When we r ghosted, immediately we try to chase that person for love or feel low. Instead we have to take time n strt self loving becoz inner child is hurt very badly. Then create a new story that the one who ghosted start chasing for you instead. Thank you Shelly💙❤️..I badly needed this video today n it showed up🤗🤗
That’s exactly how I feel I won’t accept my SP or anyone in my reality unless they treat me like the queen I am 👸🏼 I even stopped seeing a guy lately I was into i met we had a great connection but he did something shady and I told him “I worked too hard on my self love to accept this” I was proud of myself because the old me would have blamed herself instead of putting boundaries on how I want to be treated ♥️♥️♥️
@@Mommodeon2023 by following ur joy, do things u love that makes u happy, and surround yourself with people who lift u up. stay away from negativity and be able to spend time by yourself it's so so important
"People are only allowed to treat me with respect and love and if they do not treat me that way they are not allowed in my reality" If you are holding that rule for yourself, you are going to create people who show up in a consistent way with you.
If I hold my inner child any more she’s going to call social services and say I’m harassing her. This was exactly the video I needed tho. Thanks Shelley and have a great summer at the beach!
I just wanted to say Im loving your new course! I've listened to all the meditations and been working on the workbook and lessons as it feels right. I bought the course the day you released it and have already been unblocked and received contact from my sp. It wasn't much yet, but I know its just the beginning 😊. We haven't been in contact for over 6 months and seperated over a year now. Thank you so much for this course and all you do! ❤
Really just following Shelly’s videos and advice and be patient with yourself. It’s been quite the journey for me to get here and I just keep believing everything will work out and persist! I’ve been focused on working on me in the meantime, because I understand it’s all within and I know I created the circumstances too.
Thank you Shelly 🥰💕 “They r NOT allowed to show up in my reality unless they r ...” This is a genius 💡 idea🌟! I’m definitely using this phrase! Thank u🙏❤️
It has happened to me once before I was in LOA .I just thought he is coming back in a few months I'm sure and he did! But the reason I manifested this unknowingly is because I wasn't attached as I didn't actually care about this person or I didn't have the time to get attached - thank god!
Thank you Shelly- great video and unfortunately a very sad topic. But useful to know..... thank you. I never understand why people aren't able to be straight with each other.
I don't care how hot a girl is or how good the sex is. If they are not matching my energy, they are DRAINING my energy. I need good people in my life that are going to love, support, and be there for me as I would for them. Recognize that you are an ASSET. No one is replaceable because everyone has something unique to them. With that same logic, because of this everyone is inherently replaceable.
Whoa! That's why certain friends have dropped off. I only allow to be treated a certain way. Especially in this last year, I've really put this in my vibration. This was deep. I really enjoyed this video. I wasn't going to watch it because ghosting doesn't happen to me enough to care..lol.. but it turned out something really good to watch. Thanks!!
I loved both of these affirmations: "whoever comes into my reality is going to consistenly show up for me" and "people are only allowed to show up in my reality as long as they treat me how I desire"
Thanks Shelly 💜 this is so helpful. I am going through your self love course and I realized it has been difficult for me to stay in the end result with manifesting my SP because I realized he had not been showing up for me fully, and because of that it was hard to imagine a new reality consistently without going back to “he’s not here”. After the inner child meditation I was almost angry at the situation. The whole thing was similar to being ghosted because he does not talk to me anymore unless I initiate contact and it is draining and not very nourishing. I will continue working on how all these topics interrelate, thank you for your help!
shelby9088 Glad you are Recognizing these patterns & coming deeply back into your self worth/self love. My perspective is this inner work really helps us finally create what we truly desire in relationships & life. 🙏🏼✨
Perfect timing Shelly, i was ghosted by my SP back in March and it was so devastating as i didn't realise how attached i am to him. Till now i cant understand why, never been an over contactor so i guess my energy is so powerful i repel people haha
I cant believe i am actually typing this right now but my SP reached out to me yesterday and at first i thought i was hallucinating but im so happy right now eeekkkkk
@@QueenofSwords18 Sorry i am only seeing the comment now... honestly it happened when i got busy with my own thing and just let go. I know it sounds redundant but thats when he reached out. I had done a few sp meditations of shellys and a few self love here and there prior to basically just giving up on him and the whole idea. Lo and behold the minute i was like whatever he reached out asking if i had forgotten about him
I’ve completed the playlist and am in the middle of Free Yourself Module 1. Thank you for EVERYTHING Shelly. I honor you and the beautiful work you do for all so if no one has told you today, YOU CHANGE LIVES FOR THE BETTER!
