell Its a horrible dark place to be in and nothing fills you with joy or hope. Maybe my depression has been bad i found menopause brought mine on really bad, and had to go on antidepressants.
One day I felt like that and I called my counselor and he said to me the following. "Yes, I hear you. Did you know that it's normal to have those feelings" I said what? It's not good and he said "Well, if you didn't feel this way after a down moment in life, then you wouldn't be normal" "it's ok to feel down or sad or depressed sometimes in our lives, it's what we do about it that defines who we are". So now, I embrace those moments and try to take my time to deal with my feelings and then, write down everything positive I can think of and move on. We can't change others and we can't change our circumstances sometimes, but we can change ourselves. We can do something about our own mind. Hope it helps. It helped me sooooo much!
Someone gave me a key that made my gratitude practice exponentially more powerful. First, actually sit with the feeling of gratitude; let it make you warm inside. Then, write it down; because somehow, that makes it more real. Lastly, write down WHY you experienced that good thing; "because I asked!" Or, "just because she loves me." Or "because I stuck to it!" This is empowering! And it creates an association for future choices, too. Being happy is much easier when we're grateful :-)
Thank you for the video. I found your garden to be very peaceful. One of the hidden benefits of social distancing is everyone gets to enjoy and share their comfortable spaces more. 🧡
1.first notice that you are doing it 2.try to see what function it serves for you. 3. take a deep breath, slow down 4. counteract that mental filter by expanding your view. Other suggestions.. Gratitude Sit with complements or success Just hold into complements as you hold negative things Counter negative thoughts by positive thoughts. Practice yourself to see both sides of the story. Take a bigger perspective.. Is this thing would still matter in the 5 next year if not so don't sweat the small stuff.
Recently I heard regarding daily gratitude...be thankful for something that didn’t happen. This was huge for me as I play through a ton of “what if’s”, so I have plenty to be thankful for when I think about what didn’t happen!
Thank you so much for another awesome and extremely helpful video!! I was raised by parents who did this negative mental filtering, and all of their children adopted this way of viewing life as always negative and threatening. My parents always only saw the negative in every single situation. They always pointed out the downside of a situation or the flaws in a person, never the positive. It became ingrained in the children and a habit and way of life. Needless to say, each child as an adult suffers severe depression and anxiety. A vicious cycle that we have each worked hard to understand and overcome. I greatly appreciate this video and it has caused me to pause and re-evaluate how I see the world. A hard habit to break when it has been ingrained for a lifetime and now I am 60 years old! I'm going to keep working on it though. As Wayne Dyer said, "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."
This homespun vid is uplifting and gets an extra shot of serendipity when the sprinklers turn on! Bllaahaahaa But truly, this channel and its delightful host very helpful!
I love how you unintended show how you can react to things. The sprinklers go off and instead of getting mad or anxious, you laugh at yourself and seek a dry spot to sit.
I had to pause a little over three minutes here and comment on your “gain some perspective” bit. This exact thought gets me out of my mental filtering sometimes. I actually didn’t have running water, electricity, or any “normal” luxuries until I was 18. So at least I have that in my back pocket. It’s also fun to bring up with the kids when they start complaining about the most unimportant things... “when I was a kid...” I have stories.
When I am depressed even the world, the sky and the trees I see change. Like they have less color, they are more gray. But when I feel happy even the sunshine or the smells of the leaves feel more solid.
where were you in my life? wait probably helping someone else, being busy with family life, on the other side of the world, swimming, unavailable.........im gonna try these methods you are truly opening my mind slowly lol with every video!!!
My 8th grade English Class spelling bee word was RIDICULOUS. I was focusing on remembering RIDICU and confidently finished with OUS. I was so, extremely proud until the teacher said I'd forgotten the L. Pointing out my errors infront of a group is a big PTSD & negative mental trigger for me. Searching for a video on his to understand and change my way of thinking, and then finding one of your videos, have lead me to indulged in your playlists and videos. Thank you so much for being you 😊
Thank you for this video on mental filtering, I am italian and I live in Italy. I follow your videos because I suffer from OCD and depression since I was 19 and now I am 52. I found this video very helpful for me, have a great day🙂
Really motivating. I often get overwhelmed challenging my thoughts. I then take a break because I get to in my head. I will definitely take your advice and keep doing it. Thank you!
I love your transparency A N D the combination of your knowledge base and delivery. It shows when someone really knows their stuff when things happen that would derail most don't even make you skip a beat. Kudos all around.
