I'm beginning to see it as a gift. I am completely free to have another life and no one to be beholden to. It's ironic; my life was spent taking care of and caring about others who couldn't care less about whether I lived or died. Now I am free to never think about them again. The entire world is open for me now and the only limitations are what I place on myself. I will not allow abusive individuals into my life again.
I have survived 4 smear campaigns due to lack of boundaries. I have a record of 3-1(win/loss) by the grace of God. The most recent smear campaign the narcissist underestimated my experience in dealing with these situations. He quickly told 75% of my colleagues lies about me. What he did not expect was I refused to participate in their games, gave no reaction and after just 2 days (yes, you read that right) the flying monkeys got bored, exhausted and did not know what to do. Thus the narcissist is now alone with 2 flying monkeys (originally, he recruited 20 to try and mob/attack me). These people are demon possessed and they know what they are doing.
Went through one of these, though it was illegal due to being in a workplace as a form of discrimination/as retaliation for calling out the discrimination. It's hard to know who to trust after that--and the grief of loss of something you held dear (faith in humanity/trust/your humanism) is painful. May we move through these feelings and give ourselves compassion through this.
15yrs ago I got custody of my kids from the narc, and the campaign began, and still goes on till this day. Most recently he started a “go fund me”. in my name. Then told everybody my kids died from Covid, and I needed help covering the cost of there funerals. Man that sure was a trying time.
The malignant NPD I divorced resented , hated, and was envious of me for being an unconditionally loving, involved, empathetic mom and wife with morals , and values . He had to punish me , compete, triangulate my children and others against me by smear campaigning.. spreading his false narratives, projecting his rotten inner self ,shame and blame onto me .
Hello Melanie and others. I went through one of the worst smear's by 2 older narc sisters. A lot of the smear was projection and they were destroying everything good about me. They had the best connections to do this too. One of their husbands is an authority without the experience and education to do what he was doing. I have a book coming out called Embrace The Child Within by Rose La Rose. It's about just this. Narc will project onto their target what they don't like about themselves. And it gets brutal. I think we all know that. Now I just let the proper authorities deal with the narc. The very ones that were being used by the narc. The Table did turn.
My three daughters were turned against me, its been 9 yrs since they have talked to me, im heart broken, and cant get over it. My two very close brothers as well have not spoke to me.😪
It is so hard when it's your own children who are the abusers. My kids chose the path of lies and abuse. It's as if they are in a cult where their reality is what ever their father wants. They see the actual monster that he is when they look at me. They are abusive to me and they slander and sabotage me every chance they get. I decided to cut out anyone who has had contact with any of them. I would rather build my reputation on my own actions with new people than try to defend myself against false claims to people who should know me better. I'm working on my own resentment and bitterness. I know it's harmful for me and over time, I'm diminishing it a bit. I have compassion for them too, they got that way by modeling the behavior of a rapist who made it his mission to have them molested before they were 6. it's a real horror show and they are in it by choice. They have made me an outcast and shunned me. I'm working on turning the love, compassion and empathy I want to have for my offspring inward to myself. I now need to protect myself from them the way I tried to protect them from Steve Little.
My partner used to become abusive when drunk i had noticed mutual acquaintances avoiding me. He accidentally left his phone on in the pub and i heard him telling some friends how i was abusive to him he was describing his behavior but saying that i was the one doing it
Yes….my ex husband left me last year and did this….I was in shock. I gave too much and lost myself. From a young girl, I never felt good enough to be loved, and I learned to self-sacrifice and give give give to get breadcrumbs of love. This was my marriage of ten years as well. Does you program help those of us raised by parents who are narcissistic? Thank you for your work!
I’ve learned with these types it’s best to just ignore them and not let them get under your skin they can’t have that control and power so they resort to childish behavior to try and get their way
I really Love when you share which Narp modules you used I’d say your always right when I Go within on them. Very Thankful for this and I have walked away from many. I Don’t have to feel that I must please those who want to have combat with me any more. I have always been on the outside and different. Learning this way to Heal has been a way to even get closer to myself. Going to my sacred place I Feel so whole and complete. Don’t want no more poo poo on my rice cream❣️
Here’s a good one My soon to be x husband talked to my first x husband (both covert narcs) we were married over 20 years ago and he told him I had a medical disorder - BPD- and my soon to be x put it all over FB I had a mental health issue…many people we went to high school felt sorry for him that I was the crazy one and took his side! I blocked and deleted as necessary. It’s been a very hard day. :-( By the way- don’t have BPD- the first narc husband needed a good reason to cover up his affair and leaving me with a new baby…so he made me the crazy one! The worse is we have a kid together- the one that has always said I have a mental health disorder- my son is trauma bonded to his dad. He doesn’t call him out which at 19 I can understand he doesn’t want to upset him because his dad will cut him out of his life in a nanosecond ( he’s done it before)…it sucks being tied to narcs all my adult life
Sounds simple, but one's individual idea of who they are needs to be worked on, take this serious and love yourself. Stop being nice to unreasonable people, stop avoiding toxic people (of course pick ur battles but ur no longer afraid), stop enabling unhealthy behavior and manipulation of others. All of this sounds like common sense, but the truth is, one is not realizing what's occurring and/or not accepting that their low self worth is a part of the problem. Improve your own worth, love your life, realize those who can't take no or who are unwilling to work with you, let them be and go live your life and love it. Improving the self takes time, takes healing, and then you realize what has been missing, it has been you. This is not an over the night fix.
