How To Regain Power In Relationships (WITHOUT MANIPULATING OR CONTROLLING)
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- HOW TO REGAIN POWER IN RELATIONSHIPS (WITHOUT MANIPULATING OR CONTROLLING)
How do you go about keeping your power in relationships and regain or maintain your power and control in relationships? What is the best way to approach the power dynamics in relationships without going into the realm of abuse of power in relationships?
Straddling the right balance when you’re dealing with the power play in relationships or the power struggle in relationships can be a challenge.
In this video, I am going to show you how you can regain power in relationships and restore the power balance in relationships, without playing some manipulative or tricky power “games” that other coaches often allude to.
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There's a typo. It says interdependent at the bottom of the screen as well as the middle when you meant to have "independent" at the bottom.
What you guide is it for men or for women too
Lol if I get my girl back I'm inviting u to the wedding
Okay so I’m responding to your partner not reaching what If she gets up or angry if I dont pick up or text back right away
I’ve been on a 12 hour binge watching different relationship channels and this has been the only healthy one
My thoughts aswel! I'm an arse lol, lots to work on, but lots of help here.
Facts
Did it work for you?
12 hours bro? Lol
I feel you. His videos are spot on
Brother I'm almost 40. Full discloser my first thought was what could this kid possibly tell me. 19 minutes later? Ok thank you sir
He is a gem
I love your advices and it does help a lot.
But there is one thing that I want to say.
With the wrong person you can do whatever you want and it will always lead to problems. With the right person you can do whatever you want and there will always be a solution and connection.
Don't get exhausted with partners where it will always be a struggle and try to find someone who wants to work with you together
I realized what big difference it makes after beeing in a toxic relationship and then started dating someone who does not have any toxic behaviors and is emotionally stable.
Ive been watching your videos for a week straight now. Im really committed to chnaging my self for the better. I'm currently separated from my love and i wish to get her back, but she deserves a better me and I deserve her.
bro... youre like the big brother i never had but always wanted, i dont know you but i really appreciate you and your advice, its healthy constructive and precious to everyone in search of improving them selvs and their relationships, you're awesome man
Wow sam Kerit, it truly is the greatest compliment when someone can watch my material and begin to implement this into their lives to start to see massive changes. LOVE IT! Thank you.
This is the only video I found with full explanation. Don't caring doesn't work always!
Another quality video. Especially loved the last point about Farming vs Hunting
Thanks man! :) Love that one too.
I think I went too far into the 'indifferent' category.. such useful information! Wish I'd picked up on this sooner... but as they say, better later than never! Thank you!
Right on! Still got a lot of time to implement the new mindset!
I really enjoy learning the middle ground. It does make sense and i see myself and my partner doing the 2 extremes. I like the untethered win win. Not allowing other's feelings phase you but you bring them up. Recapping is something I need to work on. I've definitely been asking more about what he thinks and the good thing is he typically agrees 👍
Nice! Wonderful takeaways :)
this is so incredibly helpful. thank you for making these videos. SO MANY people need to hear these things. everyone seems to have horrible relationship skills and this is such great advice.
Love It! jessAri, what did you find to be most eye-opening about this video?
I've been wanting to strengthen my relationship with my future partner since a while, but haven't found such content. This is gold and so well explained. Thank you so much for this.
Hello Geofrey great explanation about real power in relationships, indeed it’s an insight that makes all sense, keep up the good work 🙏🏾
Thanks Luis! What were your main takeaways here?
Hi Geoffrey, I came to watch your new video right away. Ok, I admit I have no relationship atm, but regaining POWER is a topic I like to discuss in my videos too, because it can be applied to yourself too. What I mean is that the way we react is important to analyze towards anybody you have a conversation with, anybody you communicate with.
Life happens and we can’t always control circumstances, but we CAN control our own reaction, our own behavior.
Training to be aware of our reactions and observing ourselves is so important for our growth, our self-development 😀🙏
We have control and POWER over our own lives, we should never let anybody take that power away!
Exactly! It's about understand how we can control our reaction and behavior, and understanding how to strike that fine balance of WANTING.