I have listened to several therapist online but you are best you are a natural breaking down everthing so simple plus you look like you genuinely care about peiple putting out all your hard work without asking for anything back. Keep up the good work and may Jehovah bless your sweet soul and family with good health and lengthy days.
This is so so true. I can especially relate with the bar exam. Can remember 8-10 very distinct questions I thought I got wrong but couldn’t remember the other 2 days of the exam.
Thanks for the video. I overthink and keep filtering my reality for the worst. Im taking madication for anxiety and depression. I'm so hard on me that I feel a lot of stress and weight on me while writing this, already judging/minimazing myself for what Im tapying, like its not good enough, it takes a lot of energy. Its a strugle. Your videos and tips had helped me a lot. Thanks again for the video! It helps to add this: sorry for the grammar mistakes if any. Ill try not to read the thing again and again (already did) and keep hammering myself about it. Have a nice day! :D
I’m in a similar situation and it’s torture. It’s so hard being self aware, yet felling like in unable or incapable of change. I put people on a pedestal and minimize everything I do. I hate it. Life would be so much easier if I didn’t think this way. Even just watching this video and listening to all the techniques she suggests is a pain. I do them all at once for a day then forget about them and continue to stew in my misery.
I am so thankful for your videos during this extra rough time. My husband made a similar comment this week about us living like kings. Thank you for your time and sharing it with all us strangers on the internet. And your rosemary is stunning.
This is definitely something I've struggled with and still do, to some degree. That quote at the end reminded me of how my boss always had that in her email signature and it really is true. Also I love the fact that you left the sprinkler moment in the video, it brought a much needed chuckle to my day.
I’ve been struggling with gastritis & it’s been really taking a toll not on my physical health but my mental health & your videos have helped me more than you know ❤️🥺 thank you so much
I’m trying to get my son to see that everything is open ended....If you look for anything negative enough you’ll find it, even if doesn’t really exist. So using this time to contemplate and focus on yourself is in actuality this time of being slowed down.....A gift! Love your videos so I’m sending this to him! 🙏🏼✌🏻❤️
Emma, your presentation on mental filtering was actually beautiful. So simple and so powerful. Even your voice and persona are soothing and beautiful too. I am struggling so badly right now, heavy mental filtering. Don't know if I will make it...but while listening to you I had a little more hope than I usually do. Thank you Madame.
thank you its so true i live with a narcissists & hes vary negative & now i fight trying to be positive from being around him so you are helping me thank you Faith🙂
You videos are very inviting. There is a big comfort level that you put into your approach. I love how you didn't overreact or curse and carry on like so many would when the sprinklers came on.
This was wonderfully helpful. This has been happening a lot to me over the past month or so. Lots of change around me and my mental filtering seems to randomly kick into high gear some days. Thank you!
Your videos have been incredibly helpful for me in the past three weeks. Thank you so much. I just realized today that my conclusion that “I’m naturally a worrier” has led me to worry more. That’s not helpful, tho I don’t want to just react to THAT out of guilt. Life can be better.
I am going through life changing experience at 65. That makes me anxious and sad. I am overwhelmed with negative thoughts. My wife telling me to do the same. Look at the glass is half full. Your exercises makes me grounded and puts me at ease. Your words reinforce me to slow done and look at life in positivity. Thanks!
I was taught to question all my negative thoughts and look for evidence for them and against them. A CBT therapist taught me this and it had a dramatic positive effect on my life! When I got into the habit of thinking rationally about them I realised that the vast majority of them were fear based distortions of reality that did not support the evidence. Yes sometimes your negative thoughts are based in reality, but positive things can come out of negative situations like wisdom and a stronger character! Your best friend is yourself, so believe in you!
Great information to hear. I certainly have used negative mental filtering. We always need to assess if we are in danger. If not then we need to count our blessings in relationship and then remember why we fell in love with that person who is maybe not in a good way. When our mate is in a funk, we need to stay positive. I need to remember I am not perfect when in relationship in order to stay in relationship. Everyone has trauma that causes them to react if they are not consciously working through those traumas. We need NOT take others negative behavior out on ourselves. Much of the time other people's behavior has nothing at all to do with us. As simple as this concept is I tend to take things personally often. Want to change this aspect of myself.
I love this for so many reasons but perhaps the most significant is that you didn't stop when the sprinklers went on. Talk about teaching me a lesson about life when you hadn't planned to teach that lesson, wonderful. I'm trying to figure out whether or not to get some help and I recognize myself in what you're saying here. I don't know what keeps me from seeking out counseling but I do know it's my choice to make, I keep wondering why I don't at least make an effort to see whether or not I do need health. Anyway, thanks for not editing out the sprinkler part of the video, talk about real life happening right there and then. Thank you.
