Every relationship that fell apart is not because you have fallen out of love but sometimes the lack of communication plays the part. Always talk to your partner about your differences before the situation gets worse. If you can't talk to him anymore, your relationship is in trouble.
A New Love Official - 👍True and a good thing to practice. Keep in mind that to have successful relationships it takes all persons involved to be willing and open to communicate in a positive constructive manner. 💞
John Smith - 👍Perhaps it is over simplistic....life is teaching me that we humans tend to over complicate matters. ☝️Regarding those persons who tend to deliberately miscommunicate to deliberately cover over deceptions....I mostly refer to and have come to know them as narcissists!!! I avoid them at all costs and I recommend others to do the same. 💞
@@LovingAtlanta Checkout , The Art Of Seduction on youtube just to see how manipulative people can be. There's always another level of consciousness to consider.
I’m autistic (a social communication disorder) and this video was amazing to both give me some insight on my own thought processing, as well insight on the way neurotypicals think and communicate
Oh cool that’s great I was actually looking for tips and tools to help communicate better with my slightly autistic husband. Couples counseling sounds daunting and I think we just need to find some communication styles that work and organizational styles at home literally organizational tools and abs what works for you what other things could you share that would help me as a resource please
Purple - high energy, talk a lot, want to know what you want not why. Red - think through before talking. Speak succinctly. Say it like it is. They are listening for the where do I fit in. Yellow - spatial, want things tidy, listen for when (always ten minutes early). Blue - want to keep the peace, process everything through emotions, hands on stuff, listening for the why.
There’s a great little book on Amazon entitled, “Hoots and Grunts” that addresses common everyday communication flubs that we make that can push others away from us.
... yes, and ... to understand we often need to ask clarifying questions in order to understand ... understanding can sometimes take some effort on part of both people communicating ... and that requires time and patience with each other. and ... communication is to be listened to when you are speaking ... It is fine that at times just one person needs to talk for a period of time straight ... but then the other person needs to be equally given time and attention to speak. If you speak more than, (in general, and there are exception for topic and for state of the person) 5 minutes straight without giving the other person a chance to clarify or confirm they are understanding you OR given them a chance to respond to the topic or respond to what you are saying ... You are not having a conversation you are either lecturing or just venting (and, again, sometimes venting is needed) Conversations require each person to listen and talk ... Good conversations allow equal opportunity for each person ... Great conversations are between two people who both present and respectful to the other person and the topic and will not change topics unless both are ready to proceed ... this can lead to deeper conversation and closer relationship connections.
My communication is excellent as I know how to really listen and express myself and have empathy for others also I can read other's extremely well. I find with other's if they don't listen to me or consider my feelings I start to shutdown and don't want to talk to them even have them in my life.
I always thought of myself as a very clear communicator. I’m a purple dot first and foremost. But in marriage I was constantly told “we don’t communicate well”. I think this is the reason. It’s very hard for me to slow down my thought to mouth connection. Ideas pop up and they come out. Ideas form through speech. But somehow I truly ruined things. I am coming to realize things far too late.
This women is very smart. We have a lot of simple miscommunication all over our nation and world. Of course the times are always changing like the bob dylan song. What dot are you, she said. I couldn't agree more with her, but there are many different varieties of dots, and some dots stay undiscovered that just blend in. Millions and millions of dots. Great speech.