This video is priceless!!! I have watched so many videos over the years and your video makes so much sense and yes most relationship videos talk about no contact and ignoring your ex ect. They do NOT work. She called me out on it immediately and said she hated who I was becoming and it just wasn't wasn't me.
Yes! Exactly. So glad you found my video useful.
I've got my girlfriend's texts so they pop up and light up my phone especially so I can reply back pretty quick. Realizing this probably isn't the best for attraction and I notice if I wait even 10-20 minutes her responses after are more affectionate. I think it's best I change to get on with my day and just reply, and be fully present, when I can but not so fast.
A guy started doing this to me and I lost interest
@@MMAStriking He would wait 10-20 minutes or he would reply too quickly?
THIS is THE MEDICINE I need. And you are a very talented, clear HEALER.
Thank you.
For all I received in this ONE video I cannot wait to make the shifts (in me) ... and grow as I travel this path of true healing and transformation. THANK YOU SO MUCH! Your video I watched at sunrise ... immediately after meditation and yoga.
I just discovered your videos and have watched about 4 or 5 already .... they have so much keen and humble insight!
I really like that what you share encourages to honor and respect as they humbly work through their communication and connections.
Thank you!
More great advice. You are able to put my confusing feelings into words. Thanks
Haha, glad you are enjoying them. Stay tuned because we have an exciting calendar ahead.
Even though you are focused specifically towards men, I feel all of this implies to women too. Thank you! What do you do, when you try to create a win-win solution, but the other person does not like you asking questions ( by showing irritation, disregard, annoyance, defensiveness, wanting to shut it down), so you feel they hold on to the win-lose method?
This is normal and a simple mis-interpretation of people's actions. Try varying up the method in which you ask questions. Here is an idea: th-cam.com/video/CLAETauyP40/w-d-xo.html
Why do women even need these kinds of videos? You have 500 men at your fingers within a second on any app.
@@littleman787 I feel like you are describing an unhealthy form of power. In my experience both men and women can use it like so, doesn't mean all of us want to? A good healthy relationship is a power-playground for both, especially, when you go deeper and keep your commitments.
Geoffrey bro this is excellent advice. I swear man you are the best lifestyle coach on TH-cam 🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝
Your videos are so insightful and powerful !! Thanks so much for all the value 💥❤️
This was so helpful in helping me understand my situation!
Hi grant Ardern,
Glad you enjoyed it. What did you find most eye-opening?
What if your partner has stated that she values quick communication and it’s something that’s important to her? We have kids, I don’t want to lose trust if she thinks she can’t get in touch with me in a timely manner.
By watching your videos i feel inspired to become a better partner and person
BINGE WATCHING YOUR VIDEOS RIGHT NOW. these are so helpful thank you so much 💕
Awesome. Enjoy them! :)
This was absolutely amazing. Thanks for your advice. I am definitely going to use your tips moving forward.
This the best channel bro keep going hard
Thank you Jonathan! Appreciate it brother.
This is eye opening!
Hi Sandie, happy this video was helpful. What was the most insightful part for you? I would love to hear your comments.
To inspire hope and to inspire positively, wow.! True power.
First of all. This video is gold, it gives guys the light to follow. I'll be completely honest, I made the Hunting mistake. I've met a perfect girl who I know will attract a lot of guys, I immediately take my chance and try my best to get her, although she's into me but she has her own personal reason not to commit to the relationship and we both agree I was too hurry. Until she admitted she had feelings now I'm confident to slow down the pace.
Fantastic video man, you're doing the Lord's work here
I appreciate that!
The Lord has nothing to do with it,this guy has studied people and relationships and come up with these fantastic solutions to people's problems,this ain't your lords work its Geoffreys work....
I'm so glad still that I've found your videos. I've always know what to do but never how to do anything regarding relationship. I wasn't too full of knowledge growing up but starting to understand alot more by watching these videos. Sadly it's too late or so I think but will give it all I got for change. I thought I was disciplined but I'm far off.
He is making all men Wiser🎉
Vinaka bro, you are helping me a lot.