Hi Emma, I just want to say that your videos have been helping me so much. I try to watch you every day and I watch many of your videos multiple times. I find your demeanor and voice extremely comforting. Your advice is solid and it always makes me stop and say “she is exactly right! I’m looking through your course catalog and intend on taking some of your classes after the holidays. Thank you so much for what you do your truly helping people. Have a safe and happy new year!
I love at 12:20 mins that the sprinkler cause a cognitive distortion. It's like , oh gosh my sprinkler just came on. But you said it was fun and chose a positive way of looking at it 🙌
I loved this. This was SO good. I especially love the tips on looking at different periods in history and different peoples to see their difficulties and experiences and be more grateful and appreciative of your own life and situation. Plus the part about filtering the positive experiences of compliments and successes of different degrees was helpful. Its nice to hear confirmation that it is okay to relish those compliments if you have been lucky enough to receive them for whatever reason. Thanks for your work on these vids!
I love that you kept in the sprinkler part. What an excellent object lesson. Your video could have been RUINED but instead you just moved a few steps away and carried on. Just found you, will be following!
Mental filtering helps some of us by letting us not noticing the negativity in the world. And, I don't watch news on TV as a deliberate way to not become negative. Focusing on the possibilities and good things helps me accomplish things and have good relationships. You made some VERY good points. Thanks for this video.
Hi Emma. Firstly a big thank you for all the brilliant videos you’ve made and shared on ‘Therapy in a Nutshell’. I have watched a lot of them and have learnt loads from them. They have been very helpful and reassuring to me at a very difficult time. This is my favourite so far, because it deals with something that I have only just realised that I do (a lot!) and which definitely makes me feel bad. Also, I love the fact that you’re in your garden and there is a drop of water on the camera lens because it is so natural and so is your reaction to the sprinklers coming on. I also think it’s great that you share information about yourself and your own life experiences. Diolch yn fawr Emma (that’s thank you in Welsh) - you’re a star.
WOWSERS!!! You must have the perfect 😍 soil and environment for rosemary!! I love your rosemary! I have only grown it in a pot and it never had it to look so lush.
I do this, have been pretty depressed lately, and it's combined with obsessive thinking/overthinking and looking backwards on what I've lost. I'm 51, so it could also be hormonal.
I happen to be 50 and there's times I feel lost in the past myself. I wish there was more written about people in their 40s and 50s going through mid life crisis time. Nothing prepares you for it. And as a woman going through premenopause really affects your mood too, makes you more irritable and angry. Sometimes I don't know who I am anymore. I don't want to be an old hag, but I am not who I was when I was 20. Sometimes it's hard not to feel bitter about some things.
Thank you 🙏 for all your great Therapy! It’s better than Anything I Ever paid for! I just sent this to my friend! I do Love 💕 your Outdoor Videos & the funny & beautiful things that we get to see! Thanks 🙏 Soo much❣️ If you ever get a Chance it would be Great to get some advice on dealing with drastic Life Changes we Never Expected ⁉️🤷🏼♀️💓 Many Thanks❣️ Oh BTW: That’s a Fabulously Beautiful Rosemary bush‼️
Another video with great advice, loved watching it as usual. You are the type of therapist I think everyone would like to have: the "human" type, who admits to being flawed and having some of the same issues the clients are dealing with, and the authentic person who isn't afraid of leaving a little mishap in the video.
Funny story...I've been attending your therapy youtuube classes for a short while now, but I went to visit my son and his new wife and my very first and probably only grandchild and they were going thru a crisis, which included me now too and my son was like there's this lady who does therapy on youtube and I really like her and I was like no way and he was like way and I was like therapy in a nutshell and he's like omg yes I think so and he proceeded to get on youtube and show me and it was you! Thank you for helping my family get through such rough stuff. You're so wonderful your style is completely approachable, and your steps help me so much! Anyone who would discount your work to me is just short sighted. Take good care and I'll see you in your videos!
love the herb garden :)) Just had a cup of Rosemary tea, so good for the digestive system. Appreciate all your videos, thank you for being so real.. the sprinkler situation and just sitting in a corner withgout feeling awkward , says alot, no aires and graces especially with the depth of knowledge you have. Keep doing what you are and allowing God to use you for His good work. xxx
You are doing a great job....thanks.....i find your clarity on working mechanism of the mind is brilliant.....and i like the cracking sound/visual of walnut in your promo...its so simple and meaningful....