One of my students told me that when he discussed his anxieties with someone close to him, like his wife or a close friend, then he found that the moment he started opening up to them, the anxiety decreased-even before he received any advice or support. Togetherness definitely decreases anxiety. There is a saying in the wisdom of Kabbalah that “a sorrow shared is a sorrow halved,” i.e. when we share a sensation, we divide it up, and in turn it becomes more manageable. Since it is quite easy to see how sharing our experiences lessens our negative feelings, the question is why do we not use this ability more? Why is it so hard for us to share our fears and anxieties with others? We are indeed afraid of opening our hearts, letting everyone see that we have certain fears and anxieties. That is, in addition to whatever fears and anxieties we hold within, we usually have additional anxieties about sharing them with others, that it might cause others to perceive us as weak. Since society in general values stronger, smarter, wealthier and fitter individuals, opening up our anxieties to such a society makes us vulnerable to exploitation. We thus need to seek a social environment that would not exploit us for opening up, but would rather give us a sense of faith and confidence that it can help us cope with any negative feelings. A social setting that can guarantee faith and confidence in its members is one that actively draws itself to the upper good and benevolent force-the force of love, bestowal and connection. It is this very same force that awakens negative feelings in us, whether they be fears, anxieties or several other painful sensations, in order for us to draw closer to that force, and we do so by drawing closer to each other. If we wish to connect with the upper force and let its perfect quality of love, bestowal and connection fill our lives with a sensation of faith and confidence, then we need to emulate such a quality toward other people-giving them a sense of faith and confidence, and for them to do the same toward us. By wanting to positively connect with others, we then start awakening the positive force dwelling in nature into the connections we create, and we then feel a new sense of faith and confidence wash away any anxieties that we might be holding within. 0:07
I'm glad to see someone else thinking about these things, I strive to live my life by values such as those, of open heart and mind, of love, and of authenticity. I feel like I've spent most of my life fleeing from fears and judgements, but by just turning around and facing them, confronting them even and you feel the full force of the fear in your mind, I feel like I've learned that the fears weren't so scary after all and in fact, while they would require a little work and change, they were pretty manageable after all! I wish I could say that I've found the solution and that I don't feel or even flee from fears still, but the very nature of human living demands that we must experience these feelings time and time again, as long as we're alive. What we can do, however, is develop the mental toolset to learn how to more effectively overcome those fears and by doing so, grow stronger and wiser as a person.
I genuinely appreciate my Bachelor of Arts in communications studies. This, nonverbal communication, is a mandatory course and it has strengthened every aspect of my social and professional life.
Yup, my communication style is playing a factor in my relationship (RED DOT). My style sometimes is perceived incorrectly; as cold and distant. My brain takes more CPU and time to download emotions correctly. Its frustrating when my partner is higher speed than me because she is at step 3 and im still at step 1.
Shoot u sound like me ! I sometimes feel like I don’t always want to talk about every emotion I feel inside and my bf already has a paragraph about how he feels , the situation, how I feel , what he thinks I feel and how and why did or did not talk about it .
These 4 major temperament types were identified by the ancient Greeks, and have been explained using "love languages," the Myers Briggs sorter, and many other tools meant to help us realize that other people can perceive the world through a lens very different from our own. Not surprisingly, these biologically predictable traits even underly our political leanings. A community of people could not thrive or survive if we all had the same temperament. We need architects and builders, doctors/caregivers and defenders/first responders, scientists and artists (to name a few). Each must value different things (a scientist must experiment, while an accountant must stick to the rules). A nurturer sensitive enough to help a nonverbal patient or baby might not make a good warrior. We each have a role to play. We used to know this.
That was too brief~ I wanted to learn more! She has a website under her name which I found easily. For those of you who commented that you are not any one of the dots; she said you can be a combo of more than one! These comments just go to prove that the message sent is not necessarily clearly received by the listening party!!! Communication is key and yet so rarely is it actually successful. I think we all need help in this area and it may even be the key to less friction worldwide🌍
Amy communicated just fine. If there were some who didn’t “hear” the part about the possibility of their being a combination of the dots, it is because they weren’t truly paying attention or listening closely enough… which is a clear indication that they need to improve their listening skills (ie their communication reception process).
I too beleive that communication and that too an effective communication is the building block of a relationship. Not everybody is good at communicating the emotions and ideas in their mind but for sure one can train their communication skills and make it better with various techniques.
The lack of trust and not being able to express our feeling to each other is gone destroy any relationship it takes communication no matter the issue don't give up on your partner talk about whatever.
I agree totally. The problem is when You are unable to communicate with Your partner . When You love them more than anything and all You are trying to do is be as close to them as You can be as to experience a true intimate connection, but they won't or can't or don't know how to just listen to You . It's horrible to say the least. Usually ends up in heated argument with person who is trying to get close feeling unheard, unimportant, confused , worried because of no resolution or understanding but most of all Heartbroken!! thinking to self : all I am trying to do is love this Beautiful Person with all My being, be as close as I can possibly be to then because they mean so Much to Me and they can't even have enough patience or understanding or want to even hear My feelings? Wt* ... How can they truly Love Me? If they don't, How can I get over this amazing person... Stomache in knots,sick, heartbroken .... and the Person You confide in can't even hear You...... Then You start shutting down..... resentments etc.... all the Beautiful Fairy tales destroyed because of this....no communication .. Damned shame..
You both must trust enough to be vulnerable. If that is not the case, there may be a childhood issue worth investigating. Brene Brown: the power of vulnerability. Also Brene Brown TedTalk on shame.
