HOW TO STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS | STOP ENVY & BECOME THE GIRL YOU’RE OBSESSED WITH

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  • @musicforever08
    @musicforever08 ปีที่แล้ว +208

    Fernanda is literally so therapeutic to watch and she seems to sparkle inside and out 💖

  • @teasilver
    @teasilver ปีที่แล้ว +108

    fernanda is like the big sister i never had and her videos and podcast feel so safe and comforting to me 💗

  • @suraxa105
    @suraxa105 ปีที่แล้ว +91

    Living in a third-world country, and dreaming big dreams is not easy. It's really challenging and absorbs all of you, leaving you intimidated watching other privileged people and losing self-worth constantly thinking.. if it's even worth it. But you fernanda, you are this beacon of hope... you make it feel like everything is possible and I can actually build my life of dreams despite all the struggles... you inspire..thank you for this and everything... love you

    • @koyumi_no_kumo
      @koyumi_no_kumo ปีที่แล้ว

      where are you from exactly ? + can you speak Arabic ? 😗 I'm Algerian 🇩🇿

  • @juliawincentsoprano5744
    @juliawincentsoprano5744 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    I'm 35 and I'm taking notes😂❤ This is something I feel most people need to work on consistently throughout life.

  • @sydneypadgett4606
    @sydneypadgett4606 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I don’t think Fern realizes how much she is actually helping people ❤

  • @leticiagraziele8136
    @leticiagraziele8136 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I'm much older than Fernanda and I think she's so brilliant and wise for her age and mature. I'm from Brazil and I'm studying English by my own at home.. I combined usefulness with enjoyment with this podcast and I love that so much... Besides I'm getting better and enhancing my vocabulary with Fernanda I'm also learning self-improvement and lot of important subjects that I will bring to my daily life routine. ❤ Thank you Fernanda for this amazing content.
    Greetings from Brazil 🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷

  • @josephkustra1644
    @josephkustra1644 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    as a person who has really struggled with this, i’m so happy you posted this fern ❤❤

  • @Horrorzeit
    @Horrorzeit ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Would love an episode on how to stay well as a TH-camr / Entrepreneur- Dealing with numbers, money etc

  • @ericamaybiolena-dechavez3777
    @ericamaybiolena-dechavez3777 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This day i want to end my life because i give up from all the problems that i have. I'm so envious to all of the things that sorrounds me and alwys comparing the things that they have, but this girl pop-up to my home page and I give her video a try and now I was hook to all of her videos thank you for saving me my dear. ❤

  • @etoilenouveau
    @etoilenouveau 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This is one of the BEST videos on self comparison I’ve come across. I struggle endlessly with this issue. Thank you. 💙

  • @msliltrinity
    @msliltrinity ปีที่แล้ว +10

    @A Better You Podcast I am YEARS older than you and appreciate that at your current stage in life your content is so positive, empowering, and you take the time to do things to speak with knowledge like looking up jealousy vs. envy. Thank you for your passion and positivity.

  • @janaameen3901
    @janaameen3901 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hi frenada ,I really love you and you have changed my thinking about a lot of things, every episode I watch you you talk about things so specific and related to mylife in so realistic way thank you so much and I want to tell that I'm an English learner and you really have helped me so much in my speaking and I love how you give a lot synonymous and antonyms.

  • @soulcontact2
    @soulcontact2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    As a 13 girl i feel like you're my mom it really feels warm to listen to you talking 💖😐

  • @averynmitchell
    @averynmitchell 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    16:53 - 17:16 I love this tip about complimenting others and not keeping compliments to ourselves! I've gotten in a bad habit about noticing something and either (a) forgetting it or (b) not having the confidence and courage to go "Hey, this is cool!" incase I weird the other person out. The other day, I invited one of my close friends to my zumba class and she complimented my teacher's facial expressions. I absolutely love that she did that! It meant so much to my teacher that she asks every class where my friend is 😂😊💜 I love it! The power of genuine compliments!

  • @min_oumnia
    @min_oumnia 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much Ferlanda for this episode it made me feel way better about my self as a person who is younger than you( 14 years old)i have so much goals im learning Spanish and programming i improve my english Lang knowledge (im not a native English speaker)i work on my body goals and school progress mental health and freindships can you please do an episode about time organazing and diciplin especially that i want to have some time for my self
    Love you 🌷

  • @gracejames2003
    @gracejames2003 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    i swear, Fern, it feels like every episode you post is just what i need to hear at the moment! love this podcast and love YOU, queen 🫶🏽

  • @freya.budden
    @freya.budden ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i have just watched this video after having my first day back at school and it made me really think about girls in my class who i envy and made me realize my self worth. Fernanda is such a icon and i love her and her positive advice i always listen and watch her videos when i need a confidence boost!!