An Argentinean here! Where in Argentina did you live? I did my elementary school in the States and then came back to my country along with my family. Coming back to my country I thought, "where have my parents brought me! This can't be Argentina". That was back in the 90's. Love your channel!
Thank you for your perspectives on life. After many years of helping others be positive through a charity, depression cut me down and knowing some of your points was still a struggle to remain in the positive. I now feel my day won't be another wasted opportunity like so many other days. It's almost like one can have the Jeckle and Hyde inside. You are helping me.
I hear ya. Solution. Dont look back. There is nothing you can do about it. Dont look ahead worrying you dont have much control over it. Live one day at a time and do what you can do and leave the rest up to God. Like she said a year ago when grieving over a dear friend. We feel pain and sorrow here for awhile but. There is a hereafter. We will be ok.. This earth is not our forever home
@@donnabeyer5689 I try to think of it as not living life peering in the teeny rear view mirror, as that's done and gone, but straight ahead, through the big windshield.
Another helpful video. When you change the way you look at things the things you look at change ! WAyne dyer taught that fir years. Life changing mantra for me. Hope it helps others too plus your other tips Thx
Your videos really feel like an awesome mental break when I'm in the middle of a storm! :-) They also give me new things to think about and talk to my therapist about! Thanks!!
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Thank you for being free and more helpful than any $200 hour therapist I've worked with
How are you! This is your therapist. The price has just went up to $250, now how are you doing today?
@@unfluster awful. i'm in a financial crisis. have any psychological advice?
First, I love that you didn’t edit out when the sprinklers went off! It’s a great reminder that we’re all living real life and it’s how we perceive and deal with things that matter. 2nd, I love this video, very timely for me in dealing with my son. He struggles with anxiety and as a result, OCD, both now severe as a consequence of the lockdowns. This filtering truly becomes a self fulfilling ritual as the more you notice the negative, the more you only notice the negative! Our brains try to prove what we think is true, so it seeks out proof of our thoughts, negative or positive. Thank you for the tips.
It really brought a smile to see her joyous surprised reaction!
"when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change" so insightful, thank you :)
That's a Wayne Dyer Quote- I should have referenced him :)
My problem is, I can't change the way I look at things
That's where you intentionally monitor yourself and change your perspective. This video is gold. @@hhaste
As an old saying goes: "we see the world not as it is, but as we are"... when we influence the way we are a bit, we can see most things in a brighter light!
Yes yes yes!!!!!! I love the positive community in channels like this amazing soul's!
Wow !
This is true only if you're scientifically illiterate. There are tools that can be used to see the world objectively as it actually is.
@@HarmonyShoal And then there is Heisenbergs
uncertainty principle that proved that you cannot see the world as it truly is, since the process of measuring changes it
@@HarmonyShoal it's all what perceptional lense you are looking through. Everyone's realities are different. Some are similar for ex 2020 has been a life changing year. This channel is not about put downs. It's about helping others and the community can help each other in the comments. Thank you for your insight. May you be safe, may you be kind, may you live with ease and may you give and receive love freely....have a wonderful rest of you day/night!!!!!!
Im super grateful for this channel. This is a much safer way to start my day rather than jumping into news and coffee. Thank you Emma for all of your work on this channel.
When your feeling depressed you cannot see any good in anything and you feel so alone and unwanted i know i suffer with it. If I'm feeling ok then nothing much gets me down, but if i am feeling down the world seems to be against me.
Yeah, I hear that, it can be so hard when you're feeling down. I feel like it just helps me to fight it a little by challenging my thoughts, then the lows aren't so low.
@@TherapyinaNutshell Its a horrible dark place to be in and nothing fills you with joy or hope. Maybe my depression has been bad i found menopause brought mine on really bad, and had to go on antidepressants.
i feel exactly like you.
@@petersiby3429 So sorry you feel like that its horrible 💕
One day I felt like that and I called my counselor and he said to me the following. "Yes, I hear you. Did you know that it's normal to have those feelings" I said what? It's not good and he said "Well, if you didn't feel this way after a down moment in life, then you wouldn't be normal" "it's ok to feel down or sad or depressed sometimes in our lives, it's what we do about it that defines who we are". So now, I embrace those moments and try to take my time to deal with my feelings and then, write down everything positive I can think of and move on. We can't change others and we can't change our circumstances sometimes, but we can change ourselves. We can do something about our own mind. Hope it helps. It helped me sooooo much!