I think that some people on here are saying that this is terrible because it is the only way and thing how to communicate, and that is not the case. It is simply something that can help. That is all! take it, and do not overthink it!
Wow!!!, I would love to give a big shout-out to Amy Scott for her fantastic talk on communication styles in relationships! The insights about being aware of different communication styles were truly eye-opening. However, I've been curious about the 'dot' concept lately. Is it possible to belong to more than one type of dots? I seem to identify with the red, yellow, and blue dots based on your descriptions. Can't wait to hear your thoughts! Thanks
watching this video, I thought it was interesting, however I know that within myself I can see varying different degrees of each element of the dot colours. Maybe I talk a lot in order to process things, but also I view things visually and feel things internally and my ultimate questions are not just one but 2, what do you want and why? Then inevitably when and where. If you are going to deal with people in the world at large, you need to be able to have an understanding of all different aspects of reality and other people's needs in order to function. Maybe I'm essentially a blue dot at the end of the day, & my main aim is to keep the peace, and if we are going to understand each other, and get anything done, then you need to know all of the whats, whys, wheres & whens and know how they all fit together to make everything work. Nothing exists alone in a vaccum.
Where we mess up as humans is trying to label each other as anything other than, human. When labels come into play, that’s when hatred also enters the room. We are all indifferently the same because we are all humans. If you try hard enough and spend enough time with a human, you start to pick up on subtle ways they communicate. It’s then your choice to communicate back or let it go. And that’s when love comes into play. By just trying to understand someone, Love is shown. There are so many ways to communicate that if you force people into categories, it would be hard to free their minds to intermingle. That’s why alien don’t come here lol
You would be suprised how some people can´t communicate. For an example my girlfriend, soon to become my ex girlfriend, has big troubles how to communicate with a partner. She is over 30 years old, works as a attorney but communicates like a child. Many parents do the mistake and don´t learn their children how to communicate, for an example, when we are in a argument, the only thing she wants to do is to her computer or close the door to our bedroom, and I need to come to her and solve our problems. She has big troubles finding what she does wrong, even when I have told her for years what really annoys me, and her default communication voice is with a over exaggerating voice. She does not now that when she talks like that, it stresses her partner. But I blame her parents! She is beautiful, kind, smart and giving but her communication is really really terrible and after 3 years it´s perhaps time to go. Sorry for bad english, just wanted to write me off a bit.
All I want is my ex to clearly communicate what is going on with him, then we decide what we will both be doing next and we settle it once and for all. He has my phone number and email. It won't take 5 minutes but if he isn't willing I will just have to move on.
No matter how much we want it, our partners, unfortunately, do not read our minds. That is why we cannot expect our partner to know all our wishes, all our hopes, our expectations and weak points all the time.
I realized I’m a blue dot but I also pass as a purple bc when misunderstanding happens or whatever the case may be I always want to talk about it I never want to leave things the way they are so I constantly try to get to the bottom of it an it has caused friction bc it’s viewed as arguing or going back n forth
great talk! as I was listening to your talk I envisioned previous coworkers and friends with dots... and I would totally be putting the coffee cups away! Hahaha. great job amy!
Late comment! ☺️ But I totally agree and I see so many parallels with astrology. There are four elements earth, wind, fire, water, as well as four dots. The fact that each are split into four groups reinforces the validity of this theory
Sounds good in terms of bracketing people into styles of communication, but for a country that gets almost suicidal if the All Blacks lose, and struggles to communicate to the point that so many Kiwis just move over the ditch, I'm not sure if its being implemented correctly or effectively. Some definite food for thought here.
I think a lot & I want to talk about all of them. and I want to know why something is happening to I be able to finish & understand it fast. so....it's mean I'm a colorful dot?
Communication is underrated, misunderstood consistently and misconstrued for just talking. I am medical student and soon to be a doctor and just started my TH-cam channel. I would really love some support
Sooo. Basically she just described people with ADHD as "purple dots" and went on to shame them through the middle of this thing. And then left no actual helpful information about how the dots can connect with each other at all... this was so useless in addition to being offensive.
Laurie Jean wow i think you took this way too far. But I agree with the last part, no actual helpful information about how to actually use this information to anything useful.
Her points and content was impactful however I found her sometimes mocking a few personality types. For instance saying “They’ll be people who people don’t talk to at the office”. She could’ve been solution-driven instead.