Thank you for this video. How do we overcome being controlled, jealousy being directed at us or witchcraft being practiced against us by complete strangers? I'm using modules 7, 8, and 9 still to heal from them. Will they work? And what is the basis of this misplaced control, jealousy and witchcraft? Will prayer, Bible reading and these videos reveal it to me? That way, I know what to pray against. Is it truly jealousy with someone you have nothing in common with; anger, wrath, envy, depression, psychosis? Please let me know because I will be using the prayers, Bible reading and those modules (7, 8, 9) to heal from any of those feelings that I might have in common that may be forming the soul ties, psychic bonds, or trauma bonds so that I can break those spiritual, emotional and psychic bonds.
Oh yeah, I’ll use modules 7, 8, and 9 to heal from the trauma of sabotage and bouts of misdirected feelings directed at me and used as a foundation for attacks but mainly I will use prayer 🙏🏿, Bible reading, and the modules for healing from within to lose the soul ties with toxic saboteurs. And now, I will add my gospel music to deal with the sabotage and jealousy and fake anger from strangers. And I will turn inward to heal from their belief that they must “punish” me. 🙄
I now see this as the narcissists doing me a favor. 1. They showed me, without a doubt, who they really were, and why I needed to never trust them, or want them in my life ever again. 2. They showed me that these other people were not really my friends either, so they could be removed from life to make room for better and more worthy friends. 3. They enabled me to have less or no contact with other family members who were so quick to believe bad things about me, so I could remove these toxic people forever from life, again making room for better and more worthy people. I have more time now to spend with with those who are truly great people.
@@deejames1st very good points.....in my case.... 1) she turned 2 parents that are in their 70s, already a tenuous relationship fully against me with lies against me. That is what hurts most and is irreparable. Parents.
@@SoberIrishman If they so easily turned against you, they weren’t that great to begin with to you or for you. Sometimes (often) REAL family can be found within true friendships. Now you have the wonderful opportunity to choose your own family, who will be good to you, who are emotionally healthy, open, and who you can truly enjoy being around. It’s a gift to be able to do so. I truly believe this.
@@deejames1st ar age 47, it is nearly inpossible to meet new people, esp with everyone scared of covid19....yes, i am basically alone except for the voices on my laptop for work.
@@SoberIrishman Everything is what you make of it. I highly recommend melanies Narp or thrive programs. I’m such a positive, happy, optimistic person as a result. Narp really changed my life. With Narp / quantum freedom healing I was able to meet and draw people to me that are healthy, fun, good and worthy.
Im living my best life and come to a realisation if people believe this sicko even when its SO obvious. They are missing out on the love and encouragement that I truly give to people. Its sad. This person is insane and everyone who knows me in real life can see it
This resonated so much with me I'm crying my eyes out. Word for word. I wanted to ask you if you don't mind, were you married to a narcissist? How many years were you in the relationship? In your opinion, daughters of narcissistic parents in the family will suffer victimisation from several members? If another, non direct family member, sees or "detects" you are blacksheep and victim of narcissism in either the close family midst or in your intimate relationship with a partner, will they target you too? (while healing/understanding all this)? I ask because the definition of a narcissist person varies a lot, and in some cases it can be seen as a normal behaviour but interpreted in a completely different way. Example: You had a good relationship with a close family member but due to your struggling in being victimised and a huge pile of triggers, that person starts interpreting every little thing you say, even out of compassion, love, care when they're sick etc, as a manipulation tactic and shove that in your face even though you love them to pieces and are genuinely worried and care so much about them that if something happened to them you could die. Would you consider reverse narcissism, or like a defamation brewing ground about to explode? I've had cousins, not so close so they don't know me well, making judgement on my life without uttering a word while I was struggling hard to keep afloat. Mind you I received them In my house, gave them shelter food while they were vacationing. It's heartbreaking.. I love people and tried so hard. Under the same roof my own brother ran a smearing campaign against me, even attacked me injuring me, demanding things and screaming. He knew years prior I had been in a 5 yo DV relationship that ALONE Managed to escape. So you can imagine what that all triggered in me. I've see narcissists and can say sadistic sociopaths (not diagnosing anyone, but he checked every box). That triggers me to no end, and makes me feel enraged.