You have such a calming and peaceful way of presenting things
Agree.
Someone gave me a key that made my gratitude practice exponentially more powerful. First, actually sit with the feeling of gratitude; let it make you warm inside. Then, write it down; because somehow, that makes it more real. Lastly, write down WHY you experienced that good thing; "because I asked!" Or, "just because she loves me." Or "because I stuck to it!" This is empowering! And it creates an association for future choices, too. Being happy is much easier when we're grateful :-)
Thank you for the video. I found your garden to be very peaceful. One of the hidden benefits of social distancing is everyone gets to enjoy and share their comfortable spaces more. 🧡
Well said!
I like this. I will look for more 'hidden benefits' of social distancing ;)
1.first notice that you are doing it
2.try to see what function it serves for you.
3. take a deep breath, slow down
4. counteract that mental filter by expanding your view.
Other suggestions..
Gratitude
Sit with complements or success
Just hold into complements as you hold negative things
Counter negative thoughts by positive thoughts.
Practice yourself to see both sides of the story.
Take a bigger perspective.. Is this thing would still matter in the 5 next year if not so don't sweat the small stuff.
Thanks. Thanks.
Emma, you are indeed a National treasure. You have helped me , kept me alive, Love ya.
Recently I heard regarding daily gratitude...be thankful for something that didn’t happen. This was huge for me as I play through a ton of “what if’s”, so I have plenty to be thankful for when I think about what didn’t happen!
Thank you so much for another awesome and extremely helpful video!! I was raised by parents who did this negative mental filtering, and all of their children adopted this way of viewing life as always negative and threatening. My parents always only saw the negative in every single situation. They always pointed out the downside of a situation or the flaws in a person, never the positive. It became ingrained in the children and a habit and way of life. Needless to say, each child as an adult suffers severe depression and anxiety. A vicious cycle that we have each worked hard to understand and overcome. I greatly appreciate this video and it has caused me to pause and re-evaluate how I see the world. A hard habit to break when it has been ingrained for a lifetime and now I am 60 years old! I'm going to keep working on it though. As Wayne Dyer said, "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."
This video, 4 years later, is so incredibly helpful for me, thank you!!
This homespun vid is uplifting and gets an extra shot of serendipity when the sprinklers turn on! Bllaahaahaa
But truly, this channel and its delightful host very helpful!
You helped me through my very dark days
I can apply every single one of these to my life. Thank you for your super clear teaching and helpful advice. You’re a gem.
I love how you unintended show how you can react to things. The sprinklers go off and instead of getting mad or anxious, you laugh at yourself and seek a dry spot to sit.
I had to pause a little over three minutes here and comment on your “gain some perspective” bit. This exact thought gets me out of my mental filtering sometimes. I actually didn’t have running water, electricity, or any “normal” luxuries until I was 18. So at least I have that in my back pocket. It’s also fun to bring up with the kids when they start complaining about the most unimportant things... “when I was a kid...” I have stories.
When I am depressed even the world, the sky and the trees I see change. Like they have less color, they are more gray. But when I feel happy even the sunshine or the smells of the leaves feel more solid.
The sprinklers & the laugh was just perfect! Talk about anxiety relief right there....laughter!! 🤗
where were you in my life? wait probably helping someone else, being busy with family life, on the other side of the world, swimming, unavailable.........im gonna try these methods you are truly opening my mind slowly lol with every video!!!
My 8th grade English Class spelling bee word was RIDICULOUS. I was focusing on remembering RIDICU and confidently finished with OUS. I was so, extremely proud until the teacher said I'd forgotten the L. Pointing out my errors infront of a group is a big PTSD & negative mental trigger for me.
Searching for a video on his to understand and change my way of thinking, and then finding one of your videos, have lead me to indulged in your playlists and videos. Thank you so much for being you 😊
Thank you for this video on mental filtering, I am italian and I live in Italy. I follow your videos because I suffer from OCD and depression since I was 19 and now I am 52.
I found this video very helpful for me, have a great day🙂
Wallow in your brokenness - fabulous phrase to describe depression.
Really motivating. I often get overwhelmed challenging my thoughts. I then take a break because I get to in my head. I will definitely take your advice and keep doing it. Thank you!
Love this so much. Very needed in the world today. Expanding world views, a key to gratitude, leads to a fulfilling life. Beautiful. Thank you.
Emma is a true blessing. Her voice and her demeanor calms me when delivering her valuable messages 🙏🙏♥️
"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."
Powerful. Thank you so much for that.