Saying one dot or another “likes to finish things” it’s generalizations like these I find to be inaccurate. Some people are bad at finishing things others are not I suppose some people don’t mind nkt finishing things but I’m skeptical you can group people up into these particular categories and have it be accurate I think everyone is a mix of all these traits
I love when she says what she says about the purple Dot and the Red Dot and they're on a two hour drive.. well let me tell you my husband is most definitely a Red Dot.. and I am absolutely a purple Dot and we thought it would be smart to start a transport trucking business and drive together all over the country we did almost 200,000 miles in a year and we have been together 12 years at the time we never fought until we started that company and then we almost got divorced twice.. we went through so much pain and agony hurtful things were said we almost ruined our marriage and I am happy to say that now we have just celebrated our 15-year anniversary this past Saturday but he has taken so much work and we do not drive together anymore either. We are still learning our communication skills but we'll get there if I learn to shut my mouth.. 😆
olefin the blood around my mother touch her heal her from head to toes and help me bf to get along in and break this hate curse voodoo mission witches they are speaking forward prayer in jesus name
Very stereotypical, Very innacurate on some level. Needs improvement (especially because it has a good base, but a bad exploitation ; yes communicaton is important, but defining bad profile of communicator (or not enough universals...) can lead to bad habit creation... And Everybody knows the power of habits ;)
I think I pass between the dots, especially when my emotions come into play. I wish that a little more clarity had been given to the interplay of the dots but I understand it's a short time slot. Nonetheless excellent presentation, well said all around. To anyone on here posting rude or hateful comments, the only lasting impression you're making is on yourselves. This woman has spent years researching in a rigorous scientific field. You write ignorant comments on the internet. She has been the subject of 78,000 views and therefore 78,000 opinions. You hide behind a username. Who's to pity here? What's sad is that by acting so ignorant you give away your power. But you likely won't understand that before you've given it all away.
I don't even know how to communicate anymore. I think I've lost interest in meeting new people . I crave for a meaningful relationship and at the same time i don't know how to socialize or like socializing
Every relationship that fell apart is not because you have fallen out of love but sometimes the lack of communication plays the part. Always talk to your partner about your differences before the situation gets worse. If you can't talk to him anymore, your relationship is in trouble.
This video is over simplistic . People are complicated creatures and sometimes miscommunication is deliberate to cover over deceptions for example .
A New Love Official - 👍True and a good thing to practice. Keep in mind that to have successful relationships it takes all persons involved to be willing and open to communicate in a positive constructive manner. 💞
John Smith - 👍Perhaps it is over simplistic....life is teaching me that we humans tend to over complicate matters. ☝️Regarding those persons who tend to deliberately miscommunicate to deliberately cover over deceptions....I mostly refer to and have come to know them as narcissists!!! I avoid them at all costs and I recommend others to do the same. 💞
@@LovingAtlanta Checkout , The Art Of Seduction on youtube just to see how manipulative people can be. There's always another level of consciousness to consider.
John Smith - Okay thanks!
I’m autistic (a social communication disorder) and this video was amazing to both give me some insight on my own thought processing, as well insight on the way neurotypicals think and communicate
Oh cool that’s great I was actually looking for tips and tools to help communicate better with my slightly autistic husband. Couples counseling sounds daunting and I think we just need to find some communication styles that work and organizational styles at home literally organizational tools and abs what works for you what other things could you share that would help me as a resource please
same
Purple - high energy, talk a lot, want to know what you want not why. Red - think through before talking. Speak succinctly. Say it like it is. They are listening for the where do I fit in. Yellow - spatial, want things tidy, listen for when (always ten minutes early). Blue - want to keep the peace, process everything through emotions, hands on stuff, listening for the why.
There’s a great little book on Amazon entitled, “Hoots and Grunts” that addresses common everyday communication flubs that we make that can push others away from us.
Commutation -is to Listen NOT TO JUST REPLY, BUT TO UNDERSTAND
this has to be the most woman thing i've heard in a long time
... yes, and ... to understand we often need to ask clarifying questions in order to understand ... understanding can sometimes take some effort on part of both people communicating ... and that requires time and patience with each other. and ... communication is to be listened to when you are speaking ... It is fine that at times just one person needs to talk for a period of time straight ... but then the other person needs to be equally given time and attention to speak. If you speak more than, (in general, and there are exception for topic and for state of the person) 5 minutes straight without giving the other person a chance to clarify or confirm they are understanding you OR given them a chance to respond to the topic or respond to what you are saying ... You are not having a conversation you are either lecturing or just venting (and, again, sometimes venting is needed) Conversations require each person to listen and talk ... Good conversations allow equal opportunity for each person ... Great conversations are between two people who both present and respectful to the other person and the topic and will not change topics unless both are ready to proceed ... this can lead to deeper conversation and closer relationship connections.