I've been doing your inner child meditation every day and already I've started to think you know what next time I'm not going to be dropped. That was the old me. The healed me knows better! Happy healing everyone! 🙏♥️
I really great topic for a new video could be ‘ how to be present for yourself during times that seems to be difficult for us’ Love how you speak about it. Immediately feel better 💖
I stumbled across this video and I wasn’t going to watch it because I I was afraid of you would say regarding ghosting. The video hit a nerve with me the second you said that the abandonment wound can be unconsciously carried within us as an expectation. To be honest, i cried immediately after you said that. I understood to a degree that I had abandoned myself but never considered that I internally expected someone I love (who loves me too) to just drop me without reason. I placed so much blame on myself and felt there was something wrong with me. And I know that is sooo not true! Thank you for providing this insight so I can shift and heal this expectation I didn’t even know I had!
This was so profound. I've had an expectation my entire life that 'this is just how people are' and allowed people to treat me like this and accepted it (in my reality). Tapping into the fierce love and feeling a 'HECK NO!' - I'm done being treated in this way and expect EVERYONE to treat me kindly, respectfully, and lovingly. Thank you so much, Shelly. Such a relief to know that I am able to change this pattern.
Shelly I’m so lost among the manifestation community because I’m new at this. I would like to manifest this person back because it was a complicated situation and I don’t believe that was his true character. But the abandonment trauma is still there and I’m actively working on all parts of it, sometimes it’s hard to picture him coming in in a loving way. So at first I tried revision-like the incidents never happened. But now I think it’d be best to manifest a reconciliation conversation. And if it never happened you can’t have both. So I think I’m messing up the process. I just want peace, and also a second chance with someone who I know just made a series of poor choices.
I would love to see a video from you in particular because of your mental health background on manifesting people out of the lives of people we care about. I have changed enough to get Narcissists away from me, but I have some very loving and empathic friends who are plagued by them. I have lost people because of the extraneous people. Please consider doing a video on manifesting people out of your loved ones lives. Thanks Shelly!
Truthfully I don’t resonate with diagnosing people as narcissists & I rarely use that term. I also think anytime we’re pointing the finger at what someone else is doing “wrong,” we’re less likely to look at how we’ve caused a relationship dynamic like that. Just my perspective...
😂 I cut them right off and never let them anywhere near me again. I'm fine by myself and I thank them for showing me who they are so I don't have to invest more than I should.
Dayuummmmm, Shelly!!! The video that I wanted to watch as I am ghosted now by my sp. Its an excellent video to watch and curious to know did you look up my previous conversation with a girl in one of your previous ideas discussing how I was ghosted and still ghosted. I am truly honored to watch the video and would want to know what to do when ghosted.
9:26 I have been learning more about abandonment issues and working on healing this, as I have noticed this pattern. And it's been really eye opening for me. 10:18 I'm still learning this. I mean, I know that this has to come from me and not the other person. But I do want to feel wanted and cared for, but I have to be there for myself first. Learn how to give to myself and show up for myself. 13:22 Thank you for this. I had often been vocal with my exes when I felt like my needs weren't met, because I thought I was keeping my boundaries but then I realized it's only pushed them away. But that's a great idea that I have to remind myself and focus on myself instead. This feels a little complicated though because I know it's also important for us to communicate our needs, but I guess it should be in a calm manner and not from a place of neediness or desperation.
This was one of the best videos!! It brought up stuff that happened 15 years ago so clearly in my memory and I realise that I have been manifesting a pattern. Thanks so much!! I feel this will definitely help me have a more clear vision of what i want.. lots of love!!
One of the comments below said it's painful being ghosted. I would like to suggest you that our minds do create all these and when we do understand this it's joyful feeling to release oneself from that situation and it depends on us... This is what I learnt and experienced from Shelly's all videos says including this one. I am really greatful to you Shelly for making me feel so confident and powerful. 🙏
I just found this video and it’s so profound and really resonates with me Shelly I never really thought about my childhood relating to my relationships. How not having the attention I should have. My mom was at a very young age when she had children. 4 of us to be exact. I was number 3. She was 21 years old and a single mom before I was even 2. One of my siblings was always getting into trouble the other is deaf so the attention was mainly focused on them. I’ve always loved myself and thought I was a beautiful person but subconsciously didn’t. I fully understand now why I attract the relationships I do. They always start out so beautiful but then I create this fear of not having attention or being loved in my reality and then once again I am alone. Wow!! Now I am working on myself, self love and listening to your videos. Thank you so much for this Shelly ❤️ You are so appreciated!!
This teach me so much! THANK YOU! I manifest being ghosted and said that to myself many many times even type that to him that’s I was afraid of that! And that simply happen but I’m working on myself everyday!
I needed this video. My SP ghosted me for the past 3 months. Then on Monday, boom..he says he is letting me go because he has fallen out of love with me. I was hurt yes but somehow I feel like it's not the end. I feel he is going to come back. What is happening now is that when I think of him I feel a weird kind of sickness to my stomach and some sort of fear in my heart (my heart starts racing ) I wonder why. 😐
I am new to your videos/site, and I am definitely going to take your courses to help me with my fears and also to help bring me and my ex back together. Thank you for doing this! You seem really cool! I really want to learn this stuff and use it to improve myself and my relationship because I believe in us, and this type of work is exactly what I and us need! I am going through a healing time after my ex ghosted me, and I am getting readings that say he is seeing the truth and coming back, but there are things that we both need to heal, and you have a great range of courses that cover what we need to change/heal/work on. Thank you again and I look forward to learning from you!