Thank you brother!
Awesome video. I have been struggling so much with that balance. Great references to “the seven habits of highly effective people throughout”. That last point farming vs hunting was a gem though. Is there a resource where you got that from? I would like to explore it more.
Hey Brian -- Not to sound facetious, but I actually have not read that book. We source a lot of our insights from learning first principles & the science of emotions. So the resource here is just obsessing about our client's results!
Your videos are so insightful and powerful !! Thanks so much for all the value ......❤
Texting someone back 5 hours later is absolute game playing. Unless you’re in surgery, no one is that busy.
Wow, such a great video. I don’t take it as "power" it is just respect, mutual respect. I’m a soft guy and have avoided conflict most of my life. In my current relationship I’ve ended up going from being passive passive all of the time , to blowing up and feeling terrible after. I feel like I now have at least some tools of how to approach situations and conflicts - most importantly to challenge them head on, but in a positive way. Thank you so much, it’s like a mini epiphany!
Hey Adam,
I think you will gain a ton of knowledge from watching this video as well. Make sure to come back and let me know what you thought of it.
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Geoffrey, you honestly delivered me today. This was so helpful. Thank you!
Great content here. well done
You are the man, keep it up!!
Thank you bro!
I overthink and get hung up on being periodically ghosted from my wife who I am separated with. How do I convey this better way to handle this without fear, and so they actually see me doing this method?
I think you have a lot of good guidance here well done
You sure make sence ..thank you for your brilliant video ..its made me rethink
Waouh waouh waouh Woauh! Amazing amazing wisdom 🤝🤝🤝🫡 THANK YOU 🙏
Mark my words, you will have hundreds of thousands more subscribers in the near future. You learn how to be a true gentleman.
Hi Jack Kello,
I totally agree and I spend no time growing my channel. I instead spend my time building my program to be the best program on the market and helping my clients receiver their massive results.
Thank you for your comment and support!
@@GeoffreySetiawan keep up the work you are doing and the results will show.
Would this help even though we aren’t together but live together
I like this advice, balance is a good thing.
so many videos ive seen i felt wore such BS. Telling not to talk to them for 30days etc and doing all kind of childish things. Your videos are by fare the most sensible
Yo hold up! Let my man cook! 🗣🗣🔥💯💯
Amazing analysis 👏
Glad you liked it
Honestly, this is good advice for women as well. In a relationship, both men and women meet these challenges.
Hi Shasta,
Absolutely!
The principles are universal… Applicable to all kinds of relationships.
Thank you…🙂
This is a great subject. Lots of videos on toxic behavior, but how do we deal with it and not use it/take on toxic traits
I am not sure I understand your question? This whole video is about teaching you non-toxic notions of power.
I love this video because you really see both sides
Don’t want to be mean or manipulative to my boo, I’ve just already tried talking and now I need to switch up our dynamic. Like I need him to miss me and value my presence again. He’s too comfortable in our relationship and hasn’t been putting in any effort.
Been with my wife 15 years for 12 years I wasn’t mentally there I thought I made changes the last 3 years to where people outside my relationship acknowledge my differences yet my wife has another man and wants a divorce your videos make since but I think my case is special and already gone even though I’m positive thinking and willingness to put in the work she says she done and we live together with 3 kids
Hi ALIAS WEST,
Wow, this shows me you have not watched any of my client stories.
Name one, name one client who has not been in a dire situation just like you have described.
When someone one says their situation is unique and special, they are just telling themselves that this seems like a lot of work so I am not even going to try.
Like I mentioned many times in the past. becoming this person is not for everyone, this is why I only accept less than 10% of applicants who apply.
Everyone wants to reconcile, but very few are willing to put in the work to do so.
a lot of men simply dont understand this and women think those men are evil and intentionally play with them
I’ve tried both extremes, both fail miserably
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Waw nice perceptive i like .
Right on point again again
This is Gold.
Love it Mahwash!