Yes! 💯
My communication is excellent as I know how to really listen and express myself and have empathy for others also I can read other's extremely well. I find with other's if they don't listen to me or consider my feelings I start to shutdown and don't want to talk to them even have them in my life.
I absolutely relate
Pisces too ?
@@mikejohnson1567 dude astrology is BS
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@@mikejohnson1567 yes 😁
@@funnygay I definitely don't believe it can define a person completely but elements can be true although people change and grow.
I always thought of myself as a very clear communicator. I’m a purple dot first and foremost. But in marriage I was constantly told “we don’t communicate well”. I think this is the reason. It’s very hard for me to slow down my thought to mouth connection. Ideas pop up and they come out. Ideas form through speech. But somehow I truly ruined things. I am coming to realize things far too late.
Same here
Better late than never. Life is a marathon, not a sprint
@@Oddie99000 I have many different thoughts at this point.
This women is very smart. We have a lot of simple miscommunication all over our nation and world. Of course the times are always changing like the bob dylan song. What dot are you, she said. I couldn't agree more with her, but there are many different varieties of dots, and some dots stay undiscovered that just blend in. Millions and millions of dots. Great speech.
One of my students told me that when he discussed his anxieties with someone close to him, like his wife or a close friend, then he found that the moment he started opening up to them, the anxiety decreased-even before he received any advice or support.
Togetherness definitely decreases anxiety. There is a saying in the wisdom of Kabbalah that “a sorrow shared is a sorrow halved,” i.e. when we share a sensation, we divide it up, and in turn it becomes more manageable.
Since it is quite easy to see how sharing our experiences lessens our negative feelings, the question is why do we not use this ability more? Why is it so hard for us to share our fears and anxieties with others?
We are indeed afraid of opening our hearts, letting everyone see that we have certain fears and anxieties. That is, in addition to whatever fears and anxieties we hold within, we usually have additional anxieties about sharing them with others, that it might cause others to perceive us as weak. Since society in general values stronger, smarter, wealthier and fitter individuals, opening up our anxieties to such a society makes us vulnerable to exploitation. We thus need to seek a social environment that would not exploit us for opening up, but would rather give us a sense of faith and confidence that it can help us cope with any negative feelings.
A social setting that can guarantee faith and confidence in its members is one that actively draws itself to the upper good and benevolent force-the force of love, bestowal and connection. It is this very same force that awakens negative feelings in us, whether they be fears, anxieties or several other painful sensations, in order for us to draw closer to that force, and we do so by drawing closer to each other.
If we wish to connect with the upper force and let its perfect quality of love, bestowal and connection fill our lives with a sensation of faith and confidence, then we need to emulate such a quality toward other people-giving them a sense of faith and confidence, and for them to do the same toward us. By wanting to positively connect with others, we then start awakening the positive force dwelling in nature into the connections we create, and we then feel a new sense of faith and confidence wash away any anxieties that we might be holding within. 0:07
I'm glad to see someone else thinking about these things, I strive to live my life by values such as those, of open heart and mind, of love, and of authenticity. I feel like I've spent most of my life fleeing from fears and judgements, but by just turning around and facing them, confronting them even and you feel the full force of the fear in your mind, I feel like I've learned that the fears weren't so scary after all and in fact, while they would require a little work and change, they were pretty manageable after all! I wish I could say that I've found the solution and that I don't feel or even flee from fears still, but the very nature of human living demands that we must experience these feelings time and time again, as long as we're alive. What we can do, however, is develop the mental toolset to learn how to more effectively overcome those fears and by doing so, grow stronger and wiser as a person.
I genuinely appreciate my Bachelor of Arts in communications studies. This, nonverbal communication, is a mandatory course and it has strengthened every aspect of my social and professional life.
All arrogant people think like you.
Yup, my communication style is playing a factor in my relationship (RED DOT). My style sometimes is perceived incorrectly; as cold and distant. My brain takes more CPU and time to download emotions correctly. Its frustrating when my partner is higher speed than me because she is at step 3 and im still at step 1.
Shoot u sound like me ! I sometimes feel like I don’t always want to talk about every emotion I feel inside and my bf already has a paragraph about how he feels , the situation, how I feel , what he thinks I feel and how and why did or did not talk about it .