Shelly Bullard I just held my inner child and told her everything was going to be ok, then I said it out loud (and meant it): (His name), you are not allowed to show up in my reality if you’re not going to 1) show up for me, and 2) be consistent. 1h later he texted and he’s been texting ever since.
I’m not good with the self love, but I am not chasing my ghoster either...dropped off too..I guess that’s a part of self love? Idk. I know he will be back so I’m just temporarily abandoned by him. I manifested him that way.i have so much to learn lol .Thank Shelly
I manifested him we have been great together and things have been well. Just last Monday he left on family vacation and he text me maybe once and I haven’t heard from him for over week. We were doing things so much fun he even started coming to my house. Now I am like what happened. I know he was away but I can’t excuse him but I know is not him that is me. Every one is you pushed out. I am disappointed at him but I know is not him. It is me
And here I thought you are in your late 20s😅😅 Also I love the entire zen background 😍😍 But yeah the dropping part is true, and I am working on inner child stuff 😊 Thanks for another wonderful video
How beautiful ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you. No one ever explaned that to me. I have no pattern of being ghosted and I didn’t understand what unconsciously made that happen. Not showing up for myself that’s it! I will do you inner child meditation.
Your guidance in this video is the answer that I have been looking for many years of my life but no one said it and I knew I wasn't doing the right thing but didn't know how to fix it and now I finally knew. How I wish I knew this like twenty years back so that my life would be less drama and so forth hehehe... Thank you Shelly you're the best !!! May God bless you more and more 🙏🏼💫💕
Yes very true, I had been ghosted. No contact, no reply nothing ,everything dropped ...I felt nervous, negative, even freaked , I came up to a point where I felt to end myself.....it was so terrible and scary. I tried to do innerchild work and at that moment I talked to myself n tried to console myself and everytime I told myself that the my sp got stuck somewhere and someday will surely return. Shelly , it was tough doing so. But i did. Those days i didn't know anything about manifesting. It would have been easier to handle those days of ghosting if I had a little knowledge about manifestation. Thank God, I did so. Especially the inner child work. Later on I set a boundary n talked to myself about self respect. I felt that if my sp respect me , love me unconditionally, trust me , then surely my sp would return. It happened one day, ....the way I was ghosted, in the same way the person returned. Really it was very serious n terrible n scary. Hope it wont happen again.
Hi Shelly,great video as always. Unfortunately I've been ghost by my specific person for over a week now. Part of me believe that my specific person still love me deep inside. However what I understand that If I want her to give me attention to totally stop ignoring me to be with me. To not be in abusive relationship anymore. Then I must do two things number one as hard as it is for me stop messaging her. And appreciate and love myself and write a brand new story of her not in abusive relationship anymore. And that she instead of me is trying to reach me.
Another very powerful video. Hold your boundary - I love this! Thank you, Shelly, for speaking about this. I have a hard time with boundaries and am learning how important they are and that I’m 100% responsible for not settling or keeping them in the past. But this is a new moment and as you so beautifully said, “People are only allowed to treat me with respect and love”. 💗💪
I affirm contact, “Deja (last name) is constantly snapchatting me everyday”. I’ve seen more movement this past week then I have in months simply by affirming this thought. And other things like, “We have amazing conversations everyday. Everyday deja is constantly talking to me”. As an example.
This recently happened to me and all I could think if was WHY would you do that?! What had I done. Now I get it. My history us full of abandonment from parent’s, family members, etc., yes self love and setting expectations Thru inner conversations us starting now. Thank you.
That was well explained... I was ghosted after a 1 year relationship and understand what you explained about your inner reality is creating your outer reality. Thank you 🙏🏻❤️
The one video of yours I never thought I'd have to watch. To me, ghosting is abusive and traumatic. So far, I've been ghosted for a week by my partner of 18 months. She's pulled away (too) many times before - she's an avoidant attachment style. But this time it's full out ignoring me. I've been loving, sentimental, flirty, humourous in my messages to have DIALOGUE with her despite HER breaking my trust in a pretty serious way and calling her out on it. We HAD sincere heartfelt agreements to be transparent with one another...yet she "bypassed" this agreement just as we had tickets to travel and see my family so she would finally meet my makers. Being betrayed in this way seems unforgivable... However, to be ghosted instead of receiving an apology is mind-boggling. I was deeply committed to her...but she was always hot/cold and doubting everything. It was a big deal for her to finally meet them. Yes I need to do inner work, which is why I bought some of Shelly's courses but so far, no movement with her. I am now feeling caught between "Transform my SP" VS "Hell NO to being with someone who can withdraw her affection like this or breaks our core agreements to always communicate and be ethical with each other". I wish there was an answer to that because in sum, Shelly seems to have videos that support both. She did her Hell Nos with some guys, why didn't she just use the techniques to transform them instead? My SP isn't all bad - but she has been erratic, and now with broken trust, no apology or ownership for that but instead ghosting me for a week and counting, that feels like a really tough one to turn around.