  • @_Victoriafaith_
    @_Victoriafaith_ ปีที่แล้ว +3

    There's something about her that makes me just love her ❤

  • @sanasallayy8311
    @sanasallayy8311 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    These episodes come out at the perfect time!! I always watch them to clear my head and it always helps reduce my anxiety, thank you fern💗

  • @averynmitchell
    @averynmitchell 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    21:27 What great, accountable friends for telling you "Hey, this isn't healthy for you" ❤❤

  • @Vivi_14nimu
    @Vivi_14nimu ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I really love your way of thinking, and I’m one of the person who really want to be successful as self-employment but a lot of time, I’m just like being so stressful to think others too much. but your words definitely saved me!!❤❤ thank you ❤❤

  • @courtney3321
    @courtney3321 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Everytime I watch your videos I always remember to take care of myself

  • @mlizaaa
    @mlizaaa ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Fern! I’m telling you we’re like energetically aligned because I was so hoping you’d do the next episode about this! Thank youu sending all my love :) 🌷

  • @reenadiannebelen3936
    @reenadiannebelen3936 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    the title of your podcast really is aligned to the content that u are making! i love how you make episodes on how we can become better version of our selves, i also love the little update on your personal life that u do before going into the episode! +++ this episode is really helpful thank you! i created a gratitude list on my journal today and i included you and your podcast :))

  • @joselinegallardo8966
    @joselinegallardo8966 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Literally every sentence that comes out of fern’s mouth aligns so much with how I think, & the way I feel EVERYONE should carry themselves.💕💗💘Let’s spread love and positivity. Let’s celebrate each other’s accomplishments. Let’s work for what we want to see in ourselves 😌
    Absolutely love your podcast. Haven’t found another one like it!😚😚😚

  • @user-oz7qg2nx1d
    @user-oz7qg2nx1d ปีที่แล้ว +5

    OMG! l can't believe you filmed a new podcast episode l was dying to listen to a new episode so thank you Fernanda for another inspiring topic l really needed this. ❤❤❤

  • @michellexx1214
    @michellexx1214 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It’s crazy which impact you have on my life. From the beginning I loved your videos, they’re so authentic and positive. Your podcast is the cherry on top, where I can get new perspectives on live.
    Right now I’m in such a rut, and it’s so hard to get out. But your weekly advice and rewatching your videos really does help me make those little baby steps in the right direction.
    Thank you fern 🫶🏼

  • @mialouthean8908
    @mialouthean8908 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I absolutely love this episode! This is exactly what i’ve been needing. Thankyou for all your hard work and everything you do, it’s very inspirational, and helps me get up and out of bed on the days i don’t feel like doing anything. Much love 💕😊

  • @Jeon_sobari
    @Jeon_sobari 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    There was this girl that always annoyed me and I realized while watching this podcast that maybe I was feeling envy in her because she is always feeling so confident and she was always happy and smiling whenever I see her and I was not like that. Now that I realize this now I think I can work on myself so that the next time I see her I can be happy with her and also feel confident to myself.❤

  • @amaani4459
    @amaani4459 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Fern I rlly appreciate this one because I’ve been struggling on trying to stop comparing myself and this rlly helped ❤

  • @candicee02
    @candicee02 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I've been taking notes while listening to your podcasts and they really helped me, thank you Fernanda

  • @yoagonzz
    @yoagonzz ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Fernanda is like my therapist 🩷 like ur podcasts have helped me so much. I have always struggled with body image so i compare myself with a lot of people,but your podcasts have helped me love myself and other things. Thank you so so so much 🤍

  • @LorenRoz
    @LorenRoz หลายเดือนก่อน

    Myself to Others
    Loved your take on stopping comparison-it’s so empowering to focus on your own journey! I’ve just shared my personal story on how I finally managed to stop comparing myself to others, and I think you’d enjoy watching it. Let’s keep lifting each other up! 💐 Sending you all my support! 💋

  • @averynmitchell
    @averynmitchell 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    6:39 Being inspired by people's successes and gifts instead of spewing negativity was one of my biggest takeaways this past year ❤ Someone's success doesn't eliminate you from the game... in fact, it means that someone's done it before and that it's possible! Whether it's lifestyle comparison (I grew up in a single parent household) to figuring things out with TH-cam (I don't have much social media experience), I'm working on keeping a positive "I can" attitude 😊