Your video is so spot on #supply addicts they hide behind yes people #fear -- my life full of love ❤️truths and authentic people … 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 loving it #NARP
The lunatic would triangulate my 2 girls again my son and I, after everything he’s done the girls still think he’s cool hang out with him etc I just don’t get it, he’s been gone over 7 yrs remarried yet still continues the lunacy.
I’m currently going thru my boyfriend is a narcissist currently he been saying I need to suffer he taking everything he won’t stop he didn’t pay our rent now I’m looking at eviction I feel like he takin everything I don’t know wat to do
What do you do when you've finally got out and have moved several times Yet your abuser reports you missing and the police won't believe you,,? I'm ok not missing
When you get over losing friends and family....it is actually very, very liberating.
Freedom feels great after you heal.
I love this it’s so True. Saved our lives👍🏼
@@nancyadams4358 😇👍
Thank you for your kind words.
Good for you!!
I'm beginning to see it as a gift. I am completely free to have another life and no one to be beholden to. It's ironic; my life was spent taking care of and caring about others who couldn't care less about whether I lived or died. Now I am free to never think about them again. The entire world is open for me now and the only limitations are what I place on myself. I will not allow abusive individuals into my life again.
I have survived 4 smear campaigns due to lack of boundaries. I have a record of 3-1(win/loss) by the grace of God. The most recent smear campaign the narcissist underestimated my experience in dealing with these situations. He quickly told 75% of my colleagues lies about me. What he did not expect was I refused to participate in their games, gave no reaction and after just 2 days (yes, you read that right) the flying monkeys got bored, exhausted and did not know what to do. Thus the narcissist is now alone with 2 flying monkeys (originally, he recruited 20 to try and mob/attack me). These people are demon possessed and they know what they are doing.
People who don't have empathy find lying easy.
The best place to be. Feeling good about who you are, being right with God and not worrying what others think. Right where God wants us.
Everything you said was absolutely true!
Went through one of these, though it was illegal due to being in a workplace as a form of discrimination/as retaliation for calling out the discrimination. It's hard to know who to trust after that--and the grief of loss of something you held dear (faith in humanity/trust/your humanism) is painful. May we move through these feelings and give ourselves compassion through this.
My association for the word "persecution" is NOT pretty... Notes of war there or burning at the stake. Super heavy. I felt oppressed, not persecuted.
15yrs ago I got custody of my kids from the narc, and the campaign began, and still goes on till this day. Most recently he started a “go fund me”. in my name. Then told everybody my kids died from Covid, and I needed help covering the cost of there funerals. Man that sure was a trying time.
The malignant NPD I divorced resented , hated, and was envious of me for being an unconditionally loving, involved, empathetic mom and wife with morals , and values .
He had to punish me , compete, triangulate my children and others against me by smear campaigning.. spreading his false narratives, projecting his rotten inner self ,shame and blame onto me .
Mine is my Brother & ME as the Aunt to kids with a dead beat Dad.
Hello Melanie and others. I went through one of the worst smear's by 2 older narc sisters. A lot of the smear was projection and they were destroying everything good about me. They had the best connections to do this too. One of their husbands is an authority without the experience and education to do what he was doing. I have a book coming out called Embrace The Child Within by Rose La Rose. It's about just this. Narc will project onto their target what they don't like about themselves. And it gets brutal. I think we all know that. Now I just let the proper authorities deal with the narc. The very ones that were being used by the narc. The Table did turn.
My three daughters were turned against me, its been 9 yrs since they have talked to me, im heart broken, and cant get over it. My two very close brothers as well have not spoke to me.😪
I can relate, same with my three daughters and younger brother. It’s a painful roller coasters at times.
It is so hard when it's your own children who are the abusers. My kids chose the path of lies and abuse. It's as if they are in a cult where their reality is what ever their father wants. They see the actual monster that he is when they look at me. They are abusive to me and they slander and sabotage me every chance they get. I decided to cut out anyone who has had contact with any of them. I would rather build my reputation on my own actions with new people than try to defend myself against false claims to people who should know me better.