Know poster posted long time ago . But am gna add incase anyone else has a similar situation . That what is going on with them is not as simple as inner child they need to focus on theirself. What ever is going on has led the sp to keep pulling away need to ask theirself do they want this situation for rest of their life they can keep doing inner work theres soo much old story with their sp I work actually next time they come back ghost them one it shock them and give them the feeling of what its like to be treated like that 2 it is protecting theirself saying enough is enough now theyv already been assured by the sp it wouldn't happen anymore and they did it again. This now is not bout getting desired results from sp it's about calling in someone who can treat them better. If theh really still want sp hold space cut them off get on with their life enjoy their life and let that person miss them and come back In with the knowing this time they dont leave
1. INNER CHILD. I AM HERE, I AM NOT GONNA LEAVE YOU AND I KNOW THAT REALLY HURTS, AND I AM STILL HERE, AND I AM NOT GOING ANYWHERE. I AM GOING TO HOLD YOU, AND I AM GOING TO BE HERE WITH YOU. 2. CREATE THE STORY
Hi Shelley, I think not checking to see if your blocked every day doesn't help. Also what helped is creating the inner voices knowing you wont be blocked forever. And creating the vioice the memories you shared with the Person who blocked you.
Thank you shelly for your awesome video😍.your words always encourages me.Everything is possible.I feel more love to myself whenever I did your inner child meditation😍.
I loved it ❤️❤️❤️ I’ve never been ghosted but I think this helps me to understand how I truly want to be treated and best of all, how to actually do it... Im so thankful for your videos... can’t wait for the next one 😁😁😁
When we r ghosted, immediately we try to chase that person for love or feel low. Instead we have to take time n strt self loving becoz inner child is hurt very badly. Then create a new story that the one who ghosted start chasing for you instead. Thank you Shelly💙❤️..I badly needed this video today n it showed up🤗🤗
You’re welcome 🥰
I love your summary!! Thank you very very much
@@konradmoien4734 welcome dear🥰
“We train people to treat us how they treat us.” Now THAT was a profound “a-ha” moment for me. THANK YOU, Shelly!
Awesome! I’m so glad! 🙌🏼
Yes, I always say to myself. I deserve and receive respect from everyone in my life. I am love and receive love. I am a priorty not an option.
Yess🌸✨
That’s exactly how I feel I won’t accept my SP or anyone in my reality unless they treat me like the queen I am 👸🏼 I even stopped seeing a guy lately I was into i met we had a great connection but he did something shady and I told him “I worked too hard on my self love to accept this” I was proud of myself because the old me would have blamed herself instead of putting boundaries on how I want to be treated ♥️♥️♥️
Amazing💙✨
How do uh do self love i knda find damn hard can uh plz help
@@Mommodeon2023 by following ur joy, do things u love that makes u happy, and surround yourself with people who lift u up. stay away from negativity and be able to spend time by yourself it's so so important
‘I worked too hard on my self love to accept this.’ Love this. Wow 💛
"People are only allowed to treat me with respect and love and if they do not treat me that way they are not allowed in my reality"
If you are holding that rule for yourself, you are going to create people who show up in a consistent way with you.
The ‘no one shows up in my reality that way!’ fierceness really resonates with me and helps me with the felt experience!
Glad you liked it!
It's really painful being ghosted
Hope this video helps.
If I hold my inner child any more she’s going to call social services and say I’m harassing her. This was exactly the video I needed tho. Thanks Shelley and have a great summer at the beach!
Ahahahahah I felt this
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Lol, same here! 😂
That’s hilarious
Shelly couldnt wait to tell you this
My sp wants me to go on holidays with him ❤❤❤❤
Amazing!!
@@ShellyBullard yes
Things are unfolding so easily
Thank you Shelly
Wonderful!
I'm going to use this as an affirmation. 🌠
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@@leenlovesdancing3561 ❤❤❤❤
@@djamb117 He wants to go on holiday with me. 🙌
I will not take crumbs like you taught in a video.
I did tell myself today I respect myself enough to only want the best.
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I am tired of chasing people. Right now I am focusing on myself, my goals, my achievements.
Wonderful!
I just wanted to say Im loving your new course! I've listened to all the meditations and been working on the workbook and lessons as it feels right. I bought the course the day you released it and have already been unblocked and received contact from my sp. It wasn't much yet, but I know its just the beginning 😊. We haven't been in contact for over 6 months and seperated over a year now. Thank you so much for this course and all you do! ❤
Love this!🙏✨
@chellhart06 Do you have any advice? And tips?
Really just following Shelly’s videos and advice and be patient with yourself. It’s been quite the journey for me to get here and I just keep believing everything will work out and persist! I’ve been focused on working on me in the meantime, because I understand it’s all within and I know I created the circumstances too.