  • @YogaWithYasmina
    @YogaWithYasmina ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love, LOVE all of Ferns videos!! I want to include, if feelings of envy come up for you, rather than feeing envious, swap that out for inspiration. If someone is doing something/has something/etc that you feel like you want or that you admire, be inspired to reach those things. I love seeing people that are doing things I think is so dope. It inspires me to go harder and strive for those things.
    It could be easier said than done, buuuuut, that’s where Fernandas advice on self love comes into play. Pour into yourself, love yourself, find the love and confidence within you, and work towards your goals. If you see people doing things you admire, be inspired to work hard so you can achieve those things also.
    Okay, bye.
    Love you Fern 🥹🫶🏼

  • @jilliankoch3609
    @jilliankoch3609 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Making my day better by posting another video!! Love her ❤❤

  • @jessicacooper5880
    @jessicacooper5880 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes 💯 everything else does not matter. Your soul, yourself ❤

  • @hallykon1785
    @hallykon1785 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You are the best fernanda . Thanks for this videos that make us so good , feeling good . I love you ❤

  • @Qurantiktok2024
    @Qurantiktok2024 ปีที่แล้ว

    i read this quote that say " the beauty of other girl dose not take your own beauty "

  • @crystalgtv5223
    @crystalgtv5223 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I typically comment on your main channel but I do watch / listen 🎧 to the podcast too ❤ and wanted to say hi ! Hope you’re having a blast traveling !

  • @ThuyTrang-os8rs
    @ThuyTrang-os8rs 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

    Help me. I'm studying English and when I watch this video, i don't understand anything. But I will try to understand this video someday❤

    • @BarchinoyAbdumalikova
      @BarchinoyAbdumalikova 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Watch with 0.5 speed

    • @YoucefSaif-z8w
      @YoucefSaif-z8w 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Before I was not understand any thing but after listen to her a lot , I became understand her very good

    • @BudgetWithKayli
      @BudgetWithKayli หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      She speaks very fast so maybe try slowing the video down and using the captions ❤☺️

    • @الاء-ب3ج
      @الاء-ب3ج 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I was like you, but I heard a lot, now I understand

  • @farrenkayster3349
    @farrenkayster3349 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've watched a few podcasts in the past and they were great but this just made me want more and more. It feels like a save place💌

  • @kaliscipher
    @kaliscipher ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Fernanda for this video! Perfect timing! I find myself comparing against influencers! But I changed my mindset to say “I am THAT girl, I AM a TH-camr, I am the influencer that others look up to” and now I’m watch other influencers and LEARN from them instead of “protecting my peace” and unfollowing them bc it’s was my own envy/insecurities that was sabotaging my success. Your state of mind is EVERYTHING! Love you Fernanda!❤ I always look forward to your video drops!

  • @Oliguacamole_yt
    @Oliguacamole_yt 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Girl thank you so much i have this friend who im really jealous of and i really like her so im gonna try so hard to work on myself so ee can still be friends

  • @samotivationbysami
    @samotivationbysami ปีที่แล้ว

    Anytime I have compared myself to other people, I have felt less than. Until I realized that the only person I should compare myself to, is the person I was yesterday. No matter what you compare, you will always find someone richer, better looking than you, has a nicer car, has a better (fill in the blanks). And it's totally pointless. When I began focusing on the idea of going to bed better than I woke up, basically making sure that throughout day I do things that make a better version than the one who woke up that morning, then life really began to change for me. Focus on you and your own progress. Run your own marathon! 🏃‍♂🏃🏃‍♀

  • @Heavin_
    @Heavin_ ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Posted 24 seconds ago I’m in for a treat💗💗

  • @ChloeSinclair-jt5kj
    @ChloeSinclair-jt5kj ปีที่แล้ว

    I have aneorexia and in recovery and really struggling at the moment with way I look and this was helpful.

  • @NymphFawns
    @NymphFawns ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You should do an episode on people who think they're better than everyone else while at the same time preaching that everybody is beautiful/amazing/and loved... yet they still genuinely think they're better than other lives in this world. Hope that made sense loll. There's a difference between being you and unique rather than being better than others

  • @Lailalilly07
    @Lailalilly07 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was feeling low when school started because I’ve been comparing myself to everyone in my class. I admit I’m an insecure person even though there’s nothing to be insecure about but hopefully I can change that this year.