You handled that sprinkler situation so gracefully! Way to Plan B with swift recovery. This was helpful to me.
Thank you for your wonderful support. May the spirit be with you 🕯️
I love your transparency A N D the combination of your knowledge base and delivery. It shows when someone really knows their stuff when things happen that would derail most don't even make you skip a beat. Kudos all around.
You're the best and that hilarious ending made me realize that you shouldn't take life too seriously.
Thank you!
I have listened to several therapist online but you are best you are a natural breaking down everthing so simple plus you look like you genuinely care about peiple putting out all your hard work without asking for anything back. Keep up the good work and may Jehovah bless your sweet soul and family with good health and lengthy days.
This is so so true. I can especially relate with the bar exam. Can remember 8-10 very distinct questions I thought I got wrong but couldn’t remember the other 2 days of the exam.
Very helpful, love the way you provide real life, applicable examples. Thank you for your work! So grateful for you and your channel 🤍
I love that you kept the sprinkler incident on here. Added wonderful light-heartedness to this
Thanks for the video. I overthink and keep filtering my reality for the worst. Im taking madication for anxiety and depression. I'm so hard on me that I feel a lot of stress and weight on me while writing this, already judging/minimazing myself for what Im tapying, like its not good enough, it takes a lot of energy. Its a strugle.
Your videos and tips had helped me a lot. Thanks again for the video!
It helps to add this: sorry for the grammar mistakes if any. Ill try not to read the thing again and again (already did) and keep hammering myself about it.
Have a nice day! :D
Same here with me bro......
I’m in a similar situation and it’s torture. It’s so hard being self aware, yet felling like in unable or incapable of change. I put people on a pedestal and minimize everything I do. I hate it. Life would be so much easier if I didn’t think this way. Even just watching this video and listening to all the techniques she suggests is a pain. I do them all at once for a day then forget about them and continue to stew in my misery.
Thank u ❣️ I got into a negative mind set watching too much internet crap.
I am so thankful for your videos during this extra rough time. My husband made a similar comment this week about us living like kings. Thank you for your time and sharing it with all us strangers on the internet. And your rosemary is stunning.
Thanks :)
This is definitely something I've struggled with and still do, to some degree. That quote at the end reminded me of how my boss always had that in her email signature and it really is true. Also I love the fact that you left the sprinkler moment in the video, it brought a much needed chuckle to my day.
I’ve been struggling with gastritis & it’s been really taking a toll not on my physical health but my mental health & your videos have helped me more than you know ❤️🥺 thank you so much
I’m trying to get my son to see that everything is open ended....If you look for anything negative enough you’ll find it, even if doesn’t really exist.
So using this time to contemplate and focus on yourself is in actuality this time of being slowed down.....A gift!
Love your videos so I’m sending this to him! 🙏🏼✌🏻❤️
Emma, your presentation on mental filtering was actually beautiful. So simple and so powerful. Even your voice and persona are soothing and beautiful too. I am struggling so badly right now, heavy mental filtering. Don't know if I will make it...but while listening to you I had a little more hope than I usually do. Thank you Madame.
thank you its so true i live with a narcissists & hes vary negative & now i fight trying to be positive from being around him so you are helping me thank you Faith🙂
You videos are very inviting. There is a big comfort level that you put into your approach. I love how you didn't overreact or curse and carry on like so many would when the sprinklers came on.
This was wonderfully helpful. This has been happening a lot to me over the past month or so. Lots of change around me and my mental filtering seems to randomly kick into high gear some days. Thank you!
Your videos have been incredibly helpful for me in the past three weeks. Thank you so much. I just realized today that my conclusion that “I’m naturally a worrier” has led me to worry more. That’s not helpful, tho I don’t want to just react to THAT out of guilt. Life can be better.
I am going through life changing experience at 65. That makes me anxious and sad. I am overwhelmed with negative thoughts. My wife telling me to do the same. Look at the glass is half full. Your exercises makes me grounded and puts me at ease. Your words reinforce me to slow done and look at life in positivity. Thanks!
You have no idea how helpful this video was to me. It helped put words to that stuff I do and don’t know how to des. Your videos are gold 👍🏼
Glad it helped!
I was taught to question all my negative thoughts and look for evidence for them and against them. A CBT therapist taught me this and it had a dramatic positive effect on my life! When I got into the habit of thinking rationally about them I realised that the vast majority of them were fear based distortions of reality that did not support the evidence. Yes sometimes your negative thoughts are based in reality, but positive things can come out of negative situations like wisdom and a stronger character! Your best friend is yourself, so believe in you!