@@chellhart06 I'm happy for u yall will be bk in a new great relationship in no time the universe sees u
@@mrs_is_the_name3377 thank you ❤
Thank you Shelly 🥰💕 “They r NOT allowed to show up in my reality unless they r ...” This is a genius 💡 idea🌟! I’m definitely using this phrase! Thank u🙏❤️
You’re welcome!
It has happened to me once before I was in LOA .I just thought he is coming back in a few months I'm sure and he did! But the reason I manifested this unknowingly is because I wasn't attached as I didn't actually care about this person or I didn't have the time to get attached - thank god!
This is super useful! Self-love is not talked about enough in this community.
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📢❤️📢This video will GO LIVE an HOUR EARLIER than normal... just FYI❤️📢 See you tomorrow everyone!
Thank you Shelly- great video and unfortunately a very sad topic. But useful to know..... thank you. I never understand why people aren't able to be straight with each other.
By far this is the education of life that they don't teach you in any textbook. Love these videos. So much to learn here for your life.
Sooth with care, presence and attention, and don't expect anything less from anyone else.
Thank you .
You’re welcome 💙
As always this video was so enlightening Shelley :)
Beautiful! This makes me so happy to hear!
Why does everyone have an sp
It’s so important to nurture that inner child. I really love your inner child meditation and use it often when I feel dropped. 🥰🧘🏼♀️
So glad you liked it🌸
I don't care how hot a girl is or how good the sex is. If they are not matching my energy, they are DRAINING my energy. I need good people in my life that are going to love, support, and be there for me as I would for them. Recognize that you are an ASSET. No one is replaceable because everyone has something unique to them. With that same logic, because of this everyone is inherently replaceable.
Whoa! That's why certain friends have dropped off. I only allow to be treated a certain way. Especially in this last year, I've really put this in my vibration. This was deep. I really enjoyed this video. I wasn't going to watch it because ghosting doesn't happen to me enough to care..lol.. but it turned out something really good to watch. Thanks!!
You’re welcome!
Thanks for this video. I've been ghosted in several sort of relationships - even friendships - and I needed a little boost to help me overcome this.
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I loved both of these affirmations: "whoever comes into my reality is going to consistenly show up for me" and "people are only allowed to show up in my reality as long as they treat me how I desire"
Shelly your voice, your background and everything is so calming and relaxing. Thanks for the video. 🙏🏽
Of course!
Thanks Shelly 💜 this is so helpful. I am going through your self love course and I realized it has been difficult for me to stay in the end result with manifesting my SP because I realized he had not been showing up for me fully, and because of that it was hard to imagine a new reality consistently without going back to “he’s not here”. After the inner child meditation I was almost angry at the situation. The whole thing was similar to being ghosted because he does not talk to me anymore unless I initiate contact and it is draining and not very nourishing. I will continue working on how all these topics interrelate, thank you for your help!
shelby9088 Glad you are Recognizing these patterns & coming deeply back into your self worth/self love. My perspective is this inner work really helps us finally create what we truly desire in relationships & life. 🙏🏼✨
Perfect timing Shelly, i was ghosted by my SP back in March and it was so devastating as i didn't realise how attached i am to him. Till now i cant understand why, never been an over contactor so i guess my energy is so powerful i repel people haha
It is painful!
I cant believe i am actually typing this right now but my SP reached out to me yesterday and at first i thought i was hallucinating but im so happy right now eeekkkkk
@@amandafrank1064 Great to hear that.. congrats! Happy for you. how did you do it?
What was his explanation for ghosting you? It's such a terrible thing to do to someone.
@@QueenofSwords18 Sorry i am only seeing the comment now... honestly it happened when i got busy with my own thing and just let go. I know it sounds redundant but thats when he reached out. I had done a few sp meditations of shellys and a few self love here and there prior to basically just giving up on him and the whole idea. Lo and behold the minute i was like whatever he reached out asking if i had forgotten about him
I always found answers in your videos! thank you Shelly ❤
I’ve completed the playlist and am in the middle of Free Yourself Module 1. Thank you for EVERYTHING Shelly. I honor you and the beautiful work you do for all so if no one has told you today, YOU CHANGE LIVES FOR THE BETTER!
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Shelly Bullard 💛
Looking forward to watching and learning how to never have this happen again!
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@Sar Ter me too 😉❤
@Sar Ter me too!
@@ShellyBullard thank you Shelly my life is so easy now
Shelly I loved this video! A great reminder!! Thank you
I love her videos! I feel the vibe shift within me as she speak. Magical
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I've been doing your inner child meditation every day and already I've started to think you know what next time I'm not going to be dropped. That was the old me. The healed me knows better! Happy healing everyone! 🙏♥️
Love it!