  • @averynmitchell
    @averynmitchell 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    26:29 Thank you for sharing this story and being honest about your realization! 😊 I think it's a mindset shift and understanding that we're all worthy no matter where life takes us ❤

  • @Moonandchakra
    @Moonandchakra 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I love talking and giving people advise youre kinda inspiring me to make a podcast!♡♡♡

  • @phuongcao830
    @phuongcao830 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for bringing up the silent competition! Because as much as I hate doing it I still do it, because I am insecure with myself. I know you have created a lot of podcast videos I just discovered you. Which videos do you guys recommend? Thank you im on a journey to better myself

  • @princekoko2308
    @princekoko2308 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I had been subscribed different channels and wasn't sure that which change should i have to listen 😔,,
    After a long time i found you and like your talking method, so clear ❤❤,
    I have unsubscribed all the channels and started listening you ❤❤,
    Inshallah will be lots of stuff to do and to learn English confidently through your Help

  • @thechanagal396
    @thechanagal396 ปีที่แล้ว

    Preach girl! I'm so glad you did an in depth video on this. I'm sure so many ppl struggle with this and the advice you gave is honestly really helpful

  • @cyberbacon9023
    @cyberbacon9023 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Is it normal to rewatch Fernanda’s podcast alot? 😩♥️

  • @stina.bean.art.
    @stina.bean.art. ปีที่แล้ว +3

    yay new episode!!!! so excited:) first!

  • @averynmitchell
    @averynmitchell 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    25:04 - 25:42 That does make sense! I have a friend that loved going to Panama City Beach Florida for vacation with her family every year. She would be there for a week or two at a time, and really wanted to move there. When she did end up moving there, she realized that living somewhere is not the same as vacationing somewhere. 😊 I think that's why we all love vacations haha

  • @ashmitasarkar1704
    @ashmitasarkar1704 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    She knows what to post and when to do it... perfect timing sis ❤

  • @rafailia.myridou
    @rafailia.myridou ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ur podcast>>> 🥰 u're the best

  • @juliannepoitras2455
    @juliannepoitras2455 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this is exactly what I needed to hear today! I love your podcasts!

  • @graciouss494
    @graciouss494 ปีที่แล้ว

    I always listen to your podcasts when i go for a walk and now i have listened to all of them so i keep rewatching your podcasts till you upload a new vid😂😂❤❤

  • @valentinamonett
    @valentinamonett ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Omg with those braids you look like when you started youtube, so adorable.
    Already loving this episode

  • @joselyn8604
    @joselyn8604 ปีที่แล้ว

    i appreciate you saying how even you compare yourself to others❤

  • @jaybube478
    @jaybube478 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hii.. I recently found your podcast and its like you’re voicing everything my heart tries to tell me everytime and also introduce new ideas to me. Thank you so much

  • @pou1313
    @pou1313 ปีที่แล้ว

    you're literally one of my fav podcasts 🥹

  • @crystalgtv5223
    @crystalgtv5223 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    ❤so needed this podcast! Thanks Fern xoxo sending good vibes

  • @albertaafutu
    @albertaafutu ปีที่แล้ว

    You are literally always spot on. Thank you for the weekly friendly reminder and advice. I enjoy this and shared to my friend.

  • @lshitabhardwaj
    @lshitabhardwaj 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    this was the best video I've watched on this topic, without a doubt ,you're phenomenal! Keep up the good work! love you💗

  • @hayathashi7986
    @hayathashi7986 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yesss your backkkk I love your podcast ❤❤ and this video is for me 😊

  • @clarejacob2226
    @clarejacob2226 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    thank you so much for this podcast fern, i've struggled with this a lot and this video genuinely helped so much. i love this channel and your main channel as well, they've both helped me so much as a person, and i couldn't thank you enough. i love you fern, thank you for making such amazing content for us ❤❤
    also, you've inspired me to start my own channel, but i'm nervous that people at school are going to think i'm weird, and i know i shouldn't think that, but i do. do you have any advice on how to overcome this?
    love youu x

  • @neeckks
    @neeckks ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love this girl!!🩷

  • @Lailalilly07
    @Lailalilly07 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really appreciate the time you spent making podcast’s

  • @barbara20214
    @barbara20214 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    needed this tbh! thanks fernanda!