Don't you find the exhausting to constantly be strategizing your relationship and your responses? What happened just being you and reacting or responding naturally? Seems to me like your relationship would be exhausting the way you do it. For her would be great cause you're doing all the work but for you I would think you'd be wore out at the end of every day.
Hi April West,
No, I do not. The whole goal is to learn how to make this your new natural response as you say. We are changing our beliefs and paradigms on a subconscious level to make this your new default programming. Here is a video that will help you a little more with what I am talking about.
th-cam.com/video/tp6g9vgOiec/w-d-xo.html
Thank you for calling me today. I appreciate it.
Taking notes.. the dependent/needy upper part always has different notes.
But the indifferent/bottom portion always has the same “Childish - You don’t care.” 😂
I have to remind everyone on this one thing ……what happens when someone leafs in a crowd …..the crowd starts to leafs as well….like it or not positivity breads positivity ….negativity spreads the same .
I promise this guy knows what he is talking about. I can't promise that you will have a miracle like happened for me but what can it hurt to try. I have seen first hand the amazing results that his program can produce. If you care than try.
Powerful!
07:50 segment reads "interdependent" at the bottom, should be "independent".
What if you're not doing anything, still do not answer text or call? Make something up?
Then the issue here is with the way you spend your days. What is one BIG objective you're trying to accomplish with your life? Once you clarify this objective, and if it's a BIG objective, it should really fill up your time. Even the moments you are resting should have a purpose (e.g. I take breaks so that I can get back in the game). At no time in your life should you be reactive to anything, even when you are resting. Does that make sense?
@@GeoffreySetiawan that makes sense. You're right. It is still reactive if I answer while not doing anything.
@@GeoffreySetiawan my partner is still regularly messaging me but i do notice the difference in his messages as of today, he hasn't said babe to me but regularly messages me. I message him every morning and night just to catch up and we are meeting up as a "date" on Tuesday. He doesn't want to put a label on us and I have moved back home to Cali and hes in Alabama. He plans to come back to Cali after 10 months and he doesn't want to "commit" as in be a label but he still contacts me regularly because i contact him. Should i stop contacting him and calling him babe? He knows that I still want a relationship but should i keep trying to pursue or should i just let go and stop contacting? Allow him to come to me? We have been togethrr for almost 3 years in Sept)
He seems to be disengaging from you. I would not count on this guy.
what i need.
How do you even apply this if the divorce papers are already being signed and she is completely shut down to even thinking about trying to make it work??
What about the needs of the other person. That's all I hear from ex's where do their wants come into it?
Will this help me if she still lives with me? I’ve been watching your videos for 2 months now. At first she was gone for a month then she moved back in but we still aren’t together yet, however we did get to have a early valentines dinner together and I still support her when she asks me stuff, however are break isn’t done yet and we haven’t full on gotten back together yet. Is there still hope if I stay strong and not chase? 😅
Does this apply also when you are only home every two weeks? I’m a Truck driver and I am not sure how to go about it when it’s long distance relationship/ marriage.
I just wish I understood this before the fact but my other question is what if she acts childish or unfair when going about everything you are doing
Hi Brandon,
You only have control over what you can say or do… You can’t control what she does.
Are all women like this?
This seems like a lot of work. And does it ever stop? Or is this something men must maintain to keep a women..
I have been told that I am controlling...and I see it in myself as well. My wife and I separated and now she is very controlling because our situation feels very unstable. So how do we deal with a situation where control is coming from both sides?
Hi Jason,
Once one person changes the way they handle misunderstandings, conflicts, arguments then learns how to create safety to allow their partner to express these issues. That is when your partner's actions and words start to change.
This is why I always say. "It doesn't take two to tango"
Starts with you!
Is this only for men?
I feel like anyone can watch these videos as the messages work both ways :)
She says we're talking a break and hardly ever communicates?
It’s been 5 months how did it go for you pls answer I’m going through the same thing right now
@@johancanela06 what happened for you
@@Truevitz I moved on man
Feeling like I have everything to lose I dont want her to think I don’t care
Also if you don’t react fast or answer right away she gets upset?!?! Even with a logical explanation Is what’s happened in the past so your telling me to not respond fast?