I really great topic for a new video could be ‘ how to be present for yourself during times that seems to be difficult for us’ Love how you speak about it. Immediately feel better 💖
Amazing✨💙
I stumbled across this video and I wasn’t going to watch it because I I was afraid of you would say regarding ghosting. The video hit a nerve with me the second you said that the abandonment wound can be unconsciously carried within us as an expectation. To be honest, i cried immediately after you said that. I understood to a degree that I had abandoned myself but never considered that I internally expected someone I love (who loves me too) to just drop me without reason. I placed so much blame on myself and felt there was something wrong with me. And I know that is sooo not true! Thank you for providing this insight so I can shift and heal this expectation I didn’t even know I had!
Thank you for this video. It sent me back and I gave my inner child some love and even cried. Abandonment is a wound I'm healing
You’re welcome 💙💙💙
@@dailylifeprayer8185 what are the numbers?
Thank you for this. Your inner reality is reflected in your outer reality. Easier said than done. But, doing this work - better now than never!
You’re welcome ✨
This was so profound. I've had an expectation my entire life that 'this is just how people are' and allowed people to treat me like this and accepted it (in my reality). Tapping into the fierce love and feeling a 'HECK NO!' - I'm done being treated in this way and expect EVERYONE to treat me kindly, respectfully, and lovingly. Thank you so much, Shelly. Such a relief to know that I am able to change this pattern.
Shelly I’m so lost among the manifestation community because I’m new at this. I would like to manifest this person back because it was a complicated situation and I don’t believe that was his true character. But the abandonment trauma is still there and I’m actively working on all parts of it, sometimes it’s hard to picture him coming in in a loving way. So at first I tried revision-like the incidents never happened. But now I think it’d be best to manifest a reconciliation conversation. And if it never happened you can’t have both. So I think I’m messing up the process. I just want peace, and also a second chance with someone who I know just made a series of poor choices.
I would love to see a video from you in particular because of your mental health background on manifesting people out of the lives of people we care about. I have changed enough to get Narcissists away from me, but I have some very loving and empathic friends who are plagued by them. I have lost people because of the extraneous people. Please consider doing a video on manifesting people out of your loved ones lives. Thanks Shelly!
Truthfully I don’t resonate with diagnosing people as narcissists & I rarely use that term. I also think anytime we’re pointing the finger at what someone else is doing “wrong,” we’re less likely to look at how we’ve caused a relationship dynamic like that. Just my perspective...
I see how I totally created being ghosted!
This is great - it really could be anyone doesn't just have to be that person
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😂 I cut them right off and never let them anywhere near me again. I'm fine by myself and I thank them for showing me who they are so I don't have to invest more than I should.
Dayuummmmm, Shelly!!! The video that I wanted to watch as I am ghosted now by my sp. Its an excellent video to watch and curious to know did you look up my previous conversation with a girl in one of your previous ideas discussing how I was ghosted and still ghosted. I am truly honored to watch the video and would want to know what to do when ghosted.
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9:26 I have been learning more about abandonment issues and working on healing this, as I have noticed this pattern. And it's been really eye opening for me.
10:18 I'm still learning this. I mean, I know that this has to come from me and not the other person. But I do want to feel wanted and cared for, but I have to be there for myself first. Learn how to give to myself and show up for myself.
13:22 Thank you for this. I had often been vocal with my exes when I felt like my needs weren't met, because I thought I was keeping my boundaries but then I realized it's only pushed them away. But that's a great idea that I have to remind myself and focus on myself instead. This feels a little complicated though because I know it's also important for us to communicate our needs, but I guess it should be in a calm manner and not from a place of neediness or desperation.
This was one of the best videos!! It brought up stuff that happened 15 years ago so clearly in my memory and I realise that I have been manifesting a pattern. Thanks so much!! I feel this will definitely help me have a more clear vision of what i want.. lots of love!!
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One of the comments below said it's painful being ghosted. I would like to suggest you that our minds do create all these and when we do understand this it's joyful feeling to release oneself from that situation and it depends on us... This is what I learnt and experienced from Shelly's all videos says including this one. I am really greatful to you Shelly for making me feel so confident and powerful. 🙏
I just found this video and it’s so profound and really resonates with me Shelly
I never really thought about my childhood relating to my relationships. How not having the attention I should have. My mom was at a very young age when she had children. 4 of us to be exact. I was number 3. She was 21 years old and a single mom before I was even 2. One of my siblings was always getting into trouble the other is deaf so the attention was mainly focused on them. I’ve always loved myself and thought I was a beautiful person but subconsciously didn’t. I fully understand now why I attract the relationships I do. They always start out so beautiful but then I create this fear of not having attention or being loved in my reality and then once again I am alone. Wow!! Now I am working on myself, self love and listening to your videos. Thank you so much for this Shelly ❤️ You are so appreciated!!
This teach me so much! THANK YOU!
I manifest being ghosted and said that to myself many many times even type that to him that’s I was afraid of that! And that simply happen but I’m working on myself everyday!
It’s a traumatic experience and hard to be normal again.