These 4 major temperament types were identified by the ancient Greeks, and have been explained using "love languages," the Myers Briggs sorter, and many other tools meant to help us realize that other people can perceive the world through a lens very different from our own. Not surprisingly, these biologically predictable traits even underly our political leanings.
A community of people could not thrive or survive if we all had the same temperament. We need architects and builders, doctors/caregivers and defenders/first responders, scientists and artists (to name a few). Each must value different things (a scientist must experiment, while an accountant must stick to the rules). A nurturer sensitive enough to help a nonverbal patient or baby might not make a good warrior. We each have a role to play.
We used to know this.
Damn good comment!
That was too brief~ I wanted to learn more! She has a website under her name which I found easily. For those of you who commented that you are not any one of the dots; she said you can be a combo of more than one! These comments just go to prove that the message sent is not necessarily clearly received by the listening party!!! Communication is key and yet so rarely is it actually successful. I think we all need help in this area and it may even be the key to less friction worldwide🌍
I agree its the active listening part that people have trouble with.
@@lynjesson3033 but I bet you’re a “great” listener. Right?🙄
Would you pls share her website, I tried to catch it but could not . Thanks
@@ellegh.a4238 yes please
Amy communicated just fine. If there were some who didn’t “hear” the part about the possibility of their being a combination of the dots, it is because they weren’t truly paying attention or listening closely enough… which is a clear indication that they need to improve their listening skills (ie their communication reception process).
I too beleive that communication and that too an effective communication is the building block of a relationship. Not everybody is good at communicating the emotions and ideas in their mind but for sure one can train their communication skills and make it better with various techniques.
The lack of trust and not being able to express our feeling to each other is gone destroy any relationship it takes communication no matter the issue don't give up on your partner talk about whatever.
I agree totally. The problem is when You are unable to communicate with Your partner . When You love them more than anything and all You are trying to do is be as close to them as You can be as to experience a true intimate connection, but they won't or can't or don't know how to just listen to You . It's horrible to say the least. Usually ends up in heated argument with person who is trying to get close feeling unheard, unimportant, confused , worried because of no resolution or understanding but most of all Heartbroken!! thinking to self : all I am trying to do is love this Beautiful Person with all My being, be as close as I can possibly be to then because they mean so Much to Me and they can't even have enough patience or understanding or want to even hear My feelings? Wt* ... How can they truly Love Me? If they don't, How can I get over this amazing person... Stomache in knots,sick, heartbroken .... and the Person You confide in can't even hear You...... Then You start shutting down..... resentments etc.... all the Beautiful Fairy tales destroyed because of this....no communication .. Damned shame..
@@kingsoutdoors4379 me right now. I lobe this person so much but. i just cant communicate with him
@@jobelles87 I would suggest patience... Best of wishes to You
King's Outdoors for how long someone should have patience mate? 😊😊
You both must trust enough to be vulnerable. If that is not the case, there may be a childhood issue worth investigating. Brene Brown: the power of vulnerability. Also Brene Brown TedTalk on shame.
Wonderful tool for the complicated aspects of communication.
Purple dot - what
Red dot - where
Yellow dot - when
Blue dot - why
I did the quiz and got red, I think I might be a mix of red and blue. Interesting stuff!
What a great presentation by Ms. Amy Scott. I really enjoyed listening to her and understanding more about this tool :)
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This was hilarious and she explained the differences of types of communication very well. I red dot 🔴 must work on myself. Thank you
I think that some people on here are saying that this is terrible because it is the only way and thing how to communicate, and that is not the case. It is simply something that can help. That is all! take it, and do not overthink it!
Wow!!!, I would love to give a big shout-out to Amy Scott for her fantastic talk on communication styles in relationships!
The insights about being aware of different communication styles were truly eye-opening. However, I've been curious about the 'dot' concept lately. Is it possible to belong to more than one type of dots? I seem to identify with the red, yellow, and blue dots based on your descriptions. Can't wait to hear your thoughts! Thanks
Blue, for sure☺️
watching this video, I thought it was interesting, however I know that within myself I can see varying different degrees of each element of the dot colours. Maybe I talk a lot in order to process things, but also I view things visually and feel things internally and my ultimate questions are not just one but 2, what do you want and why? Then inevitably when and where. If you are going to deal with people in the world at large, you need to be able to have an understanding of all different aspects of reality and other people's needs in order to function. Maybe I'm essentially a blue dot at the end of the day, & my main aim is to keep the peace, and if we are going to understand each other, and get anything done, then you need to know all of the whats, whys, wheres & whens and know how they all fit together to make everything work. Nothing exists alone in a vaccum.