I'm working on my own resentment and bitterness. I know it's harmful for me and over time, I'm diminishing it a bit.
I have compassion for them too, they got that way by modeling the behavior of a rapist who made it his mission to have them molested before they were 6. it's a real horror show and they are in it by choice. They have made me an outcast and shunned me.
I'm working on turning the love, compassion and empathy I want to have for my offspring inward to myself. I now need to protect myself from them the way I tried to protect them from Steve Little.
My partner used to become abusive when drunk i had noticed mutual acquaintances avoiding me. He accidentally left his phone on in the pub and i heard him telling some friends how i was abusive to him he was describing his behavior but saying that i was the one doing it
Yep, that's darvo. It's just one of the normal (weird) thing's they do 🙄
Yes….my ex husband left me last year and did this….I was in shock. I gave too much and lost myself. From a young girl, I never felt good enough to be loved, and I learned to self-sacrifice and give give give to get breadcrumbs of love. This was my marriage of ten years as well. Does you program help those of us raised by parents who are narcissistic? Thank you for your work!
The only thing you can control is yourself.
I’ve learned with these types it’s best to just ignore them and not let them get under your skin they can’t have that control and power so they resort to childish behavior to try and get their way
I agree. I think it causes them to escalate and ultimately expose themselves. We don't have to do anything but be patient and ignore it.
I really Love when you share which Narp modules you used I’d say your always right when I Go within on them. Very Thankful for this and I have walked away from many. I Don’t have to feel that I must please those who want to have combat with me any more. I have always been on the outside and different. Learning this way to Heal has been a way to even get closer to myself. Going to my sacred place I Feel so whole and complete. Don’t want no more poo poo on my rice cream❣️
Here’s a good one
My soon to be x husband talked to my first x husband (both covert narcs) we were married over 20 years ago and he told him I had a medical disorder - BPD- and my soon to be x put it all over FB I had a mental health issue…many people we went to high school felt sorry for him that I was the crazy one and took his side!
I blocked and deleted as necessary. It’s been a very hard day. :-(
By the way- don’t have BPD- the first narc husband needed a good reason to cover up his affair and leaving me with a new baby…so he made me the crazy one!
The worse is we have a kid together- the one that has always said I have a mental health disorder- my son is trauma bonded to his dad. He doesn’t call him out which at 19 I can understand he doesn’t want to upset him because his dad will cut him out of his life in a nanosecond ( he’s done it before)…it sucks being tied to narcs all my adult life
Sounds simple, but one's individual idea of who they are needs to be worked on, take this serious and love yourself. Stop being nice to unreasonable people, stop avoiding toxic people (of course pick ur battles but ur no longer afraid), stop enabling unhealthy behavior and manipulation of others. All of this sounds like common sense, but the truth is, one is not realizing what's occurring and/or not accepting that their low self worth is a part of the problem. Improve your own worth, love your life, realize those who can't take no or who are unwilling to work with you, let them be and go live your life and love it. Improving the self takes time, takes healing, and then you realize what has been missing, it has been you. This is not an over the night fix.
Uggghhhh the lies make me livid!
I wish I never met certain people bro. Thank you Melanie, thoughtful video here.
Went no contact with my father..big time narcissist all my life thinking I’m going to be out of the will don’t know what. To do…….
Thank you for this video. How do we overcome being controlled, jealousy being directed at us or witchcraft being practiced against us by complete strangers? I'm using modules 7, 8, and 9 still to heal from them. Will they work? And what is the basis of this misplaced control, jealousy and witchcraft? Will prayer, Bible reading and these videos reveal it to me? That way, I know what to pray against. Is it truly jealousy with someone you have nothing in common with; anger, wrath, envy, depression, psychosis? Please let me know because I will be using the prayers, Bible reading and those modules (7, 8, 9) to heal from any of those feelings that I might have in common that may be forming the soul ties, psychic bonds, or trauma bonds so that I can break those spiritual, emotional and psychic bonds.
Oh yeah, I’ll use modules 7, 8, and 9 to heal from the trauma of sabotage and bouts of misdirected feelings directed at me and used as a foundation for attacks but mainly I will use prayer 🙏🏿, Bible reading, and the modules for healing from within to lose the soul ties with toxic saboteurs. And now, I will add my gospel music to deal with the sabotage and jealousy and fake anger from strangers. And I will turn inward to heal from their belief that they must “punish” me. 🙄
She turned my parents and best friend against me, total discrediting me. It was horrible.