Thanks for acknowledging how traumatic it is. I can’t begin to describe the hurt I feel right now.
I needed this video. My SP ghosted me for the past 3 months. Then on Monday, boom..he says he is letting me go because he has fallen out of love with me. I was hurt yes but somehow I feel like it's not the end. I feel he is going to come back. What is happening now is that when I think of him I feel a weird kind of sickness to my stomach and some sort of fear in my heart (my heart starts racing ) I wonder why. 😐
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I love this! Fierce self love is my new normal 🥰
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Thanks Shelly I needed this today. I feel abandoned right now. You helped me ♥️
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I did the 1st and 2nd step, it's time to do the 3rd one, love ya Shelly 💚😽
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Happy to be here! Haven't been ghosted by SP but by two very long term friends (as in 10+ years) over the past few years. Yuk.
I am new to your videos/site, and I am definitely going to take your courses to help me with my fears and also to help bring me and my ex back together. Thank you for doing this! You seem really cool! I really want to learn this stuff and use it to improve myself and my relationship because I believe in us, and this type of work is exactly what I and us need! I am going through a healing time after my ex ghosted me, and I am getting readings that say he is seeing the truth and coming back, but there are things that we both need to heal, and you have a great range of courses that cover what we need to change/heal/work on. Thank you again and I look forward to learning from you!
Show up for yourself" 😍 I love that so much.
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Radical Self Love ♀️🤙♾ Thanks sister!!! You are a light!!🌞👌
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You and Alex Cordon are changing my life! ❤❤❤
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Got contact 1h after watching this!
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Shelly Bullard I just held my inner child and told her everything was going to be ok, then I said it out loud (and meant it): (His name), you are not allowed to show up in my reality if you’re not going to 1) show up for me, and 2) be consistent. 1h later he texted and he’s been texting ever since.
I’m not good with the self love, but I am not chasing my ghoster either...dropped off too..I guess that’s a part of self love? Idk. I know he will be back so I’m just temporarily abandoned by him. I manifested him that way.i have so much to learn lol .Thank Shelly
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I manifested him we have been great together and things have been well. Just last Monday he left on family vacation and he text me maybe once and I haven’t heard from him for over week. We were doing things so much fun he even started coming to my house. Now I am like what happened. I know he was away but I can’t excuse him but I know is not him that is me. Every one is you pushed out. I am disappointed at him but I know is not him. It is me
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LBC Ulrica This advice goes all against Shelly’s teachings. If you don’t agree, that’s okay, but please keep it to yourself.
you have one of the most beautiful eyes i have ever seen
Aww thank you 🥰
By far the best thing I've needed. Making a nice long list
I thought you were in your 20s wow that’s amazing, same thing with Joseph Alai!
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And here I thought you are in your late 20s😅😅
Also I love the entire zen background 😍😍
But yeah the dropping part is true, and I am working on inner child stuff 😊
Thanks for another wonderful video
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How beautiful ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you. No one ever explaned that to me. I have no pattern of being ghosted and I didn’t understand what unconsciously made that happen. Not showing up for myself that’s it! I will do you inner child meditation.
I am going to do the inner child meditation tonight. I think I have a lot of things from my past coming up that I am not even aware of
Perfect timing with perfect content, once again!!! Thank you 😊
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Your guidance in this video is the answer that I have been looking for many years of my life but no one said it and I knew I wasn't doing the right thing but didn't know how to fix it and now I finally knew. How I wish I knew this like twenty years back so that my life would be less drama and so forth hehehe... Thank you Shelly you're the best !!! May God bless you more and more 🙏🏼💫💕
Lovely video! Thank you for reminding us that we have the power to heal from any wound ♥️ I truly believe in this.
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Yes very true, I had been ghosted. No contact, no reply nothing ,everything dropped ...I felt nervous, negative, even freaked , I came up to a point where I felt to end myself.....it was so terrible and scary. I tried to do innerchild work and at that moment I talked to myself n tried to console myself and everytime I told myself that the my sp got stuck somewhere and someday will surely return.
Shelly , it was tough doing so. But i did. Those days i didn't know anything about manifesting. It would have been easier to handle those days of ghosting if I had a little knowledge about manifestation. Thank God, I did so. Especially the inner child work. Later on I set a boundary n talked to myself about self respect. I felt that if my sp respect me , love me unconditionally, trust me , then surely my sp would return. It happened one day, ....the way I was ghosted, in the same way the person returned.
Really it was very serious n terrible n scary. Hope it wont happen again.
You are real ANGEL👼 for LOVERS 💏🥰❤️💖
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Always be FIERCE with your SELF LOVE!!!!!!!! ☝🏽🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Personally, I KNOW I must be fierce with mine. 100%
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Hi Shelly,great video as always. Unfortunately I've been ghost by my specific person for over a week now. Part of me believe that my specific person still love me deep inside. However what I understand that If I want her to give me attention to totally stop ignoring me to be with me. To not be in abusive relationship anymore. Then I must do two things number one as hard as it is for me stop messaging her. And appreciate and love myself and write a brand new story of her not in abusive relationship anymore. And that she instead of me is trying to reach me.