Where we mess up as humans is trying to label each other as anything other than, human. When labels come into play, that’s when hatred also enters the room. We are all indifferently the same because we are all humans. If you try hard enough and spend enough time with a human, you start to pick up on subtle ways they communicate. It’s then your choice to communicate back or let it go. And that’s when love comes into play. By just trying to understand someone, Love is shown. There are so many ways to communicate that if you force people into categories, it would be hard to free their minds to intermingle. That’s why alien don’t come here lol
Lovely presentation. I enjoyed it a lot!!! Not too long, not too short, just right!!
Her telling us we can't be only one kind of dot in the beginning then finishing with asking which kind of dot I am confused the whole talk for me.
A true definition of "GROUP THINK" is what I understand!🤓
I got the blue dot! yay, that feels about right :)
Heyy fellow blue dot
Because you are a simpleton?
You would be suprised how some people can´t communicate. For an example my girlfriend, soon to become my ex girlfriend, has big troubles how to communicate with a partner. She is over 30 years old, works as a attorney but communicates like a child. Many parents do the mistake and don´t learn their children how to communicate, for an example, when we are in a argument, the only thing she wants to do is to her computer or close the door to our bedroom, and I need to come to her and solve our problems. She has big troubles finding what she does wrong, even when I have told her for years what really annoys me, and her default communication voice is with a over exaggerating voice. She does not now that when she talks like that, it stresses her partner. But I blame her parents! She is beautiful, kind, smart and giving but her communication is really really terrible and after 3 years it´s perhaps time to go. Sorry for bad english, just wanted to write me off a bit.
She's probably better off without you. You sound like a terrible person.
I really needed to hear this ♡
Communication is easy? Wonder why so many relationships break because of that...
All I want is my ex to clearly communicate what is going on with him, then we decide what we will both be doing next and we settle it once and for all. He has my phone number and email. It won't take 5 minutes but if he isn't willing I will just have to move on.
I'm not any of these, but a mix of a few. But not one more than the others. :/
I love this woman 😅 heard the accent immediately
No matter how much we want it, our partners, unfortunately, do not read our minds. That is why we cannot expect our partner to know all our wishes, all our hopes, our expectations and weak points all the time.
I realized I’m a blue dot but I also pass as a purple bc when misunderstanding happens or whatever the case may be I always want to talk about it I never want to leave things the way they are so I constantly try to get to the bottom of it an it has caused friction bc it’s viewed as arguing or going back n forth
great talk! as I was listening to your talk I envisioned previous coworkers and friends with dots... and I would totally be putting the coffee cups away! Hahaha. great job amy!
I want more information please Thank you.
Purple and yellow dots are extroverts and Red and blue dots are introverts
It can be useful, like astrology, as a pretext to reflect on ourselves
Late comment! ☺️ But I totally agree and I see so many parallels with astrology. There are four elements earth, wind, fire, water, as well as four dots. The fact that each are split into four groups reinforces the validity of this theory
Sabem dos tênis do lidl
Thank you
1/3 each is me......
Purple-Yellow-Blue
I like the information, but I really think that people are multivariate across these categories. Nobody is just all purple, yellow, etc.
Who else has red primary, then yellow, blue and purple? Reds, how is your general interaction with purples?
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Interesting but where's the Application of this to enrich a Work Team ?.
What if you are a mixture of different color dots?
Sounds good in terms of bracketing people into styles of communication, but for a country that gets almost suicidal if the All Blacks lose, and struggles to communicate to the point that so many Kiwis just move over the ditch, I'm not sure if its being implemented correctly or effectively. Some definite food for thought here.
Where do I get the book?
Excellent video. I'm a red dot that likes to ask why.
my favorite part was the kill and maim part. she made me giggle hard.
Felt like it took forever to get to the point
kind funny since its about communicating XD
I get you... I still enjoyed it overall 😊
Who cares it was worth it!
That makes you a purple dot
AMAZING!!!!
This correlates with aura colors.
I think a lot & I want to talk about all of them. and I want to know why something is happening to I be able to finish & understand it fast. so....it's mean I'm a colorful dot?
What if a person is all 4 dots. Asking for a friend.
Communication is underrated, misunderstood consistently and misconstrued for just talking. I am medical student and soon to be a doctor and just started my TH-cam channel. I would really love some support
Feel like I’m more of a blue dot
Bravo!