I now see this as the narcissists doing me a favor. 1. They showed me, without a doubt, who they really were, and why I needed to never trust them, or want them in my life ever again. 2. They showed me that these other people were not really my friends either, so they could be removed from life to make room for better and more worthy friends. 3. They enabled me to have less or no contact with other family members who were so quick to believe bad things about me, so I could remove these toxic people forever from life, again making room for better and more worthy people. I have more time now to spend with with those who are truly great people.
@@deejames1st very good points.....in my case....
1) she turned 2 parents that are in their 70s, already a tenuous relationship fully against me with lies against me.
That is what hurts most and is irreparable. Parents.
@@SoberIrishman If they so easily turned against you, they weren’t that great to begin with to you or for you. Sometimes (often) REAL family can be found within true friendships. Now you have the wonderful opportunity to choose your own family, who will be good to you, who are emotionally healthy, open, and who you can truly enjoy being around. It’s a gift to be able to do so. I truly believe this.
@@deejames1st ar age 47, it is nearly inpossible to meet new people, esp with everyone scared of covid19....yes, i am basically alone except for the voices on my laptop for work.
@@SoberIrishman Everything is what you make of it. I highly recommend melanies Narp or thrive programs. I’m such a positive, happy, optimistic person as a result. Narp really changed my life. With Narp / quantum freedom healing I was able to meet and draw people to me that are healthy, fun, good and worthy.
Thank you for sharing. Wow, very well spoken. 🤗
Great video. Thanks for sharing 👍
Thank you for your help!
They will actually find some things that may be sorta true then exaggerate then start really just going off the deep end with lies 💔
Im living my best life and come to a realisation if people believe this sicko even when its SO obvious. They are missing out on the love and encouragement that I truly give to people. Its sad. This person is insane and everyone who knows me in real life can see it
This resonated so much with me I'm crying my eyes out. Word for word. I wanted to ask you if you don't mind, were you married to a narcissist? How many years were you in the relationship?
In your opinion, daughters of narcissistic parents in the family will suffer victimisation from several members? If another, non direct family member, sees or "detects" you are blacksheep and victim of narcissism in either the close family midst or in your intimate relationship with a partner, will they target you too? (while healing/understanding all this)? I ask because the definition of a narcissist person varies a lot, and in some cases it can be seen as a normal behaviour but interpreted in a completely different way.
Example: You had a good relationship with a close family member but due to your struggling in being victimised and a huge pile of triggers, that person starts interpreting every little thing you say, even out of compassion, love, care when they're sick etc, as a manipulation tactic and shove that in your face even though you love them to pieces and are genuinely worried and care so much about them that if something happened to them you could die. Would you consider reverse narcissism, or like a defamation brewing ground about to explode?
I've had cousins, not so close so they don't know me well, making judgement on my life without uttering a word while I was struggling hard to keep afloat. Mind you I received them In my house, gave them shelter food while they were vacationing. It's heartbreaking.. I love people and tried so hard. Under the same roof my own brother ran a smearing campaign against me, even attacked me injuring me, demanding things and screaming. He knew years prior I had been in a 5 yo DV relationship that ALONE Managed to escape. So you can imagine what that all triggered in me. I've see narcissists and can say sadistic sociopaths (not diagnosing anyone, but he checked every box). That triggers me to no end, and makes me feel enraged.
Your video is so spot on #supply addicts they hide behind yes people #fear
-- my life full of love ❤️truths and authentic people … 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 loving it #NARP
The lunatic would triangulate my 2 girls again my son and I, after everything he’s done the girls still think he’s cool hang out with him etc I just don’t get it, he’s been gone over 7 yrs remarried yet still continues the lunacy.
I am going through this right now. I’m at my end.
♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
I’m currently going thru my boyfriend is a narcissist currently he been saying I need to suffer he taking everything he won’t stop he didn’t pay our rent now I’m looking at eviction I feel like he takin everything I don’t know wat to do
Thank u much appreciated
What do you do when you've finally got out and have moved several times
Yet your abuser reports you missing and the police won't believe you,,? I'm ok not missing
What if you show this video to his friends
The new supply made up obscene lies about me too! She really is his zombie 🤣😎👀
I’m not sure about this
It may have just been in your case that this miracle occurred
Haven’t seen it occur for many others
Mine is too smart he’s covert and will get thousands of followers
✨🙏🏼✨
Achaaa that means no porn was made on alia butts....but why he's attacking me ....iv never EVN spoken to u saad past 13 years....most strange
When ur looking fr a third wife. ....Jesus Christ...or a hundredth girl to date ahahaha... shouldn't u shud b a bit mature❤