Another very powerful video. Hold your boundary - I love this! Thank you, Shelly, for speaking about this. I have a hard time with boundaries and am learning how important they are and that I’m 100% responsible for not settling or keeping them in the past. But this is a new moment and as you so beautifully said, “People are only allowed to treat me with respect and love”. 💗💪
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I affirm contact, “Deja (last name) is constantly snapchatting me everyday”. I’ve seen more movement this past week then I have in months simply by affirming this thought. And other things like, “We have amazing conversations everyday. Everyday deja is constantly talking to me”. As an example.
Thats wonderful leme remind uh ur comment n reply really helped me
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You made it you can change it girls 😊
Your topics are always on point with the issue of the day
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This recently happened to me and all I could think if was WHY would you do that?! What had I done. Now I get it. My history us full of abandonment from parent’s, family members, etc., yes self love and setting expectations Thru inner conversations us starting now. Thank you.
That was well explained... I was ghosted after a 1 year relationship and understand what you explained about your inner reality is creating your outer reality. Thank you 🙏🏻❤️
This video made me tear up. I definitely was led to watch this! Thank you
The one video of yours I never thought I'd have to watch. To me, ghosting is abusive and traumatic. So far, I've been ghosted for a week by my partner of 18 months. She's pulled away (too) many times before - she's an avoidant attachment style. But this time it's full out ignoring me. I've been loving, sentimental, flirty, humourous in my messages to have DIALOGUE with her despite HER breaking my trust in a pretty serious way and calling her out on it. We HAD sincere heartfelt agreements to be transparent with one another...yet she "bypassed" this agreement just as we had tickets to travel and see my family so she would finally meet my makers. Being betrayed in this way seems unforgivable... However, to be ghosted instead of receiving an apology is mind-boggling. I was deeply committed to her...but she was always hot/cold and doubting everything. It was a big deal for her to finally meet them. Yes I need to do inner work, which is why I bought some of Shelly's courses but so far, no movement with her. I am now feeling caught between "Transform my SP" VS "Hell NO to being with someone who can withdraw her affection like this or breaks our core agreements to always communicate and be ethical with each other". I wish there was an answer to that because in sum, Shelly seems to have videos that support both. She did her Hell Nos with some guys, why didn't she just use the techniques to transform them instead? My SP isn't all bad - but she has been erratic, and now with broken trust, no apology or ownership for that but instead ghosting me for a week and counting, that feels like a really tough one to turn around.
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Know poster posted long time ago . But am gna add incase anyone else has a similar situation . That what is going on with them is not as simple as inner child they need to focus on theirself. What ever is going on has led the sp to keep pulling away need to ask theirself do they want this situation for rest of their life they can keep doing inner work theres soo much old story with their sp I work actually next time they come back ghost them one it shock them and give them the feeling of what its like to be treated like that 2 it is protecting theirself saying enough is enough now theyv already been assured by the sp it wouldn't happen anymore and they did it again. This now is not bout getting desired results from sp it's about calling in someone who can treat them better. If theh really still want sp hold space cut them off get on with their life enjoy their life and let that person miss them and come back In with the knowing this time they dont leave
Wow, this is SO good!! Many thanks!
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1. INNER CHILD. I AM HERE, I AM NOT GONNA LEAVE YOU AND I KNOW THAT REALLY HURTS, AND I AM STILL HERE, AND I AM NOT GOING ANYWHERE. I AM GOING TO HOLD YOU, AND I AM GOING TO BE HERE WITH YOU. 2. CREATE THE STORY
Really strong message! Thank you Shelly!🌞❤️
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Thank you for a wonderful vid! I appreciate you💚
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We are in contact again!!!
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Hi Shelley, I think not checking to see if your blocked every day doesn't help. Also what helped is creating the inner voices knowing you wont be blocked forever. And creating the vioice the memories you shared with the Person who blocked you.
This video helps me a lot! Thank you ! You are beautiful inside and outside !
Thank you shelly for your awesome video😍.your words always encourages me.Everything is possible.I feel more love to myself whenever I did your inner child meditation😍.
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You should see the note books I keep of your wisdom.
Looove this!! 📝
This is really beautifully explained ❤
Was waiting for this one!
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I needed this. Thank you Shelly ❤️
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I loved it ❤️❤️❤️ I’ve never been ghosted but I think this helps me to understand how I truly want to be treated and best of all, how to actually do it... Im so thankful for your videos... can’t wait for the next one 😁😁😁
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Have a big issue with ghosting and abandonment very helpful
great video, excellent advice. i am thinking of buying your self love course. thanks!
I can connect you with a powerful and harmless spiritualist who can help you manifest your love with your ex or present lover like helped restore mine
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Perfect Shelly I've been ghosted recently
Hope this video helps💙