Yeshi Choedon
come on baby 😱😱🍴🍴🍴
I'm blue :) so what dot can match with blue ???:)))
Sooo. Basically she just described people with ADHD as "purple dots" and went on to shame them through the middle of this thing. And then left no actual helpful information about how the dots can connect with each other at all... this was so useless in addition to being offensive.
Laurie Jean wow i think you took this way too far. But I agree with the last part, no actual helpful information about how to actually use this information to anything useful.
Her points and content was impactful however I found her sometimes mocking a few personality types. For instance saying “They’ll be people who people don’t talk to at the office”. She could’ve been solution-driven instead.
What if your more than one
I'm a yellow dot. I like for things to be neat and in order. Never knew that until now.
What do you do if you're purple and blue married to a red?
Saying one dot or another “likes to finish things” it’s generalizations like these I find to be inaccurate. Some people are bad at finishing things others are not I suppose some people don’t mind nkt finishing things but I’m skeptical you can group people up into these particular categories and have it be accurate I think everyone is a mix of all these traits
Did she just call a researcher a "Kiwi" lol
Something about dots?? 😭
Who remembers what the colors meant ?
I don't identify with those... I cannot put people I know in those categories either. So it's not that useful.
Thats because you are blue dot....
lol, I litteraly put every single friend of mine In corresponding category :D
Not 4 u maybe
What if the moon crashes in to the Earth?
Dots really?
There are more than for response types
This is more confusing than it is informative
Referring people to dots and making zero connections to how that helps them communicate is the definition of the opposite of your intention.
I'm at dot that is a person who thinks your idea of viewing people as dots is manipulate and part of the problem not the solution.
Iam a blue one surly purely. 😀
I love when she says what she says about the purple Dot and the Red Dot and they're on a two hour drive.. well let me tell you my husband is most definitely a Red Dot.. and I am absolutely a purple Dot and we thought it would be smart to start a transport trucking business and drive together all over the country we did almost 200,000 miles in a year and we have been together 12 years at the time we never fought until we started that company and then we almost got divorced twice.. we went through so much pain and agony hurtful things were said we almost ruined our marriage and I am happy to say that now we have just celebrated our 15-year anniversary this past Saturday but he has taken so much work and we do not drive together anymore either. We are still learning our communication skills but we'll get there if I learn to shut my mouth.. 😆
Yellow Dot
idk if i'm a red dot or a yellow dot but i'm surrounded by purple dots
Yellow
did not understand a bit..poor communication from speaker about communication. really poor!
Can you be a combination of all 4? I identify with them all.....?
olefin the blood around my mother touch her heal her from head to toes and help me bf to get along in and break this hate curse voodoo mission witches they are speaking forward prayer in jesus name
Accomplished woman, what can I say I am just a regular guy
Cute accent and great humour
Where is this accent from?
New Zealand
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My partner is purple. I'm yellow.
Wo sind meine Eltern.....Wo sind Sie.....Brauche ich ein Signale......Dass bedeutet es mir sehr...bitte
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Im defo a blue dot hahaha
She came wit tha red bottoms n errthang to speak facts lol
Boring!
Drugs and alcohol . hmmmm
I used to be this one dot
I don't label anymore it's limiting is what it does
didn't help me with my assignment 0/10
Very stereotypical, Very innacurate on some level. Needs improvement (especially because it has a good base, but a bad exploitation ; yes communicaton is important, but defining bad profile of communicator (or not enough universals...) can lead to bad habit creation... And Everybody knows the power of habits ;)
What a waste of time :(
This is like a parody of TED
I think I pass between the dots, especially when my emotions come into play. I wish that a little more clarity had been given to the interplay of the dots but I understand it's a short time slot. Nonetheless excellent presentation, well said all around. To anyone on here posting rude or hateful comments, the only lasting impression you're making is on yourselves. This woman has spent years researching in a rigorous scientific field. You write ignorant comments on the internet. She has been the subject of 78,000 views and therefore 78,000 opinions. You hide behind a username. Who's to pity here? What's sad is that by acting so ignorant you give away your power. But you likely won't understand that before you've given it all away.
This comment sounds red to me 😂
I don't even know how to communicate anymore. I think I've lost interest in meeting new people . I crave for a meaningful relationship and at the same time i don't know how to socialize or like socializing
I can totally relate.
Most people are awful. You aren’t missing anything.
The mass of positive comments here are a good indication of the resonance of this talk