  • @baddie_dar
    @baddie_dar ปีที่แล้ว

    Fernanda I am a huge fan of your podcast. It always keeps me motivated and inspired. Thank you for creating it. ❤❤❤

  • @NikolF27
    @NikolF27 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are so amazing, I love your podcast so much! 💘 you are making my days better

  • @livgotts
    @livgotts ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Glad I'm early :) I love this podcast

  • @amaliapascuta2519
    @amaliapascuta2519 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love u, love the check board 😂😭❤️🫶🏽

  • @somebody-ms6ep
    @somebody-ms6ep ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You get me I was thinking the same topic❤️🥺🥰thing today

  • @PriscillaSB
    @PriscillaSB ปีที่แล้ว

    I can relate when you talk about starting your channel and making it your own. I’m trying to do the same 😭 you’re so inspiring. I’m trying to be like you! ❤ 🥲🥲

  • @KeepingUpWithDess
    @KeepingUpWithDess ปีที่แล้ว

    Yesss you uploaded this at the right time. I really need to watch this

  • @averynmitchell
    @averynmitchell 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    14:08 - 14:20 Could you please link or make a video on how to invest in yourself? 😊 Especially about discerning courses that are (a) the scams out to get us and (b) the ones that are truly helpful and life changing and often overlooked ❤

  • @eeemmacleour4L
    @eeemmacleour4L ปีที่แล้ว

    this is such a great podcast that i literally listened to 5 episodes in one day. this is tooo good 😀

  • @rasyaadilah
    @rasyaadilah 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    love u my daily saver

  • @tipperella
    @tipperella ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm dropping everything to tune in! 💕

  • @arpita_kushwaha09
    @arpita_kushwaha09 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm feeling fully satisfied with myself ❤❤❤

    • @ABETTERYOUBYFERNANDA
      @ABETTERYOUBYFERNANDA  ปีที่แล้ว

      yay!

    • @D_r_n_23
      @D_r_n_23 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@ABETTERYOUBYFERNANDAHello girl, I am an Arab girl. Can I translate your videos into Arabic on my TH-cam channel?

  • @zainabahmed966
    @zainabahmed966 ปีที่แล้ว

    That is the first time I am watching your video and I think you make me feel good and positive and I really loved it 💞💓

    • @ABETTERYOUBYFERNANDA
      @ABETTERYOUBYFERNANDA  ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so glad!

    • @D_r_n_23
      @D_r_n_23 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@ABETTERYOUBYFERNANDA​​@ABETTERYOUBYFERNANDA Hello girl, I am an Arab girl. Can I translate your videos into Arabic on my TH-cam channel?

  • @cie3ra4
    @cie3ra4 ปีที่แล้ว

    fernanda's such a vibe

  • @rvylitips
    @rvylitips 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    AAAHHH luv the braids. Today's episode is a VIBE

  • @alexaathompson4518
    @alexaathompson4518 ปีที่แล้ว

    Fernanda please..can you do a podcast about overloving someone to the point that it becomes a problem to your relationship? I have issues with myself and I take it out to my bf.. I'm afraid to live my life..I'm afraid of him going out and find someone better than me..Please you help so much but I don't know what to do..❤

  • @nomondembanjwa9707
    @nomondembanjwa9707 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This podcast made me asubscriber today its like you were talking to me😢...love it for me taking notes 📝 ❤ #southafrican🇿🇦fan

  • @linaokoye7716
    @linaokoye7716 ปีที่แล้ว

    I literally love your podcast it’s so motivating ❤

  • @idalien5808
    @idalien5808 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Fernanda! I really like your podcast, and love your fashion style❤ I was wondering where this set you're wearing now is from? I love the color

  • @somebody-ms6ep
    @somebody-ms6ep ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hiii finally🥳🥳 new epsode🙏🙏❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

  • @Liv.283
    @Liv.283 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ soo good best podcast

  • @hannahkelley817
    @hannahkelley817 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love you Fernanda and this podcast ❤❤
    When are you going to post a video on your regular channel?
    We miss you 😢😢

  • @hopediamond3072
    @hopediamond3072 ปีที่แล้ว

    You should have way more subscribers then you already have. I just discovered you and am obsessed 💗💗💗

  • @allyd444
    @allyd444 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    WE LOVE YOU❤❤

  • @barbiedolz5361
    @barbiedolz5361 ปีที่แล้ว

    fern u loook gooorgeous in this video!!! ♥️♥️and thanks for this video!! soooo important for all us girlies 🥰💟also how did u learn to do ur braids! they always slayyy 😁

  • @averynmitchell
    @averynmitchell 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    5:07 What resources do you suggest to new podcasters/TH-camrs for scripting content for a long length video? I love your ability to make weekly content that is engaging, thorough, and digestible. I understand SEO research is one thing to do before scripting a video, and that's about it. 😊

  • @VAL2008_
    @VAL2008_ ปีที่แล้ว +1

    love you Fernanda 💙