Great information to hear. I certainly have used negative mental filtering. We always need to assess if we are in danger. If not then we need to count our blessings in relationship and then remember why we fell in love with that person who is maybe not in a good way. When our mate is in a funk, we need to stay positive. I need to remember I am not perfect when in relationship in order to stay in relationship. Everyone has trauma that causes them to react if they are not consciously working through those traumas. We need NOT take others negative behavior out on ourselves. Much of the time other people's behavior has nothing at all to do with us. As simple as this concept is I tend to take things personally often. Want to change this aspect of myself.
thank you for explaining things for everyone to understand and for giving solutions. greetings from Romania
Thank you so much for making this available on TH-cam
That sprinkler moment was precious 💕
This brought me to tears not knowing this was something I could fix. I know what it's like to be broken but not knowing how to work or fix yourself
Thank you and good luck to all suffering with depression,anxiety your stronger than you know
I love this for so many reasons but perhaps the most significant is that you didn't stop when the sprinklers went on. Talk about teaching me a lesson about life when you hadn't planned to teach that lesson, wonderful. I'm trying to figure out whether or not to get some help and I recognize myself in what you're saying here. I don't know what keeps me from seeking out counseling but I do know it's my choice to make, I keep wondering why I don't at least make an effort to see whether or not I do need health. Anyway, thanks for not editing out the sprinkler part of the video, talk about real life happening right there and then. Thank you.
Hi Emma, I just want to say that your videos have been helping me so much. I try to watch you every day and I watch many of your videos multiple times. I find your demeanor and voice extremely comforting. Your advice is solid and it always makes me stop and say “she is exactly right! I’m looking through your course catalog and intend on taking some of your classes after the holidays. Thank you so much for what you do your truly helping people. Have a safe and happy new year!
I love at 12:20 mins that the sprinkler cause a cognitive distortion. It's like , oh gosh my sprinkler just came on. But you said it was fun and chose a positive way of looking at it 🙌
You are changing my life and I thank you from the bottom of my heart
I loved this. This was SO good. I especially love the tips on looking at different periods in history and different peoples to see their difficulties and experiences and be more grateful and appreciative of your own life and situation. Plus the part about filtering the positive experiences of compliments and successes of different degrees was helpful. Its nice to hear confirmation that it is okay to relish those compliments if you have been lucky enough to receive them for whatever reason. Thanks for your work on these vids!
I love that you kept in the sprinkler part. What an excellent object lesson. Your video could have been RUINED but instead you just moved a few steps away and carried on. Just found you, will be following!
Mental filtering helps some of us by letting us not noticing the negativity in the world. And, I don't watch news on TV as a deliberate way to not become negative. Focusing on the possibilities and good things helps me accomplish things and have good relationships. You made some VERY good points. Thanks for this video.
Hi Emma. Firstly a big thank you for all the brilliant videos you’ve made and shared on ‘Therapy in a Nutshell’. I have watched a lot of them and have learnt loads from them. They have been very helpful and reassuring to me at a very difficult time. This is my favourite so far, because it deals with something that I have only just realised that I do (a lot!) and which definitely makes me feel bad. Also, I love the fact that you’re in your garden and there is a drop of water on the camera lens because it is so natural and so is your reaction to the sprinklers coming on. I also think it’s great that you share information about yourself and your own life experiences. Diolch yn fawr Emma (that’s thank you in Welsh) - you’re a star.
WOWSERS!!! You must have the perfect 😍 soil and environment for rosemary!!
I love your rosemary! I have only grown it in a pot and it never had it to look so lush.
You are awesome and truly a blessing to those watching.
I do this, have been pretty depressed lately, and it's combined with obsessive thinking/overthinking and looking backwards on what I've lost. I'm 51, so it could also be hormonal.
I happen to be 50 and there's times I feel lost in the past myself. I wish there was more written about people in their 40s and 50s going through mid life crisis time. Nothing prepares you for it. And as a woman going through premenopause really affects your mood too, makes you more irritable and angry. Sometimes I don't know who I am anymore. I don't want to be an old hag, but I am not who I was when I was 20. Sometimes it's hard not to feel bitter about some things.
Thank you 🙏 for all your great Therapy! It’s better than Anything I Ever paid for!
I just sent this to my friend!
I do Love 💕 your Outdoor Videos & the funny & beautiful things that we get to see! Thanks 🙏 Soo much❣️
If you ever get a Chance it would be Great to get some advice on dealing with drastic Life Changes we Never Expected ⁉️🤷🏼♀️💓
Many Thanks❣️
Oh BTW: That’s a Fabulously Beautiful Rosemary bush‼️
Remarkable composure under sprinkler fire. Kudos.