Hi Brandon,
You respond/reply to her when you can… You ultimately have control over that.
Geoffrey is it too later if you have been in no contact for 9 months ?
Never too late to work on yourself and maximize your chances of reconciling, or growing your self esteem so you can win either way.
I like your content mostly because I don't want to deceive or manipulate my wife I just want to change myself so that I deserve her love. My problem is that I am 100% disabled with PTSD and I have been neglectful of her and my kids for a long time. I don't want to do that anymore and I don't work so I have the time to basically be there for them at a moments notice. I feel like I owe them that to make up for the past. Is this hurting my chances and if so with nothing else to do what reason would I give for not being available 24/7?
Hi Damon,
I hear Jason had good things to say about your call today. Hope you are looking forward to your strategy session in a few days. Thank you for your comment and support.
@@GeoffreySetiawan I didn't talk to anyone and I wasn't aware of a meeting.
@@damonmachado2077 Whoops! Wrong Damon! Yeah, your situation is not unique mate. We have many veterans enrolled, in fact, just talked to one who lost an arm during combat, been a client for almost a year and seeing incredible results.
Hey,I think she is avoiding me these days.
We don't talk much over messages and whenever we are on a call she says she will talk to me later but she won't call me back.
Should I confront this behaviour or just play along or should ask what I want and willing to work on the relationship?
Hi Ashwin, give her the time & space to process her emotions... Then you can have a conversation when she is ready.
My wife still wants a divorce and I’ve tried almost everything in your videos. I don’t know what to do
Hi Mo AA,
You are not alone… We have many clients that are in the same situation. But once you learn the right processes to follow you can slowly turn things around.
If you’d like to learn more, you can join our free masterclass here.
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Dang. Why do u make sense.
Hi Geoffrey! Can you please make a video about how to cure stonewalling when we're the ones doing it ! Please and thank you for your brilliant content 🙏🏻
I am guessing this is about you not being able to be vulnerable/express yourself openly to your partner? We can definitely add it to the list!
@@GeoffreySetiawan That's exactly it but only when mad. I have an anxious attachment style so i tend to get overwhelmed by emotions and stonewall my partner during arguments. I hope this extra info made it clearer.
AND TYSM I REALLY APPRECIATE IT ❤️
How bout from a place of too much want? she has told me thats all i care about is what i want and i dont care about her
Hi, check out this video and be sure to follow up with any other questions you may have.
th-cam.com/video/Hix5kbs9Zf8/w-d-xo.html
Hey geofferey. My ex reached out on 15th june after 50 days of nc telling me that she knows i m doing great and that she can see the change. She told me to be strong and told me to keep on doing what am i doing. After two days she contaced me again and was asking me do we deserve each other and i told her its not about deserving and i asked her if she wants to improve on things lets make efforts from both sides to which sge replied YES.. We will forsure meet after lockdown ends.
Plus it us my brothers bday today abd she called me on my cell to talk to him. I mean she could have called him also and My brother told me she was asking about me from him and she was curious asking him how am i and what am i upto these days. I mean she didnt ask these things to me myself and also she has a good contact still with my family and cousins... I mean why is she showing me if she cares and feels for me??
I would not think too much about it :) Enjoy this WIN and dive back down to focus on doing the right things again. Don't get complacent and keep bettering yourself not matter if the outcome is good or bad.
What was the outcome?
What if I just feel tired of replying to her pointless message or emoji. cause even she initiates the contact first but it usually just something like hi, babe, are you okay, I did reply then she would reply 2 or 3 hours later. This wasn't her pattern as far as how we communicate back then. So it made me became self-awareness about these messages instead of replying to every single of her message.
Hi Brandon,
Thank you for your comment. Can I ask you what have been the steps you have taken to repair this? Also how long has this been going on?
Do what you want power doesn’t exist just like how your feelings don’t exist time doesn’t exist be spiritual find your inner self talk to god get a puppy and exercise daily live a life we’re your happy there are billions of people billions of woman in this world it only takes one to take your time away and power and value or the opposite.