The time i see you my state automatically shifts to better one ❤️❤️❤️ you are full of positive vibes❤️❤️😘
Another video with great advice, loved watching it as usual. You are the type of therapist I think everyone would like to have: the "human" type, who admits to being flawed and having some of the same issues the clients are dealing with, and the authentic person who isn't afraid of leaving a little mishap in the video.
I’m doing your big course and it’s been good. This playlist is helping thanks.
You are a gift! Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
OH MY GODDD
Thank you Emma for clarifying the topic in a simple manner with solutions. This will help both in personal and professional life.
I find your content so helpful, thank you for your videos.
Funny story...I've been attending your therapy youtuube classes for a short while now, but I went to visit my son and his new wife and my very first and probably only grandchild and they were going thru a crisis, which included me now too and my son was like there's this lady who does therapy on youtube and I really like her and I was like no way and he was like way and I was like therapy in a nutshell and he's like omg yes I think so and he proceeded to get on youtube and show me and it was you! Thank you for helping my family get through such rough stuff. You're so wonderful your style is completely approachable, and your steps help me so much! Anyone who would discount your work to me is just short sighted. Take good care and I'll see you in your videos!
love the herb garden :)) Just had a cup of Rosemary tea, so good for the digestive system. Appreciate all your videos, thank you for being so real.. the sprinkler situation and just sitting in a corner withgout feeling awkward , says alot, no aires and graces especially with the depth of knowledge you have. Keep doing what you are and allowing God to use you for His good work. xxx
Well to think somebody understands what I have been through you truly know what you're talkin about
You are doing a great job....thanks.....i find your clarity on working mechanism of the mind is brilliant.....and i like the cracking sound/visual of walnut in your promo...its so simple and meaningful....
You are truly a gift from God!prayers and love to you and yours❤
You are really helping me out. Thank you so much wonderful lady!
I just found her on here and I love her videos. They really have helped me and I love love her voice. So soothing n calm
An Argentinean here! Where in Argentina did you live? I did my elementary school in the States and then came back to my country along with my family. Coming back to my country I thought, "where have my parents brought me! This can't be Argentina". That was back in the 90's. Love your channel!
YOU are amazing & a very important part of my day !!!! Thank you! 😄🤣I loved the sprinkler coming on ~ REAL GIRL REAL LIFE 🤩
Thank you for your perspectives on life. After many years of helping others be positive through a charity, depression cut me down and knowing some of your points was still a struggle to remain in the positive.
I now feel my day won't be another wasted opportunity like so many other days. It's almost like one can have the Jeckle and Hyde inside. You are helping me.
Thank you for what you share. Very sane. I also have lived in several countries and have a broadened perspective of others. A more accepting attitude.
Omg...I'm bad for dwelling on the negative. It seem I can't even remember much good from my childhood.
I hear ya. Solution. Dont look back. There is nothing you can do about it. Dont look ahead worrying you dont have much control over it. Live one day at a time and do what you can do and leave the rest up to God. Like she said a year ago when grieving over a dear friend. We feel pain and sorrow here for awhile but. There is a hereafter. We will be ok.. This earth is not our forever home
@@donnabeyer5689 I try to think of it as not living life peering in the teeny rear view mirror, as that's done and gone, but straight ahead, through the big windshield.
Thank you for this video. I like your voice and the way you explain this. 🙏
Great advices, you are optimistic while not being naive which is not so easy. Merry Christmas, greetings from Greece.
Such a great video thank you for sharing , I think that we all do this and it can drive you crazy and times .
Absolutely great video.. helps me a lot with my anxiety and my thoughts.
Another helpful video. When you change the way you look at things the things you look at change ! WAyne dyer taught that fir years. Life changing mantra for me. Hope it helps others too plus your other tips Thx
Thank you so much ...it really helps me listening to you every morning
I’m so grateful for stumbling upon this gem of a channel. Thank you very much Emma :)
that's so sweet, thanks! where are you from?
I feel the same way. I found this channel recently and it's fantastic.
@@TherapyinaNutshell I am from India :)
Your laugh is infectious ❤️ Thank you for doing all these videos.
Your videos really feel like an awesome mental break when I'm in the middle of a storm! :-) They also give me new things to think about and talk to my therapist about! Thanks!!
LIFE ALWAYS BRINGS US DOWN TO EARTH. HAPPY 2020.